FULL SHOW: The Day Dan Harris Teaches Us About Anxiety

Dan Harris stops by and teaches us why anxiety is at such a high right now, and ways to deal with it. Plus, Andrew's parents are meeting Pope Leo and Elvis left a group message!

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Speaker 2 (00:48):
In the Morning Show, Dan Harris is here. We love
our Dan Harris. We love you Dan, love you guys.
Thank you for coming in. It was like a conversation. Uh,
how many days ago we were talking about thingsciety, this
and that. Nate call Dan Harris, Get Dan Harris on
the phone.

Speaker 5 (01:05):
The doctor is in ladies and Gellen what that pick
up the bathroom?

Speaker 6 (01:08):
Yeah, the Dan phone.

Speaker 4 (01:10):
So it's the lamer version of the batphone. No, well
the batphone is no more. So here's here's here's the
only phone.

Speaker 2 (01:18):
So look, there's a conversation going on with our friends
and circles and their circle, their friends and so and
so on, and you can read about it with total
strangers writing about anxiety that's going on right now.

Speaker 7 (01:30):
Uh.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
The other night, my husband Alex came in from the
other room watching the news. He said, I can't so
you can't. What what can't you do? I can't. I
can't watch this news anymore. And his his poems were
sweating his palm. He was all of the stories out there.
You can watch any newscast and at the end of
the newscast they always try to give you some nice

(01:51):
you know, they saved a puppy from a storm story.
It doesn't help anymore.

Speaker 5 (01:55):
You know what we call that in the news business,
the kicker.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
The kicker.

Speaker 5 (01:58):
Every night you have a kicker to make you feel
better about all the other stuff we just told you.

Speaker 2 (02:03):
You know what makes me feel better? Just kicker. Come here, condy, no,
thank you, so here at iHeart Dan. I wanted to
share some information with you. We have an incredible department
in our organization that, in my opinion, is the most important.
They keep an eye on people are feeling and thinking
across the country. We have stations, you know, around the world,

(02:24):
but they want to know what people are thinking, not
only in this country, but around the world. And so
every week they give you kind of a little glimpse
into how anxious or how happy, how satisfied are our
responding responding people are. These are people who listen to us,
people who do not listen to us, people from both
sides of the political aisle, people who are atheist, people

(02:48):
who are very religious. They want a cross reference of
everything to try to make it as fair as possible.
So these results came in this past week, and I
don't I don't, I don't know. I feel okay sharing
these for the first time in my friend's history and
working in this department, the anxiety levels are at their highest,

(03:09):
and she's been doing this for at least a dozen years.
She pulled the anxiety scores. Exactly half of America is
rating themselves an eight, a nine, or a ten on
a one to ten scale. This is half of the
people you see on the streets and people you know
are at an eight, nine, and ten anxiety level. Half

(03:31):
of those twenty five percent of Americans are at boom
at a ten. Wow, these numbers are huge. It could
be many reasons. And we're talking about this earlier. You
want to share with everyone.

Speaker 5 (03:42):
Yeah, I think there are a couple of things going on.
First of all, it's very hard to divorce what's happening
and the chaos that's happening in the external world from
your inner world. So for sure, the proliferation of chaos
and the news is upsetting to many many people. So
I think that's would you agree, that's probably why, absolutely,
But there's a part of it. I think that's a
part of it. My other diagnosis is that we are

(04:04):
living in a way that is contrary to how we evolved.

Speaker 2 (04:08):
Talk about that.

Speaker 5 (04:09):
So we evolved social animals very much enmeshed in communities,
and everything about modern culture militates against that. We're on
our phones in this hyperindividualistic, hyper perfectionistic, productivity obsessed, fomo obsessed,
optimization obsessed culture where we're in our heads and not

(04:31):
in relationship, and that triggers anxiety. I think it is
I cannot believe that it's a coincidence that this is
happening at the same time that we're seeing record levels
of anxiety, depression, addiction, suicide, and loneliness. This I just
don't think these are separate occurrences. And I think there's
good news that there are little ways that don't require

(04:54):
massive projects to re engage with the world and re
engage with yourself. That will get you lower on the
anxiety scale.

Speaker 2 (05:04):
What was your quote from dan Ganhi that you like, I.

Speaker 3 (05:07):
Think of you all the time. The remedy to anxiety
is action, yes, And I think that in so many
different ways, because there are lots of different actions we
can take, whether it is just something simple like going
for a walk, talking to a friend, or joining in
service and doing volunteer work and community work to make
yourself feel a little bit better about some of the
icky things that we're seeing.

Speaker 2 (05:25):
Was it so difficult for people to do one or
two of those four or five.

Speaker 5 (05:29):
Things well because we feel perilous?

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Why do we feel paralyzed because we it's this phone
is what it is.

Speaker 5 (05:34):
Yes, partly, And the world seems hopeless and we feel
helpless in the face of it. And I get it,
I totally get it. The thing is, two things are
true at the same time. There are big problems in
the world. Actually, three things are true. There are big
problems in the world. And I'm not trying to gaslight
you and say that's not true. It's true, But there
are two other things that's true that are true. One,

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your news feeds are not showing you the whole picture.
You're the algorithm are designed to keep you anxious and angry.
Why because it enriches the people who created those algorithms.
And so you need to redpill yourself and know that
the picture you're being sold on social media is not
the full truth. And then the third thing that's also
true is even to the extent to which the world

(06:19):
is messy, you can take little actions that will increase
your sense of agency and give you an ennobling empowered
feeling like the things that Gandhi just listed.

Speaker 2 (06:31):
Here's what I want you to do. Let's start at
number two. Let's start talking about algorithms. Okay, unpack that
maybe people aren't understanding what algorithms are all about, and
how they are born in your phone and in your life,
and where they come from, and how it affects you
versus the person who's sitting right next to you with
the same exact phone. They are seeing a whole different

(06:53):
world than you. Yes, okay. An algorithm is started by
your interest in things online. I'm assuming you go to
Instagram and you do what, and it turns into what.

Speaker 5 (07:02):
Whether you go to Instagram or TikTok or any social
media feed and they're studying what engages you, and what
they know is that given the that we evolve to
have a negativity bias to keep us alive, we evolve
to be on the lookout for threats all the time.
Outrage and anxiety work. They're sticky. They keep us engaged.

(07:24):
And that's what these social media companies want. They want
us to stay engaged, so they capitalize for their profit
on the vulnerabilities of the human mind. And so you
just need to know that when you interact with these supercomputers,
they are not looking out for your best interest when
it comes to your mental health.

Speaker 2 (07:42):
I'll give you an example, a simple example of than
a harsh one number one meat loaf. Let's say you
love meat loaf, and you keep searching on Instagram and
TikTok whatever about meat loaf, and you start getting videos
sent to you unsolicited. You're like, oh my god, these
people know I love meat loaf. Obviously the whole world
old is loving meat loaf because it's all I see

(08:02):
on my phone. Okay, Also, plane fights, fights on airplanes,
I happen to love those. I don't want to be one, no,
but I'll watch an airplane fight video over and then oh,
my god. Here's here's another one. And now if you
go on my feed, it's meat loaf and airplane fights. Therefore,

(08:27):
my mind and here's here's where it becomes real. My
mind believes everyone is into meat loaf, everyone's into airplane fights.

Speaker 5 (08:35):
Yes, if you had asked me coming into this, that's
the algorithm. Are the two things that Elvis searches for
the most, I would have said and airplane it's yeah,
that few other things that I didn't say. Yes, it
gives you the your the way these news feeds and
your social feeds personalized to you can give you a

(08:58):
skewed vision of the world. And the fact of the
matter is, even if you start by searching for something
relatively innocuous or harmless, like a meat loaf, they will
start serving you some outrageous or anger or fear inducing content.
And for most of us it will be sticky. We

(09:19):
will not be able to look away, and they'll notice that,
and then they'll serve you more and more and more,
because that is that is our vulnerability. We are we
We were prey animals. We did not stop at the
we did not start at the top of the food chain.
We were hairless apes, on the savannah, huddled together for safety.
It's hot, I know, not hot. And the way we

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got to the top of the food chain is to
cooperate and collaborate.

Speaker 4 (09:44):
But we brought all of that prey animal anxiety with
us to the top of the food chain, and so
we have we are wired for anxiety because we're trying
to survive, and these algorithms capitalize on that. And what
I'm saying to people is know that when you go
into your phone, try to remember that.

Speaker 8 (10:02):
How do you explain that to the youth of today.
Like us, being adults, we kind of get it, you know,
we're like, you know whatever. But a sixteen year old
or a fifteen year old or a fourteen year old,
they don't get that. They think what they're looking at
is the truth and that's it.

Speaker 5 (10:16):
Do you remember the nineties and the aughts, there was
this very successful advertising campaign on MTV to try to
get kids to stop smoking. And the angle they took
was not smoking's bad for you, but these tobacco companies
are manipulating and lying to you. You should read, you know,
you should you know see through the illusion. Speak up.
I think that's the I think kids, especially teenagers are

(10:38):
inherently rebellious and they want to see the truth. They
want to see through the lies and the manipulation of
the adults. So that's one angle I'm interested in, Like,
these people are manipulating you, don't be suckered, don't be fooled.

Speaker 2 (10:52):
Yeah, and it's you know, And I totally agree. And
you being a mother, you know better better than me
I'll ever know about about people fifteen six. See, it's
the same with adults though that this is the difference.
Now it used just to be, in my opinion, more
of a youth problem. Now it's an everyone problem. But adults,
those are the future leaders, Those are the people we
should be most concerned about. In my in my other opinion,

(11:15):
I mean, these people, they'll be wiping the drool off
my chin. I need, I need for them to be
able to focus on that.

Speaker 5 (11:21):
Yeah, And we are creating a world where you know,
the anxiety levels among young people are skyrocketing. And you're
a parent, Yeah, I'm an eleven year old boy and
his friends, and he and his friends, these are anxious kids.
They are much more open about their diagnoses and their
appointments with psychiatrists and psychologists than I was. I actually did.

(11:41):
I was a rare kid gen xer who did have
a therapist. It wasn't a common thing, but I didn't
admit it to anybody. Now, it's kind of like, I
think there are beautiful aspects of that. By the way,
I think it's great that it's okay to admit that
you have psychological vulnerabilities or mental health issues. That is amazing,
But the fact that they're so prevalent right now does

(12:01):
concern me.

Speaker 2 (12:03):
Wow, what do you think, Gandhi?

Speaker 3 (12:04):
Well, I was wondering. You sort of said we were collective,
We were a collective society. We still are a collective society.

Speaker 9 (12:11):
We should be.

Speaker 3 (12:12):
Do you think that there are things very specific to
living in the US that make us more sad and
more depressed than when you look at other societies that
are more of a collective society, like just Japan. If
I think about them, it looks like they're all working
toward a goal together and there isn't as much a
focus on like me, me, me, and they seem happier
that way. Do you think there's something to that?

Speaker 5 (12:31):
Yeah, there have been studies that show that if you
ask people in the West to draw themselves in relationship
to their community. They they draw themselves really big and
everybody else really small, and in the in Eastern cultures,
everybody is the same size. And so I think there's
something about this focus on the self that really makes

(12:52):
us unhappy because it's not how we were designed to live.
And I don't mean you have to get over yourself
and be selfless and be a people pleaser. It's not
at all what I'm saying. I'm just saying engagement with
the world in ways that make you comfortable. You know,
for you Gandhi, it's little acts of service or getting
your friends together to do charity campaigns, or acts of
bigger acts of service. That's beautiful. That's not going to

(13:13):
work for everybody. For another person who's maybe very very
busy and introvert, little there's a lot of research around
something called micro interactions. That's just like the little interactions
you have throughout the day with strangers or people you
don't know that well happy.

Speaker 2 (13:28):
That's a very small little amount of time you have
with so much. What is in your opinion, a successful
micro uh interaction?

Speaker 5 (13:35):
Eye contact with your barista, How you doing today be
as simple as that.

Speaker 2 (13:38):
Something as simple as that. Wow, okay. And if you
work in the retail or the service industry, how many
people actually look you in the eye and say, hey,
thank you, this is great, good seeing you today.

Speaker 5 (13:50):
Yes, and very small? I bet it is. And And
the thing is, I'm not saying this and a wagging
my finger at people like you should be a better person.
I'm saying you want to be happy. We all want
to be happier. This is this is a target rich
environment out there of just other people who you can
be nice to. Will not enough people pleasing, self sacrificing way,
just basic decency and friendliness. It's just so much available

(14:14):
happiness out there.

Speaker 2 (14:15):
So easy to forget to be polite. Some people think
I'm always polite, always, and I always really well, all right,
scary scary as a question. Now, I want to get
two things. I want to get to the action. You've
mentioned a few things. I let's get to like real action.
We can see our teacher, Ye're scary.

Speaker 7 (14:32):
Speaking about anxiety from the standpoint of division of society.
I hear and I see a lot of people online
in the comments section saying that the news media is
the problem. As a news media veteran yourself. Do you
see a difference in journalism from then to now and
how it's covered.

Speaker 2 (14:49):
It's a These are business decisions.

Speaker 5 (14:51):
Yeah, absolutely, you're First of all, I completely cop to
being an anchor. You can hear my voice. I still
sound like an anchorman.

Speaker 4 (14:57):
I was one for thirty years, kind of dressed like one.

Speaker 5 (15:03):
How polite you were like thirty seconds ago.

Speaker 2 (15:05):
I know you're my friend, Okay, but you you're his friend. Okay, okay,
So okay, if you are as old as I am,
you remember to your point scary there were four three networks,
A NBC, ABC, CBS. They all had news, ferocious news, competition,
competition going on, and they back in the day, I'm

(15:28):
much more fair and balanced than they are now. But
now because of so many ways we get our news,
it's business. Yes, they don't. Well, if we want this
certain audience over here, we have to be very very conservative.
We want this audience, we have to be very liberal.
That doesn't seem to be working out for us.

Speaker 5 (15:45):
It's about incentives, right, So A in a capitalistic setting,
and I'm not anti capitalist, but in the context of
a free market, you're going to go where the money is,
and it's the same psychology I was articulating earlier about
social media algor rhythms for a news outlet, scary, you're
going to notice that you're going to get more clicks

(16:05):
on stuff that provokes outrage and fear and so. And
this has been true for a long time. We used
to say in in in when I was a journalist,
we don't report on the plane that lands safely, or
if it bleeds, it leads. These were expressions that have
been around for a long time. And it's because it's
what the audience wants, even though they may not know
they want it. It's what keeps people engage, what keeps

(16:27):
ratings high. And this is an unfortunate reality. I'm not
excusing any of this. I'm just telling you the truth. Yes,
of course it does. It creates a lot of anxiety.

Speaker 3 (16:38):
But then they can tell you I yted to cure
the anxiety. So it's like you create the patient and
then you give them the cure.

Speaker 2 (16:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (16:42):
So I used to be in the business of creating
the problem, and now I'm in the business of giving solutions.

Speaker 2 (16:48):
I see you're solving, You're solving you. Okay, let's let's
talk about it. I still dress poorly.

Speaker 1 (16:55):
So that is what Dan is taking away.

Speaker 2 (17:00):
I didn't say you dressed poorly. I know you have
beatings today. Yeah, hey, look action okay, okay, So I'm
gonna run out today and do what Gandhi did last night.
I'm gonna go to a church basement and I'm gonna
peel carrots and we're gonna feed some people. Wow. Okay,
what other things are there in addition to that, because
that that is pretty amazing. You do that? What weekly?

Speaker 10 (17:23):
No?

Speaker 3 (17:23):
Like every couple of weeks.

Speaker 2 (17:24):
Yeah, not only are you feeding people who need to
be fed, but also there's a community in that kitchen.

Speaker 3 (17:29):
We love it. It's so much fun and you.

Speaker 2 (17:31):
Have a common goal. It has nothing to do with
what you do during the day. It's a whole different world.
What are some of these other points of action that
the simple ones and the most more challenging ones just
go just off the top of.

Speaker 5 (17:42):
Your absolutely, I'll free associate first just to say, Gandhi,
that's beautiful what you're doing. And I'm mindful of the
person who's in their car right now or doing chores
around the house and listening to us and thinking I'm
really busy. I don't I can't go out for an
evening and spend time in a church basement. So for
those people who are really busy in your life, as
you're already living it, there are things you could just

(18:04):
integrate into it. One of them we just discussed, which
is the science around micro interactions, just these little exchanges
you're having all day long. Lift your head out of
your phone, make brief eye contact. Hey, how you doing
a ton of research to show that adds up, That
scales up to a much happier life for you. Another
thing is very quickly. You can do this right in

(18:26):
your car, right now. A couple of deep breaths resets
the nervous system, gets you out of your head and
into your body. You can do this repeatedly throughout the day,
and there's a ton of evidence to show it helps.
And then just another thing is gratitude. This sounds like
a huge platitude, but just bringing to mind, I do

(18:49):
this right before I go to bed. What are all
the good things that happen today? How can I counter
program against the messages I'm getting from my news feed
about how the world's on fire and not overlook the
fact that all around us there's beautiful stuff happening, people
raising their children, holding the door open for somebody else,
doing service, saying being polite. What are you laughing at
over nothing? Keep going, keep going, I'm sorry. They are important.

Speaker 7 (19:13):
Thing.

Speaker 8 (19:13):
I know somebody who actually has something that they say
every night. They wrote a whole thank you for this
and I'm grateful for this, and they say it as
a mantra every single night. Yes, to say what they're
thankful for and to put them in a good mind space.

Speaker 5 (19:25):
It's beautiful. Yeah, And I just think this is a
I'm trying to I'm trying to tailor my suggestions here
to the busy person who's telling themselves I've got two
jobs and five kids, and I just don't have time
to like remake my whole life. There are just these
little hacks you can integrate into the day that can
really really help.

Speaker 2 (19:46):
Look, you know, one thing you may think is like, oh,
that sounds so cute. I'm gonna say out loud to
myself in my bed things I'm grateful for. Yeah, then
you know, then I'll go save whales and hug a tree.
Be grant. That sounds amazing, But you know what, it
does work. It does work. I do one thing. I

(20:06):
don't do three because I can really find two. And
I'm kidding.

Speaker 11 (20:10):
No.

Speaker 2 (20:10):
I do every night, every morning, and every night last.
The first thing I do in the morning, the last
thing I do before I go to sleep is I'm
thinking of something that really great that happened today that
made me feel really good, and I feel like I'm
on track to a great a great year ahead. It
may sound cakey, do it, just try it. I got
an interesting call here from Kristin. I think this is

(20:31):
a very valid question you have, Christin.

Speaker 7 (20:34):
Hi.

Speaker 2 (20:35):
Her question is who is this person you're talking to?
Where is he from? Okay, this is Dan Harris. He's
an old friend of our show. He has a book
out called ten Percent Happier, And don't you think what
he's talking about is very valid?

Speaker 10 (20:49):
Kristin, It is one hundred percent. I was just telling Diamond, like,
my husband sits on his phone in front of our kids,
and I'm like trying to feed him any information of
why he should be doing that. So that's why I'm
very curious about where I can get this information to.

Speaker 1 (21:05):
Send it to him.

Speaker 5 (21:07):
Yeah, do you resonate with what Elvis was saying about
the fact that it's easy to write off all of
these suggestions I'm giving and say, well, it's not going
to read. You know, the world is so far gone.
If I am a little bit more grateful, it's not
going to help. What's the point does any of that.
I'm going to use the word cynicism or skepticism land

(21:27):
for you.

Speaker 10 (21:29):
I feel like I'm trying to be like less skeptical.
It's funny, like you guys are just talking about gratitude.
I just got my husband's.

Speaker 12 (21:36):
Birthday with yesterday.

Speaker 10 (21:37):
I just got both of us these books that say
one line a day, and every day you or wake
up in the morning or you do it before batt
and you write what you're grateful for that day. So
we just started it this morning. So it's like it
resonates perfectly.

Speaker 5 (21:51):
Great because my point is, I totally understand the skeptical
line of thinking that you were articulating a moment ago.
And look, none of us as individuals can control how
on fire the world appears to be. But how do
we want to be in the midst of it? Do
we want to be nodes of sanity, little little vectors

(22:14):
of common sense and decency moving through the world creating
those ripple effects, or do we want to be miserable
and afraid and angry.

Speaker 2 (22:23):
You got to do something, yes, yeah, and.

Speaker 5 (22:24):
You can do little things in your world. As as
Gandhi said earlier, action, even really tiny action, absorbs your anxiety.
It can help you pull yourself out of that rut
and stay engaged. No matter how pessimistic you are about
the state of the world. That doesn't mean your life
has to be miserable. You being miserable helps no one

(22:47):
there is. We can fall into this performative misery because
the world is so distasteful, but that is not serving
you or the problem.

Speaker 8 (22:57):
But it's also adding to the misery. Yes you can, Yes,
I think positive.

Speaker 1 (23:01):
And focus on the positive.

Speaker 8 (23:02):
I'm not saying forget everything bad going on, but like,
focus more on the positive.

Speaker 1 (23:06):
You're adding more good in the world.

Speaker 5 (23:09):
It's hard to understand because it's kind of a paradox.
It's like holding two competing ideas in your mind. One
way that I've heard this described is to engage joyfully
in the sorrows of the world.

Speaker 4 (23:22):
And can you, Kristen, what did he just say, engage
joyfully in the sorrows of the world?

Speaker 2 (23:31):
What do you think he meant by that?

Speaker 10 (23:35):
I guess be more positive, stop complaining about all the
things that are going on, and focus on the good
stuff that's going on and just acknowledge the bad stuff. Yeah, yeah, exactly,
she understood.

Speaker 2 (23:47):
Okay, Well I know, well I did. I'm just you know,
this is.

Speaker 5 (23:50):
What's your Christian what's your view on meatloaf?

Speaker 10 (23:56):
You know, I've never had it, so I don't think.

Speaker 13 (23:58):
I can.

Speaker 5 (24:00):
Dim in How did she get through?

Speaker 2 (24:02):
Not in your algorithm? Look, Kristen, best of up to
you and your husband and your life, and I thank
you so much for listening to us. It's much appreciated.

Speaker 1 (24:11):
Thank you.

Speaker 10 (24:11):
Best some luck to all of you guys as well.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
Thank you. Look, this is going to be an ongoing thing.
I can tell we're living in a world where this,
these stories, some of them are just now beginning, right.

Speaker 5 (24:25):
Really just beginning. And you know, if you look at
what's happening geopolitically and nationally, like in the world and
in our country, that it can I get it when
people feel disturbed, and there's all the more reason to
like fortify yourself, take care of yourself so that you
can be that is not self indulgent or selfish to

(24:45):
take care of yourself. The point is so that you
can be better to your children, better to your neighbors.
And that matters. That matters. We're not all the president
of the United States, we're not the most powerful people
in the world. But what we do in our little orbit,
I really believe it does matter everything.

Speaker 2 (25:01):
Dan Harris, you can find it Dan Harris dot com.
I'm glad you you hooked that one that you are
to pay for it. You have to pay for it.
Was there another? Was there a Dan Harris out there?

Speaker 5 (25:11):
Somebody, some guy or some person went out and bought
the name?

Speaker 1 (25:15):
And how much did you have to pay? Would you
tell us it was a.

Speaker 5 (25:19):
Couple of thousand dollars?

Speaker 1 (25:20):
Wow?

Speaker 5 (25:21):
Not nothing worth every penny? Well, yeah, I'm glad I
have it. Otherwise it was gonna be Elvis Durant.

Speaker 4 (25:26):
Dot com, which will be up for I'm gonna put
that on auction any day, which, by the way, redirects
you to Meetloaf dot com.

Speaker 9 (25:35):
So strange.

Speaker 2 (25:36):
Just you wait, Dan. Thank you for coming in today.

Speaker 5 (25:38):
Like I said at the beginning, I love you guys.
Thank you for having me.

Speaker 2 (25:41):
We'll see you next week. Oh that's right. We forgot
to tell you. This is a weekly week I love that,
but but there's a lot of stuff going on at
Dan Harris dot com. Do you have any incredible appearances
coming up? Do you have any events that we need
to know about.

Speaker 5 (25:53):
I host a podcast that's two or three times a week,
and I'm talking to some of the smartest people in
the world about it. How to get your stuff together
so that you can be happy and have a regulated
nervous system, so that you can be positive and productive
out in the world. That is my lane. That's what
I talk about, not only experts, but I talk to
celebrities everybody from Matthew McConaughey to Dua Lipa to on

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and on and on.

Speaker 2 (26:16):
Is your app live yet? Yes?

Speaker 5 (26:18):
I have an app called ten Percent with Dan Harris
where I teach you how to meditate.

Speaker 2 (26:20):
Okay, you can find everything all of the above at
Dan Harris dot com.

Speaker 5 (26:23):
Thank you for letting me Dan. We love you, Thanks
for giving in. Thank you Elvis.

Speaker 2 (26:27):
Enjoy your meeting with that conservative button dump.

Speaker 5 (26:29):
Sure, enjoy your meat loaf and we know what I
mean by that.

Speaker 2 (26:33):
Don't let your meat loaf. Very important information show see
one hundred wt of businesses closed today, We're not. We're
wide open and we're giving you horoscopes. Let's get into it.
Producer Sam, who do you want to do him?

Speaker 14 (26:50):
With?

Speaker 1 (26:50):
Elvis?

Speaker 9 (26:51):
Why don't you do him today?

Speaker 12 (26:52):
With me?

Speaker 2 (26:52):
Pig me. If it's your birthday today, you celebrate with
Dolly Parton, Happy Birthday, Dolly for Day, Dolly, Sean Wayans
from The Incredible Wayans Family, and dread Matteo from The Sopranos. Yes,
lover and Oli fans and only fans as well. If
you're a Capricorn, you're taking something seriously that you used

(27:13):
to brush off. Think about what that means to you.
Your day's a five Aquarius.

Speaker 15 (27:17):
Keep them guessing. The element of surprise offers you more
leverage in the future.

Speaker 1 (27:21):
Your day's an eight.

Speaker 2 (27:23):
Hate pis C's see your emotions as information and not chaos.
That's great advice. Actually paying attention to them is power,
So pay attention to your emotions. Your day is a
nine Airs.

Speaker 15 (27:35):
You're realizing that consistency is a flex most people can't match,
so keep going quietly.

Speaker 2 (27:40):
Your day's a nine hay Tarus. You're ready to stop
pretending something doesn't matter. Because it does. Go ahead and
deal with it and you'll feel relief. Your day's a seven. Gemini.

Speaker 15 (27:50):
You need to be a little more selective. Not every
invitation deserves your presence.

Speaker 2 (27:55):
Your day's of six, Hay, Cancer, you're reclaiming space in
the situation that you now hold more power than you realized. Wow,
your day's a nine.

Speaker 15 (28:04):
Hey, Leo, you are walking into this week with an
undeniable presence and no one gets to dim that for you.

Speaker 2 (28:10):
Your day's a ten. Hey, yeah, thank you, suck it it.

Speaker 4 (28:14):
Okay, Virgo, you're relearning what support actually feels like.

Speaker 2 (28:19):
Let that change your standard. Your day's an eight.

Speaker 1 (28:21):
Libra.

Speaker 15 (28:22):
You are quietly deciding what is no longer worth negotiating.
Sometimes no is the right call. Your day's a seven.

Speaker 2 (28:29):
Hey, Scorpio, you're letting your intensity work for you, not
against you. Fine, be intense, It's fine if not everyone
gets it. Your day is an eight.

Speaker 15 (28:38):
And finally, Sagittarius, you are figuring out that impulse is
not momentum.

Speaker 1 (28:43):
Patience is your secret weapon.

Speaker 9 (28:44):
Today.

Speaker 2 (28:45):
Your day's of six, and those are your Monday morning
horse copes. Okay, what do we not hit today? We
didn't get into dating behaviors red flags or green flags,
waiting get into that I had that bad will Oh
you want that?

Speaker 3 (28:56):
I do?

Speaker 2 (28:57):
So, okay, just red flag, green flag? All it is BuzzFeed.
They pulled their readers several dating behaviors this and that,
asked whether they're red flag green flags giving small gifts
early on in the dating process green.

Speaker 1 (29:13):
Flag, Yeah, I see.

Speaker 8 (29:16):
I don't think it's that. I think there's questions that
go with that, like how early is it?

Speaker 1 (29:21):
How many? Like is it one date? Like you know
what I mean? Like it's there's there's questions that go
with that question.

Speaker 3 (29:25):
But what if somebody says, for example, like I love raccoons, right,
you all know I love raccoons. Listeners send me raccoons
stuff all the time, and I appreciate it. If I
went on a first or second date with somebody and
then he showed up and said, hey, I saw this
little raccoon figuring it made me think of you, that's
kind of sweet.

Speaker 1 (29:39):
That is sweet.

Speaker 8 (29:40):
It also could be like, oh damn, he wants more
than I want from this.

Speaker 2 (29:46):
Reships, you're you're you're in two different lanes. You're just
going to figure out how to merge without like knocking
each other off the road, okay, dating behaviors red or
green flags texting you all day? Oh no, well okay,
well you know they say here, it's kind of fifty
to fifty there. Forty seven percent say it's a green

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flag that text me on. This isn't early, This is
just in a relationship period. So you think there should
be time that you don't have text coming in, Like
how long of a period of time needs to pass
before a new text can come in?

Speaker 1 (30:24):
This is tough.

Speaker 3 (30:25):
I'm in a long distance relationship. We definitely text each
other all day. I mean it's not incessant, but we
have things to say to each other that we might
not remember later on in the day. So it's just
a quick, you know, hey, this is what's going on
type of thing. So that I think it's okay in
a long distance relationship. But if you're not, if you're
gonna see that person when you go home, leave them
alone while they're at work.

Speaker 2 (30:43):
Yeah yeah, yeah. See My issue with that is will
text almost everything that happens, and then by the time
it's our time to have our conversation at five o'clock,
there's nothing to say. Right, how is your day? I
told you I texted my day is good? Look on
your face, Nate, what Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 6 (31:04):
I mean, it's scary.

Speaker 2 (31:05):
He's got a comment that I don't know.

Speaker 6 (31:07):
Six hours what between texts? Yeah, what's the matter with that?

Speaker 2 (31:11):
I just only talking to this person twice a day.

Speaker 6 (31:14):
Yeah, because you know what, leave me alone. I'm doing
my thing, You're doing your thing.

Speaker 2 (31:18):
You're busy. I'm busy.

Speaker 6 (31:19):
You know when we get together, that is when we
have the most fun, in the most common But if
you have.

Speaker 16 (31:25):
To look at a clock when you can text somebody again,
I think that's.

Speaker 2 (31:27):
The red flag. I'm on restriction for six hours. I
have to wait.

Speaker 7 (31:31):
The only reason why I put a time on it
is because you just asked the question to put a
time on it. I'm like, I think a few hours
away from your phone with is healthy.

Speaker 6 (31:39):
Otherwise you so. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (31:41):
In other words, it's just text if need be, like,
I got I gotta ask you a question because I
got to make a reservation, okay. And sometimes you're having.

Speaker 8 (31:48):
To send a text that says, hey, just thinking of you,
wanted to tell you I love you.

Speaker 1 (31:52):
That's all that's nice to god.

Speaker 2 (31:54):
I want one of those nice I want one of those.
That sounds good. I don't know. But if you're busy,
do your thing and you don't hear from me in
six six hours, I don't hear from you, I don't
think it's the end of the world. I think maybe
that's what we're getting at.

Speaker 14 (32:07):
Right.

Speaker 2 (32:07):
There are some people who've had to probably have a
text every thirty minutes all day long. They go nuts
asking you to hang out more than twice a week. Okay,
red flag.

Speaker 3 (32:16):
Hello, I think that's a good thing.

Speaker 2 (32:21):
Yeah, I'm kidding calling you quote unquote mine. Oh is
that a red flag or a green flag?

Speaker 6 (32:29):
You're mine?

Speaker 2 (32:29):
You're all mine.

Speaker 3 (32:30):
Some people love that crap. Yeah they love it.

Speaker 2 (32:33):
Oh, that's crap, talk about that.

Speaker 3 (32:36):
I don't believe in people being possessions. I think it's
nice that you can be in a relationship, But if
somebody said, you know, you're mine in a creepy way,
I don't think I would like that very much.

Speaker 2 (32:46):
No, yeah, it can be taken as a creepy and
now I get that. What about I don't know, talking
about making long term plans like early on in the
conversation and early on in the relationship, like long term
how early.

Speaker 1 (33:01):
Are we talking about early second date? That's not good.

Speaker 2 (33:08):
We talked about texting? What about calling? Calling multiple times
a day? Is that a red flower?

Speaker 8 (33:14):
Poor Sheldon? My mom says, will you leave that poor
man alone? That's what my mom says. I'm like, why
I have to tell him something? She goes it can wait?

Speaker 3 (33:23):
Invasive?

Speaker 2 (33:23):
What happens?

Speaker 1 (33:24):
FaceTime?

Speaker 2 (33:25):
We have actually we have sort of do not FaceTime
of someone trying to FaceTime n I'm like, no, don't
ever FaceTime me. Every first time is from Yeah, FaceTime
is from meetings. I don't want to go to a
meeting with you. Uh anyway, Yeah, we have we have
set call times, like when I get off the show,
I'll make a call because I know he's doing coffee,

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or when he's sitting on the toilet he calls me.
I know that if Alex is calling me, it's going
to have an echoe effect in the background.

Speaker 3 (33:57):
My sister, as soon as she sets foot in her
are she calls me because she has to talk to
me in her car on the way home. And then
as soon as she's she's like, okay, I'm home.

Speaker 17 (34:04):
By a click, said Alex facetimey right now to prove
you with your friends, right, you never would be a
red flag yesterday flag.

Speaker 2 (34:16):
That would be a flaming red.

Speaker 1 (34:18):
Flag walk away.

Speaker 2 (34:21):
Please wait, hold on, Lisa's done that to Froggy. Prove
to me you're walking the dog right now. She's done
that to you.

Speaker 16 (34:26):
Yeah, that was last week when she was out of
town and she said, listen, I need to know you
took him on a walk. And this is how I
know she did it because one point I was walking him.
I saw one of the neighbors who was friends with
her take a picture of me walking.

Speaker 2 (34:39):
Oh see, that's red flag, red flag on your wife,
red flag on Froggy.

Speaker 3 (34:44):
Because he can't be trusted.

Speaker 2 (34:48):
I said, I would do it. We got a flag
on the play flag on the play. I was in
an uber yesterday and we you know, look, you know
it can be competitive driving to the streets of New
York City. It's like playing a video game. I was
cut off. My car was cut off by a Jesus
Saves stickered car, and I thought it was kind of odd.

Speaker 3 (35:08):
Yes, I always think the same thing when someone's driving
all irrationally or like flips you the bird and then
you see the Jesus sticker or the fish, I'm like.

Speaker 2 (35:15):
Hey, what's up. It's like sometimes some of the people
who say the most cutting, awful, negative things on social media,
you look at their account, it's like, I'm following the
footsteps of Jesus.

Speaker 13 (35:25):
Right, you're not.

Speaker 2 (35:26):
Jesus would never say that on my social media.

Speaker 8 (35:28):
But they figure you have to forgive them because they're
followers of Jesus.

Speaker 2 (35:33):
Not gonna I hold you to a higher whatever power.

Speaker 6 (35:37):
You know.

Speaker 18 (35:37):
Sometimes I have to be very careful because I'll be
driving the Elvis Duran truck and I'll be driving like
a jerk, and I'll be like, oh my god, I
totally forgot that this day has logos all over we
have an Elvis Durant truck.

Speaker 2 (35:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 18 (35:47):
Well the radio station has Elvis Durand logos all over
the Calus.

Speaker 2 (35:50):
It doesn't have my picture on it, does No, no, no.
I think we have a station somewhere on the East
coast that has my picture on it. It's the worst picture.
Get that off the road. I know, anyone looking at
my face he's driving by. It's like when you go
buy like a bustop bench, it is a picture of
a real estate guy on it. I'm not going to
buy a house from you because you have your picture
on the bench. I think that. No, I'm glad your
husband doesn't do that.

Speaker 1 (36:11):
Well, he's done.

Speaker 8 (36:12):
He Every once in a while his face will show
up on a bench or something, but not usually.

Speaker 2 (36:17):
What's scary?

Speaker 7 (36:17):
Anytime you put your your face on something for the public,
you're you're asking for trouble because it lends itself to
graffiti vandalism.

Speaker 2 (36:25):
Oh yeah, I'm gonna get it. I'm gonna get a Salvador.

Speaker 3 (36:27):
Dolly must That's nicer than what I would do if
given the options. Right, Yeah, you draw like a wiener
and aim it towards the Yeah. If your mouth is
even slightly open, game overait.

Speaker 8 (36:36):
I just tell my husband, Hey, I saw your face
on a bench, and I went and sat on your face.

Speaker 1 (36:46):
Scary? What's the moment?

Speaker 2 (36:50):
Pipe down?

Speaker 7 (36:51):
Scary?

Speaker 2 (36:53):
Scary? I don't know that year sometimes Yeah, well no,
it's just like you hear someone say something on this
and you're like, what is that? You would you do
that if the microphones were on. No, it's so funny.
When the mics are on, personalities change. Yeah, I don't

(37:13):
mind does when the mics are off. I'm a very
nice guy, I'm quiet right.

Speaker 3 (37:18):
Oh, so silent.

Speaker 2 (37:19):
I'm very passive. I am, yeah, I'm a sweetheart. After
ten am, oh.

Speaker 4 (37:23):
After ten at a certain time. Yes, you're a different
person as a timer.

Speaker 1 (37:27):
You don't think you're nice during this show?

Speaker 2 (37:30):
Really no, because you know what it's we've got clock
ticking down, We've got we've got eighteen people trying to
all talk at the same time. This is a rough
gig turn. Like Alex is always making fun of me. Oh,
you do you just played the same song over and
over they all that money. Well, yeah, that's okay, but
that's what I do.

Speaker 3 (37:48):
I think all our significant others feel that way about us,
because I've definitely gotten that from Brandon, like, oh are
you tired? I was talking really hard today. I'm like,
I'll kill you.

Speaker 2 (37:56):
I just got it a second ago. What what'd you get?

Speaker 16 (37:59):
So when when you went to break last time, she
said to me, oh, how long do you have? I said,
I got about eight more minutes. Oh, I got a
couple of things that needs you to get done. I'm working, Like,
leave me alone. Yeah, don't talk to me right now,
I'll stop.

Speaker 2 (38:14):
Take it.

Speaker 4 (38:14):
A question kind of random, Why are you cheating with wordle.
What is the point, Froggy, No, I don't cheat. Well no,
not you, Froggy, but anyone and everyone?

Speaker 1 (38:23):
Why was it stupid? Defeats the purpose?

Speaker 2 (38:25):
Why would you even do it if you're gonna cheat? Right? Okay?
Who who do we have? Who's cheating on wordle?

Speaker 9 (38:30):
Never?

Speaker 1 (38:31):
No, you could just be like me and not give
a crap and not even do it.

Speaker 2 (38:34):
Now, do you have the three words or the words
you like to use to try to cover the entire
spectrum of a work totally? Like Alex has good ones?
Like the word audio is really good.

Speaker 3 (38:43):
So is beach or lamps. Those are really good words
to pick too.

Speaker 2 (38:48):
Okay, Yeah, words that don't have letters that repeat, Yeah,
I used I use the same vowels. Yeah, snarl is
a good one. Yeah, you get the R.

Speaker 6 (38:58):
Yes, the word start a lot of consonants.

Speaker 2 (39:02):
But people who want to cheat with wordle, I just
don't know.

Speaker 4 (39:05):
I don't get it. I don't no offense. I'll be
sure you're a great person.

Speaker 3 (39:08):
There are whatever game you can find online, there is
also an app that will help you cheat at that game.
It's terrible words with friends. I stopped playing with certain
people because there was one coworker who I was like,
you don't even know that word. Stop it, and she
would come back with these amazing responses. I wanted to
poker in the eye.

Speaker 2 (39:23):
There is another reason why you should be looking at
the world through rose colored glasses. They are telling us
that optimism is the secret to healthy aging. Absolutely later,
Oh sorry, I gotta bounce. Researchers Boston University Madison studied
over two hundred and fifty senior adults over fourteen years

(39:46):
to see how being optimistic can affect your health without doubt,
with clear evidence, researchers conclude staying optimistic about life can
help people cope with stress better and as a result
of I waid some health risks as they age.

Speaker 3 (40:02):
Totally true.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
I could see that.

Speaker 9 (40:03):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (40:04):
I mean you know they always say when you worry
about something, you're just putting yourself through it over and
over and over again. Cross that bridge when you come
to it.

Speaker 2 (40:10):
Twenty one year old woman went on to Reddit to
talk about her disastrous birthday. She got a lot of
support from people on social media. I want to see
what you feel about this. It was her birthday, she
woke up. No one acknowledged her special day at all.
She went downstairs to the kitchen. Her mom was reading
the newspaper, ignored her, even had some demands about cooking
and cleaning. So the day already started off a little off.

(40:31):
It was her birthday. Her dad and brother ignored her
as well. She said, Normally her dad always wished her
happy birthday. Hey, happy birthday, kitten, didn't do it this day.
She felt miserable and ignored on her birthday. And of course,
rather than saying hello, it's my birthday, she just let
it ride, feeling crappy the whole day. She got home,
she had a little small birthday cake for herself. She

(40:52):
opened the door and there they were all of her
friends and family to wish her a surprise day.

Speaker 3 (40:57):
That's awesome.

Speaker 1 (40:58):
She should have known something was well.

Speaker 2 (41:00):
It turns out ignoring her uh was, of course an
intentional part of the plan. Yeah, she was not happy
at all. She left. She walked out, went to McDonald's,
got a happy meal, and she was like, no, that
was not a birthday surprise. That was a prank.

Speaker 1 (41:14):
Oh wow?

Speaker 2 (41:15):
What people online blowing her up with messages agreeing with
her what she was. She was right to leave the bash.
She was right to get out out of there. These
people pranked her and pulled a horrible joke. I would
be relieved.

Speaker 3 (41:27):
I would think that's so sweet. And they all put
effort in all day because it was probably difficult for
them too to not acknowledge her, knowing she's sad about it,
and then they surprised her with something wonderful and she
walks out. I think that's brady, Yeah, that's yeah.

Speaker 1 (41:39):
I agree with Dandy.

Speaker 3 (41:40):
It's going to be harder than that.

Speaker 2 (41:42):
What's that scary?

Speaker 6 (41:43):
I feel like if you don't make it a big
deal of your own birthday, no one else will do
it for you. Because you're your biggest fan, You're your
own champion.

Speaker 2 (41:50):
You know that.

Speaker 7 (41:50):
People that celebrate on social media it's my birthday month,
you have to do that.

Speaker 6 (41:55):
And then people jump on Well.

Speaker 2 (41:56):
I don't think you should have to do that. I
think someone wants to celebrate you just do it right,
should but.

Speaker 6 (42:01):
People are into themselves, they're not into you.

Speaker 2 (42:03):
Know, Okay, well then hey guess what. I guess this
is how we weed out the friends.

Speaker 8 (42:10):
I still think the person that pushed you into this
world should get a present too.

Speaker 3 (42:13):
That's what I say all the time. Celebrate my mom.

Speaker 4 (42:15):
I didn't do anything, seriously, said the woman that had
two babies fall out of her gien.

Speaker 1 (42:20):
Let me tell you the second one was harder than
the first.

Speaker 2 (42:22):
So come on, hey, did you hear about this playboy
model charging up to two thousand dollars to test your
guy's loyalty online?

Speaker 3 (42:29):
That is a great idea. I tried to tell us
all we should do that and come up with that company,
but she beat.

Speaker 1 (42:34):
Us to it.

Speaker 2 (42:34):
That's her. She's charging women up to two thousand dollars
to approach their boyfriends on social media and test how
faithful they are.

Speaker 3 (42:40):
First of all, okay, you could do that yourself with
a fake profile and not stay two thousand dollars.

Speaker 1 (42:45):
But okay, don't we know someone who did that? Who
made a fake profile for someone we do?

Speaker 11 (42:49):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (42:49):
Remember curiosity, pete.

Speaker 3 (42:51):
I have lots of people, yes, who.

Speaker 2 (42:55):
I don't know. I can't read it if you can't
say it all because.

Speaker 1 (42:58):
I can't say the name. But people know.

Speaker 2 (43:00):
Oh that's right, Yeah that's not nice.

Speaker 1 (43:05):
But somebody did that to that person.

Speaker 2 (43:07):
Yeah it wasn't me anyway. This model lives in Barcelona,
claims to have earned about ten thousand dollars so far
from the loyalty testing service, money she intends to spend
on further enhancing her looks in some way. This is awesome, Heidi.
We have so many things for juggling, so many topics. Hi, Heidi, Hi,
So which of all of the above are you calling.

Speaker 19 (43:28):
About the word words to start with?

Speaker 20 (43:33):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (43:33):
Yeah, it's good to try to cover all your bases
and to get as many letters out as possible. What
word do you love? What's your suggestion? Well?

Speaker 19 (43:41):
I could never solve wordle, and it was making me irritated.
So I googled the best word to start with, and
wordle experts said crane is the best word to start with.
Since I've used it, I've started winning. So crane tacos
is a good one too.

Speaker 2 (43:58):
Crane and tacos.

Speaker 3 (44:00):
That's not as bad, though, if you're just trying to
guess a word to start with, as much as the
people who go and figure out what the actual word
was and then oh I guess it and two tries.

Speaker 2 (44:08):
Liar. Very good, Heidi? Are you addicted? Are you wordle?
Every day?

Speaker 19 (44:14):
Every day?

Speaker 2 (44:15):
There you go? All right, Look, thanks for listening, Thanks
for not ruining today's word. We appreciate it.

Speaker 19 (44:19):
You're welcome.

Speaker 2 (44:20):
Have a good day, you two. We have people here
in the office that love to ruin Ah. Today's word
is yeah. You're like, who do we ruined it for?

Speaker 14 (44:27):
It?

Speaker 1 (44:27):
Was it scary?

Speaker 3 (44:28):
I ruined it for scary? Yeah, yes, it was intentional.
I regret nothing.

Speaker 2 (44:35):
Uh what else? I have a whole list? You should
have the values on Monopoly the game boards same today
as in nineteen thirty five. I should know. I was there.

Speaker 1 (44:45):
That's yeah.

Speaker 2 (44:52):
Last night, Madison Beer's album Locket came out. Also, yes night,
right here at iHeart World headquarters, we had the very
first iHeart TikTok album preview with Madison Beer. If you
didn't watch it, it'll live on on TikTok. Don't worry.
And guess who didn't go home last night after the event.

(45:13):
Madison beers last night. Yes, they did some deaths somewhere.
I know. Well, look where do we Startt's let's start
with album release day. Today is the day lock is
out building an album with people you love, people you trust.
M It's got to be so gratified to finally hear

(45:33):
the final thing you put out or did you do enough?
Were you ready for it to come out.

Speaker 9 (45:38):
Oh yeah, I definitely felt ready for it to come out.
I think I. I mean, I honestly had sat on
a lot of this music for months and months and months.
There's not many songs that are like recent ads, so
I was ready for sure. If anything, I was like,
it needs to come out now before I like start
the next thing, like I was already had. I already
had banked a lot of this stuff a while ago.
So I'm so excited that it's out. And I was
definitely ready.

Speaker 2 (45:58):
How many times we had a artists on the go no,
I kept changing it and changing it. They finally Charlie Poof, I.

Speaker 9 (46:06):
Needed to print vinyls like six months ago.

Speaker 2 (46:08):
So I look at you, see you're like, You're like me. Yeah,
when I need to get something in the grocery store,
I'll go to seven to eleven. I don't want to go.
I know what I'm gonna want. I know what I want.
I know when I get it, I'm gonna walk out
and get my car and leave. Absolutely, you did your
album done? Next I also, I can't.

Speaker 9 (46:24):
I've made this mistake in the past where like I'll
make something and I'll love it and then I just
overanalyze it and I go so ham on like every
single tiny detail that nobody but me would hear, and
then I end up delaying it for five years. And
so it's just like I was like, this is good.
I feel good about it. I'm not gonna like beat
this into the ground. I'm just gonna like love it
for what it is and get it out there.

Speaker 2 (46:42):
It's all a part of getting rid of anxiety in
our lives.

Speaker 9 (46:45):
It was a great challenge for me though, because I
really like in my day to day life as well,
I feel like I'm someone who really does overanalyze things
in a way that I will just ruin everything for myself.
And so this was a great learning experience for me
where I was like, let's not ruin this. This is
a good thing. You know, it's a good thing. Get
it out there, send it to print. And then I
once it got sent to vinyls, it was just simply
too late.

Speaker 2 (47:05):
You know how many people listening on the way to
work right now are going I really need to start
doing the Madison beer thing.

Speaker 9 (47:10):
Yeah, the Madison beer message.

Speaker 2 (47:11):
Okay, so you know, let me tell you what she did.
I don't know if this is too personal, but she
got everyone together as a collective to put this album together.
She rented this beautiful airbnb. They got together. We don't
know what they did other than created. There's a create
there to come out with songs creative for the album.

Speaker 3 (47:30):
Like a creative retreat.

Speaker 9 (47:31):
Yeah, we did. We were in the studio for like
many many months, and just I think a change of
scenery is good for everyone's brain. And so I was like,
where can we go? I really don't like flying. So
I was just like, I want to go somewhere that's driveable.
And there's this place called Ohi that's like an hour
outside of La even oh Hi.

Speaker 2 (47:47):
Yeah, oh my god.

Speaker 9 (47:48):
I fell in love with I would live there. That's
my speed. That's more my energy is that. So I
fell in love with it. And it was so beautiful
and the food is great whatever, the people were awesome.

Speaker 2 (47:56):
And and so what results came out of this incredibly
expensive retreat.

Speaker 9 (48:01):
Nothing literally, not one song we made there it got
on the album. But it was definitely a very important
trip because I think it really defined the sound of
the album for me. I just don't think that we
got weish having too much fun, to be honest, That's
why writing camps can go one of two ways, where
like they're really awesome, but you kind of are not
so productive because you're just in like a great place

(48:22):
that you want to enjoy. So for me, I just
wasn't very productive. But you had to be honest a
great time, and it really did define the sound of
the album. I got this little device like this, this keyboard,
and I was able to play with it there and
there was a lot of like great, very important finements
that needed to happen in order for the album to exist.

Speaker 2 (48:41):
So I'm glad I went. You know, you don't have
to be an artist producing and writing and creating your
own album. You can be in any industry in the world.
Have a retreat with your friend. You did that, and
you could write that off. That's a business expense. Look
it out for you.

Speaker 3 (48:56):
I appreciate it.

Speaker 2 (48:57):
So producing we think, oh, you just go into a
room and sing into a microphone and then a song
comes out. Oh goodness, there's a business into this too,
and so taking charge of that is a challenge. What
made you want to grab it and own it?

Speaker 9 (49:16):
I just feel like I used to not be I
started for you know, anyone that doesn't know. I started
very very young. I got signed when I was twelve,
and so it's just the industry is very different now
than it was, and I think that back then it
was like a different time, and I think that I
didn't feel as confident in rooms, especially with a lot
of men, to feel like I could say, oh, I
think this line would be better if we said this.
It just didn't feel like something I could really say.

(49:37):
So I used to kind of let people take take
hold and do it themselves. And now I feel like
I'm in a position where I really am leading the
whole thing and all the ideas, and if I don't
like something, I have no problem saying no, because then
it's my project at the end of the day, and
I'm not like hurting anyone's feelings. It's not personal. And
so I just have learned that. And then having producers
also that are so collaborative and cool and they're not egotistical,

(50:01):
and they're like, you are producing this just as much
as we are, Like it's cool to work with people
who want to share the credit. I guess.

Speaker 3 (50:08):
So on that note you talking about these things and
how it's changed so much, I read that you said
about three years after you sort of popped into the
industry when you were fourteen, so and I were seventeen.

Speaker 9 (50:18):
You I was alway on seventeen. You're seen, I'm seventeen again.

Speaker 2 (50:23):
Oh no, I didn't get your car.

Speaker 3 (50:24):
No, no, when you were seventeen. That's sort of like
everything fell apart right at that one time, all at
the same time, and you're not ready for that because
you were fourteen years old, which when you started all
of it. And now you found your power and you
will not sit in the same places and let people
tell you what to do. Was there a moment for
you that you realized this is it, I'm not taking
it anymore. And how did you find your voice?

Speaker 9 (50:45):
Yeah? I think it doesn't happen overnight. I think I'm
still learning how to do that. I'm I'm, you know,
twenty six turning twenty seven. Now, I'm still super young.
And I think that I'm just like navigating not only
this industry, but also just like my personal life and
how I conduct myself day to day. And I think
that I've done a lot of therapy and I think
setting boundaries have been really huge for me and being
like it's okay to say no to certain things and

(51:07):
preserve my energy and myself, and I definitely to anyone listening,
encourage you to do the same. And having a work
life personal life balance is extremely important in any industry
that you're in. And yeah, I don't know. I think
it definitely happened overnight, though, so I can't say it
was just one moment that I was like, oh, here
we go. Now I feel empowered and like I can
do this. I still have nights where I break down

(51:27):
and cry and don't think I can. So it's not
just like a completely one day it shifts. But I
think that it's important to stay true to yourself and
look out for yourself and advocate for yourself whenever you can.
And I know sometimes it might be hard, and I
think that especially as women were kind of told to
not really make waves and stuff, but I encourage you to.
And I think that it's nothing feels better than looking

(51:49):
out for yourself. And I always say it might be cheesy,
but like you should treat yourself as if you're your
own best friend. And I know the way that I
look out for my best friend and the way that
I would defend her and stand up for her you
should do that for yourself, and it feels really good.

Speaker 2 (52:01):
There you go. Yeah, okay, And by the way, you've
been on with us for about ten minutes you haven't
made any waves at all, and so I'm a little disappointed.
Start shaking, Come on, come on, start start some.

Speaker 8 (52:13):
Crap, man, this go are you're talking about balance, like
with your personal life and and you know, work life
and everything and finding time.

Speaker 1 (52:19):
How do you find time for that?

Speaker 8 (52:21):
And how do you find like to stay out of
the tabloids or stay out of looking at like the
bad stuff online?

Speaker 1 (52:27):
Because that, to me, that's gotta be not an easy thing.

Speaker 9 (52:30):
No, it's not. And I don't I'm not gonna sit
here and lie to you and say, oh, I don't
you know, I don't look at the comments and I
don't read it.

Speaker 3 (52:36):
I do.

Speaker 9 (52:37):
I'm like a human being, and I'm very much so
online And so I definitely think though, again, like setting
boundaries even with myself or I'm like, if my best
friend was sitting scrolling on TikTok and reading hateful things
about herself, I would be like, okay and enough at
one point. And but it's also easier said than done,
And so I think having grace there is important and
being able to be like I just try not to
beat myself up over it too much because I think

(52:58):
that because I feel like I'm at a great place
in my healing journey or whatever, I feel sometimes guilty
when I will find myself falling back into those habits.
But then I'm like, I cannot blame myself, and it's
pretty normal. But then I mean, regarding my personal life,
it's back to kind of what I said, I just
I say no, and I don't have a problem saying no.

Speaker 1 (53:15):
We just said no is a full sentence.

Speaker 9 (53:17):
No one's going to make me feel bad about it either.
And I think there's a lot of discourse, and especially
I see it online now where people are like, you
need to do everything all the time, or someone is
going to take your place, and I'm like, well, then
so be it. I think that I exist in my
own world and I have my own community, and if
people you know, also like to be so real with you,
this isn't everything to me. I have a lot more

(53:39):
in my life that I think I value that isn't
just my career and this persona and all these things
and the lights of the cameras it's all really cool,
and I'm definitely excited to be here and to be
releasing an album literally today. But I think that it's
also important for me as I continue to grow, to
not tether all my self worth to that stuff.

Speaker 1 (53:56):
I love that.

Speaker 2 (53:58):
Yeah, something you said sometimes you you we all we
all fall into a little little pothole from time to time,
of course, and it's like just in meditation, you have
to think about yourself on that bridge over a creek,
a leaf comes by, you gotta let it just flow down,
float down the creek and let it go. Today is
album release day from Madison Beer, who you're listening to
right now. By the way, Locket is the album. Last

(54:21):
night was our big iHeart TikTok album preview. It's a
live on TikTok as we speak. Make sure you give
that a watch. And you have to what are you
watching it on TV? Other than your own TikTok special?
What's going on?

Speaker 9 (54:31):
Oh goodness, I haven't really watched any of these like
new shows that are very very popular, like Heated Rival.
You're like, tell me.

Speaker 2 (54:37):
Live, Oh, I know, I haven't seen it.

Speaker 9 (54:39):
It's like the last person on earth that hasn't seen it,
but I want to. I just haven't had time. I'm
excited to start Traders, right. I love Traders?

Speaker 1 (54:47):
Didn't you used to love Law and Order and one.

Speaker 9 (54:49):
Like Criminal Minds?

Speaker 11 (54:51):
Yeah?

Speaker 9 (54:52):
I love. I will rewatch that until I die.

Speaker 2 (54:54):
So what do they say about the psyche of the
person who loves.

Speaker 9 (54:57):
These people who love true crime?

Speaker 2 (54:59):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (55:00):
Psychotic, especially committing game.

Speaker 2 (55:04):
You'll be committing true crime any moment now, you never know.

Speaker 9 (55:07):
I already have.

Speaker 2 (55:08):
So as far as where you live, the room Madison
was born in actually used to live in Jericho, Long Island,
right here on the East Coast.

Speaker 9 (55:19):
No, I don't still live there.

Speaker 2 (55:20):
I wish I did. Well, No you did, I did?

Speaker 9 (55:22):
You don't I did?

Speaker 2 (55:23):
But now you're your West Coast. So how do you
like to come home? I mean, especially right now when
it's you know, a thousand degrees below zero?

Speaker 9 (55:31):
No, I love it, so I do devastatingly. I can't
really go back to the island like this week, just
because it's been really busy, But I love coming here
and just kind of like disappearing, and I just feel
I feel so I don't know how to explain. I
just feel so back to like who I am at
my core and it's just so peaceful to me, and
especially in the island, and I just I don't know. Yeah,
I just love being at my house and my dogs

(55:53):
with my dad.

Speaker 2 (55:53):
Kind of dogs you have.

Speaker 9 (55:54):
My dad has three dogs. He has two golden doodles
and then a little teacup Pomeranian who was actually mine
and then he took him from me because he fell
so in love with him. And to be fair, I
was young and I was like, Okay, fine, you can
have him. But he's his name is Zero from the
Nmember for Christmas. He's very cute.

Speaker 20 (56:12):
Yea.

Speaker 2 (56:13):
I love my dogs, my Schnauzers. I got my miniature Snausers
the best.

Speaker 9 (56:16):
His oldest golden noodles, like eighteen. It's crazy. Every time
I come home, like still kicking. He's like he's still kicking.

Speaker 2 (56:21):
Yeah. So we do have a little controversial something we
have to bring up. Scary I can't.

Speaker 6 (56:30):
I just want to know, why did you want to
follow me on Instagram? We were friends?

Speaker 3 (56:35):
We were friends, No way I did? Did I really?

Speaker 2 (56:44):
He goes down a slippery slope to hell starting right now?

Speaker 7 (56:49):
You know he did a gig togetherAnd what about Jingle
Bowl after parties?

Speaker 2 (56:53):
And we were best friends. We were besties, scary.

Speaker 6 (56:56):
We were following each other on Instagram and then.

Speaker 7 (56:58):
One day and I said, yeah, since coming into the show, Yeah,
like we follow each other on Instagram.

Speaker 6 (57:03):
And then I looked at my Instagram. I'm like, she followed.

Speaker 2 (57:08):
Oh the hell?

Speaker 1 (57:09):
Wait wait, let me hold on a second.

Speaker 9 (57:10):
Let me defend myself here. How often do you post? Often?

Speaker 11 (57:14):
Or not? All?

Speaker 2 (57:14):
Too much?

Speaker 3 (57:15):
Way too much?

Speaker 2 (57:16):
Too much?

Speaker 9 (57:17):
No, see that that doesn't make sense because I only
really will unfollow someone if they're completely inactive and they
literally haven't posted in five years, So that doesn't make sense.
Like this guy literally probably was an accident because I
don't unfollow people. I follow people that I literally met once,
like on omegl in twenty eleven.

Speaker 2 (57:34):
Like, I don't follow people.

Speaker 9 (57:36):
So now I'm like what you're just thinking back? I'm like,
what happened there?

Speaker 3 (57:39):
Did you send a creepy d im scary No?

Speaker 9 (57:42):
Right, I'm like, what there has to be more to
this story.

Speaker 6 (57:45):
We've always talked about the music always.

Speaker 1 (57:47):
You guys go way back crazy exactly. None of us
follow him.

Speaker 3 (57:53):
We all have followed him, we all blocked him at
some point.

Speaker 9 (57:55):
Definitely not on purpose, and I'm sorry, he's part of
the show. Because I hate when people unfollow me. I
take it so personally and it's like, actually really hurts
my feelings.

Speaker 2 (58:07):
I'm sorry, I didn't mean and I feel like I
told you jerk. I wasn't following you. Now I'm following you.

Speaker 4 (58:12):
There we go.

Speaker 2 (58:13):
I know you have forty million followers. How do you
keep up with each and every person?

Speaker 9 (58:18):
No, I do every single.

Speaker 6 (58:20):
I gotta follow you back down.

Speaker 2 (58:24):
This is like a good old fashion Christmas miracle.

Speaker 9 (58:26):
Hell, to be honest with you, I also don't even
follow some of my very close friends because I just
don't even think to follow them. If that makes sense.
It does, because times I'm like, I don't I don't
even think about that. I don't follow you. I just like,
sometimes it's not really in my thought. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (58:39):
People put way too much into following and unfollowing.

Speaker 9 (58:43):
Definitely the modern age of like, I don't like you anymore. Yeah,
it feels like it sends a message.

Speaker 2 (58:47):
Is one of the most hideous.

Speaker 3 (58:48):
Topics of conversation, Like when anyone ever corners you, why
don't you follow me, You're never gonna get an actual answer.

Speaker 9 (58:53):
My goodness, whatever, it was no one's going to be
like I've done that. People you have. I've literally been
like you unfollowed me. I've actually like said that to
people before.

Speaker 3 (58:59):
But did they get you an actually answer?

Speaker 1 (59:00):
This is why I'm following.

Speaker 9 (59:01):
Everyone just like says whatever they want, but we're just like, well,
what happens?

Speaker 2 (59:05):
It must be a technical Well, okay, before we get
out of here, we got to talk about the music
because we are here to celebrate Madison's new album lock It.
I'm sorry, Madison Beer. We were talking earlier how you
always us you should use the first and last name
in storytelling. So Madison Beer's new album lock It out today.
Of course, we started here at Z one hundred and
on our network with Bittersweet I Love Yes Babe. We

(59:27):
played Yes Baby for the first time the other day.
Yes and it was I wanted I needed, I needed
fog machines, I needed strokes, I needed all sorts of
legal activities going on. It's such a great.

Speaker 9 (59:37):
It does provoke legal activity.

Speaker 2 (59:41):
Talk about I mean, this is a stupid question that
I'm sure you've ben asked a million times the album
lock It. The music is what from your point of view,
this music is inter a word.

Speaker 9 (59:55):
I think that it feels like a very how can
I say this without it not making any sense, I
think that it feels like everything I've ever made kind
of in one place. It feels like a really awesome
if you had listened to any of my previous albums
or previous work, it just feels kind of like a
combination of, to me at least, all the best of it.
And I'm just so proud of it, and it feels

(01:00:16):
like I feel very proud of my writing, I feel
proud of the production, I feel proud of the performance
on it. I'm just like very very excited. I've never
been so excited by an album. And I listen to
it all day every day. And so you're a fan
of your out, Oh my goodness. I literally I if
I meet up with a friend who I haven't seen
in a while, I'm like, get in my car and
let me play you like three songs. I just I'm
so excited about it, and I just like love to

(01:00:37):
see people's reactions to certain things. And I actually had
like a fan listening party in La where I played
it or like a week early for about thirty of them,
and it just was so rewarding and fun to watch
their reactions to certain songs and certain lyrics and like
they're all they're also so tuned on and like they
know they know me so well, they know everything I'm
talking about. And I tried to thrown like a couple
of personal things on the album, like you'll hear an

(01:00:58):
Adventure Times sample on one song and a severing sample
on another song. And there's just like random things in
there that I think go back to just my roots
of Like in my album Life Support, which is my
first one, there was a lot of very personal touches
that I guess weren't so commercial, but they were very
personal to me. And I feel like that's why I
wanted to return to is. I wanted this to feel
like you're getting to know me in a way.

Speaker 2 (01:01:19):
So Madison Beer last night here at iHeart World Headquarters,
the iHeart TikTok album preview. You got to watch that.
It's there right now, and of course Lockett is out
today and of course down the street at Madison's Square Garden.
You'll be there on what date, July thirteenth. July thirteenth,
the heat of summer in New York City.

Speaker 3 (01:01:40):
The tour yes, it's closing night of the tour. Please come.

Speaker 9 (01:01:44):
I'm so scared no one's gonna show up listening scary.

Speaker 2 (01:01:48):
Okay, I'm gonna ask one thing of you. I don't ask.
I don't like asking for favors, but we need one
ticket to the show for Scary more than one ticket.

Speaker 4 (01:01:58):
I can get tickets on fill this room. So it's
very important you gave him one ticket.

Speaker 9 (01:02:04):
Well, you can come alone. You can sing your soil.

Speaker 2 (01:02:06):
Everything with me and production people. Have one spotlight that
spotlights him in the middle of the garden.

Speaker 9 (01:02:12):
He could just be in the crowd and then when
that song comes on, he can just look up and
the spotlight on.

Speaker 3 (01:02:19):
Who's creepy down?

Speaker 2 (01:02:22):
Madison? Thank you for coming. I'm sorry, Madison Beer, thank
you for coming by today. Lockett is the album you
need now. And of course, head over to TikTok to
see the iHeart TikTok album preview that we all loved
last night. All right, now, this is this is a
very delicate conversation. It's difficult to have, but I think
we need to have it. Uh oh, let's talk about

(01:02:44):
stupid people.

Speaker 1 (01:02:44):
Oh jeez, yeah, Okay, like stupid in what sense?

Speaker 2 (01:02:48):
Okay, well, you know what, let's not overanalyze stupidity. Okay, look,
you know, we all agree that the world is just
filled with stupid people, all right, And and it sounds
sort of like an elitist pig by even saying it,
But don't you agree. You're out about doing your own
thing and someone does something so god awful stupid. Yeah,
you're like, uh, you feel a little more stupid because

(01:03:09):
you were near them, yes, when they did it, or
when they said it yes or whatever. Stupid people. So
I was reading up on the stupid people, as you
know me. I was like to read up on things.
So there are five rules of surviving in a stupid
world I have found. Shall we investigate please? A professor

(01:03:31):
of economic history at University of California, Berkeley published an
essay with the five rules we all need to survive
in a stupid world. They are Number one, you're understanding
just how many stupid people there are out there. Man,
There's more.

Speaker 6 (01:03:46):
Than you think.

Speaker 3 (01:03:47):
And we can all be stupid from time to time.
It's not just everybody else, it's us.

Speaker 2 (01:03:51):
Too, without doubt. Look, I agree, when I go to
the airport, my IQ level dips. I get really stupid.
Therefore everyone else is around me stupid too, it exactly. Okay,
so we're underestimating the number of stupid people. Yes, number two.
Anyone can be stupid regardless of their job, income, or
education level. Right, Okay, here's one that we have to

(01:04:11):
think about. The best definition of a stupid person is
someone who causes another person or people to lose something
without gaining anything themselves, or maybe even losing something themselves.
We kind of get this. Yeah, so I mean, Nate,
explain it, okay.

Speaker 4 (01:04:29):
And I use the example of Scary, and I don't.

Speaker 2 (01:04:31):
I don't mean this offense. Scary is far from stupid,
He's far from stupid. But we all occasionally and myself included,
to do stupid things. So every once in a while,
and his around the room, he'll say something that doesn't
make sense. He wasted our time and we gain nothing
by it. Neither did he.

Speaker 7 (01:04:49):
Because he makes sense to you, Maybe you're the stupid
person because you didn't understand what I.

Speaker 2 (01:04:53):
Was trying to Hell, I do it too, or or
someone can just do something like a total stranger in
public do something so stupid. Not only do they make
themselves look stupid, but you lose as well because they're
inconveniencing you for some reason. Yes, that make sense.

Speaker 3 (01:05:13):
Yes, I think a lot of people who do like
the hateful protests. We know that there are certain religious
organizations that come out and just say awful things with
their signs. They're not gaining anything from it, They're hurting
other people by doing it, and we're all worse off
for having witnessed anything like that.

Speaker 2 (01:05:28):
I view that as stupidity, stupid, right, dear, all right,
the five rules of surviving in a stupid world. Number four,
you're understanding you're underestimating just how much damage stupid people
are doing. Okay, look look at litter, look at the world,
the planet, you can look at people out there stealing
things from people, and I mean there's a billion and

(01:05:50):
one on the list of stupid things people do all
the time.

Speaker 3 (01:05:54):
A lot of times. The people who run from the
back of the airplane. Why are you causing the chaos?

Speaker 9 (01:05:59):
Why?

Speaker 2 (01:06:00):
Stupid?

Speaker 3 (01:06:01):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (01:06:01):
Okay. And finally, stupid people are the most dangerous types
of people doing things for the wrong reasons and causing
harm to other people. Stupid, terrible.

Speaker 3 (01:06:14):
I think the biggest thing you hit on was something
that wastes your time. Anytime somebody is wasting my time,
I get so angry because the time is the one
thing you don't get back. You can make money back,
you cannot make time back. So please don't waste my
time with something stupid.

Speaker 2 (01:06:26):
Please, Maybe this whole conversation was it just it could
be mad the person? What's that?

Speaker 16 (01:06:34):
The worst person is somebody who's stupid and doesn't know
they're stupid. Like, at least if your dumb and you
know your dumba you're like hey, But when you have
like stupid confidence, that's really bad.

Speaker 1 (01:06:43):
I think most people don't know they're stupid.

Speaker 2 (01:06:44):
I don't think stupid because anowledge their stupid.

Speaker 8 (01:06:46):
I don't think they do the dumbest things they do
if they you know, if they knew, like you would
do that.

Speaker 2 (01:06:51):
You're doing things and not thinking them through. You're not
thinking about what the devastation will look like. What was
that text? Okay?

Speaker 4 (01:06:57):
The text that we just saw is a true definition
of stupid. It says, how about the stupid person I
was driving behind in the dark that didn't have their
lights on?

Speaker 2 (01:07:05):
That is stupid because that's dangering and dangering other people.
That's true you know, sometimes you can accidentally be stupid
and do stupid things. Maybe they're just stupid and didn't
turn them. It's the people that actually think things through
then do them. They're stupid.

Speaker 6 (01:07:20):
What scary?

Speaker 12 (01:07:21):
Now?

Speaker 6 (01:07:21):
Can you be a victim of being stupid?

Speaker 14 (01:07:23):
Like?

Speaker 6 (01:07:23):
Can you be stupid if somebody cheats you out of money?
For instance, and you they get something and then you
don't get.

Speaker 2 (01:07:30):
That we're taking advantage of. I don't know if that's stupid, right,
make me stupid forgetting I don't cheat it, and someone
will ask me for a loan, I'll give them a loan,
knowing full well I'm never gonna see that money again.
Am I the stupid one yet?

Speaker 4 (01:07:40):
Of?

Speaker 2 (01:07:41):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:07:42):
What about like anybody who bought Firefest tickets? Would we
count them?

Speaker 1 (01:07:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:07:47):
Or a Magnesi's card?

Speaker 2 (01:07:49):
Scary?

Speaker 8 (01:07:49):
I feel its Firefest was just somebody getting taken advantage of. Yes,
I don't feel like they were technically stupid. The other thing,
maybe you.

Speaker 4 (01:07:59):
Know, stupidity is something you set out to dude, and
you you don't think it through.

Speaker 2 (01:08:04):
And it's gonna harm someone in the long run.

Speaker 8 (01:08:06):
When you throw litter out your window while you're driving,
because that's just dumbat stuff right there?

Speaker 2 (01:08:12):
Evil, all right, what crowding the mourning lane when your
zone isn't called at the airport? Infuriating that.

Speaker 7 (01:08:20):
No, if I'm group one, I'm going first, So that's logical,
that's not stupid.

Speaker 8 (01:08:24):
He always says, I'm standing here because I'm getting that overhead.

Speaker 6 (01:08:27):
If you're group five and you're standing over the lane,
you're stupid.

Speaker 2 (01:08:30):
All right, Well, I mean, we could dissect stupidity until
the cows come home. But you know, I don't know,
So st steer clear of stupid people. Yeah, and you
and identify the ones in your life that maybe they
are prone to be stupid. Back off, I'm not I'm
not saying we're a bunch of geniuses. That's not what
I'm saying. Like, oh my gosh, don't.

Speaker 8 (01:08:57):
Answer the phone, Elvis durand the Elvis the phone tap.

Speaker 2 (01:09:01):
Here we go, Danielle Monaro has today's phone tap. Go ahead, Danielle.

Speaker 8 (01:09:04):
All right, Chrissy email does and said, my dad puts
those crane game machines and prizes in stores, and he's
always afraid that someone's gonna steal one of the machines.

Speaker 2 (01:09:12):
I love the crane game. I love those machines. I
never won anything.

Speaker 1 (01:09:15):
May neither, she says, Call him, tell him.

Speaker 8 (01:09:17):
Someone walked away with this huge game machine and nobody
knows why or how it happens.

Speaker 2 (01:09:22):
All right, who's this coming from?

Speaker 1 (01:09:23):
This is from Chrissy.

Speaker 2 (01:09:24):
Chrissy is a phone tapping her father, the guy who's
in charge of Crane games. Yes, we have all types listening.

Speaker 1 (01:09:32):
Hello is CNF Amusement?

Speaker 8 (01:09:35):
Yes, Oh my gosh, I'm calling from ninety nine cents
and more and am Yes, I got a problem.

Speaker 1 (01:09:41):
I opened up the store this morning and the ball
machine was gone.

Speaker 14 (01:09:44):
With the animal.

Speaker 8 (01:09:45):
Yeah, that with the crane, the whole machine.

Speaker 1 (01:09:48):
The machine is gone.

Speaker 14 (01:09:50):
How could be gone?

Speaker 1 (01:09:51):
Somebody walks away with it? I don't know. And we
don't have video cameras or anything on.

Speaker 14 (01:09:56):
Yeah, but what was behind the register?

Speaker 10 (01:09:57):
It's you.

Speaker 1 (01:09:58):
Larry was on the regis so. But Larry says he
didn't see anything.

Speaker 14 (01:10:01):
How could you not see somebody take a machine out
of the store.

Speaker 1 (01:10:04):
Maybe Larry fell asleep and he doesn't even realize.

Speaker 14 (01:10:07):
It, throw asleep with the store open.

Speaker 1 (01:10:09):
I don't know. All I know is the damn machine's gone.

Speaker 14 (01:10:11):
Somebody had to hold the door and two people had
to put that on the truck. Now that doesn't happen
in five minutes. Look, what are your employees know? What
happened to that machine?

Speaker 1 (01:10:21):
And no, I'm not paying for it.

Speaker 14 (01:10:23):
The machine just got their Saturday. It's a play new machine.

Speaker 1 (01:10:26):
How much is the machine worth?

Speaker 14 (01:10:28):
Two thousand dollars?

Speaker 8 (01:10:29):
The whole entire ninety nine cents store is worth like
two thousand dollars.

Speaker 14 (01:10:32):
What are your employees? Let somebody take the machine. Larry's
a young.

Speaker 1 (01:10:36):
Kid, Yeah, lea, Larry's a guy.

Speaker 14 (01:10:37):
Wasn't we let his friends take the machine?

Speaker 1 (01:10:40):
No, Larry's a good employee.

Speaker 14 (01:10:41):
He let them take the machine. You just can't walk
out the doore with the machine.

Speaker 1 (01:10:44):
Is this gonna hurt our relationship? Of course it is,
But I didn't do it.

Speaker 14 (01:10:49):
You can't tell me you're not gonna pay for the machine.
But it's not employee. Let his friends take that machine.
Now you're not gonna tell me no, somebody's paying for
that machine. I'll tell you this is gonna infect the
that you haven't dreamt would happen.

Speaker 1 (01:11:01):
Please don't blame my employees. It's not their fault.

Speaker 14 (01:11:04):
I have to blame your employees.

Speaker 1 (01:11:05):
If the machine it's a ninety nine cent store. These
people don't even make five dollars.

Speaker 14 (01:11:10):
With a gigantic machine. This is not a little machine.
If you could pick up and put in your pocket.

Speaker 1 (01:11:15):
Are you sure one of your guys didn't come back
and take it.

Speaker 14 (01:11:17):
No, my guys didn't take it.

Speaker 1 (01:11:19):
You can't prove that we did anything to that machine.

Speaker 14 (01:11:21):
I know you did. You you let the machine go
out the door.

Speaker 1 (01:11:24):
How do I let a machine that they go out
the door? I would have seen it.

Speaker 14 (01:11:28):
I'm gonna have whoever was behind that register locked up
unless you make good for that machine. Larry was in
the store, and Larry let some punks come in and
take the machine. And Larry was in on listen.

Speaker 1 (01:11:39):
Larry's trying to feed his kids.

Speaker 8 (01:11:40):
You make a lot more money than two thousand dollars
in a stupid machine. Can't you just let it slide?

Speaker 14 (01:11:45):
No, because Larry sold my machine. That's exactly what he did.

Speaker 1 (01:11:50):
How do you know? You don't know?

Speaker 14 (01:11:51):
Pro let the machine go out the door? Will you
let your registered leaf?

Speaker 1 (01:11:55):
What if he got hit over the head by a thug?

Speaker 14 (01:11:57):
He didn't get hit over the head by your thought.

Speaker 1 (01:11:59):
How do you know?

Speaker 14 (01:12:00):
No thug's gonna hit him to take the machine. It
was an inside job, that Larry liquor machine go out
that book.

Speaker 1 (01:12:05):
Look, I saw a bump on Larry's head, so I
know someone hit him.

Speaker 14 (01:12:08):
No, you know what. Now, you're making it up.

Speaker 1 (01:12:09):
No I'm not.

Speaker 14 (01:12:10):
You're making it up. And that's exactly what I'm going
to tell the cops.

Speaker 1 (01:12:12):
The big man is shaking down the little people.

Speaker 14 (01:12:15):
I'm not shaking down anybody, No, big man. I'm a
working man. What do you think I'm rich?

Speaker 1 (01:12:20):
Yeah you are.

Speaker 14 (01:12:20):
Let people walk up with my machines. I pay for
those machines.

Speaker 1 (01:12:23):
How many machines do you have in total?

Speaker 14 (01:12:25):
You know what you've got into four o'clock this afternoon.
If you don't come up with a decision by four
o'clock this afternoon, I'm going to call the police.

Speaker 1 (01:12:32):
What if I just make a decision now?

Speaker 14 (01:12:34):
Oh okay, what is it?

Speaker 8 (01:12:35):
Well, Frank, this is Danielle Monaro from Elvis Durant in
the Morning Show, and you just got phone tapped.

Speaker 14 (01:12:40):
Bohha, Dad, Chris, you gotta choke around like this, Christine
choking around on a radio shape? Yees, Oh my god,
I got you.

Speaker 1 (01:12:53):
Elvis Durant's phone tap.

Speaker 18 (01:12:56):
Eisode table was pre recorded permission granted by all participates.

Speaker 9 (01:13:00):
Elvis Duran phone tab only on Elvis Duran in the
Morning show see one hundred.

Speaker 6 (01:13:05):
We're in a room.

Speaker 2 (01:13:06):
Let's go round the road. I love to see what's
on your mind. We have a special guest, Lee Schrager
is gonna be contributing in just a moment. Don't be nervous.
I'm nervous. Oh God, uh, Lee nervous. Never, We'll start
with you, Gandhi. What's on your mind today?

Speaker 3 (01:13:20):
Well, you guys are always giving me crap about wanting
to domesticate certain animals, and every day I see more
hope in how it can happen. A good friend of
mine just domesticated a pigeon that landed outside her home.
She moved the thing in because it was injured. It
will not leave now. And now she lives with this
pigeon named Lula, and they are having the best time ever.

(01:13:40):
She's potty training Lula.

Speaker 2 (01:13:42):
How do you potty train a pigeon?

Speaker 3 (01:13:43):
It's a great question. I'm glad you asked. So she
puts a little piece of paper towel and Lula has
just started to go on the paper.

Speaker 1 (01:13:50):
Towel.

Speaker 3 (01:13:50):
Then she moved it over by the toilet. Lula comes
in tries to go in the toilet. It's crazy, but
I can domesticate these animals.

Speaker 11 (01:13:57):
I know it.

Speaker 3 (01:13:57):
There's proof everywhere.

Speaker 2 (01:13:59):
My god, you're so you'd like to doctor do little
of our show.

Speaker 3 (01:14:02):
I wish she takes bath to the sink.

Speaker 2 (01:14:04):
Oh, so, next, you're gonna get a raccoon.

Speaker 3 (01:14:06):
I want the rack. Well, I want two raccoons because
I want them to have company.

Speaker 2 (01:14:09):
Oh God, that's gonna be the biggest mess. They have thumbs.
They will wreck your house. Hey, what's going on there?

Speaker 15 (01:14:14):
Producer Sam, This might sound ridiculous, but trust me, you
can give it a shot. If you want just something
on in the background of your life at home that's
just a little zen and not music, go to YouTube,
live TV, turn on cat television, turn on cat television.
There's television for dogs and there's television for cats.

Speaker 2 (01:14:33):
I watched they did drag a string across the floor.

Speaker 15 (01:14:35):
Of I've been watching this little stump of wood and
birds and squirrels eat snacks off it, to the little
sounds of nature.

Speaker 2 (01:14:43):
It is so lovely.

Speaker 15 (01:14:44):
At first, we did dog TV because you know, Savannah
but it's just a bunch of dogs playing and it's
not it's distracting to me. I just want to watch
the dogs have a good time. This is just nature
and birds and it's been lovely. And I say it's
on for Savannah, but really.

Speaker 9 (01:14:55):
It's it's on for me.

Speaker 3 (01:14:56):
Cat TV curious.

Speaker 9 (01:14:57):
It's so nice.

Speaker 1 (01:14:58):
I'm gonna put this on for Diggy in front.

Speaker 2 (01:15:01):
Here's the thing, cats and dogs, you put them in
front of the TV. Some cats and dogs do see
what's on the TV. Some don't. It's kind of funny.
I don't know. Like one of my dogs can see
an animal running, a squirrel running across the TV screen
and Max can't, and Maxwell much I don't know.

Speaker 12 (01:15:15):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:15:16):
It's kind of weird. So this works for the humans.
What's going on there? Straight innate.

Speaker 4 (01:15:19):
I don't drink nearly enough water throughout the day. The
only way that I can kind of do it. Danielle
and I have figured this out is.

Speaker 2 (01:15:26):
Have a bottle that you carry around.

Speaker 4 (01:15:30):
And you've got a gift from our friends at Sandals,
and they gave us these Yettie bottles. And this is
not a commercial for anybody. I just know that you're
going to drink more water if you have a dedicated
bottle that you carry around.

Speaker 2 (01:15:42):
That is the only way.

Speaker 4 (01:15:44):
If you're thinking, oh, I'll grab a cup of water
here and there, Lee, I know you look extremely dehydrated
right now.

Speaker 21 (01:15:51):
I would like to tell you that the first thing
in the morning when I walk into my office. But
I want to steal your moment of whatever you're talking about.
I put out six bottles of okay, and I drink
them throughout the day. I am a kidney donor and
I have to stay hydrated, so I.

Speaker 2 (01:16:08):
Drinking water is really really important for they go back
to you.

Speaker 4 (01:16:11):
Some of us don't have enough money for ebyon. But
oh my god, yeah, there were such a little bit. Yes,
but you carry around a water bottle, you'll drink more wine,
all right and clean it out please?

Speaker 6 (01:16:25):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (01:16:26):
Every week? What's up there, Danielle.

Speaker 8 (01:16:28):
So you guys remember the Pine Brothers cough drops. They
were the chewy glass drop. Okay, So I hadn't found
I couldn't find them for the longest time, though they
didn't make them anymore. Well, I stumbled upon them in
CBS and I bought them.

Speaker 2 (01:16:41):
There's thirty cough.

Speaker 1 (01:16:42):
Drops in the bag and I finished the bag in
one day. You ate them like candy?

Speaker 2 (01:16:46):
Yes, sugar?

Speaker 9 (01:16:48):
Is it?

Speaker 10 (01:16:48):
No?

Speaker 1 (01:16:49):
But I don't know. Is it a bad thing to
eat that many cough drops in a day? Probably thirty?

Speaker 2 (01:16:56):
What's the active ingredient in there?

Speaker 1 (01:16:58):
I don't even know. I didn't know.

Speaker 6 (01:17:02):
Cough dropped it for pard He is me chewing not
true them?

Speaker 1 (01:17:08):
Well, I don't know.

Speaker 8 (01:17:10):
They're delicious and I don't think you're supposed to eat
them like candy. I didn't even have a cough. I
just saw them, wanted them, and eate all thirty in
one day. Oh my god, that explains a lot today.

Speaker 3 (01:17:19):
You ate a lot of potentially menthol oh d xam,
which is a cough's a present that works.

Speaker 1 (01:17:24):
In the line coughing.

Speaker 3 (01:17:26):
You b loook the soil and benzocaine.

Speaker 2 (01:17:28):
Okay, addiction.

Speaker 1 (01:17:31):
I knew I could breathe better all that menthol line.

Speaker 2 (01:17:35):
Let's give it him with oh boy, all right? That's
why Daniel is the way she.

Speaker 20 (01:17:41):
So.

Speaker 7 (01:17:41):
I had an issue with an airline recently, and I've
been going back and forth through email with the customer care.
I called up the help desk and they said, look,
we can't touch your case because you already started it.

Speaker 2 (01:17:52):
But here's how you get your way.

Speaker 7 (01:17:55):
And your next correspondence say, I need you to escalate
this to the tea lead please and have them call
me back asap at this phone number. Well, lo and behold,
they solved my problem on the very next exchange email.

Speaker 6 (01:18:09):
So the people on the phone helped me With the
people in the email.

Speaker 7 (01:18:13):
There were different departments, but apparently as soon as you
go and you escalate on their ass, you're gonna, you know,
good chances of getting your way or getting the keywords
are team lead. I need to speak to the team
lead immediately by phone, not buy this email correspondence, because
then they sit there and they get worried, like, oh
my god, you know I have to You know, they

(01:18:35):
don't want to escalate it to their boss, so they
solve the problem right then and there.

Speaker 2 (01:18:39):
The next time someone tells me they need to talk
to the team lead, I'm gonna.

Speaker 21 (01:18:42):
Do you know what I do to leave anyone's curious.
I don't waste my time because it's so annoying. I
was dealing with an airline this weekend. Literally I could
not get any closure on trying to change my airline
ticket to Bogata. My whole Saturday morning was trying to
get out of two hundred dollars. I mean I spent
five hours trying to save two hundred dollars.

Speaker 2 (01:19:00):
So what'd you do? I posted it?

Speaker 21 (01:19:02):
I said, will somebody at blank airline be in touch
with me? I can't get any response from anybody. No
one's able to help me. And did they within the
hour on a Saturday.

Speaker 2 (01:19:13):
Morning on social media? Closer than they listened to phones? Absolutely?

Speaker 21 (01:19:17):
And if they and if you if they made they said,
would you take it down?

Speaker 2 (01:19:21):
I said immediately, which I did, And there you go.
And I won't mention what airline it was, Avianca? Why
you did?

Speaker 13 (01:19:29):
So?

Speaker 2 (01:19:30):
You are our special guest on around the room. What
is on your mind today?

Speaker 21 (01:19:32):
Lee Schreeger? I, you know the disappointment about what happened
to Sprinkles cupcakes.

Speaker 2 (01:19:37):
That is a sad story. So we started by that
incredible human being, Andy Nelson started.

Speaker 21 (01:19:44):
I remember the first time in LA having a Sprinkles
cupcake waiting in line for a coconut cupcake, and I
thought it was game changing. I think they sold it
and people ruined the brand and they're closing up and
this morning I also was reading about what happened to
sweet greens. Sweet greens stock was worth forty three dollars

(01:20:05):
a few years ago. Now it's worth eight dollars.

Speaker 2 (01:20:09):
What's happening you? Are they growing too fast? Are these
selling to people who don't know what they're doing?

Speaker 21 (01:20:13):
I think it's a combination of things. Something that they
did that was probably not smart. And I know these
guys very well. I put them on the Forbes list
of the most entrepreneur list that I do many years ago,
before they were really famous, and I've watched them grow.
They started doing things to compete with people, and they
started introducing French fries. What's it called a heater pan,

(01:20:39):
you know one of those. Yeah, they started having air
fried French fries, Sweet greenswets.

Speaker 2 (01:20:44):
Oh, and I don't think that's the reason.

Speaker 21 (01:20:47):
You know that they are into shape and they're really smart,
so I'm sure they'll figure out the way.

Speaker 2 (01:20:51):
But something like Sprinkles which.

Speaker 1 (01:20:53):
Took off, and Sprinkles in my in Disney and they
were everywhere.

Speaker 8 (01:20:58):
The springs had like a Sprinkles cupcake machine, an ATM
for the cupcake.

Speaker 2 (01:21:02):
Yeah, Oh, I'm sure they were great. The same story
as Kathleen's cookies in the Habitas's and then she sold
to this big company, ruined the brand, and now she
started takes and now she sold it for billion dollars.
It was great having you here today, Lee Schreger, as
our special guest.

Speaker 6 (01:21:20):
See you in South Beach.

Speaker 2 (01:21:27):
Yesterday. I was doing some work here at the house
and I had a text message, uh, conversation going on
with someone in Los Angeles in order to get this
thing done for the company. And then I had a
thing going on on another text message at the same
time back in New York. So I'm having these two
business conversations. Meanwhile, I'm a part of a a text

(01:21:51):
a chat room, right or whatever it is a text
what is it called when? Yeah? Group? So there's a
group text going on with Alex and some other friends
of ours, and they're just talking about just funny stuff.
They're being funny, and I'm like, so, you know, I'm
waiting for a text from West Coast so I could
reply to East Coast and then I get a text boom.
It's like a meme with like some you know, a

(01:22:12):
kid falling off a tractor or something. I don't so
I left the room. I didn't block I left that
that that chat that was going on with Alex.

Speaker 16 (01:22:24):
So everybody gets a notification on their phone that says
Elvis has left the room.

Speaker 2 (01:22:27):
Okay, fine, I don't care. So I get a so
I get a fourth text from Alex. Where'd you go?
Why'd you leave us? I'm like, And so I called him.
I said, look, I'm sorry, I'm really busy. It's just
it's too much. I gotta go. And so I haven't
talked to him since then. He doesn't want to talk
to meet mad at me.

Speaker 16 (01:22:47):
It is a bad feeling, though, when you're like, everybody's
having fun and you realize that you've made somebody upset.

Speaker 2 (01:22:52):
Well, no, everybody wasn't having fun. I'm raising my hand.
Wasn't having fun.

Speaker 1 (01:22:57):
But here's my question.

Speaker 8 (01:22:58):
Could you have said, hey, Alex, exit him separately, I'm
leaving the chatges so you know, well, no, because.

Speaker 2 (01:23:03):
I was busy. That's the thing, you know, when it
comes to this is another chapter in the saga of
texting where you don't really truly know one hundred percent
what's going on with everyone. Like they could say something
that they thought were they were being funny, but you
perceive it as something that was being really rude. You know,
it's like, ugh, what could have done? Oh you can absolutely,

(01:23:27):
you can tell me a million things. I could have
blocked them or what.

Speaker 16 (01:23:30):
Now At the top, if you click on info, you
can scan down and it says hide alerts. And then
therefore that little text conversation will go on in the
background and you don't get the alerts anymore.

Speaker 2 (01:23:41):
And then that way you don't leave the chat. You
can go back and look at it when you want it. Okay, well,
why would I Why should I have to do that?
Is my question? If I have a valid reason to, like,
I got to get out of here, you got to
go do something. Don't just trust me, you know what.

Speaker 4 (01:23:55):
So I guess they're thinking, oh god, we must have
offended him, or oh lord, did we say something that
hit a nerve.

Speaker 2 (01:24:03):
No, I'm busy. What's scary?

Speaker 7 (01:24:05):
I think the path of least resistance is exactly what
Froggy said, So you don't offend people because nobody wants
to see that little line go across the screen and
says Elvis left the chat. I have five of these
group texts going on at any given time, and they
always come in at the most inopportune moments when I'm
trying to do real work. They're all like very active.
So I have them all with a little half moon crescent.

(01:24:27):
That's I good to go there whenever I want to
see those text messages.

Speaker 6 (01:24:31):
Okay, I know.

Speaker 2 (01:24:33):
But at the end of the day, should you really
be so upset and unhinged because someone left a chat?

Speaker 3 (01:24:41):
Really, I'm not gonna lie. If one of my friends
left a chat and we were all having a good time,
I just started again and keep harassing.

Speaker 2 (01:24:50):
Pret even like to hear of the problem.

Speaker 19 (01:24:51):
Here.

Speaker 2 (01:24:52):
I got Alex on the phone, all right, let me okay,
here's my husband, Alex him. Well, I think we know.
We had one exchange where he was very cold to
me and he said, I've gotta go watching TV. Click, Hi, Alex,
how you doing?

Speaker 13 (01:25:04):
Good morning?

Speaker 2 (01:25:06):
Are you still but hurt over me leaving the chat
room yesterday or whatever? That thing is?

Speaker 13 (01:25:11):
No, because I don't look like a fool.

Speaker 2 (01:25:13):
You look like a fool because because you get.

Speaker 11 (01:25:17):
Your pants, you get your panties in a twist, and
the littlest things upset you and it's no big deal,
but you you carry it on and on.

Speaker 2 (01:25:27):
I don't carry on. I just left the room. That's
my point. I didn't carry on.

Speaker 11 (01:25:31):
Every morning I send you a good morning text when
I wake up and it's been one hour and seven minutes,
and you never respond.

Speaker 2 (01:25:39):
Okay, to be fair, See this is my point. You
when you don't know what someone else on the other
side is going through, you should ask first, you guys,
someone here, tell him what I've been doing the last hour.

Speaker 1 (01:25:50):
None of his equipment is working.

Speaker 8 (01:25:51):
He's every commercial break, he's off the mic, and he's
in the back.

Speaker 1 (01:25:55):
Technically, he's had a day.

Speaker 3 (01:25:58):
He's having the dogs poop the kitchen.

Speaker 2 (01:26:00):
The dog's pooped in the kitchen. I'm having to go
downstairs to reset computers every three minutes. Nothing's working, and
so it's and I was going through kind of a
crazy day yesterday when I left that text room, and
you didn't know what was going on. I'm having a
rough time of it. But you think it's my panties
in a wad.

Speaker 4 (01:26:18):
See what I'm saying, he's a twist whatever in the twist.

Speaker 2 (01:26:24):
But I'm not See. This is my point, is this,
When you don't fully understand what the other person is
going through, then you know what just wait until you do. Know,
I've been trying my best to be nice, to do
my right thing, and it's just difficult when you're on
the other side, going, well he's being an a hole.
Well no, I'm just I don't know what to do.

Speaker 13 (01:26:47):
Hey, scary play the violin music.

Speaker 6 (01:26:52):
In the middle of this. Turn the mics off.

Speaker 2 (01:26:57):
God, this is the typical Alex thing. Kick them when
they're down. It's okay, your permission to play the viol
can do what you want to do. I don't care anymore,
you know, you know what? Here's oh here it is.
My computer is not working and I'm computer. There's too

(01:27:18):
many text mess and Jane the dogs put in the kitchen,
and I keep pushing control all delete because I don't
know how to use a PC because I'm a Mac person.

Speaker 3 (01:27:31):
And the TV don't forget the TV doesn't work now either,
Oh yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:27:35):
The TV's oh yeah, now my TV's off. I can't
watch I can't watch fake news.

Speaker 2 (01:27:41):
Then you're laughing at my life's and Shine malls the
person the text What a crappy thing to do? Gotdi
she do you hear what she says? Alex, we have
so and leaves her chat room. She readds them, she

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frees them back.

Speaker 20 (01:28:04):
Insation, someone on tex said they taking a step further
than only they add them back, but they changed the
group chat name to so and so.

Speaker 7 (01:28:14):
We'll never get out of this room.

Speaker 16 (01:28:22):
Did you get to leave the chat? But you don't
get to leave my friendship? So we're we doing this.

Speaker 2 (01:28:25):
Again, right? I tell you what, Alex, I'll make a
deal with you. I will be better at assuming that
you're having, not assuming what kind of day you're having
before I start in on you, asking why you're being
in a mood, and as you will do with me
in the future. Can we do that? Can we go

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down that road? Because it's been all right, because you're
seeing something that's not happening, You're seeing something that's not
that's not I'm not being mean. I'm just having a crazy,
crazy time.

Speaker 13 (01:28:57):
That's it, Okay, I fully understand.

Speaker 2 (01:29:02):
Okay, thank you, I love.

Speaker 1 (01:29:03):
You, I love you.

Speaker 13 (01:29:04):
I love you.

Speaker 4 (01:29:05):
You should have to tell someone to say, all right,
I hope you have a chat right in the center
of it.

Speaker 2 (01:29:12):
Oh no, I will. I won't leave that chat. I
love you.

Speaker 13 (01:29:14):
I'll talk to you later, okay, And I hope your
day gets better.

Speaker 2 (01:29:18):
I'm me too, because if it doesn't get better, then
we all got trouble.

Speaker 11 (01:29:21):
Well, you got to turn the negative into a positive
and just enjoy it. You know, you're breathing, you're doing well,
so you know, just take the good with the bands.

Speaker 2 (01:29:33):
I agree, I agree. But it's just when the person
you love more than anyone else on earth is not
fully understanding what you're going through and they make it worse,
that's when I have a problem. That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 13 (01:29:45):
All right, you could take me back to the woodshed
and give me a spanking.

Speaker 4 (01:29:48):
Oh yes, that's that's how it all started. You know
what I gotta remind me. I got to build a woodshed,
all right, Love you gotta, I love you.

Speaker 8 (01:30:02):
My favorite is when we're all in a group chat
that Elvis starts and at the end of it he
always says, please do not reply to these.

Speaker 2 (01:30:10):
Our buddy Andrew is here. Hello Andrew. So Andrew comes
from a very very fun, festive family, very interesting characters
in this family. We love him, but we just found
out something else. Can we talk about it? Is it?
Is it okay to talk about it outlive, out loud?

Speaker 7 (01:30:27):
Yeah?

Speaker 5 (01:30:28):
Absolutely, tell them. My parents are meeting the Pope, so.

Speaker 4 (01:30:35):
Casual, I guess, yeah, they're meeting the pope suit and
they just start like flying out to Italy to go
meet him.

Speaker 2 (01:30:43):
Oh you mean your dad isn't summoning the Pope to America.

Speaker 3 (01:30:48):
That's what I would have expected.

Speaker 2 (01:30:49):
Nope, he's not coming home. They're not doing private meeting
in Chicago. Okay, can we can we talk about this?
How do you get a meeting with the Pope?

Speaker 1 (01:30:56):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (01:30:57):
I think he knows, like I'm on senior, who knows somebody?

Speaker 2 (01:30:59):
Who somebody?

Speaker 4 (01:31:00):
But like, in short, a donation is made and you
do actually make a check out to the Pope.

Speaker 2 (01:31:06):
What the h e? P op the Pope?

Speaker 1 (01:31:13):
Is it a crazy donation?

Speaker 9 (01:31:14):
Like?

Speaker 1 (01:31:14):
Is it like insane?

Speaker 4 (01:31:16):
They're going with like a group of friends, so the
collective donation is insane. Your individual one was like, it's
it's considerable, but the group donate.

Speaker 3 (01:31:27):
We don't need to know what your parents donated.

Speaker 4 (01:31:29):
The group in.

Speaker 3 (01:31:29):
General about how much?

Speaker 13 (01:31:30):
Was it.

Speaker 2 (01:31:32):
Enough?

Speaker 3 (01:31:33):
Like my figures before the uh decimal uh seven five five?

Speaker 2 (01:31:39):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:31:39):
Oh I thought we could all afford that.

Speaker 4 (01:31:42):
Oh my god, why didn't you say this earlier? We
could hang out with the pope weekly? Yeah, at these prices.

Speaker 2 (01:31:47):
I love that. Well, that's so cool. So so how
excited are they? I mean, has it sunk in? Are
your mom and dad just like flying around the room.

Speaker 4 (01:31:55):
Yeah, they're like really freaking out. My mom was like
she brought a bunch of things in a white bag
to get blessed, like a blessing. So my mom literally
printed out a picture of like my sister's dog, a
picture of all of us. She's like throwing a bunch
of stuff in like a little white bag, and I
guess he just like waves his hands and it's a blessed.

Speaker 2 (01:32:17):
That's so cool bag of objects.

Speaker 6 (01:32:19):
So what do you like?

Speaker 1 (01:32:20):
What is your mom wearing?

Speaker 14 (01:32:22):
Like?

Speaker 2 (01:32:22):
OK, hold that thought. I'm glad you brought that up,
and then we'll get an answer about your mom and
what she's wearing. I just looked up etiquette meeting the Pope.
You want to hear what it says? Yes, it says respectful,
attire modest, dark colors for most, using titles like your holiness,
standing for his entrance, generally, keeping interactions brief and polite,

(01:32:46):
and uh bending the right knee or shaking hands as appropriate,
but avoiding overly familiar gestures like hugging or slapping his back. Okay,
it's for men. Danielle jacket, tie, polished shoes, dark colors best. Really,

(01:33:07):
you can't wear just you know, shorts and a fanny pack.
I'm tracked about that.

Speaker 4 (01:33:11):
Women, dresses or suits that cover the shoulders and elbows
with hemlines below the knees.

Speaker 2 (01:33:16):
Dark colors are recommended. A shawl can cover your shoulders
if needed.

Speaker 4 (01:33:21):
Wow, yeah, my mom is freaking out about her shawl attire.
We share an Amazon account. So I just saw like
like in my cart or a bunch of just black shawls.

Speaker 6 (01:33:32):
No flashy jewelry or say anything about that.

Speaker 2 (01:33:36):
I mean, I don't know about that. I feel like
you could wear jewelry.

Speaker 3 (01:33:40):
He's d gonna wear his ice.

Speaker 2 (01:33:41):
Yeah, of course, does Ganda have to take her grill
out of her mouth?

Speaker 4 (01:33:46):
He could bless it if you just put it in
the white bag. My mom, God, bless my grill. Okay,
so it says, and I wouldn't mind you guys talking
to me like this. Address him as your holiness and
holy father, stand in a plawed respectfully when he enters. Okay, wait,
you got a clap like I guess if he walks
into the room.

Speaker 2 (01:34:06):
People applaud the pope. I would assume that, wouldn't you
assume that?

Speaker 1 (01:34:09):
I mean they applaud the president when a president walks.

Speaker 2 (01:34:14):
Walk into the room.

Speaker 4 (01:34:17):
Honestly, when I met the president last year, I had
to do like the stand. You have to wear the
pile of shoes to tie the whole nine yards of
that too, So I guess it's the same rules.

Speaker 2 (01:34:28):
It's just a pope. Just all right. Here's what you
need to do if he approaches you. If the pope
approaches you, bend your right knee to the floor as
a sign of respect. Wow, oh that's that's if you're
gonna dotal. I guess them would be genuflect.

Speaker 4 (01:34:44):
My dad's got bad knee, so I don't know that.

Speaker 2 (01:34:48):
Sorry, Pope, we got a bad need. Catholics might kiss
the ring if offered. Others shake hands a handshake his fine.
Catholics may kiss the ring if offered, but not required.
Introduce yourself brief Introduce yourself briefly. Let him lead the conversation.

Speaker 8 (01:35:04):
Magine if he starts just having like a regular conversation
about like football, like who knows and does your dad.

Speaker 6 (01:35:10):
Give him the check?

Speaker 2 (01:35:11):
When I don't know how the check presentation goes down.

Speaker 6 (01:35:17):
Does he pulm it? Like he just shakes it?

Speaker 2 (01:35:18):
Can you like slip him a fifty.

Speaker 6 (01:35:22):
Paid for play idea? Yeah, we should collect some money
and go Seriously, Danielle like, I'll stop, I'll chip in.

Speaker 8 (01:35:30):
Catholic, I already gave him some something to get blessed,
so I'm covered.

Speaker 2 (01:35:34):
She's covered. It says you're Pobolio. I'd get their names
mixed up. It's Poblio often sets a side straight photocol,
interacting warmly. He might step out to greet people, but
standard etiquette still applies. Wow, that's heavy duty stuffs in
essence is a meet and greet?

Speaker 12 (01:35:50):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:35:50):
Right, like we do on a cage like kJ McLean.
Do you think the Pope is like, oh God, I
got to meet with these. I hope more sweaty handshakes.

Speaker 8 (01:36:00):
I mean maybe if he's not having a good day too,
Does he want to meet you?

Speaker 1 (01:36:03):
What if he says I I'm not feeling it?

Speaker 3 (01:36:05):
What if he is canceled?

Speaker 2 (01:36:06):
Gandhi? Do you want to meet the pope one day?
They'd be kind of cool, right.

Speaker 3 (01:36:08):
I would love to meet the Pope. Actually, this pope
seems super cool. But I was going to tell you
guys that I met the Dalai Lama once and it
was the coolest ever.

Speaker 6 (01:36:16):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (01:36:16):
Where was it.

Speaker 3 (01:36:17):
It was in South Florida, actually on my school there.
Picks a handful of people to meet him, and I
got to be one.

Speaker 1 (01:36:23):
Of them, and it was awesome.

Speaker 4 (01:36:24):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (01:36:24):
And he was so funny and so nice. And I
didn't pay any money for it, but it was like
one of the best experiences of my life. Easily the
most famous person I've ever met.

Speaker 2 (01:36:32):
So Gandhi. Yes, So, we were in Central Park and
Dalai Lama and his entourage wasn't a huge entourage by
the way. They were walking past us. And of course
my friends got upset when I started singing Hello Dolly.

Speaker 4 (01:36:46):
See.

Speaker 3 (01:36:47):
I think he well appreciated it. He's a funny guy.

Speaker 2 (01:36:49):
Oh my friend, she slapt her hand over my mouth.
All friend, what, I'm scary.

Speaker 7 (01:36:57):
While I have full and total compla respect for the Pope,
I have to tell you I might not be nervous
if I ever got to meet him, because this guy,
you know.

Speaker 6 (01:37:07):
He's a Chicago White Sox fan.

Speaker 7 (01:37:09):
He's been seen at games Like to me, he's just
like an American guy who who went up the ranks
and now has the highest holiest title in the land.
So so, but I was still I feel like I humanized.
I would humanize him in that way, you know, because
I could feel like, you know, he's one of us.

Speaker 1 (01:37:26):
Patton on the back, do everything you're not supposed to do.

Speaker 7 (01:37:29):
But yeah, previous popes, i'd be nervous, but I feel
like it wouldn't be as nervous with him.

Speaker 2 (01:37:35):
He seems so normal and approachable. Well, the good news
is scary, and you know how you are around people
who don't speak English. This one speaks English, so you
don't have to scream at them like hi, Pope, Hello,
mister Pope sor Pope.

Speaker 4 (01:37:56):
I don't even know the people I don't know if
they didn't know the Pope wore a ring.

Speaker 2 (01:38:00):
Yeah he wears. That's where it comes from. Yeah, and
I went to Catholic school for twelve years.

Speaker 6 (01:38:09):
Pay it off break?

Speaker 1 (01:38:12):
Wait what, I didn't know that everyone gets a new ring.
It's not the same ring.

Speaker 2 (01:38:16):
Yeah, you know what.

Speaker 4 (01:38:17):
Past sales is the official. In fact, my nation pays
for the next pope ring exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:38:24):
Wait the kiss begins with K.

Speaker 4 (01:38:27):
Yeah, you know then they go back and forth to
three K sales. They did alert their banks just in case.

Speaker 3 (01:38:37):
Are you sure about the five figure number?

Speaker 1 (01:38:39):
You're positive?

Speaker 2 (01:38:40):
Yes, one hundred percent? Okay, yea, So it's.

Speaker 3 (01:38:42):
It's like ninety nine thousand dollars is the max. It's
in that ballpark, so it's not five figures.

Speaker 2 (01:38:47):
But also they they know people so that.

Speaker 6 (01:38:54):
He does accept PayPal.

Speaker 1 (01:39:05):
Is it like when you do.

Speaker 8 (01:39:06):
The Disney like you know, behind the scenes tour and
you're like allowed ten people.

Speaker 2 (01:39:10):
Perth like is that?

Speaker 4 (01:39:11):
Well, that's what happened, like last or a day or
two ago, they got like a private tour of the Vatican.

Speaker 2 (01:39:18):
Wow, where I was.

Speaker 4 (01:39:19):
I'm interested to know what's underneath the Vatican because that's
a parent would love the scene with all the crazy
rooms and all the fun things. Yeah, I want to see.

Speaker 2 (01:39:27):
But if it's like backstage at Disney, just when your backstage,
does the Pope take his head off? Like, let let
us know how it goes, and please tell your mom
and dad congratulations. If I got to go meet the Pope,
my favorite part was would be like well going into
Rome and having great pasta. Why not when's the last

(01:39:53):
time you went on a job interview. Yeah, we're in
a weird business for that. Anyway, if you're hiring someone
for a position at your whatever, sometimes you know the
old mundane like, so what excites you about this job?

(01:40:13):
Those questions are kind of out. Don't you want to
get deep and kind of cerebral?

Speaker 12 (01:40:19):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (01:40:20):
I mean I would love to. But doesn't that make
it really weird for the interview?

Speaker 2 (01:40:24):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:40:25):
It depends on what like you're asking me, Like, I
don't want you to ask Mike, you know well.

Speaker 2 (01:40:28):
I mean I want to ask you questions. I want
to put you on a meaning of love. I want
to put you in a situation in my questioning that
makes you get creative. I want to see how creative
you are. So Nate and I were talking earlier about
something he saw on Reddit or somewhere. I don't know,
a strange question that was asked during a job interview
to interview questions. I happen to like it, and I

(01:40:49):
have another one to add to it. Okay, okay, but
go ahead. Here's the question.

Speaker 4 (01:40:53):
You've been given an elephant. You can't give it away
or sell it. What would you do with the elephant?

Speaker 2 (01:41:02):
Wow? First of all, you delay the response by saying, wow,
that's a good question. Thank you for asking, Thank you
for asking, Thank you for asking.

Speaker 1 (01:41:09):
I would ask if you did drugs this morning?

Speaker 4 (01:41:11):
If you okay, you could do that, And I'm not
discounting that answer, what'd you do drugs this morning? I
think that's a fun, playful thing to say to your interviewer.

Speaker 1 (01:41:22):
Okay, what would you do?

Speaker 2 (01:41:23):
Gandhi? I gave you an elephant. You can't sell it.
You can't, you can't. You can't give it away or
sell it nothing about eating. What are you gonna do
with that elephant?

Speaker 1 (01:41:33):
Keep it?

Speaker 3 (01:41:33):
Hello?

Speaker 2 (01:41:34):
Okay, keep it? Yeah, that's your final answer.

Speaker 3 (01:41:36):
I would absolutely keep it. I would want to get
a second elephant, because elephants are social creatures and they
don't like being alone, so it needs to have more elephants.

Speaker 12 (01:41:43):
Maybe.

Speaker 3 (01:41:43):
In that case, you then have to take it to
a sanctuary, which I would love to go to because
I donate a lot of money to elephant sanctuaries, and
it would all work out well for me.

Speaker 2 (01:41:51):
I knew you would have an elephant answer, really, anyone else.

Speaker 3 (01:41:54):
It's not giving it away. It's not my elephant. I'm
gonna go see it all the time.

Speaker 2 (01:41:57):
No, no, no, you're giving it away.

Speaker 3 (01:41:59):
Fine, then I buy a sanctuary and I live on
it with my elephants.

Speaker 1 (01:42:03):
With the money you're gonna pay me at this new job.

Speaker 2 (01:42:05):
Because you give me you know, that's that's you know what,
that's a great answer. I mean, because it's a strange question.
Anyone else have an answer for this? Yes, a producer,
Sam well.

Speaker 15 (01:42:14):
I'd immediately get it registered as an emotional support elephant
so that I could take it everywhere with me and
it wouldn't be a problem.

Speaker 2 (01:42:19):
Okay, well, see that would be a problem.

Speaker 3 (01:42:21):
Yeah, not if it's registered legally.

Speaker 2 (01:42:23):
I mean, questioning about the elephant in and of itself
is not real life. But that's even beyond don't take
that away from me.

Speaker 8 (01:42:30):
I seriously would not have an answer. I would just
be like what I would think about elephant.

Speaker 2 (01:42:34):
I would think about teaching other people about elephants. I
would showcase it in a way, in a safe way.
I'd have to put it in a large enclosure because
they need lots of room to walk around and do
their thing. It caused me very costly, but you know what,
teaching other people about the beauty of elephants. But you
know what, you're right, Gandhi. They are very social creatures.
You need another elephant, at least one.

Speaker 3 (01:42:55):
You need a heard man.

Speaker 2 (01:42:56):
You do, yeah, scary.

Speaker 7 (01:42:58):
I would teach you how to draw, I see in
those YouTube videos. I would try and I would try
and help it along in its journey in life.

Speaker 2 (01:43:06):
How's that helping it along? Them strung?

Speaker 6 (01:43:07):
You teaching how to paint or something like?

Speaker 1 (01:43:09):
You know, will you're keeping it and you back your it?

Speaker 6 (01:43:11):
Did ask that question? I don't know. Is there any
wrong answer?

Speaker 4 (01:43:15):
Answer?

Speaker 2 (01:43:15):
I don't think there are. I don't know.

Speaker 4 (01:43:17):
Well, okay, so I did a little bit of googling
on this question because it seems to be a popular one,
and some person says they have the correct answer.

Speaker 2 (01:43:24):
Do you want to know what the correct answer? What
is their Well, they think it is. Let's see.

Speaker 4 (01:43:27):
This is what they say is the correct answer, don't
accept the elephant. The question says you can't give it
away or sell it, but not accepting it in the
first place is still an option. Because they say this
is their response. They say that it's sometimes you're supposed
to say no to something when you're being coerced to
say yes.

Speaker 2 (01:43:46):
Oh okay. Turned down on Ellison someone in their right mind.

Speaker 1 (01:43:52):
We know who is not getting the job in this room.

Speaker 2 (01:43:57):
But that's a very good point, and I'm sorry we
overlooked that. I mean, and realistically, none of us, at
least on this show have the wherewithal to deal with
an elephant, So why would we want to put an
elephant in harm's way?

Speaker 3 (01:44:09):
We wouldn't. But why is someone giving me a stupid
gift that I'm not allowed to keep and not allowed
to turn down or whatever it is. You can't turn
it down. You just gave me a gift. That's so
rude to say I'm not taking it.

Speaker 2 (01:44:18):
So now we're circling the drain. We have really nowhere
to go with this. Well, you said you had another
interview question, okay, and this comes from a story I
read I think a few days ago from Orlando. Very
bad timing, a very bad place to ask this question.
In a high school teacher asked his students what they
were right for their own obituary. Now, I think in

(01:44:41):
a school, especially on the day they were going to
have a shooting drill. Maybe no, not maybe most definitely
bad timing, bad place. I think they asked him to resign.
He said no, I didn't do anything wrong and they
let him go. But if I look at you and say, hey,
if you had to write your obituary right now out,

(01:45:01):
what would you write? Okay, I'm not going to say
anything beyond that, what would you write about you?

Speaker 3 (01:45:08):
I have no idea. I don't have an answer to
that question.

Speaker 2 (01:45:11):
Okay. See that's that's very telling. What about you, Danielle?

Speaker 1 (01:45:13):
I mean I talk about my family.

Speaker 2 (01:45:15):
Right, you make the list of siblings and.

Speaker 8 (01:45:18):
Who I left behind, and you know that stuff. But
I don't know about anything.

Speaker 2 (01:45:22):
Else, all right, I believe, and we've talked about this
before leaving your legacy like Gandhi, you know what, may
the Gandhi fill in the blanks all the things you
did while you were on Earth that enhanced the lives
of others in service for others? You see, if you

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can't come up with those, then maybe that's what we
should be doing with our lives. We should be thinking
about what we can do to pump up that old
bit when we're kicking the bucket.

Speaker 1 (01:45:53):
Yeah, can you lie in your old bit like you
lie on your resume?

Speaker 11 (01:45:56):
You could, but.

Speaker 2 (01:45:59):
Really, you know, I guess you know if you took
it to another way of looking at it, rather than
what do you write in the obituary? Like what are
people going to say about you when you do pass away?
And I don't want to be morbid with the you know,
the death thing. Yeah, I mean mortality is mortality makes
people very nervous.

Speaker 8 (01:46:15):
Right, they should just take our bios from here, like
big fan of Disney.

Speaker 2 (01:46:19):
Okay, and that's fine, you can keep it simple. But
I know, you know what're you have an opportunity in
this world to do things that are great and maybe
you're doing them and don't even know it. You're not
giving yourself credit for it. But I'm just saying, huh,
what's that scary?

Speaker 7 (01:46:34):
Well, I feel like I haven't contributed much to society
now that you made me think about it, So I
think I'm screwed for now.

Speaker 2 (01:46:39):
Well, okay, by the way, this conversation isn't meant to
make anyone feel that way.

Speaker 6 (01:46:44):
There's time to change it.

Speaker 2 (01:46:46):
Well, that's it. I mean, what can you do now
while you can, while you're breathing, while you still have
your brain cells or in this room somewhat we have
brain cells. But what can you do that's going to
make an everlasting impression on people and life. Yeah, and like,
what mark are you leaving? I think that's a very

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important thing to think about. What can you do to
leave a positive change? You found the earth in life
a certain way and when you came in and now
you're leaving, and because the things you did there are
things that are better. What is that?

Speaker 3 (01:47:20):
Yeah, I don't have a lot to think about today. Well, yeah,
I would hope that the legacy I leave behind is
good enough that my friends and family can put together
a really good obituary for me.

Speaker 2 (01:47:30):
We'll do a great job.

Speaker 1 (01:47:31):
Thank you, my mom.

Speaker 2 (01:47:33):
My mom will make you promise.

Speaker 8 (01:47:36):
She used to write oh bits for she used to work.
Really yeah, she would come up with like these the
whole thing. Give her I guess all the information, and
then she'd come up with it.

Speaker 2 (01:47:45):
But when if you pass away and someone says and
your mom writes a no bit, it says, hey, you
know what, this deserves more than a column. We may
need a whole page to talk about the life changes.
This person may just think about it.

Speaker 1 (01:47:57):
That's good.

Speaker 2 (01:47:57):
What are you doing today? What are you doing today
to change the world into a better place. It may
never be noted, It may never be noticed, but you know,
you know what you've done.

Speaker 3 (01:48:06):
I would hope mine says something like she accepted not one,
but two elephants, took them to a sanctuary forever exactly.

Speaker 2 (01:48:15):
But Nate would be he did a lot of great things,
but he he turned down the elephant offer because he
felt that'd be better in a job in her.

Speaker 14 (01:48:26):
Room.

Speaker 2 (01:48:27):
You've read the answer, and there you have it. One
little thing you can do today that could change the
trajectory of someone's life. You may not even know it,
but if you're nice and you're kind, you don't send
rude texts to people like people send us. You don't
say mean things in the headlines of your newspaper. You're oh,
you know, I love this text. It came through. I'm

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so glad we called her back.

Speaker 7 (01:48:49):
Now.

Speaker 2 (01:48:50):
Her name is Lindsay. She is so excited. She's going
on her first date in like four and a half years.

Speaker 3 (01:48:56):
Nice.

Speaker 2 (01:48:56):
Let's see how she's doing with this, Lindsay. Welcome the show.
Welcome today. How are you?

Speaker 12 (01:49:02):
Good morning, ladies.

Speaker 19 (01:49:03):
I'm doing well.

Speaker 12 (01:49:04):
How are you?

Speaker 2 (01:49:05):
We're doing well? So, okay, let's talk about it. So
you haven't been on a date in over four years?
Was it by choice is because you were tied up
with someone else ago, what's going on?

Speaker 12 (01:49:16):
Uh? It was by choice. For most of my twenties,
I've always been in a relationship and both of them
didn't really end well, so I didn't get to enjoy
my twenties as much. So I wanted to take time
to do things for myself and enjoy things for myself
that I never got to.

Speaker 6 (01:49:33):
Good.

Speaker 2 (01:49:33):
I like that absolutely, But all the while, were you
missing dating a little bit? Or we're totally fine? Just
like sitting on the sidelines was purposely.

Speaker 12 (01:49:43):
Like I was really honestly fine. Like a lot of
people thought I wouldn't see okay, my family, but like
I actually just really enjoyed it.

Speaker 3 (01:49:52):
Nice.

Speaker 2 (01:49:53):
Well, that's the thing. I guess you hung out with
a great group of friends or are you like me,
like more of a loner? What's your deal?

Speaker 12 (01:50:02):
Actually, I have four roommates and I spend a lot
of time with them, and I spend a lot of
time with my family as well.

Speaker 2 (01:50:08):
Okay, nice, nice, So what happened here four and a
half years past the last time you had a date?
What click? Did you meet someone you're like? Okay, let's
give this a tribe tell us this story.

Speaker 12 (01:50:21):
I've been trying internet dating for a while because my
work schedule was a little bit more hectic, and it's
been really rocky just trying to keep conversation nowadays. And
something actually did kind of click and it happened pretty
quickly in the last week or so. But he's local
and he actually knows one of my roommates, which I

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thought was a little strange. So we're just going off
by that.

Speaker 2 (01:50:48):
I love that. So are you excited? I mean, what
are you feeling?

Speaker 12 (01:50:52):
I'm feeling so nervous and anxious, like my anxiety is
getting a little bit more of me. But I'm really
excited though, I have a picture of emis motions.

Speaker 1 (01:51:03):
How even pick what to wear? Do your first date?
I know, but it's so exciting. Where are you going?
Where are you going?

Speaker 11 (01:51:10):
Like?

Speaker 1 (01:51:10):
What do you what can you wear?

Speaker 12 (01:51:12):
We're doing dinner in a movie because we both like
horror movies, so we decided we wanted to do that
horror movies.

Speaker 2 (01:51:23):
Horror. Okay, okay, I didn't sorry about horror. Horror. I
can see if if you start to think about it
and obsessed over it a little too much, you're gonna
drive yourself nuts, but you're excited. I mean, it's okay
to I don't know, Don't get me wrong. I've been
married several years now, you know, and uh, that feeling

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you get the butterflies when you're in the dating world,
you kind of forget what that feels like after you've
been in a relationship for a while.

Speaker 12 (01:51:52):
Right, And yeah, it makes me really happy though it should.

Speaker 2 (01:51:58):
This is awesome. Good for you, I'm I mean, you
know you deserve happiness no matter how you get it,
dating or not dating. You know, it's it's totally up
to you. But yeah, here's the other thing. Oh god,
I don't want to like put wood on the on
the fire here. It's when you meet someone and you know,
you know you want to take it slow. You want
to just like be careful with it. You know, you

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know what I'm saying. You just like you don't want
to rush into anything crazy. At the same time, you know,
when you start to kind of fall for someone a
little bit, and you're way too early for this in
this situation, But when you start falling for someone, I
remember that feeling used to get going. Oh god, I've
talked to myself out loud don't don't do this. Don't
give him your heart. They're gonna they're gonna stomp on it.

Speaker 4 (01:52:38):
Don't seriously, you open you Actually, as the song goes,
you give them your heart to break.

Speaker 2 (01:52:44):
You know, you're like, okay, oh yeah, no turning back.
And I know you're not there yet. But the excitement
of just getting out there and getting to know someone
like that, what do you guys think? What do you
think Gandhi? Really?

Speaker 3 (01:52:54):
Have you googled him? Do you know anything about him
that you're not supposed to know yet?

Speaker 12 (01:53:00):
Actually? I haven't googled him, but my roommate has told
me a bunch about him because they're both in different bands,
so they play it, you know, the same shows and
stuff together. So he's told me a little bit about them.

Speaker 3 (01:53:14):
Okay, so we think he's safe and he's okay because
you have some mutual friends.

Speaker 5 (01:53:17):
Maybe.

Speaker 12 (01:53:19):
Yeah, he has a really good job from what I've
been told and whatnot. So and he likes cats, which
is a big thing for me. So yeah, so far,
so good.

Speaker 2 (01:53:30):
Okay, all right, and he's a musician. What could go wrong?

Speaker 8 (01:53:33):
Yeah, he doesn't try the popcorn trip check while they're
at the movie, The oh my god.

Speaker 16 (01:53:40):
Yeah, oh my god, the movie theater with scissors. You know,
we've got a problem. He's cutting a hole in the
bottom of the bucket. All right, all right, I don't
know what the slips, slippery slope to hell.

Speaker 2 (01:53:51):
We're trying to have a good time.

Speaker 1 (01:53:52):
He's like, why did I call them?

Speaker 2 (01:53:54):
Well, lindsay, you know, I've bet a lot of people
listening right now are going. I think exactly what we're
thinking about. That the butterfly in the stomach, excitement about
going on on a date. I think it's so cool.

Speaker 1 (01:54:03):
Yeah, awesome.

Speaker 2 (01:54:03):
And you know what with a date, without a date,
a life in a relationship or a life with friends, whatever,
your happiness is all that matters. And so you look
out for number one. You get out there and you
own it. Girl, you have a great time.

Speaker 12 (01:54:16):
Okay, all right, thank you. I'll let you guys know
how it goes.

Speaker 2 (01:54:20):
Please do absolutely. Yeah, well maybe we should go with you.
Where are you going now you're.

Speaker 3 (01:54:26):
Sitting at the other table.

Speaker 2 (01:54:28):
Thank you, Lindsea. You have a great day. Thanks for
listening to us. All right, let's go, let's go do something.
Let's do something with our life, something productive other than
what we've been doing for the past four hours. Till
next time. See peace out. Everybody PA everybody,