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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hey, this is Andy and Samantha, and welcome stuff. I've
never told you a production to buy Heart Radio, and
welcome to what I think is the last half hour
of the year. What I think. So, if you are
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choosing to drink or whatever you're choosing to do, please
drink responsibly. Samantha, are you sipping on anything.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
My bubble water? Because we got a lot to do today.
I can't be sleep here. We do well.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
I'm still continuing my coquito from our book club episode
you know where we are? And yes, as this comes out,
it is the day after Christmas, So Merry Christmas to
anyone who celebrates. And the interesting A couple of things
I wanted to talk about. This will probably be a
pretty short one because once again I was trying to
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think of something. Everyone's stressed. I don't want to do
an unhappy hour. Where's the happy hour? Where is it?
Where are you Christmas? Why can't I find you? I
say that every year the Grich, But yeah, I just
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feel like this year, I recently, I feel like there's
been a lot of endings the like, for example, my
beach house that I've grown up with, my grandparents beach
house got sold so that's kind of an ending. That's
an ending. I've been pretty sad about it. I was
very lucky to have it, very privileged to have it.
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I could recognize that, but I'm very sad it's gone.
And then I never got to go to the Air's tour.
But I'm sad it's over because I didn't get to go.
And then what we do in the Shadows just ended,
and I'm sad about that's all. So I feel like
there's just been a lot of like endings, and then
not even to talk about twenty five, pretend that doesn't
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exist for now. And then I was thinking about, like
for me, even if it's a relief when Christmas is over,
there's still like all of this build up and then
it's just done. And I remember, like, especially when I
got older, I would look around and be like, well,
now I got to go take up all these decorations,
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Like it just feels like a real pressure, and I
to be clear and transparent, I don't do that anymore
because I don't go home for New Year's anymore. So
my mom does it. But I still think about my
mom doing it, and now I'm not gonna help. I
also almost did this episode about how there's been a
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lot of talk lately where people, young people are realizing
that their moms buy their own gifts and wrap their
own gifts and my mom always did that growing up,
and people being so surprised and then other people being like, yeah,
I just assumed that's not great. Great. And then I
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found an article I really connected with about it was
called like post Christmas stress, but it was about how
you know, you're hanging out with people, you're going to parties,
you're having a good time, but you just get so
tired and you're outlaid. You're doing your drinking more and
you're eating more, and you're doing all this stuff more
than you normally would. And I have to say, I've
had a week. I'm continuing to have a week, and
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it's great because I have friends, it's wonderful, But my goodness,
am I tired?
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Yes? But I also found something that I wanted to
talk about, and it's called It's called a lot of things,
but most people call it twixtmis and this is the
period between Christmas and New Year's. So here's a quote
from Helena Fitzgerald at the Atlantic. But for many of us,
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whether still celebrating holidays, are having just finished Christmas festivities,
this week is like a long hangover. To some degree.
I think all of society feels a little aimless during
these days. We're waiting for the new year, with all
its resolutions and hopes for starting over, but we're not
quite done with the old one. I call it dead week,
a time when nothing counts and when nothing is quite real.
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The British call this boxing week. I would love if
listeners Shortian about this. Oh yeah, yes. While in Norway
it is called raw mule, which translates to time and
space to celebrate Yule Tide, it also harkens back to
an old Norse word meaning something along the lines of
not adhering to any particular holiday, but others call it Tricksmas.
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And while it isn't officially recognized in the dictionary, that
hasn't stopped companies from capitalizing on it and making it
a week like Black Friday, shopping and deal. So when
I was looking this up, that's what I was mostly getting.
Urban Dictionary suggest it may come from the slogan twigs
take a break from the very popular candy.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Yeah, that's what I thought you were going to say.
Something about the candy. I'm interesting.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Nope, but maybe maybe. I also learned about Women's Christmas,
which is celebrated in Ireland on January sixth, which is
twelve days after Christmas. Men would give women the day
off by taking on their traditional roles and goose is
the typical meat that is served. Meanwhile, the women would
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get together and celebrate with each other, which could be
like having tea or going to the bar, because prior
to nineteen fifty eight, this was the only day women
were allowed in pubs without a chaperone, a male chaperone.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
What a low bar?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I know, I just like it, Like I can't really
yeap one day you get one day, you.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Get one day after doing as for Christmas, and.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
That day you can get a drink. You what the hell?
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Like?
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I know, it's both like good. At least someone's doing
it and it's recognized. This is that whole little like
but this is a bare minimum.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah it's yes, yes, and it's faded away from a
lot of Ireland, but it is still celebrated in some places.
So again I would love if listeners right in about it.
It was also the day Christmas decorations were taken down
because it was viewed as bad luck to lead them
up any longer. So one would hope the men would
be doing the taken down of decorations.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Yeah, but.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I think when I think about this time, it does
feel like a bizarre You're not really off of work,
but a lot of people are. It just it has
a strange end of the school year vibe, but not
in the not in the like, oh, here's the last day,
but more in the I think it's over, but I
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have to still be around in case it's not over, right,
It's a it's bizarre. Time does feel strange in the
last week of the year, And for me it has
become We've talked about this before, but for me it
has become an exercise in the value of doing nothing
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or just doing what you want to do before you
get to the new year. And so I try to
play my favorite games and watch my favorite movies, and
write fan fiction and read fan fiction, which unfortunately I'm
way way way behind on. And again, if they knew, Samantha,
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they would blame you and some other people. But you days.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Plenty of time.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
No no, no, no no, because then you're tired and
you have to recover and my fan fiction is intricate.
I need to be firing on all cylinders. What do
you think of this time of year? Do you have
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any plans?
Speaker 2 (08:11):
You know, it's kind of gotten different because of the
merging of family visits when it becomes a couple things.
And I was thinking about this yesterday. I was like, Oh,
this is such a weird place for me, because for
the first thirty eight years, thirty nine years, this was
not a thing where I visited other people's families because
we had like we were that intertwined, like getting into
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a relationship. So doing this has really kind of and
I think other couples will know, like made it.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
More hectic, so because I.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Want to blend time with people and making sure that
we have time with people. Because his family is from
out of town, so we have to travel a good
six hours away to get to them. We spend after
Christmas with them, so spending Christmas at my parents for
the day. But because they are closer to me, I
get to see them more. So they're only an hour
and a half away versus his family being like five
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to six seven hours away. According to how many times
we have to stop for him or for Peaches, because
I'm bad about that. I'm all about driving straight there.
I'm like, no breaks until we have to dig gas.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
I'm the only one who thinks this way.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
But anyway, so it's interesting because it becomes elongated family times,
which I don't mind at all, especially with his family,
Like I really do enjoy seeing them and hanging out
with them, and like we do game nights and we
do like hangouts and we go to do different things.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
So it's a lovely time. And it's also kind of.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Like for me feeling like I'm fulfilling some childhood stuff
where I didn't get to play games with my family.
We did not do that. My parents were too busy.
My parents were too tired, rightly, so, like there's so
many things that they had to do in order to
make sure we were good and were able to eat
and so vibe and have a house and all these
things that oftentimes when they came home that was the
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end of it. My brothers and I were not close.
My oldest siblings were five to ten year gap for
my older two siblings and us, so of course they
didn't want to hang out with us. They're, you know,
teenagers and we're little kids. The elementary school kids or
I didn't come into the US so I was seven.
So my brother and I fought for the first five
years of our lives like pretty hardcore who was closer
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to my age and with all of that. So I
didn't live like that. So we're going to like his
families who they enjoy playing board games. We played Katan
your favorite game twice. We still talk about your we
talk about your reaction to Katan and his family and circle.
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Just so you know, to the point that they know
you so well, they ask about you. They've never met you.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
They've asked one time, I'm going to be on this
family trip with you? Oh yeah, I need you to.
They would love it.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
I think they would have the best time with you.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
But all that to say, you know, like so for
that we have like an extended amount of time where
its visits, so it feels still like the holidays that
in between. And also I've told you that the New
Year's gets kind of hectic in our neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah, I hate that it's.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
A stereotype about Atlanta, but there's a lot of shootings happening,
and I don't think they're actually violent. They're celebratory but
it scares the hell out of me because I'm like,
straight bullets. There's so many. There's so many like semi
automatic weapons that are going off that I'm like, how
did y'all get those? But you know that's not really
the question. But yeah, so that time of the week
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is odd. It's it's more holidays, Like it doesn't feel
like an in between. It feels like just the same
where it kind of as like the celebrating the Yule died.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
It feels that way. Still, Yeah, very long answer.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Sorry, No, I don't know. I mean it was interesting
to read different people's responses because some people were like, oh, yeah,
I continue it, to keep on doing the holidays, and
other people were like, I'm not leaving my pajamas. I'm
drinking in the day and I'm watching TV. And I'm like, okay,
well you do that. We do a family for the holidays.
That's what we do too. I love a pure jama
day all day. Yeah, that's pretty much what I do now.
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I used to be more of a I did an
a bunch more stuff, but then probably around pandemic, I
was like, nah, I'm good, that's all right.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
I mean that's kind of where you cemented.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
The New Year's Pajama toast special holiday rendition of Sunday
Sunday Sunday.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Yeah, just watching of Star Wars for people who don't
know they rich with trilogy with mac and cheese, with
a lot that I mac and cheese, then I make
my suit. But I do think it's interesting because it
does feel like a whole week that's like we don't
have it off, but we kind of do. It's bizarre,
bizarre week.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
I mean, we definitely worked those hours, it's just cram
it all into like two weeks instead of the four
or five weeks.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Yeah. Yeah, but just like in general, not even just us,
it just it just feels like.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
A weird setup to like.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Yeah, but you know, once upon a time when I
worked in government, I only had three days off and
I was right back and came back. The in betweens
were odd because a lot of people would take off
you said, pto to be with their family, especially with
schools out.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
So children being home. This was a thing.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Yeah, some people used to like, no, I can't be
at home, I have to go. Sorry, kids, good luck,
here's some ramen and some TV. I'm just kidding, but
like those It was weird because the office as when
I was a single person, as a single person with
no children, office would be empty, like I'd just be
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there by myself because there was no reason for me
to take those days off, and it was. It was
actually slower because people were like doing their own thing.
The aftermath of that, yeah, was a healthscape. But in
between truly working those like nine to five jobs where
you just have to be present, you have to do whatever,
keep going, it was an eerie It felt eerie.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
They're also nice to be alone in that office.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah. I've told my story before about how I had
to work the day after Thanksgiving once and then no
one believed I worked it, even though I hadn't proof
I did. But I was watching horror movies while I
was just waiting step to encode, which was like my job.
I just had to wait for the incode. But I
got spooped because I was the only person in there.
Guys looking around, well, listeners, I would love to hear
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from any of you, if you have thoughts on this,
if you have any traditions that you do, and during
this this final week of the year, especially listeners around
the world, I would love to hear if any of
this is true. Oh, I hope it is, but you
never know unless you live in the place, honestly, So yeah,
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