February 19, 2026 • 17 mins
What's the situationship? Well, no one quite agrees, but there are a few basic elements.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hey, this is Sandy and Samantha brought through stuff I
never told you production of I Heeart Radio, and welcome
to another edition of Happy Hour. As always, if you
choose to drink whatever you're choosing to do, please do
so responsibly.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
What are you drinking, Samantha, bubble water?
Speaker 3 (00:29):
I don't know. I'm about that life.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
It's a good life. It's a nice life.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
What about you.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I'm still on my red wine. I'm still on my
red wine. It is a big day as we record this,
this leon New Year, am Mardi Gras, and I have
a friend coming over later. Yeah, lots of food. Trying
to prepare myself anyway. I'm still trying to recover from
getting my heart broken, from being queer baited.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
Oh no, that's all right. I've made progress. I've made progress,
one day at a time, one day at a time. Yes,
And a lot of the.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Episodes I've been doing lately have been around it, which
is probably pretty obvious. But this is one that I've
been seeing play out online, and it is around situationships
and how people perceive this particular relationship and whether or
not it was a situationship. And it got me thinking,
(01:33):
as these things tend to do with me about my
own past relationships and how they might be perceived, And
I just asked myself. I was thinking about like my
longest running relationship, and I was like, what was I?
Am I the bad guy? Am I the one that
people would be like, You're not returning the feelings? And
(01:56):
so I just started to think about it. And that
line is really funny because it's actually used a lot
in this conversation about this particular queerbaiting. But I just
wanted to talk about it, and you know, I've come
to the conclusion that in this case, I was not
(02:16):
in a situationship. But I hesitate because people do have
a lot of different definitions for it, and so I
think by some people's definition, I might have been. Other
people other people were much more like this is what
it is, and I didn't really meet any of that.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
So if you.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Don't know what a situationship is, it is a term
from like twenty tens, but it's essentially a relationship in
all ways, but name or a romantic relationship between two
people who do not yet consider themselves a couple, but
who have more than a friendship.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
They usually don't last very long, but they can last a.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Long, long, long, long time.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
And that's where I get kind of hung up because
some people would say, like, if you want to know
if you're in a situationship, ask yourself, did they ever
introduce you to their family or their friends? How do
they introduce you? And stuff like that. And I mean,
in the situation I'm thinking of, I certainly did like
and most people would have said, like, we were in
(03:27):
a relationship. I would have said, we were in a relationship.
So that's why I don't think.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
We were in one.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
And we did go like we made plans. That's another
thing that comes up. If you aren't ever making like
concrete plans, I want.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
To say, typically those situationships are agreed upon.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
That's what I thought too, But when I was researching this,
people just had a lot of different because I've got
like three definitions here, and they're kind of different. Like
one that comes up a lot is lack of commit
either one or both people are not willing to commit
to a long term relationship with the other person at
that moment, So that one was pretty common. I think
(04:15):
in the instance of this fictional relationship. In my relationship,
it's there was kind of a well, at least in
my personal relationship.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
I've told this story before.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I feel horrible about it now, but I also had
like trauma and didn't know I was ACE at the time,
which is sort of part of the complication of it.
But the first time he asked if he could introduce
me as his girlfriend, I started to cry.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I feel horrible.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
I'm laughing, but I feel so bad about it.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Did he how did he react?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
He was like, oh, no, no, no, it's fine, it's fine,
it's fine, But I just and I didn't like it
just happened.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
It just was a I mean, but I don't think
it's unfair that I think your emotional reaction is beyond
the normal. But I don't think it would be like,
it's not your fault, you did anything wrong.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
No, I don't think it is either.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But That's why I've been like wrestling with this for days,
because I've been seeing this play out online and I'm like,
wait a minute, am I actually the one?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
So I don't think it is.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
But I do think that, you know, if I had
to go back and like give my younger self a
good shake and say something, it would be, hey, you're
really trying to make yourself feel something and want something
and you're scared of it, and you should ask why
you're scared of it. And we weren't good at like,
(05:46):
and this was I think this was largely on me too.
I wasn't good at I didn't want to have like
the serious conversations about touch about like, and we did,
but once it got beyond like handholding, I was like, oh,
oh god, no, no, no, no, no. But again, I didn't
know I was wrestling with all this other stuff at
the time. But I guess there was a lot of
(06:07):
confusion and I would have ended and should I feel
like I should have ended the relationship earlier. But the
problem was there was a serious death in his life.
Oh that happened around the time I was planning on
doing it, And then it kind of became like, well,
I don't want I don't want to be that person
breaks up with someone right after their dad dies.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I just can't do it.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
But that's like my one big thing where I really
do think I should have. But my thing was I
was I enjoyed. I liked he was a good friend,
and I liked hanging out with him. That was fine
with me, but he wanted more than that, and those
kinds of things change and that's fine too. And you know,
if people don't reciprocate your feelings, that's fine too. I
(06:55):
think it's sort of that like leading on and never
giving those answers or never having those discussions and never
having that communication, but a kind of getting the benefits
of having the partner without ever.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I mean, there's definitely the level of responsibility for both
because the other person has that responsibility, Like do you
like this? If things are not changing, then why are
you staying at It's kind of one of those things
and understanding your own worth or you're what you want
rather and if that's the case, moving on, Like you
need to have the strength to be able to move
on as well. If like you're not getting what you
(07:32):
had hoped for and also just pretending it and making
it up in your mind not the safe way to go.
You need a conversation. If you want that to be
a thing, it should be a conversation you assuming it's
also not a that becomes a both fault type of situation.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Yeah, oh yeah, And that's been kind of interesting to
see play out in this whole thing as well. But
like I guess there's also the whole idea of kind
of the reverse of what I said of you know,
you're getting the benefits of the partner without the partner necessarily.
(08:11):
It's like, if you really do you're so into somebody
that maybe you would rather have those scraps of that
there or none of that, and that can be really
hard to break free from. And I've been I was
in something kind of similar to that, where I was
the yuriner, we'll say, and it was that's.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
The terms I've seen some amount.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
And I think at the time I would have taken
that over nothing, even if that wasn't healthy for me.
And I did try to have the conversation and I
did do the very tropy half confession where I was
like feeling out, yeah, wait, and then they were like, oh,
(09:02):
I'm sure that was long in the past. I was like,
message received, message received. So I've done that too. For me,
though I was much less of a I was able
to get over that pretty quickly. But I've I was
reading stories about it today when I was actually researching
this happy hour, and people, not everybody. I won't say
(09:27):
it was easy for me to do it, but for
a lot of people it's it doesn't end that quickly,
and it's sort of hard to to move on, especially
if you've been friends for a long time or you're
I don't know, involved in each other's lives more deeply
than just somebody. It might be easier to kind of
cut out until you you move on. People also debate
(10:00):
about whether this is sort of like friends with benefits situation.
I feel like a situationship is less to fine than
friends with benefits.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
I thuationship is more romantic. I feel like that. Yeah,
Like yeah, friends with benefits tholos on the down low.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Yeah, and it's sort of that one.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Yeah, like people may know but may not know. Yeah,
as well as situationships, you're not friends.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah, or are you can be, but nobody knows. Like
usually there's like I guess there's a lot of ways
it can look. That's what I learned reading about it.
But usually there's kind of a level of we're not
even going to mention that this is somewhat romantic or
there's something beyond friendship. There's something it's not not necessarily
(10:52):
physical or not necessarily anything like that, but this it's
like you're not just friends. There is something else and
like just not going to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
You might come around with friends, like you might actually
hang out and y'all they know, like if y'all do
partner things and then like do, but it's not going
to grow more than that. And also they're very expendable.
Friends with benefits I guess it could be as well,
but usually the friend part, I don't know, it's accordant
to who it is. Maybe he's a part of a
friend group and y'all are keeping it on the dow
(11:22):
low or yeah, yeah, or it may just be one
and the same and one one term came out of
the other. So friends with benefits came first with like
buddies type of conversation. Yeah, and then it grew into
situations because it was deeper than a buddy.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Yeah, but.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
It's still not quite there. And again I still thought
it was a mutual thing, same thing with a fuddy.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
It can be, but not always it's well, at least
there's usually a slight power dynamic of the one person
that is, like I can read Yeah, well, like I said,
I was reading about it today. I saw a lot
of different things and maybe that's why I'm still kind
of like.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Wait, was I what was I doing. I think I was.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
I did accidentally introduce the mester with my friend once, but.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
That was a mistake.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
That was a mistake, and I apologized. I feel like
I'm going through all my like own dirty launcher.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
A lot of your stuff has not more dude with
like miscommunications, naivety and blissful ignorance.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Avoidance to.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Like a lot of trauma. So like there's a lot
to that level of like, oh and you just kind
of stumbled upon a situation where dude is like, no,
this is what's happening. You're like, uh, okay, I guess sure.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
We have reo were friends. You told me you were
moving away, and I was like, oh no, good long,
No you're not weird.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It was a mess, And that's why I think all
of this is kind of confusing and messy. And that's
sort of the thing I think about a situationship. As
I said, I personally, after doing this reflecting, don't think
I was in one. But I was in a relationship
where I believe some people online might be able.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
To argue that I was.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I think I was in a relationship that was just
we wanted different things, and.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I can at least say for myself.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
I was very confused about a lot that was going
on in myself. And I'm also I'm learning this stuff
all the time. I also put a note in here.
I put a note here too about you were the
one that who taught me? Was it dtr what was
the term to find the relationship?
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Finding the relationship? I thought I had talked about situation
shows before too.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
I've heard about it. I just I just have seen
it a lot lately.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
So I thought we had because we also talked about
cuffing season. Yes, we talked. We've talked about a few things, y'all.
I really thought we had. But like situationship is a
newer term for sure, Like it came in the last
you timed it timeline in a minute ago. Uh, it's newer.
Like again, I think came in a replacement of but
(14:28):
understanding that is a little deeper mm hmm than just
friends with benefits.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Yeah, And I think that I think it's evolved over
time what it meant, because I feel like I had
the understanding at first that it meant that you just
kind of fell into a relationship with somebody.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
I don't know. I thought it was more.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Of a like accidental wolves for in a relationship kind
of thing.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm thinking of another term.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Yeah, no, that's that's not how I situationship is when
people like just casually like So my situationship we're not together,
but we do sleep together, and we're not anything but romantic.
If anything else wants to be more like that, I've
heard it in that context.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Okay, Okay, that makes sense. I saw it painted that
way too. I think people are just have different interpretations
of it.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
And yeah, obviously I think of it as a loosely
adult based, consensual thing before the fact, and it may
not be true. Like one side might say, yeah, this
is absolutely that, but want more and hope for more, yeah,
even though they were told straight up no, this is
not gonna be. But they really think they can talk
(15:48):
their way into this.
Speaker 4 (15:49):
Yeah, or they just never discussed it at all.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Right, Yeah, Well, I continue to learn a lot through
all of us, and I shall report back with more.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
I'm sure I'll do more analysis and bring it back
to us.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Yeah, I'm still thinking by the cogs are still turning.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
I like it. I really want application here.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I really hope my excessn't listen to this just because
like he's the type who would have somebody who would
listen for him, like he wouldn't do it and say.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
If I'm talking to you, I hope not. I don't
think so. I doubt it too.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Better people don't be better.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
That would hurt.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
We all grow, we all go.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Yes, and I am sorry for what it's worth or
what it's worth anyway.
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
What are you drinking, Samantha, bubble water?
Speaker 3 (00:29):
I don't know. I'm about that life.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
It's a good life. It's a nice life.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
What about you.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I'm still on my red wine. I'm still on my
red wine. It is a big day as we record this,
this leon New Year, am Mardi Gras, and I have
a friend coming over later. Yeah, lots of food. Trying
to prepare myself anyway. I'm still trying to recover from
getting my heart broken, from being queer baited.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
Oh no, that's all right. I've made progress. I've made progress,
one day at a time, one day at a time. Yes,
And a lot of the.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Episodes I've been doing lately have been around it, which
is probably pretty obvious. But this is one that I've
been seeing play out online, and it is around situationships
and how people perceive this particular relationship and whether or
not it was a situationship. And it got me thinking,
(01:33):
as these things tend to do with me about my
own past relationships and how they might be perceived, And
I just asked myself. I was thinking about like my
longest running relationship, and I was like, what was I?
Am I the bad guy? Am I the one that
people would be like, You're not returning the feelings? And
(01:56):
so I just started to think about it. And that
line is really funny because it's actually used a lot
in this conversation about this particular queerbaiting. But I just
wanted to talk about it, and you know, I've come
to the conclusion that in this case, I was not
(02:16):
in a situationship. But I hesitate because people do have
a lot of different definitions for it, and so I
think by some people's definition, I might have been. Other
people other people were much more like this is what
it is, and I didn't really meet any of that.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
So if you.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Don't know what a situationship is, it is a term
from like twenty tens, but it's essentially a relationship in
all ways, but name or a romantic relationship between two
people who do not yet consider themselves a couple, but
who have more than a friendship.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
They usually don't last very long, but they can last a.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Long, long, long, long time.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
And that's where I get kind of hung up because
some people would say, like, if you want to know
if you're in a situationship, ask yourself, did they ever
introduce you to their family or their friends? How do
they introduce you? And stuff like that. And I mean,
in the situation I'm thinking of, I certainly did like
and most people would have said, like, we were in
(03:27):
a relationship. I would have said, we were in a relationship.
So that's why I don't think.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
We were in one.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
And we did go like we made plans. That's another
thing that comes up. If you aren't ever making like
concrete plans, I want.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
To say, typically those situationships are agreed upon.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
That's what I thought too, But when I was researching this,
people just had a lot of different because I've got
like three definitions here, and they're kind of different. Like
one that comes up a lot is lack of commit
either one or both people are not willing to commit
to a long term relationship with the other person at
that moment, So that one was pretty common. I think
(04:15):
in the instance of this fictional relationship. In my relationship,
it's there was kind of a well, at least in
my personal relationship.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
I've told this story before.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I feel horrible about it now, but I also had
like trauma and didn't know I was ACE at the time,
which is sort of part of the complication of it.
But the first time he asked if he could introduce
me as his girlfriend, I started to cry.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I feel horrible.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
I'm laughing, but I feel so bad about it.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Did he how did he react?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
He was like, oh, no, no, no, it's fine, it's fine,
it's fine, But I just and I didn't like it
just happened.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
It just was a I mean, but I don't think
it's unfair that I think your emotional reaction is beyond
the normal. But I don't think it would be like,
it's not your fault, you did anything wrong.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
No, I don't think it is either.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But That's why I've been like wrestling with this for days,
because I've been seeing this play out online and I'm like,
wait a minute, am I actually the one?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
So I don't think it is.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
But I do think that, you know, if I had
to go back and like give my younger self a
good shake and say something, it would be, hey, you're
really trying to make yourself feel something and want something
and you're scared of it, and you should ask why
you're scared of it. And we weren't good at like,
(05:46):
and this was I think this was largely on me too.
I wasn't good at I didn't want to have like
the serious conversations about touch about like, and we did,
but once it got beyond like handholding, I was like, oh,
oh god, no, no, no, no, no. But again, I didn't
know I was wrestling with all this other stuff at
the time. But I guess there was a lot of
(06:07):
confusion and I would have ended and should I feel
like I should have ended the relationship earlier. But the
problem was there was a serious death in his life.
Oh that happened around the time I was planning on
doing it, And then it kind of became like, well,
I don't want I don't want to be that person
breaks up with someone right after their dad dies.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I just can't do it.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
But that's like my one big thing where I really
do think I should have. But my thing was I
was I enjoyed. I liked he was a good friend,
and I liked hanging out with him. That was fine
with me, but he wanted more than that, and those
kinds of things change and that's fine too. And you know,
if people don't reciprocate your feelings, that's fine too. I
(06:55):
think it's sort of that like leading on and never
giving those answers or never having those discussions and never
having that communication, but a kind of getting the benefits
of having the partner without ever.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I mean, there's definitely the level of responsibility for both
because the other person has that responsibility, Like do you
like this? If things are not changing, then why are
you staying at It's kind of one of those things
and understanding your own worth or you're what you want
rather and if that's the case, moving on, Like you
need to have the strength to be able to move
on as well. If like you're not getting what you
(07:32):
had hoped for and also just pretending it and making
it up in your mind not the safe way to go.
You need a conversation. If you want that to be
a thing, it should be a conversation you assuming it's
also not a that becomes a both fault type of situation.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Yeah, oh yeah, And that's been kind of interesting to
see play out in this whole thing as well. But
like I guess there's also the whole idea of kind
of the reverse of what I said of you know,
you're getting the benefits of the partner without the partner necessarily.
(08:11):
It's like, if you really do you're so into somebody
that maybe you would rather have those scraps of that
there or none of that, and that can be really
hard to break free from. And I've been I was
in something kind of similar to that, where I was
the yuriner, we'll say, and it was that's.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
The terms I've seen some amount.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
And I think at the time I would have taken
that over nothing, even if that wasn't healthy for me.
And I did try to have the conversation and I
did do the very tropy half confession where I was
like feeling out, yeah, wait, and then they were like, oh,
(09:02):
I'm sure that was long in the past. I was like,
message received, message received. So I've done that too. For me,
though I was much less of a I was able
to get over that pretty quickly. But I've I was
reading stories about it today when I was actually researching
this happy hour, and people, not everybody. I won't say
(09:27):
it was easy for me to do it, but for
a lot of people it's it doesn't end that quickly,
and it's sort of hard to to move on, especially
if you've been friends for a long time or you're
I don't know, involved in each other's lives more deeply
than just somebody. It might be easier to kind of
cut out until you you move on. People also debate
(10:00):
about whether this is sort of like friends with benefits situation.
I feel like a situationship is less to fine than
friends with benefits.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
I thuationship is more romantic. I feel like that. Yeah,
Like yeah, friends with benefits tholos on the down low.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Yeah, and it's sort of that one.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Yeah, like people may know but may not know. Yeah,
as well as situationships, you're not friends.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah, or are you can be, but nobody knows. Like
usually there's like I guess there's a lot of ways
it can look. That's what I learned reading about it.
But usually there's kind of a level of we're not
even going to mention that this is somewhat romantic or
there's something beyond friendship. There's something it's not not necessarily
(10:52):
physical or not necessarily anything like that, but this it's
like you're not just friends. There is something else and
like just not going to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
You might come around with friends, like you might actually
hang out and y'all they know, like if y'all do
partner things and then like do, but it's not going
to grow more than that. And also they're very expendable.
Friends with benefits I guess it could be as well,
but usually the friend part, I don't know, it's accordant
to who it is. Maybe he's a part of a
friend group and y'all are keeping it on the dow
(11:22):
low or yeah, yeah, or it may just be one
and the same and one one term came out of
the other. So friends with benefits came first with like
buddies type of conversation. Yeah, and then it grew into
situations because it was deeper than a buddy.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Yeah, but.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
It's still not quite there. And again I still thought
it was a mutual thing, same thing with a fuddy.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
It can be, but not always it's well, at least
there's usually a slight power dynamic of the one person
that is, like I can read Yeah, well, like I said,
I was reading about it today. I saw a lot
of different things and maybe that's why I'm still kind
of like.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Wait, was I what was I doing. I think I was.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
I did accidentally introduce the mester with my friend once, but.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
That was a mistake.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
That was a mistake, and I apologized. I feel like
I'm going through all my like own dirty launcher.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
A lot of your stuff has not more dude with
like miscommunications, naivety and blissful ignorance.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Avoidance to.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Like a lot of trauma. So like there's a lot
to that level of like, oh and you just kind
of stumbled upon a situation where dude is like, no,
this is what's happening. You're like, uh, okay, I guess sure.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
We have reo were friends. You told me you were
moving away, and I was like, oh no, good long,
No you're not weird.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It was a mess, And that's why I think all
of this is kind of confusing and messy. And that's
sort of the thing I think about a situationship. As
I said, I personally, after doing this reflecting, don't think
I was in one. But I was in a relationship
where I believe some people online might be able.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
To argue that I was.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I think I was in a relationship that was just
we wanted different things, and.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I can at least say for myself.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
I was very confused about a lot that was going
on in myself. And I'm also I'm learning this stuff
all the time. I also put a note in here.
I put a note here too about you were the
one that who taught me? Was it dtr what was
the term to find the relationship?
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Finding the relationship? I thought I had talked about situation
shows before too.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
I've heard about it. I just I just have seen
it a lot lately.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
So I thought we had because we also talked about
cuffing season. Yes, we talked. We've talked about a few things, y'all.
I really thought we had. But like situationship is a
newer term for sure, Like it came in the last
you timed it timeline in a minute ago. Uh, it's newer.
Like again, I think came in a replacement of but
(14:28):
understanding that is a little deeper mm hmm than just
friends with benefits.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Yeah, And I think that I think it's evolved over
time what it meant, because I feel like I had
the understanding at first that it meant that you just
kind of fell into a relationship with somebody.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
I don't know. I thought it was more.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Of a like accidental wolves for in a relationship kind
of thing.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm thinking of another term.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Yeah, no, that's that's not how I situationship is when
people like just casually like So my situationship we're not together,
but we do sleep together, and we're not anything but romantic.
If anything else wants to be more like that, I've
heard it in that context.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Okay, Okay, that makes sense. I saw it painted that
way too. I think people are just have different interpretations
of it.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
And yeah, obviously I think of it as a loosely
adult based, consensual thing before the fact, and it may
not be true. Like one side might say, yeah, this
is absolutely that, but want more and hope for more, yeah,
even though they were told straight up no, this is
not gonna be. But they really think they can talk
(15:48):
their way into this.
Speaker 4 (15:49):
Yeah, or they just never discussed it at all.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Right, Yeah, Well, I continue to learn a lot through
all of us, and I shall report back with more.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
I'm sure I'll do more analysis and bring it back
to us.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Yeah, I'm still thinking by the cogs are still turning.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
I like it. I really want application here.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I really hope my excessn't listen to this just because
like he's the type who would have somebody who would
listen for him, like he wouldn't do it and say.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
If I'm talking to you, I hope not. I don't
think so. I doubt it too.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Better people don't be better.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
That would hurt.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
We all grow, we all go.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Yes, and I am sorry for what it's worth or
what it's worth anyway.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
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