November 9, 2025 • 16 mins
There's been new developments in Mercedes' love life with Boston Man...so Ben is sitting down for an emergency episode to get all the details!
Has Mercedes found "the one", or is she still famously available??
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate summer of love Tree.
This is famously Available. Welcome back to Famously Available with
your host Ben. As we follow our famously available women
all on their own journeys, we are bound to hit
some twists and turns. Last time we talked to Mercedes,
(00:21):
are beloved Mercedes.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Things were going well.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
But I'm back for another check in, and honestly, I
am unaware of the status.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
However, I was told.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
That I needed to get on a call with Mercedes
to have an honest and open conversation. And that's why
I'm here today. Mercedes, Why are you here?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I am here to let you know that me and
Boston Man are no more.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
That's I just like, I don't really, I'm just gonna
speak to you like I would any of my other
girlfriends who are going through this.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I'm bummed.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm bummed because it felt like things were We're just
happy and healthy and like going on their own individual
timeline in like the best ways.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
When we talked to you last, you.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Didn't have a plan necessarily to see him next if
I remember right, but you were going to like get
that scheduled. You're gonna figure that one out.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
What happened.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Yeah, honestly, I don't really know. I feel like it
kind of like just switched one day. On his end,
I think he got a job opportunity on top of
his full time job, so he's gonna be working a lot.
He has to move to a new city, and I
think he was just very stressed and I think having
(01:48):
someone to like care for and like be in a
relationship with zone was just too much for him.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
So he just was like, yeah, I can't do that.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
I was like, okay, I'm not gonna like be someone
to take me along with them through their life and journeys.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
So that was that. And yeah, the.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I mean it always is sad and hurt, and you know,
if you're me, when things end, I kind of go
very internal. I ask myself a lot of questions, if
that makes sense. What are some of the questions you're
asking yourself right now?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Yeah, that's honestly, Like the biggest thing that I've been
struggling with is I've like you turned internal and like
what did I did I do something? Is there something
wrong with me? And it was something that I struggled
with for a couple of days and it was just
like you know, did.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
I open enough, like open up.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Enough, did I make him feel like the way he
was making me feel? Or do I need to be
better at communicating my feelings?
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Like there was a lot of again.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Internal questioning, but then I just came to the conclusion
that you know, I know who I am, I know
the love I give, and I'm worthy of a love
that reciprocates that, and it just wasn't him.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
The There is some things about him, though, that you
really appreciated and that obviously drew you to him. When
we started this, he was a practice date turned into
multiple dates. The reason it turned into multiple dates is
because you were intrigued by him and you liked him
as you know for the time that you're together. What
are some of those qualities now that you've pulled from
(03:38):
that that you look for in the future.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah, definitely someone who is like very open with the
way they feel. I feel like he was the type
of guy that just kind of laid it out on
the table, which I had never.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
Really experienced before.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
And it turns out that I really like that and
I like hearing compliments. It's so funny, Ben, Like I
used to be like, oh, I don't really like when
men compliment me, like it makes me feel like, oh,
like I don't know how to take it. But then
with him, I like loved it. I'm like, oh, keep
them coming. So I think that, you know, I'm a
firm believer that every single person or thing that happens
(04:15):
to you is either a lesson or you know, you
learn something from everyone. And I think that he really
like sparked something in me and made me excited about
dating again, because before him, I was like, I'm not
going on a date with anyone, Like all these men are.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Like not it.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
And now I'm like excited and I'm excited to meet
more people. And he showed me that, like I can
get excited about someone. So I think that was kind of.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
His role in my love life.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
And obviously, like I think he's a great person and
I think he truly like I know, he's not a
bad person.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
I think he's just really busy with life.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah, I mean, I hear you there, and it does.
The hope is this did open up kind of the
floodgates to you getting back out there in the dating world.
Is this chapter closed for you? I mean, if he
takes a few weeks, sits on this and is like, goodness, gracious,
I had somebody incredible h in my life and calls
you back up.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Would you reconsider dating again or trying it again?
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Probably, but I would have I would be like very reserved.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
I wouldn't be able to just like jump back into
it and be like where we were.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
You know. I think the way that he I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
I don't want to get into too much just out
of respect for him, but I think the way that
he handled it was a little unconsiderate, where like we
didn't like Basically, I was like, do you need some space.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
For a couple of days to like think?
Speaker 3 (05:44):
And he was like yes, and I like, which I get,
and I gave him a couple of days, but I
just like, I don't know. I was like, you literally
left me here not knowing like what you were thinking
for you.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Know what I'm saying. So it was just a little unconsiderate.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
So I the door's not closed, but I would definitely
have my reservations.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Yeah, And I think that's very fair.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
When we started this whole thing out, you had a
lot of hesitancy towards today's dating culture. You weren't going
on dates, you weren't you wanted to go on dates?
You didn't really though. It felt like you wanted to
go on dates, but you didn't at the same time
that you didn't really know how to put yourself out
there into the world. You obviously did with this practice
(06:27):
date that turned into multiple dates. Dating is very complex.
We talked about what you liked about him, but after
just a few dates with him, what have you learned
about dating? And do you think there's an added complexity
since you have been on TV.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yeah, I feel like what I've learned about dating is
that my the way that I was like viewing dates
and how I thought that all men were is not true.
You know, he was very respectful of my boundaries. He
respected me, He was open and honest. So I think
(07:06):
he definitely taught me that I need to be more
open and not just have my one.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Opinion, closed minded opinion about men.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
I think that's honestly the most important thing he taught
me through you know, however much time we spent.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Together, this season of life for you is not only
going to be full of these roller coaster rides of emotion,
but also very exciting at times. Also because you do
(07:41):
get to meet people. But one of the things that
was happening in this relationship was it was long distance,
which adds another layer of difficulty to relationships but can
be very healthy. Has it made you at all stay
away from long distance relationships or would you still pursue
tho if they're available, I would.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Still pursue them.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
That was like his like main thing on why he
didn't want to continue was because of the long distance.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
But I personally, like, I didn't. I didn't mind it.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
I mean, obviously it sucks, right, like you like want
to like when you're excited about someone and you start
dating someone, like you're like, I want.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
To be with you all the time, Like I want
to know everything about you.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Like that's normal, and obviously when you live in different
cities you can't do that.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
But honestly, it wasn't bothering me, like I think.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
You know, if it was for an extended amount of time,
obviously that would be really, really tough.
Speaker 4 (08:38):
But you know, we talked on the phone.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
We you know, we both gave effort to where it
felt like we were still getting to know each other
even if we weren't in person. So no, I'm not
knocking long distance relationships at all. I think if you
both put the effort, then it can work.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I agree, And it does make conversations sometimes more intentional
because you have to ask questions. You can't just snuggle
on the couch and watch a movie. You have to
actually communicate. And I do think you can get to
know each other even better through you know, just talking
to connect instead of anything else, which is beautiful in
(09:19):
its own way. Do you I mean long distance and
kind of how this started. Do you don't think there
was anybody else that he was dating right that came
into play here?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
No? No, I mean it was very abrupt, so I
don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
I didn't ask, but I don't think so. I don't
think so. I think that he just genuinely was like
very stressed with the whole work thing and having to
work sixty hours a.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
Week and you know, moving to a new city, all
these things. But at the end of the day, like.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
It goes back to like if he wanted to, he
would like it's not it wasn't impossible to continue to
get to know me and date me.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
But I mean, he just he didn't think he had time.
So no, I don't.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Think that there was someone else, but I mean, I
guess I didn't ask the question.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
So I don't know for sure.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
And we talked about it last time you're on here.
You hadn't really had that conversation yet, so if there was,
it's not like he was doing anything yeah wrong, just
would be surprising, maybe because of how you were feeling
at the time about him. You have a great group
of friends around you, some from the show, some not
from the show. What was their response when you told him.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
It was over?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
They were like, I mean, they were obviously on my side.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
They were like, yeah, he was love Bomby like a
bunch of stuff, you know, just try you know how
girls are like HiPE each other up or like he's
a weirdo loser. Yeah, but no, I think that they
thought the same as me. They're like, he's not like
a posy and we all know that. And I know
that he's a good guy, he's a good family like
he has good values morals.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
I just think it was.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
A timing thing and they were like if what I
forget what friends said this, but they're like, think of
how great he was, Like think of how like amazing
and like when you actually meet like the love of
your life or you're like your husband, the person you're gonna
spend forever with, Like that's gonna feel like make this
feel like nothing. And I'm like, that's so exciting, you know,
(11:28):
Like I got so excited over him that like, when
I actually meet someone, it's like, for real, how exciting
it'll be.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh, And that's completely true. It doesn't disregard past relationships.
It doesn't make those less meaningful. I think that would
be unfair to that season and time that you spent.
But it's it's only natural to, at at least at
the beginning, to compare. And it's just incredible when you
(11:58):
meet the one and when you know you know, and
you'll never feel anything like it you know before, and
you're like, goodness, gracious. But then the fear, Mercedes is
if this ends, I am broken, like broken, But it's
the best thing ever and also the scariest thing of
your life.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Yeah, but it's worth it so great. Do you think
he's gonna listen to this episode?
Speaker 4 (12:22):
I don't know. I hope not.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
He he listened to the first one and I told him,
I said, you're not allowed to listen to it, and
he's like, why and I'm like, because you're getting like
the inside of my brain.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
I'm like, that's not fair.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Know if he'll listen to it or not. To be honest,
I hope he doesn't. But if he does, I mean
I'm just being honest and truthful. And he also like
I told him everything on the phone too. When we
did have like the conversation, I was just like, I.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Told you where I was at.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
If you feel this way, like, there's nothing I can
do about it. So hope was she's best? You know,
like I wasn't like the type of girl where it's like, well,
I'm like, you know, really her by this.
Speaker 4 (13:01):
I didn't do all that.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
I was just like, Okay, if that's that's what you
want to do, that's what you want to do, have fun,
see you.
Speaker 4 (13:07):
Thanks for chat like.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Life.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
I don't know, and it's fair if he does listen
to this. Is there anything you.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Haven't said so far that you would want him to hear?
Speaker 3 (13:22):
No?
Speaker 4 (13:23):
Not really.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Well I guess the question is out there right now?
Are you ready to date more?
Speaker 4 (13:31):
Yes? I am.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I'm excited sneaking up on us and talking to anybody
else right now.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
There's a few people in the dms, but nothing like,
nothing significant.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
There's like some flirty dms going back and forth.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Yeah, which is so unlike me.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
Boston Man literally opened up all different side of me.
So a few flirty dms but nothing nothing serious.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Well, Mercedes is having fun. At some point, I want
to go through an episode and talk about the flirted
dms and what you've said back and forth to each other.
I want to know how you flirt these days.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
That's all much.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
That's something I'm very curious about, is how flirting happens
in this dating culture. Well, I don't want to give
too many details to you right now, but we do
have someone we're going to be setting you up with
very soon. I hear, and I'm going to know more
here in just a bit, but I hear this man
is very attractive and he is in the right age range. Okay,
(14:34):
so that's going to be happening if you agree to
let us do this.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Yeah, I'm literally so down. I'm literally I'm saying yes
to every day. Every date is a practice date until
we find the one.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Be careful because your DMS might get even busier. We're
going to bring you back on here very soon to
give the details about this date kind of leading up
to it, and then we'll talk to you night of
the date, before and after the date happens. It's great
and if the date goes well, amazing. If it doesn't
go well, then we just put Deanna in with a
(15:11):
therapist to talk to her.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
After a day she needed a therapist.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
No, I think it just was like a good added
benefit to the show as you get free therapy and
you get to talk through all this stuff. You just
have to do it in front of a national audience.
But that also is an option available to you if
this date doesn't go well and you feel like you
need some tuning up in life, So just keep in mind.
Mercedes again, I am sorry that this one didn't work out,
(15:40):
but I am happy that there's a smile on your
face and that it sounds like you took some great
things from this little, you know, talking relationship and also
learn some things about yourself and also put your footback
out there to date again, and we can't wait to
be a part of it. I'm bummed then never got
(16:00):
to meet him. I was excited to do that. Maybe
that's what scared him away. If it is, I will
never offer that up again. That is that was my mistake.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
I honestly, yeah, we didn't even because like the day
I was gonna tell him was the day that like
things started being weird.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I'm like, Okay, today's day I do it.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
So we didn't even know.
Speaker 4 (16:17):
So it wasn't you.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Okay, good Mercedes.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
We'll have you back on here very soon to talk
about some very exciting things that we have planned for you.
It will be fun, it will be awesome. Uh and
I cannot wait to hear more about it until next time.
This has been famously available. We're talking to Mercedes a
day about the ending of the relationship with Boston man. Uh.
And we will continue to put Mercedes back out there
(16:42):
into the world because somebody out there deserves Mercedes, and
Mercedes deserves somebody great.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
So we'll be back soon. Stay tuned.
iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate summer of love Tree.
This is famously Available. Welcome back to Famously Available with
your host Ben. As we follow our famously available women
all on their own journeys, we are bound to hit
some twists and turns. Last time we talked to Mercedes,
(00:21):
are beloved Mercedes.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Things were going well.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
But I'm back for another check in, and honestly, I
am unaware of the status.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
However, I was told.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
That I needed to get on a call with Mercedes
to have an honest and open conversation. And that's why
I'm here today. Mercedes, Why are you here?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I am here to let you know that me and
Boston Man are no more.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
That's I just like, I don't really, I'm just gonna
speak to you like I would any of my other
girlfriends who are going through this.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I'm bummed.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm bummed because it felt like things were We're just
happy and healthy and like going on their own individual
timeline in like the best ways.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
When we talked to you last, you.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Didn't have a plan necessarily to see him next if
I remember right, but you were going to like get
that scheduled. You're gonna figure that one out.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
What happened.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Yeah, honestly, I don't really know. I feel like it
kind of like just switched one day. On his end,
I think he got a job opportunity on top of
his full time job, so he's gonna be working a lot.
He has to move to a new city, and I
think he was just very stressed and I think having
(01:48):
someone to like care for and like be in a
relationship with zone was just too much for him.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
So he just was like, yeah, I can't do that.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
I was like, okay, I'm not gonna like be someone
to take me along with them through their life and journeys.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
So that was that. And yeah, the.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I mean it always is sad and hurt, and you know,
if you're me, when things end, I kind of go
very internal. I ask myself a lot of questions, if
that makes sense. What are some of the questions you're
asking yourself right now?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Yeah, that's honestly, Like the biggest thing that I've been
struggling with is I've like you turned internal and like
what did I did I do something? Is there something
wrong with me? And it was something that I struggled
with for a couple of days and it was just
like you know, did.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
I open enough, like open up.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Enough, did I make him feel like the way he
was making me feel? Or do I need to be
better at communicating my feelings?
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Like there was a lot of again.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Internal questioning, but then I just came to the conclusion
that you know, I know who I am, I know
the love I give, and I'm worthy of a love
that reciprocates that, and it just wasn't him.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
The There is some things about him, though, that you
really appreciated and that obviously drew you to him. When
we started this, he was a practice date turned into
multiple dates. The reason it turned into multiple dates is
because you were intrigued by him and you liked him
as you know for the time that you're together. What
are some of those qualities now that you've pulled from
(03:38):
that that you look for in the future.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah, definitely someone who is like very open with the
way they feel. I feel like he was the type
of guy that just kind of laid it out on
the table, which I had never.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
Really experienced before.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
And it turns out that I really like that and
I like hearing compliments. It's so funny, Ben, Like I
used to be like, oh, I don't really like when
men compliment me, like it makes me feel like, oh,
like I don't know how to take it. But then
with him, I like loved it. I'm like, oh, keep
them coming. So I think that, you know, I'm a
firm believer that every single person or thing that happens
(04:15):
to you is either a lesson or you know, you
learn something from everyone. And I think that he really
like sparked something in me and made me excited about
dating again, because before him, I was like, I'm not
going on a date with anyone, Like all these men are.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Like not it.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
And now I'm like excited and I'm excited to meet
more people. And he showed me that, like I can
get excited about someone. So I think that was kind of.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
His role in my love life.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
And obviously, like I think he's a great person and
I think he truly like I know, he's not a
bad person.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
I think he's just really busy with life.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah, I mean, I hear you there, and it does.
The hope is this did open up kind of the
floodgates to you getting back out there in the dating world.
Is this chapter closed for you? I mean, if he
takes a few weeks, sits on this and is like, goodness, gracious,
I had somebody incredible h in my life and calls
you back up.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Would you reconsider dating again or trying it again?
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Probably, but I would have I would be like very reserved.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
I wouldn't be able to just like jump back into
it and be like where we were.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
You know. I think the way that he I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
I don't want to get into too much just out
of respect for him, but I think the way that
he handled it was a little unconsiderate, where like we
didn't like Basically, I was like, do you need some space.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
For a couple of days to like think?
Speaker 3 (05:44):
And he was like yes, and I like, which I get,
and I gave him a couple of days, but I
just like, I don't know. I was like, you literally
left me here not knowing like what you were thinking
for you.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Know what I'm saying. So it was just a little unconsiderate.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
So I the door's not closed, but I would definitely
have my reservations.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Yeah, And I think that's very fair.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
When we started this whole thing out, you had a
lot of hesitancy towards today's dating culture. You weren't going
on dates, you weren't you wanted to go on dates?
You didn't really though. It felt like you wanted to
go on dates, but you didn't at the same time
that you didn't really know how to put yourself out
there into the world. You obviously did with this practice
(06:27):
date that turned into multiple dates. Dating is very complex.
We talked about what you liked about him, but after
just a few dates with him, what have you learned
about dating? And do you think there's an added complexity
since you have been on TV.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yeah, I feel like what I've learned about dating is
that my the way that I was like viewing dates
and how I thought that all men were is not true.
You know, he was very respectful of my boundaries. He
respected me, He was open and honest. So I think
(07:06):
he definitely taught me that I need to be more
open and not just have my one.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Opinion, closed minded opinion about men.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
I think that's honestly the most important thing he taught
me through you know, however much time we spent.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Together, this season of life for you is not only
going to be full of these roller coaster rides of emotion,
but also very exciting at times. Also because you do
(07:41):
get to meet people. But one of the things that
was happening in this relationship was it was long distance,
which adds another layer of difficulty to relationships but can
be very healthy. Has it made you at all stay
away from long distance relationships or would you still pursue
tho if they're available, I would.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Still pursue them.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
That was like his like main thing on why he
didn't want to continue was because of the long distance.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
But I personally, like, I didn't. I didn't mind it.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
I mean, obviously it sucks, right, like you like want
to like when you're excited about someone and you start
dating someone, like you're like, I want.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
To be with you all the time, Like I want
to know everything about you.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Like that's normal, and obviously when you live in different
cities you can't do that.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
But honestly, it wasn't bothering me, like I think.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
You know, if it was for an extended amount of time,
obviously that would be really, really tough.
Speaker 4 (08:38):
But you know, we talked on the phone.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
We you know, we both gave effort to where it
felt like we were still getting to know each other
even if we weren't in person. So no, I'm not
knocking long distance relationships at all. I think if you
both put the effort, then it can work.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I agree, And it does make conversations sometimes more intentional
because you have to ask questions. You can't just snuggle
on the couch and watch a movie. You have to
actually communicate. And I do think you can get to
know each other even better through you know, just talking
to connect instead of anything else, which is beautiful in
(09:19):
its own way. Do you I mean long distance and
kind of how this started. Do you don't think there
was anybody else that he was dating right that came
into play here?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
No? No, I mean it was very abrupt, so I
don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
I didn't ask, but I don't think so. I don't
think so. I think that he just genuinely was like
very stressed with the whole work thing and having to
work sixty hours a.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
Week and you know, moving to a new city, all
these things. But at the end of the day, like.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
It goes back to like if he wanted to, he
would like it's not it wasn't impossible to continue to
get to know me and date me.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
But I mean, he just he didn't think he had time.
So no, I don't.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Think that there was someone else, but I mean, I
guess I didn't ask the question.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
So I don't know for sure.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
And we talked about it last time you're on here.
You hadn't really had that conversation yet, so if there was,
it's not like he was doing anything yeah wrong, just
would be surprising, maybe because of how you were feeling
at the time about him. You have a great group
of friends around you, some from the show, some not
from the show. What was their response when you told him.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
It was over?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
They were like, I mean, they were obviously on my side.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
They were like, yeah, he was love Bomby like a
bunch of stuff, you know, just try you know how
girls are like HiPE each other up or like he's
a weirdo loser. Yeah, but no, I think that they
thought the same as me. They're like, he's not like
a posy and we all know that. And I know
that he's a good guy, he's a good family like
he has good values morals.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
I just think it was.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
A timing thing and they were like if what I
forget what friends said this, but they're like, think of
how great he was, Like think of how like amazing
and like when you actually meet like the love of
your life or you're like your husband, the person you're gonna
spend forever with, Like that's gonna feel like make this
feel like nothing. And I'm like, that's so exciting, you know,
(11:28):
Like I got so excited over him that like, when
I actually meet someone, it's like, for real, how exciting
it'll be.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh, And that's completely true. It doesn't disregard past relationships.
It doesn't make those less meaningful. I think that would
be unfair to that season and time that you spent.
But it's it's only natural to, at at least at
the beginning, to compare. And it's just incredible when you
(11:58):
meet the one and when you know you know, and
you'll never feel anything like it you know before, and
you're like, goodness, gracious. But then the fear, Mercedes is
if this ends, I am broken, like broken, But it's
the best thing ever and also the scariest thing of
your life.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Yeah, but it's worth it so great. Do you think
he's gonna listen to this episode?
Speaker 4 (12:22):
I don't know. I hope not.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
He he listened to the first one and I told him,
I said, you're not allowed to listen to it, and
he's like, why and I'm like, because you're getting like
the inside of my brain.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
I'm like, that's not fair.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Know if he'll listen to it or not. To be honest,
I hope he doesn't. But if he does, I mean
I'm just being honest and truthful. And he also like
I told him everything on the phone too. When we
did have like the conversation, I was just like, I.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Told you where I was at.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
If you feel this way, like, there's nothing I can
do about it. So hope was she's best? You know,
like I wasn't like the type of girl where it's like, well,
I'm like, you know, really her by this.
Speaker 4 (13:01):
I didn't do all that.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
I was just like, Okay, if that's that's what you
want to do, that's what you want to do, have fun,
see you.
Speaker 4 (13:07):
Thanks for chat like.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Life.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
I don't know, and it's fair if he does listen
to this. Is there anything you.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Haven't said so far that you would want him to hear?
Speaker 3 (13:22):
No?
Speaker 4 (13:23):
Not really.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Well I guess the question is out there right now?
Are you ready to date more?
Speaker 4 (13:31):
Yes? I am.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I'm excited sneaking up on us and talking to anybody
else right now.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
There's a few people in the dms, but nothing like,
nothing significant.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
There's like some flirty dms going back and forth.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Yeah, which is so unlike me.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
Boston Man literally opened up all different side of me.
So a few flirty dms but nothing nothing serious.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Well, Mercedes is having fun. At some point, I want
to go through an episode and talk about the flirted
dms and what you've said back and forth to each other.
I want to know how you flirt these days.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
That's all much.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
That's something I'm very curious about, is how flirting happens
in this dating culture. Well, I don't want to give
too many details to you right now, but we do
have someone we're going to be setting you up with
very soon. I hear, and I'm going to know more
here in just a bit, but I hear this man
is very attractive and he is in the right age range. Okay,
(14:34):
so that's going to be happening if you agree to
let us do this.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Yeah, I'm literally so down. I'm literally I'm saying yes
to every day. Every date is a practice date until
we find the one.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Be careful because your DMS might get even busier. We're
going to bring you back on here very soon to
give the details about this date kind of leading up
to it, and then we'll talk to you night of
the date, before and after the date happens. It's great
and if the date goes well, amazing. If it doesn't
go well, then we just put Deanna in with a
(15:11):
therapist to talk to her.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
After a day she needed a therapist.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
No, I think it just was like a good added
benefit to the show as you get free therapy and
you get to talk through all this stuff. You just
have to do it in front of a national audience.
But that also is an option available to you if
this date doesn't go well and you feel like you
need some tuning up in life, So just keep in mind.
Mercedes again, I am sorry that this one didn't work out,
(15:40):
but I am happy that there's a smile on your
face and that it sounds like you took some great
things from this little, you know, talking relationship and also
learn some things about yourself and also put your footback
out there to date again, and we can't wait to
be a part of it. I'm bummed then never got
(16:00):
to meet him. I was excited to do that. Maybe
that's what scared him away. If it is, I will
never offer that up again. That is that was my mistake.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
I honestly, yeah, we didn't even because like the day
I was gonna tell him was the day that like
things started being weird.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I'm like, Okay, today's day I do it.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
So we didn't even know.
Speaker 4 (16:17):
So it wasn't you.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Okay, good Mercedes.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
We'll have you back on here very soon to talk
about some very exciting things that we have planned for you.
It will be fun, it will be awesome. Uh and
I cannot wait to hear more about it until next time.
This has been famously available. We're talking to Mercedes a
day about the ending of the relationship with Boston man. Uh.
And we will continue to put Mercedes back out there
(16:42):
into the world because somebody out there deserves Mercedes, and
Mercedes deserves somebody great.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
So we'll be back soon. Stay tuned.
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