April 30, 2026 • 46 mins
Tanya had an awkward moment at the movies while Becca was captivated by an over-the-top Bachelorette trip! But in between, we’re helping some Scrubbers with a round of Dear Banya!
What do you do if your mother in law is too affectionate with your kids? And how do you handle a spouse with strong opinions on your hairstyle?
Plus… a Dear Banya first when we hear from a similar scenario but from each side of the argument!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
I'll let you have your moment.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Then I said we could hard.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I'm nothing if I'm not a student today, I'm fine.
Oh just fine, yeah, just a little fine. Why I'm
just crampy, Yeah, crampy and crabby.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I'm a little krabby too.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Dang. Yeah. When are you getting yours any day?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Now?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, So I'm we're.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
All right into each other.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm I'm like on my like
nearing my rage feeling and then and then it'll come.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
It's really crazy, like when you think about it, like
we just bleed out.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
I was talking Alison about this yesterday.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
It's so crazy to me.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
And do you have like two weeks out of the
entire months just kind of stolen from you?
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yeah, because when you're not physically, as Donia's so eloquently
put it, bleeding out, you are going through just all
the emotions.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, of life, yes, yes, And like what's so crazy
is like when you're in your trying to conceive season
of life. Yes, the same pre period symptoms are like
pregnancy symptoms. So you're like, oh, my nipples are hurting,
and you're like, oh my god. And then you're like, oh,
they hurt every month before I get my period, you
(01:38):
know what I mean. So then I'm like, I've never
asked chatchbet more stuff in my life and it's always
like split it could be this, and it could be this.
I'm like, yeah, thanks for that information.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I think that's the information, and a doctor would give
two though. Yeah, it could be like I can't just
text my doctor right now. Chat you b T he
got me? Yeah? Wait? Did you see there is this
group of girls that went on this bachelorette party, Acquired
Style and her group of friends.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
You didn't see her style?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
No, my gosh. Social media is so weird because.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Your feelings are.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Inundated with this one thing and you're like everyone knows
about this, and then.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
And then here comes Tony on the other side of everything. Hallelujah.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
So this group of girls, it's these identical twins and
one of them they're her user name is acquired Style.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Okay, anyone else I would recognize on this trip?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Do you know Lauren Wolf? She's an amazing travel influencer
kit Keenan. She was on The Bachelor. Nope, I don't
think you know anyone else.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Okay, so.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Acquired style. I think her name is Bridget Bridget and
her identical sister is Danielle. So Bridget is planning her
bachelorette party and the whole time she's kind of showing
leading up to it. These are just people that are
really good at creating social media content. And she has
a theme for it called Acquired a Husband. That's the
(03:07):
bachelorette theme. She acquired a husband. So they they she
starts off and she's in this penthouse suite in New
York and she's getting all her bridesmaids their spray tnds
or all the girls going on the trip their spray
tands and she documents it. And then it's time for
the trip and they get this insane private jet to
Saint Bart's okay, and it has like bedrooms on it,
(03:30):
this private jet. It's crazy. Another rich well that everyone's
trying to figure out, like what I mean that's just
being able to get a private jet, much less that
private jet is insane. How much that could cost? Yeah,
So then she's promoting this. It's like an AI mirror,
so it's a travel mirror, and it's like, if you're
(03:53):
looking at the mirror, it puts the place where you
should put your blush and content and everything. So it's
called Beauty. I guess it's a big beauty brand, Swan Baby.
So everyone's like, we've never heard of Swan Beauty, and
now they're they paid for this private jet and sponsored
this trip.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
They sponsored her bachelorette.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
So then you find out she she's friends with the
daughter of the owner of the company. Okay, so they're
just loaded and they have like a yaw and st
Bart's all this stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Okay, but the way they.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Are churning out content every almost all the girls who
are influencers on the trip.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
So there's a group of girls and you know, you
always have the bachelorette where there's girls who are not
not fond or care about social media, and then you
have the girls who love social media and the girls
that are the social media content creators are they're just
pumping out content, so everyone's you're getting it from it.
(04:50):
If you watch one, you're getting all of okay, and
it was insane. So now everyone's like I can't believe
my bachelorette is after this, and everyone's like, thank god,
my bachelorette was before this. And someone's like, my friend,
my all my friends sending me the private jet video,
like we're not getting a private jet. But it was
(05:12):
just the craziest thing ever, and they crushed it. I
don't know how they did it.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, so it was an inspirational aspirational I would say,
but anyway, your own bachelorette. No, no, but all these
people have opinions on this, right, they're like, oh, in
this economy, it feels so like in your face. And
I'm like, when I get on social media, I want
people who are aspirational. I don't want to watch people
(05:37):
doing the same. Like I'm trying to watch people who
are living bigger than me because I want to live bigger.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
So it's funny that you say that, because I too
love that. I love seeing like people's like amazing trips
and like things that are like very out of reach
for me.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
But then I also like love seeing like the there's
this s girl that I follow that she's like what
I eat in a day as a battie, and she
just like it's just like she's just doing it, eating
like I don't know, big Coca Cola and some Papa,
some donuts and you know what i mean. She's like
go through her day and it's just very like not curated,
(06:17):
not cute. She's just like doing it in the thing.
And I'm like, I also love that content too, do
you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Yeah, but that's like her. That's like that's a category
of content, right, the food stuff and watching people do
day to day things. But I'm saying when people go
on trips, I want to see the outrageous stuff because
I'm like, holy hell, like that is incredible. But you know,
everyone has an opinion at the end of the day.
(06:43):
People are people were making videos like if you have
anything negative to say about this trip, just say you're jealous.
That's all it. Just say you're jealous. Yeah, I'm jealous.
I'm like, Wow, that's amazing. I don't necessarily think that
that's what you need to have an amazing bachelorette, but
what an incredible opportunity totally to do that totally and
(07:04):
they entertained. I watched so much of the content, Oh.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
My gosh, really, just you should go back and watch it.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
You have a lot of scrolling hours.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I love that for me, actually, I love you know.
I also this is like so weird. I love seeing
like one event through the eyes of like multiple people there,
do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Like, like what kind of event.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Like Coachella, for instance, We're seeing it from people who
were there with brands and seeing people who were camping,
and like seeing all the different sides of it. Like
I really thoroughly enjoyed that, Like seeing the people who
were talking with just about the food versus the people
who were there just for the music versus the people
who were just there for their outfits.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Like I love it too.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I loved Coachella content specifically.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
There was this clip of Amaya Papaya there because they're,
you know, like you know, the show Beyond the Villa.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
It doesn't seem to be doing well and they don't
it seems like people aren't liking the cast as much
seeing them be on the villa.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Yeah, fears people do not want to see them be
on the villa, but they There's like this little video
of they're asking a Mile like did you watch Beyond
the Villa Season one? And she was like I saw
clips on on social media and I was like, that's
how we all ingest our content these days. Yeah, seeing
the clips online.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah, I don't think people are loving everyone's personalities on
beyond the villa. Yeah, I haven't seen anything great about it. Like,
if anything, I've seen people turn on the girls and
they're like all fans of or going back to liking
Pepe and and all this stuff. I just looking bad Hannah.
I keep seeing people talk about Hannah. Oh she was
(08:39):
so beloved now saying you can't you can't get greedy.
If what you're on.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Top, you gotta just stay on there, like, don't be
don't be doing these reality TV shows, Just stay on top.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I kind of feel like Leah did that, and like Leah.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Okay Tep Yeah, I always say to her name wrong.
Everybody literally tells me every time I say it wrong,
it's a TEP and I say k TB, So that
makes sense. So it's what is it, KTEB?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
I think it's KTEB. And she just kind of does
her thing but didn't really do beyond. She was doing it,
I know, but she wasn't really. I don't have memories
of her talking like she knew to stay out of
the dramas. When I'm saying, oh, I feel, I feel
she knew knew where to stay to make sure no
(09:23):
one could switch up on her.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I can't believe that they turned on Hannah. She was
like the most beloved.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I mean, that's just what. I don't know if that's
the overall consensus. It's just what's coming up on my fee.
You can tell me what I'm just saying. I don't know.
I don't know what the general majority is feeling. But
that's just what I've seen these people being like.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Well, let me tell you something about me. There are one, two, three, four, five,
a little less than six weeks until Love Island USA
premieres again.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Heaven?
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Heaven? When do they announce the past? How early do
they announce the cast?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
I don't know the answer to that, because like, I
don't really care, do you know what I mean? Like
you don't care about them until you are watching the show.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
So it's not like.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
I'm going, We're going to F one this weekend in Miami,
So I hope I have some good sightings for it.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Was Hamilton. He is an F one racer, I wonder
if you'll see Kim Kardashian.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
I don't think they're public.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
They're like frolicking on the beach in Malibu.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Right, But that's just a stalker getting or paparazza getting shots.
And I don't think they're out like doing public events together.
I guess is what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
They're not.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I'm just saying I don't know if she would go
and be there, but she I mean I could if
she was gonna be at one. I feel like Miami
could be the one for sure. I'll let you know
if I see her.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Oh, Miami's fun. Do you want to hear about your
atte there?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Oh, well, I'll let you know.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
You know what happened in Miami?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Never Miami?
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Never happened? Who says that Pitbull and the song that
we play every ten minutes?
Speaker 4 (11:01):
I love Miami?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Yeah, John, Yeah, it's mister three or five.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
By the way, you know what I enjoy on social media? Nothing,
It's just one of these things like why do I
enjoy this? I don't know. I love watching people try
to guess beverages they drink the through straw out of
a cardboard box.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
I love that. I want to do that.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
I could watch that all.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Day same, I could do I love those videos.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
I might. I might do it just for fun.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Maybe to describe that to me and have said I
have no interest in that, but I watch them like, yes,
I want more of this, please.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
So I'm always shocked that people when people don't get
them right, I think the harder I think the harder
version is doing the same soda from different places or
different Yeah, like McDonald's can zero diets.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yeah, those are amazing because the ones I watch they
get them all. It's amazing. I watch the other guy
who does all red, all red beverages, all purple beverages,
and those are also very, very enjoyable. But when they're
all versions of coke and they get it right, I'm
blown away.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Yeah, I arrogantly think I could do it, but I
think I'd be humbled. So I'm curus. I'm just curious
about my skill level.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I feel like I saw one with water at one point.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
The thing.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
Mark when you were growing up and you're watching like
these incredible movies and listening to this music and just thinking,
you know, in a few years, I'm gonna watch a
guy guess different red.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Yeah, and yet I'm all in on it. Yeah, I'm
like going into his profile. Done.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
But you know what I think the water one was
that I saw. I think it was an ad for
like like the water purifier for their home.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Yeah, it was like, Yeah, I tried to pitch it
to a brand one time as for a sponsored video,
and they wouldn't let me. And I'm like, this is
because I don't want to compete.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Yeah, but they don't want like their competitors next to them,
you know, just.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Be like yeah, yeah, until I got.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
This can't be.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
I'd have to really put on a but I was.
I was suggesting doing the different drinks from the same company.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
I could never. I would lose so bad. I don't
even know the difference between skirt and seven up I squirt, skirt,
skirt skirt.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I bet you could do squirt the summer. I bet
you could.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
I don't think so mountain do and skirt, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
Well, I mean squirts grapefruit and different Yeah, there's a
different forms of citrus.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
I was mountain dew and mellow yellow. I would struggle with.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
I thought it would be hard to.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Skirt.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
I like, just never drinks. It's actually so funny so
I was like really gassy yesterday, thank you. It was
my period and I was like burping a lot, and
Robbie was like, what did you drink today? I was like,
the last soda I had was the PEPSI I drink
in Mammoth in February, Like I don't drink soda.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
So I was like crazy, Yeah, oh so much soda,
so bad, so bad, you know, to each their own.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
No, we're hoarding the dit coke with lime. Have you
guys had that I have? It's a limited edition. It's
so good, and they like stopped selling it. So every
now and then we'll be at a target, we'll see
if I'm in the sale section. We just like we're
stockpiling die coked.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
A ginger ale when your tummy is upset, it's good.
Nothing's like a Becca.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
I would watch you do like you're a diet doctor,
pepper expert.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
You should do soda.
Speaker 5 (14:40):
I know, I really, I'm surprised you haven't. You're right, yeah,
because you don't know how to make the box, make
the ball poke a hole in a box. Donya, give
me some credit.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Okay, I'm just wondering, like what's stopping you?
Speaker 2 (14:56):
You know, just laziness really dang. Mostly it's what stop
saying from everything.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Yeah, do you think you could do the coke one?
Speaker 2 (15:04):
That's the thing. I think I could do the coke one. Yes,
But I watch people be so confident and then they
don't get them, and I'm like, maybe it's harder out
of side, out of mind, you know.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
But it's also a lot of legwork because somebody's got
to go to the you know, gas station and get
it out of the fountain. Somebody's got, like you got
to go get all the different times.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
I could get a bunch of them at seven to eleven,
that's true. I could hit fountain, bottle, hand diet and bottle,
and then I could just get a different fast you
know Donald's. Yeah, yea, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:34):
I would be impressed to see fountain from different places. Yeah,
because McDonald's has a specific taste which everyone knows. But
like the other I mean, Burger King and Wendy's, I
don't think I could tell.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And my thought is is it the ice that what
is it that makes it taste different in the same
style cup. It's it really is a scientifical It's.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
The syrup comes in a metal container instead of a box.
And it's the ratio of syrup to water. When I
worked at a movie theater, we would do uh, there
was a separator. We could put on the little nozzle
and it would give you just soda, water and just syrup.
And we would take hits of like just syrup sometimes
just right syrup is honestly really good.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Gross.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Good to know what y'all are doing back there. Then
shall we get into some deer.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Well, that's what we're doing, is going to go in
a different tangent about movie theaters.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
We could do that too. We should take a break off.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
You guys don't mind, okay, because I did something in
the movie theater that was like kind of embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Sure we're back, Ah, okay, you had another excuse me moment?
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Well, like not.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Quite because I didn't know well I actually didn't know
that other person either. But so we were sitting down
and Robbie was getting our popcorn and drinks or whatever.
So me and the kids walk up, go to our
seats and there's four people sitting in our seats.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
What movie where you're saying? Tell you this is important
to the story. Movie was Super Mario?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yeah, I couldn't even remember because I did not enjoy it.
I know, spoiler alert, but I like the first one,
so it's no knock on Mario brother brothers.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
Maybe watch the first one, and I watched it on
a plane and I did not particularly care for it.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
It was fun.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Second's yeah, so okay, So there's people sitting in our seats,
and I was like, excuse me, ma'am, I think you're
sitting in our seats, and mind you, it's like her,
her husband and like their two kids. They've all got
their popcorn their laps there. We had like the recliner
seats of horizontal, completely horizontal popcorns in the seats flying
around because they've been sharing already, like in joining the commercials.
(18:02):
And I'm like, you're in our seats. She's like, no, no,
we're in you know, G one, two, three, four, And
I was like, oh, okay, So like I don't even
think about it. But then I look at the seat
in front of me and it's twenty and we're h
twenty in nineteen eighteen seventeen, So I was like, and
I look over and I see they're on the opposite side.
So a normal person would just like take the four
(18:24):
of us who haven't sat down and like ghosted on
their side, and I was like, actually, sorry, mam, you
are in our seats. Where whatever whatever made this family
of four have to recline their seats, get all their
shovel their stuff together, put their jackets back on, and
walk around to the other side of the movie theater.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
So they were in the same row, just on the
other side. Why did you do that?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Because they were in my seats? I didn't even like think,
and then I was like, I'm an asshole.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Oh okay, yeah, well I mean at the end of
the day, it's like, because what if, like.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
They didn't buy those seats, and then halfway through the
movie somebody comes up and is like, ma'am, are not
real seats, you know? And then like I don't know,
Like that's where my mind goes, you know what I mean,
Like I'm going to get because I'm not in my
actual seat, and then what if these seats were like
not actually theirs? And then I'm disrupted. I like to
follow the rules.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Yeah, which I guess in a situation. I guess if
I it would be the same thing as getting on
an airplane and you're in the same row, but someone's
on one window seat and then there's the window seat
on the other side, right, And if someone sat in mind,
I'd be like, oh, no, worries, I'll just take yours
on the side, right.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
I didn't do that, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
But maybe for next time you will. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
It was a learning moment. Yeah, yeah, teaching the moment.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
All we can ask for is to be a student,
to be a sponge of the world.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
Next time, you'll go this has happened before. And then
I bet mid movie someone will come up and go,
these are not real seat.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Are seats? These are stolen seats. I don't know. Like
that's where my head goes.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
We're reminiscing the other day about how assigned seats at
movies is a recent and recent innovation.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Yeah, it makes sense for I don't know that I
love it.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
I love it on our beloved and dearly departed dark
light cinemas used to be the only ones that did it.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Yeah, everyone. But I also feel like in the old days,
we would just say, hey, we should go see a movie. Anyways,
go to the theater. Fifteen we go see it. Now
you'd be you're gonna be sitting apart, You're gonna be
all over the place because now you have to get
them in advance. You really do.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Yeah, I used to have to remember having to call
the theater and seeing what time the movie started.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
Are that I don't remember?
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Quiz my kids. So I'm asking kids, my daughters. I said,
when I was young, how did I know what time
movie started? And they were stumped on that. They really
could not come up with a way. No phones, no internet.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
They like, carry your pigeons.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
They didn't guess carrier pigeons. They might have guessed that
we called them, but we didn't call them. I rarely
called the theater because there was a different way that
we could know the news paper. We were a newspaper family.
They did not come up with that.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Wow, Yeah, we were capturing the gen Z listeners of this.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Well, that's fascinating to them.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
It's like from the land of.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Your I'm proud of it. But I honestly don't remember
those days of like not having a science sea.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
We only oh, not having a signed suit. I mean,
now someone would go and have to save them, and
it was stressful if you were the one having to
save them while people got the snacks.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Yeah, but I also don't know how it worked in
Los Angeles because I was in Madison, Wisconsin. It's really
easy to put the forward theaters that we had in
town in the newspaper. LA had to have fifty theaters. Yeah,
but you have your local newspaper, the La Times.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
No, there's more localer ones.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
So the localer ones had it, not the big ones.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
I would assume, Yeah, that's that was an Orange County
because we had a theater by our house, and it
was like I remember like the Ross Morgazette or something.
Oh okay, yeah, something like that.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Yeah, it's good times. Honestly, I mean we you know,
you watch there's these like nostalgia videos from times of
like nineties, and people, I think even the younger generation
wishes they knew what that was like, because they're so
inundated with social media and phones and technology that they're like,
(22:16):
I can't even imagine a life without having to live
this way.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
And I'm like, it's so fascinating to me because I
feel like I'm always ingesting something. I will have my
phone going on reels and just like going and I'm
like cleaning, I'm listening to a podcast, I'm watching the
television while I'm on my phone, like I'm constantly ingesting
and it's crap too, Like it's like it's like learning
(22:42):
another language, you know, Like it's not it's like stuff
that's you know, Reese Witherspoon has like a secret AI
you know, it's like some conspiracy about Reese Witherspoon.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
I went deep into that one because like, you know,
how she posts that video for like women learn or
like you're gonna get left behind and there was like
all this backlash from it mm hmm and a lot
of people, and then she posted like, oh, I'm so sorry.
I just meant to be helpful. It wasn't like anything.
And then somebody like a deep dive and like her
brand is like partnered with some AI company or something.
I don't know the details. Obviously it didn't stick.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
That's an interesting concept because I do think that technology
is going forward, whether you jump on or not. So
you either jump Onieve.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
Reese withersoend is doing us any harm.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
That's what my thing is. My mentality with anything is
if you want, if you want to stick with what
you know and not learn what's new or what's the
new way of the world, then you have that opportunity,
But I think not learning it is just a disadvantage
because at some point, like our parents who have refused
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to learn certain things because it was too hard or
they don't want to, you know, be a part of
the movement or technology, they're the ones help and if
you don't, if you don't learn it, it's still happening
whether you learn, whether you choose to learn it or not.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
If I may speak against miss Witherspoon, this feels very
much like a few years ago when every celebrity was like,
you got to get an NFT and.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
That's what she did too, though she was saying that too.
Speaker 4 (24:12):
Yeah, And someone on Twitter pointed out that you never
saw this when like no one was like, hey, cell
phones are coming, whether we like it or not, we
need to get used to cell phones, like people just
use them, you know.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
No, it's interesting, Mark, do you mind doing a little
hard search and maybe ask is Hello Sunshine affiliated with
an AI company?
Speaker 2 (24:33):
I do agree, like I do think there's that mentality
of like promoting something secretly that may but it does
feel like, how in my mind, in the worst way possible,
how do they stop AI at this point?
Speaker 4 (24:47):
I mean, you can't I mean like.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
The NFT and bitcoin stuff, which I know the people
got that got involved in that early on are doing
really well for themselves with the bitcoin or whatever. But
I don't know what n bits and coin their bits
in their coins. But yeah, I think it's just one
of those things where it's and I also think though
it's kind of like everything's kind of a man's world,
and so I think her mentality is like, don't don't
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think that just because men are the ones who are
leading the way that women can't also be in on
what what's going on?
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Right?
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
I just choose to believe that Reese Withersman is always
on the right side of the conversation and I will
not be told otherwise. Mark, did you get an inform?
Speaker 3 (25:25):
Yeah, I mean it's pretty different. The Sunshine is owned
by Candle Media, which is owned by an equity firm
called Blackstone. Blackstone is a major investor in AI infrastructure.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Okay, so there's tears here.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
There's tears.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
Blackstone is going to own all of our homes very shortly.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Here is Blackstone like the Grill?
Speaker 4 (25:42):
No, No, they're like a private equity firm. They just
buy up everything. I think they own Zillow, they own
like everything. Oh and they rule.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
They're cool.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I was like, yeah, yeah, I know them heatone.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Well, either way, I am a Blackstone. I have very
I fear a world of AI because it's like, it's
sad the loss of human interaction and thinking for yourself
and doing research. But does it have as advantages at
the same time, Yes, it's me too.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I'm kind of on that side, and like you either
like learn and to adapt or whatever. But my fear
is these jobs that they're replacing, what's everybody going to do?
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Like, that's that's the question.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
What's everyone going to do? We need jobs? What's the
unemployment right now? Well, let's not go down there.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah, let's just's what we know, which is dear bonya.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
There we go.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
All right.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
Here's one from anonymous. I have a mother in law dilemma.
My daughter turned one. We had a birthday party this
past weekend. My in laws are nice people, but they're
very overbearing. They would see us every weekend if they could,
but they live a few hours away, which helps. At
the party, I saw my mother in law kiss my
daughter on the mouth, and my mother in law had
a cold sore on lip At the time, I was
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really strict about this when my daughter was a newborn.
But even now I don't like anyone kissing her on
the lips. My husband and I don't even do that.
I mentioned to have a husband. He said he didn't notice,
but now I don't know how to handle it. They
don't watch her alone often, but they do sometime, and
this freaked me out. Am I the crazy one?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
No? No, but I need to know. I did not
grow in a house where we kissed on the lips.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
I did not, either did anyone else any lip kissers
in here?
Speaker 3 (27:25):
Mark's mom is a lip kisser.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Yes, okay, I think I'll be a lip kisser though
in my next era of life.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Why are you? Why would you choose that?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Though? Because I already like lip kiss my dog? So
I feel like, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Hello, Are you gonna like lip kiss up until like
a certain point?
Speaker 2 (27:49):
No?
Speaker 1 (27:49):
No, no, no, no, like when they're a baby. Yeah, I
don't know. I'm just I'm just I'm just guessing that
I'm Robbie a lip kisser. No, he's not.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Okay, are you a lip kisser your kids? Okay? Are you?
Speaker 1 (28:03):
I also feel like dad the daughters is a little weird.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
But even when they're a baby.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
No, I've never Tom Brady got a lot of heat
his son. Oh really as a child. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Anyway, yeah, to each their own. Well, yeah, I guess
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Do you wish? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
It throws me a little bit personally. Yeah, I don't know.
I don't know, but anyway, you don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
I just feel like when you have a baby, but
there's a wage where you just go this, we got
to stop this.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
You're like, it's not the conversation here. To each their own,
but how does she deal with it when she doesn't
approve of her mother in law doing that?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
I would say, I personally did not grow up in
a in a family where we kiss on the lips,
and your son, my husband and I we also are
not doing that, so we'd really I know it's hard
because she's so cute and and that's how y'all grew
up raising your kids, but I just we would really
appreciate it if you know when you're watching her that
you don't gets her on the lips, just because there's
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so much in the air and her immune she's small,
and her immune system isn't strong and we just don't
want to risk it.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
I would have my husband do it.
Speaker 3 (29:16):
He's got to step up here.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Yeah, I would one hundred percent. I mean, I'm trying
to put myself in this situation. If my mother in
law did that and I saw it, I would be like, girl,
we're not doing that. Like I would totally say that
to her. But she's cool and I'd feel like she
would listen to me. But you have to say it
in the moment.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Law are sensitive though she's gonna be like, oh, okay, Oh,
I guess I don't know anything about raising children. Oh oh,
I guess I'm gross. I guess I'm disgusting that you
know she's gonna be difficult, especially if it as overbearing
as you say.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
I feel like in the moment, I would have addressed it,
Like if I saw it happening, I'd be like I
would go in there. But since the moment has passed,
I feel like you have to have your husband do
it and have your husband have the conversation because it's
his mom. If it were my mom, I would have
the conversation with her and he has to just be
firm on that and just be like and.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Don't make it about her personally, make it about like
a cold sword.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
But you could pass herpies that way.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
No, no, no, no, it's totally true.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Yeah, and like so many people have herpies nowadays because
of that. Can you look it up?
Speaker 2 (30:19):
I would just say, yeah, I think your husband has
to say something, and I would, but I agree. I
think she's going to get defensive, so I would just
say her music is not strong. I know your protical,
I know you're proud.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
You cannot say that.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
I would just say, you know, we're we were not
kissing on the lips, Like, we don't even kiss her
on the lips, So we'd really appreciate if you respected
that boundary.
Speaker 5 (30:50):
Yeah, but your husband's got it, got a step unless
you see it.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Again, unless you see her do it and you see
her in the action. I would, I would.
Speaker 3 (31:00):
You would not, Yes, I don't think you would.
Speaker 5 (31:04):
No.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
Yeah, it's awkward, it's not okay, fine.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Yeah, this is your husband's job, all right.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Another anonymous Growing up, I always got my hair short,
but everyone long ever since I met my husband and
we got married. Now we have little kids, and summer's
coming and I'm thinking about going back to something shorter
and easier. When I brought it up, he said he
really hopes I don't cut it because he loves it long.
I was excited about the change, but now I'm torn.
I don't want to disappoint him, but it's my hair
and I miss having it short. Do I take his
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opinion new account and keep it longer, Just go for
it and do what I want?
Speaker 1 (31:38):
I mean, come on, this is like, this is like
one oh one, Yeah, you do what you want girl. Yeah,
you cut your hair. Your hair, here's a no uterus,
no opinion.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Hey what Yeah, Haley likes my hair darker. But I
just get highlights and say thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Opinion about he's oh, you look gorgeous like that. Oh
you look great with that. I'm like, come on, yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
No, but I'm just like but she never She's always like,
oh my gosh. But then I'll do it blonde, and
she's like, you look so beautiful, and I'm like, I
think you like my hair lighter. You just don't know it. Yeah,
But I do what I want. Yeah, And Haley does
what she wants. And we can have our opinions on things,
but at the end of the day, it's your hair,
you're styling it. You have kids pulling on it, yeah,
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and you don't have kids pulling on it.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
It goes both ways too. Like the other day, like
Robbie loves cutting his hair. It's like his favorite pastime.
Speaker 3 (32:34):
Oh, he loves his hair.
Speaker 1 (32:36):
Yes, in the sink every night, he's like every night,
i'd say four out of seven nights, well, tweaking it,
tweaking it like a little here, a little there, little here,
a little there. It's like his favorite thing to do.
Speaker 4 (32:49):
And I'm like, it looks great.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
He just hey, it does a great job.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
Thank you. I'll pass it along and I'll be like, babe,
like enough of the cutting of your hair. Like I'll
tell him, like, just let's grow it own. Just keep
cutting it. Yeah. I do like a longer. I feel
like it looks more distinguished.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
But even when it grows out longer, he's still chopping away.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
And it's like, but it's not. He's not giving himself
a full haircut every night. It's just like a little
trim little yeah, like, oh, I'll see like a little
thing here, I'll snip it. I have hair all over
the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
All that's a big issue.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
But it does clean up after himself. He will like
swipe it into the thing and wipe it down and
like you know, like he does. He doesn't just like
leave it, which I appreciate, but like you can't get
rid of hire one hundred percent of hair like that,
do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (33:35):
I really don't.
Speaker 4 (33:36):
I shave in the backyard because of that, because I've
never been able to get it like completely clean, because
I like and my hair is like so coarse and dark.
It's like I use an electric.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Sha shave in the back shave in the backyard.
Speaker 4 (33:49):
I have a Wow. My neighbors love this. I have
a magnetic mirror that attaches to like we have like
a pergola out there, and I just go out there
with my electric shaver, put the mirror up, shave.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
Should you send me the link to that mareor yes?
Speaker 4 (34:03):
Happily I go back inside and that's it.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Yeah, fascinating.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
If he's doing it at night, he's not gonna go
out there. You're very well.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
If I put a mirror out there.
Speaker 4 (34:15):
I've done a night except my alex a w ale
light up spotlight.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
I'll give it a little spotlight out there.
Speaker 4 (34:21):
It's easy.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Wow, thank you for the idea. Easton Welcome.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Yeah, girl, cut that hair. Wait, so we have two
anonymous emails, but they seem they seem like they're from
like the same friendship, but two different sides, which we've
never had before. And we're not confirmed if this is true.
It just feels like that. So we're going to read
those when we come back. We're bout okay, So these
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are not from they're not connected, we.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
Don't think so. Well. Yeah, I feel like they offer
insight to each other.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Yeah, which I love.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
This is the first one. I have a friend and
need some advice. I've been close with his friend for
ten years. I'm in college, but our lives are very
different now. I'm married, two kids. She's single, really wants
to start a family. We find a partner. She's very
open about feeling jealous of friends who already have that
within two hours apartner. With the past few years, I'm
always going to her. I go for her birthdays, holidays, dinners, everything,
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but she's always quote too busy to come to me
and gets annoyed if I ask to bring my kids
or if she wants to meet them. I try to
be understanding because I know there's a sensitive area for her,
but it's starting to feel one sided. When I told
her I was pregnant, her response was, oh, I'm so jealous,
and that kind of sums up the vibe. I feel
like she can't be happy for me because I'm putting
in all the effort. What should I do? All Right?
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We got that one that was number one, now number two.
I'm about to be thirty three and I'm so single.
All my friends are married in relationships and most have kids.
I've always been proud of not settling and being okay
on my own, but I'm really down about it. I'm
always a single one. I don't know if I'll ever
get to experience getting engaged, getting married, having a family.
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I try to channel by Entertania and put myself out there,
but it's hard. Some days. This might sound cringe, but
what I'm feeling especially down. I go back to listen
to Tanya's dating, engagement, and wedding episodes and lists me up.
But it also reminds me I haven't had those moments yet,
and I'm feeling very jealous of my friends who are
starting families. But I feel guilty for having those feelings.
Tanya and Beckett, do you feel this kind of envy
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or jealousy and how do you deal with it? But
these could be the same people, well.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
Done, wouldn't Yeah, I definitely feel like that these could
be from the same dynamic. You can what are your
what is your take? Should we start with the first one?
Speaker 1 (36:56):
Well, I mean, it's like it's like two sides of
the same coin.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
So I'm going to start at the first email. So
here's my thought process on this is that you are
y'all are in very different seasons of life. You have kids,
and you have to consider your kids' schedule, your husband's Like,
you're in a very different stage where you're having to
think about other people in your life, specifically especially having kids,
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because I feel like they're just on their schedule and
you kind of have to be upon that as much
as you can, especially depending on how old they are.
So having a friendship with someone who is in a
totally different season of life, who isn't making any effort
to really meet you in the middle when it comes
to spending time together or having a relationship with you,
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makes it even more difficult. Like you almost need a
friend who you need a friendship even if that's what
she's wanting, and even if she feels jealous, if she
wants to be in your life, like she does have
to make an effort regardless of how busy she is
doing whatever she wants. I think that's in anything though, right.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yeah, it's like such a weird It's such a it's
such a weird thing because I feel like when I
was single and watching everybody get married, I was so
jealous and it was but not jealous to the point
where I took it out on them, right, Like it
just made me. It was more like jealous sad, Like
I was just like, why haven't I had that yet?
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And then also I'm in this stage of life where
I'm seeing like friends get pregnant, and like that creates
a whole different type of emotion in me too. So
it's like all these feelings that she's having are so
normal and I think everybody experiences. But it's so funny
because I just feel like we always want what we
don't have, do you know what I mean? And like
we can never appreciate this season that we're in and
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the things that we do have because we're always wanting
something else. So like the friend that has the kids
in the life. I'm sure she's jealous of her friend
who has all of her free time and gets to
do whatever she wants, Do you know what I mean?
Like we're always comparing, and we're always jealous, and we're
always is kind of having those feelings. That being said,
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I feel like when you have a baby, especially in
those first few months, your life changes dramatically, and I
feel like as the single person, you do have to
make more of an effort to be there for that friend.
Like when I was a single one in my family
and we had holidays, I always just did whatever my
family wanted because I was a single one, so it
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was like easy, do you know what I mean? So
I feel like you kind of do have to take
that on.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
Yeah, I mean now, I like, Ali's one of my
best friends and she has a nine month old baby,
and it's like, when I want to hang out with Ali,
I know that I am seeing Ali and remy the baby,
and it's like it's a new season because there's this
added element to it. But I love this season of
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getting to watch her baby grow up and get to
be in this season of life with her as my
best friend because she is going through this and I
get to be a part of it with her, you know.
And I also know that I have to focus also
on friendships that are in the same season of life
because Allie's not always going to be available to hang
out with me. So it's like I have to also
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seek out friendships who are able to and nurture those
friendships who are also in the same season of life.
And it's finding that balance of both because I want
to be I want Allie to be my best friend
in every season of life, so regardless of how often
I'm going to see her or what we're going through,
I want to be there and experience it with her.
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And then also, like I think about Britt having two boys,
and like when we want to see each other, they
just the kids come and it's a new experience, but
it's still so fun because I'm getting to watch her
in this season, and then when the times when I
get to have her and someone's babysitting the kids, it's
even it's so special, And I think it's just kind
of where at that age, I personally have never experienced
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the jealousy of wanting marriage or kids, Like I cannot
relate to that at all. Because I always found I
felt very content in my single era and then I
met Hayley, and I don't envy. I don't really feel
envy about any of it. So I I'm having a
hard time with the second email because I I haven't
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experienced that. Yeah, but I know that you felt that
very heavily going through like going to like bridal showers
and weddings while you were in your single era, like
really wanting them.
Speaker 1 (41:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:36):
So I think it's just one of those things of
continuing to pour into yourself and love yourself and find
the things that you love and feeling content without needing someone,
because if you have a void, it can't be expected
for someone to fill that void.
Speaker 3 (41:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:56):
And I just want to say, like, I do understand
like the frustration, because I do you feel like there
was a point in my life when I was single
and I was going to every wedding shower, every baby shower,
every this, spending my money going to this, spending my
money going to that, and then I obviously got married.
I want to say say later in life, but like
I don't feel like I guess I did. I guess
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I'm like a late late later marrier. Later bride, and
a lot of those people were not involved at all,
didn't eat you know what I mean, Like, didn't come
to anything. I would They weren't even invited to anything
because there was just they hadn't even met my husband,
you know what I mean. Because but I don't put
any blame on them because they got married and then
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they had kids and their lives just turned into a
whole different situation. And so it's just like it's just
the nature of kind of how that happens and how
it unfolds and you get mom friends and you get
you know what I mean, Like it just happens, and
so I don't know, I feel like you have. You
can be jealous, but don't let it like.
Speaker 3 (42:57):
I think I.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
Wouldn't let it as jealousy as much as it's something
that you know that you want, a desire, Like it's
a desire that you want and and you're I truly
believe that when when a desire that that's that strong
is in your heart, that it's gonna happen. But you
you can't rush it, you know. You couldn't Tanya couldn't
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rush Robbie. I couldn't rush Hailey like you're just and
you didn't try. I think, if anything, you're a testament
that you can't rush it because it it's supposed to happen,
so I think, and also be there for your friends
who are also in a new stage of life and
make sure they're showing up for you. And if they
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can't show up for you as a friend, that in
the way that you need to find friends who are
in the same stage of your life. Yeah, because it
really is important, you know. And it's not saying, oh,
I can't have friends that are in a different stage
of life. It's just, hey, I know I need something
more than they're able to give me right now. And
that's that's the circle of life.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
It again the sickle. I can't even picture myself trying
to make like new friends.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Really, I feel like that makes so much, so many
new friends.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Oh yeah, tell me more.
Speaker 2 (44:15):
I just we make new friends. I think it's so important.
You haven't made new friends, you have new friends. I
feel like, ever since you married Robbie, y'all have friends
that y'all go on double dates with.
Speaker 1 (44:28):
The are his best friends and their wife.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
But they're your new friends too.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
Yeah, but it's different. It's not like I'm like going
up to someone and being like, Hi, Sally, like our
kids play together, Like do you want to have a
play date? Like that seems so weird.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
Because you you, like, realistically, when are you fitting a
new friend to put the energy into in your life?
Speaker 1 (44:46):
You know what I'm saying, My energy right now is
really on Barbara Bral Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Yeah, when you got Barbecue Brawl, Like, there's no time
for new friends, no new friends when BBQ Brawl is on.
But I will say, Haley and I, but.
Speaker 1 (45:04):
It's just so funny because I just did a whole
deep dive into all the people from barb you, Like,
there are just all new people. I've never seen these
people of new friends. Yeah, yeah, new friends, all their Instagrams. Yeah,
it's just funny. Yeah, it's a whole new world, this
cheffing world.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
I also feel Haley and I have made a lot
of friends that are like when WLW relationships. And I
think it's also really important to have the same, like
the same experience, because there's a lot of things where,
like you, most of my friends can't relate to my
my experience, you know, such as falling in love with
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a woman.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
Tell me more, just like falling in love is falling
in love.
Speaker 2 (45:49):
Yeah, but you go through different things when it's a
woman based on just society, Okay, So like making friends
who are part of the community has been like really
amazing and I don't know, I think there's just but
we have the time for you know, nothing but time.
We don't if we were watching barbecue Brawl, like we
(46:10):
would not have that extra time to invest. But we're
wide open.
Speaker 1 (46:15):
Well yeah, you guys have Survivor to watch, so oh.
Speaker 2 (46:18):
Yeah, that's true, which I'm sure Hayley's watching at home
right now. All right, we have to wrap it up,
but just a reminder, if you ever have dilemmas, need advice,
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Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
I'll let you have your moment.
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Then I said we could hard.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I'm nothing if I'm not a student today, I'm fine.
Oh just fine, yeah, just a little fine. Why I'm
just crampy, Yeah, crampy and crabby.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I'm a little krabby too.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Dang. Yeah. When are you getting yours any day?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Now?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, So I'm we're.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
All right into each other.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm I'm like on my like
nearing my rage feeling and then and then it'll come.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
It's really crazy, like when you think about it, like
we just bleed out.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
I was talking Alison about this yesterday.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
It's so crazy to me.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
And do you have like two weeks out of the
entire months just kind of stolen from you?
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yeah, because when you're not physically, as Donia's so eloquently
put it, bleeding out, you are going through just all
the emotions.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, of life, yes, yes, And like what's so crazy
is like when you're in your trying to conceive season
of life. Yes, the same pre period symptoms are like
pregnancy symptoms. So you're like, oh, my nipples are hurting,
and you're like, oh my god. And then you're like, oh,
they hurt every month before I get my period, you
(01:38):
know what I mean. So then I'm like, I've never
asked chatchbet more stuff in my life and it's always
like split it could be this, and it could be this.
I'm like, yeah, thanks for that information.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I think that's the information, and a doctor would give
two though. Yeah, it could be like I can't just
text my doctor right now. Chat you b T he
got me? Yeah? Wait? Did you see there is this
group of girls that went on this bachelorette party, Acquired
Style and her group of friends.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
You didn't see her style?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
No, my gosh. Social media is so weird because.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Your feelings are.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Inundated with this one thing and you're like everyone knows
about this, and then.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
And then here comes Tony on the other side of everything. Hallelujah.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
So this group of girls, it's these identical twins and
one of them they're her user name is acquired Style.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Okay, anyone else I would recognize on this trip?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Do you know Lauren Wolf? She's an amazing travel influencer
kit Keenan. She was on The Bachelor. Nope, I don't
think you know anyone else.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Okay, so.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Acquired style. I think her name is Bridget Bridget and
her identical sister is Danielle. So Bridget is planning her
bachelorette party and the whole time she's kind of showing
leading up to it. These are just people that are
really good at creating social media content. And she has
a theme for it called Acquired a Husband. That's the
(03:07):
bachelorette theme. She acquired a husband. So they they she
starts off and she's in this penthouse suite in New
York and she's getting all her bridesmaids their spray tnds
or all the girls going on the trip their spray
tands and she documents it. And then it's time for
the trip and they get this insane private jet to
Saint Bart's okay, and it has like bedrooms on it,
(03:30):
this private jet. It's crazy. Another rich well that everyone's
trying to figure out, like what I mean that's just
being able to get a private jet, much less that
private jet is insane. How much that could cost? Yeah,
So then she's promoting this. It's like an AI mirror,
so it's a travel mirror, and it's like, if you're
(03:53):
looking at the mirror, it puts the place where you
should put your blush and content and everything. So it's
called Beauty. I guess it's a big beauty brand, Swan Baby.
So everyone's like, we've never heard of Swan Beauty, and
now they're they paid for this private jet and sponsored
this trip.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
They sponsored her bachelorette.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
So then you find out she she's friends with the
daughter of the owner of the company. Okay, so they're
just loaded and they have like a yaw and st
Bart's all this stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Okay, but the way they.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Are churning out content every almost all the girls who
are influencers on the trip.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
So there's a group of girls and you know, you
always have the bachelorette where there's girls who are not
not fond or care about social media, and then you
have the girls who love social media and the girls
that are the social media content creators are they're just
pumping out content, so everyone's you're getting it from it.
(04:50):
If you watch one, you're getting all of okay, and
it was insane. So now everyone's like I can't believe
my bachelorette is after this, and everyone's like, thank god,
my bachelorette was before this. And someone's like, my friend,
my all my friends sending me the private jet video,
like we're not getting a private jet. But it was
(05:12):
just the craziest thing ever, and they crushed it. I
don't know how they did it.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, so it was an inspirational aspirational I would say,
but anyway, your own bachelorette. No, no, but all these
people have opinions on this, right, they're like, oh, in
this economy, it feels so like in your face. And
I'm like, when I get on social media, I want
people who are aspirational. I don't want to watch people
(05:37):
doing the same. Like I'm trying to watch people who
are living bigger than me because I want to live bigger.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
So it's funny that you say that, because I too
love that. I love seeing like people's like amazing trips
and like things that are like very out of reach
for me.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
But then I also like love seeing like the there's
this s girl that I follow that she's like what
I eat in a day as a battie, and she
just like it's just like she's just doing it, eating
like I don't know, big Coca Cola and some Papa,
some donuts and you know what i mean. She's like
go through her day and it's just very like not curated,
(06:17):
not cute. She's just like doing it in the thing.
And I'm like, I also love that content too, do
you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Yeah, but that's like her. That's like that's a category
of content, right, the food stuff and watching people do
day to day things. But I'm saying when people go
on trips, I want to see the outrageous stuff because
I'm like, holy hell, like that is incredible. But you know,
everyone has an opinion at the end of the day.
(06:43):
People are people were making videos like if you have
anything negative to say about this trip, just say you're jealous.
That's all it. Just say you're jealous. Yeah, I'm jealous.
I'm like, Wow, that's amazing. I don't necessarily think that
that's what you need to have an amazing bachelorette, but
what an incredible opportunity totally to do that totally and
(07:04):
they entertained. I watched so much of the content, Oh.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
My gosh, really, just you should go back and watch it.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
You have a lot of scrolling hours.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I love that for me, actually, I love you know.
I also this is like so weird. I love seeing
like one event through the eyes of like multiple people there,
do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Like, like what kind of event.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Like Coachella, for instance, We're seeing it from people who
were there with brands and seeing people who were camping,
and like seeing all the different sides of it. Like
I really thoroughly enjoyed that, Like seeing the people who
were talking with just about the food versus the people
who were there just for the music versus the people
who were just there for their outfits.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Like I love it too.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I loved Coachella content specifically.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
There was this clip of Amaya Papaya there because they're,
you know, like you know, the show Beyond the Villa.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
It doesn't seem to be doing well and they don't
it seems like people aren't liking the cast as much
seeing them be on the villa.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Yeah, fears people do not want to see them be
on the villa, but they There's like this little video
of they're asking a Mile like did you watch Beyond
the Villa Season one? And she was like I saw
clips on on social media and I was like, that's
how we all ingest our content these days. Yeah, seeing
the clips online.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah, I don't think people are loving everyone's personalities on
beyond the villa. Yeah, I haven't seen anything great about it. Like,
if anything, I've seen people turn on the girls and
they're like all fans of or going back to liking
Pepe and and all this stuff. I just looking bad Hannah.
I keep seeing people talk about Hannah. Oh she was
(08:39):
so beloved now saying you can't you can't get greedy.
If what you're on.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Top, you gotta just stay on there, like, don't be
don't be doing these reality TV shows, Just stay on top.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I kind of feel like Leah did that, and like Leah.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Okay Tep Yeah, I always say to her name wrong.
Everybody literally tells me every time I say it wrong,
it's a TEP and I say k TB, So that
makes sense. So it's what is it, KTEB?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
I think it's KTEB. And she just kind of does
her thing but didn't really do beyond. She was doing it,
I know, but she wasn't really. I don't have memories
of her talking like she knew to stay out of
the dramas. When I'm saying, oh, I feel, I feel
she knew knew where to stay to make sure no
(09:23):
one could switch up on her.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I can't believe that they turned on Hannah. She was
like the most beloved.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I mean, that's just what. I don't know if that's
the overall consensus. It's just what's coming up on my fee.
You can tell me what I'm just saying. I don't know.
I don't know what the general majority is feeling. But
that's just what I've seen these people being like.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Well, let me tell you something about me. There are one, two, three, four, five,
a little less than six weeks until Love Island USA
premieres again.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Heaven?
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Heaven? When do they announce the past? How early do
they announce the cast?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
I don't know the answer to that, because like, I
don't really care, do you know what I mean? Like
you don't care about them until you are watching the show.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
So it's not like.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
I'm going, We're going to F one this weekend in Miami,
So I hope I have some good sightings for it.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Was Hamilton. He is an F one racer, I wonder
if you'll see Kim Kardashian.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
I don't think they're public.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
They're like frolicking on the beach in Malibu.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Right, But that's just a stalker getting or paparazza getting shots.
And I don't think they're out like doing public events together.
I guess is what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
They're not.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I'm just saying I don't know if she would go
and be there, but she I mean I could if
she was gonna be at one. I feel like Miami
could be the one for sure. I'll let you know
if I see her.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Oh, Miami's fun. Do you want to hear about your
atte there?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Oh, well, I'll let you know.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
You know what happened in Miami?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Never Miami?
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Never happened? Who says that Pitbull and the song that
we play every ten minutes?
Speaker 4 (11:01):
I love Miami?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Yeah, John, Yeah, it's mister three or five.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
By the way, you know what I enjoy on social media? Nothing,
It's just one of these things like why do I
enjoy this? I don't know. I love watching people try
to guess beverages they drink the through straw out of
a cardboard box.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
I love that. I want to do that.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
I could watch that all.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Day same, I could do I love those videos.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
I might. I might do it just for fun.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Maybe to describe that to me and have said I
have no interest in that, but I watch them like, yes,
I want more of this, please.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
So I'm always shocked that people when people don't get
them right, I think the harder I think the harder
version is doing the same soda from different places or
different Yeah, like McDonald's can zero diets.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Yeah, those are amazing because the ones I watch they
get them all. It's amazing. I watch the other guy
who does all red, all red beverages, all purple beverages,
and those are also very, very enjoyable. But when they're
all versions of coke and they get it right, I'm
blown away.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Yeah, I arrogantly think I could do it, but I
think I'd be humbled. So I'm curus. I'm just curious
about my skill level.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I feel like I saw one with water at one point.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
The thing.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
Mark when you were growing up and you're watching like
these incredible movies and listening to this music and just thinking,
you know, in a few years, I'm gonna watch a
guy guess different red.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Yeah, and yet I'm all in on it. Yeah, I'm
like going into his profile. Done.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
But you know what I think the water one was
that I saw. I think it was an ad for
like like the water purifier for their home.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Yeah, it was like, Yeah, I tried to pitch it
to a brand one time as for a sponsored video,
and they wouldn't let me. And I'm like, this is
because I don't want to compete.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Yeah, but they don't want like their competitors next to them,
you know, just.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Be like yeah, yeah, until I got.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
This can't be.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
I'd have to really put on a but I was.
I was suggesting doing the different drinks from the same company.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
I could never. I would lose so bad. I don't
even know the difference between skirt and seven up I squirt, skirt,
skirt skirt.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I bet you could do squirt the summer. I bet
you could.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
I don't think so mountain do and skirt, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
Well, I mean squirts grapefruit and different Yeah, there's a
different forms of citrus.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
I was mountain dew and mellow yellow. I would struggle with.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
I thought it would be hard to.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Skirt.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
I like, just never drinks. It's actually so funny so
I was like really gassy yesterday, thank you. It was
my period and I was like burping a lot, and
Robbie was like, what did you drink today? I was like,
the last soda I had was the PEPSI I drink
in Mammoth in February, Like I don't drink soda.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
So I was like crazy, Yeah, oh so much soda,
so bad, so bad, you know, to each their own.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
No, we're hoarding the dit coke with lime. Have you
guys had that I have? It's a limited edition. It's
so good, and they like stopped selling it. So every
now and then we'll be at a target, we'll see
if I'm in the sale section. We just like we're
stockpiling die coked.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
A ginger ale when your tummy is upset, it's good.
Nothing's like a Becca.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
I would watch you do like you're a diet doctor,
pepper expert.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
You should do soda.
Speaker 5 (14:40):
I know, I really, I'm surprised you haven't. You're right, yeah,
because you don't know how to make the box, make
the ball poke a hole in a box. Donya, give
me some credit.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Okay, I'm just wondering, like what's stopping you?
Speaker 2 (14:56):
You know, just laziness really dang. Mostly it's what stop
saying from everything.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Yeah, do you think you could do the coke one?
Speaker 2 (15:04):
That's the thing. I think I could do the coke one. Yes,
But I watch people be so confident and then they
don't get them, and I'm like, maybe it's harder out
of side, out of mind, you know.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
But it's also a lot of legwork because somebody's got
to go to the you know, gas station and get
it out of the fountain. Somebody's got, like you got
to go get all the different times.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
I could get a bunch of them at seven to eleven,
that's true. I could hit fountain, bottle, hand diet and bottle,
and then I could just get a different fast you
know Donald's. Yeah, yea, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (15:34):
I would be impressed to see fountain from different places. Yeah,
because McDonald's has a specific taste which everyone knows. But
like the other I mean, Burger King and Wendy's, I
don't think I could tell.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And my thought is is it the ice that what
is it that makes it taste different in the same
style cup. It's it really is a scientifical It's.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
The syrup comes in a metal container instead of a box.
And it's the ratio of syrup to water. When I
worked at a movie theater, we would do uh, there
was a separator. We could put on the little nozzle
and it would give you just soda, water and just syrup.
And we would take hits of like just syrup sometimes
just right syrup is honestly really good.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Gross.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Good to know what y'all are doing back there. Then
shall we get into some deer.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Well, that's what we're doing, is going to go in
a different tangent about movie theaters.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
We could do that too. We should take a break off.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
You guys don't mind, okay, because I did something in
the movie theater that was like kind of embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Sure we're back, Ah, okay, you had another excuse me moment?
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Well, like not.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Quite because I didn't know well I actually didn't know
that other person either. But so we were sitting down
and Robbie was getting our popcorn and drinks or whatever.
So me and the kids walk up, go to our
seats and there's four people sitting in our seats.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
What movie where you're saying? Tell you this is important
to the story. Movie was Super Mario?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yeah, I couldn't even remember because I did not enjoy it.
I know, spoiler alert, but I like the first one,
so it's no knock on Mario brother brothers.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
Maybe watch the first one, and I watched it on
a plane and I did not particularly care for it.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
It was fun.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Second's yeah, so okay, So there's people sitting in our seats,
and I was like, excuse me, ma'am, I think you're
sitting in our seats, and mind you, it's like her,
her husband and like their two kids. They've all got
their popcorn their laps there. We had like the recliner
seats of horizontal, completely horizontal popcorns in the seats flying
around because they've been sharing already, like in joining the commercials.
(18:02):
And I'm like, you're in our seats. She's like, no, no,
we're in you know, G one, two, three, four, And
I was like, oh, okay, So like I don't even
think about it. But then I look at the seat
in front of me and it's twenty and we're h
twenty in nineteen eighteen seventeen, So I was like, and
I look over and I see they're on the opposite side.
So a normal person would just like take the four
(18:24):
of us who haven't sat down and like ghosted on
their side, and I was like, actually, sorry, mam, you
are in our seats. Where whatever whatever made this family
of four have to recline their seats, get all their
shovel their stuff together, put their jackets back on, and
walk around to the other side of the movie theater.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
So they were in the same row, just on the
other side. Why did you do that?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Because they were in my seats? I didn't even like think,
and then I was like, I'm an asshole.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Oh okay, yeah, well I mean at the end of
the day, it's like, because what if, like.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
They didn't buy those seats, and then halfway through the
movie somebody comes up and is like, ma'am, are not
real seats, you know? And then like I don't know,
Like that's where my mind goes, you know what I mean,
Like I'm going to get because I'm not in my
actual seat, and then what if these seats were like
not actually theirs? And then I'm disrupted. I like to
follow the rules.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Yeah, which I guess in a situation. I guess if
I it would be the same thing as getting on
an airplane and you're in the same row, but someone's
on one window seat and then there's the window seat
on the other side, right, And if someone sat in mind,
I'd be like, oh, no, worries, I'll just take yours
on the side, right.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
I didn't do that, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
But maybe for next time you will. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
It was a learning moment. Yeah, yeah, teaching the moment.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
All we can ask for is to be a student,
to be a sponge of the world.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
Next time, you'll go this has happened before. And then
I bet mid movie someone will come up and go,
these are not real seat.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Are seats? These are stolen seats. I don't know. Like
that's where my head goes.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
We're reminiscing the other day about how assigned seats at
movies is a recent and recent innovation.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Yeah, it makes sense for I don't know that I
love it.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
I love it on our beloved and dearly departed dark
light cinemas used to be the only ones that did it.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
Yeah, everyone. But I also feel like in the old days,
we would just say, hey, we should go see a movie. Anyways,
go to the theater. Fifteen we go see it. Now
you'd be you're gonna be sitting apart, You're gonna be
all over the place because now you have to get
them in advance. You really do.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Yeah, I used to have to remember having to call
the theater and seeing what time the movie started.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
Are that I don't remember?
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Quiz my kids. So I'm asking kids, my daughters. I said,
when I was young, how did I know what time
movie started? And they were stumped on that. They really
could not come up with a way. No phones, no internet.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
They like, carry your pigeons.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
They didn't guess carrier pigeons. They might have guessed that
we called them, but we didn't call them. I rarely
called the theater because there was a different way that
we could know the news paper. We were a newspaper family.
They did not come up with that.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Wow, Yeah, we were capturing the gen Z listeners of this.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Well, that's fascinating to them.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
It's like from the land of.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Your I'm proud of it. But I honestly don't remember
those days of like not having a science sea.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
We only oh, not having a signed suit. I mean,
now someone would go and have to save them, and
it was stressful if you were the one having to
save them while people got the snacks.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Yeah, but I also don't know how it worked in
Los Angeles because I was in Madison, Wisconsin. It's really
easy to put the forward theaters that we had in
town in the newspaper. LA had to have fifty theaters. Yeah,
but you have your local newspaper, the La Times.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
No, there's more localer ones.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
So the localer ones had it, not the big ones.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
I would assume, Yeah, that's that was an Orange County
because we had a theater by our house, and it
was like I remember like the Ross Morgazette or something.
Oh okay, yeah, something like that.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Yeah, it's good times. Honestly, I mean we you know,
you watch there's these like nostalgia videos from times of
like nineties, and people, I think even the younger generation
wishes they knew what that was like, because they're so
inundated with social media and phones and technology that they're like,
(22:16):
I can't even imagine a life without having to live
this way.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
And I'm like, it's so fascinating to me because I
feel like I'm always ingesting something. I will have my
phone going on reels and just like going and I'm
like cleaning, I'm listening to a podcast, I'm watching the
television while I'm on my phone, like I'm constantly ingesting
and it's crap too, Like it's like it's like learning
(22:42):
another language, you know, Like it's not it's like stuff
that's you know, Reese Witherspoon has like a secret AI
you know, it's like some conspiracy about Reese Witherspoon.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
I went deep into that one because like, you know,
how she posts that video for like women learn or
like you're gonna get left behind and there was like
all this backlash from it mm hmm and a lot
of people, and then she posted like, oh, I'm so sorry.
I just meant to be helpful. It wasn't like anything.
And then somebody like a deep dive and like her
brand is like partnered with some AI company or something.
I don't know the details. Obviously it didn't stick.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
That's an interesting concept because I do think that technology
is going forward, whether you jump on or not. So
you either jump Onieve.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
Reese withersoend is doing us any harm.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
That's what my thing is. My mentality with anything is
if you want, if you want to stick with what
you know and not learn what's new or what's the
new way of the world, then you have that opportunity,
But I think not learning it is just a disadvantage
because at some point, like our parents who have refused
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to learn certain things because it was too hard or
they don't want to, you know, be a part of
the movement or technology, they're the ones help and if
you don't, if you don't learn it, it's still happening
whether you learn, whether you choose to learn it or not.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
If I may speak against miss Witherspoon, this feels very
much like a few years ago when every celebrity was like,
you got to get an NFT and.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
That's what she did too, though she was saying that too.
Speaker 4 (24:12):
Yeah, And someone on Twitter pointed out that you never
saw this when like no one was like, hey, cell
phones are coming, whether we like it or not, we
need to get used to cell phones, like people just
use them, you know.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
No, it's interesting, Mark, do you mind doing a little
hard search and maybe ask is Hello Sunshine affiliated with
an AI company?
Speaker 2 (24:33):
I do agree, like I do think there's that mentality
of like promoting something secretly that may but it does
feel like, how in my mind, in the worst way possible,
how do they stop AI at this point?
Speaker 4 (24:47):
I mean, you can't I mean like.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
The NFT and bitcoin stuff, which I know the people
got that got involved in that early on are doing
really well for themselves with the bitcoin or whatever. But
I don't know what n bits and coin their bits
in their coins. But yeah, I think it's just one
of those things where it's and I also think though
it's kind of like everything's kind of a man's world,
and so I think her mentality is like, don't don't
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think that just because men are the ones who are
leading the way that women can't also be in on
what what's going on?
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Right?
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
I just choose to believe that Reese Withersman is always
on the right side of the conversation and I will
not be told otherwise. Mark, did you get an inform?
Speaker 3 (25:25):
Yeah, I mean it's pretty different. The Sunshine is owned
by Candle Media, which is owned by an equity firm
called Blackstone. Blackstone is a major investor in AI infrastructure.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Okay, so there's tears here.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
There's tears.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
Blackstone is going to own all of our homes very shortly.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Here is Blackstone like the Grill?
Speaker 4 (25:42):
No, No, they're like a private equity firm. They just
buy up everything. I think they own Zillow, they own
like everything. Oh and they rule.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
They're cool.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I was like, yeah, yeah, I know them heatone.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Well, either way, I am a Blackstone. I have very
I fear a world of AI because it's like, it's
sad the loss of human interaction and thinking for yourself
and doing research. But does it have as advantages at
the same time, Yes, it's me too.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I'm kind of on that side, and like you either
like learn and to adapt or whatever. But my fear
is these jobs that they're replacing, what's everybody going to do?
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Like, that's that's the question.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
What's everyone going to do? We need jobs? What's the
unemployment right now? Well, let's not go down there.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah, let's just's what we know, which is dear bonya.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
There we go.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
All right.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
Here's one from anonymous. I have a mother in law dilemma.
My daughter turned one. We had a birthday party this
past weekend. My in laws are nice people, but they're
very overbearing. They would see us every weekend if they could,
but they live a few hours away, which helps. At
the party, I saw my mother in law kiss my
daughter on the mouth, and my mother in law had
a cold sore on lip At the time, I was
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really strict about this when my daughter was a newborn.
But even now I don't like anyone kissing her on
the lips. My husband and I don't even do that.
I mentioned to have a husband. He said he didn't notice,
but now I don't know how to handle it. They
don't watch her alone often, but they do sometime, and
this freaked me out. Am I the crazy one?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
No? No, but I need to know. I did not
grow in a house where we kissed on the lips.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
I did not, either did anyone else any lip kissers
in here?
Speaker 3 (27:25):
Mark's mom is a lip kisser.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Yes, okay, I think I'll be a lip kisser though
in my next era of life.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Why are you? Why would you choose that?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Though? Because I already like lip kiss my dog? So
I feel like, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Hello, Are you gonna like lip kiss up until like
a certain point?
Speaker 2 (27:49):
No?
Speaker 1 (27:49):
No, no, no, no, like when they're a baby. Yeah, I
don't know. I'm just I'm just I'm just guessing that
I'm Robbie a lip kisser. No, he's not.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Okay, are you a lip kisser your kids? Okay? Are you?
Speaker 1 (28:03):
I also feel like dad the daughters is a little weird.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
But even when they're a baby.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
No, I've never Tom Brady got a lot of heat
his son. Oh really as a child. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Anyway, yeah, to each their own. Well, yeah, I guess
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Do you wish? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
It throws me a little bit personally. Yeah, I don't know.
I don't know, but anyway, you don't know.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
I just feel like when you have a baby, but
there's a wage where you just go this, we got
to stop this.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
You're like, it's not the conversation here. To each their own,
but how does she deal with it when she doesn't
approve of her mother in law doing that?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
I would say, I personally did not grow up in
a in a family where we kiss on the lips,
and your son, my husband and I we also are
not doing that, so we'd really I know it's hard
because she's so cute and and that's how y'all grew
up raising your kids, but I just we would really
appreciate it if you know when you're watching her that
you don't gets her on the lips, just because there's
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so much in the air and her immune she's small,
and her immune system isn't strong and we just don't
want to risk it.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
I would have my husband do it.
Speaker 3 (29:16):
He's got to step up here.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Yeah, I would one hundred percent. I mean, I'm trying
to put myself in this situation. If my mother in
law did that and I saw it, I would be like, girl,
we're not doing that. Like I would totally say that
to her. But she's cool and I'd feel like she
would listen to me. But you have to say it
in the moment.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Law are sensitive though she's gonna be like, oh, okay, Oh,
I guess I don't know anything about raising children. Oh oh,
I guess I'm gross. I guess I'm disgusting that you
know she's gonna be difficult, especially if it as overbearing
as you say.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
I feel like in the moment, I would have addressed it,
Like if I saw it happening, I'd be like I
would go in there. But since the moment has passed,
I feel like you have to have your husband do
it and have your husband have the conversation because it's
his mom. If it were my mom, I would have
the conversation with her and he has to just be
firm on that and just be like and.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Don't make it about her personally, make it about like
a cold sword.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
But you could pass herpies that way.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
No, no, no, no, it's totally true.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Yeah, and like so many people have herpies nowadays because
of that. Can you look it up?
Speaker 2 (30:19):
I would just say, yeah, I think your husband has
to say something, and I would, but I agree. I
think she's going to get defensive, so I would just
say her music is not strong. I know your protical,
I know you're proud.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
You cannot say that.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
I would just say, you know, we're we were not
kissing on the lips, Like, we don't even kiss her
on the lips, So we'd really appreciate if you respected
that boundary.
Speaker 5 (30:50):
Yeah, but your husband's got it, got a step unless
you see it.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Again, unless you see her do it and you see
her in the action. I would, I would.
Speaker 3 (31:00):
You would not, Yes, I don't think you would.
Speaker 5 (31:04):
No.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
Yeah, it's awkward, it's not okay, fine.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Yeah, this is your husband's job, all right.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Another anonymous Growing up, I always got my hair short,
but everyone long ever since I met my husband and
we got married. Now we have little kids, and summer's
coming and I'm thinking about going back to something shorter
and easier. When I brought it up, he said he
really hopes I don't cut it because he loves it long.
I was excited about the change, but now I'm torn.
I don't want to disappoint him, but it's my hair
and I miss having it short. Do I take his
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opinion new account and keep it longer, Just go for
it and do what I want?
Speaker 1 (31:38):
I mean, come on, this is like, this is like
one oh one, Yeah, you do what you want girl. Yeah,
you cut your hair. Your hair, here's a no uterus,
no opinion.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Hey what Yeah, Haley likes my hair darker. But I
just get highlights and say thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Opinion about he's oh, you look gorgeous like that. Oh
you look great with that. I'm like, come on, yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
No, but I'm just like but she never She's always like,
oh my gosh. But then I'll do it blonde, and
she's like, you look so beautiful, and I'm like, I
think you like my hair lighter. You just don't know it. Yeah,
But I do what I want. Yeah, And Haley does
what she wants. And we can have our opinions on things,
but at the end of the day, it's your hair,
you're styling it. You have kids pulling on it, yeah,
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and you don't have kids pulling on it.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
It goes both ways too. Like the other day, like
Robbie loves cutting his hair. It's like his favorite pastime.
Speaker 3 (32:34):
Oh, he loves his hair.
Speaker 1 (32:36):
Yes, in the sink every night, he's like every night,
i'd say four out of seven nights, well, tweaking it,
tweaking it like a little here, a little there, little here,
a little there. It's like his favorite thing to do.
Speaker 4 (32:49):
And I'm like, it looks great.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
He just hey, it does a great job.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
Thank you. I'll pass it along and I'll be like, babe,
like enough of the cutting of your hair. Like I'll
tell him, like, just let's grow it own. Just keep
cutting it. Yeah. I do like a longer. I feel
like it looks more distinguished.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
But even when it grows out longer, he's still chopping away.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
And it's like, but it's not. He's not giving himself
a full haircut every night. It's just like a little
trim little yeah, like, oh, I'll see like a little
thing here, I'll snip it. I have hair all over
the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
All that's a big issue.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
But it does clean up after himself. He will like
swipe it into the thing and wipe it down and
like you know, like he does. He doesn't just like
leave it, which I appreciate, but like you can't get
rid of hire one hundred percent of hair like that,
do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (33:35):
I really don't.
Speaker 4 (33:36):
I shave in the backyard because of that, because I've
never been able to get it like completely clean, because
I like and my hair is like so coarse and dark.
It's like I use an electric.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Sha shave in the back shave in the backyard.
Speaker 4 (33:49):
I have a Wow. My neighbors love this. I have
a magnetic mirror that attaches to like we have like
a pergola out there, and I just go out there
with my electric shaver, put the mirror up, shave.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
Should you send me the link to that mareor yes?
Speaker 4 (34:03):
Happily I go back inside and that's it.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Yeah, fascinating.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
If he's doing it at night, he's not gonna go
out there. You're very well.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
If I put a mirror out there.
Speaker 4 (34:15):
I've done a night except my alex a w ale
light up spotlight.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
I'll give it a little spotlight out there.
Speaker 4 (34:21):
It's easy.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Wow, thank you for the idea. Easton Welcome.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Yeah, girl, cut that hair. Wait, so we have two
anonymous emails, but they seem they seem like they're from
like the same friendship, but two different sides, which we've
never had before. And we're not confirmed if this is true.
It just feels like that. So we're going to read
those when we come back. We're bout okay, So these
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are not from they're not connected, we.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
Don't think so. Well. Yeah, I feel like they offer
insight to each other.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Yeah, which I love.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
This is the first one. I have a friend and
need some advice. I've been close with his friend for
ten years. I'm in college, but our lives are very
different now. I'm married, two kids. She's single, really wants
to start a family. We find a partner. She's very
open about feeling jealous of friends who already have that
within two hours apartner. With the past few years, I'm
always going to her. I go for her birthdays, holidays, dinners, everything,
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but she's always quote too busy to come to me
and gets annoyed if I ask to bring my kids
or if she wants to meet them. I try to
be understanding because I know there's a sensitive area for her,
but it's starting to feel one sided. When I told
her I was pregnant, her response was, oh, I'm so jealous,
and that kind of sums up the vibe. I feel
like she can't be happy for me because I'm putting
in all the effort. What should I do? All Right?
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We got that one that was number one, now number two.
I'm about to be thirty three and I'm so single.
All my friends are married in relationships and most have kids.
I've always been proud of not settling and being okay
on my own, but I'm really down about it. I'm
always a single one. I don't know if I'll ever
get to experience getting engaged, getting married, having a family.
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I try to channel by Entertania and put myself out there,
but it's hard. Some days. This might sound cringe, but
what I'm feeling especially down. I go back to listen
to Tanya's dating, engagement, and wedding episodes and lists me up.
But it also reminds me I haven't had those moments yet,
and I'm feeling very jealous of my friends who are
starting families. But I feel guilty for having those feelings.
Tanya and Beckett, do you feel this kind of envy
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or jealousy and how do you deal with it? But
these could be the same people, well.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
Done, wouldn't Yeah, I definitely feel like that these could
be from the same dynamic. You can what are your
what is your take? Should we start with the first one?
Speaker 1 (36:56):
Well, I mean, it's like it's like two sides of
the same coin.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
So I'm going to start at the first email. So
here's my thought process on this is that you are
y'all are in very different seasons of life. You have kids,
and you have to consider your kids' schedule, your husband's Like,
you're in a very different stage where you're having to
think about other people in your life, specifically especially having kids,
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because I feel like they're just on their schedule and
you kind of have to be upon that as much
as you can, especially depending on how old they are.
So having a friendship with someone who is in a
totally different season of life, who isn't making any effort
to really meet you in the middle when it comes
to spending time together or having a relationship with you,
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makes it even more difficult. Like you almost need a
friend who you need a friendship even if that's what
she's wanting, and even if she feels jealous, if she
wants to be in your life, like she does have
to make an effort regardless of how busy she is
doing whatever she wants. I think that's in anything though, right.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Yeah, it's like such a weird It's such a it's
such a weird thing because I feel like when I
was single and watching everybody get married, I was so
jealous and it was but not jealous to the point
where I took it out on them, right, Like it
just made me. It was more like jealous sad, Like
I was just like, why haven't I had that yet?
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And then also I'm in this stage of life where
I'm seeing like friends get pregnant, and like that creates
a whole different type of emotion in me too. So
it's like all these feelings that she's having are so
normal and I think everybody experiences. But it's so funny
because I just feel like we always want what we
don't have, do you know what I mean? And like
we can never appreciate this season that we're in and
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the things that we do have because we're always wanting
something else. So like the friend that has the kids
in the life. I'm sure she's jealous of her friend
who has all of her free time and gets to
do whatever she wants, Do you know what I mean?
Like we're always comparing, and we're always jealous, and we're
always is kind of having those feelings. That being said,
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I feel like when you have a baby, especially in
those first few months, your life changes dramatically, and I
feel like as the single person, you do have to
make more of an effort to be there for that friend.
Like when I was a single one in my family
and we had holidays, I always just did whatever my
family wanted because I was a single one, so it
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was like easy, do you know what I mean? So
I feel like you kind of do have to take
that on.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
Yeah, I mean now, I like, Ali's one of my
best friends and she has a nine month old baby,
and it's like, when I want to hang out with Ali,
I know that I am seeing Ali and remy the baby,
and it's like it's a new season because there's this
added element to it. But I love this season of
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getting to watch her baby grow up and get to
be in this season of life with her as my
best friend because she is going through this and I
get to be a part of it with her, you know.
And I also know that I have to focus also
on friendships that are in the same season of life
because Allie's not always going to be available to hang
out with me. So it's like I have to also
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seek out friendships who are able to and nurture those
friendships who are also in the same season of life.
And it's finding that balance of both because I want
to be I want Allie to be my best friend
in every season of life, so regardless of how often
I'm going to see her or what we're going through,
I want to be there and experience it with her.
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And then also, like I think about Britt having two boys,
and like when we want to see each other, they
just the kids come and it's a new experience, but
it's still so fun because I'm getting to watch her
in this season, and then when the times when I
get to have her and someone's babysitting the kids, it's
even it's so special, And I think it's just kind
of where at that age, I personally have never experienced
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the jealousy of wanting marriage or kids, Like I cannot
relate to that at all. Because I always found I
felt very content in my single era and then I
met Hayley, and I don't envy. I don't really feel
envy about any of it. So I I'm having a
hard time with the second email because I I haven't
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experienced that. Yeah, but I know that you felt that
very heavily going through like going to like bridal showers
and weddings while you were in your single era, like
really wanting them.
Speaker 1 (41:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:36):
So I think it's just one of those things of
continuing to pour into yourself and love yourself and find
the things that you love and feeling content without needing someone,
because if you have a void, it can't be expected
for someone to fill that void.
Speaker 3 (41:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:56):
And I just want to say, like, I do understand
like the frustration, because I do you feel like there
was a point in my life when I was single
and I was going to every wedding shower, every baby shower,
every this, spending my money going to this, spending my
money going to that, and then I obviously got married.
I want to say say later in life, but like
I don't feel like I guess I did. I guess
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I'm like a late late later marrier. Later bride, and
a lot of those people were not involved at all,
didn't eat you know what I mean, Like, didn't come
to anything. I would They weren't even invited to anything
because there was just they hadn't even met my husband,
you know what I mean. Because but I don't put
any blame on them because they got married and then
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they had kids and their lives just turned into a
whole different situation. And so it's just like it's just
the nature of kind of how that happens and how
it unfolds and you get mom friends and you get
you know what I mean, Like it just happens, and
so I don't know, I feel like you have. You
can be jealous, but don't let it like.
Speaker 3 (42:57):
I think I.
Speaker 2 (42:58):
Wouldn't let it as jealousy as much as it's something
that you know that you want, a desire, Like it's
a desire that you want and and you're I truly
believe that when when a desire that that's that strong
is in your heart, that it's gonna happen. But you
you can't rush it, you know. You couldn't Tanya couldn't
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rush Robbie. I couldn't rush Hailey like you're just and
you didn't try. I think, if anything, you're a testament
that you can't rush it because it it's supposed to happen,
so I think, and also be there for your friends
who are also in a new stage of life and
make sure they're showing up for you. And if they
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can't show up for you as a friend, that in
the way that you need to find friends who are
in the same stage of your life. Yeah, because it
really is important, you know. And it's not saying, oh,
I can't have friends that are in a different stage
of life. It's just, hey, I know I need something
more than they're able to give me right now. And
that's that's the circle of life.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
It again the sickle. I can't even picture myself trying
to make like new friends.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Really, I feel like that makes so much, so many
new friends.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Oh yeah, tell me more.
Speaker 2 (44:15):
I just we make new friends. I think it's so important.
You haven't made new friends, you have new friends. I
feel like, ever since you married Robbie, y'all have friends
that y'all go on double dates with.
Speaker 1 (44:28):
The are his best friends and their wife.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
But they're your new friends too.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
Yeah, but it's different. It's not like I'm like going
up to someone and being like, Hi, Sally, like our
kids play together, Like do you want to have a
play date? Like that seems so weird.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
Because you you, like, realistically, when are you fitting a
new friend to put the energy into in your life?
Speaker 1 (44:46):
You know what I'm saying, My energy right now is
really on Barbara Bral Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Yeah, when you got Barbecue Brawl, Like, there's no time
for new friends, no new friends when BBQ Brawl is on.
But I will say, Haley and I, but.
Speaker 1 (45:04):
It's just so funny because I just did a whole
deep dive into all the people from barb you, Like,
there are just all new people. I've never seen these
people of new friends. Yeah, yeah, new friends, all their Instagrams. Yeah,
it's just funny. Yeah, it's a whole new world, this
cheffing world.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
I also feel Haley and I have made a lot
of friends that are like when WLW relationships. And I
think it's also really important to have the same, like
the same experience, because there's a lot of things where,
like you, most of my friends can't relate to my
my experience, you know, such as falling in love with
(45:45):
a woman.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
Tell me more, just like falling in love is falling
in love.
Speaker 2 (45:49):
Yeah, but you go through different things when it's a
woman based on just society, Okay, So like making friends
who are part of the community has been like really
amazing and I don't know, I think there's just but
we have the time for you know, nothing but time.
We don't if we were watching barbecue Brawl, like we
(46:10):
would not have that extra time to invest. But we're
wide open.
Speaker 1 (46:15):
Well yeah, you guys have Survivor to watch, so oh.
Speaker 2 (46:18):
Yeah, that's true, which I'm sure Hayley's watching at home
right now. All right, we have to wrap it up,
but just a reminder, if you ever have dilemmas, need advice,
want to share something with us, you can DM us
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