March 23, 2026 • 47 mins
Tanya is celebrating her one year anniversary! But while she’s basking in her first year of matrimony, Becca fields the non-stop question… when is she tying the knot??
We get into some hard hitting discussions, like should Becca and Hayley pick out dresses TOGETHER? What was Tanya’s one wedding regret? And does anyone actually like the taste of water??
Plus, Becca takes us through the beats of missing a flight, and we dive into the entertainment of Tik Tok comments!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two times People's Choice Award winning.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Podcast, Hello Everybody.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Are scrubbing in. I was just matching your town. We
are scrubbing in, Hello everybody. Tonya is in Mexico.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I am in Mexico, but her voice is here. That's right.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
We are actually pretaping this episode because Tanya and Robbie
are on their actual one year celebration of marriage in Mexico.
Hopey'all are having a great time over there.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
I know.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
It's so funny.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
After our anniversary, like the first day after, I was like,
we're in our second year of marriage, Like, I hope
the excitement and like the everybody's always everybody always tells
me that we're still on the honeymoon phase, and I'm like,
I hope that never goes way.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
It's the honeymoon phase is there as long as you
keep it there.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
I think, so mindset you think?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Do you know what's so interesting? I used to like,
I think this during a time where maybe Haley and
I were like not communicating our best or something a
couple of years into our relationship, and I would romanticize
the honeymoon face so much like I'd be like like
nostalgic for it, and now like we're about to have
our eight year anniversary and it is crazy. I am
(01:29):
literally like this is my favorite stage of our relationship.
Like I don't crave that at all because I feel
like we're like I feel so safe and like healthy.
And I think in that phase it was like exciting
and like new and obviously she was the first woman
and I'm falling in love for the first time, and
it was like, ah, scrambled thoughts, but it was exciting.
But I like also wasn't sleeping because it was like yeah, yeah, well,
(01:52):
just like it's like the excitement. And also she was
on tour and we were like learning how to communicate,
and I romanticize it, but we actually were going through
a lot because we were getting to know each other
and learn each other. And now I'm just like, oh,
I love right now.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I literally do the exact same thing. Like I romanticize
the beginning. I'm like, oh, We're never gonna have that
like that feeling when we were newly dating and like
finding out all these things, you know, like now we
know each other like the back of our hands, yeah,
and you're so right in the beginning, Like I'm like,
we broke up in the beginning, you know, I mean
it was rough waters the first year, and I forget
the like the navigating and like finding our footing as
(02:29):
a couple, because it's true you romanticize like all those
like butterflies, the giddiness and the like the heat of
it all, and like, I'm so with you. I've been
wrote like in our anniversary card, I'm like, I actually
didn't think that I would love him more than I
did on our wedding day, and I love him more today,
like because when you go through life experiences and like
you go through hard things, like seeing the way he's
(02:51):
shown up for me, like it just it's like you
can't compare to that.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Well. I also think speaking to your situation, Uh, you
you have these moments that are not that y'all haven't
had hard moments, but you have like everything you marry
someone and you're like, oh, it's the high moments. The
good moments are so great, and I have this person
so easy to love each other. But then you go
through something hard and that's how you really see, like
(03:18):
how is this partner I've chosen, Like where are they
going to be for me in this because you don't
know until you know, right, and you couldn't have known
that was going to come within the first year of
your marriage, but you got like a very quick like
who Robbie is?
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Yeah, And like I had so many girls message me
saying like you're so lucky that you have someone that
like makes it a priority to come to all your
appointments with you. Like I didn't have that, and like
it was never even a question, Like I didn't even
I wasn't even asking him to come with me. It
was just like I'll be there type of thing, you know,
And like that's the type of stuff that like really matters.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Yeah, well, I'm glad we've we've all found that.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Ye yeah for us eight years, Like you're almost at
a decade.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I know, we're almost a decade. It's like it's so
weird to think of the time as eight years, but
in my mind it doesn't. It's like all blurred into
like three.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Like eight, Like you're combing close to a decade.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I know. That's I think, like common law marriage, isn't
that like seven years?
Speaker 5 (04:17):
I think it is.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
We've already that's old news.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
Yeah, we speaking of are you getting asked a lot
when you guys are getting married every day?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Because I get asked a lot, and I'm like, it's
probably what Why what.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
If I told? What? If I was like, yeah, we're
already married, that'd be.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Epic for you. No, it's just like in general.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Like yeah, no, but I really do. I always tell
people like this year, specifically up until the summer, is
Haley's movie, because it's her baby and she's worked on
it for so so long that I don't even want
her to think about planning what. I'm like, you and
I you're to get we're together forever and like I
can't wait to marry you and have the wedding and
(05:02):
plan that. But like all your attention needs to go
on this movie because it's the year of the movie girls.
Like girls, do you have me June nineteenth being your
b in theaters?
Speaker 4 (05:11):
I do feel like like I because we just hit
the year, Like I was remembering how much of Like
my Men. It was literally all I had in my
brain for four months. Your wedding, Yeah, yeah, like the planning,
the details, Like it's so much in your head that
like I couldn't imagine having a movie coming out and
(05:33):
trying to do that at the same time.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
And that's what I told her. I'm like, listen, I
don't really want to. I also don't want to plan
this alone, so like, I don't. I'm not expecting you
to be no, no, no, like with my making partner decisions,
my own decisions like dress and stuff, like I'll be sourcing.
Hayley wants to go trial dresses together. I'm like, babe, no,
(05:56):
we can't see each other's dress.
Speaker 6 (05:58):
She's like, but that's so fun and it's a tricky
one though I see the desire to do.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
No, I know it's fun, but.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yeah, you're putting your foot down right.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Yeah no, I'm like, you're I'm torn about the first
look of it all because I heard of me I'm
down the aisle. But I'm torn on it because I
have pros and cons for both. Like I love the
like piece of like getting to see each other before
and like having that moment together of like seeing each
other for the first time and not having to be
in front of everybody. But then I love the like
(06:34):
reveal of seeing each other in a wedding. Well, I
don't know what we're wearing wedding attire for the first time. Oh,
I might be in a suit.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
You're not going to be in a suit of white
tailored suit yet out of here.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
But yeah. So that's why I tell everybody. I'm just like, listen.
If you want to know about the wedding, then you
support the movie.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
But like, as the movie comes out, that means you
can start playing the summer right, yeah, which is like
tomorrow it's time is flying, flying Flying.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Speaking of TikTok comments I posted if people just scroll
and don't open comments, because personally, for me, I find
the comments to be my favorite part, like TikTok yes,
because I could see a video that I think is
funny and then I open the comments and I am
like cackling out loud because people are so funny and
(07:27):
creative and there's people that just scroll, never open.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
To me, I don't open.
Speaker 5 (07:33):
I rushed to the.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Comments, break an ankle, run into the comments. Really, Oh
my gosh, roll.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I don't think I look at comments one iota unless
I'm prompted to.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Well, if you are someone like Tanya who does it,
you have to if you think of video is funny
and it has a lot of comments. Open the comments
and you only have to look at the top like
five to really get a good laugh. It is the
the humor that people possess and the quick wickness and wittiness.
I'm inspired.
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Being able to post a photo as a comment on
TikTok elevated the game to an unimaginable level.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
What photos are people posting on? Comments?
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Like?
Speaker 6 (08:10):
The photos are means than some screenshots from the video
we're watching?
Speaker 5 (08:14):
Uh, it's great.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
It's just beautiful.
Speaker 5 (08:17):
Yeah, I love it all.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
It's art, really, I agree.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yeah, Like when I'm watching like the the.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
This is the silly one, but the one that people
were like, does anybody else watch The Love is buying
final episode like this, and it's like fast forwarding, do.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
The whole thing. I'm like, yeah, that's good. You got
me there, gotcha, gotcha. I'm like, wow, they know me
so well. My algorithm knows me.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, it feels good to be known. It's
going to be seen. I also posted, uh, this was
this is my favorite. You know how You'll always say
like how I post questions but I don't put like
an answer box. Yeah, I don't know. I just love
doing it. But every time I posted something's totally random
because it's just a thought I have and I'm like,
I'm gonna post it and see opinions, and all's always
(09:02):
like what what like to everyone? Just like like what
like the water? One? I ask some people like drinking
water or if they just do it because it's good
for them, Like I don't like water. I drink it
because it's good for me. Same and a source of life.
And then people were responding and they're like, there's no
way people like drinking water, but you'd be I would
say fifty percent of the comments are like I love water.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
I enjoy water a lot.
Speaker 6 (09:26):
Do tastes like nothing, it tastes refreshing. I think it
makes me feel good and it tastes refreshing. Yeah, you know,
I like, I think different beverages serve different purposes, So like,
I don't think i'd ever like like I guess if
I had to choose Coca cola or water, I would
choose water.
Speaker 5 (09:43):
But I do like how it tastes tastes really good.
Speaker 7 (09:46):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Yeah, I don't know. I didn't grow like I didn't
my source of hydration growing up was like gatorade.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I didn't know my dad still doesn't believe in water.
Speaker 5 (09:55):
My dad doesn't believe in water.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
My brother does not drink water. He played in the NFL.
Speaker 4 (09:59):
Yeah, you get water and gateorade, you get water and beer,
you get water, and like, yeah, oh god.
Speaker 6 (10:07):
My sisters like that, Like she when she needs to
drink more water, she does a glass of water with
like drops of diet coke to like give her the flavor, which.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
I think Anne Hathaway does too. I heard that from somewhere.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Wow. Yeah, I don't know, but like I'm I'm the same.
I grew up in like a gatorade. Like we never
had water really in our house.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
It was like I grew up with water. Yeah, So
it's so funny.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
And I was gonna say people in California. I literally
gonna say, people in California grew up with it. But
you grew up in California. But I associate. I remember
going out to eat with people for the first time
in California, like new friends and I every time I
go out to eat, and we didn't. I didn't grow
up with money. I grew up with like there was
five kids, but we would always get SODA's, like if
(10:49):
we got a meal, we got a soda.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Yeah, and always water for the table.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
No, all my friends like said no to a soda
and got went and got the free water. But they're
Hamburger And I was like, how are you washing this
down with water? That was like my first experiencing that,
which I think is so crazy now because the water
is a source of life and it is the best
option for you.
Speaker 5 (11:14):
Yeah, it's of our bodies.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
But anyways, you know the difference between raising in a
great water water. Yeah, they never lose that image unfortunately.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
That sticks with me. That really sticks with me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I grew up not in a waterhousehold too. That's very funny.
Speaker 6 (11:32):
Back in like the eighties and seventies, if you were
like at football practice, they would say, don't drink water
because you'll cramp That was like an old wives tale
that thankfully has gone away. But you have these high
school students out there just huffing and puffing in the heat,
and it's like, here to have lemonade.
Speaker 5 (11:45):
Don't don't drink water, you'll like cramp up. It's like the.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Exact opposite, well, because it's like thinking that you need electrolytes, right, yes, exactly,
because you're gonna cramp if you don't have the salt.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Yes, I don't believe it.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
I think that onto something there.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Speaking of.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Oh it's just.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Right now, I do get parched.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Well. I I've grown to be like, oh, that tastes
really good when I'm thirsty and I go to get
my cold water. But I'm never like, ooh, you know,
it sounds amazing cold glass of water like dico or
dodor pepper or coke zero pepsi pepsi die pepsi and
(12:32):
cherry pepsi. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So that's a little bit
about us.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
You went to a wedding this weekend, or you're going
to a wedding this weekend. When you go from now on,
when you attend weddings, are you going in a different
like with a different lens as like research R and R.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
I'll tell you how I approach weddings when we come back.
Speaker 7 (12:53):
Oh my goodness, we're back.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
So I'm going to a wedding this weekend and we're
going to Palm Springs, And I do think I'm this
is actually the first wedding we'll be going to send
engaged couple being engaged. I'm just like trying to think.
I think so yeah, and so I think this I
probably will approach weddings with a new lens of like,
(13:35):
oh I love that. I love that they did this,
and this is actually two men getting married, so it's
also a gay wedding. And I also think there's certain
things that you probably do different. You know, there's so
much tradition around weddings and like the ceremony of it all.
So I will be approaching it probably from a different
(13:56):
lens in that regard, but thinking about like first dance moment,
do we want to do it? Okay, Like there's just so
many things that.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
Have always been There's so many of those, but I
just wanted to be us.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I don't want to I have I'm gonna have to separate.
Am I seeing this because it's what I've always heard
you're supposed to do and is tradition? Or Am I
seeing this because I'm like, oh, I've always dreamed of
getting to do that. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Because I think I tell you one thing I did
that Everyone's like, it's tradition, it's beautiful, And I'm like,
in hindsight, why did I do that?
Speaker 2 (14:25):
What put the veil over right head?
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Oh, you're gonna say that I.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Got my lipstick all in it.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
I was crying and my heart like Robbie couldn't get
it off quite right. I looked like a schmuck with
it on. So I did it because I was like
the peer.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Pressure of like, that's what you're supposed to do. You
want him to have that moment of lifting. And I'm like, you.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Did look beautiful with the veil. But I remember being
like walking down the aisle like I'm like, you can't
even see me through that. I knew you were gonna
say that, just because I have the memory of like
that discussion.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Yeah, because I didn't want it. I didn't want it.
I wanted to have a bag.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
As I walked down the aisle and everyone's like, no,
it's it's gonna be this beautiful moment. I was like, Okay,
maybe they're right. It's tradition, like it's they've done it
like that for a reason, like it's the only time
in my life I'm gonna have a.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Frock over my head to be lifted by my husband.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
And I look back and I'm like, damn, i'd have
stuck to my guns.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
But you wouldn't know until you like you could have
done it not have done it this you could you
could have practiced, but you could have not done it
and then been like I kind of wish I had
done that because it would have been really special to
have him lifted like you could have. It would have
gone either way.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
I think for you, I don't think so there's nothing
I didn't do that I regret not doing.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
But I do think that could have been practiced or
you could have like seen put it on, seen how
you looked or felt with it on.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Yeah, Like I'm like I don't know if it was
the wind, but I'm like it kept getting.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
In my eye. I was like this not the magical
moments walking.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Down a different aisle, my dad like tripped.
Speaker 4 (16:01):
And I couldn't see, like this is this could have
gone bad fast yeah yeah, yeah, but it was so Anyways,
I encourage you to really think about things that like
go and go with your gut on these decisions, because
I do think like, obviously people have been getting married
for centuries and so there are these things that are
just like what you're supposed to.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Do, right, Yeah, but like no, I mean I think
I think we're already passed at what we're supposed to
do part.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
But is there a dress code for this wedding? You're
going to like a theme?
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Well, I think it. I don't know if I'm saying it,
like if this is real, but I think it's no
black like I think it's because it's palm spring. So
I think they wanted everyone in like color. So I'm
excited to see what everyone wears, because that's the other thing.
It's like, do you want it to be super dressy?
Do you want it to just be like people to
come in with they? I don't know. I don't know.
(16:56):
I really don't. So I'm going to be going with
a secret notepad, are you? Actually no? But I will
be observing from that lens. I think it's gonna be
very beautiful and chic too, So I'm excited. I'm excited.
I've never been to a m l M Man loving
man wedding.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
I don't think I have either.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
Actually, I'm so excited. Did you know did you not
know Brad and Gary? They've been married for like you
didn't know them? Then?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
No? I knew them.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
I I started to become friends with him as a
married man. Oh yeah, and they got married like not
they eloped, but it wasn't like a big wedding.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
Yeah, yeah, I'm excited for my first one.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
What an honor, A lot of decisions. Happy to be
by your side.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Yeah. Well, so Ali and Carson didn't do a first
dance because she didn't. She was like, I do not
want everyone like standing around watching us dance by ourselves.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
But did they do dances with their parents?
Speaker 3 (17:58):
No, they didn't do any Like oh wait, did she
do it? I don't think she did it any with
like a bunch of people watching, but I do. I
love music, and like I have, I associate so many
songs with Haley that like, I'm like, we have to
and in that moment, I don't think I'm going to
be thinking about everyone watching us, you know all. Yeah,
(18:22):
and so that's something I would love to do. The cake,
I'm very like, if Haley wants to do the cake,
I'm down for the cake, but it's not something that
I have to do. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
The cake cutting, Yeah, when you get the price tag
on the cakes, you're kind of like, do you ever
the pictures?
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I mean, just like cutting through this thing for three
thousand dollars?
Speaker 3 (18:38):
I don't think so. Yeah. Yeah, Like, and I don't
really feel like I woll cute eating so now my
phone wasn't me getting it like put in my mouth?
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Yeah, like that was where my head was that Like
I saw how much they were and I was.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
Like, I don't think we need a cake. And then
we also were like how cool would it be if
we rented like a huge house or like hassle and
like Europe and everyone stayed there and we just like
had a small, like intimate ceremony and then we just
like got to party and like hang out all week
with our favorite people. I don't know, there's so many
(19:11):
things to do.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
I know, I went down that path too. I know
it's a really great path.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
It's something to consider.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
It's something to consider.
Speaker 4 (19:22):
The only the only caveat with that is because I
feel like you and Haley have different types of jobs
where like you can be gone for two weeks, you
know what I mean, it's just like easy.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
You're warnything about people being able to go, and we'd
have to give them a huge time to plan. Yes,
bad amount of time, correct, because even going to Europe
is such a far trip that you don't want to
go for two days?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
No, and you can't. Yeah you's yeah, so.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
That's something to think about. I don't know, you guys,
there's so many options shifting gears. I was doing a
treadmill walk and I was like, I just need something
with beats that I know. So I looked up Taylor
Swift walking playlist and I'm like, back in like a
Taylor Swift. Not that she ever left, like she's always
on a rotating like radio or something, but I've just
(20:14):
been like, Wow, the bangers, And so I did my
top my Taylor Swift songs of the day for the
day that I was. They change, they change, you know,
but consistently You're losing me is so good, it's so sad.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
The fact that it almost never saw the light of
day is caraziness.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Out of the woods. It's just incredible.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
And is It over Now?
Speaker 7 (20:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Is that that one too?
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Is it over? Like that almost never saw light of
day too?
Speaker 3 (20:48):
And their breakup songs? Yes, they're all breakup songs.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
My favorite.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
One of my favorite memories from my wedding was singing
is It Over Now at the top of my lungs
on the dancefloorts a breakup song and everybody's kind of like,
what's going on here?
Speaker 2 (21:04):
But I'm like, I just have.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
To get it, like it's I don't think they were
what's going on here because of the lyrics as much
as me, You and Sophia just like acting like it
was like a stage planned performat, like yeah, yeah, I
And then you know what one I've really been enjoying
that's like not ever talked about is I look in
People's Windows?
Speaker 2 (21:25):
I don't think I even heard note that is there's not.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Uh tord your post department?
Speaker 2 (21:32):
But she look in People's Windows? Is the name of
the song? Are you sure?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
Look in People's Windows? But there's a line where she says,
does it feel alright to not know me? I'm addicted
to the if only and like the lyricism, yeah, and
again it's sad, but I'm when I'm really happy and good,
(21:57):
why not listen to sad music? Yeah, it's free them.
You know.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
It's so funny that you say that, because I feel like,
to me, This Life of a Showgirl was like such
a standout album because it's very much like she's in
love and she's happy, and that's kind of like where
I'm at in life. So I'm like really resonating with
it that I have a hard time, like listening to
All Too Well right now interesting?
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Yeah, well All Too is a fall album. Yes, sunny
bright weather clauses for I forgot you that you existed
and yeah, it's like lover and uh yeah lover and
reputation reputations.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Giving winter No reputation is giving.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
I'm in a revenge yeah yeah, yeah, I think Halloween.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
It didn't it come out like in October November or something?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Yeah? I think yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:52):
Oh. Also, I'm going to a themed two thousands party
on Friday.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
What for what?
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Well, you know, it's Taylor Bank's birthday and it's themed
two thousands themed, And I feel like I'm gonna have
to try out my outfit today because I ordered it
all very quickly.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
What are you going to be?
Speaker 3 (23:11):
There's this specific picture of Britney spears that I found.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
And oh, that's a great one for you.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
I'm kind of panicking. I got my bangs that I
clip in. Bangs I ordered are not the right shade.
But it's this picture.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
Oh yeah, what was that from?
Speaker 3 (23:26):
I don't know is it two thousands or is it nineties?
Because now I'm like overthinking about it.
Speaker 5 (23:30):
That's early.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
It's early, which could be nineties ninety nine.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
I think it's okay.
Speaker 3 (23:36):
But anyways, I feel like I got kneepat gardening kneepads
that are metallic pink because I thought that's what she
had on. But they're just patches, so stay tuned.
Speaker 5 (23:50):
So that was I'm sorry, I'm.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
To scrap in get a new outfit.
Speaker 5 (23:59):
Where ran from June September ninety nine.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Well that's what we're in. It's Brittany from that time,
right before the two thousands. It's a fun Why do
k though? You know?
Speaker 5 (24:09):
And we're still talking about that moment.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, well I'm bringing it back. But yeah,
I got clipping bangs and they're like orange. I was like, Haley,
how bad are they? And She's like, I mean it's
it's kind of funny if they look bad, right, And
I'm like, okay, no, that's not I'm not trying to
look before. No, I'm trying to look legit.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
Speaking of bangs, I'm thinking about getting some whispy bangs.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Okay, that a bad idea, Like what I just I
love a very thin wisp.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Wow, I'm not a blunt bang, like a thin whisp.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Here's the thing. Show you a photo you hate your
hair bang in your face? Yes, but even how mine
is right now, Tanya is like I could never like,
how do you just let your hair in your hair?
Speaker 4 (24:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Your hairs are never not in your face?
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Yes, I understand that, Yes, that that will be.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
And you like styling your hair, yes, but do you have.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
To style it when you have these wispy bangs?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
I don't know how? Like what do we? Yeah? Oh
my god, Donya, you would hate that? Gorgeous?
Speaker 2 (25:11):
But like I hate that.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
I think when they were styled and they'd look amazing,
I think they'd look amazing on you. I just think
that you would.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Why does everybody have to style everything.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
In her eyes? Like you would be able to handle that,
you'd be freaking out. I go through the bank face.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Too, Okay, So you're saying it's not a goin through.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
The chop face, like I'm two. I'm one bad hair
day away from a chop. But you know what someone
said that really resonated with me. I'll tell you when
we come back.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
We're back.
Speaker 3 (26:05):
Great job. So I was debating on if I wanted
to cut my hair into bob which last time I
tortured everyone because I hated it, and I had so
much regret. But I looked back on photos and I'm like,
but it was so cute. Why did I Why was
I so anti so chic?
Speaker 2 (26:20):
And you do your hair so it's.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
Like I saw my hair. It's not a burden. And
so anyways, someone was like, back of your hair was
so cute. Short, But just remember you will like your
hair cut for like a week, and then you'll it'll
get old. The newness of it being cut will get old,
and you'll just be upset that you cut it. And
for some reason it really stuck with me because that's
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what happens. You have the first week and you're like
doing all these new styles. Oh, it's so cute and fresh,
and then the newss dice and you're like, but now
it's short.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
You know, I've never changed my hair up, Like, yes
you have.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
Wow, you've like cut your hair and had it long
and got extensions.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Okay, that's like not really, I mean the length of it.
Speaker 4 (27:06):
I've maybe shed two inches off here and there, but like,
for the most part, the continuity of my hair has
stayed intact for the last like fifteen years.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
I would says, do.
Speaker 5 (27:16):
Ye, as long as I've known.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
You, Yeah, like relatively the same.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Some blonde was better than the others. Yes, yes, I
did have a change.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
Yes I have a Bleachhella moment that was just bad.
But I haven't really changed my hair. And I'm like
kind of in this phase of like I'm a low
maintenance girl trapped in a high maintenance spot, you know, like, oh,
I hate doing my.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Hair, but I need to do it otherwise it looks like.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
This, what are you talking about? Like getting it done?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Or I'm like, do I need a change? Like should
I change it up?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
You're so here's my opinion on your hair. I feel like, okay,
so if you are you watching Love Story the JFK
Junior show yet, Okay? The actress and that Sarah Pigeon,
she is originally brunette. She's gorgeous, Like she's got one
of those she's got one of those faces and personalities
that you're like cool, magnetic, but you can't, You're just
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like she's cool. She has blonde hair for the show
and it is so made for her. And I feel
like you're that way, like you're dark, You're naturally dark, right, yeah,
but you look yeah whoa so night and day and everyone.
Normally people say you look best with your natural hair
color because it's obviously it's like made to compliment your features, right,
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But she's an example of blonde looks better on y.
It like brightens her face. Yeah, I feel like you
have the same thing. But I haven't known you, brunette,
but you look so good blonde. However, Kelsey Ballerini just
went like light brown, and I was thinking, I feel
like it could look so good on you because it's
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not dark. It's like a like a light brown. Tony's
gonna kill me, But like, did you tell.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Tommy, like Becka told me light brown would look good
on me.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Because I think your eyes would pop. But it's so
pretty and it looks so good on her. It does.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
But see, this is the problem.
Speaker 4 (29:24):
And like people do like these inspo pics you like
bring them to your hair estylished and like I want
to look like this, like that photo has like teza
and it's like.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Blurry and like do you know what I mean? Like
who knows if it looks like that in real life?
Speaker 3 (29:37):
Well, yeah, I don't know what it looks like in
real life. I'm just going off of off of the an.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Image that's been filtered. This is what's wrong with society.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
But look, that's like high, like it's like brown with Yeah, it's.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
More brown, it's more rooty. Then it's a brown.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Darker like yeah. Yeah, I'm just saying it wouldn't be
like a you don't if you're craving a change.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
Yeah, I'm craving it, like a craving a bit of
a change.
Speaker 3 (30:04):
What was that?
Speaker 5 (30:04):
Yeah, sound the sound of a crave, like a thirst.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Yeah, okay, okay, I do think that would be like
something I feel like. And I don't think it would
be hard to come back from. Like what if I
was like, you should go red?
Speaker 4 (30:20):
That would be so that was like my my inkling
was strawberry blonde.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
It's just hard, Yeah, if you if you want to
be more low maintenance, doing red is not.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Yeah, it's a little bit about me right now.
Speaker 3 (30:33):
I think the bangs are bad choice just because you'd
hate the hair in your face. Okay, if you wanted
to darken a little bit, I do think that would
be a nice change for you. But it wouldn't be
like you couldn't get back to your blonde if you
needed to.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
Okay, noted, And I do think your hair is so cute. Short,
m something to think about.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
You know, like every time people like get married or
have a big like life moment, they're like, I'm just
gonna chop my hair or new change.
Speaker 7 (31:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
So well it is interesting because you kind of I mean,
I think I'm past that phase now, but like you,
you come off such a high that you're like, I
just need like another hand, another adrenaline rush. But I'm
definitely far past that. I think mine's more of just
like wanting to be a little bit more low maintenance.
Speaker 3 (31:19):
Speaking of adrenaline rush, I went to Atlanta a couple
of weeks ago. Oh no, oh, yeah, yeah, and I
went to do this podcast for this woman, Lisa Easton.
I don't know in the podcast it might it might
be out yet already, so go listen if it is.
But I flew in to just do her podcast, and
then I flew out the next day.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
It's baller, by the way, when you're Lisa Easton is goals.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
Yeah. So I flew out and then they booked me
for a six twenty pm flight And did I already
say I was in Atlanta? Atlanta? Yeah, so she where
we did the podcast was about an like a forty
minute drive from airport when I landed, because I landed
the night before and it was pretty late, so it
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was pretty no traffic or anything. So the next day
my flights at six twenty. We were recording the podcast
at twelve thirty. So I was like, okay, we're gonna finish,
like I'm thinking most we do is two hours, right.
So I go on my little Delta app and see
that there's a four to fifty flight, and I go,
I don't want to be sitting around, you know me,
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I have my carry on, I have clear I'm just
gonna switch it all over. No no fee to change it.
So I switched it to four fifty. I get a
text and they're like, hey, they're having some technical issues
with the studio, so like we're having to push the podcast.
I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, no big deal. So I go,
we do the podcast.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
What time do you start doing it.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
I think we started the podcast probably at one.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Okay, it's an hour behind.
Speaker 3 (32:51):
Yeah, so do the pod three. Yeah. They're like, we're
gonna have some light bite, some champagne, and I'm like cool,
I'm acting chill, not even rushed. We do the podcast
and then We're like chit chatting, and I'm like, oh,
so I actually moved. They go what times your flight?
And I go, well, I had the six twenty that
y'all booked me on, but I saw there was a
four fifty, so I just switched it because I don't
like sitting around. I like to just like go and
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get on the board. And she goes, oh my gosh,
like you have to go that the traffic. It's not
gonna be the traffic like when you got here, like
it could take two hours to get to the airport.
So I'm like okay. So I get in the car
with the driver and it's the My flight starts boarding
at four ten, and you know, I see the arrival
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times for twenty, so I'm like, okay, we're gonna be
cutting it close. He goes, do you have clear and
I go yeah. He goes, I'm gonna drop you off
at the International security because it's right by your gate.
This guy was so legit. He dropped me off at
he knew, Yeah, he knew. He goes, I don't know
if you're gonna make it, but i'm excited to know
if you do. He goes, I'm going to drop you
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off at International, You're gonna go through security there and
you're gonna just run your gate. So I do it
three minutes too late. And honestly, if I had just
been a little emboldened and asked, there was like a
little bit of line.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
For clearty chat. No.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
No, I could have eliminated. I could light bite, yeah,
I could have could have eliminated a.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Light bike, or one glass of champagne.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
I only had one. Couldn't have that, yeah, but I
wish I had.
Speaker 2 (34:24):
Well.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
I have mixed feelings about this because I choose my
path of being late and tardy, So I never want
to inconvene or asked to inconvenience someone else because of
my choice. Like if I had not changed my flight
and I was just late because of traffic and it
was just timing, and then I had to ask someone
like can I please go in front of you? Like
they're boarding my flight? And I'm so sorry. That's one thing,
(34:48):
but knowing that it was my choice, I just can't
ask someone if I could go in front of them.
But if I had asked, I would have made it. Yeah,
So I like I'm renting, Like I'm like gasping for
air and I'm like, how how far I'm like laughing,
I'm like, how far did I miss it? He goes
three minutes and.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
I was like the flight, like the plane took off.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
No, the plane's still there. They want to let you
shut the gates. Yeah. Yeah, once they shut the door,
you're screwed.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
So I was like, so you watched the plane fly off.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
I didn't even watch it. I went and change my
flight back to the original, and uh got home fine.
It was totally great. But everyone I posted about her,
I was like, I it's why we love you. But
I don't know how you do this life.
Speaker 4 (35:35):
It's so interesting because like maybe it's because your cortisol
levels are just so low that like you don't hit
you because like the thought of doing that makes me
so anxious. Like I'm just like I'm in this stage
of my life where I just want to keep things
like as least anxiety inducing as humanly possible, so for
me to like even embark on such a but I
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just did not enjoy that.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
So what happened was I checked the original flight to
make sure there were seats still available. So I kind
of was in a place of being like if I
missed this flight.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
I'm good, I will be able to get on the
original flight.
Speaker 4 (36:13):
What if you didn't, though, What if your original flight
was booked, would you have lazily gotten into your new
flight or would you've gone a little faster ask people
to cut Wait?
Speaker 3 (36:24):
What if if there.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
Was no seats left on your flight? You're six twenty yeah,
and you.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Had to make this four feat No, there was an
eight ten, So I probably would have said, if be
in the airport, I'll go to the Atlanta Aquarium day
good aquarium. So but here's the thing. I didn't have
anything to get home. Like Obviously I was excited to
get home and see Haley and Phoebe. But I knew
Hailey had an event that night, so I wasn't like
rushing home to see her, right. And I also was like,
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I'm not trying to if I was, let's say I
was going to the podcast and I had a responsibility,
I'm not going to be irresponsible and switch my flight
like that. I mean, get where I need to go.
But when I didn't have anything, I thought, why not?
Why why not? Why not take it? Yeah, So it's
just a lesson for all of you. Try things. I
(37:15):
will never try that the a risk taker live a
little because what if? How cool if I but you
know what I and then I go, okay, it's okay
because now I'm gonna land at eight forty in LA
and I'm not gonna have traffic going home, whereas if
I had landed at six, I would have been stuck
in the traffic that I was sitting in the airport.
Speaker 4 (37:36):
You know what I think about often actually, which is
like so crazy. When we flew back from Jared and
Ashley's wedding, we literally got to the airport in just
enough time to walk onto our gate and walk onto
the plane like I've never done that, where like I like,
I'm just like walking, like no stopping for the bathroom
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like Pete in a hydro flask, Like we're just straight
going and like walking onto a flight.
Speaker 2 (38:03):
That was so stressful.
Speaker 6 (38:06):
Oh, I missed one flight in my life, and I
was recording at a prison in northern California with Governor
Gavin Newsom, and it went long and we were getting
to the airport and it was like we're going to
get there, I think ten minutes before it left or something.
And I had to checkle my equipment and Daniel Romo
who works with us. She was with me and she
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just made a sprint for the gate and I checked
my gear and I started sprinting too, and they were
closing the door and I was like, hold it there,
and they like, once they start closing it, I think
they can't stop it. And she told them that we
were married. She's like, my husband's out there, and they
wouldn't let me on.
Speaker 7 (38:42):
No.
Speaker 5 (38:42):
I flamed my face and I had to take a
later flight home.
Speaker 6 (38:46):
The funny thing is my equipment made it onto that flight,
so it did make the plane, which is crazy.
Speaker 5 (38:50):
But I hated it. I hated.
Speaker 4 (38:53):
Yeah, I've only missed one fight in my life as well.
But I didn't even make it to the airport, Like
I was so hungover that it was like one of
the iHeart Ready music festivals. My flight was at like
six am, Like I'm always like get me out first
thing Sunday morning, so I take like the earliest flight
out and I didn't even wake up until like eleven am.
So I like far missed it and I had to
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drive back to LA with Amy Sugar because all the
flights were booked.
Speaker 2 (39:21):
Yeah, I've never missed another flight.
Speaker 3 (39:24):
Yeah, well it's life is life.
Speaker 4 (39:27):
In life is life in and pressure and pressure and
to night.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
Right, Yeah, yeah, that part the part.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
So it's just about like living and stuff and like
what's the worst that can happen?
Speaker 2 (39:48):
You know, I just could never be married to you,
is what I realized.
Speaker 3 (39:51):
And that's that works, yeah for us.
Speaker 4 (39:54):
But like I give props to Haley because if Robbie
were like you, it would be a really bad situation
for our relationship.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
But I'm like, like, even with the Bahamas thing, when
when they had our flight fight or ride scheduled super
early and you wanted to go and then I didn't
want to go that early. We met in the middle.
Like I do believe in compromise. If I'm flying with someone,
I only really do that stuff if I'm like by myself.
And the Boston thing after Jared and Ashley's wedding, we
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did not realize that was not even me being irresponsible.
We were so tired you had to pee in your
hydroflask like we were sitting in traffic.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
It was very stressful. It was very stressful.
Speaker 6 (40:32):
So I'm sorry if you consider it, how is it
does Haley want to get to the airport early what's
her attitude.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
She's a little bit on the same page as me,
but she might run a little more stressed, Like I'm
a little more relaxed and she's a little more stressed
about it, but we kind of run in the same
I do.
Speaker 6 (40:47):
I remember going to Tanya's wedding last year because you
were already there and we were in the airport and
Haley was on our flight going out and we hung
out with her and she was there same time as me,
which is pretty damn early love that.
Speaker 3 (40:59):
Yeah, yeah, I think probably when she's by herself, she's
a little more responsible. I held her back.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
What do you think about?
Speaker 3 (41:06):
It's something to think about, and thank you for bringing
that to my attention. I'll be more considerate moving forward.
We have a we have one like kind of miniature
dear Bonia question, because it's something we should talk talk
about and help her out with, and we'll do it
when we come back. We're back, We're back. Okay. So
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this is from a tired and touched out scrubber. It
seems that this scrubber has a different love language than
their partner that you want to read these.
Speaker 6 (41:57):
I'd love to thank you for the invitation Hello with
six o's to my favorite people. I'm a stay at
home mom to a two year old in five month
old twins. I feel incredibly blessed and truly love being
in this role, but caring for a toddler while also nursing, holding,
and caring for two infants all day is exhausting.
Speaker 5 (42:15):
By the end of the day, I.
Speaker 6 (42:16):
Am completely spent. I also grew up in a non
touchy feely home. There's lots of love, but not much
physical affection, so physical touch has not been a big
need for me. My husband, on the other hand, thrives
on it. It is his number one love language and
I've worked hard to meet him there. He is honestly
an angel. After working all day, he jumps right in
with helping with the kids, cooking, cleaning, baths, bedtime, house projects,
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and even make sure I get breaks to see friends
or get out of the house. My love language is
acts of service, and he shows up for me constantly.
The issue is he wants to cuddle all night long,
and I literally cannot sleep while being touched. In fact,
I'm literally writing this in the middle of the night
while he's cuddling me because I cannot sleep.
Speaker 5 (42:55):
Oh Wow.
Speaker 6 (42:57):
I'm happy to cuddle before bed, and I try to
fill his cup in the day with hugs, holding hands,
sitting close with the kids, all of that. But when
it's time to actually sleep, I just can't do it.
I brought it up before, and it makes him really sad.
This is truly the one thing he asks for while
meeting so maybe my needs every day. But I'm also
running on themes between the babies waking up and not
being able to sleep when I get back into bed.
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How can I meet his need for physical touch without
hurting him while also getting the rest I need to
show up as the mom I want to be ps
in this season, it's really hard to take all my
kids out to do things because I simply don't have
enough hands. So we take a lot of drives and
I listen to the pod gets me through many difficult days.
And I appreciate you for.
Speaker 5 (43:33):
More than you know. Thank you for what you do.
Speaker 4 (43:35):
Wow, I mean I am her husband in this situation,
So all right.
Speaker 3 (43:40):
I love like I love cuddling, and Haley and I
are both like physical touches one of our top love languages,
so that works for us. But I do feel like
when we go to bed, it's like we cuddle and
then like when we are both like going to sleep,
we like just naturally separate and I could not do
if like I like because I like to have my
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legs I turn and toss and like I just want
to have like the freedom and space to do it.
So I feel like it's well, how would you handle
it for Robbie said, hey, I.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Think we lived through this. Oh oh so yeah, this
is no, no, no, I'll be this. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (44:17):
I like I would like to cuddle all night long,
Like I would just love to like be on top
of each other the whole night.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
He is at hard.
Speaker 4 (44:24):
He doesn't he doesn't sleep so great, so it's like
important for him. He needs like his space to sleep,
and I too. When he told me that, I'm like,
you know, I did my like pouty thing, and then
I was like, you know what, Obviously sleep is important.
So we have a compromise. And it's not really compromise
because he wants to do it too. But we cuddle
when we like watch TV or whatever in bed. Then
when its time of sleep, we like separate. We're on
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our different sides of the bed. And then on the
weekends when we wake up, we cuddle when we wake
up before getting out of bed, so we still have
like morning cuddles.
Speaker 3 (44:56):
Oh. I don't know if they have this option because
they have small kids and babies, but I do like that.
Speaker 4 (45:01):
Like we obviously can't do it during the week because
we're getting up at different times, but whenever we can,
we cut on bed. But when we sleep time is
sleep time. He's just gonna have to get over it.
Speaker 3 (45:12):
Like I understand because.
Speaker 2 (45:13):
I was like poudy about it too, but like he'll
get over it.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
I also think it's like the way you communicate it,
which is like, hey, I'm I'm already not getting a
lot of sleep and taking care of the kids. I'm
very touched. I have multiple hands on me wanting me
at all times, and when I sleep, that's like my
only time where I'm not having to think about that.
So and maybe ask him, like what is the compromise,
because like, I want to be able to you fill
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my cup so much.
Speaker 2 (45:38):
I really lead with that.
Speaker 4 (45:40):
Praise him for he shows up for you, and you
want to show up the way that way back.
Speaker 3 (45:44):
But this is just really IMPORTANTEP, and it's important for
you to have sleep, so you have the energy and
capacity to give to him and the kids. But I
would just say, what, what is a way that I
can still have my space when I so I'm able
to sleep, but also that you feel love didn't seen
and have your love language fulfilled because you do that
for me and he if he's like it's cuddling all
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night or.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
Else, no, he's not going to this guy sounds I know.
Speaker 3 (46:11):
I'm just saying. I think you just need to like
lean into how wonderful he is to you and fills
your cup, but you also need to be able to sleep,
and you can't sleep if you're being touched.
Speaker 2 (46:20):
He's one of the good ones.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
You have this issue on the same page.
Speaker 6 (46:28):
I mean, uh yeah, like not to this extent, but
you know, I mean so I can tell him she
doesn't want to be touched and I respect it, and.
Speaker 5 (46:36):
That's you know, I move on.
Speaker 3 (46:39):
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, he's just gotta he's just gotta. No,
it's not personal for sure. Yeah yeah yeah. Just remember
you guys. If you ever want some just advice, excellent advice,
excellent advice, just dm this on Instagram at scrubbing in
pod or email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot
com Tanya. I hope you're having the best time in
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Mexico so much.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Hope you enjoying your weekend as well.
Speaker 3 (47:02):
Thank you, We love you all, Love you Bye.
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
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Speaker 3 (00:15):
Are scrubbing in. I was just matching your town. We
are scrubbing in, Hello everybody. Tonya is in Mexico.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I am in Mexico, but her voice is here. That's right.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
We are actually pretaping this episode because Tanya and Robbie
are on their actual one year celebration of marriage in Mexico.
Hopey'all are having a great time over there.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
I know.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
It's so funny.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
After our anniversary, like the first day after, I was like,
we're in our second year of marriage, Like, I hope
the excitement and like the everybody's always everybody always tells
me that we're still on the honeymoon phase, and I'm like,
I hope that never goes way.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
It's the honeymoon phase is there as long as you
keep it there.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
I think, so mindset you think?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Do you know what's so interesting? I used to like,
I think this during a time where maybe Haley and
I were like not communicating our best or something a
couple of years into our relationship, and I would romanticize
the honeymoon face so much like I'd be like like
nostalgic for it, and now like we're about to have
our eight year anniversary and it is crazy. I am
(01:29):
literally like this is my favorite stage of our relationship.
Like I don't crave that at all because I feel
like we're like I feel so safe and like healthy.
And I think in that phase it was like exciting
and like new and obviously she was the first woman
and I'm falling in love for the first time, and
it was like, ah, scrambled thoughts, but it was exciting.
But I like also wasn't sleeping because it was like yeah, yeah, well,
(01:52):
just like it's like the excitement. And also she was
on tour and we were like learning how to communicate,
and I romanticize it, but we actually were going through
a lot because we were getting to know each other
and learn each other. And now I'm just like, oh,
I love right now.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
I literally do the exact same thing. Like I romanticize
the beginning. I'm like, oh, We're never gonna have that
like that feeling when we were newly dating and like
finding out all these things, you know, like now we
know each other like the back of our hands, yeah,
and you're so right in the beginning, Like I'm like,
we broke up in the beginning, you know, I mean
it was rough waters the first year, and I forget
the like the navigating and like finding our footing as
(02:29):
a couple, because it's true you romanticize like all those
like butterflies, the giddiness and the like the heat of
it all, and like, I'm so with you. I've been
wrote like in our anniversary card, I'm like, I actually
didn't think that I would love him more than I
did on our wedding day, and I love him more today,
like because when you go through life experiences and like
you go through hard things, like seeing the way he's
(02:51):
shown up for me, like it just it's like you
can't compare to that.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Well. I also think speaking to your situation, Uh, you
you have these moments that are not that y'all haven't
had hard moments, but you have like everything you marry
someone and you're like, oh, it's the high moments. The
good moments are so great, and I have this person
so easy to love each other. But then you go
through something hard and that's how you really see, like
(03:18):
how is this partner I've chosen, Like where are they
going to be for me in this because you don't
know until you know, right, and you couldn't have known
that was going to come within the first year of
your marriage, but you got like a very quick like
who Robbie is?
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Yeah, And like I had so many girls message me
saying like you're so lucky that you have someone that
like makes it a priority to come to all your
appointments with you. Like I didn't have that, and like
it was never even a question, Like I didn't even
I wasn't even asking him to come with me. It
was just like I'll be there type of thing, you know,
And like that's the type of stuff that like really matters.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Yeah, well, I'm glad we've we've all found that.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Ye yeah for us eight years, Like you're almost at
a decade.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I know, we're almost a decade. It's like it's so
weird to think of the time as eight years, but
in my mind it doesn't. It's like all blurred into
like three.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Like eight, Like you're combing close to a decade.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I know. That's I think, like common law marriage, isn't
that like seven years?
Speaker 5 (04:17):
I think it is.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
We've already that's old news.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
Yeah, we speaking of are you getting asked a lot
when you guys are getting married every day?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Because I get asked a lot, and I'm like, it's
probably what Why what.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
If I told? What? If I was like, yeah, we're
already married, that'd be.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Epic for you. No, it's just like in general.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Like yeah, no, but I really do. I always tell
people like this year, specifically up until the summer, is
Haley's movie, because it's her baby and she's worked on
it for so so long that I don't even want
her to think about planning what. I'm like, you and
I you're to get we're together forever and like I
can't wait to marry you and have the wedding and
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plan that. But like all your attention needs to go
on this movie because it's the year of the movie girls.
Like girls, do you have me June nineteenth being your
b in theaters?
Speaker 4 (05:11):
I do feel like like I because we just hit
the year, Like I was remembering how much of Like
my Men. It was literally all I had in my
brain for four months. Your wedding, Yeah, yeah, like the planning,
the details, Like it's so much in your head that
like I couldn't imagine having a movie coming out and
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trying to do that at the same time.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
And that's what I told her. I'm like, listen, I
don't really want to. I also don't want to plan
this alone, so like, I don't. I'm not expecting you
to be no, no, no, like with my making partner decisions,
my own decisions like dress and stuff, like I'll be sourcing.
Hayley wants to go trial dresses together. I'm like, babe, no,
(05:56):
we can't see each other's dress.
Speaker 6 (05:58):
She's like, but that's so fun and it's a tricky
one though I see the desire to do.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
No, I know it's fun, but.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yeah, you're putting your foot down right.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Yeah no, I'm like, you're I'm torn about the first
look of it all because I heard of me I'm
down the aisle. But I'm torn on it because I
have pros and cons for both. Like I love the
like piece of like getting to see each other before
and like having that moment together of like seeing each
other for the first time and not having to be
in front of everybody. But then I love the like
(06:34):
reveal of seeing each other in a wedding. Well, I
don't know what we're wearing wedding attire for the first time. Oh,
I might be in a suit.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
You're not going to be in a suit of white
tailored suit yet out of here.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
But yeah. So that's why I tell everybody. I'm just like, listen.
If you want to know about the wedding, then you
support the movie.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
But like, as the movie comes out, that means you
can start playing the summer right, yeah, which is like
tomorrow it's time is flying, flying Flying.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Speaking of TikTok comments I posted if people just scroll
and don't open comments, because personally, for me, I find
the comments to be my favorite part, like TikTok yes,
because I could see a video that I think is
funny and then I open the comments and I am
like cackling out loud because people are so funny and
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creative and there's people that just scroll, never open.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
To me, I don't open.
Speaker 5 (07:33):
I rushed to the.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Comments, break an ankle, run into the comments. Really, Oh
my gosh, roll.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I don't think I look at comments one iota unless
I'm prompted to.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Well, if you are someone like Tanya who does it,
you have to if you think of video is funny
and it has a lot of comments. Open the comments
and you only have to look at the top like
five to really get a good laugh. It is the
the humor that people possess and the quick wickness and wittiness.
I'm inspired.
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Being able to post a photo as a comment on
TikTok elevated the game to an unimaginable level.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
What photos are people posting on? Comments?
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Like?
Speaker 6 (08:10):
The photos are means than some screenshots from the video
we're watching?
Speaker 5 (08:14):
Uh, it's great.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
It's just beautiful.
Speaker 5 (08:17):
Yeah, I love it all.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
It's art, really, I agree.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yeah, Like when I'm watching like the the.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
This is the silly one, but the one that people
were like, does anybody else watch The Love is buying
final episode like this, and it's like fast forwarding, do.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
The whole thing. I'm like, yeah, that's good. You got
me there, gotcha, gotcha. I'm like, wow, they know me
so well. My algorithm knows me.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, it feels good to be known. It's
going to be seen. I also posted, uh, this was
this is my favorite. You know how You'll always say
like how I post questions but I don't put like
an answer box. Yeah, I don't know. I just love
doing it. But every time I posted something's totally random
because it's just a thought I have and I'm like,
I'm gonna post it and see opinions, and all's always
(09:02):
like what what like to everyone? Just like like what
like the water? One? I ask some people like drinking
water or if they just do it because it's good
for them, Like I don't like water. I drink it
because it's good for me. Same and a source of life.
And then people were responding and they're like, there's no
way people like drinking water, but you'd be I would
say fifty percent of the comments are like I love water.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
I enjoy water a lot.
Speaker 6 (09:26):
Do tastes like nothing, it tastes refreshing. I think it
makes me feel good and it tastes refreshing. Yeah, you know,
I like, I think different beverages serve different purposes, So like,
I don't think i'd ever like like I guess if
I had to choose Coca cola or water, I would
choose water.
Speaker 5 (09:43):
But I do like how it tastes tastes really good.
Speaker 7 (09:46):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Yeah, I don't know. I didn't grow like I didn't
my source of hydration growing up was like gatorade.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I didn't know my dad still doesn't believe in water.
Speaker 5 (09:55):
My dad doesn't believe in water.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
My brother does not drink water. He played in the NFL.
Speaker 4 (09:59):
Yeah, you get water and gateorade, you get water and beer,
you get water, and like, yeah, oh god.
Speaker 6 (10:07):
My sisters like that, Like she when she needs to
drink more water, she does a glass of water with
like drops of diet coke to like give her the flavor, which.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
I think Anne Hathaway does too. I heard that from somewhere.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Wow. Yeah, I don't know, but like I'm I'm the same.
I grew up in like a gatorade. Like we never
had water really in our house.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
It was like I grew up with water. Yeah, So
it's so funny.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
And I was gonna say people in California. I literally
gonna say, people in California grew up with it. But
you grew up in California. But I associate. I remember
going out to eat with people for the first time
in California, like new friends and I every time I
go out to eat, and we didn't. I didn't grow
up with money. I grew up with like there was
five kids, but we would always get SODA's, like if
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we got a meal, we got a soda.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Yeah, and always water for the table.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
No, all my friends like said no to a soda
and got went and got the free water. But they're
Hamburger And I was like, how are you washing this
down with water? That was like my first experiencing that,
which I think is so crazy now because the water
is a source of life and it is the best
option for you.
Speaker 5 (11:14):
Yeah, it's of our bodies.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
But anyways, you know the difference between raising in a
great water water. Yeah, they never lose that image unfortunately.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
That sticks with me. That really sticks with me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I grew up not in a waterhousehold too. That's very funny.
Speaker 6 (11:32):
Back in like the eighties and seventies, if you were
like at football practice, they would say, don't drink water
because you'll cramp That was like an old wives tale
that thankfully has gone away. But you have these high
school students out there just huffing and puffing in the heat,
and it's like, here to have lemonade.
Speaker 5 (11:45):
Don't don't drink water, you'll like cramp up. It's like the.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Exact opposite, well, because it's like thinking that you need electrolytes, right, yes, exactly,
because you're gonna cramp if you don't have the salt.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Yes, I don't believe it.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
I think that onto something there.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Speaking of.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Oh it's just.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Right now, I do get parched.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Well. I I've grown to be like, oh, that tastes
really good when I'm thirsty and I go to get
my cold water. But I'm never like, ooh, you know,
it sounds amazing cold glass of water like dico or
dodor pepper or coke zero pepsi pepsi die pepsi and
(12:32):
cherry pepsi. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So that's a little bit
about us.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
You went to a wedding this weekend, or you're going
to a wedding this weekend. When you go from now on,
when you attend weddings, are you going in a different
like with a different lens as like research R and R.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
I'll tell you how I approach weddings when we come back.
Speaker 7 (12:53):
Oh my goodness, we're back.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
So I'm going to a wedding this weekend and we're
going to Palm Springs, And I do think I'm this
is actually the first wedding we'll be going to send
engaged couple being engaged. I'm just like trying to think.
I think so yeah, and so I think this I
probably will approach weddings with a new lens of like,
(13:35):
oh I love that. I love that they did this,
and this is actually two men getting married, so it's
also a gay wedding. And I also think there's certain
things that you probably do different. You know, there's so
much tradition around weddings and like the ceremony of it all.
So I will be approaching it probably from a different
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lens in that regard, but thinking about like first dance moment,
do we want to do it? Okay, Like there's just so
many things that.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
Have always been There's so many of those, but I
just wanted to be us.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I don't want to I have I'm gonna have to separate.
Am I seeing this because it's what I've always heard
you're supposed to do and is tradition? Or Am I
seeing this because I'm like, oh, I've always dreamed of
getting to do that. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Because I think I tell you one thing I did
that Everyone's like, it's tradition, it's beautiful, And I'm like,
in hindsight, why did I do that?
Speaker 2 (14:25):
What put the veil over right head?
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Oh, you're gonna say that I.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Got my lipstick all in it.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
I was crying and my heart like Robbie couldn't get
it off quite right. I looked like a schmuck with
it on. So I did it because I was like
the peer.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Pressure of like, that's what you're supposed to do. You
want him to have that moment of lifting. And I'm like, you.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Did look beautiful with the veil. But I remember being
like walking down the aisle like I'm like, you can't
even see me through that. I knew you were gonna
say that, just because I have the memory of like
that discussion.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Yeah, because I didn't want it. I didn't want it.
I wanted to have a bag.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
As I walked down the aisle and everyone's like, no,
it's it's gonna be this beautiful moment. I was like, Okay,
maybe they're right. It's tradition, like it's they've done it
like that for a reason, like it's the only time
in my life I'm gonna have a.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Frock over my head to be lifted by my husband.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
And I look back and I'm like, damn, i'd have
stuck to my guns.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
But you wouldn't know until you like you could have
done it not have done it this you could you
could have practiced, but you could have not done it
and then been like I kind of wish I had
done that because it would have been really special to
have him lifted like you could have. It would have
gone either way.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
I think for you, I don't think so there's nothing
I didn't do that I regret not doing.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
But I do think that could have been practiced or
you could have like seen put it on, seen how
you looked or felt with it on.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Yeah, Like I'm like I don't know if it was
the wind, but I'm like it kept getting.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
In my eye. I was like this not the magical
moments walking.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Down a different aisle, my dad like tripped.
Speaker 4 (16:01):
And I couldn't see, like this is this could have
gone bad fast yeah yeah, yeah, but it was so Anyways,
I encourage you to really think about things that like
go and go with your gut on these decisions, because
I do think like, obviously people have been getting married
for centuries and so there are these things that are
just like what you're supposed to.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Do, right, Yeah, but like no, I mean I think
I think we're already passed at what we're supposed to
do part.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
But is there a dress code for this wedding? You're
going to like a theme?
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Well, I think it. I don't know if I'm saying it,
like if this is real, but I think it's no
black like I think it's because it's palm spring. So
I think they wanted everyone in like color. So I'm
excited to see what everyone wears, because that's the other thing.
It's like, do you want it to be super dressy?
Do you want it to just be like people to
come in with they? I don't know. I don't know.
(16:56):
I really don't. So I'm going to be going with
a secret notepad, are you? Actually no? But I will
be observing from that lens. I think it's gonna be
very beautiful and chic too, So I'm excited. I'm excited.
I've never been to a m l M Man loving
man wedding.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
I don't think I have either.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
Actually, I'm so excited. Did you know did you not
know Brad and Gary? They've been married for like you
didn't know them? Then?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
No? I knew them.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
I I started to become friends with him as a
married man. Oh yeah, and they got married like not
they eloped, but it wasn't like a big wedding.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
Yeah, yeah, I'm excited for my first one.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
What an honor, A lot of decisions. Happy to be
by your side.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Yeah. Well, so Ali and Carson didn't do a first
dance because she didn't. She was like, I do not
want everyone like standing around watching us dance by ourselves.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
But did they do dances with their parents?
Speaker 3 (17:58):
No, they didn't do any Like oh wait, did she
do it? I don't think she did it any with
like a bunch of people watching, but I do. I
love music, and like I have, I associate so many
songs with Haley that like, I'm like, we have to
and in that moment, I don't think I'm going to
be thinking about everyone watching us, you know all. Yeah,
(18:22):
and so that's something I would love to do. The cake,
I'm very like, if Haley wants to do the cake,
I'm down for the cake, but it's not something that
I have to do. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
The cake cutting, Yeah, when you get the price tag
on the cakes, you're kind of like, do you ever
the pictures?
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I mean, just like cutting through this thing for three
thousand dollars?
Speaker 3 (18:38):
I don't think so. Yeah. Yeah, Like, and I don't
really feel like I woll cute eating so now my
phone wasn't me getting it like put in my mouth?
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Yeah, like that was where my head was that Like
I saw how much they were and I was.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
Like, I don't think we need a cake. And then
we also were like how cool would it be if
we rented like a huge house or like hassle and
like Europe and everyone stayed there and we just like
had a small, like intimate ceremony and then we just
like got to party and like hang out all week
with our favorite people. I don't know, there's so many
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things to do.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
I know, I went down that path too. I know
it's a really great path.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
It's something to consider.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
It's something to consider.
Speaker 4 (19:22):
The only the only caveat with that is because I
feel like you and Haley have different types of jobs
where like you can be gone for two weeks, you
know what I mean, it's just like easy.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
You're warnything about people being able to go, and we'd
have to give them a huge time to plan. Yes,
bad amount of time, correct, because even going to Europe
is such a far trip that you don't want to
go for two days?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
No, and you can't. Yeah you's yeah, so.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
That's something to think about. I don't know, you guys,
there's so many options shifting gears. I was doing a
treadmill walk and I was like, I just need something
with beats that I know. So I looked up Taylor
Swift walking playlist and I'm like, back in like a
Taylor Swift. Not that she ever left, like she's always
on a rotating like radio or something, but I've just
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been like, Wow, the bangers, And so I did my
top my Taylor Swift songs of the day for the
day that I was. They change, they change, you know,
but consistently You're losing me is so good, it's so sad.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
The fact that it almost never saw the light of
day is caraziness.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Out of the woods. It's just incredible.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
And is It over Now?
Speaker 7 (20:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Is that that one too?
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Is it over? Like that almost never saw light of
day too?
Speaker 3 (20:48):
And their breakup songs? Yes, they're all breakup songs.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
My favorite.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
One of my favorite memories from my wedding was singing
is It Over Now at the top of my lungs
on the dancefloorts a breakup song and everybody's kind of like,
what's going on here?
Speaker 2 (21:04):
But I'm like, I just have.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
To get it, like it's I don't think they were
what's going on here because of the lyrics as much
as me, You and Sophia just like acting like it
was like a stage planned performat, like yeah, yeah, I
And then you know what one I've really been enjoying
that's like not ever talked about is I look in
People's Windows?
Speaker 2 (21:25):
I don't think I even heard note that is there's not.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Uh tord your post department?
Speaker 2 (21:32):
But she look in People's Windows? Is the name of
the song? Are you sure?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
Look in People's Windows? But there's a line where she says,
does it feel alright to not know me? I'm addicted
to the if only and like the lyricism, yeah, and
again it's sad, but I'm when I'm really happy and good,
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why not listen to sad music? Yeah, it's free them.
You know.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
It's so funny that you say that, because I feel like,
to me, This Life of a Showgirl was like such
a standout album because it's very much like she's in
love and she's happy, and that's kind of like where
I'm at in life. So I'm like really resonating with
it that I have a hard time, like listening to
All Too Well right now interesting?
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Yeah, well All Too is a fall album. Yes, sunny
bright weather clauses for I forgot you that you existed
and yeah, it's like lover and uh yeah lover and
reputation reputations.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Giving winter No reputation is giving.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
I'm in a revenge yeah yeah, yeah, I think Halloween.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
It didn't it come out like in October November or something?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Yeah? I think yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:52):
Oh. Also, I'm going to a themed two thousands party
on Friday.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
What for what?
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Well, you know, it's Taylor Bank's birthday and it's themed
two thousands themed, And I feel like I'm gonna have
to try out my outfit today because I ordered it
all very quickly.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
What are you going to be?
Speaker 3 (23:11):
There's this specific picture of Britney spears that I found.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
And oh, that's a great one for you.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
I'm kind of panicking. I got my bangs that I
clip in. Bangs I ordered are not the right shade.
But it's this picture.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
Oh yeah, what was that from?
Speaker 3 (23:26):
I don't know is it two thousands or is it nineties?
Because now I'm like overthinking about it.
Speaker 5 (23:30):
That's early.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
It's early, which could be nineties ninety nine.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
I think it's okay.
Speaker 3 (23:36):
But anyways, I feel like I got kneepat gardening kneepads
that are metallic pink because I thought that's what she
had on. But they're just patches, so stay tuned.
Speaker 5 (23:50):
So that was I'm sorry, I'm.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
To scrap in get a new outfit.
Speaker 5 (23:59):
Where ran from June September ninety nine.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Well that's what we're in. It's Brittany from that time,
right before the two thousands. It's a fun Why do
k though? You know?
Speaker 5 (24:09):
And we're still talking about that moment.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, well I'm bringing it back. But yeah,
I got clipping bangs and they're like orange. I was like, Haley,
how bad are they? And She's like, I mean it's
it's kind of funny if they look bad, right, And
I'm like, okay, no, that's not I'm not trying to
look before. No, I'm trying to look legit.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
Speaking of bangs, I'm thinking about getting some whispy bangs.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
Okay, that a bad idea, Like what I just I
love a very thin wisp.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Wow, I'm not a blunt bang, like a thin whisp.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Here's the thing. Show you a photo you hate your
hair bang in your face? Yes, but even how mine
is right now, Tanya is like I could never like,
how do you just let your hair in your hair?
Speaker 4 (24:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Your hairs are never not in your face?
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Yes, I understand that, Yes, that that will be.
Speaker 3 (24:58):
And you like styling your hair, yes, but do you have.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
To style it when you have these wispy bangs?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
I don't know how? Like what do we? Yeah? Oh
my god, Donya, you would hate that? Gorgeous?
Speaker 2 (25:11):
But like I hate that.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
I think when they were styled and they'd look amazing,
I think they'd look amazing on you. I just think
that you would.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Why does everybody have to style everything.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
In her eyes? Like you would be able to handle that,
you'd be freaking out. I go through the bank face.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Too, Okay, So you're saying it's not a goin through.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
The chop face, like I'm two. I'm one bad hair
day away from a chop. But you know what someone
said that really resonated with me. I'll tell you when
we come back.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
We're back.
Speaker 3 (26:05):
Great job. So I was debating on if I wanted
to cut my hair into bob which last time I
tortured everyone because I hated it, and I had so
much regret. But I looked back on photos and I'm like,
but it was so cute. Why did I Why was
I so anti so chic?
Speaker 2 (26:20):
And you do your hair so it's.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
Like I saw my hair. It's not a burden. And
so anyways, someone was like, back of your hair was
so cute. Short, But just remember you will like your
hair cut for like a week, and then you'll it'll
get old. The newness of it being cut will get old,
and you'll just be upset that you cut it. And
for some reason it really stuck with me because that's
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what happens. You have the first week and you're like
doing all these new styles. Oh, it's so cute and fresh,
and then the newss dice and you're like, but now
it's short.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
You know, I've never changed my hair up, Like, yes
you have.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
Wow, you've like cut your hair and had it long
and got extensions.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Okay, that's like not really, I mean the length of it.
Speaker 4 (27:06):
I've maybe shed two inches off here and there, but like,
for the most part, the continuity of my hair has
stayed intact for the last like fifteen years.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
I would says, do.
Speaker 5 (27:16):
Ye, as long as I've known.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
You, Yeah, like relatively the same.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Some blonde was better than the others. Yes, yes, I
did have a change.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
Yes I have a Bleachhella moment that was just bad.
But I haven't really changed my hair. And I'm like
kind of in this phase of like I'm a low
maintenance girl trapped in a high maintenance spot, you know, like, oh,
I hate doing my.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Hair, but I need to do it otherwise it looks like.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
This, what are you talking about? Like getting it done?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Or I'm like, do I need a change? Like should
I change it up?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
You're so here's my opinion on your hair. I feel like, okay,
so if you are you watching Love Story the JFK
Junior show yet, Okay? The actress and that Sarah Pigeon,
she is originally brunette. She's gorgeous, Like she's got one
of those she's got one of those faces and personalities
that you're like cool, magnetic, but you can't, You're just
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like she's cool. She has blonde hair for the show
and it is so made for her. And I feel
like you're that way, like you're dark, You're naturally dark, right, yeah,
but you look yeah whoa so night and day and everyone.
Normally people say you look best with your natural hair
color because it's obviously it's like made to compliment your features, right,
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But she's an example of blonde looks better on y.
It like brightens her face. Yeah, I feel like you
have the same thing. But I haven't known you, brunette,
but you look so good blonde. However, Kelsey Ballerini just
went like light brown, and I was thinking, I feel
like it could look so good on you because it's
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not dark. It's like a like a light brown. Tony's
gonna kill me, But like, did you tell.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Tommy, like Becka told me light brown would look good
on me.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Because I think your eyes would pop. But it's so
pretty and it looks so good on her. It does.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
But see, this is the problem.
Speaker 4 (29:24):
And like people do like these inspo pics you like
bring them to your hair estylished and like I want
to look like this, like that photo has like teza
and it's like.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Blurry and like do you know what I mean? Like
who knows if it looks like that in real life?
Speaker 3 (29:37):
Well, yeah, I don't know what it looks like in
real life. I'm just going off of off of the an.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Image that's been filtered. This is what's wrong with society.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
But look, that's like high, like it's like brown with Yeah, it's.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
More brown, it's more rooty. Then it's a brown.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Darker like yeah. Yeah, I'm just saying it wouldn't be
like a you don't if you're craving a change.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
Yeah, I'm craving it, like a craving a bit of
a change.
Speaker 3 (30:04):
What was that?
Speaker 5 (30:04):
Yeah, sound the sound of a crave, like a thirst.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Yeah, okay, okay, I do think that would be like
something I feel like. And I don't think it would
be hard to come back from. Like what if I
was like, you should go red?
Speaker 4 (30:20):
That would be so that was like my my inkling
was strawberry blonde.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
It's just hard, Yeah, if you if you want to
be more low maintenance, doing red is not.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Yeah, it's a little bit about me right now.
Speaker 3 (30:33):
I think the bangs are bad choice just because you'd
hate the hair in your face. Okay, if you wanted
to darken a little bit, I do think that would
be a nice change for you. But it wouldn't be
like you couldn't get back to your blonde if you
needed to.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
Okay, noted, And I do think your hair is so cute. Short,
m something to think about.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
You know, like every time people like get married or
have a big like life moment, they're like, I'm just
gonna chop my hair or new change.
Speaker 7 (31:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
So well it is interesting because you kind of I mean,
I think I'm past that phase now, but like you,
you come off such a high that you're like, I
just need like another hand, another adrenaline rush. But I'm
definitely far past that. I think mine's more of just
like wanting to be a little bit more low maintenance.
Speaker 3 (31:19):
Speaking of adrenaline rush, I went to Atlanta a couple
of weeks ago. Oh no, oh, yeah, yeah, and I
went to do this podcast for this woman, Lisa Easton.
I don't know in the podcast it might it might
be out yet already, so go listen if it is.
But I flew in to just do her podcast, and
then I flew out the next day.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
It's baller, by the way, when you're Lisa Easton is goals.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
Yeah. So I flew out and then they booked me
for a six twenty pm flight And did I already
say I was in Atlanta? Atlanta? Yeah, so she where
we did the podcast was about an like a forty
minute drive from airport when I landed, because I landed
the night before and it was pretty late, so it
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was pretty no traffic or anything. So the next day
my flights at six twenty. We were recording the podcast
at twelve thirty. So I was like, okay, we're gonna finish,
like I'm thinking most we do is two hours, right.
So I go on my little Delta app and see
that there's a four to fifty flight, and I go,
I don't want to be sitting around, you know me,
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I have my carry on, I have clear I'm just
gonna switch it all over. No no fee to change it.
So I switched it to four fifty. I get a
text and they're like, hey, they're having some technical issues
with the studio, so like we're having to push the podcast.
I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, no big deal. So I go,
we do the podcast.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
What time do you start doing it.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
I think we started the podcast probably at one.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Okay, it's an hour behind.
Speaker 3 (32:51):
Yeah, so do the pod three. Yeah. They're like, we're
gonna have some light bite, some champagne, and I'm like cool,
I'm acting chill, not even rushed. We do the podcast
and then We're like chit chatting, and I'm like, oh,
so I actually moved. They go what times your flight?
And I go, well, I had the six twenty that
y'all booked me on, but I saw there was a
four fifty, so I just switched it because I don't
like sitting around. I like to just like go and
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get on the board. And she goes, oh my gosh,
like you have to go that the traffic. It's not
gonna be the traffic like when you got here, like
it could take two hours to get to the airport.
So I'm like okay. So I get in the car
with the driver and it's the My flight starts boarding
at four ten, and you know, I see the arrival
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times for twenty, so I'm like, okay, we're gonna be
cutting it close. He goes, do you have clear and
I go yeah. He goes, I'm gonna drop you off
at the International security because it's right by your gate.
This guy was so legit. He dropped me off at
he knew, Yeah, he knew. He goes, I don't know
if you're gonna make it, but i'm excited to know
if you do. He goes, I'm going to drop you
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off at International, You're gonna go through security there and
you're gonna just run your gate. So I do it
three minutes too late. And honestly, if I had just
been a little emboldened and asked, there was like a
little bit of line.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
For clearty chat. No.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
No, I could have eliminated. I could light bite, yeah,
I could have could have eliminated a.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Light bike, or one glass of champagne.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
I only had one. Couldn't have that, yeah, but I
wish I had.
Speaker 2 (34:24):
Well.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
I have mixed feelings about this because I choose my
path of being late and tardy, So I never want
to inconvene or asked to inconvenience someone else because of
my choice. Like if I had not changed my flight
and I was just late because of traffic and it
was just timing, and then I had to ask someone
like can I please go in front of you? Like
they're boarding my flight? And I'm so sorry. That's one thing,
(34:48):
but knowing that it was my choice, I just can't
ask someone if I could go in front of them.
But if I had asked, I would have made it. Yeah,
So I like I'm renting, Like I'm like gasping for
air and I'm like, how how far I'm like laughing,
I'm like, how far did I miss it? He goes
three minutes and.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
I was like the flight, like the plane took off.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
No, the plane's still there. They want to let you
shut the gates. Yeah. Yeah, once they shut the door,
you're screwed.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
So I was like, so you watched the plane fly off.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
I didn't even watch it. I went and change my
flight back to the original, and uh got home fine.
It was totally great. But everyone I posted about her,
I was like, I it's why we love you. But
I don't know how you do this life.
Speaker 4 (35:35):
It's so interesting because like maybe it's because your cortisol
levels are just so low that like you don't hit
you because like the thought of doing that makes me
so anxious. Like I'm just like I'm in this stage
of my life where I just want to keep things
like as least anxiety inducing as humanly possible, so for
me to like even embark on such a but I
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just did not enjoy that.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
So what happened was I checked the original flight to
make sure there were seats still available. So I kind
of was in a place of being like if I
missed this flight.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
I'm good, I will be able to get on the
original flight.
Speaker 4 (36:13):
What if you didn't, though, What if your original flight
was booked, would you have lazily gotten into your new
flight or would you've gone a little faster ask people
to cut Wait?
Speaker 3 (36:24):
What if if there.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
Was no seats left on your flight? You're six twenty yeah,
and you.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Had to make this four feat No, there was an
eight ten, So I probably would have said, if be
in the airport, I'll go to the Atlanta Aquarium day
good aquarium. So but here's the thing. I didn't have
anything to get home. Like Obviously I was excited to
get home and see Haley and Phoebe. But I knew
Hailey had an event that night, so I wasn't like
rushing home to see her, right. And I also was like,
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I'm not trying to if I was, let's say I
was going to the podcast and I had a responsibility,
I'm not going to be irresponsible and switch my flight
like that. I mean, get where I need to go.
But when I didn't have anything, I thought, why not?
Why why not? Why not take it? Yeah, So it's
just a lesson for all of you. Try things. I
(37:15):
will never try that the a risk taker live a
little because what if? How cool if I but you
know what I and then I go, okay, it's okay
because now I'm gonna land at eight forty in LA
and I'm not gonna have traffic going home, whereas if
I had landed at six, I would have been stuck
in the traffic that I was sitting in the airport.
Speaker 4 (37:36):
You know what I think about often actually, which is
like so crazy. When we flew back from Jared and
Ashley's wedding, we literally got to the airport in just
enough time to walk onto our gate and walk onto
the plane like I've never done that, where like I like,
I'm just like walking, like no stopping for the bathroom
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like Pete in a hydro flask, Like we're just straight
going and like walking onto a flight.
Speaker 2 (38:03):
That was so stressful.
Speaker 6 (38:06):
Oh, I missed one flight in my life, and I
was recording at a prison in northern California with Governor
Gavin Newsom, and it went long and we were getting
to the airport and it was like we're going to
get there, I think ten minutes before it left or something.
And I had to checkle my equipment and Daniel Romo
who works with us. She was with me and she
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just made a sprint for the gate and I checked
my gear and I started sprinting too, and they were
closing the door and I was like, hold it there,
and they like, once they start closing it, I think
they can't stop it. And she told them that we
were married. She's like, my husband's out there, and they
wouldn't let me on.
Speaker 7 (38:42):
No.
Speaker 5 (38:42):
I flamed my face and I had to take a
later flight home.
Speaker 6 (38:46):
The funny thing is my equipment made it onto that flight,
so it did make the plane, which is crazy.
Speaker 5 (38:50):
But I hated it. I hated.
Speaker 4 (38:53):
Yeah, I've only missed one fight in my life as well.
But I didn't even make it to the airport, Like
I was so hungover that it was like one of
the iHeart Ready music festivals. My flight was at like
six am, Like I'm always like get me out first
thing Sunday morning, so I take like the earliest flight
out and I didn't even wake up until like eleven am.
So I like far missed it and I had to
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drive back to LA with Amy Sugar because all the
flights were booked.
Speaker 2 (39:21):
Yeah, I've never missed another flight.
Speaker 3 (39:24):
Yeah, well it's life is life.
Speaker 4 (39:27):
In life is life in and pressure and pressure and
to night.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
Right, Yeah, yeah, that part the part.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
So it's just about like living and stuff and like
what's the worst that can happen?
Speaker 2 (39:48):
You know, I just could never be married to you,
is what I realized.
Speaker 3 (39:51):
And that's that works, yeah for us.
Speaker 4 (39:54):
But like I give props to Haley because if Robbie
were like you, it would be a really bad situation
for our relationship.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
But I'm like, like, even with the Bahamas thing, when
when they had our flight fight or ride scheduled super
early and you wanted to go and then I didn't
want to go that early. We met in the middle.
Like I do believe in compromise. If I'm flying with someone,
I only really do that stuff if I'm like by myself.
And the Boston thing after Jared and Ashley's wedding, we
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did not realize that was not even me being irresponsible.
We were so tired you had to pee in your
hydroflask like we were sitting in traffic.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
It was very stressful. It was very stressful.
Speaker 6 (40:32):
So I'm sorry if you consider it, how is it
does Haley want to get to the airport early what's
her attitude.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
She's a little bit on the same page as me,
but she might run a little more stressed, Like I'm
a little more relaxed and she's a little more stressed
about it, but we kind of run in the same
I do.
Speaker 6 (40:47):
I remember going to Tanya's wedding last year because you
were already there and we were in the airport and
Haley was on our flight going out and we hung
out with her and she was there same time as me,
which is pretty damn early love that.
Speaker 3 (40:59):
Yeah, yeah, I think probably when she's by herself, she's
a little more responsible. I held her back.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
What do you think about?
Speaker 3 (41:06):
It's something to think about, and thank you for bringing
that to my attention. I'll be more considerate moving forward.
We have a we have one like kind of miniature
dear Bonia question, because it's something we should talk talk
about and help her out with, and we'll do it
when we come back. We're back, We're back. Okay. So
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this is from a tired and touched out scrubber. It
seems that this scrubber has a different love language than
their partner that you want to read these.
Speaker 6 (41:57):
I'd love to thank you for the invitation Hello with
six o's to my favorite people. I'm a stay at
home mom to a two year old in five month
old twins. I feel incredibly blessed and truly love being
in this role, but caring for a toddler while also nursing, holding,
and caring for two infants all day is exhausting.
Speaker 5 (42:15):
By the end of the day, I.
Speaker 6 (42:16):
Am completely spent. I also grew up in a non
touchy feely home. There's lots of love, but not much
physical affection, so physical touch has not been a big
need for me. My husband, on the other hand, thrives
on it. It is his number one love language and
I've worked hard to meet him there. He is honestly
an angel. After working all day, he jumps right in
with helping with the kids, cooking, cleaning, baths, bedtime, house projects,
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and even make sure I get breaks to see friends
or get out of the house. My love language is
acts of service, and he shows up for me constantly.
The issue is he wants to cuddle all night long,
and I literally cannot sleep while being touched. In fact,
I'm literally writing this in the middle of the night
while he's cuddling me because I cannot sleep.
Speaker 5 (42:55):
Oh Wow.
Speaker 6 (42:57):
I'm happy to cuddle before bed, and I try to
fill his cup in the day with hugs, holding hands,
sitting close with the kids, all of that. But when
it's time to actually sleep, I just can't do it.
I brought it up before, and it makes him really sad.
This is truly the one thing he asks for while
meeting so maybe my needs every day. But I'm also
running on themes between the babies waking up and not
being able to sleep when I get back into bed.
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How can I meet his need for physical touch without
hurting him while also getting the rest I need to
show up as the mom I want to be ps
in this season, it's really hard to take all my
kids out to do things because I simply don't have
enough hands. So we take a lot of drives and
I listen to the pod gets me through many difficult days.
And I appreciate you for.
Speaker 5 (43:33):
More than you know. Thank you for what you do.
Speaker 4 (43:35):
Wow, I mean I am her husband in this situation,
So all right.
Speaker 3 (43:40):
I love like I love cuddling, and Haley and I
are both like physical touches one of our top love languages,
so that works for us. But I do feel like
when we go to bed, it's like we cuddle and
then like when we are both like going to sleep,
we like just naturally separate and I could not do
if like I like because I like to have my
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legs I turn and toss and like I just want
to have like the freedom and space to do it.
So I feel like it's well, how would you handle
it for Robbie said, hey, I.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Think we lived through this. Oh oh so yeah, this
is no, no, no, I'll be this. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (44:17):
I like I would like to cuddle all night long,
Like I would just love to like be on top
of each other the whole night.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
He is at hard.
Speaker 4 (44:24):
He doesn't he doesn't sleep so great, so it's like
important for him. He needs like his space to sleep,
and I too. When he told me that, I'm like,
you know, I did my like pouty thing, and then
I was like, you know what, Obviously sleep is important.
So we have a compromise. And it's not really compromise
because he wants to do it too. But we cuddle
when we like watch TV or whatever in bed. Then
when its time of sleep, we like separate. We're on
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our different sides of the bed. And then on the
weekends when we wake up, we cuddle when we wake
up before getting out of bed, so we still have
like morning cuddles.
Speaker 3 (44:56):
Oh. I don't know if they have this option because
they have small kids and babies, but I do like that.
Speaker 4 (45:01):
Like we obviously can't do it during the week because
we're getting up at different times, but whenever we can,
we cut on bed. But when we sleep time is
sleep time. He's just gonna have to get over it.
Speaker 3 (45:12):
Like I understand because.
Speaker 2 (45:13):
I was like poudy about it too, but like he'll
get over it.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
I also think it's like the way you communicate it,
which is like, hey, I'm I'm already not getting a
lot of sleep and taking care of the kids. I'm
very touched. I have multiple hands on me wanting me
at all times, and when I sleep, that's like my
only time where I'm not having to think about that.
So and maybe ask him, like what is the compromise,
because like, I want to be able to you fill
(45:37):
my cup so much.
Speaker 2 (45:38):
I really lead with that.
Speaker 4 (45:40):
Praise him for he shows up for you, and you
want to show up the way that way back.
Speaker 3 (45:44):
But this is just really IMPORTANTEP, and it's important for
you to have sleep, so you have the energy and
capacity to give to him and the kids. But I
would just say, what, what is a way that I
can still have my space when I so I'm able
to sleep, but also that you feel love didn't seen
and have your love language fulfilled because you do that
for me and he if he's like it's cuddling all
(46:08):
night or.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
Else, no, he's not going to this guy sounds I know.
Speaker 3 (46:11):
I'm just saying. I think you just need to like
lean into how wonderful he is to you and fills
your cup, but you also need to be able to sleep,
and you can't sleep if you're being touched.
Speaker 2 (46:20):
He's one of the good ones.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
You have this issue on the same page.
Speaker 6 (46:28):
I mean, uh yeah, like not to this extent, but
you know, I mean so I can tell him she
doesn't want to be touched and I respect it, and.
Speaker 5 (46:36):
That's you know, I move on.
Speaker 3 (46:39):
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, he's just gotta he's just gotta. No,
it's not personal for sure. Yeah yeah yeah. Just remember
you guys. If you ever want some just advice, excellent advice,
excellent advice, just dm this on Instagram at scrubbing in
pod or email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot
com Tanya. I hope you're having the best time in
(46:59):
Mexico so much.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Hope you enjoying your weekend as well.
Speaker 3 (47:02):
Thank you, We love you all, Love you Bye.
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