March 17, 2026 • 26 mins
Have you ever noticed how your thoughts seem to jump ahead before the moment has caught up?
Why can a simple task spiral into mental noise, while something random pulls you into deep focus for hours?
How often do you tell yourself you’ll “get to it later,” only to feel surprised when time disappears again?
What happens when you stop blaming yourself for that—and start paying attention to how your brain actually works?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi shares a grounded, personal conversation about living with ADHD and the systems that helped her move from constant overwhelm to more clarity, calm, and self-trust. She opens up about racing thoughts, time blindness, interrupting conversations, overstimulation, and the quiet shame that can come from feeling misunderstood—while offering practical, compassionate tools that support an ADHD nervous system.
Rather than pushing discipline or productivity hacks that don’t stick, Radhi explores why external structure creates internal peace, why environment matters more than willpower, and how small shifts—like movement, breath, realistic timing, and simplifying routines—can change how supported you feel in your own life.
In this episode, you’ll explore:
- Why ADHD can feel chaotic even when you’re trying your best
- How time blindness and overstimulation affect daily life and relationships
- What kinds of structure actually help an ADHD brain
- Why calm comes from systems, not self-criticism
- How to work with your brain instead of fighting it
This episode isn’t about fixing yourself or forcing focus. It’s about understanding your operating system, creating safety in your nervous system, and realizing that what once felt like chaos may just be untapped intelligence waiting for the right support.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
When your mind feels chaotic, which usually it does for us,
you need to create organization externally to feel some sort
of peace and calm internally. Now, some people say I
have organized chaos around me, and I think I believe it,
but I also don't, because actually just organized calm is
better than organized chaos. I'm Radi Wukiah and on my
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podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the messy and
the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfielded conversations that
celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in to learn,
connect and find comfort together. Hello, welcome back to this
week's episode of A Really Good Cry.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Thank you so much for coming back here.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So grateful for you all, and honestly, I have to
say that this community has just become so surprisingly I
don't know why. I didn't expect it to be incredible,
but you guys are absolutely incredible. When I read your
dms and I see the comments on that page, and
some of you have come completely randomly to A Really
Good Cry, not even through my page, and it's so
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so lovely to experience this new energy of people coming
through and actually connecting on things that we just want
to get better.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
At in life like that's such a beautiful community to build.
So thank you again, so grateful for you all. And
today I want to.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Talk about a topic that is very near and dear
to my heart because it's something that I used to
be a little bit disheartened by. But I feel like
I've really turned it into a bit of a superpower
and found a way to really use it to my advantage.
And I really wanted to share that because I know
sometimes having ADHD can for really overwhelming and difficult, but
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actually I think that there is a beautiful silver lining
in it, and if you use the right tools and
techniques in your life, there is a possibility to really
make it work for you, even if right now it
feels like that's not possible, which is a position I
was definitely in my ADHD mind. Was something that I
used to think was such a disadvantage. I used to
feel really behind, feel really misunderstood, feel sad that I
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was mislabeled as inconsistent because I really don't want to
be inconsistent or people expecting me to just not finish
things or be really late all the time, and noticing
myself interrupting people when they're talking even though I really
wanted to hear what they were saying. You know, for
other people, it can show up in erratic emotions or
small things feeling really big oversharing in social settings. The
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fact is, to really appreciate it, we kind of have
to go back and understand what ADHD actually is. And
so the first thing that we have to come to
terms with is that our mind moves way faster than
the average person, and we have this content fear of
forgetting what we want to say, moving from one topic
to another within one sentence, or topic hopping in conversations constantly.
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And it's so funny because I remember when me and
Jay started dating. He would be talking about something and
I would ask a question or make a comment that
seemed absolutely unrelated to what he said, which would make
him feel like I just wasn't listening or paying attention
or didn't care.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
But it was that at all.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It's like, if he said the word India in his sentence,
by the time he's finished his sentence, my mind has gone, hmm, India.
I bought this top in India. Oh God, I really
need to get dry clean hmm. I wonder if he
needs to get anything dry clean, then we could send
our stuff together. And so my response to whatever he
was saying would be, do you need to do anything
dry clean today? And he would be like, wait, have
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you even been listening to anything I've been saying? Why
would you even think of that? Have you not heard
a word that's come out of my mouth? And I'm like, no,
I literally heard everything, but my mind just had it differently.
And so one thing's for sure, you will never have
a dull conversation with someone with ADHD. It will be
full and overflowing with things that are very interesting. Just
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may not be in a conventional way that you expected it.
You might have to put the pieces together yourself. But honestly,
I actually love it now and ADHD mine is spontaneous
and creative, and it's filled with ideas and it thinks
outside the box. So yes, we may not be inventional,
but we're pretty exciting and our brain thinks a lot.
I remember I actually had years ago, years ago when
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I didn't even honestly think I had ADHD or didn't
identify with it at the time. I had my brain
scanned by doctor Daniel Amen and I think about that
video somewhere online. But he told me that different areas
of my brain just light up at the same time,
way more than if you compared it to a neurotypical brain.
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And that actually made me feel so understood and helped
me to understand myself better. And you know what, it
didn't bother me so much as I was growing up
and even up till the point i'd say that I
started actually doing this podcast, and it started becoming so
heightened because I had to hear myself speak, and I
would have guests on the podcast and so many and
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the feedback that I was receiving, and I would find
it really hard to let someone finish their sentence, not
because of selfishness or wanted to hear my own voice
like some people in my comments kindly highlighted to me,
but because of excitement that, oh my gosh, I can
relate to this and out of impulse because I'm so
excited to share what's in my mind or the thing
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that I've related it to in my mind. After hearing
episodes back, I totally saw how disruptive it can be
to conversations, and I really started to actively change that.
So I did little things like I got myself a
pen and a notepad to take notes while the guests
was speaking. And now I'm so much better in those
podcast episodes where I'm writing all the things that I
have to say down so I can ask them after.
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But then also it's impacted my day to day life
and how much better I am I having normal conversations
with people, and it's something I really recommend. And obviously,
when you're having conversations with thermal people, you're not going
to get a pen and paper out.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
But something I.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Really recommend is getting things out of your head by
doing a brain dumb At the beginning of the day,
our mind holds so.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Many thoughts for someone with our.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
ADHD, and then when you do have it, your mind
can kind of skip from place to place to place,
and you can find it really difficult to focus, and
so to hold everything in your head it just becomes
really exhausting.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
But something about me is that once I am.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Up, i am up, and my mind is ready to
go zero to one hundred. So I've just accepted that
and come to terms with the fact that doing my meditation,
maybe I do need a pen and paper next to
me so that I can jot down everything that's coming
into my mind from the things I need to buy
on my shopping list to the person that I forgot
to text last week, and so having it next to
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me just allows all those thoughts to come out rather
than just sit and swirl around in my mind. And
then during the day, I usually use my notes app
on my phone and I just make sure that I
title them right. One of them is just pure chaos,
like all the random things that I think of, and
then I go back to it and try and organize
it into some sort of structured notes, or I'll just
delete the ones that were just thoughts that I no
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longer needed to keep space for mentally and physically. The
second thing I really recommend, and I cannot emphasize how
important this is, do it now, especially if it takes
less than five minutes.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Make that your rule.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
If something is going to take me less than five,
maybe even ten minutes, I'm going to do with the
moment that I think about it. One thing I've started
to make a conscious effort to get better at these
days is replying to people as they message me. I
actually full intention of responding to people when they message me.
I tell myself I'll do it when I'm not busy,
when I can pay attention to what I write back,
be more thoughtful, more eloquent, Maybe when I get into
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bed and I have a moment to think, and to
be honest, it never happened, and so weeks would go by,
and then suddenly they pop into my brain at a
random moment in time that was absolutely not the right
time for them to pop into my mind, but they do.
And then all I'm thinking about is the fact that
I have to reply back to them instead of the
conversation I meant or the work I'm trying to do,
And so to prevent all of that, how about we
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just write something back. One thing that helps is voice knowing,
because sometimes texting feels like you have to put so
much effort. Voice note bing bang done so much easier,
and then you can take that off your list and
you know that you've replied back to them. It was
also something that really bugs me when people would say
it about my personality, where they say, oh, yeah, don't worry,
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you can't even expect her to respond, and I was like, wait,
what do you mean. I didn't even realize that I
was doing it, and so I started writing back in
the moment even if it was short, even if it
was snappy, and my friend started to notice, and that
actually felt so good to be the person that responds.
Now sometimes to my friends, I'm like, you know, I
respond faster than you do, actually, but it just showed
me that you can change habits if you set up
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the right structure for yourself. A nothing I would do
is if there was a message or email that needed
a little bit more time or thought, I would have
a note in my phone for all the people that
I need to respond to, call back email bag, and
just have an ongoing list of that in one place.
Because sometimes I'd remember I need to respond to someone,
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but I could not remember who it was. Then I
spend half an hour scrolling through every form of messaging
to see if I could remember who it was. Just
so not time efficient, and honestly, when it comes to task,
it's the same stop waiting to have time to do it,
especially if it takes between zero to five minutes the core,
put the clothes in the washing machine, place the Amazon order,
and at the time it might feel a little bit
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weird or feel like a chore, but the feeling of
reward and accomplishment after is so good. You're like, yeah,
I did that, I thought of it and I did it.
What that's amazing because you actually did what needed to
be done, and your body and your mind will reward
you for that because you've completed a loop in your mind.
And so I think the trick to ADHD is in
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the systems and structures that you put in to place
for yourself. And it only becomes a disadvantage in systems
that are not designed for us, not designed for us
amazing people to come in and disrupt their world. But
with the right structure, it can really become a superpower.
So once you have these easy systems in plates, it
can make things feel so much more manageable. So the
next thing I struggle with being an adhder is something
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they call time blindness.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
We have two issues with time.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
We struggle to really comprehend how long things will take us.
We almost have this illusional, optimistic view of being able
to do so much within a very short period of time.
I do that all the time when I'm cooking for people.
I'm like, oh, this will literally take me an hour.
I'm still there four or five hours later, and I'm.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Like, I really thought I really thought it was only.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Going to take me an hour, and my mind really
does think that, and so we struggle with how long
things will take us, but also losing track of time
while doing anything, being really surprised by deadlines even when
you knew.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
About them, but you really believe that you.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Can fit everything in, and I always feel like I
could do one more thing before leaving, and then.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I always end up being late.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I don't know whether any of you can relate to that,
but I do that every single time. It's like I'm
actually running early for something, but then I realize I'm
running so early that I could fit something else in,
and the thing I tried to fit in absolutely will
not fit in that time. And so you then end
up being late and feeling awful about it, cancelling last
minute because everything took so much longer than you expected,
and then your friends ended up thinking you just don't care,
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or or you end up avoiding plans altogether because timing
just feels so stressful. It's not organization or disrespect, it's
just that time just doesn't register in the same way
for us. So useful way to handle this is doing
realistic alarms for yourself and setting really big buffer times.
Sometimes the people around me will give me fake times
to make sure that I'm ready, and I don't like it,
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but I understand why they have to do it, but
I still don't appreciate it. So instead I send myself
a buffer so I feel like I'm in control. You
might have seen me sharing my journey of training for
High Rocks. I wanted to push myself to do something
out of my comfort zone, but also something my younger
self would have never expected us to achieve.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Running is a big part of High Rocks.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
You have to run almost six miles throughout the race,
and so I have been spending a lot of my
time running. I've always loved running as a way to
find rhythm in my life, not just for performance, but
to create space in my mind. I found whenever my
mind is racing or I feel overwhelmed, moving my body,
especially running, helps me to get out of my head
and back into the present moment, into my body. And
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I with the type of person who thought I'd enjoy running.
I used to hear my friends talk about a running
high where you just get into this stride. You're not
thinking about the movement, You're just in flow. And I
had never really felt that a huge part of that
is what I run in, the clothing I wear, but
more importantly, the shoes I'm wearing. It's so hard to
feel free in your mind when your body isn't feeling
comfortable or is in pain, and I found that a
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hurdle in the past when I've tried to do long runs.
I started wearing Ultra running shoes. Ultrafit mimics the natural
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That extra room might seem small, but it changes how
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When they have space and they given the opportunity to
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we really like to start lots and lots of things together.
I say, we look, you may not be feeling all
these but I'm going to do a Wii because it
makes me feel like we're part of this together. Okay,
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but we get so excited and we want to start
all these new things phenomenal, so fun.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
We're full of ideas.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
But what I would recommend is that you really try
to complete one thing and then start the next. I
know it goes against every fiber of your being, but
I'm telling you it is an absolute game change and
actually way more efficient than starting one hundred things at
a time. I know that feels odd too, because our
mind tells us doing all the things at the same
time is more efficient, But going against that impulse is
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important to actually get through things. So just make a
point of telling yourself, I do not move on from
this activity till I've finished it. It's like a tag
in tag out situation, not I'm going to put you
to the side.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Start this, put that to the side, and.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Then you might d u getting to the end of
the day and feel like you just haven't completed anything.
And so it feels so much nicer to do less
in a day but finish each thing as you go along.
So I mentioned structure, but I would like to emphasize
how important structure is when you're mine feels chaotic, which
usually it does for us. You need to create organization
externally to feel some sort of peace and calm internally.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Now some people.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Say I have organized chaos around me, and I think
I believe it, but I also don't because actually just
organized calm is better than organized chaos. And so to
make it all make sense in your mind, make your
external environment a little bit more peaceful. Alarms, schedule, adding
things to your calendar, having places for everything that you
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need in your life, having drawers labeled. If you came
to my house you think there was something wrong with me.
I have everything labeled, every single jar, every single spice pot,
every single draw There is a place for everything, because
it just helps me to feel sane in my day
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and it helps me helps me feel organized in my
mind when I see organization externally. But also add less
than more. Remember that time thing I said, don't add
too much in there. Whatever you think you could do,
buffer an extra thirty minutes either side, at least per
activity to see if you can get it done, and
then you don't feel disappointed every day then you didn't
keep up with your schedule, because that will then put
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you off having a schedule and it will not feeling
too overwhelming saying, oh, well, I didn't stick to my schedule,
and having a schedule makes me feel really anxious because
when I don't finish it, I feel disappointed in myself,
so it can become a vicious cycle. So start off
by scheduling really small things in your day, tick them off,
and then move on to adding more and more in.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
As time goes on.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Let me tell you the most underrated thing for ADHD,
the most underrated thing. It is free and it requires
no tools, no equipment.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
You know what that is?
Speaker 1 (16:44):
A simple breath? Yes, so underrated, actually really not given
the praise that it should in life. Because breath is
the anchor between your mind and your body. It can
help you to collect your thoughts and help you keep going.
Breathing is so underestimated and underused superpower when it comes
to your mind racing.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
And so take deep.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Breath during the day when you catch your mind running
at the speed of lightning, Just sit, take a deep breath,
collect your thoughts, and then move on to the next thing.
I find it makes such a difference to the speed
I speak at or my mind thinking of one hundred things.
It really really does make a difference. It brings instant
calm to your nervous system and so you don't need
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fancy tools or anything. All you need to do is
reconnect to your breath sometimes and it can really help
you to focus.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Again.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
I mentioned this earlier about cutting people off of a conversation,
and I think I found a really useful way to
stay present in a conversation. I really try to focus
on what the person is saying, not what I'm going
to say next. And to be able to do that,
you have to increase your presence in the moment. And
presence in the moment comes with where your focus is at.
And so to get yourself out of your mind and
back into the conversation if you notice it, you know,
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going on a different tangent or getting distracted. I do
think is like looking at their mouth while they are speaking.
Really seeing their mouth move helps me to focus on
what they're saying, but also listening to the tone of
the voice, making eye contact. Don't be looking around while
they're speaking. Lock into the person. Lock into the conversation
allows you to be more present, allows them to feel
like you are actually engaging in the conversation, but also
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allows you to really hear what they're saying, rather than
being distracted by our own mind. And another thing is
we always try to mold ourselves to other people or
the environment around us, But what if we created an
environment that works for us, not against us. I used
to think I needed more will power, more discipline in
my life, but I didn't. I just need a few
distractions in my life, and so I had to change
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a few things externally and internally and in my day
to allow myself to thrive in the environment.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
That I've created.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Our brains are highly sensitive to visual and sensory noise,
and so removing friction can help more than trying harder.
So practical changes that could work are things like your
phone in another room.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
It sounds.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
I know you hear things like that and you're like, ah,
not really for me, but try it. You amount have
noise that comes from just this one screen is insane.
Having only one tap open on your computer at a time,
so you're not seeing so many things open.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
That helps me a lot.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
Having a physical notebook next to you at all times,
having a clear workspace. Take five minutes before you sit
down to just clear your area so you don't see
anything else there so nothing is distracting you. No open books,
but nothing. Just try and keep your area very minimalist.
Another thing that I have done that has severely helped
me in my day where I can notice my mind
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starting to wonder is I get on the treadmill and
I walk while I work. And I used to think,
oh my god, why am I so focused when I'm
walking on the treadmill. I get so much done on there,
And it really does help to regulate your focus. It
actually boosts openmine, which is the focus chemical in your body.
So sometimes if I'm on a phone call, I'll pace,
or if I'm thinking about something, I'll just walk up
and down. And I always spend at least like an
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hour of my day, especially during the afternoon period, to
walk on the treadmill and work on there, and sometimes
I end up getting done more in one hour of
walking and working than I do of three to four
hours sitting still. And if you don't want to do that,
you could stretch between your tasks, but just doing short
bursts of movement between things can help to refocus you,
like literally five minutes in between activities. ADHD often involves
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our nervous system being really dysregulated, so either we're overstimulated
or we're understimulated, and so movement helps the body to
remove any excess energy and brings the system back into balance,
which is why pacing helps you think, fidgeting can help
you listen, and gentle movement can help you to reduce
anxiety that you're feeling. As much as we love being spontaneous,
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what really helps is creating less variables in your routine.
Monotony is actually our best friend. Having the same breakfast
most days, the same morning rhythm makes us have fewer
decisions to make, which means we have more energy. The
less decision fatigue we have, the better, the more we
have energy to spend in the rest of our day.
And so actually you won't think of repeating the same
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thing every day, how boring, but actually doesn't make it boring.
It makes it lighter, more stable, and makes you less anxious. Okay,
so everything that I've shared until now has been more
practical and based on lifestyle, and I think sometimes people
forget that what we eat and how we eat can
absolutely influence how active our mind feels. And so I
really wanted to touch on diet too, because it's so
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important when it comes to ADHD. So the first thing
is probably going to be something you don't want to hear,
but it's something.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
That I have to tell you.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
It is my duty to let you know, to plant
the seed in your mind. It is, girl, you got
to get off that coffee as much as you possibly can.
And I know, coffee smells so good. I love the
smell of coffee. The ritual feels so good. It's so comforting.
But the thing is that the caffeine and coffee and
how it hits your body, it can just tip you
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over the edge. If your mind is already over active,
it can just create more chaos in your mind and
take it into overdrive. Now, there are some really great
alternatives these days.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
Mud water.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
My friends have been using that. They absolutely love it.
You know, having a little functional mushroom war beverage sounds
the same.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Doesn't it.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Okay, it doesn't sound the same, but I guarantee you
that you can learn to love it. But they honestly
do taste pretty great. They've really mastered at least an
alternative for that. And that's really why we ended up
making Junior was Sparkling adaptationic tea brand because we wanted
people to have a healthy dose of caffeine. We have
caffeinated and decaf options, but the caffeated ones are Energy
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from Green Tea and adaptogens that can really help calm
the mind and focus while still giving you energy.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
So it's got that perfect balance.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
And to be honest, if you still want to stick
to your coffee ritual, you can always try a decaff
coffee for at least one of the coffees you're having
in the day, and ideally the one that you start
your morning with is the most important because it says
the tone for the rest of the day. Another big
influence is our sugar levels, trying to balance them throughout
the day and not starting the day off with a
huge sugar spike that just rattles you up and throws
you off. So starting your mourning with a bit of
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protein and some healthy fats can really help to b
and stabilize your blood sugar for the rest of the
day and set your mind up for success so that
it can go through the day more calm and collected.
I actually recently started having a savory breakfast again instead
of my morning smoothie, which I used to put lots
of berries, and I used to put my protein powder
in there too, but it was stead a sweeter breakfast.
And so right now I'm doing this unsweetened yogurt with
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a mixture of swear beans or chickpeas or edamamae beans
and some seeds and nuts, and also a little cilentroid chutney.
And I'm so obsessed with it. I literally can't wait
for the morning to eat it. But it also, I've noticed,
is making my mind and my gut feel a lot
better right now than doing a smoothie, And so try
out having a savory breakfast now. The thing is everything
is going to be an experiment for you. You may
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end up trying it and realizing that actually, I don't
feel any different. But I think a big part of
this process is observation and also experimenting. Test something out,
take one thing out, substitute it with something else, and
see how your body and your mind reacts. You might
even have to have the thing that you're used to
having for a couple more days so that you can
observe how you feel on it to be able to
see what the differences. Now, if you're not taking a
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Mega three supplement for your brain, this is such a
great supplement to start incorporating to support your brain function.
There is also elthianine, which can help to calm.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Your nervous system.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Elthenin is also in matches, so that could be a
good substitute for you in the morning for you to
sop out your coffee with two. Do not forget to
incorporate probiotics or probiotic foods into your diet every day.
I always have soaur krat in my fridge and I
have it with my breakfast or my lunch. It's so
easy to incorporate into anything. It's so great for your gut,
but also as a crunchy sour thing on the side
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of your food, which is always nice. And lastly, try
to have an overall anti inflammatory diet, which sounds a
little bit more complicated than it actually is really and truly,
the more whole foods that you eat, the less process
packaged foods that you eat, the less inflammatory your.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Diet will be.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
If you don't have to cut out all package foods.
You could also do this gradually, maybe like two days
a week you decide that you're going to cook at
home instead, or you're gonna substitute out that packet of
crisps or chips for I don't know, some crispy tofood
that you made at home, or some nuts, or maybe
some seed crackers that you made at home. And also
the same goes for having an anti inflammatory lifestyle. One
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of my favorite things to do every single week at
the moment is doing a sauna or cold plunge, or
even just doing a bath at home with epsom salts.
If you don't have that accessible to you, just try
and focus on the basics getting good sleep, quantity and quality,
moving your body, and incorporating some simple breathing into your day,
and then add in being a little bit more mindful
about what you're eating, and honestly you'll be doing great.
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And just remember you never have to change anything too drastically.
Sometimes if we try to change too much, our mind
and our body ends up rebelling and it feels too
drastic and it feels unsafe. And so pick little things
that you feel comfortable changing in your life today, and
then every week you could incorporate something new or one
small shift that you make and add into your daily schedule.
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So I would like you to remember next time you're
really disliking your ADHD and you feel like you don't
belong because of it, just know that it is not
a flaw at all. It's just a different operating system.
And you need to figure out systems that work for you,
to really work with it rather than against it. And
once I understood that, and once I started spending time
and investing energy into creating that for myself, everything got
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so much easier. Doesn't mean that it's still not difficult
at times, but I really think working on these systems
is what can really save you.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
So yeah, I hope that helped.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
Let me know if you have any tips or tricks,
DM me comment when this episode comes out. We'd love
to hear from all of you wonderful people by sending
you so much love and thank you so so much
for listening.
When your mind feels chaotic, which usually it does for us,
you need to create organization externally to feel some sort
of peace and calm internally. Now, some people say I
have organized chaos around me, and I think I believe it,
but I also don't, because actually just organized calm is
better than organized chaos. I'm Radi Wukiah and on my
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podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the messy and
the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfielded conversations that
celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in to learn,
connect and find comfort together. Hello, welcome back to this
week's episode of A Really Good Cry.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Thank you so much for coming back here.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So grateful for you all, and honestly, I have to
say that this community has just become so surprisingly I
don't know why. I didn't expect it to be incredible,
but you guys are absolutely incredible. When I read your
dms and I see the comments on that page, and
some of you have come completely randomly to A Really
Good Cry, not even through my page, and it's so
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so lovely to experience this new energy of people coming
through and actually connecting on things that we just want
to get better.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
At in life like that's such a beautiful community to build.
So thank you again, so grateful for you all. And
today I want to.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Talk about a topic that is very near and dear
to my heart because it's something that I used to
be a little bit disheartened by. But I feel like
I've really turned it into a bit of a superpower
and found a way to really use it to my advantage.
And I really wanted to share that because I know
sometimes having ADHD can for really overwhelming and difficult, but
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actually I think that there is a beautiful silver lining
in it, and if you use the right tools and
techniques in your life, there is a possibility to really
make it work for you, even if right now it
feels like that's not possible, which is a position I
was definitely in my ADHD mind. Was something that I
used to think was such a disadvantage. I used to
feel really behind, feel really misunderstood, feel sad that I
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was mislabeled as inconsistent because I really don't want to
be inconsistent or people expecting me to just not finish
things or be really late all the time, and noticing
myself interrupting people when they're talking even though I really
wanted to hear what they were saying. You know, for
other people, it can show up in erratic emotions or
small things feeling really big oversharing in social settings. The
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fact is, to really appreciate it, we kind of have
to go back and understand what ADHD actually is. And
so the first thing that we have to come to
terms with is that our mind moves way faster than
the average person, and we have this content fear of
forgetting what we want to say, moving from one topic
to another within one sentence, or topic hopping in conversations constantly.
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And it's so funny because I remember when me and
Jay started dating. He would be talking about something and
I would ask a question or make a comment that
seemed absolutely unrelated to what he said, which would make
him feel like I just wasn't listening or paying attention
or didn't care.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
But it was that at all.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It's like, if he said the word India in his sentence,
by the time he's finished his sentence, my mind has gone, hmm, India.
I bought this top in India. Oh God, I really
need to get dry clean hmm. I wonder if he
needs to get anything dry clean, then we could send
our stuff together. And so my response to whatever he
was saying would be, do you need to do anything
dry clean today? And he would be like, wait, have
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you even been listening to anything I've been saying? Why
would you even think of that? Have you not heard
a word that's come out of my mouth? And I'm like, no,
I literally heard everything, but my mind just had it differently.
And so one thing's for sure, you will never have
a dull conversation with someone with ADHD. It will be
full and overflowing with things that are very interesting. Just
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may not be in a conventional way that you expected it.
You might have to put the pieces together yourself. But honestly,
I actually love it now and ADHD mine is spontaneous
and creative, and it's filled with ideas and it thinks
outside the box. So yes, we may not be inventional,
but we're pretty exciting and our brain thinks a lot.
I remember I actually had years ago, years ago when
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I didn't even honestly think I had ADHD or didn't
identify with it at the time. I had my brain
scanned by doctor Daniel Amen and I think about that
video somewhere online. But he told me that different areas
of my brain just light up at the same time,
way more than if you compared it to a neurotypical brain.
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And that actually made me feel so understood and helped
me to understand myself better. And you know what, it
didn't bother me so much as I was growing up
and even up till the point i'd say that I
started actually doing this podcast, and it started becoming so
heightened because I had to hear myself speak, and I
would have guests on the podcast and so many and
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the feedback that I was receiving, and I would find
it really hard to let someone finish their sentence, not
because of selfishness or wanted to hear my own voice
like some people in my comments kindly highlighted to me,
but because of excitement that, oh my gosh, I can
relate to this and out of impulse because I'm so
excited to share what's in my mind or the thing
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that I've related it to in my mind. After hearing
episodes back, I totally saw how disruptive it can be
to conversations, and I really started to actively change that.
So I did little things like I got myself a
pen and a notepad to take notes while the guests
was speaking. And now I'm so much better in those
podcast episodes where I'm writing all the things that I
have to say down so I can ask them after.
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But then also it's impacted my day to day life
and how much better I am I having normal conversations
with people, and it's something I really recommend. And obviously,
when you're having conversations with thermal people, you're not going
to get a pen and paper out.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
But something I.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Really recommend is getting things out of your head by
doing a brain dumb At the beginning of the day,
our mind holds so.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Many thoughts for someone with our.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
ADHD, and then when you do have it, your mind
can kind of skip from place to place to place,
and you can find it really difficult to focus, and
so to hold everything in your head it just becomes
really exhausting.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
But something about me is that once I am.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Up, i am up, and my mind is ready to
go zero to one hundred. So I've just accepted that
and come to terms with the fact that doing my meditation,
maybe I do need a pen and paper next to
me so that I can jot down everything that's coming
into my mind from the things I need to buy
on my shopping list to the person that I forgot
to text last week, and so having it next to
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me just allows all those thoughts to come out rather
than just sit and swirl around in my mind. And
then during the day, I usually use my notes app
on my phone and I just make sure that I
title them right. One of them is just pure chaos,
like all the random things that I think of, and
then I go back to it and try and organize
it into some sort of structured notes, or I'll just
delete the ones that were just thoughts that I no
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longer needed to keep space for mentally and physically. The
second thing I really recommend, and I cannot emphasize how
important this is, do it now, especially if it takes
less than five minutes.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Make that your rule.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
If something is going to take me less than five,
maybe even ten minutes, I'm going to do with the
moment that I think about it. One thing I've started
to make a conscious effort to get better at these
days is replying to people as they message me. I
actually full intention of responding to people when they message me.
I tell myself I'll do it when I'm not busy,
when I can pay attention to what I write back,
be more thoughtful, more eloquent, Maybe when I get into
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bed and I have a moment to think, and to
be honest, it never happened, and so weeks would go by,
and then suddenly they pop into my brain at a
random moment in time that was absolutely not the right
time for them to pop into my mind, but they do.
And then all I'm thinking about is the fact that
I have to reply back to them instead of the
conversation I meant or the work I'm trying to do,
And so to prevent all of that, how about we
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just write something back. One thing that helps is voice knowing,
because sometimes texting feels like you have to put so
much effort. Voice note bing bang done so much easier,
and then you can take that off your list and
you know that you've replied back to them. It was
also something that really bugs me when people would say
it about my personality, where they say, oh, yeah, don't worry,
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you can't even expect her to respond, and I was like, wait,
what do you mean. I didn't even realize that I
was doing it, and so I started writing back in
the moment even if it was short, even if it
was snappy, and my friend started to notice, and that
actually felt so good to be the person that responds.
Now sometimes to my friends, I'm like, you know, I
respond faster than you do, actually, but it just showed
me that you can change habits if you set up
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the right structure for yourself. A nothing I would do
is if there was a message or email that needed
a little bit more time or thought, I would have
a note in my phone for all the people that
I need to respond to, call back email bag, and
just have an ongoing list of that in one place.
Because sometimes I'd remember I need to respond to someone,
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but I could not remember who it was. Then I
spend half an hour scrolling through every form of messaging
to see if I could remember who it was. Just
so not time efficient, and honestly, when it comes to task,
it's the same stop waiting to have time to do it,
especially if it takes between zero to five minutes the core,
put the clothes in the washing machine, place the Amazon order,
and at the time it might feel a little bit
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weird or feel like a chore, but the feeling of
reward and accomplishment after is so good. You're like, yeah,
I did that, I thought of it and I did it.
What that's amazing because you actually did what needed to
be done, and your body and your mind will reward
you for that because you've completed a loop in your mind.
And so I think the trick to ADHD is in
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the systems and structures that you put in to place
for yourself. And it only becomes a disadvantage in systems
that are not designed for us, not designed for us
amazing people to come in and disrupt their world. But
with the right structure, it can really become a superpower.
So once you have these easy systems in plates, it
can make things feel so much more manageable. So the
next thing I struggle with being an adhder is something
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they call time blindness.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
We have two issues with time.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
We struggle to really comprehend how long things will take us.
We almost have this illusional, optimistic view of being able
to do so much within a very short period of time.
I do that all the time when I'm cooking for people.
I'm like, oh, this will literally take me an hour.
I'm still there four or five hours later, and I'm.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Like, I really thought I really thought it was only.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Going to take me an hour, and my mind really
does think that, and so we struggle with how long
things will take us, but also losing track of time
while doing anything, being really surprised by deadlines even when
you knew.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
About them, but you really believe that you.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Can fit everything in, and I always feel like I
could do one more thing before leaving, and then.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I always end up being late.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I don't know whether any of you can relate to that,
but I do that every single time. It's like I'm
actually running early for something, but then I realize I'm
running so early that I could fit something else in,
and the thing I tried to fit in absolutely will
not fit in that time. And so you then end
up being late and feeling awful about it, cancelling last
minute because everything took so much longer than you expected,
and then your friends ended up thinking you just don't care,
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or or you end up avoiding plans altogether because timing
just feels so stressful. It's not organization or disrespect, it's
just that time just doesn't register in the same way
for us. So useful way to handle this is doing
realistic alarms for yourself and setting really big buffer times.
Sometimes the people around me will give me fake times
to make sure that I'm ready, and I don't like it,
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but I understand why they have to do it, but
I still don't appreciate it. So instead I send myself
a buffer so I feel like I'm in control. You
might have seen me sharing my journey of training for
High Rocks. I wanted to push myself to do something
out of my comfort zone, but also something my younger
self would have never expected us to achieve.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Running is a big part of High Rocks.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
You have to run almost six miles throughout the race,
and so I have been spending a lot of my
time running. I've always loved running as a way to
find rhythm in my life, not just for performance, but
to create space in my mind. I found whenever my
mind is racing or I feel overwhelmed, moving my body,
especially running, helps me to get out of my head
and back into the present moment, into my body. And
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I with the type of person who thought I'd enjoy running.
I used to hear my friends talk about a running
high where you just get into this stride. You're not
thinking about the movement, You're just in flow. And I
had never really felt that a huge part of that
is what I run in, the clothing I wear, but
more importantly, the shoes I'm wearing. It's so hard to
feel free in your mind when your body isn't feeling
comfortable or is in pain, and I found that a
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hurdle in the past when I've tried to do long runs.
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distraction of your feet cramping or rubbing somewhere. Ultra designs
their shoes around something very simple, letting your feet be feet.
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That extra room might seem small, but it changes how
your entire body experiences movement. I've also been thinking a
lot about strength lately, and from my training, I've realized
so much of our strength comes from our foundation, our feet.
When they have space and they given the opportunity to
work fully, you feel stronger with every stride, every mile.
You trust in your body and ability so much more.
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we really like to start lots and lots of things together.
I say, we look, you may not be feeling all
these but I'm going to do a Wii because it
makes me feel like we're part of this together. Okay,
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but we get so excited and we want to start
all these new things phenomenal, so fun.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
We're full of ideas.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
But what I would recommend is that you really try
to complete one thing and then start the next. I
know it goes against every fiber of your being, but
I'm telling you it is an absolute game change and
actually way more efficient than starting one hundred things at
a time. I know that feels odd too, because our
mind tells us doing all the things at the same
time is more efficient, But going against that impulse is
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important to actually get through things. So just make a
point of telling yourself, I do not move on from
this activity till I've finished it. It's like a tag
in tag out situation, not I'm going to put you
to the side.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Start this, put that to the side, and.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Then you might d u getting to the end of
the day and feel like you just haven't completed anything.
And so it feels so much nicer to do less
in a day but finish each thing as you go along.
So I mentioned structure, but I would like to emphasize
how important structure is when you're mine feels chaotic, which
usually it does for us. You need to create organization
externally to feel some sort of peace and calm internally.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Now some people.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Say I have organized chaos around me, and I think
I believe it, but I also don't because actually just
organized calm is better than organized chaos. And so to
make it all make sense in your mind, make your
external environment a little bit more peaceful. Alarms, schedule, adding
things to your calendar, having places for everything that you
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need in your life, having drawers labeled. If you came
to my house you think there was something wrong with me.
I have everything labeled, every single jar, every single spice pot,
every single draw There is a place for everything, because
it just helps me to feel sane in my day
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and it helps me helps me feel organized in my
mind when I see organization externally. But also add less
than more. Remember that time thing I said, don't add
too much in there. Whatever you think you could do,
buffer an extra thirty minutes either side, at least per
activity to see if you can get it done, and
then you don't feel disappointed every day then you didn't
keep up with your schedule, because that will then put
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you off having a schedule and it will not feeling
too overwhelming saying, oh, well, I didn't stick to my schedule,
and having a schedule makes me feel really anxious because
when I don't finish it, I feel disappointed in myself,
so it can become a vicious cycle. So start off
by scheduling really small things in your day, tick them off,
and then move on to adding more and more in.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
As time goes on.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Let me tell you the most underrated thing for ADHD,
the most underrated thing. It is free and it requires
no tools, no equipment.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
You know what that is?
Speaker 1 (16:44):
A simple breath? Yes, so underrated, actually really not given
the praise that it should in life. Because breath is
the anchor between your mind and your body. It can
help you to collect your thoughts and help you keep going.
Breathing is so underestimated and underused superpower when it comes
to your mind racing.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
And so take deep.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Breath during the day when you catch your mind running
at the speed of lightning, Just sit, take a deep breath,
collect your thoughts, and then move on to the next thing.
I find it makes such a difference to the speed
I speak at or my mind thinking of one hundred things.
It really really does make a difference. It brings instant
calm to your nervous system and so you don't need
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fancy tools or anything. All you need to do is
reconnect to your breath sometimes and it can really help
you to focus.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Again.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
I mentioned this earlier about cutting people off of a conversation,
and I think I found a really useful way to
stay present in a conversation. I really try to focus
on what the person is saying, not what I'm going
to say next. And to be able to do that,
you have to increase your presence in the moment. And
presence in the moment comes with where your focus is at.
And so to get yourself out of your mind and
back into the conversation if you notice it, you know,
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going on a different tangent or getting distracted. I do
think is like looking at their mouth while they are speaking.
Really seeing their mouth move helps me to focus on
what they're saying, but also listening to the tone of
the voice, making eye contact. Don't be looking around while
they're speaking. Lock into the person. Lock into the conversation
allows you to be more present, allows them to feel
like you are actually engaging in the conversation, but also
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allows you to really hear what they're saying, rather than
being distracted by our own mind. And another thing is
we always try to mold ourselves to other people or
the environment around us, But what if we created an
environment that works for us, not against us. I used
to think I needed more will power, more discipline in
my life, but I didn't. I just need a few
distractions in my life, and so I had to change
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a few things externally and internally and in my day
to allow myself to thrive in the environment.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
That I've created.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Our brains are highly sensitive to visual and sensory noise,
and so removing friction can help more than trying harder.
So practical changes that could work are things like your
phone in another room.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
It sounds.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
I know you hear things like that and you're like, ah,
not really for me, but try it. You amount have
noise that comes from just this one screen is insane.
Having only one tap open on your computer at a time,
so you're not seeing so many things open.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
That helps me a lot.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
Having a physical notebook next to you at all times,
having a clear workspace. Take five minutes before you sit
down to just clear your area so you don't see
anything else there so nothing is distracting you. No open books,
but nothing. Just try and keep your area very minimalist.
Another thing that I have done that has severely helped
me in my day where I can notice my mind
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starting to wonder is I get on the treadmill and
I walk while I work. And I used to think,
oh my god, why am I so focused when I'm
walking on the treadmill. I get so much done on there,
And it really does help to regulate your focus. It
actually boosts openmine, which is the focus chemical in your body.
So sometimes if I'm on a phone call, I'll pace,
or if I'm thinking about something, I'll just walk up
and down. And I always spend at least like an
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hour of my day, especially during the afternoon period, to
walk on the treadmill and work on there, and sometimes
I end up getting done more in one hour of
walking and working than I do of three to four
hours sitting still. And if you don't want to do that,
you could stretch between your tasks, but just doing short
bursts of movement between things can help to refocus you,
like literally five minutes in between activities. ADHD often involves
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our nervous system being really dysregulated, so either we're overstimulated
or we're understimulated, and so movement helps the body to
remove any excess energy and brings the system back into balance,
which is why pacing helps you think, fidgeting can help
you listen, and gentle movement can help you to reduce
anxiety that you're feeling. As much as we love being spontaneous,
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what really helps is creating less variables in your routine.
Monotony is actually our best friend. Having the same breakfast
most days, the same morning rhythm makes us have fewer
decisions to make, which means we have more energy. The
less decision fatigue we have, the better, the more we
have energy to spend in the rest of our day.
And so actually you won't think of repeating the same
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thing every day, how boring, but actually doesn't make it boring.
It makes it lighter, more stable, and makes you less anxious. Okay,
so everything that I've shared until now has been more
practical and based on lifestyle, and I think sometimes people
forget that what we eat and how we eat can
absolutely influence how active our mind feels. And so I
really wanted to touch on diet too, because it's so
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important when it comes to ADHD. So the first thing
is probably going to be something you don't want to hear,
but it's something.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
That I have to tell you.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
It is my duty to let you know, to plant
the seed in your mind. It is, girl, you got
to get off that coffee as much as you possibly can.
And I know, coffee smells so good. I love the
smell of coffee. The ritual feels so good. It's so comforting.
But the thing is that the caffeine and coffee and
how it hits your body, it can just tip you
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over the edge. If your mind is already over active,
it can just create more chaos in your mind and
take it into overdrive. Now, there are some really great
alternatives these days.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
Mud water.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
My friends have been using that. They absolutely love it.
You know, having a little functional mushroom war beverage sounds
the same.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Doesn't it.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Okay, it doesn't sound the same, but I guarantee you
that you can learn to love it. But they honestly
do taste pretty great. They've really mastered at least an
alternative for that. And that's really why we ended up
making Junior was Sparkling adaptationic tea brand because we wanted
people to have a healthy dose of caffeine. We have
caffeinated and decaf options, but the caffeated ones are Energy
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from Green Tea and adaptogens that can really help calm
the mind and focus while still giving you energy.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
So it's got that perfect balance.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
And to be honest, if you still want to stick
to your coffee ritual, you can always try a decaff
coffee for at least one of the coffees you're having
in the day, and ideally the one that you start
your morning with is the most important because it says
the tone for the rest of the day. Another big
influence is our sugar levels, trying to balance them throughout
the day and not starting the day off with a
huge sugar spike that just rattles you up and throws
you off. So starting your mourning with a bit of
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protein and some healthy fats can really help to b
and stabilize your blood sugar for the rest of the
day and set your mind up for success so that
it can go through the day more calm and collected.
I actually recently started having a savory breakfast again instead
of my morning smoothie, which I used to put lots
of berries, and I used to put my protein powder
in there too, but it was stead a sweeter breakfast.
And so right now I'm doing this unsweetened yogurt with
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a mixture of swear beans or chickpeas or edamamae beans
and some seeds and nuts, and also a little cilentroid chutney.
And I'm so obsessed with it. I literally can't wait
for the morning to eat it. But it also, I've noticed,
is making my mind and my gut feel a lot
better right now than doing a smoothie, And so try
out having a savory breakfast now. The thing is everything
is going to be an experiment for you. You may
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end up trying it and realizing that actually, I don't
feel any different. But I think a big part of
this process is observation and also experimenting. Test something out,
take one thing out, substitute it with something else, and
see how your body and your mind reacts. You might
even have to have the thing that you're used to
having for a couple more days so that you can
observe how you feel on it to be able to
see what the differences. Now, if you're not taking a
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Mega three supplement for your brain, this is such a
great supplement to start incorporating to support your brain function.
There is also elthianine, which can help to calm.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Your nervous system.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Elthenin is also in matches, so that could be a
good substitute for you in the morning for you to
sop out your coffee with two. Do not forget to
incorporate probiotics or probiotic foods into your diet every day.
I always have soaur krat in my fridge and I
have it with my breakfast or my lunch. It's so
easy to incorporate into anything. It's so great for your gut,
but also as a crunchy sour thing on the side
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of your food, which is always nice. And lastly, try
to have an overall anti inflammatory diet, which sounds a
little bit more complicated than it actually is really and truly,
the more whole foods that you eat, the less process
packaged foods that you eat, the less inflammatory your.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Diet will be.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
If you don't have to cut out all package foods.
You could also do this gradually, maybe like two days
a week you decide that you're going to cook at
home instead, or you're gonna substitute out that packet of
crisps or chips for I don't know, some crispy tofood
that you made at home, or some nuts, or maybe
some seed crackers that you made at home. And also
the same goes for having an anti inflammatory lifestyle. One
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of my favorite things to do every single week at
the moment is doing a sauna or cold plunge, or
even just doing a bath at home with epsom salts.
If you don't have that accessible to you, just try
and focus on the basics getting good sleep, quantity and quality,
moving your body, and incorporating some simple breathing into your day,
and then add in being a little bit more mindful
about what you're eating, and honestly you'll be doing great.
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And just remember you never have to change anything too drastically.
Sometimes if we try to change too much, our mind
and our body ends up rebelling and it feels too
drastic and it feels unsafe. And so pick little things
that you feel comfortable changing in your life today, and
then every week you could incorporate something new or one
small shift that you make and add into your daily schedule.
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So I would like you to remember next time you're
really disliking your ADHD and you feel like you don't
belong because of it, just know that it is not
a flaw at all. It's just a different operating system.
And you need to figure out systems that work for you,
to really work with it rather than against it. And
once I understood that, and once I started spending time
and investing energy into creating that for myself, everything got
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so much easier. Doesn't mean that it's still not difficult
at times, but I really think working on these systems
is what can really save you.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
So yeah, I hope that helped.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
Let me know if you have any tips or tricks,
DM me comment when this episode comes out. We'd love
to hear from all of you wonderful people by sending
you so much love and thank you so so much
for listening.
Host
Radhi Devlukia
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