April 14, 2026 • 29 mins
What if you’re not burnt out — just energetically cluttered?
Why does anxiety build even when nothing “big” has happened?
How much of your exhaustion comes from micro-betrayals of your own boundaries?
What would change if you cleaned your energy the way you clean your body?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi introduces the concept of Spiritual Hygiene — the daily practices that prevent emotional, mental, and energetic buildup. She explains how we don’t usually fall apart from one major event, but from tiny, unreleased accumulations: unspoken irritation, doomscrolling, overgiving, comparison, and saying yes when we mean no.
Radhi breaks down five forms of spiritual hygiene — integrity, attention, emotional, relational, environmental, and talk hygiene — and explores how anxiety is often the gap between who we say we are and how we’re actually living. She shares personal reflections on leaked energy, digital clutter, overstimulation, and the subtle ways we disconnect from ourselves in modern life.
This episode is a reset — an invitation to clear the dust off your spirit and return to yourself.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why micro-accumulations lead to burnout and resentment.
- How doomscrolling dysregulates your nervous system.
- What “integrity hygiene” means and how to practice it.
- Why unprocessed emotions turn into personality traits.
- How your environment quietly impacts your anxiety.
- The power of changing the way you speak to yourself.
Spiritual hygiene isn’t about perfection — it’s about daily clearing so you can move through the world lighter, calmer, and more aligned.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Our heart and our spirit is like a mirror, and
every single day we accumulate dust on this mirror. Either
you have a choice of wiping it off or it
keeps accumulating and accumulating and accumulating, and it actually makes
us not just more distant from the world, but it
actually disconnects us from ourselves. I'm rather Wukiah and on
my podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the messy
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and the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfiltered conversations
that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in to learn,
connect and find comfort together. Hello, wonderful people, Welcome back
to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. I'm
so happy that you're here. I've been thinking about a
lot this week, and I feel like there's a lot
of heavy energy. There's a lot happening in the world,
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and for some reason, it feels like it's all piling
up a little bit more than it ever did. Things
so really heavy in the air, and I can notice
in people's energy levels, and just the day to day
grind feels a little bit harder. And we're only in
the beginning of the year, and sometimes that can feel
so defeating. And very overwhelming, especially with everything going on
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right now. But then the problem is that defeat and
overwhelm leads us to feeling really depleted and helpless, which
stops us from actually being able to be useful in
times that we want to be, which is why I
wanted to talk about the idea of spiritual hygiene. They
are the daily practices that prevent emotional and energetic and
mental build up. Just like we brush your teeth, well, okay, wait,
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we don't brush your teeth. You brush your teeth just
like you brush your teeth every single day, and we
shower every single day. But what are we actually doing
to clean our energy every single day? Because every single
day we come into contact with so much more than
most of our ancestors would ever come into contact with,
and yet we don't think about cleaning our energy every day.
We think about cleaning our physical body, but our spirit,
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our heart, our energetic feels that we have around us,
we have to learn how to cleanse them so that
we can cope in the world, so that we can
and take in what's happening, but also feel like we
can function and keep going in our day. So spiritual
hygiene are just the daily practices that prevent emotional, energetic,
and mental build up, and it helps you to clear resentment,
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regulate your nervous system, protect your attention, align your actions
with your values. And the thing is, we don't fall
apart from big events that happen. Usually we fall apart
from these micro unreleased accumulations of things, whether it's unspoken irritation, comparison, scrolling,
saying yes when you actually meant to say no, unprocessed jealousy,
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tiny betrayals of your own boundaries, or from other people.
And if we don't clean it, it hardens into bitterness
and burnout and resentment and cynicism. And why do we
want to see world through a cynical eye? There's enough
going on around us that is negative. But the problem
is if we are also creating negative environment around us
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inside of us, then all we can see is that
whereas there is so much positive happening, also there is
so much goodness in the world, But if we are
constantly not cleansing and clearing this dust that accumulates, then
it's going to be really hard to see the world
in that way. Actually, it reminds me of one of
my favorite verses in the Vaders talks about I think
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it's in the Bugwi Ghita. Actually it talks about how
our heart and our spirit is like a mirror, and
every single day we accumulate dust on this mirror. Either
you have a choice of wiping it off or it
keeps accumulating and accumulating and accumulating, and it actually makes
us not just more distant from the world, but it
actually disconnects us from ourself. Imagine it as a block
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between you and your true self, a block between you
and the most real version of yourself. And so you're
not only doing it for how you can interact with
the world, but you're doing it for yourself so that
you feel connected to yourself, so you don't have all
these barriers to connect to you, to God, to the universe,
to the people around you. So I'm going to break
it down into five areas of spiritual hygiene and how
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easy it is to integrate these cleansing processes throughout your
days and weeks. The first one is integrity hygiene. One
of the biggest pollutants to our spirit is incongruence. That is,
the little things like when your words don't match your
behavior or your body saying no, but your mouth says yes,
you preach calm, but you end up living chaotic. I've
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definitely been there. You say you value your health, but
you disrespect your body. Been there too. And if you're
hearing this and you're thinking, oh, this is me right now,
have a little thing to yourself. Ask yourself these questions
and see where you land. Where am I cutting corners
in my life? Because you know what, sometimes we think
cutting corners is more beneficial to us because it gets
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us to our result faster, But it kind of feels
like cheating ourselves. And so even if we are cutting
corners to try and get somewhere that we want to be,
and we get to the place, some what we forget
is that the process of getting there, doing the work,
taking the long journey there is actually what makes us
feel like we've accomplished it, We've earned it. And so
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ask yourself, where am I cut in corners? Am I
gossiping more than I'm having meaningful conversations? Am I constantly
complaining more than I'm appreciating. I think that's a big
one we sometimes don't realize. I know, for myself, I
have accumulated a lot energetically and I haven't found a
way to release it. I definitely think I become a complainer,
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and I don't think I notice it. And for me,
it comes up most when I'm tired, where everything starts
irritating me, I end up getting agitated more easily and
my tiring as usually happens when I haven't prioritized trying
to let go of these things. And so asking yourself,
if you're constantly complaining more than appreciating, for me, is
a really good sign that one of the things are
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happening around me. I'm absorbing it and I'm not actually
learning how to let go of it, like I'm exhausted
because I'm not cleansing. I'm not taking those things out
of my system as I'm supposed to be. What promises
have I been breaking to myself? Big one? The more
that you end up promising yourself something, just like if
you're in a relationship, the more that you break those promises,
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you end up breaking the bonds to yourself. What promises
have I've been making and breaking to myself? Are there
times or I'm not saying sorry when it might actually
be my fault? You know? The reason I put that
in them was because I think ego can get in
the way of a lot of our relationships, and we
think we're being strong, and we think we're being in control,
and we think we're being in in charge when we
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don't say sorry about something, even when it's our fault.
But really that's just ego, because when it comes to
accepting fault or saying sorry to somebody, it should be
such a natural instinct to us, because especially if you
love the person and you value them in your life,
and so when you are in the wrong, our natural
spirit wants to say sorry, It wants to apologize, it
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wants to mend and repair, but we're blocking that and
we're stopping us, and that stopping comes from our ego.
All of that internal friction creates such discomfort in your spirit.
Anxiety isn't always from the world. Sometimes it's just from
the gap between who you say you are and how
you're living. I always think about that. Where my anxiety
is really high, I notice it in my mind, but
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I also feel it physically in my body. It's this
subtle anxiety, the tightness in your chest, the irritability that
seems to come from nowhere, that sense of fear and
being on edge, even when life feels calm around you,
having a little introspective moment and thinking to yourself, where
am I not living in integrity? Where do I feel
the disconnection between all of these areas what I'm saying,
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what I'm doing, the way that I'm treating people, the
way I'm reacting, the way I'm showing up. Is there
a big difference between the things I'm saying in doing
versus the way that I'm thinking, the way that I'm
living versus the way that I want to be living.
These things don't have to change overnight, but it's really
I think the first step to everything is just realizing
and recognizing that there are things to change. That creates ownership,
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but it also makes you feel a little bit more
in control, and honestly, it helps reduce the anxiety in
this situation as well. The next one is attention hygiene.
Your attention is one of your most sacred assets, and
these days we don't value our attention in the same way.
We don't value it as being sacred. Most people give
it away all day. I know everyone keeps saying scrolling
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is bad. We've heard it so many times. Scrolling is bad,
and we know it, but we keep going and going
and going. And I can speak for myself when I
say my anxiety keeps building the more I keep scrolling,
and then we wonder why we're so high, strong and
on edge. But I really want you to understand the
severity of doom scrolling or watching things that really disturb
you or make you feel uneasy, especially if you're already
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feeling like that. I came back from India at the
beginning of the year and I was doing so good
with it, but recently I found myself even taking my
phone into the shower, and I was like, what is happening?
Every moment that used to bring me peace or where
my in betweens in moments of crazy, is now filled
with stimulation. And even if it's micro moments, those micro
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moments are the only times that your brain gets to
reconnect with your body. And the thing with scrolling is
it completely disconnects you. It disconnects you from your presence,
from reality. It takes you into a whole different world.
I highly recommend having areas in your life or times
in your day where your phone is just not available
to you, it's just not accessible, and start observing what
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am I consuming every single day what has access to
my mind, Because everything creates energy and ripples in us
and around us. What we're surrounding ourselves with creates who
we are. So if you spend two hours watching conflict
and outrage or feeling comparison as you're scrolling, what else
do we expect to feel inside of our mind, whether
it's social media or news or group chats. Remember that
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your attention is sacred. Just how we might treat money
or physical things that we have attention we should be
treating is even more valuable than that, because it is
how we function in our day. It's how we are
able to work, how we're able to connect with people,
and so really treating our attention as being so valuable
and remembering and reminding ourselves of that every single day.
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I also read somewhere it said your nervous system can't
tell the difference between your life and what you scroll,
So if you want peace of mind, we need to
be consuming more peaceful nervous system regulating content. The world
is crazy enough without us needing to watch a documentary
about a serial killer, so maybe don't do that. Maybe
watch something that makes you feel good instead, that doesn't
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put you on edge and make you run up the
stairs before you go to sleep, watching your back thinking
someone's in the house about to stab you. We don't
need that. We just don't need that. What we need
is something funny that makes you laugh and that makes
you feel comforted and calm, Like, why not try that instead?
Maybe this week, just don't watch any documentaries about serial killers.
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That probably will make a really big difference to your day.
Next up is emotional hygiene. Most of us went tought
how to process emotions. It's not something you're taught in school.
They don't tell you that you're supposed to feel feelings,
and then you're not just supposed to feel them. We're
supposed to process them in the moment and then release them.
We're not told that. We're taught how to manage them,
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or how to hide them, how to suppress them. But
we're not taught how to actually fully go through the
process of feeling, processing and releasing, and so unprocessed emotions
actually becomes our personality. Unprocessed anger becomes irritability, a sharp
tone with people, constant criticism, impatience, unprocessed sadness ends up
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coming out of us as emotional numbness, detachment from people
or the people that we love, low grade heaviness or
stagnancy in our body, the feeling of I'm just tired.
I'm tired of life, I'm tired of people, I'm tired
of everything. Not waking up feeling excited about life. Unprocessed
fear can become control, perfectionism, hyper independence, anxiety disguised as productivity,
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and unprocessed jealousy well end up as constant comparison, competitiveness
against people that you actually love and care about, or
bossiping about people rather than having meaningful conversations. So when
you don't metabolize or digest your emotions, it just becomes
part of you. It becomes your identity, and you become
the type of person that says, that's just how I am.
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I'm just a blunt person, or I just don't trust people,
or I'm just really independent, I don't get emotional. That's
just not who I am. But often that's just a
stored feeling that we've kept in us for too long.
I always talk about this, but it's because from when
I first heard it, I just loved the idea of it,
and it helped me to visualize emotions as something different.
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Emotion is energy in motion. It is designed to move
through the body. So when you interrupt it by distracting yourself,
scrolling over, working, intellectualizing, your nervous system never completes distress cycle.
So the body stays slightly activated, slightly feeling unhinged constantly
because those emotions haven't been processed. So we've heard all
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the tools. We just have to use them, but I'll
remind you of them just in case you needed it.
Journaling Now, I think people are getting really used to
this idea of journaling, but I think others have this
dear diary feeling about it, like how is this even
going to help me? And coming from someone me who
used to feel the same way about journaling. It really
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is just writing out every thought that's going through your mind.
That's what you can see as what am I feeling
right now in this moment as I'm writing, and you
might notice, oh, I actually fee a little bit agitated,
I actually feel a little bit angry. And the reason
it helps is because if you're trying to just think
of it in your mind, your might we get carried
away with so many thoughts. But as soon as you're
putting pen to paper. It almost serves as an accountability partner, like,
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let me follow through with this writing, let me follow
through with this emotion, let me follow through with this thought,
And so it can simply be how am I feeling
in this moment right now? What am I pretending not
to feel? What am I suppressing? What annoyed me today?
Who do I feel resembful tod right now? I think
it's really important to write these things out. Doesn't even
have to be in a book. It can be on
your notes app and you can just write down emotions
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that you're feeling, and whenever you notice something come up
or you feel yourself getting anxious in a situation, get
your phone out, write on your notes app and try
and process it in the moment, like, Oh, this person
said this, It really took me off. God, I feel
really defensive in this moment, and I think it might
be because in the past I've had people who talk
to me like that and it makes me feel really
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uncomfortable and it makes me feel really bad about myself.
So maybe that's why I reacted. I don't know whether
that person was actually meaning to make me feel that way,
but that's how I felt and I just needed to
acknowledge it in this moment. And actually maybe I just
feel better from saying out loud, and if no one
else is acknowledging it, at least I am in myself.
A lot of the time, we just want to feel heard,
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and sometimes people don't have time for us. Sometimes we
don't feel safe enough to talk to others about it.
But acknowledging it to yourself is also acknowledgement. And sometimes
actually our anxiety comes from the fact that we ourselves
are ignoring. It has nothing to do with other people.
Another great thing to do for emotional hygiene is walking
without your phone, showering without your phone, pooping without your phone,
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cooking without your phone, sitting and talking to someone without
your phone. And if you are watching TV, maybe no
phone while you're watching TV. I think we only need
one screen at a time. There's also things like somatic shaking.
It's meant to be so healing, and I use a
vibration plate in the morning now, And there's something to
your physical body shaking and moving in that way that
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helps to release other emotions, like all the stagnancy that
you're feeling in your body. Usually physical stagnancy can also
be linked to emotional stagnancy, and so if we're stuck
in our emotions, physically moving our body can really help that.
Another great vessel for this is prayer, whether it's praying
to the universe, to nature, to God, however you feel
most connected. It could be praying to someone that's passed
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in your life that you feel is like a little
guardian angel to you. There's so many ways to connect
to things other than humans around us. There's so much
energy around us that we often don't see. But if
you take a moment of prayer, you might be able
to feel and having honest conversations with yourself in those moments.
And then there's also obviously having conversations with humans, friends, family,
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being vulnerable with them. It can feel scary at first,
but when you get into the habit of doing that,
it can feel so healing. I have maybe one friend
that I do that with regularly, and my sister, you know,
if she's feeling a certain way, I just feel really
sad right now, and I'll be like, I feel really
sad right now, and we'll just cry to each other.
Before we use to try and hide it because we
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don't want to upset the other person. And now you know,
if me and my sister are feeling a certain way,
we don't try to hide it. We just say it
to each other. And same with one of my friends.
We'll probably cry more than we laugh and joke together.
But it's one of the best friendships because you don't
have to pretend. And so finding someone that you want
to be vulnerable with is really important. And sometimes it
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takes you to do that for the other person to
feel like they can too. So maybe it's not waiting
for the person to make you feel like you can
trust them. Maybe it's just taking a leap of faith,
believing that this person could be worthy of you being
vulnerable with, and then allowing them to also open up
in that way too. The third one is relational hygiene. Now,
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this one's really about regulating your energy with people. Relationships
are one of the biggest sources of emotional buildup. So
take a second to think who drains you in your life?
Where are you overgiving? Where are you under honest? Not
every friendship needs depth, but every relationship definitely needs clarity,
and I think that line is really important. Sometimes we
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can romanticize this idea of every connection needing to be
deep and intimate and vulnerable and constant, and that can
be really heavy, and I don't think it does need
to be that way. Some relationships are just light and seasonal,
Some can be just professional, Some can be just activity based,
and that is healthy. But being avail to everyone or
not being available to anyone at all, those are two extremes.
If everyone has unlimited access to you, your time ends
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up being so fragmented, your nervous systems stay slightly activated,
your focus ends up being so scattered. And if you're
also always used to being the listener or being over
exposed to other people's traumas, it might be part of
your work, or you might just be the little agony
aren't that people always go to when they're not feeling great.
And that is such a beautiful thing. That's such a
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wonderful thing that you create that space for people to
feel that way, that they can trust in you. But
that can get really heavy sometimes too. There has to
be a way where you can receive that information but
not make it your own, not make it your emotion.
To carry it can put you in a lot of
emotional debt. And sometimes if you're not counting that and
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you're not recognizing it, it can just become so depleted,
like it's not your bank account that's depleting, but your
emotional capacity and your energy is being drained and depleted,
and you're going into so you really these are the
things that you have to do to try and keep
replenishing if you still want to get in you being
that person for people. You need to find a way
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to protect your energy but also keep replenishing so you
have enough for yourself. Some signs that I've noticed when
I felt my relational hygiene is a little bit off,
is you feel drained after certain interactions. You replay conversations
in your head over and over again. You feel underappreciated,
You feel obligated to do things or go places or
speak to people. You feel a little bit resentful. When
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you do give, you may feel invisible. You feel like
you're just doing and doing and doing and no one's noticing.
But these are all little signs that maybe you are
giving beyond your capacity. The next one is environmental hygiene,
and this is something that I have come to really
appreciate since curating my own home and being in my
own space. I remember when I was younger, my mom
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would want things in specific ways, like no matter what
room it was, whether it was my bedroom, whether it
the living spaces, she always wanted her environments really clean,
nothing out on the floor, no shoes out by the door,
or her drawers were organized in a specific way. And
I used to be like, oh my god, you are
so neurotic, mum. Why can't I leave my clothes on
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the floor, Like why is that such a big deal
to you. It's my room, Let me do what I want.
And I realize now after having my own space. They
always say that you end up learning so much about
how your parents acted when you end up becoming that
age or in that age range that they were back then.
But now I feel the same way. I want systems
and I want organization, and I want everything to be
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very clear around me, whether it's my room or my
car or even my digital space, which I'm still working
on right now. But it's a reflection of you. And
so many people say that they find calm and chaos,
and I'm not one of those people, so I can't
speak to it or relate. But for me, chlarity, minimalism,
and organization is my calm especially because I'm someone and
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I'm sure many of you can relate that, but I'm
someone who can get really overwhelmed in my head, have
a lot of thoughts to happen within one day, and
the thought of having clutter around me, I think it
would just tip me over the edge, just to be honest.
So I love systems in my house. I love things
being labeled. I like there being sections for everything. I
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think it makes a big difference to the calm that
I feel. I always think about when you walk into
a room and you notice or sometimes you may not
even notice it. It's less of a visual thing and
more of a feeling. When you walk into a room
and it feels clean and there's nothing that catches your eye.
Everything is just subtle. Everything seems like it's in its place.
Your body feels calm when you walk into a room,
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Like right now, I have a room that is filled
with I'm clearing out my closet. So I have a
room that is absolutely packed with the random things everywhere,
and they're different piles and all I can think about
old days finding the time to clear that out because
I know that that chaos exists and it's doing something
to my head, and so there is a big difference
that we feel in our emotions in our physical body.
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You feel more tense in those environments. So do believe
that cut it as I creates a bit more chaos
on the inside for me today, Oh my gosh. Actually,
this morning I just cleared out all my unread WhatsApps
and I had some from June twenty twenty five that
I had not listened, that I had not read, and
that was actually really embarrassing. I had so many messages
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from summer that I hadn't responded to. But my friend
actually just gave me this technique that I really appreciate
and it might help you if you need to digitally
clear out. So what I've done is I've archived all
my chats in WhatsApp and put a turn on my
setting where the chat comes into your primary only when
someone's message. So what I'm doing is I'm leaving them
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in my primary until I've responded to them, and then
I archive it. So this way I know everything that
I still need to respond to. There's nothing left in
my head to think, oh do I need to respond
back to that person? Are the messages that I have
forgotten about no, I'm on zero right now. I clear
that up this morning, but I've also done it so
that I've archived everyone. So now I only have the
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messages that I have to respond to or that I
have that I haven't responded to, and so that's been
really helping me. I'm on day one of that, but
I'm really enjoying that process of just reading, archiving, and
then whenever something important comes back in to my inbox,
I know exactly where it is and what that means
for me. I won't talk about my email inbox because
I think I'm at like twenty one thousand undread emails
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and I don't even know where to start with that.
But you know, little baby steps. I read somewhere that
every object in our visual field sends a signal to
our brain and our body. So whether it's laundry on
a chair, dishes in the sink, unopen emails, your brain
doesn't actually ignore them. It kind of tracks them or
keeps in the back of your mind, even if it's subconsciously.
That tracking ends up creating this like background noise that
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is so unnecessary. It's like trying to think clearly while
someone is whispering constantly. In the background. You think things
go unnoticed, but they don't. Your brain is keeping track
of it. Somewhere in the back of your mind. It's there,
and so these little things clearing out. It's just such
an important practice Physically, the best feeling is when you
reset your environment, like maybe take a day or even
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half a day where you're doing your laundry, making your bed,
clearing your counters, and organizing a desk. You're not really
just cleaning. You're signing to yourself that I'm in control,
I respect my face, I respect my mind. And that
energy shift is kind of immediate. You feel it straight away,
that sense of accomplishment, but also that sense of calm.
The last thing I wanted to touch on is talk hygiene,
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and that's all about what you're saying, not just because
it affects other people. It's not about even what you're
saying to other people. It's well, it is a little bit,
but more so it's about what you're saying to yourself.
Most people think that creating this spiritual hygiene is about
what you think, but actually what you say reinforces what
do you think. People underestimate how much their mouth shapes
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their mind. So every time you say things like I'm
so stressed, I'm so terrible at this, I'm awful, I'm ugly.
Nothing ever works out for me. I could never do that.
You're basically strengthening that neural path where you're strengthening that
belief in your brain, and the brain believes what it
hears often, especially when it hears it in your own voice.
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You are your mind's most trusted source. Whatever comes out
of your mouth is what your mind is going to believe.
And so think about it like that. If you are
your most trusted source and your mind is believing everything
coming out of your mouth, how would you talk differently?
So many of us are creating limitations in our life
based on what we're saying out loud, and that also
applies to comparison. It leaks into our language. She's so
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lucky to have that. I'll never look like that. They
always get those opportunities. I never get them. I feel
so behind. Everyone else is further than I am. You know,
whatever is that you're saying, That language trains your brain
to scan for evidence of lack. The more you verbalize comparison,
the more your brain searches for reasons that you are
not enough and so instead of looking for the goodness.
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I remember this. I don't know who said it. I
think it was rather than Swami, one of my teachers,
and he always talks about bees and how bees always
look for nectar. If you see a bee, you'll always
see see in the middle of a flower, like trying
to get the nectar from the middle of the flower.
And if you see wasps, they say wasps are always
near trash cans, looking for the you know, around dog
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poo or around bins that things have come out of.
You know, it's kind of wasps seem to always be
surrounded or always going towards the trash, and bees always
looking for nectar. So he always speaks about how try
and be a bee, like be a bee in your
life where you're constantly searching for goodness, constantly searching for
goodness not just in you, but in other people, and
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therefore your mind will end up creating that filter. And
it doesn't mean that you ignore the negative things or
the bad things in people, I'm not saying that, but
when you're constantly comparing, it becomes a filter that you're
living through, and then those filters end up shaping your
reality and So this idea of talk hygiene is just
be a bit more conscious about the things that you're saying.
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That's it. Try and think about what you're saying to
other people. Am I using words that are uplifting them?
Am I using words that are motivating them? Am I
pouring love and energy and greatness into someone? Or am
I doing the opposite? Am I making them feel insecure
because I feel bad about myself right now? Am I
making them feel unworthy in their life? Based on what
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I'm saying? And then think about what you're saying to yourself.
What words am I using? What limitations am I enhancing
in myself? What beliefs and ideas am I constantly validating
on a daily basis. You'll notice once you start hearing
yourself speaking and you start becoming conscious of it, how
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much that's shifting the way that you're interacting with people
and the way that you're moving through life. So I
hope that was a good little reflection point for me
when I was thinking about this episode. It was something
I was taking note of because I've been feeling so
anxious lately, and I realized it had so much to
do with the way I was moving my body. I've
been doing a lot of intense workouts, and I do
think it makes a difference to the way that my
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mind is feeling. I haven't been balancing it out with
calming activities at all. On top of that, I've been
scrolling so much, and I've been feeling so drained at
the end of the day. And I realized it's not
even so much about my work or my workouts. I'm
sleeping well, But I think a lot of it is
this leaked energy that we end up throwing away and
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in all of these things that I just spoke about.
And so if you are feeling that way, take inventory
of what's happening in your day, in your week, in
your month, and honestly, making those small changes make a difference.
Even for me, just not taking my phone into the shower.
It sounds so ridiculous. I don't know why I do that,
But not taking my phone into the shower, I'm like, wow,
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this is so lovely, just like not thinking, not having
so distracting me, and just feeling the water on my
skin and smelling the really lovely essential oil that I
spray into the air. It's a ucalyptus one. It's really nice,
but just becoming more present in the moment allows you
to feel more energy and receive more energy in the
moment too. Sending your so much love. I hope you'll
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have such a wonderful week. I hope life feels a
little bit lighter after listening to this and putting some
of these practices into places
Our heart and our spirit is like a mirror, and
every single day we accumulate dust on this mirror. Either
you have a choice of wiping it off or it
keeps accumulating and accumulating and accumulating, and it actually makes
us not just more distant from the world, but it
actually disconnects us from ourselves. I'm rather Wukiah and on
my podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the messy
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and the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfiltered conversations
that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in to learn,
connect and find comfort together. Hello, wonderful people, Welcome back
to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. I'm
so happy that you're here. I've been thinking about a
lot this week, and I feel like there's a lot
of heavy energy. There's a lot happening in the world,
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and for some reason, it feels like it's all piling
up a little bit more than it ever did. Things
so really heavy in the air, and I can notice
in people's energy levels, and just the day to day
grind feels a little bit harder. And we're only in
the beginning of the year, and sometimes that can feel
so defeating. And very overwhelming, especially with everything going on
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right now. But then the problem is that defeat and
overwhelm leads us to feeling really depleted and helpless, which
stops us from actually being able to be useful in
times that we want to be, which is why I
wanted to talk about the idea of spiritual hygiene. They
are the daily practices that prevent emotional and energetic and
mental build up. Just like we brush your teeth, well, okay, wait,
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we don't brush your teeth. You brush your teeth just
like you brush your teeth every single day, and we
shower every single day. But what are we actually doing
to clean our energy every single day? Because every single
day we come into contact with so much more than
most of our ancestors would ever come into contact with,
and yet we don't think about cleaning our energy every day.
We think about cleaning our physical body, but our spirit,
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our heart, our energetic feels that we have around us,
we have to learn how to cleanse them so that
we can cope in the world, so that we can
and take in what's happening, but also feel like we
can function and keep going in our day. So spiritual
hygiene are just the daily practices that prevent emotional, energetic,
and mental build up, and it helps you to clear resentment,
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regulate your nervous system, protect your attention, align your actions
with your values. And the thing is, we don't fall
apart from big events that happen. Usually we fall apart
from these micro unreleased accumulations of things, whether it's unspoken irritation, comparison, scrolling,
saying yes when you actually meant to say no, unprocessed jealousy,
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tiny betrayals of your own boundaries, or from other people.
And if we don't clean it, it hardens into bitterness
and burnout and resentment and cynicism. And why do we
want to see world through a cynical eye? There's enough
going on around us that is negative. But the problem
is if we are also creating negative environment around us
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inside of us, then all we can see is that
whereas there is so much positive happening, also there is
so much goodness in the world, But if we are
constantly not cleansing and clearing this dust that accumulates, then
it's going to be really hard to see the world
in that way. Actually, it reminds me of one of
my favorite verses in the Vaders talks about I think
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it's in the Bugwi Ghita. Actually it talks about how
our heart and our spirit is like a mirror, and
every single day we accumulate dust on this mirror. Either
you have a choice of wiping it off or it
keeps accumulating and accumulating and accumulating, and it actually makes
us not just more distant from the world, but it
actually disconnects us from ourself. Imagine it as a block
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between you and your true self, a block between you
and the most real version of yourself. And so you're
not only doing it for how you can interact with
the world, but you're doing it for yourself so that
you feel connected to yourself, so you don't have all
these barriers to connect to you, to God, to the universe,
to the people around you. So I'm going to break
it down into five areas of spiritual hygiene and how
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easy it is to integrate these cleansing processes throughout your
days and weeks. The first one is integrity hygiene. One
of the biggest pollutants to our spirit is incongruence. That is,
the little things like when your words don't match your
behavior or your body saying no, but your mouth says yes,
you preach calm, but you end up living chaotic. I've
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definitely been there. You say you value your health, but
you disrespect your body. Been there too. And if you're
hearing this and you're thinking, oh, this is me right now,
have a little thing to yourself. Ask yourself these questions
and see where you land. Where am I cutting corners
in my life? Because you know what, sometimes we think
cutting corners is more beneficial to us because it gets
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us to our result faster, But it kind of feels
like cheating ourselves. And so even if we are cutting
corners to try and get somewhere that we want to be,
and we get to the place, some what we forget
is that the process of getting there, doing the work,
taking the long journey there is actually what makes us
feel like we've accomplished it, We've earned it. And so
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ask yourself, where am I cut in corners? Am I
gossiping more than I'm having meaningful conversations? Am I constantly
complaining more than I'm appreciating. I think that's a big
one we sometimes don't realize. I know, for myself, I
have accumulated a lot energetically and I haven't found a
way to release it. I definitely think I become a complainer,
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and I don't think I notice it. And for me,
it comes up most when I'm tired, where everything starts
irritating me, I end up getting agitated more easily and
my tiring as usually happens when I haven't prioritized trying
to let go of these things. And so asking yourself,
if you're constantly complaining more than appreciating, for me, is
a really good sign that one of the things are
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happening around me. I'm absorbing it and I'm not actually
learning how to let go of it, like I'm exhausted
because I'm not cleansing. I'm not taking those things out
of my system as I'm supposed to be. What promises
have I been breaking to myself? Big one? The more
that you end up promising yourself something, just like if
you're in a relationship, the more that you break those promises,
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you end up breaking the bonds to yourself. What promises
have I've been making and breaking to myself? Are there
times or I'm not saying sorry when it might actually
be my fault? You know? The reason I put that
in them was because I think ego can get in
the way of a lot of our relationships, and we
think we're being strong, and we think we're being in control,
and we think we're being in in charge when we
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don't say sorry about something, even when it's our fault.
But really that's just ego, because when it comes to
accepting fault or saying sorry to somebody, it should be
such a natural instinct to us, because especially if you
love the person and you value them in your life,
and so when you are in the wrong, our natural
spirit wants to say sorry, It wants to apologize, it
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wants to mend and repair, but we're blocking that and
we're stopping us, and that stopping comes from our ego.
All of that internal friction creates such discomfort in your spirit.
Anxiety isn't always from the world. Sometimes it's just from
the gap between who you say you are and how
you're living. I always think about that. Where my anxiety
is really high, I notice it in my mind, but
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I also feel it physically in my body. It's this
subtle anxiety, the tightness in your chest, the irritability that
seems to come from nowhere, that sense of fear and
being on edge, even when life feels calm around you,
having a little introspective moment and thinking to yourself, where
am I not living in integrity? Where do I feel
the disconnection between all of these areas what I'm saying,
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what I'm doing, the way that I'm treating people, the
way I'm reacting, the way I'm showing up. Is there
a big difference between the things I'm saying in doing
versus the way that I'm thinking, the way that I'm
living versus the way that I want to be living.
These things don't have to change overnight, but it's really
I think the first step to everything is just realizing
and recognizing that there are things to change. That creates ownership,
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but it also makes you feel a little bit more
in control, and honestly, it helps reduce the anxiety in
this situation as well. The next one is attention hygiene.
Your attention is one of your most sacred assets, and
these days we don't value our attention in the same way.
We don't value it as being sacred. Most people give
it away all day. I know everyone keeps saying scrolling
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is bad. We've heard it so many times. Scrolling is bad,
and we know it, but we keep going and going
and going. And I can speak for myself when I
say my anxiety keeps building the more I keep scrolling,
and then we wonder why we're so high, strong and
on edge. But I really want you to understand the
severity of doom scrolling or watching things that really disturb
you or make you feel uneasy, especially if you're already
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feeling like that. I came back from India at the
beginning of the year and I was doing so good
with it, but recently I found myself even taking my
phone into the shower, and I was like, what is happening?
Every moment that used to bring me peace or where
my in betweens in moments of crazy, is now filled
with stimulation. And even if it's micro moments, those micro
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moments are the only times that your brain gets to
reconnect with your body. And the thing with scrolling is
it completely disconnects you. It disconnects you from your presence,
from reality. It takes you into a whole different world.
I highly recommend having areas in your life or times
in your day where your phone is just not available
to you, it's just not accessible, and start observing what
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am I consuming every single day what has access to
my mind, Because everything creates energy and ripples in us
and around us. What we're surrounding ourselves with creates who
we are. So if you spend two hours watching conflict
and outrage or feeling comparison as you're scrolling, what else
do we expect to feel inside of our mind, whether
it's social media or news or group chats. Remember that
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your attention is sacred. Just how we might treat money
or physical things that we have attention we should be
treating is even more valuable than that, because it is
how we function in our day. It's how we are
able to work, how we're able to connect with people,
and so really treating our attention as being so valuable
and remembering and reminding ourselves of that every single day.
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I also read somewhere it said your nervous system can't
tell the difference between your life and what you scroll,
So if you want peace of mind, we need to
be consuming more peaceful nervous system regulating content. The world
is crazy enough without us needing to watch a documentary
about a serial killer, so maybe don't do that. Maybe
watch something that makes you feel good instead, that doesn't
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put you on edge and make you run up the
stairs before you go to sleep, watching your back thinking
someone's in the house about to stab you. We don't
need that. We just don't need that. What we need
is something funny that makes you laugh and that makes
you feel comforted and calm, Like, why not try that instead?
Maybe this week, just don't watch any documentaries about serial killers.
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That probably will make a really big difference to your day.
Next up is emotional hygiene. Most of us went tought
how to process emotions. It's not something you're taught in school.
They don't tell you that you're supposed to feel feelings,
and then you're not just supposed to feel them. We're
supposed to process them in the moment and then release them.
We're not told that. We're taught how to manage them,
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or how to hide them, how to suppress them. But
we're not taught how to actually fully go through the
process of feeling, processing and releasing, and so unprocessed emotions
actually becomes our personality. Unprocessed anger becomes irritability, a sharp
tone with people, constant criticism, impatience, unprocessed sadness ends up
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coming out of us as emotional numbness, detachment from people
or the people that we love, low grade heaviness or
stagnancy in our body, the feeling of I'm just tired.
I'm tired of life, I'm tired of people, I'm tired
of everything. Not waking up feeling excited about life. Unprocessed
fear can become control, perfectionism, hyper independence, anxiety disguised as productivity,
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and unprocessed jealousy well end up as constant comparison, competitiveness
against people that you actually love and care about, or
bossiping about people rather than having meaningful conversations. So when
you don't metabolize or digest your emotions, it just becomes
part of you. It becomes your identity, and you become
the type of person that says, that's just how I am.
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I'm just a blunt person, or I just don't trust people,
or I'm just really independent, I don't get emotional. That's
just not who I am. But often that's just a
stored feeling that we've kept in us for too long.
I always talk about this, but it's because from when
I first heard it, I just loved the idea of it,
and it helped me to visualize emotions as something different.
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Emotion is energy in motion. It is designed to move
through the body. So when you interrupt it by distracting yourself,
scrolling over, working, intellectualizing, your nervous system never completes distress cycle.
So the body stays slightly activated, slightly feeling unhinged constantly
because those emotions haven't been processed. So we've heard all
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the tools. We just have to use them, but I'll
remind you of them just in case you needed it.
Journaling Now, I think people are getting really used to
this idea of journaling, but I think others have this
dear diary feeling about it, like how is this even
going to help me? And coming from someone me who
used to feel the same way about journaling. It really
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is just writing out every thought that's going through your mind.
That's what you can see as what am I feeling
right now in this moment as I'm writing, and you
might notice, oh, I actually fee a little bit agitated,
I actually feel a little bit angry. And the reason
it helps is because if you're trying to just think
of it in your mind, your might we get carried
away with so many thoughts. But as soon as you're
putting pen to paper. It almost serves as an accountability partner, like,
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let me follow through with this writing, let me follow
through with this emotion, let me follow through with this thought,
And so it can simply be how am I feeling
in this moment right now? What am I pretending not
to feel? What am I suppressing? What annoyed me today?
Who do I feel resembful tod right now? I think
it's really important to write these things out. Doesn't even
have to be in a book. It can be on
your notes app and you can just write down emotions
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that you're feeling, and whenever you notice something come up
or you feel yourself getting anxious in a situation, get
your phone out, write on your notes app and try
and process it in the moment, like, Oh, this person
said this, It really took me off. God, I feel
really defensive in this moment, and I think it might
be because in the past I've had people who talk
to me like that and it makes me feel really
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uncomfortable and it makes me feel really bad about myself.
So maybe that's why I reacted. I don't know whether
that person was actually meaning to make me feel that way,
but that's how I felt and I just needed to
acknowledge it in this moment. And actually maybe I just
feel better from saying out loud, and if no one
else is acknowledging it, at least I am in myself.
A lot of the time, we just want to feel heard,
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and sometimes people don't have time for us. Sometimes we
don't feel safe enough to talk to others about it.
But acknowledging it to yourself is also acknowledgement. And sometimes
actually our anxiety comes from the fact that we ourselves
are ignoring. It has nothing to do with other people.
Another great thing to do for emotional hygiene is walking
without your phone, showering without your phone, pooping without your phone,
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cooking without your phone, sitting and talking to someone without
your phone. And if you are watching TV, maybe no
phone while you're watching TV. I think we only need
one screen at a time. There's also things like somatic shaking.
It's meant to be so healing, and I use a
vibration plate in the morning now, And there's something to
your physical body shaking and moving in that way that
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helps to release other emotions, like all the stagnancy that
you're feeling in your body. Usually physical stagnancy can also
be linked to emotional stagnancy, and so if we're stuck
in our emotions, physically moving our body can really help that.
Another great vessel for this is prayer, whether it's praying
to the universe, to nature, to God, however you feel
most connected. It could be praying to someone that's passed
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in your life that you feel is like a little
guardian angel to you. There's so many ways to connect
to things other than humans around us. There's so much
energy around us that we often don't see. But if
you take a moment of prayer, you might be able
to feel and having honest conversations with yourself in those moments.
And then there's also obviously having conversations with humans, friends, family,
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being vulnerable with them. It can feel scary at first,
but when you get into the habit of doing that,
it can feel so healing. I have maybe one friend
that I do that with regularly, and my sister, you know,
if she's feeling a certain way, I just feel really
sad right now, and I'll be like, I feel really
sad right now, and we'll just cry to each other.
Before we use to try and hide it because we
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don't want to upset the other person. And now you know,
if me and my sister are feeling a certain way,
we don't try to hide it. We just say it
to each other. And same with one of my friends.
We'll probably cry more than we laugh and joke together.
But it's one of the best friendships because you don't
have to pretend. And so finding someone that you want
to be vulnerable with is really important. And sometimes it
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takes you to do that for the other person to
feel like they can too. So maybe it's not waiting
for the person to make you feel like you can
trust them. Maybe it's just taking a leap of faith,
believing that this person could be worthy of you being
vulnerable with, and then allowing them to also open up
in that way too. The third one is relational hygiene. Now,
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this one's really about regulating your energy with people. Relationships
are one of the biggest sources of emotional buildup. So
take a second to think who drains you in your life?
Where are you overgiving? Where are you under honest? Not
every friendship needs depth, but every relationship definitely needs clarity,
and I think that line is really important. Sometimes we
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can romanticize this idea of every connection needing to be
deep and intimate and vulnerable and constant, and that can
be really heavy, and I don't think it does need
to be that way. Some relationships are just light and seasonal,
Some can be just professional, Some can be just activity based,
and that is healthy. But being avail to everyone or
not being available to anyone at all, those are two extremes.
If everyone has unlimited access to you, your time ends
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up being so fragmented, your nervous systems stay slightly activated,
your focus ends up being so scattered. And if you're
also always used to being the listener or being over
exposed to other people's traumas, it might be part of
your work, or you might just be the little agony
aren't that people always go to when they're not feeling great.
And that is such a beautiful thing. That's such a
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wonderful thing that you create that space for people to
feel that way, that they can trust in you. But
that can get really heavy sometimes too. There has to
be a way where you can receive that information but
not make it your own, not make it your emotion.
To carry it can put you in a lot of
emotional debt. And sometimes if you're not counting that and
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you're not recognizing it, it can just become so depleted,
like it's not your bank account that's depleting, but your
emotional capacity and your energy is being drained and depleted,
and you're going into so you really these are the
things that you have to do to try and keep
replenishing if you still want to get in you being
that person for people. You need to find a way
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to protect your energy but also keep replenishing so you
have enough for yourself. Some signs that I've noticed when
I felt my relational hygiene is a little bit off,
is you feel drained after certain interactions. You replay conversations
in your head over and over again. You feel underappreciated,
You feel obligated to do things or go places or
speak to people. You feel a little bit resentful. When
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you do give, you may feel invisible. You feel like
you're just doing and doing and doing and no one's noticing.
But these are all little signs that maybe you are
giving beyond your capacity. The next one is environmental hygiene,
and this is something that I have come to really
appreciate since curating my own home and being in my
own space. I remember when I was younger, my mom
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would want things in specific ways, like no matter what
room it was, whether it was my bedroom, whether it
the living spaces, she always wanted her environments really clean,
nothing out on the floor, no shoes out by the door,
or her drawers were organized in a specific way. And
I used to be like, oh my god, you are
so neurotic, mum. Why can't I leave my clothes on
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the floor, Like why is that such a big deal
to you. It's my room, Let me do what I want.
And I realize now after having my own space. They
always say that you end up learning so much about
how your parents acted when you end up becoming that
age or in that age range that they were back then.
But now I feel the same way. I want systems
and I want organization, and I want everything to be
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very clear around me, whether it's my room or my
car or even my digital space, which I'm still working
on right now. But it's a reflection of you. And
so many people say that they find calm and chaos,
and I'm not one of those people, so I can't
speak to it or relate. But for me, chlarity, minimalism,
and organization is my calm especially because I'm someone and
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I'm sure many of you can relate that, but I'm
someone who can get really overwhelmed in my head, have
a lot of thoughts to happen within one day, and
the thought of having clutter around me, I think it
would just tip me over the edge, just to be honest.
So I love systems in my house. I love things
being labeled. I like there being sections for everything. I
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think it makes a big difference to the calm that
I feel. I always think about when you walk into
a room and you notice or sometimes you may not
even notice it. It's less of a visual thing and
more of a feeling. When you walk into a room
and it feels clean and there's nothing that catches your eye.
Everything is just subtle. Everything seems like it's in its place.
Your body feels calm when you walk into a room,
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Like right now, I have a room that is filled
with I'm clearing out my closet. So I have a
room that is absolutely packed with the random things everywhere,
and they're different piles and all I can think about
old days finding the time to clear that out because
I know that that chaos exists and it's doing something
to my head, and so there is a big difference
that we feel in our emotions in our physical body.
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You feel more tense in those environments. So do believe
that cut it as I creates a bit more chaos
on the inside for me today, Oh my gosh. Actually,
this morning I just cleared out all my unread WhatsApps
and I had some from June twenty twenty five that
I had not listened, that I had not read, and
that was actually really embarrassing. I had so many messages
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from summer that I hadn't responded to. But my friend
actually just gave me this technique that I really appreciate
and it might help you if you need to digitally
clear out. So what I've done is I've archived all
my chats in WhatsApp and put a turn on my
setting where the chat comes into your primary only when
someone's message. So what I'm doing is I'm leaving them
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in my primary until I've responded to them, and then
I archive it. So this way I know everything that
I still need to respond to. There's nothing left in
my head to think, oh do I need to respond
back to that person? Are the messages that I have
forgotten about no, I'm on zero right now. I clear
that up this morning, but I've also done it so
that I've archived everyone. So now I only have the
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messages that I have to respond to or that I
have that I haven't responded to, and so that's been
really helping me. I'm on day one of that, but
I'm really enjoying that process of just reading, archiving, and
then whenever something important comes back in to my inbox,
I know exactly where it is and what that means
for me. I won't talk about my email inbox because
I think I'm at like twenty one thousand undread emails
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and I don't even know where to start with that.
But you know, little baby steps. I read somewhere that
every object in our visual field sends a signal to
our brain and our body. So whether it's laundry on
a chair, dishes in the sink, unopen emails, your brain
doesn't actually ignore them. It kind of tracks them or
keeps in the back of your mind, even if it's subconsciously.
That tracking ends up creating this like background noise that
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is so unnecessary. It's like trying to think clearly while
someone is whispering constantly. In the background. You think things
go unnoticed, but they don't. Your brain is keeping track
of it. Somewhere in the back of your mind. It's there,
and so these little things clearing out. It's just such
an important practice Physically, the best feeling is when you
reset your environment, like maybe take a day or even
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half a day where you're doing your laundry, making your bed,
clearing your counters, and organizing a desk. You're not really
just cleaning. You're signing to yourself that I'm in control,
I respect my face, I respect my mind. And that
energy shift is kind of immediate. You feel it straight away,
that sense of accomplishment, but also that sense of calm.
The last thing I wanted to touch on is talk hygiene,
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and that's all about what you're saying, not just because
it affects other people. It's not about even what you're
saying to other people. It's well, it is a little bit,
but more so it's about what you're saying to yourself.
Most people think that creating this spiritual hygiene is about
what you think, but actually what you say reinforces what
do you think. People underestimate how much their mouth shapes
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their mind. So every time you say things like I'm
so stressed, I'm so terrible at this, I'm awful, I'm ugly.
Nothing ever works out for me. I could never do that.
You're basically strengthening that neural path where you're strengthening that
belief in your brain, and the brain believes what it
hears often, especially when it hears it in your own voice.
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You are your mind's most trusted source. Whatever comes out
of your mouth is what your mind is going to believe.
And so think about it like that. If you are
your most trusted source and your mind is believing everything
coming out of your mouth, how would you talk differently?
So many of us are creating limitations in our life
based on what we're saying out loud, and that also
applies to comparison. It leaks into our language. She's so
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lucky to have that. I'll never look like that. They
always get those opportunities. I never get them. I feel
so behind. Everyone else is further than I am. You know,
whatever is that you're saying, That language trains your brain
to scan for evidence of lack. The more you verbalize comparison,
the more your brain searches for reasons that you are
not enough and so instead of looking for the goodness.
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I remember this. I don't know who said it. I
think it was rather than Swami, one of my teachers,
and he always talks about bees and how bees always
look for nectar. If you see a bee, you'll always
see see in the middle of a flower, like trying
to get the nectar from the middle of the flower.
And if you see wasps, they say wasps are always
near trash cans, looking for the you know, around dog
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poo or around bins that things have come out of.
You know, it's kind of wasps seem to always be
surrounded or always going towards the trash, and bees always
looking for nectar. So he always speaks about how try
and be a bee, like be a bee in your
life where you're constantly searching for goodness, constantly searching for
goodness not just in you, but in other people, and
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therefore your mind will end up creating that filter. And
it doesn't mean that you ignore the negative things or
the bad things in people, I'm not saying that, but
when you're constantly comparing, it becomes a filter that you're
living through, and then those filters end up shaping your
reality and So this idea of talk hygiene is just
be a bit more conscious about the things that you're saying.
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That's it. Try and think about what you're saying to
other people. Am I using words that are uplifting them?
Am I using words that are motivating them? Am I
pouring love and energy and greatness into someone? Or am
I doing the opposite? Am I making them feel insecure
because I feel bad about myself right now? Am I
making them feel unworthy in their life? Based on what
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I'm saying? And then think about what you're saying to yourself.
What words am I using? What limitations am I enhancing
in myself? What beliefs and ideas am I constantly validating
on a daily basis. You'll notice once you start hearing
yourself speaking and you start becoming conscious of it, how
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much that's shifting the way that you're interacting with people
and the way that you're moving through life. So I
hope that was a good little reflection point for me
when I was thinking about this episode. It was something
I was taking note of because I've been feeling so
anxious lately, and I realized it had so much to
do with the way I was moving my body. I've
been doing a lot of intense workouts, and I do
think it makes a difference to the way that my
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mind is feeling. I haven't been balancing it out with
calming activities at all. On top of that, I've been
scrolling so much, and I've been feeling so drained at
the end of the day. And I realized it's not
even so much about my work or my workouts. I'm
sleeping well, But I think a lot of it is
this leaked energy that we end up throwing away and
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in all of these things that I just spoke about.
And so if you are feeling that way, take inventory
of what's happening in your day, in your week, in
your month, and honestly, making those small changes make a difference.
Even for me, just not taking my phone into the shower.
It sounds so ridiculous. I don't know why I do that,
But not taking my phone into the shower, I'm like, wow,
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this is so lovely, just like not thinking, not having
so distracting me, and just feeling the water on my
skin and smelling the really lovely essential oil that I
spray into the air. It's a ucalyptus one. It's really nice,
but just becoming more present in the moment allows you
to feel more energy and receive more energy in the
moment too. Sending your so much love. I hope you'll
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have such a wonderful week. I hope life feels a
little bit lighter after listening to this and putting some
of these practices into places
Host
Radhi Devlukia
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