February 10, 2026 • 53 mins
Da Brat and Jesseca “Judy” Harris-Dupart join Angela Yee and the Lip Service crew for one of their most open and revealing conversations yet. The married couple reflects on the early struggles of their relationship, including missed calls, trust issues, and navigating past partners while building something real together.
They discuss the controversial moment when Judy gave her ex a car while they were already serious, how social media influenced their relationship, and the challenges of transitioning from private life to public love. The couple also opens up about their IVF journey, becoming parents, and how entrepreneurship and demanding careers affect their time together.
Da Brat and Judy get candid about communication styles, handling arguments, and what it took for them to truly feel safe and in love. They share emotional insight into nurturing each other, learning from past relationships, and growing into partners and parents.
The conversation takes a classic Lip Service turn as they discuss their first sexual experiences together, multiple orgasms, role play, and how intentional intimacy keeps their relationship strong.
This episode is a raw, funny, and deeply personal look at love, growth, forgiveness, and building a life together against the odds.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
What's Happen slip Service. I'm Angela Yee.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I'm Gid Maguire, Jordie, George, Judy Brett.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Okay, well listen, we'd love to have a happy couple
on the show. Yes, and the brand and Judy are
here with us. Read your book and so much information
in here. But I love the fact that you guys
were so damn honest about everything.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Yeah. Yeah, like you don't think.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
So, she said.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Yeah, Like I said, yeah, like like I do. We
don't really know how to be no other way. Yeah. Yeah,
like if we're telling it, we just go tell it.
What is that? Yeah? I mean there were certain things
that you know.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I was like, Okay, that's really honest, because I think
sometimes in relationships it is hard to talk about like
some of the trials and tribulations and things like you know,
you broke her phone and that was hard.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
It was hard for me at first. I didn't want
to do a book at first.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying, because I know you've always
been so private before, Judy, very private.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Yah yeah yeah, but I mean you can always see her.
Whole thing was we gave a lot in reality TV,
we give a lot on social media, but you can
always give a little bit more, right, just a little bit,
and then her fans like that.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Yep, it does feel like it pays to stalk somebody
you know on social media.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
That what I took from this definitely does you know.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
But what is interesting is even in the beginning of
your relationship, because it was like a second time around
that y'all had to happen, sometimes we'll give up at
that first time, right, That's the true point. Like people
will tell you, well, she's not texting back, she's not interested,
she's doing shady things, you know, and just leave that
person alone.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Don't do that.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
I mean, you know, if a person doesn't respond to
you after three o'clock, yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Talk about something.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Having my phone down, right, believe that nobody.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Off and I try to not focus on my phone.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
That's the truth. I'm a mix of both of y'all.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
I think you would have been on the block list,
but I also like to just zone out in my
own world.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
And it's not a person a long time to get
to that point, Like what she don't understand because she
never puts her fucking phone down or tutor because understanding
is hard. But it took me training, and it took
me a lot to get to that point to put
my phone down. Now I'm not saying I was right
for not picking up the phone or whatever, but with
(02:33):
my phone, when I do radio, when I do Dish Nation,
my phone has to be on silent, So that's two
separate times of the day. So my ship stays on
silent pretty much all the time. And when I got home,
my phone was on silent and I didn't look at
it until it was too late.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
But she invited me to Atlanta from New Orleans. Even
if that's your routine, the name you invite somebody that's
supposed to be special, you would at least great that
alarm or something.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Right this day, you still kind of dowhere.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Whether she still.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Feels as though it wasn't wrong, and she feels as
though I should have told her I'm going I'm doing
something else. I decided to move on. I'm not gonna
keep on pursuing.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Them, right, because well, I'm trying to get to her
and make sure you don't have no baggage coming into
the relationship.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
She done moved the fuck on.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Right, She'll be flying to Atlanta. It wasn't question right,
now if we never see each other, though, you act
like we didn't date and see each other at least
eight to ten times. So I know eight to ten times.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Three times she didn't answer the phone.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Three times we linked up and we saw each other
and spend time together.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
We did, Okay, I'll give credit. There were times when
I flew here and I saw her. But after multiple
times of me flying here and there was no communication,
I said, there has to be something that's going on
or she can be as interested as I feel like
I'm interested in her, So let me do something else.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And she did would say you know what? Because we
were still talking. You could have said you know what,
but she was. You wasn't answering. That was not all
the time. She's gonna get all your to always chiming
on her side that.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
You're standing on the island alone, beautiful. No, I'm not, no,
for real. Every single room we go in, everybody, everybody
understands that if somebody is letting you come to another
city and they don't answer, that that is an excuse
to stop talking to them.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Okay, and you did, right, But y'all circle back around now.
Jordan did have a question because I know before y'all
got here, we were talking about this ahead, Jordy.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
So you had to get rid of some hoes.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
Right about six or seven.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
But go, okay, whole roster. But people do that.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
You're a single first, But how long do you think
it takes before you can get into the committed relationship
to get rid of all of them?
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Well, if you was never fully completely happy and never
felt loved the way you felt loved from this person,
then you ready to ditch all that shit and feel
what it's making your body and soul feel from this person.
But I had to figure out ways to tell certain
people because there were kids involved in some situations, and
it was like, Okay, I'm attached here and I'm attached there.
So I was trying to just figure out how to
(05:31):
get rid of all that shit but not be grimey
or be an asshole about it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
And you think you're non confrontational a little like you
kind of want to not just put it all out
because somebody could just be like, look I found somebody.
I mean when it comes to a relationship, like.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
She don't give a fuck what she tell people outside
of it. That's what I'm saying people.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Doesn't care about you know sometimes, and I could be
that way too. I don't want to hurt somebody's feelings,
so I'm gonna like ease out of something instead of
just ripping off the band aid.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yeah. What were you dealing with.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Though that you had to because it feels like you
were outkay with just cutting everything off. Well, I was
dealing with her and that was it and nobody else correct.
But then once I saw what was going on, I said, Okay,
let me go do something else. Because it's not that
I didn't have people that weren't interested, right, I just
wasn't giving them the time of day or.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Doing anything that she didn't know. It wasn't in a
bad way.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
I was just saying that because I didn't you dat
you because I was bored. I wasn't trying to be
with you because I was bored or I didn't have
anything else to do. I wanted to be with you.
I chose to deal with other people because I couldn't
you weren't it you weren't you know?
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It wasn't you couldn't have a little bit more patience
before you went and got a nigga and to start
posting the nigga. I wasn't posting those bitches or even posting.
I could have posted niggas all day long. I just
didn't choose to put no niggas. But but your your way.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Of life was far different from mine. Yeah, I had
had public relationships.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Well, you didn't have to post that nigga all hugged
up with that nigga with your nails behind this cheese
and the ship. I'm like, damn, just last week we
were still talking. Yeah she did. I saw Instagram and
saw that ship.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
You didn't a rebound situation. You felt like China, maybe
because sometimes we try to forget the least you can.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And that was somebody that I had dealt with in
the past. Okay, oh, same mask. So I just it's like.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
You had just went back to the land to something
that you had been dealing with.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
But I'm not gonna let you get up about this
because I want to say, Brad, you did something real
wild that I don't know. You gave your ex your
car that did that's you know, that's a little crazy.
If I'm in a relationship, imagine me telling my here.
You can have you the first person that brought that
up to no.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
There was no child involved. The car would school cars
I had? I had a car, it was it was
a BMW. I had a couple of cars. But I
could I was.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
We were a kid one a time, we were living together.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
That's wild. I'm sorry I didn't bring it up.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Give the car?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
How did you approach you about? How did you volunteer
to give this car? Because they didn't have nothing.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
They didn't have nothing, and they wouldn't have had no
transportation or nothing to get the kid back and forth
to school.
Speaker 5 (08:50):
So I was like car collecting, Thus you can have it.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
I mean, I had a jeep, I had other vehicles.
Speaker 5 (08:58):
Would it been better if she would have brought her
like a little.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Well, So this is the thing. My issue wasn't necessarily
the value of the gift for anything. It was the
fact that we were at that point serious and this
wasn't a discussion for us made on her own, hadn't
informed me about and I found out How did you
find out? I think it was some male had came
(09:22):
or something, or there was something. I think it was
a text in her phone and her aunt was telling
her that the insurance needed to change, to change the
title of a car or something, and I.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Was like, why would you change it?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Something like that, and I was like, so I didn't.
And we actually didn't talk about it much. I might
have said a couple of words about it, but it
was it wasn't something that I could deal with, you know,
it was something I could change, right, But I just
just like, oh, okay, so that's the same person you
texted they got pretty feet.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Oh you did do that too, and it gave them
a car and then okay, but it feels like a
learning exp as for you to be in a relationship
this serious.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Yeah, And that person was like, my friend, you know
what I'm saying, Like, I've never been in love the
way I'm in love with you. I've never felt that's
your ex. Yeah, but like I'll be.
Speaker 6 (10:20):
The same situation would have happened, Say, homeboy, you said
the chess nigga whatever you call him, what you call him,
say if he needed a cardigan, lame mass nigga. Okay,
So if lame mass Nigga needed a cardiget his son
back and forth to school, and he was in that
same predicament and she did the same thing, would you
be okay?
Speaker 2 (10:35):
With it. I would be okay when she got like
twenty cars, Like a car is not a thing, Like
it's not a big deal if it was kids involved, Yes,
I won't. Oh my god, you can't. You can't say that. Yes,
that would okay, shit, yes I would.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Okay, you know, but I do feel like and like
you said, you've never been in love like this.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I had no problem of being a your baby daddy.
What had probably been around your baby daddy? But what
what were you around here for? He came to the party,
the great.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Came to our son's graduation party.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Right.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
How is that a comparison That means his kids involved?
That's again, I was graduating from college.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
But otherwise I wouldn't want you to have after that.
Now I had to be all in that nigga face
at the funeral thing when something was going on between
somebody and you had to spend extra time kind of
with that nigga and I had to sit in the
car like I didn't like that.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
No, no, no, my.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
I don't know if you remember what that was.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
I got off the car to support my child who
wanted to confront their father by the issue that they
had with him, and I refused to let my son
go in his daddy face and say anything because if
his daddy six whatever, I have a fucking talt he
is would have said anything out of line with my son.
It just would have been on as his mother stood
beside him to approach his.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Daddy, and I should have been standing there with you
as your baby mama. You know.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
But I think and the defense it is hard because
sometimes it's okay to talk to your ex if y'all
have kids together like that.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
But they are definitely.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Talking about a funeral of my children's grandmother and my
son's graduation party from college. I have never seen that
nigga outside of that. My children ain't they twenty me
and have been together for four five six years. She
had to see that nigga twice at a funeral and
grad That's it. Baby and daddy situations are far different.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yeah, that's what I was gonna say.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
It. Had a couple of conversations with him on the phone,
though no he tryed to know.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
He tried to text me and I never responded.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
To beutiful, You've had a couple of conversations with his
ass on the phone. I remember when Jordan was supposed
to stay with him or something. It was a couple
of things that y'all talked on the phone about.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
About what his mama was passing away.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
And they were I mean, I would say, what do
you think an exception for there is somebody it does.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
And this wasn't kids that like my children are old. Yeah,
so this was about this was before the grandmother passed,
and it was about the grandmother passing and where where
our child was gonna live.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Yeah, yeah, this wasn't.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
This wasn't hey, girl, you know how you been on
what's going on? That's all your same baby daddy because
I had baby daddy issues in the past, right, like
what he would call and he try to fuck on
my relationship that nigga know that nigga know nothing cross them,
but no problem. But that is it's far beyond that.
He has his life. I have my life and our
(13:39):
children in their twenty.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
How did he feel when he found out about this
relationship early on, because y'all had a grand reveal for
all of us.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Did he say anything to you? We don't talk.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
He had already they both had already moved on from right, Yeah,
and we don't talk like she had a few bitches
before me and a couple of niggas after the baby daddy.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Yeah, after I had my children with my baby, and
my children are in their twenties. I think after my
kids might have been three four five at the most
the last time we dealt and my kids in their twenties.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Now, listen, I just want to say, let's talk about
some of these things in the book.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
You'd have brought up the bits.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
All right now. We talked about on everything on Beautiful,
but the ex was in our current situation, not really
in our current situation.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Are you serious? Before you gave a bit of car
when we was in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Beautiful, you told the bitch was people didn't when we
were living together.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yeah, that's that was a little violet sleeping in the
same bed.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
It was not. It was innocent, Beautiful you're trying to
get was like my parents. I wasn't.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You were saying, I had to deal with your baby
daddy at a.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Funeral, But you know I wasn't flirting with So what
was the context that you telling her we're pretty?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I mean, the bitch the girl never got a pedicure before.
She didn't used to get pedicules all the time. So
she had got a pedicule and she sent the picture
of her toes and I was like, oh, pretty pretty
toes or something like that, And oh my god. Had
I known she didn't like that or would get offended
by it, I would not have done it.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
What in what situation is that even? Okay though?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Yeah, why she sending you a picture of her toes
because she got her feet done because she wanted.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Yeah, like she got that's difference.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Yes, she knew we were together because prior to uh, yeah,
she knew we were together because she moved from there
to here.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
Who So when did you finally cut her off? When
was she cut off?
Speaker 5 (15:43):
Because after the car, after the toes in the car.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
If I had to, if I had to give an estamate,
I'm always see what she said. But if I had
to give an estimate, probably three four months maybe six
months from us living together.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
Six months, yes, because y'all because y'all were talking prior
to it, just being you and the child were talking.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I don't remember I'm gonna to break up with somebody
when you're in their kids life. Sometimes that's a little
bit difficult because you feel bad about that.
Speaker 5 (16:12):
So is there still communication with you and the child?
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (16:15):
Okay, and you're fine with that?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Yeah, courage, I encourage. It's still uncomfortable for me though,
because I know how she feels. Kind of I don't
have nothing. Who means he might be like, bring some
ship up, like how we used to walk the dogs
or something, and I'd like.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
That wouldn't bother me. That bothers me nervous.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
To bring up it would be.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
To me, you know. Oh you know my mom said,
when are you coming over? That would make it strange?
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Yeah, you like, why would you be going over there?
What old her?
Speaker 3 (16:49):
I've been the person to say, hey, invite such and
such over, Hey, when the last time you talked to
such and such that?
Speaker 1 (16:56):
What are your thoughts about exes and communicating with exes
when you're in a relationship.
Speaker 6 (17:00):
Well, when their children, and when there's children involved, it's
kind of you kind of have to still have some
type of communication, especially if there's co parenting or for
in your instance, you were involved in that child's life
even though it's not yours.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
I don't communicate with the parents at all, but the child, yes, yeah,
the child, okay, But.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
I've never been in that situation. I don't talk to
my exes and my my man at least from what
I know, don't talk to them either. So I feel
like my exes will text me like happy birthday and
things like that, or something happens. They might sound like
a quick text, but you know that's their stage. Yeah,
that's the extent of it.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I can't even do that. You can't even do that.
I can't even texting somebody happy birthday. I wouldn't do
it because I know she don't like it. And that
comes which I learned from writing the book, from a
past experience in a past relationship that she was in
where something happened with one of her exes and their
(17:57):
ex I guess, so now she's like, it's off limits.
We're not talking to our exits.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
And it is also understanding, Like you guys stress a
lot of this in the book. You guys are coming
from different backgrounds and different experiences, so you have to
be understanding of where somebody comes from. Like for you,
at first, being public was hard for you. Even taking
pictures and things like that was weird because you were
used to paparazzi and people posting things and not wanning
your business out there like that. And for you, Judy,
(18:25):
you're so used to being a public figure, having a
brand Kaleidoscope that was you know, and I know you
from Kaleidoscope from way back in the day, from having
a really successful brand that was kind of built on
social media and social media. So that is such a conflict.
I think in the beginning that y'all have to really
get past that.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Well, you know, when I first got with her, I
was adapting to her. Yeah, so I still was going
to be public facing myself, but when it came to
where we were in public, I just I let her
lead all of that. I used to call her role
manager and be like, is it okay to send her flowers?
What name do I put it on? If I send it?
Like I was trying to like I wasn't trying to
blow her up, No, I was. I was I was like,
(19:06):
how the fun how do you date a celebrity? Like
what's that? What's celebrity etiquette? And then if they not out,
what's the editing? How the funk are you supposed to
do this?
Speaker 2 (19:13):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (19:14):
And I want to take up to the movies, how
do I I can't take up to the movie, So
where can I take?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Can I take out to eat?
Speaker 3 (19:19):
I can't, Like I was asking all the questions.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
You know, It's interesting because people will also tell you
if somebody's not out, it's not a good idea to
date them, right if they're still in the closet.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
You had your reason.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
You talk about Ellen DeGeneres in the book and how
that kind of ruined her for a period of time.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
And so cool back in the day at all.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
And so that's also because people will give you that advice, Well,
if that person doesn't want to live in their tooth
and be out, then you shouldn't date that person, because
we've heard that, especially when it comes to men. I
feel like, you know, for men, people are like, well,
I'm not going to be a secret, I'm not going
to do X, Y and Z. What made you feel like,
because I know that can also be tough for you. You
were protecting Brat and what she had going on and
(19:59):
adapting to her.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
But how was that for you?
Speaker 3 (20:02):
I mean, I was ok with it. I ain't give
a funk. I liked her. I didn't care like you.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
I was.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I was I'm public facing and I was gonna do
the promotion that I did. I was gonna be myself.
I was gonna give the business advice on social media.
You just wasn't gonna know who I was fucking at
that point. You just wasn't gonna know. And I was perfect.
I was okay either way. I was fine. She was
like when we got serious. She held my hand in public,
and then her team was like, what.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
The fuck is going on?
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Security grabbed his hand, her manager grabbed the other hand.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
So we all.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Nobody doing nothing, and then we in her dressing room.
I think it was backstage of Essence. She pulled me
down and sit on her lap, and everybody closing doors,
and I'm just like, I.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Don't know what the going on. You were like, I'm
tired of this ship. Yeah. I wanted the world to know.
At that point, I was a love child and I
was just like, I want everybody to know. And I
didn't care. I wanted to perform. I wanted her right
in the front of the stage, and I performed. I
wanted the kiss on her, lean on her, hug on her,
and she was so cool with that, and she didn't care.
(21:11):
She didn't mind. It was just so it just felt
so good and free, you know. But everybody was the
beginning of it. So everybody was like, oh, ship, what's
going on? Yo? Be you eye. I'm like, yeah, I'm good,
leave me alone.
Speaker 6 (21:23):
Did you have to have a talk with your team? Like, listen,
that's what it is, Yeah, moving forward.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
But it was so many years of them being like that,
it took them a second to get out of protecting.
Like when we went to go eat at Morals and
we were sitting next to each other and I was
damn in her skin. I was sitting so close. I
took my shoes off and it was there's a liar
(21:49):
was in there, and I did not care. And my
team was like yo, and they was holding I was
not used to it.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
I would love to have been like, get a girl,
you know what I'm saying, because that's how it feels like.
You never would like that before. So for them to
witness that that had to feel like, this is definitely.
Speaker 6 (22:10):
Clearly you were that, like you said, in love and
they're comfortable with the situation that you really just didn't
give up.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
This is what it is.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
And let's be clear, nobody was surprised because it ain't
like you were like coming out and everybody.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
It's like, okay, it's not like that's how I feel.
But she was like, you know, but I had never
said it.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Yeah, A lot a lot of people didn't know a
lot of niggas thought no, yeah, because you did have
boyfriends before. So yeaheah.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
That was another thing that y'all talk about in the book,
is an interview that you did. Because when she asked.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Well, if you did an interview, I wouldn't have minded, Yes,
the funk you would, especially if then when super viral
about the sexual things I did with my mind, it knows.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I was just sitting there fucking having a conversation with Candy.
I didn't think that that would go viral. I really
didn't like. That was the first podcast I had ever did, like,
and I only did it because I'm cool with Kady.
We grew up together as kids. So I said, okay,
I'm gonna go do it, and you were sitting right
there like once again, had I now it was not
I was?
Speaker 3 (23:17):
I was y'all were in the interview room. I was outside.
You remember y'all did that. I wasn't in that room.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Man, But had I known that that was gonna offend
you outline, It was too late.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
I couldn't taking that that that clip about what how
she would did whatever when whatever win however coming out
of her mouth, it was her saying it. It just
was every outlet and then everybody else reposting it, and
then a year or so past and it went viral again.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Oh shit, that's so annoyed, double double I was. Yeah,
but that listen, we talked about RIALNA and being truthful
because part of the truth is and y'all doing reality
TV and you've said this, if we have an argument,
we're not turning the cameras off.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
We're gonna show it all.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
And that is a truth, right, So it's the good
with the bad, Like if we're gonna be too full
and honest and put things out there and do it,
then we can't say sometimes and sometimes not.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
No, I agree, but I don't think she would want
me doing an interview with you and telling your view
those problems, right, how I like the service I am
body right, but.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
That is that those are things that happened. But had
I known you didn't want me to do that or
that would have offended you, I would not have done it.
Have I ever done it again. Ever, even when I'm
asked about it, I run the other fucking way. I
don't want to talk about that, nigga.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
I don't want to know about But let's let's let's
be cause I don't want it to seem like I
have you over here in captivity in jail. If I
was on a podcast talking about how I saw.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Dick, you would be mad about that.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
You would if I said how like if I was
to say throat goat and all the rest of that
shit about me sucking dick, you would have a problem.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
With that, right. But I didn't know that you were
going to be offended. I was having a conversation with
Candy about.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Things, So text me how to being offended? Had I
done it, how would you feel?
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I probably wouldn't have liked it.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
And then if it was all over all the outlets.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Well I didn't know that was. But damn I didn't
know that was. I know.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
I'm just saying, so take me out of what happened,
like what you.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Had to say. I just said, I wish it wouldn't
have happened. I don't want you to apologize.
Speaker 3 (25:30):
All I'm saying not because it's me, just because you
wouldn't want it done to you. That's it.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
That's it, not because.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
You offended me, but because you just wouldn't have wanted
it for yourself.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
She's like, Okay, but look y'all put it in the buck,
so that's it's fair game to bring it up.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
But absolutely.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Yeah, So doing reality TV, it's just interesting because of
like y'all just being so open with people having a
chance for them to see like the those really special moments.
I thought, as far as reality TV, I really enjoyed
that because you know, reality TV can be messy. Yeah,
I didn't feel like that was messy. I mean, there's
messy things that are gonna happen in real life, but
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it's not like contrived messiness.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
No, agreed, Agreed. I think that was a big thing
about like when the cameras were there and we would
argue or like an argument would be brewing, put the
cameras out, No bitch, they staying.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yeah, I was trying to put them out.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
They gonna stay because we're going to get past the argument.
And this isn't We're not about to I'm not We're
not about to executive produce some doctored up something like
let them see it, let them see that we're human,
that yes we've had an argument, but then they're going
to see the other side of it. We can do this, right,
It's not it's not going to end here, not granted
the way it's cut.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
It's gonna end there. So you watch the next week.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
But you're going to see clearly, you're going to see,
you know, the other side of it.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Man.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
I just want to say, even talking to you guys
and hearing y'all work through these conversations, it felt like
reading this book that y'all have been in therapy, like
and I know that's been a thing too. You can
read that and tell just some time of the things
that you're like, okay, And I feel like this is
a universal rule, like don't go to bed mad at
each other. Now I will go to bed mad, she willed.
(27:16):
I will literally not talk to you for like two days.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
She will too. I'm gonna not talk to her, right,
but we might not resolve it two days. Sometimes you
agree to disagree, yeah, yeah, but shit needs Shit needs
to be a resolved because then if it comes back
up again, we never fucking talked about it and resolved
it in the first place. Because she thene walked off
in the middle of an argument because she know how
(27:39):
to compartmentalize shit better than I do, and go fucking
get on the computer on some colleidoscope and do some
mirrors or launch a new product or some ship while
I'm still over there pissed off, and like, when is
we gonna talk about this ship? We go to bed,
she on one side of the bed, I'm on the
other side. We got a backs hert and we both cold,
sleeping with our backs against each other, but we don't
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went on to sleep. I don't like that. I still
don't like that, but she still do it. I don't
like that.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
Something you should work tomorrow, I said no, I said
I would. I said I would. And so even though
walking out, it's not walking out because I want to
have my way. And this is the part that she
that she left out conveniently. It's when our tone, like
when when the inflection changes and I realize I'm angry.
I try to de escalate the situation by leaving because
at this point now I'm yelling.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Well, if it don't raise your voice, it won't get to.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
That, right, But but I and I try, so she'll
she often says, I get up here, and then she
takes me tell me take my tone down, and I do,
but then it goes back up. So I realize I'm
in a state where I probably need to take a
couple of seconds and not stay here in this and
either keep yelling or say something I don't mean, and
then just leave the situation. Either try to focus on
(28:55):
something else, or leave the situation, go in the room,
do something else, and then I'll come back in the room.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Yeah, I try. I do.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
So I'm that way, and y'all know that about me.
If I'm mad, I can't talk about it at that moment.
I gotta wait until I feel more rational, because you
know how sometimes and.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Then amazing other things happen and then it's not important anymore.
It's still important, but I see that you could the
bottom of the totem pole.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
It's not that I just don't like to be super
emotional when I'm discussing something, because I also need a
moment sometimes to think about it because I could be wrong.
But sometimes when you're wrong, you don't want to say
you're wrong in that moment until you need like an
hour or a couple of hours to be like.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Because also sometimes it's not even about that argument.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
We might have other things going on and you got
to feel like this was stressful. Let me just because
I've been stressed out a lot lately and taking it
out and I'm like, I just got to take a
minute because I don't want to, like you said, I
don't want to say something that I'm a regret saying.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
And then now there's.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
No Once you say something and put it out there,
that's that. Yeah, So that's just someth But reading your book, like,
I'm getting a lot of tips on how I should.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Deal with things. What are you ladies? Then? Absolutely? What's up?
Speaker 4 (30:08):
I have a lot of T shirt requests. There was
a lot of sayings in here I had to write down.
I was cracking up. Let me see what they are.
The first one is neither of us have a problem
speaking in our minds and cursing a bitch out. If
we have to check your mother tone, read the tea leaves.
(30:28):
It's okay to split if you just don't fit to
show some love and get your flirt on. Okay, these
are cute little T shirts with the book shirt merch. Now,
(30:51):
what about rules as far as putting your phone down
because Brad, we know you've been good at that, but
Judy you not so much, right, and there's times when
work and but justifiably, I felt like that was a
good compromise that you both made, right, you being able
to show like, look when I'm on my phone, look
at the results from me posting and doing these things,
(31:11):
because Brad, like we know you've been the person that's
always been kind of like taking a break from that,
not putting stuff out there, but then also realizing the
power and.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
The economical power especially now.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Yeah, and yeah, so that's I feel like that's something
that definitely has been a good compromise for both of you.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Yeah, I've gotten better. Yeah, I've gotten better at posting
and doing my social media stuff. And yeah, she's still
be on her phone twenty four to seven. But I
understand and I try to not be so like when
I'm gonna get some time, you know what I'm saying,
Because I know there's a lot of things that she
has to do, like running a company as a motherfucker,
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and it's just a lot of people and a lot
of moving parts, and so many things happen every single
day that falls on her. No matter what happens in
the company, it's on her. It falls on her the
face of it, and that's that's that's a heavy plate
to have, like and I just wish I could do
more to help fix it. But I don't know shit
about the industry like that. But it's just a lot,
(32:11):
and it'd be a lot on her where she has
to be on the computer twenty four to seven, looking
at numbers, looking at this, looking at that, smelling products,
picking the bottles, and that.
Speaker 3 (32:22):
I hate that you've had to see this side of
entrepreneurship and experience. When you have a great team, you
don't have to be as active as I have now.
I do have some great team, absolutely, but I haven't
been able to find my power team where I take
my hand off the wheel. I learned last year. I
thought I got my power team and I took my
hat off of the wheel and it almost took me out.
Speaker 5 (32:44):
So if I have to put out fires.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
That is one of the hardest things about being an
entrepreneur is nobody cares about your business more than you do, correct,
And it's so hard to find anybody who even like cares,
you know, as much.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
All the time.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
I didn't know that I've never never in my life.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
I just.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
So, I didn't know that people lie on them, right,
Like I went straight from doing hair to sell my
hair products.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
I don't even know what the fuck how to fucking
compil orhythm right, you know, like if you say you're
a brain surgeon.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Who lies about that?
Speaker 3 (33:23):
But no surgeon, what happens to the surgery? The person
fucking die? You take it that fucking far, like the
person dies.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
But you know?
Speaker 1 (33:33):
And but what about times like say you guys are
watching a movie together at home Netflix and chill, will
you put your phone down during the movie or you
one of those people that's still gonna be.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
I respectfully, I will put my phone down if we
make an intension time, I will put my phone down
during the movie. I will if we're watching something or
if it's something that we've made specific time out about.
But if we watching a movie and it's launch today,
that's that's something different. Like something might come on and
(34:03):
it's something specific that day that I know, you know
that we have to monitor. But outside of it, I try.
You know, No, you don't agree, She's like, no, what's.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
The last movie? Y'all watched it home together.
Speaker 3 (34:20):
Radiculy, we had we had a date night in our
movie theater with our son.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
I love the light flex in our sprinkle date in
our movie theater. Right, Oh wow, I love a light
flex like that.
Speaker 3 (34:39):
I'm hard.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (34:43):
We put blankets on the floor. Well I put blankets
on the floor and put pillows on there, and I surprised.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
It with a movie theater like a movie date. Yeah,
corn dog bit right.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
She liked sentimental ship like that, like all the stuff
I've ever given her in life besides our son. She
prefers the type of.
Speaker 7 (35:07):
Like she like, like I do the I like to,
you know, let me put a let's put a theater
outside and let's get the minions live dancing, you know,
like that's that's what I am.
Speaker 3 (35:17):
She is to put your phone down, grab some pillows,
grab a blanket, let's get nice and cozy like and
I like that. So that's what that's what we did.
Speaker 5 (35:25):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Now I want to talk about some some current things
that are happening on social media. Hold on because I
want to get you guys to weigh in and look,
I know that you for you, Brett, I also know
you as a radio fellow radio personality. Uh, you're very
well versed in being able to talk about these things.
Hold on, let me pull up my lip service notes.
All right, let's see.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Oh no, let's not do that one. All right.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
I'm oh, I'm not gonna do this one to you
because then I don't want you all to get into
an argument.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
That's fucked up. Now they think we're gonna get into an.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
Argument, I'm totally kidding. Now, it's a tot wrestling site.
We know you like pretty yeah, all right, now how
about this. Hmmm, I'm trying to find which one of
you said, Oh, yeah, she's on her phone right now.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
Oh girl, don't do that.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
I mean, and it's got to be fun for you
guys to be on this book tour together. I have
to imagine that being in love with somebody and being
partners with somebody and being able to travel and do
these things like as a team and do a reality
show together and go through that journey. And also I
think the documenting the IVF journey was so important too.
(36:45):
I feel like for a lot of women, those conversations
and being able to visually see that and go through
that experience with you was so powerful.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:56):
Yeah, and I think us doing stuff together has been great.
Now it does have its challenge too. Like when we
were doing reality TV, we different if we got to
do three scenes right in the day, do the motherfuckers
back to back? Start at ed am finish at two?
She wants to finish at six because she wants the
breaks in between. But don't give me the break.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
You want to just keep going.
Speaker 3 (37:18):
I want to knock the out.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
I wanted the second to not have to look at
all the motherfuckers for a minute, right, I would.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
Go, I will go in the room and change and
let's go to them like that's who I am.
Speaker 5 (37:28):
I am, and get it right a minute. Let me
be impressed.
Speaker 3 (37:33):
I am.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
I'm also like, let me just get it all knocked
out at once, because I want to be done earlier.
Speaker 5 (37:38):
I would appreciate the breaks.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
Yeah, but what all the way through running through?
Speaker 4 (37:47):
We went all the way through all right?
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Now, let me ask you guys this, do you think
I feel like for you? You've been a relationship type
of person, like kind of always in a relationship you
is this your first.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Real serious relationship? I know you have your AX. Who
you nah that No, not my first real serious relationship.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
But this is the first time you feel like you've
been in love? Yes, okay to this level. Yes, every
time you like somebody you think you love it. But
when it gets to a level that you've never felt before,
then you know.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
What was different for you? What's different for me?
Speaker 3 (38:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (38:23):
Like, what was different? She gave me butterflies. She made
me feel sick to my stomach. I was trying to
be cool and drinks of tequila. I missed my whole
mouth when I slung up the hole in the couch.
It was just the way she made me feel. And
I just had never felt like that in my body
or my soul before. And I was just like, damn, bitch,
(38:44):
you must have been sent from God because I have
never I had never felt that way. And I thought
I had felt love before and been in love before
and loved this person and loved that person and thought
they loved me. But it was it wasn't And you
don't know it until you experienced it. Yeah, you like, damn,
this is what it is? This is what about you? Judy?
How did you know?
Speaker 1 (39:05):
How is this different than every other relationship you've been in?
Speaker 3 (39:09):
Beautiful is the most nurturing person I've met in my life.
Like she has this really really hard exterior, really hard,
but she is the She is the kindest soul you'll
ever meet, and every she puts me before everything, including herself,
like I've never had, I've never experienced because she hate
(39:30):
when I talk about it, but but she's she's admitted it.
She feels like I should be before everything, and so
I don't have to wash a dish, take out any trash,
wash any clothes. She doesn't like me doing any manual
labor life life. Absolutely, but I think it's because, like
(39:51):
she said, she watches me work extremely hard, so she
wants me to do nothing outside of it. She wants
to make sure that even down to when I get
out of bit in the morning, if she's home, she's
making up the bed, like by the time I even
get back to the bed, even if it's seven minutes
in between. Absolutely, and she enjoys doing the domesticated things.
(40:11):
So I think for me, this experience with love showed
me because my parents were married up until the day
that my dad died, and I watched that fairy tale love.
So for a while I thought that fairy tale love
was impossible because I saw it with my parents, but
I thought maybe it might not be possible for me,
or if it is, I don't know, maybe it missed it.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
But then once I experienced love with her, let me
know that it's not only possible, that my story actually
is different and it's better than what I saw with
my parents because it's mine. Yeah, it's the exact how
I want it to be.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
And I think it's also what we see. Like with
having so much access to people's lives, we don't see
a lot of great examples. I would say that there's
a few, but I think we see so much dysfunction
when it comes to relationships that we start to think
that's normal.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Yeah, that's that's real. Or when you see successful ones,
everybody wants to call one of them lane, Like think
about Rust and Sierra.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Like everybody say, right, everybody wanted to pray for everybody.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
Yeah, but they happy.
Speaker 1 (41:20):
Yeah, now, y'all have butterflies before the first up. Your
first kiss was outside of my ros right, all right,
so in the alleyway.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Yeah, we stuck on the side of the building. I
was so scared.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
So what was it like the first time y'all really
hooked up, like sexually? What was that experience?
Speaker 3 (41:41):
Like, you know what the first when we slept together
the first time, like not sex, but slept together. She
went slept on the sofa and I was in the bed,
and I was like, why did.
Speaker 2 (41:56):
You do that? Because I didn't want her to think
that I wanted to sleep with it. I just didn't
want to think that, you know, I'm this rapper to
just want to fuck her when she comes see me.
She was on you though, I didn't want to think
I was being like that, like I didn't want to
see her. I went, I went by her, I went
over there by her. You got on the sofa.
Speaker 3 (42:13):
Yeah, I wouldn't have got on the sofa, but when
it came to that, I let I let her lead.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
I let her lead.
Speaker 3 (42:19):
I didn't want to be the aggressive.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
I let her lead.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
But she also, what's the first time at the condo?
Speaker 2 (42:26):
Yeah? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (42:28):
And then you got a condo in Atlanta when you
moved to Atlanta.
Speaker 3 (42:32):
So when I before, before we got a house, I got,
you know, one of the the temporary like the furnished condent.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
Movies bringing right, I iced to have money that you
could be just moving around.
Speaker 3 (42:46):
Like I was trying to figure I was I was,
I knew I wanted to leave New Orleans. I was
trying to figure out what shitty to be in. I
was dating her, so I was, you know, coming back
and forth to Atlanta. I had had that place, and
she her work was like ten to fifteen minutes, so
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she would stop by in the morning when she was
headed to work and radio in the morning from sixty ten,
and then she would come after work and hang out.
And so when we first slept together, she didn't want
to leave, and not like I didn't. I was trying
to put her out, but she she just kept coming over,
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kept coming over, kept coming over.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
And now did she have a key? Did you think
I think I did?
Speaker 3 (43:34):
I think I think it was like the little key
card thing. Yeah she had the key card.
Speaker 2 (43:37):
I don't think I had a key.
Speaker 3 (43:39):
No, but you was able to get in and out
of the garage. Yeah she had a key card. But yeah,
she didn't have a key. Okay, it was it was
a thing.
Speaker 2 (43:47):
The door, but I could but get up to the door.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
It was a thing with her with multiple organisms, so
she was wanted back. It wouldn't be just one. So
she like, she will want me to. She didn't want
to just let it happen once. So our first time
it was that she started that. She started that way.
She started with I'm not done with you.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Oh wow.
Speaker 3 (44:12):
That from there she she built it. She she just said,
I'm trying to see how many you can get.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
To oh wow, wait for you to have multiple orgasms.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
But but then she didn't let me do her that though,
because I'm one and done. I'm good with one. I
come so hard, I'm so good with just one time.
Speaker 1 (44:32):
Multiple orgasms are a skill multiple because I think that's not.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
Can you do it? I actually absolutely can.
Speaker 3 (44:39):
Right, but just I don't think you gotta have a
few minutes in between.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
It can't.
Speaker 3 (44:43):
It can't be back and then you gotta yes intense
one yeah, like give me about seven to twelve minutes
to let my body reset.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
That's the long in between. If you're home.
Speaker 1 (44:55):
Oh shit, okay, all right, now, what are you do?
Speaker 2 (45:00):
Part I? It's good and it's good.
Speaker 1 (45:08):
Yeah, So that was the first time you had multiple orgasms?
Speaker 3 (45:12):
It was two, okay, because I was She said, she
liked the way my body responds, like I'm I don't
hide it like I'm not a I'm not quiet, Okay,
I knew you.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
Say you was loud. Yeah, I'm fat and juicy, So.
Speaker 3 (45:30):
You know, I don't I don't mind showing. And I
also don't mind you know, like whatever we do, what
we're doing, you know, like I'm very.
Speaker 2 (45:39):
Let's make it, let's go there. Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:42):
But so but you weren't as accepting of her doing
stuff for you. That's what it feels like. You're the giver. Yeah,
and I felt like that was unfair.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
But you got you got it, you get it, you
got it.
Speaker 3 (45:55):
I felt like it was unfair, Yeah, because she felt
like because she said, ain't I'm going to sleep, make
me a motherfucker sandwich or.
Speaker 2 (46:02):
Something, right, I could never come eleven times, never say never.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
But that's the thing I couldn't either until until you
did it up to it.
Speaker 8 (46:13):
Oh wow, you see what I'm saying, right, No, three beautiful.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
You don't seem like you love it like I do.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
There's no such a thing, girl, there's no such a thing.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
I'd be in motherfucking heaven.
Speaker 3 (46:31):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (46:32):
See, okay, but that works, it works, right.
Speaker 3 (46:37):
I hear you.
Speaker 1 (46:39):
But sometimes there's nothing better than pleasing the other person too.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
I know that I know that about her. I know
that about her, so that's why I let her lead
in that. But I don't. I don't want because she says, well,
you don't like it like I do. I can't say
that I don't like it like you do, but you
don't let me do it as much.
Speaker 1 (46:56):
But maybe that's something you guys could work on for
the next book. But is there anything that y'all haven't
done that you want.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
To try sexually? Yeah? This is service now. This role
play was so fire, you like, but I couldn't wait,
so I couldn't. I was I was a stripper. So
but this is the thing.
Speaker 3 (47:20):
I started in a text message. I said, listen, I'm
about to text you as somebody else and she was like,
what I said? I said just I said, we had
I had a great time meeting you last night. I
would love to continue our conversation but in person, and
she was like, what are you talking about? We was
eating food last night.
Speaker 6 (47:37):
I'm like, what was my name?
Speaker 2 (47:43):
What if I call?
Speaker 3 (47:46):
I said, this is such and such from last night,
you know, I would love to continue our conversation. And
then she was like, okay, well I'm free this week
on such and such a date. So then I got us.
I got us a hotel room. It's nice to have money.
I got us a hotel room because we used to
always look up at the twelve. So I got a
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hotel room at the twelve. And I put flowers, and
I put little balloons, and I decked it out, and
I had the little laingerie on hat on a strip
of heels. I you know, had had music. I had
got the polaroids, so we had like real like picture stuff.
Got the little eye trade or couterie board, had my
little two steps going on.
Speaker 2 (48:26):
You know.
Speaker 3 (48:26):
I like, once she gets there, I'm gonna do it.
One of the girl. She came in there, I told
her my name and I went sat across her left
to do start the dancing. And that was it.
Speaker 6 (48:35):
That was it was. It was all in all play.
Speaker 1 (48:40):
I love that thoughtfulness that you both put into the relationship,
though I think like the effort. Because Valentine's Day is
coming up, you already got I sell your face.
Speaker 2 (48:53):
We don't never tell each other.
Speaker 3 (48:56):
We don't tell each other.
Speaker 2 (48:57):
It's just we let the day happen.
Speaker 1 (48:59):
So I cannot wait to see I know it ain't
all gonna be posted, but I can't wait.
Speaker 2 (49:05):
It's a special, special time. Yes it is because her
birthday is two days before that. Oh wow. And then
her anniversary is the twenty second.
Speaker 5 (49:12):
Oh so this whole month.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
And she's doing a new launch all child.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
Well anyway, I love this for both of you, and
I just want to tell anybody, like if you need
some tips about your relationship getting through things. Like you said,
it was a bit of a rocky beginning, but that
second time around was no joke, absolutely, you know. And
to see where you guys are now with your beautiful
true legends and you know, having a child together, which
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was amazing.
Speaker 2 (49:45):
Like I said, that ivy f journey.
Speaker 1 (49:47):
From me being like somebody who hasn't had a kid yet,
you know, no, totally older than that.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
You should you should at least look good. But I
think it's too late. I don't think I can freeze it.
You want to do it. You got to just do it,
you know what I'm saying. And so you should change it.
You still got because some people still do.
Speaker 3 (50:06):
Yeah, some people still do it. I would just change
I think you.
Speaker 2 (50:08):
Should do it.
Speaker 1 (50:09):
If anything, I would just do it. I wouldn't even
bother with that part of it.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
But you have to make sure.
Speaker 1 (50:14):
Oh no, no, I went, I went, I did check
that I did, so, yes, I do you good?
Speaker 2 (50:19):
Then you should freeze it.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
But the level is so low they're like, just if
you want to do it, just do it. That's what
the doctor. Yeah, not even to bother with that step,
like you got to just yeah.
Speaker 3 (50:29):
But when you freeze your egg, you have more time.
When you don't freeze it, it goes away.
Speaker 1 (50:36):
Well I'm not gonna wait, Like if I didn't do it,
I wouldn't do it later.
Speaker 3 (50:39):
That's how.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
That's how I like I've gone through. But I do think,
like I said, these conversations are important, like and just
to have watched that journey and see everything that you
went through, and you know, seeing and Brad seeing you
pregnant and seeing you go through all of that, that
was so special, Yeah for everybody watching. And I think
these conversations are important for people to have, even conversations
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about freezing your eggs and fertility and all of that.
Speaker 3 (51:04):
I think I didn't even and I know we take
take them classes when we were younger, but who the
fuck remembers that your eggs go away at a certain days,
like they go bitch, they go missing and never come back.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
I can't wait. I'm waiting for mine too. For the
people that want to have kids, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (51:22):
If you don't think about that or consider that, and
you're chasing a career, are you doing something else?
Speaker 2 (51:28):
You know? It's like and you got to make sure
you get genetically tested. That's important too, because some things
may run in your bloodstream or your family line that
don't agree with who you're sleeping with or giving the
sperm to you, and that is very important.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
Did you always know you wanted to get pregnant?
Speaker 2 (51:45):
I thought it wasn't in the cars for me. I
was forty nine when I carried my baby. Yeah, Like
I didn't think it was in the car for me
to get married or have kids. I was just content
with whatever life. Yeah, hell, I was.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
Okay, have a plan and God would laugh at you.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
That's what I always say, have a plan.
Speaker 1 (52:06):
But yes, I'm glad you got it in them seven
a holes right, okay, But they don't act.
Speaker 2 (52:10):
Like you ain't had them. I was. I was content, okay, Yeah,
don't act like you don't got Playgirl wrote, tattooed across
your leg? I do because because you. Yeah, but but
you had.
Speaker 3 (52:23):
And you had niggas ba bitch, So did you like
it was just me with my seven holes?
Speaker 2 (52:29):
You had motive at the time.
Speaker 3 (52:31):
That we were I was pursuing you and we were
about to day.
Speaker 2 (52:35):
I didn't have anybody but you.
Speaker 1 (52:37):
Okay, yeah, way, I want to say, because I've seen
you in New Orleans, so I know how they get down.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
They love you out there. Come on.
Speaker 9 (52:45):
Yeah, but again, you guys, make sure y'all pick up
this book.
Speaker 1 (52:55):
You were love it, just like we love this conversation
that we had. The brand duty the way left goes
a guy to building a beautiful and everlasting relationship.
Speaker 2 (53:02):
This feels like forever, So it is forever.
Speaker 1 (53:05):
Just sitting and talking to y'all is amazing.
Speaker 2 (53:08):
Thank y'all, Thank you. You've been trying to give me trouble.
I mean, it is what it is. You got yourself.
You know, you know what, I'm not worried at all
being going to wherever ever, not after them eleven orgasms?
Speaker 6 (53:25):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (53:25):
All right? It Zip service, Zip service, y'all,
What's Happen slip Service. I'm Angela Yee.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I'm Gid Maguire, Jordie, George, Judy Brett.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Okay, well listen, we'd love to have a happy couple
on the show. Yes, and the brand and Judy are
here with us. Read your book and so much information
in here. But I love the fact that you guys
were so damn honest about everything.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Yeah. Yeah, like you don't think.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
So, she said.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Yeah, Like I said, yeah, like like I do. We
don't really know how to be no other way. Yeah. Yeah,
like if we're telling it, we just go tell it.
What is that? Yeah? I mean there were certain things
that you know.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I was like, Okay, that's really honest, because I think
sometimes in relationships it is hard to talk about like
some of the trials and tribulations and things like you know,
you broke her phone and that was hard.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
It was hard for me at first. I didn't want
to do a book at first.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying, because I know you've always
been so private before, Judy, very private.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Yah yeah yeah, but I mean you can always see her.
Whole thing was we gave a lot in reality TV,
we give a lot on social media, but you can
always give a little bit more, right, just a little bit,
and then her fans like that.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Yep, it does feel like it pays to stalk somebody
you know on social media.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
That what I took from this definitely does you know.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
But what is interesting is even in the beginning of
your relationship, because it was like a second time around
that y'all had to happen, sometimes we'll give up at
that first time, right, That's the true point. Like people
will tell you, well, she's not texting back, she's not interested,
she's doing shady things, you know, and just leave that
person alone.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Don't do that.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
I mean, you know, if a person doesn't respond to
you after three o'clock, yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Talk about something.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Having my phone down, right, believe that nobody.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Off and I try to not focus on my phone.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
That's the truth. I'm a mix of both of y'all.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
I think you would have been on the block list,
but I also like to just zone out in my
own world.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
And it's not a person a long time to get
to that point, Like what she don't understand because she
never puts her fucking phone down or tutor because understanding
is hard. But it took me training, and it took
me a lot to get to that point to put
my phone down. Now I'm not saying I was right
for not picking up the phone or whatever, but with
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my phone, when I do radio, when I do Dish Nation,
my phone has to be on silent, So that's two
separate times of the day. So my ship stays on
silent pretty much all the time. And when I got home,
my phone was on silent and I didn't look at
it until it was too late.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
But she invited me to Atlanta from New Orleans. Even
if that's your routine, the name you invite somebody that's
supposed to be special, you would at least great that
alarm or something.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Right this day, you still kind of dowhere.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Whether she still.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Feels as though it wasn't wrong, and she feels as
though I should have told her I'm going I'm doing
something else. I decided to move on. I'm not gonna
keep on pursuing.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Them, right, because well, I'm trying to get to her
and make sure you don't have no baggage coming into
the relationship.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
She done moved the fuck on.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Right, She'll be flying to Atlanta. It wasn't question right,
now if we never see each other, though, you act
like we didn't date and see each other at least
eight to ten times. So I know eight to ten times.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Three times she didn't answer the phone.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Three times we linked up and we saw each other
and spend time together.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
We did, Okay, I'll give credit. There were times when
I flew here and I saw her. But after multiple
times of me flying here and there was no communication,
I said, there has to be something that's going on
or she can be as interested as I feel like
I'm interested in her, So let me do something else.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And she did would say you know what? Because we
were still talking. You could have said you know what,
but she was. You wasn't answering. That was not all
the time. She's gonna get all your to always chiming
on her side that.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
You're standing on the island alone, beautiful. No, I'm not, no,
for real. Every single room we go in, everybody, everybody
understands that if somebody is letting you come to another
city and they don't answer, that that is an excuse
to stop talking to them.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Okay, and you did, right, But y'all circle back around now.
Jordan did have a question because I know before y'all
got here, we were talking about this ahead, Jordy.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
So you had to get rid of some hoes.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
Right about six or seven.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
But go, okay, whole roster. But people do that.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
You're a single first, But how long do you think
it takes before you can get into the committed relationship
to get rid of all of them?
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Well, if you was never fully completely happy and never
felt loved the way you felt loved from this person,
then you ready to ditch all that shit and feel
what it's making your body and soul feel from this person.
But I had to figure out ways to tell certain
people because there were kids involved in some situations, and
it was like, Okay, I'm attached here and I'm attached there.
So I was trying to just figure out how to
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get rid of all that shit but not be grimey
or be an asshole about it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
And you think you're non confrontational a little like you
kind of want to not just put it all out
because somebody could just be like, look I found somebody.
I mean when it comes to a relationship, like.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
She don't give a fuck what she tell people outside
of it. That's what I'm saying people.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Doesn't care about you know sometimes, and I could be
that way too. I don't want to hurt somebody's feelings,
so I'm gonna like ease out of something instead of
just ripping off the band aid.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yeah. What were you dealing with.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Though that you had to because it feels like you
were outkay with just cutting everything off. Well, I was
dealing with her and that was it and nobody else correct.
But then once I saw what was going on, I said, Okay,
let me go do something else. Because it's not that
I didn't have people that weren't interested, right, I just
wasn't giving them the time of day or.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Doing anything that she didn't know. It wasn't in a
bad way.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
I was just saying that because I didn't you dat
you because I was bored. I wasn't trying to be
with you because I was bored or I didn't have
anything else to do. I wanted to be with you.
I chose to deal with other people because I couldn't
you weren't it you weren't you know?
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It wasn't you couldn't have a little bit more patience
before you went and got a nigga and to start
posting the nigga. I wasn't posting those bitches or even posting.
I could have posted niggas all day long. I just
didn't choose to put no niggas. But but your your way.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Of life was far different from mine. Yeah, I had
had public relationships.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Well, you didn't have to post that nigga all hugged
up with that nigga with your nails behind this cheese
and the ship. I'm like, damn, just last week we
were still talking. Yeah she did. I saw Instagram and
saw that ship.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
You didn't a rebound situation. You felt like China, maybe
because sometimes we try to forget the least you can.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And that was somebody that I had dealt with in
the past. Okay, oh, same mask. So I just it's like.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
You had just went back to the land to something
that you had been dealing with.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
But I'm not gonna let you get up about this
because I want to say, Brad, you did something real
wild that I don't know. You gave your ex your
car that did that's you know, that's a little crazy.
If I'm in a relationship, imagine me telling my here.
You can have you the first person that brought that
up to no.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
There was no child involved. The car would school cars
I had? I had a car, it was it was
a BMW. I had a couple of cars. But I
could I was.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
We were a kid one a time, we were living together.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
That's wild. I'm sorry I didn't bring it up.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Give the car?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
How did you approach you about? How did you volunteer
to give this car? Because they didn't have nothing.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
They didn't have nothing, and they wouldn't have had no
transportation or nothing to get the kid back and forth
to school.
Speaker 5 (08:50):
So I was like car collecting, Thus you can have it.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
I mean, I had a jeep, I had other vehicles.
Speaker 5 (08:58):
Would it been better if she would have brought her
like a little.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Well, So this is the thing. My issue wasn't necessarily
the value of the gift for anything. It was the
fact that we were at that point serious and this
wasn't a discussion for us made on her own, hadn't
informed me about and I found out How did you
find out? I think it was some male had came
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or something, or there was something. I think it was
a text in her phone and her aunt was telling
her that the insurance needed to change, to change the
title of a car or something, and I.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Was like, why would you change it?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Something like that, and I was like, so I didn't.
And we actually didn't talk about it much. I might
have said a couple of words about it, but it
was it wasn't something that I could deal with, you know,
it was something I could change, right, But I just
just like, oh, okay, so that's the same person you
texted they got pretty feet.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Oh you did do that too, and it gave them
a car and then okay, but it feels like a
learning exp as for you to be in a relationship
this serious.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Yeah, And that person was like, my friend, you know
what I'm saying, Like, I've never been in love the
way I'm in love with you. I've never felt that's
your ex. Yeah, but like I'll be.
Speaker 6 (10:20):
The same situation would have happened, Say, homeboy, you said
the chess nigga whatever you call him, what you call him,
say if he needed a cardigan, lame mass nigga. Okay,
So if lame mass Nigga needed a cardiget his son
back and forth to school, and he was in that
same predicament and she did the same thing, would you
be okay?
Speaker 2 (10:35):
With it. I would be okay when she got like
twenty cars, Like a car is not a thing, Like
it's not a big deal if it was kids involved, Yes,
I won't. Oh my god, you can't. You can't say that. Yes,
that would okay, shit, yes I would.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Okay, you know, but I do feel like and like
you said, you've never been in love like this.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I had no problem of being a your baby daddy.
What had probably been around your baby daddy? But what
what were you around here for? He came to the party,
the great.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Came to our son's graduation party.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Right.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
How is that a comparison That means his kids involved?
That's again, I was graduating from college.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
But otherwise I wouldn't want you to have after that.
Now I had to be all in that nigga face
at the funeral thing when something was going on between
somebody and you had to spend extra time kind of
with that nigga and I had to sit in the
car like I didn't like that.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
No, no, no, my.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
I don't know if you remember what that was.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
I got off the car to support my child who
wanted to confront their father by the issue that they
had with him, and I refused to let my son
go in his daddy face and say anything because if
his daddy six whatever, I have a fucking talt he
is would have said anything out of line with my son.
It just would have been on as his mother stood
beside him to approach his.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Daddy, and I should have been standing there with you
as your baby mama. You know.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
But I think and the defense it is hard because
sometimes it's okay to talk to your ex if y'all
have kids together like that.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
But they are definitely.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Talking about a funeral of my children's grandmother and my
son's graduation party from college. I have never seen that
nigga outside of that. My children ain't they twenty me
and have been together for four five six years. She
had to see that nigga twice at a funeral and
grad That's it. Baby and daddy situations are far different.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yeah, that's what I was gonna say.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
It. Had a couple of conversations with him on the phone,
though no he tryed to know.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
He tried to text me and I never responded.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
To beutiful, You've had a couple of conversations with his
ass on the phone. I remember when Jordan was supposed
to stay with him or something. It was a couple
of things that y'all talked on the phone about.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
About what his mama was passing away.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
And they were I mean, I would say, what do
you think an exception for there is somebody it does.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
And this wasn't kids that like my children are old. Yeah,
so this was about this was before the grandmother passed,
and it was about the grandmother passing and where where
our child was gonna live.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Yeah, yeah, this wasn't.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
This wasn't hey, girl, you know how you been on
what's going on? That's all your same baby daddy because
I had baby daddy issues in the past, right, like
what he would call and he try to fuck on
my relationship that nigga know that nigga know nothing cross them,
but no problem. But that is it's far beyond that.
He has his life. I have my life and our
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children in their twenty.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
How did he feel when he found out about this
relationship early on, because y'all had a grand reveal for
all of us.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Did he say anything to you? We don't talk.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
He had already they both had already moved on from right, Yeah,
and we don't talk like she had a few bitches
before me and a couple of niggas after the baby daddy.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Yeah, after I had my children with my baby, and
my children are in their twenties. I think after my
kids might have been three four five at the most
the last time we dealt and my kids in their twenties.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Now, listen, I just want to say, let's talk about
some of these things in the book.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
You'd have brought up the bits.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
All right now. We talked about on everything on Beautiful,
but the ex was in our current situation, not really
in our current situation.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Are you serious? Before you gave a bit of car
when we was in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Beautiful, you told the bitch was people didn't when we
were living together.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yeah, that's that was a little violet sleeping in the
same bed.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
It was not. It was innocent, Beautiful you're trying to
get was like my parents. I wasn't.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You were saying, I had to deal with your baby
daddy at a.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
Funeral, But you know I wasn't flirting with So what
was the context that you telling her we're pretty?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I mean, the bitch the girl never got a pedicure before.
She didn't used to get pedicules all the time. So
she had got a pedicule and she sent the picture
of her toes and I was like, oh, pretty pretty
toes or something like that, And oh my god. Had
I known she didn't like that or would get offended
by it, I would not have done it.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
What in what situation is that even? Okay though?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Yeah, why she sending you a picture of her toes
because she got her feet done because she wanted.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Yeah, like she got that's difference.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Yes, she knew we were together because prior to uh, yeah,
she knew we were together because she moved from there
to here.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
Who So when did you finally cut her off? When
was she cut off?
Speaker 5 (15:43):
Because after the car, after the toes in the car.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
If I had to, if I had to give an estamate,
I'm always see what she said. But if I had
to give an estimate, probably three four months maybe six
months from us living together.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
Six months, yes, because y'all because y'all were talking prior
to it, just being you and the child were talking.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I don't remember I'm gonna to break up with somebody
when you're in their kids life. Sometimes that's a little
bit difficult because you feel bad about that.
Speaker 5 (16:12):
So is there still communication with you and the child?
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (16:15):
Okay, and you're fine with that?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Yeah, courage, I encourage. It's still uncomfortable for me though,
because I know how she feels. Kind of I don't
have nothing. Who means he might be like, bring some
ship up, like how we used to walk the dogs
or something, and I'd like.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
That wouldn't bother me. That bothers me nervous.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
To bring up it would be.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
To me, you know. Oh you know my mom said,
when are you coming over? That would make it strange?
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Yeah, you like, why would you be going over there?
What old her?
Speaker 3 (16:49):
I've been the person to say, hey, invite such and
such over, Hey, when the last time you talked to
such and such that?
Speaker 1 (16:56):
What are your thoughts about exes and communicating with exes
when you're in a relationship.
Speaker 6 (17:00):
Well, when their children, and when there's children involved, it's
kind of you kind of have to still have some
type of communication, especially if there's co parenting or for
in your instance, you were involved in that child's life
even though it's not yours.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
I don't communicate with the parents at all, but the child, yes, yeah,
the child, okay, But.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
I've never been in that situation. I don't talk to
my exes and my my man at least from what
I know, don't talk to them either. So I feel
like my exes will text me like happy birthday and
things like that, or something happens. They might sound like
a quick text, but you know that's their stage. Yeah,
that's the extent of it.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I can't even do that. You can't even do that.
I can't even texting somebody happy birthday. I wouldn't do
it because I know she don't like it. And that
comes which I learned from writing the book, from a
past experience in a past relationship that she was in
where something happened with one of her exes and their
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ex I guess, so now she's like, it's off limits.
We're not talking to our exits.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
And it is also understanding, Like you guys stress a
lot of this in the book. You guys are coming
from different backgrounds and different experiences, so you have to
be understanding of where somebody comes from. Like for you,
at first, being public was hard for you. Even taking
pictures and things like that was weird because you were
used to paparazzi and people posting things and not wanning
your business out there like that. And for you, Judy,
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you're so used to being a public figure, having a
brand Kaleidoscope that was you know, and I know you
from Kaleidoscope from way back in the day, from having
a really successful brand that was kind of built on
social media and social media. So that is such a conflict.
I think in the beginning that y'all have to really
get past that.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Well, you know, when I first got with her, I
was adapting to her. Yeah, so I still was going
to be public facing myself, but when it came to
where we were in public, I just I let her
lead all of that. I used to call her role
manager and be like, is it okay to send her flowers?
What name do I put it on? If I send it?
Like I was trying to like I wasn't trying to
blow her up, No, I was. I was I was like,
(19:06):
how the fun how do you date a celebrity? Like
what's that? What's celebrity etiquette? And then if they not out,
what's the editing? How the funk are you supposed to
do this?
Speaker 2 (19:13):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (19:14):
And I want to take up to the movies, how
do I I can't take up to the movie, So
where can I take?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Can I take out to eat?
Speaker 3 (19:19):
I can't, Like I was asking all the questions.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
You know, It's interesting because people will also tell you
if somebody's not out, it's not a good idea to
date them, right if they're still in the closet.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
You had your reason.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
You talk about Ellen DeGeneres in the book and how
that kind of ruined her for a period of time.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
And so cool back in the day at all.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
And so that's also because people will give you that advice, Well,
if that person doesn't want to live in their tooth
and be out, then you shouldn't date that person, because
we've heard that, especially when it comes to men. I
feel like, you know, for men, people are like, well,
I'm not going to be a secret, I'm not going
to do X, Y and Z. What made you feel like,
because I know that can also be tough for you. You
were protecting Brat and what she had going on and
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adapting to her.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
But how was that for you?
Speaker 3 (20:02):
I mean, I was ok with it. I ain't give
a funk. I liked her. I didn't care like you.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
I was.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I was I'm public facing and I was gonna do
the promotion that I did. I was gonna be myself.
I was gonna give the business advice on social media.
You just wasn't gonna know who I was fucking at
that point. You just wasn't gonna know. And I was perfect.
I was okay either way. I was fine. She was
like when we got serious. She held my hand in public,
and then her team was like, what.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
The fuck is going on?
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Security grabbed his hand, her manager grabbed the other hand.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
So we all.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Nobody doing nothing, and then we in her dressing room.
I think it was backstage of Essence. She pulled me
down and sit on her lap, and everybody closing doors,
and I'm just like, I.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Don't know what the going on. You were like, I'm
tired of this ship. Yeah. I wanted the world to know.
At that point, I was a love child and I
was just like, I want everybody to know. And I
didn't care. I wanted to perform. I wanted her right
in the front of the stage, and I performed. I
wanted the kiss on her, lean on her, hug on her,
and she was so cool with that, and she didn't care.
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She didn't mind. It was just so it just felt
so good and free, you know. But everybody was the
beginning of it. So everybody was like, oh, ship, what's
going on? Yo? Be you eye. I'm like, yeah, I'm good,
leave me alone.
Speaker 6 (21:23):
Did you have to have a talk with your team? Like, listen,
that's what it is, Yeah, moving forward.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
But it was so many years of them being like that,
it took them a second to get out of protecting.
Like when we went to go eat at Morals and
we were sitting next to each other and I was
damn in her skin. I was sitting so close. I
took my shoes off and it was there's a liar
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was in there, and I did not care. And my
team was like yo, and they was holding I was
not used to it.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
I would love to have been like, get a girl,
you know what I'm saying, because that's how it feels like.
You never would like that before. So for them to
witness that that had to feel like, this is definitely.
Speaker 6 (22:10):
Clearly you were that, like you said, in love and
they're comfortable with the situation that you really just didn't
give up.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
This is what it is.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
And let's be clear, nobody was surprised because it ain't
like you were like coming out and everybody.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
It's like, okay, it's not like that's how I feel.
But she was like, you know, but I had never
said it.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Yeah, A lot a lot of people didn't know a
lot of niggas thought no, yeah, because you did have
boyfriends before. So yeaheah.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
That was another thing that y'all talk about in the book,
is an interview that you did. Because when she asked.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Well, if you did an interview, I wouldn't have minded, Yes,
the funk you would, especially if then when super viral
about the sexual things I did with my mind, it knows.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I was just sitting there fucking having a conversation with Candy.
I didn't think that that would go viral. I really
didn't like. That was the first podcast I had ever did, like,
and I only did it because I'm cool with Kady.
We grew up together as kids. So I said, okay,
I'm gonna go do it, and you were sitting right
there like once again, had I now it was not
I was?
Speaker 3 (23:17):
I was y'all were in the interview room. I was outside.
You remember y'all did that. I wasn't in that room.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Man, But had I known that that was gonna offend
you outline, It was too late.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
I couldn't taking that that that clip about what how
she would did whatever when whatever win however coming out
of her mouth, it was her saying it. It just
was every outlet and then everybody else reposting it, and
then a year or so past and it went viral again.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Oh shit, that's so annoyed, double double I was. Yeah,
but that listen, we talked about RIALNA and being truthful
because part of the truth is and y'all doing reality
TV and you've said this, if we have an argument,
we're not turning the cameras off.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
We're gonna show it all.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
And that is a truth, right, So it's the good
with the bad, Like if we're gonna be too full
and honest and put things out there and do it,
then we can't say sometimes and sometimes not.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
No, I agree, but I don't think she would want
me doing an interview with you and telling your view
those problems, right, how I like the service I am
body right, but.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
That is that those are things that happened. But had
I known you didn't want me to do that or
that would have offended you, I would not have done it.
Have I ever done it again. Ever, even when I'm
asked about it, I run the other fucking way. I
don't want to talk about that, nigga.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
I don't want to know about But let's let's let's
be cause I don't want it to seem like I
have you over here in captivity in jail. If I
was on a podcast talking about how I saw.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Dick, you would be mad about that.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
You would if I said how like if I was
to say throat goat and all the rest of that
shit about me sucking dick, you would have a problem.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
With that, right. But I didn't know that you were
going to be offended. I was having a conversation with
Candy about.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Things, So text me how to being offended? Had I
done it, how would you feel?
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I probably wouldn't have liked it.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
And then if it was all over all the outlets.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Well I didn't know that was. But damn I didn't
know that was. I know.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
I'm just saying, so take me out of what happened,
like what you.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Had to say. I just said, I wish it wouldn't
have happened. I don't want you to apologize.
Speaker 3 (25:30):
All I'm saying not because it's me, just because you
wouldn't want it done to you. That's it.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
That's it, not because.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
You offended me, but because you just wouldn't have wanted
it for yourself.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
She's like, Okay, but look y'all put it in the buck,
so that's it's fair game to bring it up.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
But absolutely.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Yeah, So doing reality TV, it's just interesting because of
like y'all just being so open with people having a
chance for them to see like the those really special moments.
I thought, as far as reality TV, I really enjoyed
that because you know, reality TV can be messy. Yeah,
I didn't feel like that was messy. I mean, there's
messy things that are gonna happen in real life, but
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it's not like contrived messiness.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
No, agreed, Agreed. I think that was a big thing
about like when the cameras were there and we would
argue or like an argument would be brewing, put the
cameras out, No bitch, they staying.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yeah, I was trying to put them out.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
They gonna stay because we're going to get past the argument.
And this isn't We're not about to I'm not We're
not about to executive produce some doctored up something like
let them see it, let them see that we're human,
that yes we've had an argument, but then they're going
to see the other side of it. We can do this, right,
It's not it's not going to end here, not granted
the way it's cut.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
It's gonna end there. So you watch the next week.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
But you're going to see clearly, you're going to see,
you know, the other side of it.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Man.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
I just want to say, even talking to you guys
and hearing y'all work through these conversations, it felt like
reading this book that y'all have been in therapy, like
and I know that's been a thing too. You can
read that and tell just some time of the things
that you're like, okay, And I feel like this is
a universal rule, like don't go to bed mad at
each other. Now I will go to bed mad, she willed.
(27:16):
I will literally not talk to you for like two days.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
She will too. I'm gonna not talk to her, right,
but we might not resolve it two days. Sometimes you
agree to disagree, yeah, yeah, but shit needs Shit needs
to be a resolved because then if it comes back
up again, we never fucking talked about it and resolved
it in the first place. Because she thene walked off
in the middle of an argument because she know how
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to compartmentalize shit better than I do, and go fucking
get on the computer on some colleidoscope and do some
mirrors or launch a new product or some ship while
I'm still over there pissed off, and like, when is
we gonna talk about this ship? We go to bed,
she on one side of the bed, I'm on the
other side. We got a backs hert and we both cold,
sleeping with our backs against each other, but we don't
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went on to sleep. I don't like that. I still
don't like that, but she still do it. I don't
like that.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
Something you should work tomorrow, I said no, I said
I would. I said I would. And so even though
walking out, it's not walking out because I want to
have my way. And this is the part that she
that she left out conveniently. It's when our tone, like
when when the inflection changes and I realize I'm angry.
I try to de escalate the situation by leaving because
at this point now I'm yelling.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Well, if it don't raise your voice, it won't get to.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
That, right, But but I and I try, so she'll
she often says, I get up here, and then she
takes me tell me take my tone down, and I do,
but then it goes back up. So I realize I'm
in a state where I probably need to take a
couple of seconds and not stay here in this and
either keep yelling or say something I don't mean, and
then just leave the situation. Either try to focus on
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something else, or leave the situation, go in the room,
do something else, and then I'll come back in the room.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Yeah, I try. I do.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
So I'm that way, and y'all know that about me.
If I'm mad, I can't talk about it at that moment.
I gotta wait until I feel more rational, because you
know how sometimes and.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Then amazing other things happen and then it's not important anymore.
It's still important, but I see that you could the
bottom of the totem pole.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
It's not that I just don't like to be super
emotional when I'm discussing something, because I also need a
moment sometimes to think about it because I could be wrong.
But sometimes when you're wrong, you don't want to say
you're wrong in that moment until you need like an
hour or a couple of hours to be like.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Because also sometimes it's not even about that argument.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
We might have other things going on and you got
to feel like this was stressful. Let me just because
I've been stressed out a lot lately and taking it
out and I'm like, I just got to take a
minute because I don't want to, like you said, I
don't want to say something that I'm a regret saying.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
And then now there's.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
No Once you say something and put it out there,
that's that. Yeah, So that's just someth But reading your book, like,
I'm getting a lot of tips on how I should.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Deal with things. What are you ladies? Then? Absolutely? What's up?
Speaker 4 (30:08):
I have a lot of T shirt requests. There was
a lot of sayings in here I had to write down.
I was cracking up. Let me see what they are.
The first one is neither of us have a problem
speaking in our minds and cursing a bitch out. If
we have to check your mother tone, read the tea leaves.
(30:28):
It's okay to split if you just don't fit to
show some love and get your flirt on. Okay, these
are cute little T shirts with the book shirt merch. Now,
(30:51):
what about rules as far as putting your phone down
because Brad, we know you've been good at that, but
Judy you not so much, right, and there's times when
work and but justifiably, I felt like that was a
good compromise that you both made, right, you being able
to show like, look when I'm on my phone, look
at the results from me posting and doing these things,
(31:11):
because Brad, like we know you've been the person that's
always been kind of like taking a break from that,
not putting stuff out there, but then also realizing the
power and.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
The economical power especially now.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Yeah, and yeah, so that's I feel like that's something
that definitely has been a good compromise for both of you.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Yeah, I've gotten better. Yeah, I've gotten better at posting
and doing my social media stuff. And yeah, she's still
be on her phone twenty four to seven. But I
understand and I try to not be so like when
I'm gonna get some time, you know what I'm saying,
Because I know there's a lot of things that she
has to do, like running a company as a motherfucker,
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and it's just a lot of people and a lot
of moving parts, and so many things happen every single
day that falls on her. No matter what happens in
the company, it's on her. It falls on her the
face of it, and that's that's that's a heavy plate
to have, like and I just wish I could do
more to help fix it. But I don't know shit
about the industry like that. But it's just a lot,
(32:11):
and it'd be a lot on her where she has
to be on the computer twenty four to seven, looking
at numbers, looking at this, looking at that, smelling products,
picking the bottles, and that.
Speaker 3 (32:22):
I hate that you've had to see this side of
entrepreneurship and experience. When you have a great team, you
don't have to be as active as I have now.
I do have some great team, absolutely, but I haven't
been able to find my power team where I take
my hand off the wheel. I learned last year. I
thought I got my power team and I took my
hat off of the wheel and it almost took me out.
Speaker 5 (32:44):
So if I have to put out fires.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
That is one of the hardest things about being an
entrepreneur is nobody cares about your business more than you do, correct,
And it's so hard to find anybody who even like cares,
you know, as much.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
All the time.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
I didn't know that I've never never in my life.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
I just.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
So, I didn't know that people lie on them, right,
Like I went straight from doing hair to sell my
hair products.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
I don't even know what the fuck how to fucking
compil orhythm right, you know, like if you say you're
a brain surgeon.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Who lies about that?
Speaker 3 (33:23):
But no surgeon, what happens to the surgery? The person
fucking die? You take it that fucking far, like the
person dies.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
But you know?
Speaker 1 (33:33):
And but what about times like say you guys are
watching a movie together at home Netflix and chill, will
you put your phone down during the movie or you
one of those people that's still gonna be.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
I respectfully, I will put my phone down if we
make an intension time, I will put my phone down
during the movie. I will if we're watching something or
if it's something that we've made specific time out about.
But if we watching a movie and it's launch today,
that's that's something different. Like something might come on and
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it's something specific that day that I know, you know
that we have to monitor. But outside of it, I try.
You know, No, you don't agree, She's like, no, what's.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
The last movie? Y'all watched it home together.
Speaker 3 (34:20):
Radiculy, we had we had a date night in our
movie theater with our son.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
I love the light flex in our sprinkle date in
our movie theater. Right, Oh wow, I love a light
flex like that.
Speaker 3 (34:39):
I'm hard.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (34:43):
We put blankets on the floor. Well I put blankets
on the floor and put pillows on there, and I surprised.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
It with a movie theater like a movie date. Yeah,
corn dog bit right.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
She liked sentimental ship like that, like all the stuff
I've ever given her in life besides our son. She
prefers the type of.
Speaker 7 (35:07):
Like she like, like I do the I like to,
you know, let me put a let's put a theater
outside and let's get the minions live dancing, you know,
like that's that's what I am.
Speaker 3 (35:17):
She is to put your phone down, grab some pillows,
grab a blanket, let's get nice and cozy like and
I like that. So that's what that's what we did.
Speaker 5 (35:25):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Now I want to talk about some some current things
that are happening on social media. Hold on because I
want to get you guys to weigh in and look,
I know that you for you, Brett, I also know
you as a radio fellow radio personality. Uh, you're very
well versed in being able to talk about these things.
Hold on, let me pull up my lip service notes.
All right, let's see.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Oh no, let's not do that one. All right.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
I'm oh, I'm not gonna do this one to you
because then I don't want you all to get into
an argument.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
That's fucked up. Now they think we're gonna get into an.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
Argument, I'm totally kidding. Now, it's a tot wrestling site.
We know you like pretty yeah, all right, now how
about this. Hmmm, I'm trying to find which one of
you said, Oh, yeah, she's on her phone right now.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
Oh girl, don't do that.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
I mean, and it's got to be fun for you
guys to be on this book tour together. I have
to imagine that being in love with somebody and being
partners with somebody and being able to travel and do
these things like as a team and do a reality
show together and go through that journey. And also I
think the documenting the IVF journey was so important too.
(36:45):
I feel like for a lot of women, those conversations
and being able to visually see that and go through
that experience with you was so powerful.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:56):
Yeah, and I think us doing stuff together has been great.
Now it does have its challenge too. Like when we
were doing reality TV, we different if we got to
do three scenes right in the day, do the motherfuckers
back to back? Start at ed am finish at two?
She wants to finish at six because she wants the
breaks in between. But don't give me the break.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
You want to just keep going.
Speaker 3 (37:18):
I want to knock the out.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
I wanted the second to not have to look at
all the motherfuckers for a minute, right, I would.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
Go, I will go in the room and change and
let's go to them like that's who I am.
Speaker 5 (37:28):
I am, and get it right a minute. Let me
be impressed.
Speaker 3 (37:33):
I am.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
I'm also like, let me just get it all knocked
out at once, because I want to be done earlier.
Speaker 5 (37:38):
I would appreciate the breaks.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
Yeah, but what all the way through running through?
Speaker 4 (37:47):
We went all the way through all right?
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Now, let me ask you guys this, do you think
I feel like for you? You've been a relationship type
of person, like kind of always in a relationship you
is this your first.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Real serious relationship? I know you have your AX. Who
you nah that No, not my first real serious relationship.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
But this is the first time you feel like you've
been in love? Yes, okay to this level. Yes, every
time you like somebody you think you love it. But
when it gets to a level that you've never felt before,
then you know.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
What was different for you? What's different for me?
Speaker 3 (38:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (38:23):
Like, what was different? She gave me butterflies. She made
me feel sick to my stomach. I was trying to
be cool and drinks of tequila. I missed my whole
mouth when I slung up the hole in the couch.
It was just the way she made me feel. And
I just had never felt like that in my body
or my soul before. And I was just like, damn, bitch,
(38:44):
you must have been sent from God because I have
never I had never felt that way. And I thought
I had felt love before and been in love before
and loved this person and loved that person and thought
they loved me. But it was it wasn't And you
don't know it until you experienced it. Yeah, you like, damn,
this is what it is? This is what about you? Judy?
How did you know?
Speaker 1 (39:05):
How is this different than every other relationship you've been in?
Speaker 3 (39:09):
Beautiful is the most nurturing person I've met in my life.
Like she has this really really hard exterior, really hard,
but she is the She is the kindest soul you'll
ever meet, and every she puts me before everything, including herself,
like I've never had, I've never experienced because she hate
(39:30):
when I talk about it, but but she's she's admitted it.
She feels like I should be before everything, and so
I don't have to wash a dish, take out any trash,
wash any clothes. She doesn't like me doing any manual
labor life life. Absolutely, but I think it's because, like
(39:51):
she said, she watches me work extremely hard, so she
wants me to do nothing outside of it. She wants
to make sure that even down to when I get
out of bit in the morning, if she's home, she's
making up the bed, like by the time I even
get back to the bed, even if it's seven minutes
in between. Absolutely, and she enjoys doing the domesticated things.
(40:11):
So I think for me, this experience with love showed
me because my parents were married up until the day
that my dad died, and I watched that fairy tale love.
So for a while I thought that fairy tale love
was impossible because I saw it with my parents, but
I thought maybe it might not be possible for me,
or if it is, I don't know, maybe it missed it.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
But then once I experienced love with her, let me
know that it's not only possible, that my story actually
is different and it's better than what I saw with
my parents because it's mine. Yeah, it's the exact how
I want it to be.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
And I think it's also what we see. Like with
having so much access to people's lives, we don't see
a lot of great examples. I would say that there's
a few, but I think we see so much dysfunction
when it comes to relationships that we start to think
that's normal.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Yeah, that's that's real. Or when you see successful ones,
everybody wants to call one of them lane, Like think
about Rust and Sierra.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Like everybody say, right, everybody wanted to pray for everybody.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
Yeah, but they happy.
Speaker 1 (41:20):
Yeah, now, y'all have butterflies before the first up. Your
first kiss was outside of my ros right, all right,
so in the alleyway.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Yeah, we stuck on the side of the building. I
was so scared.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
So what was it like the first time y'all really
hooked up, like sexually? What was that experience?
Speaker 3 (41:41):
Like, you know what the first when we slept together
the first time, like not sex, but slept together. She
went slept on the sofa and I was in the bed,
and I was like, why did.
Speaker 2 (41:56):
You do that? Because I didn't want her to think
that I wanted to sleep with it. I just didn't
want to think that, you know, I'm this rapper to
just want to fuck her when she comes see me.
She was on you though, I didn't want to think
I was being like that, like I didn't want to
see her. I went, I went by her, I went
over there by her. You got on the sofa.
Speaker 3 (42:13):
Yeah, I wouldn't have got on the sofa, but when
it came to that, I let I let her lead.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
I let her lead.
Speaker 3 (42:19):
I didn't want to be the aggressive.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
I let her lead.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
But she also, what's the first time at the condo?
Speaker 2 (42:26):
Yeah? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (42:28):
And then you got a condo in Atlanta when you
moved to Atlanta.
Speaker 3 (42:32):
So when I before, before we got a house, I got,
you know, one of the the temporary like the furnished condent.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
Movies bringing right, I iced to have money that you
could be just moving around.
Speaker 3 (42:46):
Like I was trying to figure I was I was,
I knew I wanted to leave New Orleans. I was
trying to figure out what shitty to be in. I
was dating her, so I was, you know, coming back
and forth to Atlanta. I had had that place, and
she her work was like ten to fifteen minutes, so
(43:07):
she would stop by in the morning when she was
headed to work and radio in the morning from sixty ten,
and then she would come after work and hang out.
And so when we first slept together, she didn't want
to leave, and not like I didn't. I was trying
to put her out, but she she just kept coming over,
(43:27):
kept coming over, kept coming over.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
And now did she have a key? Did you think
I think I did?
Speaker 3 (43:34):
I think I think it was like the little key
card thing. Yeah she had the key card.
Speaker 2 (43:37):
I don't think I had a key.
Speaker 3 (43:39):
No, but you was able to get in and out
of the garage. Yeah she had a key card. But yeah,
she didn't have a key. Okay, it was it was
a thing.
Speaker 2 (43:47):
The door, but I could but get up to the door.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
It was a thing with her with multiple organisms, so
she was wanted back. It wouldn't be just one. So
she like, she will want me to. She didn't want
to just let it happen once. So our first time
it was that she started that. She started that way.
She started with I'm not done with you.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Oh wow.
Speaker 3 (44:12):
That from there she she built it. She she just said,
I'm trying to see how many you can get.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
To oh wow, wait for you to have multiple orgasms.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
But but then she didn't let me do her that though,
because I'm one and done. I'm good with one. I
come so hard, I'm so good with just one time.
Speaker 1 (44:32):
Multiple orgasms are a skill multiple because I think that's not.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
Can you do it? I actually absolutely can.
Speaker 3 (44:39):
Right, but just I don't think you gotta have a
few minutes in between.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
It can't.
Speaker 3 (44:43):
It can't be back and then you gotta yes intense
one yeah, like give me about seven to twelve minutes
to let my body reset.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
That's the long in between. If you're home.
Speaker 1 (44:55):
Oh shit, okay, all right, now, what are you do?
Speaker 2 (45:00):
Part I? It's good and it's good.
Speaker 1 (45:08):
Yeah, So that was the first time you had multiple orgasms?
Speaker 3 (45:12):
It was two, okay, because I was She said, she
liked the way my body responds, like I'm I don't
hide it like I'm not a I'm not quiet, Okay,
I knew you.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
Say you was loud. Yeah, I'm fat and juicy, So.
Speaker 3 (45:30):
You know, I don't I don't mind showing. And I
also don't mind you know, like whatever we do, what
we're doing, you know, like I'm very.
Speaker 2 (45:39):
Let's make it, let's go there. Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:42):
But so but you weren't as accepting of her doing
stuff for you. That's what it feels like. You're the giver. Yeah,
and I felt like that was unfair.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
But you got you got it, you get it, you
got it.
Speaker 3 (45:55):
I felt like it was unfair, Yeah, because she felt
like because she said, ain't I'm going to sleep, make
me a motherfucker sandwich or.
Speaker 2 (46:02):
Something, right, I could never come eleven times, never say never.
Speaker 3 (46:09):
But that's the thing I couldn't either until until you
did it up to it.
Speaker 8 (46:13):
Oh wow, you see what I'm saying, right, No, three beautiful.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
You don't seem like you love it like I do.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
There's no such a thing, girl, there's no such a thing.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
I'd be in motherfucking heaven.
Speaker 3 (46:31):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (46:32):
See, okay, but that works, it works, right.
Speaker 3 (46:37):
I hear you.
Speaker 1 (46:39):
But sometimes there's nothing better than pleasing the other person too.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
I know that I know that about her. I know
that about her, so that's why I let her lead
in that. But I don't. I don't want because she says, well,
you don't like it like I do. I can't say
that I don't like it like you do, but you
don't let me do it as much.
Speaker 1 (46:56):
But maybe that's something you guys could work on for
the next book. But is there anything that y'all haven't
done that you want.
Speaker 2 (47:02):
To try sexually? Yeah? This is service now. This role
play was so fire, you like, but I couldn't wait,
so I couldn't. I was I was a stripper. So
but this is the thing.
Speaker 3 (47:20):
I started in a text message. I said, listen, I'm
about to text you as somebody else and she was like,
what I said? I said just I said, we had
I had a great time meeting you last night. I
would love to continue our conversation but in person, and
she was like, what are you talking about? We was
eating food last night.
Speaker 6 (47:37):
I'm like, what was my name?
Speaker 2 (47:43):
What if I call?
Speaker 3 (47:46):
I said, this is such and such from last night,
you know, I would love to continue our conversation. And
then she was like, okay, well I'm free this week
on such and such a date. So then I got us.
I got us a hotel room. It's nice to have money.
I got us a hotel room because we used to
always look up at the twelve. So I got a
(48:07):
hotel room at the twelve. And I put flowers, and
I put little balloons, and I decked it out, and
I had the little laingerie on hat on a strip
of heels. I you know, had had music. I had
got the polaroids, so we had like real like picture stuff.
Got the little eye trade or couterie board, had my
little two steps going on.
Speaker 2 (48:26):
You know.
Speaker 3 (48:26):
I like, once she gets there, I'm gonna do it.
One of the girl. She came in there, I told
her my name and I went sat across her left
to do start the dancing. And that was it.
Speaker 6 (48:35):
That was it was. It was all in all play.
Speaker 1 (48:40):
I love that thoughtfulness that you both put into the relationship,
though I think like the effort. Because Valentine's Day is
coming up, you already got I sell your face.
Speaker 2 (48:53):
We don't never tell each other.
Speaker 3 (48:56):
We don't tell each other.
Speaker 2 (48:57):
It's just we let the day happen.
Speaker 1 (48:59):
So I cannot wait to see I know it ain't
all gonna be posted, but I can't wait.
Speaker 2 (49:05):
It's a special, special time. Yes it is because her
birthday is two days before that. Oh wow. And then
her anniversary is the twenty second.
Speaker 5 (49:12):
Oh so this whole month.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
And she's doing a new launch all child.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
Well anyway, I love this for both of you, and
I just want to tell anybody, like if you need
some tips about your relationship getting through things. Like you said,
it was a bit of a rocky beginning, but that
second time around was no joke, absolutely, you know. And
to see where you guys are now with your beautiful
true legends and you know, having a child together, which
(49:45):
was amazing.
Speaker 2 (49:45):
Like I said, that ivy f journey.
Speaker 1 (49:47):
From me being like somebody who hasn't had a kid yet,
you know, no, totally older than that.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
You should you should at least look good. But I
think it's too late. I don't think I can freeze it.
You want to do it. You got to just do it,
you know what I'm saying. And so you should change it.
You still got because some people still do.
Speaker 3 (50:06):
Yeah, some people still do it. I would just change
I think you.
Speaker 2 (50:08):
Should do it.
Speaker 1 (50:09):
If anything, I would just do it. I wouldn't even
bother with that part of it.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
But you have to make sure.
Speaker 1 (50:14):
Oh no, no, I went, I went, I did check
that I did, so, yes, I do you good?
Speaker 2 (50:19):
Then you should freeze it.
Speaker 1 (50:20):
But the level is so low they're like, just if
you want to do it, just do it. That's what
the doctor. Yeah, not even to bother with that step,
like you got to just yeah.
Speaker 3 (50:29):
But when you freeze your egg, you have more time.
When you don't freeze it, it goes away.
Speaker 1 (50:36):
Well I'm not gonna wait, Like if I didn't do it,
I wouldn't do it later.
Speaker 3 (50:39):
That's how.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
That's how I like I've gone through. But I do think,
like I said, these conversations are important, like and just
to have watched that journey and see everything that you
went through, and you know, seeing and Brad seeing you
pregnant and seeing you go through all of that, that
was so special, Yeah for everybody watching. And I think
these conversations are important for people to have, even conversations
(51:01):
about freezing your eggs and fertility and all of that.
Speaker 3 (51:04):
I think I didn't even and I know we take
take them classes when we were younger, but who the
fuck remembers that your eggs go away at a certain days,
like they go bitch, they go missing and never come back.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
I can't wait. I'm waiting for mine too. For the
people that want to have kids, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (51:22):
If you don't think about that or consider that, and
you're chasing a career, are you doing something else?
Speaker 2 (51:28):
You know? It's like and you got to make sure
you get genetically tested. That's important too, because some things
may run in your bloodstream or your family line that
don't agree with who you're sleeping with or giving the
sperm to you, and that is very important.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
Did you always know you wanted to get pregnant?
Speaker 2 (51:45):
I thought it wasn't in the cars for me. I
was forty nine when I carried my baby. Yeah, Like
I didn't think it was in the car for me
to get married or have kids. I was just content
with whatever life. Yeah, hell, I was.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
Okay, have a plan and God would laugh at you.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
That's what I always say, have a plan.
Speaker 1 (52:06):
But yes, I'm glad you got it in them seven
a holes right, okay, But they don't act.
Speaker 2 (52:10):
Like you ain't had them. I was. I was content, okay, Yeah,
don't act like you don't got Playgirl wrote, tattooed across
your leg? I do because because you. Yeah, but but
you had.
Speaker 3 (52:23):
And you had niggas ba bitch, So did you like
it was just me with my seven holes?
Speaker 2 (52:29):
You had motive at the time.
Speaker 3 (52:31):
That we were I was pursuing you and we were
about to day.
Speaker 2 (52:35):
I didn't have anybody but you.
Speaker 1 (52:37):
Okay, yeah, way, I want to say, because I've seen
you in New Orleans, so I know how they get down.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
They love you out there. Come on.
Speaker 9 (52:45):
Yeah, but again, you guys, make sure y'all pick up
this book.
Speaker 1 (52:55):
You were love it, just like we love this conversation
that we had. The brand duty the way left goes
a guy to building a beautiful and everlasting relationship.
Speaker 2 (53:02):
This feels like forever, So it is forever.
Speaker 1 (53:05):
Just sitting and talking to y'all is amazing.
Speaker 2 (53:08):
Thank y'all, Thank you. You've been trying to give me trouble.
I mean, it is what it is. You got yourself.
You know, you know what, I'm not worried at all
being going to wherever ever, not after them eleven orgasms?
Speaker 6 (53:25):
You know what?
Speaker 2 (53:25):
All right? It Zip service, Zip service, y'all,
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