May 6, 2026 • 59 mins
Grammy-award winning artist and author, Victoria Monet sits down with Angie Martinez to talk about dating men vs. dating women as a bisexual woman, the disappointment she felt after winning her Grammy Awards, and her experiences with mediation. Plus, a voicemail from a fan who wants to know if she'll ever change up her style of music.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The women that I've dated are like have been like
sexy too.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Yeah, a little bit.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
Fim, a little bit more like in the middle or
more fem than masculine. But I also think about like
children and just like be thrown against the ball. I'm
so weakome feminine.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Hey guys, today's episode is brought to you by Boost Mobile.
So our guest today was growing up writing poetry instead
of going to parties. She spent fifteen years writing hit
records for folks like Ariana grandev Na's Brandy and Moore.
She is a three time Grammy winner New York Times bestseller,
a culinary student, a mom to the youngest Grammy nominee
(00:45):
in history, and this summer she's going to stadiums, the
stadiums of Europe with Bruno Mars. Welcome Victoria Monday around
and we are dressed like I don't know if we're
going to be security R and B group, but we
(01:07):
were singing yes without even trying.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Hi, baby, how are you doing? I'm good? How are
you doing? I'm good? All right? So you have many
many accolades, You've been through a lot of seasons. Where
are we at now? What season is this?
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Right now, I think this is like self love season.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Is it not? Always?
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Yeah, I suppose, but I feel like I put other
people above the amount of love I had for myself.
So now I fully feel like the frequency that I'm
on feels very loving, gentle towards myself. And I think
it's my side quest because instead of doing something that
(01:51):
i've I've been doing for fifteen years, which would technically
pay me, you know, pursuing music, pursuing artistry, songwriting and
all of that I'm known for, I've been over here
doing culinary school, studying, tai chi boxing class, stretch class,
the weight training. I did a six week intensive also
(02:11):
with this, this coach called Would Tully, and he had
me doing meditations along with the sun. So I do
it at sunrise, at zenith, and at sunset and it's
you gaze into like you go outside and you turn
to each direction like north, south, east, west, and it's
this meditation. So it takes a certain amount of commitment
to do that three times a day, no matter what's
(02:33):
going on, three.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Times a day is the times. It's a real commitment, for.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Real, for real. But I think it's what I need.
It's just what I needed to kind of shift my energy.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Wait, so has this been like a year? This has
been all year? You've made these.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Well for the past year, I've been doing all of them,
but not all at the same time. So this, this
meditation that I was doing with the sun the sun
was for six weeks straight.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
You just finished that.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
No, this was in the fall.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
And what came out of it, I.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Just felt like awakened. I felt like it's almost a
feeling that you get when you fast. Have you ever
fasted for long enough where you feel like you're a
little like slowly? Yeah, it was like that, but it naturally,
so it's almost like there was some kind of influence,
like how you feel when you have a sip of
(03:20):
wine or how you feel. I don't know if you
could talk about this on here.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
But like it's true or.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Anything like that. You're like, huh, I'm more alert, more awakened.
But it just happened with breath work and meditation and
like giving yourself that time and like paying attention to
God and like acting with the sun, being outside in
the sun, getting that vitamin D. All of that was
really influential in my mood. And it was like coffee.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Were you doing it just as like explorator, you want
to learn things, or were you doing it to get
through something?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I definitely was wanting to get through something, and I
felt like I needed some kind of change, like some
urgent change. Last year being the year of the Snake,
a lot of shedding was happening in my personal life
and in my business, lots of changes in business, and
just trying to do something that takes you out of
your own algorithm. I feel like, really resets something in
(04:13):
your spirit, in your mind to like feel something else,
you know. So it's something that I felt called to do.
I found out about him through this breathwork class that
my eyebrow what what are they called esthetician eyebrow person
my eyebrow first, and she's really spiritual and she's always
(04:33):
talking about you know, your signs and angel numbers and
all of that. So she introduced me to this coach
who did a breathwork class and I took my mom,
I took my friends.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Tell me how it goes, though, like what do you
do it? Yeah? Like what is the what is the ritual?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
But you go in when I tell you it's so crazy,
you think that it's like this some la. Yes, it
sounds like that, but it actually before the class starts,
he kind of goes through passes out these notebooks that
that has you write down your intentions, what you want
to get from this intensive and also these animals that
(05:13):
you may be aligned with. So there's like an ego,
there's a jaguar. There's all these different animals, like which
one do you feel most like? So you identify that
there's jaguar. There was a jaguar, and there was like,
yeah for sure, Yeah, what would your animal be? What
do you feel like today?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like an owl?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Okay? What made you say?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Just because I feel like an owl will just be chilling,
watching watching, not super aggressive or super needy.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Yeah, just kind of like alert and present.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Just present and assessing.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
And uh, I wonder what the spiritual meaning of it
is of an out Yeah, yeah, because what they when
you identify the animal, there's also a spiritual meaning attached
to it before you even know what it is. You
choose the animal and then they reveal to you.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yeah, and so you're a jaguar wife.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
You know what, I don't remember the exact feel like
fluid and when I think of and move it to
a movement, Like what at that phase, I felt like
a jaguar. I don't know if I feel like that anymore,
But to me, when I think of jaguars, they like
are camouflaged in like their environment, but they're watching and
(06:37):
they know exactly when to strike and kind of pounce,
and they have a really strong bite. Once they latch,
they have the strongest bite in the jungle, Like they
really bite down, but it takes a minute. They're patient,
and then their claws are out. I also like how
sensual they feel like when they're walking, the way their
shoulder blades look. It feels like there there's a little
bit of mystery there. Now I feel a bit softer,
(07:00):
like my claws are not out anymore. I feel more
relaxed in my position.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Who would your animal be now, I don't know. I
love this question. I think everybody should figure out there
is everybody's animal.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Yeah, what's your animal? I don't know if it's an animal.
Maybe it's more like a butterfly. Like I feel like
I have transformed, so I used to be something. Yeah,
Like I have these wings and I'm floating higher above
different things, and I can land on whatever flowers I
want to go snip over here and see what's going on.
But I used to be a caterpillar, you know, like
(07:36):
I came from something and I put in the work
to transform, and I trusted that moment in the dark
where it felt like I don't know what I'm becoming,
but I'm just gonna snuggle in here and be So
maybe you said when you came here, Yeah, I want
to snuggle. I like to feel like snuggly. Definitely not Jaguar.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Fi noaars smuggling. Yeah, yeah, you're in a different network.
You're like the Koala bear. Yeah, butterfly.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Have you seen the red panda?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
No? Are you a red pant? Maybe you're a red.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
They're so cute. I'm sorry, I'm so cute.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
No, that's so cute. That's interesting though, because it's about
like it forces you to like think about where you are,
think about your temperament, right, It forces you to like
look at yourself in like a fun, kinding way. Right.
So that's probably what that does, yeah, for sure. And
then the breath work does what?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Uh, the breath work it's another one of those things
that make you feel like you have taken something, but
it's just with your breath. I think oxygen has delivered
some kind of oxytocin serotonin. Something's going on. I don't
know the exact definitions of it, but there's we're not
going to hold you to it like you're thank you
(08:49):
so much, you scientists out there. You let me know
in the comments like.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
She could just playing the seeds of her experience. It's
for you to do the research.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Yes, yes, So taking this breathwork class. The breath work
can make you feel high, and it makes you it
actually brings up traumas sometimes like your eyes are closed,
and the patterns in which he has you breathe, there's
like a journey that he takes you on. So at
one point you could almost hear messages or you could
(09:22):
tap back into a memory that you didn't even think
that you needed to address it. I'll come to you.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Did that happen to you?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Yeah? Yeah, and your It sounds really crazy, but there's
a chance that your body responds by your hands what
they call chickeney, so they'll be stuck in a certain position.
But it's all based on trauma. So different people in
the room are going through all these different things which
you have a blindfold there's like a special music playing
(09:50):
when you take your blindfold off. After the breathwork experience,
everyone kind of goes around the room and he asks
people like, what did you experience. One person in the
room had some kind of I would want to say,
like a tumor that was stuck. They literally vomited it up.
It sounds really crazy, and I swear I'm not cuckoo,
(10:11):
but this is what was happening in this class, like
these types of things, and some people's experience was I
went to every doctor and they couldn't tell me what
was wrong with me. I came to this class, I
experiences I vomited whatever trauma it was, and now I
feel great. There's all these stories about people doing the
breathwork class and it really physically healing them, and.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
This breath work in general or this specific person in
the way.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
This was an intensive one, so it was about four
hours of it. So like the first hour was him
talking about the experience and what to expect and doing
that worksheet, and then there was like two and a
half hours of the actual breath work, and then another
thirty minutes or an hour of kind of talking about
it with everybody. But this is something that people do
(10:58):
daily people, and I think that's when That's why when
I think of like people who don't have distractions, for example,
like a monk, Like.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I'm obsessed with the monks.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Do you see what I'm saying. I really believe the.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Closing and the calmness and the and the evenness of
how I By the way, I've never been a monk,
so I don't know, but in my imagination how they
move through the world, it's fascinating to exactly.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
That's what I think about these people who have those disciplines,
daily practices, and I do feel like it's possible that
you tap into more using more of a percentages of
your brain, so you can do things like like change
things or move things, or float a little like maybe
I do south a little bit crazy, but I do
(11:46):
believe that if we remove distractions, we could do all
kinds of stuff.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
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stuff just becomes so hard to deal with it and
(13:17):
and hard to sort through, and so like finding this
is like one way to like sort through the junk
to clear the path. I guess right, So you can
have all that stuff kind of come in and I think,
whatever the path is, however, you have.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
To clear it out, clear it out, get it cleaner clean.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
We've had people in the pod talk about like shrooms
or ayahuasca byahuasca or Chelsea Handler does like what's what
did Chelsea do? M V D M A Which that
scares me, but she swears by it. Some people some
people to share Tasha Smith. Some people it's prayer, like
(13:57):
deep like prayer. It's like how they kind of sort
through the noise and get connected. And so this is
just like another way. It's interesting. I've never done it.
I would totally try it.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
We should do.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
It's no drugs involved, no trust, so I feel like
I can safe.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
It's safe.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, you know what I did one time, which was interesting.
It's reminded me what you're talking about. It did have
you called it's e mdr.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Is that when something attached to both sides of your
body and there's.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Like yeah, people do right, people do it different ways.
It's like, uh, they make your eyes go like this,
And it's supposed to be like one side of your
brain holds your trauma, and the weight of the therapy
is it is to move the trauma to the other
side of your brain, the side of your brain that
holds just memory, so that when you think of the trauma,
it's almost like thinking of something in a movie. It's
(14:47):
not attached to emotion. It's like you could be like, oh, yeah,
I went to this bad car accident, or I saw
somebody get murdered or I saw and you could say
it as a story without feeling it in your body, right,
And when it's on the other side of your brain,
you could get scared when you're in the car, which
is what was happening to me, which is why I
went and did it. And when I did it, the
(15:07):
same thing you were talking about with the breath work.
Old shit came up there. I hadn't thought about since
I was a kid, and I was like, what hold on?
What did that writ was that? Where did that come from?
I forgot about that, and it's wild how the brain
holds stuff that we don't. We're walking around and we
don't even realize that we're holding onto It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
I think it also physically manifests, so that when you
when I hear people you know with cancer specifically, I
feel like sometimes it could could have come from not
only the products and the way that we have with
our food systems in America and all of that, but
also stress. Like when you're holding certain things that you
don't clear it some it's like becomes these knots in
(15:49):
your body or your cells respond to it in a
way that physically manifests into certain diseases. So I think
stress levels and clearing that out is even physically important
just as it is mentally important.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Go for you, I love that you're that you've done
this amount of work on yourself, really working on it.
I could feel you lighter. You feel lighter, I mean
you never felt heavy, you didn't know, you didn't feel
like a heavy energy. You always lovely and sweet.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
But yeah, I love that for you.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
It's easier way to walk around the world, right.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Yeah, a lot, a lot more weightless. I mean, I'm
still trying different things. Is most recently, I observed Ramadan.
And you're not Muslim, I'm not, no, but I wanted to.
I felt called to do it, and I wanted to
explore the discipline. And I'm not technically Muslim, but I think,
(16:45):
you know, one of the things that Muslims believe is
that when you're a messenger for God, or when you
believe in God, then that's one of the definitions of
being a Muslim, like putting God's ideas before your own.
And when you're talking about fasting and praying, you're kind
of out of your own flesh. So that's a really
nice way to feel connected and you know, here for
(17:10):
something bigger than yourself. So it was really a really
great experience for me too. And I'm so open to
continuing these spiritual modam.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
So is it just something that calls you and you
just try it, You just try it, you're just down
for it.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I want to be open to it. You know. It's
like I think maybe growing up in a Baptist household,
that's just you know, the messages, that's that's who we are,
that's how we are. And now I want to kind
of know about other ways of thinking and believing and
(17:44):
then see if I really return back to my roots
or if I adapt any other ideologies or just being
open minded to how the rest of the world may
do things.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Imagine the whole world could be like that that. Imagine
people could actually be interested in other people people experiences.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Yeah, you know, it's like we are interested, but not deeply,
Like we're so interested that we have an Instagram like
we're so we will follow and like and like this
level be interested, but not like with empathy.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yeah or yeah something a lot of it has judgment
or yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Comparison a full whack shit. Yeah, we don't want to
be like no, we don't want to be like that.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
So what is all this like? So how does this
affect you as an artist? So now you're like back
in work mode, right, Like, does this past year have
been not a lot of work?
Speaker 1 (18:34):
No, this has been in addition to work, just.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Working it on, stacking it up because you were working
on this project, right and for this tour?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Yeah yeaheah. So it's just the days became longer. I
started the days at four am, and then training and
then the meditations for about six weeks of it, and
then off to school, then after school for lessons and studio.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Culinary lessons happened. Also, Yeah, still do vocal lessons though,
by the.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Way, yeah, yeah, I want to be better. I wasn't
doing it in the beginning of my career, which was
a grave mistake. And I don't know, girl, what were
you thinking? I didn't do it consistently. I was like, oh,
I already sing, and I'd do it every once in
a while. But one thing that was really inspiring to
me was working with Usher and he was still taking
vocal lessons. I was like talking about legends here and
(19:28):
they're still working on their craft, which is so inspiring.
So I was like, let me go ahead and be consistent.
So I went to vocal lessons and speech pathology class
and I think even just clearing myself energetically helped my voice.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
What are you getting ready for?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
I mean? Spiritual wars?
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
I think maybe it's just in order to take on
the next level of success, I have to be deserving
of it and ready for what it may bring. I
think music, the music industry spiritually can be very dangerous
and dark. So the deeper you walk into it, the
more you may be tempted or the more or tested
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or attacked. So I feel like I'm building a really
strong force field that's like of light. Like, Okay, I
can handle all of it.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
I know who I am. Yeah, spiritually grounded.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I no where to return to if I feel shaky,
Like I'll go back to breath work, I'll go back
to fasting. I'll go back to you know, maybe just
cooking in the kitchen and singing there versus the show.
You know, being so worried about what everyone thinks of me.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Was that a thing for you?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Oh? Yeah, I think honestly, it's tough not to compare
or be on a stage and like be present, not
worry about if that audience member is really liking the
vocals or you know, it's just all these they're like quick,
quick thoughts. I'm not ruminating on them, but they come.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
They come. Yeah, it take they take you down if
you let them. They would excited for this new season
for you. I mean, it's just like we're all just
trying to like always work on ourselves, right, and becoming
better versions of ourselves and right.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Do you feel like do you feel like Earth is
like a school? Like we came here to learn something
and keep learning and then we kind of like passing
away as like a graduation of sort.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Girl, I want to learn things till the lights go out, right,
I want to do that. And honestly, when you stop
doing that, I think is when you when your body
starts giving out, when you start losing energy, you start
losing motivation and passion because you're not inspired and learning anything. Now.
I want to be something new all the time. We
just I just shot my first film that I wrote
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and directed myself as just short. But you're starting that well,
learning how to do that, messing up, bumping my head
and then feel wasted money and like, oh, like I
did that. I learned to golf three years ago, which
I'm still learning. It's like I'm learning something new literally
every week. But just yeah, I learned from my guests
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all the time. I just learned about this level of
I mean, I know about breath work, but this way
that you kind of did it is a no interesting
idea thought to me, I may actually go try that now.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Yeah, I'm going to send you his page. She does
his intensive But that's really cool that you like you.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Have to write that's everything. That's really why we launched
the pod is like I want to learn from people.
I don't want to just learn skills. I want to
learn how to navigate, how people are navigating through the
world successfully. And I don't mean success when feel nothing
like that, but like like you like you like you're
getting something out of what you're experiencing.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Yeah, I think. I mean when I think about just
the piece at like the golf course.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Oh my god, it's the greatest thing ever. You golfed before, right,
you told me that.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
I did did my freshman year of high school. And
I was walking through high school with my little golf clubs,
just as a freshman, just already like nervous, and someone
was like, what are you tigerwood sister. I was like, well,
I gotta stop golf, already done with it. I just
wanted to Did that happen?
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Your mother wanted you to do something different.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
It was like, there's no black golfers, and if you
black and you golf, you're gonna get a scholarship. I
was like, I'm not even good.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I don't even know. It's so hard.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
It's really hard. But I feel like now, as an adult,
it may feel meditative.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You didn't feel you didn't fall in love, but you
didn't like it at all?
Speaker 1 (23:34):
No, No, it's but now I think I would love
I mean, I love top golf. I know it's different totally.
That's fun.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
We're going to take you. But you're at this age
so you're what high school? You said, when you're a golfer?
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Yeah, freshman in high school.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
But you're probably like you already have dreams of being
a star. No, you're writing? Are you singing? You?
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Yeah? I was like, this is not going to be
I don't see me getting a golf scholarship.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Mom.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
I appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
But I want to be an artist. I want to.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Yeah. So that was that was short lived.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Did she believe in that at the time?
Speaker 1 (24:08):
She was like, yeah, because it was a performing arts
high school. I was like, why am I going to
performing arts high school to perform golf? It really didn't.
It didn't clock. But she was trying her best as
a single mom to be like, you're not going to
be in the situation that I'm in. You're not going
to You're gonna be better, You're going to go further.
And I just had a different way of doing that.
(24:30):
It's a lot scarier and a lot less of a
guarantee my way, I guess. But yeah, eventually worked out.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
She wasn't against it.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Though she was no, she wasn't. I mean, she didn't
like that I was coming home late because I was
at dance rehearsals. It was very sister and vibes like
really yeah. I was like, Mom, I just want to dance,
and she was like, you're not going to keep coming
in my house at one am from dance rehearsal, and
I was like, but you should see what the other
kids are out there doing to one am, I'm just dancing.
(25:00):
It was very that.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
I get this.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
She needed to get me together. Though she wasn't wrong.
I was coming home.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
She was wrong.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
She wasn't wrong, but it paid off. It did so,
so I guess we was both right.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Wait, you mentioned going, You mentioned the shift of the
Chinese New Year, Yeah, which was it was the Year
of the Snake. And then we went into horse, fire horsey,
fire horse, So what does that? How does that affect you?
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Fire horse? They say it means that things are going
to go by really really fast, like I imagine the
horse galloping in the direction that you're supposed to go.
And it's also a one year which is the end
of a nine year cycle that we may have all
been in. So it's kind of a new beginning. Maybe
we'll all have lots of different shifts that we're experiencing
(25:46):
in our personal, financial, spiritual, career lives, but quickly and
probably more in the direction of alignment that you're supposed
to be in. But when you think about that and
you make yourself aware that, it feels like it all
makes sense. Like whatever happened last year, the shedding that
we've done, you probably would be like, oh, that's why
(26:09):
that person's not in my life. Oh that's why I'm
not doing that anymore, because it was literally aligned to
do so up until I believe February seventeenth is when
the Year of the Firewars technically started.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Interesting.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
So, yeah, it feels good, I think. And this year
has been going fast. It's been life.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Oh yes, may like damn near may yah. Yeah, it's flying.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah, So I feel aligned with what's happening in my
life too. What about you?
Speaker 2 (26:39):
You feel like, oh, yeah, I'm going to do doing
all types of new things and new experiences and shifting
and making changes in my life too that are I
don't know, I'm in a little bit of a You know,
there's seasons in your life where you have figured out
what you want to do and you're in the process
of transitioning. But then there's seasons where you kind of
(26:59):
have to sit still and like, I'm a little bit
I'm working. Trust me, I work. I work, Like, of course,
so I have ideas and creative things do we want
to do? And I have this project and so all
of that, but internally and personally, I'm kind of like
waiting out. Oh yeah, And I'm also trust I'm not
(27:23):
just waiting. I'm just like in a flow, like I'm trusting,
I'm receiving, I'm paying attention to you know, the road.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
That feels very feminine to me, Like, that's a very
feminine energy, is it.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I love that because I've always been accused of the opposite.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
Really, yes, no, this is very feminine. I think that
feminine femininity is like an art of allowing, art of space,
and just like being in a flow, masculine energy is
like I'm gonna hunt, I'm gonna go get and I'm
gonna make it happen. But you're on the other side
and that still so powerful and it takes a lot
(28:02):
of power to allow yourself to do that.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Especially when you naturally operate the other way.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Yeah, go getters.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Yeah, I'm a natural goal getter. So for me to
be like, we just ride this wave. Yeah, let me see,
we just ride it. See how it feels. It's actually
kind of cool. I'm into it.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Yeah, it's empowered.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Well, breath work might be good for me though, you
might try that. Sure, all right, culinary school, I love
that for you? Speaking of new things, what has that
been like for you?
Speaker 1 (28:33):
It's actually been one of the best decisions I've ever made.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Are you were going to be? Are you really gonna
take this all the way?
Speaker 1 (28:40):
To be a chef for I don't plan on working
at a restaurant full time, but I do want to
make things happen in the culinary space. So I can
imagine having something on the shelves grocery stores I'm wanting.
I mean, people fell in love with my cookies, so
ill a business called Sweet Moonnaise. I haven't really launched
(29:03):
it yet, but I think my goal on tour would
be to have the Sweet Moonnaise cookie truck trailing my
tour bus and so people can get merchant cookies there
I feel like fa. I mean, it's in the it's
in the manifesto. I also have a series called Saucy
Sundays that I've been doing. We're on Sundays, I will
(29:24):
just give different mesip, piece of different sauces. I really
think that sauce changes the dynamic of any food, like
the same pasta a whole bunch of different sauces, like
can really eat then that's seven meals in a week,
like or the rice, whatever sauce to fish with whatever
sauce like just opens up really in a really simple way,
(29:45):
ways for people to change the way they're cooking. So
I want probably to have that on the shelves.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
You're probably like a dream girlfriend, you think.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
So I'm so single though.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
The cooking is not is not attracting me.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
I mean, hello, anybody want to.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Why are you single? Though? Because you want to be
because I would imagine there's options.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
There is a lot of options. But I am so
busy doing all the side cuts. I don't know, working
cookie like I don't.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
Be making albums again, prepping for Brunomor's Toork.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Yes, it's a lot, and I think the season says
to me that, like I do need to continue to
focus on myself, but I'm probably also preparing for that
right person. Like every everything that I'm becoming is probably
hopefully what he's also doing, so that when we meet
where the people were supposed to be and we're together
and it actually lasts, you know, hopefully. But you said,
(30:48):
he hey, yeah, well only because.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Look, because you've been open about.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
The girls, dirty dirty no, the girl, girl, the girl.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Really this is not ever something I've ever explored. But
I would always imagine that girls would be easier to matter.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Really my experience has been there but worse. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Hell so maybe just bad picking.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Maybe yeah, maybe it's that. But also like girls, they
don't really approach me seriously. They approach me like, oh,
like sensually, and I'm like, well, I would want it
to be something more serious, and I haven't really gotten
that approach from many women. They're just like, oh, she's beautiful,
she's attractive, or like talking about my body and stuff.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
So yeah, it's like a sex thing.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Yeah, so maybe they don't take me seriously. But when
I think of my next relationship, I've been in a
space where I want because I'm feeling so feminine, like
I want the opposite energy, and I'm feeling like a
masculine Maybe it's a masculine woman. I'm not sure. I've
never really tried that. The women that I've dated or
(32:01):
like have been like sexy too, yeah, a little bit
fim a little bit more like in the middle or
more fem than masculine. But I also think about like
children and just like be thrown against the wall. So
I'm so weak. I feminine, like just the masculine figure.
(32:23):
So in my head, I think it might be a guy.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
Yeah, that's where you're at right now, right now, change
because you have because you're open that you have so
many more options than some than somebody who just dates
you know you would you would think, I think that
you would have so many more options because you're open
to more.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
You would think, but not really like they're the ladies, aren't.
They're not aggressive with me or approaching me in a
serious way.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
It's more to you know what's going to happen now
because you've said that out.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
Loud, Now, my dms are going to be lit with women.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
I'm I don't know what you have before them, different
kind of that type of talk.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
Hey hello, I'm single. So the options are do.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
You like being single or is like love and finding
a partner and somebody like to kind of navigate this
really important to you.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
I'm such a lover girl, and I think maybe that
might be the caveat about me, just because when I'm
in a relationship, it's I'm all about that person. I'm
all about being of service and helping them make their
life better, and you know, surprises and like I get
a little bit distracted. The butterfly lands on the rock
(33:33):
flower like then stays it just stays there.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
One of those girls. Yeah, it take you off your focus.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
A little bit.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
Yeah, so maybe that's why you don't have it yet.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
Yeah, I think this season is really about the growth
that I need to do to focus and focusing on
my tasks because maybe that's one of the reasons why
things took a little bit longer, because I've been in
really long relationships like six year relationship, three relationship, four
year relationship always, So it might be best for now.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
When was the last time you've had a stretch of
being single.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Before Hazel?
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (34:12):
And I think that was maybe like two years, three
years in between, but yeah, before Hazel.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
So you may need this time.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Yeah, I mean, it's already been two and a half
years that I'm single now.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Yeah, but you're doing work on yourself.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
I'm doing pretty good.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
You made a mom. Your daughter's gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
How's co parenting going.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Like it's so easy, which is I'm like, it's not
other people's experience. So I'm so thankful to have a
co parent that really understands and we're not spiteful picking
up the slack. At first, it was a bit difficult
because you know, there was still that attachment there and
(34:55):
still feelings. But as we grew, we made a commitment that, like,
no matter what, Hazel will not see any negativity. We're
not going to put our business online, We're not going
to argue. There's going to be a tone on which
we talk to each other with respect. We're going to
be compromising. So if he needs something on his schedule
that I have to commentate for, we do that and
(35:17):
vice versa. Like, it's been really great, So I'm really lucky,
really lucky.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Yeah, and you split it up. We had we just
had Emma Greed on the pod right.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Oh she's great.
Speaker 2 (35:29):
Yeah, she's super dope, super smart. But interesting thing about
her in her marriage because she's married to her business
like her business partner.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
Oh, I don't know that.
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Yeah, he's a brilliant businessman too. And we were talking
about the roles of mother and father. There's like things
that people expect. It's not a fifty to fifty thing, no,
you know, and it's not expected to be a fifty
to fifty thing, which is why she's like raising eyebrows
and rubbing people the wrong way because she's like, no,
(35:56):
it's a fifty to fifty thing like she requires or
is that of her husband, and he does it like
he wants to do that. They have that relationship where
it's like he does actually half of the parenting, okay,
and she does half of the parents Okay. Could you
imagine that? I mean, I mean.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
That works for them. If that works for them, that's great.
I feel like with scheduling and with you know, I
don't know, I don't know how I would technically divide it.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Well, they're in the same house. It probably makes it easier,
got it. Cold parenting is different, I guess in different houses. Yeah,
but just the idea of that what's expected really of
women and mothers, and I think we kind of also
we want it that.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Way, right, you like to have more responsible.
Speaker 2 (36:40):
It's just the mother is like, yeah, this is a
certain thing that moms they're like usually, God, I don't
want to be disrespectful to all the amazing funds. I'm
just saying a lot of things fall on us.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
Yeah, nature by nature.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Yeah, it comes to parenting.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
I feel like I'm like the way that we're co parenting,
I'm in the new school wave because I don't feel
like I mean, he's he does her hair when she's
at his house. It's like you would think like these
there are certain things that he has to do one
hundred percent while she's there, and I do one hundred
(37:21):
percent while she's with me. So in a way we're
both one hundred.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
I guess, like just depending on who's how she's at.
But I'm you know, I'm kind of wondering what she'll
feel as she grows up, because right now it feels
like she's like, oh, I have two of everything, I
have two houses. Like she's kind of in that phase,
and I wonder when she's going to be like I
think you guys are supposed to be in one place,
like more observant. Maybe maybe maybe, and I hope it's
(37:51):
just like it's normal for her. It just becomes part
of her life and that she doesn't feel like she
doesn't have any one place to ground. It's almost like
she's all is with a go bag, you know, Like
I'm trying to think about that as well.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
So I don't know, none of us could get it
one hundred and then you think you get it right,
and then it stills up and it's like, you know
what really bothered me when I was you know, saying
like my mother was amazing, I still had to go
to therapy. Yeah, my mother was. My mother is like
the most morally grounded human, loving human being, and I
(38:29):
still had to go to therapy. So it's like just
do our best.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
We just it's almost like it's it's a relative like
if if and this house losing losing a dollar is detrimental.
In this house, losing five dollars is detrimental, But the
(38:55):
feeling is the same. Like the amount of trauma or
whatever it was, maybe wasn't the same intensity, but you
felt the same. And maybe that's a point of all
of us to just you get gifted the parents that
you need in order to you know, transport you to
the life you want to have, or gives you the
(39:16):
parents that or gives you the children that you need
to fix certain flaws, or give you patients if that's
what you needed, or give you more understanding, give you
more communication skills, like you're partnered up parent and child
with exactly what it is you need in order to
fix or be better for the school of life.
Speaker 2 (39:37):
Basically, that's pretty good. What have you learned from your daughter?
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Patience for patience because that she's so funny and she's great,
but she has a mouth on her. She'd be talking crazy.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
So I have to breathe. Breath work, breath work.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
Yes, yes, I'm really excited for you to tour.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
Feels like it's going to be a really big deal.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
Right, I'm screaming about it. I'm screaming about it. I
literally just went to go see the show in Vegas.
Was it last weekend? I think it was just past weekend. Yeah,
his opening night was on Friday. So I went to
the second show and so I got to see DJ
pee Wee, Leon Thomas and then Bruno. Also just getting
a scope of what it's going to look like when
(40:24):
I go. So it was fun. But also market research
and I was like, oh shit, this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
Does that excite you and scare you or.
Speaker 1 (40:33):
It definitely makes It's like I am the fire horse.
There's like a whip that makes me go faster. It's like, uh,
I want to make sure that I'm fully prepared and
just you know, I've I've prepared technically my whole life
for these moments, but especially now, just keeping in mind
the environment that I'm going to be in and the
(40:55):
gift that it is to be able to be on
that stage, and the gratitude. Go operate on this day
with that gratitude, but also just don't take it for
granted or just take advantage of the opportunity and we're
really hollered. Go kill it. Yeah, so maybe the clouse
need to come back out for the just the rehearsals
for tour.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
How did that happen? Did you know Rono or was
it the teams or he ask for you?
Speaker 1 (41:18):
I think I want to say he asked. They didn't
tell me how I was presented to him. But in
twenty twenty, I did this performance when I was I
was like four months pregnant. I had this like sparkly
green jacket hiding my pregnancy belly, and we couldn't perform
out in the world because of quarantine. So I recorded
a live performance of my song and I put it
(41:39):
online saying I'd love to open up for Silk Sonic.
That's what they were doing at the time, Radio Silence.
I think they maybe liked it or something, but like
no one was like, yeah, come come to our Vegas
residency or come on tour with us or any of that.
Lo and Behold. Five years later is when I got
(41:59):
the call.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
So were you like manifesting this moment? I believe.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
So it seems to be that when I write something
down and I think about it and I want it
bad enough, may not happen that day or that year,
but eventually it.
Speaker 2 (42:12):
Just wait a minute, So you do this, perform a
full performance with the idea that I want to open
for Bruno and so sod Yeah, And so that's a
like manifestation of like you're putting yourself like if you
build it, they will come.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
You can't.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
It's really something to that.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
Yeah, very Noah built the arc. Yeah, I mean, I
just I've always been inspired by Bruno. I was signed
to Atlantic at one point and he was there, and
I noticed how he had this song with Bob called
Beautiful Girls, and he was on the hook. And right
after that he went into his own career and was
(42:51):
killing it. And I thought to myself, why don't you
try that, Victoria, Just do a little bit of what
he did and see if you can do the same thing.
So for a while I was just writing hooks and
sending them to Atlantic. They have a long roster of rappers,
so it's like, maybe I could be take that path,
like have a rap song, you know, blow up, and
then be on the hook, be on the hook, and
(43:12):
then that would lead to my own singles, which is
how I ended up being on songs with Nas and
Ti and writing with Meek Mill. Like I just became
the hook rap hook girl for a sex. So I
appreciate that for sure, but just just reminded me that
like your ideas, you just may take some time for
(43:33):
them to come to fruition, just like a seed. Like
when you plan a seed, you don't see what's going on,
but there's lots going on under the soil. You don't
see it till it's above the soil. And so these
moments like me going on to it. Bruno feels like, Oh,
I'm out of the Oh you're out of the soil,
out of the soil on this one. Yeah, the seed
was planted in twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Yeah, you know, you really are a wool girl. I
don't even need to fully embrace this. You've meditated a
no Mars tour. You know what I'm saying. You just
change your whole animal. You went from a jaguar to
a butterfly in the past year.
Speaker 1 (44:09):
It really might be a woo girl, you know what, low.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Key I think you're manifesting. Also, this next relationship that
you're about to be in right now, you're doing that
right now. You're in the season of like planting those seeds. Yeah,
that'll be fun to say when that, when that blooms.
Speaker 1 (44:26):
That's interesting because I do like I feel like it's
happening music musically as well, because my next single is
called single, and it basically just says I'm seeing it's
like a single another summoning you are.
Speaker 2 (44:43):
It's it's gonna come in a way.
Speaker 1 (44:45):
I'm gonna call you immediately, like.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
I really want you to, I really want to know,
I really want updates on that. Yes, speaking of singles.
Was just looking at some of the lyrics of this single.
Where did I do with that card? A card of
your lyrics? So some of the lyrics on your let
me let me be your ride or die, let me
love you back to life, let me give you peace
(45:10):
of mind. Ride or die is a triggering term for me.
It comes up on the pot we had DMX's wife
to share on.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
Okay, we were.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Talking about ride or die? Is write or die? What
does it mean to you? First of all, what does
ride or die mean to you? Because you know, depending
on what we're working with, write or die could be
toxic and traumatized.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
That's true, And I guess it depends on who you're
singing it to, which you should have the choice in. Yeah,
of course, So I don't think you should be dying
for real, Like.
Speaker 2 (45:48):
No, we don't want to die poetry guys.
Speaker 1 (45:50):
Yeah, please please the dye. But but just for me.
It means if you tell me your flaws or you're
exposing something you feel like you're insecure about and your vulnerabilities,
and I'll still ride for you and I can handle
those things, is what I'm saying. I don't mean if
you're wrong we're wrong together, and we're all on the
(46:11):
sword together, like we're not riding into the sunset on
that vibe. It's more so just like I got you,
I got you, like they're you're gonna like me. You
go through so many phases of yourself. I don't expect
you to be the same person you were five years ago.
And if you can't maintain one of the qualities that
I like, I'll tell we can have that conversation. But
(46:34):
it doesn't mean that I'm leaving you. You know, I understand,
and I'm giving you the freedom and the space to
make your changes, and I'm gonna ride for you as
long as it feels. You know, we're talking about still
being respectful. We're talking still. I'm not saying like, go
ahead and cheat and I'm gonna still be here, Like
not any of those toxic traits, but more so just
(46:57):
making sure that people know that because they're imperfect, that
mean that they don't deserve love. Love.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
Yeah, whoa, it's such a little poet.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
I'm a lover girl. Look, this is just very poet
vibes right now.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
Put your poet head on. You're doing your woo woo.
Well here doing your breath work.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
I need to go talk to Erica honestly, like, so,
what's next?
Speaker 2 (47:18):
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segments we got to do. Okay, life, should we do
our ball or our voice note first, so we have
a segment is our voice note segment? Okay, listener, a
fan of the podcast is either a question or a
comment for you.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
Okay, Okay, let's have it.
Speaker 2 (48:29):
Aria.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
My name is David. I'm from New Jersey. One of
my favorite songs of yours is Experience with you and
Kleid and SG Lewis, would you ever do an album
based on that type of music, you know, like Calvin
Harris disclosures z something along with the EDM lines. I
love how you're able to experiment with all these different
genres and you're still very much you and you're authentic
(48:53):
and you just make so good music, Like I just
want to dance and you know, like would you ever
tap into that? And I can't wait to see you
open for Brutal Mars. I'm going to International, like I
bought my ticket already. I'm so excited. Thank you so much,
so sweet.
Speaker 1 (49:07):
So sweet. He said his name was Daniel, right, David, Hey, David.
He said up Tempos? Would you ever do a project
of up? And the answer is yes. I wanted to
do a project with Kate Tranada. Actually, oh wow, Dmile
and Kate Trinada and I don't think that's out off
the table. I would love to do that. I think
(49:28):
that music is so fun to me.
Speaker 2 (49:30):
And then you can perform perform it.
Speaker 1 (49:32):
Yeah, Like I definitely also see the crowds and like
a Coachella space and like those those types of vibes
and energy feel would feel really good on that type
of stage. So yes, I would love to do a
project like that, and also with the DJ like Calvin
Harris or anybody you know, upcome, up and coming, like
(49:54):
absolutely for sure.
Speaker 2 (49:57):
Okay in real life questions ready, yeah, well life, what
are you most proud of about yourself?
Speaker 1 (50:05):
I really think for the past year, I think my transformation.
But like I've grown up like in so many ways,
and it's been really tough, and a lot of it
I did without the validation or praise from other people
because it's behind closed doors. So that makes things a
little bit tougher. When you don't have that like dopamine
(50:27):
or encouragement right away. It's delayed gratification, which we are
so trained to have immediately, like come like my photo today,
see me today. Yeah, So to have that delay really
taught me a lot about myself and the fact that
I really want what I want, and I will go
through those dark moments alone or with my team to
(50:48):
get there.
Speaker 2 (50:49):
So with the darkness of like, what was the what
was I mean that you want to share? I don't
know if it's something you want to show.
Speaker 1 (50:55):
Yeah, I think last year. Last year I had a
really tough transition on my team with management and with
my agent, and then I also felt unprepared for the
next chapter. I felt lots of pressure musically because I
didn't feel like I had the right body of work
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to give to people, but they wanted it.
Speaker 2 (51:17):
Now.
Speaker 1 (51:17):
A label was like there's like a lull in time
and you're losing momentum, you're getting old, or like all
of these really negative thoughts that don't belong to me
were coming and I just felt really down. And after
the Grammy win, the way that people celebrate you as
an underdog and the moment you win switch is really alarming.
(51:39):
It's like, oh, so you don't want me to be here,
you don't want to want me to be successful, because
it's only great until you actually get it to some people,
and I'm sure I'm seeing it's not the same person
tweeting that back to back, but like the energy that
came towards me was like, so, why did she get
the Grammy? And she's like, she's not even an new artist,
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and like, so she doesn't have any hit songs. Like
all of these little thoughts that were coming to me
that I was letting them in and I was carrying it.
And even the way that I was talking to myself
or the pressure I was putting on myself, you could
probably see it in my eyes that I was like
feeling defeated for you. It was like that. So I
think just even making a rash decision I don't even
(52:23):
know if the word rash is right because I don't
know what that means, honestly, but making the random decision
to go to culinary school and do something that doesn't
pay me or something that doesn't identify like.
Speaker 2 (52:33):
People, don't be out of that that.
Speaker 1 (52:35):
Rat race that you're in, that imaginary pressure that you're
applying to yourself, and you realize, oh, you're still a
great human even even if you didn't do not one
more sum, you can still do so many other things.
Like you've climbed the top of that mountain and you
got to the place that you wanted to be. Now
you can start at the bottom of a whole other
mountain that has nothing to do with any of that,
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and climb to the top of that, and you can
do that a million times over and it does not
have to be contrived and connected and like you only
stand on this. You're only a legend if you keep
going on this mountain, you know what I mean. So
that really helped me heal and the shift was necessary,
So I think that's what led me to this.
Speaker 2 (53:17):
That also is like your whole life, you wanted to
do this because you're a kid, you're preparing for it.
You get this moment, it happens. It doesn't happen fast.
You were working a long time, but you have this
explosion explosion of a year, and then that's so sad
that the other side of that was, I don't know,
(53:39):
just disappointment in a way.
Speaker 1 (53:40):
Right, Yeah. Yeah, it was just a really crazy juxtaposition
of this high that you feel like, oh my god,
it finally happened, but then also paired with the expectations
of how to keep it, how to maintain it, why
you deserved it, Like all of that comes would you
try your best to like ignore, but you sometimes you can't.
Speaker 2 (54:06):
Well, but also that now that makes sense why you
needed to be spiritually grounded for sure, so that you
could process all of that, all of that because it
might have hit you differently. Had you done this work
before that moment, you might have been able to withstand
some of that noise a little better.
Speaker 1 (54:22):
I think. So I didn't have any practice, Like there
was no practice, I wasn't. The only practice I knew
is studio and work and grind and just don't sleep.
That was my practice. And so now paired with the
other modalities, I feel like I could the next round.
Speaker 2 (54:42):
Is that the goal like getting back on that on
the mountaintop.
Speaker 1 (54:48):
Of one hundred percent, But I think it's paired with
trying to do that while climbing other mountains as well,
so that my my valid my value is not predicated
on just one set of goals. You know, I'm still
a great friend. I'm still a great mom. I'm still
a great chef, I'm still a great Tai Chiese student,
(55:11):
I'm still great in the gym, Like all of these
things will add up to be a well rounded human.
Off New York.
Speaker 2 (55:19):
Only in New York you're setting off the sirens. I
love that for you.
Speaker 1 (55:25):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (55:26):
Yeah, good for you. That means the mountains about to
be bigger. What is on your bucket list that you
have to check that you haven't done yet? What? In
real life? What is something that you would like to accomplish?
Speaker 1 (55:35):
Honestly, I want to go to Bali. Sounds like really accomplishment,
but I'm trying to get over there.
Speaker 2 (55:41):
It's so peaceful. Well, you're so woo you need to
go there? Yes, in real life? What is something you
are no longer available for? Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (55:58):
Ooh, I definitely I am no longer available for negative news.
I think sometimes we share tea or like just random
headlines just like we'll just we'll just repeat it and
say it to our friends. But but why do we
(56:19):
do that? Like what response are you trying to get
out of the other person? Like what do you need
to relate to? And so I'm trying to do less
of allowing that.
Speaker 2 (56:31):
Yeah, what energy you're allowing in your space?
Speaker 1 (56:33):
Yeah? Because what's the purpose? Like we want to talk
about positive things. We want to be so far away
from anything negative that it doesn't even pass our mind
because we're just not tuned into that station. Oh, I
don't even know anything about that because I'm so here?
Would it like so a lot less of just like
the trauma announcements like this what's going on? The fear
(56:56):
mongering and all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (56:58):
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Dude, what does if God where to text you right now?
What would you say? What would it say?
Speaker 2 (57:58):
Oh? I love This is my favorite question in the boat.
Usually if people don't get it. I ask it anyway.
I'm so happy you got it.
Speaker 1 (58:04):
If God were to text you right now, what would
it say. I think it would say, I've been here
all along and I'm still here and I'll always be here.
If ever you feel confused, listen closer to me. If
(58:29):
ever you feel misguided, follow my light. Make sure you
say my name. Though probably I think you would say that,
or she. I think they would say that.
Speaker 2 (58:46):
She's such a writer, You're so good with words. That
was beautiful. I just feel like that question is so
I don't know, it just goes right to your soul.
Speaker 1 (58:57):
Oh literally that When I read it, I was like, oh,
don't cry.
Speaker 2 (59:00):
I don't. I felt that, But when people answer it,
I feel the genuineness and bad.
Speaker 1 (59:05):
Yeah. It's like you just read the name God and
you're like, yeah, because I think I mean just where
we are. She doesn't or she doesn't if they don't
get mentioned as much as they should, and there's lots
of negative energies that try to take you away from that.
So just hear it and be able to have the
(59:26):
platform to talk about it. It's like, thank you, that's
really nice. Y, what's up you guys, this is Victoria
Monet in real life.
Speaker 2 (59:39):
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The women that I've dated are like have been like
sexy too.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Yeah, a little bit.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
Fim, a little bit more like in the middle or
more fem than masculine. But I also think about like
children and just like be thrown against the ball. I'm
so weakome feminine.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
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So our guest today was growing up writing poetry instead
of going to parties. She spent fifteen years writing hit
records for folks like Ariana grandev Na's Brandy and Moore.
She is a three time Grammy winner New York Times bestseller,
a culinary student, a mom to the youngest Grammy nominee
(00:45):
in history, and this summer she's going to stadiums, the
stadiums of Europe with Bruno Mars. Welcome Victoria Monday around
and we are dressed like I don't know if we're
going to be security R and B group, but we
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were singing yes without even trying.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Hi, baby, how are you doing? I'm good? How are
you doing? I'm good? All right? So you have many
many accolades, You've been through a lot of seasons. Where
are we at now? What season is this?
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Right now, I think this is like self love season.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Is it not? Always?
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Yeah, I suppose, but I feel like I put other
people above the amount of love I had for myself.
So now I fully feel like the frequency that I'm
on feels very loving, gentle towards myself. And I think
it's my side quest because instead of doing something that
(01:51):
i've I've been doing for fifteen years, which would technically
pay me, you know, pursuing music, pursuing artistry, songwriting and
all of that I'm known for, I've been over here
doing culinary school, studying, tai chi boxing class, stretch class,
the weight training. I did a six week intensive also
(02:11):
with this, this coach called Would Tully, and he had
me doing meditations along with the sun. So I do
it at sunrise, at zenith, and at sunset and it's
you gaze into like you go outside and you turn
to each direction like north, south, east, west, and it's
this meditation. So it takes a certain amount of commitment
to do that three times a day, no matter what's
(02:33):
going on, three.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Times a day is the times. It's a real commitment, for.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Real, for real. But I think it's what I need.
It's just what I needed to kind of shift my energy.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Wait, so has this been like a year? This has
been all year? You've made these.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Well for the past year, I've been doing all of them,
but not all at the same time. So this, this
meditation that I was doing with the sun the sun
was for six weeks straight.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
You just finished that.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
No, this was in the fall.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
And what came out of it, I.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Just felt like awakened. I felt like it's almost a
feeling that you get when you fast. Have you ever
fasted for long enough where you feel like you're a
little like slowly? Yeah, it was like that, but it naturally,
so it's almost like there was some kind of influence,
like how you feel when you have a sip of
(03:20):
wine or how you feel. I don't know if you
could talk about this on here.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
But like it's true or.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Anything like that. You're like, huh, I'm more alert, more awakened.
But it just happened with breath work and meditation and
like giving yourself that time and like paying attention to
God and like acting with the sun, being outside in
the sun, getting that vitamin D. All of that was
really influential in my mood. And it was like coffee.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Were you doing it just as like explorator, you want
to learn things, or were you doing it to get
through something?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I definitely was wanting to get through something, and I
felt like I needed some kind of change, like some
urgent change. Last year being the year of the Snake,
a lot of shedding was happening in my personal life
and in my business, lots of changes in business, and
just trying to do something that takes you out of
your own algorithm. I feel like, really resets something in
(04:13):
your spirit, in your mind to like feel something else,
you know. So it's something that I felt called to do.
I found out about him through this breathwork class that
my eyebrow what what are they called esthetician eyebrow person
my eyebrow first, and she's really spiritual and she's always
(04:33):
talking about you know, your signs and angel numbers and
all of that. So she introduced me to this coach
who did a breathwork class and I took my mom,
I took my friends.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Tell me how it goes, though, like what do you
do it? Yeah? Like what is the what is the ritual?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
But you go in when I tell you it's so crazy,
you think that it's like this some la. Yes, it
sounds like that, but it actually before the class starts,
he kind of goes through passes out these notebooks that
that has you write down your intentions, what you want
to get from this intensive and also these animals that
(05:13):
you may be aligned with. So there's like an ego,
there's a jaguar. There's all these different animals, like which
one do you feel most like? So you identify that
there's jaguar. There was a jaguar, and there was like,
yeah for sure, Yeah, what would your animal be? What
do you feel like today?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like an owl?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Okay? What made you say?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Just because I feel like an owl will just be chilling,
watching watching, not super aggressive or super needy.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Yeah, just kind of like alert and present.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Just present and assessing.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
And uh, I wonder what the spiritual meaning of it
is of an out Yeah, yeah, because what they when
you identify the animal, there's also a spiritual meaning attached
to it before you even know what it is. You
choose the animal and then they reveal to you.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yeah, and so you're a jaguar wife.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
You know what, I don't remember the exact feel like
fluid and when I think of and move it to
a movement, Like what at that phase, I felt like
a jaguar. I don't know if I feel like that anymore,
But to me, when I think of jaguars, they like
are camouflaged in like their environment, but they're watching and
(06:37):
they know exactly when to strike and kind of pounce,
and they have a really strong bite. Once they latch,
they have the strongest bite in the jungle, Like they
really bite down, but it takes a minute. They're patient,
and then their claws are out. I also like how
sensual they feel like when they're walking, the way their
shoulder blades look. It feels like there there's a little
bit of mystery there. Now I feel a bit softer,
(07:00):
like my claws are not out anymore. I feel more
relaxed in my position.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Who would your animal be now, I don't know. I
love this question. I think everybody should figure out there
is everybody's animal.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Yeah, what's your animal? I don't know if it's an animal.
Maybe it's more like a butterfly. Like I feel like
I have transformed, so I used to be something. Yeah,
Like I have these wings and I'm floating higher above
different things, and I can land on whatever flowers I
want to go snip over here and see what's going on.
But I used to be a caterpillar, you know, like
(07:36):
I came from something and I put in the work
to transform, and I trusted that moment in the dark
where it felt like I don't know what I'm becoming,
but I'm just gonna snuggle in here and be So
maybe you said when you came here, Yeah, I want
to snuggle. I like to feel like snuggly. Definitely not Jaguar.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Fi noaars smuggling. Yeah, yeah, you're in a different network.
You're like the Koala bear. Yeah, butterfly.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Have you seen the red panda?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
No? Are you a red pant? Maybe you're a red.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
They're so cute. I'm sorry, I'm so cute.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
No, that's so cute. That's interesting though, because it's about
like it forces you to like think about where you are,
think about your temperament, right, It forces you to like
look at yourself in like a fun, kinding way. Right.
So that's probably what that does, yeah, for sure. And
then the breath work does what?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Uh, the breath work it's another one of those things
that make you feel like you have taken something, but
it's just with your breath. I think oxygen has delivered
some kind of oxytocin serotonin. Something's going on. I don't
know the exact definitions of it, but there's we're not
going to hold you to it like you're thank you
(08:49):
so much, you scientists out there. You let me know
in the comments like.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
She could just playing the seeds of her experience. It's
for you to do the research.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Yes, yes, So taking this breathwork class. The breath work
can make you feel high, and it makes you it
actually brings up traumas sometimes like your eyes are closed,
and the patterns in which he has you breathe, there's
like a journey that he takes you on. So at
one point you could almost hear messages or you could
(09:22):
tap back into a memory that you didn't even think
that you needed to address it. I'll come to you.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Did that happen to you?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Yeah? Yeah, and your It sounds really crazy, but there's
a chance that your body responds by your hands what
they call chickeney, so they'll be stuck in a certain position.
But it's all based on trauma. So different people in
the room are going through all these different things which
you have a blindfold there's like a special music playing
(09:50):
when you take your blindfold off. After the breathwork experience,
everyone kind of goes around the room and he asks
people like, what did you experience. One person in the
room had some kind of I would want to say,
like a tumor that was stuck. They literally vomited it up.
It sounds really crazy, and I swear I'm not cuckoo,
(10:11):
but this is what was happening in this class, like
these types of things, and some people's experience was I
went to every doctor and they couldn't tell me what
was wrong with me. I came to this class, I
experiences I vomited whatever trauma it was, and now I
feel great. There's all these stories about people doing the
breathwork class and it really physically healing them, and.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
This breath work in general or this specific person in
the way.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
This was an intensive one, so it was about four
hours of it. So like the first hour was him
talking about the experience and what to expect and doing
that worksheet, and then there was like two and a
half hours of the actual breath work, and then another
thirty minutes or an hour of kind of talking about
it with everybody. But this is something that people do
(10:58):
daily people, and I think that's when That's why when
I think of like people who don't have distractions, for example,
like a monk, Like.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I'm obsessed with the monks.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Do you see what I'm saying. I really believe the.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Closing and the calmness and the and the evenness of
how I By the way, I've never been a monk,
so I don't know, but in my imagination how they
move through the world, it's fascinating to exactly.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
That's what I think about these people who have those disciplines,
daily practices, and I do feel like it's possible that
you tap into more using more of a percentages of
your brain, so you can do things like like change
things or move things, or float a little like maybe
I do south a little bit crazy, but I do
(11:46):
believe that if we remove distractions, we could do all
kinds of stuff.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
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different ways to break through things, and there's so many people,
especially now, the world is crazy. Things are designed to
stress you out, to give you fear, and and we're
so busy that we don't deal with the things that
are eating at us. So they sit and then that
stuff just becomes so hard to deal with it and
(13:17):
and hard to sort through, and so like finding this
is like one way to like sort through the junk
to clear the path. I guess right, So you can
have all that stuff kind of come in and I think,
whatever the path is, however, you have.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
To clear it out, clear it out, get it cleaner clean.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
We've had people in the pod talk about like shrooms
or ayahuasca byahuasca or Chelsea Handler does like what's what
did Chelsea do? M V D M A Which that
scares me, but she swears by it. Some people some
people to share Tasha Smith. Some people it's prayer, like
(13:57):
deep like prayer. It's like how they kind of sort
through the noise and get connected. And so this is
just like another way. It's interesting. I've never done it.
I would totally try it.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
We should do.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
It's no drugs involved, no trust, so I feel like
I can safe.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
It's safe.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, you know what I did one time, which was interesting.
It's reminded me what you're talking about. It did have
you called it's e mdr.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Is that when something attached to both sides of your
body and there's.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Like yeah, people do right, people do it different ways.
It's like, uh, they make your eyes go like this,
And it's supposed to be like one side of your
brain holds your trauma, and the weight of the therapy
is it is to move the trauma to the other
side of your brain, the side of your brain that
holds just memory, so that when you think of the trauma,
it's almost like thinking of something in a movie. It's
(14:47):
not attached to emotion. It's like you could be like, oh, yeah,
I went to this bad car accident, or I saw
somebody get murdered or I saw and you could say
it as a story without feeling it in your body, right,
And when it's on the other side of your brain,
you could get scared when you're in the car, which
is what was happening to me, which is why I
went and did it. And when I did it, the
(15:07):
same thing you were talking about with the breath work.
Old shit came up there. I hadn't thought about since
I was a kid, and I was like, what hold on?
What did that writ was that? Where did that come from?
I forgot about that, and it's wild how the brain
holds stuff that we don't. We're walking around and we
don't even realize that we're holding onto It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
I think it also physically manifests, so that when you
when I hear people you know with cancer specifically, I
feel like sometimes it could could have come from not
only the products and the way that we have with
our food systems in America and all of that, but
also stress. Like when you're holding certain things that you
don't clear it some it's like becomes these knots in
(15:49):
your body or your cells respond to it in a
way that physically manifests into certain diseases. So I think
stress levels and clearing that out is even physically important
just as it is mentally important.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Go for you, I love that you're that you've done
this amount of work on yourself, really working on it.
I could feel you lighter. You feel lighter, I mean
you never felt heavy, you didn't know, you didn't feel
like a heavy energy. You always lovely and sweet.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
But yeah, I love that for you.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
It's easier way to walk around the world, right.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Yeah, a lot, a lot more weightless. I mean, I'm
still trying different things. Is most recently, I observed Ramadan.
And you're not Muslim, I'm not, no, but I wanted to.
I felt called to do it, and I wanted to
explore the discipline. And I'm not technically Muslim, but I think,
(16:45):
you know, one of the things that Muslims believe is
that when you're a messenger for God, or when you
believe in God, then that's one of the definitions of
being a Muslim, like putting God's ideas before your own.
And when you're talking about fasting and praying, you're kind
of out of your own flesh. So that's a really
nice way to feel connected and you know, here for
(17:10):
something bigger than yourself. So it was really a really
great experience for me too. And I'm so open to
continuing these spiritual modam.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
So is it just something that calls you and you
just try it, You just try it, you're just down
for it.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I want to be open to it. You know. It's
like I think maybe growing up in a Baptist household,
that's just you know, the messages, that's that's who we are,
that's how we are. And now I want to kind
of know about other ways of thinking and believing and
(17:44):
then see if I really return back to my roots
or if I adapt any other ideologies or just being
open minded to how the rest of the world may
do things.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Imagine the whole world could be like that that. Imagine
people could actually be interested in other people people experiences.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Yeah, you know, it's like we are interested, but not deeply,
Like we're so interested that we have an Instagram like
we're so we will follow and like and like this
level be interested, but not like with empathy.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yeah or yeah something a lot of it has judgment
or yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Comparison a full whack shit. Yeah, we don't want to
be like no, we don't want to be like that.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
So what is all this like? So how does this
affect you as an artist? So now you're like back
in work mode, right, Like, does this past year have
been not a lot of work?
Speaker 1 (18:34):
No, this has been in addition to work, just.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Working it on, stacking it up because you were working
on this project, right and for this tour?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Yeah yeaheah. So it's just the days became longer. I
started the days at four am, and then training and
then the meditations for about six weeks of it, and
then off to school, then after school for lessons and studio.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Culinary lessons happened. Also, Yeah, still do vocal lessons though,
by the.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Way, yeah, yeah, I want to be better. I wasn't
doing it in the beginning of my career, which was
a grave mistake. And I don't know, girl, what were
you thinking? I didn't do it consistently. I was like, oh,
I already sing, and I'd do it every once in
a while. But one thing that was really inspiring to
me was working with Usher and he was still taking
vocal lessons. I was like talking about legends here and
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they're still working on their craft, which is so inspiring.
So I was like, let me go ahead and be consistent.
So I went to vocal lessons and speech pathology class
and I think even just clearing myself energetically helped my voice.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
What are you getting ready for?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
I mean? Spiritual wars?
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
I think maybe it's just in order to take on
the next level of success, I have to be deserving
of it and ready for what it may bring. I
think music, the music industry spiritually can be very dangerous
and dark. So the deeper you walk into it, the
more you may be tempted or the more or tested
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or attacked. So I feel like I'm building a really
strong force field that's like of light. Like, Okay, I
can handle all of it.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
I know who I am. Yeah, spiritually grounded.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I no where to return to if I feel shaky,
Like I'll go back to breath work, I'll go back
to fasting. I'll go back to you know, maybe just
cooking in the kitchen and singing there versus the show.
You know, being so worried about what everyone thinks of me.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Was that a thing for you?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Oh? Yeah, I think honestly, it's tough not to compare
or be on a stage and like be present, not
worry about if that audience member is really liking the
vocals or you know, it's just all these they're like quick,
quick thoughts. I'm not ruminating on them, but they come.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
They come. Yeah, it take they take you down if
you let them. They would excited for this new season
for you. I mean, it's just like we're all just
trying to like always work on ourselves, right, and becoming
better versions of ourselves and right.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Do you feel like do you feel like Earth is
like a school? Like we came here to learn something
and keep learning and then we kind of like passing
away as like a graduation of sort.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Girl, I want to learn things till the lights go out, right,
I want to do that. And honestly, when you stop
doing that, I think is when you when your body
starts giving out, when you start losing energy, you start
losing motivation and passion because you're not inspired and learning anything. Now.
I want to be something new all the time. We
just I just shot my first film that I wrote
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and directed myself as just short. But you're starting that well,
learning how to do that, messing up, bumping my head
and then feel wasted money and like, oh, like I
did that. I learned to golf three years ago, which
I'm still learning. It's like I'm learning something new literally
every week. But just yeah, I learned from my guests
(22:14):
all the time. I just learned about this level of
I mean, I know about breath work, but this way
that you kind of did it is a no interesting
idea thought to me, I may actually go try that now.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
Yeah, I'm going to send you his page. She does
his intensive But that's really cool that you like you.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Have to write that's everything. That's really why we launched
the pod is like I want to learn from people.
I don't want to just learn skills. I want to
learn how to navigate, how people are navigating through the
world successfully. And I don't mean success when feel nothing
like that, but like like you like you like you're
getting something out of what you're experiencing.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Yeah, I think. I mean when I think about just
the piece at like the golf course.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Oh my god, it's the greatest thing ever. You golfed before, right,
you told me that.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
I did did my freshman year of high school. And
I was walking through high school with my little golf clubs,
just as a freshman, just already like nervous, and someone
was like, what are you tigerwood sister. I was like, well,
I gotta stop golf, already done with it. I just
wanted to Did that happen?
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Your mother wanted you to do something different.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
It was like, there's no black golfers, and if you
black and you golf, you're gonna get a scholarship. I
was like, I'm not even good.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
I don't even know. It's so hard.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
It's really hard. But I feel like now, as an adult,
it may feel meditative.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You didn't feel you didn't fall in love, but you
didn't like it at all?
Speaker 1 (23:34):
No, No, it's but now I think I would love
I mean, I love top golf. I know it's different totally.
That's fun.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
We're going to take you. But you're at this age
so you're what high school? You said, when you're a golfer?
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Yeah, freshman in high school.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
But you're probably like you already have dreams of being
a star. No, you're writing? Are you singing? You?
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Yeah? I was like, this is not going to be
I don't see me getting a golf scholarship.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Mom.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
I appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
But I want to be an artist. I want to.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Yeah. So that was that was short lived.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Did she believe in that at the time?
Speaker 1 (24:08):
She was like, yeah, because it was a performing arts
high school. I was like, why am I going to
performing arts high school to perform golf? It really didn't.
It didn't clock. But she was trying her best as
a single mom to be like, you're not going to
be in the situation that I'm in. You're not going
to You're gonna be better, You're going to go further.
And I just had a different way of doing that.
(24:30):
It's a lot scarier and a lot less of a
guarantee my way, I guess. But yeah, eventually worked out.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
She wasn't against it.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Though she was no, she wasn't. I mean, she didn't
like that I was coming home late because I was
at dance rehearsals. It was very sister and vibes like
really yeah. I was like, Mom, I just want to dance,
and she was like, you're not going to keep coming
in my house at one am from dance rehearsal, and
I was like, but you should see what the other
kids are out there doing to one am, I'm just dancing.
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It was very that.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
I get this.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
She needed to get me together. Though she wasn't wrong.
I was coming home.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
She was wrong.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
She wasn't wrong, but it paid off. It did so,
so I guess we was both right.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Wait, you mentioned going, You mentioned the shift of the
Chinese New Year, Yeah, which was it was the Year
of the Snake. And then we went into horse, fire horsey,
fire horse, So what does that? How does that affect you?
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Fire horse? They say it means that things are going
to go by really really fast, like I imagine the
horse galloping in the direction that you're supposed to go.
And it's also a one year which is the end
of a nine year cycle that we may have all
been in. So it's kind of a new beginning. Maybe
we'll all have lots of different shifts that we're experiencing
(25:46):
in our personal, financial, spiritual, career lives, but quickly and
probably more in the direction of alignment that you're supposed
to be in. But when you think about that and
you make yourself aware that, it feels like it all
makes sense. Like whatever happened last year, the shedding that
we've done, you probably would be like, oh, that's why
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that person's not in my life. Oh that's why I'm
not doing that anymore, because it was literally aligned to
do so up until I believe February seventeenth is when
the Year of the Firewars technically started.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Interesting.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
So, yeah, it feels good, I think. And this year
has been going fast. It's been life.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Oh yes, may like damn near may yah. Yeah, it's flying.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah, So I feel aligned with what's happening in my
life too. What about you?
Speaker 2 (26:39):
You feel like, oh, yeah, I'm going to do doing
all types of new things and new experiences and shifting
and making changes in my life too that are I
don't know, I'm in a little bit of a You know,
there's seasons in your life where you have figured out
what you want to do and you're in the process
of transitioning. But then there's seasons where you kind of
(26:59):
have to sit still and like, I'm a little bit
I'm working. Trust me, I work. I work, Like, of course,
so I have ideas and creative things do we want
to do? And I have this project and so all
of that, but internally and personally, I'm kind of like
waiting out. Oh yeah, And I'm also trust I'm not
(27:23):
just waiting. I'm just like in a flow, like I'm trusting,
I'm receiving, I'm paying attention to you know, the road.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
That feels very feminine to me, Like, that's a very
feminine energy, is it.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I love that because I've always been accused of the opposite.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
Really, yes, no, this is very feminine. I think that
feminine femininity is like an art of allowing, art of space,
and just like being in a flow, masculine energy is
like I'm gonna hunt, I'm gonna go get and I'm
gonna make it happen. But you're on the other side
and that still so powerful and it takes a lot
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of power to allow yourself to do that.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Especially when you naturally operate the other way.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Yeah, go getters.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Yeah, I'm a natural goal getter. So for me to
be like, we just ride this wave. Yeah, let me see,
we just ride it. See how it feels. It's actually
kind of cool. I'm into it.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Yeah, it's empowered.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Well, breath work might be good for me though, you
might try that. Sure, all right, culinary school, I love
that for you? Speaking of new things, what has that
been like for you?
Speaker 1 (28:33):
It's actually been one of the best decisions I've ever made.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Are you were going to be? Are you really gonna
take this all the way?
Speaker 1 (28:40):
To be a chef for I don't plan on working
at a restaurant full time, but I do want to
make things happen in the culinary space. So I can
imagine having something on the shelves grocery stores I'm wanting.
I mean, people fell in love with my cookies, so
ill a business called Sweet Moonnaise. I haven't really launched
(29:03):
it yet, but I think my goal on tour would
be to have the Sweet Moonnaise cookie truck trailing my
tour bus and so people can get merchant cookies there
I feel like fa. I mean, it's in the it's
in the manifesto. I also have a series called Saucy
Sundays that I've been doing. We're on Sundays, I will
(29:24):
just give different mesip, piece of different sauces. I really
think that sauce changes the dynamic of any food, like
the same pasta a whole bunch of different sauces, like
can really eat then that's seven meals in a week,
like or the rice, whatever sauce to fish with whatever
sauce like just opens up really in a really simple way,
(29:45):
ways for people to change the way they're cooking. So
I want probably to have that on the shelves.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
You're probably like a dream girlfriend, you think.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
So I'm so single though.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
The cooking is not is not attracting me.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
I mean, hello, anybody want to.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Why are you single? Though? Because you want to be
because I would imagine there's options.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
There is a lot of options. But I am so
busy doing all the side cuts. I don't know, working
cookie like I don't.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
Be making albums again, prepping for Brunomor's Toork.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Yes, it's a lot, and I think the season says
to me that, like I do need to continue to
focus on myself, but I'm probably also preparing for that
right person. Like every everything that I'm becoming is probably
hopefully what he's also doing, so that when we meet
where the people were supposed to be and we're together
and it actually lasts, you know, hopefully. But you said,
(30:48):
he hey, yeah, well only because.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Look, because you've been open about.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
The girls, dirty dirty no, the girl, girl, the girl.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Really this is not ever something I've ever explored. But
I would always imagine that girls would be easier to matter.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Really my experience has been there but worse. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Hell so maybe just bad picking.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Maybe yeah, maybe it's that. But also like girls, they
don't really approach me seriously. They approach me like, oh,
like sensually, and I'm like, well, I would want it
to be something more serious, and I haven't really gotten
that approach from many women. They're just like, oh, she's beautiful,
she's attractive, or like talking about my body and stuff.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
So yeah, it's like a sex thing.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Yeah, so maybe they don't take me seriously. But when
I think of my next relationship, I've been in a
space where I want because I'm feeling so feminine, like
I want the opposite energy, and I'm feeling like a
masculine Maybe it's a masculine woman. I'm not sure. I've
never really tried that. The women that I've dated or
(32:01):
like have been like sexy too, yeah, a little bit
fim a little bit more like in the middle or
more fem than masculine. But I also think about like
children and just like be thrown against the wall. So
I'm so weak. I feminine, like just the masculine figure.
(32:23):
So in my head, I think it might be a guy.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
Yeah, that's where you're at right now, right now, change
because you have because you're open that you have so
many more options than some than somebody who just dates
you know you would you would think, I think that
you would have so many more options because you're open
to more.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
You would think, but not really like they're the ladies, aren't.
They're not aggressive with me or approaching me in a
serious way.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
It's more to you know what's going to happen now
because you've said that out.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
Loud, Now, my dms are going to be lit with women.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
I'm I don't know what you have before them, different
kind of that type of talk.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
Hey hello, I'm single. So the options are do.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
You like being single or is like love and finding
a partner and somebody like to kind of navigate this
really important to you.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
I'm such a lover girl, and I think maybe that
might be the caveat about me, just because when I'm
in a relationship, it's I'm all about that person. I'm
all about being of service and helping them make their
life better, and you know, surprises and like I get
a little bit distracted. The butterfly lands on the rock
(33:33):
flower like then stays it just stays there.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
One of those girls. Yeah, it take you off your focus.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
A little bit.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
Yeah, so maybe that's why you don't have it yet.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
Yeah, I think this season is really about the growth
that I need to do to focus and focusing on
my tasks because maybe that's one of the reasons why
things took a little bit longer, because I've been in
really long relationships like six year relationship, three relationship, four
year relationship always, So it might be best for now.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
When was the last time you've had a stretch of
being single.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Before Hazel?
Speaker 2 (34:11):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (34:12):
And I think that was maybe like two years, three
years in between, but yeah, before Hazel.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
So you may need this time.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Yeah, I mean, it's already been two and a half
years that I'm single now.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Yeah, but you're doing work on yourself.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
I'm doing pretty good.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
You made a mom. Your daughter's gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
How's co parenting going.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Like it's so easy, which is I'm like, it's not
other people's experience. So I'm so thankful to have a
co parent that really understands and we're not spiteful picking
up the slack. At first, it was a bit difficult
because you know, there was still that attachment there and
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still feelings. But as we grew, we made a commitment that, like,
no matter what, Hazel will not see any negativity. We're
not going to put our business online, We're not going
to argue. There's going to be a tone on which
we talk to each other with respect. We're going to
be compromising. So if he needs something on his schedule
that I have to commentate for, we do that and
(35:17):
vice versa. Like, it's been really great, So I'm really lucky,
really lucky.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Yeah, and you split it up. We had we just
had Emma Greed on the pod right.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Oh she's great.
Speaker 2 (35:29):
Yeah, she's super dope, super smart. But interesting thing about
her in her marriage because she's married to her business
like her business partner.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
Oh, I don't know that.
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Yeah, he's a brilliant businessman too. And we were talking
about the roles of mother and father. There's like things
that people expect. It's not a fifty to fifty thing, no,
you know, and it's not expected to be a fifty
to fifty thing, which is why she's like raising eyebrows
and rubbing people the wrong way because she's like, no,
(35:56):
it's a fifty to fifty thing like she requires or
is that of her husband, and he does it like
he wants to do that. They have that relationship where
it's like he does actually half of the parenting, okay,
and she does half of the parents Okay. Could you
imagine that? I mean, I mean.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
That works for them. If that works for them, that's great.
I feel like with scheduling and with you know, I
don't know, I don't know how I would technically divide it.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Well, they're in the same house. It probably makes it easier,
got it. Cold parenting is different, I guess in different houses. Yeah,
but just the idea of that what's expected really of
women and mothers, and I think we kind of also
we want it that.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Way, right, you like to have more responsible.
Speaker 2 (36:40):
It's just the mother is like, yeah, this is a
certain thing that moms they're like usually, God, I don't
want to be disrespectful to all the amazing funds. I'm
just saying a lot of things fall on us.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
Yeah, nature by nature.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Yeah, it comes to parenting.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
I feel like I'm like the way that we're co parenting,
I'm in the new school wave because I don't feel
like I mean, he's he does her hair when she's
at his house. It's like you would think like these
there are certain things that he has to do one
hundred percent while she's there, and I do one hundred
(37:21):
percent while she's with me. So in a way we're
both one hundred.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
I guess, like just depending on who's how she's at.
But I'm you know, I'm kind of wondering what she'll
feel as she grows up, because right now it feels
like she's like, oh, I have two of everything, I
have two houses. Like she's kind of in that phase,
and I wonder when she's going to be like I
think you guys are supposed to be in one place,
like more observant. Maybe maybe maybe, and I hope it's
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just like it's normal for her. It just becomes part
of her life and that she doesn't feel like she
doesn't have any one place to ground. It's almost like
she's all is with a go bag, you know, Like
I'm trying to think about that as well.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
So I don't know, none of us could get it
one hundred and then you think you get it right,
and then it stills up and it's like, you know
what really bothered me when I was you know, saying
like my mother was amazing, I still had to go
to therapy. Yeah, my mother was. My mother is like
the most morally grounded human, loving human being, and I
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still had to go to therapy. So it's like just
do our best.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
We just it's almost like it's it's a relative like
if if and this house losing losing a dollar is detrimental.
In this house, losing five dollars is detrimental, But the
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feeling is the same. Like the amount of trauma or
whatever it was, maybe wasn't the same intensity, but you
felt the same. And maybe that's a point of all
of us to just you get gifted the parents that
you need in order to you know, transport you to
the life you want to have, or gives you the
(39:16):
parents that or gives you the children that you need
to fix certain flaws, or give you patients if that's
what you needed, or give you more understanding, give you
more communication skills, like you're partnered up parent and child
with exactly what it is you need in order to
fix or be better for the school of life.
Speaker 2 (39:37):
Basically, that's pretty good. What have you learned from your daughter?
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Patience for patience because that she's so funny and she's great,
but she has a mouth on her. She'd be talking crazy.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
So I have to breathe. Breath work, breath work.
Speaker 1 (39:57):
Yes, yes, I'm really excited for you to tour.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
Feels like it's going to be a really big deal.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
Right, I'm screaming about it. I'm screaming about it. I
literally just went to go see the show in Vegas.
Was it last weekend? I think it was just past weekend. Yeah,
his opening night was on Friday. So I went to
the second show and so I got to see DJ
pee Wee, Leon Thomas and then Bruno. Also just getting
a scope of what it's going to look like when
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I go. So it was fun. But also market research
and I was like, oh shit, this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
Does that excite you and scare you or.
Speaker 1 (40:33):
It definitely makes It's like I am the fire horse.
There's like a whip that makes me go faster. It's like, uh,
I want to make sure that I'm fully prepared and
just you know, I've I've prepared technically my whole life
for these moments, but especially now, just keeping in mind
the environment that I'm going to be in and the
(40:55):
gift that it is to be able to be on
that stage, and the gratitude. Go operate on this day
with that gratitude, but also just don't take it for
granted or just take advantage of the opportunity and we're
really hollered. Go kill it. Yeah, so maybe the clouse
need to come back out for the just the rehearsals
for tour.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
How did that happen? Did you know Rono or was
it the teams or he ask for you?
Speaker 1 (41:18):
I think I want to say he asked. They didn't
tell me how I was presented to him. But in
twenty twenty, I did this performance when I was I
was like four months pregnant. I had this like sparkly
green jacket hiding my pregnancy belly, and we couldn't perform
out in the world because of quarantine. So I recorded
a live performance of my song and I put it
(41:39):
online saying I'd love to open up for Silk Sonic.
That's what they were doing at the time, Radio Silence.
I think they maybe liked it or something, but like
no one was like, yeah, come come to our Vegas
residency or come on tour with us or any of that.
Lo and Behold. Five years later is when I got
(41:59):
the call.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
So were you like manifesting this moment? I believe.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
So it seems to be that when I write something
down and I think about it and I want it
bad enough, may not happen that day or that year,
but eventually it.
Speaker 2 (42:12):
Just wait a minute, So you do this, perform a
full performance with the idea that I want to open
for Bruno and so sod Yeah, And so that's a
like manifestation of like you're putting yourself like if you
build it, they will come.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
You can't.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
It's really something to that.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
Yeah, very Noah built the arc. Yeah, I mean, I
just I've always been inspired by Bruno. I was signed
to Atlantic at one point and he was there, and
I noticed how he had this song with Bob called
Beautiful Girls, and he was on the hook. And right
after that he went into his own career and was
(42:51):
killing it. And I thought to myself, why don't you
try that, Victoria, Just do a little bit of what
he did and see if you can do the same thing.
So for a while I was just writing hooks and
sending them to Atlantic. They have a long roster of rappers,
so it's like, maybe I could be take that path,
like have a rap song, you know, blow up, and
then be on the hook, be on the hook, and
(43:12):
then that would lead to my own singles, which is
how I ended up being on songs with Nas and
Ti and writing with Meek Mill. Like I just became
the hook rap hook girl for a sex. So I
appreciate that for sure, but just just reminded me that
like your ideas, you just may take some time for
(43:33):
them to come to fruition, just like a seed. Like
when you plan a seed, you don't see what's going on,
but there's lots going on under the soil. You don't
see it till it's above the soil. And so these
moments like me going on to it. Bruno feels like, Oh,
I'm out of the Oh you're out of the soil,
out of the soil on this one. Yeah, the seed
was planted in twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Yeah, you know, you really are a wool girl. I
don't even need to fully embrace this. You've meditated a
no Mars tour. You know what I'm saying. You just
change your whole animal. You went from a jaguar to
a butterfly in the past year.
Speaker 1 (44:09):
It really might be a woo girl, you know what, low.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
Key I think you're manifesting. Also, this next relationship that
you're about to be in right now, you're doing that
right now. You're in the season of like planting those seeds. Yeah,
that'll be fun to say when that, when that blooms.
Speaker 1 (44:26):
That's interesting because I do like I feel like it's
happening music musically as well, because my next single is
called single, and it basically just says I'm seeing it's
like a single another summoning you are.
Speaker 2 (44:43):
It's it's gonna come in a way.
Speaker 1 (44:45):
I'm gonna call you immediately, like.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
I really want you to, I really want to know,
I really want updates on that. Yes, speaking of singles.
Was just looking at some of the lyrics of this single.
Where did I do with that card? A card of
your lyrics? So some of the lyrics on your let
me let me be your ride or die, let me
love you back to life, let me give you peace
(45:10):
of mind. Ride or die is a triggering term for me.
It comes up on the pot we had DMX's wife
to share on.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
Okay, we were.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Talking about ride or die? Is write or die? What
does it mean to you? First of all, what does
ride or die mean to you? Because you know, depending
on what we're working with, write or die could be
toxic and traumatized.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
That's true, And I guess it depends on who you're
singing it to, which you should have the choice in. Yeah,
of course, So I don't think you should be dying
for real, Like.
Speaker 2 (45:48):
No, we don't want to die poetry guys.
Speaker 1 (45:50):
Yeah, please please the dye. But but just for me.
It means if you tell me your flaws or you're
exposing something you feel like you're insecure about and your vulnerabilities,
and I'll still ride for you and I can handle
those things, is what I'm saying. I don't mean if
you're wrong we're wrong together, and we're all on the
(46:11):
sword together, like we're not riding into the sunset on
that vibe. It's more so just like I got you,
I got you, like they're you're gonna like me. You
go through so many phases of yourself. I don't expect
you to be the same person you were five years ago.
And if you can't maintain one of the qualities that
I like, I'll tell we can have that conversation. But
(46:34):
it doesn't mean that I'm leaving you. You know, I understand,
and I'm giving you the freedom and the space to
make your changes, and I'm gonna ride for you as
long as it feels. You know, we're talking about still
being respectful. We're talking still. I'm not saying like, go
ahead and cheat and I'm gonna still be here, Like
not any of those toxic traits, but more so just
(46:57):
making sure that people know that because they're imperfect, that
mean that they don't deserve love. Love.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
Yeah, whoa, it's such a little poet.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
I'm a lover girl. Look, this is just very poet
vibes right now.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
Put your poet head on. You're doing your woo woo.
Well here doing your breath work.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
I need to go talk to Erica honestly, like, so,
what's next?
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segments we got to do. Okay, life, should we do
our ball or our voice note first, so we have
a segment is our voice note segment? Okay, listener, a
fan of the podcast is either a question or a
comment for you.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
Okay, Okay, let's have it.
Speaker 2 (48:29):
Aria.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
My name is David. I'm from New Jersey. One of
my favorite songs of yours is Experience with you and
Kleid and SG Lewis, would you ever do an album
based on that type of music, you know, like Calvin
Harris disclosures z something along with the EDM lines. I
love how you're able to experiment with all these different
genres and you're still very much you and you're authentic
(48:53):
and you just make so good music, Like I just
want to dance and you know, like would you ever
tap into that? And I can't wait to see you
open for Brutal Mars. I'm going to International, like I
bought my ticket already. I'm so excited. Thank you so much,
so sweet.
Speaker 1 (49:07):
So sweet. He said his name was Daniel, right, David, Hey, David.
He said up Tempos? Would you ever do a project
of up? And the answer is yes. I wanted to
do a project with Kate Tranada. Actually, oh wow, Dmile
and Kate Trinada and I don't think that's out off
the table. I would love to do that. I think
(49:28):
that music is so fun to me.
Speaker 2 (49:30):
And then you can perform perform it.
Speaker 1 (49:32):
Yeah, Like I definitely also see the crowds and like
a Coachella space and like those those types of vibes
and energy feel would feel really good on that type
of stage. So yes, I would love to do a
project like that, and also with the DJ like Calvin
Harris or anybody you know, upcome, up and coming, like
(49:54):
absolutely for sure.
Speaker 2 (49:57):
Okay in real life questions ready, yeah, well life, what
are you most proud of about yourself?
Speaker 1 (50:05):
I really think for the past year, I think my transformation.
But like I've grown up like in so many ways,
and it's been really tough, and a lot of it
I did without the validation or praise from other people
because it's behind closed doors. So that makes things a
little bit tougher. When you don't have that like dopamine
(50:27):
or encouragement right away. It's delayed gratification, which we are
so trained to have immediately, like come like my photo today,
see me today. Yeah, So to have that delay really
taught me a lot about myself and the fact that
I really want what I want, and I will go
through those dark moments alone or with my team to
(50:48):
get there.
Speaker 2 (50:49):
So with the darkness of like, what was the what
was I mean that you want to share? I don't
know if it's something you want to show.
Speaker 1 (50:55):
Yeah, I think last year. Last year I had a
really tough transition on my team with management and with
my agent, and then I also felt unprepared for the
next chapter. I felt lots of pressure musically because I
didn't feel like I had the right body of work
(51:15):
to give to people, but they wanted it.
Speaker 2 (51:17):
Now.
Speaker 1 (51:17):
A label was like there's like a lull in time
and you're losing momentum, you're getting old, or like all
of these really negative thoughts that don't belong to me
were coming and I just felt really down. And after
the Grammy win, the way that people celebrate you as
an underdog and the moment you win switch is really alarming.
(51:39):
It's like, oh, so you don't want me to be here,
you don't want to want me to be successful, because
it's only great until you actually get it to some people,
and I'm sure I'm seeing it's not the same person
tweeting that back to back, but like the energy that
came towards me was like, so, why did she get
the Grammy? And she's like, she's not even an new artist,
(52:00):
and like, so she doesn't have any hit songs. Like
all of these little thoughts that were coming to me
that I was letting them in and I was carrying it.
And even the way that I was talking to myself
or the pressure I was putting on myself, you could
probably see it in my eyes that I was like
feeling defeated for you. It was like that. So I
think just even making a rash decision I don't even
(52:23):
know if the word rash is right because I don't
know what that means, honestly, but making the random decision
to go to culinary school and do something that doesn't
pay me or something that doesn't identify like.
Speaker 2 (52:33):
People, don't be out of that that.
Speaker 1 (52:35):
Rat race that you're in, that imaginary pressure that you're
applying to yourself, and you realize, oh, you're still a
great human even even if you didn't do not one
more sum, you can still do so many other things.
Like you've climbed the top of that mountain and you
got to the place that you wanted to be. Now
you can start at the bottom of a whole other
mountain that has nothing to do with any of that,
(52:56):
and climb to the top of that, and you can
do that a million times over and it does not
have to be contrived and connected and like you only
stand on this. You're only a legend if you keep
going on this mountain, you know what I mean. So
that really helped me heal and the shift was necessary,
So I think that's what led me to this.
Speaker 2 (53:17):
That also is like your whole life, you wanted to
do this because you're a kid, you're preparing for it.
You get this moment, it happens. It doesn't happen fast.
You were working a long time, but you have this
explosion explosion of a year, and then that's so sad
that the other side of that was, I don't know,
(53:39):
just disappointment in a way.
Speaker 1 (53:40):
Right, Yeah. Yeah, it was just a really crazy juxtaposition
of this high that you feel like, oh my god,
it finally happened, but then also paired with the expectations
of how to keep it, how to maintain it, why
you deserved it, Like all of that comes would you
try your best to like ignore, but you sometimes you can't.
Speaker 2 (54:06):
Well, but also that now that makes sense why you
needed to be spiritually grounded for sure, so that you
could process all of that, all of that because it
might have hit you differently. Had you done this work
before that moment, you might have been able to withstand
some of that noise a little better.
Speaker 1 (54:22):
I think. So I didn't have any practice, Like there
was no practice, I wasn't. The only practice I knew
is studio and work and grind and just don't sleep.
That was my practice. And so now paired with the
other modalities, I feel like I could the next round.
Speaker 2 (54:42):
Is that the goal like getting back on that on
the mountaintop.
Speaker 1 (54:48):
Of one hundred percent, But I think it's paired with
trying to do that while climbing other mountains as well,
so that my my valid my value is not predicated
on just one set of goals. You know, I'm still
a great friend. I'm still a great mom. I'm still
a great chef, I'm still a great Tai Chiese student,
(55:11):
I'm still great in the gym, Like all of these
things will add up to be a well rounded human.
Off New York.
Speaker 2 (55:19):
Only in New York you're setting off the sirens. I
love that for you.
Speaker 1 (55:25):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (55:26):
Yeah, good for you. That means the mountains about to
be bigger. What is on your bucket list that you
have to check that you haven't done yet? What? In
real life? What is something that you would like to accomplish?
Speaker 1 (55:35):
Honestly, I want to go to Bali. Sounds like really accomplishment,
but I'm trying to get over there.
Speaker 2 (55:41):
It's so peaceful. Well, you're so woo you need to
go there? Yes, in real life? What is something you
are no longer available for? Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (55:58):
Ooh, I definitely I am no longer available for negative news.
I think sometimes we share tea or like just random
headlines just like we'll just we'll just repeat it and
say it to our friends. But but why do we
(56:19):
do that? Like what response are you trying to get
out of the other person? Like what do you need
to relate to? And so I'm trying to do less
of allowing that.
Speaker 2 (56:31):
Yeah, what energy you're allowing in your space?
Speaker 1 (56:33):
Yeah? Because what's the purpose? Like we want to talk
about positive things. We want to be so far away
from anything negative that it doesn't even pass our mind
because we're just not tuned into that station. Oh, I
don't even know anything about that because I'm so here?
Would it like so a lot less of just like
the trauma announcements like this what's going on? The fear
(56:56):
mongering and all that stuff.
Speaker 2 (56:58):
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Walden University Bowl of IRL Questions.
Speaker 1 (57:49):
Dude, what does if God where to text you right now?
What would you say? What would it say?
Speaker 2 (57:58):
Oh? I love This is my favorite question in the boat.
Usually if people don't get it. I ask it anyway.
I'm so happy you got it.
Speaker 1 (58:04):
If God were to text you right now, what would
it say. I think it would say, I've been here
all along and I'm still here and I'll always be here.
If ever you feel confused, listen closer to me. If
(58:29):
ever you feel misguided, follow my light. Make sure you
say my name. Though probably I think you would say that,
or she. I think they would say that.
Speaker 2 (58:46):
She's such a writer, You're so good with words. That
was beautiful. I just feel like that question is so
I don't know, it just goes right to your soul.
Speaker 1 (58:57):
Oh literally that When I read it, I was like, oh,
don't cry.
Speaker 2 (59:00):
I don't. I felt that, But when people answer it,
I feel the genuineness and bad.
Speaker 1 (59:05):
Yeah. It's like you just read the name God and
you're like, yeah, because I think I mean just where
we are. She doesn't or she doesn't if they don't
get mentioned as much as they should, and there's lots
of negative energies that try to take you away from that.
So just hear it and be able to have the
(59:26):
platform to talk about it. It's like, thank you, that's
really nice. Y, what's up you guys, this is Victoria
Monet in real life.
Speaker 2 (59:39):
Hey guys, thanks for watching. Make sure you subscribe, like comments,
and check out all of the other episodes we have
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