August 23, 2023 • 21 mins
Hey y’all, wussup?? These men are bugging, but ladies ..you have to take accountability for the fact that you’re letting them! And yes I’m yelling but that’s only ‘cause I care. Tap in!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and
The Black Effects. And just like that, y'all, we are
back with yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl,
(00:20):
Jess Hilarious.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
So listen. What I do is I be.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Fixing people's mess, y'all, and y'all know I love it.
I have a different intro every single time. Tell me
if y'all think I should get an intro for Just
Fix My Mess, because I have one on Breakfast Club
for Jess with the Mess. I got one on Breakfast
Club for Just with the Mess. I don't have an
intro for Just Fix My Mess for my podcast for
Carefully Reckless under the Black Effects.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
You know what I'm saying. So I made it. You
know that's something that I should voice.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Y'all should go spam Charlemagne's comments the Black Effect and
iHeart and Breakfast Club fucking plow them in there too, Spam.
Just Hilarious needs her own intro for Jess Fix My
Mess on her podcast that we listen and too, we
tune into each and every Wednesday, and so we can't
have her fixing people's mess if she's not gonna intro it, right,
(01:07):
so I need an intro. So we're gonna definitely we
are what was this called boycotton? We are boycotting and
rioting for Jessic's intro.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
All right, that's what we're gonna do, all right, but
we're gonna jump right into it now.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
We don't have voice memos this episode because people don't
want their voices to be known. And that was explained
and I do understand you, mate, go and know your voice.
You calling in about your boyfriend, that nigga if you
listened to carefully reckless, he going to.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Know it's you.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
So please tread lightly, y'all. Tread lightly, y'all, I'll be reading.
This is from a woman. Hey, jess I need help.
So I've been with my fiance for a year and
a half and it's been pure hell down. When we
first got together, I was in a good place mentally, emotionally, financially,
et cetera.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Okay, so you was good all the way around.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
So he was living with his brother, but things happened
to where he had to move. Me, being Captain saber Hole,
told him he can stay with me until he found
another place. Mistake number one, Yes it was girl not
he can move with you until he found another place.
If he was your nigga and he moved with you,
he wasn't moving out. That that's just what it is.
Within that time, I found out I was pregnant, so
(02:14):
we agreed to just continue to live together. Okay, right
before I found out I was pregnant, I let him
use my car, took her to work one night, and
he ended up totaling it. Oh man, I made him
put down the down payment on another car because he
was somewhere he wasn't supposed to be.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Oh okay, I know the fuck that's right, But.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
No, you don't make him put a car up a
down payment on the new car because he was somewhere
he wasn't supposed to be. You make him put the
fucking down payment on the new car because he totaled
your shit and that wasn't his. So I pay the
car note, the insurance, the rent, electricity, and so on
and so forth. Now this way the real issues begin.
Once he found out I was pregnant, he started disappearing
(02:53):
on me on his payday. He would go lay up
with whoever and come back home once he's broke. I'm
pregnant anymore, so I take him back. That was a
lot to digest in the last little sentence, I'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Rerunt it back for those in the back.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
On his payday, he would go lay up with whoever
and come back home once he's broke. I'm pregnant and emotional,
so I take him back. Oh baby, mm hmm. I
would say mistake number two, but it was so many
other mistakes leading up to this one. I'm gonna let
you go in this becomes an ongoing thing. During the
middle of my pregnancy, I caught COVID really bad, so
(03:30):
I ended up on bed rests.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Oh Jesus.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I started getting unemployment shortly after, and I was still
paying all the bills myself.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
When I can time what I'm trying to figure out
what this is saying.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Y'all hold up, give me a second, y'all gotta you know,
because when they write, they write a little fast. I
told y'all to make sure y'all punctuate or punctualize or
punctualize when y'all writing shit.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I'm trying to figure it out. So this is.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
See if I'm gonna say if I'm a reading, and
then I'm gona say if I can make sense of
it when I can time to renew my lease, my
unemployment had ran out, and I end up having to
move with his mom. Okay, so anyway it happened like this,
I'm gonna just break it down. When it came time
to renew the lease, my unemployment had ran out and
I ended up having to move with his mom.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I thought this move.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Would help me as far as child care and being
able to save. Two months after moving in with his mom,
he quits his job.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I was pissed, but it.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Was a nightclub where he did most of his hoeing,
so I assumed he would just find another job. It's
been nine months and he still don't have a job.
His mom became really sick and she put me on
her medical paperwork because he's unreliable.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Damn. So now you got two headaches, him and his mom.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
So when she gets real sick, I'm the one that
has to take off work and make sure she's taken
care of. I have fallen completely out of love with him,
but I have a lot of love for him because
he's still my child's father, and given the history that
y'all went through, so yeah, I don't know what to do.
Because I don't have family that can help me, especially
with childcare, so I feel like I'm obligated to stay
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in a miserable place in order to make sure my
child is taken care of. I am stressed to the
point where I've lost almost twenty pounds in a month.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Please just keep it real with me and help me
fix my mess.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Love your bunches, baby, I love you too, and this
is why I'm about to get in your ass because
I love you.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
This is gonna be some tough love.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
But baby, if it ain't coming from none of your friends,
if it ain't coming from your mom, I don't know
the relationship between y'all. Even if it didn't come from
his motherfucking mom who he couldn't even move with at first.
You see, you see that that's a red flag. You
lost your job and had to move in with his mom.
You know you're pregnant. You were already paying the fucking bills,
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every single bill there was to pay, you were paying it,
so you were already superwoman in your own house. He
was already doing bad by yourself with a nigga who
ain't worth two shit. Some sorry, excuse me, but this
is exactly what you're giving me, So I'm just regurgitating
it back to you. And sometimes that is the advice
you hearing your own shit thrown back at you, so
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to make you further realize what you need to do.
All right, now, we can't put the baby back, No,
we can't. And I know you do not regret your child.
I would never regret any child that I had that
I gave.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Birth to because of the father. So that's one thing.
So we have a baby.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
We know that, we knew that he was unfucking reliable
before you found out you were pregnant. You know what
I'm saying. He had to move in with you, Like
you said, that was your first mistake. Why couldn't he
move in with his fucking mother?
Speaker 2 (06:40):
All right?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Because he likes to be taken care of. You moved
him in and you enabled him. Yep, you played a
part in him being lazy. You played a part in
him not being able to handle his responsibilities. You allowed it,
and then you expected for him to change. That's not
even what's supposed to have been happening. Don't even take care
of herself. He damn sure would not be able to
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take care of a baby. And he and you started
taking care of him. So he was okay, resting ashore,
knowing that if she take care of me, she definitely
can be a good mother to this baby. So as
long as I got her, I'm good. You know what
I'm saying. So you enabled him. Then you lost the job,
y'all had to move in with his mom. He got
a job. After two months, he quit. Hold on, wait,
(07:25):
let me go back. I don't want tom misquote you.
After two months, Yeah, he quit. He didn't even get
fucking fired. He quit his job after moving in with
his mom. Why because his mom ain't gonna put him out.
That's one thing. His mom ain't gonna put you out.
And if she ain't gonna put you out, she ain't
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gonna put him out.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
There we go right there, she not.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Obviously, you two have built the bond because you over
here taken care of her. Now like you not pregnant
in bedridden, you're supposed to have been put on bed rest
because you caught COVID. Shit happens, So now you're even
more in shambles, you know what I'm saying. Do you
see this pattern? Nine months later, fast forward, the baby's here.
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He still ain't got no fucking job, and you're taking
care of not only him, but his mother and your baby.
So you got three people to take care of, two
kids and a mom. Because I'm sorry, your baby daddy
is your kid. That's exactly what you need to be claiming.
Is ass on tasas or something, writing that motherfucker off.
(08:31):
I wish you could write off somebody. I really wish
you could a grown ass people. But it sounds as
if you know exactly what the hell you need to do.
You said you're fallen out of love with him already,
You're in a miserable place. You're just trying to make
it work to take care of your child. You lost
twenty pounds in a month being stressed trying to figure
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out where your next check won't come from. Then also,
you got this man that you're taking care of and
now his mother. You don't want to leave his mother
high in dry. Does he have any siblings? Does it?
Is there any way that if you don't do it,
he'll step up and fucking do it.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
That's a big responsibility. You let her put your name
down as emergency contact. You got your own shit going on, baby,
you know what I'm saying, where's your mom, where's your family?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
You know what I'm saying. What I'm saying, this is
not good.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
And then the first thing that you said, So, I've
been with my fiance for a year and a half
and it's been pure hell. He proposed to you with
no intention on giving you a fucking wedding.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
And I'm saying that because look at the place you're
in right now. If he can't even pay bills, how
the fuck he gonna pay for a fucking wedding. How
it needs you to understand that? Hold up, Hold up,
I know this shit getting good, but listen to just
a couple seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Your fiance for a year and a half. That shit
ain't supposed to be going bed that soon. But it's
still situations that could be worse, that are worse than yours.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
So you're not completely in the goddamn dumps. No you're not.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
If you still got good credit, you still got breath
to breathe every time you wake up, you have a
chance to change your situation.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
There you go.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
And the reason why I say credit is because you
need to get the hell out of there and get
into your own shit. Still, you need to get another car,
all right. You don'na let Jody crash and goddamn car up.
Yes I called him Jody, Yes I did. Event I
called him Jody. And you don't let this nigga joey you.
That's what it is. I ain't mad at him. I'm
mad at jo ass, yes i am. But unlike my
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brother Charlemagne, I'm not gonna give you dunky other day
because we live and we fucking learn. We live and
we fucking learned, and you got a great blessing out
the deal when that is your baby.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
So we will always move forward with grace.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
But listen, it ain't like he gonna be fighting for
custody and taking you downtown for child support, baby, and
he ain't even got a leg to stand on, you know,
So we just pray for him, and you keep it moving,
You keep it the fuck moving, and you don't look back.
Don't look back in that way. I don't mean you
gotta cut all ties with him, because he's still your
(11:18):
child's father and you still have a great amount of
love for him. But have enough love for him to
leave his ants all the way alone and let him
get hisself together, because you can't make him get itself together.
You gotta let him get itself together, and you can't
make your child a part of that, that toxicity, that
that whole little situation going on, okay, because you gotta
(11:38):
do it all for your baby. You gotta be mentally
prepared for motherhood. You know, you got a child to raise.
So shit is real, all right, Shit is real. Shit
is real for you every day, all right. So I
need you to check in with me. Well, the advice
is straight up to fucking leave, I'm sorry, make him
take care of his mother. Will let him take care
(11:58):
of his mother. He ain't gonna let her get so
sick where she just you know, you know, she just
fucking croak. You know, if it's if it's you know where,
if that's in his control, you know, he can take
care of his mother.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
You need You are a mother, You need to take
care of your child because he can't do that with you.
Right now, check back in with me.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
I'm gonna need to know because I'm I'm I need
you to get the fuck up out of their baby.
And we're moving on. This is from another woman and
there is no voice memo. She oh god, she got emoji.
She really about the main this shit. Okay, hey, jas,
I just wanted to say that I'm proud of you girl,
keep doing your thing, but I need help with my mets.
(12:39):
So I was dating this guy for about three weeks. Okay,
the vibes was there, he cooked for me, we had drinks.
I really like him. This nigga dropped the love bomb
on me after the first week. But the nigga threw
up a red flag two of them shits. I have
two jobs, two kids, in a house that I'm putting
back together. The nigga asked me to help him pay
(13:00):
his rent that he's behind on eighteen hundred dollars. The
fuck is he on? Then asked me could I apply
for a loan to help him. I immediately fell some
type of way because the fuck he kept saying, Bay,
I just want you to have my back and love
on me and do what I say.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
He and me fucked up, Jess, I'm too independent for
this nigga.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
So he snapped on me because I said I'm not
helping him out, like it's only been three weeks and
I honestly feel disrespected.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
It's the audacity for me.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Then what makes it so bad is I caught feelings
for his dinosaur dick ass, Jess, I listened to your
show every time you drop episode.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Does it the okay? Well, thank you? You ain't just
going hold up?
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Wait a minute, time out, flag on the play? Can
we just go back to our corners real quick? How
the fuck are you gonna go from? She said, it's
the audacity for me. Then what makes it so bad
is I fell.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
For his y.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I caught feelings for his dick ass, Jess. I listen
to your show every time you drop episode. That's just
how we're gonna end it, baby, all.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Right, so she listening right now.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
So I gotta help you. I gotta help you. Boy,
I get it. And you're so pretty. I'm looking at
your page, your profile.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
You so pretty? All right, girl, here we go here,
it's all right.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
I'm just gonna tell you, don't don't beat yourself up
for falling for the dinosaur dick girl, Please don't.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I don't. It's alright.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Sometimes we get a little weakened knees for a little
dinosaur Dane LINGI it's all right, sorry, I'm glad you
listened to my episode. My episodes every time I drop one,
and this one is for you baby. Now we got
a commercial, and if you click off of this podcast,
I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen, all right,
(14:49):
So you seem to be very smart, all right, and
look at the three weeks girl.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Look that's a flex. She had a nigga time about
he love you, all right.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
What's not a flex is him saying he loves and
then following up what all this extra bills and expenses
bullshit that he got going on, Like he just reade
drop all of that shit in your lab after three weeks?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
So this was either his plan because this is what
he does.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
He saw you, he know, he know the power of
his Dino dick, and he just was able to win
you over. You know, we got guys like that, guys
that prey on successful women with good hearts who like
to save people. This is the same girl from the
last story put on her save a whole cake, and
(15:37):
now she and the gutter right next to the nigga
damn men in a goddamn gutter with a baby taking
care of his mother and him and he'd Havene fucked
up her credit, her life is and shambles and all
this shit. That's what happens when you go from being
a superhero and now you are a hurt villain. That's
some bullshit, ain't it. That's like the story of the Joker.
(15:58):
Everybody got a story, right, Every villain has a story
because every villain wasn't born bad. They were born great
and they were actually saving people at first, and then
it got fucked over, and then that that that hurt people,
hurt people, shit them kicked in and now you're a villain.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Well, I don't want you to be a villain, young lady.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I don't want you to hurt.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
The next nigga, because this nigga was a trash ball,
because that's exactly what it is. First of all, I
don't doubt that he loved you. After three weeks. You
probably got good conversation. You probably different, you know, with
all the shit that he told you, Yet you different.
I ain't never hurting nobody like you, like you really
got good pussy pussy, like you know he probably could have,
(16:38):
you know, the Master Donald Dick. I know you got
some nice spicy pussy. So y'all sex life was already booming,
all right, the red flag you seem to know.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
I see.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
I hate giving advice to people who already know what
the fuck going on, because you are, like I said,
like I said in the last story, maybe you just
need your bullshit regurgitated back to you so you know
what you need to do. You just need to move
the fuck on. You said he cooked for you, y'all
had drinks and you really liked them. That's good. That's
a part of his plan. That's the part of his plan.
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The only thing he didn't give you was no money.
That's because he had nail money to give you. You
had all the money to get back. He ended up
billing you for that dinner that he cooked for all
that donal dingling he'd been dropping off, and them good drinks.
That's your bill. Now you got a goddamn bill, eighteen
hundred dollars. You need to help them pay his rent.
(17:30):
And this is how niggas think. You have two jobs,
two kids, and a house that you're putting back together.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
So that shit must have got blown down by the
last nigga.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Here come another nigga trying to blow down his house.
You're gonna let them or what you're gonna do. You're
gonna dust off your cape and save your goddamn self.
Don't keep saving these niggas, bitch, not saying you. I'm
just speaking into the universe.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Stop saving these niggas bitches.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
That's what I need for y'all to, you know, and
that can be all nice and wholesome with you.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Stop saving these guys ladies.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
But y'all don't understand when somebody talked to y'all like that,
because that's side you fucking almost ended up paying an
eighteen hundred dollars rent that wasn't mean yours while try
to put your house back together. So yeah, I'm yelling
at you because I ain't mad at this nigga. I'm
mad at you because something tells me that if you
still asking for advice, that you're still fucking.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
With this nigga here.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
And then after that little three weeks and you probably
didn't pay eighteen hundred, but you probably gave him eight hundred.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Toward the eighteen. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
You need to tell me if I'm right, because you
talking to me now, you're talking to me or don't
don't bullshit me. You didnet did something to help this nigga,
all right, you did something, and that's probably why you
feel disrespected. And it's only been three weeks and you
upset because you caught feelings because you know, no, you
(18:53):
didn't help this nigga. You help them, And it don't
look like he made a change or he going do
anything to pay you back. It don't look it, don't
It don't look too good. You either let her move
in at goddamn house. It's something something you ain't telling me.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Now. You're gonna have to come back and tell.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Me because I know you, because I was you before,
and I don't want you to be how I was
any longer. So I'm gonna need you to tell me
what I'm missing out of here, what you failed to
tell me.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
You to help this nigga out, and you need to
stop for you end.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Up like the girl from the first story who ended
up pregnant and had a baby by a nigga who
she had to take care of. So now she got
two damn kids, the baby and the father. That's not
where you want to end You want to end up
in the gutter. You don't want to end up in
the gutter with a baby, but sometimes that happens, and
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I'll continue to pray for you if you end up there,
because my sister's looking at me like this. You being
too hard on it, all right, So I don't want
to be too hard. I'm gonna pray for you and
I love you. But I know you're lying to me
about something, something you're holding back. So you tell me
every thing, tell me, and just like that, we've come
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to the end of another carefully rekflast with your girl. Justesselarius,
fix and mess the way. I'll be fixing it each
and every Wednesday. Make sure you catch me on iHeart Spotify,
Apple Podcasts, anywhere you can catch a podcast at you
can catch mine, and in my deepest Pam Voice Can't
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The Black Effects. And just like that, y'all, we are
back with yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl,
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Jess Hilarious.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
So listen. What I do is I be.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Fixing people's mess, y'all, and y'all know I love it.
I have a different intro every single time. Tell me
if y'all think I should get an intro for Just
Fix My Mess, because I have one on Breakfast Club
for Jess with the Mess. I got one on Breakfast
Club for Just with the Mess. I don't have an
intro for Just Fix My Mess for my podcast for
Carefully Reckless under the Black Effects.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
You know what I'm saying. So I made it. You
know that's something that I should voice.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Y'all should go spam Charlemagne's comments the Black Effect and
iHeart and Breakfast Club fucking plow them in there too, Spam.
Just Hilarious needs her own intro for Jess Fix My
Mess on her podcast that we listen and too, we
tune into each and every Wednesday, and so we can't
have her fixing people's mess if she's not gonna intro it, right,
(01:07):
so I need an intro. So we're gonna definitely we
are what was this called boycotton? We are boycotting and
rioting for Jessic's intro.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
All right, that's what we're gonna do, all right, but
we're gonna jump right into it now.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
We don't have voice memos this episode because people don't
want their voices to be known. And that was explained
and I do understand you, mate, go and know your voice.
You calling in about your boyfriend, that nigga if you
listened to carefully reckless, he going to.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Know it's you.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
So please tread lightly, y'all. Tread lightly, y'all, I'll be reading.
This is from a woman. Hey, jess I need help.
So I've been with my fiance for a year and
a half and it's been pure hell down. When we
first got together, I was in a good place mentally, emotionally, financially,
et cetera.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Okay, so you was good all the way around.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
So he was living with his brother, but things happened
to where he had to move. Me, being Captain saber Hole,
told him he can stay with me until he found
another place. Mistake number one, Yes it was girl not
he can move with you until he found another place.
If he was your nigga and he moved with you,
he wasn't moving out. That that's just what it is.
Within that time, I found out I was pregnant, so
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we agreed to just continue to live together. Okay, right
before I found out I was pregnant, I let him
use my car, took her to work one night, and
he ended up totaling it. Oh man, I made him
put down the down payment on another car because he
was somewhere he wasn't supposed to be.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Oh okay, I know the fuck that's right, But.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
No, you don't make him put a car up a
down payment on the new car because he was somewhere
he wasn't supposed to be. You make him put the
fucking down payment on the new car because he totaled
your shit and that wasn't his. So I pay the
car note, the insurance, the rent, electricity, and so on
and so forth. Now this way the real issues begin.
Once he found out I was pregnant, he started disappearing
(02:53):
on me on his payday. He would go lay up
with whoever and come back home once he's broke. I'm
pregnant anymore, so I take him back. That was a
lot to digest in the last little sentence, I'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Rerunt it back for those in the back.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
On his payday, he would go lay up with whoever
and come back home once he's broke. I'm pregnant and emotional,
so I take him back. Oh baby, mm hmm. I
would say mistake number two, but it was so many
other mistakes leading up to this one. I'm gonna let
you go in this becomes an ongoing thing. During the
middle of my pregnancy, I caught COVID really bad, so
(03:30):
I ended up on bed rests.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Oh Jesus.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I started getting unemployment shortly after, and I was still
paying all the bills myself.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
When I can time what I'm trying to figure out
what this is saying.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Y'all hold up, give me a second, y'all gotta you know,
because when they write, they write a little fast. I
told y'all to make sure y'all punctuate or punctualize or
punctualize when y'all writing shit.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I'm trying to figure it out. So this is.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
See if I'm gonna say if I'm a reading, and
then I'm gona say if I can make sense of
it when I can time to renew my lease, my
unemployment had ran out, and I end up having to
move with his mom. Okay, so anyway it happened like this,
I'm gonna just break it down. When it came time
to renew the lease, my unemployment had ran out and
I ended up having to move with his mom.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I thought this move.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Would help me as far as child care and being
able to save. Two months after moving in with his mom,
he quits his job.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I was pissed, but it.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Was a nightclub where he did most of his hoeing,
so I assumed he would just find another job. It's
been nine months and he still don't have a job.
His mom became really sick and she put me on
her medical paperwork because he's unreliable.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Damn. So now you got two headaches, him and his mom.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
So when she gets real sick, I'm the one that
has to take off work and make sure she's taken
care of. I have fallen completely out of love with him,
but I have a lot of love for him because
he's still my child's father, and given the history that
y'all went through, so yeah, I don't know what to do.
Because I don't have family that can help me, especially
with childcare, so I feel like I'm obligated to stay
(05:08):
in a miserable place in order to make sure my
child is taken care of. I am stressed to the
point where I've lost almost twenty pounds in a month.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Please just keep it real with me and help me
fix my mess.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Love your bunches, baby, I love you too, and this
is why I'm about to get in your ass because
I love you.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
This is gonna be some tough love.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
But baby, if it ain't coming from none of your friends,
if it ain't coming from your mom, I don't know
the relationship between y'all. Even if it didn't come from
his motherfucking mom who he couldn't even move with at first.
You see, you see that that's a red flag. You
lost your job and had to move in with his mom.
You know you're pregnant. You were already paying the fucking bills,
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every single bill there was to pay, you were paying it,
so you were already superwoman in your own house. He
was already doing bad by yourself with a nigga who
ain't worth two shit. Some sorry, excuse me, but this
is exactly what you're giving me, So I'm just regurgitating
it back to you. And sometimes that is the advice
you hearing your own shit thrown back at you, so
(06:09):
to make you further realize what you need to do.
All right, now, we can't put the baby back, No,
we can't. And I know you do not regret your child.
I would never regret any child that I had that
I gave.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Birth to because of the father. So that's one thing.
So we have a baby.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
We know that, we knew that he was unfucking reliable
before you found out you were pregnant. You know what
I'm saying. He had to move in with you, Like
you said, that was your first mistake. Why couldn't he
move in with his fucking mother?
Speaker 2 (06:40):
All right?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Because he likes to be taken care of. You moved
him in and you enabled him. Yep, you played a
part in him being lazy. You played a part in
him not being able to handle his responsibilities. You allowed it,
and then you expected for him to change. That's not
even what's supposed to have been happening. Don't even take care
of herself. He damn sure would not be able to
(07:02):
take care of a baby. And he and you started
taking care of him. So he was okay, resting ashore,
knowing that if she take care of me, she definitely
can be a good mother to this baby. So as
long as I got her, I'm good. You know what
I'm saying. So you enabled him. Then you lost the job,
y'all had to move in with his mom. He got
a job. After two months, he quit. Hold on, wait,
(07:25):
let me go back. I don't want tom misquote you.
After two months, Yeah, he quit. He didn't even get
fucking fired. He quit his job after moving in with
his mom. Why because his mom ain't gonna put him out.
That's one thing. His mom ain't gonna put you out.
And if she ain't gonna put you out, she ain't
(07:45):
gonna put him out.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
There we go right there, she not.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Obviously, you two have built the bond because you over
here taken care of her. Now like you not pregnant
in bedridden, you're supposed to have been put on bed rest
because you caught COVID. Shit happens, So now you're even
more in shambles, you know what I'm saying. Do you
see this pattern? Nine months later, fast forward, the baby's here.
(08:11):
He still ain't got no fucking job, and you're taking
care of not only him, but his mother and your baby.
So you got three people to take care of, two
kids and a mom. Because I'm sorry, your baby daddy
is your kid. That's exactly what you need to be claiming.
Is ass on tasas or something, writing that motherfucker off.
(08:31):
I wish you could write off somebody. I really wish
you could a grown ass people. But it sounds as
if you know exactly what the hell you need to do.
You said you're fallen out of love with him already,
You're in a miserable place. You're just trying to make
it work to take care of your child. You lost
twenty pounds in a month being stressed trying to figure
(08:52):
out where your next check won't come from. Then also,
you got this man that you're taking care of and
now his mother. You don't want to leave his mother
high in dry. Does he have any siblings? Does it?
Is there any way that if you don't do it,
he'll step up and fucking do it.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
That's a big responsibility. You let her put your name
down as emergency contact. You got your own shit going on, baby,
you know what I'm saying, where's your mom, where's your family?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
You know what I'm saying. What I'm saying, this is
not good.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
And then the first thing that you said, So, I've
been with my fiance for a year and a half
and it's been pure hell. He proposed to you with
no intention on giving you a fucking wedding.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
And I'm saying that because look at the place you're
in right now. If he can't even pay bills, how
the fuck he gonna pay for a fucking wedding. How
it needs you to understand that? Hold up, Hold up,
I know this shit getting good, but listen to just
a couple seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Your fiance for a year and a half. That shit
ain't supposed to be going bed that soon. But it's
still situations that could be worse, that are worse than yours.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
So you're not completely in the goddamn dumps. No you're not.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
If you still got good credit, you still got breath
to breathe every time you wake up, you have a
chance to change your situation.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
There you go.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
And the reason why I say credit is because you
need to get the hell out of there and get
into your own shit. Still, you need to get another car,
all right. You don'na let Jody crash and goddamn car up.
Yes I called him Jody, Yes I did. Event I
called him Jody. And you don't let this nigga joey you.
That's what it is. I ain't mad at him. I'm
mad at jo ass, yes i am. But unlike my
(10:42):
brother Charlemagne, I'm not gonna give you dunky other day
because we live and we fucking learn. We live and
we fucking learned, and you got a great blessing out
the deal when that is your baby.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
So we will always move forward with grace.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
But listen, it ain't like he gonna be fighting for
custody and taking you downtown for child support, baby, and
he ain't even got a leg to stand on, you know,
So we just pray for him, and you keep it moving,
You keep it the fuck moving, and you don't look back.
Don't look back in that way. I don't mean you
gotta cut all ties with him, because he's still your
(11:18):
child's father and you still have a great amount of
love for him. But have enough love for him to
leave his ants all the way alone and let him
get hisself together, because you can't make him get itself together.
You gotta let him get itself together, and you can't
make your child a part of that, that toxicity, that
that whole little situation going on, okay, because you gotta
(11:38):
do it all for your baby. You gotta be mentally
prepared for motherhood. You know, you got a child to raise.
So shit is real, all right, Shit is real. Shit
is real for you every day, all right. So I
need you to check in with me. Well, the advice
is straight up to fucking leave, I'm sorry, make him
take care of his mother. Will let him take care
(11:58):
of his mother. He ain't gonna let her get so
sick where she just you know, you know, she just
fucking croak. You know, if it's if it's you know where,
if that's in his control, you know, he can take
care of his mother.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
You need You are a mother, You need to take
care of your child because he can't do that with you.
Right now, check back in with me.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
I'm gonna need to know because I'm I'm I need
you to get the fuck up out of their baby.
And we're moving on. This is from another woman and
there is no voice memo. She oh god, she got emoji.
She really about the main this shit. Okay, hey, jas,
I just wanted to say that I'm proud of you girl,
keep doing your thing, but I need help with my mets.
(12:39):
So I was dating this guy for about three weeks. Okay,
the vibes was there, he cooked for me, we had drinks.
I really like him. This nigga dropped the love bomb
on me after the first week. But the nigga threw
up a red flag two of them shits. I have
two jobs, two kids, in a house that I'm putting
back together. The nigga asked me to help him pay
(13:00):
his rent that he's behind on eighteen hundred dollars. The
fuck is he on? Then asked me could I apply
for a loan to help him. I immediately fell some
type of way because the fuck he kept saying, Bay,
I just want you to have my back and love
on me and do what I say.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
He and me fucked up, Jess, I'm too independent for
this nigga.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
So he snapped on me because I said I'm not
helping him out, like it's only been three weeks and
I honestly feel disrespected.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
It's the audacity for me.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Then what makes it so bad is I caught feelings
for his dinosaur dick ass, Jess, I listened to your
show every time you drop episode.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Does it the okay? Well, thank you? You ain't just
going hold up?
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Wait a minute, time out, flag on the play? Can
we just go back to our corners real quick? How
the fuck are you gonna go from? She said, it's
the audacity for me. Then what makes it so bad
is I fell.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
For his y.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I caught feelings for his dick ass, Jess. I listen
to your show every time you drop episode. That's just
how we're gonna end it, baby, all.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Right, so she listening right now.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
So I gotta help you. I gotta help you. Boy,
I get it. And you're so pretty. I'm looking at
your page, your profile.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
You so pretty? All right, girl, here we go here,
it's all right.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
I'm just gonna tell you, don't don't beat yourself up
for falling for the dinosaur dick girl, Please don't.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I don't. It's alright.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Sometimes we get a little weakened knees for a little
dinosaur Dane LINGI it's all right, sorry, I'm glad you
listened to my episode. My episodes every time I drop one,
and this one is for you baby. Now we got
a commercial, and if you click off of this podcast,
I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen, all right,
(14:49):
So you seem to be very smart, all right, and
look at the three weeks girl.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Look that's a flex. She had a nigga time about
he love you, all right.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
What's not a flex is him saying he loves and
then following up what all this extra bills and expenses
bullshit that he got going on, Like he just reade
drop all of that shit in your lab after three weeks?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
So this was either his plan because this is what
he does.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
He saw you, he know, he know the power of
his Dino dick, and he just was able to win
you over. You know, we got guys like that, guys
that prey on successful women with good hearts who like
to save people. This is the same girl from the
last story put on her save a whole cake, and
(15:37):
now she and the gutter right next to the nigga
damn men in a goddamn gutter with a baby taking
care of his mother and him and he'd Havene fucked
up her credit, her life is and shambles and all
this shit. That's what happens when you go from being
a superhero and now you are a hurt villain. That's
some bullshit, ain't it. That's like the story of the Joker.
(15:58):
Everybody got a story, right, Every villain has a story
because every villain wasn't born bad. They were born great
and they were actually saving people at first, and then
it got fucked over, and then that that that hurt people,
hurt people, shit them kicked in and now you're a villain.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Well, I don't want you to be a villain, young lady.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I don't want you to hurt.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
The next nigga, because this nigga was a trash ball,
because that's exactly what it is. First of all, I
don't doubt that he loved you. After three weeks. You
probably got good conversation. You probably different, you know, with
all the shit that he told you, Yet you different.
I ain't never hurting nobody like you, like you really
got good pussy pussy, like you know he probably could have,
(16:38):
you know, the Master Donald Dick. I know you got
some nice spicy pussy. So y'all sex life was already booming,
all right, the red flag you seem to know.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
I see.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
I hate giving advice to people who already know what
the fuck going on, because you are, like I said,
like I said in the last story, maybe you just
need your bullshit regurgitated back to you so you know
what you need to do. You just need to move
the fuck on. You said he cooked for you, y'all
had drinks and you really liked them. That's good. That's
a part of his plan. That's the part of his plan.
(17:10):
The only thing he didn't give you was no money.
That's because he had nail money to give you. You
had all the money to get back. He ended up
billing you for that dinner that he cooked for all
that donal dingling he'd been dropping off, and them good drinks.
That's your bill. Now you got a goddamn bill, eighteen
hundred dollars. You need to help them pay his rent.
(17:30):
And this is how niggas think. You have two jobs,
two kids, and a house that you're putting back together.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
So that shit must have got blown down by the
last nigga.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Here come another nigga trying to blow down his house.
You're gonna let them or what you're gonna do. You're
gonna dust off your cape and save your goddamn self.
Don't keep saving these niggas, bitch, not saying you. I'm
just speaking into the universe.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Stop saving these niggas bitches.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
That's what I need for y'all to, you know, and
that can be all nice and wholesome with you.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Stop saving these guys ladies.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
But y'all don't understand when somebody talked to y'all like that,
because that's side you fucking almost ended up paying an
eighteen hundred dollars rent that wasn't mean yours while try
to put your house back together. So yeah, I'm yelling
at you because I ain't mad at this nigga. I'm
mad at you because something tells me that if you
still asking for advice, that you're still fucking.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
With this nigga here.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
And then after that little three weeks and you probably
didn't pay eighteen hundred, but you probably gave him eight hundred.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Toward the eighteen. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
You need to tell me if I'm right, because you
talking to me now, you're talking to me or don't
don't bullshit me. You didnet did something to help this nigga,
all right, you did something, and that's probably why you
feel disrespected. And it's only been three weeks and you
upset because you caught feelings because you know, no, you
(18:53):
didn't help this nigga. You help them, And it don't
look like he made a change or he going do
anything to pay you back. It don't look it, don't
It don't look too good. You either let her move
in at goddamn house. It's something something you ain't telling me.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Now. You're gonna have to come back and tell.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Me because I know you, because I was you before,
and I don't want you to be how I was
any longer. So I'm gonna need you to tell me
what I'm missing out of here, what you failed to
tell me.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
You to help this nigga out, and you need to
stop for you end.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Up like the girl from the first story who ended
up pregnant and had a baby by a nigga who
she had to take care of. So now she got
two damn kids, the baby and the father. That's not
where you want to end You want to end up
in the gutter. You don't want to end up in
the gutter with a baby, but sometimes that happens, and
(19:48):
I'll continue to pray for you if you end up there,
because my sister's looking at me like this. You being
too hard on it, all right, So I don't want
to be too hard. I'm gonna pray for you and
I love you. But I know you're lying to me
about something, something you're holding back. So you tell me
every thing, tell me, and just like that, we've come
(20:10):
to the end of another carefully rekflast with your girl. Justesselarius,
fix and mess the way. I'll be fixing it each
and every Wednesday. Make sure you catch me on iHeart Spotify,
Apple Podcasts, anywhere you can catch a podcast at you
can catch mine, and in my deepest Pam Voice Can't
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