April 25, 2026 • 38 mins
Sorority girls share how their social media posts have landed them in trouble and the clever, secretive ways around it…
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia Judice, Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Fessler.
Welcome back to another episode of Dirty Rush. I'm your
host Daisy Kent.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Today.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I'm here by myself, but we're gonna have callers calling
in and we're gonna unveil the secret rules of sorority
girls social media. We were talking to our guests about
what got them in trouble on their social media and
how they knew. Let's get into it. So I actually
went to SCSU as if you listened in before, you
probably know that. But I never got in trouble for
(00:42):
posting anything. I don't think. But I remember when I
was in Alpha Fey at San Diego s if you
posted something that violated the guidelines, they would comment a
purple heart anyone on zech wood and then you would
have to just take it down. So a lot of
times it was like alcohol, or if it was like
a scandalous biki pick, but usually it wasn't anything bad.
(01:04):
I don't think anything like super bad happened when I
was in my sorority. I know though, during recruitment before
we would always go and look at the girls that
were coming in and see who was coming in and
like kind of stalk them honestly figure out how much
we could know about them. So it's definitely I can't imagine.
(01:26):
I mean, I was a freshman and that's crazy in
twenty seventeen, so like nine years ago. So I can't
imagine now how much people probably look at your social
media and stuff, because it's even it was so present
when I was even a freshman, but now, like TikTok
wasn't a thing then, So there's TikTok, and that is
(01:48):
you can see so much about a person on that.
So let's get into it and we'll get some guests
on and see their experience. So our first guess we
have on is Kendall. Hey Kendall, Hi Daisy, how are you.
I'm doing great? How are you doing good? Thanks for
coming on today.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Yes, I'm excited to talk about this because I did
a lot of prep going into college on my social media.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
You did for like getting into Storty.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Yeah, I went to the University of Arizona.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Okay, that one's pretty intense. I've heard.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Yeah, did you rush before you like went into syllabus week?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Like before freshman year started or no, ours was like
I think like two weeks into it. I think it
was like halfway through September. We rushed and then we
got our bids end of September, I believe.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Oh wow, okay, ours was kind of similar it was
before we started classes. So I was told that I
really had to, like everyone was supposed to kind of
clean up their social media before rush because in the summertime,
like girls will start to look at future prospects instagrams. Yeah,
and so I made sure I deleted all the alcohol
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photos I have, and I remember, even though it was
University of Arizona, I took off like bikini photos.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I archived them.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
And I even made like a bio and I just
really wanted my feed to look good. And I was
posting more because I wanted to make sure I was
like being active and I was kind of a little
overboard on it. But then I was told on the
other side of rush, once I was in a sorority,
that you're actually supposed to look at girls' instagrams and
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stalk them.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Did you do that when you were on the other
side of recruitment, Yeah, we definitely would, and like see
who was coming in even if it wasn't. I remember
me and my friends, like especially the first day after rush.
I remember going and like looking up everybody I talked
to and just trying to like catch their vibe too,
because you only get to talk to them for like
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what like ten minutes maybe right, but I remember doing that,
and then before I remember when we got on the list,
we like looked at which like, I know you're not
supposed to do that, but it definitely is like a thing.
It is a thing.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
And I also feel like maybe because I wasn't like
panellenic or president or something, but I never judged if
someone had a red solo cup or a bikini photo.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
But you're no. For me, I would be like, oh,
like they like to have fun, yea, make it up
fun other ways. But like I don't know, but I
think it a lot of it has to do like
with a sorority, like keeping like a good image. I
have no idea, but that's true. Did you ever post
anything in college that you had to take down?
Speaker 4 (04:35):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I mean I would.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Well, we would always like be extra and photoshop if
there was like a wine bottle on the table behind us,
but there were a lot of times where it was
an Instagram story and we would get taggs and things
and obviously want to repost it, so like not much
you can do. I think I got sent to standards
maybe like three times.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Were you scared the first time?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
No, because so I'm like, this is so dumb, and yeah,
you know I was. I was studying abroad when this happened,
and I'm not even like in the house, and I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Okay, they are broad. There should be like an exception, right, yeah,
because you can like drink in most places when you're
like eighteen, right, Yeah, I know that's so crazy.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I know it's so crazy, but I know nowadays social
media is a lot, you know, more involved in people's
lives than it was when I was in college.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
But yeah, that was my experience. Did you know, like
who you wanted, like what house you wanted to be
in before you did it? Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I don't know if that's like a good thing or
bad thing, but there was definitely like three houses. I mean,
I feel like everyone's this way three houses that I
was like I have to be in.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I want to be in so bad. Yeah, and it
worked out. But I got lucky when you got sent
to Sanders. Was there like any punishment or anything you got?
Speaker 3 (05:51):
They claimed I couldn't go to like the next date dash,
but I think they forgot because I did go.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
To the next stage. That's good. That seems like a
drastic pun I know. But also I don't know about you,
but our date dashes weren't actually that fun. Oh ours
were so fun, I'm jealous mine was not. And then
I remember sometimes if people got sent to standards, they
would make them be like sober sisters, so like they
couldn't drink at it.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
What?
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Yeah, when did they actually follow through with that? I
think most people did for like the date dash, because
I think they were kind of like so scared of
what would happen if they didn't. But then after that
everyone will go out to like the parties and.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Stuff, And I feel like before date dashes is when
people usually got in trouble for social media because they
were like posting the pregames and there was alcohol involved.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
And that was a no no. Yeah for sure. If
I'm back in Cane.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
What a time.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I would do anything to be back right. Well, thank
you so much for coming on, of course, Thanks Daisy. Okay, guys,
I have Savannah on Now. Hey Savannah, Hi, So where
did you go to school?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I went to school in Texas, which was really fun.
I loved Texas. It was a big like change of
scene for me being from California. I feel like they
definitely do things differently in Texas, but oh, really fun
for your experience.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, did you have going into like recruitment. Did you
have like did you go through social media and like
take anything off or did you know a lot about rush?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I mean I feel like you always hear like some
people are super stressed about it and they're telling you
to do like a million things. Then you hear like
the people that are like, wait, you don't need to
like touch your social media.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I feel like my social media was always very clean,
just because I cared about like farther from like recruitment,
just like yeah, that's a good reputation. But I remember
I had a photo with one of my friends who
was a year older and was in the sorority. I
wanted to go, and my mom was like, you have
to remove that or the other sororities are going to
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drop you. And she probably was right because oh that
is smart. Yeah, Like if I was like another swored
you'd be like, well, obviously she's gonna go this one
because she has photos with a girl who's literally like
on the private team. So I remember I had to
take that one down. But that was like the only
kind of like cleaning up I did. I know there's
like a lot of disgust between like going private or public,
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though on your social media.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
There is I feel like I haven't heard that. What
have you heard about that?
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I just feel like some people were like it's better
to be private because then if they were quest you,
that means like they're like interesting.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
So they like want you.
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
But then I also heard that like if you're public,
then it like gives them like the like the optional
like stock you. But then like some people that's why
you should stay private. I feel like that was like
an interesting thing I thought about.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Yeah, it's like do you want to say like mysterious
or not?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Yeah, I don't know, Like I still don't know the
right answer.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
And then how about when you were in your sorority,
was there any guidelines to what you could post and
not post?
Speaker 2 (08:54):
For us, it was just like obviously if you're under
twenty one, no alcohol like period, and then if you
were like of the age of twenty one. They just
wanted you to be like posting like classy, like nothing
like unclassy, but you could like post technically.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
What would they do if like you had to take
it down like mine? They would comment a purple heart emoji,
like someone on Exact would that's so interesting, how about you?
Like was there anything?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
They just would DM you and like be like take
it down, and like, I feel like some girls like
you always like the Exact picking was like sometimes it
would be like such like chill girls who were like
your friends and like they didn't really care. And then
sometimes I just feel like girls on EXAC it was
like some of them not everyone like kind of a
power trip. So they would like use it to like.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Yeah, and they just want to like boss people.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Yeah, boss you around. And I remember when I was
on recruitment team, they like literally were making me. I
remember I posted a photo and it was like a
styrofoam cup and it had like the cutest little like
logo on it. It was like pink and purple, like
it could have been water. It probably wasn't water, but
it could have been water. And they were like this
needs to come down, right, now like super upset about it,
and I'm like, it's a white styrofoam cup, like it's
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not even clear, and so sometimes I just felt like
it was like a lot. But yeah, I get it.
I get it being on like the other side.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Yeah, oh that's for sure. Do you think like looking
at social media when you went into college, did you
look at the different sororities at your school once you
knew what school you were going to.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yeah, I think I followed them all, even like the
ones I didn't have interest in, because like I think
I just like heard that you were supposed to because
you didn't want to like not follow the ones you
were interested in. I feel like that's just a bad
look across the board.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Did you end up going in the one that your
friend was in?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, I did, but it's still good. I took down
the photo.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Oh it makes sense.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Oh yeah, no, but I was open. I was open,
but it was like good to like have it removed
so that there was like no issues with it.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Did you ever get in trouble or sent to the
standards or anything.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Never got sent to standards, thank good. But yeah we
got in trouble for like weird stuff. I remember like
when I lived in the house, there was like a
study room and we got all these like dispo photos
from someone's camera and she like had a bunch of
printed so we're like, let's hang them in the study room.
Like they were all like at football games, like very mellow,
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and we literally all got like a talking too, because
there was again styrofoam cups, which I.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Was like, it was just like those styrofoam cups, and.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
It was like clear cups, like of course if it's
from the styre yes literally and I'm like, of course,
if like there's a logo on a can, like we
would not put that up in the house. But like
it was like lear cups that were probably water like.
We were like, but no, we were in a lot
of trouble for that, and like I'm trying to think
the other time I got in trouble. Oh, we like
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we were at a birthday dinner and it was like
one of those dinners we have to like hit a minimum. Yeah,
they like got a bottle because they had hit like
two grand at this dinner, and we walked into the
house with it and we were like eating cake, like
no one was drinking the bottle was sealed shut, and
like we all like people I think got abs, Like
we are like kind of like ra person walked in
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and like was like, you guys are drinking and the
bottle was not open, but.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
We actually haven't opened it.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
It's just being so calm and just eating cake. But
thank you for ruining that.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I know it is. I can't even imagine, like now
how much like they dig into people's social media is.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
It's just getting bigger and bigger.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Yeah, even with like followers and stuff too. Like I
feel like the scale of like people having followers now
to like when I was in like starting college is
like way like bigger, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Yeah, And I feel like when I was going through recruitment,
like every sorty had a social media but it was
very like mellow. But now like yeah, sorties at my school,
like is lit are like influencers and like they have
this huge following and I'm like, I wonder if that
like switches people's perspective on wanting to go that swarty
based on like the social media following of the Instagram,
which is so interesting. It is like all the recruitment
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videos are such a big thing now.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Yeah, like watching them and all the dances and everything. Yes,
I'm like I would be the one in the back
like holding the post.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
For exactly exactly just leaving the armstock and forth.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah. Well, thank you so much for coming on today.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Of course, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Have a great rest of your day. Thank you. All right.
Our next caller we have is Emma. Hey, Emma, Hi Daisy,
how are you? I am doing great? How are you
doing good? I'm so happy to be here.
Speaker 6 (13:40):
I have some funny stories from social media because I
felt like it was very relaxed in my sorority.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Oh I love that.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Also, going into my sorority, I didn't even know that
like cleaning up your social media was a thing. I
already I had like a very clean feed anyways, but
like I was definitely a bikini girl.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
I was like the same way. I also like I
had no idea really what a sorority was. I ye,
maybe because I'm from like the middle of nowhere in Minnesota,
but I had no idea. My roommate made me sign up,
and then I remember going to the first house and
everyone was dancing and seeing I was like, yeah.
Speaker 5 (14:23):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 6 (14:24):
Like I like looked at the sorority's instagrams and I
was like, oh, this is so intimidating.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
But I didn't do it.
Speaker 6 (14:31):
I didn't follow any of them. I didn't know what
any of them meant. I knew that I like wanted
to go a certain direction because I knew someone.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
In the sorority.
Speaker 6 (14:39):
Yeah, but I definitely didn't clean mine up. And I
think that girls are now posts. I think bikini pictures
are completely fine.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
I loved a good bikini.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Pop for sure, because I was from California. Where did
you go to school?
Speaker 6 (14:53):
I went to school in Colorado. Oh cool and weirdly enough,
you know, there's no beaches there. But everyone was always
in a bikini on their insta.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Yeah. I like in college, everyone's in a bikini. Like,
no matter where you are.
Speaker 6 (15:06):
Yeah, our formals wear bikinis.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Yeah, where would you go with formals?
Speaker 5 (15:11):
You could go to Aspen?
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Oh fun?
Speaker 6 (15:13):
And so like our sorority instagram was like, yeah, our
sisters are hat formals and it's like us in bikinis.
So I always thought the bikini thing was just silly.
Oh but who ran our socials, which was actually my
really good friend Greta. She's the one posting she was
the one commenting on people's pictures, selecting like the sorority spotlight,
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and so she was in full control of the Instagram.
For our spring break, we went to Jamaica and took
lots of bikini pictures.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
That's like a random spot I feel like to go
on college.
Speaker 6 (15:50):
Spring break, I know, but it was so much fun.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Okay, that's great. I mean, I'm sure it would be
a time.
Speaker 5 (15:57):
It was.
Speaker 6 (15:57):
It was the best. It was kind of like staying
in my Mexico, but it was like completely different vibe.
Not a lot of people there, so it was like
our group of twenty went there. That's so Red died
about lots of bikini pictures and so fast forward. She
my friend Greta is browsing. She always makes people like
send in pictures. I didn't send in any picture to
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be featured on the Instagram, but I was at home
and Greta posted a picture of me and my good
friend and our entire crotch was out in our bikini,
missing our sisters. Hope everyone's having a good spring and
I chat lit up and they're like, oh my god, Greta,
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what the what the fuck is wrong with you? Why
did you just post their crotches on Instagram. And she
was like the sweetest girl ever. She's like, oh my god,
I didn't even notice, Like I kid you not.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Like, oh oh my god, were you like so upset?
Speaker 6 (16:56):
It was hilarious. I mean we're like, Greta, can you
take it down?
Speaker 5 (17:00):
I mean it's just like.
Speaker 6 (17:00):
All girls that follow the Instagram, So it's fine. But
our sorority, truly, I don't think really cared about social media.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
It was just like mar Chill that way.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
Yeah, I don't. I don't think I was ever. No
one ever commented on my Instagram. Our code word was bibbs,
bring it back sis bibbs.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Wait, that's kind of cute.
Speaker 6 (17:22):
Yeah, but I didn't have any friend, Like, no one
cared at all. Yeah, that's why I didn't know that
like cleaning up your social media was a thing and
now either like young rushies.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Yeah, I never had anything like bad on my social
media or like no alcohol either, because my mom was
always like telling me not to post that stuff. But
it was interesting like getting into college, because I feel
right when I got into college, it was like the
era where like social media like really started like having
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a really big presence and people were like using it
for like jobs and like their life.
Speaker 6 (18:04):
Yeah, it seem like actually making money off of social media.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Yeah, it's like crazy to even where we're at now,
like people making social media on it. Like to see
in like the next ten years how much it evolves.
Speaker 6 (18:18):
Well, like what if you're one of those really cool
people that don't have social media and you're you're only
a cool person, but they like only keep track of
people with social media. I guess then they would be
way too cool for the sorority. But like, yeah, it's
interesting how it's kind of it's kind of like having a.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
LinkedIn Yeah college, Yeah for sure. Well, thank you so
much for coming on. Yeah of course, Hi Daisy, Howie,
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thank you for coming on. Zoe.
Speaker 7 (19:04):
Hi, I'm Zoe and I went to school in a
big school in Los Angeles and our sorority we had
a really young house mom, and so sometimes she let
things fly that maybe wouldn't fly in other houses.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And I love that. How old was she about?
Speaker 7 (19:28):
She was twenty five, like she had graduated college and
then was our was our house mom, so I.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Had to have been like fifty fifty dibsh.
Speaker 7 (19:37):
Oh my gosh, Okay, So that was normal. That was
like every other house on the road. But so she
would let something slide in the house, like certain pregames
before events and whatever. But the number one rule was
always that you can't post anything on social media, yeah,
because then we could seriously get busted and then it
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would all go away. And I remember that we had
a tradition of every year before our we called it
Crush our crush date party. It like went around Valentine's
Day and it was basically where each girl would invite
their crush they had put down on a list, like
you know, a range of like three different crushes and
their phone numbers, and then our social chair would then
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reach out to them and so and they would go
to the venue separately from the girls, and so all
the girls would choke together and then all the crushes would.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Show up at the venue together.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
That's fun.
Speaker 7 (20:30):
And so girls would really want to get get some
liquid courage in themselves before showing up to the venue.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
And so every year we would they know who it
was going to be before they showed up. No, you
didn't know what if like we wanted the same guy though,
and then like I should have it with him, But
then they actually appeared me with a different guy.
Speaker 7 (20:51):
Yes, that would happen, and it would be like if Daisy,
you were older than me, you would be like higher
up on the list. And then I think it would
be like an alphabetical thing. So two girls wouldn't be
inviting the same guy. Each girl got their own or date,
Each girl got their own crush to go, so you
didn't know exactly unless they had told you, but you
didn't know if it was you then invited them or not.
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And everything was like a secret. It wasn't a public sheet.
So also stay we would do a pregame at our
sorority house prior to the date party, and the number
one rule was that we all nobody could post or
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take a single video at this pregame or else it
would all go away and we would girls would get
very drunk and they we would make like this jungle
juice at the house. Jungle juice so fun for everyone
to do. But there was the way that we would
coordinate this because we also didn't like want a paper trail,
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as we had this private Facebook group and like nobody
uses Facebook anymore, and we would have this private Facebook
group where everybody would like discuss the details of the
pregame that was happening because it couldn't be on like
our sorority chat.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (22:13):
And then I remember I was a junior and we
had had like three years of this going on where
no one had found out. Girls and other storties didn't
find out because if they saw something on social media
that this was going down, they would report it to
their house moms or whatever and be like, why can't
we do this? Yeah, so, and it was also only
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girls in the sorority were allowed, like even if even
if your date going to day party was a girl,
she could not be allowed to come. And I remember
one year one of my best friends got really drunk
and ended up posting something to not just like her
Snapchat private story, but her Instagram story, and it was
a video of the pregame going on, and she was
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like I love these ladies, they're my sisters, like something
like that.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
And that probably does around so fast, Oh my gosh,
so fast, especially it's on your public Instagram story.
Speaker 7 (23:07):
And it was flagged pretty instantly by our EXEC because
they're members of EXEC that like weren't allowed to go
to the party because they had to make sure like
everyone was going to stay safe and get all the
asses okay and whatever. And she not only was like
in so much trouble internally with the sorority, but it
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was also just like so much shame because this was
like a sacred pregame that nobody could know about and
it was like one of my good friends and she
like it ended up the next year we like were
able to do it because it was just too risky
and it was honestly too risky regardless. But yeah, she'll
forever go down as the one who the one who
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pre crushed the crush pregame.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Oh that's such a bummer. It's like fun to doing
something like that.
Speaker 7 (23:58):
Yeah, I mean it was memories. Were those of us
that had memories of the night. We were so much fun.
But it was something we just knew was bound to
with social media, it's.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
So usual, like, well it lasted.
Speaker 7 (24:13):
Yeah, it was fun.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Well it lasted.
Speaker 7 (24:15):
But no, we weren't able to do it senior year
because yeah, she kind of ruined it for the rest
of us, but it was kind of bound to happen.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Did you before you went into school, did you like
clean up your social media at all or anything, or
was it just like you didn't even think about it
kind of or didn't have anything to clean up.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
I definitely remember like really cool, like, well, I guess
I didn't really have that much alcohol my senior year
of high school, but if I had a red solo
cup in something or whatever, I would make sure that
I that I took that out. I remember trying to
post more just like good photos of myself and make
myself look fun and bubbly and pretty and like like
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I have a lot of friends and whatever, because I think, yeah,
and you think of the when you're like does this
really matter? Okay, I'll just do it just just to
be safe, and then you do kind of realize when
you're on the other end of it and Rush, that
people do look at that, but you can't if you're private.
Maybe I did go public before Rush, because if you're private,
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then no one could see anything that you have on there.
I feel like I shaped up my Instagram too, more
like for other girls who were going to be in
my you know, just like going into college you wanted
you know, that's like someone's first impression of you a
little bit before.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
You could meet them at school. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (25:38):
So, and I felt like everyone was following each other
once you knew that you got in and you're posted
on like the well like a minute for sure accounts
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
I remember even like posting in like a Facebook, like yeah,
when I was like trying to find my roommate and
I knew you'd like post like a few pictures of
you be like looking for a roommate.
Speaker 8 (26:02):
Yeah, I remember that so well.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
About thinking as I ended up with my roommate and
she's like now my best friend, like forever?
Speaker 7 (26:09):
Did you find her on Facebook?
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Yeah? We found each other on Facebook.
Speaker 7 (26:12):
Okay, me too, I found and we're best friends still.
But that's I do think there's something to the Facebook groups,
like right you find.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
Like usually that doesn't happen like usually. I think I'm
the only one out of like my whole entire friend
group who ended up being like best friends with their
really really yeah friend group. But we I do feel
like stuff too.
Speaker 7 (26:32):
But yeah, I do feel like that's pretty rare. But
it's so special. She going to be Is she going
to be in your wedding?
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Yeah? She's made of honors. I have four Madive honors,
but she's one of them. Oh my gosh, you have four? Yeah?
I was like my wedding to do whatever I want
to do.
Speaker 8 (26:52):
I love it.
Speaker 7 (26:53):
Oh my gosh, that's so great.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Well, thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Thank you, thank you so much for having me da.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Okay, guys, we have our next caller in. This is McKenna. Hey, McKenna,
thanks for coming off. How are you. I'm doing so good.
How are you?
Speaker 5 (27:09):
I'm good?
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Okay, So today we're talking about like social media guidelines
for sororities. Let's start off with did you ever go
like before you went into a sorority, did you look
at their instagram and did you like clean yours up
or anything?
Speaker 9 (27:24):
Oh my gosh, I stalked all of the instagrams, okay,
sororities before, and I made sure to follow all of
them because I heard all of this stuff beforehand about
they'll see and you're following if you don't follow ones,
and then that'll give you a bad look. And so
I made sure to follow like everyone. And I was
always liking all of the posts before.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
That's like such a true thing. Like when I was
going and like talking to a girl.
Speaker 9 (27:52):
Always thought that if I liked it, they're gonna notice
that I liked it. And then they're gonna No, that's
so funny but like so real.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
And then did you get once you got in a sorority?
Did you ever get in trouble for posting anything?
Speaker 9 (28:07):
Okay, so I didn't get in trouble. What my friends did.
It was freshman and it was one of my friends.
We were all in the same sorority, and we went
to my friend's birthdays and we went wine tasting and it.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Was freshman beer.
Speaker 9 (28:20):
So we were not twenty one yet, but it was
right around when we thought that like wine glasses were
so aesthetic and cute.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
Also that's like so fun honestly that there's something about
being like right about to turn twenty one and just
like holding the wine glass.
Speaker 9 (28:37):
Yeah, and it's like even in any of the pictures,
it's like the tiniest pore ever because it's a tasting obviously.
Speaker 5 (28:43):
But I remember we all like I.
Speaker 9 (28:45):
Posted something and I didn't tag where we were at,
but then a few of my friends like tagged like
blank winery and then they got a DM from the
Instagram saying like NOP in all caps like notp which
I did like know any of I think that there
was some sort of like training I was supposed to do.
Speaker 5 (29:04):
To know what that acronym not meant. I had no
idea what it meant.
Speaker 9 (29:08):
I thought that they were like spelling Nope, wrong, and
so I was just like, they don't even know what
it's like.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Nope. Maybe it could have been that. Was it always
your sorority that would DM you? Or would it ever
be the girls on exec that would like comment or
DM you about it?
Speaker 9 (29:25):
So it was the I always thought I ended up
being the manager of our social media later on, which
is like funny, but what is funny? I always thought
that it was the VP of Marketing and PR that.
Speaker 5 (29:39):
Said it through the account.
Speaker 9 (29:41):
Actually it was for us, it was the VP of
standards and so that member of it would go in
and then basically anything that had anything they deemed like
not our pillars.
Speaker 5 (29:51):
It would be like, I'm so now I'm not.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
That's funny. And then when you because you said you
knew a lot about sororities and stuff before you went
through a groupment, We're like, looking at all their instagrams?
Did the instagrams and social media influence what house you
wanted to be in?
Speaker 9 (30:11):
I had a really like set mindset going in because
one of my best friends from home.
Speaker 5 (30:18):
It was a year above me was in a certain.
Speaker 9 (30:19):
One, and so I did not make sense really open mind,
but I always sort of knew I was gonna go there,
but definitely looking around the instagrams and honestly, like seeing
all the comments like that really piqued my interest to
like see which ones had people actually interested, like the
members actually commenting and like seeming like they had.
Speaker 5 (30:39):
A lot of fun and like a big community.
Speaker 9 (30:42):
So that made me want to join one of over another,
just to make it seem like they really had like
a tight knit group that actually hung out and liked
each other and stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
I will tell you there is nothing like I remember
when I got to college and I joined my sorority
and like the first pick I threw up like that,
It's probably the most comments on an Instagram post I
had ever got in my life. It was crazy, like
my had to be skybalcketing.
Speaker 9 (31:09):
The first time I got posted on the like social media,
the sorority social media, I was like starstruck. I was like,
no way they write this account.
Speaker 5 (31:21):
It's so funny.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
It's such a fun thing though, honestly, but it's crazy
to think about now, Like we have, like social media,
and it like impacts so much, and like even back
to when like our parents were in school, like it
didn't play an aspect of it. So that's so interesting
to think about.
Speaker 9 (31:39):
You know, I met my roommate on social media before
she DMed me and now we've been in my peas.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, do you think your sorority was like more strict
than other sororities are like the same?
Speaker 5 (31:51):
No, I feel like it was less.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
At least.
Speaker 9 (31:55):
I mean maybe I played a role into that because
when I was on the when I was in charge
of it, I.
Speaker 5 (32:01):
Didn't really get more relaxed.
Speaker 9 (32:04):
People would post a photocircle type thing to get posted
on the Instagram, and if it was honestly crazy, like
some of the freshmen would post pictures from like frat
parties on it with drinks in their hand and expect
that to get posted on like our official account.
Speaker 5 (32:19):
And I was I would always see that and I'd
be like, what are you like? What are you thinking?
I can't post this? You're eighteen? You know. I would
never say anything to them.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Yeah, Well, thank you so much for coming on with Kenna.
Speaker 5 (32:32):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
Have a good rest of your day.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
Hi, you too.
Speaker 4 (32:35):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
We now have Lauren on Hey Lauren, Hi Daisy, how
are you. I'm doing great? How are you doing good?
Speaker 8 (32:58):
I have a story about social media.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
Oh I can't wait to hear. We're all about social
media today. So I'll just let you take it away.
Speaker 8 (33:07):
Okay, this just like to this day is the most
stupid thing that happened at my sorority. I think it
was so blown out of proportion.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
So I'll tell you.
Speaker 8 (33:19):
In college, my sorority, they were like normal strict about
social media posts, like they didn't want alcohol on your page.
They were like kind of weird about bikini picks if
they were too scandalous, and like they would kind of
leave comments and stuff. If you posted something, they'd leave
like a purple heart and they'd just be like, that's
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how you need to delete it, or they'd swipe up
on an Instagram story. And girls were always trying to
test the limits and like put an emoji over a
red solo cup or photoshop it out, and sometimes they
catch it. Sometimes they wouldn't like it felt like it
was pretty standard. But one year when we went through
our luck and like got all the new people on
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exec and got a new social media manager. Okay, there
was just one girl that came in, and it sucks
because she ran the instagram really well. It looked stunning,
but she was so strict about getting people in trouble
and it's like she wanted to get people in trouble.
It was just strange. She was on some sort of
(34:23):
power checks. But anyways, one of my friends like would
make tiktoks all the time, and she did this video
that was like a day in my life for sorority formal,
So she like took you throughout her whole entire day.
And then there was a bunch of clips of a
group of us at formal, and because we were at
our sorority's formal, there were like twenty girls form my
sorority in this video. Yeah, and she was really careful
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not to put alcohol in or anything because she was
like really trying to be an influencer. Like she took
these videos really seriously, so she didn't want to take
it down and she had a lot of followers, and
so anyway, she throws up the video. The next day,
we're at chapter in the social medium manager gives us
her update in the meeting and starts going on this
tangent about how she keeps busting all of these girls
(35:07):
were posting alcohol and like just being really agro about
it and quite frankly just rude to everybody, and.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Everybody's kind of like, what's going on.
Speaker 8 (35:16):
But then the next or that afternoon, I guess, like
right before chapter she had compted a purple heart on
the video that my friend threw up that I like
put up there that I was talking about, and we
watched it over and over, just being like, why would
she put this on there?
Speaker 1 (35:32):
There's no alcohol.
Speaker 8 (35:32):
We couldn't figure out what was wrong with it, and
so she just decided to ignore it. She was like,
this must have been a mistake. Then all twenty of
us girls or however many it was, got called into standards,
and nobody knew why. We're so confused. We get there
and they're like it's because or before they were like
it's because of this video, and we're like, what is
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wrong with this video?
Speaker 2 (35:55):
We could figure it out.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I feel like that's a thing like standards does. Sometimes
you don't know why you're getting called in, but you
get caught in.
Speaker 8 (36:03):
It's so drama, like they just want to scare you.
So anyways, we get in there and they told us
that it was because the background music in the video,
like the music that they were playing at formal, in
the background in the video had profanity. And we were like,
that's it. You played that music at your own formal.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Yeah, like you guys were in charge of playing the
music were so stupid.
Speaker 8 (36:28):
And they tried to argue it, but since we had
so many people, we were kind of able to argue
our case back and just be like, you guys are
the ones playing the music. And there was this whole
drama and all these calls and text to figure out
who had ox at the party and who was playing
the profanity.
Speaker 1 (36:44):
That's absurd.
Speaker 8 (36:45):
And then we got profanity banned from our formals so
we couldn't post it on social media like we had,
so all of the songs had to be the clean version.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
That's just like so ridiculous, that's so funny, Like I
like the college. So literally last night me and Thor
were looking through like DJs and bands that our wedding
player said to us, and we really really loved one
of the bands, but they wouldn't swear anytime it likes
so weird. They would say something else or just like
(37:16):
pause and like keep going, you know how they like
do on the radio. More was like I was like,
I like love them, I think they're great or whatever
and thorgas I do, but can we make sure they
like actually swear?
Speaker 4 (37:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
I was like, no, it's so true.
Speaker 8 (37:33):
It's just crazy that it was such a big deal
because like, I don't think swearing is a big deal.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Yeah, we're big kids. Yeah. So then did you guys
end up did you end up getting like a punishment
or no?
Speaker 8 (37:42):
Thank god we didn't, but I guess the punishment was
like taking away profanity from our music that we would
play out formals, which is like kind of lame, but
it's not an actual punishment. It just the whole thing
was very drawn out and dramatic for I think zero reason.
Speaker 1 (37:58):
Yeah, for sure. Well, thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 8 (38:03):
Of course, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
Okay, thanks for tuning in to Dirty Rush. We hope
you enjoyed this episode. The next episode, we will be
talking more about social media presence online and more all
about Rush, so tune back in
Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia Judice, Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Fessler.
Welcome back to another episode of Dirty Rush. I'm your
host Daisy Kent.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Today.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I'm here by myself, but we're gonna have callers calling
in and we're gonna unveil the secret rules of sorority
girls social media. We were talking to our guests about
what got them in trouble on their social media and
how they knew. Let's get into it. So I actually
went to SCSU as if you listened in before, you
probably know that. But I never got in trouble for
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posting anything. I don't think. But I remember when I
was in Alpha Fey at San Diego s if you
posted something that violated the guidelines, they would comment a
purple heart anyone on zech wood and then you would
have to just take it down. So a lot of
times it was like alcohol, or if it was like
a scandalous biki pick, but usually it wasn't anything bad.
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I don't think anything like super bad happened when I
was in my sorority. I know though, during recruitment before
we would always go and look at the girls that
were coming in and see who was coming in and
like kind of stalk them honestly figure out how much
we could know about them. So it's definitely I can't imagine.
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I mean, I was a freshman and that's crazy in
twenty seventeen, so like nine years ago. So I can't
imagine now how much people probably look at your social
media and stuff, because it's even it was so present
when I was even a freshman, but now, like TikTok
wasn't a thing then, So there's TikTok, and that is
(01:48):
you can see so much about a person on that.
So let's get into it and we'll get some guests
on and see their experience. So our first guess we
have on is Kendall. Hey Kendall, Hi Daisy, how are you.
I'm doing great? How are you doing good? Thanks for
coming on today.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Yes, I'm excited to talk about this because I did
a lot of prep going into college on my social media.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
You did for like getting into Storty.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Yeah, I went to the University of Arizona.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Okay, that one's pretty intense. I've heard.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Yeah, did you rush before you like went into syllabus week?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Like before freshman year started or no, ours was like
I think like two weeks into it. I think it
was like halfway through September. We rushed and then we
got our bids end of September, I believe.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Oh wow, okay, ours was kind of similar it was
before we started classes. So I was told that I
really had to, like everyone was supposed to kind of
clean up their social media before rush because in the summertime,
like girls will start to look at future prospects instagrams. Yeah,
and so I made sure I deleted all the alcohol
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photos I have, and I remember, even though it was
University of Arizona, I took off like bikini photos.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I archived them.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
And I even made like a bio and I just
really wanted my feed to look good. And I was
posting more because I wanted to make sure I was
like being active and I was kind of a little
overboard on it. But then I was told on the
other side of rush, once I was in a sorority,
that you're actually supposed to look at girls' instagrams and
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stalk them.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Did you do that when you were on the other
side of recruitment, Yeah, we definitely would, and like see
who was coming in even if it wasn't. I remember
me and my friends, like especially the first day after rush.
I remember going and like looking up everybody I talked
to and just trying to like catch their vibe too,
because you only get to talk to them for like
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what like ten minutes maybe right, but I remember doing that,
and then before I remember when we got on the list,
we like looked at which like, I know you're not
supposed to do that, but it definitely is like a thing.
It is a thing.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
And I also feel like maybe because I wasn't like
panellenic or president or something, but I never judged if
someone had a red solo cup or a bikini photo.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
But you're no. For me, I would be like, oh,
like they like to have fun, yea, make it up
fun other ways. But like I don't know, but I
think it a lot of it has to do like
with a sorority, like keeping like a good image. I
have no idea, but that's true. Did you ever post
anything in college that you had to take down?
Speaker 4 (04:35):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I mean I would.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Well, we would always like be extra and photoshop if
there was like a wine bottle on the table behind us,
but there were a lot of times where it was
an Instagram story and we would get taggs and things
and obviously want to repost it, so like not much
you can do. I think I got sent to standards
maybe like three times.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Were you scared the first time?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
No, because so I'm like, this is so dumb, and yeah,
you know I was. I was studying abroad when this happened,
and I'm not even like in the house, and I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Okay, they are broad. There should be like an exception, right, yeah,
because you can like drink in most places when you're
like eighteen, right, Yeah, I know that's so crazy.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I know it's so crazy, but I know nowadays social
media is a lot, you know, more involved in people's
lives than it was when I was in college.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
But yeah, that was my experience. Did you know, like
who you wanted, like what house you wanted to be
in before you did it? Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I don't know if that's like a good thing or
bad thing, but there was definitely like three houses. I mean,
I feel like everyone's this way three houses that I
was like I have to be in.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I want to be in so bad. Yeah, and it
worked out. But I got lucky when you got sent
to Sanders. Was there like any punishment or anything you got?
Speaker 3 (05:51):
They claimed I couldn't go to like the next date dash,
but I think they forgot because I did go.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
To the next stage. That's good. That seems like a
drastic pun I know. But also I don't know about you,
but our date dashes weren't actually that fun. Oh ours
were so fun, I'm jealous mine was not. And then
I remember sometimes if people got sent to standards, they
would make them be like sober sisters, so like they
couldn't drink at it.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
What?
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Yeah, when did they actually follow through with that? I
think most people did for like the date dash, because
I think they were kind of like so scared of
what would happen if they didn't. But then after that
everyone will go out to like the parties and.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Stuff, And I feel like before date dashes is when
people usually got in trouble for social media because they
were like posting the pregames and there was alcohol involved.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
And that was a no no. Yeah for sure. If
I'm back in Cane.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
What a time.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I would do anything to be back right. Well, thank
you so much for coming on, of course, Thanks Daisy. Okay, guys,
I have Savannah on Now. Hey Savannah, Hi, So where
did you go to school?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I went to school in Texas, which was really fun.
I loved Texas. It was a big like change of
scene for me being from California. I feel like they
definitely do things differently in Texas, but oh, really fun
for your experience.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, did you have going into like recruitment. Did you
have like did you go through social media and like
take anything off or did you know a lot about rush?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I mean I feel like you always hear like some
people are super stressed about it and they're telling you
to do like a million things. Then you hear like
the people that are like, wait, you don't need to
like touch your social media.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I feel like my social media was always very clean,
just because I cared about like farther from like recruitment,
just like yeah, that's a good reputation. But I remember
I had a photo with one of my friends who
was a year older and was in the sorority. I
wanted to go, and my mom was like, you have
to remove that or the other sororities are going to
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drop you. And she probably was right because oh that
is smart. Yeah, Like if I was like another swored
you'd be like, well, obviously she's gonna go this one
because she has photos with a girl who's literally like
on the private team. So I remember I had to
take that one down. But that was like the only
kind of like cleaning up I did. I know there's
like a lot of disgust between like going private or public,
(08:15):
though on your social media.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
There is I feel like I haven't heard that. What
have you heard about that?
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I just feel like some people were like it's better
to be private because then if they were quest you,
that means like they're like interesting.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
So they like want you.
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
But then I also heard that like if you're public,
then it like gives them like the like the optional
like stock you. But then like some people that's why
you should stay private. I feel like that was like
an interesting thing I thought about.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Yeah, it's like do you want to say like mysterious
or not?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Yeah, I don't know, Like I still don't know the
right answer.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
And then how about when you were in your sorority,
was there any guidelines to what you could post and
not post?
Speaker 2 (08:54):
For us, it was just like obviously if you're under
twenty one, no alcohol like period, and then if you
were like of the age of twenty one. They just
wanted you to be like posting like classy, like nothing
like unclassy, but you could like post technically.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
What would they do if like you had to take
it down like mine? They would comment a purple heart emoji,
like someone on Exact would that's so interesting, how about you?
Like was there anything?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
They just would DM you and like be like take
it down, and like, I feel like some girls like
you always like the Exact picking was like sometimes it
would be like such like chill girls who were like
your friends and like they didn't really care. And then
sometimes I just feel like girls on EXAC it was
like some of them not everyone like kind of a
power trip. So they would like use it to like.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Yeah, and they just want to like boss people.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Yeah, boss you around. And I remember when I was
on recruitment team, they like literally were making me. I
remember I posted a photo and it was like a
styrofoam cup and it had like the cutest little like
logo on it. It was like pink and purple, like
it could have been water. It probably wasn't water, but
it could have been water. And they were like this
needs to come down, right, now like super upset about it,
and I'm like, it's a white styrofoam cup, like it's
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not even clear, and so sometimes I just felt like
it was like a lot. But yeah, I get it.
I get it being on like the other side.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Yeah, oh that's for sure. Do you think like looking
at social media when you went into college, did you
look at the different sororities at your school once you
knew what school you were going to.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yeah, I think I followed them all, even like the
ones I didn't have interest in, because like I think
I just like heard that you were supposed to because
you didn't want to like not follow the ones you
were interested in. I feel like that's just a bad
look across the board.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Did you end up going in the one that your
friend was in?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, I did, but it's still good. I took down
the photo.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Oh it makes sense.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Oh yeah, no, but I was open. I was open,
but it was like good to like have it removed
so that there was like no issues with it.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Did you ever get in trouble or sent to the
standards or anything.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Never got sent to standards, thank good. But yeah we
got in trouble for like weird stuff. I remember like
when I lived in the house, there was like a
study room and we got all these like dispo photos
from someone's camera and she like had a bunch of
printed so we're like, let's hang them in the study room.
Like they were all like at football games, like very mellow,
(11:18):
and we literally all got like a talking too, because
there was again styrofoam cups, which I.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Was like, it was just like those styrofoam cups, and.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
It was like clear cups, like of course if it's
from the styre yes literally and I'm like, of course,
if like there's a logo on a can, like we
would not put that up in the house. But like
it was like lear cups that were probably water like.
We were like, but no, we were in a lot
of trouble for that, and like I'm trying to think
the other time I got in trouble. Oh, we like
(11:48):
we were at a birthday dinner and it was like
one of those dinners we have to like hit a minimum. Yeah,
they like got a bottle because they had hit like
two grand at this dinner, and we walked into the
house with it and we were like eating cake, like
no one was drinking the bottle was sealed shut, and
like we all like people I think got abs, Like
we are like kind of like ra person walked in
(12:09):
and like was like, you guys are drinking and the
bottle was not open, but.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
We actually haven't opened it.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
It's just being so calm and just eating cake. But
thank you for ruining that.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I know it is. I can't even imagine, like now
how much like they dig into people's social media is.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
It's just getting bigger and bigger.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Yeah, even with like followers and stuff too. Like I
feel like the scale of like people having followers now
to like when I was in like starting college is
like way like bigger, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Yeah, And I feel like when I was going through recruitment,
like every sorty had a social media but it was
very like mellow. But now like yeah, sorties at my school,
like is lit are like influencers and like they have
this huge following and I'm like, I wonder if that
like switches people's perspective on wanting to go that swarty
based on like the social media following of the Instagram,
which is so interesting. It is like all the recruitment
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videos are such a big thing now.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Yeah, like watching them and all the dances and everything. Yes,
I'm like I would be the one in the back
like holding the post.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
For exactly exactly just leaving the armstock and forth.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah. Well, thank you so much for coming on today.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Of course, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Have a great rest of your day. Thank you. All right.
Our next caller we have is Emma. Hey, Emma, Hi Daisy,
how are you? I am doing great? How are you
doing good? I'm so happy to be here.
Speaker 6 (13:40):
I have some funny stories from social media because I
felt like it was very relaxed in my sorority.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Oh I love that.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Also, going into my sorority, I didn't even know that
like cleaning up your social media was a thing. I
already I had like a very clean feed anyways, but
like I was definitely a bikini girl.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
I was like the same way. I also like I
had no idea really what a sorority was. I ye,
maybe because I'm from like the middle of nowhere in Minnesota,
but I had no idea. My roommate made me sign up,
and then I remember going to the first house and
everyone was dancing and seeing I was like, yeah.
Speaker 5 (14:23):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 6 (14:24):
Like I like looked at the sorority's instagrams and I
was like, oh, this is so intimidating.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
But I didn't do it.
Speaker 6 (14:31):
I didn't follow any of them. I didn't know what
any of them meant. I knew that I like wanted
to go a certain direction because I knew someone.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
In the sorority.
Speaker 6 (14:39):
Yeah, but I definitely didn't clean mine up. And I
think that girls are now posts. I think bikini pictures
are completely fine.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
I loved a good bikini.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Pop for sure, because I was from California. Where did
you go to school?
Speaker 6 (14:53):
I went to school in Colorado. Oh cool and weirdly enough,
you know, there's no beaches there. But everyone was always
in a bikini on their insta.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Yeah. I like in college, everyone's in a bikini. Like,
no matter where you are.
Speaker 6 (15:06):
Yeah, our formals wear bikinis.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Yeah, where would you go with formals?
Speaker 5 (15:11):
You could go to Aspen?
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Oh fun?
Speaker 6 (15:13):
And so like our sorority instagram was like, yeah, our
sisters are hat formals and it's like us in bikinis.
So I always thought the bikini thing was just silly.
Oh but who ran our socials, which was actually my
really good friend Greta. She's the one posting she was
the one commenting on people's pictures, selecting like the sorority spotlight,
(15:37):
and so she was in full control of the Instagram.
For our spring break, we went to Jamaica and took
lots of bikini pictures.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
That's like a random spot I feel like to go
on college.
Speaker 6 (15:50):
Spring break, I know, but it was so much fun.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Okay, that's great. I mean, I'm sure it would be
a time.
Speaker 5 (15:57):
It was.
Speaker 6 (15:57):
It was the best. It was kind of like staying
in my Mexico, but it was like completely different vibe.
Not a lot of people there, so it was like
our group of twenty went there. That's so Red died
about lots of bikini pictures and so fast forward. She
my friend Greta is browsing. She always makes people like
send in pictures. I didn't send in any picture to
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be featured on the Instagram, but I was at home
and Greta posted a picture of me and my good
friend and our entire crotch was out in our bikini,
missing our sisters. Hope everyone's having a good spring and
I chat lit up and they're like, oh my god, Greta,
(16:41):
what the what the fuck is wrong with you? Why
did you just post their crotches on Instagram. And she
was like the sweetest girl ever. She's like, oh my god,
I didn't even notice, Like I kid you not.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Like, oh oh my god, were you like so upset?
Speaker 6 (16:56):
It was hilarious. I mean we're like, Greta, can you
take it down?
Speaker 5 (17:00):
I mean it's just like.
Speaker 6 (17:00):
All girls that follow the Instagram, So it's fine. But
our sorority, truly, I don't think really cared about social media.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
It was just like mar Chill that way.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
Yeah, I don't. I don't think I was ever. No
one ever commented on my Instagram. Our code word was bibbs,
bring it back sis bibbs.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Wait, that's kind of cute.
Speaker 6 (17:22):
Yeah, but I didn't have any friend, Like, no one
cared at all. Yeah, that's why I didn't know that
like cleaning up your social media was a thing and
now either like young rushies.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Yeah, I never had anything like bad on my social
media or like no alcohol either, because my mom was
always like telling me not to post that stuff. But
it was interesting like getting into college, because I feel
right when I got into college, it was like the
era where like social media like really started like having
(17:56):
a really big presence and people were like using it
for like jobs and like their life.
Speaker 6 (18:04):
Yeah, it seem like actually making money off of social media.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Yeah, it's like crazy to even where we're at now,
like people making social media on it. Like to see
in like the next ten years how much it evolves.
Speaker 6 (18:18):
Well, like what if you're one of those really cool
people that don't have social media and you're you're only
a cool person, but they like only keep track of
people with social media. I guess then they would be
way too cool for the sorority. But like, yeah, it's
interesting how it's kind of it's kind of like having a.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
LinkedIn Yeah college, Yeah for sure. Well, thank you so
much for coming on. Yeah of course, Hi Daisy, Howie,
(19:01):
thank you for coming on. Zoe.
Speaker 7 (19:04):
Hi, I'm Zoe and I went to school in a
big school in Los Angeles and our sorority we had
a really young house mom, and so sometimes she let
things fly that maybe wouldn't fly in other houses.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And I love that. How old was she about?
Speaker 7 (19:28):
She was twenty five, like she had graduated college and
then was our was our house mom, so I.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Had to have been like fifty fifty dibsh.
Speaker 7 (19:37):
Oh my gosh, Okay, So that was normal. That was
like every other house on the road. But so she
would let something slide in the house, like certain pregames
before events and whatever. But the number one rule was
always that you can't post anything on social media, yeah,
because then we could seriously get busted and then it
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would all go away. And I remember that we had
a tradition of every year before our we called it
Crush our crush date party. It like went around Valentine's
Day and it was basically where each girl would invite
their crush they had put down on a list, like
you know, a range of like three different crushes and
their phone numbers, and then our social chair would then
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reach out to them and so and they would go
to the venue separately from the girls, and so all
the girls would choke together and then all the crushes would.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Show up at the venue together.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
That's fun.
Speaker 7 (20:30):
And so girls would really want to get get some
liquid courage in themselves before showing up to the venue.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
And so every year we would they know who it
was going to be before they showed up. No, you
didn't know what if like we wanted the same guy though,
and then like I should have it with him, But
then they actually appeared me with a different guy.
Speaker 7 (20:51):
Yes, that would happen, and it would be like if Daisy,
you were older than me, you would be like higher
up on the list. And then I think it would
be like an alphabetical thing. So two girls wouldn't be
inviting the same guy. Each girl got their own or date,
Each girl got their own crush to go, so you
didn't know exactly unless they had told you, but you
didn't know if it was you then invited them or not.
(21:12):
And everything was like a secret. It wasn't a public sheet.
So also stay we would do a pregame at our
sorority house prior to the date party, and the number
one rule was that we all nobody could post or
(21:32):
take a single video at this pregame or else it
would all go away and we would girls would get
very drunk and they we would make like this jungle
juice at the house. Jungle juice so fun for everyone
to do. But there was the way that we would
coordinate this because we also didn't like want a paper trail,
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as we had this private Facebook group and like nobody
uses Facebook anymore, and we would have this private Facebook
group where everybody would like discuss the details of the
pregame that was happening because it couldn't be on like
our sorority chat.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (22:13):
And then I remember I was a junior and we
had had like three years of this going on where
no one had found out. Girls and other storties didn't
find out because if they saw something on social media
that this was going down, they would report it to
their house moms or whatever and be like, why can't
we do this? Yeah, so, and it was also only
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girls in the sorority were allowed, like even if even
if your date going to day party was a girl,
she could not be allowed to come. And I remember
one year one of my best friends got really drunk
and ended up posting something to not just like her
Snapchat private story, but her Instagram story, and it was
a video of the pregame going on, and she was
(22:56):
like I love these ladies, they're my sisters, like something
like that.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
And that probably does around so fast, Oh my gosh,
so fast, especially it's on your public Instagram story.
Speaker 7 (23:07):
And it was flagged pretty instantly by our EXEC because
they're members of EXEC that like weren't allowed to go
to the party because they had to make sure like
everyone was going to stay safe and get all the
asses okay and whatever. And she not only was like
in so much trouble internally with the sorority, but it
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was also just like so much shame because this was
like a sacred pregame that nobody could know about and
it was like one of my good friends and she
like it ended up the next year we like were
able to do it because it was just too risky
and it was honestly too risky regardless. But yeah, she'll
forever go down as the one who the one who
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pre crushed the crush pregame.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Oh that's such a bummer. It's like fun to doing
something like that.
Speaker 7 (23:58):
Yeah, I mean it was memories. Were those of us
that had memories of the night. We were so much fun.
But it was something we just knew was bound to
with social media, it's.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
So usual, like, well it lasted.
Speaker 7 (24:13):
Yeah, it was fun.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Well it lasted.
Speaker 7 (24:15):
But no, we weren't able to do it senior year
because yeah, she kind of ruined it for the rest
of us, but it was kind of bound to happen.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Did you before you went into school, did you like
clean up your social media at all or anything, or
was it just like you didn't even think about it
kind of or didn't have anything to clean up.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
I definitely remember like really cool, like, well, I guess
I didn't really have that much alcohol my senior year
of high school, but if I had a red solo
cup in something or whatever, I would make sure that
I that I took that out. I remember trying to
post more just like good photos of myself and make
myself look fun and bubbly and pretty and like like
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I have a lot of friends and whatever, because I think, yeah,
and you think of the when you're like does this
really matter? Okay, I'll just do it just just to
be safe, and then you do kind of realize when
you're on the other end of it and Rush, that
people do look at that, but you can't if you're private.
Maybe I did go public before Rush, because if you're private,
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then no one could see anything that you have on there.
I feel like I shaped up my Instagram too, more
like for other girls who were going to be in
my you know, just like going into college you wanted
you know, that's like someone's first impression of you a
little bit before.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
You could meet them at school. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (25:38):
So, and I felt like everyone was following each other
once you knew that you got in and you're posted
on like the well like a minute for sure accounts
or whatever.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
I remember even like posting in like a Facebook, like yeah,
when I was like trying to find my roommate and
I knew you'd like post like a few pictures of
you be like looking for a roommate.
Speaker 8 (26:02):
Yeah, I remember that so well.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
About thinking as I ended up with my roommate and
she's like now my best friend, like forever?
Speaker 7 (26:09):
Did you find her on Facebook?
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Yeah? We found each other on Facebook.
Speaker 7 (26:12):
Okay, me too, I found and we're best friends still.
But that's I do think there's something to the Facebook groups,
like right you find.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
Like usually that doesn't happen like usually. I think I'm
the only one out of like my whole entire friend
group who ended up being like best friends with their
really really yeah friend group. But we I do feel
like stuff too.
Speaker 7 (26:32):
But yeah, I do feel like that's pretty rare. But
it's so special. She going to be Is she going
to be in your wedding?
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Yeah? She's made of honors. I have four Madive honors,
but she's one of them. Oh my gosh, you have four? Yeah?
I was like my wedding to do whatever I want
to do.
Speaker 8 (26:52):
I love it.
Speaker 7 (26:53):
Oh my gosh, that's so great.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Well, thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Thank you, thank you so much for having me da.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Okay, guys, we have our next caller in. This is McKenna. Hey, McKenna,
thanks for coming off. How are you. I'm doing so good.
How are you?
Speaker 5 (27:09):
I'm good?
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Okay, So today we're talking about like social media guidelines
for sororities. Let's start off with did you ever go
like before you went into a sorority, did you look
at their instagram and did you like clean yours up
or anything?
Speaker 9 (27:24):
Oh my gosh, I stalked all of the instagrams, okay,
sororities before, and I made sure to follow all of
them because I heard all of this stuff beforehand about
they'll see and you're following if you don't follow ones,
and then that'll give you a bad look. And so
I made sure to follow like everyone. And I was
always liking all of the posts before.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
That's like such a true thing. Like when I was
going and like talking to a girl.
Speaker 9 (27:52):
Always thought that if I liked it, they're gonna notice
that I liked it. And then they're gonna No, that's
so funny but like so real.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
And then did you get once you got in a sorority?
Did you ever get in trouble for posting anything?
Speaker 9 (28:07):
Okay, so I didn't get in trouble. What my friends did.
It was freshman and it was one of my friends.
We were all in the same sorority, and we went
to my friend's birthdays and we went wine tasting and it.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Was freshman beer.
Speaker 9 (28:20):
So we were not twenty one yet, but it was
right around when we thought that like wine glasses were
so aesthetic and cute.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
Also that's like so fun honestly that there's something about
being like right about to turn twenty one and just
like holding the wine glass.
Speaker 9 (28:37):
Yeah, and it's like even in any of the pictures,
it's like the tiniest pore ever because it's a tasting obviously.
Speaker 5 (28:43):
But I remember we all like I.
Speaker 9 (28:45):
Posted something and I didn't tag where we were at,
but then a few of my friends like tagged like
blank winery and then they got a DM from the
Instagram saying like NOP in all caps like notp which
I did like know any of I think that there
was some sort of like training I was supposed to do.
Speaker 5 (29:04):
To know what that acronym not meant. I had no
idea what it meant.
Speaker 9 (29:08):
I thought that they were like spelling Nope, wrong, and
so I was just like, they don't even know what
it's like.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Nope. Maybe it could have been that. Was it always
your sorority that would DM you? Or would it ever
be the girls on exec that would like comment or
DM you about it?
Speaker 9 (29:25):
So it was the I always thought I ended up
being the manager of our social media later on, which
is like funny, but what is funny? I always thought
that it was the VP of Marketing and PR that.
Speaker 5 (29:39):
Said it through the account.
Speaker 9 (29:41):
Actually it was for us, it was the VP of
standards and so that member of it would go in
and then basically anything that had anything they deemed like
not our pillars.
Speaker 5 (29:51):
It would be like, I'm so now I'm not.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
That's funny. And then when you because you said you
knew a lot about sororities and stuff before you went
through a groupment, We're like, looking at all their instagrams?
Did the instagrams and social media influence what house you
wanted to be in?
Speaker 9 (30:11):
I had a really like set mindset going in because
one of my best friends from home.
Speaker 5 (30:18):
It was a year above me was in a certain.
Speaker 9 (30:19):
One, and so I did not make sense really open mind,
but I always sort of knew I was gonna go there,
but definitely looking around the instagrams and honestly, like seeing
all the comments like that really piqued my interest to
like see which ones had people actually interested, like the
members actually commenting and like seeming like they had.
Speaker 5 (30:39):
A lot of fun and like a big community.
Speaker 9 (30:42):
So that made me want to join one of over another,
just to make it seem like they really had like
a tight knit group that actually hung out and liked
each other and stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
I will tell you there is nothing like I remember
when I got to college and I joined my sorority
and like the first pick I threw up like that,
It's probably the most comments on an Instagram post I
had ever got in my life. It was crazy, like
my had to be skybalcketing.
Speaker 9 (31:09):
The first time I got posted on the like social media,
the sorority social media, I was like starstruck. I was like,
no way they write this account.
Speaker 5 (31:21):
It's so funny.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
It's such a fun thing though, honestly, but it's crazy
to think about now, Like we have, like social media,
and it like impacts so much, and like even back
to when like our parents were in school, like it
didn't play an aspect of it. So that's so interesting
to think about.
Speaker 9 (31:39):
You know, I met my roommate on social media before
she DMed me and now we've been in my peas.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, do you think your sorority was like more strict
than other sororities are like the same?
Speaker 5 (31:51):
No, I feel like it was less.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
At least.
Speaker 9 (31:55):
I mean maybe I played a role into that because
when I was on the when I was in charge
of it, I.
Speaker 5 (32:01):
Didn't really get more relaxed.
Speaker 9 (32:04):
People would post a photocircle type thing to get posted
on the Instagram, and if it was honestly crazy, like
some of the freshmen would post pictures from like frat
parties on it with drinks in their hand and expect
that to get posted on like our official account.
Speaker 5 (32:19):
And I was I would always see that and I'd
be like, what are you like? What are you thinking?
I can't post this? You're eighteen? You know. I would
never say anything to them.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Yeah, Well, thank you so much for coming on with Kenna.
Speaker 5 (32:32):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
Have a good rest of your day.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
Hi, you too.
Speaker 4 (32:35):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
We now have Lauren on Hey Lauren, Hi Daisy, how
are you. I'm doing great? How are you doing good?
Speaker 8 (32:58):
I have a story about social media.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
Oh I can't wait to hear. We're all about social
media today. So I'll just let you take it away.
Speaker 8 (33:07):
Okay, this just like to this day is the most
stupid thing that happened at my sorority. I think it
was so blown out of proportion.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
So I'll tell you.
Speaker 8 (33:19):
In college, my sorority, they were like normal strict about
social media posts, like they didn't want alcohol on your page.
They were like kind of weird about bikini picks if
they were too scandalous, and like they would kind of
leave comments and stuff. If you posted something, they'd leave
like a purple heart and they'd just be like, that's
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how you need to delete it, or they'd swipe up
on an Instagram story. And girls were always trying to
test the limits and like put an emoji over a
red solo cup or photoshop it out, and sometimes they
catch it. Sometimes they wouldn't like it felt like it
was pretty standard. But one year when we went through
our luck and like got all the new people on
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exec and got a new social media manager. Okay, there
was just one girl that came in, and it sucks
because she ran the instagram really well. It looked stunning,
but she was so strict about getting people in trouble
and it's like she wanted to get people in trouble.
It was just strange. She was on some sort of
(34:23):
power checks. But anyways, one of my friends like would
make tiktoks all the time, and she did this video
that was like a day in my life for sorority formal,
So she like took you throughout her whole entire day.
And then there was a bunch of clips of a
group of us at formal, and because we were at
our sorority's formal, there were like twenty girls form my
sorority in this video. Yeah, and she was really careful
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not to put alcohol in or anything because she was
like really trying to be an influencer. Like she took
these videos really seriously, so she didn't want to take
it down and she had a lot of followers, and
so anyway, she throws up the video. The next day,
we're at chapter in the social medium manager gives us
her update in the meeting and starts going on this
tangent about how she keeps busting all of these girls
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were posting alcohol and like just being really agro about
it and quite frankly just rude to everybody, and.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Everybody's kind of like, what's going on.
Speaker 8 (35:16):
But then the next or that afternoon, I guess, like
right before chapter she had compted a purple heart on
the video that my friend threw up that I like
put up there that I was talking about, and we
watched it over and over, just being like, why would
she put this on there?
Speaker 1 (35:32):
There's no alcohol.
Speaker 8 (35:32):
We couldn't figure out what was wrong with it, and
so she just decided to ignore it. She was like,
this must have been a mistake. Then all twenty of
us girls or however many it was, got called into standards,
and nobody knew why. We're so confused. We get there
and they're like it's because or before they were like
it's because of this video, and we're like, what is
(35:55):
wrong with this video?
Speaker 2 (35:55):
We could figure it out.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I feel like that's a thing like standards does. Sometimes
you don't know why you're getting called in, but you
get caught in.
Speaker 8 (36:03):
It's so drama, like they just want to scare you.
So anyways, we get in there and they told us
that it was because the background music in the video,
like the music that they were playing at formal, in
the background in the video had profanity. And we were like,
that's it. You played that music at your own formal.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Yeah, like you guys were in charge of playing the
music were so stupid.
Speaker 8 (36:28):
And they tried to argue it, but since we had
so many people, we were kind of able to argue
our case back and just be like, you guys are
the ones playing the music. And there was this whole
drama and all these calls and text to figure out
who had ox at the party and who was playing
the profanity.
Speaker 1 (36:44):
That's absurd.
Speaker 8 (36:45):
And then we got profanity banned from our formals so
we couldn't post it on social media like we had,
so all of the songs had to be the clean version.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
That's just like so ridiculous, that's so funny, Like I
like the college. So literally last night me and Thor
were looking through like DJs and bands that our wedding
player said to us, and we really really loved one
of the bands, but they wouldn't swear anytime it likes
so weird. They would say something else or just like
(37:16):
pause and like keep going, you know how they like
do on the radio. More was like I was like,
I like love them, I think they're great or whatever
and thorgas I do, but can we make sure they
like actually swear?
Speaker 4 (37:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
I was like, no, it's so true.
Speaker 8 (37:33):
It's just crazy that it was such a big deal
because like, I don't think swearing is a big deal.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Yeah, we're big kids. Yeah. So then did you guys
end up did you end up getting like a punishment
or no?
Speaker 8 (37:42):
Thank god we didn't, but I guess the punishment was
like taking away profanity from our music that we would
play out formals, which is like kind of lame, but
it's not an actual punishment. It just the whole thing
was very drawn out and dramatic for I think zero reason.
Speaker 1 (37:58):
Yeah, for sure. Well, thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 8 (38:03):
Of course, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
Okay, thanks for tuning in to Dirty Rush. We hope
you enjoyed this episode. The next episode, we will be
talking more about social media presence online and more all
about Rush, so tune back in
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