MINISODE- BODY COUNT

Body count. It's one of the internet's favorite debates—but who actually benefits from the conversation?

In this bonus episode of Good Moms Bad Choices, the hosts unpack the double standards behind "body count" culture, why women continue to be shamed for their sexuality, and how that stigma distracts from what really matters: safe sex, honest conversations, and knowing your status.

They share personal experiences with sexual shame, challenge outdated ideas about purity and worth, and remind listeners that confidence, consent, and sexual wellness will always matter more than a number.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by
Care for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Listen, it seems like every man with a mic has
an opinion about how many people a woman has slept with,
and I mean every man.

Speaker 1 (00:12):
With them, every single one, And unfortunately some women have
been convinced to have that opinion too. We know, I
need you to come back. I need you to come
back to the good side.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
Today we are unpacking why body count culture exists and
who it actually serves, and why we are not fucking
with it any longer. This body count actually matter. I mean,
we know it doesn't, but when you're practicing safe sex,
the number is irrelevant. I literally don't count anyone that
I had a sex with with a condom. What matters
is is your health, your awareness, and your choices. Obviously,

(00:46):
the shame attached to this number has nothing to do
with your well being and everything to do with the
control of the fucking patriarchy.

Speaker 1 (00:54):
And the crazy part is is that body count shame
actually discourages women and men from getting tested and talking
openly about prevention because because HIV is still a real
conversation and we need to be having it and The
crazy part is is that body count shame actually discourages
women from getting tested and not just women meant to,
and discourages them from talking openly about prevention because HIV

(01:17):
is still a real conversation that we need to be having,
and the stigma around how many is the same stigma
that keeps people from getting the care and the prevention
that they deserve. Knowing your status, knowing your options, that
is what actually matters, right, I think at this moment,
like even just being a podcaster, we talk about sex
a lot. I have literally lost boyfriends from talking about

(01:41):
my sex life. I remember even in high school, like
you know that the whole shaming that happens in high school.
I remember like I cheated on my boyfriend and my
name around school was easy. It was like easy, Easy, Easy.
That show that's comatizing, I know, and that stuck with
me even like every time I even hear the rapper easy,

(02:01):
I'm like, I'm triggered. Okay, I'm still triggered by that.

Speaker 2 (02:05):
And that's like such a testimony to like how early
it starts. You don't even have any body count in
high school, yet they're still utilizing it. And like women
are so shamed from an early age. It's hard to
get out of that. And like, you know what I
see on the internet in our comments all the time,
you're ran through And I'm like, what the fuck does
ran through even mean? It means nothing. The concept is

(02:26):
built on a made up social standard with no real foundation.
Like men have historically been encouraged to explore their sexuality
even from childhood, like boys will be boys, they can freely,
like freely explore why women have been expected to remain
pure and palatable, which I'm fucking over.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
It's so true, And that double standard is a projection
rooted in the fear of sexually confident women. And we
all know who hate sexually confident women. Insecure ass men,
the insuls of the world. So the sooner women's stop
participating in acceptability politics around this, the sooner we move

(03:04):
past it.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
So, ladies, let's get this show on the road. Stop
suppressing yourself sexually if you're a confident woman to appease
these weak ass men. Literally, there's nothing wrong with you
for choosing to engage in safe sex that feels good
and serves you. Literally, that's what our pussies are made for.
It is not just birth, but it's for pleasure. Your
history does not determine your worth. And if someone's first

(03:27):
question about you is your body count, that tells you
everything you need to know about them. Women do not
exist to make anyone comfortable, so please, this is a
PSA announcement. Stop making weak ass men comfortable. It serves nobody,
not even them.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Yeah, and let's make sex wellness again. Let's make sure
that we know our status. Let's make sure that we
check in with.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
Our pussies, our minds, our souls, our spirits. If it's
not a fuck, yes, it's a hell no. Do you
hear me, ladies. If it's not a full body fuck, yes,
it is a hell no. This is so important because
you don't want to add trauma to your body doing
things that go against your pleasure. Tap into your pleasure
so we can get back to having healthy pussies, healthy minds,

(04:12):
healthy spirits, and healthy sexual experiences.

Speaker 1 (04:15):
Your body count doesn't matter, but you do, bitch. This
episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by Care
for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.