May 5, 2026 • 6 mins
B Daht kicks off this episode of IDKMYDE with "3 Useless Facts" about his Mommy: Irene Brenda Palm, on the 2-year anniversary of her passing.Then it gets into a history lesson about Cinco de Mayo that most people completely miss -- It's part remembrance, part underdog story, and part "we've been celebrating this wrong the whole time!".
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Welcome back nor It als to another episode of the
most anticipated podcast on the Black Effect Podcast Network, entitled.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
I'm your host, b Doc, And of course I like
to brag that my highest level of Spanish completed in
high school was Spanish two.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
I gotta C and then I.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Dibbled and diabbled a little bit in the Espano in
college at Winston Salem State University con Senior Bradshaw es
Verdad CRAYOKC. And of course I make mention of all
of that because this week is the celebration of Cinco
de Mayo for many, For you, boy, B Doc, it's
not much of a celebration at all. See be that
(00:43):
I lost his mom Cinco de Mayo twenty twenty four
if you've been keeping up around five fifteen pm on
Sinco de Mayo twenty twenty four. As a matter of fact,
so to kick off today's episode, I'm gonna give you
three of the most useless facts you'll never need ever,
not a day in life about my mama, Irene Brenda Palm.
(01:07):
Your first useless fact, my mama met Darryl Coley. Now
this is important because I found this out after her passing.
One of my brothers, Gerard Goldsmith, name is huge in
North Carolina with parties and endeavors of sorts. But he
knew my mama through church. He would hear my mama
talk about her son at Winston Salem State University and
(01:28):
had no clue she was talking about me. Meanwhile, Gerard
has booked me for more events than I can count.
The morning show I used to work on was the
wild Out wake Up Show, so we used to do
wild Out flyouts where we would take listeners to Josh
Hower basketball games. We did a wild Out flyout to
Dallas to watch Josh and the Mavericks.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Who and me and Gerard were roommates.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Like, this is my bro and he has a relationship
with my mother who brags about me, and he never
connected the dots until her passing. He and I were
talking recently at the yas U spring football game and
he started telling me, yeah, man, like I loved your mom.
I remember when she came over to the house and
met Darryl Coley. I said, what, my mama met Darryl Coley,
(02:11):
Like that was her favorite gospel artist ever. He was like,
I know I know she smiled from ear to ear.
And if it's one thing I missed more than anything,
is mommy smile. Your second useless factor about my Mommy
Irene Brenda Palm. She was a pioneer in the nail
industry in Greensboro, North Carolina, the first black nail business
(02:33):
owner in the city. My mama did everybody nail right
out of our dining room. She converted that space into
her nail salon, fingertips and toes.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Because that's what she specialized in. So creative she was.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Then she moved into that building on the corner of
Lee Street in Elm Street in Greensboro, and man she
took off. It was a hairstylist in the city, Bars
and Company and second to Dudley's. They pretty much ran
the city when it came hair. My mama ran the
city when it came to nails. So the two of
those entities merged together. Huh, group economics, collaborative efforts. My
(03:09):
mama was doing that in ninety three, ninety four, and
here I am twenty twenty six preaching it to my audience.
That's also a reason why I'm super comfortable getting manicures
and petticures. I've been getting them all my life. I
appreciate Mommy for preparing me, even when I ain't know
she was preparing me. And your third useless facts about
my mommy Irene Brenda Palm, that she was born in
(03:30):
Saint Louis, Missouri, February thirteenth, nineteen fifty eight. She was
a baby of five, my aunt Jackie, my uncle Bobby,
my uncle Rodney, my uncle Tyrone, and mommy. She graduated
from Beaumont High School, then she went to Fashion School
and got her associate's degree, and then here came me.
Those have been your three useless facts about my mommy,
(03:51):
Irene Brenda Palm so as stated, I will be reflecting
on Mommy this week, but for today's episode, do you
even know why you trying to take make down so
many tequila shots and tacos facinco de mayo? Like, do
you even know what you're celebrating? Because I didn't I
didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Maybe you didn't I didn't know. I didn't know. Maybe
you didn't need I didn't know. I didn't know. Maybe
you didn't need I didn't know. I didn't know. I
didn't know.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
So every year on May fifth, folks is outside tacos
tequila shots that bam bam bam fam for that band music,
just the Mexican vibes. But here's the part people missed.
Cinco de Mayo is not Mexico's Independence Day. It's not
the Espagno Fourth of July. It actually celebrates a battle
(04:38):
where Mexico was undermanned against France. It's called the Battle
of Puebla, and it was in eighteen sixty two. Mexico
was supposed to lose that war because this was France
were talking about. And in eighteen sixty two, you ain't
want no parts of France. They had the army, they
had the money, they had the confidence, they had the croissants.
It was France Mexico outnumbered, under equipped, and still got
(05:03):
the dub belt. So that wind became a symbol of
like resistance and pride and punching above your weight. Now
here's where it flips a little bit. In Mako. It's
mostly celebrated just in the town of Puebla. It's not
like this a nationwide shut the city down, everybody off
of work holiday in Mexico. But in the United States, Oh,
(05:24):
y'all have turned it into a whole Spanish production. In
the late eighteen hundreds, Mexican American communities in the States
they started celebrating. But by the time the eighties and
the nineties rolled around, all black folks said, let me
roll up a case adilla and throw on a sombrero.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
And then corporate America said.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You know what, this needs lime, salt and some marketing
and pam. Cinco de Mayo became what we see today now.
Black folks to the front of the room. Why y'all
celebrating Cinco de Mayo. Oh you gonna tell me, Oh, well,
I understand the underdog story, a group that wasn't posed
to wind beating a global powerhouse like friends.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Yeah, that's why I turn off for Cinco de Mayo.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Or you're gonna tell me, well, you know, we got
this shared history brother colonization, resistance, cultural pride, and she
in my community, Black and Mexicans, we live, work, celebrate
side by side. Anyway, I'll let you have it, because
sometimes it's deeper than people think. But most of the
time it's just tacos, tequila shots and a reason for
(06:25):
you to get outside on a Tuesday.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
But we all know two things can be true.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Just don't be the dummy out there getting drunk thinking
it's Mexican Independence Day because I didn't know, maybe you
didn't either.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Welcome back nor It als to another episode of the
most anticipated podcast on the Black Effect Podcast Network, entitled.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
I'm your host, b Doc, And of course I like
to brag that my highest level of Spanish completed in
high school was Spanish two.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
I gotta C and then I.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Dibbled and diabbled a little bit in the Espano in
college at Winston Salem State University con Senior Bradshaw es
Verdad CRAYOKC. And of course I make mention of all
of that because this week is the celebration of Cinco
de Mayo for many, For you, boy, B Doc, it's
not much of a celebration at all. See be that
(00:43):
I lost his mom Cinco de Mayo twenty twenty four
if you've been keeping up around five fifteen pm on
Sinco de Mayo twenty twenty four. As a matter of fact,
so to kick off today's episode, I'm gonna give you
three of the most useless facts you'll never need ever,
not a day in life about my mama, Irene Brenda Palm.
(01:07):
Your first useless fact, my mama met Darryl Coley. Now
this is important because I found this out after her passing.
One of my brothers, Gerard Goldsmith, name is huge in
North Carolina with parties and endeavors of sorts. But he
knew my mama through church. He would hear my mama
talk about her son at Winston Salem State University and
(01:28):
had no clue she was talking about me. Meanwhile, Gerard
has booked me for more events than I can count.
The morning show I used to work on was the
wild Out wake Up Show, so we used to do
wild Out flyouts where we would take listeners to Josh
Hower basketball games. We did a wild Out flyout to
Dallas to watch Josh and the Mavericks.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Who and me and Gerard were roommates.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Like, this is my bro and he has a relationship
with my mother who brags about me, and he never
connected the dots until her passing. He and I were
talking recently at the yas U spring football game and
he started telling me, yeah, man, like I loved your mom.
I remember when she came over to the house and
met Darryl Coley. I said, what, my mama met Darryl Coley,
(02:11):
Like that was her favorite gospel artist ever. He was like,
I know I know she smiled from ear to ear.
And if it's one thing I missed more than anything,
is mommy smile. Your second useless factor about my Mommy
Irene Brenda Palm. She was a pioneer in the nail
industry in Greensboro, North Carolina, the first black nail business
(02:33):
owner in the city. My mama did everybody nail right
out of our dining room. She converted that space into
her nail salon, fingertips and toes.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Because that's what she specialized in. So creative she was.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Then she moved into that building on the corner of
Lee Street in Elm Street in Greensboro, and man she
took off. It was a hairstylist in the city, Bars
and Company and second to Dudley's. They pretty much ran
the city when it came hair. My mama ran the
city when it came to nails. So the two of
those entities merged together. Huh, group economics, collaborative efforts. My
(03:09):
mama was doing that in ninety three, ninety four, and
here I am twenty twenty six preaching it to my audience.
That's also a reason why I'm super comfortable getting manicures
and petticures. I've been getting them all my life. I
appreciate Mommy for preparing me, even when I ain't know
she was preparing me. And your third useless facts about
my mommy Irene Brenda Palm, that she was born in
(03:30):
Saint Louis, Missouri, February thirteenth, nineteen fifty eight. She was
a baby of five, my aunt Jackie, my uncle Bobby,
my uncle Rodney, my uncle Tyrone, and mommy. She graduated
from Beaumont High School, then she went to Fashion School
and got her associate's degree, and then here came me.
Those have been your three useless facts about my mommy,
(03:51):
Irene Brenda Palm so as stated, I will be reflecting
on Mommy this week, but for today's episode, do you
even know why you trying to take make down so
many tequila shots and tacos facinco de mayo? Like, do
you even know what you're celebrating? Because I didn't I
didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Maybe you didn't I didn't know. I didn't know. Maybe
you didn't need I didn't know. I didn't know. Maybe
you didn't need I didn't know. I didn't know. I
didn't know.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
So every year on May fifth, folks is outside tacos
tequila shots that bam bam bam fam for that band music,
just the Mexican vibes. But here's the part people missed.
Cinco de Mayo is not Mexico's Independence Day. It's not
the Espagno Fourth of July. It actually celebrates a battle
(04:38):
where Mexico was undermanned against France. It's called the Battle
of Puebla, and it was in eighteen sixty two. Mexico
was supposed to lose that war because this was France
were talking about. And in eighteen sixty two, you ain't
want no parts of France. They had the army, they
had the money, they had the confidence, they had the croissants.
It was France Mexico outnumbered, under equipped, and still got
(05:03):
the dub belt. So that wind became a symbol of
like resistance and pride and punching above your weight. Now
here's where it flips a little bit. In Mako. It's
mostly celebrated just in the town of Puebla. It's not
like this a nationwide shut the city down, everybody off
of work holiday in Mexico. But in the United States, Oh,
(05:24):
y'all have turned it into a whole Spanish production. In
the late eighteen hundreds, Mexican American communities in the States
they started celebrating. But by the time the eighties and
the nineties rolled around, all black folks said, let me
roll up a case adilla and throw on a sombrero.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
And then corporate America said.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You know what, this needs lime, salt and some marketing
and pam. Cinco de Mayo became what we see today now.
Black folks to the front of the room. Why y'all
celebrating Cinco de Mayo. Oh you gonna tell me, Oh, well,
I understand the underdog story, a group that wasn't posed
to wind beating a global powerhouse like friends.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Yeah, that's why I turn off for Cinco de Mayo.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Or you're gonna tell me, well, you know, we got
this shared history brother colonization, resistance, cultural pride, and she
in my community, Black and Mexicans, we live, work, celebrate
side by side. Anyway, I'll let you have it, because
sometimes it's deeper than people think. But most of the
time it's just tacos, tequila shots and a reason for
(06:25):
you to get outside on a Tuesday.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
But we all know two things can be true.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Just don't be the dummy out there getting drunk thinking
it's Mexican Independence Day because I didn't know, maybe you
didn't either.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I
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