March 19, 2026 • 21 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Okay, a dating myth totally debunked. I have evidence, I
have actual receipts.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
So since I started the Core, I've learned so much
about alignment. And I always say having cameras on both
parties meaning I've alway understood a woman's perspective and then yes,
some men sharing things with me. But like now, really,
with apples to apples, I could see the differences between
men and women in dating and also all the stereotypes
(00:43):
that are true and untrue. And I've talked before about
many people saying there are no great men out there
categorically false. Men think that all women are gold diggers,
like there are a lot a lot, and women do
want a man with money, but false meaning gold diggers
not allowed in here. And it's such a broad term anyway,
like what a gold digger means. There are many women
(01:05):
in the CORES that would like someone who has quote unquote.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
A big program.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
But if these women don't bring anything to the table
and just have their hands out and are expecting, then
they're not a good fit. So what do I mean, Like,
if I want to be with someone who's at a
certain success level, which does shift by the way, you
go in wanting the apartment you want, and then you
end up giving up on a ceiling or a floor
(01:31):
or a location or something because God doesn't give you everything,
and choices are so big now. I was talking to
someone last night about the fact that I talk about
if the little corner is bent on, the puzzle piece
doesn't fit. There are so many more puzzle pieces now
than years ago Gilded Age there would four giant ropper room.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Children's puzzle pieces.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
You just sort of pick someone who was aligned in society,
and that's kind of what you did. So if I
want to be with someone who's successful, also, it's how
do you define success? Like can they afford to take
you out to dinner or a nice Vacasian or buy
you a nice Christmas gift? Do they have an island,
a private plane, a boat? Like for me, I have
a secure future, present and career and I don't need
(02:15):
a man to support me to buy a house, to
have a plane and a boat. If I meet someone
like that, that's great. But that type of person comes
with their own sort of program and they want everything
their way. In many cases, moguls are used to getting
what they want. They run the show they need someone
who just sort of follows suit. And I've spoken to
(02:36):
many people who are married to billionaires who they don't
really get to have their own voice and opinion. And
I don't want or need that. I don't want to
be somebody's plus one. And also I have my own
specific set of needs, like I don't want someone with
four children. That just wouldn't be the right dynamic for
me for a very specific reason that I won't want
to get into, but that would not work for me.
(02:58):
So that's where the apartment comes in. Let's say that
I met someone who had eight kids, who was smart
and entrepreneurial and had a lot of the things that
I thought I wanted, that dynamic might not work. Let's
say that someone had one kid and it worked great
with my dynamic, but they were a strict religious Jewish
person that didn't go out on Saturdays and kept a
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kosher house.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Maybe I wouldn't want that.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Like, everybody's allowed to want what they want within reason,
unless they're totally pricing themselves out of the market. But
one of the things that is the biggest myth debunked
that I've seen so far is that men who have
not gotten married or had kids by the age of
forty or fifty. Like forties or fifties, it's a red flag.
(03:45):
It is not a red flag. I thought so too,
because people have told me this for so long. I
have literally met and connected five men within the core
that are over fifty or at fifty, have never been
married and don't have kids. And the weirdest thing, this
most surprising thing, is that these men want their life partner.
(04:10):
These men all believe that either they were working so much,
or more importantly, this is really more common, they didn't
find their person. They've always wanted to find their person.
And maybe they didn't find their person because they were
working so hard. Maybe they just didn't luckily find their person.
How many of the people in all the world have
been your person, the one that got away, the one
(04:31):
you were madly in love with, the one that you
loved more than anything else. So if you're a man
who didn't want to settle and just do what most
men do, which is grab the girl that's closest to
you when you're ready, that's a common thing.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
They say.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Women marry the men that they fall in love with.
Men marry the woman who's right there. So if these
men a woman being right there was not enough for them.
And if these men were not willing to just grab
the women closest to them just to have a kid.
When the clock and the timeline in society said so,
then they lost their window. Okay, then they lost their window.
(05:04):
And then they're maybe in their fifties and they're like, wait,
I still want my person. And years ago when I
had a talk show, and even now when I talk
to people, I remember asking people, if you had the choice,
you could only choose one to find your person or
have a child, what would it be. I was in
my thirties. I thought everyone would say have a child.
I literally did. Everyone said find my person. I was
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like wait, and I didn't feel that way, Like I
would love to find my person, but I don't think
I would have given up having a child, and it
would have been having a child would have been my choice.
The point is, all of these men that I've met
are so dedicated, so intentional, and so committed, like they
know what they want. They have more of a free
life now they've made some money, or they've realized who
(05:46):
they are, or their parents have passed away, or one
parent has passed away, it has changed them, or they
know where they ultimately want to live, or who knows,
they know what they want. And these men with no
kids that have never been married, and some of them
have been engaged, they've been engaged, they've never actually gotten married.
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They really want a relationship and a life partner, and
some of them already have found that, some of them
have already committed. But I just think it is such
a false stereotype or dangerous fake news to spread the
fact that someone who's at a certain age as a
man women too. Women too, By the way, same thing
(06:28):
for women. I don't know why it's a double standard,
but it's always talked about with men that it's a
red flag for men. It's not a red flag for
a woman either, Like men will make up these things
like she doesn't have a lot of friends, it's a
red flag. Or she didn't get married by a certain
time or get engaged by a certain time, red flag.
It's not a red flag for a man or a woman.
It may be a function of who they have or
haven't met at that stage in their life. And also
(06:50):
these men also feel, oh wait, so over sixty percent
of marriages end up in divorced, So I'm supposed to
check a box to then get a divorce and be miserable.
Have a miserable divorce. It's like people's worst experience of
their life. In some cases that feels like a death.
I'm supposed to do that as a rite of passage,
just to check the box that I got married, just
so women don't think that I'm a red flag, like
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marry someone I don't really love, don't actually think is
the one, but think is convenient and right there at
the time I'm supposed to be getting married, But knowing
institutional knowledge from all of my friends and society and data,
and maybe being a logical analytical person, I don't want
to have a miserable divorce because I've seen so many
people I know and mothers and sisters and friends get
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divorced and it be traumatic and rip families apart and
do damage to children. Like I'm team man who's never
been married and never had kids, being true to himself
and to that and ultimately wanting to find a life
partner and saying I'd rather do that than just have
kids just to fill a quota. And if I hadn't
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met so many of these men, I wouldn't believe it
myself so many And I like that because for me,
I have one daughter.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I roll like.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
I like someone who hasn't had children yet who wants
to feel like they can be part of my daughter's
life as a family member for many reasons. I think
that would be good for me and for her. And
I like that because someone can like travel and go
with me to Pairispassion Week or come with me to something,
and I can go with them to things like they're
not that bogged down and they're super intentional and I
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don't know, I don't have an ex wife that's torturing
them and some bad divorce that you have to hear
about because mine was a nightmare. Like I think there
are a lot of positives to men who have never
been married and don't have kids if you're divorced, okay,
because they also might want the feeling of having some
version of like a family unit, and someone like me
might be able to give it to them.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I think it's a complete misrepresentation of a situation in
life and in dating. Everyone has something wrong, Okay, I'm
just realizing this. Men have sleazy sides, like I see
(09:15):
men have sleezy sides. They play the short game. They
just want to get laid. They make it so apparent
they can't control themselves. Women want money, not every woman,
and this is not blanket statements. There are wonderful, class
yellgant men, and there are wonderful women. I'm saying that
I'm seeing this especially in the dating community. Women they
just are like so nitpicky, or they just want money,
(09:36):
or they criticize the way someone texts.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
They think nothing's wrong with them.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
They judge every single comma and shoe that someone wears,
and shirt that someone chooses, and receding hairline that someone has.
I'm just going to tell you every single person is
fucked up. There are very successful, very famous people in here.
The men are so much easier. The other day a
video talking about how every man between forty five and
(10:02):
sixty five is talking about longevity and peptides and all
this shit. But that's just what they're doing. They're kind
of keeping it to themselves. They're not up your ass women.
I am pro women. I love women. In the world
of dating, I will tell you women are a nightmare.
Men are so logical and so patient and so open
(10:22):
and will go out with someone like yes, if they
don't want to go out with someone that looks a
certain way that they don't like, or has kids that
they don't want, or whatever, they're like, I don't think,
so they don't give you an over explanation, a criticism,
a dramatization, and many of them will just be open.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
They will just be more open.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Women that have less going for them in many cases
than the men. We'll be like no, not for me,
not for me, and women will turn down the men
and stop dating the men that are like so much
more desirable than the women, Like I only have one
situation and one man here where he has overvalued himself
because a lot of times a man is a big
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fish in their market. So let's say it's like New
York versus like Cleveland or Des Moines or some area
like I'm not gonna say the actual area because it
would be too bullseye, but like, some men are a
big deal in their area, like big fish, small pond,
and they have such a distorted and delusional opinion of
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themselves because they're marginally attractive, have a little bit of money,
and they're not that tall, not that interesting, not that smart,
like marginal success, and they'll be so crazy picky with
the women that will be like, are you fucking okay?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
And then there'll be men.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
That are so much more successful and interesting that are open.
So you get one or two bad apples. And I
am literally thinking of a specific person, but by and large,
men are much more open, logical, easier, and lower maintenance
in the world of day. So women take note. Don't
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be a pain in the ass, try to be open,
try to be patient, because the men are so much
more easy to set up, and.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Men want to pay for it.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
They want to pay for it, they want to invest
in it, and men don't bother you to get it,
and therefore you give them more. The men are constructive, logical, open, patient,
and make you want to help them more, and you
end up helping the women more because you're helping the
women by connecting these men with amazing women. But you
(12:34):
know we are here for both. We help both. But
I will tell you women give you a run for
their money. So whatever you want to say to that
hate me, cancel me. These are actual facts.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
So Lily Allen is a singer and a songwriter, and
I guess she was married to Hopper from Stranger Things,
So stranger things have never happened then this, So she
wore a revenge dress. Now, traditionally a revenge dress is
a sexy, hot, black, little hoe bag Miami or Vegas dress.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Right, that's a revenge dress. You're wearing it, you're showing it.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It's gonna end up on social media, your ex is
gonna see it. It's my sports illustrated walk, which was
not a revenge walk. I didn't even know I was landing,
and I thought I was shitting the bed, which is
why if I'm ever asked to do it again, I'm
sure I will shit the bed because now will be
in my head. But anyway, her version of a revenge
dress has receipts on it. So she like married the
traditional revenge dress with a housewives reunion, and she showed
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up with receipts, So I guess her guy, her man
cheated on her, and she had literal receipts that she
printed onto a dress.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
He had bought presents, bought meals. She came.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
She like rolled her dress out on stage to let
everyone know. I'm not letting this motherfucker get away with it.
I once saw him on an app too, So I
don't know how long they been together because I saw
him not once, many times on an app and I
don't think it was more than a year ago. So
I don't know how long they've been together. I can't
imagine he's going and maybe I can't imagine. Maybe he
was on apps trying to meet friends quote unquote. I
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don't know, but I've seen him on those apps before,
so they probably met on the celeb app. Okay, so
(14:32):
I know a guy who was dating a younger woman.
I know many men who have dated younger women. Okay,
men who have dated younger women and they're hot, they're sexy,
and maybe they're twenty years younger, fifteen years younger. They're
the hot young piece, and then it doesn't work out
because they're dating a significantly younger, hot young piece, and
if they have kids, they don't relate, and the woman
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doesn't relate, and if the woman likes to go out
and travel and party and they don't like it's the alignment.
It's the music, it's the references, it's the alignment, it's
the lifestyle. You're not supposed to date people, for the
most part more than fifteen years difference. I don't even
love more than ten, but fifteen you lose me. For
me personally, I feel like five years younger is like
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okay and slightly ideal because I vibe young. I didn't
realize that, Like I've gone out with men that are
thirteen years older and it feels old, which again means
I'm old. Eight years younger is like pushing it, and
five years younger is okay, Like two three years older
is bullseye ideal.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
My age is fine, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
So they saw the girls before, they see the hot pictures,
they see the hot outfits, they get turned on by it.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
They want to go out with them.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
They're either insecure, it makes them feel younger, they just
want to have sex with them. It just makes them
feel good, look good. I can get a girl like this.
I want women younger. A lot of the men say
they want women significantly younger. They give their age range.
And there have actually been people that I've connected to
one app but not another because on the other app,
it didn't give me to them because it's stricter about
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the age, so it doesn't feed them people and they
might not have said they want to be with.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Someone who's five years younger. But then on another app
it's a little more lenient.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
They see my picture and they're like, all right, because
you go to get the apartment that you think you want,
and then you end up being flexible on things on
ceiling height, on baptob on view because in the beginning,
of course you're going with your ideal, you start to
stretch your standards.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
It doesn't mean you're settling.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
It means you might get one apartment in your price
range for what you really want, so then you have
to adjust. You might get one person serve to you
on an algorithm for what you want, so you have
to adjust. So I might not be in someone's quote
unquote ideal fantasy unicorn search, but in real life, shit happens.
Everybody has a planet, so they get punched in the face.
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So these men go for these women and they're like,
I want someone. I know I'm sixty, but I want
someone thirty eight. Okay, then you break up with them.
Then you start to see these young hawk girls with
the other guys. They might have more money than you,
as much money, or they are going out with guys
that are taking them to Coachella, taking them on planes,
taking them to tou Loom to you know, award shows,
(17:11):
Beverly Hills, shopping, air Mez. You're seeing that they're buying,
and then you're judging that these girls have sponsors. Now
everyone talks about men as sponsors. She has a sponsor,
and people talk about women that are with men who
are cheating on their wives, and it's like, what level
of sponsorship, what type of membership do they have?
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Are they the exclusive fuck.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Around with the guy, then they have a higher level
of sponsorship membership. Okay, if the guy fucks around with
many women, they're one of many sponsored women. And it
happens with tech billionaires where they've got a couple of
people in their stable on their roster. Many of these
women have tried to come into the Core because they
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know the type of men we have, and we don't
let them into the Core because we know they have
a sponsor program and we don't respect that. We're not
judging that. I'm not judging that. You want to go out,
you want to get your literal bag, your figurative bag.
You want to go out to dinner, you want to
be part of it, you want to go to the clubs,
you want to end up your asset mar a Lago.
You do what you want to do. You want to
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go to Yellowstone the billionaire community. You want to date billionaire.
You want to do what you want to do. You
want to fly private with these people for the weekend.
As the fuck around find out, we had a woman
who has gone out with a sports team owner multiple billionaires,
then got a reputation with the other billionaires who do
want a life partner, the successful men, and they flag
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these people being like, look, this person may be hot
and amazing, but this is the deal. We choose to
not have that because we choose to have people who
want a life partner, and we don't want to set
up a man with a woman who's stunning, who's going
to go out to dinner, but the woman's a semi
pro because the man's going to go out to dinner
with them, think he could possibly get her fall in
love with her. He wants a life partner, he wants
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real relationship. It's not a line because we know that
she prefers to be sponsored. She may be a great person.
That's why you have to be careful as a woman
with what you do in your track record, because you
may be playing the short game. You may be hot, stunning,
et cetera. And you may be going for the big
game hunt on the short term. But if you are
the girl that's gonna go with the married man, you're
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gonna get a reputation. And then when the real man
comes along, he's gonna know that that's on your resume
and he's not gonna like it. And you might have
been a good person, you just played the short game.
So you need to not play the short game. You
need to play the long game and be patient. Even
in your neighborhood. It doesn't mean even if you don't
dabble with these types of billionaires, it doesn't mean that
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I'm just giving you an example of how you fuck around.
You find out you play the short game, you get
the short prize. So we've maintained a strictness. Now even
like apps like the league that used to be all
Ivy League.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
They've opened it. You have a lot of people that
aren't Ivy League.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
You have people that used to be super successful and
now it's some super successful and some marginally successful or
just employed. So we have stayed strict because, like I've
told you many times, I don't know how far I
take this business. I could take it all the way
I could take it where it's just justifying the risk
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and cost of doing business and employing these people. That
it does take some bandwidth that I do have to
answer questions and my team does have to use some
of its bandwidth on this, but it is doing a
service because people are really connecting a meeting. So I'm
just saying the sponsorship program is real. And don't hate
the player, hate the game, but be very discerning. Remember
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everything you do, everyone you go out with, it's getting
added to your resume. Everyone talks, everyone has social media,
and people will find out per to do to a
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pers
Okay, a dating myth totally debunked. I have evidence, I
have actual receipts.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
So since I started the Core, I've learned so much
about alignment. And I always say having cameras on both
parties meaning I've alway understood a woman's perspective and then yes,
some men sharing things with me. But like now, really,
with apples to apples, I could see the differences between
men and women in dating and also all the stereotypes
(00:43):
that are true and untrue. And I've talked before about
many people saying there are no great men out there
categorically false. Men think that all women are gold diggers,
like there are a lot a lot, and women do
want a man with money, but false meaning gold diggers
not allowed in here. And it's such a broad term anyway,
like what a gold digger means. There are many women
(01:05):
in the CORES that would like someone who has quote unquote.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
A big program.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
But if these women don't bring anything to the table
and just have their hands out and are expecting, then
they're not a good fit. So what do I mean, Like,
if I want to be with someone who's at a
certain success level, which does shift by the way, you
go in wanting the apartment you want, and then you
end up giving up on a ceiling or a floor
(01:31):
or a location or something because God doesn't give you everything,
and choices are so big now. I was talking to
someone last night about the fact that I talk about
if the little corner is bent on, the puzzle piece
doesn't fit. There are so many more puzzle pieces now
than years ago Gilded Age there would four giant ropper room.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Children's puzzle pieces.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
You just sort of pick someone who was aligned in society,
and that's kind of what you did. So if I
want to be with someone who's successful, also, it's how
do you define success? Like can they afford to take
you out to dinner or a nice Vacasian or buy
you a nice Christmas gift? Do they have an island,
a private plane, a boat? Like for me, I have
a secure future, present and career and I don't need
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a man to support me to buy a house, to
have a plane and a boat. If I meet someone
like that, that's great. But that type of person comes
with their own sort of program and they want everything
their way. In many cases, moguls are used to getting
what they want. They run the show they need someone
who just sort of follows suit. And I've spoken to
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many people who are married to billionaires who they don't
really get to have their own voice and opinion. And
I don't want or need that. I don't want to
be somebody's plus one. And also I have my own
specific set of needs, like I don't want someone with
four children. That just wouldn't be the right dynamic for
me for a very specific reason that I won't want
to get into, but that would not work for me.
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So that's where the apartment comes in. Let's say that
I met someone who had eight kids, who was smart
and entrepreneurial and had a lot of the things that
I thought I wanted, that dynamic might not work. Let's
say that someone had one kid and it worked great
with my dynamic, but they were a strict religious Jewish
person that didn't go out on Saturdays and kept a
(03:19):
kosher house.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Maybe I wouldn't want that.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Like, everybody's allowed to want what they want within reason,
unless they're totally pricing themselves out of the market. But
one of the things that is the biggest myth debunked
that I've seen so far is that men who have
not gotten married or had kids by the age of
forty or fifty. Like forties or fifties, it's a red flag.
(03:45):
It is not a red flag. I thought so too,
because people have told me this for so long. I
have literally met and connected five men within the core
that are over fifty or at fifty, have never been
married and don't have kids. And the weirdest thing, this
most surprising thing, is that these men want their life partner.
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These men all believe that either they were working so much,
or more importantly, this is really more common, they didn't
find their person. They've always wanted to find their person.
And maybe they didn't find their person because they were
working so hard. Maybe they just didn't luckily find their person.
How many of the people in all the world have
been your person, the one that got away, the one
(04:31):
you were madly in love with, the one that you
loved more than anything else. So if you're a man
who didn't want to settle and just do what most
men do, which is grab the girl that's closest to
you when you're ready, that's a common thing.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
They say.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Women marry the men that they fall in love with.
Men marry the woman who's right there. So if these
men a woman being right there was not enough for them.
And if these men were not willing to just grab
the women closest to them just to have a kid.
When the clock and the timeline in society said so,
then they lost their window. Okay, then they lost their window.
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And then they're maybe in their fifties and they're like, wait,
I still want my person. And years ago when I
had a talk show, and even now when I talk
to people, I remember asking people, if you had the choice,
you could only choose one to find your person or
have a child, what would it be. I was in
my thirties. I thought everyone would say have a child.
I literally did. Everyone said find my person. I was
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like wait, and I didn't feel that way, Like I
would love to find my person, but I don't think
I would have given up having a child, and it
would have been having a child would have been my choice.
The point is, all of these men that I've met
are so dedicated, so intentional, and so committed, like they
know what they want. They have more of a free
life now they've made some money, or they've realized who
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they are, or their parents have passed away, or one
parent has passed away, it has changed them, or they
know where they ultimately want to live, or who knows,
they know what they want. And these men with no
kids that have never been married, and some of them
have been engaged, they've been engaged, they've never actually gotten married.
(06:07):
They really want a relationship and a life partner, and
some of them already have found that, some of them
have already committed. But I just think it is such
a false stereotype or dangerous fake news to spread the
fact that someone who's at a certain age as a
man women too. Women too, By the way, same thing
(06:28):
for women. I don't know why it's a double standard,
but it's always talked about with men that it's a
red flag for men. It's not a red flag for
a woman either, Like men will make up these things
like she doesn't have a lot of friends, it's a
red flag. Or she didn't get married by a certain
time or get engaged by a certain time, red flag.
It's not a red flag for a man or a woman.
It may be a function of who they have or
haven't met at that stage in their life. And also
(06:50):
these men also feel, oh wait, so over sixty percent
of marriages end up in divorced, So I'm supposed to
check a box to then get a divorce and be miserable.
Have a miserable divorce. It's like people's worst experience of
their life. In some cases that feels like a death.
I'm supposed to do that as a rite of passage,
just to check the box that I got married, just
so women don't think that I'm a red flag, like
(07:13):
marry someone I don't really love, don't actually think is
the one, but think is convenient and right there at
the time I'm supposed to be getting married, But knowing
institutional knowledge from all of my friends and society and data,
and maybe being a logical analytical person, I don't want
to have a miserable divorce because I've seen so many
people I know and mothers and sisters and friends get
(07:35):
divorced and it be traumatic and rip families apart and
do damage to children. Like I'm team man who's never
been married and never had kids, being true to himself
and to that and ultimately wanting to find a life
partner and saying I'd rather do that than just have
kids just to fill a quota. And if I hadn't
(07:57):
met so many of these men, I wouldn't believe it
myself so many And I like that because for me,
I have one daughter.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I roll like.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
I like someone who hasn't had children yet who wants
to feel like they can be part of my daughter's
life as a family member for many reasons. I think
that would be good for me and for her. And
I like that because someone can like travel and go
with me to Pairispassion Week or come with me to something,
and I can go with them to things like they're
not that bogged down and they're super intentional and I
(08:30):
don't know, I don't have an ex wife that's torturing
them and some bad divorce that you have to hear
about because mine was a nightmare. Like I think there
are a lot of positives to men who have never
been married and don't have kids if you're divorced, okay,
because they also might want the feeling of having some
version of like a family unit, and someone like me
might be able to give it to them.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I think it's a complete misrepresentation of a situation in
life and in dating. Everyone has something wrong, Okay, I'm
just realizing this. Men have sleazy sides, like I see
(09:15):
men have sleezy sides. They play the short game. They
just want to get laid. They make it so apparent
they can't control themselves. Women want money, not every woman,
and this is not blanket statements. There are wonderful, class
yellgant men, and there are wonderful women. I'm saying that
I'm seeing this especially in the dating community. Women they
just are like so nitpicky, or they just want money,
(09:36):
or they criticize the way someone texts.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
They think nothing's wrong with them.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
They judge every single comma and shoe that someone wears,
and shirt that someone chooses, and receding hairline that someone has.
I'm just going to tell you every single person is
fucked up. There are very successful, very famous people in here.
The men are so much easier. The other day a
video talking about how every man between forty five and
(10:02):
sixty five is talking about longevity and peptides and all
this shit. But that's just what they're doing. They're kind
of keeping it to themselves. They're not up your ass women.
I am pro women. I love women. In the world
of dating, I will tell you women are a nightmare.
Men are so logical and so patient and so open
(10:22):
and will go out with someone like yes, if they
don't want to go out with someone that looks a
certain way that they don't like, or has kids that
they don't want, or whatever, they're like, I don't think,
so they don't give you an over explanation, a criticism,
a dramatization, and many of them will just be open.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
They will just be more open.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Women that have less going for them in many cases
than the men. We'll be like no, not for me,
not for me, and women will turn down the men
and stop dating the men that are like so much
more desirable than the women, Like I only have one
situation and one man here where he has overvalued himself
because a lot of times a man is a big
(11:03):
fish in their market. So let's say it's like New
York versus like Cleveland or Des Moines or some area
like I'm not gonna say the actual area because it
would be too bullseye, but like, some men are a
big deal in their area, like big fish, small pond,
and they have such a distorted and delusional opinion of
(11:24):
themselves because they're marginally attractive, have a little bit of money,
and they're not that tall, not that interesting, not that smart,
like marginal success, and they'll be so crazy picky with
the women that will be like, are you fucking okay?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
And then there'll be men.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
That are so much more successful and interesting that are open.
So you get one or two bad apples. And I
am literally thinking of a specific person, but by and large,
men are much more open, logical, easier, and lower maintenance
in the world of day. So women take note. Don't
(12:02):
be a pain in the ass, try to be open,
try to be patient, because the men are so much
more easy to set up, and.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Men want to pay for it.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
They want to pay for it, they want to invest
in it, and men don't bother you to get it,
and therefore you give them more. The men are constructive, logical, open, patient,
and make you want to help them more, and you
end up helping the women more because you're helping the
women by connecting these men with amazing women. But you
(12:34):
know we are here for both. We help both. But
I will tell you women give you a run for
their money. So whatever you want to say to that
hate me, cancel me. These are actual facts.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
So Lily Allen is a singer and a songwriter, and
I guess she was married to Hopper from Stranger Things,
So stranger things have never happened then this, So she
wore a revenge dress. Now, traditionally a revenge dress is
a sexy, hot, black, little hoe bag Miami or Vegas dress.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Right, that's a revenge dress. You're wearing it, you're showing it.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
It's gonna end up on social media, your ex is
gonna see it. It's my sports illustrated walk, which was
not a revenge walk. I didn't even know I was landing,
and I thought I was shitting the bed, which is
why if I'm ever asked to do it again, I'm
sure I will shit the bed because now will be
in my head. But anyway, her version of a revenge
dress has receipts on it. So she like married the
traditional revenge dress with a housewives reunion, and she showed
(13:37):
up with receipts, So I guess her guy, her man
cheated on her, and she had literal receipts that she
printed onto a dress.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
He had bought presents, bought meals. She came.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
She like rolled her dress out on stage to let
everyone know. I'm not letting this motherfucker get away with it.
I once saw him on an app too, So I
don't know how long they been together because I saw
him not once, many times on an app and I
don't think it was more than a year ago. So
I don't know how long they've been together. I can't
imagine he's going and maybe I can't imagine. Maybe he
was on apps trying to meet friends quote unquote. I
(14:12):
don't know, but I've seen him on those apps before,
so they probably met on the celeb app. Okay, so
(14:32):
I know a guy who was dating a younger woman.
I know many men who have dated younger women. Okay,
men who have dated younger women and they're hot, they're sexy,
and maybe they're twenty years younger, fifteen years younger. They're
the hot young piece, and then it doesn't work out
because they're dating a significantly younger, hot young piece, and
if they have kids, they don't relate, and the woman
(14:54):
doesn't relate, and if the woman likes to go out
and travel and party and they don't like it's the alignment.
It's the music, it's the references, it's the alignment, it's
the lifestyle. You're not supposed to date people, for the
most part more than fifteen years difference. I don't even
love more than ten, but fifteen you lose me. For
me personally, I feel like five years younger is like
(15:18):
okay and slightly ideal because I vibe young. I didn't
realize that, Like I've gone out with men that are
thirteen years older and it feels old, which again means
I'm old. Eight years younger is like pushing it, and
five years younger is okay, Like two three years older
is bullseye ideal.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
My age is fine, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
So they saw the girls before, they see the hot pictures,
they see the hot outfits, they get turned on by it.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
They want to go out with them.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
They're either insecure, it makes them feel younger, they just
want to have sex with them. It just makes them
feel good, look good. I can get a girl like this.
I want women younger. A lot of the men say
they want women significantly younger. They give their age range.
And there have actually been people that I've connected to
one app but not another because on the other app,
it didn't give me to them because it's stricter about
(16:05):
the age, so it doesn't feed them people and they
might not have said they want to be with.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Someone who's five years younger. But then on another app
it's a little more lenient.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
They see my picture and they're like, all right, because
you go to get the apartment that you think you want,
and then you end up being flexible on things on
ceiling height, on baptob on view because in the beginning,
of course you're going with your ideal, you start to
stretch your standards.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
It doesn't mean you're settling.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
It means you might get one apartment in your price
range for what you really want, so then you have
to adjust. You might get one person serve to you
on an algorithm for what you want, so you have
to adjust. So I might not be in someone's quote
unquote ideal fantasy unicorn search, but in real life, shit happens.
Everybody has a planet, so they get punched in the face.
(16:50):
So these men go for these women and they're like,
I want someone. I know I'm sixty, but I want
someone thirty eight. Okay, then you break up with them.
Then you start to see these young hawk girls with
the other guys. They might have more money than you,
as much money, or they are going out with guys
that are taking them to Coachella, taking them on planes,
taking them to tou Loom to you know, award shows,
(17:11):
Beverly Hills, shopping, air Mez. You're seeing that they're buying,
and then you're judging that these girls have sponsors. Now
everyone talks about men as sponsors. She has a sponsor,
and people talk about women that are with men who
are cheating on their wives, and it's like, what level
of sponsorship, what type of membership do they have?
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Are they the exclusive fuck.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Around with the guy, then they have a higher level
of sponsorship membership. Okay, if the guy fucks around with
many women, they're one of many sponsored women. And it
happens with tech billionaires where they've got a couple of
people in their stable on their roster. Many of these
women have tried to come into the Core because they
(17:55):
know the type of men we have, and we don't
let them into the Core because we know they have
a sponsor program and we don't respect that. We're not
judging that. I'm not judging that. You want to go out,
you want to get your literal bag, your figurative bag.
You want to go out to dinner, you want to
be part of it, you want to go to the clubs,
you want to end up your asset mar a Lago.
You do what you want to do. You want to
(18:16):
go to Yellowstone the billionaire community. You want to date billionaire.
You want to do what you want to do. You
want to fly private with these people for the weekend.
As the fuck around find out, we had a woman
who has gone out with a sports team owner multiple billionaires,
then got a reputation with the other billionaires who do
want a life partner, the successful men, and they flag
(18:39):
these people being like, look, this person may be hot
and amazing, but this is the deal. We choose to
not have that because we choose to have people who
want a life partner, and we don't want to set
up a man with a woman who's stunning, who's going
to go out to dinner, but the woman's a semi
pro because the man's going to go out to dinner
with them, think he could possibly get her fall in
love with her. He wants a life partner, he wants
(19:00):
real relationship. It's not a line because we know that
she prefers to be sponsored. She may be a great person.
That's why you have to be careful as a woman
with what you do in your track record, because you
may be playing the short game. You may be hot, stunning,
et cetera. And you may be going for the big
game hunt on the short term. But if you are
the girl that's gonna go with the married man, you're
(19:21):
gonna get a reputation. And then when the real man
comes along, he's gonna know that that's on your resume
and he's not gonna like it. And you might have
been a good person, you just played the short game.
So you need to not play the short game. You
need to play the long game and be patient. Even
in your neighborhood. It doesn't mean even if you don't
dabble with these types of billionaires, it doesn't mean that
(19:43):
I'm just giving you an example of how you fuck around.
You find out you play the short game, you get
the short prize. So we've maintained a strictness. Now even
like apps like the league that used to be all
Ivy League.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
They've opened it. You have a lot of people that
aren't Ivy League.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
You have people that used to be super successful and
now it's some super successful and some marginally successful or
just employed. So we have stayed strict because, like I've
told you many times, I don't know how far I
take this business. I could take it all the way
I could take it where it's just justifying the risk
(20:22):
and cost of doing business and employing these people. That
it does take some bandwidth that I do have to
answer questions and my team does have to use some
of its bandwidth on this, but it is doing a
service because people are really connecting a meeting. So I'm
just saying the sponsorship program is real. And don't hate
the player, hate the game, but be very discerning. Remember
(20:45):
everything you do, everyone you go out with, it's getting
added to your resume. Everyone talks, everyone has social media,
and people will find out per to do to a
(21:12):
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