February 11, 2026 • 12 mins
Valentine's Day 101: How to get it right - from the married couple and 1 single guy.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jody after the Show podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Valentine's Day one on one.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
This is the Valentine one.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yeah, I think you said one on one.
Speaker 4 (00:10):
Said one on one, which actually is really that's not
supposed to be.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Yeah, exactly a theme, you know, no one oh one.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
I want to talk about it, you know, because it's
so funny and we can get personal. I'll tell you
how Murphy and I do Valentine's Day. We don't even
think about it until Valentine's Day, which I think makes
it sweet. I am not overly sensitive about Valentine's Day.
If you forgot, if you flat out forgot, I wouldn't care.
I really wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
We're going to be home.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I'm not going to forget. You're reminding me right now
to remind you.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
It's so funny that, you know, you realize the longer
that you live that a lot of people have a
problem with this holiday. If you're single, it stings a little,
or if you're dating, there's pressure, or if you've been
together forever, there's also pressure of not really knowing how
to get it right, and you want to get it right.
That's why there's a lot of you know, frustration around
the day.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
It's a you two are on the same page and
that's where it needs to be. There's no frustration. I
mean it would be frustrating if Murphy could care less
and you're like.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Brian's Day, right, like I was when I was a
younger girl. I told you guys that those stories and
we can touch on them here, but you cannot let
one day make or break something for you. It's how
someone treats you all the time.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah, what you do in your relationship every day is
what makes the difference in Valentine's which is fine, you
know what, because it keeps the economy going. It's a
marketing commercial. It's a commercial day.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
Wait, it's not about love. About that too, But.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Touched on it in Three Things to Know Today, and
I wanted to go a little deeper into from you know,
like experts in the gift giving world, how to do
Valentine's Day. A gift that shows you pay attention if
you want to give something or do something for someone
that you love, whatever you do, show that you're paying attention.
Right the times that you've given me something that's between
(02:02):
the private joke, that's the funny little candy bar like
the ones that we had on our honeymoon. That's a
funny personal joke. It means something just to the two
of us.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Can I well, Sam knows with that. Yeah, yeah, it's
Mounds little Mounds.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Candy because Sad was there. He just heard the story and.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
That was an accidental one because we just happened to
bring a bag with us because we both liked him.
And then it became honey candy.
Speaker 5 (02:23):
Yeah, Bounds is the one without almonds, right, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Dark chocolate those are delicious.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
See all.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
I think all gifts like that, though, not just Valentine's Day,
Christmas anniversaries.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
It needs to be it's right, not just go to
the store and like that.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You're paying attention.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yeah, if you really really think back, Murphy, you probably
know where I'm going to try to go for you
because I am going to give and do something for you.
But it's something I've done before, because it's I'm paying attention.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Yeah, but that's just me. I want you to guess,
and I already have my gift for you.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
By the way, Sweet, you don't have to that, No,
I know that. I just want to be home. I
just want to enjoy the weekend.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You know, we just keep it, We keep it simple.
I think it's something that you like. You know, I'm
sure after twenty seven, twenty eight, your ever many years
has been now, you know.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
However long it's been the other you know, sort of advice,
which is also very good if you're feeling Valentine's Day pressure,
be careful about going too practical on a gift, because
Valentine's Day is supposed to be aim mental holiday, and
especially if your person that you're trying to gift is
(03:32):
a sentimental person.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I need it doesn't need to be a vacuum cleaner.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I made that mistake with you, and I might have
been Christmas or your birthday one year when I gave
you the wooden spoons.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, that was the only time you ever made that.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I know. I learned that really fast. But I thought
it was like, she's like, I really need wooden spoons,
and like, well, let me give her some wooden spoons.
But when you're early in the relationship, yeah, I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Hit you with that, but of course didn't.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
But I think I was cooking for you and I
was like, I need a wooden spoon.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I didn't remember saying it. I did not.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
Yeah, that's not a Valentine's one. That's like pick it
up at Walmart this weekend.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
They but understand, all the advice in the world can
go out the window if you know your person. Murphy
would probably love something practical, if it's something he wanted,
if it's something tech, especially not that I try to
buy you tech anymore.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
You know, tech is your love affair. You have a
love affair with tech. Yeah, all kinds.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I mean, I think it's the things that you just
you know, as you start to know the other, the
other person, it makes sense. And what I was going
to say too before we get too far into the podcast,
because you know, not everybody has a significant other right now,
which is fine. Sam's a perfect example of that, and
I didn't. I was just checking the percentage to make
sure that I was right. It's it's a little over
forty percent of America as single. Yeah, so that's something
(04:47):
you need to keep in mind when there's somebody who
is not a fan of Valentine's Day, or it doesn't
mean it has to be romantic love. The kind of
things you're describing, Jody, if you know your mom that
well or if you know, you know you have a
best you have best friend that you know that well you.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Speaking my mind?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Can I celeb I love to do something like that,
and I am planning to do something. Look, Valentine's Day
falls on a Saturday this year, and for a lot
of people who are at work for Valentine's Day, it
takes the pressure off of, you know, the receiving of
flowers or the not receiving of flowers in front of
all your people or whatever. So it makes it more personal,
hopefully if you you know, are home on the weekends
(05:25):
and don't work the weekends. But someone in my life,
and she's the girl who does my nails, and I
see her about once a month, sometimes a little bit
more often than that if I have a problem or something.
She has been going through a personal situation this last
year and she's doing well now, but she had some bumps.
(05:47):
And it's funny because I was thinking about dropping off
something to her. Oh that's sweet, and I've already, you know,
decided what it would be, like a little It's just
a little something something because we're close. She's given me
gifts in the past, like unnecessary at Christmas time or
when she comes back from you know, trips. Since we've
become friends. It was a professional relationship at first, but
(06:08):
we've become friends. I'm thinking about dropping her a little
something something on time.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Yeah, personal issue she's having that wasn't love related.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
It it was love related.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
You're not gonna no aggravate the situation.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
No, I'm going to make her smile. I promise.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
You know it would be. Yeah, she's not playing cupid.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Oh no, I don't play cupid.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I know you never have no anyway, So I'm doing
I love that idea, some old friend that you haven't
spoken to in a long time and you love them.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
It can be.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
About that too, it's your neighbors or not at all.
You can ignore the day if you want.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Yeah, you know, it's really one of the pressure filled
things that you're talking about. It's easy to do if
you're early in a relationship or whatever. The automatic way
right and what you were saying a second ago, Sam,
I think is the difference maker on that is, if
you're just getting into a relationship, kind of understand you know,
get to know the person well enough to understand what
the expectations are, and maybe you do that gesture as
(07:05):
you're early in the relationship, regardless of whether it's just
a card or a box of sweethearts or roses, or
dinner or whatever it is that you want to do.
I mean, it doesn't have to be you know, an
Academy Award winning production, a simple dinner.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
Like a little stuff back, taking a reservation and taking
somebody out to dinner. That's a simple and a winter.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Making sure that you make the reservation.
Speaker 5 (07:26):
Yeah, they don't wait till Friday.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
It may be tough to do that now, you know
what I'm saying with just a couple of days.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
True. The other thing is, you know, if you don't
want to gift something because you you know, that's a
hard evidence thing of did you get it right?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Did you get it wrong? Do an experience?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
You know, do an experience, Go do something together instead
of you know, it being you know, something.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Delivered, you mean, like laser tag whatever you want.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
Actually it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Could be fun.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
I just don't think that if you put some thought
into it and you have paid attention to your you
can't really go wrong.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Hopefully. I say that.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
I'm sure there are people who go wrong but are
not doing anything at all, not saying anything at all,
if you know it means something to your person, is
I guess where people go wrong?
Speaker 4 (08:12):
To go back to you what you said about, you know,
single people feeling like, you know, it's a day for couples,
not for me.
Speaker 5 (08:20):
Me personally.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
I can't speak for all singles obviously, but for me personally,
I just don't care.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
Number One, I.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Don't have to buy a gift, chi ching, but I'm
not getting a gift, right. But it's like Valentine's Day
has never been one of those days to me.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Yeah, even when you were married, seam deal.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
I mean there were gifts exchanged, yeah, but it wasn't like, hey,
Valentine's Day's coming, right, It's not like Christmas or your
birthday or your anniversary.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
The story and I know I've told it to you
guys over the years, but if anybody is new to us,
when I was a young girl and I was in
my I was in a serious relationship, one of the
first serious relationships of my life. He was older than me.
He was significantly well, he was seven or eight years
older than me. And I had always had these boyfriends
that over did it on Valentine's Day. So my experience
(09:07):
was it's a big day. I used to get the
big teddy bears with necklaces around it and a dozen
roses delivered.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
You know.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Also, I got, you know, showered all day long by
these boyfriends. And then I got into and I'm growing up,
I'm in my early twenties, and I get into this
serious relationship. You know what I'm talking about. Murphy, my ex,
and he's older than me. And Valentine's Day, our first
Valentine's Day, came around, and look, this was, you know,
a serious relationship. I expected a lot, and he was
(09:39):
busy with important things.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
He was, you know, getting his PhD. He was busy.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
And the day came and went and literally I didn't
hear anything, and I was livid.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I was so upset. I was actually hurt. I was hurt, and.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
I felt bad for him looking back on that, because
of course, I finally at the end of the day
go I said to think to him about it, because
I had stuff for him and experiences and I think
I cooked something or whatever, and he heard me. But
then he said the words that I needed to hear.
He said, I'm sorry, I wasn't thinking about it. It's
(10:17):
not something to me, but I want you to think
about the way I treat you all the time, because
one day does not make or break these for me.
So he learned a little bit about me that I was,
you know, probably still a little emotionally more immature than him,
a lot more immature than him, actually, And I learned
a big lesson that day because he was right.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
As soon as he said it, I was like, oh, yeah,
you're right.
Speaker 5 (10:41):
Next year, the following year, did you get something Valentine's.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Don't even remember. I don't even remember.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Because that was a rocket relationship kind of it was
hot and cold.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Yeah. I think early in any relationship that is easy.
That's an easy mistake to make because you know, the
first time that you're in a serious relationship, you you
kind of don't really know how to balance expectations because
it's your first relationship, and you know what, that's that's
the whole thing. You're not going to land perfectly day
one in a relationship, doing everything the way that you
(11:15):
think you should or should not. It's a process of
getting to know somebody.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
Yeah, So anyway, Valentine's one oh one, at least pay attention.
Whatever you do say, or give or don't do, make
sure that it's you're paying attention to your person. There's
not the world will tell you there's one way to
do this. There's only so many boxes to check. It's
not true, it's not true.
Speaker 5 (11:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
The other thing is when and again, nothing wrong with
anybody trying to top themselves every year, but that's what
you get into. If you do something so extravagant, you
almost feel like you're competing with yourself for the next year,
and that's that pressure thing that you really don't need
to you know, I.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Love the little personal personal I.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Mean, at least I know that, you know. I don't
have to leave a trail of rose pedals down our hallway,
Jody don't.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
Valentine's Day one on one.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
This is the Valentine one.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yeah, I think you said one on one.
Speaker 4 (00:10):
Said one on one, which actually is really that's not
supposed to be.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Yeah, exactly a theme, you know, no one oh one.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
I want to talk about it, you know, because it's
so funny and we can get personal. I'll tell you
how Murphy and I do Valentine's Day. We don't even
think about it until Valentine's Day, which I think makes
it sweet. I am not overly sensitive about Valentine's Day.
If you forgot, if you flat out forgot, I wouldn't care.
I really wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
We're going to be home.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I'm not going to forget. You're reminding me right now
to remind you.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
It's so funny that, you know, you realize the longer
that you live that a lot of people have a
problem with this holiday. If you're single, it stings a little,
or if you're dating, there's pressure, or if you've been
together forever, there's also pressure of not really knowing how
to get it right, and you want to get it right.
That's why there's a lot of you know, frustration around
the day.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
It's a you two are on the same page and
that's where it needs to be. There's no frustration. I
mean it would be frustrating if Murphy could care less
and you're like.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Brian's Day, right, like I was when I was a
younger girl. I told you guys that those stories and
we can touch on them here, but you cannot let
one day make or break something for you. It's how
someone treats you all the time.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah, what you do in your relationship every day is
what makes the difference in Valentine's which is fine, you
know what, because it keeps the economy going. It's a
marketing commercial. It's a commercial day.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
Wait, it's not about love. About that too, But.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Touched on it in Three Things to Know Today, and
I wanted to go a little deeper into from you know,
like experts in the gift giving world, how to do
Valentine's Day. A gift that shows you pay attention if
you want to give something or do something for someone
that you love, whatever you do, show that you're paying attention.
Right the times that you've given me something that's between
(02:02):
the private joke, that's the funny little candy bar like
the ones that we had on our honeymoon. That's a
funny personal joke. It means something just to the two
of us.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Can I well, Sam knows with that. Yeah, yeah, it's
Mounds little Mounds.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Candy because Sad was there. He just heard the story and.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
That was an accidental one because we just happened to
bring a bag with us because we both liked him.
And then it became honey candy.
Speaker 5 (02:23):
Yeah, Bounds is the one without almonds, right, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Dark chocolate those are delicious.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
See all.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
I think all gifts like that, though, not just Valentine's Day,
Christmas anniversaries.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
It needs to be it's right, not just go to
the store and like that.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You're paying attention.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yeah, if you really really think back, Murphy, you probably
know where I'm going to try to go for you
because I am going to give and do something for you.
But it's something I've done before, because it's I'm paying attention.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Yeah, but that's just me. I want you to guess,
and I already have my gift for you.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
By the way, Sweet, you don't have to that, No,
I know that. I just want to be home. I
just want to enjoy the weekend.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You know, we just keep it, We keep it simple.
I think it's something that you like. You know, I'm
sure after twenty seven, twenty eight, your ever many years
has been now, you know.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
However long it's been the other you know, sort of advice,
which is also very good if you're feeling Valentine's Day pressure,
be careful about going too practical on a gift, because
Valentine's Day is supposed to be aim mental holiday, and
especially if your person that you're trying to gift is
(03:32):
a sentimental person.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I need it doesn't need to be a vacuum cleaner.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I made that mistake with you, and I might have
been Christmas or your birthday one year when I gave
you the wooden spoons.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Yeah, that was the only time you ever made that.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I know. I learned that really fast. But I thought
it was like, she's like, I really need wooden spoons,
and like, well, let me give her some wooden spoons.
But when you're early in the relationship, yeah, I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Hit you with that, but of course didn't.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
But I think I was cooking for you and I
was like, I need a wooden spoon.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I didn't remember saying it. I did not.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
Yeah, that's not a Valentine's one. That's like pick it
up at Walmart this weekend.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
They but understand, all the advice in the world can
go out the window if you know your person. Murphy
would probably love something practical, if it's something he wanted,
if it's something tech, especially not that I try to
buy you tech anymore.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
You know, tech is your love affair. You have a
love affair with tech. Yeah, all kinds.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I mean, I think it's the things that you just
you know, as you start to know the other, the
other person, it makes sense. And what I was going
to say too before we get too far into the podcast,
because you know, not everybody has a significant other right now,
which is fine. Sam's a perfect example of that, and
I didn't. I was just checking the percentage to make
sure that I was right. It's it's a little over
forty percent of America as single. Yeah, so that's something
(04:47):
you need to keep in mind when there's somebody who
is not a fan of Valentine's Day, or it doesn't
mean it has to be romantic love. The kind of
things you're describing, Jody, if you know your mom that
well or if you know, you know you have a
best you have best friend that you know that well you.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Speaking my mind?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Can I celeb I love to do something like that,
and I am planning to do something. Look, Valentine's Day
falls on a Saturday this year, and for a lot
of people who are at work for Valentine's Day, it
takes the pressure off of, you know, the receiving of
flowers or the not receiving of flowers in front of
all your people or whatever. So it makes it more personal,
hopefully if you you know, are home on the weekends
(05:25):
and don't work the weekends. But someone in my life,
and she's the girl who does my nails, and I
see her about once a month, sometimes a little bit
more often than that if I have a problem or something.
She has been going through a personal situation this last
year and she's doing well now, but she had some bumps.
(05:47):
And it's funny because I was thinking about dropping off
something to her. Oh that's sweet, and I've already, you know,
decided what it would be, like a little It's just
a little something something because we're close. She's given me
gifts in the past, like unnecessary at Christmas time or
when she comes back from you know, trips. Since we've
become friends. It was a professional relationship at first, but
(06:08):
we've become friends. I'm thinking about dropping her a little
something something on time.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Yeah, personal issue she's having that wasn't love related.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
It it was love related.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
You're not gonna no aggravate the situation.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
No, I'm going to make her smile. I promise.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
You know it would be. Yeah, she's not playing cupid.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Oh no, I don't play cupid.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I know you never have no anyway, So I'm doing
I love that idea, some old friend that you haven't
spoken to in a long time and you love them.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
It can be.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
About that too, it's your neighbors or not at all.
You can ignore the day if you want.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Yeah, you know, it's really one of the pressure filled
things that you're talking about. It's easy to do if
you're early in a relationship or whatever. The automatic way
right and what you were saying a second ago, Sam,
I think is the difference maker on that is, if
you're just getting into a relationship, kind of understand you know,
get to know the person well enough to understand what
the expectations are, and maybe you do that gesture as
(07:05):
you're early in the relationship, regardless of whether it's just
a card or a box of sweethearts or roses, or
dinner or whatever it is that you want to do.
I mean, it doesn't have to be you know, an
Academy Award winning production, a simple dinner.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
Like a little stuff back, taking a reservation and taking
somebody out to dinner. That's a simple and a winter.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Making sure that you make the reservation.
Speaker 5 (07:26):
Yeah, they don't wait till Friday.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
It may be tough to do that now, you know
what I'm saying with just a couple of days.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
True. The other thing is, you know, if you don't
want to gift something because you you know, that's a
hard evidence thing of did you get it right?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Did you get it wrong? Do an experience?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
You know, do an experience, Go do something together instead
of you know, it being you know, something.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Delivered, you mean, like laser tag whatever you want.
Speaker 5 (07:52):
Actually it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Could be fun.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
I just don't think that if you put some thought
into it and you have paid attention to your you
can't really go wrong.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Hopefully. I say that.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
I'm sure there are people who go wrong but are
not doing anything at all, not saying anything at all,
if you know it means something to your person, is
I guess where people go wrong?
Speaker 4 (08:12):
To go back to you what you said about, you know,
single people feeling like, you know, it's a day for couples,
not for me.
Speaker 5 (08:20):
Me personally.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
I can't speak for all singles obviously, but for me personally,
I just don't care.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
Number One, I.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Don't have to buy a gift, chi ching, but I'm
not getting a gift, right. But it's like Valentine's Day
has never been one of those days to me.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Yeah, even when you were married, seam deal.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
I mean there were gifts exchanged, yeah, but it wasn't like, hey,
Valentine's Day's coming, right, It's not like Christmas or your
birthday or your anniversary.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
The story and I know I've told it to you
guys over the years, but if anybody is new to us,
when I was a young girl and I was in
my I was in a serious relationship, one of the
first serious relationships of my life. He was older than me.
He was significantly well, he was seven or eight years
older than me. And I had always had these boyfriends
that over did it on Valentine's Day. So my experience
(09:07):
was it's a big day. I used to get the
big teddy bears with necklaces around it and a dozen
roses delivered.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
You know.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Also, I got, you know, showered all day long by
these boyfriends. And then I got into and I'm growing up,
I'm in my early twenties, and I get into this
serious relationship. You know what I'm talking about. Murphy, my ex,
and he's older than me. And Valentine's Day, our first
Valentine's Day, came around, and look, this was, you know,
a serious relationship. I expected a lot, and he was
(09:39):
busy with important things.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
He was, you know, getting his PhD. He was busy.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
And the day came and went and literally I didn't
hear anything, and I was livid.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I was so upset. I was actually hurt. I was hurt, and.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
I felt bad for him looking back on that, because
of course, I finally at the end of the day
go I said to think to him about it, because
I had stuff for him and experiences and I think
I cooked something or whatever, and he heard me. But
then he said the words that I needed to hear.
He said, I'm sorry, I wasn't thinking about it. It's
(10:17):
not something to me, but I want you to think
about the way I treat you all the time, because
one day does not make or break these for me.
So he learned a little bit about me that I was,
you know, probably still a little emotionally more immature than him,
a lot more immature than him, actually, And I learned
a big lesson that day because he was right.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
As soon as he said it, I was like, oh, yeah,
you're right.
Speaker 5 (10:41):
Next year, the following year, did you get something Valentine's.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Don't even remember. I don't even remember.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Because that was a rocket relationship kind of it was
hot and cold.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Yeah. I think early in any relationship that is easy.
That's an easy mistake to make because you know, the
first time that you're in a serious relationship, you you
kind of don't really know how to balance expectations because
it's your first relationship, and you know what, that's that's
the whole thing. You're not going to land perfectly day
one in a relationship, doing everything the way that you
(11:15):
think you should or should not. It's a process of
getting to know somebody.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
Yeah, So anyway, Valentine's one oh one, at least pay attention.
Whatever you do say, or give or don't do, make
sure that it's you're paying attention to your person. There's
not the world will tell you there's one way to
do this. There's only so many boxes to check. It's
not true, it's not true.
Speaker 5 (11:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
The other thing is when and again, nothing wrong with
anybody trying to top themselves every year, but that's what
you get into. If you do something so extravagant, you
almost feel like you're competing with yourself for the next year,
and that's that pressure thing that you really don't need
to you know, I.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Love the little personal personal I.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Mean, at least I know that, you know. I don't
have to leave a trail of rose pedals down our hallway,
Jody don't.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Somebody's got to subscribe to the Murphy Salmon Jody Podcast,
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