March 13, 2025 • 9 mins
Walking for your mental health - with or without family?? #family #mentalhealth
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Sam and Jody after the show podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Murphy knows this and this is a personal story.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
I'm going to tell you that we live with a
mental health professional, and that's our oldest daughter, Taylor.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
She's a growing mental health professional. Yeah, I mean she's
heading in that direction. She's going to get her master's
and that's her goal yet.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
To be a therapist, a counselor. But she really is
wired for it. That's the subject of mental health is
so important to her, and she's intuitive about it. But
she's also study. She knows she has a lot to learn,
but she knows a lot about it. She loved learning
about it in school.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
She also has a lot of natural empathy for others.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
She certainly does, but she's just she's a wealth of
knowledge about it already.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Like there have.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I've had so many conversations with her lately where she
just drops something that's so beautiful and big and then
I take it away. We need to do podcasts with her.
We just need to do it, like once in a
great while, just have Taylor on.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
She'd love to do it.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
So I to tell you what she did to me
the other day, you know, I go walking a lot
now by myself. Normally is my jam for walking because
it's it's my quiet time and exercise. It doubles as cardio.
I've added the weighted vest, but it's also mental for me.
I leave everything behind. Sometimes I'm not listening to a
(01:22):
podcast or music. I'm just listening to birds sing. So
important for me. But you know, she is living at
home now right now, and she's been coming to walk
with me lately, and towards the end of the walk
the other day, she said, we were having a quiet
moment and she said, Mom, thank you for letting me
(01:42):
come with you. She said, I know that this is
normally your time. And I thought that was beautiful. Oh
but wait, there's more. She said, Murphy came with us
last night.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
So I got like a whole problem that it.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Was fun, But she said, I understand that. She says,
do you feel like this is your the time that
you get grounded where you're restoring yourself a set exactly?
She says, you know that probably means you're actually an introvert.
And she and I was like, okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Do I need to lay it out on a couch?
Speaker 3 (02:13):
But yeah, she was saying we just had a great
conversation about it. She says, Supposedly, now everybody has a
little bit of introvert in them, and everybody has a
little bit of extrovert. It's hard to say a person
is only one thing, you know, we all have layers
in different complexities. But she said, yeah, they say she
hasn't studied it at length yet, but they say the
(02:34):
way that you get grounded again has a lot to
do whether with whether you're an introvert. So if you're extroverted,
truly you are recharged by people, you are recharged socially.
But if you are actually recharged and get grounded by
being alone and getting quiet, you're actually that's that's a
(02:55):
more introvert leaning and that is definitely me. And it's
so funny, she says, because everything you do every day,
and she means this life, this show is extroverted. That's
probably why you need it so much. You need the
balance of being alone.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Yeah, balanced to me is the big part of that.
But I think about that because I'm definitely recharged by people, yes,
but I also like the you know, I need the
recharge time. So I guess you really can't be one
or the other.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Some people lean more extroverts, some people lean more. You
probably have different percentages of it. So Sam, how do
you recharge? What do you feel? You know feels good.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
On the patio or a lot of times it's listening
to music nice and that's a lot. Well, yeah, I
mean I got all the Alexis through the house and
they're all connected. So it's just like play.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
This on the house and the house goes nice.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Whether I'm cleaning or just chilling. Music takes my brain away.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
It's good to know.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
It's just nice to know things about yourself and just
have that convers having that conversation with her, I did
tell her a block later because it came to me
how special this time is.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
I said, Taylor, you know, I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
I did spend as much time with my dad as
I could when he was when I was little. That's
why I would follow him out to the garden. We
had a farm, like, and I would follow him out
to the barn and I would beg him to take
me hunting with him, which he wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
He never did.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
I was a daddy's girl and I don't remember ever
going on like I just I told her, you're going
to look back. I'm gonna look back on this time finally,
and so were you us taking walks together. So I'm
happy for you to come along whenever you want to.
And Murphy even extends that courtesy to me. He's like,
(04:41):
you'll ask me if it's okay to come walk with me.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
As has Taylor analyzed Murphy yet she sometimes does?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Yeah, yeah, she knows how scattered I am.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Not that he always knows about it, but.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
She says, Dad, you're totally an undiagnosed ADHD. And I
would have I ever believe that about myself, but you know,
but I do. I understand it, and I have become
more because my brain does move faster than it should
and distraction. Honestly, maybe I have been that way, you know,
all of my life. But yeah, so she's done a
(05:14):
little analysis. I think she's really sharp, and she's she's
on top of that.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
She can spot that in you because she's got it.
She's got some of that too.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yes, yeah, she definitely, she definitely does. So we really
do relate and connect on that. She'll lose her keys.
I'll lose my keys just whatever. And usually when they're lost,
they're just right there in my hand right, Well, how
that works.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
There are certain little things like you don't know about.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
When I've made dinner and she and she and I
are inside and we want you to come in, and
he's out in his man cave studio room. I'll say,
go ask that, go get that, and she's like, okay,
you know that doesn't mean he's going to come right away.
I'm like, I know, and she'll go out and she'll
come back in and I'll say, what he say and
she said? She'll say, he said he'd be in in
(05:58):
five minutes, and she goes. But you know that's allegedly,
and oftentimes it is ten or fifteen.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
And that's why she calls that out, because when I'm
in a zone and I'm focused, that's I guess one
of what she says are one of the classic uh
not symptoms. What's the word I'm looking for. It's just crates, yes, exactly,
of somebody who has some sort of you know, attention issue,
which is which is true when I'm in a zone.
I mean literally, things could be going off all around
(06:26):
me that I just don't hear because I'm so focused.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
And then there are other things to that too.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Yeah, I do think, Look, everything has it's you know,
it's positive side, and it's in its dark side. You know,
it's that's ying. That's the definition of Yin yang. Right.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Basically, it's amazing that she can find introvert or that
that would be a analysis or diagnosis or whatever, because
to me, the two of you are the most extroverted
people there are.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
But you don't know that part of me.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Yeah, I if I'm I will say this, at the
end of the day, when I do get to have
alone time, whether I'm doing yoga or watching true crime
or or taking my walk, I'm crave and need it
to be alone so that I can be that extrovert.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Gotcha.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
If I don't get that time, I'm like this a well.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
You know, and maybe what Taylor is saying there is
for somebody who's naturally introverted, the you know, being in
a social situation is stressful, which burns more energy, which
means you need a little more recent time, right, And
because I really do over time. Like my dad to
me was he was very much an introverted person because
he enjoyed just being right and so, but he was
(07:38):
awesome to socialize with because he was so laid back
and hadod But he was not in a shell. I mean,
he could strike up a conversation with anybody. But he
will tell you he was, you know, introvert. He was
very content to just be doing his thing his own
in his own space. So I don't really think it's
in either or.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
I will know it's balance is something you're always going
toward and going away from, and you just got to
learn about yourself constantly. But I will say this is
the honest truth that when I'm not expecting company on
one of my walks and I start putting my vest
on and I got champ and some you know, both
of you or one of you say hey, can I
come along? At first my thought is like but then
(08:17):
it's like, okay, let's go enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
And we did.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
We saw a coyote, We saw snakes, we saw a
little baby bird.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
We did we saw a coyote. A no, but I
have a video of him. Anyway, he was slinking around.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
At first we thought it was a dog running in
front of a car. Is like, that's not a dog.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
It was close to sunset, but he was.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
You know.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Anyway, it's just an interesting thing.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I'm loving it because I do know it'll be short lived.
She's probably moving out before too long, and she'll be
in grad school and she won't be there as often,
and I'll miss it, I'll miss the talk. She's lovely too,
because she knows that every moment does not have to
be filled with conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
We've had quiet.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Blocks on the walk and then when conversation comes naturally,
it comes naturally, and it's lovely.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
So anyway, mental health, Taylor will have to bring her
to a podcast one day soon.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Well, you shouldn't start charging us for it, right, We're
good family discount
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Missed any part of the show, Get it All on
the Murphy Salmon Jody podcast.
Welcome to the Murphy Sam and Jody after the show podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Murphy knows this and this is a personal story.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
I'm going to tell you that we live with a
mental health professional, and that's our oldest daughter, Taylor.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
She's a growing mental health professional. Yeah, I mean she's
heading in that direction. She's going to get her master's
and that's her goal yet.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
To be a therapist, a counselor. But she really is
wired for it. That's the subject of mental health is
so important to her, and she's intuitive about it. But
she's also study. She knows she has a lot to learn,
but she knows a lot about it. She loved learning
about it in school.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
She also has a lot of natural empathy for others.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
She certainly does, but she's just she's a wealth of
knowledge about it already.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Like there have.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I've had so many conversations with her lately where she
just drops something that's so beautiful and big and then
I take it away. We need to do podcasts with her.
We just need to do it, like once in a
great while, just have Taylor on.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
She'd love to do it.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
So I to tell you what she did to me
the other day, you know, I go walking a lot
now by myself. Normally is my jam for walking because
it's it's my quiet time and exercise. It doubles as cardio.
I've added the weighted vest, but it's also mental for me.
I leave everything behind. Sometimes I'm not listening to a
(01:22):
podcast or music. I'm just listening to birds sing. So
important for me. But you know, she is living at
home now right now, and she's been coming to walk
with me lately, and towards the end of the walk
the other day, she said, we were having a quiet
moment and she said, Mom, thank you for letting me
(01:42):
come with you. She said, I know that this is
normally your time. And I thought that was beautiful. Oh
but wait, there's more. She said, Murphy came with us
last night.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
So I got like a whole problem that it.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Was fun, But she said, I understand that. She says,
do you feel like this is your the time that
you get grounded where you're restoring yourself a set exactly?
She says, you know that probably means you're actually an introvert.
And she and I was like, okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Do I need to lay it out on a couch?
Speaker 3 (02:13):
But yeah, she was saying we just had a great
conversation about it. She says, Supposedly, now everybody has a
little bit of introvert in them, and everybody has a
little bit of extrovert. It's hard to say a person
is only one thing, you know, we all have layers
in different complexities. But she said, yeah, they say she
hasn't studied it at length yet, but they say the
(02:34):
way that you get grounded again has a lot to
do whether with whether you're an introvert. So if you're extroverted,
truly you are recharged by people, you are recharged socially.
But if you are actually recharged and get grounded by
being alone and getting quiet, you're actually that's that's a
(02:55):
more introvert leaning and that is definitely me. And it's
so funny, she says, because everything you do every day,
and she means this life, this show is extroverted. That's
probably why you need it so much. You need the
balance of being alone.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Yeah, balanced to me is the big part of that.
But I think about that because I'm definitely recharged by people, yes,
but I also like the you know, I need the
recharge time. So I guess you really can't be one
or the other.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Some people lean more extroverts, some people lean more. You
probably have different percentages of it. So Sam, how do
you recharge? What do you feel? You know feels good.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
On the patio or a lot of times it's listening
to music nice and that's a lot. Well, yeah, I
mean I got all the Alexis through the house and
they're all connected. So it's just like play.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
This on the house and the house goes nice.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Whether I'm cleaning or just chilling. Music takes my brain away.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
It's good to know.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
It's just nice to know things about yourself and just
have that convers having that conversation with her, I did
tell her a block later because it came to me
how special this time is.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
I said, Taylor, you know, I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
I did spend as much time with my dad as
I could when he was when I was little. That's
why I would follow him out to the garden. We
had a farm, like, and I would follow him out
to the barn and I would beg him to take
me hunting with him, which he wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
He never did.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
I was a daddy's girl and I don't remember ever
going on like I just I told her, you're going
to look back. I'm gonna look back on this time finally,
and so were you us taking walks together. So I'm
happy for you to come along whenever you want to.
And Murphy even extends that courtesy to me. He's like,
(04:41):
you'll ask me if it's okay to come walk with me.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
As has Taylor analyzed Murphy yet she sometimes does?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Yeah, yeah, she knows how scattered I am.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Not that he always knows about it, but.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
She says, Dad, you're totally an undiagnosed ADHD. And I
would have I ever believe that about myself, but you know,
but I do. I understand it, and I have become
more because my brain does move faster than it should
and distraction. Honestly, maybe I have been that way, you know,
all of my life. But yeah, so she's done a
(05:14):
little analysis. I think she's really sharp, and she's she's
on top of that.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
She can spot that in you because she's got it.
She's got some of that too.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yes, yeah, she definitely, she definitely does. So we really
do relate and connect on that. She'll lose her keys.
I'll lose my keys just whatever. And usually when they're lost,
they're just right there in my hand right, Well, how
that works.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
There are certain little things like you don't know about.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
When I've made dinner and she and she and I
are inside and we want you to come in, and
he's out in his man cave studio room. I'll say,
go ask that, go get that, and she's like, okay,
you know that doesn't mean he's going to come right away.
I'm like, I know, and she'll go out and she'll
come back in and I'll say, what he say and
she said? She'll say, he said he'd be in in
(05:58):
five minutes, and she goes. But you know that's allegedly,
and oftentimes it is ten or fifteen.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
And that's why she calls that out, because when I'm
in a zone and I'm focused, that's I guess one
of what she says are one of the classic uh
not symptoms. What's the word I'm looking for. It's just crates, yes, exactly,
of somebody who has some sort of you know, attention issue,
which is which is true when I'm in a zone.
I mean literally, things could be going off all around
(06:26):
me that I just don't hear because I'm so focused.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
And then there are other things to that too.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Yeah, I do think, Look, everything has it's you know,
it's positive side, and it's in its dark side. You know,
it's that's ying. That's the definition of Yin yang. Right.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Basically, it's amazing that she can find introvert or that
that would be a analysis or diagnosis or whatever, because
to me, the two of you are the most extroverted
people there are.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
But you don't know that part of me.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Yeah, I if I'm I will say this, at the
end of the day, when I do get to have
alone time, whether I'm doing yoga or watching true crime
or or taking my walk, I'm crave and need it
to be alone so that I can be that extrovert.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Gotcha.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
If I don't get that time, I'm like this a well.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
You know, and maybe what Taylor is saying there is
for somebody who's naturally introverted, the you know, being in
a social situation is stressful, which burns more energy, which
means you need a little more recent time, right, And
because I really do over time. Like my dad to
me was he was very much an introverted person because
he enjoyed just being right and so, but he was
(07:38):
awesome to socialize with because he was so laid back
and hadod But he was not in a shell. I mean,
he could strike up a conversation with anybody. But he
will tell you he was, you know, introvert. He was
very content to just be doing his thing his own
in his own space. So I don't really think it's
in either or.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
I will know it's balance is something you're always going
toward and going away from, and you just got to
learn about yourself constantly. But I will say this is
the honest truth that when I'm not expecting company on
one of my walks and I start putting my vest
on and I got champ and some you know, both
of you or one of you say hey, can I
come along? At first my thought is like but then
(08:17):
it's like, okay, let's go enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
And we did.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
We saw a coyote, We saw snakes, we saw a
little baby bird.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
We did we saw a coyote. A no, but I
have a video of him. Anyway, he was slinking around.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
At first we thought it was a dog running in
front of a car. Is like, that's not a dog.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
It was close to sunset, but he was.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
You know.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Anyway, it's just an interesting thing.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I'm loving it because I do know it'll be short lived.
She's probably moving out before too long, and she'll be
in grad school and she won't be there as often,
and I'll miss it, I'll miss the talk. She's lovely too,
because she knows that every moment does not have to
be filled with conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
We've had quiet.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Blocks on the walk and then when conversation comes naturally,
it comes naturally, and it's lovely.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
So anyway, mental health, Taylor will have to bring her
to a podcast one day soon.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Well, you shouldn't start charging us for it, right, We're
good family discount
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Missed any part of the show, Get it All on
the Murphy Salmon Jody podcast.
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