August 6, 2026 • 28 mins
With Jodi traveling, Murphy and Sam turn the tables into a special "Ask the Husband" podcast with DMs from you about their marriage. Murphy opens up about who's really the boss, how they keep work and home separate, and the unspoken way he knew Jodi was the one. An honest peek behind the curtain of a 29 year, three-way radio marriage while Jodi is away :-)
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Murphy Sam and Jody after the Show podcast.
And the thing that's different about this today, which if
you're watching on YouTube you'll see it immediately, is Jody
is not here. Jody's traveling now. She had to leave
as soon as we got done with the show this morning.
Oh she didn't have enough of us. No, it wasn't
one of those. It was okay. And so that leaves
me and Sam, which is kind of a dangerous proposition.
(00:23):
But what I thought we would do is I have
compiled some of the dms that we get from Facebook,
and so we'll make this ask the husbands Jody and
are married, where I can answer some questions about Jody
without Jody.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
You know, this will be on the.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Internet, right, yeah, and so we'll see how that goes. Actually,
I think I'm pretty sure a lot of these I
could probably. I mean, I would answer to her face,
no problem. But anyway, this will give you that way.
Jody's here without being here, and you'll learn a little
bit more about her. So if there's something that you
see that's not right about this, Sam, you let me know.
So the first question here is from Steph. She says,
(01:03):
you drive to work together every morning at four am?
Are you two actually talking or is it dead silence
until the coffee kicks in. So here's the thing about
that stuff. We actually don't ride to work together every morning,
you know, by design.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
In fact, if you ask Jody, she doesn't want to
do that, which is fine with me. Honestly. That kind
of goes back to we were working together before we
got married, and so we do look at we look
at this as we're two professionals working together, and there's
nothing wrong with couples that actually do that. And I
do know some couples that, you know, to save money
or whatever, we'll ride together.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
So is she doing that because she wants to get
here and get things started, because she doesn't want to
ride with you, or she wants to have our car
later in the day.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I think it's all of those. I think it's all
of the above with that. But I mean she is
she's in her own, you know, headspace when she comes
here and is looking at all the things that for
three things to know and the Hollywood outsider and you know,
getting up to date, you've got to be focused, and
so you know, she prefers that. And we see plenty
of each other, you know anyway, So but but yeah,
that and it's funny, Sam, I didn't think about that.
(02:08):
You're right, we'd be tied together for everything the rest
of the day. Yes, for her, that would be really
annoying for me.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Can I have the keys?
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Yeah? All right, Well, thank you, Steph. Jenna says you've
worked together for years. Who is the boss at home?
And is the same person? Is that the same person
who's the boss in the studio? Oh well I could
ask that one Sam. Yeah, it's two different people. Jody.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
From what I can gather, Jody is the house manager
boss at home? Yeah, correct, yes, and you are the
boss here in the studio. You're gutting force here in
the studio.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Well leads the show. Yeah, I think she leads the show.
I think that, you know, I think she's the boss
here too. Really well, I mean when it comes to
the show related stuff. Yeah, the three of us together
for most of it. Yeah, Yeah, it's wise for us
to consider her the boss you know, in both Ye,
in both places. But you know, yeah, and and the
(03:05):
thing is, and I don't know that we necessarily look
at it that way at home. I don't think she's
necessarily telling me what to do, but she is by
far better at orchestrating house stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah, it's her organizational skills. I think we touched on
this earlier in the week, that that's her mentality. So
she takes over at the home, at the house when
it's like we got to do this, we got to
do this, we got to do this, pick up this,
clean up that.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah. So yeah, I mean I think that that's to
call it a bos almost makes it sound like it's
more you know, intense to what it is. She just
it's her area of strength. And the reason that I mean,
I guess you're saying that is because like on the
the business side, the left brain part of me, you know,
does a lot of that stuff here. But at the
(03:50):
end of the day, Murphy Salmon, Jody is a Jody
lit thing.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Have you ever really given serious thought to change in
the logo and the name of the show.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
What to put Jody first? Yeah, I mean she should be.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
The three of us have joked about it, you know,
behind the scenes privately, because Jody is so much of
the show, leading the show, Jody's Hollywood outsider and the
three things everything.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
So I asked her, you know early on because I
wanted to make the Jody part of it bigger. It's
only that way because it started out as me and you,
and then it was we had Amy working with us
for a while and then so you know, it just
that's that was the logical change. So she's not an
afterthought by any stretching imagination. But she wouldn't let me
make the Jodi part bigger. Oh, she didn't want them.
(04:35):
She doesn't want to go first either. She doesn't want
to go first. So Lauren says, when you disagree, when
you disagree on air about something real, does it follow
you home or is it settled the second the MIC's off.
That's a really good question. I don't know how many
things that we've disagreed with here are like a surprise
(04:59):
and then it comes up at home.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I yeah, the stuff that if there's any disagreement here,
it's usually you know, after we finished the segment or
turn them and it's like, no, don't you remember I
said this? Oh yeah, yeah, right, Because I don't nothing's
ever that serious of a disagreement on the show that
would go home.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
I would think, yeah, I mean now every now and then,
and this isn't the disagreement thing. We will purposely not
tell each other stories at home, you know, or the
three of us together and we're just hanging, you know, socially,
something that we want to save for the show because
we want there to be a genuine reaction because we're
not actors.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Yeah, and that if you're a couple, that might seem
odd to you to like keep things from your spouse,
But for us, we're always thinking of the show, and
it's like, WHOA, I want to tell Jody this, but
I'd rather tell her with Sam and everybody listening, so
that we can get her real reaction.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Yes, exactly, And I bet you so. The same thing
will happen. She's traveling right now. There will be things
that she won't won't tell me when she gets back
that you know, we'll share together.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
How was the trip fine? Yeah, okay, so.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Uh anyway, Lauren, I mean, I hope that kind of
answers you know, the question. And we really do the
if you flip it around the other way, we really
do try to separate the two because if we don't,
it's always going to be a little bit difficult. If
something happens at home that's a disagreement that sticks to
then come to the room and just you know, be
happy and you know, focused on the show and everything
that we're supposed to we do it. I mean, I
(06:22):
think our mindset is such we can switch into that,
but that that can make it a little more you know, tricky.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
So if it's a more lighthearted disagreement at home, you
can bring it here and we yes, laugh about it
and yeah, ah, guess what Murphy did.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yes, yeah, And you're right, it's usually about me making
making fun of repoking fun of myself. Ashley. Do you
do you two ever talk about the show at home?
Do you talk about Sam at home? Or is it
a hard no? Once you walk in the door, I guess,
And you put classes on so I can actually see
the print on these, so I guess I mean that
(07:00):
pens too. We have a pretty good separation between work
and at home, and it is for I mean, Sam's
always a part of our lives, and so I mean,
I don't know, I don't know if you're talking you know,
when you're by yourself at home.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
But I tell the that's what Murphy and Jodi did today.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Right, are the you know or the kids you know?
You could do that or you know, even your mom.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Yeah, yeah, I'll get questions every now and then. By
the way, speaking of which, my mom got the birthday
card that all three of us signed.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Oh did she okay?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, she said yeah that Murphy sure is serious about
all that. I guess. I don't know what you wrote,
but I don't know if it was serious, like you know,
you're an inspiration or whatever. But she's she made a
comment that you were you serious.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Ah, well, she's used to me because she is so funny.
Everything that she does is either self deprecating or joking.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Yeah, I think I was just telling her. I mean,
how inspired we are by her. And you know me,
I mean I've got a I got she's eighty seven
years old, and I just naturally to me, you know,
a senior, anybody who's a senior like that, just I
got a soft spot.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
And I admire what they've done. And she's tough, man.
I mean, she is just like you know.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Broken her hip, got back to work. She doesn't stables
in her head. She had a snake around her neck
a week ago.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
That's right, I forgot about that too. Nothing stops her,
so well, miss Judy, I'm sorry if I was too serious.
Let's go back to the DMS here and see we
answer that one. Do we talk about I mean we
talk about usually if we talk about Sam at home,
it's something funny that's happening. Honestly, it's something either I
(08:34):
can't stop laughing about, you know, or whatever. And I
guess this will give you a little insight too. We
actually do, even though we spend eight hours a day
in this room together, if something funny happens, we'll shoot
each other a photo or a text or you know.
I mean, between the three of us, you know, it's
we're always on some kind of a.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Group chacons are always full.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Of texts, Yes, right exactly, because you never know wh
we're going to fine, especially if we're out thrifting. Amanda,
whose side do Taylor and phoebe Ord's Jody's boyfriend dog
Champ Lol take when you two argue. I don't know
that anybody really takes sides on that. Jody and I've
(09:17):
actually been in that. Guess this is a serious answer.
So we've always arguing with something that we always tried
to do if we were in that you know, kind
of out of earshot. If possible. Sometimes that's you know, impossible.
If it's been something, then we've When Taylor and Phoebe
were younger, we would explain that, but I think they
would also see us work something all the way through.
It wasn't like something was unresolved. But as far as
(09:40):
taking sides, I don't think we ever really wanted that
to be the case. We want Taylor and Phoebe to be,
you know, independent decision makers, thinkers, their own thing, and
we never wanted there to be a divide, you know,
in conquer. I do know what Jody would say though
if she were here in answering, it probably wasn't more
about the argument that she would think that I would be.
(10:01):
I would play things off jokingly, not in my arguments
with Jody, but in terms of how we handled you
know them that you know she's always said before, Yeah
you got to be fun, Dad, Well I got to
be the heavy. But I think that we I think
we balanced that out. I just love having you know, fun.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But what about Champ.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
So Champ's always going to take jokes. Yeah, that's what
I figured, and he's he's vocal about it. The thank you, Amanda.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Sark ever, it's like Sparky aligned with you or the
Sparky align with Jody too.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Sparky is aligned either with himself because he's his own being.
He thinks he runs the place, or before Phoebe, you know,
moved out. He's Phoebe's dog, so he was definitely aligned
with Phoebe. He's you know, following her. But because Jody
has now started spoiling both dogs more with treats and
food and stuff, he follows her everywhere. I mean absolutely everywhere.
(10:51):
Because I'm not one of those I do give the treats,
but I don't feed. I'm just one of those that
while I'm eating, I'm not going to feed a dog
just because I don't don't want that pattern. I don't
want that constant, you know, while I'm while.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I'm eating's staying them treats from the table.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah yeah, I mean they will be. Sparky is up,
you know, with his paws on her knees the entire
time she's eating. Now Yeah, so uh all right, three
more questions. That is all we got. Who is the
better parent? This is from Nicole, Who is the better
parent in a crisis? And who's the fun one? Well,
(11:29):
I guess we could just kind of answer that she says,
be honest, she's not here. Well, she's got to hear this, Nicole.
But so I think that honestly, we're both I think
we're both equally good and in a crisis.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
It depends on the crisis.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Yeah, I mean, what do you see you know, you know, Joe,
because Jody, Jody absolutely can go into a let's solve
it mindset and she's got answers and then and I've
watched her do that with Taylor and Phoebe. It's just
like she's not gonna get you know, upset, wound up.
It's gonna be you know, here's here's what to do.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I think Jody has in a crisis, she's got a practical,
quick solution. Your solutions are more analytical, Yeah, something needed
to think about a little bit. Yeah, but I don't
want to not side with Jody, but I think your
solutions are usually more pragmatic and more useful.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh really, I guess maybe.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
For what we're looking what whatever issue I'm looking to
get an answer for, I think my as far as
I'm concerned, I get more pragmatic and useful solutions from you.
That's interesting than Jody. But you know, the other day
I had an issue recording something with you know, and
that's not Jody's forte the computer and equipment admitted to
She says, why don't you just blah blah blah, And
(12:46):
I was like, oh, yeah, I got so wrapped up
in it. I didn't step back to seeing Jody's like, hey,
try this, and he's like, oh, that's the solution.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Yeah, I see. And that really is where Jody, to me,
solves through and cuts through a lot of things because
she is very practical. She's to me, Jody is the
ultimate reset button because if I'm going down a path
because the analytical thing that you're talking about, She's the
one that will usually reset me with the you know,
with the basics. Yeah, you know, well she'll say, well,
it's technology, what do you expect? Yeah, which, of course
(13:17):
will debate it, you know, because I love I love technology.
She doesn't like technology. But many times it's not just
because she doesn't like technology. She's right, it's right, you're
expecting something that is not a human creature to be
you know, perfect and you know, wonderful. All the time.
You're like, I guess that's true.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Yeah, and I've like I've noticed too, I guess like
you that, you know, I get so wrapped up in it, yeah,
whereas Jody is just like that, why don't you Yeah,
it's like, oh, yeah, okay, I got to back out
now and do what Jodie says.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah, And I think that she's better separating an emotional
situation from you know, where you're just really make a
decision because you can't make any decision on something and
you're emotionally clouded. I think we all have as individuals.
When we're the ones experiencing the problem, that's easier said
(14:10):
than done because you're in the emotional moment, which I
guess is the whole take a breath, wait, twenty four hours,
remake that whatever, you know what I mean, to pause
and give yourself distance from that. But from the outside perspective,
I think she's always really good at resetting that part
and saying, Okay, you're in this too emotionally deep, you know.
So I think that she's really I think that she's
very good at that.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
The opposite of that, though, that I have seen happen,
is because Jody is usually like just do this, there
are times where she jumps in a little too fast.
Oh really, it's like we're trying to figure something out
and she'll just like, I do it. Yeah, we'll do this,
and then we'll do that and do it and it's
like whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa whoa, slow down. We got
to make sure A goes before B goes before C.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Well, I mean she just wants to get it done. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
She's a stick and move kind of person, which, of course,
again is another great thing about her. She moves it,
you know, an incredible an incredible speed. So I I mean,
I guess when it comes to crisis, you know, back
to your original question there, Nicole, I think unless it's
a gecko or a roach, then you know, Jody is
(15:15):
really I think she's balanced. I think, honestly, I think
we're okay. So last two questions. This was from Brandon.
So what was the moment that you knew, like you
actually knew that Jody was the one.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
For marriage.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Yeah, so that's one that we mentioned here before. I
guess we get a you know, say both. I'm assuming
Brandon means probably personally, but uh wow. Okay, So the
three of us started working together first, and and I mean,
I think that, wouldn't you agree, Sam. The chemistry just
kind of it really was there, like from the beginning.
(15:56):
It's one of those things you can't you can't create.
I don't know how we've been that fortunate for almost
thirty years to be, you know, had that kind of
chemistry the three of us naturally do.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
I think with Jody would help with her was being
a producer beforehand, Yeah, she wasn't. She didn't just come
in from outside and try to join us because we
already had bromance whatever. But it's like that that you
can finish my punchlines I got runs. Yeah, And because
she worked with us as producer before she joined the
(16:27):
show as Murphy Salmon, Jody, she she was already up
to speed, and I was like, I know where these
two go are going.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
I can fit right in. And she wasn't coming in cold, No,
she was. You're right, that's true. And because I guess
she would. Somebody used to call that a boys club.
It was just two guys clowning around, which sometimes you
know there's the right time and there's the wrong time
to do that. And but yeah, she fit right in.
I mean, because I think that is what opened it up,
(16:54):
made it to feel like a trio immediately. But you know,
from the beginning, it was weird. There were some of
her quirks, I guess, and I've told her this before,
so this is not you know, even if she hears
this in the podcast, she'll knows the truth that there
were some quirks at first that I just didn't I
didn't get at first. So it wasn't like a love
at first sight kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Like what but I think a quirk leaving her shoes around,
you mean, or it was I.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Mean, it was silly, stupid stuff. No, It's like we
had there were a couple of other coworkers and you know,
they would go in these into these soap opera conversations
and they're fan of things or whatever. I mean, just
you know, there's nothing wrong with it or whatsoever. It's
just funny to me how excited they got about that.
And I was just in a different headspace. Now this
is a long time ago too, Yeah, you know, but
(17:41):
it was it wasn't anything major. It just wasn't like
the click. It wasn't the usual conversation. But where it
really all changed, I think, and it was born out
of us working together, when you actually get to see
somebody in action, their real personality. You're in a room
together for eight hours a day, you know, five I
sometimes six days a week, depending on what's going on,
(18:02):
and so you get to see all sides and you
can really see some of these patterns and know who
they are more than just you know, putting on airs.
And so when I when I saw her, you know, working,
just her work ethic and her just like you were
saying a minute ago about the ability to just fit
right in with us, Yeah, I mean she stood up
(18:23):
for herself or whatever. She would rightfully put us in
our place, you know, off a right exactly, and so
that all just it fit and it worked well. And
so it was a tremendous respect that I had for her.
First it came out of first professional then just her
interaction with others, you know, her standards, the way that
(18:45):
she handles things, everything about her. It's just something that
I truly began to admire. And then when we would
sit and just have conversation, that's where I think it
all really began to come together. And the craziest thing
about that for me is that over the course of
you know, a year or so. As that began to,
you know, develop, it almost became unspoken that we were
(19:08):
going to be a couple before I ever told her
that I loved her or anything like that. I think
it's just been kind of it's weird. It gravitated into that,
and I would love to hear her version of this too,
you know. But even as we and then when we
when we were an item, we were talking about getting married.
It's so weird because it was there was nothing really
(19:30):
formal about that either. I think we knew, Okay, we're
going to get married, we're going to be together. It
just it just worked like that. And I know that
sounds really simple, but that's that Brandon is you know
how I knew that she was the one that makes
it really sound very disney like. I know at the
beginning realized over the last twenty it'll be twenty seven
years in November since we've been married, you know, twelve
(19:54):
almost It almost got me. But you know, you there
are a lot of ups and downs in between, so
working with your spouse is not necessarily an easy thing
to do. We've talked about that, I think before, you know,
on the show. But we have mutual respect for each other.
We've managed to somehow weather those ups and downs, especially
the really big, big downs, And I think that's the
(20:15):
secret to getting through any relationship, because you can't expect
there not to be low lows. It's how you handle
the low lows and how you adapt and you know,
move through that that will determine, you know, where you go.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
So one of the things you just mentioned too, was
the fact that you just kind of knew, am I correct?
Neither one of you ever like said, hey, you want
to get married. Yeah, it was just I didn't formally
propose to you, That's what I mean. Nor did she
formally propose to me. I think we just the conversation
just kind of became that and we decided, you know yes.
And what changed that also because we were working together,
(20:50):
you know, and when you're in a company environment, you
have to go to your boss and make sure that
you're being up, you know, upfront and clear about that
because most companies have policies about that. And it was
so funny because Chris, who was our boss at that time,
uh left us hanging. We went had lunch with them
and you know, said, hey, Jody and I want to
(21:11):
get married. Here's the thing, the dates in November, and
we just want to make sure that you're good with that,
you know, whatever we need to before we proceed with that.
And he was like, he said, thank you, he said,
I need to think about this. Of course, made for
a very nerve wracking weekend for us, and then on Monday,
you know, he came back and said, no problem. So,
(21:32):
so thank you, Brandon. I mean, that's kind of a
long way to the answer, but I hope it's the
one you were looking for before I get to you know,
Kala's question here, So is there anything else that you
think you know? Because there are these wind up being
husband questions, Sam, but you know, the three of us
do work together. I'm just trying to what are the
(21:52):
common things that you get asked about about about the
two of us or the three of us together. I
do get asked if there is disagreements, you know, yeah,
that's pretty much. Yeah. I don't get asked are they
(22:15):
really like that in person? Because if I did, it
would be like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Yeah, it's all very real.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
So well, well then we'll wrap with the last question
here from Kayleb, which is funny. Cayla says or She
asked if Jody, if Jody listens to this later, which
she will. Caleb, by the way, if Jody listens to this, Layla,
what's later? What's the one thing that you hope she hears?
You say, yeah, right, I guess it would be that
(22:47):
she's not sappy like that. You know, Jody's not looking
for the It's not that she's not romantic, you know,
but but she's not going to be. I don't think
she's necessarily looking for that or anything.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
And I don't think you put your foot in your
mouth and the podcast.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Jody and I are pretty well aligned when it comes
to that. I mean, she really is. If there's anything
that I want her to hear, it's the same thing
I would want her to hear in person, you know,
which is she is absolutely my best friend. She absolutely
is the love of my life. She has changed me
more than any one individual has in a very positive way.
(23:23):
She's been very patient with me through things, and I
know I have with her too. I understand that that's
a two way street. But you know, there are things
that the biggest change for me in my life in
the thing that she's been most instrumental in that's also
taken the longest time. Is we're both very passionate people.
We're both very definitive, decision oriented. We're very in charge people,
(23:47):
both of us are, and that can cause you to
collide because you're both passionate and you both have you know,
distinct opinions on things. But when we first got into
the relationship, I was a lot more it's my way,
and she never went for that anyway. Just so that
to make us perfectly clear, it's never been, you know,
my way. But my what I mean by that is
(24:10):
I was very hard at it, you know. I mean
there were things that I would refuse to even hear
certain conversations or in arguments because I was so stubborn
and not always really looking at the big picture. And
a lot of that comes out of my you know, family,
you know upbringing, because you know, it was a wonderful
family upbringing, but it was a sort of an authoritarian
(24:33):
type rule in the house, and so you rebel against
that as a teenager, and by the time you're out
in the real world in your twenties, you are pushing
back against all those now that you're in charge, right exactly. Yeah,
And so she's been very you know, patient with the
fact that I would, you know, dig in on certain things,
and even now I wonder it's like why, why why
(24:54):
did I dig in on those? And and she'll tell
you the same thing. I think she'll tell you that
she's changed over time because we both have always communicated
with each other transparently, even when it's difficult to do.
And the things that you don't, you know, want to
necessarily say are comfortable. But I think that that's, you know,
those would be the things that I would want her
if she were listening to know, you know, most about
(25:15):
the relationships. It's the you know, it's it's the best
thing that's ever happened to me. It has been an
incredible roller coaster ride, but an incredible journey with her
two daughters and raising Taylor and Phoebe, you know, with
her and watching her be an incredible mom, which, like
many moms, she had a lot of self doubt about
over the I mean, it's I think that that's a
(25:36):
maternal thing that you're always wrestling with. But she's she's
been a fantastic mom and I don't want to oversimplify
it to say and an awesome wife. It's more than that.
For me, it really is that she's there's there's a
depth there, and there's it's beyond best friendship. It's more
than anything that I can explain. And for somebody that
she'll tell you doesn't believe in soulmates.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Yeah, yeah, don't use that word.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
And I think that she doesn't like that because that
was a term that she heard that was really misused
a lot when she was, you know, a kid, so
and that may be part of the reason for that,
but I mean, I do think that that is is
what we are. So I hope that I hope that
answers that question.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
And I you know, listening to all of this, there's
one thing I wanted to add too, is that you know,
it's been almost almost thirty years now, and yes there
are fights. Yes there are disagreements, whether they're personal, professional, whatever,
at home or I mean, the three of us have
all tied up here in the studio right and yet
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tomorrow we're still back at it. Yeah, exactly. And you
can hear us every day laughing and cutting up because it's.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Like, well, it's good, it is good. You're right, it's genuine.
I mean, we've we've I'm really glad you said that too,
because even though I know that these questions were directed
just about the marriage, you know part of things. It's
a three way marriage that we've got going here, and
I don't know that most people get to experience. It's
that kind of thing, you know. I mean, it's a
and it does take work. From the outside, it looks
(27:05):
really simple, and I think there is for any relationship.
But you know, the relationships that really stick are the
ones where you kind of go through, you know, the worst,
and you come back from it, and you probably come
back from it with a with a better understanding of
each other. And when you actually know, in this case,
three people know each other as well as we do
(27:26):
that you know the quirks, you know the patterns, you
know the you know. Okay, she said this, but in
twenty four hours, this is what you know. I mean, yeah,
and you and you don't judge it anymore. You just
you accept the parts that you know don't need to change,
and then the things that do need to change everybody
talks about and they change, right, And so I think
that's really you're right, that's very astute and it's genuine.
(27:49):
It's this is coming back into here into what we do.
I miss not having Jodi here, you know today for
that because it is the three of us. I hope
it's not too boring of a podcast because it's just
me and you hanging out. But you know, but hopefully
that gives you a snapshot of the questions for the
husband questions, you know, and in the show.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Yeah, and whenever Jody does get back, we are going
to ask her to a comment on one of your comments,
which one, well, the question was about when did you
know okay, and you even made a comment like maybe
Jody would have a different answer for this, so maybe
we can get her answer for this.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Yeah, exactly, that's a that's we should totally do that. Well,
thank you, Steph and Jenna, Lauren, Ashley, Amanda, I want
to make sure that the name's right, Nicole, Brandon, and Kayla.
I really appreciate you sending the dms to us. And
there are your questions for the one and only time
that you're probably ask the husband missed any part of
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the show. Get it All on the Murphy, Sam and
Jody Podcast.
Welcome to the Murphy Sam and Jody after the Show podcast.
And the thing that's different about this today, which if
you're watching on YouTube you'll see it immediately, is Jody
is not here. Jody's traveling now. She had to leave
as soon as we got done with the show this morning.
Oh she didn't have enough of us. No, it wasn't
one of those. It was okay. And so that leaves
me and Sam, which is kind of a dangerous proposition.
(00:23):
But what I thought we would do is I have
compiled some of the dms that we get from Facebook,
and so we'll make this ask the husbands Jody and
are married, where I can answer some questions about Jody
without Jody.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
You know, this will be on the.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Internet, right, yeah, and so we'll see how that goes. Actually,
I think I'm pretty sure a lot of these I
could probably. I mean, I would answer to her face,
no problem. But anyway, this will give you that way.
Jody's here without being here, and you'll learn a little
bit more about her. So if there's something that you
see that's not right about this, Sam, you let me know.
So the first question here is from Steph. She says,
(01:03):
you drive to work together every morning at four am?
Are you two actually talking or is it dead silence
until the coffee kicks in. So here's the thing about
that stuff. We actually don't ride to work together every morning,
you know, by design.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
In fact, if you ask Jody, she doesn't want to
do that, which is fine with me. Honestly. That kind
of goes back to we were working together before we
got married, and so we do look at we look
at this as we're two professionals working together, and there's
nothing wrong with couples that actually do that. And I
do know some couples that, you know, to save money
or whatever, we'll ride together.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
So is she doing that because she wants to get
here and get things started, because she doesn't want to
ride with you, or she wants to have our car
later in the day.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I think it's all of those. I think it's all
of the above with that. But I mean she is
she's in her own, you know, headspace when she comes
here and is looking at all the things that for
three things to know and the Hollywood outsider and you know,
getting up to date, you've got to be focused, and
so you know, she prefers that. And we see plenty
of each other, you know anyway, So but but yeah,
that and it's funny, Sam, I didn't think about that.
(02:08):
You're right, we'd be tied together for everything the rest
of the day. Yes, for her, that would be really
annoying for me.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Can I have the keys?
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Yeah? All right, Well, thank you, Steph. Jenna says you've
worked together for years. Who is the boss at home?
And is the same person? Is that the same person
who's the boss in the studio? Oh well I could
ask that one Sam. Yeah, it's two different people. Jody.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
From what I can gather, Jody is the house manager
boss at home? Yeah, correct, yes, and you are the
boss here in the studio. You're gutting force here in
the studio.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Well leads the show. Yeah, I think she leads the show.
I think that, you know, I think she's the boss
here too. Really well, I mean when it comes to
the show related stuff. Yeah, the three of us together
for most of it. Yeah, Yeah, it's wise for us
to consider her the boss you know, in both Ye,
in both places. But you know, yeah, and and the
(03:05):
thing is, and I don't know that we necessarily look
at it that way at home. I don't think she's
necessarily telling me what to do, but she is by
far better at orchestrating house stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah, it's her organizational skills. I think we touched on
this earlier in the week, that that's her mentality. So
she takes over at the home, at the house when
it's like we got to do this, we got to
do this, we got to do this, pick up this,
clean up that.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah. So yeah, I mean I think that that's to
call it a bos almost makes it sound like it's
more you know, intense to what it is. She just
it's her area of strength. And the reason that I mean,
I guess you're saying that is because like on the
the business side, the left brain part of me, you know,
does a lot of that stuff here. But at the
(03:50):
end of the day, Murphy Salmon, Jody is a Jody
lit thing.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Have you ever really given serious thought to change in
the logo and the name of the show.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
What to put Jody first? Yeah, I mean she should be.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
The three of us have joked about it, you know,
behind the scenes privately, because Jody is so much of
the show, leading the show, Jody's Hollywood outsider and the
three things everything.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
So I asked her, you know early on because I
wanted to make the Jody part of it bigger. It's
only that way because it started out as me and you,
and then it was we had Amy working with us
for a while and then so you know, it just
that's that was the logical change. So she's not an
afterthought by any stretching imagination. But she wouldn't let me
make the Jodi part bigger. Oh, she didn't want them.
(04:35):
She doesn't want to go first either. She doesn't want
to go first. So Lauren says, when you disagree, when
you disagree on air about something real, does it follow
you home or is it settled the second the MIC's off.
That's a really good question. I don't know how many
things that we've disagreed with here are like a surprise
(04:59):
and then it comes up at home.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I yeah, the stuff that if there's any disagreement here,
it's usually you know, after we finished the segment or
turn them and it's like, no, don't you remember I
said this? Oh yeah, yeah, right, Because I don't nothing's
ever that serious of a disagreement on the show that
would go home.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
I would think, yeah, I mean now every now and then,
and this isn't the disagreement thing. We will purposely not
tell each other stories at home, you know, or the
three of us together and we're just hanging, you know, socially,
something that we want to save for the show because
we want there to be a genuine reaction because we're
not actors.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Yeah, and that if you're a couple, that might seem
odd to you to like keep things from your spouse,
But for us, we're always thinking of the show, and
it's like, WHOA, I want to tell Jody this, but
I'd rather tell her with Sam and everybody listening, so
that we can get her real reaction.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Yes, exactly, And I bet you so. The same thing
will happen. She's traveling right now. There will be things
that she won't won't tell me when she gets back
that you know, we'll share together.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
How was the trip fine? Yeah, okay, so.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Uh anyway, Lauren, I mean, I hope that kind of
answers you know, the question. And we really do the
if you flip it around the other way, we really
do try to separate the two because if we don't,
it's always going to be a little bit difficult. If
something happens at home that's a disagreement that sticks to
then come to the room and just you know, be
happy and you know, focused on the show and everything
that we're supposed to we do it. I mean, I
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think our mindset is such we can switch into that,
but that that can make it a little more you know, tricky.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
So if it's a more lighthearted disagreement at home, you
can bring it here and we yes, laugh about it
and yeah, ah, guess what Murphy did.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yes, yeah, And you're right, it's usually about me making
making fun of repoking fun of myself. Ashley. Do you
do you two ever talk about the show at home?
Do you talk about Sam at home? Or is it
a hard no? Once you walk in the door, I guess,
And you put classes on so I can actually see
the print on these, so I guess I mean that
(07:00):
pens too. We have a pretty good separation between work
and at home, and it is for I mean, Sam's
always a part of our lives, and so I mean,
I don't know, I don't know if you're talking you know,
when you're by yourself at home.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
But I tell the that's what Murphy and Jodi did today.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Right, are the you know or the kids you know?
You could do that or you know, even your mom.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Yeah, yeah, I'll get questions every now and then. By
the way, speaking of which, my mom got the birthday
card that all three of us signed.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Oh did she okay?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, she said yeah that Murphy sure is serious about
all that. I guess. I don't know what you wrote,
but I don't know if it was serious, like you know,
you're an inspiration or whatever. But she's she made a
comment that you were you serious.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Ah, well, she's used to me because she is so funny.
Everything that she does is either self deprecating or joking.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Yeah, I think I was just telling her. I mean,
how inspired we are by her. And you know me,
I mean I've got a I got she's eighty seven
years old, and I just naturally to me, you know,
a senior, anybody who's a senior like that, just I
got a soft spot.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
And I admire what they've done. And she's tough, man.
I mean, she is just like you know.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Broken her hip, got back to work. She doesn't stables
in her head. She had a snake around her neck
a week ago.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
That's right, I forgot about that too. Nothing stops her,
so well, miss Judy, I'm sorry if I was too serious.
Let's go back to the DMS here and see we
answer that one. Do we talk about I mean we
talk about usually if we talk about Sam at home,
it's something funny that's happening. Honestly, it's something either I
(08:34):
can't stop laughing about, you know, or whatever. And I
guess this will give you a little insight too. We
actually do, even though we spend eight hours a day
in this room together, if something funny happens, we'll shoot
each other a photo or a text or you know.
I mean, between the three of us, you know, it's
we're always on some kind of a.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Group chacons are always full.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Of texts, Yes, right exactly, because you never know wh
we're going to fine, especially if we're out thrifting. Amanda,
whose side do Taylor and phoebe Ord's Jody's boyfriend dog
Champ Lol take when you two argue. I don't know
that anybody really takes sides on that. Jody and I've
(09:17):
actually been in that. Guess this is a serious answer.
So we've always arguing with something that we always tried
to do if we were in that you know, kind
of out of earshot. If possible. Sometimes that's you know, impossible.
If it's been something, then we've When Taylor and Phoebe
were younger, we would explain that, but I think they
would also see us work something all the way through.
It wasn't like something was unresolved. But as far as
(09:40):
taking sides, I don't think we ever really wanted that
to be the case. We want Taylor and Phoebe to be,
you know, independent decision makers, thinkers, their own thing, and
we never wanted there to be a divide, you know,
in conquer. I do know what Jody would say though
if she were here in answering, it probably wasn't more
about the argument that she would think that I would be.
(10:01):
I would play things off jokingly, not in my arguments
with Jody, but in terms of how we handled you
know them that you know she's always said before, Yeah
you got to be fun, Dad, Well I got to
be the heavy. But I think that we I think
we balanced that out. I just love having you know, fun.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But what about Champ.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
So Champ's always going to take jokes. Yeah, that's what
I figured, and he's he's vocal about it. The thank you, Amanda.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Sark ever, it's like Sparky aligned with you or the
Sparky align with Jody too.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Sparky is aligned either with himself because he's his own being.
He thinks he runs the place, or before Phoebe, you know,
moved out. He's Phoebe's dog, so he was definitely aligned
with Phoebe. He's you know, following her. But because Jody
has now started spoiling both dogs more with treats and
food and stuff, he follows her everywhere. I mean absolutely everywhere.
(10:51):
Because I'm not one of those I do give the treats,
but I don't feed. I'm just one of those that
while I'm eating, I'm not going to feed a dog
just because I don't don't want that pattern. I don't
want that constant, you know, while I'm while.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I'm eating's staying them treats from the table.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah yeah, I mean they will be. Sparky is up,
you know, with his paws on her knees the entire
time she's eating. Now Yeah, so uh all right, three
more questions. That is all we got. Who is the
better parent? This is from Nicole, Who is the better
parent in a crisis? And who's the fun one? Well,
(11:29):
I guess we could just kind of answer that she says,
be honest, she's not here. Well, she's got to hear this, Nicole.
But so I think that honestly, we're both I think
we're both equally good and in a crisis.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
It depends on the crisis.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Yeah, I mean, what do you see you know, you know, Joe,
because Jody, Jody absolutely can go into a let's solve
it mindset and she's got answers and then and I've
watched her do that with Taylor and Phoebe. It's just
like she's not gonna get you know, upset, wound up.
It's gonna be you know, here's here's what to do.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I think Jody has in a crisis, she's got a practical,
quick solution. Your solutions are more analytical, Yeah, something needed
to think about a little bit. Yeah, but I don't
want to not side with Jody, but I think your
solutions are usually more pragmatic and more useful.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh really, I guess maybe.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
For what we're looking what whatever issue I'm looking to
get an answer for, I think my as far as
I'm concerned, I get more pragmatic and useful solutions from you.
That's interesting than Jody. But you know, the other day
I had an issue recording something with you know, and
that's not Jody's forte the computer and equipment admitted to
She says, why don't you just blah blah blah, And
(12:46):
I was like, oh, yeah, I got so wrapped up
in it. I didn't step back to seeing Jody's like, hey,
try this, and he's like, oh, that's the solution.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Yeah, I see. And that really is where Jody, to me,
solves through and cuts through a lot of things because
she is very practical. She's to me, Jody is the
ultimate reset button because if I'm going down a path
because the analytical thing that you're talking about, She's the
one that will usually reset me with the you know,
with the basics. Yeah, you know, well she'll say, well,
it's technology, what do you expect? Yeah, which, of course
(13:17):
will debate it, you know, because I love I love technology.
She doesn't like technology. But many times it's not just
because she doesn't like technology. She's right, it's right, you're
expecting something that is not a human creature to be
you know, perfect and you know, wonderful. All the time.
You're like, I guess that's true.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Yeah, and I've like I've noticed too, I guess like
you that, you know, I get so wrapped up in it, yeah,
whereas Jody is just like that, why don't you Yeah,
it's like, oh, yeah, okay, I got to back out
now and do what Jodie says.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Yeah, And I think that she's better separating an emotional
situation from you know, where you're just really make a
decision because you can't make any decision on something and
you're emotionally clouded. I think we all have as individuals.
When we're the ones experiencing the problem, that's easier said
(14:10):
than done because you're in the emotional moment, which I
guess is the whole take a breath, wait, twenty four hours,
remake that whatever, you know what I mean, to pause
and give yourself distance from that. But from the outside perspective,
I think she's always really good at resetting that part
and saying, Okay, you're in this too emotionally deep, you know.
So I think that she's really I think that she's
very good at that.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
The opposite of that, though, that I have seen happen,
is because Jody is usually like just do this, there
are times where she jumps in a little too fast.
Oh really, it's like we're trying to figure something out
and she'll just like, I do it. Yeah, we'll do this,
and then we'll do that and do it and it's
like whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa whoa, slow down. We got
to make sure A goes before B goes before C.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Well, I mean she just wants to get it done. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
She's a stick and move kind of person, which, of course,
again is another great thing about her. She moves it,
you know, an incredible an incredible speed. So I I mean,
I guess when it comes to crisis, you know, back
to your original question there, Nicole, I think unless it's
a gecko or a roach, then you know, Jody is
(15:15):
really I think she's balanced. I think, honestly, I think
we're okay. So last two questions. This was from Brandon.
So what was the moment that you knew, like you
actually knew that Jody was the one.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
For marriage.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Yeah, so that's one that we mentioned here before. I
guess we get a you know, say both. I'm assuming
Brandon means probably personally, but uh wow. Okay, So the
three of us started working together first, and and I mean,
I think that, wouldn't you agree, Sam. The chemistry just
kind of it really was there, like from the beginning.
(15:56):
It's one of those things you can't you can't create.
I don't know how we've been that fortunate for almost
thirty years to be, you know, had that kind of
chemistry the three of us naturally do.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
I think with Jody would help with her was being
a producer beforehand, Yeah, she wasn't. She didn't just come
in from outside and try to join us because we
already had bromance whatever. But it's like that that you
can finish my punchlines I got runs. Yeah, And because
she worked with us as producer before she joined the
(16:27):
show as Murphy Salmon, Jody, she she was already up
to speed, and I was like, I know where these
two go are going.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
I can fit right in. And she wasn't coming in cold, No,
she was. You're right, that's true. And because I guess
she would. Somebody used to call that a boys club.
It was just two guys clowning around, which sometimes you
know there's the right time and there's the wrong time
to do that. And but yeah, she fit right in.
I mean, because I think that is what opened it up,
(16:54):
made it to feel like a trio immediately. But you know,
from the beginning, it was weird. There were some of
her quirks, I guess, and I've told her this before,
so this is not you know, even if she hears
this in the podcast, she'll knows the truth that there
were some quirks at first that I just didn't I
didn't get at first. So it wasn't like a love
at first sight kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Like what but I think a quirk leaving her shoes around,
you mean, or it was I.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Mean, it was silly, stupid stuff. No, It's like we
had there were a couple of other coworkers and you know,
they would go in these into these soap opera conversations
and they're fan of things or whatever. I mean, just
you know, there's nothing wrong with it or whatsoever. It's
just funny to me how excited they got about that.
And I was just in a different headspace. Now this
is a long time ago too, Yeah, you know, but
(17:41):
it was it wasn't anything major. It just wasn't like
the click. It wasn't the usual conversation. But where it
really all changed, I think, and it was born out
of us working together, when you actually get to see
somebody in action, their real personality. You're in a room
together for eight hours a day, you know, five I
sometimes six days a week, depending on what's going on,
(18:02):
and so you get to see all sides and you
can really see some of these patterns and know who
they are more than just you know, putting on airs.
And so when I when I saw her, you know, working,
just her work ethic and her just like you were
saying a minute ago about the ability to just fit
right in with us, Yeah, I mean she stood up
(18:23):
for herself or whatever. She would rightfully put us in
our place, you know, off a right exactly, and so
that all just it fit and it worked well. And
so it was a tremendous respect that I had for her.
First it came out of first professional then just her
interaction with others, you know, her standards, the way that
(18:45):
she handles things, everything about her. It's just something that
I truly began to admire. And then when we would
sit and just have conversation, that's where I think it
all really began to come together. And the craziest thing
about that for me is that over the course of
you know, a year or so. As that began to,
you know, develop, it almost became unspoken that we were
(19:08):
going to be a couple before I ever told her
that I loved her or anything like that. I think
it's just been kind of it's weird. It gravitated into that,
and I would love to hear her version of this too,
you know. But even as we and then when we
when we were an item, we were talking about getting married.
It's so weird because it was there was nothing really
(19:30):
formal about that either. I think we knew, Okay, we're
going to get married, we're going to be together. It
just it just worked like that. And I know that
sounds really simple, but that's that Brandon is you know
how I knew that she was the one that makes
it really sound very disney like. I know at the
beginning realized over the last twenty it'll be twenty seven
years in November since we've been married, you know, twelve
(19:54):
almost It almost got me. But you know, you there
are a lot of ups and downs in between, so
working with your spouse is not necessarily an easy thing
to do. We've talked about that, I think before, you know,
on the show. But we have mutual respect for each other.
We've managed to somehow weather those ups and downs, especially
the really big, big downs, And I think that's the
(20:15):
secret to getting through any relationship, because you can't expect
there not to be low lows. It's how you handle
the low lows and how you adapt and you know,
move through that that will determine, you know, where you go.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
So one of the things you just mentioned too, was
the fact that you just kind of knew, am I correct?
Neither one of you ever like said, hey, you want
to get married. Yeah, it was just I didn't formally
propose to you, That's what I mean. Nor did she
formally propose to me. I think we just the conversation
just kind of became that and we decided, you know yes.
And what changed that also because we were working together,
(20:50):
you know, and when you're in a company environment, you
have to go to your boss and make sure that
you're being up, you know, upfront and clear about that
because most companies have policies about that. And it was
so funny because Chris, who was our boss at that time,
uh left us hanging. We went had lunch with them
and you know, said, hey, Jody and I want to
(21:11):
get married. Here's the thing, the dates in November, and
we just want to make sure that you're good with that,
you know, whatever we need to before we proceed with that.
And he was like, he said, thank you, he said,
I need to think about this. Of course, made for
a very nerve wracking weekend for us, and then on Monday,
you know, he came back and said, no problem. So,
(21:32):
so thank you, Brandon. I mean, that's kind of a
long way to the answer, but I hope it's the
one you were looking for before I get to you know,
Kala's question here, So is there anything else that you
think you know? Because there are these wind up being
husband questions, Sam, but you know, the three of us
do work together. I'm just trying to what are the
(21:52):
common things that you get asked about about about the
two of us or the three of us together. I
do get asked if there is disagreements, you know, yeah,
that's pretty much. Yeah. I don't get asked are they
(22:15):
really like that in person? Because if I did, it
would be like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Yeah, it's all very real.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
So well, well then we'll wrap with the last question
here from Kayleb, which is funny. Cayla says or She
asked if Jody, if Jody listens to this later, which
she will. Caleb, by the way, if Jody listens to this, Layla,
what's later? What's the one thing that you hope she hears?
You say, yeah, right, I guess it would be that
(22:47):
she's not sappy like that. You know, Jody's not looking
for the It's not that she's not romantic, you know,
but but she's not going to be. I don't think
she's necessarily looking for that or anything.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
And I don't think you put your foot in your
mouth and the podcast.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Jody and I are pretty well aligned when it comes
to that. I mean, she really is. If there's anything
that I want her to hear, it's the same thing
I would want her to hear in person, you know,
which is she is absolutely my best friend. She absolutely
is the love of my life. She has changed me
more than any one individual has in a very positive way.
(23:23):
She's been very patient with me through things, and I
know I have with her too. I understand that that's
a two way street. But you know, there are things
that the biggest change for me in my life in
the thing that she's been most instrumental in that's also
taken the longest time. Is we're both very passionate people.
We're both very definitive, decision oriented. We're very in charge people,
(23:47):
both of us are, and that can cause you to
collide because you're both passionate and you both have you know,
distinct opinions on things. But when we first got into
the relationship, I was a lot more it's my way,
and she never went for that anyway. Just so that
to make us perfectly clear, it's never been, you know,
my way. But my what I mean by that is
(24:10):
I was very hard at it, you know. I mean
there were things that I would refuse to even hear
certain conversations or in arguments because I was so stubborn
and not always really looking at the big picture. And
a lot of that comes out of my you know, family,
you know upbringing, because you know, it was a wonderful
family upbringing, but it was a sort of an authoritarian
(24:33):
type rule in the house, and so you rebel against
that as a teenager, and by the time you're out
in the real world in your twenties, you are pushing
back against all those now that you're in charge, right exactly. Yeah,
And so she's been very you know, patient with the
fact that I would, you know, dig in on certain things,
and even now I wonder it's like why, why why
(24:54):
did I dig in on those? And and she'll tell
you the same thing. I think she'll tell you that
she's changed over time because we both have always communicated
with each other transparently, even when it's difficult to do.
And the things that you don't, you know, want to
necessarily say are comfortable. But I think that that's, you know,
those would be the things that I would want her
if she were listening to know, you know, most about
(25:15):
the relationships. It's the you know, it's it's the best
thing that's ever happened to me. It has been an
incredible roller coaster ride, but an incredible journey with her
two daughters and raising Taylor and Phoebe, you know, with
her and watching her be an incredible mom, which, like
many moms, she had a lot of self doubt about
over the I mean, it's I think that that's a
(25:36):
maternal thing that you're always wrestling with. But she's she's
been a fantastic mom and I don't want to oversimplify
it to say and an awesome wife. It's more than that.
For me, it really is that she's there's there's a
depth there, and there's it's beyond best friendship. It's more
than anything that I can explain. And for somebody that
she'll tell you doesn't believe in soulmates.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Yeah, yeah, don't use that word.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
And I think that she doesn't like that because that
was a term that she heard that was really misused
a lot when she was, you know, a kid, so
and that may be part of the reason for that,
but I mean, I do think that that is is
what we are. So I hope that I hope that
answers that question.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
And I you know, listening to all of this, there's
one thing I wanted to add too, is that you know,
it's been almost almost thirty years now, and yes there
are fights. Yes there are disagreements, whether they're personal, professional, whatever,
at home or I mean, the three of us have
all tied up here in the studio right and yet
(26:37):
tomorrow we're still back at it. Yeah, exactly. And you
can hear us every day laughing and cutting up because it's.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Like, well, it's good, it is good. You're right, it's genuine.
I mean, we've we've I'm really glad you said that too,
because even though I know that these questions were directed
just about the marriage, you know part of things. It's
a three way marriage that we've got going here, and
I don't know that most people get to experience. It's
that kind of thing, you know. I mean, it's a
and it does take work. From the outside, it looks
(27:05):
really simple, and I think there is for any relationship.
But you know, the relationships that really stick are the
ones where you kind of go through, you know, the worst,
and you come back from it, and you probably come
back from it with a with a better understanding of
each other. And when you actually know, in this case,
three people know each other as well as we do
(27:26):
that you know the quirks, you know the patterns, you
know the you know. Okay, she said this, but in
twenty four hours, this is what you know. I mean, yeah,
and you and you don't judge it anymore. You just
you accept the parts that you know don't need to change,
and then the things that do need to change everybody
talks about and they change, right, And so I think
that's really you're right, that's very astute and it's genuine.
(27:49):
It's this is coming back into here into what we do.
I miss not having Jodi here, you know today for
that because it is the three of us. I hope
it's not too boring of a podcast because it's just
me and you hanging out. But you know, but hopefully
that gives you a snapshot of the questions for the
husband questions, you know, and in the show.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Yeah, and whenever Jody does get back, we are going
to ask her to a comment on one of your comments,
which one, well, the question was about when did you
know okay, and you even made a comment like maybe
Jody would have a different answer for this, so maybe
we can get her answer for this.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Yeah, exactly, that's a that's we should totally do that. Well,
thank you, Steph and Jenna, Lauren, Ashley, Amanda, I want
to make sure that the name's right, Nicole, Brandon, and Kayla.
I really appreciate you sending the dms to us. And
there are your questions for the one and only time
that you're probably ask the husband missed any part of
(28:46):
the show. Get it All on the Murphy, Sam and
Jody Podcast.
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