July 24, 2026 • 31 mins
Why so many people are happily single these days and how being alone can make you a better partner. Then - the debate on whether you wash new clothes before wearing them, and hear the sweet, heavy question about grieving a parent after Murphy's dad's Corvette surprise. Plus, Sam's mom Miss Judy turns 87 and casually wrangles a boa constrictor, and Jodi and Sam navigate a very awkward work performance review.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Choty Weekend Show podcast, highlighting
some of our favorite moments from this past.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Week benefits of being alone? Sam, are you excited about
this topic I came across this list? Is that your top?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
No?
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Okay, I have to sit and think about it.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
I want okay, I want you to think about it.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
To be continued, but I will say this, more and
more people are happily single today, this year, twenty twenty six,
and ever reported in the history of humankind. And I
I can tell you from my experience of my I've
got a lot of friends who are single, close friends.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
You know them.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Already, they know you already too, and everybody happened big boy.
But I can say these are girlfriends who really confide
in me, and they they are really happy single. One
of them told me this, I'm so set and happy
single right now. I'm open to somebody coming into my life,
(01:04):
she says. But you're gonna have to beat that. In
other words, if I'm happy, you're gonna have to bring
a level, a higher level You're gonna have to beat
how content I am.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Yeah, It's taken a long time to get to that
level for me. Yeah, yeah, I think happier as a
loon alone now.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, And that's wonderful for you, and that's wonderful for anyone.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
You know, anything that I did before doesn't mean anything less.
It's just I'm at the point now where I'm happy.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
You have your own life, and everybody has their own life,
and they I'm sure your exes have feelings about that too.
So a certain type of person thrives alone. And so
people who enjoy being alone and who are thriving in
it say, this is what makes them feel happy, this
is why right, they don't have to compromise. Maybe they
were tired of compromising. I have another girlfriend who never
(01:51):
got married, and she told me she was like, Jody,
I just never wanted anybody else's opinion about what to watch.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
We're to go on vacation. If I could all of that,
I was.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Like, dang, oh my way or the highway.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
You become more productive in your own life, that's in
the list. You really get to know yourself.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
That's true. Yeah, when you're sitting all alone, it's like
you got your thoughts right, you got your feelings, you
got your emotions.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
It's funny is after a stint of you being successfully
solo and thriving, to me is when you would be
a better partner if someone were to come along, if
you really know yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, that makes total sense to me, you know, because
once you really establish that part and you have your
clear identity of who you are, you will be better
at helping others and not. You know, there's a difference
between compromising and you know, completely sacrificing everything that you
want for someone, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
In which case you'd lose yourself.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Yeah, exactly, keep on it and you can tell us
what else you like about me. So Social Media Connect
yesterday's after the Show podcast gonna encourage you to go
back and listen to that if you struggle with friendship,
if you are an adult and you struggle with making
adult friends, or if you have a child who is
(03:10):
struggling with making friends.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
And here we are at the beginning of a new
school year. Because we talked all about.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Friends and friendships and how they can come and go
in and out of your life as seasons, or you
can have lifelong friends. And I did a Facebook live
on it the other night, Girl Talked Tuesday. It was
all a bunch of girlfriends. So wanted to share some
of these beautiful comments that keep rolling in about this delicate,
beautiful subject. Sabrina says Hi watching the replay, she means
(03:38):
of the Facebook live. I moved the second half of
eighth grade, and it was so difficult to make friends.
I learned a lot from that struggle in junior high school.
I realized that I was trying too hard to please
other people so that they would like me. As an adult,
I have a handful of women who are my tribe.
I can be myself and not have to worry about
being judged. Have a wonderful night. That was from Sabrina.
(04:03):
That's true. That's one of the things.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
That's that school thing too we're talking about, you know,
and I changed schools in the middle of seventh grade,
which is really tricky. I don't even have a summer
to break it up, so going from you know, my
first semester at one school and the second to another.
Fortunately I knew some of my friends who were there,
but it was like starting over.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
Yeah, it was weird.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
It's one of the things that we talked about the
other night, Like one of the check boxes that you
have to know whether you're a kid or an adult,
if you feel like you have to be somebody else
or change yourself to sort of fit in, it's not
a fit. But you don't really know that when you're
a kid, and when you're a kid, and let's just say,
you want a friend so badly, which is also a
very natural human thing. I always enjoy the girl talks.
(04:45):
This is from Regina. Love these experiences. We all have them.
Tracy says, I have two very good friends that know
all of my secrets, if you know what I mean.
It's sad when you think a person is a close
friend and then they drop you. It happened to me
as an adult. I'm sorry, Tracy. Some people do come
in and out, and that's also part of it. You
have to know that. Adriana says, my friends from high
(05:08):
school still we are still all in contact through what's
app There you go, Ynice, thanks for having girl Talk Tuesday.
That's Lisa, and Sherry says, I tell my daughter to
stay in contact with your childhood friends. I have five
best friends since kindergarten. Wow, Wow, we keep it coming, Jody.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Is a follow up to your being alone?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
It was not my being alone?
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Is we talk about being alone and what were the
benefits of being alone.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
A lot of people see.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Single who are single who are really finding that they're
thriving in their lives and that they love it and
didn't expect to.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
It's before you rush into something like that. I think
it's cautionary that it's it's maybe you got to make
sure you're ready for it. I think because I was
always a married person, always had a partner, and I mean,
you know my history, I went from one partner to
the next to the next. There was really no break
in between. So when I find there were transitions, we
can actually build a float chart.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Okay, Murphy, that's not very supportive and judging.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Sam knows, I'm kidding. Of course, I'm not judging.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
I'm here. On the first chart, you will see the
year's nineteen eighty nine, and that's the nineteen ninety nine.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
And that's very human. It's okay.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
But when it finally came to the point where it's
like I'd finish with everybody done doing this. Not that
I said I was finished, but when you decide, okay,
I'm gonna go this alone, it's it's it's a big
leap because you don't know what alone is until you're alone.
Oh okay, wow the title of my new book. So
(06:49):
you gotta be ready for it. I mean, and plus
the stuff you talked about too, you know, no compromising,
but you also have nobody to compromise with.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah, it would be nice sometimes to have no honey.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Do list, but stuff still need to get done. Yeah,
and there's no honey And yeah you got a free weekend.
But like you said, sit on the sofa and just
stare at the TV. So if and I'm not downplaying
being single because I love it, I'm to that point
where that's where that's what it's going to be unless
unless you know, the unicorn comes along.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Well, So being you know, single and alone like that, though,
I would assume teaches you how to avoid codependency, right,
I mean you're gonna yes.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
I think, I think or swim.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Yeah, I think I had a I don't know if
it's codependency or a need for another person in my
life constantly kind of various reasons. Sure, and then I
would blow that up and now.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
You know you're okay.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Yeah. Good.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
One of the things reported from all these people who
are thriving in their singlehood is that they also report
feeling more confident because they're doing it, which is what
sounds like now.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
I can make it, usually make a decision with out
having to you know, run it past the committee.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
And well, we've seen that confidence building, you know, because
you started taking like your solo vacations a couple of
years ago. You know what I mean. You've really started
doing things on your own that you've normally would have
done with another person, only.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Because I have no choice.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Murphy got to see his dad's little red Corvette this
weekend and a surprise that we sort of orchestrated with
the current owner of the car with an author.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
His name is Stephen Chapis, who is.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Going to write about the car, the Corvette, and Sam,
you were invited to come over the house for this surprise.
You know. I told Murphy to please keep the day
day open, and when the doorbell rang at eleven am,
I knew.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
That it was he needed to be the one to
open the door.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Yeah, and I was.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
As I mentioned earlier, I was just blown away. I
still am blown away about it, and we'll talk about
it more in the after the show podcast. Right, this
is what it sounded like, by the way, when he
was walking driving me out of the driveway. A classic
sound there.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
You know. Look when he left our house after all
those hours, and I thought you were gonna cry.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
He revved it, of course on our street.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
See, uh, this is a sixty six Corvett.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Right, it's a nineteen sixty six stingray Am. I correct,
that's right, it's it's so beautiful. Anyway, I wanted to
tell you guys this Stephen, who is writing about it,
and who really is the one who made this happen.
I may have made some plans with Murphy and Kevin
definitely gave us his time and brought the car, but
Stephen really made this happen. And it's so funny because
(09:34):
he's listened to the show for a long time and
once he was at the house, like Murphy and Kevin
are outside drooling over the car. Stephen comes inside and I,
of course have all this food laid out on the
bar like a board, cheeseboard.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
And grapes and all that.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
And he was like Joe, Joe.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
He said, by the way, I knew you were going
to do this.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
That's a number one.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
And then he asked me about you, Sam. You know
why you know how Sam today and I said, look,
I want you to know I invited Sam. And he goes, well,
I understand that, he says, because Sam would have had
to be around people if he'd.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Have been here. He really knows us.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Then in the later in the afternoon, you don't know
this what Kevin took his vet and went home. Uh,
Steven stayed and hung out with me and Murphy like
all evening. We went out to eat, we had cocktails
and Murphy had a mocktail.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
We had a really great time getting to know him.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
But he even came to see our youngest daughther, Phoebe.
Would she actually had a gig and so she to hear.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
But I rode in him, hitting his truck from one
point to the next because he had this really cool truck,
and I'm like, I love your truck. And he let
me ride with him, and at one point he had
to stop short, like in traffic, and he goes, I
didn't mean to make you win.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Like he knows us.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
So Stephen, we hear you and see you, we asked,
and boy did you respond? Do you wash new clothes
before wearing them? You buy something at a store, do
you wash it first?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (11:04):
The comments that are rolling in about this. Oh, absolutely
don't know where they've been or who's touched them or
whatever production chemicals are on them.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Yeah, I think that's the big thing. The question is
on that. Yeah, But the answer to you for me
is it depends.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
That's it. That's Kimberly.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
I like to watch them first, but I have had
a few situations where I had to change right then
into the clothes, So I guess depends on the situation.
That's from kim GINGI said only underwear. She only watches
underwear first.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Shout out for that.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yeah, I can see that. You don't want color chemicals
pressing up against things.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
No, and just people have touched anyway.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Just said I got a bad skin rash one time
by not washing before wearing. Never made that mistake. Again,
that depends on you too. If you have a sense
you have sensitive skin. You don't know what the shipping
situation was, you don't know what the chemical situation is.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Do you wash yours before you most of.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
The time, yes, I will say this a really good
pair of jeans. I try to wash as seldom as possible,
because you know it changes the makeup of the gene.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yeah, well really any clothing like that. If it's not
something you're gonna sweat in or whatever. Age, right, the
more that you wash it, the more you wear it out.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Yeah, Amelia says yes. When they're in a warehouse, bugs
get on them, even rats are dropping, and if chemicals
are used to prevent that, it definitely needs to be washed. Plus,
clothing and clothing stores can be tried on and people
are sweaty and you don't know whether who the last
person was to wear what you're bringing home. Wow, good points,
all good points, well made. This is Jason, I worked
(12:44):
retail for too long. All people even wipe things on clothes.
What he just means like, if you have sticky hands
and kids with ice cream or whatever, don't be grossed
up with the word wipe.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
His final thing is people are gross. Angela says no,
she doesn't. I'm lazy. You know you have it's you
have that choice.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
I feel like it is situational, like Murphy said, but
for the most part, people who work in retail will
recommend that you wash things first before you wear them.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Well, I know people who travel certain you know things,
it's they'll bring an extra shirt that's been just recently
purchased and they leave it in the package until they
get to the hotel room.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Or yeah, also, Kathy, it depends dark washed jeans. Yes,
that makes sense, and underwear. Underwear getting a lot of
a lot of votes. Here morning pick me up time.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
We're gonna help you upgate upgrade your game this morning
in the AI game without using AI.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
By the way, Oh thank goodness.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
And so if you're dealing with AI angst, there is
one thing, and this is it's Warren Buffett, who you
know you can pretty much trust any advice from Warren Buffett,
like one of the wealthiest men in the world, self made,
but still drives the same car that he bought like
fifteen years ago. I mean, this is, you know, a
billionaire who lives quite frugally. But anyway, he's in his
nineties and and he says that they're driving.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
I'm sorry, that's a good.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Question, you know. But there's one thing that he says
in the AI ads. It's going to guarantee you success
in the future. And it has nothing to do with
AI at all. It has to do with your communication
skills that AI can't replace that because AI can do
project planning, AI can break apart spreadsheets, AI can do
all sorts of forms, but what it can't do yet.
(14:33):
But what it can't do is replace human communication and contact.
And so really what he's saying is that you know
it's use all the support of that, but make sure
that your communication skills are something that you do that
you still use because you know it's your communication that
is going to motivate others, inspire others, convince others. What
(14:54):
you print out from AI and use in an argument
that's not necessarily going to do that.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
I feel like I can still tell when I'm reading
something that's fed to me, I can absolutely tell that
it's AI. There's something about it that's too much. And
our friend Leo pointed out that if you notice, most
things in AI come down as three.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
He's tall, he's funny, he's.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Energetic, which is the rule of threes, right, and so
AI follows that, And that's not the only thing. I
feel like it's wordy.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Does that make sense? It doesn't have the flawed grit
of human And the.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Truth is we all need an idea starter every now
and then you're going to need so there's nothing wrong
with using any of that as a booster as a
supporting tool. But make sure that what you're actually producing
for work or really trying to impress somebody with or
if it's.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Really, if it's real, make it real.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Yeah, if you're trying to get a salary increase or
whatever it is that you're trying to do, your own
personal authentic communication skills are going to serve you better
than any AI by itself.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Totally. Where did you get that again?
Speaker 4 (15:58):
Ah?
Speaker 5 (16:00):
Was it our life worries?
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Clearly my communication skills aren't good, Sam, What was it
your friend Claude? That's Warren Buffett.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I know, But.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
Okay, social media connect teachers, we see you, we hear you.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Seems a little early for you kids, not for teachers.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
Teachers everywhere are in classrooms, are classrooms already getting the
rooms ready, they're they're at the school. It's the what
do you call that, the calm before the storm of students.
It's true. So we were just shouting you out on
social media. We see you, we hear you, we know.
And look, I've been friends with enough teachers over the years.
A lot of my friends are teachers. And then when
(16:39):
our girls were little and in elementary school, I got
to know some.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Of the teachers. Summer is a whole vibe for teachers.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
They look forward to it like you can't believe, and
then they enjoy it like you can't believe, and then
towards middle to mid July to end of July, they
start to feel that, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
They're back in prep.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Is a roller coaster of that, the love and the pressure.
You know, it's kind of like you're at war with yourself.
You know you're meant to do this, you love doing it,
and yet you got to give up your summer because
here comes school.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
And so we were just shouting you out on social media.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
We see you, we know you're in those rooms already,
Carrie said, getting ready to start year twenty five, kicking
off early with two weeks of summer reading camp to
help with the summer slide.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
First grade rocks. So Carrie's a first grade teacher.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
All right, Carrie, congrats.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Tracy said, thanks for the shout out. I taught for
forty years. I love it so much, and now I'm
a teacher's aide. See that's someone who couldn't really retire,
who wanted to stay in it a little bit, so
stayed that way.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
You know, I would think it's some point if you
can have the best of both worlds and the passion
is still with you, but you don't want to do
it full time, that's the way.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
To go, totally.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Laurie says getting ready for year thirty one a little
begrudgingly but low key excited.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Yeah, it's both right.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
You feel both of those things at the same time,
and that's normal. Caitlin, I'm so excited to start my
year five and a new grade level. All right, Yeah,
that's a new teacher. I'm sure as a teacher you
learn things every year that you take into your next year.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
If you could teach, what grade would you like to teach?
What's subject?
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Fourth grade? Fourth grade?
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Reading? Like literature stories? I say fourth grade because fourth
grade was a particularly difficult year for me and it
was lonely, but I had a teacher that made it
tolerable and it was with reading and stories. So that's
my answer. Teachers, keep it coming. We hear you and
see you.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Sam.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
I want to ask you a personal question about your mom,
who we celebrate this week turning eighty seven, Miss Judy,
and we shared a picture of her on our Instagram
and Facebook holding a.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Big almost like a big boet constrictor.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
At the preschool where she were.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Is that what it is?
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Well, they found one in the toilet and she had
that's a big bull constrictor for a toilet. I mean
it's huge.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
It looks like what's his name from?
Speaker 4 (19:06):
Uh ca?
Speaker 3 (19:08):
No, it looks like the one from Harry Potter, the
Horrible snake Maghini or whatever.
Speaker 4 (19:14):
That speaks parcel tongue.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Yes, what I'm lost?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Okay now there.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
Anyway, it's the rep She told me the reptile man
came with all his animals.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Oh, and she was okay with putting that around her.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
Guess hey, she wants to jump out of a plane. Still,
I love that.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Well, you know, I've had a snake around my neck
only once. A friend of mine brought it over in
a pillowcase one time. I know that sounds weird, but
that's where she kept really weird. But she kept it
in the pillowcase so it wouldn't be injured. You know.
Well all the time, no, no, no, not all the time.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
People move snakes when they have some right exactly, My
axe used to carry snakes pillow case.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Same thing. Really Yeah, so yeah, she put it around
my neck and then you know, and.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Then left, this is a huge snake and your mom
seemed very comfortable handling.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
Yeah, I didn't know she did that. She sent it to.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
I loved that. By how many eighty seven year olds
do you know who wrapped snakes are on their next.
Speaker 4 (20:05):
You know, her birthday was on Wednesday, and so on
the show, I say, happy birthday, mom. I've been miss
Judy da da up And I called her beforehand and
I said, hey, you got to listen to the radio.
I wish you happy birthday. Oh yeah. She tells me
later on that she missed it because right she turned
the radio up to listen, and right about the time
(20:25):
it was about to play, Uh it's one of the
teachers from the other room screamed and called because they
had a couple of bugs loose in the room.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
And Judy's the one to call.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
She said, they're all afraid of bugs, and she says,
I ain't got a problem with those, but she was
wearing a snake, so she went and got the bugs.
And then she said the kids follow her with the bugs.
They go to the toilet and they take the bus
bye bye.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Oh wow, that's sweet. Well, you know, she can go
back and listen on the podcast you know what I or.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
You could just tell her happy Birthday in person. I
did that, Murphy.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
We have an email for you from Murphy Samonjody dot
com based on the after the show podcast about you
seeing your dad's Corvette restored and running again after you
and the family decided to sell it after he passed away.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
The new owner and a good friend of ours who
writes articles for Corvette Magazine, surprised us yes and bought
the car by I had no idea what it was
going to happen.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Go back and listen to that podcast, but Charlie sent this.
I know this is heavier than you would probably want
on the show, but I lost my dad unexpectedly a
year and a half ago, and his loss is really
finally hitting me and hard. Just listening to your stories
about the corvette hit home so much with what me
and my family are currently dealing with, and I wanted
to cry listening. It is so nice of the owner
(21:47):
to offer that to you and your family, but I
fear that it is likely a rare circumstance for a
new owner to offer a get together at any time
for the family like Murphy and the corvette. My dad
has a lot of things meant a lot to him,
but the rest of us can't really use but don't
want to see just waste away into the ground, you know.
But also we're struggling to find the will to sell.
(22:11):
My question is how do you fill or handle the
whole inside as a result of the loss of a
parent along with selling the things that mattered so much
to them.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
I'm just looking for.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Advice on how to help fill that hole from losing
a parent and how to handle selling some of those
treasured items. Thank you for sharing everything about the corvette.
I didn't want the podcast to end. That is from Charlie.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Thank you, Charlie. That's so nice. It's a really good question,
and the answer is the one that I know that
used to drive me crazy when anybody would say, but
it really is time. What I would say is give
yourself their permission. No one's making you sell any of
that stuff or get rid of any of that stuff.
And my brother and sister and I were not in
(22:54):
any rush to sell our childhood home. We didn't know
if we were going to or not. We were and
in a rush to sell any of you know, the
things we took our time. I mean literally, it was
three years before we sold our childhood home. It was
four years before we sold the Corvette. And you have
to be in the right emotional state. You have to
get to a place where you're comfortable and you are
(23:16):
able to detach those things from the person that you've lost.
Correct And then once that has happened, you know, I mean,
you're still going to miss some of those things because
really what you're missing is the memory of those things
and the attachment you had tied to that person.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You're missing him.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
But eventually you will get, you know, through that. And also,
don't fight it. You're never going to get to a
place in your life where you're like, all right, you know,
I'm over missing my dad.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
You're always going to miss your It's okay for.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
You to miss your dad.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yeah, thank you for that. Charlie.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Email us anytime at Murphy Samonjody dot com. Are there
any stores, guys or retail experiences for you that are overwhelming?
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Ever had that feeling?
Speaker 4 (23:57):
Yeah? Really, certain grocery stores. Yeah, if it's just too
hectic or they have the aisles too close together, I
mean like Walmart, Target, they're wide open. You can cruise
around there, but spending some of the local stores.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Yeah, see, it's funny you say that though local stores.
That doesn't bother me at all. I find that intimate.
I think that it's been some of the wall the
larger walmarts and those kind of things. Those are the
ones that become a bit their caer cavernous.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
You know, cavernous. Correct. I don't think there's any retail
experience in the world is too much for me. I
love it. But I had an experience with a friend.
I went.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
I took her to a one of those big Christmas
shopping experiences, like you know what I mean. It was
like in October and November, and there was all kinds
of different.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Oh you're talking about the kind that's in a civic
center that's huge.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Yeah, but it's not as it's about the size of
a Costco.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
That been to those two and those do are okay.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Well.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
I walked in, I was so excited to bring her
and I was ready to shop till I dropped and
she was like, she touched on I'll never forget touched
my arm and said, Jody, I can't stay here.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
And I'm thinking, but look at all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
I bring it up because another retailer and I think
this is beautiful and I wanted to shout it out.
Sephora is rolling out quiet hours shopping experiences worldwide and
quiet hours in case you don't know about them. They
happen at places like Target and depending different retailers offer
it for people who have that neurodiversity, those this kind
(25:31):
of issues, neurological differences, those with ADHD, those with autism
toretts like, there are a lot of things that fall
under sort of that umbrella. And to people who get
overwhelmed easily, it's too much of a sensory experience. But
guess what they need to roll into Target too makes
sense and so the quiet hours. But understand anybody is
(25:54):
welcome during the quiet hours, saying.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Look, I think I would love to go to Sephoria
during quiet hours. I find it's soon then going to Sephora.
Really the way it.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
Smell, Murphy loves all the attendants, all the can I
help you with something? Murphy loves that personal attention and
you get it there so and you'll just have to
look it up online because it's worldwide, different quiet hours
for different zip codes, but it's happening at Sephora now
just to improve the experience. And then to me, it
(26:24):
seems like it's something that's going to be happening all
across the reely aren't you.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Morning pick me up time?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
We are taking our cues from the older and wiser
this week, starting out with Sam's mom, Miss Judy, who
turned eighty seven the other day, still working her two
jobs and thank you for all the love for Judy.
A picture of her holding the snake on our Instagram
and Facebook pages. Go check it out if you want
(26:52):
to see the lovely Miss Judy. And then also another
pick me up was about mister Gill working at Chick
fil A at the age of ninety two and he
is a dining room attendant.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
So so beautiful.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
So eight seven seven three one zero four, MSJ, what
do you have for rest Dora?
Speaker 5 (27:11):
I just want to tell you I was listening to
you about the ninety two year old and I wanted
to tell you that I have a friend she's ninety two,
talking to her the other night and she said the
key is to keep working, and she has been working
multiple jobs right now. Every Wednesday night she goes out
(27:32):
and sends in the parking lot of pizza huts and
sells pizzas from five to seven for like eight dollars.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Wait, and so hu, it's okay with this, Like I
don't understand. Why does she do in the parking lot.
Speaker 5 (27:45):
I don't know. They call it wacky Wednesday and they
sell him cheap, like to take them out there. They're
in their bag and people come up and she fells out.
If she saysn't they pizza Hutton lets her take him
up to the hospital or to the police station. You're
a wonderful lady.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (28:02):
She worked at the Chamber of Commerce for a few
years and just here she said, awhile, fact she had
three jobs. But anyway, she's getting ready to go skydiving
Adma of course, like her third time, and she goes
with her doctor. She said she had her physical and
she's good to go. That it's too windy, so they've
put it off until September. But she's an amazing woman.
(28:25):
And I told her I want to be like her
when I grow up.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
You kidding? She is goals? Lord, Oh my gosh. Yeah,
and she's ninety two. What's her first name, Margaret? Margaret?
Speaker 5 (28:37):
Everybody knows her. She was as known as miss Margaret.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Wow, you're lucky to be her friend, don't you feel. Yeah?
Speaker 5 (28:44):
I just love her to death.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Absolutely. Thank you for sharing her. We appreciate you. You
call us any time.
Speaker 5 (28:51):
Okay, you guys, have a great day, you too too.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
That is a real morning pick me up. And it's
a good thing actually that Margaret goes with her doctor,
because that way anything happens. You got your doctor there, right.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I think that's the goal, that's the plan, because she
knows what she's doing.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Have you ever had to give a very close friend
a job performance review and be impartial doing it.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Well, you know, telling the truth that HR usually doesn't
want you doing reviews for your friends, right, I mean.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
Actually, well, Murphy's done me before, that's true.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, Murphy's done plenty of performance reviews. That's that's the
interesting thing about it. If people work together for a
very long time, very often they become close friends, even
if one is considered the supervisor.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
I know why you're bringing this up all office too.
Speaker 4 (29:39):
Yeah, I know what you're.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Bringing this up.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
So it's it's a performance review time around here. And
Murphy can't review me because we're called Mary Mary. But
on paper. You know, I think you had to make
arrangements for you not to be the one directly supervisor.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Just a paper whatever with the Yeah. In most companies
it's like spouses. One can't be the direct supervisor of another. Yeah, yeah,
you know so.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
So Murphy's not my direct supervisor.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
But Sam is.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
So it's performance review time, and Sam has asked all
the meeting.
Speaker 4 (30:15):
Here's what's funny is we had to do the mediear
performance self evaluation. Yeah, which we all did. And I thought, okay,
that task is done, gone till Christmas. And then I
get the email, Hey, okay, Jody did hers, so now
you have to go over it with Jody and review
and evaluate Jody's self evaluation. I was like, whoa, wha, Oh,
(30:35):
I didn't know that was part of the deal.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Do you even know how to do that? No, you're
evaluating my evaluation.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
Yeah, I have to look at the instructions to see
if you know what I have to do well.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
I'm sure he get Murphy could give you some pointers
since he did yours.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
I mean it shouldn't mean too much, right, I mean,
she's saying what she does well and what she doesn't
do well. All you have to do is agree or disagree. Yeah,
those are the instructions, aren't they.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
I mean, you know what I said, I don't do well.
Speaker 4 (30:57):
I haven't read it yet.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Oh okay, Oh did you say you don't things?
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Well? I thought you didn't do everything.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
Well, okay, see he should do my perform that's why he's.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Not doing that. She's awesome, she's the rule.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
Yes, yeah, I was honest with ariasm where I can improve.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Well, they want us to pick out at least one
that we can't improve. I guess they got tired of
everybody getting hundreds.
Speaker 4 (31:19):
I'm the best, I am great, but you go to Murphy. Yeah,
you're the best, and you're great.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
But it's true that you know, I mean, the longer
that you were the player, you still need to evolve.
Everybody needs to continue growing. Even if you're great at
what you do, there's always the next thing. So I understand.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
I was honest.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
I think I the place I said I needed work
was like really getting involved in all the systems in
the technology.
Speaker 4 (31:43):
Yeah, but you know, do you really want to do that?
Speaker 5 (31:45):
No?
Speaker 4 (31:46):
Okay, A pass on that one.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Nothing about trying to figure out how to work with
your husband there's not enough time,
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Choty Weekend Show podcast, highlighting
some of our favorite moments from this past.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Week benefits of being alone? Sam, are you excited about
this topic I came across this list? Is that your top?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
No?
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Okay, I have to sit and think about it.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
I want okay, I want you to think about it.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
To be continued, but I will say this, more and
more people are happily single today, this year, twenty twenty six,
and ever reported in the history of humankind. And I
I can tell you from my experience of my I've
got a lot of friends who are single, close friends.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
You know them.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Already, they know you already too, and everybody happened big boy.
But I can say these are girlfriends who really confide
in me, and they they are really happy single. One
of them told me this, I'm so set and happy
single right now. I'm open to somebody coming into my life,
(01:04):
she says. But you're gonna have to beat that. In
other words, if I'm happy, you're gonna have to bring
a level, a higher level You're gonna have to beat
how content I am.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Yeah, It's taken a long time to get to that
level for me. Yeah, yeah, I think happier as a
loon alone now.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, And that's wonderful for you, and that's wonderful for anyone.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
You know, anything that I did before doesn't mean anything less.
It's just I'm at the point now where I'm happy.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
You have your own life, and everybody has their own life,
and they I'm sure your exes have feelings about that too.
So a certain type of person thrives alone. And so
people who enjoy being alone and who are thriving in
it say, this is what makes them feel happy, this
is why right, they don't have to compromise. Maybe they
were tired of compromising. I have another girlfriend who never
(01:51):
got married, and she told me she was like, Jody,
I just never wanted anybody else's opinion about what to watch.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
We're to go on vacation. If I could all of that,
I was.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Like, dang, oh my way or the highway.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
You become more productive in your own life, that's in
the list. You really get to know yourself.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
That's true. Yeah, when you're sitting all alone, it's like
you got your thoughts right, you got your feelings, you
got your emotions.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
It's funny is after a stint of you being successfully
solo and thriving, to me is when you would be
a better partner if someone were to come along, if
you really know yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, that makes total sense to me, you know, because
once you really establish that part and you have your
clear identity of who you are, you will be better
at helping others and not. You know, there's a difference
between compromising and you know, completely sacrificing everything that you
want for someone, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
In which case you'd lose yourself.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Yeah, exactly, keep on it and you can tell us
what else you like about me. So Social Media Connect
yesterday's after the Show podcast gonna encourage you to go
back and listen to that if you struggle with friendship,
if you are an adult and you struggle with making
adult friends, or if you have a child who is
(03:10):
struggling with making friends.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
And here we are at the beginning of a new
school year. Because we talked all about.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Friends and friendships and how they can come and go
in and out of your life as seasons, or you
can have lifelong friends. And I did a Facebook live
on it the other night, Girl Talked Tuesday. It was
all a bunch of girlfriends. So wanted to share some
of these beautiful comments that keep rolling in about this delicate,
beautiful subject. Sabrina says Hi watching the replay, she means
(03:38):
of the Facebook live. I moved the second half of
eighth grade, and it was so difficult to make friends.
I learned a lot from that struggle in junior high school.
I realized that I was trying too hard to please
other people so that they would like me. As an adult,
I have a handful of women who are my tribe.
I can be myself and not have to worry about
being judged. Have a wonderful night. That was from Sabrina.
(04:03):
That's true. That's one of the things.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
That's that school thing too we're talking about, you know,
and I changed schools in the middle of seventh grade,
which is really tricky. I don't even have a summer
to break it up, so going from you know, my
first semester at one school and the second to another.
Fortunately I knew some of my friends who were there,
but it was like starting over.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
Yeah, it was weird.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
It's one of the things that we talked about the
other night, Like one of the check boxes that you
have to know whether you're a kid or an adult,
if you feel like you have to be somebody else
or change yourself to sort of fit in, it's not
a fit. But you don't really know that when you're
a kid, and when you're a kid, and let's just say,
you want a friend so badly, which is also a
very natural human thing. I always enjoy the girl talks.
(04:45):
This is from Regina. Love these experiences. We all have them.
Tracy says, I have two very good friends that know
all of my secrets, if you know what I mean.
It's sad when you think a person is a close
friend and then they drop you. It happened to me
as an adult. I'm sorry, Tracy. Some people do come
in and out, and that's also part of it. You
have to know that. Adriana says, my friends from high
(05:08):
school still we are still all in contact through what's
app There you go, Ynice, thanks for having girl Talk Tuesday.
That's Lisa, and Sherry says, I tell my daughter to
stay in contact with your childhood friends. I have five
best friends since kindergarten. Wow, Wow, we keep it coming, Jody.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Is a follow up to your being alone?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
It was not my being alone?
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Is we talk about being alone and what were the
benefits of being alone.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
A lot of people see.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Single who are single who are really finding that they're
thriving in their lives and that they love it and
didn't expect to.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
It's before you rush into something like that. I think
it's cautionary that it's it's maybe you got to make
sure you're ready for it. I think because I was
always a married person, always had a partner, and I mean,
you know my history, I went from one partner to
the next to the next. There was really no break
in between. So when I find there were transitions, we
can actually build a float chart.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Okay, Murphy, that's not very supportive and judging.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Sam knows, I'm kidding. Of course, I'm not judging.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
I'm here. On the first chart, you will see the
year's nineteen eighty nine, and that's the nineteen ninety nine.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
And that's very human. It's okay.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
But when it finally came to the point where it's
like I'd finish with everybody done doing this. Not that
I said I was finished, but when you decide, okay,
I'm gonna go this alone, it's it's it's a big
leap because you don't know what alone is until you're alone.
Oh okay, wow the title of my new book. So
(06:49):
you gotta be ready for it. I mean, and plus
the stuff you talked about too, you know, no compromising,
but you also have nobody to compromise with.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah, it would be nice sometimes to have no honey.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Do list, but stuff still need to get done. Yeah,
and there's no honey And yeah you got a free weekend.
But like you said, sit on the sofa and just
stare at the TV. So if and I'm not downplaying
being single because I love it, I'm to that point
where that's where that's what it's going to be unless
unless you know, the unicorn comes along.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Well, So being you know, single and alone like that, though,
I would assume teaches you how to avoid codependency, right,
I mean you're gonna yes.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
I think, I think or swim.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Yeah, I think I had a I don't know if
it's codependency or a need for another person in my
life constantly kind of various reasons. Sure, and then I
would blow that up and now.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
You know you're okay.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Yeah. Good.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
One of the things reported from all these people who
are thriving in their singlehood is that they also report
feeling more confident because they're doing it, which is what
sounds like now.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
I can make it, usually make a decision with out
having to you know, run it past the committee.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
And well, we've seen that confidence building, you know, because
you started taking like your solo vacations a couple of
years ago. You know what I mean. You've really started
doing things on your own that you've normally would have
done with another person, only.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Because I have no choice.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Murphy got to see his dad's little red Corvette this
weekend and a surprise that we sort of orchestrated with
the current owner of the car with an author.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
His name is Stephen Chapis, who is.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Going to write about the car, the Corvette, and Sam,
you were invited to come over the house for this surprise.
You know. I told Murphy to please keep the day
day open, and when the doorbell rang at eleven am,
I knew.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
That it was he needed to be the one to
open the door.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Yeah, and I was.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
As I mentioned earlier, I was just blown away. I
still am blown away about it, and we'll talk about
it more in the after the show podcast. Right, this
is what it sounded like, by the way, when he
was walking driving me out of the driveway. A classic
sound there.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
You know. Look when he left our house after all
those hours, and I thought you were gonna cry.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
He revved it, of course on our street.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
See, uh, this is a sixty six Corvett.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Right, it's a nineteen sixty six stingray Am. I correct,
that's right, it's it's so beautiful. Anyway, I wanted to
tell you guys this Stephen, who is writing about it,
and who really is the one who made this happen.
I may have made some plans with Murphy and Kevin
definitely gave us his time and brought the car, but
Stephen really made this happen. And it's so funny because
(09:34):
he's listened to the show for a long time and
once he was at the house, like Murphy and Kevin
are outside drooling over the car. Stephen comes inside and I,
of course have all this food laid out on the
bar like a board, cheeseboard.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
And grapes and all that.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
And he was like Joe, Joe.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
He said, by the way, I knew you were going
to do this.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
That's a number one.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
And then he asked me about you, Sam. You know
why you know how Sam today and I said, look,
I want you to know I invited Sam. And he goes, well,
I understand that, he says, because Sam would have had
to be around people if he'd.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Have been here. He really knows us.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Then in the later in the afternoon, you don't know
this what Kevin took his vet and went home. Uh,
Steven stayed and hung out with me and Murphy like
all evening. We went out to eat, we had cocktails
and Murphy had a mocktail.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
We had a really great time getting to know him.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
But he even came to see our youngest daughther, Phoebe.
Would she actually had a gig and so she to hear.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
But I rode in him, hitting his truck from one
point to the next because he had this really cool truck,
and I'm like, I love your truck. And he let
me ride with him, and at one point he had
to stop short, like in traffic, and he goes, I
didn't mean to make you win.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Like he knows us.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
So Stephen, we hear you and see you, we asked,
and boy did you respond? Do you wash new clothes
before wearing them? You buy something at a store, do
you wash it first?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (11:04):
The comments that are rolling in about this. Oh, absolutely
don't know where they've been or who's touched them or
whatever production chemicals are on them.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Yeah, I think that's the big thing. The question is
on that. Yeah, But the answer to you for me
is it depends.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
That's it. That's Kimberly.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
I like to watch them first, but I have had
a few situations where I had to change right then
into the clothes, So I guess depends on the situation.
That's from kim GINGI said only underwear. She only watches
underwear first.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Shout out for that.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yeah, I can see that. You don't want color chemicals
pressing up against things.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
No, and just people have touched anyway.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Just said I got a bad skin rash one time
by not washing before wearing. Never made that mistake. Again,
that depends on you too. If you have a sense
you have sensitive skin. You don't know what the shipping
situation was, you don't know what the chemical situation is.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Do you wash yours before you most of.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
The time, yes, I will say this a really good
pair of jeans. I try to wash as seldom as possible,
because you know it changes the makeup of the gene.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yeah, well really any clothing like that. If it's not
something you're gonna sweat in or whatever. Age, right, the
more that you wash it, the more you wear it out.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Yeah, Amelia says yes. When they're in a warehouse, bugs
get on them, even rats are dropping, and if chemicals
are used to prevent that, it definitely needs to be washed. Plus,
clothing and clothing stores can be tried on and people
are sweaty and you don't know whether who the last
person was to wear what you're bringing home. Wow, good points,
all good points, well made. This is Jason, I worked
(12:44):
retail for too long. All people even wipe things on clothes.
What he just means like, if you have sticky hands
and kids with ice cream or whatever, don't be grossed
up with the word wipe.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
His final thing is people are gross. Angela says no,
she doesn't. I'm lazy. You know you have it's you
have that choice.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
I feel like it is situational, like Murphy said, but
for the most part, people who work in retail will
recommend that you wash things first before you wear them.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Well, I know people who travel certain you know things,
it's they'll bring an extra shirt that's been just recently
purchased and they leave it in the package until they
get to the hotel room.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Or yeah, also, Kathy, it depends dark washed jeans. Yes,
that makes sense, and underwear. Underwear getting a lot of
a lot of votes. Here morning pick me up time.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
We're gonna help you upgate upgrade your game this morning
in the AI game without using AI.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
By the way, Oh thank goodness.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
And so if you're dealing with AI angst, there is
one thing, and this is it's Warren Buffett, who you
know you can pretty much trust any advice from Warren Buffett,
like one of the wealthiest men in the world, self made,
but still drives the same car that he bought like
fifteen years ago. I mean, this is, you know, a
billionaire who lives quite frugally. But anyway, he's in his
nineties and and he says that they're driving.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
I'm sorry, that's a good.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Question, you know. But there's one thing that he says
in the AI ads. It's going to guarantee you success
in the future. And it has nothing to do with
AI at all. It has to do with your communication
skills that AI can't replace that because AI can do
project planning, AI can break apart spreadsheets, AI can do
all sorts of forms, but what it can't do yet.
(14:33):
But what it can't do is replace human communication and contact.
And so really what he's saying is that you know
it's use all the support of that, but make sure
that your communication skills are something that you do that
you still use because you know it's your communication that
is going to motivate others, inspire others, convince others. What
(14:54):
you print out from AI and use in an argument
that's not necessarily going to do that.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
I feel like I can still tell when I'm reading
something that's fed to me, I can absolutely tell that
it's AI. There's something about it that's too much. And
our friend Leo pointed out that if you notice, most
things in AI come down as three.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
He's tall, he's funny, he's.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Energetic, which is the rule of threes, right, and so
AI follows that, And that's not the only thing. I
feel like it's wordy.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Does that make sense? It doesn't have the flawed grit
of human And the.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Truth is we all need an idea starter every now
and then you're going to need so there's nothing wrong
with using any of that as a booster as a
supporting tool. But make sure that what you're actually producing
for work or really trying to impress somebody with or
if it's.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Really, if it's real, make it real.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Yeah, if you're trying to get a salary increase or
whatever it is that you're trying to do, your own
personal authentic communication skills are going to serve you better
than any AI by itself.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Totally. Where did you get that again?
Speaker 4 (15:58):
Ah?
Speaker 5 (16:00):
Was it our life worries?
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Clearly my communication skills aren't good, Sam, What was it
your friend Claude? That's Warren Buffett.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I know, But.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
Okay, social media connect teachers, we see you, we hear you.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Seems a little early for you kids, not for teachers.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
Teachers everywhere are in classrooms, are classrooms already getting the
rooms ready, they're they're at the school. It's the what
do you call that, the calm before the storm of students.
It's true. So we were just shouting you out on
social media. We see you, we hear you, we know.
And look, I've been friends with enough teachers over the years.
A lot of my friends are teachers. And then when
(16:39):
our girls were little and in elementary school, I got
to know some.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Of the teachers. Summer is a whole vibe for teachers.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
They look forward to it like you can't believe, and
then they enjoy it like you can't believe, and then
towards middle to mid July to end of July, they
start to feel that, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
They're back in prep.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Is a roller coaster of that, the love and the pressure.
You know, it's kind of like you're at war with yourself.
You know you're meant to do this, you love doing it,
and yet you got to give up your summer because
here comes school.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
And so we were just shouting you out on social media.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
We see you, we know you're in those rooms already,
Carrie said, getting ready to start year twenty five, kicking
off early with two weeks of summer reading camp to
help with the summer slide.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
First grade rocks. So Carrie's a first grade teacher.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
All right, Carrie, congrats.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Tracy said, thanks for the shout out. I taught for
forty years. I love it so much, and now I'm
a teacher's aide. See that's someone who couldn't really retire,
who wanted to stay in it a little bit, so
stayed that way.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
You know, I would think it's some point if you
can have the best of both worlds and the passion
is still with you, but you don't want to do
it full time, that's the way.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
To go, totally.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
Laurie says getting ready for year thirty one a little
begrudgingly but low key excited.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Yeah, it's both right.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
You feel both of those things at the same time,
and that's normal. Caitlin, I'm so excited to start my
year five and a new grade level. All right, Yeah,
that's a new teacher. I'm sure as a teacher you
learn things every year that you take into your next year.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
If you could teach, what grade would you like to teach?
What's subject?
Speaker 2 (18:17):
Fourth grade? Fourth grade?
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Reading? Like literature stories? I say fourth grade because fourth
grade was a particularly difficult year for me and it
was lonely, but I had a teacher that made it
tolerable and it was with reading and stories. So that's
my answer. Teachers, keep it coming. We hear you and
see you.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Sam.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
I want to ask you a personal question about your mom,
who we celebrate this week turning eighty seven, Miss Judy,
and we shared a picture of her on our Instagram
and Facebook holding a.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Big almost like a big boet constrictor.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
At the preschool where she were.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Is that what it is?
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Well, they found one in the toilet and she had
that's a big bull constrictor for a toilet. I mean
it's huge.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
It looks like what's his name from?
Speaker 4 (19:06):
Uh ca?
Speaker 3 (19:08):
No, it looks like the one from Harry Potter, the
Horrible snake Maghini or whatever.
Speaker 4 (19:14):
That speaks parcel tongue.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Yes, what I'm lost?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Okay now there.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
Anyway, it's the rep She told me the reptile man
came with all his animals.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Oh, and she was okay with putting that around her.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
Guess hey, she wants to jump out of a plane. Still,
I love that.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Well, you know, I've had a snake around my neck
only once. A friend of mine brought it over in
a pillowcase one time. I know that sounds weird, but
that's where she kept really weird. But she kept it
in the pillowcase so it wouldn't be injured. You know.
Well all the time, no, no, no, not all the time.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
People move snakes when they have some right exactly, My
axe used to carry snakes pillow case.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Same thing. Really Yeah, so yeah, she put it around
my neck and then you know, and.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Then left, this is a huge snake and your mom
seemed very comfortable handling.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
Yeah, I didn't know she did that. She sent it to.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
I loved that. By how many eighty seven year olds
do you know who wrapped snakes are on their next.
Speaker 4 (20:05):
You know, her birthday was on Wednesday, and so on
the show, I say, happy birthday, mom. I've been miss
Judy da da up And I called her beforehand and
I said, hey, you got to listen to the radio.
I wish you happy birthday. Oh yeah. She tells me
later on that she missed it because right she turned
the radio up to listen, and right about the time
(20:25):
it was about to play, Uh it's one of the
teachers from the other room screamed and called because they
had a couple of bugs loose in the room.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
And Judy's the one to call.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
She said, they're all afraid of bugs, and she says,
I ain't got a problem with those, but she was
wearing a snake, so she went and got the bugs.
And then she said the kids follow her with the bugs.
They go to the toilet and they take the bus
bye bye.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Oh wow, that's sweet. Well, you know, she can go
back and listen on the podcast you know what I or.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
You could just tell her happy Birthday in person. I
did that, Murphy.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
We have an email for you from Murphy Samonjody dot
com based on the after the show podcast about you
seeing your dad's Corvette restored and running again after you
and the family decided to sell it after he passed away.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
The new owner and a good friend of ours who
writes articles for Corvette Magazine, surprised us yes and bought
the car by I had no idea what it was
going to happen.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Go back and listen to that podcast, but Charlie sent this.
I know this is heavier than you would probably want
on the show, but I lost my dad unexpectedly a
year and a half ago, and his loss is really
finally hitting me and hard. Just listening to your stories
about the corvette hit home so much with what me
and my family are currently dealing with, and I wanted
to cry listening. It is so nice of the owner
(21:47):
to offer that to you and your family, but I
fear that it is likely a rare circumstance for a
new owner to offer a get together at any time
for the family like Murphy and the corvette. My dad
has a lot of things meant a lot to him,
but the rest of us can't really use but don't
want to see just waste away into the ground, you know.
But also we're struggling to find the will to sell.
(22:11):
My question is how do you fill or handle the
whole inside as a result of the loss of a
parent along with selling the things that mattered so much
to them.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
I'm just looking for.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Advice on how to help fill that hole from losing
a parent and how to handle selling some of those
treasured items. Thank you for sharing everything about the corvette.
I didn't want the podcast to end. That is from Charlie.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
Thank you, Charlie. That's so nice. It's a really good question,
and the answer is the one that I know that
used to drive me crazy when anybody would say, but
it really is time. What I would say is give
yourself their permission. No one's making you sell any of
that stuff or get rid of any of that stuff.
And my brother and sister and I were not in
(22:54):
any rush to sell our childhood home. We didn't know
if we were going to or not. We were and
in a rush to sell any of you know, the
things we took our time. I mean literally, it was
three years before we sold our childhood home. It was
four years before we sold the Corvette. And you have
to be in the right emotional state. You have to
get to a place where you're comfortable and you are
(23:16):
able to detach those things from the person that you've lost.
Correct And then once that has happened, you know, I mean,
you're still going to miss some of those things because
really what you're missing is the memory of those things
and the attachment you had tied to that person.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You're missing him.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
But eventually you will get, you know, through that. And also,
don't fight it. You're never going to get to a
place in your life where you're like, all right, you know,
I'm over missing my dad.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
You're always going to miss your It's okay for.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
You to miss your dad.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yeah, thank you for that. Charlie.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
Email us anytime at Murphy Samonjody dot com. Are there
any stores, guys or retail experiences for you that are overwhelming?
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Ever had that feeling?
Speaker 4 (23:57):
Yeah? Really, certain grocery stores. Yeah, if it's just too
hectic or they have the aisles too close together, I
mean like Walmart, Target, they're wide open. You can cruise
around there, but spending some of the local stores.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Yeah, see, it's funny you say that though local stores.
That doesn't bother me at all. I find that intimate.
I think that it's been some of the wall the
larger walmarts and those kind of things. Those are the
ones that become a bit their caer cavernous.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
You know, cavernous. Correct. I don't think there's any retail
experience in the world is too much for me. I
love it. But I had an experience with a friend.
I went.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
I took her to a one of those big Christmas
shopping experiences, like you know what I mean. It was
like in October and November, and there was all kinds
of different.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Oh you're talking about the kind that's in a civic
center that's huge.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Yeah, but it's not as it's about the size of
a Costco.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
That been to those two and those do are okay.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Well.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
I walked in, I was so excited to bring her
and I was ready to shop till I dropped and
she was like, she touched on I'll never forget touched
my arm and said, Jody, I can't stay here.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
And I'm thinking, but look at all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
I bring it up because another retailer and I think
this is beautiful and I wanted to shout it out.
Sephora is rolling out quiet hours shopping experiences worldwide and
quiet hours in case you don't know about them. They
happen at places like Target and depending different retailers offer
it for people who have that neurodiversity, those this kind
(25:31):
of issues, neurological differences, those with ADHD, those with autism
toretts like, there are a lot of things that fall
under sort of that umbrella. And to people who get
overwhelmed easily, it's too much of a sensory experience. But
guess what they need to roll into Target too makes
sense and so the quiet hours. But understand anybody is
(25:54):
welcome during the quiet hours, saying.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Look, I think I would love to go to Sephoria
during quiet hours. I find it's soon then going to Sephora.
Really the way it.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
Smell, Murphy loves all the attendants, all the can I
help you with something? Murphy loves that personal attention and
you get it there so and you'll just have to
look it up online because it's worldwide, different quiet hours
for different zip codes, but it's happening at Sephora now
just to improve the experience. And then to me, it
(26:24):
seems like it's something that's going to be happening all
across the reely aren't you.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Morning pick me up time?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
We are taking our cues from the older and wiser
this week, starting out with Sam's mom, Miss Judy, who
turned eighty seven the other day, still working her two
jobs and thank you for all the love for Judy.
A picture of her holding the snake on our Instagram
and Facebook pages. Go check it out if you want
(26:52):
to see the lovely Miss Judy. And then also another
pick me up was about mister Gill working at Chick
fil A at the age of ninety two and he
is a dining room attendant.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
So so beautiful.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
So eight seven seven three one zero four, MSJ, what
do you have for rest Dora?
Speaker 5 (27:11):
I just want to tell you I was listening to
you about the ninety two year old and I wanted
to tell you that I have a friend she's ninety two,
talking to her the other night and she said the
key is to keep working, and she has been working
multiple jobs right now. Every Wednesday night she goes out
(27:32):
and sends in the parking lot of pizza huts and
sells pizzas from five to seven for like eight dollars.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Wait, and so hu, it's okay with this, Like I
don't understand. Why does she do in the parking lot.
Speaker 5 (27:45):
I don't know. They call it wacky Wednesday and they
sell him cheap, like to take them out there. They're
in their bag and people come up and she fells out.
If she saysn't they pizza Hutton lets her take him
up to the hospital or to the police station. You're
a wonderful lady.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (28:02):
She worked at the Chamber of Commerce for a few
years and just here she said, awhile, fact she had
three jobs. But anyway, she's getting ready to go skydiving
Adma of course, like her third time, and she goes
with her doctor. She said she had her physical and
she's good to go. That it's too windy, so they've
put it off until September. But she's an amazing woman.
(28:25):
And I told her I want to be like her
when I grow up.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
You kidding? She is goals? Lord, Oh my gosh. Yeah,
and she's ninety two. What's her first name, Margaret? Margaret?
Speaker 5 (28:37):
Everybody knows her. She was as known as miss Margaret.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Wow, you're lucky to be her friend, don't you feel. Yeah?
Speaker 5 (28:44):
I just love her to death.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Absolutely. Thank you for sharing her. We appreciate you. You
call us any time.
Speaker 5 (28:51):
Okay, you guys, have a great day, you too too.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
That is a real morning pick me up. And it's
a good thing actually that Margaret goes with her doctor,
because that way anything happens. You got your doctor there, right.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I think that's the goal, that's the plan, because she
knows what she's doing.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Have you ever had to give a very close friend
a job performance review and be impartial doing it.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Well, you know, telling the truth that HR usually doesn't
want you doing reviews for your friends, right, I mean.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
Actually, well, Murphy's done me before, that's true.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, Murphy's done plenty of performance reviews. That's that's the
interesting thing about it. If people work together for a
very long time, very often they become close friends, even
if one is considered the supervisor.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
I know why you're bringing this up all office too.
Speaker 4 (29:39):
Yeah, I know what you're.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Bringing this up.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
So it's it's a performance review time around here. And
Murphy can't review me because we're called Mary Mary. But
on paper. You know, I think you had to make
arrangements for you not to be the one directly supervisor.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Just a paper whatever with the Yeah. In most companies
it's like spouses. One can't be the direct supervisor of another. Yeah, yeah,
you know so.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
So Murphy's not my direct supervisor.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
But Sam is.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
So it's performance review time, and Sam has asked all
the meeting.
Speaker 4 (30:15):
Here's what's funny is we had to do the mediear
performance self evaluation. Yeah, which we all did. And I thought, okay,
that task is done, gone till Christmas. And then I
get the email, Hey, okay, Jody did hers, so now
you have to go over it with Jody and review
and evaluate Jody's self evaluation. I was like, whoa, wha, Oh,
(30:35):
I didn't know that was part of the deal.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Do you even know how to do that? No, you're
evaluating my evaluation.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
Yeah, I have to look at the instructions to see
if you know what I have to do well.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
I'm sure he get Murphy could give you some pointers
since he did yours.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
I mean it shouldn't mean too much, right, I mean,
she's saying what she does well and what she doesn't
do well. All you have to do is agree or disagree. Yeah,
those are the instructions, aren't they.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
I mean, you know what I said, I don't do well.
Speaker 4 (30:57):
I haven't read it yet.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Oh okay, Oh did you say you don't things?
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Well? I thought you didn't do everything.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
Well, okay, see he should do my perform that's why he's.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Not doing that. She's awesome, she's the rule.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
Yes, yeah, I was honest with ariasm where I can improve.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Well, they want us to pick out at least one
that we can't improve. I guess they got tired of
everybody getting hundreds.
Speaker 4 (31:19):
I'm the best, I am great, but you go to Murphy. Yeah,
you're the best, and you're great.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
But it's true that you know, I mean, the longer
that you were the player, you still need to evolve.
Everybody needs to continue growing. Even if you're great at
what you do, there's always the next thing. So I understand.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
I was honest.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
I think I the place I said I needed work
was like really getting involved in all the systems in
the technology.
Speaker 4 (31:43):
Yeah, but you know, do you really want to do that?
Speaker 5 (31:45):
No?
Speaker 4 (31:46):
Okay, A pass on that one.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Nothing about trying to figure out how to work with
your husband there's not enough time,
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