November 29, 2024 • 13 mins
Murphy and Jodi share the reason for the fight. And the apology. 🙏 #marriage #family
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Samonchoti after the show podcast Happy Thanksgiving.
We'll return on Monday. So here are some of our
favorite after the show podcasts from this past year.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
So today, a lot of people asking on our Facebook
page because of the show, because of Monday's and today's
show where everybody you know loves Murphy because of the
way he apologizes, especially the ladies. Old Murphy's the sweetest
and the sweetest in the world, and he is sweet.
He knows how to apologize, which is saying a lot.
We had a big argument a handful of days ago,
(00:32):
and it was a cold few days and that's just
how it is in all marriages, I'm sure, and everybody
wants to know what we were arguing about. So number one,
right off the bat, you know, healthy couples don't. One
of the things that makes a healthy couple healthy, I think,
is that you don't air your laundry, your dirty laundry.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Right, Yeah, So it wasn't over who likes Sam the most.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
He likes you the most. Joking.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Well, you know what we can say though, it is
that it's the clash of personal and work in working
together and being a married couple that has its challenges,
which we've had for twenty five years.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
That's not something you can know unless you work with
a spouse. You cannot know what that is unless you
every day for twenty something years work with the same
person you're managing a personal life with. It is a clash,
and I've always said that it would be a test
of your marriage to do it. It's not something I recommend,
although a lot of people do it successfully, and there
(01:33):
are benefits to it as well. Murphy c is a
part of me, and I see a part of him
that other spouses don't get to see. So there are
benefits too.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
Yeah, right, I.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Mean I really do professional thing, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I don't just say that I enjoy watching you work
professionally because I think you're very good at what you do.
In general, I have a great appreciation for people who
have standards for the way that they conduct themselves in
their jobs and professionalism, and that's all across the board,
and so I can sept rate are personal from the
professional and say that you are a great pro and
(02:04):
it's I do enjoy working with you because you've got
high standards. Same for you, Sam.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I was just wondering and this was the apology party.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
What he does when he apologizes, he shines it up
and he a polishes very well. He means it. Though
he means it.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I do mean it, and we were able to move
forward once Jody admitted she was wrong.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Sam, All right, Oh way, Maan, I do want to
ask this if you can say it, you know, if
you can't just say take the fifth or whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Was it something that happened Friday, the witnessed.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Oh no, oh. If that's the case, then I go ahead, Well,
there's leading the winness. Yeah, that's going to change out
my line of questions. That's your question, I guess based
on the fact that Murphy apologized, Yes, is he the one?
If there is anyone to blame here? Nod wrong, I
guess is what I'm asking.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
I don't really want to answer that we trip over
each other, gotcha. And honestly, you trip over people at work,
but you have a professional relationship them. When you trip
over someone that you have a personal relationship with, it
hurts and you can't get away from it at home.
In fact, it's worse at home. You know, imagine someone
really upsetting you at work and you have to have
dinner with them that night, or the kids show up
(03:13):
and go, what's going on? Mom and dad? And you're
like seething. That's what it is, That's what it can be.
I bring it back up, not to leave anybody out
of the conversation, but to bring the conversation in.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
And I do think that we can bring it into
a way that everybody can understand and feel that they're
you know, connected toeen.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
We classed at work on something.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
We clashed at work, and it's because when you're in
a relationship, and it's very important for me and Jody
that we keep our personal and professional lives separate from
each other when we're in Yeah, when we're in this room,
and Saam can attest to this, you know, I'm not
sitting right next to you in this room. There is
not anymore. There's no physical affection at work. There's none
(03:51):
of that personal In fact, you are Jodie here, You're
not my wife here, I'm not your husband here.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Every once in a while you trip up and you'll
call me at work.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeaheah. I don't like that. I mean, honestly, I mean
I catch that when that happens. I don't mean to
do that. That's habit. But but actually that's a really
good point because that leads to where we are sometimes
despite our best efforts, yes to keep the two separated.
We are human and a relationship, by its nature, has
an emotional component. So if you wind up being hyper
sensitive in the wrong moment, you know, that's where things
(04:24):
get dicey.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Yeah, so you're saying it's Jody's fun.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
No, it's not. I'm a very expressive person. Jody's a
very expressive person.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
You know.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
We don't. Neither of us have poker faces, Sam, as
you know, and so if if something is wrong, you
can tell something's wrong, if it's anyway because of that,
you know, a physical reaction can cause an unintended reaction
from the other person. And that's about as far as
I'll go with it.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Anything else at play though, the whole reason for this
whole pot there's something else at play. When you've been
with somebody for a long time, there is baggage. There's
no marriage on the planet. Whether you've been together for
two years or twenty something years, you have relationships have baggage.
You are supposed to let things go in you're but
but you have baggage. And if you are having an
(05:11):
argument that you feel like you've had before. It hurts
even more. Sometimes you know, it's like are we here again?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Is sometimes the feeling. And so that's what I mean
by baggage. It doesn't mean not letting things go, because
you have to let things go to move forward, you
really do. But all marriages have baggage. You're gonna have
days when you don't like each other. You're gonna have
days when you feel like you're having the same argument again,
because guess what, Murphy's the same person. I'm the same person.
(05:41):
We're working on ourselves. But so every relationship you have
something you fought for and a history. But with that
comes baggage sometimes. So sometimes something that wouldn't set a
new couple off can set a couple off who've been
together because you feel like again we hear again. And
the other thing about it is for me, I need
(06:05):
a cooling off period. I could not have done this
podcast Friday. I could not have done done this. I
needed a cooling off period. And do you want to
know the funny story about the cooling off period Friday?
So Murphy had an appointment late Friday, and so I
went to grow grocery shop. I need to get out
of the house anyway. I didn't want to be home
when he got home. I needed space, which is a
(06:28):
human thing for me. I don't want to talk about
things right away. I don't want because it'll be a
bad If I'm forced to talk about something too soon,
it'll be bad.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
And so yeah, and I've learned that the hard way
over the years.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
By the way, because Mercy will talk about it now
early in the.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Relationship, that's the way that I was. But now I understand.
And actually, I mean this is again part of how
you grow in a relationship. You do understand that. And
so I know when Jody needs the space. Now, I mean,
she's got the space as much as she needs. And
I don't push the issue, but I also do let
her know I'm actually cognizant of what's going on, and
I'm paying attention. Whenever you're ready to talk about it,
(07:06):
I'm here. But until then, so see, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
Friday night, I Friday evening, he had a late appointment.
I'm like, great, I'm going to go grocery shopping and
get this done for the weekend. Early anyway, gets my headspace,
gets me away and gets something done at the same time.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Grocery shop for you and the girls and for the family. Oh,
him too.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
I bought his stuff too. I might have thrown it
in the bathroom. I thought it just because I'm mad
doesn't mean I don't care, right, So I bought sandwich
stuff and the bread and all these things that you like,
your cold, your iced coffee and all that stuff. And
I've spent two hours doing all of that. And on
the way home, He's like, so if you want to
go grab something to eat, and I'm like, really, really not,
(07:48):
don't want to grab something eat. In fact, I'm sorry.
I sent you a text that said I think that
you need to get your own dinner tonight. Oh you
to handle your own dinner tonight, which is I do.
Let you know that because for twenty something years not
had to think about dinner. That's I kind of lead
with that. So I was like, I think you need
to handle your own dinner tonight. And so Murphy's the
king of picking up food to go, loves to drive through,
(08:11):
loves to take out something, and he's I'm gonna come
home and he's gonna have a steak from a Restaurant's fine.
I roll into the driveway with groceries, sandwich stuff and
iced coffee and all the stuff we need. And he
pulls into the driveway at the same time. And what
do you want to tell Sam? What you had gotten?
What you did?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Well, I went to the grocery store and I bought.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
The sandwich stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Yeah, but here's the shame.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
And I'm like, are you kidding me?
Speaker 1 (08:38):
But I had no idea. I had no idea that
Jodie was going to shop for groceries. She was not
talking to me, you see, right, So there was like,
I think you should have dinner, and I'm like, okay, well,
then she's just gonna go do her thing tonight. You've
done You've gone to coffee shops, you've gone to bookstores sometimes,
you've done shopping. Whatever you've done. You've just gone and
done your own thing. So I had no idea that
she was doing that. So you know, she's mad because
(09:00):
I've come home with sandwich supplies. She's come home.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
She assumed you were going to go do your usual
drive through and you went to the grocery and.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
So yeah, and it was like and so I ended
up making a sandwich right next to him, making a sandwich. Yeah,
He's like, do you want some Swiss?
Speaker 1 (09:19):
But mine was on a Mine was on a really
good Brioche bread. What was so? What do you call
those things? A square?
Speaker 2 (09:25):
You got?
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (09:28):
That's right? Well yeah mine it was actually it was
chibata but made with made brio style.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Okay, So what was wrong.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
With the Brioche bread that Jodie got.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
We'll do this now. I didn't know that she got it,
although I do think I got a better slice of
ham possibly.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Either way, it doesn't matter. Another thing I wanted to
do this episode podcast for was yesterday's after the show
podcast was about Phoebe's car being toad and everybody commented
on that. I thought that was going to be the
source of the argument. I want to know the source
of the argument. So is this why Murphy's in the
dog house? Somebody's got caught, car got towed? Those are
two completely separate things. In fact, Saturday morning, when he
(10:04):
and I had to go together to get Phoebe's car,
you know, from impound and pay all the money and
all that, we just did that together despite you know,
no matter what's going on between us, we're still parents together,
you know.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
Regardless did you wake up mad Saturday.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I did not wake up, Matt. I woke up numb,
like knowing I was gonna we were gonna eventually talk
about things, because you do. If you're going to work together,
you can't do that stalemate period for long.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
You just can't, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
A lot of couples might do a stalemate for a week.
We can't do that. We wouldn't do that to you, Sam,
It would be unbearable.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
I uh, I think it's really good though, and important.
You know what you're sharing that. You know, every any
couple goes through that, and because we don't. You're right,
we're not. We're not laundry airing people, you know, when
it comes to our own stuff. You know, although you
know again.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And Audrey, it's a laundry airing sort of world that
we live in. I know that, but I just don't.
That's not going to do us any.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Good, right exactly, because yeah, precisely.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
It's nobody else's business.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
That actually can wind up you know, driving a wedge
even further. Yes, And you know, the I think what's
we kind of go into relationships when we're younger, very idealistic,
you know, thinking, okay, once the problems are gone. You know,
once we get through and get to know each other,
it's all and upward trajectory from here. And then that's
(11:34):
just not life. I mean, life throws things at you.
And that's why I think friendship has to be the
important foundation of any relationship.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
See ladies, he's so good and apologizing.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Well, but I'm.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Serious about this. You know, when Jody and I first met,
I was I was not pursuing a romantic relationship. We
became friends, and that friendship is what wind up being
really attractive. That connection is, you know, what wound up
developing into a stronger bond. So as long as you're
(12:07):
as long as your foundation is based in friendship, then
you will probably be able to weather storms because you're
going to treat your friends hopefully, you're going to treat
your friends in a very in a in a way
that is objective is the wrong word, you know. I mean,
you have emotions when it's come to your friends, but
your emotions can take over in a romantic way, respectful,
(12:28):
that's respectable, right Exactly.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
When with someone that you're married to, you boundaries can
sometimes go away, and boundaries are super important in relationships.
All relationships. I still have boundaries, like my cooling off
period that I need things like that.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
So the started Friday, it did, Sam Man, I sure
wish I could remember Friday.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Don't worry about it. It's not your It's not for
you to worry about. Aren't you glad it's not for
you to worry about?
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Yeah, but now I want to know.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Missed any part of the show.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Get it All on the Murphy, Salm and Jody podcast.
Welcome to the Murphy Samonchoti after the show podcast Happy Thanksgiving.
We'll return on Monday. So here are some of our
favorite after the show podcasts from this past year.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
So today, a lot of people asking on our Facebook
page because of the show, because of Monday's and today's
show where everybody you know loves Murphy because of the
way he apologizes, especially the ladies. Old Murphy's the sweetest
and the sweetest in the world, and he is sweet.
He knows how to apologize, which is saying a lot.
We had a big argument a handful of days ago,
(00:32):
and it was a cold few days and that's just
how it is in all marriages, I'm sure, and everybody
wants to know what we were arguing about. So number one,
right off the bat, you know, healthy couples don't. One
of the things that makes a healthy couple healthy, I think,
is that you don't air your laundry, your dirty laundry.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Right, Yeah, So it wasn't over who likes Sam the most.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
He likes you the most. Joking.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Well, you know what we can say though, it is
that it's the clash of personal and work in working
together and being a married couple that has its challenges,
which we've had for twenty five years.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
That's not something you can know unless you work with
a spouse. You cannot know what that is unless you
every day for twenty something years work with the same
person you're managing a personal life with. It is a clash,
and I've always said that it would be a test
of your marriage to do it. It's not something I recommend,
although a lot of people do it successfully, and there
(01:33):
are benefits to it as well. Murphy c is a
part of me, and I see a part of him
that other spouses don't get to see. So there are
benefits too.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
Yeah, right, I.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Mean I really do professional thing, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I don't just say that I enjoy watching you work
professionally because I think you're very good at what you do.
In general, I have a great appreciation for people who
have standards for the way that they conduct themselves in
their jobs and professionalism, and that's all across the board,
and so I can sept rate are personal from the
professional and say that you are a great pro and
(02:04):
it's I do enjoy working with you because you've got
high standards. Same for you, Sam.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I was just wondering and this was the apology party.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
What he does when he apologizes, he shines it up
and he a polishes very well. He means it. Though
he means it.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I do mean it, and we were able to move
forward once Jody admitted she was wrong.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Sam, All right, Oh way, Maan, I do want to
ask this if you can say it, you know, if
you can't just say take the fifth or whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Was it something that happened Friday, the witnessed.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Oh no, oh. If that's the case, then I go ahead, Well,
there's leading the winness. Yeah, that's going to change out
my line of questions. That's your question, I guess based
on the fact that Murphy apologized, Yes, is he the one?
If there is anyone to blame here? Nod wrong, I
guess is what I'm asking.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
I don't really want to answer that we trip over
each other, gotcha. And honestly, you trip over people at work,
but you have a professional relationship them. When you trip
over someone that you have a personal relationship with, it
hurts and you can't get away from it at home.
In fact, it's worse at home. You know, imagine someone
really upsetting you at work and you have to have
dinner with them that night, or the kids show up
(03:13):
and go, what's going on? Mom and dad? And you're
like seething. That's what it is, That's what it can be.
I bring it back up, not to leave anybody out
of the conversation, but to bring the conversation in.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
And I do think that we can bring it into
a way that everybody can understand and feel that they're
you know, connected toeen.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
We classed at work on something.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
We clashed at work, and it's because when you're in
a relationship, and it's very important for me and Jody
that we keep our personal and professional lives separate from
each other when we're in Yeah, when we're in this room,
and Saam can attest to this, you know, I'm not
sitting right next to you in this room. There is
not anymore. There's no physical affection at work. There's none
(03:51):
of that personal In fact, you are Jodie here, You're
not my wife here, I'm not your husband here.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Every once in a while you trip up and you'll
call me at work.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeaheah. I don't like that. I mean, honestly, I mean
I catch that when that happens. I don't mean to
do that. That's habit. But but actually that's a really
good point because that leads to where we are sometimes
despite our best efforts, yes to keep the two separated.
We are human and a relationship, by its nature, has
an emotional component. So if you wind up being hyper
sensitive in the wrong moment, you know, that's where things
(04:24):
get dicey.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Yeah, so you're saying it's Jody's fun.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
No, it's not. I'm a very expressive person. Jody's a
very expressive person.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
You know.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
We don't. Neither of us have poker faces, Sam, as
you know, and so if if something is wrong, you
can tell something's wrong, if it's anyway because of that,
you know, a physical reaction can cause an unintended reaction
from the other person. And that's about as far as
I'll go with it.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Anything else at play though, the whole reason for this
whole pot there's something else at play. When you've been
with somebody for a long time, there is baggage. There's
no marriage on the planet. Whether you've been together for
two years or twenty something years, you have relationships have baggage.
You are supposed to let things go in you're but
but you have baggage. And if you are having an
(05:11):
argument that you feel like you've had before. It hurts
even more. Sometimes you know, it's like are we here again?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Is sometimes the feeling. And so that's what I mean
by baggage. It doesn't mean not letting things go, because
you have to let things go to move forward, you
really do. But all marriages have baggage. You're gonna have
days when you don't like each other. You're gonna have
days when you feel like you're having the same argument again,
because guess what, Murphy's the same person. I'm the same person.
(05:41):
We're working on ourselves. But so every relationship you have
something you fought for and a history. But with that
comes baggage sometimes. So sometimes something that wouldn't set a
new couple off can set a couple off who've been
together because you feel like again we hear again. And
the other thing about it is for me, I need
(06:05):
a cooling off period. I could not have done this
podcast Friday. I could not have done done this. I
needed a cooling off period. And do you want to
know the funny story about the cooling off period Friday?
So Murphy had an appointment late Friday, and so I
went to grow grocery shop. I need to get out
of the house anyway. I didn't want to be home
when he got home. I needed space, which is a
(06:28):
human thing for me. I don't want to talk about
things right away. I don't want because it'll be a
bad If I'm forced to talk about something too soon,
it'll be bad.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
And so yeah, and I've learned that the hard way
over the years.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
By the way, because Mercy will talk about it now
early in the.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Relationship, that's the way that I was. But now I understand.
And actually, I mean this is again part of how
you grow in a relationship. You do understand that. And
so I know when Jody needs the space. Now, I mean,
she's got the space as much as she needs. And
I don't push the issue, but I also do let
her know I'm actually cognizant of what's going on, and
I'm paying attention. Whenever you're ready to talk about it,
(07:06):
I'm here. But until then, so see, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
Friday night, I Friday evening, he had a late appointment.
I'm like, great, I'm going to go grocery shopping and
get this done for the weekend. Early anyway, gets my headspace,
gets me away and gets something done at the same time.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Grocery shop for you and the girls and for the family. Oh,
him too.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
I bought his stuff too. I might have thrown it
in the bathroom. I thought it just because I'm mad
doesn't mean I don't care, right, So I bought sandwich
stuff and the bread and all these things that you like,
your cold, your iced coffee and all that stuff. And
I've spent two hours doing all of that. And on
the way home, He's like, so if you want to
go grab something to eat, and I'm like, really, really not,
(07:48):
don't want to grab something eat. In fact, I'm sorry.
I sent you a text that said I think that
you need to get your own dinner tonight. Oh you
to handle your own dinner tonight, which is I do.
Let you know that because for twenty something years not
had to think about dinner. That's I kind of lead
with that. So I was like, I think you need
to handle your own dinner tonight. And so Murphy's the
king of picking up food to go, loves to drive through,
(08:11):
loves to take out something, and he's I'm gonna come
home and he's gonna have a steak from a Restaurant's fine.
I roll into the driveway with groceries, sandwich stuff and
iced coffee and all the stuff we need. And he
pulls into the driveway at the same time. And what
do you want to tell Sam? What you had gotten?
What you did?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Well, I went to the grocery store and I bought.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
The sandwich stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Yeah, but here's the shame.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
And I'm like, are you kidding me?
Speaker 1 (08:38):
But I had no idea. I had no idea that
Jodie was going to shop for groceries. She was not
talking to me, you see, right, So there was like,
I think you should have dinner, and I'm like, okay, well,
then she's just gonna go do her thing tonight. You've
done You've gone to coffee shops, you've gone to bookstores sometimes,
you've done shopping. Whatever you've done. You've just gone and
done your own thing. So I had no idea that
she was doing that. So you know, she's mad because
(09:00):
I've come home with sandwich supplies. She's come home.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
She assumed you were going to go do your usual
drive through and you went to the grocery and.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
So yeah, and it was like and so I ended
up making a sandwich right next to him, making a sandwich. Yeah,
He's like, do you want some Swiss?
Speaker 1 (09:19):
But mine was on a Mine was on a really
good Brioche bread. What was so? What do you call
those things? A square?
Speaker 2 (09:25):
You got?
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (09:28):
That's right? Well yeah mine it was actually it was
chibata but made with made brio style.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Okay, So what was wrong.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
With the Brioche bread that Jodie got.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
We'll do this now. I didn't know that she got it,
although I do think I got a better slice of
ham possibly.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Either way, it doesn't matter. Another thing I wanted to
do this episode podcast for was yesterday's after the show
podcast was about Phoebe's car being toad and everybody commented
on that. I thought that was going to be the
source of the argument. I want to know the source
of the argument. So is this why Murphy's in the
dog house? Somebody's got caught, car got towed? Those are
two completely separate things. In fact, Saturday morning, when he
(10:04):
and I had to go together to get Phoebe's car,
you know, from impound and pay all the money and
all that, we just did that together despite you know,
no matter what's going on between us, we're still parents together,
you know.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
Regardless did you wake up mad Saturday.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I did not wake up, Matt. I woke up numb,
like knowing I was gonna we were gonna eventually talk
about things, because you do. If you're going to work together,
you can't do that stalemate period for long.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
You just can't, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
A lot of couples might do a stalemate for a week.
We can't do that. We wouldn't do that to you, Sam,
It would be unbearable.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
I uh, I think it's really good though, and important.
You know what you're sharing that. You know, every any
couple goes through that, and because we don't. You're right,
we're not. We're not laundry airing people, you know, when
it comes to our own stuff. You know, although you
know again.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And Audrey, it's a laundry airing sort of world that
we live in. I know that, but I just don't.
That's not going to do us any.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Good, right exactly, because yeah, precisely.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
It's nobody else's business.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
That actually can wind up you know, driving a wedge
even further. Yes, And you know, the I think what's
we kind of go into relationships when we're younger, very idealistic,
you know, thinking, okay, once the problems are gone. You know,
once we get through and get to know each other,
it's all and upward trajectory from here. And then that's
(11:34):
just not life. I mean, life throws things at you.
And that's why I think friendship has to be the
important foundation of any relationship.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
See ladies, he's so good and apologizing.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Well, but I'm.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Serious about this. You know, when Jody and I first met,
I was I was not pursuing a romantic relationship. We
became friends, and that friendship is what wind up being
really attractive. That connection is, you know, what wound up
developing into a stronger bond. So as long as you're
(12:07):
as long as your foundation is based in friendship, then
you will probably be able to weather storms because you're
going to treat your friends hopefully, you're going to treat
your friends in a very in a in a way
that is objective is the wrong word, you know. I mean,
you have emotions when it's come to your friends, but
your emotions can take over in a romantic way, respectful,
(12:28):
that's respectable, right Exactly.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
When with someone that you're married to, you boundaries can
sometimes go away, and boundaries are super important in relationships.
All relationships. I still have boundaries, like my cooling off
period that I need things like that.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
So the started Friday, it did, Sam Man, I sure
wish I could remember Friday.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Don't worry about it. It's not your It's not for
you to worry about. Aren't you glad it's not for
you to worry about?
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Yeah, but now I want to know.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Missed any part of the show.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Get it All on the Murphy, Salm and Jody podcast.
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