August 1, 2026 • 30 mins
We break down the sneaky hidden wedding costs that blow up your budget, from vendor tips to feeding the photographer. Then it's Girl Talk Tuesday as Jodi and Murphy get real about working with your spouse and whether you can really do it. Plus we meet Bird Call Boy Samuel Henderson, chat unicorns with Sam, and Murphy's new rolling desk gets on Jodi's clutter radar.
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Listen
Watch
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Choty Weekend Show podcast, highlighting
some of our favorite moments from this past week.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I think we all know, everyone knows that weddings can
be expensive. That's why that recent trend of couples getting
married at the courthouse, to say, in California, the courthouse
is like the when the dates open, they get scooped
up right away, months ahead of time, because it's not
something you can just, like in a movie, decide to do.
Then you're there ten minutes later. You actually have an
appointment to get married at the courthouse. And a lot
(00:30):
of couples are like, you know what, I'm not going
to spend thousan or my parents are going to spend
thousands of dollars on this.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
You know, let's just marry.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Yeah, simply the price of a little airfare, you can
get right in and out in Vegas.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
But if you are throwing the big wedding, they say,
wedding planners say there are hidden costs that you don't
necessarily realize until you got all this stuff scheduled. So
for things that add up that you didn't put in
your wedding budget because maybe you've never done this hopefully
you know your parents have never said, Okay, let's do this.
(01:07):
Like the first time you do all of that is
the first time you do all that a lot of
times yeah, okay, so.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
And then if you do it a second time, you
tend to get a little less expensive. Second wedding that's
another story for another day.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Second weddings are smaller, not just for the financials, but
just also you're kind of like, let's not make a
huge deal, even smaller.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Ye hadn't been there, Sam, but I hear it.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Okay, So, tips, couples, you know, even if you budget
for tips, vendors, hair and makeup artists, catering staff, drivers,
all of that, all of those people that are doing
stuff for you on that day and all those leading
up days, you need to work.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
In the tips.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I wouldn't have thought of that.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Alterations for wedding dresses can run you up and then tuxedos,
you know, and alterations happen sometimes just like it altered
and then two three months later you need.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
It altered again, right before the day of that happens.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Meals for vendors, like you do need to feed. When
we're setting the food budget, you need to feed the
photographers and the DJ and you need to feed all
those people who've showed up, who've shown up, and you're
also tipping.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
You can't just say no hot talks for you, hot
dog whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I'm Joni's again talking about the second wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Follow us on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. Earlier this week,
on Tuesday night, we did girl Talk Tuesday and the
subject this time was working with your spouse. More and
more couples are working together, starting businesses together. So I
know a little bit about it since Murphy and I
have been married and working together for a very long time.
(02:52):
It is not for everyone. I always start with that
you can either do it or you can't, and you
learn along the way whether you.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Can do it or not.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Some of the comments that rolled in so crazy, fantastic. Hi, Jody,
I couldn't work with my husband. This is from Tamara,
he is mean at work.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Sorry to hear that.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Rebecca says, I worked with my husband and these were
live comments that some of them I got to live
and some afterward I worked.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
This from Rebeca.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I worked with my husband and the only problem was
how other employees treated me. Some were just curious about
our marriage. And something I was treated differently at work.
That thought did enter my mind in our early days, Murphy,
that people would think I was getting some sort of
special treatment from you, and I had to just let
(03:41):
it go and not worry about what anybody else was thinking.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Yeah, because a lot of times what other people think
is incorrect.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Correct, Correct, it's incorrect because I don't know. I feel like,
if anything, I don't get the extra special treatment from you.
I feel like I get the harsher like you know,
what do you think?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Sam? It's almost like next.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Question boundary want to be dragged into this.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
I agree with the second half of that.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Yeah, Yeah, we're the closer we are. We don't get
the tender Murphy. Right, we don't get the soft Murphy.
We get the bumps closer. You are, the more comfortable
he feels to.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Do those things.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Yes, it's true.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
It's not just Murphy.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
You're both psychoanalyzing me.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Anyway.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Well, we're married and we're talking about it, and I'm here,
Well you are, you're kind of married into this too, right,
Sherry says, I did it for nine years. I managed
an apartment complex and he did maintenance at the same apartment.
Apartment complex. Honestly, it was not good all the time,
but we made it.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
That's good. Probably worked because she was in charge.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I don't know if that means anything, but Dana says, hey, Jodie,
I have been married twice and worked with both of them,
no problems.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
It was great. Wow.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
You just never know. You either could do it or
you can't as a couple. Anyway, so we went there.
We really went there the other night, including how I
handle a mad work day when I get home with Murphy,
and we'll do.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
That, I mean, when you're mad at.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Me, we'll do that later on.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
A lot of videos there from our podcast recently, the
podcast about Murphy's Top management book recommendations, which Juan had
asked for that, yeah, like some book wre management was.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
A listener email question that turned into that.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Yeah, so a lot of recommendations there.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
You can go back and search Murphy, Sam and Jody
anywhere you listen to podcasts to hear all of that.
Trace said great advice, meaning your advice about address the problem,
not the person. Sam had asked, what if the employee
is the problem.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Because that's a good question.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Dum and Murphy's answer was you addressed the problem, not
the person. Trace says, great advice. Not easy to do,
but it is the best way to address any problem.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah that is so true. Yeah, even in your personal life.
That's that's just good communication skills. Right.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Yeah, this is funny. I mean you said it's personal.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I'm thinking, yeah, Bet Murphy's used that trick on me too,
address the problem, not Jody. I will say this, if
you are an employee and your employer addresses the problem
and not you, it helps you to not take it
so personally.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
You know, well, the goal.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
The goal is to improve what it is that you do, right,
So you're correcting the problem.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Such good advice.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
I have another question to follow up on that one. Yes,
we could like okay, so and this isn't for me lessons.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
You're asking for a friend, aren't you.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
That's a friend, that's it. Her name starts with a J. No,
just kidding. Okay, you address the problem, not the person.
But what if the person won't let go of it
and tries to make it up. Oh, you're attacking me
and blah.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Blah blah blahh natural take it.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
I mean that's a good question. I think you let
the person express. You have to be willing to let
it express, but at some point you have to redirect them. Yeah, exactly.
I mean ultimately, as the leader, you're in charge of
the conversation. So if it deteriorates into something that is
then disrespectful, that's where you change. You know that, the
conversation on the door. But I've never really encountered that
where somebody I've never encountered that where somebody took it
(07:22):
that far. I think once you give somebody a chance
to really express and just get out of their system,
then their head is clear and you can proceed.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Usually you see that. That's his magic. He is management magic.
That's how you got me. Like, that's how we when
we were starting to date, I was like, well.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I let you express, get it out of your system
or no, you just.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Worked well, we worked together first.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
We did all right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
A lot of people have a lot of weird sleep habits.
If you have these, you're not alone. We're going to
share some. Do you have any weird ones? Sam, I'll
tell you Murphy's weird when I know if it's weird.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
But I hug a pillow.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
Okay, No, I think that's sweet.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I'm not.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
I'm sorry, I'm not laughing you.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
And it doesn't go back to last week with being alone.
It doesn't go back to one nice Hey, look, your
pillow loves you unconditionally. Yeah, I love doesn't talk back.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I just chuckled because I love that. You admit that.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
I think it's more of a comfort thing.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Sure, yeah, prop in your arm up versus it just
come over in there. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Murphy's weird sleep habit is he cannot sleep with just
one pillow.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
He would not. He just has to have a whole
like castle of.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Pillow, a pillow army. Yeah. I love that.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Yeah, I mean about yours, Cody.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
I don't know if I have any weird sleeping habits.
I sleep with one pillow. Yeah, I do have to
sleep with the rain sounds.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
I like that. I don't think that's I would say.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
That that's our you know, it is definitely our habit.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Now when I wake up, I'm in some very strange
position positions mine, you know, wrist turned down.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
A lot of people do that. Most people do that.
There's a natural I've read about that before.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
The natural.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yeah, but it's so normal because this is where you
get completely vulnerable, and you restore and repair yourself. You
know how big of a fan I am of sleep.
It never gets the respect it deserves. So at Jennifer
admitting of sleeping in socks even in summer.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Oh, I'm surprised Jodie didn't call out my you know,
my strangest habit.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Why are you sleeping?
Speaker 1 (09:23):
What the blanket that I used? You think is too
hot for the summer?
Speaker 5 (09:27):
I forgot?
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Yeah, because honestly, the big pillow mote thing is more.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
She gave me that ugs it's an Uggs blanket, right,
Ush'm sorry? Yeah, only one, not too.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
It's the heaviest, warmest blanket in the world, and he
sleeps with it even in the summer.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Liness it's the magic sleeping blanket. That's wow.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Yeah, pillow hugger, you guys are so precious.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
Mike says, I can't fall asleep unless I'm absolutely freezing cold.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
H Kayla. I sleep with my head completely under the covers.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
I've known some people who do that, and that can
be like a cocoon kind of a comfortable thing.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I think whatever works for you, as long as it doesn't,
you know, cause a problem for your part.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
If you have a sleeping partner.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Well, you know, I mean I was sleeping habits. I
would love to know what you know sleeping rituals. People
have too same kind of thing, because what you're talking about,
you know, rain sounds fat fan on cold room. You
and I have some prerequisites, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yeah, it's about making it happen, sleeping blanket. Do you
want to hear the story about one of the ways
I handle it? When I've had a bad day at
work with Murphy, a mad day, I call it.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
I got my popcorn, I'm ready for it.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
We haven't had any mad days lately, though one not.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Too too too long ago, earlier in the summer, and
I was frustrated and carrying it, and I was still
mad at you and hadn't talked to you since we
had worked on something together. And this is this is
an example of you know, he's Murphy at work and
he's my husband at home.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I trot it these two people to me.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
I try to roll that way, but you know, things
get jumbled up, boundary lines get crossed, and I'm human.
So I finally came home that afternoon and I was thinking, Okay,
we're just gonna talk about it right away, because that
is something we do in our relationship. When there's something wrong,
we don't let it bester. We talk. So I'm like,
hit the door. He's already sitting on the sofa. He's
(11:23):
blaring music, and ironically it's something I had asked him.
I'm like, you've got to listen to the Keith Urban
Flow State yacht Rock album because it's so good. So
he is blaring in yeah, and I'm so mad, seething,
and I'm looking at him and I'm like, you again,
(11:45):
here he is, and he looks over at me with
this smile and he goes, hey, you're right, this is good.
And I'm just like, I'm daggers at this point because
I'm still carrying.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
You know, what, we had really butted heads on.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
What we do here is very collaborative and creative, and
Mercy Murphy is a very in charge person. And I
have a lot of ideas and so do you, Sam,
and so sometimes we do butt heads.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Passionate people butt heads, and so.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
That's that's one of the things that happens. And that's
the example. That's what I mean when they say men
are like waffles and women are like spaghetti. You're you
have you can compartmentalize things into little boxes. So that
thing was something completely different to you, a different universe.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
But me, I'm spaghetti. I was still jumbled all up
in it.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
I walked in the door like mad about whatever you
had said to me at work, and I don't even
remember what it is now.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
That's wild, you know. I didn't think of it in
those terms. It was Keith Urban and waffles. I don't
know if.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Keith Urban did. And then Murphy's way of being, hey,
it's a whole new day. It did work.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
My mom is still recovering from her major surgery from
the beginning of the song, and I wanted to surprise
her the other day with something new to look at
to occupy her mind. So I thought, you know what,
I'm going to roll into the library and get her
some big coffee table books to just look at.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
That makes sense.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
I'm not going to suggest she reads something that you know,
that's my idea, but coffee table books, and I roll
she have a coffee table, yes, regardless, you know what
I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
And you know, my concern is not whether she is
the coffee table or not, though she's not really supposed
to be picking up heavy things, and aren't those books heavy?
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Okay, thank you for bringing that in one at a time.
She can handle a book, yeah, you go.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
So I've never fifty pounds of books, to be honest, though,
I've never.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
When I arrived, I had to ask, do you guys
have a big section of coffee table books? Because I
know that you they should they have everything, and she
was like, of course we do. She had to take
me to the section and there's so many, oh my gosh,
not that that's a surprise, but overwhelming amount of subjects,
Like there are coffee table books about butterflies and bridges
(14:07):
and Harley Davidson's and I found them on shoes.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
I got stuck.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Actually there, back to Sam's question, I'm assuming the library
keeps those on shelves, not coffee tables, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
It would be hafty, hefty shelves. So once I had
like three or four, I realized, Man, this.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Is a serious haul.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
What times did you get?
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I got her one about home decorating like this just these.
Speaker 4 (14:32):
Just a hint, right, No.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
I looked for one on cats by she has a
coffee table.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
She doesn't need books about cats. She's got the real
thing I know.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Okay, so they didn't have cats anyway, I got. I
got her one on home decorating fashion that was one
on fashion in the other hand, and the no something
that she would like to look at. And I can't
remember the third one.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I'll have to go.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Back anyway, Okay, Murph, I'm trying to do something nice here. Anyway,
when I was checking out, it was so heavy, I'm like, ah,
put it up on the counter and I said, by
the way, is there a limit to how many, you know,
books you can check out at one time? And she
said yes, the library's policy is no more than fifty
books at a time.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Of like, I'm all set with three Wow morning, pick
me up time. Let's get picked up.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
Oh, this one's going to be fun. Today. I want
to introduce you to Samuel Henderson. He is a child
in Choctaw, Oklahoma, and you may have seen his videos
on social media. He's had a new round of him
going viral recently. And you may know him as bird
call Boy.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
He does bird calls, and he does bird calls with
his voice. He doesn't use any tricks or anything like that.
He can do one hundred and fourteen different bird calls. What, Yes,
it's amazing. You're gonna love this, Jody. He's gonna do
a one hundred and forty No, no, no, no, I only
got for these. He started when he was four years
old at the local zoo. He was at the zoo
and he saw a bird on the garbage can making
(16:04):
a noise, and he did it, and his mom was like, wow,
that was just.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Like, he just has a natural knack for this.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
Yes, he was even in a school talent show a
couple of years ago. So here we go, here's some
of his bird calls. I'll let him take it away.
Speaker 5 (16:15):
First, we get the barnow.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
That's correct, correct, Well, and we go on. We had
a neighbor that could do that same thing.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Yeah, but he wasn't a kid.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
Yeah, no, I know, that's perfect. How about a couple
of crows here.
Speaker 5 (16:31):
And you know there's two different species of crows in
the United States, the fish crow and the American crew.
The fish girls were not going to do first, Ah,
then the American crow.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
Whoa, here we go, here's a purple Martin.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Oh that's beautiful.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
Now. Samuel lives with autism and terre He recently put
out a second video on TikTok. The NFL even picked
him up recently and they did a post with his
bird calls for the teams that have bird mascots, you know,
like the falcons and the ravens. He did the cardinals.
(17:20):
Oh my gosh, can't leave out the seahawks.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Is a red hawk?
Speaker 4 (17:26):
That one gets me?
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (17:29):
I know.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
I wonder if he just naturally is this way? Does
he say he has to practice?
Speaker 4 (17:34):
Maybe he was a bird in a former life and
when he goes outside he talks to everybody.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I love that him. I hope he still it still
works when his voice changes.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Jeef Jeep, Samuel Henderson, thank you for that. I have
a personal little message something I just want to say.
Speaker 4 (17:56):
So.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
I know we are all over social media, Murphy Salmon,
and so it happens to me very often lately in
the last several years, but lately this summer especially, I'll
be walking through a store and someone will go, hey, Jody,
I know you. We listened and it's been wonderful, like
it happened two days ago.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Well, it's cool because it's like you get the in
person connection of somebody that and.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
It's always like a sudden, oh I know you, Hi,
Like I mean, in TJ Max, in the grocery store,
in any place it happened. So I want to say
hi to Janine. I loved meeting you the other day.
I was trying on sunglasses and she's like Jody, So
we ended up talking, and then we saw each other
again at the clearance section and she helped me pick
out a little I bought a new jean jacket, which
(18:42):
you know I need Murphy anyway, And it happened the
other day with Amelia in the grocery store. But what happened,
what is happening is it's two points of contact at first,
like hey, I know you.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Oh hi, and I'm like, hey, what's your name?
Speaker 2 (18:54):
And we speak and then we go our separate ways
and we shop and then at the end, like I
saw Amelia again at check out and she came up
to me and said, I'm sorry if I startled you
or did it that way.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
And Janine did the same thing the other day in
TJ Max.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Like after when we saw each other at Clarence, she
was like, I'm sorry I did it that way. Please
don't apologize for saying hello. That's what I wanted to say,
if you see me, I don't care if I'm at
the gas station and if I look like I'm having
a horrible day. If you recognize, please come say hello.
I love it, and there's no need to apologize for
the way you said hello.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
You ever got you guys? Ever have that happen?
Speaker 1 (19:30):
No, I'm not as famous as you. Just get it.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
Since I walk around with stand off his face, I
guess I don't get it.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
No, it's I understand what you're I understand what.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
I guess that Janine and Amelia you know what that
is recently?
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Well, the I if you know somebody but they don't
know you, sure, then I understand that. That's I think
that's the polite way that anybody would want to handle it.
I know that you don't want somebody to apologize necessarily,
but I think that that's just human nature.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
It's just happened several times lately that it's like this
point of contact and then they come back and say,
I'm sorry if I did it weird. I'm like, there's
no weird. In fact, if you see me, please come
say hello. But I told Janine in TJ Max was
that we if I want you to come say hello.
That's the point for you to know us. So you
do know me, and I'll see you next week.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
In Janine. Sammy said something the other day.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
We have all these videos online and on reels on
social media and you can follow Murphy, Sam and Jody
and see them all. And we were talking about you
were saying you're very comfortable being single now, and you
were saying that if the unicorn comes along, and I
just want you to know we have so many comments
about you saying that word unicorn, the unicorn with regards
(20:46):
to I'm.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
Happy sing someone's going to take a unicorn to.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
I just want to read some of these two you
metaphorically speaking.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Julie says, I have not dated since my divorce and
kind of like Sam, if the unicorn comes on, great,
If not, I'm good, Teresa. I love being single, and
like you, it would be nice to have a unicorn
to change my mind, or we take a unicorn to
change my mind.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
Wow, it was a funny, you know, because everybody knows
what you mean.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Yeah, Once you're comfortable in the single space, it takes
some convincing for you to get back into the relationship.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
Is that you mean the person who checks every box.
Speaker 4 (21:23):
Is what you're saying. It checks the boxes. I don't
even know where boxes.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
You didn't know you needed that special yeah, unicorn horn
until you found it.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
Karen says, so a unicorn stands a chance.
Speaker 4 (21:36):
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Some others Valerie, I like being single, but man, would
be fun to find a unicorn. This one keeps coming up.
Cadet Ah, Yes, the unicorn. I agree, so many unicorn comments.
I do want to just interject, as someone who is married,
I know this is a single conversation.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
There is some there.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
There can be someone who checks most of your boxes,
even all of your boxes, but and and can be
your unicorn. But it doesn't mean they're perfect.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Do I check all your boxes? Joe?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I mean yes, yes, Oh let's.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
A unicorn.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
No, Murphy is my unicorn. Just what I'm saying is
we're not perfect.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
No, we're not.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
Don't get in, don't not date because someone doesn't seem perfect.
Is all I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (22:26):
Some boxes are more important to check than the others. Right,
I'm not dating because I know myself now and and
you only date unicorns apparently, right.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
All I'm saying is want the unicorn. But don't expect
a perfect magical creature. Oh, expect a human being, maybe
a leprechaun. I think Murphy is tiptoeing around me a
little bit about something that he bought. And it's so
funny because I got a text from him before he arrived.
(22:59):
I get here first, and then he comes, I'm sorry
you get here first. I arrived next, and then Murphy
and I got a text on the way. I will
put the desk and other things away when I get home,
And I know why you're sending that. So Murph a
little portable rolling collapsible put away a bull laptop desk
(23:21):
so that he can work anywhere he wants to do
it when he's in the house.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
Right. It's a cute little idea.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Yeah, it is good, and I like it. If I
want to be in front of the window, there you go,
if you know, and I know that I've got my
own little office workspace. But sometimes being in that same
place can really drive you crazy, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Change, a change of scenery is really good for your
mind when working. So when he didn't talk to me
about this at all, it just arrived. Murphy's famous for that.
I bought something big. Here it is, and I guess
it was like five minutes after you bought it. I
was like, it's like, like, as long as it doesn't
just stay out, I don't want it to just stay
out in the living room or the dining room.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Jody doesn't like things to stay out. Actually, there's only
one thing that's exempted from the it can't stay out rule,
and it's her shoes.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Yeah, but you don't really see those, right, I guess
you do.
Speaker 4 (24:14):
You can put the shoes on the rolling table.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
Maybe I could anyway. Well, so I don't like a
lot of clutter.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
I understand that I don't either. Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
You always say you like the way I've decorated.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Our absolutely do.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
Well, let's leave.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
It clean looking so that we can enjoy the way
it's laid out. So anyway, the first day was there,
he was sitting there working on it, and he's like, what
do you think of it?
Speaker 3 (24:34):
Do you like it? I'm like I don't. I said,
as long as it doesn't stay out. He's like, I
didn't say it was going to stay. It wasn't going
to stay to be put away. I just want to
know if you.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Liked it, so it's like, Okay, this is going to
be a thing. So that's why I got the text.
I'm going to put it away when I get home,
I prom.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Okay, because it's sitting out right now on all of
the g radiant glory.
Speaker 4 (24:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
I didn't have time this morning. I had to get
out of there pre emptied there. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Look, I don't want you to be nervous about it,
but here's what's up. If you do, forget to leave
it out and I get to where it's bothering me
to see it in the middle of the beautiful living room,
I'm going to fold it up and put it up.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
Is that aok?
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Yeah, that's I mean absolutely, it's easy enough to do.
I need to show you how to do it. Just
pull a lever and boom it folks completely flat. So
you can just stick it, you know.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
I can stick it somewhere closet and I sure will.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
Hey, social media connect.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
From Instagram, Facebook, some messages rolling in about the idea
of an empty weekend. The weekend is coming. Could you
schedule your empty weekend this weekend where you don't schedule
any social things or things you have to do, make
no appointments, and just do what feels good to you.
Speaker 3 (25:44):
In the moment. It doesn't just relax, It doesn't mean
you know. It doesn't mean you have to lie around.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
What if it feels good to you in the moment
to cut the grass, or you know, go see your mom.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
But just size unstructured.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
It means unstructured, so it feels like free time. You
feel it how you want. Shelley says this. I have
such a hard time taking me time because I'm always
doing something around the house for others. When I do
get a free weekend, I just don't know what to do.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
I feel you. I think if you're naturally.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Always sort of serving those around you, you don't know
what to do with yourself.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
But give yourself the time. Anyway it will come to you.
Speaker 4 (26:22):
You will.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
It could be watching TV, it could be napping, It
could be cleaning out your closet.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Do what feels good in the moment, is the point, Shelley.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
I'm wondering if Shelley means because I have this and
I've felt this before too. Because I have this rare
free day and fifty things that I want to do,
I can't pick one. I just don't know what you
was because I don't. I don't want to waste it.
I don't want to blow my chance.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Uh, it's not wasted though, You're never going to get
to fifty things anyway. Yeah, So what do you feel
like doing in the moment which you can't even predict
ahead of time several days? Wait until Saturday to see
what you feel like doing on Saturday being the present.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Don't worry about it yet.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
Because the present's a gift. Here's one from Lisa from
Murphysalmonjody dot com and email Hi Murphy Salmon Jody. Hi,
I heard Jody talking about the Calamity Club book. Yes,
I just had to jump in and say that I
read it about a month ago and it was fabulous.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
It's a wonderful read, such.
Speaker 4 (27:16):
A great story and a good read.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Yeah. It's the new book from Catherine Stockett who wrote
The Help, and it is so good. I am enjoying
every single word. About halfway through now, thank you, Lisa.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Jody says, Hi, Jody, I just heard you say grief
is part of everyone's story. Amen to that. The beautiful
book theo of Golden teaches that reality, that reality and
inspires us to treat one another with that in mind
showing love and kindness. Highly recommend THEO Love Golden Yeah don't,
I don't. She doesn't say who's written it, so I don't.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
We can find it. We can find it. We love
book recommendations. Anytime. We were talking about grief the other
day in a podcast, Thank you jump in anytime when
I was telling you about Murphy's new role roller collapsible
laptop desk, portable laptops long name man that he puts
in the living room wherever he wants to work, which
(28:09):
is wonderful because Murphy's always working. He does have an
office at our house, but sometimes he wants to be
He even says, I want to be in here with
you and or I want to you know, change of
scenery so awesome. I didn't know you were buying this,
but so you bought it, You put it together. You've
been working all over the place with it.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
You know, it rolls around and you're working.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
Impressive. Huh shower yet but you know.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
My only thing was put it away. Yeah. I don't
want it to sit out. I think that's fair, right.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
I want it to be We have lots of closets,
so when you're not using I want it to be
put away.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
But it's funny when we were talking about.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
It, you brought up the shoes thing, like, yeah, the
only thing that's allowed to stay out, it's your shoes, Jody, Haha.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
It's something.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
It's true when you live with someone, whether you're married
or not, when you're coupled up, it's like I don't
see my stuff and you don't see your stuff, but
I sure as heck see yours. You know, I've had
conversations with your stuff when you're not even there.
Speaker 3 (29:03):
Why is this out?
Speaker 5 (29:04):
You know?
Speaker 3 (29:05):
Right? That is a thing.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
It's a common thing in most Yeah, marriages. I think, Yeah,
it's like, my shoes don't bother me because I chose
to put them there, or it makes sense or not.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Rationalized it in your head that oh they're only there
for a few minutes because I'm not putt them back on.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Sure, but I just feel like that it's all very normal.
We're not being highly unusual here.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
Yeah, I think, yeah, but you know I don't. Aren't
we going to place in our relationship where it just
kind of I will pick up your stuff sometimes, you know,
like the pajamas you slept in because you had to
get out and you know, fast or on the floor,
No big I just pick them up. You know, the
blanket that you'll use in the afternoon sometimes to nap,
doesn't get refolded, you know what, No big deal is growing.
(29:48):
Those are the only things just not I'm sure I
leave more stuff out than you do.
Speaker 3 (29:51):
You actually do.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
Male being one charging cords maybe another. I don't leave
flashlights out.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Anymore, descriptions things like that.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
Do you think if if you were single, you would
just kind of not care anymore?
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (30:04):
No, I would still care very much. Your surroundings give
you your mental state. So if your surroundings are picked
up in an order, I feel more in order. So
that's why I'm always picking stuff up. Nothing safe around
me and a home sorry.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
But that's good. We get we get a visitor, and
we don't expect that the house is already clean.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
It's not like, yes, except for that rolling desk, say
that
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Choty Weekend Show podcast, highlighting
some of our favorite moments from this past week.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I think we all know, everyone knows that weddings can
be expensive. That's why that recent trend of couples getting
married at the courthouse, to say, in California, the courthouse
is like the when the dates open, they get scooped
up right away, months ahead of time, because it's not
something you can just, like in a movie, decide to do.
Then you're there ten minutes later. You actually have an
appointment to get married at the courthouse. And a lot
(00:30):
of couples are like, you know what, I'm not going
to spend thousan or my parents are going to spend
thousands of dollars on this.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
You know, let's just marry.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Yeah, simply the price of a little airfare, you can
get right in and out in Vegas.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
But if you are throwing the big wedding, they say,
wedding planners say there are hidden costs that you don't
necessarily realize until you got all this stuff scheduled. So
for things that add up that you didn't put in
your wedding budget because maybe you've never done this hopefully
you know your parents have never said, Okay, let's do this.
(01:07):
Like the first time you do all of that is
the first time you do all that a lot of
times yeah, okay, so.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
And then if you do it a second time, you
tend to get a little less expensive. Second wedding that's
another story for another day.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Second weddings are smaller, not just for the financials, but
just also you're kind of like, let's not make a
huge deal, even smaller.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Ye hadn't been there, Sam, but I hear it.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Okay, So, tips, couples, you know, even if you budget
for tips, vendors, hair and makeup artists, catering staff, drivers,
all of that, all of those people that are doing
stuff for you on that day and all those leading
up days, you need to work.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
In the tips.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I wouldn't have thought of that.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Alterations for wedding dresses can run you up and then tuxedos,
you know, and alterations happen sometimes just like it altered
and then two three months later you need.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
It altered again, right before the day of that happens.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Meals for vendors, like you do need to feed. When
we're setting the food budget, you need to feed the
photographers and the DJ and you need to feed all
those people who've showed up, who've shown up, and you're
also tipping.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
You can't just say no hot talks for you, hot
dog whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I'm Joni's again talking about the second wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Follow us on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. Earlier this week,
on Tuesday night, we did girl Talk Tuesday and the
subject this time was working with your spouse. More and
more couples are working together, starting businesses together. So I
know a little bit about it since Murphy and I
have been married and working together for a very long time.
(02:52):
It is not for everyone. I always start with that
you can either do it or you can't, and you
learn along the way whether you.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Can do it or not.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Some of the comments that rolled in so crazy, fantastic. Hi, Jody,
I couldn't work with my husband. This is from Tamara,
he is mean at work.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Sorry to hear that.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Rebecca says, I worked with my husband and these were
live comments that some of them I got to live
and some afterward I worked.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
This from Rebeca.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I worked with my husband and the only problem was
how other employees treated me. Some were just curious about
our marriage. And something I was treated differently at work.
That thought did enter my mind in our early days, Murphy,
that people would think I was getting some sort of
special treatment from you, and I had to just let
(03:41):
it go and not worry about what anybody else was thinking.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Yeah, because a lot of times what other people think
is incorrect.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Correct, Correct, it's incorrect because I don't know. I feel like,
if anything, I don't get the extra special treatment from you.
I feel like I get the harsher like you know,
what do you think?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Sam? It's almost like next.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Question boundary want to be dragged into this.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
I agree with the second half of that.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Yeah, Yeah, we're the closer we are. We don't get
the tender Murphy. Right, we don't get the soft Murphy.
We get the bumps closer. You are, the more comfortable
he feels to.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Do those things.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Yes, it's true.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
It's not just Murphy.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
You're both psychoanalyzing me.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Anyway.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Well, we're married and we're talking about it, and I'm here,
Well you are, you're kind of married into this too, right,
Sherry says, I did it for nine years. I managed
an apartment complex and he did maintenance at the same apartment.
Apartment complex. Honestly, it was not good all the time,
but we made it.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
That's good. Probably worked because she was in charge.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I don't know if that means anything, but Dana says, hey, Jodie,
I have been married twice and worked with both of them,
no problems.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
It was great. Wow.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
You just never know. You either could do it or
you can't as a couple. Anyway, so we went there.
We really went there the other night, including how I
handle a mad work day when I get home with Murphy,
and we'll do.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
That, I mean, when you're mad at.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Me, we'll do that later on.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
A lot of videos there from our podcast recently, the
podcast about Murphy's Top management book recommendations, which Juan had
asked for that, yeah, like some book wre management was.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
A listener email question that turned into that.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Yeah, so a lot of recommendations there.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
You can go back and search Murphy, Sam and Jody
anywhere you listen to podcasts to hear all of that.
Trace said great advice, meaning your advice about address the problem,
not the person. Sam had asked, what if the employee
is the problem.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Because that's a good question.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Dum and Murphy's answer was you addressed the problem, not
the person. Trace says, great advice. Not easy to do,
but it is the best way to address any problem.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah that is so true. Yeah, even in your personal life.
That's that's just good communication skills. Right.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Yeah, this is funny. I mean you said it's personal.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
I'm thinking, yeah, Bet Murphy's used that trick on me too,
address the problem, not Jody. I will say this, if
you are an employee and your employer addresses the problem
and not you, it helps you to not take it
so personally.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
You know, well, the goal.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
The goal is to improve what it is that you do, right,
So you're correcting the problem.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Such good advice.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
I have another question to follow up on that one. Yes,
we could like okay, so and this isn't for me lessons.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
You're asking for a friend, aren't you.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
That's a friend, that's it. Her name starts with a J. No,
just kidding. Okay, you address the problem, not the person.
But what if the person won't let go of it
and tries to make it up. Oh, you're attacking me
and blah.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Blah blah blahh natural take it.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
I mean that's a good question. I think you let
the person express. You have to be willing to let
it express, but at some point you have to redirect them. Yeah, exactly.
I mean ultimately, as the leader, you're in charge of
the conversation. So if it deteriorates into something that is
then disrespectful, that's where you change. You know that, the
conversation on the door. But I've never really encountered that
where somebody I've never encountered that where somebody took it
(07:22):
that far. I think once you give somebody a chance
to really express and just get out of their system,
then their head is clear and you can proceed.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Usually you see that. That's his magic. He is management magic.
That's how you got me. Like, that's how we when
we were starting to date, I was like, well.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I let you express, get it out of your system
or no, you just.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Worked well, we worked together first.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
We did all right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
A lot of people have a lot of weird sleep habits.
If you have these, you're not alone. We're going to
share some. Do you have any weird ones? Sam, I'll
tell you Murphy's weird when I know if it's weird.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
But I hug a pillow.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
Okay, No, I think that's sweet.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I'm not.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
I'm sorry, I'm not laughing you.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
And it doesn't go back to last week with being alone.
It doesn't go back to one nice Hey, look, your
pillow loves you unconditionally. Yeah, I love doesn't talk back.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I just chuckled because I love that. You admit that.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
I think it's more of a comfort thing.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Sure, yeah, prop in your arm up versus it just
come over in there. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Murphy's weird sleep habit is he cannot sleep with just
one pillow.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
He would not. He just has to have a whole
like castle of.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Pillow, a pillow army. Yeah. I love that.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Yeah, I mean about yours, Cody.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
I don't know if I have any weird sleeping habits.
I sleep with one pillow. Yeah, I do have to
sleep with the rain sounds.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
I like that. I don't think that's I would say.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
That that's our you know, it is definitely our habit.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Now when I wake up, I'm in some very strange
position positions mine, you know, wrist turned down.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
A lot of people do that. Most people do that.
There's a natural I've read about that before.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
The natural.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yeah, but it's so normal because this is where you
get completely vulnerable, and you restore and repair yourself. You
know how big of a fan I am of sleep.
It never gets the respect it deserves. So at Jennifer
admitting of sleeping in socks even in summer.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Oh, I'm surprised Jodie didn't call out my you know,
my strangest habit.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Why are you sleeping?
Speaker 1 (09:23):
What the blanket that I used? You think is too
hot for the summer?
Speaker 5 (09:27):
I forgot?
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Yeah, because honestly, the big pillow mote thing is more.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
She gave me that ugs it's an Uggs blanket, right,
Ush'm sorry? Yeah, only one, not too.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
It's the heaviest, warmest blanket in the world, and he
sleeps with it even in the summer.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Liness it's the magic sleeping blanket. That's wow.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Yeah, pillow hugger, you guys are so precious.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
Mike says, I can't fall asleep unless I'm absolutely freezing cold.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
H Kayla. I sleep with my head completely under the covers.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
Oh wow.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
I've known some people who do that, and that can
be like a cocoon kind of a comfortable thing.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I think whatever works for you, as long as it doesn't,
you know, cause a problem for your part.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
If you have a sleeping partner.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Well, you know, I mean I was sleeping habits. I
would love to know what you know sleeping rituals. People
have too same kind of thing, because what you're talking about,
you know, rain sounds fat fan on cold room. You
and I have some prerequisites, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yeah, it's about making it happen, sleeping blanket. Do you
want to hear the story about one of the ways
I handle it? When I've had a bad day at
work with Murphy, a mad day, I call it.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
I got my popcorn, I'm ready for it.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
We haven't had any mad days lately, though one not.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Too too too long ago, earlier in the summer, and
I was frustrated and carrying it, and I was still
mad at you and hadn't talked to you since we
had worked on something together. And this is this is
an example of you know, he's Murphy at work and
he's my husband at home.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I trot it these two people to me.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
I try to roll that way, but you know, things
get jumbled up, boundary lines get crossed, and I'm human.
So I finally came home that afternoon and I was thinking, Okay,
we're just gonna talk about it right away, because that
is something we do in our relationship. When there's something wrong,
we don't let it bester. We talk. So I'm like,
hit the door. He's already sitting on the sofa. He's
(11:23):
blaring music, and ironically it's something I had asked him.
I'm like, you've got to listen to the Keith Urban
Flow State yacht Rock album because it's so good. So
he is blaring in yeah, and I'm so mad, seething,
and I'm looking at him and I'm like, you again,
(11:45):
here he is, and he looks over at me with
this smile and he goes, hey, you're right, this is good.
And I'm just like, I'm daggers at this point because
I'm still carrying.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
You know, what, we had really butted heads on.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
What we do here is very collaborative and creative, and
Mercy Murphy is a very in charge person. And I
have a lot of ideas and so do you, Sam,
and so sometimes we do butt heads.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Passionate people butt heads, and so.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
That's that's one of the things that happens. And that's
the example. That's what I mean when they say men
are like waffles and women are like spaghetti. You're you
have you can compartmentalize things into little boxes. So that
thing was something completely different to you, a different universe.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
But me, I'm spaghetti. I was still jumbled all up
in it.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
I walked in the door like mad about whatever you
had said to me at work, and I don't even
remember what it is now.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
That's wild, you know. I didn't think of it in
those terms. It was Keith Urban and waffles. I don't
know if.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Keith Urban did. And then Murphy's way of being, hey,
it's a whole new day. It did work.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
My mom is still recovering from her major surgery from
the beginning of the song, and I wanted to surprise
her the other day with something new to look at
to occupy her mind. So I thought, you know what,
I'm going to roll into the library and get her
some big coffee table books to just look at.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
That makes sense.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
I'm not going to suggest she reads something that you know,
that's my idea, but coffee table books, and I roll
she have a coffee table, yes, regardless, you know what
I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
And you know, my concern is not whether she is
the coffee table or not, though she's not really supposed
to be picking up heavy things, and aren't those books heavy?
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Okay, thank you for bringing that in one at a time.
She can handle a book, yeah, you go.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
So I've never fifty pounds of books, to be honest, though,
I've never.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
When I arrived, I had to ask, do you guys
have a big section of coffee table books? Because I
know that you they should they have everything, and she
was like, of course we do. She had to take
me to the section and there's so many, oh my gosh,
not that that's a surprise, but overwhelming amount of subjects,
Like there are coffee table books about butterflies and bridges
(14:07):
and Harley Davidson's and I found them on shoes.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
I got stuck.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Actually there, back to Sam's question, I'm assuming the library
keeps those on shelves, not coffee tables, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
It would be hafty, hefty shelves. So once I had
like three or four, I realized, Man, this.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Is a serious haul.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
What times did you get?
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I got her one about home decorating like this just these.
Speaker 4 (14:32):
Just a hint, right, No.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
I looked for one on cats by she has a
coffee table.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
She doesn't need books about cats. She's got the real
thing I know.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Okay, so they didn't have cats anyway, I got. I
got her one on home decorating fashion that was one
on fashion in the other hand, and the no something
that she would like to look at. And I can't
remember the third one.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I'll have to go.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Back anyway, Okay, Murph, I'm trying to do something nice here. Anyway,
when I was checking out, it was so heavy, I'm like, ah,
put it up on the counter and I said, by
the way, is there a limit to how many, you know,
books you can check out at one time? And she
said yes, the library's policy is no more than fifty
books at a time.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Of like, I'm all set with three Wow morning, pick
me up time. Let's get picked up.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
Oh, this one's going to be fun. Today. I want
to introduce you to Samuel Henderson. He is a child
in Choctaw, Oklahoma, and you may have seen his videos
on social media. He's had a new round of him
going viral recently. And you may know him as bird
call Boy.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
He does bird calls, and he does bird calls with
his voice. He doesn't use any tricks or anything like that.
He can do one hundred and fourteen different bird calls. What, Yes,
it's amazing. You're gonna love this, Jody. He's gonna do
a one hundred and forty No, no, no, no, I only
got for these. He started when he was four years
old at the local zoo. He was at the zoo
and he saw a bird on the garbage can making
(16:04):
a noise, and he did it, and his mom was like, wow,
that was just.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Like, he just has a natural knack for this.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
Yes, he was even in a school talent show a
couple of years ago. So here we go, here's some
of his bird calls. I'll let him take it away.
Speaker 5 (16:15):
First, we get the barnow.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
That's correct, correct, Well, and we go on. We had
a neighbor that could do that same thing.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Yeah, but he wasn't a kid.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
Yeah, no, I know, that's perfect. How about a couple
of crows here.
Speaker 5 (16:31):
And you know there's two different species of crows in
the United States, the fish crow and the American crew.
The fish girls were not going to do first, Ah,
then the American crow.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
Whoa, here we go, here's a purple Martin.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
Oh that's beautiful.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
Now. Samuel lives with autism and terre He recently put
out a second video on TikTok. The NFL even picked
him up recently and they did a post with his
bird calls for the teams that have bird mascots, you know,
like the falcons and the ravens. He did the cardinals.
(17:20):
Oh my gosh, can't leave out the seahawks.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Is a red hawk?
Speaker 4 (17:26):
That one gets me?
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (17:29):
I know.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
I wonder if he just naturally is this way? Does
he say he has to practice?
Speaker 4 (17:34):
Maybe he was a bird in a former life and
when he goes outside he talks to everybody.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I love that him. I hope he still it still
works when his voice changes.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Jeef Jeep, Samuel Henderson, thank you for that. I have
a personal little message something I just want to say.
Speaker 4 (17:56):
So.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
I know we are all over social media, Murphy Salmon,
and so it happens to me very often lately in
the last several years, but lately this summer especially, I'll
be walking through a store and someone will go, hey, Jody,
I know you. We listened and it's been wonderful, like
it happened two days ago.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
Well, it's cool because it's like you get the in
person connection of somebody that and.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
It's always like a sudden, oh I know you, Hi,
Like I mean, in TJ Max, in the grocery store,
in any place it happened. So I want to say
hi to Janine. I loved meeting you the other day.
I was trying on sunglasses and she's like Jody, So
we ended up talking, and then we saw each other
again at the clearance section and she helped me pick
out a little I bought a new jean jacket, which
(18:42):
you know I need Murphy anyway, And it happened the
other day with Amelia in the grocery store. But what happened,
what is happening is it's two points of contact at first,
like hey, I know you.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Oh hi, and I'm like, hey, what's your name?
Speaker 2 (18:54):
And we speak and then we go our separate ways
and we shop and then at the end, like I
saw Amelia again at check out and she came up
to me and said, I'm sorry if I startled you
or did it that way.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
And Janine did the same thing the other day in
TJ Max.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Like after when we saw each other at Clarence, she
was like, I'm sorry I did it that way. Please
don't apologize for saying hello. That's what I wanted to say,
if you see me, I don't care if I'm at
the gas station and if I look like I'm having
a horrible day. If you recognize, please come say hello.
I love it, and there's no need to apologize for
the way you said hello.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
You ever got you guys? Ever have that happen?
Speaker 1 (19:30):
No, I'm not as famous as you. Just get it.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
Since I walk around with stand off his face, I
guess I don't get it.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
No, it's I understand what you're I understand what.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
I guess that Janine and Amelia you know what that
is recently?
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Well, the I if you know somebody but they don't
know you, sure, then I understand that. That's I think
that's the polite way that anybody would want to handle it.
I know that you don't want somebody to apologize necessarily,
but I think that that's just human nature.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
It's just happened several times lately that it's like this
point of contact and then they come back and say,
I'm sorry if I did it weird. I'm like, there's
no weird. In fact, if you see me, please come
say hello. But I told Janine in TJ Max was
that we if I want you to come say hello.
That's the point for you to know us. So you
do know me, and I'll see you next week.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
In Janine. Sammy said something the other day.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
We have all these videos online and on reels on
social media and you can follow Murphy, Sam and Jody
and see them all. And we were talking about you
were saying you're very comfortable being single now, and you
were saying that if the unicorn comes along, and I
just want you to know we have so many comments
about you saying that word unicorn, the unicorn with regards
(20:46):
to I'm.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
Happy sing someone's going to take a unicorn to.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
I just want to read some of these two you
metaphorically speaking.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Julie says, I have not dated since my divorce and
kind of like Sam, if the unicorn comes on, great,
If not, I'm good, Teresa. I love being single, and
like you, it would be nice to have a unicorn
to change my mind, or we take a unicorn to
change my mind.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
Wow, it was a funny, you know, because everybody knows
what you mean.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Yeah, Once you're comfortable in the single space, it takes
some convincing for you to get back into the relationship.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
Is that you mean the person who checks every box.
Speaker 4 (21:23):
Is what you're saying. It checks the boxes. I don't
even know where boxes.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
You didn't know you needed that special yeah, unicorn horn
until you found it.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
Karen says, so a unicorn stands a chance.
Speaker 4 (21:36):
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Some others Valerie, I like being single, but man, would
be fun to find a unicorn. This one keeps coming up.
Cadet Ah, Yes, the unicorn. I agree, so many unicorn comments.
I do want to just interject, as someone who is married,
I know this is a single conversation.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
There is some there.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
There can be someone who checks most of your boxes,
even all of your boxes, but and and can be
your unicorn. But it doesn't mean they're perfect.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Do I check all your boxes? Joe?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I mean yes, yes, Oh let's.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
A unicorn.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
No, Murphy is my unicorn. Just what I'm saying is
we're not perfect.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
No, we're not.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
Don't get in, don't not date because someone doesn't seem perfect.
Is all I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (22:26):
Some boxes are more important to check than the others. Right,
I'm not dating because I know myself now and and
you only date unicorns apparently, right.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
All I'm saying is want the unicorn. But don't expect
a perfect magical creature. Oh, expect a human being, maybe
a leprechaun. I think Murphy is tiptoeing around me a
little bit about something that he bought. And it's so
funny because I got a text from him before he arrived.
(22:59):
I get here first, and then he comes, I'm sorry
you get here first. I arrived next, and then Murphy
and I got a text on the way. I will
put the desk and other things away when I get home,
And I know why you're sending that. So Murph a
little portable rolling collapsible put away a bull laptop desk
(23:21):
so that he can work anywhere he wants to do
it when he's in the house.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
Right. It's a cute little idea.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Yeah, it is good, and I like it. If I
want to be in front of the window, there you go,
if you know, and I know that I've got my
own little office workspace. But sometimes being in that same
place can really drive you crazy, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Change, a change of scenery is really good for your
mind when working. So when he didn't talk to me
about this at all, it just arrived. Murphy's famous for that.
I bought something big. Here it is, and I guess
it was like five minutes after you bought it. I
was like, it's like, like, as long as it doesn't
just stay out, I don't want it to just stay
out in the living room or the dining room.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Jody doesn't like things to stay out. Actually, there's only
one thing that's exempted from the it can't stay out rule,
and it's her shoes.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Yeah, but you don't really see those, right, I guess
you do.
Speaker 4 (24:14):
You can put the shoes on the rolling table.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
Maybe I could anyway. Well, so I don't like a
lot of clutter.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
I understand that I don't either. Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
You always say you like the way I've decorated.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Our absolutely do.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
Well, let's leave.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
It clean looking so that we can enjoy the way
it's laid out. So anyway, the first day was there,
he was sitting there working on it, and he's like, what
do you think of it?
Speaker 3 (24:34):
Do you like it? I'm like I don't. I said,
as long as it doesn't stay out. He's like, I
didn't say it was going to stay. It wasn't going
to stay to be put away. I just want to
know if you.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Liked it, so it's like, Okay, this is going to
be a thing. So that's why I got the text.
I'm going to put it away when I get home,
I prom.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Okay, because it's sitting out right now on all of
the g radiant glory.
Speaker 4 (24:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
I didn't have time this morning. I had to get
out of there pre emptied there. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Look, I don't want you to be nervous about it,
but here's what's up. If you do, forget to leave
it out and I get to where it's bothering me
to see it in the middle of the beautiful living room,
I'm going to fold it up and put it up.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
Is that aok?
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Yeah, that's I mean absolutely, it's easy enough to do.
I need to show you how to do it. Just
pull a lever and boom it folks completely flat. So
you can just stick it, you know.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
I can stick it somewhere closet and I sure will.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
Hey, social media connect.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
From Instagram, Facebook, some messages rolling in about the idea
of an empty weekend. The weekend is coming. Could you
schedule your empty weekend this weekend where you don't schedule
any social things or things you have to do, make
no appointments, and just do what feels good to you.
Speaker 3 (25:44):
In the moment. It doesn't just relax, It doesn't mean
you know. It doesn't mean you have to lie around.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
What if it feels good to you in the moment
to cut the grass, or you know, go see your mom.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
But just size unstructured.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
It means unstructured, so it feels like free time. You
feel it how you want. Shelley says this. I have
such a hard time taking me time because I'm always
doing something around the house for others. When I do
get a free weekend, I just don't know what to do.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
I feel you. I think if you're naturally.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Always sort of serving those around you, you don't know
what to do with yourself.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
But give yourself the time. Anyway it will come to you.
Speaker 4 (26:22):
You will.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
It could be watching TV, it could be napping, It
could be cleaning out your closet.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Do what feels good in the moment, is the point, Shelley.
Speaker 4 (26:30):
I'm wondering if Shelley means because I have this and
I've felt this before too. Because I have this rare
free day and fifty things that I want to do,
I can't pick one. I just don't know what you
was because I don't. I don't want to waste it.
I don't want to blow my chance.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Uh, it's not wasted though, You're never going to get
to fifty things anyway. Yeah, So what do you feel
like doing in the moment which you can't even predict
ahead of time several days? Wait until Saturday to see
what you feel like doing on Saturday being the present.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Don't worry about it yet.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
Because the present's a gift. Here's one from Lisa from
Murphysalmonjody dot com and email Hi Murphy Salmon Jody. Hi,
I heard Jody talking about the Calamity Club book. Yes,
I just had to jump in and say that I
read it about a month ago and it was fabulous.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
It's a wonderful read, such.
Speaker 4 (27:16):
A great story and a good read.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Yeah. It's the new book from Catherine Stockett who wrote
The Help, and it is so good. I am enjoying
every single word. About halfway through now, thank you, Lisa.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Jody says, Hi, Jody, I just heard you say grief
is part of everyone's story. Amen to that. The beautiful
book theo of Golden teaches that reality, that reality and
inspires us to treat one another with that in mind
showing love and kindness. Highly recommend THEO Love Golden Yeah don't,
I don't. She doesn't say who's written it, so I don't.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
We can find it. We can find it. We love
book recommendations. Anytime. We were talking about grief the other
day in a podcast, Thank you jump in anytime when
I was telling you about Murphy's new role roller collapsible
laptop desk, portable laptops long name man that he puts
in the living room wherever he wants to work, which
(28:09):
is wonderful because Murphy's always working. He does have an
office at our house, but sometimes he wants to be
He even says, I want to be in here with
you and or I want to you know, change of
scenery so awesome. I didn't know you were buying this,
but so you bought it, You put it together. You've
been working all over the place with it.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
You know, it rolls around and you're working.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
Impressive. Huh shower yet but you know.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
My only thing was put it away. Yeah. I don't
want it to sit out. I think that's fair, right.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
I want it to be We have lots of closets,
so when you're not using I want it to be
put away.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
But it's funny when we were talking about.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
It, you brought up the shoes thing, like, yeah, the
only thing that's allowed to stay out, it's your shoes, Jody, Haha.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
It's something.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
It's true when you live with someone, whether you're married
or not, when you're coupled up, it's like I don't
see my stuff and you don't see your stuff, but
I sure as heck see yours. You know, I've had
conversations with your stuff when you're not even there.
Speaker 3 (29:03):
Why is this out?
Speaker 5 (29:04):
You know?
Speaker 3 (29:05):
Right? That is a thing.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
It's a common thing in most Yeah, marriages. I think, Yeah,
it's like, my shoes don't bother me because I chose
to put them there, or it makes sense or not.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Rationalized it in your head that oh they're only there
for a few minutes because I'm not putt them back on.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Sure, but I just feel like that it's all very normal.
We're not being highly unusual here.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
Yeah, I think, yeah, but you know I don't. Aren't
we going to place in our relationship where it just
kind of I will pick up your stuff sometimes, you know,
like the pajamas you slept in because you had to
get out and you know, fast or on the floor,
No big I just pick them up. You know, the
blanket that you'll use in the afternoon sometimes to nap,
doesn't get refolded, you know what, No big deal is growing.
(29:48):
Those are the only things just not I'm sure I
leave more stuff out than you do.
Speaker 3 (29:51):
You actually do.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
Male being one charging cords maybe another. I don't leave
flashlights out.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Anymore, descriptions things like that.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
Do you think if if you were single, you would
just kind of not care anymore?
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (30:04):
No, I would still care very much. Your surroundings give
you your mental state. So if your surroundings are picked
up in an order, I feel more in order. So
that's why I'm always picking stuff up. Nothing safe around
me and a home sorry.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
But that's good. We get we get a visitor, and
we don't expect that the house is already clean.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
It's not like, yes, except for that rolling desk, say
that
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by Audiochuck Media Company.
NFL Daily with Gregg Rosenthal
Gregg Rosenthal and a rotating crew of elite NFL Media co-hosts, including Patrick Claybon, Colleen Wolfe, Steve Wyche, Nick Shook and Jourdan Rodrigue of The Athletic get you caught up daily on all the NFL news and analysis you need to be smarter and funnier than your friends.