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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy, Sam and Jody After the Show podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
If you have kids, this is for you, because when
their birthdays roll around, it's a beautiful thing to do.
A tradition that we've not always been good at, Murphy,
but I whatever hit or miss. So our our daughter
Taylor's birthday is today. Happy birthday, baby, if you're listening.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Birthday day. I sent her a text.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
I sent her stuff last night and this morning, and
I'm getting my nails done with her later today.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
You ever schedule a text for right after midnight so
that you're the first No, okay.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I'm not schedule texts. I'm sorry. I'm not cool like
you guys. But no matter what your kid's age is.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And someone had told me this while we were raising
our girls, Murphy and I think we've ended up doing
it kind of naturally when we would hang out with
them on their birthdays and take them to dinner. But
something to make sure that you do every year, at
least near their birthday, when you get together with their
birth whatever on their birthday, tell them the story of
the day they were born. They love to hear it. Yeah,
(01:02):
and I plan to do that with her today. You know,
just talk to her about it. And honestly, it's a
big birthday for her, twenty five, So I just feel like,
you know, it can be a different conversation than it
was years ago when we just told her all the
cutesy stuff.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
You know, we can really talk about things. I was feeling.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
You told her that last year, didn't you.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
I mean, yeah, every year.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Oh can I see what you're saying?
Speaker 3 (01:27):
That's the point.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Sit around kids story?
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Well, that's mom, That's the point is that it's you
tell them the story of the day they were born.
Even if they've heard it, they like to hear it again.
And chances are, as a parent, if you're just being
real in your heart, something else is going to come
out of you that you that brings back a memory.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
You know, has your mom ever talked about the day
that you were born?
Speaker 3 (01:54):
A little bit, A very little bit. They knocked her out,
She has very little memory.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Yeah. They did that kind of stuff back then, didn't they.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
It is very little memory, yeah, of being just knocked
out and she woke up and there I was.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Yeah, my mom, I think same same thing. The only
story that she tells is or that used to that
she used to tell when she was alive. Was that
there was a hating lamp that they had put to
dry out everything or whatever, and it was too close
to the sheets and it caught fire. Wow, in the
hospital room. Yeah, so that's the story. That's the story
(02:27):
of my birthday.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Murphy's danger story. You got the danger warnings early in life.
But I mean, I just feel like it's going to
be special. I don't know, I'm just looking forward. I
don't get to spend as much time with her as
I would like, okay, because she's very busy in her life.
So I just can't wait to do it and talk
to her about all the things that I was feeling.
You know, it was a she was our first child,
so it was a significant thing for her to come
(02:51):
into our lives and split our lives like before children
and after children.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
That text you sent me today, can you believe?
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, you know, all of this part of our lives
started on this day twenty five years ago and she
was born.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Yeah, the life changing thing. And I remember going, you know,
in there early in the morning with you and getting settled,
and of course it's your first time, so you only
know what you've read about or what people have told
you about until you experience it, you feel it, you know,
totally differently.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Labored all day from her, like I did, labored all
day and at the end of the day still had
to have a sea section.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Was I was devastated by that.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
It was fourteen hours, to be precise. Yeah, Taylor, the
one where Murphy came in with a snickers.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yes, I don't know if she knows that story. Probably does. Yeah,
I was not allowed to eat.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Anything, and it's you know, and that's fine, even just
no ice chips. And he doesn't love that story, but
it did happen. He wasn't thinking. And by the afternoon,
like three or four o'clock in the afternoon, I guess
he needed a little snack and he walked in and
he was just eating it right over me, like, and
I was like.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I can't even have water right now. Please tell me
to that, please get out.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Yeah, it was a context thing, but that was a
diabetes thing for me. It was not, you know, it
wasn't Yeah, it just wasn't thinking.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Yeah, it's fine. It's a funny thing to poke fun
at you about. But I will say too, just as
going back to like the birth story, of course, I'm
I was the first time I'd ever done this, and
I was super nervous about how it was all going
to come down, and you know how what would it
be like you just don't know when you're that pregnant.
I was like overdue she you know, I think I
was due in early August, and she didn't come till
(04:29):
the we didn't get scheduled to just all right, we're
going to go over fourteen.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
She was due on like August the seventh, sixth, somewhere
in there, I think. And I remember that weekend before
where you were on the sofa saying, I can't do
this much longer.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Yeah, So are you treating her twenty fifth as anything,
you know, since it is a milestone, anything more special?
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Like I'm saying, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I feel like I'm I feel like our conversation today
about her, her life and you know, the day she
was born and how she changed our lives. Yeah, I
think it'll be more emotional. I'm feeling emotional about it,
but you know, yeah, that's the story labored all day
and thought I would be pushing and thought I would
be having, you know, this experience that I had read
(05:14):
about although not being completely sure, and by the end
of the day, I will never forget it. And I'm
sure I've told Taylor this part of it when they
were little, When our girls were little, I never wanted
to scare them away from having children.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
You know, you don't want to tell scary labor and
delivery stories.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
But it was beautiful actually, because I was so determined to,
you know, have her and push and all this, and
I wasn't dilated or whatever enough and it was getting
dangerous for Taylor and for me. And I remember the
nurse coming in the labor and delivery nurse getting above
me and saying, the goal here is healthy baby, healthy mother.
(05:53):
Because as soon as they said see section and they
said surgery, I started to cry.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
You remember that. I started to cry.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
And she appeared above my head and she says, the
goal here is healthy baby, healthy mother.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
And you remember that because she knew what she.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Was doing to tell me, because I'm already a mother.
When you're pregnant, you become a mother, and I'm already
a mother. I was already very protective of her. So
for her to say that the goal here is a
healthy baby, I was like, Okay, you're right, I'm on board.
Suck it up, you're on board. It's not what you plan,
but you're about to have surgery, major abdominal surgery, and
(06:30):
so and some other special moments that I will never
ever forget.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Can I say this? It's true. We always tell her that.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
When they were taking her out of me in the
delivery room see section before.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
You want to tell Sam this or me.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Oh yeah, you could hear making noise and crame inside
of me, right because she was and she's just as
vocal today, So I think that was like a little
premonition of what was to come.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
It's crazy. My mom was in the room with us,
and my mom will tell that story. You could hear
it was like a muffled sound because she was still
inside of me, but you could hear a baby going ah.
And even one of the one of the nurses or
the doctor commented, this baby's already making no use.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
She's not even out of you yet.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Yeah, that was pretty incredible. Yeah, your mom was in
the o R for Taylor. My mom was in the
o R when Phoebe was born.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Correct, And I do remember after you know, she's they're
working on sewing me back up and all that, and
she's over there and I'm looking at her. I'm looking
at her when they finally bring her to me and
put her in my arms. And of course one of
the first things I noticed about her, except for her face,
her sweet sweet face with those cheeks, was her hands.
Do you remember me going look at her hands and
(07:47):
she you know, baby hands, baby hands, get me. And
her baby hands were the first ones that were my
baby's hands.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
And it was just.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Moments that, you know, you just never forget your whole life.
So I just feel like, yeah, that'll be the conversation today.
I want to tell her about it again and all
the things I was feeling, and she knows about all
the in the days afterward that I was the ultimate
first time neurotic mother. I was so nuts crazy about
nobody breathing over my baby, about nobody taking my baby
(08:20):
out of my arms.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
It was nuts, you know.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Yeah, But everybody does it their own way.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
And I'm mormonal too.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Yeah. And you you know, you were concerned that the
you know, the so the family, you know, you turn
them away from the room, at least for the first night.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Yeah, And I don't remember doing making that conscious decision.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Yeah, but I think it was I think that was
you as self preservation. Also, you were in a state
of overwhelm and trying to get acclimated to I'm really
a mom. I'm tired too, I mean that had been
fourteen hours of laboring is a long time. Yeah, and
you know, yeah, you were exhausted. But I still think
you know, I know that you've apologized. I don't think
(09:00):
you're anybody any of it.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I'm not worried about that anymore. I was, as you know,
I didn't mean to do it. And I was also
still on MEDICAI or whatever. I was still they have
to drug you for the epidural and for the you know,
C section, and then I was on pain medicine. That
don't remember some of it. I do remember being really
exhausted and true to Taylor form Taylor who never napped
(09:22):
very much as a baby, who had send her When
we first sent her to preschool, I got a call
the first week, like, I know you sent the nap Matt.
She's the only kid who won't sleep. I'm like, I know,
she doesn't sleep a lot.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Yeah, So she spent the twos and the threes and
the four is in another room, getting to watch SpongeBob
and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Or just hanging out helping the teachers do stuff, because
she just would she would lay there and just look
around and you know, and it was like they didn't
want to put leave her in there with the other
kids who actually would nap. Yeah, And so I remember
her also not sleeping so much when she was aty Bitty,
and I think that may have begun in the hospital.
And I actually this, I remember this, and I don't
(10:01):
know if I've ever told you this. My mom spent
the night with me in the hospital one of those nights.
And I'm sure you did a one or two as well, Murphy.
But my mom, I was so first time mother. She's
my mother. That's all that matters. It's all I can
see that. I didn't want her leaving the room. I
wanted her with me, and if she had to be
(10:21):
in the little thing next to me, that's fine, but
I wanted her in my sight at all times. But
she wasn't sleeping, and she was being fussy, and we
were having some nursing issues and stuff like that, and
my mom was the one who said, send her down
to the nursery and get some sleep, just for two
hours or three hours. They will take care of her.
The nursery is the best place for her, especially if
(10:42):
you need some sleep. And I thought, Okay, if your
mom tells you that it must be true, it must
be okay. And I think we did. But of course
I was like, as soon as I woke up, where's
she get her back? So happy birthday, Taylor, getting my
nails done.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
With you today? And oh cool, yeah, so excited about that.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
That's right, you're the decoy.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Yeah, she's Phoebe's. Phoebe's got some birthday plans planned. Phoebe
her little sister for Taylor tonight.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Not really the decoy because she knows about the story,
but still.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
She knows there's something.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
There's going to be a decoy right exactly. Just makes
it a special part of the day.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
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