March 21, 2025 • 31 mins
Most common 1st date mistakes.
Best careers for an introvert.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Murphy saman Jody Weekend Replay podcast, picking
out some of our favorite moments from this past week.
And it starts now.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Most common first date mistakes.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
We don't want you to make these. We have five things.
We're going to get to all of them.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
You guys want to take any guesses, I'll learn it
when you guess, right.
Speaker 4 (00:18):
Are these These aren't basic stuff like in be late
or you know.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
No, be late, it's not on there, although late I
bet you.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
These would be the character defining things, probably as much
as anything. For example, you don't want to on the
very first date like just goes so deep into all
the uh past relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
That's on the list.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
It's on the list bringing up past relationships in a
negative way. I wouldn't talk about past relationships too much
either way. If it was all great, then that person's
gonna think I'm a rebound.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Honestly, I wouldn't talk about it unless you're asked. Correct,
if that person opens the door, yeah, give a little
and just don't go overboard.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Correct. You're single, you're on a date.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
It should not be about the past unless they ask,
Like you said, but talking about it in a negative way.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
If definitely on the list because.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
It it brings negativity into something that's supposed to be
a new beginning.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Well, it all started in twenty twelve.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Says more about you when you you're speaking negatively about.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Someone, Yeah, it reflects on you.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
It reflects on you more than anything.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Well, and I would say, you know, you could extend
that to almost anything. Be careful about what you're negative
about in general, because that doesn't feel good. Right. Yeah,
first meeting, you're getting to know somebody. It's supposed to
be a fun date.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
It's supposed to be a get to know anything. Okay,
we'll go back to the start. The biggest one is
over sharing on the first date. Way too many personal details,
going way deep. It can be a turnoff because it's
supposed to be a warming up period and what you
want is to leave them interested, leave them wanting more.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Hence the second date.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
Yeah, you don't want them excusing themselves to go to
the bathroom and not come back.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
That could happen if you start going down the scars.
The scars here.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
I actually believe that people know pretty quickly, like before
the meals arrive, whether this is going well or not.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Long time Yeah, well, thank goodness, glad.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I'm just saying I just to me, they say, And
this is another one of the things. Don't fix on.
Don't fixate on whether there's chemistry or not. But to me,
chemistry is there or it's not there. You can wait
around for it. You can hope that it will develop
over time. But to me, a spark as a spark,
as a spark, you.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Don't really have to, you know, decide that until after
the date's done. Anyway, whether you have the chemistry or not, right,
I guess you're.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
I guess you're maybe you're hoping to see some chemistry.
Feel it all right, So more on the way of
things not to do. Mistakes, common ones on a first
date coming up next, such delicate business. It can be anyway,
first states. So common mistakes made on first dates. We
already talked about oversharing, uh, fixating on whether there's chemistry
(03:07):
or not, like letting that take over your thoughts and
then bringing up the big one, bringing up past relationships
in a negative way. Don't do those, you know, if
you're asked about past relationships, try to if you if
you can't do it in a positive way, say can
we talk about that?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Another time.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
So I understand you've been married three times and divorced.
Uh huh.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I always say that, Sam, because that's your life. You
know how many people have been married three times?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
More love?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Yeah, so that's my attempt at humor.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Good. Do you try to be funny on a first date?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I don't know. I haven't had one in a low
But see, that's funny.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
If you're being yourself, you're funny. I shouldn't have even
asked that. As long as you're being yourself, you're funny,
all right. The other things to not do? Don't just
talk about yourself so much. Oh, you're not asking questions?
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Oh yeah, time. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Some some people go into a date so ready to
tell everything about themselves that they're not listening.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
So ask I did do that. I did learn that
ask the questions. Does that helps bring me out of
my shell? Too? Good? Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Nice? Are you honest about how nervous you are?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
No?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
When you're nervous?
Speaker 3 (04:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Okay, you could be Okay, she might appreciate that.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
I'll have to try it.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
It may look like a vulnerability kind of a It.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Might be appealing at Murphy to help you. He warms
the females right up to tell your last first date
Murphy years ago.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
The other one would be not having fun, being too serious,
talking about serious things too much. It's supposed to be fun.
If they're going to want a second date with you,
it needs to be light. Lighten up the mood.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
And I'm gonna throw these honorable mentions out.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
One of them is to treat the restaurant, coffee shop
wherever you are staff really well.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
It says a lot about you, and hopefully you do
that regardless.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
And the other honorable mention is don't drink too much.
Oh yeah, it never looks like you think it looks
when you drink too much, you don't look as funny
as you It's not as funny as you think.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
And if you're nervous, you might, you know, air to
the side of too much. Maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
And you get it doesn't look as funny as some people.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
It never looks good Good luck, great careers for the
truly introverted. I just want to say, before we go
over these ideas, if you are really introverted, let.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
It be, you know, don't try to change it. The
world will tell you Oh, you need.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
To, you know, get out there and and I do
believe in being social.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
It's good for your soul. But go with who you are.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
You know, the most natural state of you is where
you should, you know, live. If you're naturally extroverted, don't
try to stop that either.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Yeah, well too.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
Also, I want to say this as an introvert, Yes
you can pretty much do. I mean, look, I we
were sitting here entertaining, and I'm an introvert.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yes you are, but you can't do anything.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Yeah, well only when I'm away from here. That's when
the super introverted.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
You're like the only people that you talk to.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
He barely talks to the dog.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Yes, but just I'm just saying, accept yourself the way
you are, instead of spending your life trying to change
based on what the world tells you. It's not a negative.
It's just a fact that you're either introverted or more exert.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Some of the introverts, of of the wisest people I know,
My dad was an introvert. He was still social, but
he was introverted.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
You know why they're paying attention, soaking everything in.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Yeah he's so smart.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Okay, so best jobs for introverts and these are you know,
careers too because of the autonomy lack of social interaction.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Radiologist comes in number one on the list really as far.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
As money you can make and the amount of social interactions. Now,
I have a friend who's a radiologists, and I guess
that's her title. She does the mammograms, it's radiology.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Well the radiologist interprets the Actually, oh.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
My bad, okay, because let's say she she has a
lot of interactions every single day.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
She's a technician problem tech.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Okay, So radiologist top of the list.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
You get to use your skills, you make some decent money,
and you get to be with yourself all day long.
Scientists comes in ecological especially, I don't know why that one.
Computer scientists also on the list. You can get in
your head and stay in your head and you still
output some great work.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Software engineers makes sense.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Yeah, and and need that's a career that's continually.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Correct. Isn't your son your oldest like in software.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Is not an introvert?
Speaker 3 (07:49):
I know, but it's still see proving again what you said.
You can do anything. It's just these ideas. You know,
if you are more inward and you don't want to
be as to make a living. And if you're introverted
and you find that it helps you in your work,
we'd love to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah, eight seven seven three one zero four MSJ or
you can hit us up on our socials.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
I was having a conversation with producer Faith about peanut
butter and jelly sandwiches.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Oh that's so good.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Sounds like a good conversation, but it took a turn
like I never expected that there are different ways to
make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Okay, according to
producer Faith, this is her way of doing I make it.
How do y'all make it? Is it? Peanut butter on
one side, jelly on the other, Flap them together and
eat them.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
It's so fantastic. There's nothing like that.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Yeah, well, producer Faith has this thing where she mixes
the peanut butter and jelly together. You get in bold
heard of this, puts it on. Oh you've heard of this.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
I've heard very few people. I think Phoebe had a
friend a long time ago who did that. Yeah, and
I didn't. I don't want that taste. I want a
separate peanut butter layer and a separate jelly layer. To me,
that's the magic of those two, you know, meeting.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
I think the reason she does it, though, is to
keep the stuff on the bread, because I like the
jelly would slide off or something.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
I've had that happen the other times before. Yeah, exactly.
You think it's the perfect sandwich. You take one bite
and the jelly goes out the back.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
So wait, and maybe you're putting a little bit too much.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah maybe maybe. My mother used to take that, but
it was marshmallow cream, but she would mix those two
together then mallow.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Oh, I bet that's fantastic.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
It's like it's good, almost.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Like peanut butter fudge probably.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I mean it's a happy childhood memory.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
So, yeah, you used to have that sandwich. Whoa, it's
the first time I'm ever hearing this, Murphy.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Well, yeah, I mean I don't eat it much anymore,
what with the diabetes and a type one. You know,
you mean a marshmallow fluff, marshmallow cream, the marshmallow cream
in the jar, Yeah exactly. Yeah, try to get that
off your knife is not easy.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Marshmallow cream in a jar is not something I was
familiar with.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah, I don't think we bought.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
We would do that. We would do peanut butter and honey.
That was about as far out as my parents would
get with that. But my mother would have apple jelly
most of the time, grape and strawberry alternately.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
You know, I didn't understand that my parents always had
apple jelly.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
It was more of a thing I grew up.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
My grandparents always had apple jelly, and it's harder to find,
but it does bring back memories. It makes you feel like, oh,
this is special when it used to be the norm.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
Strawberry is so much better.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I will say this, I don't think there's any wrong
way to eat your own peanut butter and jelly sandwich,
except you got to do it with a glass of milk.
When you're a mom, you know, and probably a dad too.
But when you're a mom, for sure, you know within
less than one second when something's wrong with your child
(10:51):
when they call you with their voice.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Well, sometimes you're just afraid that that's the case and
you're wrong.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Which is correct? Moment, she says what happened the other
day to me? I'm on my way back from the
grocery store. Phoebe starts to ringing my phone. I answer.
I'm in the car and she goes mom and I
brace myself.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
What's wrong?
Speaker 5 (11:11):
Baby?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
She said, just like you told me to do.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
I just finished watching the Lacey Peterson documentary.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
This morning, pregnant, I've had missing persons.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Phoebe does like true crime, and she knows that I dabble,
and so she asked me, what you know, what's something?
What's an older case that I watched and would like that?
Is there a new She watched the John in a
Ramsay one too, so she's the nineties cases that are
have been re examined. She's very she can talk to
you all day about the Meninda's brothers too. So I said, well,
(11:46):
maybe you ought to give Lacy Peterson a try, and
she watched it and called me so relief swept over
me that something wasn't wrong with hers.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
She just needed to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
And as I'm listening to her say all these things
that I've felt before about it too, I.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Understand that once you do.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Sort of let that in and you watch one, you
kind of do need somebody to talk to about it.
You need a partner in true crime, you kind of do.
But I also realized, I know that seems kind of
eerie to some people. But I know she's gonna watch
that anyway. She did that years before Murphy, before she
(12:27):
was even old enough. I walked into the room and
caught her watching some sort of Ted Bundy thing or something.
I can't It was very upsetting to me. I was like, Phoebe,
what are you doing.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
She's like, she's all good with the story.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
She's gonna do it anyway, so I'm going to She's
also not living at home right now, So anything I
can connect with her on and keep her close with
and keep the door open, I'm gonna do it, even
if it's murder.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
Did you tell her, like, look, next time when I
answer the phone, be up.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
It.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
No. I do not want her second guessing. I want
her to be herself with me at all times.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Do you keep any secrets from me or spouse or partner?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I can't say, considering I'm sitting right here.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
Why do you ask?
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Because helf to get serious. Oh, it could be it's
probably I'm gonna try to keep it funny. Oh something
my mom discovered that my dad, who's now been dead
for sixteen years, was hiding from her. Oh really, which,
by the way, yesterday was the sixteenth anniversary, in case
anybody was celebrating of his passing.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Yeah, nobody was celebrating a passing.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
No, yeah, let's let me play the game. How old
would he have been night at seventy five?
Speaker 4 (13:43):
Sixteen? One?
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Okay, yeah, she's eighty five. He was six years old.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
Okay, So what did she discover? Not nothing devastating, right, No?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
No, No, she discovered he was stashing cookbooks in his closet.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Okay, I know what?
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Wait?
Speaker 4 (14:01):
What?
Speaker 2 (14:03):
How he was hiding them because he had too many?
Speaker 4 (14:05):
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. He was buying them without
telling her, or he had too many, because you remember,
when he passed away, My mom offered to give me
all these cookbooks, and.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
It was an avalanche was.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
Full of cookbooks. I took a couple.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
I need some help understanding this. He's been gone sixteen years.
He was quote unquote hiding them.
Speaker 4 (14:26):
Why?
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Now, what is.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
She's been cleaning? Spring cleaning?
Speaker 1 (14:28):
I mean, apparently she cut open a piece of sheet rock.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
I'm assuming she must not have gone into his closet.
It might be like a museum. Okay, And she said, yeah,
there was a stack of cookbooks in the closet, and
she said she's figured out it's ones he never read.
He used to put them there, apparently to get too later,
to get too later, and obviously he never got to those.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
We're going to be talking about this later. You know,
everybody has guilty book, no no guilty pleasures. That was
a guilty pleasure of his, and he probably he probably
got he probably heard very often, why you need that,
You don't need another one? You got a budge? What
I used to exactly so so, and.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
She has, you know, and I guess I shouldn't second
guess that. My grandmother, when my grandfather passed away, it
was years before she went in his closet when I
was able, and then eventually she you know, cleaned up
the you know, clothes and stuff.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
A couple of years after he passed, I went and
I opened one of his drawers and all his socks
and underwear were still there. And it's been a couple
of years, well in her time.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Well you'll enjoy seeing these books now, and right you
can hear. And here's another thing too. At least now
you stop sweating. When she said that she found a
stack of cookbook.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
That's how she started.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
It's the number one thing, by the way that couples
do keep from each other.
Speaker 4 (15:47):
Books.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
No, no, like the guilty pleasure thing that you buy too
much of, you want it, you buy it, it's stashed away,
hopefully away from her spouse.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
They say that's the number one thing.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Depending on the cruise ship that you're on, there are
certain items you can't bring on cruise ships anymore. Certain
items are banned on cruises. And we're gonna go over
it with you.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You are these surprising items are the no duh both Okay.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
You're not supposed to bring alcohol on a cruise ship, correct,
even though you can disguise it in the twelve pack
and all that stuff. Do you why would you do that?
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Why would you That's what I've read, And why would
you bring your own alcohol on a cruise ship? Anyway?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
That's right, Well you could answer that question.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Actually, I mean, I know, I know that it's expensive,
but it's like you're going on a cruise, where are
you gonna Are you gonna fit that much?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Sure?
Speaker 2 (16:35):
People have tried to try to sneak booze in everywhere.
Speaker 4 (16:38):
Yeah, I mean there are people that because it's expensive,
old shampoo bottles that have been cleaned out. Fill it
with alcohol and it's like, oh my shampoo.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You might have a problem.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah, the problem is not what to bring, but what's
wrong with what's wrong with that brought it that you
went to that link? Yeah, okay, Yeah, it depends on
what the rule of thumb is. Contact the cruise line
and ask them if you're if you really want to
bring your drone. Some cruises are saying no more drones.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Yeah, well most of that's online, by the way too.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
When I don't mean call can ill is this carnival?
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Can I bring my drone?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Door decorations?
Speaker 5 (17:17):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (17:17):
I thought those were okay, Oh, I'm sorry that's upsetting you, Sam. No,
just some cruise lines are saying they're banning this stuff.
It's laws in certain countries where you're going to port
or whatever, but also safety whatever. If they have some
bumpy water and everybody get door decorations that go sliding
down the hall, not good, Okay, Bluetooth speakers. Some cruise
(17:39):
ships are banning that you bring in all. I know,
if you would have a problem with that, we'd be rebooking.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Well, it's probably because you have some people that are
you know, playing them too loud, and it's you're out
on the lido deck and there's already music playing overhead.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
The little beach thing. Yea, you know they can. They
resver the right. The cruise line reserves the right.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I can understand that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Ham radios, transmitting devices, walkie talkies, baby monitors, and even
starlink devices. Some cruise ships are banning those.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Just know that, well, they probably don't want you to
bring to starlink because they want you to pay for
the onboard correct.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
They reserve their right search protected power strips.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
They don't want you plugging those in and in your
cabins and things like that.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
I mean that could be an electrical hazard, if you know,
I can I mean yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Yeah, absolutely, candles, firehousards. I think that's a dah liesol.
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
Maybe it's the it's the aerosol can that's a problem.
But a lot of people want to bring lifesyle because
cabins with family you.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
Just have to live with the stink.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Martial arts and self defense items and tools also being
banned by many crews. Operators proof that it's our favorite
thing in the world to hear from you. I'm giddy
right now to share these with you from rolling in
from Instagram, Facebook and YouTube.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
So Wesley sent this to Facebook Messenger.
Speaker 4 (18:56):
Hi.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
My name is Wesley. I work for the Birmingham Police Department.
I am a crime analyst and I've been listening to
your show for the last month or so and I
really enjoy the banter between you three and you're good attitudes.
You're far better than most talk shows. I want to
also make some suggestions for crime docs, oh, documentaries, because
(19:16):
in our office and me and the other two crime analysts,
we have a small TV and we have them playing
on in the background all day.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
They're trying to.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You know what I saw on the Okay, so he says,
most recently, we watched the Murdaw Murders, a Southern scandal.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Sam, you've done that one, been there, done that?
Speaker 4 (19:37):
Couple of those on Netflix and.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Max and American Nightmare.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
What ex that merit up?
Speaker 3 (19:45):
Last night?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Yeah? Oh, Wesley, I watched that one and could not
believe it.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
That's true crime.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
Yeah, it's true story too.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
I mean it sounds like a computer talking to nine
to one one.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I know it was not a computer, it was a
real person. He was groggy.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
I remember this and really well Wesley, those are both good,
he says, both are really well done. Again, thanks for
putting a very putting on a very enjoyable show.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
We keep up the good work. That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
We appreciate that, Wesley.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
He sent us his uh whatever card. He's a statistical
crime analyst. Oh so impressed.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
I bet you he knows what's going to happen in
these shows.
Speaker 4 (20:20):
Before and happy.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
You know you love your job when you're watching shows
while doing your job in the same subject, in the
same you know field.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Okay, Lee sent us this also. I watched.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Oh she's bringing this up because I was saying in
the Hollywood outside of the other day that the Pride
and Prejudice movie from what two thousand and three is
going to be It's the good one, Murphy, It's the
one with care Knightley that I love so much.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Okay, it's going to be in theaters in April.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Again.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
Choice them so good, she said.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
I watched it again yesterday and noticed that that the
sister of mister Bingley is Beth Dutton. I even look
it up online double check. It's a go to show
for me when I meet need some me time.
Speaker 4 (21:04):
She is tough in that that she is from Yellowstone.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
You know, she's very different character in Pride and Prejudice.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Thank you, Lee, Join us anytime eight seven seven three
one zero four m s J.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
What's going on, VICKI?
Speaker 5 (21:19):
I was just gonna add to your last conversation about
the nail swan.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
Ah.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yes, favorite place.
Speaker 5 (21:26):
Oh, yes, that that is my my weekly release.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Oh.
Speaker 5 (21:32):
When I go and I note that you use Let's
Be Friends by that's what that's my go to. Okay,
So the only other time I used something else is
your Holidays. Oh yeah, about two months ago I changed Salon.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Yeah, and they did.
Speaker 5 (21:51):
They didn't have Let's Be Friends.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
Oh.
Speaker 5 (21:54):
I had to improvise and use something else that I
wasn't happy with, So I ordered it on one. Now
when I go in, I take my little bottom with me.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Wow, you're serious about Let's Be Friends. It's a great color.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Yeah it is.
Speaker 5 (22:11):
It's neutral and it goes with everything. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:14):
And when I when I.
Speaker 5 (22:16):
First walked in, she said, well color you choosing today?
I said, well, it's just so happened and brought it
with me and you look what. Yeah, she apparently had
never had anybody bring.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
That with no kidding it seems like they should order
it for you. I mean they have a couple hundred colors.
They have a couple hundred at least, And that's the
that's the hang up. Sometimes if you want to do
something different, you get hung up because.
Speaker 4 (22:44):
I can't pick it.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
Seems like it should be a simple decision. But you're
going to be living with it. You're going to be
wearing it with everything.
Speaker 5 (22:51):
Yeah, it's it's a place where I feel relaxed and
I feel papered, and I feeling beautiful exactly.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
You can't stop looking at your nails when you leave
for the whole first, you know day, even.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
If you bring your own polish.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Thank you, Vicky.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
We were talking about how to me for a woman,
even if you can only do it every once in
a while because it is expensive.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
I mean, it's a luxury to be able to do
it and go.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
It always is a pick me up. I always make
a friend. You know, you just feel so good while
you're there and when you leave. Jennifer said on our
Facebook page, happened to me today. I met a lady
and we swapped phone numbers, so we'll see, meaning if
we become friends.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
How cool? So jump in and join us anytime. It's
almost summer. So let's talk about two things that don't mix.
Alcohol and the sun.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
That's true. It doesn't mix with a lot of other
stuff either, But yeah, but the sun's one of them.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
It's true.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
Look, I guess the obvious reason is why do you
think what's the number one reason why it doesn't mix?
Speaker 1 (23:57):
Dehydration?
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Oh good are you, Murphy?
Speaker 3 (24:01):
That was going to be the big takeaway, the big
oh watch out, But it's dehydration, Sam.
Speaker 4 (24:05):
You were going to say dehydration.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
No, you weren't. You were going to say I was.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
I didn't even think about it. Why is it bad?
Because you get drunk on the beach, you fall asleep,
and your sunburn.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
That's the number one reason. That's the number one That's
what I've heard, Not just.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Drunk on the beach, but any if anytime you drinking,
you become more laxidais reapplied, you don't leave the hat on.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
And as someone who stays out of the sun as
much as possible, I made a horrible mistake last summer.
Murphy was there to witness it.
Speaker 4 (24:42):
You got drunk on the beach.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
No, that was years ago, fell asleep and burned.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
No. Last summer, we were vacationing and there was no
shade to be found anywhere, and I was in hats
and I was wearing sunscreen and I was real plying.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But I was also sipping mohidos all day, wasn't it mohidos?
Speaker 1 (25:03):
I was drinking, I think so. Yeah, I don't remember which.
I was not drinking alcohol, and you know, and you
were burning up too. I actually had not fine shape.
I wound up feeling not good because I was dehydrated.
Same thing. Yeah, I wasn't drinking and I felt bad.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
It really hit you, It really hit me.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
I got really sick and it took me five to
seven days to feel like myself. We were home, all
should have been well, you know, it was way over
we were unpacking and I still had to keep going
take and taking naps.
Speaker 4 (25:36):
Well.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
And for clarification here, it's not like you were overdoing
the alcohol either. I wasn't right. It was just the
you know, sipping on that throughout the day and not drinking.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
It was very ho hopping on it in the sun
when I normally am not at all.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
So it is something to remember.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
It's not just getting drunk on the beach and burning,
which is horrible for your skin, horrible for everything. But
it's also correct murphy dehydration, which feels horrible.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Ye, so you know, fun and sun have a blast,
but lots of sunscreen, trying.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
To get drunk on the beach, lots of water and
reapply your sun's green. I've been sharing about your guilty
pleasures and something else that we shared this week that
I think have these these two have intersected, and I
love it is going to the nail salon and how
much it's like a little therapy session for me, Like
it's you know, I just make connections there. You know,
(26:27):
it brings women together. I end up making friends there.
I can't help but comment on the woman's nails next
to me, and I usually get the story like I'm
going to a wedding this weekend or whatever.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
Or the guys version of that. B SAM. I mean,
you know, it's we don't drink anymore, so it's not
like we'd be hanging at a bar to have that
same conversation.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
So barbershop of old whatever, Well.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
I don't go to a barbershop and I go to
a salon, I know, and I enjoyed that it's therapeutic.
Jennifer's great, Yeah it's not.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
It's not like it brings you.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
No, it's not necessarily.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
And even at the hair salon, I'm not talking to
the people and the person and the share next to me.
I'm only really gabbing with my stylists. But at the
nail salon, it's just like that. It is like a
guilty pleasure. A lot of women have said that. Jesse
said it is like my therapy session, and she sent
us a picture of her nails.
Speaker 2 (27:16):
They're purple with little white tips, so cute.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
But it's Penny's comment that caught me and that I
wanted to address here because I shared a picture of
my nails and that it's a you know, the color
and all that. Penny said, I have never been to
a nail salon. I've actually been thinking about it, so Penny,
I just wanted to say, you'll be overwhelmed at first
if you've never been, because you're going to walk in
(27:39):
and there are five hundred colors to pick from, and
there are fifty shapes because there's there's oval and there's
square around and there's round and there's square, and there's
coffin and what trips.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
I'm really glad I don't have the pressure of that decision.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
No, it's fantastic. The color the shape I'm wearing is almond.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
And so if you don't want to do that, if
you want the first time experience for you, Penny to
be fantastic and relaxing, just ask for the basic classic manicure.
If you've never been to a Nelson, and it means
maybe you've never had a manicure, it's fantastic. They massage
your hands, they do the cuticles.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
He's into it. With a pedicure.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Manicure is even easier. Really, a pedicure, your whole body's affected.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Feel so good.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
But yeah, it does. Manicure or pedicure. Yeah, and so
thank you for sending that. And if you do go,
we want to hear about it. Those stranded astronauts that
returned this week when they splashed down, by the way,
did you see, guys that they splashed down and dolphins
sort of grew around them.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
I missed that. That's really sweet.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Love that part of it.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
So anyway, what's so funny is that this was since
last June. It turned out to be what two hundred
and eighty six days that they were there, and they
were supposed to have only been there for a week
week eight days or.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Something like that.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
And the cool impressive thing to Sam especially is that
they did one hundred and fifty different science experiments and
they logged more than nine hundred hours of research then
just sit around watching Netflix.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
That's the one thing. Yeah, I know they all had
they both had families, and that, you know, put a
kink in family life because you have to leave your
family at home for longer. But when everybody all these
reports and everything I saw yesterday online, it's like they
were stranded stuck on the space station, which technically.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
I guess, yes, yes, it was not the plan as.
Speaker 4 (29:34):
An astronaut, where do you want to be okay in space?
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Well, I heard what an interview with one of them.
They said, look, every plan is that it may be
a week, but they planned for a year and a
half or something. Yeah, in terms of like food and
everything else that they need it.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Like space, or they knew this could happen.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
It was really just a rescheduling. I mean, they weren't
going to take a chance on that Boeing thing coming back. Yeah,
I didn't know if it was going to make it not.
So it's really just the rescheduling. There's room. There was
room on it that they're always sending up things, bringing
food and supplies or you know, or new astronauts to
swap out correct so stranded, yes, but that's what they do,
they work in.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
That's why I bring it up because it's another case
in life where you learn and you understand that everyone
has a different perspective. Every single time since last June
that I mentioned that them on that space station, I
would in like my three things to know, I would say,
they're still up there. Oh my gosh, they're still their
poor moms, she's stranded, you know. And and Sam's like
(30:36):
they're astronauts to.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
The extra set of hands to do spacewalks and experiments
and all that. I mean, if you were Matt Matt
Damon and you were on Mars, you're stranded.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
It's different.
Speaker 3 (30:48):
Yeah, okay, But what's so funny is that your perspective, Sam,
to you, that sounds like heaven.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Oh yeah right, I.
Speaker 4 (30:55):
Mean, okay, I am single, but I mean you give
me eight months in space. Yeah, I'm on a.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Tape it oh see to me, I was like, but
I had plans. I want to be home.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
You know what about Christmas?
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Right anyway, it's just perspective.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
It's another fantastic lesson that everyone has a different perspective.
This is the Murphy saman Jody Weekend Replay podcast, picking
out some of our favorite moments from this past week.
And it starts now.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Most common first date mistakes.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
We don't want you to make these. We have five things.
We're going to get to all of them.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
You guys want to take any guesses, I'll learn it
when you guess, right.
Speaker 4 (00:18):
Are these These aren't basic stuff like in be late
or you know.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
No, be late, it's not on there, although late I
bet you.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
These would be the character defining things, probably as much
as anything. For example, you don't want to on the
very first date like just goes so deep into all
the uh past relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
That's on the list.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
It's on the list bringing up past relationships in a
negative way. I wouldn't talk about past relationships too much
either way. If it was all great, then that person's
gonna think I'm a rebound.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Honestly, I wouldn't talk about it unless you're asked. Correct,
if that person opens the door, yeah, give a little
and just don't go overboard.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Correct. You're single, you're on a date.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
It should not be about the past unless they ask,
Like you said, but talking about it in a negative way.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
If definitely on the list because.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
It it brings negativity into something that's supposed to be
a new beginning.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Well, it all started in twenty twelve.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Says more about you when you you're speaking negatively about.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Someone, Yeah, it reflects on you.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
It reflects on you more than anything.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Well, and I would say, you know, you could extend
that to almost anything. Be careful about what you're negative
about in general, because that doesn't feel good. Right. Yeah,
first meeting, you're getting to know somebody. It's supposed to
be a fun date.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
It's supposed to be a get to know anything. Okay,
we'll go back to the start. The biggest one is
over sharing on the first date. Way too many personal details,
going way deep. It can be a turnoff because it's
supposed to be a warming up period and what you
want is to leave them interested, leave them wanting more.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Hence the second date.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
Yeah, you don't want them excusing themselves to go to
the bathroom and not come back.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
That could happen if you start going down the scars.
The scars here.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
I actually believe that people know pretty quickly, like before
the meals arrive, whether this is going well or not.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Long time Yeah, well, thank goodness, glad.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I'm just saying I just to me, they say, And
this is another one of the things. Don't fix on.
Don't fixate on whether there's chemistry or not. But to me,
chemistry is there or it's not there. You can wait
around for it. You can hope that it will develop
over time. But to me, a spark as a spark,
as a spark, you.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Don't really have to, you know, decide that until after
the date's done. Anyway, whether you have the chemistry or not, right,
I guess you're.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
I guess you're maybe you're hoping to see some chemistry.
Feel it all right, So more on the way of
things not to do. Mistakes, common ones on a first
date coming up next, such delicate business. It can be anyway,
first states. So common mistakes made on first dates. We
already talked about oversharing, uh, fixating on whether there's chemistry
(03:07):
or not, like letting that take over your thoughts and
then bringing up the big one, bringing up past relationships
in a negative way. Don't do those, you know, if
you're asked about past relationships, try to if you if
you can't do it in a positive way, say can
we talk about that?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Another time.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
So I understand you've been married three times and divorced.
Uh huh.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I always say that, Sam, because that's your life. You
know how many people have been married three times?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
More love?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Yeah, so that's my attempt at humor.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Good. Do you try to be funny on a first date?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I don't know. I haven't had one in a low
But see, that's funny.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
If you're being yourself, you're funny. I shouldn't have even
asked that. As long as you're being yourself, you're funny,
all right. The other things to not do? Don't just
talk about yourself so much. Oh, you're not asking questions?
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Oh yeah, time. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Some some people go into a date so ready to
tell everything about themselves that they're not listening.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
So ask I did do that. I did learn that
ask the questions. Does that helps bring me out of
my shell? Too? Good? Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Nice? Are you honest about how nervous you are?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
No?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
When you're nervous?
Speaker 3 (04:20):
No?
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Okay, you could be Okay, she might appreciate that.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
I'll have to try it.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
It may look like a vulnerability kind of a It.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Might be appealing at Murphy to help you. He warms
the females right up to tell your last first date
Murphy years ago.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
The other one would be not having fun, being too serious,
talking about serious things too much. It's supposed to be fun.
If they're going to want a second date with you,
it needs to be light. Lighten up the mood.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
And I'm gonna throw these honorable mentions out.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
One of them is to treat the restaurant, coffee shop
wherever you are staff really well.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
It says a lot about you, and hopefully you do
that regardless.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
And the other honorable mention is don't drink too much.
Oh yeah, it never looks like you think it looks
when you drink too much, you don't look as funny
as you It's not as funny as you think.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
And if you're nervous, you might, you know, air to
the side of too much. Maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
And you get it doesn't look as funny as some people.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
It never looks good Good luck, great careers for the
truly introverted. I just want to say, before we go
over these ideas, if you are really introverted, let.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
It be, you know, don't try to change it. The
world will tell you Oh, you need.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
To, you know, get out there and and I do
believe in being social.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
It's good for your soul. But go with who you are.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
You know, the most natural state of you is where
you should, you know, live. If you're naturally extroverted, don't
try to stop that either.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Yeah, well too.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
Also, I want to say this as an introvert, Yes
you can pretty much do. I mean, look, I we
were sitting here entertaining, and I'm an introvert.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yes you are, but you can't do anything.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Yeah, well only when I'm away from here. That's when
the super introverted.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
You're like the only people that you talk to.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
He barely talks to the dog.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Yes, but just I'm just saying, accept yourself the way
you are, instead of spending your life trying to change
based on what the world tells you. It's not a negative.
It's just a fact that you're either introverted or more exert.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Some of the introverts, of of the wisest people I know,
My dad was an introvert. He was still social, but
he was introverted.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
You know why they're paying attention, soaking everything in.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Yeah he's so smart.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Okay, so best jobs for introverts and these are you know,
careers too because of the autonomy lack of social interaction.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Radiologist comes in number one on the list really as far.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
As money you can make and the amount of social interactions. Now,
I have a friend who's a radiologists, and I guess
that's her title. She does the mammograms, it's radiology.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Well the radiologist interprets the Actually, oh.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
My bad, okay, because let's say she she has a
lot of interactions every single day.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
She's a technician problem tech.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Okay, So radiologist top of the list.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
You get to use your skills, you make some decent money,
and you get to be with yourself all day long.
Scientists comes in ecological especially, I don't know why that one.
Computer scientists also on the list. You can get in
your head and stay in your head and you still
output some great work.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Software engineers makes sense.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Yeah, and and need that's a career that's continually.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Correct. Isn't your son your oldest like in software.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Is not an introvert?
Speaker 3 (07:49):
I know, but it's still see proving again what you said.
You can do anything. It's just these ideas. You know,
if you are more inward and you don't want to
be as to make a living. And if you're introverted
and you find that it helps you in your work,
we'd love to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah, eight seven seven three one zero four MSJ or
you can hit us up on our socials.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
I was having a conversation with producer Faith about peanut
butter and jelly sandwiches.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Oh that's so good.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Sounds like a good conversation, but it took a turn
like I never expected that there are different ways to
make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Okay, according to
producer Faith, this is her way of doing I make it.
How do y'all make it? Is it? Peanut butter on
one side, jelly on the other, Flap them together and
eat them.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
It's so fantastic. There's nothing like that.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Yeah, well, producer Faith has this thing where she mixes
the peanut butter and jelly together. You get in bold
heard of this, puts it on. Oh you've heard of this.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
I've heard very few people. I think Phoebe had a
friend a long time ago who did that. Yeah, and
I didn't. I don't want that taste. I want a
separate peanut butter layer and a separate jelly layer. To me,
that's the magic of those two, you know, meeting.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
I think the reason she does it, though, is to
keep the stuff on the bread, because I like the
jelly would slide off or something.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
I've had that happen the other times before. Yeah, exactly.
You think it's the perfect sandwich. You take one bite
and the jelly goes out the back.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
So wait, and maybe you're putting a little bit too much.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah maybe maybe. My mother used to take that, but
it was marshmallow cream, but she would mix those two
together then mallow.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Oh, I bet that's fantastic.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
It's like it's good, almost.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Like peanut butter fudge probably.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I mean it's a happy childhood memory.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
So, yeah, you used to have that sandwich. Whoa, it's
the first time I'm ever hearing this, Murphy.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Well, yeah, I mean I don't eat it much anymore,
what with the diabetes and a type one. You know,
you mean a marshmallow fluff, marshmallow cream, the marshmallow cream
in the jar, Yeah exactly. Yeah, try to get that
off your knife is not easy.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Marshmallow cream in a jar is not something I was
familiar with.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah, I don't think we bought.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
We would do that. We would do peanut butter and honey.
That was about as far out as my parents would
get with that. But my mother would have apple jelly
most of the time, grape and strawberry alternately.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
You know, I didn't understand that my parents always had
apple jelly.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
It was more of a thing I grew up.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
My grandparents always had apple jelly, and it's harder to find,
but it does bring back memories. It makes you feel like, oh,
this is special when it used to be the norm.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
Strawberry is so much better.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I will say this, I don't think there's any wrong
way to eat your own peanut butter and jelly sandwich,
except you got to do it with a glass of milk.
When you're a mom, you know, and probably a dad too.
But when you're a mom, for sure, you know within
less than one second when something's wrong with your child
(10:51):
when they call you with their voice.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Well, sometimes you're just afraid that that's the case and
you're wrong.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Which is correct? Moment, she says what happened the other
day to me? I'm on my way back from the
grocery store. Phoebe starts to ringing my phone. I answer.
I'm in the car and she goes mom and I
brace myself.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
What's wrong?
Speaker 5 (11:11):
Baby?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
She said, just like you told me to do.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
I just finished watching the Lacey Peterson documentary.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
This morning, pregnant, I've had missing persons.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Phoebe does like true crime, and she knows that I dabble,
and so she asked me, what you know, what's something?
What's an older case that I watched and would like that?
Is there a new She watched the John in a
Ramsay one too, so she's the nineties cases that are
have been re examined. She's very she can talk to
you all day about the Meninda's brothers too. So I said, well,
(11:46):
maybe you ought to give Lacy Peterson a try, and
she watched it and called me so relief swept over
me that something wasn't wrong with hers.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
She just needed to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
And as I'm listening to her say all these things
that I've felt before about it too, I.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Understand that once you do.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Sort of let that in and you watch one, you
kind of do need somebody to talk to about it.
You need a partner in true crime, you kind of do.
But I also realized, I know that seems kind of
eerie to some people. But I know she's gonna watch
that anyway. She did that years before Murphy, before she
(12:27):
was even old enough. I walked into the room and
caught her watching some sort of Ted Bundy thing or something.
I can't It was very upsetting to me. I was like, Phoebe,
what are you doing.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
She's like, she's all good with the story.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
She's gonna do it anyway, so I'm going to She's
also not living at home right now, So anything I
can connect with her on and keep her close with
and keep the door open, I'm gonna do it, even
if it's murder.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
Did you tell her, like, look, next time when I
answer the phone, be up.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
It.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
No. I do not want her second guessing. I want
her to be herself with me at all times.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Do you keep any secrets from me or spouse or partner?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
I can't say, considering I'm sitting right here.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
Why do you ask?
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Because helf to get serious. Oh, it could be it's
probably I'm gonna try to keep it funny. Oh something
my mom discovered that my dad, who's now been dead
for sixteen years, was hiding from her. Oh really, which,
by the way, yesterday was the sixteenth anniversary, in case
anybody was celebrating of his passing.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Yeah, nobody was celebrating a passing.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
No, yeah, let's let me play the game. How old
would he have been night at seventy five?
Speaker 4 (13:43):
Sixteen? One?
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Okay, yeah, she's eighty five. He was six years old.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
Okay, So what did she discover? Not nothing devastating, right, No?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
No, No, she discovered he was stashing cookbooks in his closet.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Okay, I know what?
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Wait?
Speaker 4 (14:01):
What?
Speaker 2 (14:03):
How he was hiding them because he had too many?
Speaker 4 (14:05):
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. He was buying them without
telling her, or he had too many, because you remember,
when he passed away, My mom offered to give me
all these cookbooks, and.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
It was an avalanche was.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
Full of cookbooks. I took a couple.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
I need some help understanding this. He's been gone sixteen years.
He was quote unquote hiding them.
Speaker 4 (14:26):
Why?
Speaker 1 (14:26):
Now, what is.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
She's been cleaning? Spring cleaning?
Speaker 1 (14:28):
I mean, apparently she cut open a piece of sheet rock.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
I'm assuming she must not have gone into his closet.
It might be like a museum. Okay, And she said, yeah,
there was a stack of cookbooks in the closet, and
she said she's figured out it's ones he never read.
He used to put them there, apparently to get too later,
to get too later, and obviously he never got to those.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
We're going to be talking about this later. You know,
everybody has guilty book, no no guilty pleasures. That was
a guilty pleasure of his, and he probably he probably
got he probably heard very often, why you need that,
You don't need another one? You got a budge? What
I used to exactly so so, and.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
She has, you know, and I guess I shouldn't second
guess that. My grandmother, when my grandfather passed away, it
was years before she went in his closet when I
was able, and then eventually she you know, cleaned up
the you know, clothes and stuff.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
A couple of years after he passed, I went and
I opened one of his drawers and all his socks
and underwear were still there. And it's been a couple
of years, well in her time.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Well you'll enjoy seeing these books now, and right you
can hear. And here's another thing too. At least now
you stop sweating. When she said that she found a
stack of cookbook.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
That's how she started.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
It's the number one thing, by the way that couples
do keep from each other.
Speaker 4 (15:47):
Books.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
No, no, like the guilty pleasure thing that you buy too
much of, you want it, you buy it, it's stashed away,
hopefully away from her spouse.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
They say that's the number one thing.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Depending on the cruise ship that you're on, there are
certain items you can't bring on cruise ships anymore. Certain
items are banned on cruises. And we're gonna go over
it with you.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You are these surprising items are the no duh both Okay.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
You're not supposed to bring alcohol on a cruise ship, correct,
even though you can disguise it in the twelve pack
and all that stuff. Do you why would you do that?
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Why would you That's what I've read, And why would
you bring your own alcohol on a cruise ship? Anyway?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
That's right, Well you could answer that question.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Actually, I mean, I know, I know that it's expensive,
but it's like you're going on a cruise, where are
you gonna Are you gonna fit that much?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Sure?
Speaker 2 (16:35):
People have tried to try to sneak booze in everywhere.
Speaker 4 (16:38):
Yeah, I mean there are people that because it's expensive,
old shampoo bottles that have been cleaned out. Fill it
with alcohol and it's like, oh my shampoo.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You might have a problem.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah, the problem is not what to bring, but what's
wrong with what's wrong with that brought it that you
went to that link? Yeah, okay, Yeah, it depends on
what the rule of thumb is. Contact the cruise line
and ask them if you're if you really want to
bring your drone. Some cruises are saying no more drones.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Yeah, well most of that's online, by the way too.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
When I don't mean call can ill is this carnival?
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Can I bring my drone?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Door decorations?
Speaker 5 (17:17):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (17:17):
I thought those were okay, Oh, I'm sorry that's upsetting you, Sam. No,
just some cruise lines are saying they're banning this stuff.
It's laws in certain countries where you're going to port
or whatever, but also safety whatever. If they have some
bumpy water and everybody get door decorations that go sliding
down the hall, not good, Okay, Bluetooth speakers. Some cruise
(17:39):
ships are banning that you bring in all. I know,
if you would have a problem with that, we'd be rebooking.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Well, it's probably because you have some people that are
you know, playing them too loud, and it's you're out
on the lido deck and there's already music playing overhead.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
The little beach thing. Yea, you know they can. They
resver the right. The cruise line reserves the right.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I can understand that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Ham radios, transmitting devices, walkie talkies, baby monitors, and even
starlink devices. Some cruise ships are banning those.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Just know that, well, they probably don't want you to
bring to starlink because they want you to pay for
the onboard correct.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
They reserve their right search protected power strips.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
They don't want you plugging those in and in your
cabins and things like that.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
I mean that could be an electrical hazard, if you know,
I can I mean yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Yeah, absolutely, candles, firehousards. I think that's a dah liesol.
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
Maybe it's the it's the aerosol can that's a problem.
But a lot of people want to bring lifesyle because
cabins with family you.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
Just have to live with the stink.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Martial arts and self defense items and tools also being
banned by many crews. Operators proof that it's our favorite
thing in the world to hear from you. I'm giddy
right now to share these with you from rolling in
from Instagram, Facebook and YouTube.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
So Wesley sent this to Facebook Messenger.
Speaker 4 (18:56):
Hi.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
My name is Wesley. I work for the Birmingham Police Department.
I am a crime analyst and I've been listening to
your show for the last month or so and I
really enjoy the banter between you three and you're good attitudes.
You're far better than most talk shows. I want to
also make some suggestions for crime docs, oh, documentaries, because
(19:16):
in our office and me and the other two crime analysts,
we have a small TV and we have them playing
on in the background all day.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
They're trying to.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You know what I saw on the Okay, so he says,
most recently, we watched the Murdaw Murders, a Southern scandal.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Sam, you've done that one, been there, done that?
Speaker 4 (19:37):
Couple of those on Netflix and.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Max and American Nightmare.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
What ex that merit up?
Speaker 3 (19:45):
Last night?
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Yeah? Oh, Wesley, I watched that one and could not
believe it.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
That's true crime.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
Yeah, it's true story too.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
I mean it sounds like a computer talking to nine
to one one.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I know it was not a computer, it was a
real person. He was groggy.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
I remember this and really well Wesley, those are both good,
he says, both are really well done. Again, thanks for
putting a very putting on a very enjoyable show.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
We keep up the good work. That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
We appreciate that, Wesley.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
He sent us his uh whatever card. He's a statistical
crime analyst. Oh so impressed.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
I bet you he knows what's going to happen in
these shows.
Speaker 4 (20:20):
Before and happy.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
You know you love your job when you're watching shows
while doing your job in the same subject, in the
same you know field.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Okay, Lee sent us this also. I watched.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Oh she's bringing this up because I was saying in
the Hollywood outside of the other day that the Pride
and Prejudice movie from what two thousand and three is
going to be It's the good one, Murphy, It's the
one with care Knightley that I love so much.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Okay, it's going to be in theaters in April.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Again.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
Choice them so good, she said.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
I watched it again yesterday and noticed that that the
sister of mister Bingley is Beth Dutton. I even look
it up online double check. It's a go to show
for me when I meet need some me time.
Speaker 4 (21:04):
She is tough in that that she is from Yellowstone.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
You know, she's very different character in Pride and Prejudice.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Thank you, Lee, Join us anytime eight seven seven three
one zero four m s J.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
What's going on, VICKI?
Speaker 5 (21:19):
I was just gonna add to your last conversation about
the nail swan.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
Ah.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yes, favorite place.
Speaker 5 (21:26):
Oh, yes, that that is my my weekly release.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Oh.
Speaker 5 (21:32):
When I go and I note that you use Let's
Be Friends by that's what that's my go to. Okay,
So the only other time I used something else is
your Holidays. Oh yeah, about two months ago I changed Salon.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Yeah, and they did.
Speaker 5 (21:51):
They didn't have Let's Be Friends.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
Oh.
Speaker 5 (21:54):
I had to improvise and use something else that I
wasn't happy with, So I ordered it on one. Now
when I go in, I take my little bottom with me.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Wow, you're serious about Let's Be Friends. It's a great color.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Yeah it is.
Speaker 5 (22:11):
It's neutral and it goes with everything. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:14):
And when I when I.
Speaker 5 (22:16):
First walked in, she said, well color you choosing today?
I said, well, it's just so happened and brought it
with me and you look what. Yeah, she apparently had
never had anybody bring.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
That with no kidding it seems like they should order
it for you. I mean they have a couple hundred colors.
They have a couple hundred at least, And that's the
that's the hang up. Sometimes if you want to do
something different, you get hung up because.
Speaker 4 (22:44):
I can't pick it.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
Seems like it should be a simple decision. But you're
going to be living with it. You're going to be
wearing it with everything.
Speaker 5 (22:51):
Yeah, it's it's a place where I feel relaxed and
I feel papered, and I feeling beautiful exactly.
Speaker 3 (22:59):
You can't stop looking at your nails when you leave
for the whole first, you know day, even.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
If you bring your own polish.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Thank you, Vicky.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
We were talking about how to me for a woman,
even if you can only do it every once in
a while because it is expensive.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
I mean, it's a luxury to be able to do
it and go.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
It always is a pick me up. I always make
a friend. You know, you just feel so good while
you're there and when you leave. Jennifer said on our
Facebook page, happened to me today. I met a lady
and we swapped phone numbers, so we'll see, meaning if
we become friends.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
How cool? So jump in and join us anytime. It's
almost summer. So let's talk about two things that don't mix.
Alcohol and the sun.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
That's true. It doesn't mix with a lot of other
stuff either, But yeah, but the sun's one of them.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
It's true.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
Look, I guess the obvious reason is why do you
think what's the number one reason why it doesn't mix?
Speaker 1 (23:57):
Dehydration?
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Oh good are you, Murphy?
Speaker 3 (24:01):
That was going to be the big takeaway, the big
oh watch out, But it's dehydration, Sam.
Speaker 4 (24:05):
You were going to say dehydration.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
No, you weren't. You were going to say I was.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
I didn't even think about it. Why is it bad?
Because you get drunk on the beach, you fall asleep,
and your sunburn.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
That's the number one reason. That's the number one That's
what I've heard, Not just.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Drunk on the beach, but any if anytime you drinking,
you become more laxidais reapplied, you don't leave the hat on.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
And as someone who stays out of the sun as
much as possible, I made a horrible mistake last summer.
Murphy was there to witness it.
Speaker 4 (24:42):
You got drunk on the beach.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
No, that was years ago, fell asleep and burned.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
No. Last summer, we were vacationing and there was no
shade to be found anywhere, and I was in hats
and I was wearing sunscreen and I was real plying.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But I was also sipping mohidos all day, wasn't it mohidos?
Speaker 1 (25:03):
I was drinking, I think so. Yeah, I don't remember which.
I was not drinking alcohol, and you know, and you
were burning up too. I actually had not fine shape.
I wound up feeling not good because I was dehydrated.
Same thing. Yeah, I wasn't drinking and I felt bad.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
It really hit you, It really hit me.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
I got really sick and it took me five to
seven days to feel like myself. We were home, all
should have been well, you know, it was way over
we were unpacking and I still had to keep going
take and taking naps.
Speaker 4 (25:36):
Well.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
And for clarification here, it's not like you were overdoing
the alcohol either. I wasn't right. It was just the
you know, sipping on that throughout the day and not drinking.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
It was very ho hopping on it in the sun
when I normally am not at all.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
So it is something to remember.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
It's not just getting drunk on the beach and burning,
which is horrible for your skin, horrible for everything. But
it's also correct murphy dehydration, which feels horrible.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Ye, so you know, fun and sun have a blast,
but lots of sunscreen, trying.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
To get drunk on the beach, lots of water and
reapply your sun's green. I've been sharing about your guilty
pleasures and something else that we shared this week that
I think have these these two have intersected, and I
love it is going to the nail salon and how
much it's like a little therapy session for me, Like
it's you know, I just make connections there. You know,
(26:27):
it brings women together. I end up making friends there.
I can't help but comment on the woman's nails next
to me, and I usually get the story like I'm
going to a wedding this weekend or whatever.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
Or the guys version of that. B SAM. I mean,
you know, it's we don't drink anymore, so it's not
like we'd be hanging at a bar to have that
same conversation.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
So barbershop of old whatever, Well.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
I don't go to a barbershop and I go to
a salon, I know, and I enjoyed that it's therapeutic.
Jennifer's great, Yeah it's not.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
It's not like it brings you.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
No, it's not necessarily.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
And even at the hair salon, I'm not talking to
the people and the person and the share next to me.
I'm only really gabbing with my stylists. But at the
nail salon, it's just like that. It is like a
guilty pleasure. A lot of women have said that. Jesse
said it is like my therapy session, and she sent
us a picture of her nails.
Speaker 2 (27:16):
They're purple with little white tips, so cute.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
But it's Penny's comment that caught me and that I
wanted to address here because I shared a picture of
my nails and that it's a you know, the color
and all that. Penny said, I have never been to
a nail salon. I've actually been thinking about it, so Penny,
I just wanted to say, you'll be overwhelmed at first
if you've never been, because you're going to walk in
(27:39):
and there are five hundred colors to pick from, and
there are fifty shapes because there's there's oval and there's
square around and there's round and there's square, and there's
coffin and what trips.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
I'm really glad I don't have the pressure of that decision.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
No, it's fantastic. The color the shape I'm wearing is almond.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
And so if you don't want to do that, if
you want the first time experience for you, Penny to
be fantastic and relaxing, just ask for the basic classic manicure.
If you've never been to a Nelson, and it means
maybe you've never had a manicure, it's fantastic. They massage
your hands, they do the cuticles.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
He's into it. With a pedicure.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Manicure is even easier. Really, a pedicure, your whole body's affected.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Feel so good.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
But yeah, it does. Manicure or pedicure. Yeah, and so
thank you for sending that. And if you do go,
we want to hear about it. Those stranded astronauts that
returned this week when they splashed down, by the way,
did you see, guys that they splashed down and dolphins
sort of grew around them.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
I missed that. That's really sweet.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Love that part of it.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
So anyway, what's so funny is that this was since
last June. It turned out to be what two hundred
and eighty six days that they were there, and they
were supposed to have only been there for a week
week eight days or.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Something like that.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
And the cool impressive thing to Sam especially is that
they did one hundred and fifty different science experiments and
they logged more than nine hundred hours of research then
just sit around watching Netflix.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
That's the one thing. Yeah, I know they all had
they both had families, and that, you know, put a
kink in family life because you have to leave your
family at home for longer. But when everybody all these
reports and everything I saw yesterday online, it's like they
were stranded stuck on the space station, which technically.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
I guess, yes, yes, it was not the plan as.
Speaker 4 (29:34):
An astronaut, where do you want to be okay in space?
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Well, I heard what an interview with one of them.
They said, look, every plan is that it may be
a week, but they planned for a year and a
half or something. Yeah, in terms of like food and
everything else that they need it.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Like space, or they knew this could happen.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
It was really just a rescheduling. I mean, they weren't
going to take a chance on that Boeing thing coming back. Yeah,
I didn't know if it was going to make it not.
So it's really just the rescheduling. There's room. There was
room on it that they're always sending up things, bringing
food and supplies or you know, or new astronauts to
swap out correct so stranded, yes, but that's what they do,
they work in.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
That's why I bring it up because it's another case
in life where you learn and you understand that everyone
has a different perspective. Every single time since last June
that I mentioned that them on that space station, I
would in like my three things to know, I would say,
they're still up there. Oh my gosh, they're still their
poor moms, she's stranded, you know. And and Sam's like
(30:36):
they're astronauts to.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
The extra set of hands to do spacewalks and experiments
and all that. I mean, if you were Matt Matt
Damon and you were on Mars, you're stranded.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
It's different.
Speaker 3 (30:48):
Yeah, okay, But what's so funny is that your perspective, Sam,
to you, that sounds like heaven.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Oh yeah right, I.
Speaker 4 (30:55):
Mean, okay, I am single, but I mean you give
me eight months in space. Yeah, I'm on a.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Tape it oh see to me, I was like, but
I had plans. I want to be home.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
You know what about Christmas?
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Right anyway, it's just perspective.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
It's another fantastic lesson that everyone has a different perspective.
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Betrayal Weekly is back for a new season. Every Thursday, Betrayal Weekly shares first-hand accounts of broken trust, shocking deceptions, and the trail of destruction they leave behind. Hosted by Andrea Gunning, this weekly ongoing series digs into real-life stories of betrayal and the aftermath. From stories of double lives to dark discoveries, these are cautionary tales and accounts of resilience against all odds. From the producers of the critically acclaimed Betrayal series, Betrayal Weekly drops new episodes every Thursday. If you would like to share your story, you can reach out to the Betrayal Team by emailing them at betrayalpod@gmail.com and follow us on Instagram at @betrayalpod and @glasspodcasts. Please join our Substack for additional exclusive content, curated book recommendations, and community discussions. Sign up FREE by clicking this link Beyond Betrayal Substack. Join our community dedicated to truth, resilience, and healing. Your voice matters! Be a part of our Betrayal journey on Substack.