The cost of being a bridesmaid - and how to respectfully decline.
How to outsmart a heavy pollen season.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jody. We can replay Podcast
twelve of our favorite moments from this past week.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Enjoy.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
How much does it cost to be a bridesmaid in
the year twenty twenty five?
Speaker 4 (00:14):
Not just that, but.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
How to respectfully decline if you decide to decline because
you can't afford it, that's something that happens rarely, but
it does happen that people have declined to do it.
So Number one, if it's an in town wedding, great,
that's that's your best scenario. But you're still talking anywhere
from six to nine hundred dollars for the draining on
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the hair, the dress, hair makeup, other expenses. If you're
a bridesmaid, you have responsibilities to the bride. You're throwing
a shower. Showers aren't free, the food's not free, the
decorations aren't free, the invitations aren't free.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
You know, it just.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Costs, and it adds up, and you know, it's something
that you don't realize if you've never done it until
you're in it, you know. And if it's an out
of town wedding, that's even more so. Oh my gosh,
you have to book hotels and you have to sometimes
book airfare, and then the gown like the dress, and
you have to eat while you're out of town. You
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still have to throw the shower, and what if there's
a bachelorette party, nobody's getting into those free.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Just sounds like you're stating the case for not getting married.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Oh no, no, How does.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
It go over?
Speaker 5 (01:29):
Though?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
If you say, look, I really can't.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Well, let's get y'all want to even go straight there?
I do know someone. It was a friend of a
friend who declined being a bridesmaid, and it was a
long time ago. I don't know these people anymore, but
it damaged the friendship. So number one, if you're going
to decline it for financial reasons, know that it's a
possibility it could damage the friendship.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
But hey, your budget is your budget still?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:56):
To me, it's like it's on a It would be
uncool for someone a bride to ask you to be
a bridesmaid and not realize brides need to remember the
costs that they're handing down.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
They're asking you to do they do and who.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Are you asking? Can they really afford it? It does need
to go through your mind, even though it's all about
your day. So if you're going to decline, the word
is do it first in person. Have your words ready.
Here's be honest about why it's not in my budget.
Follow up with a handwritten note because they're going to
think about it. Once the in person meeting is over
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it it's going to linger. They're going to think about it.
And the third thing to remember is it could damage
the friendship.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
And you just have to know that because if they
thought enough of you to ask you to be you.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Would understand if somebody was in a financially challenged.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
Call, correct.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
How to lessen the effects of pollen on your allergies
this season? Because we know we heard it the other day.
Spring is officially here and over at ACU Weather and
all the other meteorologists, you know, when they get together,
they've said, this is going to be an unusually high
pollen season this time.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Is it so big that the Weather Channel is going
to give it a unique name?
Speaker 4 (03:14):
I think so, Super Pollen? I think so.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Megan Cantory is going to be chasing bees the pollen vortex.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Anyway, we've been given the heads up that pollen counts
are up, especially in thirty nine states, and as the
warm weather approaches.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
It's going to be everywhere.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
And not only is it going to be more, we've
already seen more, but it's going to stay around longer.
It's going to stick around into autumn. So here's how
to lessen the effects of it if you are definitely
affected by it. I did not know this, but you're
supposed to avoid being out in the early morning when
pollen levels are highest in the morning. Early in the
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morning pollen levels are high.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Which seems like that depends on what part of the
country you're in, though, because if there's humidity and it's
damp overnight, you would think that would keep you would think, I.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Guess consulting meteorologists.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
The other thing is if you want to be outside,
and we do get a lot of rain in the spring,
usually go out after a rain because the rain does
the job to go get down, stop it. The rain
does its job. So that's a good time to go
out and enjoy the outdoors, especially if your allergies are whack.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Another one that's crazy to me is change your clothes
when when you've been outside for whatever reason, change them quickly,
stick them in a laundry room, or get dressed, get
undressed at the door, and don't walk around with that
stuff in your home because you're putting it into your home.
That yeah, you're just a walk in. Think of all
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the things that are happening that we don't see.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Now, Well, aren't certain air filters, you know, like whatever
it is dense enough to be able to filter pollen
out of filters that sort of thing.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Well, another thing to do is to keep your windows
closed more often during heaving fallen times. And uh, this
is stuff that if you really have allergies, you've probably
already talked to a doctor about once or twice.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah, you know, when the pollen's there before you see it, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
You can you let everybody know's gonna be bad season.
And then another thing, Murphy changed the elf air filters
more often.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Yeah, that makes sense in your house.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Every time Murphy ever changes our filters, he is just amazed.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
How dirty they are.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, what have we been breathing?
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I'm like, dog hair.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Better when you join us, So jump in eight seven
seven three one zero four msj Hi, their.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Who's this man is?
Speaker 5 (05:35):
Gene? I was lifting yesterday and you were talking about
twenty three and meters Jess, and I've been through the experience.
Murphy mentioned he had a cousin who came up at
about twenty percent related. Yes, and I have ten half
siblings and they ranged from twenty percent of the twenty
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four percent. Oh, my cousin that show up on there,
they show up around the eight to ten percent, eight
to ten, eight.
Speaker 6 (06:05):
Twelve percent, Okay, And I'm just just curious. I've not
seen such a close relation at like twenty percent as
a cousin.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
Yeah, I guess Murphy's special.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Yeah, it's kind of it's kind of cool. And because
it shows, it shows fifteen hundred of your closest relatives.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Wow, they're on there.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
So the disappointment is that she's not interested in reaching
back out to him.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
It's true, we do know that.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
Unfortunately, unfortunately that happened to my wife. My wife's adopted
and we found a half sibling for her, and as
soon as we tried to contact her, she disappeared.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
Right.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Well, I will tell you that not everyone feels like
it's a door they want to open. You may really
want to open that door, but not every person you
know wants to go backward.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
So sometimes you're not going to get the response.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Yeah right, I fortunately I lucked out. I found three
sisters I never knew my head.
Speaker 4 (07:10):
Oh nice, all, I'm glad for you.
Speaker 6 (07:12):
Then.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Cool.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
I guess you're not worried about twenty three and meters now,
now that you're already in contact.
Speaker 5 (07:17):
Huh, well, Ray, did they published a statement regarding what's
going on, and you know all their information they claim
is very well protected.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
Yeah, they had a privacy policy as well.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
It's pretty much in the system.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
You are exactly, Thank you, Geene. We appreciate the call. Yeah,
I agree. I mean it's I'm not worried about it.
I mean it's I think that's a hype thing more
than anything else. But I do understand why some people
don't want to open up the doors to a whole
other family necessarily. I don't know if that's the case
in this, and I don't know which family member. It
does make me wonder, though, if we're talking about half siblings. Okay,
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so now that makes me look at my other family
members a little bit differently. It's like, there's something I
don't know here. You need to swab the rest of
the family.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
It's possible there's something you don't know for sure. But
if she's not going to reach out, maybe she doesn't want.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
To know either. All right, keep it coming, jump in anytime.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
Social media connect.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
I love hearing from you.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
We have an email that came in to Murphy Samon
Jody dot com from Denise and this is about attacking
pollen before it attacks you.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Yany So thank you for this. Denise.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Hey, I'm writing to and related to how to tone
down allergies. I'm an r N in an allergy clinic
and I want to add a few tips. If Pat
is the expert, if pets go outside, we should. You
should wipe off their feet, their pause before they come
in every time, because they're they're bringing it in and
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then nail end.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
Up licking it.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
That would be a lot to keep up with.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
I don't mind. I don't mind wiping the well at
least champs pause.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Yeah time, I do care.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
I give them a wonderful life spark. You just got
a brand new bed. Happened to be my favorite. You
can have a favorite pet, just not a favorite.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
But if you don't wipe the feet of all the dogs,
you still get pulling in the house. Fine, right, Okay,
you're not say that you should do that. But yeah, okay, anyway,
I love that trick. She also goes on it reads
all also, most allergists recommend flow naise daily or twice
a day, use before the bad season starts. So, for instance,
if you know you're allergic to oak trees and you
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would have wanted to start your Flownaise in February, as
it is not a fast acting medication. It's not a
put it in there and boom it works. It's something
you build up to. Yeah. I take that every day.
You can buy that over the counter and generic version
now anyway, yea yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
She also says another medication allergists are now recommending are
nasal anahistamines like astaline and astapro, and it goes on
to say, also, you need to be taking the nasal
sprays correctly. She sees this a lot at work. It's
a shallow sniff, not as strong as sniff as you
as you think. If you're tasting the medication in the
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back of your throat, it's too powerful a sniff.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Oh that's interesting.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
I know.
Speaker 4 (10:03):
I'll read it again.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
It's a shallow sniff, not a strong sniff. Because you
wanted to stay in the sinuses well, see.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I've done the anahistamine stuff too, which only do it
because sometimes that can make you a little bit sleepy too.
But I think I must squirt that one too hard, because.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
I text you, well, Murphy is a hard You take
medicine hard, you eat hard, you drink hard.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
So yeah, you you really.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Want it in there, so you probably go a little
too hard maybe and maybe someone else is doing that
if you're tasting it in the back of your throat.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
I mean, what a good piece of info. Thank you, Denise.
Speaker 7 (10:34):
I know you're not medical, Jody, but if you do
it too hard, n you know, does that mean it
passes up where it's supposed to go.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
That's it sounds like it. You want it to go
in the sinuses, not passed. Keep it coming, Denise, we
mean it. Appreciate you so much.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Jody's Top five entertainment stories of the Week, brought to
you by Cols.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
Number five.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
It's been confirmed that legendary actor John lith We'll be
playing Albus Dumbledore in the Harry Potter series for HBO Max,
and the word is he took his time making the decision,
but he couldn't pass it up. He knows it's a
several years commitment and to refamiliarize himself. He's already reading
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the books again. He's halfway through the second book. So cool.
He's going to be rocking the beard in the robes.
They haven't announced anybody else, you have that, no, but
they're close. Number four, Zendia is set to star in
and we know she can sing and act and do
a lot to star in a Ronnie Specter bio. Pick so, Zendia,
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here's what's cool. Ronnie Spector before she died in twenty
twenty two. She chose Zindia to play her in this bio. Really,
yes she did. It's it's going to be called be
My Baby, Perfect, Be My.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Baby, legendary nineteen sixties.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Singer correct all about her pop you know, star life
and being the head of the Rawnettes and her crazy
marriage too, Phil Specte.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
That's gonna have some tough moments to it too.
Speaker 4 (12:03):
For sure.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
Number three actress Linda Cardlini. I want you to picture her.
She's in that show Dead to Me, she was in MADMN.
She's super talented. You've seen her in a lot of things.
The word is she's starring as Pamela Vorhees in a
series for Peacock called Crystal Lake. It's a Friday the
Thirteenth prequel series where she plays.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
The mother of Jason.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
And remember from the first movie the mother of Jason
is the killer. Well yeah, okay, yeah, it's true.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Oh I'm sorry, spoiler.
Speaker 4 (12:35):
But this is a prequel story.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
She tries to raise her son and tragedy pushes her
into a dark path.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
It sounds really cool. I'm excited for it.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Number two Ben Affleck finally breaks his silence on the
divorce from Jennifer Lopez and a GQ cover story.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
He's the April cover story.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
And he said, look, it's basically drama free and her
greatest love story never told documentary did not cause issues
in their marriage, and he says he still has a
lot of respect for her, and then that's all he
wanted to say.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Number one Marvel had a.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Huge week with the announcement and the last time they
had all the Avengers together was for Endgame.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Gos he was like a thousand years ago.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
Ah, So they made this huge announcement of who's going
to be in Avengers Doomsday and it's everybody. Robert Downey
Junior is doctor Doom, Pedro, Pascal Channing, Tatum, James Marsden,
Chris Hemsworth, Paul Rudd, Tom Hittleston and everybody else that
you can think of in the Marvel universe will be
in this movie. May of twenty twenty six.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Jony's Top five entertainment stories of the week.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
If you are pregnant and you want a natural, fantastic
way to give some love to your belly, and I
do mean the expanding skin on your belly. Your belly's
going to grow more quickly than you ever thought. And
some women get stretch marks and some do not. But
if you would like to try to prevent that, it's
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because your skin is growing that well, your baby's growing
so fast and your skin is having to accommodate it.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
I do have stretch marks.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I wish I didn't whatever, and when I was pregnant,
I never lotioned up greased up my belly, and I
regret that I can't go back and do it now.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That just improves the odds of it not happening.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I just guarantee, No, it doesn't guarantee it. Do you remember, though,
how dry my skin when I was Do you remember
something I used to have to ask you to do
for me, Murphy, you don't remember so many years ago
my back would get so dry and I couldn't hardly
and you would put.
Speaker 4 (14:35):
The lotion in. Do you remember how quickly it would.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
Absorb be in like It was so strange and my
skin had never acted that way before pregnancy. So this
weekend we are going to a party to celebrate a
new baby in our family. And remember I'm not bringing
a baby gift yet. I'm bringing a mommy gift first,
because the baby gifts will come later.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
And so sister's son and daughter in law.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Right, So I've been looking it up and instead of
buying her something that's you know, prepackaged for that which
there's nothing wrong with it, you can buy belly rubs
for pregnant bellies. Some of the most natural things that
are very affordable are also very.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Good for pregnant bellies.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Something I put on myself all the time now coconut oil.
It smells so good, it absorbs right into your skin
right away. Now I don't I didn't put it on
last night because I was reading a book, an actual book,
and I didn't want the book to be greasy.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
And you want to keep dropping the book.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Yeah, yeah, because then.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
It would be everywhere, evidence of it everywhere. But a
coconut ole is really good on a pregnant belly. It
improves skins elasticity. Rose Hip oil is really good for
a pregnant belly. Olive oil is even good for a
pregnant belly. Yeah, maybe not the scented.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Ones I was going to say. And this is not
the spray on versions either, Right.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
If you don't want to go oils, you can go butters.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Cocoa butter is fame supposed to be great for, you know,
preventing stretch marks if possible.
Speaker 4 (16:05):
Shay butter is also really really good too.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Oh and the word is now that I'm reading about this,
and I do plan to bring it this weekend Murphy
as a gift. When you rub anything on a pregnant belly,
you know, for that reason, rub in beautiful circular motions,
which you're going to do that anyway, naturally, because that
promotes circulation for you and the baby, and it promotes absorption.
Speaker 7 (16:27):
There is a song that has gone viral on social media,
mainly on TikTok because that's where all good stuff lives. Yeah,
that a lot of folks that work in the medical
industry are saying, whoa, this song sounds just like an MRI. Now,
I you know, I figured the only person I know
here that's had an MRI is Murphy. So I want
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to play the song for you, okay, and you can
tell me now. I'm just giving you a warning here,
so you know, no sweaty palms or anything.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Yeah, because I am clusterrophobic in the actual MRI.
Speaker 7 (16:56):
The the artist. This is, by the way, a fifteen
year old song. It's making the rounds now for some reason.
Martin Solveig, who's a French DJ producer, and an electronic
man named Dragonette. They're doing the singing, he's doing the playing. Uh,
here you go.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
This is get ready Murphy.
Speaker 7 (17:15):
It does.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
It does, poor Murph. This sounds like panic to you?
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Or this is maybe he got the idea while they're
in an MRI machine. I don't know that's exactly what
it sounds.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
You could listen to in there and it would work,
you know, if you're in the machine.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Yeah, and you can.
Speaker 4 (17:42):
You listen to music while you're in there? I probably not.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I'm trying to remember. I think they can give you
headphones or something like that.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
You know, I had one and I fell asleep in there. Yeah,
everybody's different with an MRI.
Speaker 5 (17:53):
It does.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I've got to be it's got to be an open MRI,
and I have to be sitting up. I cannot do it. Yeah,
I've tried.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
You've never had an.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
MRI, s hand, No, I've had a cat? Yeah? Go ahead,
yeah three cats? Hahah.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Cat scan is not quite as claustrophobic. I mean, you
can feel closer phobic in a cat scan, but MRI,
where you're kind of closed up and secured in place,
I don't do that well at all.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
It's so funny how it sounds exactly like Medical World
who picked that out and said this is definitely it
sounds like that, and good for them because now their
song is getting traction. O.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Somebody needs to go ask this Martin guy, Hey, did
you get the idea from being in it? Because that
sounds exactly like what an MRI.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
SAEs to help you any you know, does its fears
any here?
Speaker 1 (18:41):
No, it's actually the opposite. I don't think I every
want to hear this again.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Wait for it.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Yeah, thirty more minutes to go.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Just hit that red button if you.
Speaker 7 (18:56):
Need us.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
How to make getting an IVY easier for you if
you are scheduled to get an IVY for any reason. Okay,
so the number one thing, you know this, but I've
got more for you this time.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
You know.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
The number one thing, Yeah, hydrate. Make sure you've had
plenty of water before.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
It's not just that they're not just saying that so
that you'll be hydrated.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
It's true.
Speaker 4 (19:16):
It literally plumps up your veins.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Yeah, Which that wording weirds me out a little bit
when I've had a nurse tell me that we want
to make sure your veins are plump.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
Well, you want it to be easy to find, don't you.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, And I agree with that. I just just the terminology, right.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
I had the experience of not being hydrated for one
because I thought it was you know, you know, just
something that was said and then actually hydrating, and it
was the difference of night and day six sticks versus
first stick.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
You know.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
And I wonder if it's the same thing with a
blood draw. I mean, I know it's probably not as
crazy as long as they can get the blood to flow.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
But yeah, you want to.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Plum, you want you want to plump.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
Okay, fine, how about juicy.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Well see, that's even worse.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
The problem is this object matter? Okay, so yes, stay hydrated. Yes,
it's true. The second thing is warm the area. I
never knew this, but this is true. You know, you
know where your good veins are to look at this one.
This is a good one. But yeah, wherever you're going
to have it, you could even ask for like a
warm compress for the area or a warm blanket. Really,
if it's warm, it helps dilate the veins, making them
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easier to access. Isn't that cool? I looked all this
up because I'm getting an infusion today.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
And so the other thing my favorite relax and distract.
That's kind of obvious.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
I mean for me, I just don't ever look at
it is many and I have been stuck a buzz
zillion times, so but I just don't look at it.
And generally it's like, okay.
Speaker 4 (20:41):
But do you look at something else?
Speaker 3 (20:42):
In other words, don't don't just turn away and you're
you know, imagining what's happening. Look at a book, look
at your phone, look at something that actually distracts you.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Yeah, I'll do that. If there's something else in the
room worth looking at, you know. That's where my intention is.
Speaker 7 (20:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:57):
Correct.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
And the other piece of advice, and this is from
healthcare providers, is that make sure you communicate your fears.
If you are super nervous to get stuck, but you
know you have to do it. I do tell them,
like take the deep breath and go look, I'm nervous.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
I always make it in a funny way, you know,
can we get this over with quick? I hate these needles.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
That's not funny, but okay to me, it is okay,
good luck. We had this crazy good conversation with a dietician.
Her name is Denise and it was our after the
show podcast on Friday. She is a Type one diabetic
and we talked about her diet and the recommended diet
for not just type one and type two diabetics, but
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human beings. It was such a great conversation, so many
good takeaways from that, and I think you would be
actually surprised and delighted to know what she had to
say about diet. And so anyway, we talked to her
because she had reached out to us because Murphy is
our Type one diabetic, and you guys really bonded.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
It was really cy So thanks you.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
And that's a natural thing, by the way, because you know,
as we talked about before, it's like we're like four
to five percent of the diabetic population. You're born with
the gene that you know causes that causes it. There's
nothing that you can do. It's not your diet, it's
not anything. It just is a trigger that goes off
one day and it's an autoimmune thing. So running into
someone else who's got that in his insulin dependent, yes,
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you automatically bond because you are you have a similar
life experience and you know.
Speaker 3 (22:26):
That most people don't and most people don't understand it.
But it's such a great conversation. Highly recommend you check
out that after the show. Podcast search Murphy, Sam and
Jody anywhere you listen to podcasts and you can dig in.
Speaker 4 (22:37):
It was Fridays after the show. But one of the.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
Things she said that I thought was so interesting. I
wouldn't know this and let type one diabetics know this.
She said, Yeah, always say never waste a good low.
And you laugh so funny and you want to explain
what that means.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
Well, you know, when you give insulin every now and then,
if you have a low blood sugar episode. You've got
to treat that immediately, and you're gonna have to treat
it with something that is all sugar, all sugar. It
can't have them. You can't treat with a candy bar
because a candy bar is what thirty percent fat that
slows everything down. You will not treat it fast enough
if you do that. So it's gonna be everything from
jews to a soda to those awful sugar tablets or whatever.
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You know, remember what.
Speaker 4 (23:17):
You've been treating with lately that I stashed in your
office for you here at work.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Oh what those little Yogi's things? All starbars, jelly beans? Yeah,
the sweetish fish too, Yeah, exactly. And so what she
means by that is if you're gonna have to treat,
treat with something that you would enjoy, that you only
wouldn't you know?
Speaker 4 (23:35):
You can have candy when you're low. Your blood sugar
is a lot.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
What's weird about that too, is you know it's just
as a type one. You could eat sweetish fish if
you wanted to on a regular basis, but you would
have to dose to match it, and you can still
maintain your blood sugar. It's just not a great way
to maintain your weight, and.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
Denise address all of that and her beautiful dietitian mind
in that after the show.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
There are a lot of myths around that too. So yeah,
so she was awesome.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
Kids, especially, I want you to hear this if you
experience math anxiety. And you know what, adults, I want
you to hear this too, if you experienced math anxiety.
We mentioned this the other day in Three Things to
know that more than sixty percent of US Americans have
math anxiety.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
It is something that needs to be stopped the earlier.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
It needs to become math confidence or at least math
uh acceptance.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
Acceptance. Yeah, and for me it.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Just became math frustration later, you know. Yes, still I
hit my ceiling at algebra. That was it?
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Really?
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (24:36):
I actually did okay in algebra.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Well, no, I did, Actually I did find an algebra.
It was trigonometry and calculus that were like, okay, I
can't do it. You use every day now, right, yeah exactly,
And look they're engineers. I know that dude use that
every day they do, right.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
So yeah, But the thing is, if it's something that
so many of us, you know, your heart beats faster,
you get a little nervous when you know it's coming
that needs to be stopped early on in life, so
you don't let that stop you from being in the
careers you want to be in, from damaging your own
self esteem about it, because of course you can do math.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Of course you can. There's always an answer.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
And sometimes the biggest problem that's happening early on in
elementary schools when people are when kids are first starting
to learn to use math, is that the teaching style
doesn't necessarily match the kids learning ability or they're learning
style right, And so you need to know that it's
not really you necessarily every time. And if you have
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a certain block with something, maybe it's geometry or percentages
or long division or whatever it is, whatever your speed
bump is, it's just that it needs to be explained
to you a different way and you can get it.
Speaker 4 (25:46):
Yeah, you know I can.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
And so when you mentioned geometry, I'm one of those
that I have trouble with picturing the spatial concepts of
three D all that kind of stuff, and I think
that's why I struggled with that. But I'm a linear
thinker too correct and so as I've lived my life
now I understand if there's certain things that aren't in
my wheelhouse, I'll let somebody else help.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Me with that.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
Sure, and that's a thing kids to do in the future.
But if you have to do a test.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
But I'm not saying right exactly right, it's not the
end all be all.
Speaker 4 (26:12):
No, No, it doesn't have to be the word is.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
We all feel that parents feel it when they know
they have to help sometimes with math homework. So it's
a if you're not talking about it, talk about it
as a family and get the help you need.
Speaker 4 (26:23):
Call the family member who can help.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
You know, there's a lot of resources for kids that
weren't always there in the past. They're online tutoring, there's
online help. Most local libraries have, you know, online tutoring
and math problems. Yes, so it is something that needs
to change from anxiety to at least if it can't
be confidence, at least being unafraid of it. If you're
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looking to take better care of yourself your mental health,
don't forget about art. And we did a whole after
the show podcast on it the other day. Go back
and look. Listen to the reasons why art is beneficial
for your mental health.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
It works and it breaks out of the rut.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
Doesn't mean you have to paint or sculpt. It means
anything you really soak it in. Jennifer sent this regarding
that commented on that after the show podcast on a whim,
I asked for a paint by number for Christmas, a
painting thing for Christmas from my son, and he got
it for me. It was really enjoyable and relaxing to do.
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She sent us the picture of the final work. It's gorgeous.
It looks like the London Bridge. It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
Yeah, I guess adult paint by number is a little
more sophisticated than what we had as kids.
Speaker 4 (27:41):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
So I did one as a kid, paint by number,
and I was so I locked myself in my room
and I did it and it was a kiddy cat ye,
And I was so proud of it.
Speaker 4 (27:51):
And then I showed some family members.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
That's all say, oh, that's terrible.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
And so I judged for it.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
So I never touched supposed to be joony.
Speaker 4 (28:01):
Well, just you know the number part of it. Oh,
pay my numbers.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
We kind of judge ourselves as if that's not really painting,
but it is.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
But you're not good enough. Because you're painting by numbers.
Speaker 4 (28:12):
I guess that's that's what I felt like. Oh were
you there?
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Have you read?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
I just realized though that. You know, when we clean
up my late dad's house, I couldn't find any of
my old art work. Oh, I guess they didn't keep.
Speaker 4 (28:24):
It out, but they kept everything Marpha too.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Oh well, I don't know what I'm laughing at. I
haven't had mine.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
Yet, right anyway, So art is really good for your
mental health, whether that's you doing something creative or if
it's you going to a museum or something like that.
Let it in, especially if you're feeling stressed. You know,
it's it's a natural sort of therapy. Okay, On onward.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
To TV shows that stress you out. Michelle said, Kids
Baking Competition.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
Those kids are crazy talented, But watching that clock tick
down kill me.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
And I can see that that's like gonna just suspense.
Speaker 3 (29:05):
Susie said, this Bob Ross stresses me out because he
paints something perfect and paints over it.
Speaker 4 (29:12):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
I didn't put any highlights on this.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
We feel he doesn't keep his paintings.
Speaker 4 (29:18):
Sometimes he doesn't. I suppose.
Speaker 5 (29:23):
Social media connect we've had.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
A bit of a recurring theme this week, and it's
been beautiful about how art is really good for your
mental health. And it doesn't mean you have to paint
or color or draw. It means go take in a
museum too, or whatever art you enjoy. It's really good
to shut out the noise and it's good for your
mental health. And so I love the conversation. And Tiffany
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sent us this email to Murphy Samonjody dot com. Hey, guys, Hey,
I regularly use art in my therapy practice. It's wonderful.
I've lately implemented using I hope I say this word right. Decopage, decopage,
decopas into my sessions. It works so well, especially with
those struggling with ADHD. Being able to smear glue across
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pictures and create something helps my clients talk about heavy
issues and offsets other distractions that can impede the process.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
That's really cool. It is so decapage is just the
spreading of glue across images. Do I know what I'm
talking from.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
What I understand. I've never done it, but I think
it's like you taken it. Let's just say you take
a picture of a beautiful flower or something and you
cut it out, and you put it on top of
like a canvas or a board, and then you glue
it on top.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
It's like multi layered art. It's a way to layer it.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
It's a way to seal it right.
Speaker 4 (30:43):
It seals it right.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Okay, we don't know a lot about about decapoge, but anyway.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I got to run the hobby lobby and find out.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
Here's what she says.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
It's excellent because you don't have to be a master
artist to find pictures. We use our hands covered with
rubber gloves to move the glue all around. I bring
in very so old boards or random pieces of glass
and other objects to let my clients choose what they
wish to work on. We both sit and talk and
move glue.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
That's cool.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
I create right along with them. By the time the
session is over, we've made something together, some neat art,
and we've been able to deep dive and explore difficult
issues and topics. I found that using the creative brain
helps so much in a therapeutic setting. Therapeutic setting, therapeutic setting.
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It alleviates anxiety and helps divert external forces that sometimes
work to divert attention.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Yeah, it makes perfect sense to me. Yeah, it's even
better now that I know it. Decapolies, I feel so dumb.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
You know what you're doing this weekend?
Speaker 4 (31:45):
She finally said, anyone can do this.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
It's just glue pictures on an old piece of plywood.
Here you go, Okay, thank you, Tiffany,
Welcome to the Murphy Salmon Jody. We can replay Podcast
twelve of our favorite moments from this past week.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Enjoy.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
How much does it cost to be a bridesmaid in
the year twenty twenty five?
Speaker 4 (00:14):
Not just that, but.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
How to respectfully decline if you decide to decline because
you can't afford it, that's something that happens rarely, but
it does happen that people have declined to do it.
So Number one, if it's an in town wedding, great,
that's that's your best scenario. But you're still talking anywhere
from six to nine hundred dollars for the draining on
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the hair, the dress, hair makeup, other expenses. If you're
a bridesmaid, you have responsibilities to the bride. You're throwing
a shower. Showers aren't free, the food's not free, the
decorations aren't free, the invitations aren't free.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
You know, it just.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Costs, and it adds up, and you know, it's something
that you don't realize if you've never done it until
you're in it, you know. And if it's an out
of town wedding, that's even more so. Oh my gosh,
you have to book hotels and you have to sometimes
book airfare, and then the gown like the dress, and
you have to eat while you're out of town. You
(01:15):
still have to throw the shower, and what if there's
a bachelorette party, nobody's getting into those free.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Just sounds like you're stating the case for not getting married.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Oh no, no, How does.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
It go over?
Speaker 5 (01:29):
Though?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
If you say, look, I really can't.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Well, let's get y'all want to even go straight there?
I do know someone. It was a friend of a
friend who declined being a bridesmaid, and it was a
long time ago. I don't know these people anymore, but
it damaged the friendship. So number one, if you're going
to decline it for financial reasons, know that it's a
possibility it could damage the friendship.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
But hey, your budget is your budget still?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:56):
To me, it's like it's on a It would be
uncool for someone a bride to ask you to be
a bridesmaid and not realize brides need to remember the
costs that they're handing down.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
They're asking you to do they do and who.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Are you asking? Can they really afford it? It does need
to go through your mind, even though it's all about
your day. So if you're going to decline, the word
is do it first in person. Have your words ready.
Here's be honest about why it's not in my budget.
Follow up with a handwritten note because they're going to
think about it. Once the in person meeting is over
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it it's going to linger. They're going to think about it.
And the third thing to remember is it could damage
the friendship.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
And you just have to know that because if they
thought enough of you to ask you to be you.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Would understand if somebody was in a financially challenged.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
Call, correct.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
How to lessen the effects of pollen on your allergies
this season? Because we know we heard it the other day.
Spring is officially here and over at ACU Weather and
all the other meteorologists, you know, when they get together,
they've said, this is going to be an unusually high
pollen season this time.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Is it so big that the Weather Channel is going
to give it a unique name?
Speaker 4 (03:14):
I think so, Super Pollen? I think so.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Megan Cantory is going to be chasing bees the pollen vortex.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Anyway, we've been given the heads up that pollen counts
are up, especially in thirty nine states, and as the
warm weather approaches.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
It's going to be everywhere.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
And not only is it going to be more, we've
already seen more, but it's going to stay around longer.
It's going to stick around into autumn. So here's how
to lessen the effects of it if you are definitely
affected by it. I did not know this, but you're
supposed to avoid being out in the early morning when
pollen levels are highest in the morning. Early in the
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morning pollen levels are high.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Which seems like that depends on what part of the
country you're in, though, because if there's humidity and it's
damp overnight, you would think that would keep you would think, I.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
Guess consulting meteorologists.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
The other thing is if you want to be outside,
and we do get a lot of rain in the spring,
usually go out after a rain because the rain does
the job to go get down, stop it. The rain
does its job. So that's a good time to go
out and enjoy the outdoors, especially if your allergies are whack.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Another one that's crazy to me is change your clothes
when when you've been outside for whatever reason, change them quickly,
stick them in a laundry room, or get dressed, get
undressed at the door, and don't walk around with that
stuff in your home because you're putting it into your home.
That yeah, you're just a walk in. Think of all
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the things that are happening that we don't see.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Now, Well, aren't certain air filters, you know, like whatever
it is dense enough to be able to filter pollen
out of filters that sort of thing.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Well, another thing to do is to keep your windows
closed more often during heaving fallen times. And uh, this
is stuff that if you really have allergies, you've probably
already talked to a doctor about once or twice.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah, you know, when the pollen's there before you see it, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
You can you let everybody know's gonna be bad season.
And then another thing, Murphy changed the elf air filters
more often.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Yeah, that makes sense in your house.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Every time Murphy ever changes our filters, he is just amazed.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
How dirty they are.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yeah, what have we been breathing?
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I'm like, dog hair.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Better when you join us, So jump in eight seven
seven three one zero four msj Hi, their.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Who's this man is?
Speaker 5 (05:35):
Gene? I was lifting yesterday and you were talking about
twenty three and meters Jess, and I've been through the experience.
Murphy mentioned he had a cousin who came up at
about twenty percent related. Yes, and I have ten half
siblings and they ranged from twenty percent of the twenty
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four percent. Oh, my cousin that show up on there,
they show up around the eight to ten percent, eight
to ten, eight.
Speaker 6 (06:05):
Twelve percent, Okay, And I'm just just curious. I've not
seen such a close relation at like twenty percent as
a cousin.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
Yeah, I guess Murphy's special.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Yeah, it's kind of it's kind of cool. And because
it shows, it shows fifteen hundred of your closest relatives.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Wow, they're on there.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
So the disappointment is that she's not interested in reaching
back out to him.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
It's true, we do know that.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
Unfortunately, unfortunately that happened to my wife. My wife's adopted
and we found a half sibling for her, and as
soon as we tried to contact her, she disappeared.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
Right.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Well, I will tell you that not everyone feels like
it's a door they want to open. You may really
want to open that door, but not every person you
know wants to go backward.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
So sometimes you're not going to get the response.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Yeah right, I fortunately I lucked out. I found three
sisters I never knew my head.
Speaker 4 (07:10):
Oh nice, all, I'm glad for you.
Speaker 6 (07:12):
Then.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Cool.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
I guess you're not worried about twenty three and meters now,
now that you're already in contact.
Speaker 5 (07:17):
Huh, well, Ray, did they published a statement regarding what's
going on, and you know all their information they claim
is very well protected.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
Yeah, they had a privacy policy as well.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
It's pretty much in the system.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
You are exactly, Thank you, Geene. We appreciate the call. Yeah,
I agree. I mean it's I'm not worried about it.
I mean it's I think that's a hype thing more
than anything else. But I do understand why some people
don't want to open up the doors to a whole
other family necessarily. I don't know if that's the case
in this, and I don't know which family member. It
does make me wonder, though, if we're talking about half siblings. Okay,
(07:51):
so now that makes me look at my other family
members a little bit differently. It's like, there's something I
don't know here. You need to swab the rest of
the family.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
It's possible there's something you don't know for sure. But
if she's not going to reach out, maybe she doesn't want.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
To know either. All right, keep it coming, jump in anytime.
Speaker 5 (08:08):
Social media connect.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
I love hearing from you.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
We have an email that came in to Murphy Samon
Jody dot com from Denise and this is about attacking
pollen before it attacks you.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Yany So thank you for this. Denise.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Hey, I'm writing to and related to how to tone
down allergies. I'm an r N in an allergy clinic
and I want to add a few tips. If Pat
is the expert, if pets go outside, we should. You
should wipe off their feet, their pause before they come
in every time, because they're they're bringing it in and
(08:41):
then nail end.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
Up licking it.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
That would be a lot to keep up with.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
I don't mind. I don't mind wiping the well at
least champs pause.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Yeah time, I do care.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
I give them a wonderful life spark. You just got
a brand new bed. Happened to be my favorite. You
can have a favorite pet, just not a favorite.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
But if you don't wipe the feet of all the dogs,
you still get pulling in the house. Fine, right, Okay,
you're not say that you should do that. But yeah, okay, anyway,
I love that trick. She also goes on it reads
all also, most allergists recommend flow naise daily or twice
a day, use before the bad season starts. So, for instance,
if you know you're allergic to oak trees and you
(09:23):
would have wanted to start your Flownaise in February, as
it is not a fast acting medication. It's not a
put it in there and boom it works. It's something
you build up to. Yeah. I take that every day.
You can buy that over the counter and generic version
now anyway, yea yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
She also says another medication allergists are now recommending are
nasal anahistamines like astaline and astapro, and it goes on
to say, also, you need to be taking the nasal
sprays correctly. She sees this a lot at work. It's
a shallow sniff, not as strong as sniff as you
as you think. If you're tasting the medication in the
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back of your throat, it's too powerful a sniff.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Oh that's interesting.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
I know.
Speaker 4 (10:03):
I'll read it again.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
It's a shallow sniff, not a strong sniff. Because you
wanted to stay in the sinuses well, see.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I've done the anahistamine stuff too, which only do it
because sometimes that can make you a little bit sleepy too.
But I think I must squirt that one too hard, because.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
I text you, well, Murphy is a hard You take
medicine hard, you eat hard, you drink hard.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
So yeah, you you really.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Want it in there, so you probably go a little
too hard maybe and maybe someone else is doing that
if you're tasting it in the back of your throat.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
I mean, what a good piece of info. Thank you, Denise.
Speaker 7 (10:34):
I know you're not medical, Jody, but if you do
it too hard, n you know, does that mean it
passes up where it's supposed to go.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
That's it sounds like it. You want it to go
in the sinuses, not passed. Keep it coming, Denise, we
mean it. Appreciate you so much.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Jody's Top five entertainment stories of the Week, brought to
you by Cols.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
Number five.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
It's been confirmed that legendary actor John lith We'll be
playing Albus Dumbledore in the Harry Potter series for HBO Max,
and the word is he took his time making the decision,
but he couldn't pass it up. He knows it's a
several years commitment and to refamiliarize himself. He's already reading
(11:16):
the books again. He's halfway through the second book. So cool.
He's going to be rocking the beard in the robes.
They haven't announced anybody else, you have that, no, but
they're close. Number four, Zendia is set to star in
and we know she can sing and act and do
a lot to star in a Ronnie Specter bio. Pick so, Zendia,
(11:38):
here's what's cool. Ronnie Spector before she died in twenty
twenty two. She chose Zindia to play her in this bio. Really,
yes she did. It's it's going to be called be
My Baby, Perfect, Be My.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Baby, legendary nineteen sixties.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Singer correct all about her pop you know, star life
and being the head of the Rawnettes and her crazy
marriage too, Phil Specte.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
That's gonna have some tough moments to it too.
Speaker 4 (12:03):
For sure.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
Number three actress Linda Cardlini. I want you to picture her.
She's in that show Dead to Me, she was in MADMN.
She's super talented. You've seen her in a lot of things.
The word is she's starring as Pamela Vorhees in a
series for Peacock called Crystal Lake. It's a Friday the
Thirteenth prequel series where she plays.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
The mother of Jason.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
And remember from the first movie the mother of Jason
is the killer. Well yeah, okay, yeah, it's true.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Oh I'm sorry, spoiler.
Speaker 4 (12:35):
But this is a prequel story.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
She tries to raise her son and tragedy pushes her
into a dark path.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
It sounds really cool. I'm excited for it.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Number two Ben Affleck finally breaks his silence on the
divorce from Jennifer Lopez and a GQ cover story.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
He's the April cover story.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
And he said, look, it's basically drama free and her
greatest love story never told documentary did not cause issues
in their marriage, and he says he still has a
lot of respect for her, and then that's all he
wanted to say.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Number one Marvel had a.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
Huge week with the announcement and the last time they
had all the Avengers together was for Endgame.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Gos he was like a thousand years ago.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
Ah, So they made this huge announcement of who's going
to be in Avengers Doomsday and it's everybody. Robert Downey
Junior is doctor Doom, Pedro, Pascal Channing, Tatum, James Marsden,
Chris Hemsworth, Paul Rudd, Tom Hittleston and everybody else that
you can think of in the Marvel universe will be
in this movie. May of twenty twenty six.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Jony's Top five entertainment stories of the week.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
If you are pregnant and you want a natural, fantastic
way to give some love to your belly, and I
do mean the expanding skin on your belly. Your belly's
going to grow more quickly than you ever thought. And
some women get stretch marks and some do not. But
if you would like to try to prevent that, it's
(14:00):
because your skin is growing that well, your baby's growing
so fast and your skin is having to accommodate it.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
I do have stretch marks.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I wish I didn't whatever, and when I was pregnant,
I never lotioned up greased up my belly, and I
regret that I can't go back and do it now.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That just improves the odds of it not happening.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I just guarantee, No, it doesn't guarantee it. Do you remember, though,
how dry my skin when I was Do you remember
something I used to have to ask you to do
for me, Murphy, you don't remember so many years ago
my back would get so dry and I couldn't hardly
and you would put.
Speaker 4 (14:35):
The lotion in. Do you remember how quickly it would.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
Absorb be in like It was so strange and my
skin had never acted that way before pregnancy. So this
weekend we are going to a party to celebrate a
new baby in our family. And remember I'm not bringing
a baby gift yet. I'm bringing a mommy gift first,
because the baby gifts will come later.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
And so sister's son and daughter in law.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Right, So I've been looking it up and instead of
buying her something that's you know, prepackaged for that which
there's nothing wrong with it, you can buy belly rubs
for pregnant bellies. Some of the most natural things that
are very affordable are also very.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Good for pregnant bellies.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
Something I put on myself all the time now coconut oil.
It smells so good, it absorbs right into your skin
right away. Now I don't I didn't put it on
last night because I was reading a book, an actual book,
and I didn't want the book to be greasy.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
And you want to keep dropping the book.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Yeah, yeah, because then.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
It would be everywhere, evidence of it everywhere. But a
coconut ole is really good on a pregnant belly. It
improves skins elasticity. Rose Hip oil is really good for
a pregnant belly. Olive oil is even good for a
pregnant belly. Yeah, maybe not the scented.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Ones I was going to say. And this is not
the spray on versions either, Right.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
If you don't want to go oils, you can go butters.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Cocoa butter is fame supposed to be great for, you know,
preventing stretch marks if possible.
Speaker 4 (16:05):
Shay butter is also really really good too.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Oh and the word is now that I'm reading about this,
and I do plan to bring it this weekend Murphy
as a gift. When you rub anything on a pregnant belly,
you know, for that reason, rub in beautiful circular motions,
which you're going to do that anyway, naturally, because that
promotes circulation for you and the baby, and it promotes absorption.
Speaker 7 (16:27):
There is a song that has gone viral on social media,
mainly on TikTok because that's where all good stuff lives. Yeah,
that a lot of folks that work in the medical
industry are saying, whoa, this song sounds just like an MRI. Now,
I you know, I figured the only person I know
here that's had an MRI is Murphy. So I want
(16:48):
to play the song for you, okay, and you can
tell me now. I'm just giving you a warning here,
so you know, no sweaty palms or anything.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Yeah, because I am clusterrophobic in the actual MRI.
Speaker 7 (16:56):
The the artist. This is, by the way, a fifteen
year old song. It's making the rounds now for some reason.
Martin Solveig, who's a French DJ producer, and an electronic
man named Dragonette. They're doing the singing, he's doing the playing. Uh,
here you go.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
This is get ready Murphy.
Speaker 7 (17:15):
It does.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
It does, poor Murph. This sounds like panic to you?
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Or this is maybe he got the idea while they're
in an MRI machine. I don't know that's exactly what
it sounds.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
You could listen to in there and it would work,
you know, if you're in the machine.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Yeah, and you can.
Speaker 4 (17:42):
You listen to music while you're in there? I probably not.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
I'm trying to remember. I think they can give you
headphones or something like that.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
You know, I had one and I fell asleep in there. Yeah,
everybody's different with an MRI.
Speaker 5 (17:53):
It does.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
I've got to be it's got to be an open MRI,
and I have to be sitting up. I cannot do it. Yeah,
I've tried.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
You've never had an.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
MRI, s hand, No, I've had a cat? Yeah? Go ahead,
yeah three cats? Hahah.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Cat scan is not quite as claustrophobic. I mean, you
can feel closer phobic in a cat scan, but MRI,
where you're kind of closed up and secured in place,
I don't do that well at all.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
It's so funny how it sounds exactly like Medical World
who picked that out and said this is definitely it
sounds like that, and good for them because now their
song is getting traction. O.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Somebody needs to go ask this Martin guy, Hey, did
you get the idea from being in it? Because that
sounds exactly like what an MRI.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
SAEs to help you any you know, does its fears
any here?
Speaker 1 (18:41):
No, it's actually the opposite. I don't think I every
want to hear this again.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Wait for it.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Yeah, thirty more minutes to go.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Just hit that red button if you.
Speaker 7 (18:56):
Need us.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
How to make getting an IVY easier for you if
you are scheduled to get an IVY for any reason. Okay,
so the number one thing, you know this, but I've
got more for you this time.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
You know.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
The number one thing, Yeah, hydrate. Make sure you've had
plenty of water before.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
It's not just that they're not just saying that so
that you'll be hydrated.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
It's true.
Speaker 4 (19:16):
It literally plumps up your veins.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Yeah, Which that wording weirds me out a little bit
when I've had a nurse tell me that we want
to make sure your veins are plump.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
Well, you want it to be easy to find, don't you.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, And I agree with that. I just just the terminology, right.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
I had the experience of not being hydrated for one
because I thought it was you know, you know, just
something that was said and then actually hydrating, and it
was the difference of night and day six sticks versus
first stick.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
You know.
Speaker 1 (19:43):
And I wonder if it's the same thing with a
blood draw. I mean, I know it's probably not as
crazy as long as they can get the blood to flow.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
But yeah, you want to.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Plum, you want you want to plump.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
Okay, fine, how about juicy.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Well see, that's even worse.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
The problem is this object matter? Okay, so yes, stay hydrated. Yes,
it's true. The second thing is warm the area. I
never knew this, but this is true. You know, you
know where your good veins are to look at this one.
This is a good one. But yeah, wherever you're going
to have it, you could even ask for like a
warm compress for the area or a warm blanket. Really,
if it's warm, it helps dilate the veins, making them
(20:21):
easier to access. Isn't that cool? I looked all this
up because I'm getting an infusion today.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
And so the other thing my favorite relax and distract.
That's kind of obvious.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
I mean for me, I just don't ever look at
it is many and I have been stuck a buzz
zillion times, so but I just don't look at it.
And generally it's like, okay.
Speaker 4 (20:41):
But do you look at something else?
Speaker 3 (20:42):
In other words, don't don't just turn away and you're
you know, imagining what's happening. Look at a book, look
at your phone, look at something that actually distracts you.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Yeah, I'll do that. If there's something else in the
room worth looking at, you know. That's where my intention is.
Speaker 7 (20:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (20:57):
Correct.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
And the other piece of advice, and this is from
healthcare providers, is that make sure you communicate your fears.
If you are super nervous to get stuck, but you
know you have to do it. I do tell them,
like take the deep breath and go look, I'm nervous.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
I always make it in a funny way, you know,
can we get this over with quick? I hate these needles.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
That's not funny, but okay to me, it is okay,
good luck. We had this crazy good conversation with a dietician.
Her name is Denise and it was our after the
show podcast on Friday. She is a Type one diabetic
and we talked about her diet and the recommended diet
for not just type one and type two diabetics, but
(21:40):
human beings. It was such a great conversation, so many
good takeaways from that, and I think you would be
actually surprised and delighted to know what she had to
say about diet. And so anyway, we talked to her
because she had reached out to us because Murphy is
our Type one diabetic, and you guys really bonded.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
It was really cy So thanks you.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
And that's a natural thing, by the way, because you know,
as we talked about before, it's like we're like four
to five percent of the diabetic population. You're born with
the gene that you know causes that causes it. There's
nothing that you can do. It's not your diet, it's
not anything. It just is a trigger that goes off
one day and it's an autoimmune thing. So running into
someone else who's got that in his insulin dependent, yes,
(22:21):
you automatically bond because you are you have a similar
life experience and you know.
Speaker 3 (22:26):
That most people don't and most people don't understand it.
But it's such a great conversation. Highly recommend you check
out that after the show. Podcast search Murphy, Sam and
Jody anywhere you listen to podcasts and you can dig in.
Speaker 4 (22:37):
It was Fridays after the show. But one of the.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
Things she said that I thought was so interesting. I
wouldn't know this and let type one diabetics know this.
She said, Yeah, always say never waste a good low.
And you laugh so funny and you want to explain
what that means.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
Well, you know, when you give insulin every now and then,
if you have a low blood sugar episode. You've got
to treat that immediately, and you're gonna have to treat
it with something that is all sugar, all sugar. It
can't have them. You can't treat with a candy bar
because a candy bar is what thirty percent fat that
slows everything down. You will not treat it fast enough
if you do that. So it's gonna be everything from
jews to a soda to those awful sugar tablets or whatever.
(23:17):
You know, remember what.
Speaker 4 (23:17):
You've been treating with lately that I stashed in your
office for you here at work.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Oh what those little Yogi's things? All starbars, jelly beans? Yeah,
the sweetish fish too, Yeah, exactly. And so what she
means by that is if you're gonna have to treat,
treat with something that you would enjoy, that you only
wouldn't you know?
Speaker 4 (23:35):
You can have candy when you're low. Your blood sugar
is a lot.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
What's weird about that too, is you know it's just
as a type one. You could eat sweetish fish if
you wanted to on a regular basis, but you would
have to dose to match it, and you can still
maintain your blood sugar. It's just not a great way
to maintain your weight, and.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
Denise address all of that and her beautiful dietitian mind
in that after the show.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
There are a lot of myths around that too. So yeah,
so she was awesome.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
Kids, especially, I want you to hear this if you
experience math anxiety. And you know what, adults, I want
you to hear this too, if you experienced math anxiety.
We mentioned this the other day in Three Things to
know that more than sixty percent of US Americans have
math anxiety.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
It is something that needs to be stopped the earlier.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
It needs to become math confidence or at least math
uh acceptance.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
Acceptance. Yeah, and for me it.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Just became math frustration later, you know. Yes, still I
hit my ceiling at algebra. That was it?
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Really?
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (24:36):
I actually did okay in algebra.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Well, no, I did, Actually I did find an algebra.
It was trigonometry and calculus that were like, okay, I
can't do it. You use every day now, right, yeah exactly,
And look they're engineers. I know that dude use that
every day they do, right.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
So yeah, But the thing is, if it's something that
so many of us, you know, your heart beats faster,
you get a little nervous when you know it's coming
that needs to be stopped early on in life, so
you don't let that stop you from being in the
careers you want to be in, from damaging your own
self esteem about it, because of course you can do math.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Of course you can. There's always an answer.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
And sometimes the biggest problem that's happening early on in
elementary schools when people are when kids are first starting
to learn to use math, is that the teaching style
doesn't necessarily match the kids learning ability or they're learning
style right, And so you need to know that it's
not really you necessarily every time. And if you have
(25:33):
a certain block with something, maybe it's geometry or percentages
or long division or whatever it is, whatever your speed
bump is, it's just that it needs to be explained
to you a different way and you can get it.
Speaker 4 (25:46):
Yeah, you know I can.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
And so when you mentioned geometry, I'm one of those
that I have trouble with picturing the spatial concepts of
three D all that kind of stuff, and I think
that's why I struggled with that. But I'm a linear
thinker too correct and so as I've lived my life
now I understand if there's certain things that aren't in
my wheelhouse, I'll let somebody else help.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Me with that.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
Sure, and that's a thing kids to do in the future.
But if you have to do a test.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
But I'm not saying right exactly right, it's not the
end all be all.
Speaker 4 (26:12):
No, No, it doesn't have to be the word is.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
We all feel that parents feel it when they know
they have to help sometimes with math homework. So it's
a if you're not talking about it, talk about it
as a family and get the help you need.
Speaker 4 (26:23):
Call the family member who can help.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
You know, there's a lot of resources for kids that
weren't always there in the past. They're online tutoring, there's
online help. Most local libraries have, you know, online tutoring
and math problems. Yes, so it is something that needs
to change from anxiety to at least if it can't
be confidence, at least being unafraid of it. If you're
(26:51):
looking to take better care of yourself your mental health,
don't forget about art. And we did a whole after
the show podcast on it the other day. Go back
and look. Listen to the reasons why art is beneficial
for your mental health.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
It works and it breaks out of the rut.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
Doesn't mean you have to paint or sculpt. It means
anything you really soak it in. Jennifer sent this regarding
that commented on that after the show podcast on a whim,
I asked for a paint by number for Christmas, a
painting thing for Christmas from my son, and he got
it for me. It was really enjoyable and relaxing to do.
(27:29):
She sent us the picture of the final work. It's gorgeous.
It looks like the London Bridge. It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
Yeah, I guess adult paint by number is a little
more sophisticated than what we had as kids.
Speaker 4 (27:41):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
So I did one as a kid, paint by number,
and I was so I locked myself in my room
and I did it and it was a kiddy cat ye,
And I was so proud of it.
Speaker 4 (27:51):
And then I showed some family members.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
That's all say, oh, that's terrible.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
And so I judged for it.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
So I never touched supposed to be joony.
Speaker 4 (28:01):
Well, just you know the number part of it. Oh,
pay my numbers.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
We kind of judge ourselves as if that's not really painting,
but it is.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
But you're not good enough. Because you're painting by numbers.
Speaker 4 (28:12):
I guess that's that's what I felt like. Oh were
you there?
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Have you read?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
I just realized though that. You know, when we clean
up my late dad's house, I couldn't find any of
my old art work. Oh, I guess they didn't keep.
Speaker 4 (28:24):
It out, but they kept everything Marpha too.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Oh well, I don't know what I'm laughing at. I
haven't had mine.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
Yet, right anyway, So art is really good for your
mental health, whether that's you doing something creative or if
it's you going to a museum or something like that.
Let it in, especially if you're feeling stressed. You know,
it's it's a natural sort of therapy. Okay, On onward.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
To TV shows that stress you out. Michelle said, Kids
Baking Competition.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
Those kids are crazy talented, But watching that clock tick
down kill me.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
And I can see that that's like gonna just suspense.
Speaker 3 (29:05):
Susie said, this Bob Ross stresses me out because he
paints something perfect and paints over it.
Speaker 4 (29:12):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
I didn't put any highlights on this.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
We feel he doesn't keep his paintings.
Speaker 4 (29:18):
Sometimes he doesn't. I suppose.
Speaker 5 (29:23):
Social media connect we've had.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
A bit of a recurring theme this week, and it's
been beautiful about how art is really good for your
mental health. And it doesn't mean you have to paint
or color or draw. It means go take in a
museum too, or whatever art you enjoy. It's really good
to shut out the noise and it's good for your
mental health. And so I love the conversation. And Tiffany
(29:45):
sent us this email to Murphy Samonjody dot com. Hey, guys, Hey,
I regularly use art in my therapy practice. It's wonderful.
I've lately implemented using I hope I say this word right. Decopage, decopage,
decopas into my sessions. It works so well, especially with
those struggling with ADHD. Being able to smear glue across
(30:08):
pictures and create something helps my clients talk about heavy
issues and offsets other distractions that can impede the process.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
That's really cool. It is so decapage is just the
spreading of glue across images. Do I know what I'm
talking from.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
What I understand. I've never done it, but I think
it's like you taken it. Let's just say you take
a picture of a beautiful flower or something and you
cut it out, and you put it on top of
like a canvas or a board, and then you glue
it on top.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
It's like multi layered art. It's a way to layer it.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
It's a way to seal it right.
Speaker 4 (30:43):
It seals it right.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Okay, we don't know a lot about about decapoge, but anyway.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I got to run the hobby lobby and find out.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
Here's what she says.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
It's excellent because you don't have to be a master
artist to find pictures. We use our hands covered with
rubber gloves to move the glue all around. I bring
in very so old boards or random pieces of glass
and other objects to let my clients choose what they
wish to work on. We both sit and talk and
move glue.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
That's cool.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
I create right along with them. By the time the
session is over, we've made something together, some neat art,
and we've been able to deep dive and explore difficult
issues and topics. I found that using the creative brain
helps so much in a therapeutic setting. Therapeutic setting, therapeutic setting.
(31:32):
It alleviates anxiety and helps divert external forces that sometimes
work to divert attention.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Yeah, it makes perfect sense to me. Yeah, it's even
better now that I know it. Decapolies, I feel so dumb.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
You know what you're doing this weekend?
Speaker 4 (31:45):
She finally said, anyone can do this.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
It's just glue pictures on an old piece of plywood.
Here you go, Okay, thank you, Tiffany,
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