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00:00 r/AITAH - Am I the a-hole for making my daughter's BF buy a new t-shirt?
21:46 r/AmITheAsshole - AITA for not telling my mother that my brother's seeing someone and "humiliating her?”
30:28 r/AmITheAsshole - AITA for telling my sister to grow up?
41:03 r/AmITheAsshole - AITA for refusing to return my late wife’s ring to the family
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Dakota and this is Riley, your favorite
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I made my daughter's boyfriend buy a new shirt because
it was disrespectful.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
What was on it A naked lady.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
The twenty third of December, my daughter's nineteen boyfriend, nineteen
came for dinner. We had a dinner then because he's
going away with his family for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Oh that's nice.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
He arrived, rang the bell and I answered the door,
and came in, took off his jacket, and that's when
I saw it. He was wearing a T shirt that said,
it's not gonna suck itself.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Buddy to family get together.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
You wore that shirt till the family get together? An it.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
The dad is definitely wearing a tie with this like
a vest on kind of thing. You know what I'm
talking about, A Christmas kind of vest business guy.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
I see it. I would really hope he'd be wearing
like a paring shirt. Oh right, no.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
No, this is what he's wearing. This is what he's wearing.
Son's wearing that kid's wearing that, the dad's wearing. Twenty
dollars is twenty dollars. I'm not gay, but twenty dollars
is twenty dollars. That's the shirt he's wearing.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
He just wears a shirt that says I love to suck.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Yeah, let us say it. Yeah, I'm not gay, but
twenty dollars is twenty dollars.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Match made in heaven right there by the way.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
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Speaker 2 (01:26):
I'm Dakota, I'm Riley.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
We're going to talk about whatever this story has in
store for us, and you're going to talk about whatever
you want to talk about in our comments.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
No, you have the freedom.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Those are our roles. That is what we do for
each other, that's what we provide. So Op says, I
took one look at that shirt and I asked him
if he had any money. He said no. And to ask.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Why that is kind of weird.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yeah, I mean you can automatically assume anyone wearing that
shirt probably doesn't have a lot of money.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
And man, you got a dollar, you have any money.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
I was just wondering I might take you up on
your offer. He said no and asked why. I told
him that the shirt showed a marked lack of respect
for both my daughter and my wife. I pulled two
twenties out of my wallet and quietly ushered him back
out the door. Told him there's a Walmart three miles away,
and to buy a more respectful shirt and come back
with it on fair, honestly fair. Yeah, you gave him, man,
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forty dollars of T shirt money.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Dude, that's ten dollars of T shirt money. Thirty dollars
in my pocket.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yeah, five dollars T shirt money.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Oh shoot, dude, I'm.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Going to the dollar store. Mind you. This whole exchange
took place between him and I without an audience.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
That's good. Yeah, I'm sorry, not a scene. Walmart has
some pretty good clothes, they do. They got some nice
dress shirts. You could probably come back in a full
Christmas dinner outfit.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I had most of my work button ups when I
worked in restaurants, so I got him from Walmart. Yeah,
it's nice, totally, totally works. He was gone for fifteen minutes,
came back with a nice polo shirt on. We had
a nice dinner together and nothing was mentioned of the incident. Okay, right,
and that should be the end of the story, but
we have like seven eighths of the story left to read.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Dude, what No? You handled it as a man. Also,
I'm proud of you because this young man, you're giving
him an example what a father would do and what
you would want a father to do.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
It is true. I mean, you know you've handled this flawlessly.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
This is perfect.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
You can't read the it's ain't gonna suck itself shirt.
You can't wear that to family night. You can't wear
that to family dinner. It ain't gonna suck itself? Is insane?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
So the next day my daughter came to me and
her mother and told us what I did humiliated him.
They aren't in breakup territory or anything, and no yelling
or anything of the sort has happened. My wife did
tell me I could have handled it differently, So read it.
Am I wrong for handling it this way? And if so,
how could I have handled it? And there's an edit?
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Dude, your wife didn't back you up. Yeah, that's a
red flag.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I'm gonna read this edit real quick. I'm fifty seven,
ten years away from the funniest number, and a long
haul truck driver, so I know.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
I drive eighteen hundred miles in a knot.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
No, honestly, I think you're you're giving long haul trucker
is a good name here, because I think most people
would presume a long haul trucker would have like ripped
this kid's arms off and beat him with them.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Or been like, hell, yeah, I like that ash truck buddy.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Oh why don't you hone zip son.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I'll help you right now. You're right, your shirt is
very informative to this guy's so much better.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
So as a long haul truck driver, I've had my
share of bad moments. Most of us guys here can
remember stupid things that we did as teens, even into
our twenties. The ones that stand out for me are
the ones where someone didn't react with anger or malice.
They were the ones that someone reacted with constructive kindness,
ones where a quiet redemption was offered, where a mirror
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was quietly held up to my behavior. Those are the
ones I learned from and appreciated the most. Hopefully he
comes out the other side with a new appreciation for
kindness offered quietly and without fanfare. Just my thoughts here
there is an update by my brother. You did everything perfectly.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
It is a humiliating thing, but you didn't do hi
in front of everyone. He gave him forty bucks. Did
he give you any money back? Because I know for
dang sure that Polo did not cost forty dollars now from.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
The Walton store. He does he not understand? Like, first
of all, his humiliation came from himself. He humiliated himself. Yeah,
and also he got saved from the humiliation being way worse.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
You should be grateful for that. You should, yeah. And
you should also have so much respect for this man
because he told you to change.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Dude, this man just saved your social standing with the
entire family. I would love to meet this man on
where is your daughter's brain? By the way, did I
mean did she not know he was where? Hearing that
shirt under the jacket? I can't imagine bringing like you know,
I don't know what the female equivalent of that shirt is.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
But no, no, I know what it is is if a
girl came in with those juicy yoga pants on, or
it says like juicy.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Or that but I mean, like that's even that as
like a brand, like this was a command. This shirt
was basically a command who said, well, take my pants off,
slurt my shit. Well, well, sorry that I didn't mean
to say, sh long, take my pants offing get to what?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Well that I feel like that crazy. I feel like
the pants at a family dinner is like, oh, look
at my juicy flamboyant bombas. I don't know, it have
to be more like kiss me anyways. Anyways, I get
your point.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
It would have to be a shirt that said like,
it's really bad, shirt that says fresh clam chowder and
just an arrow pointing down. That would be like a hey, babe,
you cannot wear that to my dinner with my family.
You one thousand percent can't do that. I'm not letting
anyone wear that shirt.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
That could also be said as a brand. There's no
command this.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Yeah, I mean, I'm still I'm still the point being
not letting that one, not being like, well, I'm gonna
let my partner express themselves however they deem fit.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Yeah, that was god, you know, man, Like you know,
I'm also very disappointing your wife. I think that's the
person I'm mos disappointing.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, I mean who or Op's daughter is.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Also, if this was my daughter, I'd be like, girl,
you were worth more than this than to be sexualized.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Yeah, you know at your own family dinner.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
It's crazy during Christmas and they're making this dinner, and
they're doing this dinner for him because he's he won't
be able to see her daughter for Christmas.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
He's talking about what's something in Christmas? You gotta suck
the yule log?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
I don't know, the candy candy can.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
You gotta suck? Maybe he was talking about all the
ashes in the fireplace that need to be sucked up
before they start the new fire.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
I don't know, man, Yeah, golly anyway.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Update. After reading these comments and listening to everyone's point
of view, I sat my daughter down this morning and
asked her what her boyfriend actually said to her. This
change is my opinion of him.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Oh God, she's probably he's a little.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
He's a little liar.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
He's alloying, he's manipulative, that manipulaly conniving.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Apparently he had not told my daughter what the phrase
was on the shirt, but did tell her accurately what
I said to him, and asked him to do. He
didn't use the word humiliated. That was my daughter's interpretation.
Her rush to defend him came from our examples. Apparently
she's taken note of times I've defended my wife and
vice versa. She also took note of our disagreements in private.
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After the fact, she is going to talk to him
when he gets back tomorrow to follow up on why
he thought the shirt was appropriate for the family setting.
I'll update again after that conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Yes, dude, dude, another point to this dad, because he
raised his daughter right.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Yeah, holy cow, daughter was being lied to, yo, dude.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Also perhaps to you, dad for straightening this out. Yeah,
holy cow, dude. This is a beautiful play by play.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
This is a good playbook of what to do. This
is Oh my gosh, we're seeing we're seeing behind the
curtain on how how the top the top dogs stop
on it. Yeah, the running their ships right now. And
we do have that other update. So my daughter called
him about an hour ago, and this will be informative.
She asked him why he hadn't told her what the
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shirt said when he talked to her. His reply was telling,
he said, because it was embarrassing. Hey, stupid why you
wear it to the dinner?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Dude? You literally could have never ever spoken about this again,
and it would have been between Manda Man. Yeah, Manda Man.
But you had a lie.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
You had to You just had to go and fibre yourself,
didn't you. Boy? I mean, my guy.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
This is a boy. He could have been a man boy,
but he failed the man test.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Then she went on to ask him why he wore
it originally, and he admitted that the shirt had been
a gift from his older brother twenty one, and that
the older brother had dared him to and called him
chicken when he objected, etc. Whose dumb sibling crap?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Apparently I don't believe that.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I mean, that would be pretty dumb.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I wouldn't believe it at all.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
She went on to tell him that none of what
he'd done was cool, and that she really liked him
and that he'd always been kind to her. She said
she wasn't breaking up with him, but that these steps
needed to be done. First, he needed to explain to
his parents the entire situation. Second, he needed to show
up in person to our home and bring the money
for the shirt, and, as she put it, put in
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a home butt kissing session that included the explanation of
the dare et cetera. She said that if this was
handled well, they could talk about moving forward and what
that would look like. Fair, fair, fair, fair, balanced, balanced
and fair.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
You're gonna it's gonna be a very uncomfortable hour. No, no,
uncomfortable day, uncomfortable twenty minutes. You just have to bear,
like twenty minutes, maybe maybe ten.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
I think you can get this done in ten minutes,
ten minutes, ten minute combo, ten minute conversation.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Excruciating, but it can be done. Yep. And are you
believing this sibling thing?
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Well, I mean, you wouldn't have done this to one
of your younger siblings.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I wouldn't have.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
You would have tried. You wouldn't tried to get I
would have tried. You wouldn't have tried to get them
to wear your lesbians eat what shirt? Yeah, you totally would.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
If I knew the family, they'd be like, no, Riley,
I can't. You'd be like, come on, come on, come
on rider.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Don't you want them to think that you're funny?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Yeah? I don't know. It's just the way that he
lied earlier. I don't know if I believe this.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, anything that comes out of his mouth, it's a
reliable cover. Yeah, I'm just not taking that jacket off.
If I'm him, I'm like, oh no, I'm a col
I run cold. I'm run I'm running, I run cold.
I'll keep my jacket on the.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Amount of times I've worn that shirt on. Like guest meetings,
they just eat lesbians.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
They're like, oh, this guy's an ally. Anyway, after the
phone call, she talked to her mom and I and
admitted that she forgot her worth. She said that I,
as long as she had been alive, had never gone
out of my way to embarrass her mom, and that
I'd always been respectful and not let anyone be disrespectful
to her mom. And that made me feel good. So
she wasn't going to sell for less good for her.
(12:14):
I'll update after her visit later tomorrow afternoon. All right,
and there's an update number three.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Dude.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
She's broken up, she's moving on, she's starting a business.
She's becoming an accountant at this point.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Yeah, she's probably becoming a millionaire because of how great
this dad did it raising her.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
She's touring the facility and picking up slack.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Speaking out her next warehouse for her factory, and she's
making very thin walls on the outers of it so
it can expand easier.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
And she's got a short skirt and a long jacket.
That was that you didn't catch the touring the facility
and picking up slack. That was a That was a
line in the Cake song song Yeah long jacket Cake
like girl who knows what's best?
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got you, I got you bound.
It's been a minute, bound.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
It's been too long, man, when's Cake gonna come back?
Update three? This will make those of you following this
saga laugh. I received a call this evening from mister
boyfriend's parents. Firstly, they are mortified and extremely apologetic. Secondly,
and the whole best part of this update, which I
have their permission to share, is that his parents are
on Reddit and commented on my post in support of
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the way I handled the situation. They were like, that
was you, That was our kid, and that was you. No. Oh,
man and his boyfriend can't catch a break.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
D Oh my god, dude, imagine getting home like they
already know what you've done. Once they connected the dots
and it's like we already we understand what's happened?
Speaker 1 (13:58):
But he comes home and they're like, didn't your brother
give you like a novelty shirt the other day? What
did that say?
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Again? This is so funny.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
They told me that they love my daughter and that
we had raised her right and had not raised their
sons to show this level of disrespect for anyone, let
alone his girlfriend. Apparently, boyfriend was following up on one
of my daughter's conditions and went to talk to his parents.
As the story unfolded, his mom reached for her phone,
opened to Reddit, and yelled, is this about you?
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Yeah, yeah, what a revelation, to quote his dad. As
the son read the first half paragraph, he passed away
a little on the inside. So anyways, they're going to
come to dinner tomorrow evening with boyfriend. More updates tomorrow night,
and we have more updates.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
People, Stop it, dude. I haven't equally I think worse,
No way worse. I have an equally way worse story
that had happened the same beats as this, I'll tell.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
You, and yes, hell yeah, dude. Update number four. Dinner
was very pleasant. Let me say that his parents are great.
Boyfriend showed up with red roses for my daughter and
yellow roses for my wife. Whoa roses for the wife
that's bold. He offered what I thought was a very
sincere apology and the card with the entire forty dollars
in it, even though he had given me the change
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and receipt on the original night. I cooked tonight to
give my wife a break. I made an Indian dish
called buttered chicken with buzsmati rice. Neither had to eaten
curry before. Oh, but I loved it.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
That's good. Wow. Wow. I was thinking, Oh, what if
it was like butter chicken.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Buttered chicken. Buttered chicken the most inaccessible form of chicken,
and for the Western palate, the buttered chicken.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I love it, dude. I had some baller chicken last night.
I'm gonna have to bring it tomorrow and have you
guys try it. It's really good.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
There's a restaurant down the street from our place.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Indian food. I think I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
No, it's like a Nepalese place. Oh so good.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Sounds good.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yeah. As it turns out, older brother is the family
athlete JV soccer varsity soccer in a sports scholarship for
soccer is a quintessential jock. Little brother is the exact opposite.
He's artistic and has real talent, sensitive, quiet, and felt
like he never measured up to big brother and works
to gain big brother's respect.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
I see ya, yes, yes, yes, yes, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, this could never be you because you'd be too
good of a brother me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I mean I was pretty athletic and also the artistic one.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
So yeah, but yeah, yeah, you'd never be like, you
can't square up to me. Boy, you'd be like, well,
you'd be like you've got it, bro, like super talented.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I was pretty pretty rough on tape up until he
got bigger than me. Then I kind of backed off.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
That's how that's the law of the jungle right there.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Yeah. But then but then sometimes he comes up to
me and I have to show him, hey, I can
still beat you up. Yeah, but we're good now now now,
little brother sawyer he's doing that. I might have to
hit him in the gut just so he can calm
down a bit.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
He's taller than you know, he's like six or eight colly.
He was soon crazy.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Okay, so we got so weird food. Brother brother bullies him.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Yeah, brother takes full advantage of this and exploits his
little brother for his own amusement. Near the end of dinner,
daughter says, I think I'll keep him around for a
little longer. You guys okay with that? I hate that
expression so much. We are good with that for now.
His mom is the boss though, for thinking outside the box.
As punishment to older brother, mom went into his clothing
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drawers and closet, took every shirt off of him and
bought him eight very bright pink T shirts that he'll
wear until he realizes just how damaging exploiting someone anyone is.
His access to cash is also cut off until said
lesson is learned. I don't like that anyway.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
I don't know about the bright pink shirts. Maybe like
just T shirt and white T shirt and jeans.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Yeah, James Dinamo.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Yeah, I don't know, bright pink like humiliation factor.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Yeah, I feel like that's just gonna lead to retribution.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
Yeah, you know, honestly, I probably would have took some
notes from these parents, been like, what do you guys think?
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Yeah, what would you guys do as the big dogs?
As the top dogs?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Yeah? Yeah, you gotta learn. These are like parents that
like apparently are not top dogs because their kid did
this and they went a little over the line.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Yeah these are not these are bottom dogs. Anyway, a
successful night with new friends was enjoyed. I hope this
was the update you hoped for. And there is another update.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Wait, how far in are we?
Speaker 1 (18:36):
We're getting closer to the end. Oh, I think we've
got We've got two more updates.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Wow, I thought we like we're halfway through. I was like,
how long is this T shirt song gonna go?
Speaker 1 (18:46):
We're pulling up. We're pulling up Update five. Just to
give you some info. Older brother has been much better
for the last little bit and actually enjoys the pink.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Sure, I knew that was gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Apparently his girlfriend likes them and he he's gotten a
few compliments. Rights. That was my other thought was, it's
like a backfire. Yeah, you're just gonna make him like
the cool guy who doesn't care, which is like the
coolest thing.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
You can be. It's not care.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Yeah, it's hard to do. My lovely daughter is more
than ready to go back for her spring semester. Boyfriend
has been around the house more and has been very respectful.
The two of them read the comments here and she
teases him. I know they're technically adults, but my wife
and I insist on the door being open in any
room they occupy together. Nothing is derailing her education. Nice
(19:35):
and her older brother are amazing scholars and we are
immensely proud of them. My wife is a teacher with
thirty years experience, and I'm a truck driver for twenty
five years. But I'm also educated with a degree in
clinical psychology. Anyway, I'm rambling.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Take care he doesn't want to leave us.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
We do have a final update coming up.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Fair dude, dang wow.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I want these parents to write a book.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
How to to be parenting big dog one on one.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
The teacher and the truck driver colon how to beat
the big dogs when it comes to parenting your little dogs.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
And like your gosh. I feel like with books like that,
you need your like success stories. You know, I want to
talking about like your testimony high Yeah, your highlights, and
you're just psych Here's my daughter, she makes a million
dollars a year, and this is how your kid can too.
Here's my daughter, she is a millionaire.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Her boyfriend made a mistake and she made him pay
penance for it.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
And this is how she became a millionaire.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Yes, when we've got an update, we've got a six update.
My daughter, son and my daughter's boyfriend head back to
school this next weekend. I missed them immensely when they're gone,
but I'm so proud and excited for their futures. Boyfriend
has been very respectful and shows real kindness. His parents
and older brother came for dinner last weekend. Again, we
are becoming quick friends, so things are going very well.
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Thank you all so very much from both my wife
and I for the kind words.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Are cute parent friends.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Parent friends, parends.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
So if this kid did not do this, they'd be
missing out. Also, it showed that the guy liked the
daughter a lot.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Yeah, and it shows that, you know, maybe we're learning
the lesson that we don't just have to listen to
our older brother all the time. Even though lusaka player.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I don't know about that. I think we should listen
to our older brothers.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Especially when your last name is Wilson. Yes, mis rat,
he listened to your oldest brother.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Don't forget about that.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Even though he's your shortest brother.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I will be the shortest pretty soon, give it ten years.
I'll be short, but we're gonna get to the next story.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
My dude's you're saving all your height to pass on
to your child.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
And they're not. They're using it all.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
You're gonna have a seven foot five American Wemba Yama.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
My mom humiliated my brother's new girlfriend, and the blame
is on me to a fault for being born. My
mal thirty one brother has a broken off long term relationship.
He decided to see a therapist to help with his
depression and that has helped him tremendously. My mother and
I don't have a relationship. My brother and I are
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low contact with her. She's very upset about him breaking
his engagement. Previously, not once did she call to see
how he was coping. She only called to berat him.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
She called him to say, you should be ashamed of yourself, lovely,
that's what moms are for shame.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
By the way, this comes from a remarkable Bison sixty
nine And if you want to submit your own stories,
go with the r slash okay story on subreddits. I'm Riley,
I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Schoofully,
we don't have all the answers but if you do,
please put them down below. Anop says, my brother met
someone Anna at a party we went to. They hit
off in one on a few dates. He asked me
to keep this to myself and that he was doing
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things at his own pace.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
The Pacer, the Indiana.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Yesterday, I get a call from my mother asking me
if I knew that my brother was seeing someone. She
said she saw him with Anna at a restaurant and
confronted him. So that's what you do? What about that?
To other girl, saying what happened at her?
Speaker 1 (23:02):
Oh the one I broke up with?
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Yeah, okay, mom, you're not really being a great wingman
right now. Mom, Mom, stop it.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Stop being ack.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
My brother freaked out and left Anna at the restaurant.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Well it's you, don't you also? Don't you do? You
don't do that either. You just just just just something
you don't do.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
I tell her that his love life is none of
her business, and she responded by saying that I manipulated
her only son into breaking off his engagements. I just
hung up and called Anna to see if she needed help.
She asked me to come pick her up. Oh so
this just happened?
Speaker 1 (23:36):
Is actively happening right now.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Yeah, And as the story is being told, so Mom
confronts calls Opie and he's like, I'll come pick you up. Now,
that's crazy. When I get to the restaurant, I see
her outside getting screamed at by my mother. She was
with a family friend, calling her a home wrecker, which
gold digger. And I got my car. My mother came
to my car and banged on the windows. People were
staring now and my mom literally put herself in front
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of my car to block our way. I got out
of the car, grabbed her by the arm, and pushed
her away. She couldn't get a word in because I
was yelling about how she's a pathetic excuse of a
mother and that all her children ever hate her, and
she's the only reason that my brother didn't want to
tell her he's seeing someone. Oh my, what is this.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
She sounds like she needs to go to elite parent school.
She is very very small dog, tiny little dog parent.
She needs to be a big dog.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, this is what the bottom one percent looks like.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yeah, we need up her, We need we need to
up our percents.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Hmm, that's what the bell curve. Yeah, at the end
My mother was speechless for a second and we just
left poor Anna. Anna was shaking, so I decided to
bring her over to our house. This is all the set,
so there's all the way to get to Anna. You
wanted Anna the whole time. My brother locked himself into
his room and didn't want to talk to anyone. We
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just sat Anna down, and when she got her bearing,
she decided to at home. My partner dropped her off
at her house. The next day, I get a voicemail
from my mother telling me that I humiliated her in
front of her friend by telling lies and slandering her reputation,
and that I assaulted her.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Well, actually, mod's that's battery.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I pushed you get a right.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Yeah, I did the thing I it wasn't the threat
of doing it.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
I'm getting calls from family saying that I should have
never spoken to my mother like that, and that it
affected my poor mother's mental health.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Sounds like there was already a lot affecting that before
we showed up.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
All right, some of our extended family didn't know why
my brother ended his engagement, but they're all taking my
mother's side now. Probably should have videotaped it, that's sad
to even say.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Yeah, she'd have had the body camera on, dude.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Good lock in. That would have saved you. I only
feel bad because my brother is also getting bombarded by
calls and text saying he let his ex down, that
he was hurting his mother so much that he should
be ashamed. I feel like we're back at square one
now because I chose to confront my mother. I tried
to get him to make an appointment with this therapist
this week, but he's been ghosting me. I feel like
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this turn of events could have been avoided if I
didn't confront my mother and just left with Anna, and
that it made Anna an even bigger target for my
mother because she was with me when I exploded. Am
I the a hole here? I think anything you would
have done she would have made fun of you for
so no.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
I know, yeah, clearly the one who's the able here
is your mom. Yeah. I know. We can't be held
responsible for the way our mom is.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
She's an adult. She literally birthed you, so yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
If I had to put you both on the scale
and weigh you, she would be the much larger, stinkier person.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Dude, I thought about doing that with a game show.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
But like weighing each other.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
No, no, like getting a weight, like two weights. Cut a
banana in half? What so you get a banana, you
cut it where he thinks in the middle, and you
try to like evenly cut it, and then you like
measure the grounds.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Oh that's interesting. Yeah, I got so mini games we
could do like that. I like that edit.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Thank you all to those that answered. I have to
take care of exam week for my students, so I
don't have time to edit before now, so much organizing
to do. I who hardly agreed that my brother was
also an a hole, but I know that he acted
recklessly because he couldn't deal with the situation emotionally. He
finally decided to see his therapist again. I read over
every comment and we'll try to answer the most I can.
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My mother did not press charges for me grabbing her arm,
but I agree with the comment saying I shouldn't have
done that. Thank you all for the update. I mean
you had to get her out of the way of
your car. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Yeah, some people need a gentle push in the right direction.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Mm hmm or out of the direction of your car. Yeah,
I said, I just wanted to show you. You should
be over here. Yeah, stay here. Update. I've decided to
go full no contact with my mother, and all my
siblings have decided to do the same after they heard
about what had happened. Obviously, my mother is not pleased
with this, and it's telling everyone I demonized her.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
I think it was your demons that demonized you, girl. Yeah,
it was the demons you got inside you.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
I tried chucking holy water at her. We'll never know.
I'm moving out of the country for a job opportunity
with my current partner. Frankly, I feel like putting as
much distance between me and my mother is going to
be the best outcome for everyone. Like how he's satting
out of.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Town sending out of the country. He's said into a
new hemisphere.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Where the toilet swirls deal got to be.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
A really bad for it to be explicitly, I need
to maximize the distance between me and my mother. That
is what is best for everyone involved. It'd be pretty
bad for that to be the case.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
It was wild. We're moving in in about two months
to Switzerland. Oh wow. And I and my brother have
spoken about what he did. He's apologized and told her
that he thought at the time that he was ready
to move on and be his normal self again, but
he realized that he needs way more help. He apologized
profusely for what he did to her, and he would
understand if she didn't want to speak to him again.
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He's regularly been seeing his therapists and has cut contact
with her mother, and it was hesitant at first, but
decided to forgive them. Oh, and they've decided that being
friends would be better off for them. We're all meeting
siblings and friends for a New Year's Eve party tonight,
and we'll have fun or not since we're extremely competitive
when it comes to board games and things get heated
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in a good way. So I feel like it's a
happy ending for everyone except my mother. I feel a
bit bad saying this, but that makes me happy.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Dude. No, I feel bad for you saying that.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Man, what the heck? That's I mean, sounds like she
has tormented you and her brother for a while now.
That is also true. I imagine, like making a scene
at a restaurant.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
I kind of think of if I've ever done such
a thing in my life.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
No, not a public space. I mean I know a
family relative that could have, but they are now passed away.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I think the closest thing I've come to make in
a scene in the restaurant would probably be arguing with
my own mom at oh god, yeah, yeah, that is
what happened. Mm hmm yep, dang, I can't even remember
what it was about.
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Speaker 1 (30:28):
I told my sister to grow up over her grudge
and most lost her.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
Now she's holding it against you.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Hmmm, let's find out if we're going to read this.
I am twenty eight male and my sister is twenty
five female. We did not get along as kids. She
was the typical annoying little sister and I was the
mean older brother. I teased her a lot growing up,
but I did my best to make sure that if
I did tease her or if we did have a fight,
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I said sorry or made her feel like I didn't
mean any of it.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Cute.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
I never wanted her to go to bed thinking we
were not on good terms. By the way, this comes
from us your brubber grudge. If you want us to
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Speaker 2 (31:09):
I'm Dakota, I'm Riley Weir.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
We're gonna yap about this story. We're gonna give our
take on it. But you know what, we haven't been
in this situation. So if you got any insights, let
us know in the comments. Let us know what they are.
Oh P says She moved out when I was twenty two, Okay,
Taylor Swift and she was nineteen. I went to her
farewell party, and I really thought we were good. I
never apologized for what I did, but I was proud
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of her for going to college. We stayed in contact
about once a month, just saying how our lives were going.
We weren't close, but we weren't pushing it, and I
enjoyed seeing her tell me what was going on in
her life.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
She came back for Thanksgiving when I was twenty three
and she was twenty and it went well. I saw
her in person one more time at Christmas when I
was twenty five and she was twenty two. I didn't
go to any family holidays on my side for like
three years since I got really serious with my SOO.
We got engaged two months ago, and I went to
her family's place for those holidays since we lived closer.
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday and I haven't seen him
in person for a few years, so I spent quite
a bit of money to have me and my significant
other fly down to their house and stay the week.
My sister was there too, and I was happy to
see her in person again and have her meet my partner.
The whole party was fine, and I know my parents
were happy that both their kids were together in their
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house again. At night, when my parents went to bed,
I was having a drinky poo with my sister while
my partner was going to the store for breakfast items.
All Right, the subject of our past years somehow came up,
and I told her I felt bad and was sorry
for any troubles I gave her. During that time, I
could tell she was kind of miffed, and I don't
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know if it was the booze talking, but she basically
said that once our parents pass away, she doesn't want
much to do with me because of how much of
a butt I was when we were kids.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
Oh interesting, dang you. This is what happens when you
don't talk as siblings, resentment. It's a big shock.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
I mean, yeah, I can't really fault either party here.
I mean well, I mean we can fault op for
having been the mean boy. But it's like, you know,
I don't know. I guess we need more info.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
More info, perspective. What exactly she's holding against you?
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Yeah? What did you do? Yeah? What exactly did you do? Anyway?
I was shocked when she said that, because I thought
we both had moved on from that and had a
loving and caring yet distant relationship. I didn't even know
what to say, and I was and still am heartbroken
because I do love her and always wanted us to
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at least be caring towards each other. Her basically saying
she has no desire to do much with me really hurt.
I finally got it out and said, what we did
as kids was years ago, and if you're still on
about that, then you just need to grow up. Ooh,
that's a bad way to apologize. I'm sorry for how
I treated you, but it shouldn't be the basis of
why you hate me now. Yeah, you kind of really
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were off the mark with that being an apology.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Mm hmmm hmm. I mean I get your sentiment, but
if she's holding something against you, you should probably flesh it out.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Yeah, you can't be like, oh, you're stupid for feeling
this way and you need to not feel that way
because it's the dumb way to feel. And I'm right, mikes. Yeah.
She didn't say anything after that, but are you done?
And then she went to bed. The next day she
talked to me like nothing happened, and I was weirded
out by that, but didn't want to make a scene
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in front of our parents, who still have the view
of us being close. So Reredditt, I asked you, am
I the a hole for telling my sister to grow
up after she's held on to grudges that have been
like ten plus years old and there is an update
and I would say.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Yeah, yeah, some helpful context is to know what grudges
she has against you. Some of these grudges may need
more than a just grow up.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Yeah, And it's like, look, were you the a hole
for the stuff you did like as a kid? Essentially,
like it's like, you know, so common for siblings to
go through that. I wouldn't even necessarily say you're an
able for that, But for the one specific context you
asked about, which was essentially the way you phrased your
apology to your sister, Yeah, you were wrong for that.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
If take came up to me said I don't want
to play basketball with you anymore because all the time
you beat me as a kid, then I would be like,
grow up, man, that was ten years ago. You're better
than you were then. Yeah, we can still play.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
But if he was like, I don't want you to
be around my family because of the way you made
me feel and the way you treated me as a child,
let's talk it out, you would go, oh my god,
I had no idea you felt that way. Still, I
look back on that with regret.
Speaker 2 (35:59):
Regret, and you know, oh, he didn't do did not
take accountability at all, zero percent. He said, I'm sorry,
I'm sorry, but I'm sorry, but you shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Feel this way.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
No, no, no, she's she won. She's putting herself out there.
You should probably actually talk with her. What the heck?
Speaker 1 (36:15):
If you really do feel sorry, you need to say it.
Uh huh, Because I mean you say that you do
your response felt like, you don't dude.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
We weren't taught how to really actually say sorry. No. Yeah,
it was just like you say sorry, you say it's okay,
and you live on with life. It's complicated that up date.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
So this has a really happy ending.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Oh I needed directylert okie.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I hope that's not sarcastic. A day or two later,
after she blew up on me and I told her
to grow up, me and her had another sit down
and I just listened. Turns out she hated how I
was never there for her, and I will admit I wasn't.
I just left the state as soon as I could
and didn't even try to come back other than for holidays.
She also said she wished I called her more. She
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would text me on social media and would call me,
but it wasn't that one week thing. So I just
didn't answer, and I felt horrible. Most of you all
said I was the ahle and that I should just
hear what she has to say and apologize. I could
tell she was tearing up, so I did something I
hadn't done since we were children. I just flat out
hugged her and let her cry on me. Bro, you
hadn't hugged your sister since you were children darks. Yeah,
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talk about close but distant in your head. Yeah, great,
googly moogli. At the end of it, I apologized and
promised to do a better job, but I asked her
to please give me another chance to be a good brother.
She agreed to that. For the past month, I've texted
her every other day and called weekly. It's effort and
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it's actually working. I won't say we are as close
as we were as kids, but it's good and I
enjoy talking to her now. It's cool to know stuff
about her so we can coordinate things for our parents
without having them stress about anything. I'm currently in town
for Thanksgiving and she and her partner have been very
generous in allowing me and my partner to stay at
her place for the week. Thank you for all the
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comments in for calling me the a hole for being
so petty to my sister. It pretty much saved the relationship.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
This is sweet. I'm glad that he actually took He's
being humble. You need to be humble in the scenarios.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Sometimes the solution is to listen to women who would
have thought.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Just to listen.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
In general, who would have thought that listening to women
could solve problems?
Speaker 2 (38:30):
Guess you wouldn't have.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Like, well that The sarcasm is that you should very
obviously listen to women. They're very smart m hm, and
we should listen to them.
Speaker 2 (38:40):
I like women.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
You're a woman doctor.
Speaker 2 (38:43):
That's right.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Categorically, yes, yeah, categorrectally. There's an edit here. The reason
they have never heard from me for five years is
because I had a substance use disorder and they booted
me out. I was hurt and scared and hated my
parents because of it, and I grouped my sister in
with them. About five years later, I realized how much
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of a spoiled little nuisance I was and reconnected with them.
My parents were happy, but my sister wasn't. But I
was able to talk her into giving me another chance,
and now we're pretty good.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Oh wow, that is very helpful context. Yeah, we do.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
We get some context there, and that is some good
context that informs us a lot.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Yeah. I love that we get to the end of
these stories sometimes and they just drop a bomb like
oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, and would have been useful.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah, that would have been useful context to have the
entire time things. Well, we do have some comments to
finish it off coming. Number one, not gonna lie. My
eyes bugged out of my head when I first read
the post and you said that you hadn't seen your
sister in years and that you never go to family
holidays because you got close with your so Just for
the record, people usually don't ditch their entire family for
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years unless they hate them. I can see why your
sister was extremely offendive. Comment to says, my brother did
this and we didn't see him for so seven years
and he wasn't but thirty minutes away. Turns out he
was miserable. When my husband saw him in a store
one day and told him everyone missed him and would
welcome him back with open arms, he left her and
came back. If your ESSO is keeping you from family
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and your family isn't bad people, you should worry. Yeah,
op says my SOO actually asked me on numerous occasions
to go visit my family. I was just in a dumb,
angry state of mind and that is the end of
that story. And ain't that the truth that the dumb,
angry state of mind will keep you from a lot
of stuff?
Speaker 2 (40:33):
That's good. That's good.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Namely, yeah, of your family. It can keep you from
your friends, your career, your loved ones.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
You really have to have a significant other that supports you.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Yeah, have a significant other who points out when you're
in an angry, dumb state of mind. You have to Yeah,
you're dumb and angry. You don't want to be dangry.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
Angry because you'll look angry and angry is a stupid
word because it's not real.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
How Well, we got another story coming up right now.
My late wife's family wanted her ring, but I won't
give it back. It's literally on my finger.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
I female thirty married my wife, female thirty six a
year ago. Lesbian couple Alert, Lesbian couple alert A. These
are two women, not the U haul. No. We had
been together six years, married for one before she passed.
It has been a really rocky time for me and
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I'm still struggling but getting there day by day.
Speaker 1 (41:33):
Well, you know, good news is you're a strong lesbian.
Speaker 2 (41:36):
That's right, and you're beautiful. By the way, this comes
from sports Representative six. And if you want to speak
your own stories are the are slash okay stories on subreddits.
I'm Riley. I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Goofully,
and you're here to comment. Hope. He says. My wife
had been close with her grandmother when she was growing up,
and when she passed away, her grandmother left a beautiful
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ring which had been in the family for generations. My
wife used this ring to propose to me, and it
became my wedding ring. I have worn it every day
since she gave it to me, and it is truly
the most precious item from her. Feels like she is
with me always, and when I look at it, it
brings my heart some happiness to remember our time together. Oh,
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we stop stop making me sad, Please cut the onions here.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
I'm already gonna say this is a very nuanced issue,
clearly because yes, that was your wife, but that was
also their daughter and sister and cousin and all that
and the ring being in the family for multiple generations.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
Ah, this is true.
Speaker 1 (42:42):
It does feel like maybe it should return, oh when
someone could make use of it, you know.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
Interesting. I disagree, Okay, I disagree. Goes on the other
side of the fence here. My wife even spent money
on the ring to get it restored as I had
a few cosmetic faults, but by doing this more or
less doubled the value of the ring too. It's very
unique and shaped like a snake with a diamond in
its head and rubies for the eyes. The diamond was
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cracked and the blue enamel needed repairing what she did
before proposing. My brother in law has now decided to
propose to his girlfriend and he wants to make use
of the snake ring as her grandmother wanted the ring
to be used as an engagement ring for when one
of her grandchildren wanted to get married, a first come,
first surf situation, although it was never really expected her
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granddaughter would be doing the proposing because it was always
assumed the boys would offer it to their girlfriends. But
my wife got there and did it first and that
was that. So a couple thoughts, you want to go
back on what you said or no? Well, first of all,
that ring sounds sick. Yeah, that's a dope ring.
Speaker 1 (43:50):
I want. That ring also really doesn't feel like a
ring you proposed to someone with.
Speaker 2 (43:55):
That's a family thing, like a snake effigy with like
a diamond in its head and red eyes like I
wouldn't do that with my family.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
It doesn't. It doesn't feel like it just doesn't.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
It doesn't say love, it doesn't say romance.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
No, it just feels I don't know, it feels that's
just like a cool thing.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Is your family just like all gothic that would check
out more say, everyone in your family's somehow goth that
that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
I'm keeping that ring, man, you're keeping it. I'm keeping
that ring. Yeah too, cool man.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
She went through and she restored it. It doubled the price,
and that's a gift from grandmother to her to uopie.
No one has any right to want it back.
Speaker 1 (44:37):
Maybe you can get somebody to make it and make
one that looks like that.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
Yeah, given to them. It was never really questioned either,
as my wife and she had been so close to
nobody had any objections at the time, as the ring
was still within the family and neither of my brother
in laws were anywhere near getting engaged. I refuse to
give the ring back now, and I've caused a huge
rift with my family in law. My mother in law
and brother in laws are calling me an a. They
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want the ring to continue being a part of their
family and to be passed down in the generations as
they were suspected to. I'm distraught. My wife and I
were not big sentimental gift giffs, and this honestly is
the only thing she was truly proud to givet me.
It was a huge deal for us and meant the
world to both of us, and they want to pass
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it down to generations if that was like the reasoning
the grandmother should have given it to a guy instead
of you know, the.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
I think something can be arranged. Really, I think you
can make an arrangement that it's like maybe.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
After I pass I give it to one of your kids.
Speaker 1 (45:36):
Yeah, if you don't have any kids, maybe the ring
goes back into their family or something. I could see that, Like,
not for this round, but it's like whenever the guys
get married and then they have their families and they
have kids, maybe you can give the ring back then
give it to one of their kids. Oh yeah, But
it's like just because I would be really insulted because
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it's almost like the vibe would be like, oh, so
because she passed away, she just like didn't ever exist,
and we can just pretend like she didn't get engaged
to me and marry me and give me this ring
and we can just pretend like we can just give
it back.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
If that never happened, I would be very I would
probably be pretty insulted.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Yeah. No, no, no, that is insulting.
Speaker 1 (46:13):
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Speaker 2 (46:20):
My family in law have also thrown in my face
that the grandmother wanted me to have it since she
was Russian and would have very been much against the
same spicy sleep couple. This really hurt me. It feels
like a low blow, although it's definitely true. I accepted
my family in law. The grandmother had been long gone
before I met my wife. They are now saying that
it should go to the boys as intended.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
It's all, wait, okay, so why do we care what
the bigot thought? Do you know what I mean? Where
it's like, oh, it's like, well, like imagine the context
is the same, but it's like, well, grandma was racist,
so I don't know because you're not the same color
as us. You need to give the ring back because
Grandma wouldn't have liked that. It's like, where do we
stop with that? Right, the whims of the dead? Where
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do we quit?
Speaker 2 (47:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Also you could pull out Well, guess what. My wife
is also no longer with us. I think she would
want me to keep the ring.
Speaker 2 (47:14):
Huh. She's a generation closer and she proposed to me.
So yeah. Uh, it's all gotten really nasty and I
just don't know what to do. The family have offered
to buy the ring off me for the full value
of the ring with the repairs, but I refuse. It's
the only thing I have with my wife, and parting
with it feels like the only piece I have left
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of my broken heart being taken away. Am on the
a hole simple? No, Nah, that was gifted to you.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
But it is complicated, and it does make sense why
they're upset with you.
Speaker 2 (47:46):
Yeah, because it's.
Speaker 1 (47:48):
Just an untenable situation. But I think you could make
that contract where it's like down the line. Yeah, the
boys aren't going to get it this generation, but I
will leave it to y'all's children and it can come
back to the family. But like you said, that is
the last thing connecting you to your deceased partner.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
Yeah, so just don't keep it, man, edit. No, my
wife and I do not have children. Grandma definitely wouldn't
have accepted the relationship. She was very old fashioned. So
shall we say. There were a lot of comments about
leaving the ring in my will, which I think is
a great idea, which you've been talking about. I hadn't
been able to think clearly since it all happened, because
I felt stricken with grief again after the shock of
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being asked. I am going to speak with mother in
law and brother in law asap to see if I
can offer the ring to the brother in law's future
children in my will. I don't want to part the
family from the ring, but I don't want to part
with it in my lifetime, so I'm hoping this will
be resolved. I will post an update as soon as
I've spoken to everyone for those who have been mentioned
about giving it up if I remarry, I couldn't possibly
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answer this question at this point in time. My grief
is blinding. To think about loving anyone else in this
world feels absolutely impossible. We have an update a month later,
she's taking your advice.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
And she's getting married.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
It's been a month she's she has gone through the
grief she's moved in. You're getting married.
Speaker 1 (49:13):
This update is going to be about where the cheapest
place to rent the U haul is. No, I'm just kidding.
I'm just so waking at clever observation about the nature
of same sex female relationships.
Speaker 2 (49:25):
Way Uber has a deal that I can get a
delivery truck to my place and to the other person's place.
Speaker 1 (49:32):
You all should do that, honestly. Yeah, you all should
just be an app and it shows up. You all
should just be the next way.
Speaker 2 (49:38):
Mo honestly for moving.
Speaker 1 (49:39):
Yeah, honestly, robo movers. That will be the a jillion
dollar industry. We should get into that, robot movers. There
we go, that's our business plan. Update A month later,
since my last post, my sister in law and I
have talked regarding the rink. She has been my mediator
and we were always good friends. She agreed from the
beginning that I should keep the ring. We met up
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to discuss things and face to face, without the pressure
of the rest.
Speaker 2 (50:04):
Of the family breathing down my neck, we were able
to discuss the rink and its future. I told her
about my Reddit post and the advice I had been given,
and that I would be very happy to leave the
ring in my will for the first niece or nephew
born to the family.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
Okay, okay, that's a perfectly acceptable plan.
Speaker 2 (50:23):
I think, so that it'll go back into the family eventually.
I told my sister in law between her and I
that if I marry at some point, I feel that
I'm able to part with it then and maybe sooner.
But I definitely didn't want that in writing. I said
that I'm happy to draw up said contracts and will
and relevant copies for this agreement before my departure. Sister
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in law totally agreed with the proposal, and once the
business conversation was out of the way, she told me
that this was the spark that lit this horrendous fire.
Father in law never got on with my late wife,
and especially not with me. The ring is from his
side of the family. He was always very greedy nature, and
although he despised his mother, he despised the fact that
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something of value that deemed his inheritance has been taken
away from him. That and he is an openly closet
guard too. He hated my late wife for it, and
apparently when he found out what his mother's wishes for
the ring was he lost his mind even though he
is an only child and inherited a small fortune from
her after my wife passed, he saw it as an
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opportunity to get the ring back and her asked the
family to go get it, no banner, what it takes. Cisylond.
Brother in law don't even want it for his fiance,
but they are all scared of father in law. Citis
in law said that she is so glad that I
am moving home to be with my family. We shared
a lot of tears and it was so good to
talk about my wife with her. Luckily, and hopefully for
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all of us, Cister in law shouldn't be too long
before she has her first child with her husband, as
they just started trying. Sister in law and I talked
again over the after the relevant information was related to
the family. Apparently father in law is still raging, but
she said she could see in her brother in law
and mother in law relief on their faces. Apparently father
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in law really lost his mind, which told him I'm
moving back home, believing the ring will forever be lost,
even though the paperwork and et cetera is all getting
in order nicely, I wanted to finish this by thanking
everyone for your kind words, especially relating to losing my wife.
She would have been so touched to have seen so
many supportive, kind people out there. It's been a hard
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time for me, but knowing there are good people out
there in the world gives me much hope. Wow, that
one ended kind of home wholesomely.
Speaker 1 (52:41):
Yeah. I agree, Wow, with a wholesome you know, hope
for the for humanity.
Speaker 2 (52:48):
No, well, guys, that's the end of that episode.
Speaker 1 (52:51):
Yeah, we'd have comments.
Speaker 2 (52:53):
Oh, we got comments, We got.
Speaker 1 (52:54):
Comments, comments, we got comments to read. Are you gonna
post up back there? Oh?
Speaker 2 (52:59):
This comes from the my girlfriend destroyed my daughter's scrap
book of her mom posted January thirty first to twenty
twenty six. This story is Emma the ile for not
throwing away any pictures of my ex wife. This is
the first story tldr Opie just got full custody of
his five year old daughter after his ex moved away.
His girlfriend was already upset about having to share time
with the x, but things got worse fast. She got
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angry over driving to the airport on her birthday, then
later ripped apart a scrap book the child's mom made Yeah,
it was a ridiculous story. If you're curious about the
full story, please watch the video down below. And Laura mcgurty, dude,
she has been commenting a lot. This is my second
time reading something from her s one. This kind of
person absolutely infuriates me. Opie's girlfriend has made it abundantly
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clear that she has main character syndrome, and it's not
enough if it's not one hundred percent about her. And
she resents the fact that her partner has a child
and that this child will always take priority over her,
which would still be the case for any child she
had with someone else. So the child is the enemy
and the mother is also the enemy. So yes, the
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OPI is the a hole, but not for dumping the
girlfriend and moving on with their life when the red
flags first started showing. So it should have happened sooner.
Insane story like she broke everything apart and then he
had to like repair it. Raley Yukui says, first story,
I am a woman who never wants kids. I would
never be with a man who has or wants kids.
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That said, if I made the choice to date someone
with the child, slash my partner against custody of a neflink.
I would not be upset at my partner for being
a good parent. As much as I want all the
love and attention, it's a parent's first duty to take
care of their child, not me this hissy fit for
the sake of a two hour drive and after looking
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after the kid, she knows Opie has sounds like she
wants him to be a neglectful father. She can't deal
with someone having children, don't date them. And Kaylie Hopper
thirty says, Meanwhile, me, a stepmom, stops my husband from
throwing away pictures of him and his axe or my
step son when he gets older. So Kaylee Hopper was
on the other side of that.
Speaker 1 (55:09):
There you go. You know, yeah, I don't think you
should do that. I think that as adults, we should
be comfortable with the fact that, hey, maybe this person
has been with and loved and had children with others.
Speaker 2 (55:21):
Yeah, honestly, we don't.
Speaker 1 (55:23):
Have to pretend like that never happened.
Speaker 2 (55:25):
Now, soop guys, that is the end of that episode
and this and this yeah, the episode.
Speaker 1 (55:32):
Wow. So if you love us, make sure you subscribe
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I made my daughter's boyfriend buy a new shirt because
it was disrespectful.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
What was on it A naked lady.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
The twenty third of December, my daughter's nineteen boyfriend, nineteen
came for dinner. We had a dinner then because he's
going away with his family for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Oh that's nice.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
He arrived, rang the bell and I answered the door,
and came in, took off his jacket, and that's when
I saw it. He was wearing a T shirt that said,
it's not gonna suck itself.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Buddy to family get together.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
You wore that shirt till the family get together? An it.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
The dad is definitely wearing a tie with this like
a vest on kind of thing. You know what I'm
talking about, A Christmas kind of vest business guy.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
I see it. I would really hope he'd be wearing
like a paring shirt. Oh right, no.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
No, this is what he's wearing. This is what he's wearing.
Son's wearing that kid's wearing that, the dad's wearing. Twenty
dollars is twenty dollars. I'm not gay, but twenty dollars
is twenty dollars. That's the shirt he's wearing.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
He just wears a shirt that says I love to suck.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Yeah, let us say it. Yeah, I'm not gay, but
twenty dollars is twenty dollars.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Match made in heaven right there by the way.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
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Speaker 2 (01:26):
I'm Dakota, I'm Riley.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
We're going to talk about whatever this story has in
store for us, and you're going to talk about whatever
you want to talk about in our comments.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
No, you have the freedom.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Those are our roles. That is what we do for
each other, that's what we provide. So Op says, I
took one look at that shirt and I asked him
if he had any money. He said no. And to ask.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Why that is kind of weird.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yeah, I mean you can automatically assume anyone wearing that
shirt probably doesn't have a lot of money.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
And man, you got a dollar, you have any money.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
I was just wondering I might take you up on
your offer. He said no and asked why. I told
him that the shirt showed a marked lack of respect
for both my daughter and my wife. I pulled two
twenties out of my wallet and quietly ushered him back
out the door. Told him there's a Walmart three miles away,
and to buy a more respectful shirt and come back
with it on fair, honestly fair. Yeah, you gave him, man,
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forty dollars of T shirt money.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Dude, that's ten dollars of T shirt money. Thirty dollars
in my pocket.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yeah, five dollars T shirt money.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Oh shoot, dude, I'm.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Going to the dollar store. Mind you. This whole exchange
took place between him and I without an audience.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
That's good. Yeah, I'm sorry, not a scene. Walmart has
some pretty good clothes, they do. They got some nice
dress shirts. You could probably come back in a full
Christmas dinner outfit.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I had most of my work button ups when I
worked in restaurants, so I got him from Walmart. Yeah,
it's nice, totally, totally works. He was gone for fifteen minutes,
came back with a nice polo shirt on. We had
a nice dinner together and nothing was mentioned of the incident. Okay, right,
and that should be the end of the story, but
we have like seven eighths of the story left to read.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Dude, what No? You handled it as a man. Also,
I'm proud of you because this young man, you're giving
him an example what a father would do and what
you would want a father to do.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
It is true. I mean, you know you've handled this flawlessly.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
This is perfect.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
You can't read the it's ain't gonna suck itself shirt.
You can't wear that to family night. You can't wear
that to family dinner. It ain't gonna suck itself? Is insane?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
So the next day my daughter came to me and
her mother and told us what I did humiliated him.
They aren't in breakup territory or anything, and no yelling
or anything of the sort has happened. My wife did
tell me I could have handled it differently, So read it.
Am I wrong for handling it this way? And if so,
how could I have handled it? And there's an edit?
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Dude, your wife didn't back you up. Yeah, that's a
red flag.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I'm gonna read this edit real quick. I'm fifty seven,
ten years away from the funniest number, and a long
haul truck driver, so I know.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
I drive eighteen hundred miles in a knot.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
No, honestly, I think you're you're giving long haul trucker
is a good name here, because I think most people
would presume a long haul trucker would have like ripped
this kid's arms off and beat him with them.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Or been like, hell, yeah, I like that ash truck buddy.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Oh why don't you hone zip son.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I'll help you right now. You're right, your shirt is
very informative to this guy's so much better.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
So as a long haul truck driver, I've had my
share of bad moments. Most of us guys here can
remember stupid things that we did as teens, even into
our twenties. The ones that stand out for me are
the ones where someone didn't react with anger or malice.
They were the ones that someone reacted with constructive kindness,
ones where a quiet redemption was offered, where a mirror
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was quietly held up to my behavior. Those are the
ones I learned from and appreciated the most. Hopefully he
comes out the other side with a new appreciation for
kindness offered quietly and without fanfare. Just my thoughts here
there is an update by my brother. You did everything perfectly.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
It is a humiliating thing, but you didn't do hi
in front of everyone. He gave him forty bucks. Did
he give you any money back? Because I know for
dang sure that Polo did not cost forty dollars now from.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
The Walton store. He does he not understand? Like, first
of all, his humiliation came from himself. He humiliated himself. Yeah,
and also he got saved from the humiliation being way worse.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
You should be grateful for that. You should, yeah. And
you should also have so much respect for this man
because he told you to change.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Dude, this man just saved your social standing with the
entire family. I would love to meet this man on
where is your daughter's brain? By the way, did I
mean did she not know he was where? Hearing that
shirt under the jacket? I can't imagine bringing like you know,
I don't know what the female equivalent of that shirt is.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
But no, no, I know what it is is if a
girl came in with those juicy yoga pants on, or
it says like juicy.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Or that but I mean, like that's even that as
like a brand, like this was a command. This shirt
was basically a command who said, well, take my pants off,
slurt my shit. Well, well, sorry that I didn't mean
to say, sh long, take my pants offing get to what?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Well that I feel like that crazy. I feel like
the pants at a family dinner is like, oh, look
at my juicy flamboyant bombas. I don't know, it have
to be more like kiss me anyways. Anyways, I get
your point.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
It would have to be a shirt that said like,
it's really bad, shirt that says fresh clam chowder and
just an arrow pointing down. That would be like a hey, babe,
you cannot wear that to my dinner with my family.
You one thousand percent can't do that. I'm not letting
anyone wear that shirt.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
That could also be said as a brand. There's no
command this.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Yeah, I mean, I'm still I'm still the point being
not letting that one, not being like, well, I'm gonna
let my partner express themselves however they deem fit.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Yeah, that was god, you know, man, Like you know,
I'm also very disappointing your wife. I think that's the
person I'm mos disappointing.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, I mean who or Op's daughter is.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Also, if this was my daughter, I'd be like, girl,
you were worth more than this than to be sexualized.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Yeah, you know at your own family dinner.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
It's crazy during Christmas and they're making this dinner, and
they're doing this dinner for him because he's he won't
be able to see her daughter for Christmas.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
He's talking about what's something in Christmas? You gotta suck
the yule log?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
I don't know, the candy candy can.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
You gotta suck? Maybe he was talking about all the
ashes in the fireplace that need to be sucked up
before they start the new fire.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
I don't know, man, Yeah, golly anyway.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Update. After reading these comments and listening to everyone's point
of view, I sat my daughter down this morning and
asked her what her boyfriend actually said to her. This
change is my opinion of him.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Oh God, she's probably he's a little.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
He's a little liar.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
He's alloying, he's manipulative, that manipulaly conniving.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Apparently he had not told my daughter what the phrase
was on the shirt, but did tell her accurately what
I said to him, and asked him to do. He
didn't use the word humiliated. That was my daughter's interpretation.
Her rush to defend him came from our examples. Apparently
she's taken note of times I've defended my wife and
vice versa. She also took note of our disagreements in private.
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After the fact, she is going to talk to him
when he gets back tomorrow to follow up on why
he thought the shirt was appropriate for the family setting.
I'll update again after that conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Yes, dude, dude, another point to this dad, because he
raised his daughter right.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Yeah, holy cow, daughter was being lied to, yo, dude.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Also perhaps to you, dad for straightening this out. Yeah,
holy cow, dude. This is a beautiful play by play.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
This is a good playbook of what to do. This
is Oh my gosh, we're seeing we're seeing behind the
curtain on how how the top the top dogs stop
on it. Yeah, the running their ships right now. And
we do have that other update. So my daughter called
him about an hour ago, and this will be informative.
She asked him why he hadn't told her what the
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shirt said when he talked to her. His reply was telling,
he said, because it was embarrassing. Hey, stupid why you
wear it to the dinner?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Dude? You literally could have never ever spoken about this again,
and it would have been between Manda Man. Yeah, Manda Man.
But you had a lie.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
You had to You just had to go and fibre yourself,
didn't you. Boy? I mean, my guy.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
This is a boy. He could have been a man boy,
but he failed the man test.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Then she went on to ask him why he wore
it originally, and he admitted that the shirt had been
a gift from his older brother twenty one, and that
the older brother had dared him to and called him
chicken when he objected, etc. Whose dumb sibling crap?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Apparently I don't believe that.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I mean, that would be pretty dumb.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I wouldn't believe it at all.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
She went on to tell him that none of what
he'd done was cool, and that she really liked him
and that he'd always been kind to her. She said
she wasn't breaking up with him, but that these steps
needed to be done. First, he needed to explain to
his parents the entire situation. Second, he needed to show
up in person to our home and bring the money
for the shirt, and, as she put it, put in
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a home butt kissing session that included the explanation of
the dare et cetera. She said that if this was
handled well, they could talk about moving forward and what
that would look like. Fair, fair, fair, fair, balanced, balanced
and fair.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
You're gonna it's gonna be a very uncomfortable hour. No, no,
uncomfortable day, uncomfortable twenty minutes. You just have to bear,
like twenty minutes, maybe maybe ten.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
I think you can get this done in ten minutes,
ten minutes, ten minute combo, ten minute conversation.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Excruciating, but it can be done. Yep. And are you
believing this sibling thing?
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Well, I mean, you wouldn't have done this to one
of your younger siblings.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I wouldn't have.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
You would have tried. You wouldn't tried to get I
would have tried. You wouldn't have tried to get them
to wear your lesbians eat what shirt? Yeah, you totally would.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
If I knew the family, they'd be like, no, Riley,
I can't. You'd be like, come on, come on, come
on rider.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Don't you want them to think that you're funny?
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Yeah? I don't know. It's just the way that he
lied earlier. I don't know if I believe this.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, anything that comes out of his mouth, it's a
reliable cover. Yeah, I'm just not taking that jacket off.
If I'm him, I'm like, oh no, I'm a col
I run cold. I'm run I'm running, I run cold.
I'll keep my jacket on the.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Amount of times I've worn that shirt on. Like guest meetings,
they just eat lesbians.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
They're like, oh, this guy's an ally. Anyway, after the
phone call, she talked to her mom and I and
admitted that she forgot her worth. She said that I,
as long as she had been alive, had never gone
out of my way to embarrass her mom, and that
I'd always been respectful and not let anyone be disrespectful
to her mom. And that made me feel good. So
she wasn't going to sell for less good for her.
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I'll update after her visit later tomorrow afternoon. All right,
and there's an update number three.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Dude.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
She's broken up, she's moving on, she's starting a business.
She's becoming an accountant at this point.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Yeah, she's probably becoming a millionaire because of how great
this dad did it raising her.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
She's touring the facility and picking up slack.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Speaking out her next warehouse for her factory, and she's
making very thin walls on the outers of it so
it can expand easier.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
And she's got a short skirt and a long jacket.
That was that you didn't catch the touring the facility
and picking up slack. That was a That was a
line in the Cake song song Yeah long jacket Cake
like girl who knows what's best?
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got you, I got you bound.
It's been a minute, bound.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
It's been too long, man, when's Cake gonna come back?
Update three? This will make those of you following this
saga laugh. I received a call this evening from mister
boyfriend's parents. Firstly, they are mortified and extremely apologetic. Secondly,
and the whole best part of this update, which I
have their permission to share, is that his parents are
on Reddit and commented on my post in support of
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the way I handled the situation. They were like, that
was you, That was our kid, and that was you. No. Oh,
man and his boyfriend can't catch a break.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
D Oh my god, dude, imagine getting home like they
already know what you've done. Once they connected the dots
and it's like we already we understand what's happened?
Speaker 1 (13:58):
But he comes home and they're like, didn't your brother
give you like a novelty shirt the other day? What
did that say?
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Again? This is so funny.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
They told me that they love my daughter and that
we had raised her right and had not raised their
sons to show this level of disrespect for anyone, let
alone his girlfriend. Apparently, boyfriend was following up on one
of my daughter's conditions and went to talk to his parents.
As the story unfolded, his mom reached for her phone,
opened to Reddit, and yelled, is this about you?
Speaker 2 (14:35):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Yeah, yeah, what a revelation, to quote his dad. As
the son read the first half paragraph, he passed away
a little on the inside. So anyways, they're going to
come to dinner tomorrow evening with boyfriend. More updates tomorrow night,
and we have more updates.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
People, Stop it, dude. I haven't equally I think worse,
No way worse. I have an equally way worse story
that had happened the same beats as this, I'll tell.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
You, and yes, hell yeah, dude. Update number four. Dinner
was very pleasant. Let me say that his parents are great.
Boyfriend showed up with red roses for my daughter and
yellow roses for my wife. Whoa roses for the wife
that's bold. He offered what I thought was a very
sincere apology and the card with the entire forty dollars
in it, even though he had given me the change
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and receipt on the original night. I cooked tonight to
give my wife a break. I made an Indian dish
called buttered chicken with buzsmati rice. Neither had to eaten
curry before. Oh, but I loved it.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
That's good. Wow. Wow. I was thinking, Oh, what if
it was like butter chicken.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
Buttered chicken. Buttered chicken the most inaccessible form of chicken,
and for the Western palate, the buttered chicken.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I love it, dude. I had some baller chicken last night.
I'm gonna have to bring it tomorrow and have you
guys try it. It's really good.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
There's a restaurant down the street from our place.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Indian food. I think I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
No, it's like a Nepalese place. Oh so good.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Sounds good.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yeah. As it turns out, older brother is the family
athlete JV soccer varsity soccer in a sports scholarship for
soccer is a quintessential jock. Little brother is the exact opposite.
He's artistic and has real talent, sensitive, quiet, and felt
like he never measured up to big brother and works
to gain big brother's respect.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
I see ya, yes, yes, yes, yes, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, this could never be you because you'd be too
good of a brother me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I mean I was pretty athletic and also the artistic one.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
So yeah, but yeah, yeah, you'd never be like, you
can't square up to me. Boy, you'd be like, well,
you'd be like you've got it, bro, like super talented.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I was pretty pretty rough on tape up until he
got bigger than me. Then I kind of backed off.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
That's how that's the law of the jungle right there.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Yeah. But then but then sometimes he comes up to
me and I have to show him, hey, I can
still beat you up. Yeah, but we're good now now now,
little brother sawyer he's doing that. I might have to
hit him in the gut just so he can calm
down a bit.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
He's taller than you know, he's like six or eight colly.
He was soon crazy.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Okay, so we got so weird food. Brother brother bullies him.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Yeah, brother takes full advantage of this and exploits his
little brother for his own amusement. Near the end of dinner,
daughter says, I think I'll keep him around for a
little longer. You guys okay with that? I hate that
expression so much. We are good with that for now.
His mom is the boss though, for thinking outside the box.
As punishment to older brother, mom went into his clothing
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drawers and closet, took every shirt off of him and
bought him eight very bright pink T shirts that he'll
wear until he realizes just how damaging exploiting someone anyone is.
His access to cash is also cut off until said
lesson is learned. I don't like that anyway.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
I don't know about the bright pink shirts. Maybe like
just T shirt and white T shirt and jeans.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Yeah, James Dinamo.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Yeah, I don't know, bright pink like humiliation factor.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Yeah, I feel like that's just gonna lead to retribution.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
Yeah, you know, honestly, I probably would have took some
notes from these parents, been like, what do you guys think?
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Yeah, what would you guys do as the big dogs?
As the top dogs?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Yeah? Yeah, you gotta learn. These are like parents that
like apparently are not top dogs because their kid did
this and they went a little over the line.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Yeah these are not these are bottom dogs. Anyway, a
successful night with new friends was enjoyed. I hope this
was the update you hoped for. And there is another update.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Wait, how far in are we?
Speaker 1 (18:36):
We're getting closer to the end. Oh, I think we've
got We've got two more updates.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Wow, I thought we like we're halfway through. I was like,
how long is this T shirt song gonna go?
Speaker 1 (18:46):
We're pulling up. We're pulling up Update five. Just to
give you some info. Older brother has been much better
for the last little bit and actually enjoys the pink.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Sure, I knew that was gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Apparently his girlfriend likes them and he he's gotten a
few compliments. Rights. That was my other thought was, it's
like a backfire. Yeah, you're just gonna make him like
the cool guy who doesn't care, which is like the
coolest thing.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
You can be. It's not care.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Yeah, it's hard to do. My lovely daughter is more
than ready to go back for her spring semester. Boyfriend
has been around the house more and has been very respectful.
The two of them read the comments here and she
teases him. I know they're technically adults, but my wife
and I insist on the door being open in any
room they occupy together. Nothing is derailing her education. Nice
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and her older brother are amazing scholars and we are
immensely proud of them. My wife is a teacher with
thirty years experience, and I'm a truck driver for twenty
five years. But I'm also educated with a degree in
clinical psychology. Anyway, I'm rambling.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Take care he doesn't want to leave us.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
We do have a final update coming up.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Fair dude, dang wow.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I want these parents to write a book.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
How to to be parenting big dog one on one.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
The teacher and the truck driver colon how to beat
the big dogs when it comes to parenting your little dogs.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
And like your gosh. I feel like with books like that,
you need your like success stories. You know, I want to
talking about like your testimony high Yeah, your highlights, and
you're just psych Here's my daughter, she makes a million
dollars a year, and this is how your kid can too.
Here's my daughter, she is a millionaire.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Her boyfriend made a mistake and she made him pay
penance for it.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
And this is how she became a millionaire.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Yes, when we've got an update, we've got a six update.
My daughter, son and my daughter's boyfriend head back to
school this next weekend. I missed them immensely when they're gone,
but I'm so proud and excited for their futures. Boyfriend
has been very respectful and shows real kindness. His parents
and older brother came for dinner last weekend. Again, we
are becoming quick friends, so things are going very well.
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Thank you all so very much from both my wife
and I for the kind words.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Are cute parent friends.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Parent friends, parends.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
So if this kid did not do this, they'd be
missing out. Also, it showed that the guy liked the
daughter a lot.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Yeah, and it shows that, you know, maybe we're learning
the lesson that we don't just have to listen to
our older brother all the time. Even though lusaka player.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I don't know about that. I think we should listen
to our older brothers.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Especially when your last name is Wilson. Yes, mis rat,
he listened to your oldest brother.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Don't forget about that.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Even though he's your shortest brother.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I will be the shortest pretty soon, give it ten years.
I'll be short, but we're gonna get to the next story.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
My dude's you're saving all your height to pass on
to your child.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
And they're not. They're using it all.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
You're gonna have a seven foot five American Wemba Yama.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
My mom humiliated my brother's new girlfriend, and the blame
is on me to a fault for being born. My
mal thirty one brother has a broken off long term relationship.
He decided to see a therapist to help with his
depression and that has helped him tremendously. My mother and
I don't have a relationship. My brother and I are
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low contact with her. She's very upset about him breaking
his engagement. Previously, not once did she call to see
how he was coping. She only called to berat him.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
She called him to say, you should be ashamed of yourself, lovely,
that's what moms are for shame.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
By the way, this comes from a remarkable Bison sixty
nine And if you want to submit your own stories,
go with the r slash okay story on subreddits. I'm Riley,
I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Schoofully,
we don't have all the answers but if you do,
please put them down below. Anop says, my brother met
someone Anna at a party we went to. They hit
off in one on a few dates. He asked me
to keep this to myself and that he was doing
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things at his own pace.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
The Pacer, the Indiana.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
Yesterday, I get a call from my mother asking me
if I knew that my brother was seeing someone. She
said she saw him with Anna at a restaurant and
confronted him. So that's what you do? What about that?
To other girl, saying what happened at her?
Speaker 1 (23:02):
Oh the one I broke up with?
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Yeah, okay, mom, you're not really being a great wingman
right now. Mom, Mom, stop it.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Stop being ack.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
My brother freaked out and left Anna at the restaurant.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Well it's you, don't you also? Don't you do? You
don't do that either. You just just just just something
you don't do.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
I tell her that his love life is none of
her business, and she responded by saying that I manipulated
her only son into breaking off his engagements. I just
hung up and called Anna to see if she needed help.
She asked me to come pick her up. Oh so
this just happened?
Speaker 1 (23:36):
Is actively happening right now.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Yeah, And as the story is being told, so Mom
confronts calls Opie and he's like, I'll come pick you up. Now,
that's crazy. When I get to the restaurant, I see
her outside getting screamed at by my mother. She was
with a family friend, calling her a home wrecker, which
gold digger. And I got my car. My mother came
to my car and banged on the windows. People were
staring now and my mom literally put herself in front
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of my car to block our way. I got out
of the car, grabbed her by the arm, and pushed
her away. She couldn't get a word in because I
was yelling about how she's a pathetic excuse of a
mother and that all her children ever hate her, and
she's the only reason that my brother didn't want to
tell her he's seeing someone. Oh my, what is this.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
She sounds like she needs to go to elite parent school.
She is very very small dog, tiny little dog parent.
She needs to be a big dog.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, this is what the bottom one percent looks like.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yeah, we need up her, We need we need to
up our percents.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Hmm, that's what the bell curve. Yeah, at the end
My mother was speechless for a second and we just
left poor Anna. Anna was shaking, so I decided to
bring her over to our house. This is all the set,
so there's all the way to get to Anna. You
wanted Anna the whole time. My brother locked himself into
his room and didn't want to talk to anyone. We
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just sat Anna down, and when she got her bearing,
she decided to at home. My partner dropped her off
at her house. The next day, I get a voicemail
from my mother telling me that I humiliated her in
front of her friend by telling lies and slandering her reputation,
and that I assaulted her.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Well, actually, mod's that's battery.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I pushed you get a right.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Yeah, I did the thing I it wasn't the threat
of doing it.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
I'm getting calls from family saying that I should have
never spoken to my mother like that, and that it
affected my poor mother's mental health.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Sounds like there was already a lot affecting that before
we showed up.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
All right, some of our extended family didn't know why
my brother ended his engagement, but they're all taking my
mother's side now. Probably should have videotaped it, that's sad
to even say.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Yeah, she'd have had the body camera on, dude.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Good lock in. That would have saved you. I only
feel bad because my brother is also getting bombarded by
calls and text saying he let his ex down, that
he was hurting his mother so much that he should
be ashamed. I feel like we're back at square one
now because I chose to confront my mother. I tried
to get him to make an appointment with this therapist
this week, but he's been ghosting me. I feel like
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this turn of events could have been avoided if I
didn't confront my mother and just left with Anna, and
that it made Anna an even bigger target for my
mother because she was with me when I exploded. Am
I the a hole here? I think anything you would
have done she would have made fun of you for
so no.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
I know, yeah, clearly the one who's the able here
is your mom. Yeah. I know. We can't be held
responsible for the way our mom is.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
She's an adult. She literally birthed you, so yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
If I had to put you both on the scale
and weigh you, she would be the much larger, stinkier person.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Dude, I thought about doing that with a game show.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
But like weighing each other.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
No, no, like getting a weight, like two weights. Cut a
banana in half? What so you get a banana, you
cut it where he thinks in the middle, and you
try to like evenly cut it, and then you like
measure the grounds.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Oh that's interesting. Yeah, I got so mini games we
could do like that. I like that edit.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Thank you all to those that answered. I have to
take care of exam week for my students, so I
don't have time to edit before now, so much organizing
to do. I who hardly agreed that my brother was
also an a hole, but I know that he acted
recklessly because he couldn't deal with the situation emotionally. He
finally decided to see his therapist again. I read over
every comment and we'll try to answer the most I can.
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My mother did not press charges for me grabbing her arm,
but I agree with the comment saying I shouldn't have
done that. Thank you all for the update. I mean
you had to get her out of the way of
your car. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Yeah, some people need a gentle push in the right direction.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Mm hmm or out of the direction of your car. Yeah,
I said, I just wanted to show you. You should
be over here. Yeah, stay here. Update. I've decided to
go full no contact with my mother, and all my
siblings have decided to do the same after they heard
about what had happened. Obviously, my mother is not pleased
with this, and it's telling everyone I demonized her.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
I think it was your demons that demonized you, girl. Yeah,
it was the demons you got inside you.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
I tried chucking holy water at her. We'll never know.
I'm moving out of the country for a job opportunity
with my current partner. Frankly, I feel like putting as
much distance between me and my mother is going to
be the best outcome for everyone. Like how he's satting
out of.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Town sending out of the country. He's said into a
new hemisphere.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Where the toilet swirls deal got to be.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
A really bad for it to be explicitly, I need
to maximize the distance between me and my mother. That
is what is best for everyone involved. It'd be pretty
bad for that to be the case.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
It was wild. We're moving in in about two months
to Switzerland. Oh wow. And I and my brother have
spoken about what he did. He's apologized and told her
that he thought at the time that he was ready
to move on and be his normal self again, but
he realized that he needs way more help. He apologized
profusely for what he did to her, and he would
understand if she didn't want to speak to him again.
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He's regularly been seeing his therapists and has cut contact
with her mother, and it was hesitant at first, but
decided to forgive them. Oh, and they've decided that being
friends would be better off for them. We're all meeting
siblings and friends for a New Year's Eve party tonight,
and we'll have fun or not since we're extremely competitive
when it comes to board games and things get heated
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in a good way. So I feel like it's a
happy ending for everyone except my mother. I feel a
bit bad saying this, but that makes me happy.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Dude. No, I feel bad for you saying that.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Man, what the heck? That's I mean, sounds like she
has tormented you and her brother for a while now.
That is also true. I imagine, like making a scene
at a restaurant.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
I kind of think of if I've ever done such
a thing in my life.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
No, not a public space. I mean I know a
family relative that could have, but they are now passed away.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I think the closest thing I've come to make in
a scene in the restaurant would probably be arguing with
my own mom at oh god, yeah, yeah, that is
what happened. Mm hmm yep, dang, I can't even remember
what it was about.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
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Speaker 1 (30:28):
I told my sister to grow up over her grudge
and most lost her.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
Now she's holding it against you.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Hmmm, let's find out if we're going to read this.
I am twenty eight male and my sister is twenty
five female. We did not get along as kids. She
was the typical annoying little sister and I was the
mean older brother. I teased her a lot growing up,
but I did my best to make sure that if
I did tease her or if we did have a fight,
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I said sorry or made her feel like I didn't
mean any of it.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Cute.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
I never wanted her to go to bed thinking we
were not on good terms. By the way, this comes
from us your brubber grudge. If you want us to
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Speaker 2 (31:09):
I'm Dakota, I'm Riley Weir.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
We're gonna yap about this story. We're gonna give our
take on it. But you know what, we haven't been
in this situation. So if you got any insights, let
us know in the comments. Let us know what they are.
Oh P says She moved out when I was twenty two, Okay,
Taylor Swift and she was nineteen. I went to her
farewell party, and I really thought we were good. I
never apologized for what I did, but I was proud
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of her for going to college. We stayed in contact
about once a month, just saying how our lives were going.
We weren't close, but we weren't pushing it, and I
enjoyed seeing her tell me what was going on in
her life.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
She came back for Thanksgiving when I was twenty three
and she was twenty and it went well. I saw
her in person one more time at Christmas when I
was twenty five and she was twenty two. I didn't
go to any family holidays on my side for like
three years since I got really serious with my SOO.
We got engaged two months ago, and I went to
her family's place for those holidays since we lived closer.
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday and I haven't seen him
in person for a few years, so I spent quite
a bit of money to have me and my significant
other fly down to their house and stay the week.
My sister was there too, and I was happy to
see her in person again and have her meet my partner.
The whole party was fine, and I know my parents
were happy that both their kids were together in their
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house again. At night, when my parents went to bed,
I was having a drinky poo with my sister while
my partner was going to the store for breakfast items.
All Right, the subject of our past years somehow came up,
and I told her I felt bad and was sorry
for any troubles I gave her. During that time, I
could tell she was kind of miffed, and I don't
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know if it was the booze talking, but she basically
said that once our parents pass away, she doesn't want
much to do with me because of how much of
a butt I was when we were kids.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
Oh interesting, dang you. This is what happens when you
don't talk as siblings, resentment. It's a big shock.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
I mean, yeah, I can't really fault either party here.
I mean well, I mean we can fault op for
having been the mean boy. But it's like, you know,
I don't know. I guess we need more info.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
More info, perspective. What exactly she's holding against you?
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Yeah? What did you do? Yeah? What exactly did you do? Anyway?
I was shocked when she said that, because I thought
we both had moved on from that and had a
loving and caring yet distant relationship. I didn't even know
what to say, and I was and still am heartbroken
because I do love her and always wanted us to
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at least be caring towards each other. Her basically saying
she has no desire to do much with me really hurt.
I finally got it out and said, what we did
as kids was years ago, and if you're still on
about that, then you just need to grow up. Ooh,
that's a bad way to apologize. I'm sorry for how
I treated you, but it shouldn't be the basis of
why you hate me now. Yeah, you kind of really
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were off the mark with that being an apology.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Mm hmmm hmm. I mean I get your sentiment, but
if she's holding something against you, you should probably flesh it out.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Yeah, you can't be like, oh, you're stupid for feeling
this way and you need to not feel that way
because it's the dumb way to feel. And I'm right, mikes. Yeah.
She didn't say anything after that, but are you done?
And then she went to bed. The next day she
talked to me like nothing happened, and I was weirded
out by that, but didn't want to make a scene
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in front of our parents, who still have the view
of us being close. So Reredditt, I asked you, am
I the a hole for telling my sister to grow
up after she's held on to grudges that have been
like ten plus years old and there is an update
and I would say.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Yeah, yeah, some helpful context is to know what grudges
she has against you. Some of these grudges may need
more than a just grow up.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Yeah, And it's like, look, were you the a hole
for the stuff you did like as a kid? Essentially,
like it's like, you know, so common for siblings to
go through that. I wouldn't even necessarily say you're an
able for that, But for the one specific context you
asked about, which was essentially the way you phrased your
apology to your sister, Yeah, you were wrong for that.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
If take came up to me said I don't want
to play basketball with you anymore because all the time
you beat me as a kid, then I would be like,
grow up, man, that was ten years ago. You're better
than you were then. Yeah, we can still play.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
But if he was like, I don't want you to
be around my family because of the way you made
me feel and the way you treated me as a child,
let's talk it out, you would go, oh my god,
I had no idea you felt that way. Still, I
look back on that with regret.
Speaker 2 (35:59):
Regret, and you know, oh, he didn't do did not
take accountability at all, zero percent. He said, I'm sorry,
I'm sorry, but I'm sorry, but you shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Feel this way.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
No, no, no, she's she won. She's putting herself out there.
You should probably actually talk with her. What the heck?
Speaker 1 (36:15):
If you really do feel sorry, you need to say it.
Uh huh, Because I mean you say that you do
your response felt like, you don't dude.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
We weren't taught how to really actually say sorry. No. Yeah,
it was just like you say sorry, you say it's okay,
and you live on with life. It's complicated that up date.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
So this has a really happy ending.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Oh I needed directylert okie.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I hope that's not sarcastic. A day or two later,
after she blew up on me and I told her
to grow up, me and her had another sit down
and I just listened. Turns out she hated how I
was never there for her, and I will admit I wasn't.
I just left the state as soon as I could
and didn't even try to come back other than for holidays.
She also said she wished I called her more. She
(37:00):
would text me on social media and would call me,
but it wasn't that one week thing. So I just
didn't answer, and I felt horrible. Most of you all
said I was the ahle and that I should just
hear what she has to say and apologize. I could
tell she was tearing up, so I did something I
hadn't done since we were children. I just flat out
hugged her and let her cry on me. Bro, you
hadn't hugged your sister since you were children darks. Yeah,
(37:26):
talk about close but distant in your head. Yeah, great,
googly moogli. At the end of it, I apologized and
promised to do a better job, but I asked her
to please give me another chance to be a good brother.
She agreed to that. For the past month, I've texted
her every other day and called weekly. It's effort and
(37:46):
it's actually working. I won't say we are as close
as we were as kids, but it's good and I
enjoy talking to her now. It's cool to know stuff
about her so we can coordinate things for our parents
without having them stress about anything. I'm currently in town
for Thanksgiving and she and her partner have been very
generous in allowing me and my partner to stay at
her place for the week. Thank you for all the
(38:08):
comments in for calling me the a hole for being
so petty to my sister. It pretty much saved the relationship.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
This is sweet. I'm glad that he actually took He's
being humble. You need to be humble in the scenarios.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
Sometimes the solution is to listen to women who would
have thought.
Speaker 2 (38:24):
Just to listen.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
In general, who would have thought that listening to women
could solve problems?
Speaker 2 (38:30):
Guess you wouldn't have.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Like, well that The sarcasm is that you should very
obviously listen to women. They're very smart m hm, and
we should listen to them.
Speaker 2 (38:40):
I like women.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
You're a woman doctor.
Speaker 2 (38:43):
That's right.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Categorically, yes, yeah, categorrectally. There's an edit here. The reason
they have never heard from me for five years is
because I had a substance use disorder and they booted
me out. I was hurt and scared and hated my
parents because of it, and I grouped my sister in
with them. About five years later, I realized how much
(39:04):
of a spoiled little nuisance I was and reconnected with them.
My parents were happy, but my sister wasn't. But I
was able to talk her into giving me another chance,
and now we're pretty good.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Oh wow, that is very helpful context. Yeah, we do.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
We get some context there, and that is some good
context that informs us a lot.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Yeah. I love that we get to the end of
these stories sometimes and they just drop a bomb like
oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, and would have been useful.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah, that would have been useful context to have the
entire time things. Well, we do have some comments to
finish it off coming. Number one, not gonna lie. My
eyes bugged out of my head when I first read
the post and you said that you hadn't seen your
sister in years and that you never go to family
holidays because you got close with your so Just for
the record, people usually don't ditch their entire family for
(39:53):
years unless they hate them. I can see why your
sister was extremely offendive. Comment to says, my brother did
this and we didn't see him for so seven years
and he wasn't but thirty minutes away. Turns out he
was miserable. When my husband saw him in a store
one day and told him everyone missed him and would
welcome him back with open arms, he left her and
came back. If your ESSO is keeping you from family
(40:14):
and your family isn't bad people, you should worry. Yeah,
op says my SOO actually asked me on numerous occasions
to go visit my family. I was just in a dumb,
angry state of mind and that is the end of
that story. And ain't that the truth that the dumb,
angry state of mind will keep you from a lot
of stuff?
Speaker 2 (40:33):
That's good. That's good.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Namely, yeah, of your family. It can keep you from
your friends, your career, your loved ones.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
You really have to have a significant other that supports you.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Yeah, have a significant other who points out when you're
in an angry, dumb state of mind. You have to Yeah,
you're dumb and angry. You don't want to be dangry.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
Angry because you'll look angry and angry is a stupid
word because it's not real.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
How Well, we got another story coming up right now.
My late wife's family wanted her ring, but I won't
give it back. It's literally on my finger.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
I female thirty married my wife, female thirty six a
year ago. Lesbian couple Alert, Lesbian couple alert A. These
are two women, not the U haul. No. We had
been together six years, married for one before she passed.
It has been a really rocky time for me and
(41:30):
I'm still struggling but getting there day by day.
Speaker 1 (41:33):
Well, you know, good news is you're a strong lesbian.
Speaker 2 (41:36):
That's right, and you're beautiful. By the way, this comes
from sports Representative six. And if you want to speak
your own stories are the are slash okay stories on subreddits.
I'm Riley. I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Goofully,
and you're here to comment. Hope. He says. My wife
had been close with her grandmother when she was growing up,
and when she passed away, her grandmother left a beautiful
(41:58):
ring which had been in the family for generations. My
wife used this ring to propose to me, and it
became my wedding ring. I have worn it every day
since she gave it to me, and it is truly
the most precious item from her. Feels like she is
with me always, and when I look at it, it
brings my heart some happiness to remember our time together. Oh,
(42:18):
we stop stop making me sad, Please cut the onions here.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
I'm already gonna say this is a very nuanced issue,
clearly because yes, that was your wife, but that was
also their daughter and sister and cousin and all that
and the ring being in the family for multiple generations.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
Ah, this is true.
Speaker 1 (42:42):
It does feel like maybe it should return, oh when
someone could make use of it, you know.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
Interesting. I disagree, Okay, I disagree. Goes on the other
side of the fence here. My wife even spent money
on the ring to get it restored as I had
a few cosmetic faults, but by doing this more or
less doubled the value of the ring too. It's very
unique and shaped like a snake with a diamond in
its head and rubies for the eyes. The diamond was
(43:09):
cracked and the blue enamel needed repairing what she did
before proposing. My brother in law has now decided to
propose to his girlfriend and he wants to make use
of the snake ring as her grandmother wanted the ring
to be used as an engagement ring for when one
of her grandchildren wanted to get married, a first come,
first surf situation, although it was never really expected her
(43:31):
granddaughter would be doing the proposing because it was always
assumed the boys would offer it to their girlfriends. But
my wife got there and did it first and that
was that. So a couple thoughts, you want to go
back on what you said or no? Well, first of all,
that ring sounds sick. Yeah, that's a dope ring.
Speaker 1 (43:50):
I want. That ring also really doesn't feel like a
ring you proposed to someone with.
Speaker 2 (43:55):
That's a family thing, like a snake effigy with like
a diamond in its head and red eyes like I
wouldn't do that with my family.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
It doesn't. It doesn't feel like it just doesn't.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
It doesn't say love, it doesn't say romance.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
No, it just feels I don't know, it feels that's
just like a cool thing.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Is your family just like all gothic that would check
out more say, everyone in your family's somehow goth that
that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
I'm keeping that ring, man, you're keeping it. I'm keeping
that ring. Yeah too, cool man.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
She went through and she restored it. It doubled the price,
and that's a gift from grandmother to her to uopie.
No one has any right to want it back.
Speaker 1 (44:37):
Maybe you can get somebody to make it and make
one that looks like that.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
Yeah, given to them. It was never really questioned either,
as my wife and she had been so close to
nobody had any objections at the time, as the ring
was still within the family and neither of my brother
in laws were anywhere near getting engaged. I refuse to
give the ring back now, and I've caused a huge
rift with my family in law. My mother in law
and brother in laws are calling me an a. They
(45:00):
want the ring to continue being a part of their
family and to be passed down in the generations as
they were suspected to. I'm distraught. My wife and I
were not big sentimental gift giffs, and this honestly is
the only thing she was truly proud to givet me.
It was a huge deal for us and meant the
world to both of us, and they want to pass
(45:21):
it down to generations if that was like the reasoning
the grandmother should have given it to a guy instead
of you know, the.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
I think something can be arranged. Really, I think you
can make an arrangement that it's like maybe.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
After I pass I give it to one of your kids.
Speaker 1 (45:36):
Yeah, if you don't have any kids, maybe the ring
goes back into their family or something. I could see that, Like,
not for this round, but it's like whenever the guys
get married and then they have their families and they
have kids, maybe you can give the ring back then
give it to one of their kids. Oh yeah, But
it's like just because I would be really insulted because
(45:56):
it's almost like the vibe would be like, oh, so
because she passed away, she just like didn't ever exist,
and we can just pretend like she didn't get engaged
to me and marry me and give me this ring
and we can just pretend like we can just give
it back.
Speaker 2 (46:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
If that never happened, I would be very I would
probably be pretty insulted.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Yeah. No, no, no, that is insulting.
Speaker 1 (46:13):
Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host.
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Here.
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Speaker 2 (46:20):
My family in law have also thrown in my face
that the grandmother wanted me to have it since she
was Russian and would have very been much against the
same spicy sleep couple. This really hurt me. It feels
like a low blow, although it's definitely true. I accepted
my family in law. The grandmother had been long gone
before I met my wife. They are now saying that
it should go to the boys as intended.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
It's all, wait, okay, so why do we care what
the bigot thought? Do you know what I mean? Where
it's like, oh, it's like, well, like imagine the context
is the same, but it's like, well, grandma was racist,
so I don't know because you're not the same color
as us. You need to give the ring back because
Grandma wouldn't have liked that. It's like, where do we
stop with that? Right, the whims of the dead? Where
(47:04):
do we quit?
Speaker 2 (47:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Also you could pull out Well, guess what. My wife
is also no longer with us. I think she would
want me to keep the ring.
Speaker 2 (47:14):
Huh. She's a generation closer and she proposed to me.
So yeah. Uh, it's all gotten really nasty and I
just don't know what to do. The family have offered
to buy the ring off me for the full value
of the ring with the repairs, but I refuse. It's
the only thing I have with my wife, and parting
with it feels like the only piece I have left
(47:35):
of my broken heart being taken away. Am on the
a hole simple? No, Nah, that was gifted to you.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
But it is complicated, and it does make sense why
they're upset with you.
Speaker 2 (47:46):
Yeah, because it's.
Speaker 1 (47:48):
Just an untenable situation. But I think you could make
that contract where it's like down the line. Yeah, the
boys aren't going to get it this generation, but I
will leave it to y'all's children and it can come
back to the family. But like you said, that is
the last thing connecting you to your deceased partner.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
Yeah, so just don't keep it, man, edit. No, my
wife and I do not have children. Grandma definitely wouldn't
have accepted the relationship. She was very old fashioned. So
shall we say. There were a lot of comments about
leaving the ring in my will, which I think is
a great idea, which you've been talking about. I hadn't
been able to think clearly since it all happened, because
I felt stricken with grief again after the shock of
(48:32):
being asked. I am going to speak with mother in
law and brother in law asap to see if I
can offer the ring to the brother in law's future
children in my will. I don't want to part the
family from the ring, but I don't want to part
with it in my lifetime, so I'm hoping this will
be resolved. I will post an update as soon as
I've spoken to everyone for those who have been mentioned
about giving it up if I remarry, I couldn't possibly
(48:54):
answer this question at this point in time. My grief
is blinding. To think about loving anyone else in this
world feels absolutely impossible. We have an update a month later,
she's taking your advice.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
And she's getting married.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
It's been a month she's she has gone through the
grief she's moved in. You're getting married.
Speaker 1 (49:13):
This update is going to be about where the cheapest
place to rent the U haul is. No, I'm just kidding.
I'm just so waking at clever observation about the nature
of same sex female relationships.
Speaker 2 (49:25):
Way Uber has a deal that I can get a
delivery truck to my place and to the other person's place.
Speaker 1 (49:32):
You all should do that, honestly. Yeah, you all should
just be an app and it shows up. You all
should just be the next way.
Speaker 2 (49:38):
Mo honestly for moving.
Speaker 1 (49:39):
Yeah, honestly, robo movers. That will be the a jillion
dollar industry. We should get into that, robot movers. There
we go, that's our business plan. Update A month later,
since my last post, my sister in law and I
have talked regarding the rink. She has been my mediator
and we were always good friends. She agreed from the
beginning that I should keep the ring. We met up
(50:01):
to discuss things and face to face, without the pressure
of the rest.
Speaker 2 (50:04):
Of the family breathing down my neck, we were able
to discuss the rink and its future. I told her
about my Reddit post and the advice I had been given,
and that I would be very happy to leave the
ring in my will for the first niece or nephew
born to the family.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
Okay, okay, that's a perfectly acceptable plan.
Speaker 2 (50:23):
I think, so that it'll go back into the family eventually.
I told my sister in law between her and I
that if I marry at some point, I feel that
I'm able to part with it then and maybe sooner.
But I definitely didn't want that in writing. I said
that I'm happy to draw up said contracts and will
and relevant copies for this agreement before my departure. Sister
(50:44):
in law totally agreed with the proposal, and once the
business conversation was out of the way, she told me
that this was the spark that lit this horrendous fire.
Father in law never got on with my late wife,
and especially not with me. The ring is from his
side of the family. He was always very greedy nature, and
although he despised his mother, he despised the fact that
(51:07):
something of value that deemed his inheritance has been taken
away from him. That and he is an openly closet
guard too. He hated my late wife for it, and
apparently when he found out what his mother's wishes for
the ring was he lost his mind even though he
is an only child and inherited a small fortune from
her after my wife passed, he saw it as an
(51:28):
opportunity to get the ring back and her asked the
family to go get it, no banner, what it takes. Cisylond.
Brother in law don't even want it for his fiance,
but they are all scared of father in law. Citis
in law said that she is so glad that I
am moving home to be with my family. We shared
a lot of tears and it was so good to
talk about my wife with her. Luckily, and hopefully for
(51:51):
all of us, Cister in law shouldn't be too long
before she has her first child with her husband, as
they just started trying. Sister in law and I talked
again over the after the relevant information was related to
the family. Apparently father in law is still raging, but
she said she could see in her brother in law
and mother in law relief on their faces. Apparently father
(52:11):
in law really lost his mind, which told him I'm
moving back home, believing the ring will forever be lost,
even though the paperwork and et cetera is all getting
in order nicely, I wanted to finish this by thanking
everyone for your kind words, especially relating to losing my wife.
She would have been so touched to have seen so
many supportive, kind people out there. It's been a hard
(52:32):
time for me, but knowing there are good people out
there in the world gives me much hope. Wow, that
one ended kind of home wholesomely.
Speaker 1 (52:41):
Yeah. I agree, Wow, with a wholesome you know, hope
for the for humanity.
Speaker 2 (52:48):
No, well, guys, that's the end of that episode.
Speaker 1 (52:51):
Yeah, we'd have comments.
Speaker 2 (52:53):
Oh, we got comments, We got.
Speaker 1 (52:54):
Comments, comments, we got comments to read. Are you gonna
post up back there? Oh?
Speaker 2 (52:59):
This comes from the my girlfriend destroyed my daughter's scrap
book of her mom posted January thirty first to twenty
twenty six. This story is Emma the ile for not
throwing away any pictures of my ex wife. This is
the first story tldr Opie just got full custody of
his five year old daughter after his ex moved away.
His girlfriend was already upset about having to share time
with the x, but things got worse fast. She got
(53:22):
angry over driving to the airport on her birthday, then
later ripped apart a scrap book the child's mom made Yeah,
it was a ridiculous story. If you're curious about the
full story, please watch the video down below. And Laura mcgurty, dude,
she has been commenting a lot. This is my second
time reading something from her s one. This kind of
person absolutely infuriates me. Opie's girlfriend has made it abundantly
(53:47):
clear that she has main character syndrome, and it's not
enough if it's not one hundred percent about her. And
she resents the fact that her partner has a child
and that this child will always take priority over her,
which would still be the case for any child she
had with someone else. So the child is the enemy
and the mother is also the enemy. So yes, the
(54:07):
OPI is the a hole, but not for dumping the
girlfriend and moving on with their life when the red
flags first started showing. So it should have happened sooner.
Insane story like she broke everything apart and then he
had to like repair it. Raley Yukui says, first story,
I am a woman who never wants kids. I would
never be with a man who has or wants kids.
(54:29):
That said, if I made the choice to date someone
with the child, slash my partner against custody of a neflink.
I would not be upset at my partner for being
a good parent. As much as I want all the
love and attention, it's a parent's first duty to take
care of their child, not me this hissy fit for
the sake of a two hour drive and after looking
(54:50):
after the kid, she knows Opie has sounds like she
wants him to be a neglectful father. She can't deal
with someone having children, don't date them. And Kaylie Hopper
thirty says, Meanwhile, me, a stepmom, stops my husband from
throwing away pictures of him and his axe or my
step son when he gets older. So Kaylee Hopper was
on the other side of that.
Speaker 1 (55:09):
There you go. You know, yeah, I don't think you
should do that. I think that as adults, we should
be comfortable with the fact that, hey, maybe this person
has been with and loved and had children with others.
Speaker 2 (55:21):
Yeah, honestly, we don't.
Speaker 1 (55:23):
Have to pretend like that never happened.
Speaker 2 (55:25):
Now, soop guys, that is the end of that episode
and this and this yeah, the episode.
Speaker 1 (55:32):
Wow. So if you love us, make sure you subscribe
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