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0:00 r/relationships - I [25F] just found out that my boyfriend [29M] has a set of twins [5F and 5F] that he doesn't know about.
18:36 r/BestofRedditorUpdates - Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 3 years, he found out that his ex is engaged and literally won't stop crying
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:18):
My boyfriend's ex showed up years later to tell him
he had secret twins.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Why are we keeping baby secret?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Maybe the babies were invisible? We'll find out soon. We
have been together for just over four years, so this
must have happened just before we got together, or else
we would have had to have an entirely different conversation.
I'm still working on finding out the exact dates of
when all of this took place. But I got a
message from a woman yesterday claiming to be the mother
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of a set of twins that she says are from
my boyfriend.
Speaker 5 (00:53):
Course okay o proof proof proof now proof Poof of course,
I had a ton of questions before I would believe her,
So this is.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
What I found out from her. By the way, this
comes from user zsi z so fifth and if you
want to submit your own stories some day story Time
sub Reddit.
Speaker 6 (01:20):
Someone someone got spawned somewhere.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
I did not mean to summon whatever creature I summoned.
So here's the information. Tammy and my boyfriend Eric met
in two thousand and nine and started casually dating. They
were never exclusive. She said that she told Eric that
her birth control wasn't working for her and she'd stopped
taking it, but Eric still wanted to not use protection.
You're still up a week later, and then she found
(01:45):
out she was pregnant a month later. Use protection.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
That's how that work.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
That's why we used protection.
Speaker 6 (01:53):
The learning lesson of the day.
Speaker 4 (01:54):
Yeah, of all of these stories.
Speaker 6 (01:56):
Yeah, I'm out of all these stories.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Is guys protection when you don't want kids, don't want
secret twins used protection. She says that they ended on
terrible terms, quote unquote, and she didn't think it would
be in the best interest of the children to have
him in their life. She made it sound as if
she was afraid of him. She thought she could do
this on her own, and until a month ago she
(02:19):
was doing all right. She was living with her mother
and working full time as well and taking night classes
to finish school. Then her mother passed away and she
got laid off. Now she's homeless and has nowhere else
to turn to. Holy crap, that's a rough hand. She
sent me pictures of the two girls and a holy crap,
they look just like Eric. I don't know if that
(02:41):
is my mind playing tricks on me, but he is
from the Philippines, Philippins, Filipino boy spotted Philippins, we got
mentioned baby and has a very very distinguished face that
is very unique.
Speaker 6 (02:54):
That's just all.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
We all look alike this I'm wondering about beings just like.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
They look exactly like him, and it's just like those
are those are just Filipino people.
Speaker 7 (03:05):
Those literally like all Filipinos, like you could be cousin,
you can be brother, mother, father, we all know.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
That's right, folks, It's crazy, that's right. They are the
spitting image of Eric. I have set up a breakfast
between me and her for tomorrow morning. The only reason
I'm holding this information from Eric right now is because
just last week we had the kids talk. We are
both completely in agreement that we never want kids. I
almost feel like I need to scope out this woman
(03:32):
before I tell him. He gets very stressed and upset
about things very quickly, and this is a situation that
will put him over the edge. He also has a
giant presentation in front of the board of advisors at
his work tomorrow, and he's already throwing up at just
the thought of how nervous he is.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
That's fair to not tell, because I was gonna say
you should tell him, but like, maybe wait until after
the present.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
It's just a little bit of good timing. Yeah, yes,
what am I dealing with here?
Speaker 6 (03:57):
Reddit?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
I know I have to tell my boyfriend, But then what?
What are questions I need to ask this woman when
I see her tomorrow?
Speaker 4 (04:04):
You have proof?
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Right? Where's the proof? Give me the pudding? How do
I keep this civil? I don't know what it means
when she says they ended on bad terms. Eric is
the sweetest man I know, and I can't see him
ever being a person who would scare someone so much
that they are keeping his kids from him. I know
the first thing we have to do is get a
paternity test, but I'm already trying to plan for after
that because they look so much like him. This is
(04:26):
the man I want to spend the rest of my
life with. If these kids are really his, then I
will welcome them with open arms. But what would that mean?
I can see this getting extremely ugly, extremely quickly. Please
help me hold this together as best as I can
and at it. Even with the first few comments, I
can see that I need to tell Eric about this now. Ugh.
(04:47):
I have called him and asked that he comes straight
home from work to talk about it. Wait.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
Know he has a presentation.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Yeah, I have probably freaked him out, but I don't
want to do this over the phone, and he hardly
has a second for a phone call at work. Anyways,
we'll keep updating after talking to him.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
No, it lit his presentations tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Just wait a day. Listen to the wrong comments.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Oh no, dude, wait a day. Maybe some of the
comments were good. We have some comments here, Maybe some
of them were good. I would have waited as well.
Wait not very long.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Growing up from the presentation.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Just wait a day. Or maybe it's the maybe it's
the opposite effect. Maybe now he's he's throwing up about
the Board of advisors.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
He's like, the presentation means nothing now that I'm worried
about my kids.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
And a lot of times when you get that nonchalant
nothing to lose energy, that's when you crush stuff the hardest,
Like hey guys, He's like, hey guys, I'm actually way
too busy thinking about my secret twins that I didn't
know about. I got two kids. Yeah, here we go.
I just I just woke up found out I had
two kids who were five years old.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Yeah, presentation, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I got to go.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
What do we even do at this job?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Everybody pay attention because I got things to do. Coming.
Number one? This is fishy. Why would she message you
and not Eric? How does she know you're his girlfriend?
Opie says. I did ask her this. She said that
she has either blocked him or he blocked her on
social media, which makes me assume that he blocked her
because she could just unblock him. She also said she
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doesn't have his phone number and that he wasn't listed.
He is listed, so she just didn't try hard enough.
Her weird answers just make me assume that she's either
scared of him or she knows she effed up in
some way and that he won't want to talk to her,
so I was the next best option. Reply how did
she know you were his girlfriend? Though? That is my
main question. The big question is is she's stalking him?
(06:38):
You need to talk to him, Opie, dang, I didn't
even think about that on her Facebook. It says that
she lives a few towns away from us, probably like
a two hour drive or so. He has also moved
away from the town where he dated her, which is
a seven hour plane flight from US, so she obviously
picked her location because of where he is. Reply, you
(06:59):
need to tell your boyfriend, asapp do not go to
the meeting. See what he has to say about her first.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Oh, absolutely, don't go to the meeting with the stranger right.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
If he has any reasons to believe the kids might
be his, you need to contact a lawyer immediately. Op
he says. I've called him and said he needs to
come home right after work to talk. But we should
know in a few hours and then I will see
what he wants to do about the meeting. Luckily, I
have an amazing lawyer who can help us if we
need it. And there's a second comment. But first of all,
I just want to say, could you have maybe told
(07:28):
him in a way that didn't sound so stressful?
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Yeah, it didn't sound like you were breaking up with them. Yeah,
I mean this is maybe I would have done.
Speaker 7 (07:34):
He's Filipino, he's used to it. He loves the drama.
We love drama.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Dude, if we're doing like like day off, well, first
of all, I would have done a day off. I
would have done it post presentation. But if we're doing
a day of I'm not going to text the middle
of the work day so that he's stressing out about it.
I'm texting him like thirty minutes before it works over. Hey,
come over right after you finished work. We have to, like,
(08:00):
I just found out some serious news. You need to
talk about it with you. You could probably reassure enough
to be like, it's not really no one's injured, no
one's hurt.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
It's not necessarily an emergency. It's just very important. Yeah,
and I love you.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
And I love you. We're good. Kisses. I'm making lazagna tonight.
Take notes, folks, Dude, I'm thinking of la over here.
I made a vegan lasagna like ten years ago and
it was so good. Wow, it had kite hill ricotta
cheese in it.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Imagine how good it taste now that it's been fermented
for ten years. Like a wine, like a fine wine.
Lasagna wine coming. Number two. My guess is he's never
even met this woman and she's attempting to scam you.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
Did she photoshop the children.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Yeah, so are the children photoshop Like? They're literally your husband.
You're like, they look just like him, it's just his
head like slightly edited.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Oh she did like the she did the thing where
you can combine your face with someone else's to make
your kids.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Yeah. She she just did a straight up Facebook scam.
She probably emails a ton of people on Facebook simply
looking up their boyfriend's name and claims she's the mother
of the boyfriend's kids, and anyone who responds back she
gives the same story to for real. The other day
on here, someone had a post saying, Wow, a long
lost sibling contacted me, and it turned out to be
a scammer. The person never had a long lost sibling.
(09:21):
The scammer just used that lie to get people to
talk to him or her and eventually steal their personal
information or something I guess, to get them to send
them money. Definitely don't meet with her in person, and
I hope to goodness that you didn't give her any
personal information already via email communications coming through says ask
for a sample of DNA resemblance is not enough, and
there's an update here. I need to know.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
I think it's a scam. I don't think these kids
are his, or if the kids exist at all.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I'm gonna take the other side of that. Ooh, it
is reloo isreal and that see who wins. Maybe in
his youth five years ago, little Eric used to be a.
Speaker 6 (09:59):
Little here it gets loser. Lasagna.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Stop saying lasagna in front of Sophia. Lasagna is her
trigger word right now, lazagna. Every time we say lasagna,
she gets hungrier.
Speaker 6 (10:10):
You said it more than I.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I won't say lasagna a single more time than this time. Lasagna.
Let's go update. I am so sorry it has taken
me a while to update. I had a bunch of
messages asking what had happened, So here it is. My
boyfriend came home from work around five pm. I showed
him all of the messages from the woman claiming to
be the mother of his kids, and he didn't say
a word the whole time. He ignored all of my questions.
(10:36):
Then he went to make a phone call, leaving me
pissed off and questioning in the other room for a
half hour. When he came out, he sat me down
and told me this story. Tammy is Eric's sister.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
That's why they look like him through his nibblings.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
They are technically relative. Oh my god, Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
Why is she claiming to have data out?
Speaker 3 (11:04):
I don't know. Let's find out. Everything she told me
about them being in a relationship was a lie. When
Tammy was sixteen, she got involved with a guy who
was part of a club, a cool club, a ga
ng and things went downhill from there. She left home
when she was nineteen by storming out of the house
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when she was told she needed to get a job.
They hadn't seen her since. I actually know that story
a little bit because Eric told me that he hasn't
a strange sister, but his family never talks about her.
I asked about her once at Christmas, and Eric's mother
told me to shut up.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
Oh so I've never brought it up. Okay, that's rude.
I'm sorry you were like, oh I heard you had
a sister.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
Shut up, shut up, don't talk about we don't talk
about her. I feel like this comes from a place
of like, that's my mistake. Don't that I made in
front of it. Don't bring up my shame, which is
not great. The person Eric called was his brother. I
guess the brother had heard about her having children somehow,
(12:07):
and had spent a year back in twenty twelve searching
for her. The last he heard she was homeless, with
the girls living with their father. So after all of that,
I contacted Tammy again asking if it would be okay
for Eric to join us for breakfast because he wants
to help her. He asked if I had told him
about her, and I said yes, and that I know
she's his sister. I also made sure to let her
(12:28):
know that I'm not angry that she lied, and I
just want to help in any way i can. Eric,
Eric's brother Jason, Tammy and I had met up with
her the next morning out in front of a cafe,
and we all decided to go somewhere else because of
how nervous she was, so we went to a park.
She was not in good shape. The left side of
(12:48):
her face had looked like burns on it, and she
had a welt on her cheekbone. She said that she
was trying to get sober when she got pregnant. She
was in AA and had managed to get a job
at Burger King. You met a guy who seemed to
have his life together, owned a house, decent job. He
got her pregnant. When she had her twins, the father
had taken complete control of everything. He became violent towards
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her and would not let her out of the house.
He kept track of all of her activities by monitoring
the computer and her cell phone, which was only allowed
to be used to call him. He paid for everything
and made sure that she would be completely lost if
she left him. That's like the most nefarious kind of abuse.
I hate that where it's just like just the ISO
and then it's like, yeah, and now you're stuck here
(13:32):
because if you leave, you'll have nothing and you'll be helpless.
It's like, oof, oh, we got to be independent, yeah,
develop our skills.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
Really tragic to to have to or believe that you
have to lie, like literally kind of scam your family
members into helping you because you feel like, you know,
there's no other way out, that's all.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Yeah, this is a pretty tragic one. There was another
incident and that night she snuck the girls out of
the house. Didn't think the family would take her back
after everything that happened, so she slept in an abandoned
building near a library so she could use the internet.
She found me when she found pictures of me and
Eric on Facebook and sent me the message. And by
the way, you can listen to full episodes with stories
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Speaker 4 (14:26):
Well, it seems like she's getting the help that she needs.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
There had to, yes at this point now, and I
feel like the family's probably going to be receptive to
assisting or not the mom. But it's like, really, whatever
happened in her youth was like very intense it but
does not.
Speaker 4 (14:41):
Deserve to be abandoned in this moment. Yeah, no, oh wow,
like truly just went from I mean I'm sure there
were people in the common saying, oh, it's a scam,
lock like it's scam or something. Yeah, thank god, Oh
pe like followed up on this. It's wow, like you know,
if if she had it.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Scar, Yeah, charges need to be pressed against that guy
who or like things need to be claims need to
be made. I cannot be allowed around those kids.
Speaker 4 (15:14):
Angela Connolly says where the kids now? I believe they're.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
With their mother. Yeah, kids need to be helped. They
are blameless.
Speaker 4 (15:22):
Nina Nil Nilsen says, unbelievably brave of her to reach out,
even if she did kind.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Of scam, I mean even a context.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
Yeah, Anissa, Julia says, so does that mean both of
you guys were right?
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Yeah, I guess so. I guess so, I guess so
you know what that means, Lasan. Yeah, that was cruel.
That was that was brutal. It's all right, you're almost there.
Let's finish this story. I have no idea why she lied. Well,
we do. Yeah, it seems to me that she is
(15:55):
not completely adjusted and may have some mental problems. We've
contacted the authority and her a whole boyfriend has been arrested.
Let's go. Thank you. Eric's family was amazingly forgiving and
has invited Tammy and the twins to live with Eric's
parents until she can figure something out. Thank God, that's
a perfect The story's not perfect, but that's the perfect way.
(16:17):
That was the best situation for Thank you all so
much for your replies and for convincing me to get
Eric involved as soon as possible.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Yeah, okay, I guess you guys were. Honestly, I still
think it could have been. It would have been fine
if you'd reached out after the presentation, But I guess
given the circumstances, as good as he's followed.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Up, it's a game time decision. Sometimes you get a
gut feeling, sometimes you get told by people on the
internet with you, and sometimes you take it all into account.
You realize you gotta do something. You gotta do it,
and hopefully Tammy will get the help she needs and
we are hopefully going to do our best to keep
her daughters away from their father. And that is the
end of that story.
Speaker 4 (16:58):
Oh wow, what a crazy tale.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
He just do. You never know what kind of craziness
is it's coming at you. Sometimes that one was I
would never have expected that.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
But it's like, I mean, her turn was so so surprising.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Well after Op explained it's it feels like it felt
like Eric knew exactly what.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yeah, he was like, oh I understand, Yeah.
Speaker 6 (17:24):
Reunited a family, what it's like reuniting a fan?
Speaker 4 (17:26):
I mean, honestly, I mean, because yeah, she was. She
was kind of a strange this whole time, and.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
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Speaker 4 (17:36):
My boyfriend just discovered that his ex is engaged and
won't stop crying. It should have been me, could have
been me. I twenty two female, met my boyfriend twenty
four male three years ago through some mutual friends. He
was pretty guarded and I was the one that pursued him.
We were long distance. I was living in Oregon, he
(17:58):
was living in Washington until I'm moved in with him
last year. By the way this comes from, boyfriend is
a wreck and if you want to spend your own stories,
go to r slash Okay, storytime separate it. So, my
boyfriend has only had one other relationship and a hookup
before me. He stopped talking to the hookup a long
time ago because she was crazy, but he kept in
(18:19):
touch with his ex until she cut contact with him
around two years ago. They dated when he was fifteen
and it lasted for around two years, and then she
dumped him because he had no self respect. Apparently she's
the reason why my boyfriend is so guarded. Now, I'll
admit that I was really jealous of her and was
glad when she cut contact with him, because she's beautiful
(18:41):
and my boyfriend talked about her as if she had
all of life's answers. This past January, I woke up
in the middle of the night and I heard my
boyfriend crying hiet. I could tell that he was looking
at his phone, and I wasn't sure whether or not
to say anything, since I wasn't sure if you just
wanted a private moment or not. After a while, he
(19:02):
got up to go to the bathroom, so I took
a peek at his phone. He was on Facebook looking
at his exes prof she had gotten engaged, and there
were pictures of the ring and everything. It's been two
months now and my boyfriend has been breaking down out
of nowhere.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Oh maybe it's because he's so happy that he found you.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
If you're not over your exes, don't get in new relationship.
But my moral of this story, don't get in relationships
if you're not over your ex Yeah. I keep asking
him to talk to me about it, but he won't.
I told him to talk to a therapist, and he
got really insulted and said that he doesn't believe in therapy.
(19:43):
That's obvious. I'm unsure of what to do since this
happens at least twice a week.
Speaker 6 (19:49):
YO, that's wild.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
If you're not over your ex, don't get into a relationship.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
But like, also maybe talk about it if it's happening
twice a week. Also that go to therapy, don't you?
I don't know, say something, be like, hey, babes, I've
noticed you've been crying, like on his timetable schedule.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
It seems like you're not over your ex.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Like, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (20:11):
I love him, but he's always seemed a bit distant
to me, And obviously this woman is the reason why.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Because look, okay, here's look, here's here's the reason, right,
because he's not over I know we're all thinking he's
not over his ex, but what if he's actually upset
because now his ex is getting engaged and he had
an internalized competition where he wanted to get based loss
to the love of his life, first law, and he lost,
and he's crying because he wants to be able to
give his partner all of the beautiful things in the
(20:35):
world and he can't do it.
Speaker 6 (20:36):
Yet it's just Katy Perry, the one that got away.
Speaker 7 (20:39):
Oh it is it could be that regardless, I mean,
you always you always remember like your your first, your
first significant relationship. It's always gonna stick with you. But
it's like, yeah, get it?
Speaker 6 (20:57):
What did you wrap it?
Speaker 4 (20:58):
Should I contact her and ask her if she has
any insight? Yeah, he's not over. I'm starting to think
that she must have said something to upset him like this,
because he didn't seem that bothered when his ex was
dating other people, dating and getting engaged just a little different.
Relevant comments deleted. Oh right, okay.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
I feel I feel like that's an appropriate response to
what I said.
Speaker 4 (21:22):
Yeah, no, don't contact her. Her job is finished. If
her X still has problems with the relationship, that's his
issue now, you, missy, do not play fix it here.
You can't fix the fact that your boyfriend is actually
still in love with another woman. You can be the
most perfect woman on earth, but while he still has
her as his dream woman, you don't have a crap show. Honestly,
(21:44):
and as hard as this may be, I'd talk to
him about it again, and then if there is no resolution,
I'd consider moving on. You deserve someone who thinks you
are the best woman on earth, not some distant X
from his high school years. Good luck, Opie, and big
hugs this stinkball, though this stink's balls and Opie responds,
(22:05):
thank you for your reply. I was insecure about my
boyfriend's relationship with his X from the start. They didn't
talk that often, but they catch up once every few
months through Skype or something. She lives on the East Coast,
and when Hurricane Sandy hit, he called her, texted her,
and messaged her on Skype, despite her having cut off
contact with him prior to that. I didn't even know
that he still had her phone number. Is this relationship hopeless?
(22:28):
I knew that he still had a bit of a
thing for her, but I didn't know the extent of
it until now. If he can't move on after all
this time, I don't understand why he got into a
relationship with me. I don't get it either.
Speaker 6 (22:41):
He tried to fill a hole.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Men are weird.
Speaker 6 (22:45):
Women do that too.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
I'm talking about men right now.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Women are all so weird. We're all weird.
Speaker 4 (22:51):
And who's this story talking about men?
Speaker 3 (22:54):
Sorry? My men, there's a woman in that story.
Speaker 6 (22:56):
Ladies, what's my week?
Speaker 4 (22:57):
All are getting really different too, there's actually two women.
It's awfully defensive over here. I'm not talking about women, obviously,
women are doing it. I'm talking about the men in
the story. That are doing it and they're weird. You're like, well,
women do it.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Yeah, of course they do it. You know, I mean
that you said there's no women in the story. I'm like, there's, well,
there's two. It is not what I said.
Speaker 6 (23:14):
There is only one man.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
I said.
Speaker 4 (23:16):
They're not talking about a woman in the story. They're
I mean a man in the story, and there were
no women in.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
The story.
Speaker 4 (23:23):
Deleted. Sometimes we think we are more emotionally available than
we actually are. And I want you to know this.
It is not your fault. I find this happens with
people who run away from their feelings and don't process grief.
It all comes back and bites them in them big time.
We probably didn't know it at the time when he
got with you, that he was like this, and now
it's just spiraled out of control. Yeah, I'm gonna be
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rough and I'm sorry. You sound like an exceptionally loving,
impatient girlfriend. Actually, to be honest, he sounds like a
bit of a knucklehead, putting his ex girlfriend before you
emotionally and no, I think in the long term you'll
find it to be an uphill battle with him. I
think a massive turnaround is highly unlikely. If he is
this bad three years into your relationship. Three years is
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a lot to give up on, I know, but think
about it. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who thinks
you were the most amazing woman in the world? And
op says, sorry, no, I'll save that for later.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
When in the middle of the thought.
Speaker 4 (24:21):
No, it's vin Hope, he just responds, what's your thought?
Speaker 3 (24:24):
Let's let him respond.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
I'll get it, Opie says, I love him From the
moment I saw him. I knew that I wanted to
be with him. He's incredibly smart and charming. But you're right,
I've always felt insignificant in comparison to his ex, and
I don't think that I realized quite how much. If
I think about it, though, there were clues that I
didn't pick up on when we first started dating. I
told him at some point that he didn't seem to
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want to open up to me, and he told me
that it was because his ex had taught him not
to become too vulnerable. I thought this would pass as
we got more serious about each other, and he did
open up a bit more, but whenever he caught up
with his ex, he'd be dissonant with me again. For
a while.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
That's a terrible sign. That's a pretty big warning warning siren,
like a like a like a tornado just going off.
So this is a problem that I mean, we're talking
about the man, and this man has not and perhaps
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did not even know he needed to move on from
this X.
Speaker 4 (25:30):
No, of course he didn't, because he jumped. He probably
jumped into another relationship.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Well no, no, no, because because he's he's he's doing skype
catchups like every couple months, right, So it's like there's
no cutoff, no point. And one day he wakes up
and he sees some post that this ex girlfriend has
now a ring on her finger, and then everything comes
crumbling in around him in that one moment, and now
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he's like, oh my god, I've missed out on the
love of my blah blah blah blah blah blah blah
blah blah blah. And this is just if you would
have properly processed the breakup at the beginning, yeah, this
would not have happened exactly. And that is a problem
with the man in the story, but it's also a
problem that can happen to every human being. Like if
we don't properly and that's well, it's it's fine. I'm
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not and I'm not trying to defend this guy. Yeah,
I'm just saying it's watch.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
Out, could happen to you?
Speaker 3 (26:22):
It secretly like plant a little sleeper cell bomb in
your head that will go off one day you're like, why,
why is it doing it? And it's like, oh, because
I put it there. I didn't even know it.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
Mysa says Opie is still so young. She has so
much more to live for than dealing with an emotionally
unavailable man who is not over his ex.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
Yeah, just leave? Do you just leave the guy?
Speaker 4 (26:41):
Leave him mind, move forward, even him behind.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Times are our idealized versions of people that like we
see in our head or like the relationship that we
see yeah in three years from now is what makes
us stay. It wasn't you know.
Speaker 4 (26:53):
You're gonna look back on it and you're gonna be like, wow,
definitely wasn't as good as I was thinking it was.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Yeah, you will.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
People who aren't over their ex is aren't ready to
be in a good relationship, Like it's always all something's
always going to be off about it if they are
not over the person that was before you.
Speaker 6 (27:09):
Yeah, the most icky part is the X might be
from Jersey.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
What just a new every girl thisss guy's ever dated
from New Jersey.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I don't know why is X cut off contact with him?
But after she did, he did seem more invested in
our relationship, and so I had hope for us. He
was the one that asked if I wanted to move
in with him. But now this happened and he barely
wants to talk to me. I mean she probably cut
off contact because she was in this relationship and she realized, oh,
he is not over me.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
Yeah, like once you realize as someone getting married that,
like you have a friend who's into you and is
not not into you, Like, I don't know, you got
to make a business decision at that point. Absolutely, this
is what's best for my current relationship.
Speaker 4 (27:51):
But there is an update. Do you have any thoughts
before we get into it?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
Pretty much? I unleashed my thoughts upon pot said the
comment section. Yeah, this is uh. You gotta be gotta
be vigilant of our own little mental land minds we
leave for ourselves.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
Yeah, and he's they're both young when he's they're in
their twenties, like truly, Oh yeah, you're a confusing time.
Y'all need to talk about this, like just Frank, she said.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
She said that like he was always so closed off,
like she tried to get him to open up about
things and he just didn't want to. And that was
already about sign. But there is an update.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Yeah, and if he can't talk, that's an answer within itself.
So there you go.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Hey, it's Sam. We're go get back to the stories.
But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
Speaker 4 (28:34):
It's over. I think I called my dad after and
asked him to help me move back home. These last
two days have been really emotional. My boyfriend was gone
all day yesterday. He was gone when I woke up.
That's fine. I assumed he went to work early, but
he still wasn't home when I went to bed. I
texted him once I woke up to say good morning,
and twice at night, and one asking if he was
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coming home for dinner and another asking if he was
all right. I also tried calling a cell, but he
didn't pick up. I thought that I deserved some answers,
so I decided to snoop, something I've done once before
when I was feeling insecure about his relationship with his
ex well. On his laptop hidden in a bunch of
subfolders was an MS document with his ex's name. Okay,
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I read it, and I'm assuming that he just saved
the last conversation that he had with her right before
she cut contact with him. I see, I see you.
I now understand why she cut contact. It started out normally,
but then he asked her how her relationship with her
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now fiance boyfriend was going. She said that I was
good and that she was happy, and then it got
weird because he said something like, really, are you sure.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
And then she said, oh my god, now that you
mention it, I'm in love with you, with you for you.
Speaker 4 (29:58):
She said yes and said that was a weird question,
and he said, I don't know. I don't believe that
you're that happy. I don't remember everything exactly because my
head was spinning, but he basically told her that her
fiance then boyfriend would never treat her as well as
he did, and that they've known each other X number
of years and managed to say friends after their breakup,
that they've helped each other grow as people, and that
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she should really give them another chance.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
Oof oof, big old oof. Oof.
Speaker 4 (30:26):
He said that he's waited for all these years and
that he loves her and always believe they wind up together.
This was all while he was with me.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
Ooh, big old oof. All right, maybe we don't all
do this. This is the you saved this in a
word document this exchange.
Speaker 4 (30:45):
She called him an ale and told them that he
had a lot of balls to say all that to
her when she told them a long time ago they're
only ever going to be friends and that he's an
ever and that he's an even bigger ale for doing
this while they were both in relationships. She told them
to go to hack and to break up with me
for my sake, because I deserve better. That's not even
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the worst part.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
Oh boy, oh oh boy.
Speaker 4 (31:09):
My boyfriend woke me up this morning by calling mysel
and telling me to come to the kitchen. He said
that he made breakfast. So I go to the kitchen
getting ready for a fight. He and I never fight,
but I am so gosh dang hurt. And he made
what honestly look like an amazing breakfast with a ring
box in the middle of the table.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Oh, I can't eat that, You're like, we want to breakfast?
This isn't a candy ring. What are we doing here? WHOA, Yeah,
so that's not gonna work. Why do we do it?
Speaker 4 (31:43):
He told me to open it?
Speaker 3 (31:45):
I did.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
He said something like these last three years with me
has been an adventure, and he hopes to keep making
new adventures with me. I guess around this time, I
snap out of whatever hayes I've been in, and I exploded.
I demand to know where he was all day yesterday,
why he wouldn't contact me, why he's been crying over
his ex for the last three months? Everything. He got
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mad at me for being mad. He told me that
I should be happy because he was proposing, and wasn't
that what I wanted? I asked him why when it's
so obvious that he'd rather be with his ex. He
told me that she's obviously moved on, so it's time
for him to move on too. Why it's been time.
It's been three years of time. You should have moved
on ages ago. I have never been so angry in
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my life.
Speaker 5 (32:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:37):
I've been so incredibly patient with this man and done
my best to be understanding of a situation. I've literally
given him all that I had. But I'm not gonna
get married to him just to be his consolation prize. Yeah,
the only good consolation prize is that one song.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Yeah nights. What song is it called cons prize?
Speaker 4 (33:00):
Might be it's all consolation price, that.
Speaker 3 (33:03):
One song called about consolation.
Speaker 4 (33:05):
Yeah wait, what's it called conculations?
Speaker 3 (33:06):
Yeah? This is unhinged behavior to be like, well, I mean,
I guess she's just gone because she's like rejected me,
So I guess what, I'm going to marry you? Why
are you mad?
Speaker 4 (33:16):
Like she's marrying someone else, so I might as well
marry you, but I can't have her.
Speaker 3 (33:20):
You hit him with the if she broke up with
the fiance right now and asked you to marry her,
would you do it? And when he goes yeah, that's
when you you say, okay go or when he hesitates
for literally two seconds, you cannot hesitate that question. If
you hesitate at all, out be gone. He wants to
have a wedding before, Yeah, he wants to.
Speaker 4 (33:39):
He has to one upper you.
Speaker 6 (33:40):
Want, that's what he wants.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Absolutely, with a pathetic little bowl, that's.
Speaker 6 (33:44):
What he wants to say.
Speaker 7 (33:44):
It's that's that same mindset of like, oh someone, let's
have a wedding. I'm gonna do that right before them.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
It's so ironic because had he proposed four plus months earlier,
I would have been ecstatic. Now it's just broke our relationship.
So yeah, I called my dad crying and he's on
his way down. We move back in with him and
my mom. That's it. I'm a wreck. But I think
it's just because everything wrong and twisted in this relationship
is hitting me and it took so long for me
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to understand, and my ex is just sitting on the
couch with.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
His laptop, dang, nonchalant.
Speaker 4 (34:14):
Thank you guys so much for helping me see how
unfair this whole relationship was. I read all of the
comments and there are some relevant comments. But guys, we're
only halfway through the story.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
Things are gonna get better for Op. I'm hoping they've got.
Speaker 6 (34:27):
To get we're halfway.
Speaker 7 (34:28):
We're only halfway through, and Op's already leaving this guy.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
It's time for upswing.
Speaker 4 (34:32):
He made a mistake. People have made bigger mistakes before.
Speaker 6 (34:38):
You gotta eat the relevance.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
Down voted deleted comment. Wow, he made a mistake. People
have made bigger mistakes before and overcome it. He was
putting you number one by.
Speaker 3 (34:50):
Proposing to you. You said you had three years.
Speaker 4 (34:53):
Of happy relationship together before this, Although he had a
temporary lapse in judgment.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
To watch you, it wasn't ten.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
You're looking for an incredibly perfect fairy tale where everything
plays out exactly like you wanted it. After you break up,
you'll start to realize all the things he did to
say and show he loved you. Things that should trump
this revelation.
Speaker 3 (35:11):
Is this him sounds like things are.
Speaker 4 (35:13):
Your way or the highway. Hopefully, if another man loves you,
he'll be willing to put up with that.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
So that's one hundred percent Op's X right there. That's
the only person who could have wrote that. God damn sheesh.
Speaker 4 (35:28):
Opie responds, I thought that my relationship was a happy one, yes,
But I didn't know that my ex was declaring his
love for his ex girlfriend trying to win her back
while he was still with me. Nor did I know
that once she blocked him on Facebook, he was logging
into my account to keep tabs on her. If you
honestly believe that someone that's been crying for three months
over an nex's engagement really wanted to be with me, you're.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
In the minority three months.
Speaker 4 (35:54):
And also has been messaging her over the years. You know,
they've kept in calm so when the astro be with
him and he like, you know, lied and was like, yeah,
we'll just be friends, and then the whole time he's like,
but maybe one day, but maybe she'll she'll choose me, And.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
That makes him an a hole.
Speaker 4 (36:10):
And an emotional cheater. And judging by the fact that
he had bought the ring the day before he proposed,
he really hadn't planned anything at all. I'm astounded by
your post.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
Honestly, me too, op, me too astounded.
Speaker 4 (36:23):
There is an update three weeks later, but uh, wow, wow, wow.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Wow wow. Don't be this man. Be better, and don't
be that commenter.
Speaker 4 (36:33):
Don't be that commenter either, who maybe is also that man?
Speaker 3 (36:35):
Certain is that man?
Speaker 4 (36:37):
Maybe one and the same.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
I'm trying to process what has to happen to a
person to move on to to make a comment like
that is it has to be this, I.
Speaker 4 (36:46):
Mean, you have to be not that person also has
to be not over their ex.
Speaker 3 (36:48):
In a different scenario, I'm like, maybe this is actually
that's not even wrong. If there aren't any messages, if
they're not staying in contact if it is just like
a weird like, dude, I don't know, I saw this
in freak me out. I don't know what's going on.
Let's talk it out. We can figure this out. That's
for sure doable the whole like saving your final message
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in a Microsoft word document and it's not good and
you're that's like a toxic fixation. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:20):
I feel like there is sometimes this like thought pattern
that when you're when you get out of a relationship
or just like any sort of situation, you know, romantic situation,
that you won't be able to get over it until
you get with someone new. And that's not true if
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you take the time, no matter how hard it feels,
and no matter how much it feels like you won't
ever get over it, give it time and wait until
you do feel like you're over it before getting into
another relationship. Because I've been through it and I was like, wow,
I'm never gonna be over this until I give us
someone else. No, it is not true. One day you're like, oh, yeah,
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I actually don't care about that anymore. So dude, get
over your relationship. That's my friendly advice to that. The
man in this story.
Speaker 3 (38:14):
Yeah, ope, he's X. And if you really can't after
years and years and years, you gotta get help.
Speaker 4 (38:18):
You gotta go to therapy because you're obsessed. You are
dealing with obsession.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
Yeah, and it's just bad for you. It's bad for
you and bad for everyone around you in your life.
It's like a partner. It's just all bad.
Speaker 4 (38:30):
And kim Von commases. I mean, when I saw that
my ex from ten years ago got married, it definitely
made me feel weird, but I'm also not a relationship.
Weird is different than sobbing for three months.
Speaker 6 (38:40):
I don't twice twice a week.
Speaker 4 (38:41):
I think most people would feel some sort of way
about seeing their ex getting married. I think most people
would feel at least a couple emotions. Sobbing for three
months should not be one of them.
Speaker 3 (38:53):
This is true.
Speaker 4 (38:54):
I don't think that feeling weird about your ex getting
married is not being or is not not being over them.
I think you can still be over them and feel weird. Yeah, no,
it's yeah, getting over someone like an ex doesn't mean
that you have literally no thoughts or feelings about them.
It just means that, like you're not I don't know
it means.
Speaker 3 (39:11):
That you're not sending messages like are you really happy
with the guy right now?
Speaker 4 (39:15):
I'm still emotionally invested in everything they do. But there
is an update. My ax went more or less crazy
after I moved back home. I locked him from essentially everything,
changed all my passwords, and deactivated my Facebook, so he
had no way of reaching me aside from literally driving
to my parents' house to see me. Apparently, he started
sending messages to my friends, some of them are mutual friends,
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asking to use their Skype accounts to talk to me.
He told them that I stole some things from him
when I moved out, and he wanted them back. I
got a few phone calls from my friends asking me
about this. They told me that they knew that I
didn't steal anything from him, because that's not like me
at all, but they wanted to know why he was
so desperate to contact me. I wasn't ready to tell
the whole story, Honestly, I don't think anyone would believe me,
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so I told them that I didn't know what was
going on, but asked them not to give their Skype
accounts by any means. A few days after that, the
phone calls started, all from a few different numbers that
I didn't recognize. I didn't pick I didn't pick any
of them up, but one day I'd have about twenty
miss call from one number, then another twenty plus from
a different number. I had to set my phone to
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only allow calls from specific numbers, otherwise it would go
straight to voicemail. After the fifth day of the phone calls,
I broke down and told my mom everything that happened.
She didn't say much, she mostly let me talk. Afterwards,
she told me that I made the right decision, but
there's absolutely no reason why I should be going through
this alone. She said that she didn't want to push
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me to tell her what happened until I was ready,
but that the best thing that I could be doing
right now is spending time with people that love and
support me. So after going with me to get my
phone number changed, she encouraged me to start calling my
friends and telling them what happened, and to just hang
out with them more. In general, I had it stuck
in my head everyone would side with my ex and
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tell me that I made a terrible mistake, that his
intentions were good, and I blew things out of proportion
by insinuating that he only proposed because his ex girlfriend
got engaged.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
But that's exactly why he did.
Speaker 4 (41:16):
He didn't have the ring until a day before he proposed.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
He didn't move until he got shut down by the
X complete, completely and totally, with no chance of recovery.
Speaker 4 (41:28):
Apparently, my ex had been telling everyone that we broke
up because I had major jealousy issues over his ex.
But once they heard my side of the story, I
was actually shocked by how many of them said that
it made sense. Yeah, because it's pretty easy to tell
who's the crazy one. They've all told me that I've
done the right thing and that they backed me up
no matter what they're.
Speaker 3 (41:48):
Like, Yeah, we did all find that shrine in the
back of his closet.
Speaker 4 (41:52):
Weird, But you know, he said that you were obsessed
with him, so yeah, I don't know. You know what's funny,
not funny, scary? Maybe I think, oh, he's replacing the
previous ex.
Speaker 6 (42:04):
I was gonna say.
Speaker 4 (42:05):
That, Yeah, you know, like I think this is the
this is the new person.
Speaker 6 (42:08):
That He's not gonna give it a couple of weeks,
maybe a month. He's gonna start making that letter to
you and.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
Like they've all told me, and I'm just going, oh,
now you've You've been replaced. Now the shrine will be
of you.
Speaker 4 (42:21):
I just felt this huge sense of relief, and I've
been making an effort to go out more. I will
be honest, though there are times where I wonder if
I was wrong. Sometimes I think that maybe my ex
had been grieving over his old relationship and proposing to
me was his way of starting over. You were not
the starting over point.
Speaker 3 (42:37):
Though.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
Proposing should not be starting over from the old relationship.
It should be like you progressed within this relationship to
a point where you, guys feel really strong.
Speaker 7 (42:48):
It's like he proposed, like, oh wow, I'm over here, amazing.
Speaker 3 (42:52):
Oh that's all I need to do.
Speaker 4 (42:54):
He's like, babe, would you make me the happiest man
who is Now? I can happily say over his ex.
Speaker 3 (43:02):
Also marry me, I guess because she won't won't marry me?
Will you marry me because she won't?
Speaker 4 (43:10):
No, Oh well, I guess I'll find a new U
and then you can be my new ex.
Speaker 3 (43:16):
Maybe one day you'll marry me.
Speaker 4 (43:19):
Sometimes I think that I turned down the only marriage
proposal that I'll ever get girl, You're like, how old
is she?
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Twenty one?
Speaker 4 (43:26):
Girl, you're twenty two if that's the only marriage proposal
that you'll ever get, like everyone else is not getting married.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Because yeah, no one's getting married.
Speaker 4 (43:35):
And sometimes I think that maybe I should have accepted
because I loved him, and you don't often find people
that you truly love. That's because right now you aren't
over him. Takes time, takes time, but sometimes you get there.
Eventually you get there. But then on the days that
I'm feeling wiser, I remind myself how bizarre are last
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few weeks together were, How I always knew deep down
that I was second best for him, and how he's
been behaving since we broke up. I've never seen him
so unstable. He was always so calm and logical, so
this is completely new to me. I knew deep down
that I did the right thing, but sometimes what you
know in your head and feeling your heart, you're so
completely different. So that's basically it. I'm just going through
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the motions and I'm gonna make an appointment with the therapist.
Speaker 3 (44:22):
Yes who Yes, I.
Speaker 4 (44:23):
Wish that I had something more profound update with you guys,
but I don't My best advice for anyone going through
something similar is what my mom told me. Surround yourself
with people that love and support you. And there is
a I think somewhat final update, maybe nearly two months.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
After your mom had some banger advice right there. All right,
and we've gone two months into the future. Op, he's
got a new life. Yeah, things you're clicking into place,
and she's gonna meet.
Speaker 4 (44:50):
The Okay, well maybe not the love of her life.
You more time, the love of your life, but then
she's not gonna get with him, and they're.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
The queen of France. What okay? Right?
Speaker 4 (45:04):
First, my ex mailed me the engagement ring that he
brought that he bought shortly after my last update. I
didn't know what to do with it. I wasn't sure
if the ring was what he had been claiming that
I stole. Oh, so he was trying to mail you proof.
I also felt weird about mailing it back because what
if he claimed that he never got it. So my
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dad volunteered to personally deliver the ring back to him,
and you should like record it, do some blogging. Yeah,
I don't know if anything was said when my dad
brought it back and I never asked. Second, I heard
from some friends that two weeks ago my ex bought
a ticket and Fluton, NYC to try and talk to
his Somehow he found out the name of the company
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that she worked for, looked up ats location, and waited
in front of the building all day.
Speaker 3 (45:52):
That's what so, brother, I hope it was her day off.
Speaker 4 (45:56):
I have no idea what happened, but apparently there aren't
any signs if you're coming back, so I'm assuming that
i'd go very well. I can't believe that he did that,
and I can't believe that I dated someone that was
that crazy for three years. As well as it helps
every time that I hear about something like this because
it reinforces the fact that I did the right thing.
Sometimes get you know, you just need to get the egg,
(46:18):
and then you're like, oh, I'm actually yeah.
Speaker 6 (46:21):
I mean there's a lot of I.
Speaker 4 (46:22):
Met with two therapists. I wasn't a huge fan of
the first one. Every time I said something, he'd ask
and how do you feel about that? No feedback or
suggestions whatsoever. At the end, he suggested that I was
depressed and might want to consider a few different medications.
I don't intend on seeing that guy again.
Speaker 3 (46:40):
Well, I mean, hey, maybe.
Speaker 4 (46:41):
There's no way that you can say that someone's depressed
after one meeting.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
Was it just one?
Speaker 4 (46:45):
Yeah, that was the first meeting with that guy. I
don't think that's that's crazy to me, like to not
only say that a person's depressed, but also to like
medic you know, you like prescribe medication. I feel like
you got app more than one.
Speaker 3 (46:58):
It was it really only one? Yes? He was only one? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (47:00):
No, she was saying that she met this guy and
she was like, I'm not going.
Speaker 3 (47:04):
Back to him. Yeah, that sounds swack. Yeah. Not all
therapists are created equal.
Speaker 4 (47:07):
I met the second one last week, though, and I
liked her a lot. She told me that she doesn't
think that I need to see her regularly, but to
feel free to make appointments whenever I'm feeling especially down
or stressed. So I think I'll do that. A few
people asked why I wanted to see a therapist on
my last post, because I seemed to be doing the
right things. Well, the problem was that even though I
knew I was doing the right thing, I didn't necessarily
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feel that they were right. I mean, therapy is always good,
I still doubted myself and I felt like a different
person than I used to be prior to this mess.
I was always very optimistic and happy in general. I
always try to make the best of things, but at
the time of my last post, I felt down, and
even though I was making an effort to see friends,
I wasn't really enjoying it anyway. This brings me to
where I am now. I started a paid internship with
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the chance of getting a hired full time almost a
month ago, and I love it. I love the people,
the work itself, and the fact that I'm getting beat
back into her team. I'm a little embarrassed to say
that I'm attracted to the guy that hired me. Is
about my age.
Speaker 7 (48:08):
I'm gonna say that I'm gonna put I'm gonna put
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the workplace.
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Speaker 3 (48:15):
You're moving on. I've never heard of a single example
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Speaker 3 (48:43):
Find a laugh poo. That's about it.
Speaker 4 (48:47):
Yeah, that's about it. Mine. I feel like I've gotten
all my thoughts in this man.
Speaker 3 (48:51):
He went to New York, New York City. I deeply
hope that she was off work that day and he
stood out all day for nothing, because that you should
be go to jail, Go to jail for that, Straight
to jail, Go straight to jail.
Speaker 4 (49:06):
There's nothing going on, and I definitely am not ready
or willing to be in a relationship good. It's simply
the fact that he's the nicest, best mannered person that
I've ever met. And sometimes it's just nice to have
a cute person there to look at the same time,
and sometimes you just need some mine.
Speaker 3 (49:21):
Where they are right there, there, they are right there.
Speaker 4 (49:24):
He's always positive, polite, and smiling, so it's impossible not
to be in a good mood around him.
Speaker 6 (49:29):
She got butterflies.
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So it's not that I think my next relationship to
be with him, or that I have feelings for him.
It's just that I realized that the type of person
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me feel good just by being around them. Dude, you
know what, girl, I'm gonna let you kid yourself. But
I've done this before where I this was in college
and I was like, oh my god, this person is
so nice, Like, doesn't everyone like whenever you talk to them,
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My boyfriend's ex showed up years later to tell him
he had secret twins.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Why are we keeping baby secret?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Maybe the babies were invisible? We'll find out soon. We
have been together for just over four years, so this
must have happened just before we got together, or else
we would have had to have an entirely different conversation.
I'm still working on finding out the exact dates of
when all of this took place. But I got a
message from a woman yesterday claiming to be the mother
(00:49):
of a set of twins that she says are from
my boyfriend.
Speaker 5 (00:53):
Course okay o proof proof proof now proof Poof of course,
I had a ton of questions before I would believe her,
So this is.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
What I found out from her. By the way, this
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Speaker 6 (01:20):
Someone someone got spawned somewhere.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
I did not mean to summon whatever creature I summoned.
So here's the information. Tammy and my boyfriend Eric met
in two thousand and nine and started casually dating. They
were never exclusive. She said that she told Eric that
her birth control wasn't working for her and she'd stopped
taking it, but Eric still wanted to not use protection.
You're still up a week later, and then she found
(01:45):
out she was pregnant a month later. Use protection.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
That's how that work.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
That's why we used protection.
Speaker 6 (01:53):
The learning lesson of the day.
Speaker 4 (01:54):
Yeah, of all of these stories.
Speaker 6 (01:56):
Yeah, I'm out of all these stories.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Is guys protection when you don't want kids, don't want
secret twins used protection. She says that they ended on
terrible terms, quote unquote, and she didn't think it would
be in the best interest of the children to have
him in their life. She made it sound as if
she was afraid of him. She thought she could do
this on her own, and until a month ago she
(02:19):
was doing all right. She was living with her mother
and working full time as well and taking night classes
to finish school. Then her mother passed away and she
got laid off. Now she's homeless and has nowhere else
to turn to. Holy crap, that's a rough hand. She
sent me pictures of the two girls and a holy crap,
they look just like Eric. I don't know if that
(02:41):
is my mind playing tricks on me, but he is
from the Philippines, Philippins, Filipino boy spotted Philippins, we got
mentioned baby and has a very very distinguished face that
is very unique.
Speaker 6 (02:54):
That's just all.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
We all look alike this I'm wondering about beings just like.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
They look exactly like him, and it's just like those
are those are just Filipino people.
Speaker 7 (03:05):
Those literally like all Filipinos, like you could be cousin,
you can be brother, mother, father, we all know.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
That's right, folks, It's crazy, that's right. They are the
spitting image of Eric. I have set up a breakfast
between me and her for tomorrow morning. The only reason
I'm holding this information from Eric right now is because
just last week we had the kids talk. We are
both completely in agreement that we never want kids. I
almost feel like I need to scope out this woman
(03:32):
before I tell him. He gets very stressed and upset
about things very quickly, and this is a situation that
will put him over the edge. He also has a
giant presentation in front of the board of advisors at
his work tomorrow, and he's already throwing up at just
the thought of how nervous he is.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
That's fair to not tell, because I was gonna say
you should tell him, but like, maybe wait until after
the present.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
It's just a little bit of good timing. Yeah, yes,
what am I dealing with here?
Speaker 6 (03:57):
Reddit?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
I know I have to tell my boyfriend, But then what?
What are questions I need to ask this woman when
I see her tomorrow?
Speaker 4 (04:04):
You have proof?
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Right? Where's the proof? Give me the pudding? How do
I keep this civil? I don't know what it means
when she says they ended on bad terms. Eric is
the sweetest man I know, and I can't see him
ever being a person who would scare someone so much
that they are keeping his kids from him. I know
the first thing we have to do is get a
paternity test, but I'm already trying to plan for after
that because they look so much like him. This is
(04:26):
the man I want to spend the rest of my
life with. If these kids are really his, then I
will welcome them with open arms. But what would that mean?
I can see this getting extremely ugly, extremely quickly. Please
help me hold this together as best as I can
and at it. Even with the first few comments, I
can see that I need to tell Eric about this now. Ugh.
(04:47):
I have called him and asked that he comes straight
home from work to talk about it. Wait.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
Know he has a presentation.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Yeah, I have probably freaked him out, but I don't
want to do this over the phone, and he hardly
has a second for a phone call at work. Anyways,
we'll keep updating after talking to him.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
No, it lit his presentations tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Just wait a day. Listen to the wrong comments.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Oh no, dude, wait a day. Maybe some of the
comments were good. We have some comments here, Maybe some
of them were good. I would have waited as well.
Wait not very long.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Growing up from the presentation.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Just wait a day. Or maybe it's the maybe it's
the opposite effect. Maybe now he's he's throwing up about
the Board of advisors.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
He's like, the presentation means nothing now that I'm worried
about my kids.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
And a lot of times when you get that nonchalant
nothing to lose energy, that's when you crush stuff the hardest,
Like hey guys, He's like, hey guys, I'm actually way
too busy thinking about my secret twins that I didn't
know about. I got two kids. Yeah, here we go.
I just I just woke up found out I had
two kids who were five years old.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Yeah, presentation, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I got to go.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
What do we even do at this job?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Everybody pay attention because I got things to do. Coming.
Number one? This is fishy. Why would she message you
and not Eric? How does she know you're his girlfriend?
Opie says. I did ask her this. She said that
she has either blocked him or he blocked her on
social media, which makes me assume that he blocked her
because she could just unblock him. She also said she
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doesn't have his phone number and that he wasn't listed.
He is listed, so she just didn't try hard enough.
Her weird answers just make me assume that she's either
scared of him or she knows she effed up in
some way and that he won't want to talk to her,
so I was the next best option. Reply how did
she know you were his girlfriend? Though? That is my
main question. The big question is is she's stalking him?
(06:38):
You need to talk to him, Opie, dang, I didn't
even think about that on her Facebook. It says that
she lives a few towns away from us, probably like
a two hour drive or so. He has also moved
away from the town where he dated her, which is
a seven hour plane flight from US, so she obviously
picked her location because of where he is. Reply, you
(06:59):
need to tell your boyfriend, asapp do not go to
the meeting. See what he has to say about her first.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Oh, absolutely, don't go to the meeting with the stranger right.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
If he has any reasons to believe the kids might
be his, you need to contact a lawyer immediately. Op
he says. I've called him and said he needs to
come home right after work to talk. But we should
know in a few hours and then I will see
what he wants to do about the meeting. Luckily, I
have an amazing lawyer who can help us if we
need it. And there's a second comment. But first of all,
I just want to say, could you have maybe told
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him in a way that didn't sound so stressful?
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Yeah, it didn't sound like you were breaking up with them. Yeah,
I mean this is maybe I would have done.
Speaker 7 (07:34):
He's Filipino, he's used to it. He loves the drama.
We love drama.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Dude, if we're doing like like day off, well, first
of all, I would have done a day off. I
would have done it post presentation. But if we're doing
a day of I'm not going to text the middle
of the work day so that he's stressing out about it.
I'm texting him like thirty minutes before it works over. Hey,
come over right after you finished work. We have to, like,
(08:00):
I just found out some serious news. You need to
talk about it with you. You could probably reassure enough
to be like, it's not really no one's injured, no
one's hurt.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
It's not necessarily an emergency. It's just very important. Yeah,
and I love you.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
And I love you. We're good. Kisses. I'm making lazagna tonight.
Take notes, folks, Dude, I'm thinking of la over here.
I made a vegan lasagna like ten years ago and
it was so good. Wow, it had kite hill ricotta
cheese in it.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Imagine how good it taste now that it's been fermented
for ten years. Like a wine, like a fine wine.
Lasagna wine coming. Number two. My guess is he's never
even met this woman and she's attempting to scam you.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
Did she photoshop the children.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Yeah, so are the children photoshop Like? They're literally your husband.
You're like, they look just like him, it's just his
head like slightly edited.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Oh she did like the she did the thing where
you can combine your face with someone else's to make
your kids.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Yeah. She she just did a straight up Facebook scam.
She probably emails a ton of people on Facebook simply
looking up their boyfriend's name and claims she's the mother
of the boyfriend's kids, and anyone who responds back she
gives the same story to for real. The other day
on here, someone had a post saying, Wow, a long
lost sibling contacted me, and it turned out to be
a scammer. The person never had a long lost sibling.
(09:21):
The scammer just used that lie to get people to
talk to him or her and eventually steal their personal
information or something I guess, to get them to send
them money. Definitely don't meet with her in person, and
I hope to goodness that you didn't give her any
personal information already via email communications coming through says ask
for a sample of DNA resemblance is not enough, and
there's an update here. I need to know.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
I think it's a scam. I don't think these kids
are his, or if the kids exist at all.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I'm gonna take the other side of that. Ooh, it
is reloo isreal and that see who wins. Maybe in
his youth five years ago, little Eric used to be a.
Speaker 6 (09:59):
Little here it gets loser. Lasagna.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Stop saying lasagna in front of Sophia. Lasagna is her
trigger word right now, lazagna. Every time we say lasagna,
she gets hungrier.
Speaker 6 (10:10):
You said it more than I.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I won't say lasagna a single more time than this time. Lasagna.
Let's go update. I am so sorry it has taken
me a while to update. I had a bunch of
messages asking what had happened, So here it is. My
boyfriend came home from work around five pm. I showed
him all of the messages from the woman claiming to
be the mother of his kids, and he didn't say
a word the whole time. He ignored all of my questions.
(10:36):
Then he went to make a phone call, leaving me
pissed off and questioning in the other room for a
half hour. When he came out, he sat me down
and told me this story. Tammy is Eric's sister.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
That's why they look like him through his nibblings.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
They are technically relative. Oh my god, Oh my god.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
Why is she claiming to have data out?
Speaker 3 (11:04):
I don't know. Let's find out. Everything she told me
about them being in a relationship was a lie. When
Tammy was sixteen, she got involved with a guy who
was part of a club, a cool club, a ga
ng and things went downhill from there. She left home
when she was nineteen by storming out of the house
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when she was told she needed to get a job.
They hadn't seen her since. I actually know that story
a little bit because Eric told me that he hasn't
a strange sister, but his family never talks about her.
I asked about her once at Christmas, and Eric's mother
told me to shut up.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
Oh so I've never brought it up. Okay, that's rude.
I'm sorry you were like, oh I heard you had
a sister.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
Shut up, shut up, don't talk about we don't talk
about her. I feel like this comes from a place
of like, that's my mistake. Don't that I made in
front of it. Don't bring up my shame, which is
not great. The person Eric called was his brother. I
guess the brother had heard about her having children somehow,
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and had spent a year back in twenty twelve searching
for her. The last he heard she was homeless, with
the girls living with their father. So after all of that,
I contacted Tammy again asking if it would be okay
for Eric to join us for breakfast because he wants
to help her. He asked if I had told him
about her, and I said yes, and that I know
she's his sister. I also made sure to let her
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know that I'm not angry that she lied, and I
just want to help in any way i can. Eric,
Eric's brother Jason, Tammy and I had met up with
her the next morning out in front of a cafe,
and we all decided to go somewhere else because of
how nervous she was, so we went to a park.
She was not in good shape. The left side of
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her face had looked like burns on it, and she
had a welt on her cheekbone. She said that she
was trying to get sober when she got pregnant. She
was in AA and had managed to get a job
at Burger King. You met a guy who seemed to
have his life together, owned a house, decent job. He
got her pregnant. When she had her twins, the father
had taken complete control of everything. He became violent towards
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her and would not let her out of the house.
He kept track of all of her activities by monitoring
the computer and her cell phone, which was only allowed
to be used to call him. He paid for everything
and made sure that she would be completely lost if
she left him. That's like the most nefarious kind of abuse.
I hate that where it's just like just the ISO
and then it's like, yeah, and now you're stuck here
(13:32):
because if you leave, you'll have nothing and you'll be helpless.
It's like, oof, oh, we got to be independent, yeah,
develop our skills.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
Really tragic to to have to or believe that you
have to lie, like literally kind of scam your family
members into helping you because you feel like, you know,
there's no other way out, that's all.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Yeah, this is a pretty tragic one. There was another
incident and that night she snuck the girls out of
the house. Didn't think the family would take her back
after everything that happened, so she slept in an abandoned
building near a library so she could use the internet.
She found me when she found pictures of me and
Eric on Facebook and sent me the message. And by
the way, you can listen to full episodes with stories
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Speaker 4 (14:26):
Well, it seems like she's getting the help that she needs.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
There had to, yes at this point now, and I
feel like the family's probably going to be receptive to
assisting or not the mom. But it's like, really, whatever
happened in her youth was like very intense it but
does not.
Speaker 4 (14:41):
Deserve to be abandoned in this moment. Yeah, no, oh wow,
like truly just went from I mean I'm sure there
were people in the common saying, oh, it's a scam,
lock like it's scam or something. Yeah, thank god, Oh
pe like followed up on this. It's wow, like you know,
if if she had it.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Scar, Yeah, charges need to be pressed against that guy
who or like things need to be claims need to
be made. I cannot be allowed around those kids.
Speaker 4 (15:14):
Angela Connolly says where the kids now? I believe they're.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
With their mother. Yeah, kids need to be helped. They
are blameless.
Speaker 4 (15:22):
Nina Nil Nilsen says, unbelievably brave of her to reach out,
even if she did kind.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Of scam, I mean even a context.
Speaker 4 (15:29):
Yeah, Anissa, Julia says, so does that mean both of
you guys were right?
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Yeah, I guess so. I guess so, I guess so
you know what that means, Lasan. Yeah, that was cruel.
That was that was brutal. It's all right, you're almost there.
Let's finish this story. I have no idea why she lied. Well,
we do. Yeah, it seems to me that she is
(15:55):
not completely adjusted and may have some mental problems. We've
contacted the authority and her a whole boyfriend has been arrested.
Let's go. Thank you. Eric's family was amazingly forgiving and
has invited Tammy and the twins to live with Eric's
parents until she can figure something out. Thank God, that's
a perfect The story's not perfect, but that's the perfect way.
(16:17):
That was the best situation for Thank you all so
much for your replies and for convincing me to get
Eric involved as soon as possible.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Yeah, okay, I guess you guys were. Honestly, I still
think it could have been. It would have been fine
if you'd reached out after the presentation, But I guess
given the circumstances, as good as he's followed.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Up, it's a game time decision. Sometimes you get a
gut feeling, sometimes you get told by people on the
internet with you, and sometimes you take it all into account.
You realize you gotta do something. You gotta do it,
and hopefully Tammy will get the help she needs and
we are hopefully going to do our best to keep
her daughters away from their father. And that is the
end of that story.
Speaker 4 (16:58):
Oh wow, what a crazy tale.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
He just do. You never know what kind of craziness
is it's coming at you. Sometimes that one was I
would never have expected that.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
But it's like, I mean, her turn was so so surprising.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Well after Op explained it's it feels like it felt
like Eric knew exactly what.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yeah, he was like, oh I understand, Yeah.
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I mean, honestly, I mean, because yeah, she was. She
was kind of a strange this whole time, and.
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We were long distance. I was living in Oregon, he
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was living in Washington until I'm moved in with him
last year. By the way this comes from, boyfriend is
a wreck and if you want to spend your own stories,
go to r slash Okay, storytime separate it. So, my
boyfriend has only had one other relationship and a hookup
before me. He stopped talking to the hookup a long
time ago because she was crazy, but he kept in
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touch with his ex until she cut contact with him
around two years ago. They dated when he was fifteen
and it lasted for around two years, and then she
dumped him because he had no self respect. Apparently she's
the reason why my boyfriend is so guarded. Now, I'll
admit that I was really jealous of her and was
glad when she cut contact with him, because she's beautiful
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and my boyfriend talked about her as if she had
all of life's answers. This past January, I woke up
in the middle of the night and I heard my
boyfriend crying hiet. I could tell that he was looking
at his phone, and I wasn't sure whether or not
to say anything, since I wasn't sure if you just
wanted a private moment or not. After a while, he
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got up to go to the bathroom, so I took
a peek at his phone. He was on Facebook looking
at his exes prof she had gotten engaged, and there
were pictures of the ring and everything. It's been two
months now and my boyfriend has been breaking down out
of nowhere.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Oh maybe it's because he's so happy that he found you.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
If you're not over your exes, don't get in new relationship.
But my moral of this story, don't get in relationships
if you're not over your ex Yeah. I keep asking
him to talk to me about it, but he won't.
I told him to talk to a therapist, and he
got really insulted and said that he doesn't believe in therapy.
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That's obvious. I'm unsure of what to do since this
happens at least twice a week.
Speaker 6 (19:49):
YO, that's wild.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
If you're not over your ex, don't get into a relationship.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
But like, also maybe talk about it if it's happening
twice a week. Also that go to therapy, don't you?
I don't know, say something, be like, hey, babes, I've
noticed you've been crying, like on his timetable schedule.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
It seems like you're not over your ex.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Like, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (20:11):
I love him, but he's always seemed a bit distant
to me, And obviously this woman is the reason why.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Because look, okay, here's look, here's here's the reason, right,
because he's not over I know we're all thinking he's
not over his ex, but what if he's actually upset
because now his ex is getting engaged and he had
an internalized competition where he wanted to get based loss
to the love of his life, first law, and he lost,
and he's crying because he wants to be able to
give his partner all of the beautiful things in the
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world and he can't do it.
Speaker 6 (20:36):
Yet it's just Katy Perry, the one that got away.
Speaker 7 (20:39):
Oh it is it could be that regardless, I mean,
you always you always remember like your your first, your
first significant relationship. It's always gonna stick with you. But
it's like, yeah, get it?
Speaker 6 (20:57):
What did you wrap it?
Speaker 4 (20:58):
Should I contact her and ask her if she has
any insight? Yeah, he's not over. I'm starting to think
that she must have said something to upset him like this,
because he didn't seem that bothered when his ex was
dating other people, dating and getting engaged just a little different.
Relevant comments deleted. Oh right, okay.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
I feel I feel like that's an appropriate response to
what I said.
Speaker 4 (21:22):
Yeah, no, don't contact her. Her job is finished. If
her X still has problems with the relationship, that's his
issue now, you, missy, do not play fix it here.
You can't fix the fact that your boyfriend is actually
still in love with another woman. You can be the
most perfect woman on earth, but while he still has
her as his dream woman, you don't have a crap show. Honestly,
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and as hard as this may be, I'd talk to
him about it again, and then if there is no resolution,
I'd consider moving on. You deserve someone who thinks you
are the best woman on earth, not some distant X
from his high school years. Good luck, Opie, and big
hugs this stinkball, though this stink's balls and Opie responds,
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thank you for your reply. I was insecure about my
boyfriend's relationship with his X from the start. They didn't
talk that often, but they catch up once every few
months through Skype or something. She lives on the East Coast,
and when Hurricane Sandy hit, he called her, texted her,
and messaged her on Skype, despite her having cut off
contact with him prior to that. I didn't even know
that he still had her phone number. Is this relationship hopeless?
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I knew that he still had a bit of a
thing for her, but I didn't know the extent of
it until now. If he can't move on after all
this time, I don't understand why he got into a
relationship with me. I don't get it either.
Speaker 6 (22:41):
He tried to fill a hole.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Men are weird.
Speaker 6 (22:45):
Women do that too.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
I'm talking about men right now.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Women are all so weird. We're all weird.
Speaker 4 (22:51):
And who's this story talking about men?
Speaker 3 (22:54):
Sorry? My men, there's a woman in that story.
Speaker 6 (22:56):
Ladies, what's my week?
Speaker 4 (22:57):
All are getting really different too, there's actually two women.
It's awfully defensive over here. I'm not talking about women, obviously,
women are doing it. I'm talking about the men in
the story. That are doing it and they're weird. You're like, well,
women do it.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Yeah, of course they do it. You know, I mean
that you said there's no women in the story. I'm like, there's, well,
there's two. It is not what I said.
Speaker 6 (23:14):
There is only one man.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
I said.
Speaker 4 (23:16):
They're not talking about a woman in the story. They're
I mean a man in the story, and there were
no women in.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
The story.
Speaker 4 (23:23):
Deleted. Sometimes we think we are more emotionally available than
we actually are. And I want you to know this.
It is not your fault. I find this happens with
people who run away from their feelings and don't process grief.
It all comes back and bites them in them big time.
We probably didn't know it at the time when he
got with you, that he was like this, and now
it's just spiraled out of control. Yeah, I'm gonna be
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rough and I'm sorry. You sound like an exceptionally loving,
impatient girlfriend. Actually, to be honest, he sounds like a
bit of a knucklehead, putting his ex girlfriend before you
emotionally and no, I think in the long term you'll
find it to be an uphill battle with him. I
think a massive turnaround is highly unlikely. If he is
this bad three years into your relationship. Three years is
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a lot to give up on, I know, but think
about it. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who thinks
you were the most amazing woman in the world? And
op says, sorry, no, I'll save that for later.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
When in the middle of the thought.
Speaker 4 (24:21):
No, it's vin Hope, he just responds, what's your thought?
Speaker 3 (24:24):
Let's let him respond.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
I'll get it, Opie says, I love him From the
moment I saw him. I knew that I wanted to
be with him. He's incredibly smart and charming. But you're right,
I've always felt insignificant in comparison to his ex, and
I don't think that I realized quite how much. If
I think about it, though, there were clues that I
didn't pick up on when we first started dating. I
told him at some point that he didn't seem to
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want to open up to me, and he told me
that it was because his ex had taught him not
to become too vulnerable. I thought this would pass as
we got more serious about each other, and he did
open up a bit more, but whenever he caught up
with his ex, he'd be dissonant with me again. For
a while.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
That's a terrible sign. That's a pretty big warning warning siren,
like a like a like a tornado just going off.
So this is a problem that I mean, we're talking
about the man, and this man has not and perhaps
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did not even know he needed to move on from
this X.
Speaker 4 (25:30):
No, of course he didn't, because he jumped. He probably
jumped into another relationship.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Well no, no, no, because because he's he's he's doing skype
catchups like every couple months, right, So it's like there's
no cutoff, no point. And one day he wakes up
and he sees some post that this ex girlfriend has
now a ring on her finger, and then everything comes
crumbling in around him in that one moment, and now
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he's like, oh my god, I've missed out on the
love of my blah blah blah blah blah blah blah
blah blah blah. And this is just if you would
have properly processed the breakup at the beginning, yeah, this
would not have happened exactly. And that is a problem
with the man in the story, but it's also a
problem that can happen to every human being. Like if
we don't properly and that's well, it's it's fine. I'm
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not and I'm not trying to defend this guy. Yeah,
I'm just saying it's watch.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
Out, could happen to you?
Speaker 3 (26:22):
It secretly like plant a little sleeper cell bomb in
your head that will go off one day you're like, why,
why is it doing it? And it's like, oh, because
I put it there. I didn't even know it.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
Mysa says Opie is still so young. She has so
much more to live for than dealing with an emotionally
unavailable man who is not over his ex.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
Yeah, just leave? Do you just leave the guy?
Speaker 4 (26:41):
Leave him mind, move forward, even him behind.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Times are our idealized versions of people that like we
see in our head or like the relationship that we
see yeah in three years from now is what makes
us stay. It wasn't you know.
Speaker 4 (26:53):
You're gonna look back on it and you're gonna be like, wow,
definitely wasn't as good as I was thinking it was.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Yeah, you will.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
People who aren't over their ex is aren't ready to
be in a good relationship, Like it's always all something's
always going to be off about it if they are
not over the person that was before you.
Speaker 6 (27:09):
Yeah, the most icky part is the X might be
from Jersey.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
What just a new every girl thisss guy's ever dated
from New Jersey.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I don't know why is X cut off contact with him?
But after she did, he did seem more invested in
our relationship, and so I had hope for us. He
was the one that asked if I wanted to move
in with him. But now this happened and he barely
wants to talk to me. I mean she probably cut
off contact because she was in this relationship and she realized, oh,
he is not over me.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
Yeah, like once you realize as someone getting married that,
like you have a friend who's into you and is
not not into you, Like, I don't know, you got
to make a business decision at that point. Absolutely, this
is what's best for my current relationship.
Speaker 4 (27:51):
But there is an update. Do you have any thoughts
before we get into it?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
Pretty much? I unleashed my thoughts upon pot said the
comment section. Yeah, this is uh. You gotta be gotta
be vigilant of our own little mental land minds we
leave for ourselves.
Speaker 4 (28:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
Yeah, and he's they're both young when he's they're in
their twenties, like truly, Oh yeah, you're a confusing time.
Y'all need to talk about this, like just Frank, she said.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
She said that like he was always so closed off,
like she tried to get him to open up about
things and he just didn't want to. And that was
already about sign. But there is an update.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Yeah, and if he can't talk, that's an answer within itself.
So there you go.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Hey, it's Sam. We're go get back to the stories.
But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
Speaker 4 (28:34):
It's over. I think I called my dad after and
asked him to help me move back home. These last
two days have been really emotional. My boyfriend was gone
all day yesterday. He was gone when I woke up.
That's fine. I assumed he went to work early, but
he still wasn't home when I went to bed. I
texted him once I woke up to say good morning,
and twice at night, and one asking if he was
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coming home for dinner and another asking if he was
all right. I also tried calling a cell, but he
didn't pick up. I thought that I deserved some answers,
so I decided to snoop, something I've done once before
when I was feeling insecure about his relationship with his
ex well. On his laptop hidden in a bunch of
subfolders was an MS document with his ex's name. Okay,
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I read it, and I'm assuming that he just saved
the last conversation that he had with her right before
she cut contact with him. I see, I see you.
I now understand why she cut contact. It started out normally,
but then he asked her how her relationship with her
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now fiance boyfriend was going. She said that I was
good and that she was happy, and then it got
weird because he said something like, really, are you sure.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
And then she said, oh my god, now that you
mention it, I'm in love with you, with you for you.
Speaker 4 (29:58):
She said yes and said that was a weird question,
and he said, I don't know. I don't believe that
you're that happy. I don't remember everything exactly because my
head was spinning, but he basically told her that her
fiance then boyfriend would never treat her as well as
he did, and that they've known each other X number
of years and managed to say friends after their breakup,
that they've helped each other grow as people, and that
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she should really give them another chance.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
Oof oof, big old oof. Oof.
Speaker 4 (30:26):
He said that he's waited for all these years and
that he loves her and always believe they wind up together.
This was all while he was with me.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
Ooh, big old oof. All right, maybe we don't all
do this. This is the you saved this in a
word document this exchange.
Speaker 4 (30:45):
She called him an ale and told them that he
had a lot of balls to say all that to
her when she told them a long time ago they're
only ever going to be friends and that he's an
ever and that he's an even bigger ale for doing
this while they were both in relationships. She told them
to go to hack and to break up with me
for my sake, because I deserve better. That's not even
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the worst part.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
Oh boy, oh oh boy.
Speaker 4 (31:09):
My boyfriend woke me up this morning by calling mysel
and telling me to come to the kitchen. He said
that he made breakfast. So I go to the kitchen
getting ready for a fight. He and I never fight,
but I am so gosh dang hurt. And he made
what honestly look like an amazing breakfast with a ring
box in the middle of the table.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Oh, I can't eat that, You're like, we want to breakfast?
This isn't a candy ring. What are we doing here? WHOA, Yeah,
so that's not gonna work. Why do we do it?
Speaker 4 (31:43):
He told me to open it?
Speaker 3 (31:45):
I did.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
He said something like these last three years with me
has been an adventure, and he hopes to keep making
new adventures with me. I guess around this time, I
snap out of whatever hayes I've been in, and I exploded.
I demand to know where he was all day yesterday,
why he wouldn't contact me, why he's been crying over
his ex for the last three months? Everything. He got
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mad at me for being mad. He told me that
I should be happy because he was proposing, and wasn't
that what I wanted? I asked him why when it's
so obvious that he'd rather be with his ex. He
told me that she's obviously moved on, so it's time
for him to move on too. Why it's been time.
It's been three years of time. You should have moved
on ages ago. I have never been so angry in
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my life.
Speaker 5 (32:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:37):
I've been so incredibly patient with this man and done
my best to be understanding of a situation. I've literally
given him all that I had. But I'm not gonna
get married to him just to be his consolation prize. Yeah,
the only good consolation prize is that one song.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Yeah nights. What song is it called cons prize?
Speaker 4 (33:00):
Might be it's all consolation price, that.
Speaker 3 (33:03):
One song called about consolation.
Speaker 4 (33:05):
Yeah wait, what's it called conculations?
Speaker 3 (33:06):
Yeah? This is unhinged behavior to be like, well, I mean,
I guess she's just gone because she's like rejected me,
So I guess what, I'm going to marry you? Why
are you mad?
Speaker 4 (33:16):
Like she's marrying someone else, so I might as well
marry you, but I can't have her.
Speaker 3 (33:20):
You hit him with the if she broke up with
the fiance right now and asked you to marry her,
would you do it? And when he goes yeah, that's
when you you say, okay go or when he hesitates
for literally two seconds, you cannot hesitate that question. If
you hesitate at all, out be gone. He wants to
have a wedding before, Yeah, he wants to.
Speaker 4 (33:39):
He has to one upper you.
Speaker 6 (33:40):
Want, that's what he wants.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Absolutely, with a pathetic little bowl, that's.
Speaker 6 (33:44):
What he wants to say.
Speaker 7 (33:44):
It's that's that same mindset of like, oh someone, let's
have a wedding. I'm gonna do that right before them.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
It's so ironic because had he proposed four plus months earlier,
I would have been ecstatic. Now it's just broke our relationship.
So yeah, I called my dad crying and he's on
his way down. We move back in with him and
my mom. That's it. I'm a wreck. But I think
it's just because everything wrong and twisted in this relationship
is hitting me and it took so long for me
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to understand, and my ex is just sitting on the
couch with.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
His laptop, dang, nonchalant.
Speaker 4 (34:14):
Thank you guys so much for helping me see how
unfair this whole relationship was. I read all of the
comments and there are some relevant comments. But guys, we're
only halfway through the story.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
Things are gonna get better for Op. I'm hoping they've got.
Speaker 6 (34:27):
To get we're halfway.
Speaker 7 (34:28):
We're only halfway through, and Op's already leaving this guy.
Speaker 3 (34:31):
It's time for upswing.
Speaker 4 (34:32):
He made a mistake. People have made bigger mistakes before.
Speaker 6 (34:38):
You gotta eat the relevance.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
Down voted deleted comment. Wow, he made a mistake. People
have made bigger mistakes before and overcome it. He was
putting you number one by.
Speaker 3 (34:50):
Proposing to you. You said you had three years.
Speaker 4 (34:53):
Of happy relationship together before this, Although he had a
temporary lapse in judgment.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
To watch you, it wasn't ten.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
You're looking for an incredibly perfect fairy tale where everything
plays out exactly like you wanted it. After you break up,
you'll start to realize all the things he did to
say and show he loved you. Things that should trump
this revelation.
Speaker 3 (35:11):
Is this him sounds like things are.
Speaker 4 (35:13):
Your way or the highway. Hopefully, if another man loves you,
he'll be willing to put up with that.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
So that's one hundred percent Op's X right there. That's
the only person who could have wrote that. God damn sheesh.
Speaker 4 (35:28):
Opie responds, I thought that my relationship was a happy one, yes,
But I didn't know that my ex was declaring his
love for his ex girlfriend trying to win her back
while he was still with me. Nor did I know
that once she blocked him on Facebook, he was logging
into my account to keep tabs on her. If you
honestly believe that someone that's been crying for three months
over an nex's engagement really wanted to be with me, you're.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
In the minority three months.
Speaker 4 (35:54):
And also has been messaging her over the years. You know,
they've kept in calm so when the astro be with
him and he like, you know, lied and was like, yeah,
we'll just be friends, and then the whole time he's like,
but maybe one day, but maybe she'll she'll choose me, And.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
That makes him an a hole.
Speaker 4 (36:10):
And an emotional cheater. And judging by the fact that
he had bought the ring the day before he proposed,
he really hadn't planned anything at all. I'm astounded by
your post.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
Honestly, me too, op, me too astounded.
Speaker 4 (36:23):
There is an update three weeks later, but uh, wow, wow, wow.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Wow wow. Don't be this man. Be better, and don't
be that commenter.
Speaker 4 (36:33):
Don't be that commenter either, who maybe is also that man?
Speaker 3 (36:35):
Certain is that man?
Speaker 4 (36:37):
Maybe one and the same.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
I'm trying to process what has to happen to a
person to move on to to make a comment like
that is it has to be this, I.
Speaker 4 (36:46):
Mean, you have to be not that person also has
to be not over their ex.
Speaker 3 (36:48):
In a different scenario, I'm like, maybe this is actually
that's not even wrong. If there aren't any messages, if
they're not staying in contact if it is just like
a weird like, dude, I don't know, I saw this
in freak me out. I don't know what's going on.
Let's talk it out. We can figure this out. That's
for sure doable the whole like saving your final message
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in a Microsoft word document and it's not good and
you're that's like a toxic fixation. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:20):
I feel like there is sometimes this like thought pattern
that when you're when you get out of a relationship
or just like any sort of situation, you know, romantic situation,
that you won't be able to get over it until
you get with someone new. And that's not true if
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you take the time, no matter how hard it feels,
and no matter how much it feels like you won't
ever get over it, give it time and wait until
you do feel like you're over it before getting into
another relationship. Because I've been through it and I was like, wow,
I'm never gonna be over this until I give us
someone else. No, it is not true. One day you're like, oh, yeah,
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I actually don't care about that anymore. So dude, get
over your relationship. That's my friendly advice to that. The
man in this story.
Speaker 3 (38:14):
Yeah, ope, he's X. And if you really can't after
years and years and years, you gotta get help.
Speaker 4 (38:18):
You gotta go to therapy because you're obsessed. You are
dealing with obsession.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
Yeah, and it's just bad for you. It's bad for
you and bad for everyone around you in your life.
It's like a partner. It's just all bad.
Speaker 4 (38:30):
And kim Von commases. I mean, when I saw that
my ex from ten years ago got married, it definitely
made me feel weird, but I'm also not a relationship.
Weird is different than sobbing for three months.
Speaker 6 (38:40):
I don't twice twice a week.
Speaker 4 (38:41):
I think most people would feel some sort of way
about seeing their ex getting married. I think most people
would feel at least a couple emotions. Sobbing for three
months should not be one of them.
Speaker 3 (38:53):
This is true.
Speaker 4 (38:54):
I don't think that feeling weird about your ex getting
married is not being or is not not being over them.
I think you can still be over them and feel weird. Yeah, no,
it's yeah, getting over someone like an ex doesn't mean
that you have literally no thoughts or feelings about them.
It just means that, like you're not I don't know
it means.
Speaker 3 (39:11):
That you're not sending messages like are you really happy
with the guy right now?
Speaker 4 (39:15):
I'm still emotionally invested in everything they do. But there
is an update. My ax went more or less crazy
after I moved back home. I locked him from essentially everything,
changed all my passwords, and deactivated my Facebook, so he
had no way of reaching me aside from literally driving
to my parents' house to see me. Apparently, he started
sending messages to my friends, some of them are mutual friends,
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asking to use their Skype accounts to talk to me.
He told them that I stole some things from him
when I moved out, and he wanted them back. I
got a few phone calls from my friends asking me
about this. They told me that they knew that I
didn't steal anything from him, because that's not like me
at all, but they wanted to know why he was
so desperate to contact me. I wasn't ready to tell
the whole story, Honestly, I don't think anyone would believe me,
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so I told them that I didn't know what was
going on, but asked them not to give their Skype
accounts by any means. A few days after that, the
phone calls started, all from a few different numbers that
I didn't recognize. I didn't pick I didn't pick any
of them up, but one day I'd have about twenty
miss call from one number, then another twenty plus from
a different number. I had to set my phone to
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only allow calls from specific numbers, otherwise it would go
straight to voicemail. After the fifth day of the phone calls,
I broke down and told my mom everything that happened.
She didn't say much, she mostly let me talk. Afterwards,
she told me that I made the right decision, but
there's absolutely no reason why I should be going through
this alone. She said that she didn't want to push
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me to tell her what happened until I was ready,
but that the best thing that I could be doing
right now is spending time with people that love and
support me. So after going with me to get my
phone number changed, she encouraged me to start calling my
friends and telling them what happened, and to just hang
out with them more. In general, I had it stuck
in my head everyone would side with my ex and
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tell me that I made a terrible mistake, that his
intentions were good, and I blew things out of proportion
by insinuating that he only proposed because his ex girlfriend
got engaged.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
But that's exactly why he did.
Speaker 4 (41:16):
He didn't have the ring until a day before he proposed.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
He didn't move until he got shut down by the
X complete, completely and totally, with no chance of recovery.
Speaker 4 (41:28):
Apparently, my ex had been telling everyone that we broke
up because I had major jealousy issues over his ex.
But once they heard my side of the story, I
was actually shocked by how many of them said that
it made sense. Yeah, because it's pretty easy to tell
who's the crazy one. They've all told me that I've
done the right thing and that they backed me up
no matter what they're.
Speaker 3 (41:48):
Like, Yeah, we did all find that shrine in the
back of his closet.
Speaker 4 (41:52):
Weird, But you know, he said that you were obsessed
with him, so yeah, I don't know. You know what's funny,
not funny, scary? Maybe I think, oh, he's replacing the
previous ex.
Speaker 6 (42:04):
I was gonna say.
Speaker 4 (42:05):
That, Yeah, you know, like I think this is the
this is the new person.
Speaker 6 (42:08):
That He's not gonna give it a couple of weeks,
maybe a month. He's gonna start making that letter to
you and.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
Like they've all told me, and I'm just going, oh,
now you've You've been replaced. Now the shrine will be
of you.
Speaker 4 (42:21):
I just felt this huge sense of relief, and I've
been making an effort to go out more. I will
be honest, though there are times where I wonder if
I was wrong. Sometimes I think that maybe my ex
had been grieving over his old relationship and proposing to
me was his way of starting over. You were not
the starting over point.
Speaker 3 (42:37):
Though.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
Proposing should not be starting over from the old relationship.
It should be like you progressed within this relationship to
a point where you, guys feel really strong.
Speaker 7 (42:48):
It's like he proposed, like, oh wow, I'm over here, amazing.
Speaker 3 (42:52):
Oh that's all I need to do.
Speaker 4 (42:54):
He's like, babe, would you make me the happiest man
who is Now? I can happily say over his ex.
Speaker 3 (43:02):
Also marry me, I guess because she won't won't marry me?
Will you marry me because she won't?
Speaker 4 (43:10):
No, Oh well, I guess I'll find a new U
and then you can be my new ex.
Speaker 3 (43:16):
Maybe one day you'll marry me.
Speaker 4 (43:19):
Sometimes I think that I turned down the only marriage
proposal that I'll ever get girl, You're like, how old
is she?
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Twenty one?
Speaker 4 (43:26):
Girl, you're twenty two if that's the only marriage proposal
that you'll ever get, like everyone else is not getting married.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Because yeah, no one's getting married.
Speaker 4 (43:35):
And sometimes I think that maybe I should have accepted
because I loved him, and you don't often find people
that you truly love. That's because right now you aren't
over him. Takes time, takes time, but sometimes you get there.
Eventually you get there. But then on the days that
I'm feeling wiser, I remind myself how bizarre are last
(43:57):
few weeks together were, How I always knew deep down
that I was second best for him, and how he's
been behaving since we broke up. I've never seen him
so unstable. He was always so calm and logical, so
this is completely new to me. I knew deep down
that I did the right thing, but sometimes what you
know in your head and feeling your heart, you're so
completely different. So that's basically it. I'm just going through
(44:19):
the motions and I'm gonna make an appointment with the therapist.
Speaker 3 (44:22):
Yes who Yes, I.
Speaker 4 (44:23):
Wish that I had something more profound update with you guys,
but I don't My best advice for anyone going through
something similar is what my mom told me. Surround yourself
with people that love and support you. And there is
a I think somewhat final update, maybe nearly two months.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
After your mom had some banger advice right there. All right,
and we've gone two months into the future. Op, he's
got a new life. Yeah, things you're clicking into place,
and she's gonna meet.
Speaker 4 (44:50):
The Okay, well maybe not the love of her life.
You more time, the love of your life, but then
she's not gonna get with him, and they're.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
The queen of France. What okay? Right?
Speaker 4 (45:04):
First, my ex mailed me the engagement ring that he
brought that he bought shortly after my last update. I
didn't know what to do with it. I wasn't sure
if the ring was what he had been claiming that
I stole. Oh, so he was trying to mail you proof.
I also felt weird about mailing it back because what
if he claimed that he never got it. So my
(45:24):
dad volunteered to personally deliver the ring back to him,
and you should like record it, do some blogging. Yeah,
I don't know if anything was said when my dad
brought it back and I never asked. Second, I heard
from some friends that two weeks ago my ex bought
a ticket and Fluton, NYC to try and talk to
his Somehow he found out the name of the company
(45:47):
that she worked for, looked up ats location, and waited
in front of the building all day.
Speaker 3 (45:52):
That's what so, brother, I hope it was her day off.
Speaker 4 (45:56):
I have no idea what happened, but apparently there aren't
any signs if you're coming back, so I'm assuming that
i'd go very well. I can't believe that he did that,
and I can't believe that I dated someone that was
that crazy for three years. As well as it helps
every time that I hear about something like this because
it reinforces the fact that I did the right thing.
Sometimes get you know, you just need to get the egg,
(46:18):
and then you're like, oh, I'm actually yeah.
Speaker 6 (46:21):
I mean there's a lot of I.
Speaker 4 (46:22):
Met with two therapists. I wasn't a huge fan of
the first one. Every time I said something, he'd ask
and how do you feel about that? No feedback or
suggestions whatsoever. At the end, he suggested that I was
depressed and might want to consider a few different medications.
I don't intend on seeing that guy again.
Speaker 3 (46:40):
Well, I mean, hey, maybe.
Speaker 4 (46:41):
There's no way that you can say that someone's depressed
after one meeting.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
Was it just one?
Speaker 4 (46:45):
Yeah, that was the first meeting with that guy. I
don't think that's that's crazy to me, like to not
only say that a person's depressed, but also to like
medic you know, you like prescribe medication. I feel like
you got app more than one.
Speaker 3 (46:58):
It was it really only one? Yes? He was only one? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (47:00):
No, she was saying that she met this guy and
she was like, I'm not going.
Speaker 3 (47:04):
Back to him. Yeah, that sounds swack. Yeah. Not all
therapists are created equal.
Speaker 4 (47:07):
I met the second one last week, though, and I
liked her a lot. She told me that she doesn't
think that I need to see her regularly, but to
feel free to make appointments whenever I'm feeling especially down
or stressed. So I think I'll do that. A few
people asked why I wanted to see a therapist on
my last post, because I seemed to be doing the
right things. Well, the problem was that even though I
knew I was doing the right thing, I didn't necessarily
(47:29):
feel that they were right. I mean, therapy is always good,
I still doubted myself and I felt like a different
person than I used to be prior to this mess.
I was always very optimistic and happy in general. I
always try to make the best of things, but at
the time of my last post, I felt down, and
even though I was making an effort to see friends,
I wasn't really enjoying it anyway. This brings me to
where I am now. I started a paid internship with
(47:52):
the chance of getting a hired full time almost a
month ago, and I love it. I love the people,
the work itself, and the fact that I'm getting beat
back into her team. I'm a little embarrassed to say
that I'm attracted to the guy that hired me. Is
about my age.
Speaker 7 (48:08):
I'm gonna say that I'm gonna put I'm gonna put
a fork an no one, you don't do that in
the workplace.
Speaker 6 (48:12):
That's true. Sorry, but that's good.
Speaker 3 (48:15):
You're moving on. I've never heard of a single example
of workplace romance going like yeah, mic drop or like
the scratch, like hold on have you well? No, never
mind a spoiler. I don't want to spoil anything.
Speaker 4 (48:31):
But spoiler alert. You guys can listen to full episodes
of stories just like this. It's got a Spotify, Apple podcasts,
or iHeartRadio and search up. Okay, story time, But there
is a little bit left to this story.
Speaker 3 (48:43):
Find a laugh poo. That's about it.
Speaker 4 (48:47):
Yeah, that's about it. Mine. I feel like I've gotten
all my thoughts in this man.
Speaker 3 (48:51):
He went to New York, New York City. I deeply
hope that she was off work that day and he
stood out all day for nothing, because that you should
be go to jail, Go to jail for that, Straight
to jail, Go straight to jail.
Speaker 4 (49:06):
There's nothing going on, and I definitely am not ready
or willing to be in a relationship good. It's simply
the fact that he's the nicest, best mannered person that
I've ever met. And sometimes it's just nice to have
a cute person there to look at the same time,
and sometimes you just need some mine.
Speaker 3 (49:21):
Where they are right there, there, they are right there.
Speaker 4 (49:24):
He's always positive, polite, and smiling, so it's impossible not
to be in a good mood around him.
Speaker 6 (49:29):
She got butterflies.
Speaker 4 (49:30):
So it's not that I think my next relationship to
be with him, or that I have feelings for him.
It's just that I realized that the type of person
that I should be looking for is someone that makes
me feel good just by being around them. Dude, you
know what, girl, I'm gonna let you kid yourself. But
I've done this before where I this was in college
and I was like, oh my god, this person is
so nice, Like, doesn't everyone like whenever you talk to them,
(49:52):
don't you all just like fall in love with him
a little bit? And everyone was like no, And I
was like, no, like, you know, when you talk to
you just fall love with a little bit. And they're like,
I think that's just you, and it was it was
just me gotta love that we're not falling in love
with the same guy every time his mouth moves. But
I was like genuinely convinced that I didn't have a
(50:15):
crush on him. That I was like, he's just so
nice that everyone loves him.
Speaker 3 (50:20):
Guys all know the butterflies you get in your stomach
when he talks to you.
Speaker 7 (50:23):
Yeah, I just think about him all the time.
Speaker 4 (50:25):
I'm like, but I don't have a crush on him.
And they were like, I think you got a crush
on him.
Speaker 3 (50:33):
It's crazy how everyone I know likes everything about that.
Speaker 4 (50:37):
I don't give much thought to my ex anymore. It's
amazing how much life changes over the course of a
few months. But I think that everything is turning around
for the best. And that is the end of that story.
Speaker 3 (50:47):
For the best. Charles.
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and I'm so happy I did. These stories be wild today,
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Big Mommy Panda. I think for the five bucks. I
met my husband at work. We now have a kid,
two cats in a house. Why do you why does
everyone have a kid, two cats and house? Why did
you both have two kids in a house?
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