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Speaker 2 (00:11):
My brother refused to share his inheritance, so I went
off on him. Give me the money.

Speaker 3 (00:17):
I ain't playing.

Speaker 2 (00:18):
My father passed away recently and left everything to my
brother and me. My dad got serious with my stepmother
when I was eleven. My dad has raised my stepsisters
since she was six, and even though I was eleven,
I came to see and call my stepmother my real mom.
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Speaker 4 (00:43):
We're here to give good advice.

Speaker 3 (00:44):
Goof Lee.

Speaker 4 (00:45):
But we don't have all the answers.

Speaker 2 (00:47):
We only know what we do, so let us know
what you would do in the comments. But oh, he says,
I know my sister feels the same about my dad.
When my mom passed away, she left everything to him.
I don't know why, but dad changed his will to
leave everything to me and my brother. My brother and
I were always accepted and treated equally by her and

(01:09):
her family. Our grandparents on her side have always treated
us equally and definitely included us as equal grandchildren. Obviously,
my sister was really hurt. She saw him as a
real dad and thought he saw us as equals, but
apparently he didn't. That's such a devastating realization to have
after you've already lost your mom.

Speaker 3 (01:30):
Yeah, how great is that?

Speaker 2 (01:32):
Yeah, it's like, actually, now that you've lost your mom,
I'm not your dad either. Oh great, fucking I need
to no one. She saw him as her real dad
and thought he saw us as equals, but apparently he didn't.
I tried to talk to my brother and suggested we
should give her her third even if Dad didn't include it.

(01:52):
He refused because it's not what Dad wanted, and said
she could inherit from the rest of our family and whatnot.
That's such a rude I don't know, that's such like
a terrible move to be. Like, Well, he said that
I couldn't give the money to her, so I guess
I can't help her out at all. You know, I

(02:14):
think your brother is being kind of rude. I think
it's unreasonable and unfair. It includes assets and money originally
from mom. Plus mom's will stated that if Dad passed
away before her, it would be split among us equally.
She didn't just favor her biological daughter over us. I
got upset and called my brother greedy and selfish for

(02:35):
going along with excluding her. We had a big fight
after that, and my fiance thinks I'm in the row.
She thinks I should accept their choice and do what
my father wanted. She says I'm being a butt by
insulting my brother and disagreeing. I can't agree. It feels
like I'm betraying my sister and mom. Am I really
the a hole here? And there are some relevant comments

(02:57):
and an update. But what do you think?

Speaker 3 (02:59):
Yeah? No, I feel like stepsisters should definitely get some.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah, if especially if some of that money is her mom's.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
Yeah, who knows. When he wrote the will too, it
might have been like before any of that happened, he
never updated.

Speaker 4 (03:12):
Yeah, it was like zorry he didn't know what he
leads up from above.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
No, wait, Dad, I knew I was forgetting something. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (03:19):
Yeah, I think that your brother is being greedy.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
You can't really like legally force him to do anything
because that he is right. It is his money. He
doesn't have to share it with her, but it is.
It is pretty greedy.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
Is there any like legal things you can do? Because
I know it doesn't like mention her specifically, but obviously
like people, that's why that's why they write wills in
the first place. I don't know, so like everything's kind
of organized, so everything like knows where things are going.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
Yeah, maybe like looking at the mom as well to
see if there's something that could because some of it's
her money.

Speaker 3 (04:00):
Yeah, I would definitely talk to yeah everyone and.

Speaker 4 (04:04):
Be like, listen, listen, sissy got to have some shit
there it.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
I'm sure she also took care of them and stuff.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah. Relevant comments Comment one says, nobody is stopping you
giving a share based on half of what she would
have gotten, but you can't force your brother to. If
it means that much to you, then of course you
should split your share. If your brother ever changes his mind,
he can give her the portion of the third he
currently has lead by example, and if he doesn't follow,

(04:32):
that's his prerogative.

Speaker 1 (04:33):
Oh p.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
He says, it's not exactly going to be even unless
he does, though, like, I'm willing to give her half
of mine if he won't give her anything. I'm definitely
currently more financially secure than her, but I feel like
it's still selfish of him not to give her any.
Comment two says not the ale. Wanting to share the
money with your sister is understandable, especially as she just
lost her stepfather. Two, it shows empathy. However, it's also

(04:57):
understandable that your brother doesn't want to share, and that
he's trying to fulfill your father's wishes. My suggestion is
to give your sister part of your inheritance, maybe if
you feel like she's entitled to it. Oh, he says yeah,
if he keeps refusing, that's what I'll do. I just
wanted some validation if I'm not crazy, since my fiance

(05:17):
was agreeing with my brother. Comment three says, you're the ahole.
You can give your stepsister your money. Why do you
think you can control what your brother does with his money.
You seem entitled and that entitlement will destroy your sibling relationship.
You're the only one selfish here, as selfish as you
don't care what your brother wants to do.

Speaker 4 (05:37):
With his money. Are y'all getting money from her side.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
Of the family? Yes? Yes? Is this person not read
your story?

Speaker 3 (05:46):
Yeah, I really don't understand the whole. I don't think
she's an a whole at all. No, trying to like
figure this out, you know.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
Yeah, No, I think that's ridiculous to say that. Oh,
like for this person to say that you're the ahle
when yeah, your mother or you know, stepmother for the
sake of the story. But your stepmom gave all of
you guys money and some of your dad's will. Is
that money? That's ridiculous. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (06:12):
I feel like they're like, I don't know, not you
don't have to take it from you know, other people, Yeah,
to in order to like make it even or whatnot.
But I mean, I would just think that everyone would
want to. But obviously if they don't, then you know,
it's theirs. But whoever wants to give can give me.

Speaker 2 (06:29):
Yeah. I think that's it again. What is stopping you
from giving your stepsister half of your money? You're refusing
to give up your half, but demand that's not true.
I don't think this.

Speaker 4 (06:39):
Commentor actually read the story.

Speaker 3 (06:40):
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.

Speaker 4 (06:42):
But demand he give up his money is what makes.

Speaker 2 (06:44):
You the a hole. You literally had a fight over
how you can spend his money just because you're refusing
to give up your own. What oh P says, I
can do that, but it won't be equal unless you
chips in as well. He would have doubled us both
in that case. And I literally said in the post,
everything from my mom's side got left a dad. Yeah,
her biofather won't include me and brother, but our bio

(07:04):
mother won't include her either. How am I entitled when
I'm literally advocating to have less money. I'm saying we
split the full amount to give her a third, that
we should help and include our sister. It would be
giving her money too, obviously, but to make all three
siblings equal. Coma three says you are worried about it
being equal, which is what makes you selfish.

Speaker 4 (07:24):
That's not selfish, though this is such a weird comment.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
Yeah, like, I don't understand like that. In my eyes,
I guess that's not selfish. If you want everything to
kind of be equal now and make everyone feel good. Yeah,
like I don't. I don't find that selfish at all.

Speaker 2 (07:41):
You were worried about his money rather than your sisters
and your own. Stop pocket watching your brother's what. Stop
pocket watching your brother, focus on your own bake account.
Don't be concerned about how much money he's getting, as
that's not your money. It's his money, and you are
entitled because you think you can demand he give his
money up to the charity of your choice, which is
your sister day. You're also not advocating for less money,

(08:03):
as if you split it your way, you get thirty
three percent if everyone splits it evenly, But if you
just give up your money to your sister, you would
only get twenty five percent, So you're actually advocating for
more money for yourself. This person is stupid. Yeah, it's
this person, I mean with a wall doesn't no math,
so so just comment her. So math works like this. Oh,

(08:25):
he's saying, I want to give half of my stuff
that I currently have to my sister, and I also
want my brother to give half his stuff that he
has currently to his sister. Now what happens if they
both give half of that away? Now he has twenty
five percent of what he originally had, not thirty three
point three. That's not right false anyway? Oh I couldn't

(08:51):
tell you if you're right or wrong. Yes, I'm not
going with numbers. Well, if if the dad had originally
split it, split it three ways, then yes, it spit
it three days, then yes, it would be thirty three
point three. But that's LNM. Yeah, he split it two ways,
and NOP wants to spit it. He wants to spit
split the split split split. I get it, OP says,

(09:13):
but currently I have fifty percent. My proposal gives me
thirty three percent. If I was entitled, why would I
want less money? Yeah, thirty three percent of the overall thing.
But it doesn't like this Commentert before was like you
would get more. No, giving your sister equal treatment isn't charity.
You clearly see it like my fiance. But I just
can't understand a parent should help all his children. Mom

(09:37):
sets things up to benefit all three of us, only
for dad to take advantage and exclude my sister for
whatever efforting reason he did such a horrible thing. OPI
clarifies on the inheritance that was left to their dad
from their stepmom after her passing. Did their sister get
anything from her mother? OHP says no. I said it
would have been split, but it was all left to dad.

(09:58):
She got nothing left her from her mind, from the
will because Dad gave it all to me and my brother. Obviously,
she has some physical items because even if everything was
legally dad's, in practice us kids are going to have mementos,
But in terms of assets and money, she got jack
squat because from what I can tell, their understanding was
that the surviving spouse would split among the kids. I'm dumb.

(10:20):
I thought he was saying that he wants to give
he both have them to get dang. I went on
a whole rant and that commenter was actually right wowee,
and I couldn't correct it. He couldn't correct me. I
went on a whole rant because I thought that he
was saying that he wants to give half, but he
does actually want to do the three way split. Uh.
I think, well, I think he's I think he's saying
that he would give half to her, but I think

(10:43):
he's saying, yeah, if if they if the brother was
in on it, they wouldn't give both half. Yet it also.

Speaker 3 (10:49):
Sucks that like the mom didn't leave anything to her,
like her bio mom didn't leave anything to her.

Speaker 2 (10:54):
Yeah, like, how can you do that?

Speaker 3 (10:55):
I give it all to you, to your you know husband. Yeah,
and then the husband's going to give it to his
bio children.

Speaker 2 (11:05):
Yeah. Yeah, she gets nothing. That's crazy.

Speaker 3 (11:08):
Yeah, I'd be like, Okay, I would, I would, I
would do that. I would definitely give her something.

Speaker 2 (11:14):
I think I think OP could give half.

Speaker 5 (11:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (11:17):
But it does suck that the breath.

Speaker 5 (11:18):
Yea.

Speaker 2 (11:19):
I mean you can't do anything about the brother Commoner
for says I hate this Commoner. But that's the thing again.
You're here making all the fuss about stuff that you
don't know about or understand. Your dad made a choice
and didn't have to explain it. You thinking it's unfair
and unequal doesn't necessarily mean it is. There could have
been other factors or reasons why he left things this way.
You making all the demands and being judgmental towards other

(11:41):
without knowing the details is ridiculous and unfair. This commentary
is stupid.

Speaker 3 (11:46):
I don't think that it's ridiculous and unfair. I feel
like she about is there.

Speaker 4 (11:51):
Some of it is her money, yeah, because it's her mom's.

Speaker 3 (11:53):
Because it's her mom's Yeah. So I feel like she's
not being selfish, She's not like why would she that
makes no sense and how people are saying you're selfish
when I think she's the one offering them money.

Speaker 2 (12:05):
But I huh, I think go piece of guy. Oh
I think I could.

Speaker 3 (12:08):
Be wrong, but no, I feel like I just I
would think after a parent's passing, especially your own parent,
even if they you know, left you nothing or something,
but then that parent also passed and then left everything,
Like I would just think in my mind, Okay, I'm
gonna help her out, you know whatever, Like it just

(12:30):
doesn't seem although you know, it's not fair or equal
or whatever, because it's what the will is is what
the will is. But I just I don't know, I
don't understand why they wouldn't have her in mind. Yeah,
that's like unless she did something that like even.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
Honestly, even if like let's say they don't have a
great relationship dad and uh stepdaughter and she did something
or he did, you know, something happened. I honestly don't
think he has a right to not give her any
money because from her. I think that kind of negates
any any reason that's true.

Speaker 3 (13:05):
Since kind of I mean, you're getting like what a
double inheritance basically.

Speaker 2 (13:11):
Yeah, Opie, says, he made a blatantly unfair choice. If
there was other factors, he should have effing told us
or even just her, not treated her like a daughter
even until he passed. Don't have her find out after
she's mourning. And here's the will. I mean, if she
took more care of him than I did in his
last months. I work and don't live close. Was there

(13:31):
a reason why Opie's father cut his sister off from
the will, and she deserves her restitution, Opie says, if
he has any he never told us. As far as
I knew, he was treating her as a daughter until
he passed away. I mean, heck, I used to have
jokingly call her his favorite. On five says, your stepmother
could have left the money for her daughter in her

(13:51):
own will. She didn't. You didn't know that She and
your father didn't discuss that he would do it this
way because she has another parent and your mom isn't
going to have anything to split her. Choices if she
were the one to pass second are not necessarily the
same as the choices they made if she passed first.
The truth is, you don't know. You don't know that
they didn't tell your sister and she's choosing to tell

(14:13):
you she doesn't know. You only know what you know,
which may or may not be the full truth. How
old is everyone now? Opie says, Plus, I was literally there,
I saw my sister. There's no way she was faking
how hurt and betrayed she was. She has always been
a terrible actor and a terrible liar. I am thirty one,
partner thirty two, sister twenty six, brother twenty nine. Dad

(14:35):
was sixty two when he passed. Oh pete, Wow, that's
young ope on a stepsister's biological father and their BioMA.
OHP says her dad barely Caesar. He's a complete ahole,
and she accepted and loved my dad very quickly when
he treated her like a father should. He does have money,
but neither of us know what his will is. My
bio mom is still alive, Unfortunately, I would assume she's

(14:58):
leaving it to us both, though it probably won't be
much given how she lives. Was Opie's father current will
the original one to the date, or did he update
as well? Oh P says no, his current will is
a rewrite, even if he just lied to mom about
being the same as hers. It's dated after her passing. Well,
now I feel like he changed it.

Speaker 3 (15:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (15:20):
Now it feels like maybe they talked about it and
we're like, we're gonna split it amongst all of our kids.

Speaker 3 (15:25):
That's crazy. So there's a reason that they're not involving
the sister. I don't know why. I don't know if
he just thinks that she's better off, or you know,
maybe she doesn't deserve it or something like that, or
if there was a problem something happened. I have no
idea what the issue is. But that's like, that's pretty

(15:45):
screwed up.

Speaker 2 (15:46):
Yeah, but there is an update nearly two weeks later,
also for clarity, the inheritance includes money and assets from
my stepmother. I call her mom, not my bio mother,
which I seemingly did not make clear enough in the
original post. You did. Those commentaris were just stupid. She
left everything to dad because at the time they had

(16:06):
identical wills that left everything to their partner or kids
equally if they survived their partner. After the post, I
gave my brother a few days for us to calm
down and to see if his mind would change, but
it didn't, so I decided to talk to my sister
had advice from a commenter. I brought up suing under
family provision, but she was against it and basically said

(16:29):
the money isn't worth that time and money in court.
So I told her I would just give her half
of my inheritance. She tried to reject it, but I insisted,
and she ended up accepting. We talked a lot about
everything and our parents. She was angry and sad enough
to cry, just trying to understand why Dad did what
he did. I reassured her that whatever Dad thought, she's

(16:49):
my little sister. I love her and nothing would change that.
Neither of us understand why this happened or what his
reasoning was, but she's definitely happy and appreciative that I
don't feel the same. Next week, I'm going to see
someone to find the best way to give it to her,
to minimize losing a chunk to taxes and whatnot. But
so far, I think I'm making the right decision. As

(17:10):
for my brother, I just can't accept his choice. With
how many people thought I was overreacting or wrong to
expect him to do differently. Maybe I'm being unreasonable, but
I just can't see him in the same way now.
He gladly chose money over his sibling, over his family.
He clearly doesn't care about the unfairness or our sister.
Maybe it'll change, but right now I just can't stand

(17:32):
to be around him. I hope the money makes him happy,
because that's clearly what he loves. More.

Speaker 3 (17:37):
I mean, I just think that it's a terrible thing
that the dad did, and whether it was knowingly or unknowingly,
which I would I would like to assume that it
was knowingly because it was changed after the other passing.
They had original wills that included everyone, so yeah, so
like I have no idea why didn't include her and
and how that must make her feel too, because it's like, oh,

(17:59):
I I guess I'm just nothing.

Speaker 2 (18:01):
And you can never ask him about it exactly. That's
the devastating thing. You can never act like. Maybe, you know,
if he was sixty two, probably wasn't like when he
was sick, so he probably unless it was some like
accident or something. I'm assuming he was sick for a while,
so I don't know if they had some kind of

(18:21):
conversation that made him change his mind or upset him
and he made this kind of And.

Speaker 3 (18:26):
She's also the youngest, Like, I don't know, I.

Speaker 2 (18:29):
Just feel like that's usually the youngest get a lot
more than everyone else, just because they're the youngest.

Speaker 3 (18:35):
But I just I don't understand. Yeah, the reasoning was
behind it. I think that it's very unfair, and I
think that it's very heartbreaking to you know, feel that
and you'll never get an answer, never get closure for that,
and that's just how it is. And also the brother
reacting the way that he did, mm hmm, that's you know,
everyone can deal with it differently. It doesn't make him
a bad person. It doesn't. I don't think that's just

(18:57):
you know, some people just deal with that that way.
That's that's what his schools are, and that's what you know,
the other person's schools are. Obviously in my family at least,
like we would all be looking out for each other. Yeah,
we don't care much for money, not that we have
buyons of it anyway, But you know, like you just
hope that you never you never think that it's gonna

(19:19):
like turn out like this. Yeah, you never want it
to be, but.

Speaker 2 (19:23):
There is a little bit left. Unfortunately, the situation hasn't
changed too much, but I feel a lot more confident
in my choice. While my fiance still ultimately thinks it
would be best to follow dad's wishes, she understands that
I want to do right by my sister and is
all right with it. I'm glad I wasn't completely crazy
or irrational and wanting a just outcome for my sister.

(19:45):
For now, I plan to be there for my sister
and make it clear I see her as a sister
and actually love her. She deserves it. With everything she's
going through. As much as I feel from this, it
must be much worse for her and she doesn't deserve it.
Thank you you all for the responses, judgments, and advice,
except for that one commoner that one commenter and you
kind of sucked. Comment one says, your brother is showing

(20:08):
you exactly who he is and you should believe him.
Good on you for doing right by your sister. That
takes actual character. The money will be gone eventually, but
she'll always remember you had her back when it mattered.
Opie says thanks. While there is a small part of
me that hesitated, and that's how most of me feels,
I definitely hope she realizes how much she means to me.

(20:29):
Comment who says, I know this is just a crazy theory,
but how crazy it would be if it turned out
that your brother manipulated your father to change the will
or something. I think, yeah, pride doubt that happened. Either way,
you're a good brother. He is not. It's not worth
staying in touch with him. Focus on the real family
you have, Opie says. Honestly, I don't believe that happened,

(20:51):
or at least don't want to. I mean, he did
seem surprised when we found out, unless he was faking it,
I guess. But at the end of the day, apparently
doing what dad wanted more important than treating our sister. Right,
that's my plan so far. Maybe one day it'll change,
but for now I just can't stand him. I mean,
it's not about doing what dad wanted. That The thing is,

(21:13):
I doubt that your brother is, you know, the the
laws number one champion. I think he wants to do
what Dad wants because it benefits him.

Speaker 3 (21:28):
Yeah, and that's the end of this story.

Speaker 1 (21:30):
We're gonna go to the next one.

Speaker 3 (21:32):
I'm rehoming my dog after a year and everyone's calling
me heartless.

Speaker 4 (21:36):
Who let the dogs out?

Speaker 2 (21:38):
I've twenty eight female.

Speaker 3 (21:40):
Never really been a dog person.

Speaker 2 (21:42):
Why'd you get a dog?

Speaker 3 (21:43):
But I've always been an animal lover.

Speaker 2 (21:45):
Oh, they just don't like dogs.

Speaker 3 (21:47):
Last year, I agreed to foster a dog that a
friend found amongst other dumped puppies on the side of
the road. Uh ah, would can't. By the way, this
comes from you desperate produce one o two and if
you would like to your own stories, go to the
r slash okay story time subreddit. I am Savannah, I'm Sophia,
I'm Carly, and we are here to give you some

(22:07):
good advice. Goofly, but we don't have all the answers.
We would only tell you what we would do in
this situation, and we would love to know what you
would do in the comments. As op says, unfortunately, we
are a small town and there are no and there
was no shelter space, so they were going to use
all of them.

Speaker 2 (22:24):
That's sick, that's awful's.

Speaker 3 (22:26):
Desperate for foster's. My friend reached out to me and
I agreed on the condition that she find them homes
because I wasn't ready to take in a new pet.

Speaker 2 (22:35):
Well that didn't pan out.

Speaker 4 (22:37):
Okay, okay, so you're you're less.

Speaker 2 (22:40):
You're not the a hole anymore because you were only
agreeing for like a short period time.

Speaker 3 (22:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (22:47):
Fair, So I need the puppies to save their lives
pretty good.

Speaker 3 (22:50):
Yeah so, I feel like you saved their lives, but
like you also didn't have plans to keep it. So, like,
you know, that's not that's not your fault. Obviously, you
have things going on. You have to take care of yourself.
And you also said that you didn't really like dogs
in the first place, you know, So I feel like
the people who would call you a holes are the
people who like are also in the same situation, but

(23:12):
like didn't say yes to taking the dog, Yeah, you know, absolutely, Like,
but now you're the a hole because you said yes,
and now you're saying no even though you agreed to
have it for a little amount of time. Faster dog.

Speaker 2 (23:24):
The real a holes?

Speaker 3 (23:25):
Whoever dumped those? Absolutely that's the Owyer.

Speaker 2 (23:28):
That is the a hole. Well that didn't pan out,
She moved.

Speaker 3 (23:31):
States after basically dumping all of the puppies onto me.

Speaker 4 (23:34):
Oh all of them. Why are these people dumping puppies? Yeah,
they're just as worse as the other people.

Speaker 3 (23:39):
Oh my goodness, I found homes for all but one,
which she had told me was a beagle mix cute.
I had a beagle mix, the original one I was
going to foster and have had him for over a
year now. Originally I thought he was going to be
a foster fail. I'd never liked dogs that much, but

(24:00):
I still, you know, have a heart good. At first,
he was the sweetest, responded well to training, vetting the
whole nine yards, and even protected me from a random
approaching me on a book.

Speaker 2 (24:12):
I'm just imagining a little baby beagle being like.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
A beagle's like, how yeah?

Speaker 2 (24:18):
They like?

Speaker 3 (24:20):
So like they'd be like.

Speaker 2 (24:20):
What I like? Whoa, I'm random? Whoa whoa? Whoa whoa.

Speaker 3 (24:30):
Well, now all of that has changed. He has completely
gone backwards on his previously stellar potty training. I'm cleaning
pee and crap out of his kennel every day, even
though I have a rotating amount of people coming to
take him out when I'm at Well, now all of
that has changed. He has completely gone backwards on his

(24:51):
previously stellar potty training. I'm cleaning pee and crap out
of his kennel every day, even though I have a
taining amount of people coming to take him out. When
I'm at work. He is a fifty pound hurricane of belief.

Speaker 2 (25:06):
He is fifty pounds for a little beagle.

Speaker 1 (25:09):
That's not I think she said she originally thought it was.

Speaker 2 (25:12):
Yeah, she must be bigger poles only get like yeah,
maybe thirty. Yeah, I mean Ava is like thirty. Yeah,
and she's a small medium Yeah that beagles mixed with
something big.

Speaker 3 (25:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (25:27):
I think my my larger dog goes about fifty. So
that's that's a fifteen.

Speaker 3 (25:32):
Are usually like labs or godkers like fifty and up
are you or maybe?

Speaker 2 (25:37):
Yeah? Maybe maybe Oscar.

Speaker 3 (25:39):
Was I have fifty beagle chow mix and she was
around like thirty five forty.

Speaker 2 (25:45):
Yeah, that's that's pretty big for a bagel. Yeah, so
probably mixed with something else.

Speaker 3 (25:50):
And hurricane of a leash plory. Sorry, I hate I
hate dogs that pull on leash. I cannot that is
that is my pet peeve. His behavior has completely one
a He's brady, jumps up and throws himself at me
and constantly tries to slip his leash. He barks all
night and keeps me in my roommate twenty six mail
a dog person up all night. He has an absolute

(26:11):
displeasure to be around, makes the entire house stinc no
matter how hard I try to clean, and is a
general nuisance. So I decided to rehome because I know
he needs a bigger space and more attention and better training,
and since I got a new job that would not
be happening a soon. I mean, it's good that you
know that, because that was my Yeah, it was gonna be.
My suggestion is that you know some Yeah, someone in

(26:32):
the chat said, oh, Amanda says, regression is usually an.

Speaker 2 (26:36):
Indication of something being wrong. Yeah, maybe this dog, you know,
is bigger now than he used to be, needs more space.
You're not home a lot, needs more walks because maybe
it's you know, mixed with the breed that needs a
little bit more energy, like just needs to exert a
little bit more energy. So it's good that you know

(26:57):
that you can't provide that. And you never intended for
the dog to be, you know, adopted by you.

Speaker 3 (27:04):
So it was only supposed to be like a short
amount of time. It wasn't supposed to be like, oh,
this is my forever dog or whatever. Yeah, so you know,
I And also I think it's smart as long as
you like understand and are like I'm rehoming it because
some people, if they don't want a dog or something,
they just were out well whatever, that's what they did

(27:26):
to these dogs.

Speaker 2 (27:27):
Not ope, but someone did it to these dogs already.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
Yeah, so it's like you're giving you can't give it
the care that needs, so you are going to rehome
it to someone who is looking to give that care
to it. And sop.

Speaker 2 (27:37):
He has done the work to seemingly find good people,
oh for sure, and provide that. So that's good.

Speaker 3 (27:43):
Yeah, I don't think you're the I contacted a shelter
and started the surrender and rehome paperwork, but I've had
some people I know calling me heartless for rehoming him.
I'm going to include his kennel toys, vaccine paperwork, two
Costco bags of dog food, and I'm having him newter
next and will wait for him to recover before we homing.

Speaker 2 (28:02):
I'm gonna be honest, that might be it. If he's
not neutered, that might and he's you know, was a
puppy and probably under a year, that might be it. Yeah.
You might just be you know, because a lot of
times male puppies when they get to a certain age,
you know, around the time when usually get the neuter
they have a lot of like aggression and a lot
of energy. Yeah, that kind of simmers down after they

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get neutered.

Speaker 3 (28:26):
So yeah, they have because it's all the testosters. Yeah,
of like, oh I gotta fight, I gotta mark, I
gotta you know, do whatever.

Speaker 2 (28:34):
So that might it might be solved by neutering.

Speaker 3 (28:38):
M Yeah. As soon as like she said that, yeah,
I was like, wait, you have a neuteronim? Yeah, I
have a uterium. Then yeah, it makes sense anyway. I
don't want him getting out and making more unloved dumped
puppies just to repeat this cycle again. I even offered
the people interested to reimburse his next VET bill as
long as they send me proof of it being done.

(28:59):
This post probably doesn't make a lot of sense, and
I know opinions on dogs are high strung in a
lot of communities, but I wasn't ready for a dog.
I wasn't and am not the best owner. I didn't
give him what he needed. I fed him and kept
him warm and loved him, but I just wasn't ready.
I feel awful for essentially giving up, but I just
can't do it anymore. I cry every night over this
dog because I feel like scum up the earth for this,

(29:21):
but it needs to be done. That being said, I
just want to know. Am I the a hole for
rehoming him? I know I committed to him last year,
but it was supposed to be a foster situation. Now
I'm in thousands in the hole for a dog I
wasn't prepared for and nothing to show for it besides
scratch marks and crap stained paper towels. Thanks, please be
gentle in the comments. It's been hard and nobody in

(29:43):
real life has been able to talk to me about
this without hardcore judging me for rehoming, and I don't
know where else to go to get advice. The only
people who have been in my corner are my landlord
and roommates.

Speaker 2 (29:55):
Lord ye was like, yeah, maybe I think rehoming the
dog that's scratching my floors is a good idea. I
totally support you on that. Yeah no, you definitely weren't ready.
Yeah yeah no, neither.

Speaker 3 (30:10):
Was my apartment, which is nice, but it's still hard.

Speaker 2 (30:15):
There is a d I think anyone who's telling you
that you're the a hole, I think you need to
reframe it in your mind that you were in a
foster situation that you weren't planning on adopting. And just
like literally anytime someone says, oh, you're rehoming that's terrible,
just say, oh, well, it was always a foster situation.

(30:35):
I was given the dog and I agreed to foster it.
So I've just been looking for a new family that
can take care of the dog.

Speaker 3 (30:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (30:42):
And they could say, oh, like why did you have
the dog for the so long and you go, oh, well,
you know, I couldn't find anyone originally, and then a
new family. Just reframe it like that, because that's it,
that is what happened.

Speaker 3 (30:51):
Yeah, that you were always fostering the dog. And also
it doesn't seem like the dog is like aggressive in
any way, Like never did they ever mention like, oh,
like doesn't like people, doesn't like other dogs, doesn't like
you know, whatever, blah blah blah.

Speaker 2 (31:03):
Probably just as a puppy and hasn't been neutered yet. Yeah,
it has been neutered.

Speaker 3 (31:07):
It's a puppy. It's regressing, which like happens, and literally,
like you know, everything unless they're like, you know, great
dogs and they can adapt to change and other things.
You know, like, I'm sure there has been other things
that have happened in the house that she's just obviously
not mentioning. But you know, like, for the most part,
I think it's just a regular dog. Yeah, but there

(31:29):
is an edit. This post is already getting a lot
of attention and I've only had it up for a
few minutes. I forgot to clarify he's not in a shelter.
He's still staying in my home until he's rehomed. I'm
just working with a shelter to find him one. So
sorry for any confusion. That was important information I completely
forgot to mention because of how stressed out I was
writing this post.

Speaker 2 (31:48):
Lol. There is an update. We just skin in, just
skin into it. Oh.

Speaker 3 (31:54):
So a lot has happened in the past few weeks,
so I thought i'd give an update for the few
people who were asking, since I'd hate to leave people hanging,
even if it's a small amount invested.

Speaker 4 (32:02):
I'm invested, and it's not small.

Speaker 3 (32:06):
One my twenty eight female dog, one male has recovered
from his neuter and we've gone completely back to basics.

Speaker 2 (32:14):
Oh oh basics, okay, okay, so not back to I
see I.

Speaker 3 (32:19):
Had a few behavioral diagnostic sessions with a trainer who
let me know that the body behavior was fairly common
male dogs of his age, and the biggest thing we
needed to address was him holding it when we went
outside to then go to his kennel.

Speaker 2 (32:33):
As in like holding his ladder and then waiting to
pee in his kennel.

Speaker 3 (32:37):
Yeah, yeah, Okay. Eventually it was some painstakingly early morning walks.
We've been able to remind him he goes outside and
the issue has mostly been solved, aside from him peeing occasionally.
I don't really know what caused the backslide in potty training,
but it seems we've gotten over that hump. I think
the neuter may have helped with the territorial bitt it.

Speaker 2 (32:59):
Yeah. Two.

Speaker 3 (33:01):
My partner thirty mail and I had a massive scare
last weekend. A woman had reached out to us through
the foster program I got in contact with as an
approved adopter, and they sent me all her info to
see if she'd.

Speaker 2 (33:13):
Be a good match.

Speaker 3 (33:15):
She had the room, a yard in lived next to
a dog park. She seemed to have a background with dogs,
and wrote a whole statement about how she would be
patient and loving home we checked, all the boxes, had
a playdate. Everything went well, or so we thought, so
she agreed to take him. Paperwork was signed. The foster
I went through doesn't really do return periods the same

(33:36):
way many do, as we live in a rural area,
so they're just trying to get animals out of the kennels.
I had suggested maybe a trial run with her, but
they said to let the dog adjust and see where
it went. And it went awful.

Speaker 2 (33:49):
Oh no thanks.

Speaker 3 (33:52):
Apparently the woman we got in contact with was actually underage,
seventeen year old, and.

Speaker 4 (33:58):
The foster didn't like run background checker there, that's.

Speaker 2 (34:02):
He says they did. Yeah, confused, Okay, well clearly they
didn't check. They literally they looked at her. Her fake ID.
It very obviously fake. Yeah, the pictures like half got
off and they're like, well didn't they have play date
with Yeah? But I mean like she could close to him?

Speaker 3 (34:18):
Yeah she can.

Speaker 2 (34:19):
Yeah, I think they let she was that the foster
that they're going through didn't actually do a background checking.

Speaker 3 (34:24):
Yeah, so she's seventeen year old, but still her ID
said she was twenty two, and I really couldn't tell
because she seemed to have her crap together and all
the paperwork done, and had used a fake ID and
everything to adopt him without her mother's permission. So the
shelter and then trickling down to me, got a call
less than two hours later from a very angry mom

(34:46):
who gave us an hour to come get him or
she dump.

Speaker 4 (34:49):
Him on the highway because I'm terrible.

Speaker 2 (34:52):
Oh god.

Speaker 3 (34:53):
It was terrifying and threw me into a full blown
panic attack, But my partner saved the day and went
and handled everything with the family Wiley Pas, backed up
his stuff and got him into the car. The reason
they were going to dump him wasn't even because she'd
gotten a dog without permission. Apparently him barking at her
was enough, and she told my partner that she didn't
want a dog that barked.

Speaker 4 (35:13):
Well, that's what dogs do, That's what they do. What
was all that about being being patient? Yeah, well you
in your little writing piece, Yeah, who's it?

Speaker 2 (35:23):
A fictional piece of writing, And that.

Speaker 3 (35:25):
They'd probably contact the shelter and ask for a dog
like mine that didn't bark.

Speaker 2 (35:30):
That's insane to be like it, Hello, do you have
dogs that don't bark? Then?

Speaker 1 (35:34):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (35:34):
What dogs that bark lets.

Speaker 3 (35:37):
Yeah, I can't, that's crazy. We called the shelter and
several others and let them know to blacklist that family.
If they were threatening to dump a dog over barking,
I don't know what they do to an animal with
other issues. True, three mister Poppers is now an official
training since I felt bad for essentially scared straight the

(36:00):
poor fellow.

Speaker 2 (36:04):
He's tossed in this family that's threatening to put him
in the eyeway. You're just like, all right, I'll do
whatever you want. I swear, I'm I'm sorry. I We'll
be there. I will be there.

Speaker 3 (36:13):
We had plenty of cuttle time and reassurances good. A
few days later, I got an email from a training
facility i'd reached out to prior and never heard back
from that. A spot opened up, so I got him
in there. He's been doing great and spending the off
days with my parents since I've just started a new
job and they offered to help me out.

Speaker 2 (36:30):
Great.

Speaker 3 (36:31):
His behavior was nearly one eighty, so thank you to
everyone for the suggestions. Great.

Speaker 2 (36:35):
It seems like a piece, I mean, still somewhat trying
to find.

Speaker 3 (36:39):
Yeah family, But it's just the fact that like she
didn't even want the dog in the first place, and
like to go through all this trouble for this thing
that she didn't want.

Speaker 4 (36:48):
It's like more than the people.

Speaker 2 (36:50):
That don't want the dog or want the dog. Yeah,
more than the people that do want the dog.

Speaker 3 (36:55):
Yeah, Like it's just that's crazy to be like, oh
my god, I want a dog.

Speaker 2 (36:58):
You want a dog and then be like Campbell.

Speaker 3 (37:00):
Yeah, like I can't stands to do.

Speaker 2 (37:02):
I don't want a dog. Okay, I'm going to get
it newtered, I'm going to get all the shots, I'm
going to take it on walks. I'm gonna get it training.

Speaker 3 (37:09):
Right, just like basic essentials. Yeah, like that's that's just
what you have to do when when you have an
animal or any animal.

Speaker 2 (37:16):
Yep, number four.

Speaker 3 (37:18):
I've had a few people reach out to me on
Facebook and through the shelters with an interest in him.
For now, he's still getting trained properly and hopefully that
will help him with acting right for a new home.
It's also giving me a great chance at relief to
actually think about my options instead of desperately scrambling to
find him something better. Don't worry, I will be highly

(37:39):
vetting the people curious about him, and we'll have several
mandatory meetups before handing him over to someone new for
a forever home. Uh frequently asked questions. I got a
lot of messages and comments on my previous post, so
I'm going to answer some questions here. One, I didn't
adopt him. He was supposed to be a foster that
was on the rapid you list. Otherwise. We live in

(38:03):
a small area with limited space, and my friend who
found him and his littermates told me they were youthing.
All the males of any litter of puppies brought to
animal control because their adoptability was just that.

Speaker 2 (38:16):
Low in our area.

Speaker 3 (38:17):
God, that's crazy. I wanted to give him a chance.
Even though I'm not a dog person. I was not
prepared for a long term pet, and am very aware.
No need to remind me. Number two, I do not
hate animals. I have cats. I am deserving of an
animals love. I love my dog, which is why I'm
letting him go. Good for you, hope, that's like such

(38:37):
a great statement.

Speaker 2 (38:38):
Anyone who's saying otherwise has not read this story. Yeah,
you have done You've done a very good thing for
this dog.

Speaker 3 (38:46):
Yeah, it's those people that are like, you would rather
have a dog beyond the street?

Speaker 4 (38:51):
Do you rather have a dog?

Speaker 2 (38:53):
Like you know? And it's like, I don't ask for
the dog, yeah, and I've been taking fostering care of it,
like this is not We've read situations where people are like,
I want a dog, I want a dog, and then
they get the dog and they're like, well, actually I
don't want this dog and I may return it, which
is like, you know, yeah, that's worse. But this is
a situation where you were always very upfront about fostering.

Speaker 3 (39:13):
Yeah. Number three, I cannot keep him. Not only have
I started a new job where I will be gone
for twelve plus hours a day, but my apartment lease
is updating in the new year less than a month
to not include animals over fifty pounds. My actual landlord
is working with me on it and the rehome process.
He's not really in control of the situation. It's property
management making the call.

Speaker 2 (39:34):
Yeah. I was like, can't teach a landlord. He's like, so,
how how big is your dog? Okay, fifty five. We're
changing it to the possy. So if you're under fifty
four you can have a bet, but anything over fifty
five pounds. Nope, gotta get rid of it.

Speaker 3 (39:53):
Even if I could keep him, the apartment is too
small for him to get any enrichment while I'm away.
He goes through enrichment toys I leave out for him
in less than an hour.

Speaker 4 (40:02):
Four.

Speaker 3 (40:03):
My partner, brother and roommate all assists me with letting
him out throughout the day now, but all of our
schedules are about to change with the new year, school
and jobs, and it's not a good fit anymore.

Speaker 2 (40:13):
Five.

Speaker 3 (40:14):
I didn't have him in formal training because where I
live there wasn't anything reasonable. I'm talking four k plus
per week. That wasn't even one on one training that
I was not prepared to pay for. His current training
is one hundred and eighty dollars a day, and that's
still pretty steep for me right now, especially because of
the holidays, but I'm making it work for him. Six

(40:36):
he is not in a shelter. We are working through
a shelter and foster based rescue to have him on
their roster for adoption. He was still living with me
and is now at the training facility or living it
up at my parents' house. Happy as a clam, getting fat.
I'm sure good.

Speaker 2 (40:52):
Seven.

Speaker 3 (40:53):
My parents can't keep him either. I know he'd love it,
and they have a farm, but my mom put her
foot down about having a dog, and this would be
a temporary situation since they want me to not be
stressed out about my new job. There are great folks.
They didn't help sooner because they told me to exhaust
every other option first, but after the dumb scare we had,

(41:15):
they seemed to understand how stressed I was and wanted
to help. I wish they would have offered me even
a weekend off, but I'm not gonna look for a
gift horse in them. What I'm not gonna look a
gift horse in the mouth?

Speaker 2 (41:27):
Yel wel Eight.

Speaker 3 (41:28):
I honestly do love the dog, but he's too much
for me. Admitting that was hard, and the rehoming process
has been hard as well. I'm not heartless or crull.
We're doing everything by the book as we can, and Kim.

Speaker 2 (41:40):
Follin are somewhat right. It says it comes from checking
its implite, or it's seen as impolite to check a
horse's age by its teeth to see if it's old
or unhealthy, So like it's rude to inspect a gift's quality.
It can also refer to gifts that seem good but
have hidden costs or aren't quite what you need, like

(42:02):
the Trojan horse.

Speaker 3 (42:03):
Interesting, Wait, so you can tell a teeth?

Speaker 2 (42:09):
Yeah, teeth so, but like it's I guess it's saying
like if someone give you a horse for us a gift,
and then you'll be like, let me see this teeth.
It's a good horse. That's rude, like someone giving you
like hmm not she like like maybe like a Dutch oven,
but yeah, and then you're like, look, technically, would I
I wanted a purple one exactly?

Speaker 3 (42:30):
Kind of Okay, that makes sense. I don't know why
I put that down. M still looking for a new
forever home, but for right now, I'm a lot less stressed.
My parents are enjoying having their grand dog over and
he's getting trained. The situation has stabilized and I'm not
at risk of losing anything now, but I want to
make sure I'm prepared in case my parents decide they're

(42:52):
done looking after him. I don't want to exhaust their kindness.
Thank you to everyone who gave me advice. I will
probably update this one last time when final decisions have
been made and he's founded Forever Home. But for now
things are gonna be okay.

Speaker 2 (43:07):
I think you've done a great job, o Pee, ten
out of ten. I think you've done way more than people.
You've got above and beyond in terms of a fostering situations. Yeah,
Like a lot of people don't foster for nearly as
long as you've Yeah, I feel like people only foster
for like maybe like a couple of months. Yeah, usually

(43:27):
doesn't go long as long as a year now. But
I've also never fostered. I've never fostered. I've had friends
who've fostered them.

Speaker 3 (43:37):
My aunt foster's all the time. And like she she
had a whole like kitten and kaboodle, Like she had
a pregnant cat and then it had its kittens and
they had like ten kittens die or like getting giving
them to well after they were done, like feeding them,
mom oh dying.

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Speaker 4 (44:06):
My girlfriend refused to live with me even though she's
having my baby.

Speaker 2 (44:10):
What you can't do that, I mail forty one. Have
been dating Jess female thirty seven for the past five years.
From the very beginning, she told me she never wanted
to get married or have kids. After a year of dating,
I brought up the idea of moving in together, but
she said no. By the way, this comes from Throwaway
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Speaker 4 (44:34):
I'm Sophia and I'm.

Speaker 2 (44:35):
Savannah, and we're ready to give good advice. Goofy, but
we don't have all the answers. We only know what
we'd do, So let us know what you would do
in the comments, and op says she preferred the arrangement
we had, which was spending time together a few nights
a week when one of us slept over, then having
a few days each week to ourselves at our own
places separately. I accepted that. Recently she told me she's

(44:57):
pregnant and she's keeping the baby baby. I brought up
moving in together again because I want to be there
for her and for our child, but again she said no.
Her plan is that we continue as we are, have
our together time with the baby when one of us
sleeps over, and then take turns caring for the baby
while the other has alone time in their own place.

(45:19):
That is only reasonable if you are not together. Yeah,
I was gonna say, if.

Speaker 3 (45:24):
You're divorced, Yeah, yeah, yeah, that works, but not if
you're like together.

Speaker 2 (45:29):
No, that's unreasonable.

Speaker 3 (45:30):
That just doesn't.

Speaker 2 (45:31):
It just seems like you don't want to like live together,
which if you're having a child and you're together, that
you gotta do it. I told her this makes no
sense to me and doesn't seem realistic. I want us
to be a family. Why pay two rents and set
up two nurseries? I asked her if she doesn't see
me as a long term partner. She said she does,
and that she loves me, but she still wants things

(45:53):
to stay the way they are. I talked to my
buddy and he told me I should probably accept it
because if we split up, I'd end up seeing my
child even less. So now I'm questioning myself. Am I
being old fashioned? Am I being selfish for wanting us
to live together so I can actually be there and
help with the baby.

Speaker 3 (46:09):
Full time.

Speaker 2 (46:10):
I'm lost here. I mean to be honest, No, you're
not selfish. You guys have different ideas of how you
want to live your life.

Speaker 3 (46:20):
Personally.

Speaker 2 (46:20):
I think hers doesn't quite make sense when you have
a child together. However, if this were a situation before
you at the kid, I would have said, Hey, let's
talk about this. What happens when we have a child,
or if we have a child, what would you want
to do? So that's just kind of a note for
next time. Have those discussions.

Speaker 3 (46:42):
Note for next time.

Speaker 2 (46:43):
Next time. Can't really change that here, But yeah, I
think keep having that conversation because I don't know, I mean,
maybe just like come, you know, take some time and
think about all of the things that would be a
lot more difficult when raising the child and two separate
households when you're still together, and bring up your concerns.

(47:08):
Harry Glove says, not the a hole you asked and
she declined. Now that you ever answer, you either make
it work or separate entirely and co parent. You would
be an ahole if you attempt to force it. A
little bit funny says, even if they stay together, they'll
be co parenting. They won't be parenting together, they'll be
parenting from two separate households. Exactly, Yeah, Miss Slow says,

(47:28):
not the ale. Two pieces of advice. Get a DNA test,
have a lawyer, drop a shared custody arrangement, an agreement,
whether you stay together or not. You want this outlined
ahead of time. This should include financial responsibilities, visitation, medical responsibilities, holidays,
the whole nine yards, even if you've remained together.

Speaker 3 (47:49):
This is important.

Speaker 2 (47:50):
Raising a child is exhausting and expensive, and the future
is unpredictable. Judgment not the a whole, and there is
an update. Well, what do you think about all that?

Speaker 3 (48:00):
I mean, I just I don't think. I don't know
why the girlfriend is being weird about living together, Like
maybe she's nervous, like if it doesn't work or something
like then what are they gonna do? But also like
I don't know, like I think they just need a

(48:20):
conversation of being like, Okay, what are your concerns because
I feel like I'm not clear on why you don't
want to And I feel like I also agree with
the why be in separate places and pay two separate things?
Make two separate nurseries with two separate rents? Like I
just feel like that's pushing it and for what you're together,
you know, and so then one has alone time, like

(48:42):
just you know, get a place.

Speaker 4 (48:44):
With anything, yeah, yeah, if anything, two bedrooms, it's a
great yeah.

Speaker 3 (48:49):
Like I don't know.

Speaker 2 (48:50):
I think all of those commentaries who were saying, like
get the DNA test, get you know, talk about finances
and a split custody agreement, because you do have split
custody whether or not you're together, if you if you
go about it this way. Update those of you who
called me a man child or said she doesn't want
to move in with you because you're a man baby,

(49:10):
can get bent for everyone else. Thanks for encouraging me
to actually get to the bottom of this. I had
a serious eye opening talk with her last night over
the phone. I asked her straight up what the real
reason was that she didn't want to move in with
me if she needed space, so duplex or a house
with a finished basement would have solved that, But she
kept giving excuses like I like my house better, or

(49:33):
it's more of a privacy thing. So I asked her
if there was someone else, if she was seeing someone
on the side, is she cheating on me? She said,
it's not Oh my god, she said it's not cheating
because whatever she does on her me days is none
of my business. And that was our deal, no questions,
no communication on those days. So she's cheating. So she's

(49:56):
cheating on you.

Speaker 5 (49:57):
That's insane, that's in because I'm sure, I'm sure that
you when you talked about this, she was like, yeah,
like on those days, you know, I just want me time,
Like don't please, don't like reach out to me on
those days.

Speaker 3 (50:10):
I need my alone time.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
And he was like yeah, and now she's coming back
and he's like, well, what happens in Vegas stays in
Vegas and you you agreed?

Speaker 3 (50:20):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (50:22):
When she says me days, yeah, does she mean like
oh these are you know, like and she's like, I
need no, I need privacy, no contact.

Speaker 3 (50:33):
Like did you say like in an agreement like oh
like we are polyamorous?

Speaker 2 (50:37):
Yeah, on those days?

Speaker 4 (50:39):
Yeah, I doubt it.

Speaker 3 (50:40):
Yeah, I don't know what what the like communication was. Yeah,
I don't know what the agreement was about it, but
like something seems very off.

Speaker 4 (50:52):
Agreed.

Speaker 2 (50:54):
I was honestly shocked. That was supposed to be about
alone time, not meeting other guys. She just repeated that
what she does in those days is none of my business.
I asked if the real reason she wanted privacy was
to stay close to this guy.

Speaker 3 (51:08):
Is he the dad?

Speaker 2 (51:09):
She said, he's not the dad. He had of a
sectomy years ago. Like, that's supposed to make me feel better. Meanwhile,
I've been cooking for her and filling her fridge for
those me days, basically helping her see someone else. There
is a little bit left the story, but this is
a pretty clear answer. Uh here, break up. Yeah, he

(51:29):
just like fraternity test.

Speaker 3 (51:32):
Yeah, how she hadn't you know, I just don't.

Speaker 2 (51:36):
I don't like anything. And how she's like being so
secretive about it.

Speaker 4 (51:40):
Yeah, it's my time.

Speaker 2 (51:41):
And then I would respond to that and say, okay,
well do I get to see other people on your
mee days? Yeah? Or like what about my meat days?

Speaker 3 (51:49):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (51:50):
Me plus we met plus we I asked how long
this has been going on, and she said on and off, maybe.

Speaker 2 (51:56):
Two or three years.

Speaker 3 (51:58):
Okay, girl, all the.

Speaker 2 (52:01):
People that gaslight you about this crazy yeah, and like
you're not gonna say anything, like what and then you're
then you're pregnant. Now It's like, oh, like what, like
now are you gonna stop seeing the guys. You're just
gonna hang it, Like, what does that say about you?

Speaker 5 (52:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (52:17):
I told her we never agreed to see other people,
and she said it's not her fault. I misunderstood, and
that she clearly said no communication or questions on those days.
How is she in her head, you know, making it
so that no communication or questions means that she can
just cheat. She never said, oh, we're polyamorous on those days.

(52:37):
So I told her we're done. I'm going to see
a lawyer and we need to do a test to
make sure the baby is mine. She said, all my
talk about being there for her during the pregnancy was bs.

Speaker 1 (52:48):
Huh.

Speaker 2 (52:49):
I told her that I don't know that. I don't
know her anything anymore. My only responsibility is to the
baby if it's mine, and she can ask her other
partner to step up. I'm so angry and from I
can't believe I didn't see this coming, and teens Bean says,
I'm sorry, Opie says, I just can't believe it. She
still thinks it's my fault. Good Normal says, well, she's

(53:11):
clearly a nutjob. Honestly, I hope it's not yours. So
you can just cut ties entirely and uh, that is
the end of that story. It's tough, tough situation for you. OPM.

Speaker 1 (53:23):
Sorry.

Speaker 2 (53:24):
Yeah, Like I don't even and the fact that it
wasn't even like, you know, like a month or week whatever.
It's been two three years years. She doesn't even know.

Speaker 3 (53:33):
Yeah, and she's like, no, I like I've been doing
this and this is like you eat to it. Yeah,
Like that's crazy.

Speaker 2 (53:42):
Sure, I did not.

Speaker 1 (53:43):
And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go
to the next one. Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fake
redhead host here, and we're going to get back to
the stories.

Speaker 2 (53:53):
But here's a three minute ad break from our sponsors.

Speaker 3 (53:56):
My girlfriend has a secret account and I can't stand
it any longer.

Speaker 2 (54:00):
Let me see, let me see.

Speaker 3 (54:02):
My male twenty six girlfriend, female twenty four b and
I have been together officially nearly six months now, dating
a few months before that. She's great and it's been
smooth sailing so far. We don't argue and we have
a lot of fun. By the way, this comes from
insta help Me and if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash Okay story time subreddit.

(54:23):
I am Savannah.

Speaker 4 (54:24):
I'm Sophia, and we are here to give you good
advice a goof lee.

Speaker 3 (54:27):
But we don't have all the answers. We'd only tell
you what we would do in the situation, So let
us know what you would do in the comments. As
Op says, she's very honest with me, or at least
as far as I have always known she is. She
tends to admit things because she'd rather I know up
front than find out from someone else. They're never awful things,

(54:49):
just small things about her past that I might have
found out one day, might not.

Speaker 2 (54:54):
She says.

Speaker 3 (54:56):
In her past she used to tell white lies and
they'd end up biting her in the butts. So she's
just up front now, even with things I might not
like to hear. She'll literally tell me if she ate
a biscuit from my tin when I was in the shower,
because she doesn't want to lie. I don't care it's
a bloody biscuit, it's but it's cute. The other day
I noticed her getting a lot of notifications on her

(55:18):
phone from Instagram. I made a joke about her being popular,
and she saw her phone and locked it and put
it face down. She didn't seem guilty, but she definitely
hid the screen from me.

Speaker 2 (55:27):
What is she hiding? What if she's just running like
a secret fan fiction account please, or like one of
those those like edit fan edits. It's like she's just
been doing Josh Hutcherson edits this whole time. She's just like,
I'm ashamed of it, so don't look, don't look.

Speaker 3 (55:44):
I'm not popular, Hutchison is. She's not posted anything on
Instagram in weeks. Sorry, I know that sounds insane to check.
I also noticed she had Twitter notifications. She's mentioned before
that she's never used Twitter. I even searched for her
name and found nothing. The notification started again today and
I tried to get a glimpse of the screen, but

(56:04):
she flipped it again. I asked her why her phone
was going off, and she just said group chats, but
I'm sure it was Instagram. Sometimes she hides her screen
from me. But she says she's planning my birthday present,
which is possible. I know she's planning something for it.
I trust this girl, but this behavior is weird. Does
anyone have experience here or any thoughts on what she's doing.

(56:26):
I really don't think she'd cheat. But why have secret accounts?

Speaker 2 (56:31):
I think you go to her and you say, hey,
I trust you, and you know, I really love our relationship,
but you hiding your phone has been making me a
little insecure. Yeah. Uh, and I would like to talk
about it if it really is just like a birthday thing. Honestly,
I'd rather not have the surprise and have the peace

(56:51):
of mind.

Speaker 3 (56:51):
Yeah, have the reassurance that everything's cool with this. Yeah, yeah,
I agree, having like just a conversation about just like, hey,
we're okay, right, Like nothing that's going on.

Speaker 2 (57:03):
No, you're not posting any weird Josh Hutchison, Fana Tya Please,
that's totally turn off. That's where I draw the line.

Speaker 3 (57:12):
Uh, there is a top comment. I have a secret
Twitter where I fight with people about politics. I don't
use my personal account much, so I tell people I
don't use Twitter much, but I go through spurts of
intense political debate on my secret Twitter and there's an update.

Speaker 2 (57:27):
Everyone needs something, you know. I have my secret Twitter
for political debate. Political debates. Sometimes she's just got to
release tension.

Speaker 3 (57:35):
It's true.

Speaker 2 (57:37):
Update three days later.

Speaker 3 (57:39):
Sorry if I came off as jealous or possessive in
the last post. I'm honestly not. I'm very relaxed in
terms of jealousy, and I trust me. I don't think
she would ever cheat. I just don't know why she
would hide things from me. She's usually an open book
at a free library where the doors.

Speaker 2 (57:55):
Don't even shut.

Speaker 3 (57:56):
Okay, weird analogy. So we were watching TV last night
and she was tilting her phone away from me. She
put it down and made a cup of tea, and
within ten minutes it had flashed Instagram notifications about fifty times.
I couldn't help it, and I said, beat who is
messaging you so much? She sort of cringed and laughed,
then made me promise not to make fun of her.

(58:17):
She made this fake dramatic noise and said she'd been
hiding this secret for too long now, and she knew
i'd find out.

Speaker 2 (58:24):
She has a meme page. That wasn't too far off.
She's got a meme page. He wasn't so far off.
That's pretty close to fan ad it account. Why couldn't
if she just said that? Yeah, Well, my biggest shame
the sme page for a baking show.

Speaker 3 (58:40):
Oh, she has a meme page for a baking show.
It's oddly popular, and she makes these memes to amuse
herself and some people seem to like them a lot.

Speaker 2 (58:49):
Is it great British bag?

Speaker 3 (58:51):
So yeah, no cheating, just a weird secret that never
needed to be a secret. I mean, obviously I tease
her a bit, but the memes are quite funny. So
now I yay supporting your girlfriend loves love. But she's
made me swear not to tell anyone it's hers. Sorry
for the drama. Everyone problem resolved. Final comments. If it's

(59:13):
no context uh bakeoff or Great British Bakeoff reactions, please
tell your girlfriend that I think she's hilarious either way,
fantastic updates.

Speaker 2 (59:22):
Agree. I want to know if it's the Great British
Bakeoff show.

Speaker 3 (59:25):
Oh P responds, it's not those, but it's similar bakeoff
reaction or something. I think it's quite small now.

Speaker 2 (59:29):
But oh oh, it is bakeoff, but it's just I
think they were saying, is it like these accounts?

Speaker 3 (59:34):
M oh oh yeah uh, but she said she doesn't care.
It just makes her laugh. Thank you, I kun enough
help for a better outcome. Another person says, absolutely, just
went to find that page. If it's the one I found.
It's funny, this is such a weird thing to have hidden.
But a really good update. Ha ha oh p responds.

Speaker 2 (59:52):
She says thanks, and that she needs to think up
some good biscuit puns for this week. I love that
this is so cute.

Speaker 3 (01:00:00):
Aggressive Cleaning responds, is it the Great British Bake Off?
If so, then she's completely sane. Oh, he says it is.

Speaker 2 (01:00:08):
Dude, I freaking called it. He just said baking shit.
I said, is it the Gray rid ryel?

Speaker 3 (01:00:13):
Because yeah, okay, we all love your girlfriend now.

Speaker 2 (01:00:16):
Oh that's it. Yeah. But happy update, yeah, happy update.
It is a problem, but it's really not a problem.
It's really not what it was.

Speaker 4 (01:00:25):
But it's not She's just a memur problem resolved.

Speaker 2 (01:00:28):
She just likes memes and that's the end of this story.

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