My future mother-in-law wanted to walk MY groom down the aisle! | Reddit Stories | EP2668 - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:10):
My future mother in law wanted to walk my groom
down the aisle.

Speaker 4 (00:14):
That's not how it goes.

Speaker 3 (00:16):
Evan thirty one male, and I twenty eight female, are
getting married in five weeks, and a disagreement with my
future mother in law has turned wedding planning into an
ideological debate.

Speaker 5 (00:28):
What uh oh.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
She is a lifelong feminist and a single mother who
raised Evan entirely on her own. She believes that because
fathers traditionally give away daughters, she should be able to
give her son away. As an equal feminist gesture.

Speaker 4 (00:42):
Hey, I like it. I kind of like this.

Speaker 3 (00:45):
Well, maybe as a feminist you should also recognize that
Ope wants to decide how her and her fiance's wedding
is gonna go wrong.

Speaker 4 (00:53):
She did this, she gets to pick. It's her day,
don't you know? This is her day?

Speaker 1 (00:58):
Two?

Speaker 2 (00:59):
You're right? Was I thinking?

Speaker 4 (01:00):
Gosh?

Speaker 3 (01:01):
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I am Raley.

Speaker 3 (01:10):
We're here to give good advice Goofley, but we don't
have all the answers. We only know what we do,
So let us know what you would do in the comments,
and Oop says her plan is to walk my fiance
down the aisle while I stand at the altar. Yeah,
I'm supposed to watch him walk down the aisle, give
a short speech about raising him, present him with a ring,
and then place his hand into mine before the ceremony begins. Huh,

(01:35):
it's totally fine if this was her wedding and she
wanted to do this.

Speaker 4 (01:39):
No, this is gonna have to happen. Your misogynist, how
dare you Massagy let her do this?

Speaker 2 (01:46):
I guess I have to.

Speaker 4 (01:48):
You have to.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
I guess I got it.

Speaker 4 (01:50):
Else you're going against the whole force.

Speaker 2 (01:52):
I hate women. That's what this means. If you don't
do this, Opie, I'm just kidding. This is crazy.

Speaker 4 (01:59):
No, it's what needs to happen.

Speaker 3 (02:01):
Break that glass ceiling. I understand the argument intellectually. In fact,
one of the main reasons that I fell in love
with Evan is for his ability to never diminish me,
to listen to my opinion, and to treat me as
an intellectual equal. But I always assumed that I would
walk down the aisle to him. I've always seen this
as a romantic thing and a given. She says, my

(02:22):
father can still walk me down the aisle first, just
as usual, but I would be walking to a lonely
efficient when I said no, what yeah, so op he
would go first with her dad and then just be
waiting there for her husband to walk down the aisle.

Speaker 4 (02:36):
She's just reversing this thing.

Speaker 3 (02:37):
Yeah, honestly, why doesn't she just go first? You know,
like she could still walk no, like the mom could
still walk.

Speaker 4 (02:45):
Through groot hoping.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
Yeah, that makes so much more sense.

Speaker 4 (02:48):
And then you open it up being like, yo, it's
time to play. Now, can go?

Speaker 2 (02:52):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (02:52):
Set the scene.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
That would be lovely, I know, Like that's totally more reasonable.

Speaker 4 (02:56):
So she now wants the bride to wait yeah at
the altar.

Speaker 3 (03:01):
Girlfriend, When I said no, she accused me of being
not a feminist and then anti feminist. My fiance understands
both sides.

Speaker 4 (03:09):
Dude, you need to support your girls. This is not
supporting your girls.

Speaker 2 (03:14):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
He literally said, uh, I support both of you, very
intelligent women.

Speaker 4 (03:20):
Oh no, No, he needs to not be a mama's boy.
This is what it is.

Speaker 2 (03:28):
He's just trying to be too much of a feminist.
You can't decide.

Speaker 4 (03:32):
He's six'. Three by the, way, dude, dude blue. Eyes
this is a make or. Break this is honestly the
best test you could have or you could, HAVE, opi is.

Speaker 3 (03:40):
He gonna support you in this decision about your guy's.
Wedding he thinks it is reasonable and the things in
the world have. Changed his family Thinks i'm. Overreacting i'm
not canceling the. Wedding i'm only refusing this specific. Request
so AM i the Ale and we've got some. Comments
yes you. Are you need to be up for experimentation

(04:01):
during your. Wedding, yeah what are you?

Speaker 4 (04:02):
Thinking, okay during your own.

Speaker 3 (04:04):
Wedding you gotta change it up a little. Bit, No,
ophy this is your wedding and your husband should be
on your. Side and if he came to you and, said,
HEY i really would love to honor my mom in
some way during the, ceremony could we do?

Speaker 1 (04:18):
That?

Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah maybe we could find a role and maybe that
is walking him down the aisle. First, yeah we could
squeeze you in.

Speaker 4 (04:26):
Here.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
M then maybe she could be the flower. Mom.

Speaker 4 (04:29):
Yo but with these requests they come at a. Price,
okay we can do whatever you. Want i'll walk down by.
Myself how much of the wedding you're paying, for, yam?
Mom because traditionally it should be the bride's. Family but
if we're gonna be mismatching expectations with, genders.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
You can pay for. Everything.

Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yeah then when you could do, whatever you could sponsor.
It it really comes down to who's sponsoring this.

Speaker 3 (04:54):
Wedding True ardentellian, says at my nephew's, wedding he walked
in with his, Parents then the bride walked in with her.
Parents the parents sat, down the couple joined each other
in front of the. Efficient the best man and made
of honor had the. Rings this worked. Fine no one
made weird, speeches and it was the couple's decision to
do it this.

Speaker 2 (05:12):
Way and that is the.

Speaker 3 (05:13):
Point it would be totally, cool fine and dandy if
it Were opie and her husband's, decision but it's.

Speaker 2 (05:20):
Not, yep it is the mom's.

Speaker 5 (05:23):
Yep.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
Mom you, know if you're with someone break up with,
them OR i don't, know get, divorced then get remarried
and do it the way you. Want you can do
whatever you. Want they called what do they call the
marriages that like they reconform after a number of. YEARS
i don't know what is that?

Speaker 2 (05:39):
Called like when you val?

Speaker 4 (05:40):
Renal, yeah why do you all couples through? That or
whenever they go through a patchy spot in their.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
Life, no it doesn't have to be for a patchy
spot and just be, LIKE i love you a lot
AND i want.

Speaker 2 (05:50):
To you, know celebrate.

Speaker 4 (05:51):
THAT i should do that one with my.

Speaker 3 (05:52):
Girlfriend, well you haven't had any vows, yet so it'd
be just a, vow a vowed to always love. Her
oh that's very. Sweet jester in ancient court, Says I'm.
Jewish and this is customary for both the groom and
bride to be walked down the aisle by their. Parents,
y'all this isn't the. Point you guys are zooing over
the point Capital sarah, says, yes but not customary for

(06:14):
the bride to go first or the mother in law
to make a. Speech we have the parents stay under
the poopa. HOPA i don't know how to pronounce that
with us, though and old school orthodox style was actually
very nice for the family coming. Together opie just has
a regular old self absorbed mother in law on her.
Hands veleandra, says why can't you walk.

Speaker 2 (06:37):
Him down the aisle?

Speaker 3 (06:38):
First then you walk with your dad not the. Ahle
independent Mind gal says that's, nice but no speech for
mother in law during the. Ceremony fathers don't do, that
neither should. She useless education, says, yeah this is where
it jumped the shark for. Me there's already a designated
time when she can give her speech at the toast
with everyone. Else this has main care director syndrome written

(07:01):
all over. It and, uh we've got an.

Speaker 5 (07:05):
Update what was.

Speaker 4 (07:06):
The way we had for mother in law's monsters in? Laws,
yes this isn't your, day, sweeting not your.

Speaker 2 (07:13):
Day it's not your.

Speaker 3 (07:14):
Day if, again all of the people in the comments were, saying,
well you, know like this is common in.

Speaker 2 (07:19):
Swimmer it's not the, point not the.

Speaker 3 (07:21):
Point the point it's about what op and her husband,
want and her husband's just going with what his mom.

Speaker 4 (07:26):
Want that's a real point. There what's the husband going to?
Do i'd be like so, thankful thank you for this, test,
husband what will you?

Speaker 2 (07:35):
Do will you supports? Me or will do you supports my? Mother?
This we're, mother our faith, forever whatever and.

Speaker 4 (07:41):
Ever, Right, oh don't you wish you had a T
you should probably have a test like.

Speaker 2 (07:46):
THIS i don't Think i'm gonna test my.

Speaker 4 (07:47):
Partner, YEAH i, mean like this is.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
Exactly it has to come up.

Speaker 4 (07:53):
Naturally but when you like a natural test just to be.
SURE i am, SURE i, know but like double for.
CERTAIN i know you're, certain but imagine being double for.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
Certain well we'll see when it gets.

Speaker 4 (08:05):
There but would you like it or?

Speaker 2 (08:07):
NOT i don't, know would you like? It? Yeah, Okay
well there you. Go that's your. Answer that's my.

Speaker 4 (08:12):
ANSWER i want to know your, answer.

Speaker 2 (08:14):
AND i want to know what happens in this Update
sophia one day, later.

Speaker 4 (08:18):
Double confirmed or? Not who's to say she's gonna get?
One this is your own? Fly, yes hi.

Speaker 3 (08:24):
EVERYONE i wanted to come back and. Respond after taking
some time to read the comments and really think things,
THROUGH i shared the post With evan and he was
amazed at all the. Responses, first this is actually happening to?
Me OR i should say, yes this is not hypothetical or,
exaggerated and it's honestly NOTHING i ever imagined would be
happening while planning a.

Speaker 2 (08:45):
Wedding i've been.

Speaker 3 (08:46):
Pretty flabbergasted by her, asks even THOUGH i understand where
they're coming from emotionally or some added. Context my future
mother in law is a very successful doctrine and has
contributed a significant amount of money towards the. Wedding and
there it, is there it. Is she paid for a,
lot so she wants to also control. Everything there's no

(09:07):
such thing as a free, lunch. Folks because of, that
she feels strongly that she deserves a special moment during the.
CEREMONY i think the strings attached has made this more
complicated than it otherwise would.

Speaker 4 (09:20):
Be, okay she's. Attached let's do the first option that
we thought. Of she sets the. Setting yeah what hear,
me hear me, out hear me on? Here, okay like
you said, earlier because usually the whole thing is like ladies,
first but now in this, moment it's men. First man, First,
yeah man and mother walk down the aisle to, you,

(09:40):
lovely and then you set the, scene you make it.
Happen you set the, tone mother, zilla and then from
there op he can do what she would like because
this is also her. Day, yeah it's that or. NOTHING
i think that's a good.

Speaker 3 (09:51):
Compromise she gets to walk her son down the, aisle
but she does it. First, yes and but you can
either arrange it in a way like you, said, like oh,
mom mom in, LAW i really wanted to show my
appreciation for everything you're doing for the. Wedding so i'd
love if like you came out, first you really.

Speaker 4 (10:10):
Shine oh my, Gosh it's perfect BECAUSE i feel like
people don't respond really, well like you cannot do, this,
yeah and rather you're like you can do.

Speaker 2 (10:18):
THINGS i would love for you to do. That, yeah
like really really phrase it in a. Way this Is.
Genie oh my, gosh she'll never see it.

Speaker 4 (10:27):
Coming hiros, mediators, guys please ride in a style of
A reddit story and we'll come and we'll fix it for.

Speaker 3 (10:33):
You, yeah any any problem you, Have we're on the, case, yes.
Easily throughout all of, This i've made a conscious effort
to stay calm and. COLLECTED i pride myself on being
empathetic and understanding while still being firm in my own.
BOUNDARIES i explained To evan THAT i have always imagined
walking down the aisle and seeing his first reaction to,

(10:53):
me the look on his face send the emotion in
that MOMENT i think a lot of women can relate to.
That he immediately understood and validated that. Feeling he also
shared something important with, me which is that he has
never really been in a position to disagree with his
mother on something this, meaningful especially given how much he is.
Contributing that helped me see that this wasn't just awkward for,

(11:14):
me but genuinely difficult for him as. Well he agreed
that a speech was not something we wanted and was
fine at the. Reception lord help. Me so we decided
to approach this as a unit instead of leaving him
to navigate it.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
Alone, hmmm don't let it be the. Middleman, NO i
have been the middleman before between my mother and my other.
Partner it's not a fun time in my. Life my
ex is not my other, partner my EX i do
not have another. Partner, angie me and my three.

Speaker 3 (11:41):
Partners thanks to some helpful advice given in the, comments,
together we explained that a speech was not what we
wanted during the ceremony and that a ring wouldn't work
in the long, run since he will already be wearing
his wedding ring and doesn't expect to wear additional rings
after the. Wedding, instead we suggested a watch that he
could wear for the ceremony and enjoy After edan loved this,

(12:02):
idea he had one in mind he. Wanted he also
proposed that they make a day of it together, beforehand
just the two of them to choose the watch and
spend time. Together that part felt meaningful without overlapping into
the ceremony. Itself the compromise we landed on is that
she can walk him down the, aisle they can share a,
kiss and then she can be seated in the first.
Row instead of asking who gives this woman the efficient

(12:26):
will ask who lovingly raised this woman and this man
and both of our parents will stand in, answer which
she agreed is.

Speaker 2 (12:33):
Fair look at, That look at.

Speaker 3 (12:36):
That you worded it in a way that she. Loves
you made her feel like she's a part of, something
and that's.

Speaker 4 (12:42):
Great and since she's probably been writing so much feminine,
literature she really appreciates the way words are. Arranged and
you did that. Correctly.

Speaker 2 (12:51):
Congratulations oh my, Dude she's gonna love you. Forever she's,
like this is a woman who stands. Up, yeah what she,
wants and.

Speaker 4 (13:00):
All this woman's probably been riding about is like all
these things that were like, Unfair she just wanted to test.

Speaker 2 (13:06):
You, yeah that's at the end of. That oh my,
gosh she was testing.

Speaker 4 (13:10):
Yours she's a, doctor mother in law, doctor, yes mother
and doctor.

Speaker 2 (13:16):
Mother WHAT i don't understand what that revelation.

Speaker 4 (13:19):
Was, well she's a the mother in law was a.

Speaker 2 (13:21):
Doctor oh like the mother was a doctor.

Speaker 4 (13:22):
And she used her doctorate degree against you to test. You,
yes it was a doctor.

Speaker 2 (13:27):
Test we are hoping and praying she sticks to these. Boundaries.

Speaker 3 (13:30):
Aldman i'm still a little nervous about a speech she
might try to, add but for now we feel okay
with where things. Landed she'll be wearing a powdered blue,
outfit Which i'm completely fine. With, oh she's do something
blue and thankfully not. White and we also decided to
have a non traditional efficient and a female justice of the, piece.

Speaker 2 (13:50):
Which feels very fitting for. Us that was a great. Ending,
YEAH i, lef but you sorted that out so.

Speaker 4 (13:56):
Well oh, gosh, DUDE i could not be proud of.
You you could not be proud of. THEM i could
not be more proud of.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
Them the more. Proud, OKAY i couldn't be proud of.
YOU i, tried BUT i just. Couldn't that's so.

Speaker 4 (14:08):
Good, yeah that is so. Good one THING i did, Know,
yeah what did a husband?

Speaker 2 (14:13):
DO i don't. Know he seems like they found that
they walked.

Speaker 4 (14:16):
That uh he walked it as a. Unit BUT i
did not hear or see a clear statement OF i
am supporting.

Speaker 2 (14:22):
You.

Speaker 4 (14:23):
YEAH i was just more of a go with the.
Flow that's what he, Did go with the flow kind of.
Guy she's, like what CAN i do that mitigates the
least amount of?

Speaker 2 (14:31):
Conflict, well that's you, know what everyone's always looking.

Speaker 4 (14:33):
For, yes but he especially him, Though, yeah but there's.

Speaker 2 (14:37):
A little bit.

Speaker 3 (14:38):
Left, surprisingly she was agreeable to all of this and
ultimately decided on the. Watch evan AND i are extremely
relieved and feel ready to continue planning our special.

Speaker 2 (14:48):
Day i'm so. Excited.

Speaker 3 (14:50):
Oh he says children are the number one. Priority she
doesn't know it, yet but she has met her. MATCH
i will do everything in my power to keep the
love of my life and give my children a sane
upbringing going. Forward so she's gotta keep putting up those, boundaries.

Speaker 2 (15:05):
Got to AND i love.

Speaker 4 (15:06):
That oh, Man oh, dude this is just one of many.

Speaker 2 (15:09):
Tests, yeah the test never. Stopped it's called exam.

Speaker 4 (15:13):
Season and you said praying and you said The lord.
Earlier Some i'm assuming You're, christian mm. Hmm oh, Man
i'm just thinking of like if you go to a
CHURCH x Y z happens whenever you have a. Kid
it's like a baby inauguration or. WHATEVER i don't. KNOW
i forget it's been so long since that happened to. Me,
yeah but she might. Fight she's probably gonna fight you
on everything you decided to do as a.

Speaker 3 (15:33):
Parent but it seems like so far you've done a
good job at kind of side. Stepping so let's just
keep side. Stepping so OP a, Plus, yeah husband like a.

Speaker 2 (15:42):
BEE i THINK i could be mine is. Sure. PLUS
i wouldn't give him A c, PLUS i give him
A b.

Speaker 4 (15:48):
Mine i'd be so scared getting married to this. GUY
i think he'll figure it. OUT i freaking.

Speaker 2 (15:53):
Hope SO i think we just keep having.

Speaker 4 (15:55):
Conversations this is one of many. TESTS i don't know
what he's gonna last.

Speaker 3 (15:58):
Though, YEAH i think we have a conversation about, like
are you gonna support me if you ever fully disagree
with your?

Speaker 4 (16:03):
Mom, yeah because she's gonna be laying On.

Speaker 5 (16:07):
Fitton but that is.

Speaker 3 (16:10):
The end of that, story and we've got another one
coming right.

Speaker 1 (16:13):
Up my mother in law kept booking a vacation with
us without our.

Speaker 2 (16:18):
Knowledge, well she just really really loves, you wants to
spend so much time with you at all times.

Speaker 1 (16:23):
Always my mother in law is extremely family oriented and
lives alone after being widowed about ten years. Ago i'm
married to her eldest son and we have a. Baby
her other son is also married with a. Toddler before
we all had, kids she used to book us family
vacations for all of us using a timeshare system she,

(16:43):
has without asking us if we wanted to go or
even checking if the dates worked for. Us this would
often involve driving three plus hours to a town that
doesn't have anything we want to see or. Do and
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Speaker 2 (17:02):
It I'm dakota And I'm savannah and we're here to
yap about this here.

Speaker 5 (17:05):
Story maybe give a little.

Speaker 1 (17:07):
Advice we don't have all to, answers, though we only
know what we would, Do so let us know what
you would do downland in the comments and no. Pieces
she's also done this with theater, tickets sports, tickets et.
Cetera in her, city which is five hours away from.
Us we make the drive at least every two to
three months and stay with her at her house for
several days each, time so it's not like this is

(17:29):
the only way she'll ever see. Us we mentioned multiple
times subtly that she needs to check with us before booking.

Speaker 5 (17:36):
Things maybe let's make that not so.

Speaker 2 (17:38):
Subtle, YEAH i feel like that's a big, Deal, like, oh,
ACTUALLY i have something planned this. Week can't do those?
Dates you. Know i'm sure she's doing it like an advance,
hopefully but even, so like you gotta check with. ME
i don't.

Speaker 1 (17:52):
Know, yeah we should be making that the most obvious.
Point we should be, saying you absolutely need to make
sure the dates work for the people you're booking the.

Speaker 5 (18:01):
Dates far it can't.

Speaker 1 (18:04):
Say it just like, that repeat after, ME i will
check with my children.

Speaker 5 (18:14):
Ula close.

Speaker 1 (18:16):
ENOUGH i thought she got the memo until This, christmas
When she gifted us all a week long vacation together
in a ski town In may to celebrate a significant
work anniversary for. Her it is a six hour drive for,
us and it's closer for her and my brother in
law and sister in, law AND i simply don't want to.
Go she said she chose that date specifically because it's

(18:38):
BEFORE i.

Speaker 5 (18:39):
Return to work following my maternity.

Speaker 1 (18:41):
Leave but being on maternity leave doesn't necessarily Mean i'm,
available and it definitely doesn't MEAN i want to incur
the expense of food and, gas.

Speaker 5 (18:51):
Etc on this.

Speaker 1 (18:52):
Gift she had asked us before booking it and presented
it as something she wanted to do to celebrate this
milestone for her and her. CAREER i would have sucked it,
up SINCE i understand family time is very important to
her and she doesn't have a spouse to celebrate this
work anniversary. With, HOWEVER i find the way she went
about it infantilizing and ultimately kind of. Manipulative my brother

(19:14):
in law and sister in law are also not. Thrilled
neither of them are even certain they can get the time,
off but my husband and brother in law seem determined
to try to make it work without.

Speaker 5 (19:25):
Acknowledging the way she did it is not.

Speaker 1 (19:27):
OKAY i told my husband we can either have a
talk with her to tell her in no uncertain terms
that she needs to stop spending money and making reservations
without checking with us, first OR i will not be
going on this vacation and neither will her exclusively breastfed.
Grandchild AM i overreacting? Here and we drive From? Kermine But,

(19:50):
savannah what what is your?

Speaker 5 (19:52):
Thoughts?

Speaker 1 (19:52):
Ah what are your? Thoughts maybe you have more than.

Speaker 2 (19:55):
ONE i have just, one AND i think That grima
just doesn't. Know you just gotta tell. HER i guess
she's not, grandma she's mother in. Law mother in. Law
you just gotta tell. Her you can't be subtle about.
It people, don't especially like older, people don't get. Subtleties
you have to like directly, explain just be, like, hey,

(20:16):
LISTEN i know that you are trying to do a
nice thing for. Everyone you want everyone to be there
for you and and all this. Stuff but you also
have to understand that we have vibes and you need
to check with me whether or not these dates. Work
like what IF i had something planned that? Week then
what THAT i have to miss my thing and need
any all this. STUFF i understand that you're trying to
plan it around stuff that you already, know but you

(20:38):
don't know everything THAT i. Have so if you could
just check with me before making these, RESERVATIONS i would
greatly appreciate. It and ALSO i feel, like you, know she's,
saying how these are all like a bunch of. Drives.
Whatever can't you just like a plane.

Speaker 5 (20:53):
TICKET i don't, know it's. Hard it's probably hard traveling
with a brand new. BEDBEM i, mean, YES i just
it's not easy to travel with a.

Speaker 2 (21:02):
BABY i MEAN i THINK.

Speaker 6 (21:03):
I can't imagine it would be easy to bring the
baby On Za, mountainisa but it would be.

Speaker 5 (21:08):
Cute but it's Also, may SO i don't.

Speaker 1 (21:10):
Know it's really just all that is like weird ski
resort In, may new baby right BEFORE i go back to.

Speaker 2 (21:17):
Work is mother in law going. SKIING i don't know
how old she, is but that'd be pretty impressive and be.

Speaker 5 (21:22):
So old and Ghostki, really.

Speaker 2 (21:24):
Oh, MY i feel like it's a lot on your.

Speaker 5 (21:27):
Body that was a lot on my. Body i'm. SORRY
i was really.

Speaker 2 (21:33):
Bad that's ALL i have to. Say that's my one, thought.

Speaker 5 (21:36):
All, right we've got some. Comments comment one says you're being.

Speaker 1 (21:40):
Subtle, Why opie, says because my husband is afraid of
hurting her feelings and isn't willing to stand up to.

Speaker 5 (21:46):
Her.

Speaker 6 (21:46):
Booze she's just a. Lady she's not that. Scary she's
simply a. Lady ladies are pretty.

Speaker 2 (21:54):
Scary SOMETIMES i got teeth and. Nails, okay maybe not.

Speaker 1 (21:59):
Nails clause comment to not, overreacting but let your husband
go with the baby by himself when when he gets
to please his mother and you get to stay. Home,
well the baby can't breastfeed with the. Father, okay that's.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
True, boys don't do.

Speaker 1 (22:17):
That you can do your final recharging and prep before
returning to, work as the last few months with a
baby must have been. Exhausting not, overreacting not even a little.
Bit those shenanigans would do my head in plus your postpartum, heck,
No opie, SAYS i like this. Idea, however my baby

(22:37):
is exclusively. Breastfeit, unfortunately your idea would probably truly delight
my mother in law to have the opportunity to play
house with my baby and husband without me. There comment
her three, says you are overreacting because all of you
have been enabling mother in law's behavior for. Years what's
different this? Time you said you would have said yes

(22:58):
if she had, asked but since she didn't, ask your
answer is, no. Sorry but that doesn't make any sense at.
All it sounds like your plan is to tell her
to stop making, reservations while at the same time you're
all going on this trip even though no one really wants.
To i'm curious why no one in this family can
tell mom no because her behavior is. Ridiculous what is

(23:19):
everyone afraid? Of is she a wealthy widow whose boys
are afraid of getting cut out of the will if
they cross? Her opie says, no, definitely not any financial.

Speaker 5 (23:29):
Incentive it's more so.

Speaker 1 (23:31):
That she revolves her entire life around her kids and
is an extremely emotional and sentimental. Person since her husband,
Passed who would have told her her behavior is? Ridiculous
her sons feel too guilty to reel her. In opie
explains more about not liking spending time with her mother in.
Law opie, explains it's not THAT i don't like spending

(23:52):
time with. HER i spend quite a bit of time with,
her more THAN i do with either of my own.
Parents put together things like, This this make me like
spending time with her less because it makes me feel
LIKE i don't get a choice in the. Matter by
suck it, UP i meant the inconvenience of traveling six
hours to get to a ski town off season THAT

(24:13):
i have no interest in with a screaming baby in the,
car plus making arrangements for a dog, sitter planning meals while,
away or paying for, restaurants et. Cetera it's all the
hassle of going away without the incentive of it being
a PLACE i want to. BE a downvoated commerenter, says
you must not like. Skiing got? Them opie, says It's

(24:34):
may In, canada there will be no. Skiing, ALSO i
have a baby who obviously can't. Ski, well not with that.
Attitude put that baby on the. Ice you gotta put
that baby out on the. Snow put that baby on
a pair Of french. Fries put that, baby get two
trays from the, cafeteria glue it to your baby's feet

(24:54):
and send them on down the.

Speaker 2 (24:56):
Hill baby's first.

Speaker 5 (24:57):
Ski see what that baby's made?

Speaker 2 (24:59):
Of, really, Limits is.

Speaker 1 (25:01):
It easy for mother in law to take time off, Work,
yes says. Ope she has lots of vacation time saved
up and takes vacations whenever my husband AND i happen
to be in. Town she's so eager to use her
vacation time on her. Family she doesn't consider that we
may all have other priorities for our, vacation including making
time to see my family as well and traveling places

(25:25):
we actually want to. Go how does mother in law
get away with? This, OKAY i think we're being a
little a little. Crazy how does mother in law get
away with buying vacations for other?

Speaker 5 (25:36):
People, like it's not like she's doing the worst thing.

Speaker 1 (25:41):
Ever you don't know what she does so, far All
i'm seeing is it's, like, yeah when she surprises us
with a, vacation she doesn't plan it with, us which is, like, well,
yeah let's just not make the vacation.

Speaker 5 (25:54):
Surprises and, also she just lost a. HUSBAND i just.

Speaker 2 (25:57):
Don't understand why you can't sit down and have the
Conver like she's complain, anybody she's not doing anything about.

Speaker 1 (26:01):
It, yeah that commentary we read earlier where it was, like,
yeah you're LIKE i would go if she, Asked but
now that she because she didn't ASK i won't go
because well MAYBE i wouldn't have been.

Speaker 5 (26:12):
Available it's, LIKE i don't, know have.

Speaker 2 (26:14):
A, conversation just talk about, it just be, like, hey
this is what's been. Happening AND i know no one's
been saying anything because we just don't want to upset.
You but, like this is how things. Work this is
how you plan vacations just in case you. Forgot you
gotta make sure everyone's, available and you got to make
sure we all want to. Go end a.

Speaker 1 (26:31):
STORY i, mean how much notice did we? Have, well
this is she far away From may are we right?

Speaker 2 (26:36):
Now, well they gave. Her it was A christmas, gift.

Speaker 5 (26:40):
So five so you got five months to plan.

Speaker 1 (26:42):
This, YEAH i think that's more than enough time, Anyway opie,
SAYS i. Agree it's somewhat impressive how her two sons
will simply go along with what she, wants even at
great inconvenience to themselves and their. Wives this would never
fly in my own, family with my siblings and.

Speaker 5 (26:58):
Parents opie explains about her her maternity leave in her.

Speaker 1 (27:01):
Area, Actually i'm In, canada so my maternity leave is twelve.

Speaker 5 (27:04):
Months trip is scheduled for eleven months into. It baby has.

Speaker 1 (27:08):
Been here for a, while but you're on the nose for.
Sure we did a nine week nick you. Stay there
is an update from three days. Later let's go ahead
and jump right into. It after the trip was initially
presented by my mother in law to crickets and souring
the mood before we all opened our gifts to one,
ANOTHER i let the matter settle for a few days

(27:30):
and then calmly explain to my husband THAT i will
not be attending the. Trip my original post SAID i
would have sucked it up and went if mother in
law had asked us, First but after really thinking about,
IT i know THAT i would have definitely pushed for different,
dates a different, location and shorter duration if we had
really been.

Speaker 5 (27:48):
CONSULTED i, Said i'm.

Speaker 1 (27:49):
More than happy to explain to mother in law THAT
i have a limited capacity to go away and visit,
family and we put a lot of thought into how
we go about these visits SINCE i also have, siblings
pair parents and grandparents that live far, away not to
mention that we need to leave some time to spend
with our own family of. THREE i don't appreciate having
these decisions taken away from. Us he didn't try to convince,

(28:12):
me but he was clearly very disappointed.

Speaker 5 (28:14):
And BELIEVES i should. Go WHEN i told.

Speaker 1 (28:17):
Him my maternity leave is precious time to me and
not anyone else's to determine HOW i will spend, it
he said that doesn't make any, sense since the baby
will be there. Too, somehow he doesn't understand why this
is different from another trip planned long ago with my
coordination to visit my own family at a location and
on dates we agreed. To he then called his, brother

(28:38):
who was upfront about the fact that he and my
sister in law aren't eager to go, either and they
all agreed that brother in.

Speaker 5 (28:45):
Law will break the news that none of us are.

Speaker 1 (28:47):
Going, sadly my husband is a lot more sympathetic to
my brother in law wanting to spend his limited vacation
time on a trip with his child and wife than
he was to my own. Explanation my husband is also
insisting we all think of an alternative weekend get away
we can pitch to celebrate my mother in law's work
anniversary with her to soften the blow that we won't be.

(29:08):
Going you read that. Right he's trying to come up
with an alternative to The christmas gift she gave us
to celebrate. Her and there is a little bit more
story left, Here but, MAN i really just feel like
you don't like his mom at.

Speaker 2 (29:21):
All, yeah AND i. DON'T i feel like there's something
underlying that is not being explained. Here but it does seem, like,
oh he's just, like, YEAH i just really don't want to.
GO i have no intention of. Going and she always does,
this and you, know she never thinks about. This she
only thinks about that and all this. Stuff and it's,
like have a conversation with, her and she's still avoiding the. Conversation,

(29:44):
okay you're still saying, Like i'm not gonna tell. Her
you guys have to tell. Her and it's like you're
the one coming up with all of. THIS i know
everyone's kind of, agreen but you're the one taking the.
INITIATIVE i think you need to just like be, like,
hey suck it up and be, like, listen this is
what we're. Thinking you, know, sorry but you know it's
just a we've all been talking and these things just

(30:04):
aren't working, out but we're willing to like do it
in a different way on a different, date you, know
like it's not gonna like break her heart to where she's,
like oh my, Gosh i'm oh, No i'm In carniaca
rest or something. LIKE i feel like it would just be,
like you, know she'd be, like, oh like, yeah she'd be,
disappointed but giving her an alternative be Like, okay, yeah
if you guys couldn't do, it that's, fine we'll do something.

(30:26):
Else you, KNOW i don't. KNOW i just feel like
they're making it such a big. Deal but then no
one's saying. Anything it's, like just tell her like she doesn't.
Know she thinks that all of you want to. Go
nobody's telling, her, no we don't like, this so she obviously,
thinks oh, well no one's saying they don't want to,
Go So i'm just gonna keep doing. It and now
after years of doing, this all of a, sudden and you,

(30:47):
know it's gonna be, like, yeah we never wanted to do.
This that's gonna break her. Heart so you waited too?

Speaker 1 (30:52):
Long, YEAH i MEAN i think if you've got months
and months away from, this you can probably get a
refund on most of.

Speaker 5 (30:58):
It, yeah for.

Speaker 1 (30:59):
Sure, YEAH i mean, yeah going through a ski slope
off season is not necessarily the most fun thing, ever
but it can be really.

Speaker 5 (31:08):
Nice it just.

Speaker 1 (31:09):
Depends like there's a lot of places In colorado that
once it's off season and it's like the spring and summer,
months they open up as like you, know big like
hiking trail spots and like you, know mountain biking spots
and just you, know the lifts will still, run but
it's like it's they're just, scenic like it could be.
NICE i don't see it as like this whole LIKE i,

(31:30):
mean sure it's a six hour drive that could be,
stressful but, LIKE i don't, Know i've seen a lot of.

Speaker 5 (31:35):
Babies sleeping in.

Speaker 1 (31:36):
Cars babies sleeping cars a lot from WHAT i see sleeping.

Speaker 5 (31:40):
Cars, yeah see so Does.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
Keon kean immediately will fall asleep in a car like
a little baby.

Speaker 5 (31:47):
Boy but if you.

Speaker 1 (31:49):
Guys are just open to changing it be like we
want to celebrate, you we want to also just do
something we all want to.

Speaker 2 (31:55):
Do, YEAH i, mean like it's as easy as. That
you don't have to be like we hate all the
the things that you've done for us and you never
talk to us about. It and it's.

Speaker 7 (32:03):
Thoughtful she's like she even scheduled it like at the
end of your maternity because she's, like you, know you
spend all the time with the baby and you can
do this, thing which she's a little, older you get
a little more, practice but you're feeling, like, oh it's
too close to When i'm going back to, work so
maybe we push that up a little, bit LIKE i don't,
know but, yeah you guys can figure it.

Speaker 5 (32:20):
Out it's just literally.

Speaker 2 (32:21):
Communication just tell her, like she doesn't, know so she's
gonna keep doing. It and if you keep subtly telling,
her she's still not going to get. It you just
have to be upfront and just be, like, listen we
can't keep doing, this but we will do this if
we all are involved in the. Planning and maybe maybe
she's also feeling, like WELL i always plan, things you,
know bah bah, blah like you don't know because you're not.

(32:43):
Communicating so, literally just.

Speaker 1 (32:45):
Communicate, YEAH i think the weird FEELING i, HAVE i
just don't know how. To it's, like we haven't really
heard any other really like problematic behavior from the mother
in law other than it's, like, yeah my husband's mother
in law. Annoying she wants to spend time with her
children and is a grieving, widow Like i'm annoyed that

(33:06):
my husband is catering to. Her it's, LIKE i don't
even know if that's really what's going, on you, know
like that's what you.

Speaker 2 (33:14):
Do sometimes maybe a piece kind of like jealous, that you,
know like she can get everyone together or, something or
that you, know everyone drops what they're doing for her
or for mother in, law you, know and so maybe
she's just, like, OH i don't, understand you, Know i'm.
IMMA i don't.

Speaker 5 (33:31):
Know, YEAH i don't.

Speaker 1 (33:32):
KNOW i just it feels strange a little. Bit there's
gotta be. More, Anyway let's finish the.

Speaker 5 (33:36):
Story, hey it's key on The silly's. Goose we're going
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Speaker 2 (33:42):
Sponsors.

Speaker 1 (33:44):
EW i know commenters are correct THAT i have a husband,
problem but there's only so MUCH i can. Do he's
overall a wonderful, man and there are worse things than
a mother in law who schemes to spend time with
her sons and a husband who doesn't understand WHY i
don't don't want to spend every possible moment with his
family and ultimately tries very hard to protect his mom's

(34:05):
feelings at the expense of my.

Speaker 2 (34:07):
Peace so husband chooses his mom over his. Wife that's
why she's. Angry got?

Speaker 5 (34:14):
It don't you only see her like three or four
times a?

Speaker 2 (34:17):
Year? Yeah, yeah that's what they.

Speaker 5 (34:20):
Said, yeah so how is that in any way? Possible?
YEAH i don't.

Speaker 2 (34:25):
Know maybe like he hangs up on phone, calls being,
like oh, sorry my mom's, calling you gotta.

Speaker 5 (34:29):
GO i don't.

Speaker 1 (34:30):
Know i'm sure this isn't the last Headache i'll have with.
Them and there are some some more comments. Here comment one,
says your, marriage your choice to continue with, this no
real room to complain if you don't push back at
your husband being still on the, tit what does? HAPPEN
i don't think it's the HUSBAND'S i think what we get.

(34:50):
Here sometimes you read stories and then it's like people
who have like toxic family members or something where maybe
who have cut off their own you, know like project
that it's like oh, well it's like, yeah or like
oh what a mama's. Boy it's LIKE i don't think,
SO i don't she just gave she gave them a
vacan you know.

Speaker 5 (35:09):
Whatever this vacation thing is.

Speaker 1 (35:11):
Annoying she doesn't check in for us for the dates
when she buys vacations for. Us that's, insane first of,
all to be complaining that someone's that you're in law's
buying you vacations and you're just complaining about. That it's
kind of whack. Energy whether you like the vacations or,
not she's buying them for. Y'ALL i don't, know it's

(35:34):
just a crazy thing to complain.

Speaker 2 (35:35):
About it's JUST i feel like we've gotten so far
off what the original post was, about which is basically
just the, like you, know the mother in law just
plans these vacations without like double checking if everyone's like
available or can do that or. Whatever like that's what
this is. About and now it's, like, well my husband
just you, know he's such a mama's, boy and you,

(35:57):
know like nobody stands up to her because she's a grieving.
Widow and it's like that's just like has nothing to
do with what you're complaining. About you're just like trying
reasons not to blame, yourself and, oh, P i really
think it's.

Speaker 5 (36:10):
You, YEAH i don't, KNOW i just don't like the Whole, like,
Well i'm just not going to go on the. Trip,
yeah you, KNOW i refuse to.

Speaker 1 (36:16):
Play along with this behavior of her getting away with,
This and it's, LIKE i don't, know the trip is
for her to spend time with the family that she
has LEFT i guess after losing her.

Speaker 5 (36:30):
Husband it's not like.

Speaker 1 (36:31):
She looked a trip on like where it's, like, yeah
you guys all have to buy plane tickets To hawaii
or something like, yeah or like we're all, traveling you.
KNOW i, mean let's be, honest six hour car ride
is not that far. Away, yeah you can make that
trip four times in a. Day, LITERALLY i mean it
would be all, day but you could make that trip four.

Speaker 5 (36:51):
Times, Yeah so like, THAT i mean just not that.

Speaker 2 (36:55):
Far but ALSO i could understand like traveling with like
infants and that, whatever like that is a whole nother.

Speaker 1 (37:02):
Thing AND i have no frame of reference for. That
but it doesn't feel like the mother in law is
doing that much. Wrong, YEAH i don't.

Speaker 2 (37:09):
Know, HONESTLY i think it's just. Communication AND i was
communicating and everyone's just like like talking behind each other's
backs and, whatever blah blah, Blah and the mother in
law has no idea that nobody like this and so
she just from selling. It, yeah and then you guys are, like,
oh she's doing it. Again it's like no one's telling
her not To just tell, her just be LIKE i
don't like. This she'd be like, Okay, like how are

(37:31):
we supposed to read your? MIND i hate this.

Speaker 1 (37:33):
Anyway, ope he, SAYS i am pushing back or refusing
to go on the. TRIP i think that's the natural
and reasonable consequence. Here what else are you? Suggesting and
there is another, Commenter, HONESTLY i think having a husband
who prioritizes his mother's feelings over his wife's peace is
a pretty.

Speaker 5 (37:52):
Big problem that you are underreacting.

Speaker 1 (37:54):
To being married to a man who doesn't get why
you don't want to spend every moment with his, mommy
which again they don't, do and they see her three
or four times a year sounds like an absolute, nightmare
especially since she's manipulative and he's. Spineless not a great
combination for you to live with for the rest of your.

Speaker 5 (38:11):
LIFE i wish you. Luck Ohp he, Says you're not.

Speaker 1 (38:14):
Wrong we've been together more than ten years and this
is by far our biggest recurring. Argument come at three,
says not overreacting have you ever told your husband that
he protects his mom's feelings at the expense of your
piece Op he says. Yes in his, perspective it's normal
and okay for family members to be inconvenienced in order
to protect someone's. Feelings isn't that true, Though, like it's

(38:37):
not like every relationship and loving you, know relationship you
have is gonna be convenient at all Times.

Speaker 2 (38:43):
EXACTLY i was thinking the same, thing like.

Speaker 1 (38:46):
It's just it's not it can't. Be it's there's gonna
be times where you're, like, wow it's really. Inconvenient BUT
i have to think of this person's feelings right now
in front of my own. Desires, yeah that. Happens that does.
Happen it's not like that can't ever. HAPPEN i don't.

Speaker 2 (39:02):
Know it's, Weird like it's inconveniencing. Me all of this
is inconveniencing me in my marriage and my.

Speaker 5 (39:08):
Feelings and it's like should it happen? Forever like, no
should it happen all the?

Speaker 2 (39:12):
Time like, no but it happens like maybe two three
times a. Year she's, like oh this, Again.

Speaker 5 (39:19):
Yeah this was like if this was like she's buying
a vacation and then.

Speaker 1 (39:23):
She's, like it's a week away and if you don't,
Go i'm throwing myself.

Speaker 5 (39:27):
Off of a.

Speaker 1 (39:27):
Bridge like, yeah, okay now we're in, Serious, like, dude
this is insane waters that were swimming in and this needs.
Change you can't be like emotionally traumatizing us because we
don't want to go on a. Vacation we have a
week's notice to prepare.

Speaker 5 (39:44):
For that's not what's. Happening.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
Yeah, NO i feel like she's being a calm day
and she's just not asking for, days which she. Should you,
know you think that that's like common sense and, whatnot
but maybe she's just, like, well you, KNOW i tried
to work around everyone's, schedules and this seemed like it
would work for. Everyone you, KNOW i took in mind your,
maternity AND i took in mind you, know like this
person's schedule, whatever blah blah. Blah and so we're going
on these. Dates you, Know like it's not like she's

(40:06):
just blatantly just been like here's the dates and we're,
GOING i don't care about. Anything everyone has to drop
what they're doing and. Go it just doesn't seem like
it's that big of a.

Speaker 5 (40:16):
Deal it really doesn't.

Speaker 1 (40:18):
ANYWAY opi on her mother in law wanting to celebrate
her work anniversary with the family instead of her. Employment opie,
says this is exactly. It she feels unacknowledged at work
and wants to celebrate this. Milestone, weird but nothing wrong
with celebrating it as long as you aren't forcing other
people to. Participate she has not even there's not even

(40:39):
a place to acknowledge that if you can't understand why
she'd want to be, Like.

Speaker 5 (40:42):
Yay my life's going. Good let me celebrate with my.

Speaker 2 (40:45):
Sons seems like a normal request and a normal thing
that people want to, do especially since you know her
husband has. Passed she wants she very much wants to
be in her family's. Lives that makes. Sense so why
are you making like you're making it such a, big big.
Deal she just wants to spend time with her, family you,
know because she realized now that life is short and

(41:05):
la da, la and now she's, LIKE i really want
to spend time with my. Family sorry.

Speaker 1 (41:10):
Anyway fourth commenter, says so your husband is the eldest,
son yet his brother is the one that has to
make the phone call to.

Speaker 5 (41:16):
Mom, yeah your husband needs.

Speaker 1 (41:17):
To grow a spine, Already opie. Says since he's the,
eldest he took on the caretaker role for his mother
while the younger brother is still her.

Speaker 5 (41:25):
Baby.

Speaker 1 (41:26):
Ope he clarifies the maternity leave and her baby's current.
Age if the math is confusing, you long story, short
but we also had two months medical leave after the
baby was born extremely, premature so baby will actually be
fourteen plus months at the end of my twelve month maternity.
Leave what happens When opee talks with her husband about
her feelings and. Thoughts opie, says he gets defensive and

(41:47):
disagrees and tells Me i'm being selfish for not wanting
to go when his mom is all by herself and
wants to celebrate this career milestone with her. Family he
tells me my family can also be. Annoying of, course
every family can, be and reminds me they won't be around,
forever and we want our child to have a relationship with,
grandparents et, cetera et, cetera et.

Speaker 5 (42:04):
Cetera and that is the end of that.

Speaker 1 (42:05):
Story, yeah he makes every valid point that you're way
it has.

Speaker 5 (42:10):
Been, YEAH i agree with. HIM i think you're being.
PETTY i. AGREE i don't.

Speaker 1 (42:15):
Know there's something in your own family that is probably
made you this, Way BUT i didn't see anything in
what you wrote about.

Speaker 5 (42:22):
Your mother in law's behavior that would warrant.

Speaker 1 (42:25):
THIS i don't, Know Like i'm making my stand, now
if you would have just emphasized more, like, Yeah i'm
gonna have a whole, BABY i don't know If.

Speaker 5 (42:33):
I'm gonna be able or down to do.

Speaker 1 (42:35):
THIS i don't know If i'm going to be down
to drive six hours with my baby in the car
to go to this.

Speaker 5 (42:41):
PLACE i don't. KNOW i have no.

Speaker 1 (42:44):
Idea but it wasn't really. That it was more, like
how dare? She, yeah how dare she do? This this
selfish woman who was hoarding her sons to, Herself god,
forbid she wants TO i don't, know celebrate an accomplishment
in her life with the only family she has left
literally odd. Forbid, Yeah, well If god, DOESN'T i will
Because i'm not. Going i'm not on your, train, Bro

(43:06):
i'm Not i'm not on.

Speaker 2 (43:07):
It i'm not, Either. OPIE i think you're just very
petty and just you, know if you don't want to do,
it then say something that's. All say, something stop hiding
behind your. Husband you know you don't want to be
the bad. Guy And i'm on a jorney lave blah bah.
Blah i'm, HONESTLY i don't feel bad for, YOU OPI i.
Don't SO i think that you need to stand up
to your mother in law because hiding behind everyone isn't

(43:29):
helping and isn't doing, anything and subtly mentioning it isn't working.

Speaker 1 (43:32):
Either, yes just say what you mean needs to be explicitly. Mentioned,
yeah and you know you should be, like, HEY i
don't know if this time's gonna work.

Speaker 5 (43:41):
Out we do want to celebrate you though with.

Speaker 1 (43:43):
You let's find a place maybe that's more in the
middle for, everyone so we don't have to drive so.

Speaker 5 (43:48):
Much maybe we'll find a.

Speaker 1 (43:49):
Place you, know it makes sense when you say you've
done this only subtly that she's going to keep doing,
it because it's like if you plan a surprise trip for,
someone you're not going to tell them what it is
because it's. Surprise it's a. Gift so you need to
make it very. Clear stop surprising us with. This we
need the dates and it's. Okay we can pretend like we're, Surprised,

(44:10):
okay but work with.

Speaker 2 (44:12):
Us it just comes down to clear communication and there is.

Speaker 5 (44:15):
None, yeah and that is the end of that. Story
we've got another one coming right. Up oow here it comes.

Speaker 2 (44:22):
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Speaker 5 (44:25):
Host.

Speaker 2 (44:25):
Here we're going to get back to the. Stories but
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did the.

Speaker 5 (44:35):
Same, YES i decorated it like a stinky little.

Speaker 2 (44:38):
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(45:19):
i don't want to be that person who immediately beefs
with their mother in. Law but, y'all she acts like
she bought the house the day we got the. Keys
she showed up with a measuring tape and a pintress. Board.
Funny she kept saying things, like, well this wall would
be perfect for a farmhouse sign.

Speaker 1 (45:39):
Specific oh, yes and this wall is the farmer wall for.

Speaker 5 (45:44):
Sure, yes the.

Speaker 2 (45:47):
Farmer the farm can go, here and.

Speaker 5 (45:50):
Maybe yes at the.

Speaker 2 (45:51):
Animals the. Farm animals can go to the.

Speaker 6 (45:53):
Side we'll do a farm over, here and we'll do
under the sea over here in the.

Speaker 5 (45:59):
Back, yes cottage. Call and then this is. Volcano this
is the volcano.

Speaker 2 (46:03):
Wall And i'll bring you some. CURTAINS i have some.
Storage they're. Beige everyone loves. Beige shit me. Everyone for the,
RECORD i do not love. BEIGE i told her nicely
THAT i had a style in. Mind Think boho meets a.

Speaker 1 (46:19):
Little, Gotho boho meets a little Gothic, bohemian like a
little golfy.

Speaker 2 (46:25):
Person it's Like, bohemian but like instead of like the earthy,
tones it's more like darker.

Speaker 5 (46:32):
TONES i don't, KNOW i not my, style but, dirthy.

Speaker 2 (46:36):
Dirthy she looked LIKE i told HER i was opening
a portal tech in the living. Room here's where it gets.
Wild the next day she broke into the, house not
like smashing, windows but she used the spare chemi fiance
gave her for. Emergencies she came in while we were
both at, work AND i came home to a live
laugh love sign above my, fireplace new beige curtains already,

(46:59):
hung a plastic floral tablecloth with matching chair, pads and
a rug that smelled like dollar store popery and.

Speaker 5 (47:06):
REGRET i lost.

Speaker 2 (47:08):
It poopoury in. Regret.

Speaker 1 (47:11):
Hmmm a lovely combination dollar store popourri in regrets even
better affordable affordable.

Speaker 2 (47:18):
Hmm this is something my mom would, do.

Speaker 5 (47:21):
Though, well we've learned a lot about your mother.

Speaker 2 (47:23):
Today she likes to decorate and she boops the. Pants
fiance said she was just trying to help and THAT
i should be. GRATEFUL i told him if she wanted
to play, decorator she could do it in her own,
house not. Mine so here's WHAT i. DID i packed
up everything she brought and took a trip to the thrift.
STORE i found the ugliest STUFF i could, find a

(47:44):
velvet clown, painting mismashed leopard print throw, pillows a green
lava lamp from nineteen ninety, three and a coffee table
that looks like it came out of a medieval. DUNGEON
i even threw in a giant witch's only door. Sign everything.
Out the next time she, visited her face was. Priceless
she asked what happened to my? THINGS i, said, OH

(48:07):
i thought we were doing surprise decorating. VISITS i just got.
Inspired she stormed out and has been calling me disrespectful ever.
Since my fiance THINKS i was being, extreme but he
finally admitted she crossed the. LINE i told him the
key is getting, changed and he. Agreed so AM i
the a hole for replacing my mother in law's decorations

(48:27):
with thrifted monstrosities to make the. Point and there are some, Comments,
YEAH i think you're being a little a.

Speaker 1 (48:33):
HOLY i, mean some of that stuff didn't even sound
LIKE i, MEAN i would like the green lava lamp
from nineteen ninety three.

Speaker 2 (48:38):
PLACE i also, THOUGHT i was, Like, okay the lava.

Speaker 5 (48:40):
Lamp, cool that's kind of.

Speaker 2 (48:42):
Cool and a coffee table that looks like from it's
a medieval. Dungeon how cool would that? Be what is it?
Like would it be like does it have, like, UH
i would think it has spikes on it or something
like a.

Speaker 5 (48:54):
Chain it's just got a guy on top of, it GOING.

Speaker 1 (49:02):
I hate that coffee table she. Got there's a guy
getting tormented on top of.

Speaker 2 (49:06):
It he just doesn't shut.

Speaker 5 (49:08):
Up wait, no, wait, WAIT i gotta do it in.

Speaker 2 (49:13):
Here, yeah, yeah it does so exactly like. IT i don't.
Know you just spent money just to like prove a
point of being, like oh, look and then what are
you gonna? Do you're just gonna like throw that stuff
away After i'm, like it's not super, Egregious but, yeah,

(49:33):
like why didn't you just actually do it how you?

Speaker 1 (49:36):
Want it feels like an escalation instead of like figuring
out how to get the solution of like all, right
we just want her to. Stop, yeah it's like IF
i used to be, okay IF i just go to.

Speaker 2 (49:47):
The extreme and do exactly what she, did but like
really obviously not in agreeance with anything anyone. WANTS i
think the problem will be. Solved SO i think you
are a little petty a, hole but.

Speaker 1 (49:59):
Not she also shouldn't just be able to walk into
your apartment whenever she.

Speaker 5 (50:03):
Wants that's.

Speaker 2 (50:03):
Crazy, yeah that's also just not.

Speaker 5 (50:05):
Cool but that's also on. You.

Speaker 1 (50:06):
Guys you know how many, people besides being kean have
keys to our?

Speaker 5 (50:10):
Apartment? None no, one no one else can walk. In
there you, go and there you have. It folks solved.

Speaker 2 (50:15):
It there are some. Comments comment number. One not the
a hole play stupid, games win stupid. Prizes she crossed
a major boundary and broke your trust by using an
emergency key to enter your home without permission to. Decorate
she does not deserve an emergency. Key, again your reaction was,
petty not. Extreme. Agreed extreme would have been calling the
police to report her for breaking into your home or

(50:37):
getting even by decorating her home with your thrift store.
Fines your fiance should appreciate that redecorating your own home
was the most extreme thing you. Did comment number. Two
if your husband doesn't back you one hundred percent on
the decoration of your mutual, home then you have a
husband problem more than a mother in law. Problem why
he didn't read his mother The Riot act immediately is

(50:59):
a big red. Flag what is The Riot?

Speaker 5 (51:01):
ACT i want? It let me, see because you know,
what it's just. Crazy no one's reading their parent The Riot.
Act if you.

Speaker 2 (51:10):
Didn't read your parents The Riot, act what are you?

Speaker 1 (51:13):
Doing The Riot act was passed In Great britain to
curb public. Disorder officials read a proclamation and if the
crowd does not disperse within an, hour they were guilty
of a felony and.

Speaker 5 (51:25):
Could be forcefully. Dispersed, yeah, okay so they're.

Speaker 1 (51:27):
Just trying to, say, like tell your mom to get
out of. There if you don't disperse within an, hour
we're gonna call it.

Speaker 5 (51:33):
Bullye we're gonna be the bullie Right.

Speaker 2 (51:36):
Act that is the.

Speaker 5 (51:37):
CASE i don't think you did anything. WRONG i think you're.

Speaker 2 (51:40):
A just, petty but you know you have a reason to.
Be she came into your home and that's Not it seems.

Speaker 1 (51:45):
Entertaining AND i think That lava lamp was cooler than
you were giving it credit.

Speaker 2 (51:49):
FOR i Have LoVa lamp and it's. Great it's, yellow,
sunflowery it's really. COOL i turn it.

Speaker 1 (51:53):
On sometimes you can't be like mystified when it's like
your partner isn't super enthused about you going out of
your way to annoy his, mom which in turn will
probably make her even more annoying than she already, is
and then.

Speaker 2 (52:08):
Have to hear her complain about you to.

Speaker 1 (52:11):
Him, right it's not a mystery why he'd be, like, ugh,
Yeah i'm not a fan of.

Speaker 2 (52:15):
THAT i kinda you put him in a really weird.
Position comment number three is. DOWNVOTED i, mean she was
just trying to help a young couple save some money
and do something nice for. YOU i wouldn't have taken
it so. PERSONALLY i also wouldn't retaliate with, ugly cheaper.
Decor you are not wrong for wanting an opinion on
how to decorate your. Home you have a right to feel.

(52:35):
Disappointed she wasn't hearing your, wishes but the response was, immature.
AGREED i assume either of you can't use your words
to explain to people how you feel or are afraid of.
CONFRONTATION i would have to agree with that comment OR
i one hundred. PERCENT i think the way that you
did it was, immature but you, know and then you
put your husband in a weird, position but she also,
did so you. Know it's. Whatever you made a kind

(52:58):
gesture into an. Attack it made her feel. Unappreciated she
was just excited and wanted to help her son and
soon to be daughter in. Law this type of behavior
will only cause waves for you later if you ever
do need. Help how you made her feel may dictate
her future. Investments that's all so, True, yeah because now
you just left a bad taste in your mouth when

(53:18):
you could have just been, like, hey remember WHEN i
SAID i didn't want, these thank you so. MUCH i
appreciate all the, help but we got this Thanks that
could have been your. Response both parties have, faults and
neither is. Correct both should. Apologize you need to build
on a new relationship found out on honesty and mutual
respect for the sake of your husband and future. Family
i'd have to agree with. THAT i don't know why

(53:39):
this was, downvoted BUT i agree one hundred. Percent. Update
here we, Go hi, again chaos. Lovers last TIME i,
POSTED i told you all about how my future mother
in law broke into our house decorated, it AND i
responded by replacing everything with the worst thrift store FINDS
i could scap. It, well buckle, up because things got
so much worse and so much.

Speaker 5 (53:58):
Funnier, oh boss.

Speaker 2 (54:00):
Boy so after the great home decor, war my, fiance
still hanging on by a, thread finally agreed to change the.
Locks mother in law was livid and started telling PEOPLE
i was manipulative and tearing the family, apart, which, fine,
whatever let her. Talk just the other, day my fiance
AND i were hosting a little barbecue for some. FRIENDS
i was inside getting drinks WHEN i saw mother in

(54:21):
law's name pop up on his. Phone, Again i'll admit,
IT i. PEQUED i had reason to be. Suspicious she
had been blowing him up constantly and being weirdly secretive.
Lately and that's WHEN i saw. It a photo not
from mother in law but to mother in law of
a very familiar shirtless man in a hotel.

Speaker 5 (54:43):
Mirror, OH i clicked the.

Speaker 2 (54:45):
Thread turns out mother in law wasn't just obsessing over
her son's. Wedding she was covering for. Him the two
of them had been coordinating his affair with some random
woman who we will Call tessa with The, tesla, which
by the, way bar what? Right?

Speaker 3 (55:02):
What?

Speaker 2 (55:03):
YEAH i was, like, wait this was just about decor
in the, house and now it's about a whole family
falling in bar his mom is helping him cheat on.
You that's. Crazy What, yeah oh my. GOD i read
that and was, like, wait we gotta.

Speaker 1 (55:19):
Get his to, like break the get the lava, lamp
break the lava, lamp open and cover her in the
lava lamp.

Speaker 5 (55:25):
Juice, yeah put it on her.

Speaker 2 (55:26):
EYES i will, yeah blind her for.

Speaker 5 (55:29):
Life chemical, blindness chemically blind. HER i.

Speaker 2 (55:33):
Froze i'm, SORRY i.

Speaker 5 (55:38):
Just chemically blind. Her chemically. Blind you look like someone
who would be able to chemically blind someone. TODAY i.

Speaker 2 (55:45):
DO i look like a.

Speaker 1 (55:46):
Mask give me, One give me one chemical hydrogen not a,
chemical that's an, element Clorox, OKAY i guess that's technically a.

Speaker 5 (55:54):
Chemical it's a.

Speaker 2 (55:55):
Chemical ammonium, okay.

Speaker 1 (55:58):
Ammonium, ammonium, emmonium, ammonia.

Speaker 2 (56:02):
Momonia, emonium, Ammonia, sorry not, ammonia. Ammonia, uh, ammonium it's
like aluminum in aemmonia. Emonia just uh uh. Uh mother
in law had been helping him lie to, me texting
him things Like i'll tell op you're with me and

(56:25):
don't forget to delete your. Location that's, crazy, absurd what's
wrong with? Her?

Speaker 5 (56:30):
Insane what you're condoning this in your?

Speaker 2 (56:33):
Mother?

Speaker 5 (56:34):
Yeah she clearly doesn't want him to be married to.

Speaker 2 (56:36):
Her, Wow, like just get a, divorce don't help him
cover up in a. Fair that's crazy. Insanity the woman
had literally been his alibi multiple times while he was
off plane pretend bachelor With Tesla. TESSA i took pictures
every single. Message what are we?

Speaker 4 (56:53):
Thinking?

Speaker 2 (56:54):
Now i'm thinking divorce and now she gets to decorate
the house how she.

Speaker 1 (56:58):
Wants this level of traitorous behavior deserves some sort of righteous.
Retribution i'm not sure exactly How i'd go about, it
But i'd be wanting to take them for a ride
off it, Is i'm.

Speaker 2 (57:11):
Not, sure take them into the back yally no no.

Speaker 1 (57:14):
More in, LIKE i want them to somehow be responsible
for all of your debts while you somehow claim all
of their assets.

Speaker 5 (57:22):
Legally. YEAH i don't know how that, happens you.

Speaker 2 (57:25):
Know, oh now here's where it gets. Spicy. Oh at
our next family dinner aka The Passive Aggressive, OLYMPICS i
casually connected my phone to the living ROOM. TV i
SAID i had some pictures from The barbecueist. Show but,
OOPS i accidentally opened a folder that was of the.

(57:45):
Screenshots oopsy daisyops see poopsie complete. Silence mother in law
dropped her wine. Glass my fiance looked like he'd been
hit by a. BUS i just sat back and, Said,
oops Guess i'm good at decorating and. Digging. Wow needless to,
Say i'm no longer. Engaged fiance tried to call me,

(58:09):
dramatic but he's now living in his mom's beige nightmare
and sleeping on her floral. Couch SO i THINK i. Won.
Wow so, reddit WAS i still THE a? Hole or
WAS i just an interior designer of? Fate?

Speaker 5 (58:24):
Wow, yeah what a plot. Twist, yeah to be, CLEAR
i never really thought you were being THE a.

Speaker 1 (58:28):
Hole it was just more, like, yeah this is gonna
make things probably worse over, time she's gonna be more.
Annoyed but it turns out you didn't need to worry
about who you were bothering because was what she was
conspiring to ruin your relationship the whole. Time, yeah so
she would probably spin that to be, LIKE i was
actually trying to make your marriage better BECAUSE i was

(58:51):
getting him to get the cheating out of his system,
early because it you know how that.

Speaker 5 (58:57):
Is you, know every single man on earth is a,
she and they all cheat on. You no matter. What,
Yeah SO i was just trying to get it out
of the way early.

Speaker 2 (59:04):
Before he actually had the vowels and you, know said
all those lovely things about each other and like we're
actually becoming. ONE i, thought you, know Maybe i'd do
you a. Favor let him go do his little thing
while you're engaged, still and then when he's, ready you
guys can.

Speaker 1 (59:21):
Marry you, know do a little, thing, lit make a little,
Thing get down on a, Thing get down on the. Thing,
yeah we've got some comments to. Read these are comments
from the.

Speaker 2 (59:34):
Video my teen daughter has a large amount of money,
hidden SO i confronted her about it and it was
posted On january, fourteenth twenty twenty. Six here's THE tldr
for the. Story opi grew up with her parents and
their Girlfriend, rose all in a relationship. Together When opie's
fiance met his, parents he told Them rose was just
her aunt who lived with them to save, money instead

(59:56):
of the. Truth At thanksgiving, dinner his parents figured out
the real situation and got super. Uncomfortable turns, out the
fiance had been lying to everyone for two and a
half years because he didn't know how to tell his
parents the. Truth now ops questioning if she can trust
him and marry him after he'd lied for so. Long
if you're curious to know the full, story you can
go watch the full. Episode, okay and we have some.

Speaker 1 (01:00:19):
Comments your first comment From Wabi sambi N z, says
the problem with this is that when it did come,
up he was one hundred percent responsible for coming clean
about the lie right, then because all of the problems
could have been avoided if he just told the truth
at that. Moment that's by far the worst PART i
could have forgiven the first, lie AND i probably could
have forgiven him for not having the guts to tell

(01:00:41):
me that he couldn't tell his, parents although this is
far worse than the original, lie because if you can't
be honest with a, partner then you're going to have
an extremely hard time in any. Relationship no trust and
no accountability for his mistakes and not enough self awareness
to even know that it was one hundred percent his.

Speaker 5 (01:00:58):
Fault he needed his parents to tell. Him he will.

Speaker 1 (01:01:01):
Avoid accountability for everything and will blame anyone but.

Speaker 5 (01:01:03):
Himself that's not relationship. Material.

Speaker 1 (01:01:07):
OKAY a comment too From starblooded, says, actually nothing wrong
with the start of the poly story, though like of,
Course rose was there For opie's hard times growing up
and helped to teach them to ride their, bike et.

Speaker 5 (01:01:19):
Cetera she's basically an extra.

Speaker 1 (01:01:21):
Parent y'all talk about how most attempts at poly relationships
don't go, well but that's a, normal healthy. One they
are a family non, monogamy isn't just a couple swinging
to a bunch of new, partners which is also totally okay,
likewise just needs to be done healthily and. Right that man,
said can't imagine keeping up a lie like that for two?
Years just say you're really anxious to tell. Them opi

(01:01:44):
is aware it's a touchy topic and could have done it.
Himself and like an, aunt why did you expect when
they kissed casually like partners. Do, yeah and our last
comment from J Wolf in my, Experience aunt is for.
Family auntie is for extended family and friends in my.
Experience but that is the end of those comments in
the end of this. Episode so if you love, us
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