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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Dakota and this is Carly, your favorite
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
My girlfriend criticizes everything I eat and it's hurting our relationship.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Well stop eating the wrong slop.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
My girlfriend, twenty five female and I twenty eight male,
have been going out for ten months now and about
six months in I lost my job due to the VID.
Because of that, we were spending a lot more time
together and I think that is when she really started
noticing my diet. By the way, this comes from pats
fan nine two nine, and if you want to submit
your own stories, go to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddit.
(00:39):
I'm Carly, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're here to
give good advice goofully, But we don't have all the answers.
We only know what we would do. Let us know
what you would do in the comment and Op says
a couple of disclaimers before I go further. First, I
really admit my diet was not the best before I
met her. Second, her dad is a diabetic, so I
think that's where some of this is coming from.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Yeah, what's the worst your diet has ever been? I'll
go first, corn dogs and goldfish three meals a day.
I was nineteen, How long, long time man? More than
a year? For like a month, I was just eating
frozen corn dogs and goldfish all day.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
The peak, the male peak, physique and diet right there,
Yes peak.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
The European mind could never comprehend the shit that I
ate at the age of nineteen.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Hot pockets, baby canned soup, ramen, but like the package
from Oh no cup noodles, not even ramen anyways, Long
story short, I changed my diet at her urging quite
a bit. I cut back heavily on fried food, down
to once or twice a month from multiple times a week.
How high was your cholesterol? Oh my god?
Speaker 2 (01:51):
He had cholesterol of it?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
He was cholesterol.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Hi, My name's cholester cholesterol?
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Oh my gosh, the blind one that sounds like Carly's dream.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Other than soda. I have entirely too much popcorn in
my diet, but I could be addicted to worse things.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
If white cheddar popcorn didn't get kernels all up in
my gums. That bothered me for like days after I
eat it, I would eat nothing but that.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
The thing is, I like fairly just plain salted popcorn,
so it's really like the best of the junk feeds,
so you could.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Be getting Sometimes I'm like, do you want some popcorn
with your salt?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I crave it, grape salt.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I crave the sawdium.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
I added more fruits and vegetables and apple and the
banana every day at least, along with veggies multiple times
a week, where before it was very little. I also
cut back on pasta and added more turkey, chicken, and fish.
For reference. I am not skinny, but I am not
obese either. If anything, I could stand to lose about
fifteen or twenty pounds since the pandemic started, but otherwise
(02:54):
I am completely healthy, and she knows this. For her diet,
she eats exclusively fish, chicken, and Caesar salad while exercising
an hour per day. I am unable to exercise that
much due to bad knees that I both inherited and
previously injured, which she is also aware of.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
You know how you fix those bad knees, though, Gotta
work it out. It's like I don't know, I'm not
an exercise scientist, expert or anything.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
But it's depending how bad he messed up his knees,
he really might not be able to Well.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
No, it's like working at the muscles that support the
knee and then also the muscles that take the load
off of the tendons. The weaker your legs get, trust
me on this one, the worse your whole body is.
As a man with weak legs. I suffer this every
day of my life because I've yet to you know what,
every piece of equipment in our new apartments gym is
(03:43):
just for legs, So my legs are about to be
freaking jacked, and I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Both.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
I was sad about it until they fix it. But honestly, genuinely.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Jazz du everything that you need for your upper body
you can do with just body weight. For me, though,
I hate squats, so I would love a machine.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Gets what we have a squat machine.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
So I'm gonna I'm gonna keep reading this.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Story there, Yeah, yeah, yeah cool.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
However, over the past month or so, she has started
heavily criticizing my diet again unprompted, to the point where
she does it every single meal. She sees me eat
things like do you really need that much bread when
it would be my second piece at a restaurant and
she eats the rest of the basket, or you already
had red meat this week, things like that. Whenever I
(04:29):
hold firm, she immediately starts acting like a child who
does not get her way. She will start blaming me,
saying it's my fault we are arguing. She will say
she is unhappy and that she cannot take much more
of this and other things that threaten the relationship. I
will point out the very obvious double standard, but that
only makes her angrier. As this is my first relationship,
I do not know what to do but let it
(04:50):
go for the fear of making it worse. I finally
decided enough was enough when on Friday we went out
on a date night that was also a trip to
up a cake for her parents' birthday at a restaurant
that she had never been to. We are from different
towns and she lives forty minutes away. Also, my mom
got this cake and brought it one time, and my
(05:11):
girlfriend really liked it. I decided to get the roast
prime rib as I had not had it in a
very long time. From there, She immediately questioned it, and
I stood my ground, but I also got broccoli with
it to calm her down. This is crazy. She then
started crying as soon as the waitress left and said
things like, I do not want to be here. I
(05:31):
just want to go home, and if you get mad
at me, I'm going to call my dad to pick
me up, all while still crying. What is she twelve?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah? Is this girl like here.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Really bad food trauma from her dad?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I'm really unsure, but it's like it's feeling like there's
a definite element of control here that she eats to,
you know, whether it's like self soothing or whatever. Like
she's got something going on, and by projecting her like
desire for your diet or whatever you eat, it allows
(06:04):
her to cope with it in a way. I guess
that's my guess.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
It's crazy. I've basically told her that this has to stop.
I cannot deal with her criticizing my meals every day.
Fast forward to after the worst dinner I have ever had,
and we made it back to her parents' house. I
went to her mom, thinking maybe she could talk some
sense into her, because I had been trying to do
it for the past week with no success, and I
told her what happened. Her mom agreed with me and
(06:29):
basically said, to my girlfriend, you cannot tell other people
what to do. It's going to make them do the opposite,
and if you continue to do this, you cannot be
in a relationship with anyone. Yesterday, she was fine and
it seemed like she had taken the message to heart. However,
at dinner tonight she went right back to her old self,
and I feel like I'm out of options. I don't
want to break up with her because I still love her,
(06:50):
but I also cannot take the constant criticism. I have
a million other things to worry about now, between working
a full time job again that is actually a career,
and going to school full time as well. On top
of that, I then have to worry about what is
my girlfriend gonna think about this choice. I know this
may seem silly, but it has gotten to the point
where ninety five percent of our fights are this issue.
(07:12):
I feel like I'm doing nothing but sitting eating and
minding my own business. I have already done almost a
one eighty from where my diet previously was, and I
have pointed this out to her many times, I feel
like if I give in to her, she will just
find something to criticize about my next meal and it
will be a never ending cycle. I am really at
my breaking point and I don't know what to do.
(07:33):
Any help is much appreciated.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
We have some comments, but it's a hard place to
be in. But honestly, I think you're at a spot
where you just have to have a conversation that's uncomfortable
and you have to put it on the line and
be like, look, I used to eat really bad. I'm
very happy with the way I eat. Now I'm going
to eat exactly how I want to. And if that
(07:56):
is a deal breaker for you and you can't deal
with it, then I think this isn't going to work.
And put the ball in her court, and that's all
you can really do at this point.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Yeah, he's criticizing you every time, and she should be
kind of supporting you because if you did a complete
one eighty of your diet and you change it, not.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Just for her but for yourself, his habits are so
much better now and she.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Should be so she should be commending you for that
and being like, you know, I'm proud of you for
doing this. Not you know, battering you down for every
time you eat like an extra piece of bread or
like it's you know, you get a cheat meal. It's
very very Yeah, some people are saying she needs therapy
because this is she does.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Yeah, I would approach it not with you know, any negative,
just approach it very factually and then also just be
curious of like why do you think you know this
is happening. It's hard for me to understand why you're
so consistently criticizing me for this, and I just want
to know why because I eat fine.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
I think it's definitely the relationship with her father. I mean,
that's probably what it stems from. But I mean I
don't want to just jump to that conclusion.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
So no, I think you're right, it's just because her
father had diabetes and stuff that she was worried about.
It just it sounded very deep in therapisty the way
you said.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
It, it was good, thank you, thank thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
What Kian said it just made me giggle because if
people didn't catch the part that her dad was also diabetic,
it sounds like you're just saying she has daddy issues.
She has diet daddy diet issues.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Databetes databetes. That could be two different options. That could
be two different kinds of Problemstop comments.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Desser it Rain says, this is who she is. You've
talked to her about it multiple times and even had
her mom talk to her about it, and she hasn't changed.
She obviously isn't willing to stop this behavior. Your only
real options are to break up, just put up with
the constant criticism and fighting, or stop fighting her on
it and just let her choose all your meals for you. Personally,
i'd break up, but if you don't want to do that,
(09:54):
your only other option is to just live with her
dictating your diet. She's obviously not interested in stopping her behavior.
Delete it says, I'm a registered dietitian and it sounds
like she has some symptoms of disordered eating. The need
to be in control and the obsession with healthy food
suggests orthorexia. I am not qualified to make a diagnosis,
but I strongly suspect she needs professional help from a
(10:16):
dietitian or perhaps a therapist. I'm sorry to hear you
are both struggling and we have an update.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Huzzah.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Yeah, at first I was gonna be like call her out.
Because she's eating caesar salad and if she has like
the caesar dressing in there, like that's that's not healthy
at all, but it is.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I think she's pretty healthy. No, she only needs chicken, salmalmon,
and caesar salad and she works out an hour.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Well, so that's kind of crazy that she can't like
that's all she eats, and she like goes insane that like,
oh my god, you're having red and meat.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
That's the thing, Like you can have a problem with
food because you're too healthy with food. Yeah. Update, First,
thank you for all the advice. I honestly thought I
would get responses along the lines of deal with it.
It's not a big but the advice you all have
given has really helped. I had a conversation with her
before leaving for work and basically put my foot down
(11:07):
for real. I straight up said to her that if
this behavior continues, I will be breaking up with her.
She said she will stop. But I have my doubts.
For those of you who said that she may have
orthorexia or another eating disorder, after reading the symptoms, I
am inclined to agree with you, but speaking from experience,
bringing it up to her or her parents will only
lead to firm denials and a refusal to seek help.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Which is crazy to be like, yeah, you show her
the cold heart facts of like hey, you might have
this and she butt no.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah, well, that's common people to just deny that they
have an issue when they do.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
With that in mind, I have reserved a rental SUV.
I have a Camaro which does not have enough trunk
space for my stuff at my local place for Saturday
to bring what I have back to my mom's house
in case her behavior doesn't change. I have also started
looking at apartments near my new job, since it requires
me to live in the county as a condition of employment.
On the chance that this doesn't work out. I am
(12:04):
not tossing in the towel on the relationship, but I
figure it's better to be prepared just in case, and
I can always cancel the rental.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Yeah, I was gonna say, having a move out suv
ready to go feels a little bit like throwing the toweling.
Not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
We have an update nine months later, though. Do you
think she fixes her ways or not?
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yeah? I think they're having a baby, A little baby,
hopefully not.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
So I know, I said, I would post an update
that Saturday, and I didn't, and I apologize for that.
Life got busy and I forgot to do so. Anyways,
on to the update. After speaking with her, she actually
did stop trying to control my diet. She didn't make
any comments about my diet or what I chose to eat.
I think me standing up to her made her realize
I was serious and that the relationship was going to
(12:48):
be over if she continued with the behavior. This still
sounds like you guys broke up, though here we go.
Long story short, though, we broke up in July of
this year over other issues that clearly made us any compatible.
I realized that it was a toxic relationship and much
of her other behaviors were manipulative, which one of the
original commenters pointed out and straight up just childish.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I mean, cue the If we don't leave her now,
I'm going to call my dad to pick me up.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
She and her family were also very entitled and could
do no wrong in their eyes since they came from
a lot of money. The good news is that I'm
currently in a new relationship with someone who is so
much better in every way. It's literally like I'm dating
the female version of me. We have so much in common,
think about things, and view the world the same way.
It's only been a little over a month of officially dating,
but things are going really great so far, and I
(13:35):
have high hopes for a future together in whatever form
that may be. There's a little bit of lived any thoughts.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yeah, well it looks like the uh you could have
just gone with the move out suv in the first place.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Sound they would have saved us some time.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Hey, but you know, sometimes things just don't work.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Glad she stopped criticizing your diet for those last few months.
Though it's a plus.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I guess it's nice. It's nice to be able to
not be criticized for things that are fine. What is
the crime enjoying a meal? A succulent Chinese meal?
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Democracy manifest.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
This is democracy manifest.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
The funny thing is, after my breakup, I said to
myself and those around me that I want to be
dating for a while, most likely into the next year,
and then this relationship fell into my lap when I
wasn't even looking for one. It's crazy how things work out.
Thank you again to everyone who commented on the original post.
Turns out most of you were right that I should
have ended the relationship right then. I truly believe though,
(14:35):
that if I had done it, I would not have
found the woman I have found now. Was she one
of your girlfriend's friends.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
It's just, you know, everything happening, Everything that happens leads
us to the point that we are. Everything that happens,
including the French Revolution.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Okay, building comments Gambling Traveler says, good for you. Please
remember this from your earlier post. What is my girlfriend
going to think about this choice? Don't date someone that
you have to walk on eggshells around. My first relationship,
when I was a teenager, was full of this, so
luckily I learned at an early age. You are starting
a bit later than I did, so just make sure
to remember this. Opie says, thank you. Yeah, I definitely
(15:16):
learned a valuable lesson. Chuck rings Linger says, I take it.
The X hasn't made things easy, Opie says the day's
following the breakup, No, she didn't. Her parents intervened too,
and made things even more difficult in terms of getting
back some of my stuff. After that, I haven't heard
from any of them, and I haven't tried to contact them,
which is for the best. Dreadful Water says, when you
(15:38):
eat and order things in front of the new person,
is it relaxing now? Opie says very much. So we
like and eat a lot of the same foods. She's
also from a different country, so she's been introducing me
to some foods from her country. Nice. Let's the end
of that story.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Very nice, very nice.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
Found someone that's appreciate food. Yes, nice food. Kean who loves.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Food suckul Chinese meal meal, same timing on that.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
But that's the end of that story. And we got
another one.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
My rich boyfriend got me nothing for Christmas after I
raised his son for free break up with him. I,
thirty female, feel so bratty and spoiled right now because
of how my boyfriend thirty two male treated Christmas and
me this year. Christmas, Christmas, gift giving and acts of
service are my love language, and I know I shouldn't
(16:29):
put so much value on it, but I really love
receiving gifts on Christmas. My boyfriend knows this. By the way,
this comes from users system Funny five four four nine
and if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the r slash Okay Storytime subburn it I'm Dakota.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we are here.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
To give good advice goofily, But we don't have all
the answers. We only know what we would do. So
let us know what you would do, your little goofball
down there in the comments.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Can you let me do what you're doing with your hands?
Speaker 2 (16:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (16:55):
What were you doing with your hands?
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Was being emotive?
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Wouldn't you like to know whether boy? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (17:00):
You like?
Speaker 1 (17:00):
No?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Handboy? Handboy? Well, Christmas boys to a chat right now?
Speaker 3 (17:03):
One?
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Two, three, hand boy, hand boy? No, No, you don't
get to do it. This is at you. What if
I like it, then we'll have to figure out something
else to call you. Ope, he says. I have a
large family and buy for everyone. I don't go crazy,
but I spend about one thousand dollars over eight to
nine people. Money isn't necessarily an issue because I do
(17:24):
have a job, but I also take care of our
home and my boyfriend's four year old child. So when
my paycheck falls short, my boyfriend will cover me. He
makes about eight times more than I do.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
By the way, what the heck does he do?
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Whatever it is, it's eight times as valuable.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
What do you do? Are you hired?
Speaker 2 (17:43):
But anyway, I love giving gifts and receiving them. He
knows this very well, but he also thinks he knows
better than me, and he doesn't think I need to
buy for my family or that they don't deserve it.
Over the past month or so, I've casually and also
not so casually, dropped hints on what I want. A
new perfume since I finally ran out of the one
he got me last year, possibly a new vacuum for
(18:05):
the house. And the one thing I really wanted, an
antique curio cabinet that I found on Facebook marketplace. They
usually go for five hundred to three thousand dollars depending
on where you look, and this one was only two
hundred bucks and in perfect condition.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Snatched that up.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
I even contacted the seller and spoke to my boyfriend
about it, and he kept hinting that I would be
getting the cabinet.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
That's so depressing, then.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Yeah, that's why is he gonna eat? Why is he
leading you on about it? That's annoying.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
I will say, I think the vacuum shouldn't be a
Christmas present because why is he gifting you stuff to clean?
But if that's what you really wanted.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Yeah, I mean, op is the one who said that
they wanted that.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I would just be like, maybe maybe give me the
curio cabinet, the perfume, and then you need the vacuum
you show up later.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Yeah it can be. But anytime, Neil, that.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Could be a we need the vacuum now, Actually, maybe
we should get the vacuum.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Opie continues, But ay, I came home from spending Christmas
Day with my family and he from his father's. We
choose to spend the holiday morning separate with each of
our families and then do dinner together. And there's not
a single gift waiting for me. He didn't even clean
the house or try to do something nice for me
as a gift, because honestly, I would have taken a
deep cleaned house as a gift. He apparently waited until
(19:20):
Christmas Eve to order me one thing and said I
didn't get more because I spent so much on my family.
Speaker 5 (19:28):
Like he spent so much on his family, or like
you no, no, no, okay, because I spent so much
on my family, you've decided to not get me anything
for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
I'm breaking up with you. Just because that makes no sense,
and you're trying to, I guess, make a war because
it's like if he doesn't like her family, she drops
some line about how he's like they don't deserve it.
So now he's trying to be like, oh, well, you
gave them gifts, so I'm not giving you anything.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
It's like, break stop it up with this man.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
That's crazy. Meanwhile, I got him a very expensive hunting
knife and a new hat, which he complained about the color,
even though it goes with all of his clothes. I'm
just so disappointed and upset by the lack of effort.
My sister and her husband literally went out of their
way to get me a dice in air wrap because
I mentioned how I was saving to get one since
my boyfriend thought it was unnecessary, and to have them
(20:18):
ask me what he got me and I have to
say that I came home to nothing is so embarrassing.
I don't know. I understand this is such a first
world problem, but I'm just so sad to come home
to the lack of effort. It's not even a first
world problem. I could have done anything.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah, I was gonna say to say, this is not
a first world problem. This is just a problem.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Yeah, I'm sad that he knows my love language and
did nothing for them. Being told I didn't get anything
because of how I gifted my family, even though we
have the money, I feel so unappreciated. Oh so he's
saying that it's like the communal money where it's like, yeah,
because you spent so much money on your family, we didn't.
You didn't have any money left over for your gifts.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Yeah, makes no sense.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Get him, Mada, Get him, Mady. I take care of
the house, I take care of his autistic four year
old full time. I do everything a good girlfriend should do,
and this is how I get treated. I'm just so sad.
I'm obviously not asking for advice. I just had to
get this off my chest. This Christmas genuinely broke something
in me. This Christmas genuinely broke something in me. Sorry,
(21:29):
how to do that?
Speaker 1 (21:30):
I you know you're not asking for advice, but I'm
giving you some up.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Yeah, No, that's that's the move up. Christmas Christmas update.
I am realizing just how deep I'm in and how
blind I've been. I thought this was a one off
situation and things have gotten better, but clearly he's just
continued to mistreat and devalue me. I've started reading why
does he do that? And I'm nauseous over how spot
(21:56):
on it is. I've also scheduled a therapy session in
hopes of figuring out a way for me to actually
leave this time and not let him manipulate me the
way he has continuously done in the past. Wow. I
deserve so much more in life, not even in a
materialistic way, but just in the way I'm treated by
my partner. I hope my next update will be saying
that I finally left his post and everyone's responses have
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opened my eyes to the changes that need to be made.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
I have great news for you. You are the one
that gets to make the next update that you left.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
It's the balls in your court and you know what
to do. Relevant comments Comment one says, have a heart
to heart conversation, EH, tell him how hurt you are
by the lack of effort. You need to evaluate whether
it was really the lack of effort or whether you
really just wanted a nice piece of jewelry. Hey, dumb, dumb,
did you not hear how she was like? He could
have cleaned the house and I would have been.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Happy anything it could have given me a hug an
or how like I clumped your present stuff in with
your families and that's why I didn't you something?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
All right? Well, Op does reply to dumb dumb here,
Op says, I did try to communicate my disappointment, and
he laughed at me and said, your gift money was
spent on your family. So what do we have to
say about that, mister commenter? We had established a budget
for my gifts and I stayed within it. I didn't
think me buying gifts from my loved ones meant I
wasn't getting anything in return.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Yeah, it's giving a financial control.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Yeah, oh my god. So another commenter says, did you
get money from him to buy gifts from yourself to
give your family? And just Op says, I send him
my entire check every month from work and he gives
me back my money to pay my bills and to
spend his ic fit for the household. I don't think
he's given you all the money. He just sounds like
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he would just of course he would take from you.
Why wouldn't he?
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Yeah, Like, why does it have to go to him
to go back to you? Never give all of your
finances away.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Yeah, unless it's to your accountant, and even then double check.
Comment three, he says, why are you with him again?
What do you like about him? Did he get his
child and he gives Honestly, it sounds like he doesn't
even like you. He treats you like a bang maid
who raises his kid for him. Do you want to
live the rest of your life like this in a
constant state of embarrassment and disappointment? My husband got me
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a coach purse, a Gucci perfume, and a brand new
Hilton pillow because about.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
It's commentor kick it pent a girl while she's down?
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Yeah, you deserve better go find it whatever. Oh, he
says at this point, I don't know why. I think.
I'm just afraid of how my family was right and
how I'll have to pick up the pieces. Well, we
don't ever want to live in a state where fear
controls our decisions.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
It's also not about being right, it's about or being
right or wrong. It's about you know what what's best
for you. And if you're really tired of this and
not being treated the way you want to be treated,
you can let them have it. Sure, but like, you're
not trying to prove a point anymore.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
You just get out of this. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Another commenter says he makes eight times your wage. What
do you make? I find it hard to believe. What
is it with people?
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Why is it such haters?
Speaker 2 (25:07):
Opie says I make about forty five thousand. He brings
in about three hundred and fifty k or more, depending
on how well the business does. So yeah, it absolutely
is possible. Math my dude, Okay, I'm just do we Okay,
here we go. There's another update here.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yeah. I don't care about stupid commenters right now.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Yeah I can't. Yeah, okay, so you've got an update
six days later. Hey, everyone, just thought i'd post an update.
Hopefully it's allowed, clearly it is. But I thirty female
posted after Christmas about how my boyfriend dropped the ball
with Christmas and that made me take a hard look
in the mirror and actually be honest about how bad
he was treating me and how I felt was not
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normal for any relationship. Anyways, I started the process of leaving.
I was completely honest with my mom and family with
what was going on with my boyfriend and how miserable
life been They've invited me back home with open arms
and offered to help me figure out my finances and
getting back into real estate. They have been patiently waiting
for me to leave him and are ready to go
(26:07):
to war for me. My brother offered to go pick
up all of my belongings and be there when I
pick up my dogs. My mom picked me up today,
and he thinks I'm just going by my family to
spend a few nights and see friends. I've actually brought
all my important documents and belongings with me, just to
get it out of the way. I haven't told him
what's going on yet because he is very good at
convincing me to stay. So I'm still working on how
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to open the conversation, but I'll figure it out. You
should open it and close it in one breath. I'm
leaving you. I've had enough. Don't contact me, and I'm
taking the dogs. And then if he tries to talk,
you go a la la la la la.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
I can't hear sleep people.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
I'm at a point where I can't turn back because
my family won't let me do that to myself. We
have got some more story here, We've got the family
is back up that's good. Now, don't let your pride
you from being in a better place in life.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Yeah, he is financially manipulating you. A man with three
hundred and fifty k coming in shouldn't be taking your
entire forty five K paycheck.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Yeah, this was a brutally nightmarish control freak situation.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Yeah, and now he's only gonna get worse. Get out now.
I like your plans very clearly.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Just Ful disrespect is all he felt. Breaking up with
someone who clearly has a narcissismo tendencies is very difficult
and feels near impossible, but I know I will be
able to do it in the end. I'm anxious and scared,
but I know once I pulled the trigger and just
tell him I'm done, I'll feel so much better. Just
thinking about my life after this whole situation scares me
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but also excites me. I want to be free and
be loved properly, not just when it benefits my partner.
Hopefully I'll be able to post an update soon where
I've fully cut ties fingers crossed. I keep this backbone
that I've slowly developed. We have some comments here you
can do. Oh, this sounds like your support system is
ready enable, and if you feel like you would need
physical protection moving out, try asking any large male family
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members or friends you have to come with you to
get everything else. I've done it before. The name of
the game is silence. If he's still there while you
need to get everything, he'll probably try multiple methods of
talking to you and your loved ones to get you
to say but try not to react at all, verbally
or physically. If he gets aggressive, make sure you have
pepper spray or a taser on you and your loved ones.
(28:29):
You've got this and you'll have a much better start
to the year by getting rid of him. I wish
you all the luck. Op Opie replies, I'm gonna bring
my brothers. I'm honestly not too worried because my brother's
six to one and my soon to be x is
only five to five. Is this the anger of a
short man we're seeing?
Speaker 1 (28:45):
No, this is just the anger and stupidity of a
stupid man.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Okay, yes, yes, yes, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, But seriously,
I am so blessed to have the family I do.
They're dysfunctional, but they're ready to do anything to protect
me and watch me succeed.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Eh.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
And you know what, did OP ever get the Curio cabinet? No? No,
the girl sold it before I could get it. And
that's the end of that story.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
That's so sad.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Well sometimes Curio City. Uh, I don't know, I got nothing.
Uh yeah, that was that was a steal of a deal.
You can't be you can't even be mad that that
one's gone. Yeah, that was probably gone the next day.
But that is the end of that story. And we've
got another one.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
I was having a medical emergency but my boyfriend did
not care.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Yeah, no, sorry, maybe about have the bandwidth for that.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Oh, we have a trigger warning for substance regular use.
So I thirty two female, have been with my boyfriend
Devin twenty eight male for what will be four years
in May. I suppose, looking back on it now, there
are so many reasons I should have left it at
the one night that it was supposed to be. By
the way, this comes from girl who loves cows And
if you want to some amazing story, he's go to
(29:54):
the r slash. Okay storytime, subreund it. I'm Carly, I'm Dakota,
I'm Keon, and we're are you here to give good advice. Goofully,
but we don't have all the answers. We only know
we would do. Let us know what you would do
in the comments. And I forgot to say this is
from the Okay storytime subreddit.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Yeah, of you, you should have left this guy four
years ago, like you said, that's my bet, and OP.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Says, Hey, it's Carly, your favorite Axelottel host. Here. We're
going to get back to the stories. But here's three
minutes of ads from our sponsors. I didn't want to
be alone for my birthday, so he made the three
hour drive from where he lived to my house the
day before my birthday. That night, something about him made
me want more, and he seemed to feel the same way.
(30:37):
But now here we are almost four years in and
yes I do love him, But the problem now is
I have to love myself more than I love him.
In November twenty nineteen, I had the lap band put in.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
It gets a thing to make you lose weight.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
I really wanted to lose weight so that I could
be healthier for my two daughters, Lily, who is now
eleven female and Linley, now seven female. I had severe
complications that my doctor didn't take seriously. My mental health
went to heck. By January, I was having surgery again
to have my gallbladder removed. It ruptured as he was
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taking it out.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Day the gall on that bladder, true.
Speaker 3 (31:19):
Did it broach?
Speaker 1 (31:20):
By the end of January, my mom, Sherry fifty six female,
had filed for temporary custody of Lily and Linley because
of how bad my physical health was affecting me mentally.
I couldn't keep any food down and was barely able
to keep liquids down. I started drinking hard booze as
pretty much the only liquid I took in that's I
made friends with a coworker who was also going through
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similar issues with her kids. I did the icy substance
one time and that was it for me. I had
found my new outlet.
Speaker 6 (31:50):
Oh no, this went on through three more surgeries and
over a week in the hospital with a severe infection
that doctor's mis his diagnosed for two and a half months.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Well and this is all really bad. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
In twenty twenty two, I met Devin. I was still
in the process of getting clean when I met him.
He made me feel like I was worth something. He
told me he loved me like three or four weeks in,
and by August he moved in with me. About five
months after he moved in, things changed. The affection, the attention,
it was just gone. I tried bringing it up with
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him multiple times, but each time I was met with
irritation and gaslighting. Our first anniversary was awful. He acted
like it was just another day. I have bipolar disorder
and I'm on the autism spectrum. He knew all of
this from the beginning. He would say things to me
like why would I want to be affectionate with you
when all you do is fight? Everything has always turned
around to be my fault. He has cheated on mem
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he has screamed at me, and he has told me
I'm better awful loon. Love that song by Alice DJ
break Up What That's mass?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
So we're done with that.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
But I think we are done with that, right, We're
done with him, right, We're done with this, We're done
with him, right. I so badly want to be able
to move on, But every time I build up enough
courage to finally say enough is enough, life seems to
remind me that financially, I can't pay all of these
bills by myself. I have two kids to take care
of and life is expensive. My family is very much
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on the side of that. I need to leave, so
are we. We're your family too, Yeah, in your family?
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Can your family not assist in any way?
Speaker 1 (33:29):
In August, my mama, ninety female, passed. She was my
favorite person in the world other than my kids. She
practically raised me. Devin wouldn't go with me to see
her when she was on hospice. He didn't want to
go to the funeral. He wouldn't hold me. The only
reason he hugged and held on to me at the
funeral was because my sister had to tell him to
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His lack of giving an f is what really solidified
things for me, But I still stayed.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
No.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Right after my mama passed, he lost his job. He
didn't find out another job until the end of November.
That is when I should have left. I have initiated
conversation after a conversation, but it always just spun around
to be my fault. I've suggested couple's therapy, but he
downright refuses.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
So like, even with his logic that all of this
is your fault, you can still leave. Yeah, you can
just leave with the logic of Okay, Well, it's clearly
all my fault and I'm not at a place where
I can fix it or be better for you. So
I'm gonna leave. If that's what he needs to freaking hear, whatever,
if that's what you need to say, whatever, just know
that that's not true. Yeah, and this is just terrible.
He's cheated on you.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
You'll know, will know, no one will judge you. Leave
this man. Christmas rolls around and I ordered him a
Christmas gift because I do love him. He had to
work that day, so we hadn't done gifts yet. Well,
it turns out he didn't bother to get me anything.
He went down to North Carolina for the weekend of
New Year's When he came back, he didn't want to
address the elephant in the room. We have had Spicy
Sleep maybe six times in the last six to eight months.
(34:55):
By the way, you guys can listen to month's worth
of episodes with stories.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Just like this.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Just go Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or iHeartRadio and search up Okay,
story time.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
I think you should have Spicy Sleep zero times in
the next infinity months.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
Because man, we need to leave this guy them no
more with this man.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
And with I think you'd probably end up being surprised
with how much more you can accomplish without this guy
dragging you down constantly, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. I think so too.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
You'll feel so free. Yesterday I started having really severe
chest pains that seemed to be radiating into my shoulder
to the point it took my breath several times. Wow.
I talked to my mom and she convinced me to
go to the er. I told Devin I was going
to go. He asked if I wanted him to go.
I told him that it was up to him. He
gets up, puffing and puffing about not wanting to sit
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in the er for hours on end, saying we wouldn't
be staying more than four hours.
Speaker 2 (35:52):
I love that that he would just what burst into
the hospital room and just drag you out. Yeah, we're
leaving the four hours.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
I just laid in bed and cried. He sat downstairs
on the couch, smoked some Devil's lettuce and played his Xbox.
This morning, he didn't even bother to ask if I
was okay? Did you not go to the ear today?
I sent him a message about how I am done.
I refuse to allow him to be the thing that
unalives me, both physically and mentally. I told him it's
time for me to love and respect myself more than
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I love him. And now I'm just trying to figure
out my next steps.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
That's the end of USA. Got to step one. Yes,
Step two is your dudes, you get to stay strong
on that. And step three is get your support system
around you. Yep, get your family involved, but hold so strong.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Don't go back to that man.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
Your family wants this for you. Yes, You're like, yeah,
I feel like I need to go to the er.
Something weird happening. And he's like, oh, oh yeah, it's
not a partner. But you've known this. You've known this
for a long time. So good for you for taking
that first step.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
But that's the end of that story. And we've got
another one.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
My brother volunteered me as his babysitter and said, my
hobby's don't matter.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Will My hobby isn't being a babysitter.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Is your hobby hobby horsing?
Speaker 1 (37:05):
I hope.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
So I'm a stay at home parent. All of my
children are finally in school. I now have the time
to delve into my hobbies and learn some new things
which I have been enjoying. During Thanksgiving, I overheard some
family members talking about their new bundle of Joy. By
the way, this comes from user apprehensive Fox twenty six
to fifty five. If you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash showcase storytime.
Speaker 1 (37:25):
So bredda it, I'm Dakota, I'm Carly, I'm Keon.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
We are here to give good advice. Goofy. Then we
don't have all the answers. We only know what we know,
So tell us what you know down in the comments,
and op says they were asked about childcare, and unbeknownst
to me, they said I was going to watch the child.
They never even asked me. I looked at them and
they just smiled like it was a privilege for me.
I wasn't trying to make a scene at the holiday party,
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so I didn't say anything. I just gave a look.
I do not, in any way, shape or form, want
to do that. I'll watch the baby here and there,
but not every day. Am I the a hole? And
there's an edit I want one hundred percent. Am having
a private conversation with them, which is what I would
have wanted them to do. I can and do stand
up for myself. I was caught off guard and honestly pissed,
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and I didn't want to make everyone uncomfortable at dinner.
I realized I should have simply said this or that,
but it wouldn't have come out of my mouth very nicely.
And no, my husband didn't volunteer me. This is my sibling.
Some of Op's comments, OP is clarifying that it is
my sibling. They do not pay me anything, and we
do not live together, and I do not watch any
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other children. We never had any discussions about me watching
their child. They are newly pregnant, and the only conversations
we've had are about the styles of the nursery. And
in response to another commenter, I am sorry that I've
confused a lot of people here. My brother is having
a baby with his new girlfriend. He himself volunteered me
to watch the baby. I overheard him telling other family
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members that I will watch their baby for them, and
a commenter says, not the ahole, But now they think
you agree and that's why you smiled at them. You
should have immediately said no, you won't be Opie says,
I didn't smile at them. I gave them a weird
look and they smiled at me. Deleted commenter saying responding
to someone saying, oh, Pie had no excuse to not
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just say no, which is crazy because social etiquette is
a thing, just a bunch of chronically online people who
don't know that conversations can't just happen immediately whenever or
wherever you are, right.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
I like the commoners just also probably would have been
mad if in the moment she was like no.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
Yeah, she didn't want to spoil the Thanksgiving for others.
Maybe she's too polite, maybe there's family history. I don't know.
People have reasons. Geez OPI says, you are exactly right.
I wouldn't have been nice, and it absolutely would have
caused a fight. They didn't want innocent family members thrown
into it or feeling uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (39:44):
Ah, so the family knew they cornered you. They're like,
we can get away with this. She won't, she won't
make things weird, and she just does this and like
doesn't say no.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
It's gonna be yes.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Yeah. But then it's like you can just make that
a no literally whenever. It's not like you're gonna be
babysitting tonight.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Even if you fully agreed to babysit and then start
a babysitting and then said I don't want a babysit anymore.
Mm hmm, guess what, you don't want babes anymore?
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Shy Fidelity says, I mean, you really need to stand
up for yourself when you hear things like that. Okay,
I'm done with these comments. I'm going to the update.
Here we go. Update. I realized some of you were right.
I needed to tell them asap so they can actually
plan daycare. So I called them last night. I calmly
asked my brother if he really thought I would be
watching his baby. He said yes, because I was home
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all the time. I asked him why he didn't ask
me first, and he said he didn't think he had to,
and that really pissed me off. I said I have
plenty to do and that if there's an emergency, I
will be there and help, but that I wasn't going
to watch the baby every day. He then got pissed
and said they planned for me too, and now they
have no idea how they'll afford childcare. Well, boohoo, that's
your problem and your fault. Yeah, he is upset because
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he also needs to work out for two hours a
day after work.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
Yeah, I'm definitely in all babysitting for you Nowaday.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
Dang, dude, you should take your baby to the gym
with your baby rich your baby joked.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
He feels now that he won't be able to do
that and will mess up his mental health. But they
don't care about yours, so booo, you.
Speaker 3 (41:10):
Should maybe have thought about that before having a baby.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
No, who's cried Boooooshi.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
They work from seven thirty am to four pm, which
is not even crazy, and they work out for two
hours after that. That's around ten hours I would have
this newborn. Also, dude, you just having a kid probably
gonna mess up your workout routine. Not gonna lie. Your
whole routine's gonna be different now, so get used to
that fact. So I would be watching the kid for
ten hours, I said, So, you're having a baby for
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me to take care of, so your lives don't change.
You want me to give up my free time, but
you won't. We have talked about how happy I am
in this moment with free time, and we have a
little bit left here.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
Yeah, don't bring your baby to my house because I'm
not watching him.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Yeah, no, is a full sentence. Let's finish this story.
He said a child is more important than your hobbies,
or maybe your own hobbies, since it's your freaking child, dummy,
your baby. Yeah, this totally set me the rest of
the way off. I said, mine are important to me
because I have them. Your child is more important than
the gym. It's not up to you to decide what
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I do with my time. You can work out at home.
I said, I was sorry, and I hung up. Now
it's going to be super awkward, but at least they
know now and.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
Want I want you to be some of those comments,
because some of them were down goods.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
There are some bad comments here. Let's get into them.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
I love the bad comments because they're so dumb.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite goofball host here, and we're
gonna get back to the stories. But here's three minutes
of ads from our sponsors. First commenter says, there's absolutely
no way this is real. The update about them planning
on OP babysitting and now being upset is two over
the top, Like the only reason they can afford a
baby is if OP baby sits. Yeh Na this is fake.
You've never met an idiot before. That's crazy. You should
(42:49):
look in the mirror. Op says, it's not fake. I
wish it was. They can pay for daycare. They both
have jobs. It was a tactic to get me to
fold to his demands. Have you ever dealt with the
self absorbed person? Amerson says, So they didn't ask, and
they weren't even planning on.
Speaker 1 (43:03):
Paying you the story, Yeah, she answered all these questions.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Yeah, I mean, what's wrong with people? Enjoy your free time?
Lord knows, even if they are all in school, there's
still plenty to do in a household, So you enjoy
those few hours a day to yourself. Hope, he says,
I guess not me being paid was never brought up,
just that they couldn't afford a real daycare. Okay, well
the last one, wonderful, Avocado says. How do they not
understand costs involved with a planned baby, even if it's
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only part time paid care, or how do they not
understand this? Hope, he says, they will be able to
afford daycare. They both have good jobs. He just wanted
me to fold by playing the pity party card, and
that is the end of that story raise your own child, dufis.
That's what I would have said, and I would.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Do it the fuel You're not dropping a baby off.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
But that is the end of that story.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
But we have some comments. You want to do what
you want me to do. Comments are from the video
my husband's disgusted me? Should I divorce? And it was
posted on July twelfth, five might be a good idea
TLDR looks like it's story one. Opia has been with
her her husband since high school and he's a great
dad who helps around the house. But over the last
few years, she's been getting more and more annoyed by him.
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He forgets almost everything they talk about, snores even when
he's awake, smells bad, talks in a baby voice when
he wants attention, and leaves gross stuff in the sink.
They've gone to counseling and talked about it many times,
but nothing changes. OPI finally told him she feels super
lonely because she can't trust him to remember their conversations
(44:28):
and she can't live like this anymore. Now, she's waiting
to see if he'll actually do something about it or
if their marriage is over. If you're curious to know
the full story. You can go watch the full video.
I don't remember this one.
Speaker 2 (44:38):
I kind of remember this one. I don't really remember
this one.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
What was weird stuff? I don't remember that part interesting,
but I feel like I do remember this. This snoring
during the I feel like I remember this one being
like an actual medical issue in the end, unless I'm
thinking about.
Speaker 3 (44:59):
It, everything seemed I guess, like going over the list here,
he forgets almost everything they talk about, snores when he's awake,
smells bad, talks in a baby, the baby boys stuff,
and the leaving the growth stuff is in the sink.
It's that interesting. We can I feel like we can
fix that in a second, or like fix that very quickly.
The stores when he is awake and forgets and smells bad.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (45:22):
Interesting it really is, huh. All right, Well, we have
some comments which I'm going to read one second. We
have a comment here from Kyogia Brown sixty eight oh
seven and saying, but it is all on him. You
can lead a horse to water, but you can't make
that horse drink. She can't force him to do anything
he doesn't want to do. And from her perspective, and
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y'all's She's in a way is forcing him to better
for himself, but she doesn't want to do that. She
wants him to put an effort into himself and the relationship,
and he isn't. Honestly, it's not immediate divorce, but I
won't be surprised if it happens.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
Yeah, if it's the one I'm thinking of. It definitely
was like she kind of did everything she he could
have done on her part, and he just was not
going further.
Speaker 3 (46:04):
Really interesting. Takes two to tango and does we have
another comment here by Melissa Sue monngreen Q and one
QV saying Opie has has said she has been talking
to him about this for years. I understand where Opie
is coming from. He he won't listen. I have a
feeling he is remembering conversations with friends and family. He
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has to try and be willing to help himself. He
is expecting OPI to take care of him. Opie needs
to show him that this is her breaking point and
she can't handle it anymore. We are only human. It
can only take so much. Getting him skincare he won't use,
or making appointments that he won't keep. He is a
grown but man he can do it himself from now on.
Speaker 2 (46:44):
He's a grown man.
Speaker 1 (46:45):
He's a grown man.
Speaker 2 (46:47):
He's a groan yeaham.
Speaker 1 (46:49):
He needs to go to his doctor's appointments.
Speaker 3 (46:51):
He needs in his own Yeah. Another comment here by
Sue Stowe saying the issue is you can't exercise effectively
while dealing with a lack of oxygen. Edited to he
should have tests. No more excuses about I'll just exercise.
Can't fix something if you don't know what's broken.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (47:07):
Like I said, with that list of like the snoring,
that's maybe something you need to look into. But everything
everything else seemed to you can fix overnight.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
Yeah, yeah, in aware of an effort.
Speaker 3 (47:17):
One last comment here by Jody Odell saying maybe he
should get some mental testing done. Could he have been
having early dementia or a mental health issue. It's strange
that he doesn't remember conversations or of course sleep APNA
or he's just checking out at home. He can't change
someone else, so Opie has to decide what she wants
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and who she wants and doesn't want to live with,
especially if he doesn't even want to try.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, gotta do something for himself.
Speaker 2 (47:46):
He's gotta do something.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
Yeah, I pointed out the problems and he just wasn't.
Speaker 3 (47:51):
I just hope he doesn't get to the point where like,
oh he's ready to divorce and he's like, okay, I'll
change for you now kind of thing, and like she stops.
I hope she just leaves them. If again, they don't,
if he doesn't change.
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
My girlfriend criticizes everything I eat and it's hurting our relationship.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Well stop eating the wrong slop.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
My girlfriend, twenty five female and I twenty eight male,
have been going out for ten months now and about
six months in I lost my job due to the VID.
Because of that, we were spending a lot more time
together and I think that is when she really started
noticing my diet. By the way, this comes from pats
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I'm Carly, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're here to
give good advice goofully, But we don't have all the answers.
We only know what we would do. Let us know
what you would do in the comment and Op says
a couple of disclaimers before I go further. First, I
really admit my diet was not the best before I
met her. Second, her dad is a diabetic, so I
think that's where some of this is coming from.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Yeah, what's the worst your diet has ever been? I'll
go first, corn dogs and goldfish three meals a day.
I was nineteen, How long, long time man? More than
a year? For like a month, I was just eating
frozen corn dogs and goldfish all day.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
The peak, the male peak, physique and diet right there,
Yes peak.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
The European mind could never comprehend the shit that I
ate at the age of nineteen.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Hot pockets, baby canned soup, ramen, but like the package
from Oh no cup noodles, not even ramen anyways, Long
story short, I changed my diet at her urging quite
a bit. I cut back heavily on fried food, down
to once or twice a month from multiple times a week.
How high was your cholesterol? Oh my god?
Speaker 2 (01:51):
He had cholesterol of it?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
He was cholesterol.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Hi, My name's cholester cholesterol?
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Oh my gosh, the blind one that sounds like Carly's dream.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Other than soda. I have entirely too much popcorn in
my diet, but I could be addicted to worse things.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
If white cheddar popcorn didn't get kernels all up in
my gums. That bothered me for like days after I
eat it, I would eat nothing but that.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
The thing is, I like fairly just plain salted popcorn,
so it's really like the best of the junk feeds,
so you could.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Be getting Sometimes I'm like, do you want some popcorn
with your salt?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I crave it, grape salt.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I crave the sawdium.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
I added more fruits and vegetables and apple and the
banana every day at least, along with veggies multiple times
a week, where before it was very little. I also
cut back on pasta and added more turkey, chicken, and fish.
For reference. I am not skinny, but I am not
obese either. If anything, I could stand to lose about
fifteen or twenty pounds since the pandemic started, but otherwise
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I am completely healthy, and she knows this. For her diet,
she eats exclusively fish, chicken, and Caesar salad while exercising
an hour per day. I am unable to exercise that
much due to bad knees that I both inherited and
previously injured, which she is also aware of.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
You know how you fix those bad knees, though, Gotta
work it out. It's like I don't know, I'm not
an exercise scientist, expert or anything.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
But it's depending how bad he messed up his knees,
he really might not be able to Well.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
No, it's like working at the muscles that support the
knee and then also the muscles that take the load
off of the tendons. The weaker your legs get, trust
me on this one, the worse your whole body is.
As a man with weak legs. I suffer this every
day of my life because I've yet to you know what,
every piece of equipment in our new apartments gym is
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just for legs, So my legs are about to be
freaking jacked, and I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Both.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
I was sad about it until they fix it. But honestly, genuinely.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Jazz du everything that you need for your upper body
you can do with just body weight. For me, though,
I hate squats, so I would love a machine.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Gets what we have a squat machine.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
So I'm gonna I'm gonna keep reading this.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Story there, Yeah, yeah, yeah cool.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
However, over the past month or so, she has started
heavily criticizing my diet again unprompted, to the point where
she does it every single meal. She sees me eat
things like do you really need that much bread when
it would be my second piece at a restaurant and
she eats the rest of the basket, or you already
had red meat this week, things like that. Whenever I
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hold firm, she immediately starts acting like a child who
does not get her way. She will start blaming me,
saying it's my fault we are arguing. She will say
she is unhappy and that she cannot take much more
of this and other things that threaten the relationship. I
will point out the very obvious double standard, but that
only makes her angrier. As this is my first relationship,
I do not know what to do but let it
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go for the fear of making it worse. I finally
decided enough was enough when on Friday we went out
on a date night that was also a trip to
up a cake for her parents' birthday at a restaurant
that she had never been to. We are from different
towns and she lives forty minutes away. Also, my mom
got this cake and brought it one time, and my
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girlfriend really liked it. I decided to get the roast
prime rib as I had not had it in a
very long time. From there, She immediately questioned it, and
I stood my ground, but I also got broccoli with
it to calm her down. This is crazy. She then
started crying as soon as the waitress left and said
things like, I do not want to be here. I
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just want to go home, and if you get mad
at me, I'm going to call my dad to pick
me up, all while still crying. What is she twelve?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah? Is this girl like here.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Really bad food trauma from her dad?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I'm really unsure, but it's like it's feeling like there's
a definite element of control here that she eats to,
you know, whether it's like self soothing or whatever. Like
she's got something going on, and by projecting her like
desire for your diet or whatever you eat, it allows
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her to cope with it in a way. I guess
that's my guess.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
It's crazy. I've basically told her that this has to stop.
I cannot deal with her criticizing my meals every day.
Fast forward to after the worst dinner I have ever had,
and we made it back to her parents' house. I
went to her mom, thinking maybe she could talk some
sense into her, because I had been trying to do
it for the past week with no success, and I
told her what happened. Her mom agreed with me and
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basically said, to my girlfriend, you cannot tell other people
what to do. It's going to make them do the opposite,
and if you continue to do this, you cannot be
in a relationship with anyone. Yesterday, she was fine and
it seemed like she had taken the message to heart. However,
at dinner tonight she went right back to her old self,
and I feel like I'm out of options. I don't
want to break up with her because I still love her,
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but I also cannot take the constant criticism. I have
a million other things to worry about now, between working
a full time job again that is actually a career,
and going to school full time as well. On top
of that, I then have to worry about what is
my girlfriend gonna think about this choice. I know this
may seem silly, but it has gotten to the point
where ninety five percent of our fights are this issue.
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I feel like I'm doing nothing but sitting eating and
minding my own business. I have already done almost a
one eighty from where my diet previously was, and I
have pointed this out to her many times, I feel
like if I give in to her, she will just
find something to criticize about my next meal and it
will be a never ending cycle. I am really at
my breaking point and I don't know what to do.
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Any help is much appreciated.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
We have some comments, but it's a hard place to
be in. But honestly, I think you're at a spot
where you just have to have a conversation that's uncomfortable
and you have to put it on the line and
be like, look, I used to eat really bad. I'm
very happy with the way I eat. Now I'm going
to eat exactly how I want to. And if that
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is a deal breaker for you and you can't deal
with it, then I think this isn't going to work.
And put the ball in her court, and that's all
you can really do at this point.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Yeah, he's criticizing you every time, and she should be
kind of supporting you because if you did a complete
one eighty of your diet and you change it, not.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Just for her but for yourself, his habits are so
much better now and she.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Should be so she should be commending you for that
and being like, you know, I'm proud of you for
doing this. Not you know, battering you down for every
time you eat like an extra piece of bread or
like it's you know, you get a cheat meal. It's
very very Yeah, some people are saying she needs therapy
because this is she does.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Yeah, I would approach it not with you know, any negative,
just approach it very factually and then also just be
curious of like why do you think you know this
is happening. It's hard for me to understand why you're
so consistently criticizing me for this, and I just want
to know why because I eat fine.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
I think it's definitely the relationship with her father. I mean,
that's probably what it stems from. But I mean I
don't want to just jump to that conclusion.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
So no, I think you're right, it's just because her
father had diabetes and stuff that she was worried about.
It just it sounded very deep in therapisty the way
you said.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
It, it was good, thank you, thank thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
What Kian said it just made me giggle because if
people didn't catch the part that her dad was also diabetic,
it sounds like you're just saying she has daddy issues.
She has diet daddy diet issues.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Databetes databetes. That could be two different options. That could
be two different kinds of Problemstop comments.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Desser it Rain says, this is who she is. You've
talked to her about it multiple times and even had
her mom talk to her about it, and she hasn't changed.
She obviously isn't willing to stop this behavior. Your only
real options are to break up, just put up with
the constant criticism and fighting, or stop fighting her on
it and just let her choose all your meals for you. Personally,
i'd break up, but if you don't want to do that,
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your only other option is to just live with her
dictating your diet. She's obviously not interested in stopping her behavior.
Delete it says, I'm a registered dietitian and it sounds
like she has some symptoms of disordered eating. The need
to be in control and the obsession with healthy food
suggests orthorexia. I am not qualified to make a diagnosis,
but I strongly suspect she needs professional help from a
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dietitian or perhaps a therapist. I'm sorry to hear you
are both struggling and we have an update.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Huzzah.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Yeah, at first I was gonna be like call her out.
Because she's eating caesar salad and if she has like
the caesar dressing in there, like that's that's not healthy
at all, but it is.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I think she's pretty healthy. No, she only needs chicken, salmalmon,
and caesar salad and she works out an hour.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Well, so that's kind of crazy that she can't like
that's all she eats, and she like goes insane that like,
oh my god, you're having red and meat.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
That's the thing, Like you can have a problem with
food because you're too healthy with food. Yeah. Update, First,
thank you for all the advice. I honestly thought I
would get responses along the lines of deal with it.
It's not a big but the advice you all have
given has really helped. I had a conversation with her
before leaving for work and basically put my foot down
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for real. I straight up said to her that if
this behavior continues, I will be breaking up with her.
She said she will stop. But I have my doubts.
For those of you who said that she may have
orthorexia or another eating disorder, after reading the symptoms, I
am inclined to agree with you, but speaking from experience,
bringing it up to her or her parents will only
lead to firm denials and a refusal to seek help.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Which is crazy to be like, yeah, you show her
the cold heart facts of like hey, you might have
this and she butt no.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah, well, that's common people to just deny that they
have an issue when they do.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
With that in mind, I have reserved a rental SUV.
I have a Camaro which does not have enough trunk
space for my stuff at my local place for Saturday
to bring what I have back to my mom's house
in case her behavior doesn't change. I have also started
looking at apartments near my new job, since it requires
me to live in the county as a condition of employment.
On the chance that this doesn't work out. I am
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not tossing in the towel on the relationship, but I
figure it's better to be prepared just in case, and
I can always cancel the rental.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Yeah, I was gonna say, having a move out suv
ready to go feels a little bit like throwing the toweling.
Not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
We have an update nine months later, though. Do you
think she fixes her ways or not?
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yeah? I think they're having a baby, A little baby,
hopefully not.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
So I know, I said, I would post an update
that Saturday, and I didn't, and I apologize for that.
Life got busy and I forgot to do so. Anyways,
on to the update. After speaking with her, she actually
did stop trying to control my diet. She didn't make
any comments about my diet or what I chose to eat.
I think me standing up to her made her realize
I was serious and that the relationship was going to
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be over if she continued with the behavior. This still
sounds like you guys broke up, though here we go.
Long story short, though, we broke up in July of
this year over other issues that clearly made us any compatible.
I realized that it was a toxic relationship and much
of her other behaviors were manipulative, which one of the
original commenters pointed out and straight up just childish.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I mean, cue the If we don't leave her now,
I'm going to call my dad to pick me up.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
She and her family were also very entitled and could
do no wrong in their eyes since they came from
a lot of money. The good news is that I'm
currently in a new relationship with someone who is so
much better in every way. It's literally like I'm dating
the female version of me. We have so much in common,
think about things, and view the world the same way.
It's only been a little over a month of officially dating,
but things are going really great so far, and I
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have high hopes for a future together in whatever form
that may be. There's a little bit of lived any thoughts.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yeah, well it looks like the uh you could have
just gone with the move out suv in the first place.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Sound they would have saved us some time.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Hey, but you know, sometimes things just don't work.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Glad she stopped criticizing your diet for those last few months.
Though it's a plus.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I guess it's nice. It's nice to be able to
not be criticized for things that are fine. What is
the crime enjoying a meal? A succulent Chinese meal?
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Democracy manifest.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
This is democracy manifest.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
The funny thing is, after my breakup, I said to
myself and those around me that I want to be
dating for a while, most likely into the next year,
and then this relationship fell into my lap when I
wasn't even looking for one. It's crazy how things work out.
Thank you again to everyone who commented on the original post.
Turns out most of you were right that I should
have ended the relationship right then. I truly believe though,
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that if I had done it, I would not have
found the woman I have found now. Was she one
of your girlfriend's friends.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
It's just, you know, everything happening, Everything that happens leads
us to the point that we are. Everything that happens,
including the French Revolution.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Okay, building comments Gambling Traveler says, good for you. Please
remember this from your earlier post. What is my girlfriend
going to think about this choice? Don't date someone that
you have to walk on eggshells around. My first relationship,
when I was a teenager, was full of this, so
luckily I learned at an early age. You are starting
a bit later than I did, so just make sure
to remember this. Opie says, thank you. Yeah, I definitely
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learned a valuable lesson. Chuck rings Linger says, I take it.
The X hasn't made things easy, Opie says the day's
following the breakup, No, she didn't. Her parents intervened too,
and made things even more difficult in terms of getting
back some of my stuff. After that, I haven't heard
from any of them, and I haven't tried to contact them,
which is for the best. Dreadful Water says, when you
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eat and order things in front of the new person,
is it relaxing now? Opie says very much. So we
like and eat a lot of the same foods. She's
also from a different country, so she's been introducing me
to some foods from her country. Nice. Let's the end
of that story.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Very nice, very nice.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
Found someone that's appreciate food. Yes, nice food. Kean who loves.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Food suckul Chinese meal meal, same timing on that.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
But that's the end of that story. And we got
another one.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
My rich boyfriend got me nothing for Christmas after I
raised his son for free break up with him. I,
thirty female, feel so bratty and spoiled right now because
of how my boyfriend thirty two male treated Christmas and
me this year. Christmas, Christmas, gift giving and acts of
service are my love language, and I know I shouldn't
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put so much value on it, but I really love
receiving gifts on Christmas. My boyfriend knows this. By the way,
this comes from users system Funny five four four nine
and if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the r slash Okay Storytime subburn it I'm Dakota.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we are here.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
To give good advice goofily, But we don't have all
the answers. We only know what we would do. So
let us know what you would do, your little goofball
down there in the comments.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Can you let me do what you're doing with your hands?
Speaker 2 (16:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (16:55):
What were you doing with your hands?
Speaker 2 (16:57):
Was being emotive?
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Wouldn't you like to know whether boy? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (17:00):
You like?
Speaker 1 (17:00):
No?
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Handboy? Handboy? Well, Christmas boys to a chat right now?
Speaker 3 (17:03):
One?
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Two, three, hand boy, hand boy? No, No, you don't
get to do it. This is at you. What if
I like it, then we'll have to figure out something
else to call you. Ope, he says. I have a
large family and buy for everyone. I don't go crazy,
but I spend about one thousand dollars over eight to
nine people. Money isn't necessarily an issue because I do
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have a job, but I also take care of our
home and my boyfriend's four year old child. So when
my paycheck falls short, my boyfriend will cover me. He
makes about eight times more than I do.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
By the way, what the heck does he do?
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Whatever it is, it's eight times as valuable.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
What do you do? Are you hired?
Speaker 2 (17:43):
But anyway, I love giving gifts and receiving them. He
knows this very well, but he also thinks he knows
better than me, and he doesn't think I need to
buy for my family or that they don't deserve it.
Over the past month or so, I've casually and also
not so casually, dropped hints on what I want. A
new perfume since I finally ran out of the one
he got me last year, possibly a new vacuum for
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the house. And the one thing I really wanted, an
antique curio cabinet that I found on Facebook marketplace. They
usually go for five hundred to three thousand dollars depending
on where you look, and this one was only two
hundred bucks and in perfect condition.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Snatched that up.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
I even contacted the seller and spoke to my boyfriend
about it, and he kept hinting that I would be
getting the cabinet.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
That's so depressing, then.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Yeah, that's why is he gonna eat? Why is he
leading you on about it? That's annoying.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
I will say, I think the vacuum shouldn't be a
Christmas present because why is he gifting you stuff to clean?
But if that's what you really wanted.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Yeah, I mean, op is the one who said that
they wanted that.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I would just be like, maybe maybe give me the
curio cabinet, the perfume, and then you need the vacuum
you show up later.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Yeah it can be. But anytime, Neil, that.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Could be a we need the vacuum now, Actually, maybe
we should get the vacuum.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Opie continues, But ay, I came home from spending Christmas
Day with my family and he from his father's. We
choose to spend the holiday morning separate with each of
our families and then do dinner together. And there's not
a single gift waiting for me. He didn't even clean
the house or try to do something nice for me
as a gift, because honestly, I would have taken a
deep cleaned house as a gift. He apparently waited until
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Christmas Eve to order me one thing and said I
didn't get more because I spent so much on my family.
Speaker 5 (19:28):
Like he spent so much on his family, or like
you no, no, no, okay, because I spent so much
on my family, you've decided to not get me anything
for Christmas.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
I'm breaking up with you. Just because that makes no sense,
and you're trying to, I guess, make a war because
it's like if he doesn't like her family, she drops
some line about how he's like they don't deserve it.
So now he's trying to be like, oh, well, you
gave them gifts, so I'm not giving you anything.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
It's like, break stop it up with this man.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
That's crazy. Meanwhile, I got him a very expensive hunting
knife and a new hat, which he complained about the color,
even though it goes with all of his clothes. I'm
just so disappointed and upset by the lack of effort.
My sister and her husband literally went out of their
way to get me a dice in air wrap because
I mentioned how I was saving to get one since
my boyfriend thought it was unnecessary, and to have them
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ask me what he got me and I have to
say that I came home to nothing is so embarrassing.
I don't know. I understand this is such a first
world problem, but I'm just so sad to come home
to the lack of effort. It's not even a first
world problem. I could have done anything.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah, I was gonna say to say, this is not
a first world problem. This is just a problem.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Yeah, I'm sad that he knows my love language and
did nothing for them. Being told I didn't get anything
because of how I gifted my family, even though we
have the money, I feel so unappreciated. Oh so he's
saying that it's like the communal money where it's like, yeah,
because you spent so much money on your family, we didn't.
You didn't have any money left over for your gifts.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Yeah, makes no sense.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Get him, Mada, Get him, Mady. I take care of
the house, I take care of his autistic four year
old full time. I do everything a good girlfriend should do,
and this is how I get treated. I'm just so sad.
I'm obviously not asking for advice. I just had to
get this off my chest. This Christmas genuinely broke something
in me. This Christmas genuinely broke something in me. Sorry,
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how to do that?
Speaker 1 (21:30):
I you know you're not asking for advice, but I'm
giving you some up.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Yeah, No, that's that's the move up. Christmas Christmas update.
I am realizing just how deep I'm in and how
blind I've been. I thought this was a one off
situation and things have gotten better, but clearly he's just
continued to mistreat and devalue me. I've started reading why
does he do that? And I'm nauseous over how spot
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on it is. I've also scheduled a therapy session in
hopes of figuring out a way for me to actually
leave this time and not let him manipulate me the
way he has continuously done in the past. Wow. I
deserve so much more in life, not even in a
materialistic way, but just in the way I'm treated by
my partner. I hope my next update will be saying
that I finally left his post and everyone's responses have
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opened my eyes to the changes that need to be made.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
I have great news for you. You are the one
that gets to make the next update that you left.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
It's the balls in your court and you know what
to do. Relevant comments Comment one says, have a heart
to heart conversation, EH, tell him how hurt you are
by the lack of effort. You need to evaluate whether
it was really the lack of effort or whether you
really just wanted a nice piece of jewelry. Hey, dumb, dumb,
did you not hear how she was like? He could
have cleaned the house and I would have been.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Happy anything it could have given me a hug an
or how like I clumped your present stuff in with
your families and that's why I didn't you something?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
All right? Well, Op does reply to dumb dumb here,
Op says, I did try to communicate my disappointment, and
he laughed at me and said, your gift money was
spent on your family. So what do we have to
say about that, mister commenter? We had established a budget
for my gifts and I stayed within it. I didn't
think me buying gifts from my loved ones meant I
wasn't getting anything in return.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Yeah, it's giving a financial control.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Yeah, oh my god. So another commenter says, did you
get money from him to buy gifts from yourself to
give your family? And just Op says, I send him
my entire check every month from work and he gives
me back my money to pay my bills and to
spend his ic fit for the household. I don't think
he's given you all the money. He just sounds like
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he would just of course he would take from you.
Why wouldn't he?
Speaker 1 (23:50):
Yeah, Like, why does it have to go to him
to go back to you? Never give all of your
finances away.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Yeah, unless it's to your accountant, and even then double check.
Comment three, he says, why are you with him again?
What do you like about him? Did he get his
child and he gives Honestly, it sounds like he doesn't
even like you. He treats you like a bang maid
who raises his kid for him. Do you want to
live the rest of your life like this in a
constant state of embarrassment and disappointment? My husband got me
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a coach purse, a Gucci perfume, and a brand new
Hilton pillow because about.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
It's commentor kick it pent a girl while she's down?
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Yeah, you deserve better go find it whatever. Oh, he
says at this point, I don't know why. I think.
I'm just afraid of how my family was right and
how I'll have to pick up the pieces. Well, we
don't ever want to live in a state where fear
controls our decisions.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
It's also not about being right, it's about or being
right or wrong. It's about you know what what's best
for you. And if you're really tired of this and
not being treated the way you want to be treated,
you can let them have it. Sure, but like, you're
not trying to prove a point anymore.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
You just get out of this. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Another commenter says he makes eight times your wage. What
do you make? I find it hard to believe. What
is it with people?
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Why is it such haters?
Speaker 2 (25:07):
Opie says I make about forty five thousand. He brings
in about three hundred and fifty k or more, depending
on how well the business does. So yeah, it absolutely
is possible. Math my dude, Okay, I'm just do we Okay,
here we go. There's another update here.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yeah. I don't care about stupid commenters right now.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Yeah I can't. Yeah, okay, so you've got an update
six days later. Hey, everyone, just thought i'd post an update.
Hopefully it's allowed, clearly it is. But I thirty female
posted after Christmas about how my boyfriend dropped the ball
with Christmas and that made me take a hard look
in the mirror and actually be honest about how bad
he was treating me and how I felt was not
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normal for any relationship. Anyways, I started the process of leaving.
I was completely honest with my mom and family with
what was going on with my boyfriend and how miserable
life been They've invited me back home with open arms
and offered to help me figure out my finances and
getting back into real estate. They have been patiently waiting
for me to leave him and are ready to go
(26:07):
to war for me. My brother offered to go pick
up all of my belongings and be there when I
pick up my dogs. My mom picked me up today,
and he thinks I'm just going by my family to
spend a few nights and see friends. I've actually brought
all my important documents and belongings with me, just to
get it out of the way. I haven't told him
what's going on yet because he is very good at
convincing me to stay. So I'm still working on how
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to open the conversation, but I'll figure it out. You
should open it and close it in one breath. I'm
leaving you. I've had enough. Don't contact me, and I'm
taking the dogs. And then if he tries to talk,
you go a la la la la la.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
I can't hear sleep people.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
I'm at a point where I can't turn back because
my family won't let me do that to myself. We
have got some more story here, We've got the family
is back up that's good. Now, don't let your pride
you from being in a better place in life.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
Yeah, he is financially manipulating you. A man with three
hundred and fifty k coming in shouldn't be taking your
entire forty five K paycheck.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Yeah, this was a brutally nightmarish control freak situation.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Yeah, and now he's only gonna get worse. Get out now.
I like your plans very clearly.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Just Ful disrespect is all he felt. Breaking up with
someone who clearly has a narcissismo tendencies is very difficult
and feels near impossible, but I know I will be
able to do it in the end. I'm anxious and scared,
but I know once I pulled the trigger and just
tell him I'm done, I'll feel so much better. Just
thinking about my life after this whole situation scares me
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but also excites me. I want to be free and
be loved properly, not just when it benefits my partner.
Hopefully I'll be able to post an update soon where
I've fully cut ties fingers crossed. I keep this backbone
that I've slowly developed. We have some comments here you
can do. Oh, this sounds like your support system is
ready enable, and if you feel like you would need
physical protection moving out, try asking any large male family
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members or friends you have to come with you to
get everything else. I've done it before. The name of
the game is silence. If he's still there while you
need to get everything, he'll probably try multiple methods of
talking to you and your loved ones to get you
to say but try not to react at all, verbally
or physically. If he gets aggressive, make sure you have
pepper spray or a taser on you and your loved ones.
(28:29):
You've got this and you'll have a much better start
to the year by getting rid of him. I wish
you all the luck. Op Opie replies, I'm gonna bring
my brothers. I'm honestly not too worried because my brother's
six to one and my soon to be x is
only five to five. Is this the anger of a
short man we're seeing?
Speaker 1 (28:45):
No, this is just the anger and stupidity of a
stupid man.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Okay, yes, yes, yes, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, But seriously,
I am so blessed to have the family I do.
They're dysfunctional, but they're ready to do anything to protect
me and watch me succeed.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Eh.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
And you know what, did OP ever get the Curio cabinet? No? No,
the girl sold it before I could get it. And
that's the end of that story.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
That's so sad.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Well sometimes Curio City. Uh, I don't know, I got nothing.
Uh yeah, that was that was a steal of a deal.
You can't be you can't even be mad that that
one's gone. Yeah, that was probably gone the next day.
But that is the end of that story. And we've
got another one.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
I was having a medical emergency but my boyfriend did
not care.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Yeah, no, sorry, maybe about have the bandwidth for that.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Oh, we have a trigger warning for substance regular use.
So I thirty two female, have been with my boyfriend
Devin twenty eight male for what will be four years
in May. I suppose, looking back on it now, there
are so many reasons I should have left it at
the one night that it was supposed to be. By
the way, this comes from girl who loves cows And
if you want to some amazing story, he's go to
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the r slash. Okay storytime, subreund it. I'm Carly, I'm Dakota,
I'm Keon, and we're are you here to give good advice. Goofully,
but we don't have all the answers. We only know
we would do. Let us know what you would do
in the comments. And I forgot to say this is
from the Okay storytime subreddit.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Yeah, of you, you should have left this guy four
years ago, like you said, that's my bet, and OP.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Says, Hey, it's Carly, your favorite Axelottel host. Here. We're
going to get back to the stories. But here's three
minutes of ads from our sponsors. I didn't want to
be alone for my birthday, so he made the three
hour drive from where he lived to my house the
day before my birthday. That night, something about him made
me want more, and he seemed to feel the same way.
(30:37):
But now here we are almost four years in and
yes I do love him, But the problem now is
I have to love myself more than I love him.
In November twenty nineteen, I had the lap band put in.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
It gets a thing to make you lose weight.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
I really wanted to lose weight so that I could
be healthier for my two daughters, Lily, who is now
eleven female and Linley, now seven female. I had severe
complications that my doctor didn't take seriously. My mental health
went to heck. By January, I was having surgery again
to have my gallbladder removed. It ruptured as he was
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taking it out.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Day the gall on that bladder, true.
Speaker 3 (31:19):
Did it broach?
Speaker 1 (31:20):
By the end of January, my mom, Sherry fifty six female,
had filed for temporary custody of Lily and Linley because
of how bad my physical health was affecting me mentally.
I couldn't keep any food down and was barely able
to keep liquids down. I started drinking hard booze as
pretty much the only liquid I took in that's I
made friends with a coworker who was also going through
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similar issues with her kids. I did the icy substance
one time and that was it for me. I had
found my new outlet.
Speaker 6 (31:50):
Oh no, this went on through three more surgeries and
over a week in the hospital with a severe infection
that doctor's mis his diagnosed for two and a half months.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Well and this is all really bad. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
In twenty twenty two, I met Devin. I was still
in the process of getting clean when I met him.
He made me feel like I was worth something. He
told me he loved me like three or four weeks in,
and by August he moved in with me. About five
months after he moved in, things changed. The affection, the attention,
it was just gone. I tried bringing it up with
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him multiple times, but each time I was met with
irritation and gaslighting. Our first anniversary was awful. He acted
like it was just another day. I have bipolar disorder
and I'm on the autism spectrum. He knew all of
this from the beginning. He would say things to me
like why would I want to be affectionate with you
when all you do is fight? Everything has always turned
around to be my fault. He has cheated on mem
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he has screamed at me, and he has told me
I'm better awful loon. Love that song by Alice DJ
break Up What That's mass?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
So we're done with that.
Speaker 1 (32:58):
But I think we are done with that, right, We're
done with him, right, We're done with this, We're done
with him, right. I so badly want to be able
to move on, But every time I build up enough
courage to finally say enough is enough, life seems to
remind me that financially, I can't pay all of these
bills by myself. I have two kids to take care
of and life is expensive. My family is very much
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on the side of that. I need to leave, so
are we. We're your family too, Yeah, in your family?
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Can your family not assist in any way?
Speaker 1 (33:29):
In August, my mama, ninety female, passed. She was my
favorite person in the world other than my kids. She
practically raised me. Devin wouldn't go with me to see
her when she was on hospice. He didn't want to
go to the funeral. He wouldn't hold me. The only
reason he hugged and held on to me at the
funeral was because my sister had to tell him to
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His lack of giving an f is what really solidified
things for me, But I still stayed.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
No.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Right after my mama passed, he lost his job. He
didn't find out another job until the end of November.
That is when I should have left. I have initiated
conversation after a conversation, but it always just spun around
to be my fault. I've suggested couple's therapy, but he
downright refuses.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
So like, even with his logic that all of this
is your fault, you can still leave. Yeah, you can
just leave with the logic of Okay, Well, it's clearly
all my fault and I'm not at a place where
I can fix it or be better for you. So
I'm gonna leave. If that's what he needs to freaking hear, whatever,
if that's what you need to say, whatever, just know
that that's not true. Yeah, and this is just terrible.
He's cheated on you.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
You'll know, will know, no one will judge you. Leave
this man. Christmas rolls around and I ordered him a
Christmas gift because I do love him. He had to
work that day, so we hadn't done gifts yet. Well,
it turns out he didn't bother to get me anything.
He went down to North Carolina for the weekend of
New Year's When he came back, he didn't want to
address the elephant in the room. We have had Spicy
Sleep maybe six times in the last six to eight months.
(34:55):
By the way, you guys can listen to month's worth
of episodes with stories.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Just like this.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Just go Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or iHeartRadio and search up Okay,
story time.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
I think you should have Spicy Sleep zero times in
the next infinity months.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
Because man, we need to leave this guy them no
more with this man.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
And with I think you'd probably end up being surprised
with how much more you can accomplish without this guy
dragging you down constantly, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. I think so too.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
You'll feel so free. Yesterday I started having really severe
chest pains that seemed to be radiating into my shoulder
to the point it took my breath several times. Wow.
I talked to my mom and she convinced me to
go to the er. I told Devin I was going
to go. He asked if I wanted him to go.
I told him that it was up to him. He
gets up, puffing and puffing about not wanting to sit
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in the er for hours on end, saying we wouldn't
be staying more than four hours.
Speaker 2 (35:52):
I love that that he would just what burst into
the hospital room and just drag you out. Yeah, we're
leaving the four hours.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
I just laid in bed and cried. He sat downstairs
on the couch, smoked some Devil's lettuce and played his Xbox.
This morning, he didn't even bother to ask if I
was okay? Did you not go to the ear today?
I sent him a message about how I am done.
I refuse to allow him to be the thing that
unalives me, both physically and mentally. I told him it's
time for me to love and respect myself more than
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I love him. And now I'm just trying to figure
out my next steps.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
That's the end of USA. Got to step one. Yes,
Step two is your dudes, you get to stay strong
on that. And step three is get your support system
around you. Yep, get your family involved, but hold so strong.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Don't go back to that man.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
Your family wants this for you. Yes, You're like, yeah,
I feel like I need to go to the er.
Something weird happening. And he's like, oh, oh yeah, it's
not a partner. But you've known this. You've known this
for a long time. So good for you for taking
that first step.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
But that's the end of that story. And we've got
another one.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
My brother volunteered me as his babysitter and said, my
hobby's don't matter.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Will My hobby isn't being a babysitter.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Is your hobby hobby horsing?
Speaker 1 (37:05):
I hope.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
So I'm a stay at home parent. All of my
children are finally in school. I now have the time
to delve into my hobbies and learn some new things
which I have been enjoying. During Thanksgiving, I overheard some
family members talking about their new bundle of Joy. By
the way, this comes from user apprehensive Fox twenty six
to fifty five. If you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash showcase storytime.
Speaker 1 (37:25):
So bredda it, I'm Dakota, I'm Carly, I'm Keon.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
We are here to give good advice. Goofy. Then we
don't have all the answers. We only know what we know,
So tell us what you know down in the comments,
and op says they were asked about childcare, and unbeknownst
to me, they said I was going to watch the child.
They never even asked me. I looked at them and
they just smiled like it was a privilege for me.
I wasn't trying to make a scene at the holiday party,
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so I didn't say anything. I just gave a look.
I do not, in any way, shape or form, want
to do that. I'll watch the baby here and there,
but not every day. Am I the a hole? And
there's an edit I want one hundred percent. Am having
a private conversation with them, which is what I would
have wanted them to do. I can and do stand
up for myself. I was caught off guard and honestly pissed,
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and I didn't want to make everyone uncomfortable at dinner.
I realized I should have simply said this or that,
but it wouldn't have come out of my mouth very nicely.
And no, my husband didn't volunteer me. This is my sibling.
Some of Op's comments, OP is clarifying that it is
my sibling. They do not pay me anything, and we
do not live together, and I do not watch any
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other children. We never had any discussions about me watching
their child. They are newly pregnant, and the only conversations
we've had are about the styles of the nursery. And
in response to another commenter, I am sorry that I've
confused a lot of people here. My brother is having
a baby with his new girlfriend. He himself volunteered me
to watch the baby. I overheard him telling other family
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members that I will watch their baby for them, and
a commenter says, not the ahole, But now they think
you agree and that's why you smiled at them. You
should have immediately said no, you won't be Opie says,
I didn't smile at them. I gave them a weird
look and they smiled at me. Deleted commenter saying responding
to someone saying, oh, Pie had no excuse to not
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just say no, which is crazy because social etiquette is
a thing, just a bunch of chronically online people who
don't know that conversations can't just happen immediately whenever or
wherever you are, right.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
I like the commoners just also probably would have been
mad if in the moment she was like no.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
Yeah, she didn't want to spoil the Thanksgiving for others.
Maybe she's too polite, maybe there's family history. I don't know.
People have reasons. Geez OPI says, you are exactly right.
I wouldn't have been nice, and it absolutely would have
caused a fight. They didn't want innocent family members thrown
into it or feeling uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (39:44):
Ah, so the family knew they cornered you. They're like,
we can get away with this. She won't, she won't
make things weird, and she just does this and like
doesn't say no.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
It's gonna be yes.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Yeah. But then it's like you can just make that
a no literally whenever. It's not like you're gonna be
babysitting tonight.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Even if you fully agreed to babysit and then start
a babysitting and then said I don't want a babysit anymore.
Mm hmm, guess what, you don't want babes anymore?
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Shy Fidelity says, I mean, you really need to stand
up for yourself when you hear things like that. Okay,
I'm done with these comments. I'm going to the update.
Here we go. Update. I realized some of you were right.
I needed to tell them asap so they can actually
plan daycare. So I called them last night. I calmly
asked my brother if he really thought I would be
watching his baby. He said yes, because I was home
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all the time. I asked him why he didn't ask
me first, and he said he didn't think he had to,
and that really pissed me off. I said I have
plenty to do and that if there's an emergency, I
will be there and help, but that I wasn't going
to watch the baby every day. He then got pissed
and said they planned for me too, and now they
have no idea how they'll afford childcare. Well, boohoo, that's
your problem and your fault. Yeah, he is upset because
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he also needs to work out for two hours a
day after work.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
Yeah, I'm definitely in all babysitting for you Nowaday.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
Dang, dude, you should take your baby to the gym
with your baby rich your baby joked.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
He feels now that he won't be able to do
that and will mess up his mental health. But they
don't care about yours, so booo, you.
Speaker 3 (41:10):
Should maybe have thought about that before having a baby.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
No, who's cried Boooooshi.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
They work from seven thirty am to four pm, which
is not even crazy, and they work out for two
hours after that. That's around ten hours I would have
this newborn. Also, dude, you just having a kid probably
gonna mess up your workout routine. Not gonna lie. Your
whole routine's gonna be different now, so get used to
that fact. So I would be watching the kid for
ten hours, I said, So, you're having a baby for
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me to take care of, so your lives don't change.
You want me to give up my free time, but
you won't. We have talked about how happy I am
in this moment with free time, and we have a
little bit left here.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
Yeah, don't bring your baby to my house because I'm
not watching him.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Yeah, no, is a full sentence. Let's finish this story.
He said a child is more important than your hobbies,
or maybe your own hobbies, since it's your freaking child, dummy,
your baby. Yeah, this totally set me the rest of
the way off. I said, mine are important to me
because I have them. Your child is more important than
the gym. It's not up to you to decide what
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I do with my time. You can work out at home.
I said, I was sorry, and I hung up. Now
it's going to be super awkward, but at least they
know now and.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
Want I want you to be some of those comments,
because some of them were down goods.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
There are some bad comments here. Let's get into them.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
I love the bad comments because they're so dumb.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite goofball host here, and we're
gonna get back to the stories. But here's three minutes
of ads from our sponsors. First commenter says, there's absolutely
no way this is real. The update about them planning
on OP babysitting and now being upset is two over
the top, Like the only reason they can afford a
baby is if OP baby sits. Yeh Na this is fake.
You've never met an idiot before. That's crazy. You should
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look in the mirror. Op says, it's not fake. I
wish it was. They can pay for daycare. They both
have jobs. It was a tactic to get me to
fold to his demands. Have you ever dealt with the
self absorbed person? Amerson says, So they didn't ask, and
they weren't even planning on.
Speaker 1 (43:03):
Paying you the story, Yeah, she answered all these questions.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Yeah, I mean, what's wrong with people? Enjoy your free time?
Lord knows, even if they are all in school, there's
still plenty to do in a household, So you enjoy
those few hours a day to yourself. Hope, he says,
I guess not me being paid was never brought up,
just that they couldn't afford a real daycare. Okay, well
the last one, wonderful, Avocado says. How do they not
understand costs involved with a planned baby, even if it's
(43:27):
only part time paid care, or how do they not
understand this? Hope, he says, they will be able to
afford daycare. They both have good jobs. He just wanted
me to fold by playing the pity party card, and
that is the end of that story raise your own child, dufis.
That's what I would have said, and I would.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Do it the fuel You're not dropping a baby off.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
But that is the end of that story.
Speaker 1 (43:46):
But we have some comments. You want to do what
you want me to do. Comments are from the video
my husband's disgusted me? Should I divorce? And it was
posted on July twelfth, five might be a good idea
TLDR looks like it's story one. Opia has been with
her her husband since high school and he's a great
dad who helps around the house. But over the last
few years, she's been getting more and more annoyed by him.
(44:07):
He forgets almost everything they talk about, snores even when
he's awake, smells bad, talks in a baby voice when
he wants attention, and leaves gross stuff in the sink.
They've gone to counseling and talked about it many times,
but nothing changes. OPI finally told him she feels super
lonely because she can't trust him to remember their conversations
(44:28):
and she can't live like this anymore. Now, she's waiting
to see if he'll actually do something about it or
if their marriage is over. If you're curious to know
the full story. You can go watch the full video.
I don't remember this one.
Speaker 2 (44:38):
I kind of remember this one. I don't really remember
this one.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
What was weird stuff? I don't remember that part interesting,
but I feel like I do remember this. This snoring
during the I feel like I remember this one being
like an actual medical issue in the end, unless I'm
thinking about.
Speaker 3 (44:59):
It, everything seemed I guess, like going over the list here,
he forgets almost everything they talk about, snores when he's awake,
smells bad, talks in a baby, the baby boys stuff,
and the leaving the growth stuff is in the sink.
It's that interesting. We can I feel like we can
fix that in a second, or like fix that very quickly.
The stores when he is awake and forgets and smells bad.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (45:22):
Interesting it really is, huh. All right, Well, we have
some comments which I'm going to read one second. We
have a comment here from Kyogia Brown sixty eight oh
seven and saying, but it is all on him. You
can lead a horse to water, but you can't make
that horse drink. She can't force him to do anything
he doesn't want to do. And from her perspective, and
(45:43):
y'all's She's in a way is forcing him to better
for himself, but she doesn't want to do that. She
wants him to put an effort into himself and the relationship,
and he isn't. Honestly, it's not immediate divorce, but I
won't be surprised if it happens.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
Yeah, if it's the one I'm thinking of. It definitely
was like she kind of did everything she he could
have done on her part, and he just was not
going further.
Speaker 3 (46:04):
Really interesting. Takes two to tango and does we have
another comment here by Melissa Sue monngreen Q and one
QV saying Opie has has said she has been talking
to him about this for years. I understand where Opie
is coming from. He he won't listen. I have a
feeling he is remembering conversations with friends and family. He
(46:25):
has to try and be willing to help himself. He
is expecting OPI to take care of him. Opie needs
to show him that this is her breaking point and
she can't handle it anymore. We are only human. It
can only take so much. Getting him skincare he won't use,
or making appointments that he won't keep. He is a
grown but man he can do it himself from now on.
Speaker 2 (46:44):
He's a grown man.
Speaker 1 (46:45):
He's a grown man.
Speaker 2 (46:47):
He's a groan yeaham.
Speaker 1 (46:49):
He needs to go to his doctor's appointments.
Speaker 3 (46:51):
He needs in his own Yeah. Another comment here by
Sue Stowe saying the issue is you can't exercise effectively
while dealing with a lack of oxygen. Edited to he
should have tests. No more excuses about I'll just exercise.
Can't fix something if you don't know what's broken.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (47:07):
Like I said, with that list of like the snoring,
that's maybe something you need to look into. But everything
everything else seemed to you can fix overnight.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
Yeah, yeah, in aware of an effort.
Speaker 3 (47:17):
One last comment here by Jody Odell saying maybe he
should get some mental testing done. Could he have been
having early dementia or a mental health issue. It's strange
that he doesn't remember conversations or of course sleep APNA
or he's just checking out at home. He can't change
someone else, so Opie has to decide what she wants
(47:38):
and who she wants and doesn't want to live with,
especially if he doesn't even want to try.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, gotta do something for himself.
Speaker 2 (47:46):
He's gotta do something.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
Yeah, I pointed out the problems and he just wasn't.
Speaker 3 (47:51):
I just hope he doesn't get to the point where like,
oh he's ready to divorce and he's like, okay, I'll
change for you now kind of thing, and like she stops.
I hope she just leaves them. If again, they don't,
if he doesn't change.
Speaker 1 (48:01):
Yep, that's the end of those comments in the end
of the episode. In the end of the stream, m hm,
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