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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body out be outwait everything that
I'm made, don't won't spend my life trying to change.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm learning love who.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
I am, I get, I'm strong, fail free.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I know everybody of me. It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
And that will always out way if you feel it,
but yours.
Speaker 3 (00:25):
And there she'll some love to the food.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
There, say good day and did you and die out way,
Happy Saturday, outweigh It's leanne here and what you're about
to hear are real stories from real women who have
faced some of their deepest struggles with food and their
bodies and face their demons and come out on the
other side. And so these are the raw, unfiltered journeys
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of women just like you, who once felt trapped in
their own mental prisons, caught in that endless cycle of
food obsession, you know, feeling like a failure in all
of that shame. And I'm sharing these with you because
I want you to know that no matter how stuck
or out of control you feel right now, there is
a way out. So if you're feeling broken or crazy,
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or like you're the only one who struggles with this,
you are not. You are not alone, and you are
definitely not beyond hope or healing. These stories are proof
that true transformation is possible, and I hope they inspire
you to see what's possible for yourself.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
So let's dive on in.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Well, Hello, ladies, and welcome to today's video. I'm here
with the lovely Lisa and she is a friend and
a client, and she is going to share her truth
with you. And as you can see the title of
this what I called it is age is just a number,
because we're going to talk about how it doesn't matter
how old you are, how young you are, you are
not too far gone, too lost to transform your life.
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And so really we're going to talk about how, you know,
Lisa really just found her way again after losing her husband.
She ditched the diet mentality and she really just got
her life back. She really just got her groove back.
So first of all, say hello Lisa, Hello everybody, We're
so cute.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Yeah, thanks for being here, Thanks for sharing your truths.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I'd love to just kind of have you give everyone
a little bit of background information, like where were you
before we met, Like what was life like, what was
your relationship with food, Like, what was your relationship with yourself, like,
give us a little picture of what was like before
we met.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Things were not too great. The food was only one
aspect of what was not great in my life at
that point. Leanne did mention my age, but I'm sixty
two and my husband died almost five years ago of
a terrible illness, and so that's not usually the I mean,
it's not young, young, young, but it's not like we
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expected anything like that to happen in our late fifties. Anyway,
I became a caregiver and I kind of was so
focused on him that I sort of wasn't caring about
how I took my care of myself that much. And
I'm not a person who always had problems with my weight,
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only at certain times in my life. My normal self
is actually kind of slim. I was a skinny child,
and only at certain points in my life did I
have issues with food over eating, and one time it
was because of medication I took. But this has really
been my problem since my husband died, or even with
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stick and I think what happened was I just got
in this mode. Well, first of all, grief can do
all kinds of things to your head. A lot of
stress and I was almost in shock for quite a while.
Took about a year, and even though now it's been
almost five years, I still don't seem to have gotten
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myself back together, or I didn't right before I met you.
In a lot of ways, I had let myself go
because it was sort of like, look how old I am.
Nobody's going to care what I look like anyway. What
do I care? I wear all these sweatpants every day.
You know, I'm never going to meet another guy anyway,
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because I'm too old and I'm just I got myself
into a depression, which was interesting because once I met
you would kind of redefined depression and too powerlessness, and
that was it was a real powadim shift for me.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Yeah you had just practiced it, Yeah, exactly, And the
result was depression.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Yeah, yes, it was depression. It was Oh and I
isolated myself terribly, which is another reason I didn't care
what I looked like because I wasn't going out much.
I felt like one of those old lady with living
with cats, and I felt invisible. So even if I
would go to family gathering, I'd be like in the corner,
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nobody really paying attention to me. Because the children running
around that I kind of felt invisible, like the old
aunt in the corner kind of thing. So I wasn't
I didn't have a self worth or a good body
image or any of that stuff.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Yeah, and what had you tried before this?
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Like I know you've done, Like obviously you just said
it wasn't just a food thing. So but what had
you tried for the food and the weight loss and
all that, And what did you try to address the
depression and the self worth and the way you were
feeling emotionally before we met.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Well, I think what had happened was because I was
still in a state of grief. And believe me, that's
you know, I'm always I feel like I'm going to
move forward in my life. I already do. I don't
necessarily move on. It's always with me and it.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Always never ends.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, even if I meet.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Even if I do meet somebody new, my husband sort
of will always be there and the new person would
have to understand that absolutely.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yeah, and we've talked about this, Like grief, it comes
in waves, like you think you're done and you're not done.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Like now it's just a matter of like how do
I handle this?
Speaker 1 (05:59):
So exactly me so off kilter and down that dark
rabbit hole like.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
It was for you. Right. So I sort of got
to the point where I thought, you know what, I
should kind of try to do something about this because
I do want to move forward. So I tried certain
things weight watchers. Of course, I had done weight watchers before,
earlier in my life, maybe twenty years earlier, when I
was having that other issue, and like you say, sometimes
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it worked till it didn't work, and you know, yeah,
I lost weight on weight watchers, but then it was
too annoying having to count points all the time. I'm
sure a lot of women are used to that and
feeling so guilty if I went off one day, Oh
you're bad. You did stick to it, and every time
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they make you weigh yourself and I don't know, you're.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Literally watching your weight, is what we watchers, you know
what I mean. It's like how you're measuring your success
by points, by tracking, by weighing, by measuring, and there's
a lot of like positive elements of weight watchers.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
This is not about knocking weight watchers, but right, he said,
it's not a lifelong solution, and.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
It's not and it's not really geared toward anything but
food and weight loss, and I find that I remember
a lot of the stuff even now. But that's okay
as long as I don't use it against myself. Right,
So if I went on this yeah as a weapon,
like oh this time you didn't eat right, you probably
gained a pound yesterday, I don't start feeling angry at
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myself because I figure, so what, you know, I I
know what to do and it's not a big deal.
I don't get that's you talking now, yes.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah, which is so cool because yeah, what would former
versions of yourself have said to yourself if you gained
a pound on the scale.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
At weight Watchers, that's really bad. You're not doing it right.
If I have to go on the scale at tomorrow's meeting,
oh my god, I better. I better really not eat
much today to make up for that totally. You know,
that was it. It was like making up for something absolutely, Yeah,
something bad for sure.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Yeah, so you've done a lot of the diets, especially
your weight Watchers.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
I think wait is one of those ones that a.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Lot of us have been like, oh, I was on
weight Watchers like twelve times, you know, I know I was.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Yeah, I mean there were little gimmick things too, like
I remember one where kitchen is closed at seven pm,
you know that type of thing, so I'm not supposed
to pretend I'm locked out of the kitchen. Yeah, Or
there's another one where if you're good, you put a
marble in the face that you see the marbles come.
You know it's just right, and they really Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Absolutely, And what had you done to try to address
the emotional stuff that you were dealing with as well?
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Oh? Well, you know, I saw a therapist and I
am still seeing her, and she is she is excellent
in all other areas. In fact, she's the type of
therapist we don't dwell a lot on the past. She
certainly knows a lot about pest and how I've gotten
where I am and the events, and she helped me
enormously with the grief. She helped me enormously in the past.
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When they were I was having some other issues, but
we really didn't focus on my weight because it wasn't
much of an issue. As I say, for most of
my life, it wasn't much of an issue. And when
we did talk about it, it was so brief and
I would try for a few days and it just didn't.
I don't think she was a specialist, Like I know
there are some people who are food specialists food therapist
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season and that might help some people. I don't know
if it would have helped me. I don't know, but
finding your program definitely has been a game changer for me,
definitely amazing.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
What would you say has been the biggest shift for
you as a result of the program, Like, what have
you noticed, what's different about you? Like, what's changed as
a result of going through this process together.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I think that a lot of it has to do
with a paradigm shift we talk about where I'm looking
at things in a different way. A lot of it
does have to do with the words you use when
you talk to your your self, and certainly with food
that has been obviously successful. I totallyand that I lost
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twenty pounds since I started her program. And you know,
I didn't even really I would never felt like I
was denying myself anything. But it's more of your thinking
yeah before you do.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Absolutely yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
And I just want to interject something real quickly because
ladies that are watching this for the record, like and
Lisa will attest to this, like I am adamant about
the fact that like this is not a weight loss program,
but you're probably gonna lose weight aser result. But like,
and you know this, you hear it on the calls,
like women come to me, like you know, part of
it is like we have to shift the weight loss mentality.
When we go in in mind with like weight loss
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in mind, we end up with that diet mentality, and
it's a it's a perpetual cycle that we have to
we never get off right, And so part of it
is like we have to table the weight loss mentality,
find the freedom, find the peace of mind, get your
power back from the food and from all the power
on your head, right. And then when you do that,
the effect is usually weight loss because it's not the weight,
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it's the weight of the weight as I talk about it.
And so would you may speaking to that like obviously,
like I didn't push you on a diet. I was
like very like, hey, this is not about weight loss.
And you even said, like is it cool that I
mentioned that we that I lost because because you know
how much this is not a weight loss program. But
I'm like, of course, and like I also want you
also lose weight if it it'll make you better stronger,
happier versions of yourself. Right, It's just that oftentimes the
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way we were doing it and who we had to
be to do it was awful. So would you speak like,
I mean, what was your experience like while losing twenty
pounds and twelve?
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Oh? My gosh, So what was like?
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Now you know what I mean by saying accidentally losing weight?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I know it's true. It's so funny because I think
a lot of it has to do with well, in
the beginning, we don't even do weight loss that much.
We do things like how would you describe yourself? What
are your different roles in life? And you know, it's
a lot about how we talk to ourselves and we
all I picked three words for myself. One was the
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first one powerful, which was really so I have sense
of I'm in control. The food is not in control
of me, and that goes with other areas of life too.
I'm in control of these papers that have piled up
on my desk and that are making me stressed. The
papers are not in charge of me.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
You know.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
It just goes with so many things. Yeah, and yeah,
another thing was enough, was one of my words. I'm
a perfectionist, A lot of us are I think perfectionists,
and I would always feel my work no matter what
work I was doing. Over I was a change career
person in the middle of my in my forties and
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then you know, I had been in communications that I
became a teacher. Now I'm in politics, and whatever I'm
doing is, oh, it has to be perfect, it has
to be perfect. And I learned that perfect is the
enemy of the good in a sense. So I took
a lot of that weight off of my should weight, yeah,
off my shoulders. And also you helped me with that,
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because when I talked about it, it's almost a guilt
like at the end of the day, I owe and
always and whatever career I was in, and as a
mother raising my child this way too, I had to
be perfect mother. So it's sort of like maybe instead
of feeling guilty at the end of the day, Oh,
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I I didn't do everything I was supposed to do,
it became more. And you helped me with this. It
became more I did what I could do. I did everything.
You know, I did what I could do, and it's enough.
Instead of oh, you didn't do enough, you didn't do everything.
I did enough. I did what I could do, so
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enough was a very good thing and also mindful, being
aware of what was going on. What is my need
right now? Is it really to go get a bag
of cookies and sit there and just even though you know,
even if I didn't like the contu sure know.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
And it's about having those tools because I know there's
so many different things out there that tell you, like
be mindful and you know, just think before you act.
And it's like, well, wait a minute, how do I
do that if I've been reacting and I've been being
a perfectionist my whole life. So these things that we
talk about in theory, it's actually like how do we
get down to it and create this and not just
do it, but become the version of yourself that just
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shows up that way, because this is just who you
are now, Like you just get to show up as Lisa.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
I've been meditating for quite a while, so this was
sort of a natural meditating. The way Leanne does it
at the beginning of the sessions is really really helpful
and it becomes a way of kind of helping you.
I mean, once you get into it, it's a practice. Yeah,
once you get into it, it's a way of sort
of focusing and centering yourself for sure, and so I
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find mindfulness as part of that. And if I'm sitting
being a couch potato watching something on TV other than
the news, because I don't want to be stressed, so
I'll put on some old, you know, rerun of Seinfeld
or something, I could become a couch potato very easily.
And I still do that at times. But if I
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in the past would like I said, go grab some
cookies or chips or whatever, now I say, I stop,
and I say to myself, this is a mindfulness. I
say to myself, you know what, am I hungry? Am
I hungry? I asked myself, And usually the answer is no.
I'm not kidding because I have a certain as I say,
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I don't even want to eat when I'm not hungry.
It's sort of like being mindful of the fact that
I'm listening to my body. Yeah, And so I say,
I'm not hungry. Why am I going to eat?
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Right?
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Right?
Speaker 2 (15:58):
So then I wait, and I don't wait, don't do
something else, and lo and behold, an hour or two later,
I am hungry. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
So at that point out your body, now you're not listenings, you're.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
Not just that's amazing. Yeah, I love it, Yeah, I
love it.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
So why do you think that? First of all, like,
why was this different than anything you've ever done?
Speaker 3 (16:20):
And why do you think this was more successful?
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I mean you've done all the diets, you've been in
therapy for years, Like, why was this different?
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Why was this so successful for you?
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Well, for one thing, you did an amazing and amazing
job designing this program. I don't know how you did it.
As I said the other day, oh my gosh, she
is so smart. She figured all this out.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Lots of failures, lots of failures, suffering is what created
this program.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Amazing, it's amazing. I think that what's different, and I
mentioned this to you, I think the other day what's
different is that even if I quote fall off the
wagon a little bit, which happens to everyone we talked
about that, things happen in life. I feel terrible. We
may grab a little more that day because we're just
like who cares? But I feel like I have the
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tools because of your program to have the confidence and
have the trust in myself. It's really a matter of
having trust and more self confidence that we develop through
the program to know that this will continue. This is
a lifelong thing now that I'm doing it. It's not like, oh,
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in wait Watchers, they have a thing, or at least
they used to where you get to be in the
program free if you don't gain more than two pounds
or something like that. So it was always sort of
a punished thing. And in this way, it's it's like,
wait a minute, I know how to do this again.
I can do this. I did it now, I can
do it again. And it's not going to take me
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years to get back to it. I can go back
to it anytime. I need to have your breadcrumbs. You
have your recipe, and it's believe the recipe. Everyone's recipe
is different.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
It's not my recipe like you cultivated it. We crafted
it throughout the program, you know, And like that's the thing.
There's no wagon anymore, is really what it is. There's
not a wagon because there's no like extremism, there's no
inou on off.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
It just is life.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
And then if you have that more cookies than you
wanted to, it's it was either intentional or it's there's
it's not this shaming blaming, and it's not really happening
that much, but every once in a while it does
because it does happen to me too, because we're human
and cooks are delicious, and I don't have to tell
you living in that world where you don't eat it.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
This is hilarious. This is hilarious. Last night I had
already had dinner, but somehow when I went to bed
and I thought I would really like something sweet right now. Yeah,
and in the past I was like, oh, and I'd start,
you know, going at it, and then I would never
feel well at night. I was like, oh, no, I
need some alka seltzer in order to sleep. You know
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I didn't. It's sort of like when you say, how
do you want to feel? I want to feel like
I can go to sleep like I don't have a
stomach ache. Okay, how am I going to accomplish that
well by not eating a lot of close to bedtime?
But I really felt like something sweet. So girl Scout
cookies have been around lately, and how can you say
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no to a girl Scout? So I, of course thin
mints are wonderful. So I took a thin mint ik
one thin mint, and I ate the I thought, well,
I'll have one and if I want another one or
another two, that's fine. They're these little cookies. So I
ate one, and I said to myself, do I need another? No,
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that's sort of satisfied that need for a little sweet flavor. Yes,
I stopped at one, but not because I felt I
had to. It was because I again the mindfulness, the mindful.
Am I need in need of another cookie? No, it's impassing.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Yeah, because first of all, notice ladies there.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
She like, do I say, don't have fin mints? Like
it's just like, yeah, food is food you now.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
And I remember when this first like started happening to me.
I was like, wait a minute, I just had one
tablespoon of peanut butter, or I just had like auscup
of ice cream, or I didn't finish my plate like
the Clean Plate Club, you know what I mean, right,
And I remember being shocked and I was like, oh
my gosh, like I can't believe that just happened.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
That's never happened, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
And that's that's what it is. So it's not like, oh,
I know, because here's the thing, like we said, there's
no wagon to get on or off of. Also, you're
always allowed to have cookies. By when you choose to
not because you're.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
So you know, your inner food police gets so.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Tired that your inner rebel says, oh my god, and
I have to have all the cookies. Right, It's it's
a choice, and you get yes. And now you're so
tuned into your body and you're so committed to your
forever self that you're not putting yourself through that. But
also you're not feeding your emotions with sugar anymore. So
there's right, red.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
Things going on. Like I know you're sharing the end.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Result, but there's so many things that we did to
kind of reverse engineer that process and now you just
get to have Because here's the thing, ladies, your relationship
with food is three dimensional.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
It's not just emotional.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
It's neurological, like there's fired and wire patterns that.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
Have been going on for decades for most of you.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Right.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
There's also a physiological response, right, And then there's obviously
the mental side of it, like the thinking part, and
then the emotional part of it, like your social brain,
the emotions that come alongside it. It's multi dimensional and
that's why you have to address all of them, but
in a way of freedom, yes, structure your brain's gonna
want structure, but structure is not control. Control is the
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opposite of freedom. And so I want you ladies to
hear how she's just like, yeah, this is just what
I do now, this is how I make decisions. But
she had to change her thinking around food. It didn't
come from another more of the same, which is can't
have this, can have that good, bad, right, wrong, should, shouldn't.
And it doesn't come from restriction, deprivation, punishment, persuasion and control.
It came from shifting her thinking. But before we even did,
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the part that you guys haven't even didn't see obviously
or still haven't seen, is that for the first three weeks,
we just needed all self image, all about burning back
her own trust, weighing and measuring herself based on a
currency of her own choosing that did not have anything
to do with the scale or how much she got
done that day. Right, self endorsement rather than needing it
from everyone else. Self care And that's a physical, a mental,
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as social, emotional, and a spiritual conversation because most people
are just making it physical and it's just not a
food or fitnessing right. And then the self esteem is
the no like trust factor, getting yourself your trust back.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
And here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Most women they are walking around, they love themselves, but
they don't like themselves very much, you know. And so
you can earn that like and that trust back and
that respect back, you know, and it all adds up,
you know, but you keep it. And oftentimes when we
do get into the food stuff, once we've done all
that stuff, the food, a lot of the food stuff
just disappears because it's not a food problem.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Well, I'm not obsessing like I did. That's the thing
people obsess when they're on these diets, and it's like
all they're thinking about is food. What should I eat
for this? What should I plan ahead for this? And
I don't obsess about food. When I'm hungry, I eat
whatever I think is good. I try to be nutritious
about it, because you know, everybody does. Certainly you want
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to be healthy, and I do listen to you know,
I don't want my cholesterol to go high or I
don't want to get diabetes. Although in fact, that was
part of my big motivation for getting into this program.
It was also being healthy and fit, and it was
also I want to fit in my clothes now too,
not just sweatpants. So now I can wear a lot
of the things that I couldn't before, and that makes
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me feel like I want to be seen. I want
to go out and be attractive as attractive as you
can be at my age. Anyway, we'll work on that.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
No, I'm kidding, as I was going to say.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
You know, some of these things. What they do is
they transfer over to other parts of your life so
that you learn these things about food. But then you
can say, oh, now I'm going to try to use
the same time types of tools. Leanne knows I have
this thing with going to bed at a decent hour
because I don't have to get up early for work
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anymore because I'm retired. Basically, it's like, oh, I could
stay up till three thirty in the morning. Who cares?
I could sleep till noon. I could be like a teenager. Yeah,
and you know that's a very bad habit that I
want to get out of. So I'm kind of working
on that the way I worked on the food problem.
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But what I find, and I like this about the
program too. First of all, you never kind of scold
us if something goes wrong. You encourage us. You even
say things like, I'm glad that happened because it was
an opportunity to learn something. And that's so different from
other diets or other exercise programs or that say you
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didn't do your ten push ups today or whatever it is.
But the thing about going to bed, the other thing
is taking baby steps, not expecting everything to change at once.
So if I'm used to going to bed at three
o'clock in the morning, which is ridiculous, I'll bring it
down to okay, I'll try two thirty instead of three.
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And that might not sound early to anybody, but to
me it is because I was living three o'clock. Yeah, wow,
I could do two thirty, and I do that for
a while and then at some point, oh maybe I
can do two. But it's really in baby steps and
I'm still on that journey, but I start it's.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
A lifelong journey. There's the stuff on something that you said,
like first is first, it's like the tools that we teach.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
Yes, they work beautifully for food, as you're an example of,
but they are tools that you can use in every
area of your life, right, because it's three dimensional, right.
But also what you're sharing is like one of the
things that we do in week one, as you know,
is like we eliminate that zero to sixty extremist. Is
that the problem that extremism that radical Like I'm going
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to go from do sitting on a couch to running
a five k on Friday or mean or like I'm
going to totally give up all cheeseburgers and only eat
rubarb and kale. It doesn't work, you know. So part
of what you know we do is we make sure
that we work with your brain because if your your
neurological system is stressed, it is not going to do
it very long and it's never going to become who
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you are. That's why diets. They work for a little while,
but then they get harder the more you them, and
we get worse at them the more you practice them
versus the modalities and tools that I'm teaching you, ladies,
Like they get easier the more you practice them, and
they become you Like, you have to think about it
less and less because.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
It absolutely brain. That's what I meant about not obsessing
and just sort of asking myself. Hmm, Oh, there's something
interesting because I was saying about couch being a couch
potato and instead of snacking. I kind of realized again.
It was like a revelation epiphany, you know what, I
just want to be doing something with my hands. Yeah,
(27:04):
so I have. I have a friend who makes those
adult coloring books there called mandalas I and I got
some of those and I got some markers and loan behold,
I could be a catch potato. But I'm so into
coloring that it really takes you know, it's so nice,
like it formed meditation because it relaxes me and I'm
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not stuffing my face with food. Some people like to knit,
you know, they're all kinds of things when you ask yourself,
what do I really need now? Do I need food
or snacks? Or do I just need to do something
else maybe even take a walk or whatever. So it's
a it's again I feel a paradigm shift of sort
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of checking in with myself before.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
How you take your power back? You have your power
back now?
Speaker 2 (27:53):
Yes? Well yeah I do. And you know it's it's
a good feeling to know that I'm not being punished.
I'm learning lessons along the way. This is a lifelong
thing to be overwhelmed. Like you said in some of
these over over you know, fast zero to sixty. It's
so overwhelming, and then when you don't do it, when
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you don't accomplish it, you just feel guilty again. And
then it's a vicious circle because oh no, I'm horrible,
I better try something. And it's just I think it's horrible.
A lot of women live that way for so many years,
and it's just I can't imagine how that must feel.
It's just absolutely yeah, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
And on that note, I'm curious to know, like, what
would you say to any woman who's sitting on the
fence right now, Like, because we know that the diet
mentality is very seductive, it's so easy to want to
be like, hey, let me just go on a diet,
lose a bunch of weight really quickly, and then all
of this stuff will come back around full circle. So
what would you say to any woman that's sitting on
the fence about taking a leap, about you know, transforming
from the inside out and really healing her relationship with food,
(29:02):
healing her relationship with self, healing her relationship with her body,
and instead of like you know, paying all of that
short term cost, like actually investing in her future. What
would you say to anybody that's sitting on the fence
and is tempted to go back into that seductive world
of just like losing weight real quickly.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Yeah, there are a few things. The diets that you
see out there do not address the whole you, as
you said, the mental, the physical, the physiology, the emotional,
whatever you want to call it. And this program does
in a very systematic, structured way in a way that's
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easy actually, because land builds up, you know, from this
to that to the other. It's not like, you know,
do this and then go back to that, but we can.
We always know the bread crumbs that we can go
back to when we need them, which is great. Another
thing is I was skeptical at first. You know, oh
my god, see all these things on the internet. Well,
(30:00):
that's the thing. I tend to be the type of
person who you could put on my forehead gullible. I
have been that way my entire life. So one thing
I was working on was trying not to be gible
at the time that I first met you, Leanne, and
I realized that, oh, I see these things on the internet.
I see ads, I see this so much about dieting,
(30:22):
and this is this another scam they're just trying to
take your money but not really help you. But after
talking to Leanne the first time we spoke, I even
expressed that to her. But after talking about it, I
kind of realized and I thought about it a lot
afterwards before we had another call, and I thought, you know,
(30:42):
this sounds different, This sounds more holistic. It's really a
program where you are addressing the rest of your life too,
And I thought, what again. For the first time, I
sort of felt I'm not worthless. I'm not so guilty,
always like what could I have done differently that would
have helped my husband? But if I think about it, nothing,
(31:06):
There was nothing I could do. He had a terminal illness.
I did as well as I could in terms of
supportive and anything he needed in a physical sense. If
he needed food and couldn't get up to get it,
I did everything I could have for him. So but
you still have this guilt, and it's like, it's like,
I'm sure people feel it's guilt all the time, especially
(31:30):
women who are struggling with anything, including food. And I
feel like, I said, why not invest in myself for
a change. I'm always doing things for other people A
lot with women doing things for my son all the time,
doing things now for my elderly parents. I'm not regrudging
(31:50):
any of that. I think it's great doing the things
for my sick cat, you know, doing things. And all
my friends often would come to me to vent what
their problems were, and because I guess I'm a good listener,
and they felt bad. So I thought, what am I
doing for me? You know, it's time to do something
for me also, And I think I thought of that,
(32:14):
and I said, I need to make an investment in myself.
I need to give a gift to myself. And this
I decided this would be a gift i'd give myself.
And I would say to women out there who are
considering joining the program, I don't know, Leanne what your
experience has been, but since I've been in it, I
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hear a lot of positive feedback. I love those group
calls by the way that we do once a week,
because we all hear each other's experiences. And I've heard
such positive things from a lot of women who are
in this program, where whatever our circumstances are, and they're
all different, we are somehow moving forward. As I said,
(32:58):
I haven't heard too many people's say. I haven't heard
anyone say forget this, it's not helping now. I don't know,
maybe you have had people like that in your program,
but I have a feeling that anyone who's on the
fence out there should at least realize that many women
benefit from this and maybe they're one of the people
(33:20):
who would benefit, and that you're such a caring person
that as a client people I feel cared for. I
feel like you really care, Like you're not just doing
this as your business, but you really I mean it
is your business, but you really care about the people
you're working with, and that helps a lot. You're not
(33:43):
just going to some place where they don't even know
your name, much less what anything is in your life.
So that makes a big difference. And the help desk
makes a big difference when you're stuck about anything during
the week anytime. Leanne is very recent sponsive. If you
go there and say I'm having a little issue with that,
(34:05):
this or that, and it doesn't even have to be
a big thing, and there she is getting back to
you and help. Yeah, it's wonderful.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Well, thank you for sharing that. I'm so glad that
you had those experiences. And I mean it's just a
testament to how you showed up in the program and
how you just took.
Speaker 3 (34:22):
Back your power and I was just your guide. You
did it, you know.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
So before we sign off, what is there anything else
that you want to just share, any any words of
wisdom or insight that you think that other women might
need to hear.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
Well. I think in terms of the sort of calming
yourself down in your life, because a lot of the
women in our group are very you know, racing around
in their lives.
Speaker 3 (34:47):
We're very like a success group.
Speaker 2 (34:49):
Yeah, a lot of high achievers that type A. And
I think that's very stressful in many ways. And I
think being in this program, some of the things we
learn is a lot of times we stress out so much,
and that leads to the food and the snacking. I
learned a way of calming myself down. I was always
(35:11):
a very triggered person. You know, if somebody said something
that I didn't like, even if it wasn't toward me personally,
I would get so upset and triggered that it could
ruin the rest of my day because I was obsessing
about that. If you remember, yes, obsessed about food, whether
(35:32):
it's somebody said something whatever totally and now I find
that I can sort of recognize when that's coming. Oh
you're going to get triggered again. Bye bye, this is ridiculous.
I can talk my way through it. I didn't even
know who that person is. I don't even know what
he said that I had anything to do with me.
(35:53):
And am I really again powerful? Am I going to
let this control my day and the rest of my
day and it's going to be ruined? And I said no?
And it's just again noticing things about what you're doing
to make yourself more stressed than you were would have been.
(36:15):
And so I have found that it's it has really
calmed me down in a lot of ways. And I
think that has helped with not grabbing a lot of
food and as you say, kind of losing weight, because
it's just like going along with everything else I'm learning offshoot.
Speaker 1 (36:31):
Yeah, because again, you didn't have a food problem, it
was all the other stuff.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Yeah. And I think it's also important for people to
remember that this has to do with not just food,
but your relationship with food. And I think there's a
big difference oh everything too. Yeah, And I think that
that's another thing I would add that Leanne really helps
us understand that it's not the food, it's how we
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really to the food and everything else in our lives.
I would add that amazing.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
Well, I'm so proud of you. I'm so excited for you.
Speaker 1 (37:10):
I'm so excited that you got to go home to
yourself and you actually this next chapter of your life
and be all of who you are and you're not
hiding and you're not sunkin into old habits and you
just get to go show up in the world and.
Speaker 3 (37:23):
Be your beautiful self.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
So well, you know, it's sort of like when I
met my husband, and I actually met him like ten
years ago, which is unbelievable, but it was second marriage anyway,
later in life, second marriage for both of us. And
at that point I was my attractive, regular self, or
I wouldn't have been showing up with those vibes and right,
(37:47):
but it's really the vibes you send out, absolutely, and
so at that point when I met him, I was good. Yeah,
And then when he got sick, that's when everything started
to go downhill for me as well. I think it's
within the past decade that I've really experienced this problem more.
I feel like, Okay, it's the end of the decade.
(38:07):
I can start fresh, right and yeah, yeah, so that's amazing.
Speaker 3 (38:12):
Well, now you have it.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
Thank you for sharing your truths with us, and thanks
for sharing your story. Thank you so much for you,
so proud of you, and it's just the beginning, and thank.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
You enough and good to know. The other thing people
should know is that there are options to reconnect with
Lean if you need to. And also you have the
materials at your disposal forever, the videos, the worksheets, whatever
you need is there for you. Even if you don't
(38:44):
reconnect with Lean directly, it's always there for you to
go back and remind yourself of what you want to do.
Speaker 3 (38:52):
So well, thank you so much for sharing your truth
with us. You're amazing. I love you so much.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
You too, You're amazing.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
Yeah, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
All Right, ladies, it's been a great, great interview, so
thanks for tuning in and we'll see you really soon.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
Bye bye bye.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
Thank you so much for listening today. And I hope
this story gave you a little more hope and maybe
even some inspiration to see what's possible for you to
remember you're not broken, you're not crazy and you're definitely
not alone in this. And if you want to learn
more about how I teach my clients to turn off
the part of their brain that's obsessed with food or
obsessed with their weight and rewire their own brain for
(39:34):
peace and freedom, then head on over to stressless Eating
dot com and sign up to watch the Stressless Eating
sneak preview, where I've literally peeled back the curtain and
walked you through the exact strategy I teach my clients
to heal themselves from the all or nothing diet mentality
for good, but without restricting themselves, punishing their bodies, and
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definitely without ever having to use words like macros low
carb or hllary Byrne. It's there for you to access
over at stressless Eating dot com and if you like
out Weigh, I actually have another podcast here on iHeart
where I talk about all of this self image and
body image stuff but from the perspective of where brain
science intersects faith. It's called What's God Got to Do
(40:18):
with It? And you can access it here on iHeart
or wherever you get your podcasts. So that's it for today.
I'm Leanne Ellington and we'll be back for more outweigh,
so talk to you then bye.