It Gets Sticky FT. Big Sexy

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Niggas is literally the easiest thing to get. It's not
hard to get. It's not hard to get a niggas
if somebody and believe it ain't because it's hard for
her to get one.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
So it's so easy. Like even if you got your
own nigga, when your nigga be mad at you, it's
so easy to get your men to not mad as
you are, to get your man back or whatever the case.
Men are just easy. They they are, so they are.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
It's so easy, especially when you look lip gloss head done.
It looks like pop get fifteen numbers and I'm fifteen men.

Speaker 4 (00:35):
Yeah, the quality is probably two good ones.

Speaker 2 (00:37):
But it's so that is easy, That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Like, if women are single, it is not because they
can't get a mean people gotta start projecting it.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
Uh huh, what's up, Y'all's your girl Alex p?

Speaker 5 (01:11):
And is your girl?

Speaker 2 (01:12):
Dre and the call and you are tuned in to
another episode of Poor.

Speaker 5 (01:16):
Mine, whereas drunk Mind speaks sober but.

Speaker 2 (01:20):
We gotta guess today. We gotta guess today. So if
you are on social media, you know who this person?
Social media influencer, a meme god I got like six
means of you and my phone. I know, okay, and

(01:40):
I don't know if you call you, but you're a
comedian to me as hell. We have the one and only.

Speaker 4 (01:53):
I'm good, I'm good, God is good.

Speaker 3 (01:55):
I'm actually on the this y'all reached out to me.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
We love you.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
I'm thinking this experience, I'll be so honored now I
know who I am. I'm very confident in who I am,
but I be so honored in this experience like that
people love me because I've been this way for so
long of my life, right, So it's just now to
have people gravitate to me. I can't go any well
without people knowing me and loving me and recognizing me.
It's just like mind blowing to me because I'm just

(02:21):
I'm still myself. Yeah, So it's just like I'm thankful.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
It's the amazing feeling when people start gravitating to you
just for you being who you are.

Speaker 3 (02:30):
Correct. I went to the strip club the other day,
the girls went crazy. I'm like, it's so mind blowing
to me because I've always lived this experience is me
being myself, right, So it's.

Speaker 4 (02:40):
Just like, what the fuck energy.

Speaker 2 (02:43):
About you that's just it's very gravitating. It's like, I
don't know, you know, people say that it factor and
you don't know what it is. You can't explain it,
but some people just have it. Yeah god it Okay,
how it was so funny. But I want to start
from the beginning. So you're from Savannah, so talk research.

(03:13):
So I want to talk about like beginning because I'm
from a small town too. So did you always feel like, Okay,
I got to move, I gotta get out of Savannah,
like talk about growing up in a small town and
just having such a big personality.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
So initially I was born in the Bronx, New York, Okay, Okay.
Then I migrated to Savannah, Georgia when I was eleven
years old. So I represent Savannah a lot because I
grew up there. I went to middle school, high school,
I graduated from high school there. I went to a
little bit of college there. So I say I'm from Savannah,
but I was originally from the Bronx. So it's always
and this is the thing, and I'm tying this into
just kind of what I said earlier. I've been out, kay,

(03:50):
since I was about ten or eleven.

Speaker 2 (03:52):
Years are you serious, No, Lie, I know that's right.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
I was one of my mother's fur coats and pocketbooks
to school and I was just talking her the other day.
She was like, I can't wait you come out with
a documentary so I can actually tell people that you
always had this personality. You always was a preacher, you
always was passionate. You have always been the same person,
so in that it has been a struggle because you

(04:16):
got to think about it. So I went from New
York being fat, black and feminine. Then I migrated to Savannah, Georgia,
which was even more of a small demographics, a smaller town,
different culture, different way.

Speaker 4 (04:28):
People operate and think and move.

Speaker 3 (04:31):
So I went through it in New York and I
went through it in Savannah. But I've always had a
big personality, so I always just knew.

Speaker 4 (04:38):
And you know how people say, I always thought I
was going to be a star.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
I always thought I was going to be popular, but
they never really knew that for themselves. I always know
it was going to be something there. I always knew
that because I always was the gay guy and middle
school and high school that would come in there. Bengo
earring Zone, I was a mad I was young.

Speaker 4 (05:01):
Literally, I've always knew who I was.

Speaker 1 (05:02):
Uh huh oh yeah, So like I was gonna ask
you because people are always going back and forth about
these online, you know, like some people will say that
they feel like children aren't necessarily gay when they're kids,
it's about the environment that they're in. Personally, I do
feel like my mom always told me because I have
a cousin similar to you who was always the same

(05:23):
way his whole life, and she was like, we knew
since he was like three or four. I feel like
kids know at a very young age. So how do
you feel about this.

Speaker 3 (05:30):
Who I always knew? As an adult, I love black
handsome men. Yeah, it is like chocolate to me. And
so literally I remember as being a young boy walking
and this is why I love and adore my mother,
and the day that God takes us, if it happens
to be before me call and check on me, I

(05:53):
would never take away because even though she is very
base in her morals and religion, and she wants me
to have a wife and kids badly, she still never
ostracized me as a little boys.

Speaker 4 (06:05):
And so that's why as.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
An adult, people don't understand the flamboyantness and the loudness
and the excellnists. And it was because I was always
giving that leadway to be myself. She never, even though
I knew that in her mind, she may have felt
how she felt, because it's inevitable. As parents, you want
certain things for your children. You want a certain lifestyle.
Sometimes you lead in your selfishness of what you want

(06:29):
for them, which is not always wrong, just how you
envision your children. That you want your son with a wife,
you want your daughter with a right, and that is
just what you're envisit for your family.

Speaker 4 (06:39):
So I get it.

Speaker 3 (06:40):
But young, when I tell you, she will all I
could play with Barbie dolls.

Speaker 2 (06:44):
And you will im liar and she has to attest
to it.

Speaker 3 (06:47):
She will let me play with Bobbie dolls, she will
let me wear her pocketbook, she will let me wear
her hot So I have to even tell her as
an adult, girl is your fault?

Speaker 2 (06:58):
Appreciate it?

Speaker 4 (06:58):
But it gets on hunderd because girl, you let me
just be who I was, So I.

Speaker 1 (07:02):
Have no I don't know how to bat tracking.

Speaker 4 (07:06):
It is because it's just made me who I am.

Speaker 3 (07:08):
But I think everybody experience is different, and so I
think as people we have to understand that two things
can be right at the same time, and so everybody
experience is different. As far as me, I only can
speak for my experience. I've always known what I like.
Now I do get on another spectrum that there are
different things that trigger people, different experiences that they may
have had in their life that has made them turn

(07:31):
into that type of person. But for me and who
I am, I've always been. I've never touched, licked, kissed
a woman in my life.

Speaker 4 (07:40):
Never in my life.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
You couldn't. That's how when I love my girls like
God love his children, I have never kissed a woman
like you.

Speaker 4 (07:58):
Gotta really think about that.

Speaker 3 (08:00):
And this is how I also know every man is
not gay, contrary to popular belief.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
I don't. I hate when people say that.

Speaker 3 (08:06):
It's not true, and I say it is as people,
because we're living that life, we experience those things we
did like to project onto other.

Speaker 2 (08:13):
People in their experiences.

Speaker 3 (08:15):
All men are not gay because you're talking to a
gay man that has never even kissed a woman. I've
never touched a vagina. I've never looked. I've never seen
it outside of the strip club, outside of my mother.

Speaker 4 (08:28):
I've never seen it.

Speaker 3 (08:29):
In that context of me making love or touching or
so I know that there are men out there who
don't desire another man. Because I'm a gay man who
does not desire a woman. I see the beauty in her,
just like another man can see the beauty in another man,
but he may not be sexually attracted to him in
that way. And it's possible for a man not to
be sexually attracted to another man because I'm not sexually
attracted to women, so I've always.

Speaker 1 (08:50):
Known who I was with that That's a good point
because I feel like people say that about women too,
Like everybody be saying, oh, every girl like girls, But
then do y'all feel about the girls? Because going back
to what we were just talking about, how do y'all
feel about the girls that go and date women?

Speaker 5 (09:05):
Because she don't be working out.

Speaker 2 (09:06):
With men and.

Speaker 3 (09:10):
I'm talking to some girls too, And then all they
realize it's the same experience women who are now emulating
a man how he operates, how he thinks, how he maneuvers,
and he's and she's getting the same experience. But I
do I think, I think why those conversations do come up, right,
because they could get very sticky because I think, especially
as gay people, we've experienced a lot of DL men.

(09:32):
And so then what happens is we did to start,
we start grouping people because we said to ourselves, you
know what, I gave him the benefit of the doubt
he was gay. I gave I've seen it all too.
But I still because even when you do a pregnancy test,
even when you do a DNA test, nothing is one
und So I can never just say all men are
by curious, all men are gay. You can't do that.

(09:55):
But you do have a lot of men who are bisexual.
But you know, in our community is tabu and the
Black community is table to talk about bisexuality because we
feel like it's not real.

Speaker 4 (10:06):
You are either gay or you are straight. It's no
in between.

Speaker 3 (10:09):
But I think what a lot of people have to
start realizing that they are bisexual men. And as some
preachers say, preacher to myself too, because I'm a realist,
because I have certain ds, I'm like, no, it's no
such thing as a man being bisexual, either like men
or you like women. But when I really have those
cathartic moments to myself, I'm like, you know what, I
can see how somebody could like a man and a woman.
It may not necessarily make sense to me, right, but

(10:32):
I can see how it could be possible.

Speaker 4 (10:33):
What you think, do you think a man could be vibe?

Speaker 2 (10:36):
I believe. I feel like if a woman can be
I believe a man because I think it's more so
of human traits. I think in my younger years I
used to try to separate people, like obviously there's differences
of how women think versus how men think, but there's
certain things that are just human traits. If a woman
can like a woman and a man, a man can too.

(10:59):
I think that's human name to sometimes be attracted to
both and as me as like. Have I been with
a woman before?

Speaker 4 (11:05):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (11:05):
But do I like it? Absolutely not, and I will
never do it again. There's nothing about it women that
I just don't But I know I have friends women
that are bisexual. Yeah. I have a friend that is
bisexual and she only dates bisexual men. So I feel
like it's very possible to like both. I agree.

Speaker 1 (11:23):
I think it's possible too, because I mean, when I
was younger, I dady. I used to date women when
I was younger. As I've gotten older, though, I've realized
a little too much estrogen for me in one household,
So it's just not for me, and I will prefer
to stick with men. But I definitely think you could
like both, because even still now that I don't necessarily

(11:44):
deal with women anymore, I see women all the time
and I be like, damn, she fine?

Speaker 2 (11:47):
Is hell? You know that cool?

Speaker 1 (11:49):
I don't because I never really you know, adult, And
that's how I know. I wasn't really like BOUTI for real,
because I was never their ends to eating coochie man when.

Speaker 4 (12:01):
I tell you, I don't starting.

Speaker 3 (12:06):
But kna are the most beautiful, precious, amazing thing that
God has ever created.

Speaker 4 (12:11):
On this nothing.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
If you pay me a million dollars, I wouldn't even
know where to start. Va Donna, I wouldn't want to
taste it, kiss it, liquid, bigger it, be with it,
with it, not that this like she's gonna tell me
one that's about. Oh you're so handsome, you need some
ponani in your life. I was at start Buys said
WHAT'SI now? You know you's just so fine, you just
so big and so all you need some I.

Speaker 4 (12:39):
Said, what is po nani? She said, stop playing?

Speaker 3 (12:42):
But Janna, I said, I don't want none of it,
and I don't need none of that. Baby. I'm strictly
dicky meat, sausage, ribs. I'm a barbecue. I'm a barbecue baby.
I need meat some on this grind.

Speaker 4 (12:56):
I don't know, y'all.

Speaker 3 (13:00):
I love, I have to sometime I have to say God, please,
and don't. Oh, I just be craving them so bad
every time. I'm just Oh, I think it's an addiction.

Speaker 2 (13:10):
I'm not getting fine. Oh, the social media. So I
want to talk about in the beginning, like when you
because you and Jada used to be friends. Correct, So
about friendship and how that came about? You know, my girl?

Speaker 3 (13:40):
He says that you know why you gag me too,
because I'm not ashamed of anything because I love Jada.
But a lot of people only know me now for
the things that I do.

Speaker 2 (13:49):
Now.

Speaker 3 (13:50):
It's a small perciage of people that be like, I
remember you were friends with Jada, and I be gagging, like,
excuse me, because you know what's so crazy? Me just
being a realist. That whole situation. When I think about
it now as an adult, Oh, I just wish everything
would have went so different because I just know, even
though everything is a line how it's supposed to be,

(14:10):
of course, but I know that things. If things would
have went different, we would have been such a powerhouse
friendship because I learned so much from her and what
people don't understand. She has always been a boss and young.
I'm talking about sitting in a car showing us on
her phone a sell. She makes seventy bands period at

(14:31):
seventeen years old. So that even when I hear people
say little babies, baby mama, no, no, no, her name is Jada,
because I don't care if he is on a different
level of where she is now. My girl has always
had her own She's not one of those girls that
has only just been attached to a guy.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (14:46):
And so now I think the only times.

Speaker 3 (14:48):
That I have moments of damn, I wish I was
connecting to my girls when I see her son, Oh,
I would have been like his yeah, goes on. Everything
was aligned for a reason. I think it was meant
for me to be in her life for that season,
for her to be able to teach me different things,
help me build my platform where I'm at now in
my life, and I can see things reconnecting later on

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in life.

Speaker 4 (15:10):
God is still good.

Speaker 3 (15:11):
Yes.

Speaker 4 (15:12):
If so, God is still good yes, And so yeah.

Speaker 2 (15:15):
It was good. But I'm glad to hear that because
you know a lot of times you talk to people
and they be like, oh, I don't care, they didn't
make me, And so it's good to see that you
are still able to talk highly about her and y'all's friendship.

Speaker 3 (15:29):
Yeah, that's one. I have a lot of people who
I don't deal with a damn it's nothing I want
to talk to them about. But Jada's one person who
I will be open to having a conversation with outside
of her platform, outside of who she is. Because I
watched this clip the other day and Tyler Perry posted
that Kerry Washington had interrupted the BC Awards thank him,

(15:49):
and in the capture he says he has changed lives
and he rarely gets to thank you.

Speaker 4 (15:53):
And so when I was looking at it, I'm like,
what the fuck that's do.

Speaker 3 (15:57):
You not know how many million dollar deals Tyler Perry
has giving outright? And for him to say that little
clip moved him because people don't say thank you.

Speaker 4 (16:06):
It is mind blowing when you really dissect it.

Speaker 3 (16:09):
And so for me with her, I could never be
that person that doesn't give her accolades because Jada was
doing for her family when she was seventeen. It was
times Jada, just stay here, post yourself on my Instagram
and it'll run. I follow us up six thousand numbers
at the time. But it just was unfortunate how things ended.
And I'm this type of person because we were linked

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in with another person who is very special to me
and he's my brother for life. I had to ride
with him, and that's just what it was. I picked
oh girl, okay, so without just giving look at much
because I don't want to open up no old wood.
But it was a situation that happened with somebody who

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she was dealing with. They end up getting into it
and things just didn't get reconciled the right way. I
end up calling her to check her about it, and
she got upset with me and she blocked me.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
Okay, right.

Speaker 3 (17:03):
We went on me and my friend because I can
take accountability in anything that I do. We went on
Instagram and side of throwing shade. This was years ago,
just being.

Speaker 2 (17:10):
A young yeah right right.

Speaker 3 (17:13):
And that's why as an adult now thirty years old,
when I tell you, it's so many different ways of
things that I did when I was young that I
would never do now because I see that it gets
you nowhere.

Speaker 4 (17:23):
It puts a halt in what you're doing.

Speaker 3 (17:25):
And so us being upset, Yeah, because that's what happens
in relationships and friendships when people pay you dust. Right,
us being upset. We went on Instagram throwing shade, saying
different things. So that's what really put a halt in
things of never being able to be reconciled again. And
I get it. I'm so real to understand if she
never wanted to talk to me again in life, I'm good.

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I get it because people who do me like that
now it's nothing for us to ever talk about it.

Speaker 4 (17:50):
I love you from a distance.

Speaker 3 (17:52):
You can be sincerely apologizing to me, and I accept it,
but we will never be the same. It'll never be
that again. It's nothing for us to talk about. I
don't wish you any hate, harm or danger, but it's
nothing for us to reconcilee.

Speaker 4 (18:04):
So I get it.

Speaker 3 (18:05):
I have to be understanding and understand both sides.

Speaker 4 (18:08):
But I'm ever thankful.

Speaker 2 (18:09):
Yeah, people have to boundaries.

Speaker 1 (18:11):
I like you said, you understand where she coming from
one hundred percent.

Speaker 4 (18:16):
I get it.

Speaker 2 (18:17):
I love the accountability always.

Speaker 3 (18:19):
I think one of my pet pieces of people that's
victimized people me either, people like that they have to
get the fuck from around me.

Speaker 1 (18:27):
Same because it's like what you do, what.

Speaker 6 (18:31):
You do.

Speaker 1 (18:32):
I have a person who always try to make it
seem like everybody else the problem.

Speaker 3 (18:36):
You get my last I don't know why a little bit.
Some people may agree and.

Speaker 2 (18:41):
They may not.

Speaker 3 (18:42):
I love a person that's the villain because I love
a person that just can own.

Speaker 2 (18:45):
It everybody somebody's stories, and.

Speaker 3 (18:48):
I think I love people that's able to say what
they did wrong in some situation. If I'm talking to
you and it's a hundred stories and you're never wrong.

Speaker 2 (18:55):
It's something that you do. Oh yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (18:57):
Even when you ask a person what's your toxic trait?
I'm too loving? No, no, no, always say that you can change,
that you can do better as a part.

Speaker 1 (19:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (19:07):
If I talk to you and it sounds like you're
doing a job interview, like, oh, what's the bad thing
about you? As an employee? I I like to get
to work so early, yeah, and work off the cloth.

Speaker 3 (19:17):
Yeah nerves.

Speaker 2 (19:20):
Well, you be on Instagram.

Speaker 3 (19:22):
Sprawl and it's gonna be very much.

Speaker 4 (19:24):
Well this, I'm a great worker.

Speaker 3 (19:26):
I'm very loyal all but sometimes I like to check
my phone.

Speaker 2 (19:29):
I can take that.

Speaker 3 (19:30):
Yeah, we all have about shortcoming. Everybody has their flaws.
Everybody had their shortcoming to life. So what would yours be?
And what would yours be? I'm gonna leave. I think
mines would be. I'm very passionate, I'm very loyal. I
just have to work on how things I said. Because
as an adult, I'm realizing that everybody doesn't take well

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to aggressiveness. But that's just who I am. Sometimes I
can't help it. I realized once they come out.

Speaker 4 (19:56):
Of my mouth.

Speaker 3 (19:57):
You know how you think about things that you say,
and it is like you hear your it being came
out in the two seconds and I'm like, damn, that
came out wrong. But I'm just so used to speaking
my truth. Yeah, because since I was young, if I
wanted to say, ooh that shit is nasty, my mother
gave me leadway to say that.

Speaker 4 (20:11):
I didn't get in trouble for saying things like that.

Speaker 3 (20:13):
Yeah, So now as an adult, I can't help it.
If I don't like something, I don't like it. Yeah,
if I want to address something I'm addressing it right now.
If I want to speak my mind, I'm gonna do that.
So what's your toxic traits?

Speaker 2 (20:23):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (20:23):
I feel like I always got to stay what's on
my mind. I always got to stay with on my mind,
Like if it's on my chest, I'm gonna get it
off my cheese. I got to let you know what's
going on. So I think that's the toxic trade. And
then also just not Sometimes it's hard for me to
put myself in other people's shoes because I be feeling

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like people Oh why, because I think people be stupid
a lot of the time, and it's not right to
necessarily look at people like that.

Speaker 2 (20:53):
I feel like God made me.

Speaker 1 (20:54):
Really strong and resilient, and everybody is not that way.
Everybody was not blessed without traite. So sometimes you have
to look at the shit that people do and be
like it's okay that they might not have the same
level of confidence or realize that something is not okay
and stand up for theyself. That doesn't necessarily make them stupid.

Speaker 2 (21:12):
You just different, you know what I mean?

Speaker 5 (21:14):
You just stronger than the person.

Speaker 1 (21:16):
And I feel like I used to always kind of
look at people and be like, oh, that's dumb, you know,
and not really and not care to have an understanding,
just looking at them like they're stupid.

Speaker 2 (21:24):
I wouldn't ever do that, you know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (21:26):
So I think that's probably.

Speaker 2 (21:29):
I think the worst thing about me is I am
extremely sensitive by but I have the nerve to be
a bitch, like like I am sensitive as fuck, but
I'm a bitch, like I am extremely bitchy. And I
used to always like I feel like people got to
be soft with me, but I don't want to be
soft with people. And I think another thing is like

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when I shut down, I shut down, like I don't
do confrontation well, like if I need to let tom
go by, like if me and you get into it,
I need to have like two or three days and
then I want to talk, you know what I'm saying.
But I also feel like I do need to calm down.
But I also don't need to procrastinate, because honestly, I'll

(22:12):
let shit go to like two three weeks and I'm like, okay,
we can talk now, I guess, but I be thinking
like let's just let's just move on. And I know
now like I pride myself on being a great communicator,
but I'm really not as good as a communicator as
I like to say I am. I be wanting to
talk about the things that I want to talk about. Yeah,
when somebody else want to talk about something, I'd be like,

(22:35):
you know what I'm saying. And so those are like
the main two things I need to work on. I'm
very I don't like to you know what, let me
not say a bitch. I'm very assertive, and I think
sometimes it's taken the wrong way. So I need to expect.
But I need to learn how to take that too.
And I think somebody's being bitchy towards me, they could
just be assertive and saying what they mean, you know,

(22:58):
So I got to learn how to dish it in
take it. So yeah, I'm working on so so sensitive.

Speaker 4 (23:07):
You know, I'm not really sensitive.

Speaker 2 (23:09):
I'm not either.

Speaker 3 (23:09):
If you see me crying, I gotta be devastated about something.

Speaker 2 (23:12):
I cry because I'm like, she very sensitive.

Speaker 1 (23:18):
And that's where we're like so opposite, because she's very
sensitive and I'm not. And just like she said, like
you know, she's not really confrontational. So a lot of
the time it's been times in our relationship where like
I want to talk about she right now, and she
don't want to talk about it. Yeah, my phone, I'm

(23:40):
trying to avoid me. And what's up? Let's talk about
what happened last week? Because you know, I'll let you
make it for a week. But let's talk about I
didn't you always.

Speaker 4 (23:50):
Say that that's all?

Speaker 2 (23:52):
What's up? What's up?

Speaker 3 (23:55):
Could get jiggy with tourists because what I noticed with
a lot of tourist peopeople, even two of my good
torrst friends, Yeah, they don't mind saying this is how
I feel, this is what's on my mind, or and
the people like that I could take because my response,
so this is this is how I feel.

Speaker 4 (24:11):
And so we could talk.

Speaker 1 (24:12):
But it's so crazy that you said that, because that's
what I be telling Lex. I'd be like, if I
tell you that something that's wrong, She'd be like, well,
I don't be wanting to argue, but that's your opportunity
to tell me how you feel.

Speaker 2 (24:22):
It's not an argument turn into an argument.

Speaker 3 (24:25):
Everythink don't have to be an argument. I do get
and that's another toxic way that I have too. I
wouldn't say that. I'm I think like, if you really
ask my friends. I could be confrontational, like I don't
mind confrontation, I mean an argument, and I don't mind
going back and forth. I don't mind debating because I'm
a passionate person.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
They don't have to say. But with that, y'all gotta
watch y'all tone.

Speaker 4 (24:46):
Yeah, and I do. I have to work on that.

Speaker 1 (24:49):
That's fair because I feel like maybe I do be
having to watch my tone sometimes. But the thing about me,
my tone only get bad with people. I gotta be written,
you gotta have me real fucked up. Though for my
pne yes you do, Yes, you do. Anybody in this
room will agree my tone never get crazy with none
of them.

Speaker 2 (25:06):
With none of them.

Speaker 1 (25:08):
I have just said, you gotta have me world point
proven because she doesn't have me real fucked up a
lot of time, a lot of times everyone else in
this room has not, which was the point I was
getting it.

Speaker 2 (25:23):
But no. But what I'm saying is I just feel
like it's certain situations, Like like I said, but that's
something I need to work on because I be having
the nerves because everybody this room career. I will walk
in and be like, what the fuck yo?

Speaker 3 (25:36):
Right?

Speaker 2 (25:36):
The cameras is cracking up with everybody. My phone be
fucked up with selective select.

Speaker 4 (25:45):
Lee y'o leo.

Speaker 2 (25:47):
Controlling when it comes to my business. It when it
comes to my business, this is our baby. I don't
play when it comes to this ship. And I know
what the vision I have for it. So I think
it's the business world. I am a little more probably strict,
and I don't mind having confrontation when it comes to
business cause it's not necessarily it's not personal. It's business.

(26:08):
I'm right done so with business, I don't mind saying
what I got to say and what's on my mind.
We need to talk about this ship because it's money
to make.

Speaker 3 (26:16):
Yeah, friendship, it's okay because literally friendships is like relationiouships, Yeah,
just without the intimacy.

Speaker 2 (26:23):
Because if you be broken falling.

Speaker 3 (26:25):
Out with your friends, just like it was your man
or your or.

Speaker 4 (26:27):
Your and home boys go through, you could be gay.

Speaker 3 (26:30):
You can be strapping femail when you go through with
your friends, even if you ain't talking to your friend
for a couple of weeks.

Speaker 2 (26:35):
Yeah, everythings you be wanting.

Speaker 3 (26:36):
To talk about with them and you can't because y'all
mad at each other.

Speaker 4 (26:41):
Yeah, it's not talking with you right now.

Speaker 1 (26:44):
It's sad weasted in each other some ship.

Speaker 4 (26:46):
Because that's me I canhold.

Speaker 3 (26:48):
I see you on my front. You are ill hold
a GRUDGTI then I go to the grave.

Speaker 2 (26:53):
I'm not really a grud childer.

Speaker 1 (26:54):
I'll be letting stuff go because I just feel like
after a certain period of time, I don't it's too.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
Much energy, Like it take too much energy to care.

Speaker 1 (27:01):
That's why, because I just want to get it over with,
Like I just want to talk about it and even
be over it.

Speaker 4 (27:08):
And until the torrests talk about it.

Speaker 3 (27:10):
Then you want to hold a grudge, but I don't
want you talk about it.

Speaker 4 (27:13):
You'll be good after that.

Speaker 1 (27:14):
Yeah, I mean maybe I feel like I don't care
a lot about a lot of shit. That's why it's
hard for me to hold grudges because I really don't
give a fu enough to the grudge.

Speaker 4 (27:23):
It just depends on what's done.

Speaker 2 (27:27):
Dreda's not a grudge holder because I've seen where like
you and a friend stop being friends. Someone When I
tell you when Drea is done, i mean she will
act like you are dead. You never like never.

Speaker 4 (27:39):
That signs ship is so.

Speaker 3 (27:42):
Real. And the thing with tourists who kissing nobody's ass.
Oh yeah, but you guys will always be open to
talk about it. Yeah, that's signed and ship it could
be too much later. If you're ready to talk, now,
we can talk, so we can hand it out. But
kissing nobody's.

Speaker 1 (27:56):
Ass, because I feel like that's the key to any
healthy relationship, Like you have to be able to talk
to people about stuff. And that's coming from a place
of when I was younger, Lex Can of his cities.

Speaker 5 (28:06):
I used to be the type of person.

Speaker 1 (28:07):
Who I would just cut people off and not talk
to you about stuff. But that's not conducive to having
a healthy, long lasting relationship with anybody. Where there is
a romantic relationship, where there is a friendship, where there
is a relationship with your family, you have to be
open to talking to people about it.

Speaker 5 (28:23):
And cutting people off every time somebody.

Speaker 1 (28:25):
Do some fucked up she to you or have you
fucked up is not always the answer because sometimes what
they did doesn't necessarily warrant something so dramatic as you
not even talking to them again. But I used to
everything was their series, like I'm not fucking with you.

Speaker 3 (28:39):
I gotta work on that one, because it just depend
and that's something you really preaches to me, because that's
something that I and I've had people like my older sister,
who I get a lot of guidance from it. Well,
tell me that that's a fucked up track too, because
you don't do people like that. Yeah, But for me,
it just depends on what's done, because I'll be feeling
like you shouldn't know better. And one of my things

(29:00):
that I take as a pride and as a friendship
is I'm not a chatter. If you sit here tell
me some vulnerable ship about yourself and you tell me
to not say anything, I'm taking it to the motherfucking grace.
So I expect the same thing from you. If I
hear you doing a lot of chat about my ship
like that, you get caught off at the head. I
would prefer, I promise you, people don't. People have told

(29:21):
me I sound crazy when I give this example. I
would prefer if you was using my goddamn Devik card
and I didn't know and you came and told me, oh, Saxy,
I was hungry, I fucked up opposed to the streets
coming back and saying she said this I know this
about I would take that over that I don't play
when because people like that just it's like I can't

(29:46):
stand it because I have seen people do that, say oh,
this is my homegirl, and as soon as she leaves
the room, why do I know that she's been evicted
last week?

Speaker 4 (29:53):
That's not my business.

Speaker 1 (29:55):
You gotta side on people like that because, like you said,
because if you're saying it about a hug about me
when I'm not in the room, you be doing the same.
You cannot convince me that a person that will go
and tell other people their friends business do not tell
other people your business when you're not around.

Speaker 3 (30:10):
This.

Speaker 4 (30:10):
Instantly I'd be like, oh, I don't.

Speaker 1 (30:12):
Like this, especially like when people fall out, because that's
when people.

Speaker 2 (30:16):
Are the most vulnerable and sangry. And yeah, so if
you get your feelings and you and a friends start
being friends and you start spelling all that, that says
a lot about your character because I don't care if
me and you never talk again. I'm not going to
go around telling your secrets.

Speaker 3 (30:31):
Yeah, and people get upset, and guess what, it's inevitable
as humans, we're gonna talk. We're gonna be like fuck that, bitchy.
But it's just a certain level of where you go.
I should not know personal shit that y'all went through. Yeah,
you can come and tell me she did it, that
was fucked up. I'm not fucking with her. Yeah, that's
because you're human. We get upset. That's just what we
do as people. But it's a degree on how you

(30:51):
go about doing things.

Speaker 1 (30:52):
Because, like you said, what's her car getting repold? Gotta
do what any knowing? Why are you telling me that?

Speaker 2 (30:56):
Oh my god, I don't know that.

Speaker 4 (30:58):
Or she had a BV that they gave for.

Speaker 2 (31:01):
An abortion. Trust Yeah, yeah, I do not trust them
away from Yeah. Okay, So before we get into the topics,
my girls time. What we drinking down today?

Speaker 1 (31:17):
So in honor of our guests, mister Big Sexy, this
one is called the Unshakable Walk. Okay, and so with
this one, this one is a mock tail for him.
Lets does have some vodka and hers me Andre are
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Speaker 2 (31:29):
We are.

Speaker 1 (31:29):
So this one has some leechee, some BlackBerry, some raspberry,
a little bit of lemon, a little bit of simple
syrup in there and some time and then as a garnish,
I used a leachye I put a dehydrated raspberry in
there and then added some time just to give it
a little cuteness for the spring that's approaching down here.
And then we tapped it off with a little guava

(31:50):
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I thank you, down, it's very good. Thank you. Okay,
do you like did you taste the leachi?

Speaker 3 (32:15):
You like it?

Speaker 4 (32:16):
The drink is amazing. But I don't like that. Okay,
it's just a weird text shop.

Speaker 2 (32:22):
But I like the drink.

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You like it? It's it's not even of ten, it's
a fifteen. Oh, come on now, delicious.

Speaker 3 (32:29):
It's the perfect amount of show that a perfect amount
of citrus delicious.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
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(34:24):
Drain the call, And we have a very exciting announcement today.

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Speaker 5 (35:23):
Thanks the first topic.

Speaker 1 (35:32):
For the first topic, we really wanted to talk to
you about gay men being straight women's prius because we
saw where you talked about this before recently. You were saying,
how you know, you feel like you have been in
that position in a lot of situations or a lot
of relationships and friendships that you've been in. So we
definitely wanted to get into that because I agree with you.

Speaker 3 (35:50):
But and it's the thing it goes I think, and
I'm saying black because I'm black back. It goes hand
in hand though, right, because I do get how in
certain areas, as black gaying, we can't be props. I
understand that because we contribute a lot. I was slang,
I would fashion our mindset, our loyalty. We love the girls,
and the girls love us, and we're amazing we're innovators,

(36:12):
we're thinkers, we're creative, we're.

Speaker 4 (36:14):
Smart as gay people, right.

Speaker 3 (36:16):
But I think our biggest allies, especially for me in
my life as a black gay man, has been black women.

Speaker 4 (36:21):
So in a sense, a prop is subjective.

Speaker 3 (36:25):
It's what a prop is to you, because for me,
my biggest allies has been black women. So sometimes even
when people think that I'm baiting or I'm saying certain
things to just get on the good side of a woman,
a lot of things I feel for real because when
I was experiencing my bullying, when I was experiencing my hardships,

(36:46):
it was women.

Speaker 4 (36:47):
That was there for me.

Speaker 2 (36:48):
I mean, the first woman was your mom, was my mother.

Speaker 3 (36:52):
And that's why when people tell me I'm trying to
be like this person, I'm trying to be like my mom.
I emulate my mother, I think and operate like my mother.
But for me, women have saved me, so I have
a different connection with them. But I do get that
sometimes we can be props. And what happens is I
was talking about this on another podcast because I was
just trying to speak lifely to this young man, right

(37:14):
who had his perspective on being messy.

Speaker 2 (37:16):
I said, Oh he's spicy. I sad. I said, oh
he getting spicy.

Speaker 3 (37:25):
Yeah, no, you ain't say. That was the fight work
for me, and that was the light work there. Somebody
called me up and said, hey, yeah, we gotta get
somebody on here that could take you because you're a lot.
Yeah I am in real life because I'm very assertive
and I know what I'm talking about. I don't know
what I'm talking about. I'm gonna wing that bit. And
you want to think I know what I'm talking about it,

(37:47):
I'm gonna wing it down and you're never gonna box me.
I'm gonna always have a response. But I think it's
it's a two way street, right, because what I wanted
him to understand was you can be that stereotype of
mess that they see gay men to be right, because
all they're gonna do is amp You would say, yeah,
spill t yeah, stand on it. Yeah say that, and

(38:10):
guess what, as soon as they are business is on
the line, then you're gonna be a sissy and then
you're going to be seen as their prop that they
just throw to the side because it's no fun until
the cat got the gun. So you can sit there
and laugh at another woman's pain and laugh at her
business when another gay man is talking about it. But
as soon as your business is on the line again, yes,

(38:30):
that's when the prop is in play. And so that's
why I can understand how people will say a lot
of times we just props because when things go wrong,
when things go left, a lot of times, a lot
of gay men, when you talk to them, it's a
thing in our community, it's don't trust fish, fish got
bone because a lot of gay men have experienced being
that loyal person to women, being that rider, and when

(38:52):
things go left, they're thrown to the side. They have
been the manager, they have been the person riding. They've
been the person showing up when your man was a
doing you in in the house, affusing you. You've been
that person, that older brother, that friend figure, and then
when things go left, you'll forgive him, but you'll throw.

Speaker 4 (39:07):
Your gay friends at the time.

Speaker 3 (39:08):
So I can get why that dynamic is very speaky
and very tricky.

Speaker 4 (39:12):
But as for me, and my experienced women have saved me.

Speaker 1 (39:15):
And see, when I think of it, I'll more so
be thinking from a standpoint of like, you know how
you'll be talking to some women and they'll be like, well,
I need to.

Speaker 2 (39:23):
Give me a gay meal friend. I hate that.

Speaker 1 (39:25):
I think that's like to me, that's more so trying
to use a person as a pride, because why are
you so specific in the type of friend that you
need to.

Speaker 2 (39:32):
Buyd I don't see nothing wrong with it, But well,
let me ask you this too, though, because I think
it's a little weird on both sides. Yeah, because I
have a gay friend that I'm really really close to,
Like we've recently gotten really close and I love him
down shout out to Clay. Hey, Clay, I talked to
Clay so much. But we became friends organic. Yeah, Like
it wasn't like, oh, I'm searching for him or for me,

(39:55):
or it was like we really became organic friends. But
what I have noticed is I feel like sometimes a
lot of the gay men in the community, and I
don't want to feed anybody, say y'all, please don't eat
me up. This is just honest. Sometimes just like I
feel like women want to be our friends because of
who we are. I think a lot of gay men
be trying to come into my life because they feel like, oh,
I would love to be Lex's friend, or I want

(40:16):
to be that one gay guy in her life. That
that's why I'm so cool with Clay because it was genuine.
But sometimes I feel like a lot of the gay
boys be trying to you know, they just want to
be a prog. Yes, they do.

Speaker 4 (40:28):
They ways. Yeah, it goes both ways.

Speaker 3 (40:31):
And the thing is we give a lot of confidence
and tips, and we teach a lot of things because
we do. We innovate us and we're very creative. But
the same way women give it to us, they feed.
I couldn't imagine a world of me living here without women.
I probably would have been off myself. I'm just being serious.
I could even when it comes to my own motherfucking community,
I could not imagine this earth of me here, even

(40:54):
if it was an LGBTQ community with just men. In
a world with just men, I would then have gone.
I'm talking about upstairs with God hanging out. It's women
that keep me so grinded who I am. They give
me so much confidence, they give me so much genuine love.
I'm able to create my own table in my own
lane because of women. Even with my own motherfucking community,

(41:15):
I couldn't imagine having to kiss they motherfucking Yeah, because
there'd be a lot of them too that's so rooted
in hate and jealousy. So it does go both ways.
You guys give us a lot and we give you
a lot. But I think that it just gets sticky sometimes.
But the different things that go on, and so you
gotta just so you gotta just let things happen organically,

(41:35):
like you said, But me personally, I don't mind. I
don't mind a girl saying that because we.

Speaker 2 (41:41):
But you don't feel like it might be like some
weird motives there.

Speaker 3 (41:45):
Or like somebody trying to use I think some girls
they enjoy gay men more than girls.

Speaker 4 (41:49):
I think sometimes.

Speaker 2 (41:55):
If you don't get along with women and you feel like, oh, well,
I need some gay friends, you probably a little weirdo yourself.
Any woman that be like, oh, I'm not saying you
got to be a girl's girl, But I hate a
woman that's like, oh, I got more guy friends, or
I don't want to hang out with the gay guys
all the time. That'd be weird too, because, like I said,
as much as I feel like it's on both sides,
the women who seek out a gay friend just because

(42:16):
he's a male and he's gay. To me, it gives
like you don't want to hang around women because you
feel like it's competition. So you feel like, of course
that's true. Like if I don't want to be friends
with Drea because Drea goes out and Drea gets all
the attention, well I'm gonna go out with being sexy
because obviously the men don't want me because he's a man.
That's the kind of energy that gang is. They might

(42:38):
want him.

Speaker 4 (42:38):
But guess what, you know what that's so true?

Speaker 3 (42:40):
How you just broke that down because I think about
that with gay men, if you're a gay man and
you have no gay homeboys. Because it's just like I
spoke about on the other podcasts, it's things. Yeah, you
can love me as a gay man. It is things
that I can give you, but it's still certain things
that you and her can relate on that I know
nothing about it. So as a gay black man, I
got to have at least one gay black men that

(43:01):
lived this experience with me. Yeah, if I don't have
at least one gay black man that I can relate to,
we've been through the SAE. We have different backgrounds and upbringers,
but it's a lot of things that's me being a
black gay man that you can relate to eighty percent
of the time, whether it's sometimes being ostracized, people judging us,
people judging us because of what we like. So you're
absolutely right, because there's certain things that women can get

(43:22):
from each other that you can't get from a gay man.

Speaker 4 (43:24):
Yeah. I may be comfort for you.

Speaker 3 (43:26):
You may like to hang around me because I may
encourage you in a different way than your homegirl. But
if you're telling me you have no good homegirls, right,
no good female friends, that is and.

Speaker 2 (43:35):
I say it hearing your motives there. Yeah, And I
think we're also in a time where people see relationships
like Santana and Kresha and everybody want everybody wants that dynamic.
So they'd be like, oh, you see what Santana and
Karsha do, I want to do that. So it's like,
are y'all are you really genuine friends with him? Are
you trying to have like an arrogant a ari type
of situation? Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So I

(43:57):
think a lot of times, like I said, it's not
that genia in connection women be seeing they'd be like,
I need a prop I need that accessory. They want
somebody that's gonna come over and do their heir, boo
them yeah, and hype them up. So that's why I said,
it can get really get you know what.

Speaker 3 (44:13):
So sometimes to be fair, even though I don't live
a woman's experience, sometimes though two women genuinely just have
a cattiness. Yeah, So sometimes you it's a lot of
girls that have tried, They've tried to be a girl's girl.

Speaker 4 (44:27):
They've tried to get along with other girls.

Speaker 3 (44:29):
But it's sometimes the gay boy will be more of
a cheerleader when you walk out the room. Oh girl, honey,
yes you look good. Sometimes you don't get that from
other females.

Speaker 2 (44:38):
Wow, ladies.

Speaker 1 (44:39):
I feel like if that's the case, you just keep
attracting the wrong type of friends, and then that's more
of a you problem seas because why you keep attracting
them type of women. Granted, I have been in situations
where I have been friends with girls and they definitely
were weird and was doing weird, shady shit or hating.
But every single relationship that I've had with women has
no being like this. So I feel like if those

(45:02):
are the only type of girls you come across, you
probably a little shrinking a little shelf. You probably be
hating too, you know what I mean, And you can't
take what you say. But you can't take because.

Speaker 2 (45:11):
One thing about me. I hype my friends up me.
So I don't care if picture whatever, I am hyping
you up. So I feel like if you are a
girl and you don't have one girlfriend, at least one
probably not hating on you, but they probably feel like, well,
I'm always complimenting her, but she never say nothing to me.
Sometimes shit will start feeling one sided.

Speaker 3 (45:33):
God, and like, even like I'm the type of friend,
it's nothing that my friend posted, I'm not liking me personally.
It could be some bullshit, it could be edited wrong me.
I'm gonna steal picture.

Speaker 2 (45:46):
I'm gonna drag every fucking photo what likes that, I'm
going to like it.

Speaker 3 (45:51):
That's just because I'm not until a day and I
know that that might sound arrogant and pumps, but I'm
so comfortable contrary to what people make food. Yeah, contraary
with people think they may see. I'm so comfortable in myself,
and a lot of that attests to my girls. Because
I could have ten handsome, aesthetically pleasing gay friends that
I'm around, and none of them are still me, And

(46:13):
I mean that in an arrogant way because they are
their own perfect and I can't be them right and
they probably could get every that I probably want in
my heart. But I still know when I walk into
a room with my girls, they're going up for me.
I'm in the land of my I'm in the land
of my own. You can't do it like when you
can't walk, like when you can't move. So when you
comfortable in yourself.

Speaker 2 (46:33):
When you have your own lane. Yeah, that's why I
don't mind hyping none of my friends up, because Drea
has this lane that she dominates in and that ain't
got shit to do with me what I got going on,
because this line is what I'm dominating, So it doesn't
take away, it does not take away from me to
hype her up, or to hype Tigh up, or to
hype my My other friend has a podcast as well,

(46:54):
and I hype that ship up because that don't affect
poor mind's baby. It don't because you not you. To
get this flavor, you got to come to Drea and
Nicole and Lexpi Mary for mine.

Speaker 1 (47:07):
So I just feel like I don't buy that but
women like I ain't tried, Yeah, really try, Like you
not really probably a good friend? Yosel If you don't
have at least one solid homegirl that you've been down
with for a long time, it's hot.

Speaker 2 (47:22):
It's you the.

Speaker 4 (47:22):
Probably think that you can teach a person how to
be a friend.

Speaker 2 (47:25):
He'll know. Oh, I think you can teach somebody how
to love properly and be it. Well, I'm saying, think
about our relationship and how much we grew together and
I learned. Okay, well, Drea likes this, Dre, I can't
treat Drea how I treat or Lauren like that's fair.

Speaker 1 (47:43):
But to me, that's more specific to a person. Like
being friends with a person for a long period of time,
you get to really you start to realize I need
to be this way with them because this is what
they respond to.

Speaker 6 (47:54):
I don't.

Speaker 4 (47:54):
You don't.

Speaker 3 (47:55):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (47:56):
You can teach somebody how to be a good friend. Though.

Speaker 1 (48:00):
Either you're a good person and you have that shit
in you to be a good friend, or you do not. Okay,
I feel like people who are just bad friends. You
probably a bad person. I'm probably not really a good It's.

Speaker 4 (48:11):
It's so important too.

Speaker 3 (48:13):
I think in order to have longevity in a friendship,
you have to learn a person, so sometimes you're not
hurting your own feelings. And for example, like I, I
already know when my friend don't want to be bothered
in the tone, I could tell when he don't want company.
So why even hurt my feelings of saying I'm about
to come over there when I know you don't want
company right now? Yeah, you have to learn a person.

(48:34):
I be wanting people to understand I'm the type of
person if I don't deal with you, don't.

Speaker 4 (48:38):
Invite me nowhere where you're located.

Speaker 3 (48:40):
So as a friend, you should already know that, because
now you're going to be offended when I say.

Speaker 2 (48:44):
Stop asking me that shit? Are you stupid? Yeah? Yeah,
learn me.

Speaker 3 (48:48):
No, I don't want to be in nowhere, And that's
a comference of where another person is at. So you
have to learn a person that you're around so that
certain times you're not hurt, because that's what happens sometimes.

Speaker 4 (48:58):
Now you think you're a friend is something personal to
you and it's not.

Speaker 3 (49:01):
They're just not having I'm learning that more because I'm
a person that wakes up on ten. I'll say, probably
five days out of the week. Yeah, I'm good and
so growing up it would offend me if I call
you and you're like, what's up? I don't even want
to be around you. Now, I feel like it's something
that I did, but I had to realize and what

(49:21):
my sister taught me, sometimes it's people being selfish.

Speaker 4 (49:24):
It's not about you today, baby, has nothing.

Speaker 3 (49:26):
To do with you. I'm having my own problems, my
own issuestes. It has nothing to do with you. So
I think it's important to learn people.

Speaker 1 (49:32):
I agree with that because I feel like I'm kind
of like that too. Like when I call people if
they got like a weird energy, Oh, I'd be like,
what's wrong with you?

Speaker 2 (49:42):
You know?

Speaker 1 (49:42):
But then you be having to realize it's not about you.
So then I just learned to like give people they
dc me. I'm not really the type of person that
will just let stuff affect my day, you know what
I mean. It's like, even if some shit happened, i
might be in a bad move for a little bit,
but I'm not gonna just be walking open around the
hall day or for like days at a time.

Speaker 2 (50:02):
Some people they need to go through it to get Oh, yeah,
I'm a moper. But I also don't bring other people
in it. So if you call me i'm not in
a good mood, I'll let you know, hey, I'm not
feeling it today and deal with those y'all are that's
my friends, father people, And that's.

Speaker 3 (50:22):
Fine because you're human. But I love people that's not
They're not going to take it out on you. They
just not having a good day. They're going to be
vocal about it and they need the space. But I
can't stand a person that come and on purpose want
to ruin the ass. Oh, because you're human and I
had to. I'm still learning that. That is one thing
that I'm still learning with people. You're human and sometimes
it's nothing to do with me, and I guess people

(50:45):
we take it personally.

Speaker 4 (50:45):
It's not about you today.

Speaker 2 (50:47):
Because you know you said you wake up on ten. Oh,
I wake up on one every day, So I'll be
having to.

Speaker 3 (50:53):
And I have to understand it that I didn't do
anything to you know what type of way that it's
just you in your mind to it has nothing to
do with me, and as people, we be ready to
take it so personal. It's like it has nothing to
do with you. That's like vocal people do.

Speaker 4 (51:07):
Yeah, just express that and then I just go about life.

Speaker 2 (51:10):
Yeah, just say something, you know.

Speaker 1 (51:12):
I feel like a lot of the time people just
be having like that weird energy around them and then
they don't say anything. So then as a human, your
mind gets a wondering and you can't help but think.

Speaker 2 (51:21):
Okay, like what's the problem.

Speaker 4 (51:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (51:23):
I can't stand with people who walk in the room.
They just want everybody to feel their wrath. I cannot stand. Now,
that's something that I hate. If you got something going to,
leave that ship at the door, leave it at the door.
I'm not saying that I don't care, but we all
got life going on. Yes, no, I think I read

(51:43):
the room. Read the room. I hate when people have
the oppression Olympics, like, oh, this has happened to me.
I cannot believe. And it's like, okay, babe, were all
going through every body that's we definitely gotta read the ring. Okay, okay,
so were gonna get into the next topic. So oh,

(52:07):
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Yeah?

Speaker 5 (53:24):
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it's definitely a black movie because I can see it.

Speaker 5 (53:49):
You want to smell my pooh ninety. That's how she
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Speaker 2 (53:53):
I know because I can see it and I can
hear it. And she was showing, oh, ohkay, hold on,
hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. It's no,
it's not it's not Friday. It's not Friday. It's it's
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(54:22):
know what you think? Heavy?

Speaker 7 (54:28):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (54:30):
Oh so it just yes? Do I remember with her
braids and she was trying to be funny, give up. Oh,
you're getting all the easy ones.

Speaker 1 (54:47):
It ain't even no, not really because I know you,
I knew all of yours.

Speaker 2 (54:51):
Know what I'm saying, is this one is easy? Is
it by Felicia oh Friday? The next time? It's just
so funny because me Andre, I know, we both grew
up with parents like my god, so I would talk
about growing up with naked parents. So anoke guy, it's

(55:11):
somebody who is just like a nudist at home, Like
you have to make sure when your friends come over, Mamma,
you got some clothes on, you gotta make sure they
are covered up. Because one thing about me, my mom
was always walking around the house naked. And I'm not
talking about like oh Winnie the Poo style with a
T shirt and no panties on and no bottoms. I'm

(55:33):
talking about but booty hole from the root of to
the too a newist. I mean, it was so.

Speaker 1 (55:41):
Awkward too, because then my dad would be there and
he would be like foaming at the mouse.

Speaker 2 (55:46):
And I know that's daddy around when I was growing up.

Speaker 1 (55:58):
He used to make even more weird because yes, because
it was me and my mama and my daddy in
the house and she would just be walking around naked
all the time. Like I'm talking about doing everything naked
looking cleaning, I'd be like, damn, you ain't scared of
the grease gone pop yo titty.

Speaker 2 (56:17):
Growing up.

Speaker 3 (56:18):
So I have a mom that will walking around with
a taboo like that, but just butt naked.

Speaker 4 (56:27):
I ain't have no butt naked mom.

Speaker 2 (56:28):
Yeah, because you know, even though you were, you know, gay,
but you're still a boy. So I do think, like,
how would y'all feel about, like a mom working walking
around naked and she has a son, Like, how do
y'all feel about that? Because I think it is a
little different to walk around in the nude and you
have a little girl having a little boy. I think

(56:49):
it's the same thing with men if you have a
son and you're walking around naked, Like but I think
about a man walking around the house naked with his
little girl. Oh it does. But I think it's the
same thing when child is young, and I feel like
it's different with.

Speaker 3 (57:06):
How do y'all because I feel like you can't out.

Speaker 4 (57:09):
Your mama vagina?

Speaker 2 (57:11):
Yeah I did, but I don't want to see it.
I at it that day and I don't want to
see it for the rest of my life.

Speaker 3 (57:18):
Yeah, and I get it, but it's like it's I
don't know what, Joe. It's like you literally lived in
her body, like you came out between her legs.

Speaker 2 (57:27):
It's like this. It more so got on my nerves.
But it wasn't like something I was like, oh oh
my god, discovery. It was just like, girl, put some
damn clothes on. But now it's so crazy because as
I get older. I'm thirty five now, and literally everything
I do, I'm like, I am my mother's tea, being

(57:47):
at home all the time, just wanting to be left alone,
watching TV, the way I eat, the way I act,
I'm literally turning it. I'm naked all the time at
my house all the time. I am too, but by myself.

Speaker 1 (58:01):
I feel like once I have kids, I cannot see
even with a little girl, like maybe as a like
maybe as like a two year old or something, but
like once you get to like grade school, I am
not about to be walking around naked in front.

Speaker 2 (58:13):
Of my daughter. That's just me though, I don't see
the point.

Speaker 1 (58:17):
Growing panty cool, like you said your mom used to
walk around in her panties, cool, but like just walk
around but ass naked in front of my kid where
is your role?

Speaker 2 (58:27):
School? Where's your school?

Speaker 3 (58:28):
Though?

Speaker 2 (58:29):
That's how you have to feel about my mama, girl,
Where is your role?

Speaker 4 (58:32):
And I get that, but I do.

Speaker 2 (58:34):
Feel like, like I said, it's not nothing that's nasty
or weird to me, so nasty, but it's more annoying.
Like if you're a woman and you have a daughter
she's in grade school, you walk around naked. It probably
just gets on her nerves. But now I do think
it's weird if you're a woman and you have a
son and he's in grade school and you're walking around naked.
But like I said, if it's a man and his

(58:55):
son and they living together, he like gets out the
shower and goes and runs and grabs some shorts or whatever,
that's normal because it's like a locker room. But again,
if a man has a daughter in grade school he's
walking around naked, that's weird to me.

Speaker 4 (59:07):
I know.

Speaker 2 (59:07):
I think it's like if it's same gender, it's okay
because I look at it like a locker room, a
gym when you go spa, and it's nothing weird, you
know what I'm saying. But I do think it's like
when you have a different gender for your child. That's
when things can get a little stick a little sticky sticky. Yeah,
because I've never seen my daddy naked.

Speaker 4 (59:27):
Yeah, that's only vain, I see it was my mom,
that's the only Yeah.

Speaker 3 (59:33):
Any of my sisters just maybe like busting in the bathroom,
they're not that context.

Speaker 4 (59:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (59:37):
But outside of that, do you want kids? I'm a
god dad. I have two beautiful nieces and Lisa, But no,
I was like, kids is a lot. They're beautiful, they're adorable.
But I never have baby fever ever in my life.

(01:00:00):
I've never went through a phase of being like, oh
I want kids. Yeah, I love my freedom. Y. I
love to be able to move and do what I want.
Not to say that mothers who have kids don't have freedom,
because you get to a certain point of your life
where you still live in your best life. You got
your kids to exactly the age they need to be

(01:00:21):
with where they able to do for theirself and move
and operate and feed themselfs Now, my girls be back
outside because I've seen it have to over and over
and over again. But as far as me, I don't
desire your children ever.

Speaker 2 (01:00:32):
Yeah, Yeah, I feel like kids for me has always
been a thing, like I do want children, but I
want to make sure. I know people say, no matter
how much money you make, you will never be prepared
for a child or whatever. But I just have to
get to a point in life where I can afford
a nanny. I do, like I know because I love working,

(01:00:54):
like I love just having a job and being busy,
and I know, like I see like the single moms
out there, and I'm not preparing to be a single
mother at all. But when I do decide to have
a child, I know whoever I'm married, he's gonna be
a busy person and I'm gonna be a busy person
and I'm not gonna be just staying at home and
I'm not giving up my dream to stay at home
with a child. So I know I am gonna need

(01:01:15):
that help, whether it's a family member that I have
moved in with me, but I'm gonna need to be
in a position to where I have I have some help.

Speaker 3 (01:01:24):
And you saying, because I'm pretty sure you can afford
a nanny now, but you're talking about like a full
they're getting a six figure paycheck can afford.

Speaker 2 (01:01:34):
And I need to be in a house because I
wouldn't mind having like a living nanny something like that,
like cause you know, we be torn. You know, some
days it's like it's just a lot. So I feel
like that's what motherhood looks like to me, Like I'm
gonna be an amazing mother, yes, but I'm gonna need
some help because my say and daddy gonna be busy.

Speaker 1 (01:01:53):
Yes, but I be saying the same thing, like I
definitely need a nanny. And then my mom he's retired,
so girl, come home out come living in this house
with us, and you know, ready.

Speaker 3 (01:02:07):
They're gonna give it all everything to come and do that.
That's their dream, their desires.

Speaker 2 (01:02:12):
She can't wait.

Speaker 4 (01:02:15):
But you got you a good mama and a good relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:02:17):
Yeah, yes, she gonna want to come. Oh for sure.
She already be putting it in my ears. Child, I
already know.

Speaker 1 (01:02:25):
But I do think I'm still going to have a
ninny as well, because like Leck said, we do travel
and stuff, like with touring and stuff, and my mom
is like older, so I just wouldn't want her having
to travel all the time.

Speaker 2 (01:02:36):
By yeah, yeah, okay, so naked mom, you're not gonna
be a naked mom.

Speaker 1 (01:02:42):
No, what you are not being braceded anymore. You do
not need to see my tds.

Speaker 3 (01:02:48):
You're still country. It's so country.

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Speaker 4 (01:05:02):
Oh I'm a yeah, I live the.

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Speaker 1 (01:05:12):
Okay, talk about dirty talk dudes and dons, because again,
you know, we did our little research and you are
sillyby well, abstiny. I feel about because you have yes,
but you're abstiny. You're not having six right now. No,
so how did you make that decision?

Speaker 3 (01:05:33):
I'm just when I tell you, on this course of
my life, I'm just so focused on what I'm doing now.

Speaker 2 (01:05:37):
It's just down there. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:05:39):
Sometimes but I just go ahead and it's it, and
I just all about my business. But at this journey
where I'm at in my life right now, I gotta
be focused. Nobody's entering my body. That's not even up
for debate, and I'm not allowing. I'm even at a
place in my life because I like trade. Trade is
like I wouldn'tssary say hood dudes, but they.

Speaker 2 (01:05:57):
Would be more on this, like you can't like you
would think.

Speaker 4 (01:06:01):
Yes.

Speaker 3 (01:06:02):
And I'm even at a place in my life. Trey
can't even come to my house because I'm so focused
on this journey. I'm so close that everything that it
is that I desire to want and have been desiring
for for years, and so I have to be real
particular about who I'm letting in my house, around me
and my body. So while I've been on this journey,

(01:06:23):
I've been celebrating even when I be that's my too.
I like to just oh, I can't say that because
I was about to say, oh, I can't say that
one bless oh.

Speaker 2 (01:06:33):
Bless, that's all.

Speaker 3 (01:06:33):
I gotta work over that, because it'll be about to
slip out, O me afraid. So that's why I like,
oh shit, oh bless that one on a slipped out.
That's why I like to meet my people in the clubs.
I'll just say that because I be wanting to meet

(01:06:54):
people who don't know who the hell I am, so
I could get in and get out. I'm at a
place in my life I couldn't see how sometimes when
you reach the level of superstardom, that you may stay
with a person even though a person is doing you
wrong because you're comfortable and dem you already know their motives.
I think what I'm learning now is a lot of

(01:07:15):
dudes I've been in contact with comes with like motives.
I hate now when people know who I am, it
curns me off because I'm like, oh god, okay, so
it's some motive.

Speaker 2 (01:07:24):
That's what it is.

Speaker 4 (01:07:25):
When you come up and say, you know me, it's
some older don't want it.

Speaker 3 (01:07:28):
It's that bad now because I just feel like it's
the arterior motive behind what it is that you want
out of me.

Speaker 4 (01:07:33):
But y'all, I been celibate five years. But the celibate
the celibate to y'all mean no sucking.

Speaker 3 (01:07:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:07:40):
When I think of celibacy or when I think of
being abstinate, I think of like no type of sexual interest.

Speaker 3 (01:07:49):
Saying you gotta be sucking at masturbating.

Speaker 2 (01:07:54):
A masturbating is okay, I will.

Speaker 4 (01:07:56):
Stay with this shrimp.

Speaker 3 (01:07:57):
One thing about it, play with.

Speaker 2 (01:08:01):
The shrimp is crazy, he said. I don't know if
I could stop all that. I feel like it needs
to be like, you're not doing anything sexual with another person.

Speaker 3 (01:08:19):
I know my little thing, be like stop scratching me.

Speaker 2 (01:08:22):
I'm sorry anything done to you, but you was just
doing stuff to.

Speaker 3 (01:08:29):
I'm not interested in that. Like if a god said
he want to go down on me, I'm not interested.

Speaker 2 (01:08:33):
No, you don't like him no girl. I'm a light
light but I like a little.

Speaker 3 (01:08:47):
Talk to a dude and he not interested.

Speaker 4 (01:08:52):
Yes, I'm the girl.

Speaker 2 (01:08:55):
I'm sorry. I don't like it if a boy.

Speaker 3 (01:08:57):
If a boy wanted to get in, I'm not interested.

Speaker 2 (01:09:00):
Okay, And that's why you like, that's why you like, depending.

Speaker 4 (01:09:05):
On who it is.

Speaker 3 (01:09:07):
But it's some trade out there who don't. And I'm
the ones I like. Like I say, predominantly, I like those.
Those are the ones I like predominantly. Now, I'm not
saying I've never encountered one that like to do linking too,
But if I could choose, I don't want my licking.
I'm just not into that because then you're going to
desire to lick on me.

Speaker 4 (01:09:27):
I'm not into that.

Speaker 2 (01:09:28):
Yeah, okay, so but let me ask you what started
the sell? Was it like a bad relationship or somebody
hurt you that made you decide to be in.

Speaker 3 (01:09:39):
A relationship In my life okay, three years old, I
have never been in a relationship in my life. I've
had little friends, but nothing serious. Like me and you
we together, we like now, I've never ever, Wow, I
just reached a certain point of just I think I
think that I've been I know this may sound crazy
to some people, but I think I've been scarred through

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a lot of other people experiences and seeing a lot
of my female friends get hurt and a lot of
my gay male friends get hurt worn. That's why I'm
even at a place in my life I want no relationship.
Where I'm at in my life none. I don't want
no relationship. I want to tap and go because I've
seen so many relationships and I've seen so many men

(01:10:24):
come into good girls' lives that have so much shit
going on. And and when I say it happens every
child I've only seen and I have to be real.
And as a gay black man, I've seen my friend
flex successful in his relationship. Yes they have issues and problems,
but they still have a camaraderie, they still have a relationship.

(01:10:46):
They're going five years strong. That's very weird. In our community.
We don't see a lot of relationships that stay down.
But they have a different dynamic of a relationship. They're
very open and raw with each other. But for me,
I've seen guys come into girls lives.

Speaker 4 (01:11:01):
And throwing them their life up.

Speaker 3 (01:11:04):
And she was right there and getting her degree. It's
one of my friends. I think that will hurt me
until I'm like eighty and you know eighty and movies
they looking back on their life. Yeah, she was supposed
to be a doctor. She stopped God and he knew
what the fuck he was doing. He knew what he
was doing, and she allowed him to get in her

(01:11:24):
fucking mind and fuck her up from getting her doctor's degree.

Speaker 2 (01:11:28):
I always use this as an example because depending on
the man you choose can really affect the trajectory of
your life. Wendy Williams, I truly believe that that man
that she married. Everybody said it was the downfall of her,
and I'm a Wendy Williams staying love her now. But
a lot of times when you look at these women
and the man that they involved their selves with, like,

(01:11:51):
for example, it's so it's somebody else. I feel like
Mary had did an interview the other day with Drew Barrymore.
I see that and she was saying, like everybody always
be like, oh, what's wrong with Halle and what's wrong
with her? And She's like, why something gotta be wrong
with me? And it was so many men in the
comments like, oh, Halle, I don't care how fine, you
are you sixty and single? Something is wrong with you?

Speaker 3 (01:12:10):
Something?

Speaker 2 (01:12:10):
I mean, it was so many comments, just being so nasty.
But I need to say something to the straight men
who date women and watch this. I need y'all to
understand that some women truly believe it is better to
be single.

Speaker 4 (01:12:27):
Me.

Speaker 2 (01:12:28):
It is better to be single than struggling with me.
Y'all ask me, because sometimes when I look at the
women like a like a Taraji or not a sonarilate
than or or Dane, what's Tracy Ellis Ross, I'm like,
they look like they having a great time. They like,
what's wrong with them? Nothing is wrong with something. If

(01:12:50):
you're blessed enough to find a great man that loves you,
who honors you, who is loyal, y'all have a partnership,
and y'all are really building something that is amazing. Yeah,
but when I tell you, it is very rare to
find that connection. And it is a blessing literally from
God hisself. That's not on everybody's card. People are not

(01:13:10):
led by God.

Speaker 4 (01:13:11):
Is let by Yes, people don't be letting God lead them.

Speaker 3 (01:13:14):
They be thinking that that's a God led situation, is not.
Its like a lot of people say they have words
from God, and they down't. It's their own thoughts and
their own bullshit that they feed they stuff.

Speaker 4 (01:13:24):
In their head.

Speaker 3 (01:13:24):
People be leaded by LUs. You sit here and you
think that it's a love at first sight, that's bullshit.
It's not not saying that it can't be, because it can,
because I know it's gonna be stories out there people say, no,
I found love at first sight, and I get that,
but ninety percent of the time it's lost. And when
you go through real shit, because I'm a believer in that,
that's how we all know it's love or not. When

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real shit starts to happen. Even with friendships, yep, I
seen it. My friend was hanging out with a group
of friends and he went to go do time and
he heard from none of them one and the one
with me. So when shit get real with people, you
can say all that, yeah, that's like and when shit.

Speaker 2 (01:14:04):
Get real, I feel like it's a mixture though.

Speaker 1 (01:14:07):
I feel like sometimes he's led by lust and then
sometimes people be led by loneliness. Because yeah, because she
said that in the interview too, she was just like,
it's nothing wrong with me. I'm just not staying with
a man who I know is not the right one.
But then I actually left the comedy on there what
you saying? I leave it coming Sometimes you gotta catch you.

(01:14:29):
But I was just like, yeah, I was like, it's
a lot of women. I was like, it's nothing wrong
with that, but it actually is. It's a lot of
women who stay in situations because they don't want to
be single, Like they cool with having the wrong men
because they feel like that's better than not having no men.
And I'm just like, yeah, when Betty Wright say it
that I skipped that part of the girl having a
piece of a man is not better then having no men.

Speaker 3 (01:14:52):
That because that's what it is, Because no, absolutely not. Yeah,
so many people that are literally settling because they don't
want to be along. Yeah, And then you look at me,
you look at me, and then when I say that,
people think that I'm tripping something wrong, exagerating, or it's

(01:15:14):
something wrong with me, and it's not. Yeah, it's I
am just at a journey in my life where I.

Speaker 2 (01:15:19):
Know what I want and I don't believe it's struggle
love either. Believe that you you gotta go through things
in a relationship, but it shouldn't be to the point
to where I'm depressed, I'm losing weight, I'm unhappy, I'm
crying every day. It shouldn't be that much of a struggle.
I don't believe in that. I feel like, if you
have two people who love each other, who are, you know,
sure where they're at in life, they are healed. Yeah,
we can come together and make something great and they

(01:15:41):
ain't gotta be no struggle all because it's a struggle.

Speaker 1 (01:15:44):
I feel like that's not necessarily struggle. That's incompatibility exactly,
y'all not competitive.

Speaker 2 (01:15:49):
Exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:15:50):
If you and a person is always at each other
nick ninety percent of the time, y'all just not compatible.

Speaker 2 (01:15:56):
It's not struggle.

Speaker 1 (01:15:58):
But people do be trying to convince they so we
just going through a rough patch, y'all been like this
for the past year.

Speaker 2 (01:16:04):
Hey, but you know what's crazy on the other end
of it. I always say that, do y'all remember when
Michelle Obama that interview said her and Barack were in
a rough patch for eight She did, but they were married.

Speaker 1 (01:16:15):
Yeah, But I think I hear the marriage is what
you deal with in a marriage and what you're willing
to try to work through with your partner.

Speaker 2 (01:16:22):
In a marriage.

Speaker 5 (01:16:23):
To me, that's completely different from.

Speaker 1 (01:16:24):
Boyfriend girlfriend boyfriend boyfriend girlfriend girlfriend. It's completely different because
you made a vow to this person you know and
if you truly do know them and you know the
potential of your relationship or you know what it was,
and that y'all truly are just going through a trying time.
It's okay to stay there and work through that with
your partner. But if you are in a relationship with

(01:16:45):
somebody and majority of the relationship has been bad and
the smaller part of the relationship has been good, you
just need to leave that.

Speaker 2 (01:16:52):
And also your is not Barack at all. So that's
a good.

Speaker 3 (01:17:02):
Thirty one years. And they tell me, if you've ever
been in a long term marriage, if you always say
that you've always been in love, it's a lot not
true because you go through different hurdles and different points
in your relationships. Sometimes you got to create love again.
Sometimes you got to create those times. And my parents
been together thirty one years and I've seen a lot
of amazing moments with them, but I've seen times where
they wantn't getting along. I've seen times of walking by

(01:17:24):
each other in the house because.

Speaker 4 (01:17:25):
That relationship be a lot.

Speaker 3 (01:17:26):
So yes, it's so beautiful, it's so amazing, it's so
a gope, it's so cute, but it be real times too,
and people who have been in relationships they can attest
to that it's a lot of.

Speaker 1 (01:17:39):
Work because you gotta be willing to put that work in.
And that's why I think sometimes some women like calle
Berry be like you not what. I'm actually cool on
these because I feel like I can find something else
where I don't have to put up with all of
these struggle of and all of these dramas to stay
in a healthy relationship or be in a healthy relationship.

Speaker 3 (01:17:57):
That is so true, and that's why for me too.
I love my Flo, I love my j Los, I
love my Holly Bed.

Speaker 2 (01:18:05):
I said, I love that about you because so just
get another one.

Speaker 4 (01:18:10):
Get another and over and over again.

Speaker 3 (01:18:15):
When I tell you I love girls, so I think
it's so bad because I be so buying and I
love my girls.

Speaker 4 (01:18:23):
I don't know what I would do without women. So
I live to see a girl, new one.

Speaker 2 (01:18:29):
I love girls.

Speaker 3 (01:18:30):
Who yeh another one because I got her friend. Her
name is Alexis. Let me say somebody, alexis good girl, amazing,
got her own business. She's a boss, so pretty. She'd
be hurt and devastated, but she know how to move on.
She go through, but she's not staying getting just dead mistreated.
You know, some girls are literally with stating I'm talking

(01:18:50):
about getting mistreated to the court. They don't speak up,
they don't leave baby, and she's gonna be devastated. But
in another two months, my girl be good.

Speaker 4 (01:19:01):
Outside.

Speaker 1 (01:19:04):
I'd be sad, but I'd be like, you know what,
maybe it's reiny, it's time to exist that.

Speaker 3 (01:19:10):
I live for girls like that, especially when you and
your like y'all in y'all prime people be thinking like,
twenties is your prome. No, thirties is really your prom
Twenties is yeah, you outside you having fun. I think
twenties you're supposed to be making your mistakes, living in
holess fun. Thirties is really your prime of creating who
you're going to be in your forties. Yep, thirties is
your prime. And I see so many girls in the

(01:19:32):
thirties waste the good fucking years. I see it over
and over again, not treated right, not respect and not
support it.

Speaker 4 (01:19:42):
And then you wake up and you sixty years old,
and be like, what the fuck.

Speaker 2 (01:19:45):
Where did the time go? Because I'm not gonna lie me.
At thirty five, I am making the most money I
ever made. I'm the finest I've ever been, the most confident.
I'm just so sure of myself, and I feel like
where I'm at at this point in my life. Like
I said, yeah, it be hurt when you get your
heart broke, but it's also like, I know what I
have to offer, but I'm also surrounded by like and

(01:20:06):
I have an amazing community, like between my family and
my friends. Like I be straight with a man or without.
If a man leave me, the quality of my life
does not change because I'm that girl, still gonna be
in my high ride, still gonna be traveling, Still very
much that girl. So I think that that just comes
with time and maturity and knowing who you are, because

(01:20:27):
I think a lot of times women are scared to
be leave a relationship because they don't know who they
are without this man. They have created their identity within
that man. So it's kind of like, well, who am
I without him?

Speaker 3 (01:20:38):
Baby?

Speaker 2 (01:20:38):
I'm everything?

Speaker 4 (01:20:40):
Ooh you, I gotta make a video to that.

Speaker 2 (01:20:43):
You ain't that that was a I'm that comes with like,
like I said, time immaturity, because when I seen Halle
Berry talking, I was like, Okay, I feel her. I
feel for her. When I see her, I don't look
I don't look at like, oh my god, she's sixty. Yeah,
I'd be like, hey, do what makes you happy.

Speaker 4 (01:21:04):
And do what works rich successful, and it ain't no time.

Speaker 5 (01:21:08):
Let me on getting married. If she want to get married,
she can get married a sixty five people.

Speaker 2 (01:21:12):
Do it all.

Speaker 3 (01:21:13):
You know how easy it is for get a man, right,
she got a mean exactly what she's saying. Do you
not know how easy it would be for her to
get a man, and a man that probably would genuinely
love her. She's just probably very calculated on how she moved.
She could get a man in two point five seconds.
The producers that were at the show that was filming
that segment that day. She could have one to be

(01:21:34):
her husband tomorrow.

Speaker 2 (01:21:35):
Tomorrow, she won't.

Speaker 4 (01:21:39):
Number you feel the essence of you is beautiful. You've
rich successful, So it's just not that.

Speaker 1 (01:21:47):
And I hate when men say that stuff too, like
try to make it seem like something is wrong with
the woman. Because niggas is literally the easiest thing to get.
It's not hard to get. It's not hard to get
a nigga if somebody and believe it ain't because it's
hard for her to get one.

Speaker 2 (01:22:05):
So it's so easy. Like even if you got your
own nigga, when your nigga be mad at you, it's
so easy to get your bed not mad if you
are to get your man back or whatever the came.
Men are just easy, Dan, they are, they are.

Speaker 3 (01:22:19):
It's so easy, especially when you look good lip gloss
had done. It looked like gloss pop and get fifteen
numbers and I'm fifteen men.

Speaker 4 (01:22:28):
Yeah, the quality is probably two good ones. But it's
so that is easy.

Speaker 1 (01:22:33):
That's what I'm saying. Like if women are single, it
is not because they can't get a mean people got
to stop projecting it. Huh, y'all, we ain't even talking
about the big topic.

Speaker 4 (01:22:41):
It was dirty.

Speaker 2 (01:22:42):
It was dirty talk.

Speaker 1 (01:22:43):
Oh oh oh, we did it because I was gonna say,
with you being celebate, do you do like phone city
dirty baby?

Speaker 4 (01:22:53):
Okay, weird because I can see that I had a
man and were doing phones that.

Speaker 3 (01:22:58):
Then it's not weird.

Speaker 2 (01:22:59):
But like what a little like the face time you
know you're playing with yourself. No, you don't be starting
the shrimp to a lof star.

Speaker 4 (01:23:07):
You gotta come see that.

Speaker 2 (01:23:09):
In person.

Speaker 4 (01:23:11):
You gotta come see that seaple boy.

Speaker 2 (01:23:12):
Your birth.

Speaker 4 (01:23:15):
Excuse me, Juicy Crawd.

Speaker 3 (01:23:17):
You don't get to see that on the face time.
You won't record me, I said, I think when I
got in my car accident, I said, ooh, bitch, you famous,
because I like, I'll just be operating like myself. So
when I get on my phone that day I seen
the shave room poster, I said it literally, y'all gaged
the funk out of you. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:23:36):
I don't know why.

Speaker 4 (01:23:37):
I said, yeah, yeah, bitch, you gotta watch how you
moving there.

Speaker 2 (01:23:41):
Yeah, because now you gotta be careful. I'm not gonna lie.
I really don't like send pictures and stuff like oh
like I used to like, I feel like when I
used to like start talking to a guy like I
wouldn't care. I'm like, I'm fine. But because I always
used to feel like, Okay, if my news lead, my
ship lives, so matter anyway. But now I just feel like,

(01:24:02):
not that I would be horrified, but i'd be like
I just don't want that to be y'all don't want yeah,
like I just don't want that to be out there.
So I get it. I get But that's why you
gotta know that's okay. Yeah, but you gotta deal with
men who have something to lose too. I think ninety
percent of the time when we see men doing that
revenge porn, they posting a woman's because they don't got

(01:24:22):
shit to lose, and they be wanting the cloud.

Speaker 4 (01:24:23):
Yeah, I want the cloud because they be so rooted
in that cloud.

Speaker 2 (01:24:26):
Yes, yeah, child, do y'all be a long time ago
when Black China was dating that guy and he was
like taking pictures and robs rolled like.

Speaker 4 (01:24:36):
All in her house the internet. Remember that was yeah
the interer.

Speaker 3 (01:24:41):
Now I remember all you've seen down your Twitter time
I was Black China, remember, like it was her revenge for.

Speaker 2 (01:24:50):
I remember. It was just so crazy. But that's how
it would be most of the time when you see
because he was really fine. I remember him being really,
really fun. But it was like most of the time
when you see like a fine dude or something, they
be chasing after us. Yeah, and they be wanting to
big themselves off of us. Uh huh. So that's why
I was like getting the man then, ain't faking or the.

Speaker 4 (01:25:10):
Dudes that chase you, chase you, chase you, chase, you,
chase you chase, you chase you.

Speaker 3 (01:25:12):
Then when you get it, ass a chance your face
and it's like you wanted me?

Speaker 2 (01:25:17):
Did you forget? They forgetting?

Speaker 5 (01:25:20):
They do be forgetting, they be having, they be thinking,
they be good in the program.

Speaker 4 (01:25:24):
I'm seeing that happen so many times.

Speaker 3 (01:25:25):
Chased her damn bed Yeah trachnically, Then would she give
you a chance?

Speaker 2 (01:25:30):
I had on the car chase me down for three
years and I finally decided to and I was just
like you, I will beat your ass. I will beat
your motherfucking ass like you, is you serious?

Speaker 6 (01:25:45):
Is you cool?

Speaker 2 (01:25:47):
Bra? When I think about that ship, I'll be like what, Yeah,
he chased you for three years. I mean when I
went back to our first DM, he had been to
my dms for three years, and I was always just
playing and like not you know, But.

Speaker 1 (01:25:59):
I always they say when you do it, be them niggas,
that be they be having a vendetta against you, like
if you carved them for a long time.

Speaker 2 (01:26:06):
Don't never deal with no nigga.

Speaker 1 (01:26:09):
Yes, I truly believe that, don't ever deal with a
man who've been trying to holler at you and you've
been carving him for years because he is going to
make it his personal mission to her trophy.

Speaker 2 (01:26:20):
That's why I went ba my like my last relationship.
I mean, I won't say last because it's kind of still,
but I use my old school thing. You know, you
go through and like they pictures and follow them and
they be like, ooh, she fine, that's my new thing
I like to do. That's how I pick them. That's
how I'd rather do the choosing. Now I'm not doing
somebody who trying to. So that's how it was my

(01:26:40):
last picture. Oh. I followed him. I liked a few pictures,
and then I posted a fine ass video on my
story and he fell right into my truck. Go so
may be easy. I was like, it was funny because
I screenshoted his page and I said this to my
best friend. I said, oh, I want him.

Speaker 4 (01:26:58):
Do y'all have an exit to give a you a
no aflutely.

Speaker 5 (01:27:03):
If it's over, baby, it's over for a reason.

Speaker 3 (01:27:05):
Let it go.

Speaker 1 (01:27:05):
I used to do that, but now no, Like, when
I'm done done, I'm really done with you, Like if
we in limbo, then that's different. I am out really
being done with somebody, like we broke up. I haven't
talked to you for six months. I haven't talked to
you for a year.

Speaker 2 (01:27:19):
No, it's because about.

Speaker 5 (01:27:23):
Yeah, And I think you just gotta always keep.

Speaker 2 (01:27:27):
In mind why did y'all break right?

Speaker 1 (01:27:29):
A lot of the time, I think that if people
sit and they reflect on why it didn't work out
the first time, then you realize it's not worth revisiting.

Speaker 2 (01:27:37):
And I think a man two and an X and
then y'all broken up for a long time. Now, sometimes
it does work out, but most of the time they
coming just to waste time. Whatever situation that they were
dealing with, y'all broke up didn't work out, so they're
just coming back to something that they know that's comfortable
until they find something else. They finish playing your face again,
always always. I've learned that every time that I used

(01:27:58):
to go back with my ex, it was just so
he could play in my face again. It was it
was comfortable. We didn't have to start from square one. Yeah,
it wasn't the getting to know each other face. It
was like we could just go in and we fucking already.
We get to skip all the books. Yeah, so I
just maybe just trying to get a shortcut, and it's
something fun to do. There's something to do until the
girl that they was messing with come back around or

(01:28:19):
they find somebody that they really really want.

Speaker 5 (01:28:22):
How you feel about dating?

Speaker 3 (01:28:24):
No, I don't have an axe. Yeah, I don't have
an ex. I have little fleas that have little relationships,
but I don't have an ax like a real ex.
Like I said, that's I don't play.

Speaker 2 (01:28:33):
Yeah, so you don't spend the block.

Speaker 4 (01:28:35):
When I tell you I don't play, I have it bad. Yeah,
you don't even talk to me too loud?

Speaker 2 (01:28:40):
You can leave? Yeah, yeah you can go out, baby,
you can.

Speaker 4 (01:28:43):
Don't need it.

Speaker 3 (01:28:44):
I'm telling you, I really be at peace with myself
and my life. Now.

Speaker 4 (01:28:49):
Do I want to be in love, Yes, of course.
Do I want a relationship, yes, But right now in
this season.

Speaker 3 (01:28:54):
I'm I be good.

Speaker 2 (01:28:55):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:28:56):
I I eat my own food, I chill, put my
air conditioned on, cut my teet.

Speaker 4 (01:29:01):
I'll be good. When I want a nibble, I have
a nibble. But I want you to leave.

Speaker 1 (01:29:07):
You be.

Speaker 2 (01:29:09):
Be peaceful, going to sleep, and you ain't got to
worry about what a nigga doing. You ain't got a
check in because it do.

Speaker 3 (01:29:14):
Be like that told me that. My sister just said that.
She was like, that is one of the most peaceful things.

Speaker 4 (01:29:25):
You can move and do what you want. He's not all,
while you got this long? Why are you going to?

Speaker 3 (01:29:30):
Where you going?

Speaker 2 (01:29:30):
While you It's like, when the relationship be good, it'd
be fun, it'd be a good time. But once you
get to that point to where you worried about what
he doing, he worried about what you're doing, y'all at
odds all the time, that's when stuff gets stressful. Like
I don't mind being a relationship and you know we're
doing what we have to do because it's not stressful.
But once it gets to that point to where it's

(01:29:50):
more stress than it is fun, I got to go, yes, God,
I agree, I got to go. Okay, So I the
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Speaker 1 (01:31:08):
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and we'll.

Speaker 2 (01:31:17):
Work it out.

Speaker 5 (01:31:18):
We're gonna figure it out. Get your product, get your
business sponsored, and yeah, make.

Speaker 2 (01:31:23):
You some money. We love to support a small business man.

Speaker 1 (01:31:26):
And a black business at that, but I mean abominated.

Speaker 5 (01:31:33):
Any businesses welcome.

Speaker 2 (01:31:34):
So now it's time to get into the box. So
the box of the weeks. Like whatever song you've been
listening to this week, what's on your playlist, what you've
been riding to gym and so. So I'm an R

(01:31:55):
and B girl, y'all know. I love to find like
new artists that nobody ever heard of, y'all. This is
such a good song. I love when I find good stuff.
So his name is Sink Money c I N q
U E M A n I and he have a song.
He has a song called give You My Love. It's
so soulful. I love a good love record, you know

(01:32:15):
what I'm saying. Yeah, So, what's yourp of the week.
What's your the week? Pull it up? What you got
for us? I thought you'd be jamming it gets that
you be in the mirror like twarking cut.

Speaker 3 (01:32:34):
My B of the week is my sister say, says Tannah. Okay,
oh yes, that's like.

Speaker 5 (01:32:44):
On the show We Love Him.

Speaker 2 (01:32:45):
That's I love Santana. Now that video of y'all walking
down the street, why you had that T shirt all
like that cutting up?

Speaker 3 (01:32:54):
That's like God, And people don't even understand how much
she loves.

Speaker 4 (01:32:59):
She loves and I love my girl since the day
we met. You ever had a friend that she don't
talk to every day?

Speaker 3 (01:33:06):
Yeah? Him every day, But every time y'all see each other.

Speaker 2 (01:33:10):
It's what's the.

Speaker 3 (01:33:13):
It could be some ship that go on and y'all
can pick up the phone and be like, girl, but
y'all don't talk every single day. That's my girl. But
I would say the song is he got some bob
So he just came up with the song. It's called
I'm not gonna play it right or.

Speaker 2 (01:33:28):
You don't have to play you don't.

Speaker 4 (01:33:29):
It's called free band Titty.

Speaker 6 (01:33:31):
Yes, I love.

Speaker 2 (01:33:38):
Yes funny. He is so funny. Y'all need to do
some more stuff together.

Speaker 4 (01:33:44):
We are like, yeah we are. It's so crazy because
like people mistake him for me.

Speaker 2 (01:33:50):
Yeah, I can hear that.

Speaker 4 (01:33:53):
Look alike and only doing it to me.

Speaker 3 (01:33:58):
So I stayd One day, I said cause it'll be
people like and then they'd be like, no, you'll be safety.

Speaker 2 (01:34:04):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:34:04):
So I asked someone, I said, do people be mistaking
you for me? He said, yes, girl, this lady just
did it the day air. I said really, He said yeah,
that was the first time.

Speaker 2 (01:34:14):
He said.

Speaker 3 (01:34:15):
The lady said big saxy, And I said, baby, I'm
not good.

Speaker 2 (01:34:19):
Especially like if y'all got the shades on or something like,
I can see that.

Speaker 3 (01:34:23):
Really.

Speaker 4 (01:34:24):
I think maybe it's like the aesthetic like.

Speaker 2 (01:34:28):
In the face, but like how y'all walk and talk
and the mannerisms, like I can see that. I can
see why people.

Speaker 1 (01:34:35):
Okay, what's your bob dre Okay, so my bop is
this song called Barkee by shift G.

Speaker 5 (01:34:41):
He like a New York repper.

Speaker 2 (01:34:43):
You know, I really used to like pop Smoke r
I P.

Speaker 1 (01:34:49):
RP pop Smoke, But I was devastating when pop Smoke
died because I felt like he was really like on
the brink of having a huge career, like it was
so so it was over so the South, but he
really used to make his and like, I don't know,
I just love the way New York niggas make music.

Speaker 2 (01:35:05):
I love they little I would shake the room. I
love the room.

Speaker 5 (01:35:11):
I know he has so many good songs.

Speaker 2 (01:35:15):
So yeah, okay, so it's called Brokie Boy Chef. I'm
gonna have to check that out.

Speaker 5 (01:35:20):
You gotta shake his music.

Speaker 2 (01:35:22):
Yes, let me ask you all question. What do y'all
think about that new that new wrapper up the white
girl Georgiana? What do y'all think about her? Yeah? About her?

Speaker 4 (01:35:31):
I like that song?

Speaker 2 (01:35:32):
Yeah, I gotta get it.

Speaker 3 (01:35:34):
She's new, so I gotta get into her. I gotta
get more of a feel of her in her music.
But I like that song called my sister Gloria.

Speaker 2 (01:35:42):
Heard the song. I wasn't liking it, but with Gorilla verse,
I was like, I hear.

Speaker 4 (01:35:47):
It now, Yeah, Lorela just rap?

Speaker 5 (01:35:51):
Is that the only song that she has?

Speaker 2 (01:35:53):
And I mean she has more, but I've never listened
to it. Yeah, that's like the hot song, right, Yeah? Yeah,
she said something the glos said she like her. Nigga's
medium ugly Duke Dennis I said, he said she wouldn't
talk about he is he he's a cute little Wiian.
You know that's a little Waifian. Will he'd be considered

(01:36:17):
a Wiian. I'm just old. That's what's a waian a
young dude, But I feel like I know no. Seven
twenty eight yea, I thought he was like thirty.

Speaker 3 (01:36:28):
Yeah, why is is nineteen twenty okay, okay, give it
se twenty eight, twenty nine thirty you're not whyyan okay?

Speaker 2 (01:36:35):
So yeah, I don't know exactly how old is dude,
Dennis y'all his early when do you think he's Definitely
he's like late twenties.

Speaker 3 (01:36:47):
No wine him a poor looking man?

Speaker 2 (01:36:51):
Yeah, well, yeah he is. That's a grown man that
I know. That's right, dude.

Speaker 4 (01:36:58):
Let me stop y'all celebrity No I do.

Speaker 2 (01:37:01):
You can ask me who is my celebrity craze? Oh
you know who?

Speaker 3 (01:37:05):
I like?

Speaker 2 (01:37:07):
What's that basketball player that was then? Kendrick Lamar video?
The Not Like Us video? What's his name?

Speaker 4 (01:37:15):
Lamar?

Speaker 2 (01:37:16):
What's his name? Themar DeRozan? Okay, I like him? He
real quiet. He talks about like mental health. I love that.
I love us. Emotionally intelligent man. Oh yeah, he's thirty five.
He don't be You know how you always see athletes
that always be dating the I G. He is just

(01:37:38):
not like that. He's very mature. He talks about mental
health a lot. He wrote a book. The way he'd
be out, the way he'd be out. I love a
man that's the way, very mature, I said. The harball
is like, I.

Speaker 1 (01:37:58):
Do love reality. Yeah, I love his personality. He is
South for a me, like he seemed like he's such
a good.

Speaker 2 (01:38:05):
Time around every time I see, Yeah, I do. What's
who y'all? Celebrity crush? I don't know. I don't even
think I have one that I'm just like, oh, he
just you like his wife. Hmmm. I think it's more
about a vibe though, because I'm not a girl that's
like into like looks looks like that. I just like
people vibe. Yeah, So it don't necessarily gotta be somebody

(01:38:28):
who you think is like fine, You just probably like
how they carry themselves. Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:38:32):
I feel like I would have to sit and think
about it, like for real, no, y'all, Like I'm really
trying to think, and I'm nobody's coming to the forefront
of my mind because the person I used.

Speaker 2 (01:38:39):
To have a celebrity crush on like this, I okay, no,
just you are so annoying. I wanted to make the
face to see if he.

Speaker 6 (01:38:48):
Knew tell you when the camp turn off shoot.

Speaker 1 (01:38:59):
Out a fucking I keep from making that fucking faith
that he doing.

Speaker 2 (01:39:03):
Okay, no, what, okay, We're gonna tell you after. Oh
my live for this, y'all. Do it's me? No, this

(01:39:28):
just taking the hold on me for sure. Ever since
I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera,
entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts
and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years,

(01:39:51):
I've heard your requests. But now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all,
let's get into the te with love Lex PM tasty. Okay, Okay, okay.
Now let's favorite segment, let's poor of your Heart out segment.

(01:40:14):
If you want your question answered on the show, and
make sure you email us at ask poor Minds at
gmail dot com. If you are a Patreon, remember you
get to skip the line, so make sure you put
that in the header. And do you give good advice?

Speaker 3 (01:40:24):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (01:40:24):
I do, I think you you can tell I think okay,
So go ahead, Drea, we got a question number one.

Speaker 1 (01:40:29):
Okay, Hey Lex Andrea, I have been binge watching y'all,
and now why I need my favorite unteased advice I'm
a gay male if that matters, and the glue of
my friend group the one who keeps everyone connected. My
friends always come to me for advice and comfort. Twenty
twenty three was rough. I left Atlanta, moved back to Florida,
and took a break from my content creator life to

(01:40:49):
focus on my mental health.

Speaker 5 (01:40:51):
Since then, two friends have been DC.

Speaker 1 (01:40:53):
One has a whole new crew, and the other ignores
me but stays out with others ps. She's boy crazy
and throwing shape jabs. Lately, Am I overthinking it? Or
have we just outgrown each other now that I'm no
longer their comfort sours? He is, Drea, don't let Lys
answer everything, all.

Speaker 2 (01:41:13):
Right, bitch, I'll won't say nothing. What you think sexy?

Speaker 4 (01:41:27):
And I love your pump them is cute.

Speaker 3 (01:41:31):
I think sometimes, oh, that's a hard one friend, I know,
because it'd be so unfortunate that when it's like out
of side, out of mind some when you're not around
a person, then you see everybody true colors and true
feelings because you're not convenient to what they have going on.
But I think that it's important to know that who's
supposed to be in your life is going to be

(01:41:52):
in your life, and I think it's important for people
to show their true colors so that you can paint
it out to be what it is that is in
front of you and not try to see it for
something else. So I think you just have to take
that for what it is. I know it may be hurtful,
and I know it may be unfortunate, it may bring
discomfort to know that you were only used for conveniencing. However,

(01:42:14):
you have to take it for what it is. I'm
a person that lives in the truth of the now,
and so when a person is showing you who they are,
you have to believe it. And so I feel like,
try and rekindle, try and reach out, but if you
are extending more than they are giving back to you,
I think that it's important to just close that door
and take it for what it is.

Speaker 4 (01:42:35):
Take on the hurt, feel it, and move on and
understand that. You know, it's a.

Speaker 3 (01:42:39):
Different position that people play in everybody life, and your
journey may be up with them in that moment.

Speaker 2 (01:42:45):
I agree.

Speaker 1 (01:42:46):
I feel like you definitely probably have just outgrown them,
and you do have to. You have to pay attention
to like who check on you when you going through stuff.
If both of those people were really decent while you
was going through your roof patch, do you really want
to be that cool with them like that?

Speaker 3 (01:42:59):
You know?

Speaker 1 (01:43:00):
I mean, because they have proven themselves to not be
people that's there that you can depend.

Speaker 2 (01:43:04):
On when life get rough.

Speaker 1 (01:43:06):
It seems like maybe they're the type of friends where
like when everything is all good and y'all having fun,
they there and they down for the ride, but then
as soon as you got some real shit going on,
they be in dcent. So I wouldn't even want those
type of friends souse. As you get older in life,
you start to realize those are not people that are
sustainable to be your friends for the long term anyway.
So yeah, I would just keep it moving personally. But

(01:43:29):
I get it sometimes you've put a lot into relationships
and you want to try to see if you can rekindle.

Speaker 2 (01:43:34):
So I do think Big Sexy is right. You can't see, Yeah,
but I think they kind of have showed you who
they are when you was going through something. Yeah, word, okay,
question them to what's the number two? Hey, Alexandrea, I'm
a thirty eight year old lesbian with the child. His

(01:43:55):
other parent is also in the community, and he identifies
as pan sexual. I fully don't get what that means,
so I just say bisexual. We were never in a
real relationship, just a lavender marriage. Since turning thirty three,
things have changed for me. I had a serious breakup
with someone I thought i'd married, but she wasn't on
the same page. Now years later, she suddenly wants everything

(01:44:17):
I wanted back then, but with someone else. It used
to her, But now I don't feel the same, and
I don't know why. I'm in a new relationship with
a woman. And while her head game is phenomenal, we
go months without sex. When we do have it, she
focuses mostly on giving me head not complaining. But my
body is changing. Mavajina keeps jumping like it's craving.

Speaker 3 (01:44:39):
Now, my girl, we're all over the place. Go ahead
and finish, Baba.

Speaker 2 (01:44:44):
Johanna keeps jumping like it's craving something inside, fingers, hands, straps,
bigger toys. Nothing feels like enough. My friends straight up,
tell me, girl, your pussy is throbbing because it wants
a real dick. I love my girl and I don't
want to leave her, but I feel unhappier than usual. Lately,
when men flirt with me, I actually blush, something I

(01:45:05):
never used to do. It's making me uncomfortable and I
don't know what to do. Can y'all are listeners help
me figure this out? We both known't neither. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (01:45:19):
You need to go and get what you desire, baby,
because you're never going to be happy moving forward when
you're just pretending and thinking and being with somebody just
because you feel like that's the convenient thing or the
comfortable thing to do.

Speaker 4 (01:45:30):
Maybe go and get with your heart's desire.

Speaker 3 (01:45:32):
Is nothing wrong with that, because you're craving somebody, tingling
an echin down there, and that is never going to
be fulfilled with.

Speaker 2 (01:45:41):
It's craving something inside, fingers, handstraps, bigger toys. So why
don't you try that with your partner first, because it's
craving something. I think it's so crazy when people are
in relationships and they don't speak up about what they
want sexually. If this is somebody that you love, and
you love your girl, you want to be with her,
have conversations. Hey, this is not working for me sexually.

(01:46:03):
I'm feeling like I want to so can we try
this in the bedroom. So I think it deserves your
your partner deserves to have a conversation and maybe see
you might not be craving Dig. You might just be
craving a toy or something. So, yeah, something inside boom so.
And I think that when you're flirting with men and
you're actually blushing, I think it's more so because you're

(01:46:26):
wanting that attention that maybe you're not getting at home.
A lot of times people confuse certain feelings for other
things that's not really what's there and what's happening. So
I think maybe have a conversation with your partner and
see what y'all can figure out in the bedroom between y'all,
and then if y'all are trying different things and you're
still not satisfied, that's when you can be like, Okay,

(01:46:46):
something else is going on here.

Speaker 4 (01:46:48):
That's true.

Speaker 2 (01:46:50):
I feel like, yeah, maybe you just be wanting it Dig,
That's what I think. I think.

Speaker 1 (01:46:55):
I think she just really won't it Dig? I really
did that, And I think you should scratch it.

Speaker 3 (01:47:02):
That scratch it just scratched fingers toys and yeah, scratch it.

Speaker 2 (01:47:12):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:47:13):
I just feel like she kept saying all of these
nice things about the girl. But then it was a
lot of butts. But but but I feel like if
it's that many butts, you just ain't really happy in
that situation.

Speaker 3 (01:47:24):
You're not happy.

Speaker 2 (01:47:26):
Yeah, you're not happy sexually. So and she said that
go months without six And that's what I'm saying. Who
trying to do that in a relationship. In a relationship?

Speaker 4 (01:47:35):
Girl, you want something?

Speaker 2 (01:47:37):
Yeah, god speed and good luck. Like if you have
been through a lot of your child got a part
sexual daddy and a lavender mad girl. I don't know
what none of them. I don't even know what paying
sexual means.

Speaker 4 (01:47:49):
I think it's like I like it for people.

Speaker 2 (01:47:52):
Yeah, okay, you're not attracted to a gender, They're attracted
to people. Yeah okay, so.

Speaker 3 (01:47:59):
Energy trends. You could be white, yeah, Puerto Rican, Mexican.

Speaker 2 (01:48:03):
Got it? Wo man, man, I like big sexy. Let
the people know what you got coming up.

Speaker 4 (01:48:15):
So I'm gonna be on some networks coming up.

Speaker 3 (01:48:18):
I can't wait for you guys to see Baddi's Africa audishes.

Speaker 4 (01:48:22):
It was amazing. It was so lit, it was soul turned.
They took care of me.

Speaker 3 (01:48:26):
I'm gonna also be on a couple of episodes of
love and hip hop that also is an amazing experience.
I have a huge birthday fashion show that's coming up
this year that I do annually every year that my
supporters come from all over the world to have a
good time. That year it was like four I think

(01:48:47):
it's like four or five thousand people show O my God,
and everybody comes up and from all over the place
and having a wonderful time.

Speaker 4 (01:48:54):
I have amazing content on the way. Y'all have to
come to a wall, and we know, y'all free lit.

Speaker 2 (01:49:02):
Oh, I feel like we're gonna do it. Yeah, that's
gonna be.

Speaker 3 (01:49:05):
We got a new one because that's gonna go up.

Speaker 2 (01:49:07):
We got the week and make sure it's the week,
the episode episode.

Speaker 3 (01:49:10):
I'm serious, y'all, me too. Let's go ahead lock that in. Yeah, okay,
because that's gonna be sick me. Yes, and I have
a different concept like one could go up first post,
then you go up pos and y'all rot together. Okay,
I think that'll be sick. Go ahead and do that
a stop. Amazing content on the way, Stay tuned and
wait till y'all see who I got comment. Oh, y'all,

(01:49:35):
I'm honored I can't wait until y'all reached out to me.

Speaker 2 (01:49:38):
Yeah, you know what's coming.

Speaker 1 (01:49:40):
Well, we definitely been one of you on the show
for a while. I'm glad we made it happy.

Speaker 2 (01:49:44):
Thank y'all, love you so much, and we'll sell bye y'all. Y'all,
make sure y'all share the content, like subscribe, follow all
that good stuff. And let me say this before we
close off, y'all, there is one Twitter account that connected
to poor Minds. It's p oh you are underscore in
my nds. Y'all are tagging the wrong poor Minds page.

(01:50:08):
If you see at poor Minds with no underscore, that
is at fake page, do not follow that page. Okay,
they blocked me Andrea and the poor Minds page on
both so we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one
TikTok it. It's p oh, you are underscore in my nds,
all right, and we got.

Speaker 7 (01:50:27):
Hell a fake Facebook page on the Facebook pages it's
our face. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually
have the least amount of file. So if you're on Facebook,
one that's ours got the least amount of file, but
one that's not us got like two hundred and fifty
to make if you actually look at the content because
the caption is like, whoever it is, don't speak English,

(01:50:48):
because their catches are like mumba clad should men?

Speaker 2 (01:50:51):
Should men pay bill? Should men pay bill?

Speaker 3 (01:50:54):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (01:50:55):
No? Check answer below block block Like that's literally with
the captions. I'm like you, what that DG is? Bumba claud.

Speaker 3 (01:51:07):
I put your pisture on my Mira flash when somebody
says your.

Speaker 2 (01:51:11):
Name in my stomach, in my stomach that going up
the way, I.

Speaker 4 (01:51:18):
Have to stettle on the speed to stand by my
knees going.

Speaker 6 (01:51:23):
What's happening to me?

Speaker 4 (01:51:25):
Anybody? Can you tell me what it means?

Speaker 1 (01:51:29):
I let my head on the pi's gonna stop for
a sign where the read.

Speaker 2 (01:51:40):
Always on my mind?

Speaker 8 (01:51:43):
Baby, when I see you, see you, when I might
walk by right on time, when I see.

Speaker 3 (01:51:54):
You, know my nobirl checking how my hair with my nails,
and I'm fee there's something that is on and I
nervous when your call, so I say I'm not. I'll
say I'm here.

Speaker 2 (01:52:10):
My favorite soul said.

Speaker 4 (01:52:17):
I wonder if you know I do the other clue?

Speaker 2 (01:52:22):
Yeah, okay, wait, what's the reason why you always hey
sexy boy.

Speaker 8 (01:52:40):
Hey baby?

Speaker 6 (01:52:45):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (01:52:45):
When I see you when sing now takeing out he can't. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I'm going around.

Speaker 4 (01:53:04):
I'm just understand here is.

Speaker 3 (01:53:10):
Whoa whoa Yeah, let me my baby.

Speaker 2 (01:53:17):
Shy who when I'm so sexy boll.

Speaker 3 (01:53:25):
Yeah bug about this is so chaotic. It was.

Speaker 2 (01:53:33):
It was my shots. That was my bad, y'all. Y'all
know i'd be off me. What's me y'all? Next week?

Speaker 1 (01:53:37):
Whoa

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