November 1, 2025 • 39 mins
Fall is coming to an end, and Morgan is ready for Christmas aka she’s already decorated. Amy has a realization about all those “theme” parties she was never good at, and they talk about that time she was chaperoning a house party and Morgan admits she got away with a lot as a kid. Plus, some relationship stories and the things Amy and Morgan are both learning in secure relationships.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Best Bits of the Week with morgane Part one.
Behind a scene with a member of the show, Happy Saturday.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Everybody, Amy is joining this weekend.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
What's up Amy?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Hello? Hi, Happy Saturday.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Are you excited to talk about all things fall? Halloween,
moving into Thanksgiving, Christmas?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Sure? That is where we are, Okay, I know, I'm
kind of excited about it. I know when the holidays
ended last year, like after Christmas and New Year's I
was bummed because I felt like I went by really fast,
and here it is again.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I know, and ready for it, gonna come and go
fast again.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
No, no, no, no, no, Ready, we're slowing it down.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
We're trying to.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
We're gonna. We're gonna. I don't know how, but we're
gonna slow it down.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I mean, I do keep Christmas around. I've already started
decorating for Christmas. I decorated the day before Halloween.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Oh wow.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
And I normally always wait till November first, but I didn't.
We didn't really have any big plans for Halloween.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
I was like, let's just go ahead and.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Decorate the house for Christmas as Halloween.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Yeah. Activity some people in my neighborhood already have their
Christmas lights up.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
See I we're.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Just ready and I'll keep them up through like February.
I keep Christmas as long as I possibly can. I
just love the lights. The lights make me feel so
homey and cozy and happy.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Yeah, it's my favorite thing.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
So I am officially by the time you guys are
listening to this podcast, decorated for Christmas.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Okay, that's amazing. We'd probably be November. I'm going to
try to do it like the first week of November,
so I'm not far behind you first or sec. I
guess that's like now, like either this coming week or
the week after I'll do it. It's all gonys figure
out where my kids are.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
It's funny too, because the debate always comes up of well,
what you're forgetting about Thanksgiving? But have you ever decorated
for Thanksgiving?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
I mean I've done some fall type things, but no,
I'm not someone that has like turkeys or but I
mean I are like those little you know. I'm talking
about the where the food comes to the free as
a horn. But it's a oh cornicopia there, yes, cornicopia.
I don't have one of those, but there are people
(02:06):
they wait till right after Thanksgiving, and I'm okay with that,
but it seems a little late for me.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
I know well, and growing up we always decorated for
Christmas before Thanksgiving to my Thanksgiving decorations. In my mind,
we're always Christmas decorations because it is true.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
What am I gonna do? Put a bunch of turkeys up?
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Yeah? I'm just honestly ready for the movies. I want,
like all the Hallmark like whatever they are, Netflix like,
whenever you're putting them out. I know that a lot
of the Hallmark type one started this week, but I
don't even a November first because I don't have those
channels my boyfriend has.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Okay, do you have school TV?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Now?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Your boyfriend has old school TV.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
He has everything, He has all the things, but he
has yes like and then he has the streaming stuff,
but he has legit like Comcast or something.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Well, then that's where you're watching.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I know, but I need to figure it out at
my house too, because and luckily he likes them. I
think that's something he enjoys doing with his daughter because
she loves him so much. She's seventeen, and I guess
this year it's I'm it's going to be different because
this time last year I wasn't as close to her
as I am now, and so I guess now I
feel more like I can be a part of that mix.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
So yeah, maybe watch over their activities. Yeah, oh that'll
be so much fun. Okay, yes you can't.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I know.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
You can also watch Hallmark stuff on YouTube TV, at
least I've caught it there before. Okay, so if you
have YouTube TV, that's the other way, because YouTube TV
is the closest to a cable type situation.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
That I've seen where they have a bunch of different channels.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah, I might be able to find some stuff on
my Hulu, So.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah, Netflix always comes out with a bunch. But my favorite, like,
what is the Christmas movie that marks Christmas season for you?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I love Elf?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Elf is the one yes.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Elf and h while you were sleeping?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
While you were sleeping? Why do I not rebell that one?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Because it's not it's probably just personal to my family,
But my mom loved that movie, and I feel like
my sister and I watch it in an honor for
around Christmas time because it takes place. It sort of
like could be the debate like Home Alone, like is
it a Christmas movie? Or not, just because it takes
place at Christmas time. So I hit it in that category.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah, it's like Harry Potter.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Harry Potter to me always reminds me of Christmas, but
it's not a Christmas movie, but it takes place during
Christmas and it feels very Christmas y.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah, so I think it fits in that.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
So for me, I know that's a little bit of
a different answer, but that is Christmas for me.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Well, it probably brings back memories of your mom and
I I kind of remember her.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
Elf home Alone while you were sleeping. I guess home Alone.
I don't really go back to that as much as
I used to when I was younger. I loved it,
but Elf, I could go back to now and while
you're sleeping, no problem. But Home Alone, I don't know
that I could sit there and like watch the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
It's been a long time since I've watched Home Alone.
I don't know that I that's even one of the
ones I would gravitate towards of normal Christmas movies.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
But I'm also not a Christmas vacation lampoons that kind
of movie series me either. I never got into those,
but the one that always marks it for me, and
I always try and find it. It's how they're gonstole
Christmas with like that live action of it, not the
cartoon one.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Like Jimmy Carey, Yes, his and who Vill That's always
my mark of Christmas started.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
You've never seen that one. Have you seen the cartoon?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I'm sure? Yeah, a long time ago when I was
a kid.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
You've never seen the Jim Carrey stuff. You have to
watch this, especially like if his daughter loves Christmas movies
and stuff, I bet she loves that movie.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Okay, I'll ask her. Well, I mean she loves the
Hallmark type ones. That's very different.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Then that's true, it's very different.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
But I bet because at least for me growing up,
Cindy Lou was like my I loved her.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I wanted to be Cindy Lou.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeahn know. I wonder why I missed that. I don't know,
like what funny was going on, Like why I never
dabbled in that, especially with kids. I'm gonna have to
ask my kids if they've watched it.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah, okay, for the sake of my Christmas heart, Okay,
it's my favorite.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I need you to watch it at some point this
holiday seas.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Okay, deal and you have to watch while you were
sleeping deal. I like it.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I think I've I think I like I have seen it,
but I don't know that I've ever watched it like
seen it pop up.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
And I love Sandra Bullock, so that'll be an easy one. Okay.
And fall activities wise, have you done anything even fall
related this season?
Speaker 3 (06:33):
We call pumpkins? Okays it that's all you've done with
the kids?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Uh? Yeah, you go to a pumpkin patch to pick them.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
No, we just went to the store and bought pumpkins
and then carved them.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
That's so funny now that you can go to a target,
you can go to Trader Joe's or a Walmart and
grab a pumpkin and you go. Before it used to
have to be you had to go to a pumpkin
patch to get a pumpkin.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Hmmm.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
I think I've always got of at the grocery store. Really, yeah,
a pumpkin like a normal just carving pumpkins. Yeah, yeah,
but there's them also, you know around town there's cute
little side of the road you know those ones they
have really cute stuff, Like there's one on twelve South.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, no, I love those.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
And one on greeny white.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
The moms are probably less expensive than the ones that
Race told you.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
And then they flip yes, yes, raise mothers are dying.
By the way, I guess they've hit their forty five
days or not even Uh. The the pumpkin things they
flip right after they turn into wreaths and Christmas.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Trees, yes, which is always I always love the Christmas trees.
Like sometimes I'll just pull up to those and I'll
walk through them like a little Christmas tree farm. I
just like to walk through them. There's something about warm
lights that will just you could put up warm lights
on a patio and I'd be like, I want to
go there and at somebody's house.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
I just love of inviting.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Yes, something about that we did do carving pumpkins. But
something that I brought from my childhood that my boyfriend
had never done was cook the pumpkin seeds. Did you guys,
Oh no, you just threw them away.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
So I put them into like three different ones and
all these different seasonings and tried different fun flavors and
stuff on them, and it was the best time.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Gum me.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
The best one was in everyday seasoning from World Market.
It kind of shocked me because I never had this
seasoning before. But it was like perfectly salty. It had
like a lemon paparika to it, and it was really good.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Oh okay, I wish I would have thought to do that,
but oh I forgot. I guess deer. You know, I
have deer that visit my yard.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
I have seen it and pop up.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
They must be eating pumpkins. And then they're using the bathroom. Oh,
I keep finding little piles of like pumpkin seeds and
stuff like, Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Have they did you set your carving pumpkins out? Have
they tried to eat your pumpkins?
Speaker 3 (08:49):
So they're at my boyfriend's house and no, he doesn't
really have deer that visit.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
You should when they're done, and when you're done with them,
you should give them to them. They'll be a good
recycled way to get rid of the pump because I've
also heard people will recincle their pumpkins and take them
to the zoos.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Yes, you can do that. You can use them for compost. Yeah,
there's a lot of different ways besides just throwing them
in the trash can. Yes, okay, so not a lot
of fall activities happening.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Besides, we both carved pumpkins. That was it.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Yeah, I feel like that's pretty good, though I know
what o their fall activities are there for ALKEI believes,
I don't know, bobbing for apples.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Halloween parties. I didn't even dress up this year.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
No, we neither.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And I love dressing up. That's always really a fun part.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
But I just it stuck up on me and I
was like, Okay, it's here, Okay, goodbye.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Yeah. No, I've never been into it, and I don't
know why. It makes me wonder because you know, it's
almost like there's two types of people, like those that
just like go all out and always have like the
best costumes and they're wark on it for a while
and make it like I saw your costume carousel of
all your costumes in the past, and I was like, oh,
those are legit. I don't have that. But I've never like,
dressing up for parties has always been really really hard
(09:58):
for me, And I don't know why. In college, like
there was state parties and there's a theme, Like I just.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Even theme parties. You didn't like, go all out?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
No, it was not I'm not saying it wasn't fun.
I just wonder what it is about me that doesn't
get into it, because.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I would like to.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
I would like I feel like, oh, that would be
cool to be that person, that kind of person, Like
what's wrong with me? These are like they're not no, no,
I do I am You're not? Well it feels that way,
but okay, but you're not.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
It might just be more of a it's more of
on your side of creativity. You have different versions of
creativity and maybe that one just really doesn't spark a
thing for you, so instead it becomes more of a
chore and then you don't it's not fun.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, maybe that's more what it is.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Yeah, but that's definitely interesting that that's always been a reoccurring.
Now it's like a thing and I think about it
like I've thought about it ever since, like high school, college,
all the parties and people that have like these amazing costs.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Is your boyfriend like to do this stuff? Okay, So
it's not like.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
You're now I haven't made it up with people that
It's not the ying to the yang kind of thing
where it's like, oh, yeah, you do this, so you'll
take care of it. No, neither one of us. We're
both like lame. Like last year we did spend Halloween together,
but we were newly dating, like, so this year it
made sense we were together. But last year it was on
(11:24):
Halloween that was the first time I met his kids,
and we kept it casual. They were trick or treating
and we were out and about walking around in whatever
the area where they trick or treat, and the kids
were scattered about at different houses and with friends running around,
you know, So it was sort of like I just
met them in the street and passing and they knew
that it was going to happen. But He's like, and
(11:45):
they're all in their costumes, like, hey, are you amy?
I mean, and I was in my workout clothes and
like sneakers, Like I wasn't dressed up. He wasn't dressed up.
And this year we did not dress up. So yeah, no,
to answer that question, we are both.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
But at least it makes it more casual for that
being the first meeting instead of it being like, Okay,
we're gonna have a dinner, somebody's coming over.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Got worked out well.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Thing at least then they had plenty of things to distract.
That just made it a little bit easier.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Yeah, and then I think Halloween last year was on
a Thursday, and so then that following Saturday, his daughter
I was having a party and it was at his
house and he needed help chaperoning. So he checked with
her like is it okay if Amy comes, and she
was like, oh, yeah, you know, and we had just
met on Thursday. So I helped her set up for
the party. I helped her like so a little bit
(12:34):
of her costume, and I brought snacks and stuff for
all their friends. I mean, there was a lot of
teenagers there, and so she was busy doing her own thing.
We didn't really hang out other than that, but I
felt like that was a really good first weekend for
us to connect because it allowed me to show up
for her, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
And it still, again is easy and casual. There's not
this like big hanging. This has to happen.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
You have to connect kind of situation.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Okay, I have a follow up question, but I want
to take a quick break and we're gonna come back
and I'll ask them. Okay, So I want to know
what it was like for you to kind of host
a teen party, because I don't think your kids have
had a party at your house.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
No, they haven't liked this, like not, Like she was
hosting a lot of her friends and they were all
in ages fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, and so, yeah, my kids,
we haven't hosted a big party like that at my
house before. He was very strict with the rules. No
backpacks because then they could be hiding alcohol. No drinking, obviously,
(13:39):
but one thing was you can't come in with a backpack,
so we had to make sure that nobody had a backpack.
And it was an all outdoor party, so they weren't inside.
I mean they could come inside to use the restroom,
but that was about it. Like all the food and
snacks and music and everything was outside, and what.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Was that like?
Speaker 3 (13:58):
It was fun? I mean we were pretty much inside,
but we would peek outside and look every once in
a while. And then there was some drama with this
one girl maybe she was from a different school, I
can't remember, in this one boy. And so then when
they showed up, we were really peaking around, like, oh,
she came, and so then we were staring to make
sure it was good. And then they didn't stay long
and they turned around and left, and yeah, some people
would pop by because there was multiple parties that night,
(14:20):
and I guess some maybe there was drinking allowed, so
you could tell the kids that maybe wanted to be
a part of that scene. But they would pop by
and then they would be like, Okay, we're going to
peace out or go do our own thing, and maybe
they weren't going to drink. I don't know what. Just
my spidy senses were telling me.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah, you know, it's funny you even describing that. It's
funny to me because when I was in high school,
we were the house that would often host parties. And
it's always funny looking back at that now because my
parents had a pool and so we'd be in the
backyard a lot. But I just always thought about my
parents were inside and I just wonder what was going
through their head while we were just out there having
(14:58):
these parties with all people, and were they questioning.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
What we were doing?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Were they worried about things like what was that process
like as a parent when your kids are just out
there like having a party and you're like kind of
have to let control go of them and what's happening?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Yeah, Well, we laid the ground rules down with her
before it started, and then everybody coming knew the rules.
So and he's pretty serious about it. So he's not
a practicing lawyer at this moment, but he is one
like like he was a lawyer at one point, and
so he can get very like, you know, he'll present
(15:38):
a case to his kids or have his reasons and
if they want to counter it, they can present their side,
but they have to do it in a deliberate, respectful way,
and if they have a valid point, he will bend.
But he wants them to not just whine about something
if he lays down the wall, like he wants them
to come back and state their side and their perspective.
(16:00):
And so, you know, there were some things I think
she was frustrated with, but then ultimately she understood and
why he had some of the rules that he had
and will continue to have just because people are crazy
and there's you could he could end up liable for
something that he's not responsible for. So we were we
laid down all the rules, and then also we weren't
(16:20):
just like letting them be and like, well, I hope
they're following it. Like we would pop out there every
once in a while and just be like hey, like
but not in an obvious way, be like just refilling
the chips or very movie as yeah, just anybody need
a soda, But you're kind of like walking around making
sure that like there's no kids like hidden in the
(16:40):
bushes or something.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
Yeah, he's definitely seen a lot of things, so he's
very aware of the possibilities and things that can happen
for sure, given that line of work.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Well yeah, I mean, and I think just even being
a parent, Like there's a situation that happened in his
you know circle, not his direct friends, but where there
was a lawsuit that impacted multiple families and it like
the one family decided to sue. I don't really think
I would do that, but you just never know. They
(17:10):
got the right lawyer, and even I think the lawyer
that took the case was part of their group and
was then it caused all this division and the but
amongst the parents and the adults, and he's just like,
I don't want any part of that, Like this is
something that could literally ruin the rest of your life,
if just for your kids having a party. And I'm
like I went to so many parties when I was
(17:31):
in high school where everybody was drinking and the parents
did not care whatsoever. And I'm not saying that that's
how it should be, but I'm just shocked at how
laid back they were about it, with no worries when
anybody could have, you know, talking about having a pool,
which he has, like anybody could fall in hit their head,
like they're just you have to go through. You don't
want to be doom and gloom and play out every
(17:54):
worst case scenario that could happen. But it's like you
never know, and then you're the responsible one. And if
someone litigious and not understanding that it was genuinely a
freak accident. And I guess if all the parents are
in agreement and they know that there might be drinking.
And I'm not saying this there would be drinking at
his parties, but I guess, And if I'm thinking of
(18:15):
teenage parties, like sometimes if every single parent knows and
they're aware, then you are sort of giving your consent, right, Yeah,
but I know what the parties I was at, some
of the parents knew, but then like my mom certainly didn't.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Well yeah, and I would say also like the pool
parties we would have, like there was never alcohol there.
It was always when the parties that I went to
that had alcohol, there was never parents home, you know,
it was always done.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Yes, she never went to any with parents. Oh man,
I did.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
We had there were some, but like, I still don't
think the parents truly knew. We were pretty I mean
we were putting alcohol and water bottles like we weren't,
you know.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
We were pretty sneaky.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Yeah, yeah, very well versed in how we knew to
get away with it. But like the big parties, the
big house parties that I really think of, there was
no parents home. They had no idea what was happening.
So those are different situations.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
But I feel like times are changing with that though,
because every we didn't have the cameras back then, sort
of like now you can always know where your kids
are with Life three sixty or just even find mine.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Oh yeah, my parents had no idea'd be on a
field somewhere exactly.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Now, sure took me home.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
We know where all the kids are, and I mean, shoot,
we know if they're on foot or driving. Like that's
how detailed like Live three sixty is. And then if
you try to have people to your house and your
parents are gone, with all the you know, ring cams
and whatnot, it's just not the same.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
It isn't.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
And like I think of teeping, like that used to
be a big thing during homecoming week.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
We'd go and tepee each other.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Sometimes it got even like there was a lobster in
our pool at one point that was a whole thing.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
A real live looks a.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Bunch of guys, but a lobster in our pool. My
dad was not very happy. He chased them down the street.
But like, it was such a big part of our
high school where we'd go and teepee each other.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
And now you can't do that. There's ring cameras.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Oh so they still do it. My boyfriend's kids they
went he his son had a sleepover the other night
and the whole point of the sleepover was to go
toilet paper this one girl's house because the weekend before
some girls had had a slumber party and toilet papered
their house. And uh, I guess the camera thing, it
(20:20):
doesn't really matter. They just kind of do it and
then they get they figure out who it is, and
then they retaliate, but in good fun. But they still
toilet paper. Toilet paper ring is still a thing.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Okay, Well that makes me feel better because that was one
of my favorite parts of high school and.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Some of the trees are still far out enough to
wear maybe the ring camel.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, And I guess if you were like all black,
maybe because the ring cameras aren't super clear, so you
could get away with it. Maybe. But I just it's
such a bummer.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Like, in a way, I know it's better now because
more people are safe, we're more aware of things that
are happening.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
But I just all the things that I got away
with are wild.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
Yeah. My heart got forked once. And then also some
of my friends my neighborhood put a porter potty in
my yard once.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
What hmm, are you serious?
Speaker 3 (21:05):
Yeah, so my guy friends, and I don't know why.
I think they just thought it would be like so funny.
My mom was not happy, and she was like, you
need to call them right now. They need to come
pick it up, because like, how in the world are
supposed to get rid of a porter potty? So they did,
they had to come. I had to call them, and
I was like, if y'all don't come to it, my
mom's going to call your mom. So and they were
my friends like it wasn't like a an enemy thing.
It was just they were trying to be funny.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Yeah, well, and that's what it was. It was never
like you were doing it to be spiteful.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Well, one time this girl sagged my house in eighth grade.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Okay, well you paintballed my house.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
So yes, that's true, paintballed it. Oh my Oh yeah,
he also drove through my yard. It was a whole
thing as an adult.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Yeah, were you in high school?
Speaker 3 (21:44):
Okay, I didn't know if this was like your ex
boyfriend from a couple of years ago.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Not for that was much better. But yeah, yeah, I
was a high school.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Boyfriend and he drove through your yard.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Oh yeah, yeah, we I talked. It was funny.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
I talked about that story on the podcast with my
parents because it was like recalling it because my dad
like ran after him in his whitey tidies and it
was just like we can really laugh about it now,
but when it happened, it was terrifying. It was not
a good moment in the house, and my parents were
not happy with me. And yeah, so they're some crazy thing.
And my dad took a lot of pride in his yard.
(22:17):
He loves his yard. So when that guy tore up
his grass, he was not happy.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Yeah, i'd be mad, but oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
It's cool to see the perspective now. I wondered what
times we're like now with kids, and.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
I mean it's different, Like I know, friends are adult
friends that you know, allow certain things that we're just
not gonna allow. Yeah, but I mean everybody's different.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Yeah, but still it feels like once upon a time,
at least in the early two thousands or middle two thousands,
we were all kind of living the same life and
we were getting away with a lot of things. Now
it's like the times have changed for sure. Okay, I
want to get into Also, I am a horrible cat mom.
I want an update on how Maggie's doing on her diet.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
I so Hazel loves.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
I put up a screened porch for my deck, so
she had to start outside.
Speaker 3 (23:10):
Yeah, thank you, and she loves it.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
She will come running to that back door like a dog,
Like I say, outside, she's there, she wants to be outside.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Well, she does this sometimes.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
And I won't realize when I let Remy out that
she's snuck out there and I didn't see her. And
the other day I just hear scratching at the door,
which normally she scratches on the inside, and I'm like, Hazel,
you're not going out right now.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
Like we'll get We'll get to it in a little bit.
Scratching keeps happening for like an hour.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
This is going on, So finally I get up to
go over there and be like, Hazel, girlfriend, let's chill out.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
She was outside in the dark, scratching out of the door.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
Take it in?
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Can I come back in? And I felt so horrible.
But cats are so sneaky.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
Yeah, they are, like you.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Can't hear them, not like sometimes unless she has her
little like kat zoomies, she'll go crazy and I can
hear her and she sounds like a horse, but beyond
that she is like it is sneaky. You can't hear
a paprint anywhere. And that was one of those moments.
But I felt like a horrible mom because she was
sitting there in the dark on here.
Speaker 3 (24:10):
It was cold out, so vulnerable, like I don't want
to be out here. She can't see super well, so
I felt really bad. Give me an update on Maggie
and how her diet's going. It's not going well. She
doesn't like it at all. She nows all the time,
she's hungry, so I don't really know what we're gonna do.
I don't feel like she's lost anyway. I used to
(24:30):
have a leash that fit her and I would take
her on walks. So I thought the other day, either
I need to figure out if that one will extend,
because she obviously doesn't fit into the leash anymore. It's
like a little harness thing that we had on her
when she was a kitten. I think I need to
get an adult size.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Do you think she'll walk on it now?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Well, she did when she was a kitten, But I
was thinking that's the only way I'm going to get
her to exercise, because I try to do other things
and she'll, you know, play with stuff for a minute
and then she just rolls over and she's like I'm
over this. By she's like I'm done, I'm done. And
I think she needs more activity than that. So if
I take her out on a walk and look, you're
out in the wild, like this is just what you
(25:12):
have to do, I don't think she'll just PLoP down.
We'll cross that bridge when we get there, though, But
I considered getting her another leash is my whole point
to start walking her again, because I don't think she's
lost any weight, and I have cut back on her feeding,
so it may just take a little time, but I
do think that we're gonna need to burn some calories.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
So is it now, Because I know a lot of
people with their cats will just leave food out all
the time because cats are notorious razors, they don't typically
eat full meals.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, Well, I've had to hide food around her. All
of her stuff, her litter box, and her food is
in the game room. So I've been doing little nooks
and cranies where I hide food, but it has to
be out of site for Kara or out of reach
for Kara, my dog, because otherwise she'll eat it and
(26:00):
I don't know who's eating what. And so it's hard
to find things that are high up that Maggie can
also jump to and have space to hang out on
that car I cannot get to, So it's it's been difficult.
A listener did send me something about getting a like
a feeder, like an automatic feeder that just like drops
out stuff at a certain time. Yeah, and that that's
(26:22):
the only thing that worked for their cats. And I
need to look into that.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Yeah, I have heard good success stories on feeders, but
I will say in general though, just to give you,
like some grace in this situation. Getting a cat to
lose weight is one of the hardest things. Like you're
better off trying to make sure they don't gain the way,
ever than trying to get it off of them. It's
really difficult because they aren't they don't exercise, they like
to be lazy, they like to hang out. They're notorious grazers,
(26:50):
so they don't really like eat meals like dogs do.
It's just a different lifestyle.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
The listener said, you need an automatic feeder. Our feeds
the smallest them out four times a day at five am,
ten am, five pm, and ten pm, I guess. And
they said it really helped with the early morning starving mews,
which that's what she's been doing. It'll be like three
in the morning and she's just meyowing, and she wants
(27:15):
pretty much nothing to do with me during the day.
But then she sleeps with me every night, and I'm like,
what's the deal? Cats are so weird. I love her
so much, but I wish she wanted to cuddle and
hang out during the day that would be awesome, but
at night she is right next to me. It's so sweet.
But then that doesn't last.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
They are cats, have fun personal they're weird, they're so quirky. Well,
I hope maybe he need the automatic feeder and that
starts to help, hopefully for your guys' estake, because I
do know what it's like when your animal very much
wants to stay awake at night.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
I know, and I want her to live along a
healthy life, so I've got to kind of get it together.
I do take the vets advice seriously, and you know
I want her to feel good.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
Yes, okay, well I love that update.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Hopefully we get some better update next time that she's
lost like two pounds. Yes, season, that will be great. Yeah,
we'll take that as a win. Okay, one more break,
we'll be right back. Okay, So I want to talk
about your boyfriend. You mentioned the ying and ying thing
and I wanted to come back to it. So how
long have you guys been dating now.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Along, I mean like officially, not a year yet, but
right around officially, but it SEMs like you guys met Yeah,
so I've known him for a year.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Okay, Yeah, what have you learned.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
I'm so curious about yourself and like the process over
the last year.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
I brought this up a little bit on the show
recently and you know, on my podcast, But I've learned
how defensive I get. I'm really really really working on
that because it's not just with him that he's sort
of brought it to light, but with you know, just
in my own head, like with things or with my kid,
(28:58):
like a friend, like they not mean what I think
they're meaning, Like my filter makes something like, for lack
of a better way to put it, like an attack
on me when it's not like if he's sharing something
with me at times, like and I get defensive right away,
He's like wait what. He gets real confused by it
(29:19):
because it's not where he was coming from at all.
So we are definitely working on that. By week it's
mostly me and then I think I've also learned like
what it feels like to be in a secure, calm,
healthy relationship, and so that's been exciting and like, oh,
(29:46):
you know, at first you kind of feel like it's
a little boring, but then now that we're through all
of that and then the other feelings, like it just
feels good, and sometimes I even step back and I'm
like huh yeah, like, oh, well, this is an interesting feeling,
Like my nervous system is more calm now. I know
I have the defensive thing, and that's not all the time,
(30:07):
but it is something that shows up that I've had
to work on. However, my overall nervous system is in
a different place and how quickly, Like even if there's
a defensive thing, I do move off of it faster
or nothing escalates, it doesn't escalate, And I'm like, what
(30:29):
is this? And I'm like, oh, this is a healthy,
mature relationship.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
Okay, Okay, So I'm curious too, cause you mentioned that
I feel like very much in my relationship now because
I did have such tumultuous relationships before that. A lot
of things have started popping up for me now because
I am safe and I feel secure and I feel
like I'm in an environment where it's like my whole
(30:53):
body is finally healing physically, emotionally, mentally. That now, that's
why things are starting to come up, because I'm in
a place where I can address them. Do you feel
like that's what's happening with some of these like the
defensiveness you never quite knew or felt, but now you're realizing.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Yeah, that could be it. Yeah, and it could be
that someone is in a very loving kind way drawing
attention to it for me because he even noticed it.
I did it to something Ben, my ex husband had said.
We were all three together and Ben did something. We
walked away. I was like, oh, and I made a
comment about something Ben had said to me, but I
(31:31):
was getting defensive and he looked at me and he goes,
I don't think that's how he meant it. And I
was sort of like, huh, so that was an example
of him just nudging me and encouraging me of like,
you may want to re filter that, let's reevaluate that.
So I mean, it's also just having someone that isn't
(31:53):
scared to say something, but it doesn't do it in
a way that makes it And thankfully it's not like
I then got you know, defensive towards him, like, oh, well,
why are you taking bins side? Well, because there is
a time where maybe I could have snowballed into that.
Who knows. I don't want to show Kota what like,
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
But it's also because he's proven that he's not trying
to do that to you. He's proven that he's a
safe space and he wants the best for you.
Speaker 3 (32:19):
Yeah, he wants the best for me, He wants the
best for my kids. He will come in with you know,
parenting advice.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
And it doesn't feel intrusive or controlling, and it just
feels like love being loving.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
Do you feel like because you do just in general,
I mean, you're a mom, you have a career, you
have your dating, you also have your ex husband he's dating, Like,
there's so many kind of things you're balancing all at
the same time.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Do you feel like you're in like this good place now?
Speaker 2 (32:51):
How do you like, where are you at right now
in your life with so much having gone on.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
I feel like I'm in a really good place. I mean,
I think there's always you know, when you're a parent,
there's always thing with your kids that are happening.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
So there's some of that at the moment that I'm juggling,
but everything else feels like it's in a really good place.
And I think Ben and I being in a good place,
and then us being in good relationships and having you know,
partners that are kind and caring like that helps all
of that. So like, even if there is rocky things
(33:29):
happening in parenting, it feels more manageable.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Yeah, you have this like stable ground, stable foundation that
if something rocky does happen, you're like, oh, okay, we
can handle this.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Yeah. Support. And there was the thing a couple of
weeks ago where that was even so evident to me,
like of the growth that I've had, So it's yeah,
part growth on my end, but also part circumstantial of this. Oh,
this is my foundation now. So not only do I
(34:03):
have the experience and the tools that are allowing me
to make this decision with more confidence and ease, also
I'm being supported by and that includes my ex husband, Like,
we have a good foundation right now. So even if
I was a little you know, I didn't have the
tools and whatever, I have support. So but it's right now.
(34:24):
It's a good thing because I've got both.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
Yeah, I love this. This is a good.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
Yeah it feels good. But I think you know, with everybody,
there's always ups and downs.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Always such as life.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
That's how as soon as everything feels great, something always happens.
But when you do have that foundation, I was so
curious because it does feel like you're in a better
place with your foundation. That makes everything else not so intense. Yes,
because I've there's certain times in my life where I've
definitely been in a place where there was no foundation,
or the foundation was very rocky, and every feels like
(35:01):
Mount Everest and it could be a you stub your
toe and it feels like it is the entire world
that's ending. And so to have a very calm, stable foundation,
it changes the game in a lot of ways. So
I was curious how that was impacting your life now,
just with this new relationship that you've been in, it's.
Speaker 3 (35:21):
Impacting in a positive way for sure.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
Oh that's so good.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Okay, well before we jump out of here, is there
anything else you've wanted to talk about or you want
to bring up?
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Or random? It could be so random, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
What I wanted to talk about. Is so random? Oh well,
I guess I should say something that came up. Was
it earlier this week or last week? Whenever I had
the clip in Bangs? Yeah, So I got a lot
of messages that people wanting me to link the banks,
and I just want to say they're not. I don't
want you wasting your money. Like when I took the
(35:54):
picture that I posted with them, I had my headphones
over them, so it was covering like the awkward part
of how it blends in your hair because I couldn't
figure out a great way to clip them in. So
that is my message of like, I'm not going to
link something unless I really like it or it works.
And this is something that I bought and I would
not link because I don't want to steer y'all wrong, Like,
(36:17):
and it had good reviews and other people seem to
love it, but I spent a lot of time trying
to figure out how to make it clip in and
look seamless, and I could not figure it out. So
I don't want to put you all through that, which
I know you're all adults. You can make your own decision,
But I mean, also, do you just google like bang
clip ins on Amazon and then do your own research
so that feel better about that instead of me linking
something where you spend your money and then.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
You're like, oh, these are horrible, well in there, So
that's that The clip and bangs really are one great
if you're you know, have some event coming up and
you're going to your hairstylas and they're going to do
something kind of like if you throw in some extensions
for a specialty event. That's kind of how I see
the clip and bangs or if you're thinking about getting bangs.
I ordered bangs on Amazon before I bought my or
(37:01):
before I cut them, because I was like, I need
to see, even in general, what this looks like.
Speaker 3 (37:04):
Well, so that I will say, that's not a waste
of money. So if that's your kid, that's what you want.
And yeah, I haven't put up a link, but you
could google on Amazon and just find any bangs that
sort of remember your color. And you know, the goal
isn't to actually wear the clippins, but if you want
it to just give you an idea of what you're
going to look like with the banks, then spind away
(37:25):
because it it might be like, oh great, now I
like this vibe. I'm going to go cut my banks yep.
And then you have that and so it's an investment,
like you're investing in that decision, so it's not a
waste of money.
Speaker 2 (37:38):
Wait, so did you decide I really liked the way
they looked.
Speaker 3 (37:42):
I mean, speaking of that, yeah, but I don't know
that if I do it, winter time is going to
be a good time because it's less humid out because
I have very curly hair. So if I go for it,
then perhaps it will be sometime soon. But I have
a hair appointment in November, like mid to later November.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
I have it.
Speaker 3 (38:06):
It's before Thanksgiving, I know, so TBD.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
I think you should do it. I think they looked great.
I loved my bang era.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
I mean, granted, it did require more effort from me,
which is the one thing I didn't like about them.
It just required me to style my hair all the time.
But I loved them, like genuinely. I loved having my
banks and it was just fun to do something different
because I don't do a lot different with my hair.
It's always been blonde, it's always been long, besides when
my mom made me get a bolka because I wouldn't
(38:34):
brush it. Beyond that, like, I've literally had the same
kind of hairstyle my whole life. So it's fun to
do something different and add a little spice. Maybe I
vote for bangs, Okay, maybe I will.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:48):
I know it's a big decision because people are so
split on bangs, but it's fun. It's hair it grows back.
You know that you can always have hear your hair again, right, so.
Speaker 1 (38:59):
It'll be fun. Okay, if you don't end up liking me,
you can just side sweep b them.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
You're convincing me.
Speaker 1 (39:03):
That's my hot take. Okay, fun bangs.
Speaker 2 (39:06):
All right, we're gonna get out of here. Tell the
people where they can hear you and find you.
Speaker 3 (39:09):
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not Feeling Things the same Me and Kat on Instagram.
It's just Feeling Things podcast. Love that all right, and
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Speaker 1 (39:32):
And that's it for us. Goodbye, everybody. That's the best
bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks for listening. Be
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The Best Bits of the Week with morgane Part one.
Behind a scene with a member of the show, Happy Saturday.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Everybody, Amy is joining this weekend.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
What's up Amy?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Hello? Hi, Happy Saturday.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Are you excited to talk about all things fall? Halloween,
moving into Thanksgiving, Christmas?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Sure? That is where we are, Okay, I know, I'm
kind of excited about it. I know when the holidays
ended last year, like after Christmas and New Year's I
was bummed because I felt like I went by really fast,
and here it is again.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I know, and ready for it, gonna come and go
fast again.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
No, no, no, no, no, Ready, we're slowing it down.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
We're trying to.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
We're gonna. We're gonna. I don't know how, but we're
gonna slow it down.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I mean, I do keep Christmas around. I've already started
decorating for Christmas. I decorated the day before Halloween.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Oh wow.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
And I normally always wait till November first, but I didn't.
We didn't really have any big plans for Halloween.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
I was like, let's just go ahead and.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Decorate the house for Christmas as Halloween.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Yeah. Activity some people in my neighborhood already have their
Christmas lights up.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
See I we're.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Just ready and I'll keep them up through like February.
I keep Christmas as long as I possibly can. I
just love the lights. The lights make me feel so
homey and cozy and happy.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Yeah, it's my favorite thing.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
So I am officially by the time you guys are
listening to this podcast, decorated for Christmas.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Okay, that's amazing. We'd probably be November. I'm going to
try to do it like the first week of November,
so I'm not far behind you first or sec. I
guess that's like now, like either this coming week or
the week after I'll do it. It's all gonys figure
out where my kids are.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
It's funny too, because the debate always comes up of well,
what you're forgetting about Thanksgiving? But have you ever decorated
for Thanksgiving?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
I mean I've done some fall type things, but no,
I'm not someone that has like turkeys or but I
mean I are like those little you know. I'm talking
about the where the food comes to the free as
a horn. But it's a oh cornicopia there, yes, cornicopia.
I don't have one of those, but there are people
(02:06):
they wait till right after Thanksgiving, and I'm okay with that,
but it seems a little late for me.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
I know well, and growing up we always decorated for
Christmas before Thanksgiving to my Thanksgiving decorations. In my mind,
we're always Christmas decorations because it is true.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
What am I gonna do? Put a bunch of turkeys up?
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Yeah? I'm just honestly ready for the movies. I want,
like all the Hallmark like whatever they are, Netflix like,
whenever you're putting them out. I know that a lot
of the Hallmark type one started this week, but I
don't even a November first because I don't have those
channels my boyfriend has.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Okay, do you have school TV?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Now?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Your boyfriend has old school TV.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
He has everything, He has all the things, but he
has yes like and then he has the streaming stuff,
but he has legit like Comcast or something.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Well, then that's where you're watching.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I know, but I need to figure it out at
my house too, because and luckily he likes them. I
think that's something he enjoys doing with his daughter because
she loves him so much. She's seventeen, and I guess
this year it's I'm it's going to be different because
this time last year I wasn't as close to her
as I am now, and so I guess now I
feel more like I can be a part of that mix.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
So yeah, maybe watch over their activities. Yeah, oh that'll
be so much fun. Okay, yes you can't.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I know.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
You can also watch Hallmark stuff on YouTube TV, at
least I've caught it there before. Okay, so if you
have YouTube TV, that's the other way, because YouTube TV
is the closest to a cable type situation.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
That I've seen where they have a bunch of different channels.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah, I might be able to find some stuff on
my Hulu, So.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah, Netflix always comes out with a bunch. But my favorite, like,
what is the Christmas movie that marks Christmas season for you?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I love Elf?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Elf is the one yes.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Elf and h while you were sleeping?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
While you were sleeping? Why do I not rebell that one?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Because it's not it's probably just personal to my family,
But my mom loved that movie, and I feel like
my sister and I watch it in an honor for
around Christmas time because it takes place. It sort of
like could be the debate like Home Alone, like is
it a Christmas movie? Or not, just because it takes
place at Christmas time. So I hit it in that category.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah, it's like Harry Potter.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Harry Potter to me always reminds me of Christmas, but
it's not a Christmas movie, but it takes place during
Christmas and it feels very Christmas y.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah, so I think it fits in that.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
So for me, I know that's a little bit of
a different answer, but that is Christmas for me.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Well, it probably brings back memories of your mom and
I I kind of remember her.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
Elf home Alone while you were sleeping. I guess home Alone.
I don't really go back to that as much as
I used to when I was younger. I loved it,
but Elf, I could go back to now and while
you're sleeping, no problem. But Home Alone, I don't know
that I could sit there and like watch the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
It's been a long time since I've watched Home Alone.
I don't know that I that's even one of the
ones I would gravitate towards of normal Christmas movies.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
But I'm also not a Christmas vacation lampoons that kind
of movie series me either. I never got into those,
but the one that always marks it for me, and
I always try and find it. It's how they're gonstole
Christmas with like that live action of it, not the
cartoon one.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Like Jimmy Carey, Yes, his and who Vill That's always
my mark of Christmas started.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
You've never seen that one. Have you seen the cartoon?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I'm sure? Yeah, a long time ago when I was
a kid.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
You've never seen the Jim Carrey stuff. You have to
watch this, especially like if his daughter loves Christmas movies
and stuff, I bet she loves that movie.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Okay, I'll ask her. Well, I mean she loves the
Hallmark type ones. That's very different.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Then that's true, it's very different.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
But I bet because at least for me growing up,
Cindy Lou was like my I loved her.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I wanted to be Cindy Lou.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeahn know. I wonder why I missed that. I don't know,
like what funny was going on, Like why I never
dabbled in that, especially with kids. I'm gonna have to
ask my kids if they've watched it.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah, okay, for the sake of my Christmas heart, Okay,
it's my favorite.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I need you to watch it at some point this
holiday seas.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Okay, deal and you have to watch while you were
sleeping deal. I like it.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I think I've I think I like I have seen it,
but I don't know that I've ever watched it like
seen it pop up.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
And I love Sandra Bullock, so that'll be an easy one. Okay.
And fall activities wise, have you done anything even fall
related this season?
Speaker 3 (06:33):
We call pumpkins? Okays it that's all you've done with
the kids?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Uh? Yeah, you go to a pumpkin patch to pick them.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
No, we just went to the store and bought pumpkins
and then carved them.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
That's so funny now that you can go to a target,
you can go to Trader Joe's or a Walmart and
grab a pumpkin and you go. Before it used to
have to be you had to go to a pumpkin
patch to get a pumpkin.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Hmmm.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
I think I've always got of at the grocery store. Really, yeah,
a pumpkin like a normal just carving pumpkins. Yeah, yeah,
but there's them also, you know around town there's cute
little side of the road you know those ones they
have really cute stuff, Like there's one on twelve South.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, no, I love those.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
And one on greeny white.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
The moms are probably less expensive than the ones that
Race told you.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
And then they flip yes, yes, raise mothers are dying.
By the way, I guess they've hit their forty five
days or not even Uh. The the pumpkin things they
flip right after they turn into wreaths and Christmas.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Trees, yes, which is always I always love the Christmas trees.
Like sometimes I'll just pull up to those and I'll
walk through them like a little Christmas tree farm. I
just like to walk through them. There's something about warm
lights that will just you could put up warm lights
on a patio and I'd be like, I want to
go there and at somebody's house.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
I just love of inviting.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Yes, something about that we did do carving pumpkins. But
something that I brought from my childhood that my boyfriend
had never done was cook the pumpkin seeds. Did you guys,
Oh no, you just threw them away.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
So I put them into like three different ones and
all these different seasonings and tried different fun flavors and
stuff on them, and it was the best time.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Gum me.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
The best one was in everyday seasoning from World Market.
It kind of shocked me because I never had this
seasoning before. But it was like perfectly salty. It had
like a lemon paparika to it, and it was really good.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Oh okay, I wish I would have thought to do that,
but oh I forgot. I guess deer. You know, I
have deer that visit my yard.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
I have seen it and pop up.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
They must be eating pumpkins. And then they're using the bathroom. Oh,
I keep finding little piles of like pumpkin seeds and
stuff like, Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Have they did you set your carving pumpkins out? Have
they tried to eat your pumpkins?
Speaker 3 (08:49):
So they're at my boyfriend's house and no, he doesn't
really have deer that visit.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
You should when they're done, and when you're done with them,
you should give them to them. They'll be a good
recycled way to get rid of the pump because I've
also heard people will recincle their pumpkins and take them
to the zoos.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Yes, you can do that. You can use them for compost. Yeah,
there's a lot of different ways besides just throwing them
in the trash can. Yes, okay, so not a lot
of fall activities happening.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Besides, we both carved pumpkins. That was it.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Yeah, I feel like that's pretty good, though I know
what o their fall activities are there for ALKEI believes,
I don't know, bobbing for apples.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Halloween parties. I didn't even dress up this year.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
No, we neither.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And I love dressing up. That's always really a fun part.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
But I just it stuck up on me and I
was like, Okay, it's here, Okay, goodbye.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Yeah. No, I've never been into it, and I don't
know why. It makes me wonder because you know, it's
almost like there's two types of people, like those that
just like go all out and always have like the
best costumes and they're wark on it for a while
and make it like I saw your costume carousel of
all your costumes in the past, and I was like, oh,
those are legit. I don't have that. But I've never like,
dressing up for parties has always been really really hard
(09:58):
for me, And I don't know why. In college, like
there was state parties and there's a theme, Like I just.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Even theme parties. You didn't like, go all out?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
No, it was not I'm not saying it wasn't fun.
I just wonder what it is about me that doesn't
get into it, because.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I would like to.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
I would like I feel like, oh, that would be
cool to be that person, that kind of person, Like
what's wrong with me? These are like they're not no, no,
I do I am You're not? Well it feels that way,
but okay, but you're not.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
It might just be more of a it's more of
on your side of creativity. You have different versions of
creativity and maybe that one just really doesn't spark a
thing for you, so instead it becomes more of a
chore and then you don't it's not fun.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, maybe that's more what it is.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Yeah, but that's definitely interesting that that's always been a reoccurring.
Now it's like a thing and I think about it
like I've thought about it ever since, like high school, college,
all the parties and people that have like these amazing costs.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Is your boyfriend like to do this stuff? Okay, So
it's not like.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
You're now I haven't made it up with people that
It's not the ying to the yang kind of thing
where it's like, oh, yeah, you do this, so you'll
take care of it. No, neither one of us. We're
both like lame. Like last year we did spend Halloween together,
but we were newly dating, like, so this year it
made sense we were together. But last year it was on
(11:24):
Halloween that was the first time I met his kids,
and we kept it casual. They were trick or treating
and we were out and about walking around in whatever
the area where they trick or treat, and the kids
were scattered about at different houses and with friends running around,
you know, So it was sort of like I just
met them in the street and passing and they knew
that it was going to happen. But He's like, and
(11:45):
they're all in their costumes, like, hey, are you amy?
I mean, and I was in my workout clothes and
like sneakers, Like I wasn't dressed up. He wasn't dressed up.
And this year we did not dress up. So yeah, no,
to answer that question, we are both.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
But at least it makes it more casual for that
being the first meeting instead of it being like, Okay,
we're gonna have a dinner, somebody's coming over.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Got worked out well.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Thing at least then they had plenty of things to distract.
That just made it a little bit easier.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Yeah, and then I think Halloween last year was on
a Thursday, and so then that following Saturday, his daughter
I was having a party and it was at his
house and he needed help chaperoning. So he checked with
her like is it okay if Amy comes, and she
was like, oh, yeah, you know, and we had just
met on Thursday. So I helped her set up for
the party. I helped her like so a little bit
(12:34):
of her costume, and I brought snacks and stuff for
all their friends. I mean, there was a lot of
teenagers there, and so she was busy doing her own thing.
We didn't really hang out other than that, but I
felt like that was a really good first weekend for
us to connect because it allowed me to show up
for her, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
And it still, again is easy and casual. There's not
this like big hanging. This has to happen.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
You have to connect kind of situation.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Okay, I have a follow up question, but I want
to take a quick break and we're gonna come back
and I'll ask them. Okay, So I want to know
what it was like for you to kind of host
a teen party, because I don't think your kids have
had a party at your house.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
No, they haven't liked this, like not, Like she was
hosting a lot of her friends and they were all
in ages fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, and so, yeah, my kids,
we haven't hosted a big party like that at my
house before. He was very strict with the rules. No
backpacks because then they could be hiding alcohol. No drinking, obviously,
(13:39):
but one thing was you can't come in with a backpack,
so we had to make sure that nobody had a backpack.
And it was an all outdoor party, so they weren't inside.
I mean they could come inside to use the restroom,
but that was about it. Like all the food and
snacks and music and everything was outside, and what.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Was that like?
Speaker 3 (13:58):
It was fun? I mean we were pretty much inside,
but we would peek outside and look every once in
a while. And then there was some drama with this
one girl maybe she was from a different school, I
can't remember, in this one boy. And so then when
they showed up, we were really peaking around, like, oh,
she came, and so then we were staring to make
sure it was good. And then they didn't stay long
and they turned around and left, and yeah, some people
would pop by because there was multiple parties that night,
(14:20):
and I guess some maybe there was drinking allowed, so
you could tell the kids that maybe wanted to be
a part of that scene. But they would pop by
and then they would be like, Okay, we're going to
peace out or go do our own thing, and maybe
they weren't going to drink. I don't know what. Just
my spidy senses were telling me.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah, you know, it's funny you even describing that. It's
funny to me because when I was in high school,
we were the house that would often host parties. And
it's always funny looking back at that now because my
parents had a pool and so we'd be in the
backyard a lot. But I just always thought about my
parents were inside and I just wonder what was going
through their head while we were just out there having
(14:58):
these parties with all people, and were they questioning.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
What we were doing?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Were they worried about things like what was that process
like as a parent when your kids are just out
there like having a party and you're like kind of
have to let control go of them and what's happening?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Yeah, Well, we laid the ground rules down with her
before it started, and then everybody coming knew the rules.
So and he's pretty serious about it. So he's not
a practicing lawyer at this moment, but he is one
like like he was a lawyer at one point, and
so he can get very like, you know, he'll present
(15:38):
a case to his kids or have his reasons and
if they want to counter it, they can present their side,
but they have to do it in a deliberate, respectful way,
and if they have a valid point, he will bend.
But he wants them to not just whine about something
if he lays down the wall, like he wants them
to come back and state their side and their perspective.
(16:00):
And so, you know, there were some things I think
she was frustrated with, but then ultimately she understood and
why he had some of the rules that he had
and will continue to have just because people are crazy
and there's you could he could end up liable for
something that he's not responsible for. So we were we
laid down all the rules, and then also we weren't
(16:20):
just like letting them be and like, well, I hope
they're following it. Like we would pop out there every
once in a while and just be like hey, like
but not in an obvious way, be like just refilling
the chips or very movie as yeah, just anybody need
a soda, But you're kind of like walking around making
sure that like there's no kids like hidden in the
(16:40):
bushes or something.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
Yeah, he's definitely seen a lot of things, so he's
very aware of the possibilities and things that can happen
for sure, given that line of work.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Well yeah, I mean, and I think just even being
a parent, Like there's a situation that happened in his
you know circle, not his direct friends, but where there
was a lawsuit that impacted multiple families and it like
the one family decided to sue. I don't really think
I would do that, but you just never know. They
(17:10):
got the right lawyer, and even I think the lawyer
that took the case was part of their group and
was then it caused all this division and the but
amongst the parents and the adults, and he's just like,
I don't want any part of that, Like this is
something that could literally ruin the rest of your life,
if just for your kids having a party. And I'm
like I went to so many parties when I was
(17:31):
in high school where everybody was drinking and the parents
did not care whatsoever. And I'm not saying that that's
how it should be, but I'm just shocked at how
laid back they were about it, with no worries when
anybody could have, you know, talking about having a pool,
which he has, like anybody could fall in hit their head,
like they're just you have to go through. You don't
want to be doom and gloom and play out every
(17:54):
worst case scenario that could happen. But it's like you
never know, and then you're the responsible one. And if
someone litigious and not understanding that it was genuinely a
freak accident. And I guess if all the parents are
in agreement and they know that there might be drinking.
And I'm not saying this there would be drinking at
his parties, but I guess, And if I'm thinking of
(18:15):
teenage parties, like sometimes if every single parent knows and
they're aware, then you are sort of giving your consent, right, Yeah,
but I know what the parties I was at, some
of the parents knew, but then like my mom certainly didn't.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Well yeah, and I would say also like the pool
parties we would have, like there was never alcohol there.
It was always when the parties that I went to
that had alcohol, there was never parents home, you know,
it was always done.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Yes, she never went to any with parents. Oh man,
I did.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
We had there were some, but like, I still don't
think the parents truly knew. We were pretty I mean
we were putting alcohol and water bottles like we weren't,
you know.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
We were pretty sneaky.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Yeah, yeah, very well versed in how we knew to
get away with it. But like the big parties, the
big house parties that I really think of, there was
no parents home. They had no idea what was happening.
So those are different situations.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
But I feel like times are changing with that though,
because every we didn't have the cameras back then, sort
of like now you can always know where your kids
are with Life three sixty or just even find mine.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Oh yeah, my parents had no idea'd be on a
field somewhere exactly.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Now, sure took me home.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
We know where all the kids are, and I mean, shoot,
we know if they're on foot or driving. Like that's
how detailed like Live three sixty is. And then if
you try to have people to your house and your
parents are gone, with all the you know, ring cams
and whatnot, it's just not the same.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
It isn't.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
And like I think of teeping, like that used to
be a big thing during homecoming week.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
We'd go and tepee each other.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Sometimes it got even like there was a lobster in
our pool at one point that was a whole thing.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
A real live looks a.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Bunch of guys, but a lobster in our pool. My
dad was not very happy. He chased them down the street.
But like, it was such a big part of our
high school where we'd go and teepee each other.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
And now you can't do that. There's ring cameras.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Oh so they still do it. My boyfriend's kids they
went he his son had a sleepover the other night
and the whole point of the sleepover was to go
toilet paper this one girl's house because the weekend before
some girls had had a slumber party and toilet papered
their house. And uh, I guess the camera thing, it
(20:20):
doesn't really matter. They just kind of do it and
then they get they figure out who it is, and
then they retaliate, but in good fun. But they still
toilet paper. Toilet paper ring is still a thing.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Okay, Well that makes me feel better because that was one
of my favorite parts of high school and.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Some of the trees are still far out enough to
wear maybe the ring camel.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Yeah, And I guess if you were like all black,
maybe because the ring cameras aren't super clear, so you
could get away with it. Maybe. But I just it's
such a bummer.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Like, in a way, I know it's better now because
more people are safe, we're more aware of things that
are happening.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
But I just all the things that I got away
with are wild.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
Yeah. My heart got forked once. And then also some
of my friends my neighborhood put a porter potty in
my yard once.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
What hmm, are you serious?
Speaker 3 (21:05):
Yeah, so my guy friends, and I don't know why.
I think they just thought it would be like so funny.
My mom was not happy, and she was like, you
need to call them right now. They need to come
pick it up, because like, how in the world are
supposed to get rid of a porter potty? So they did,
they had to come. I had to call them, and
I was like, if y'all don't come to it, my
mom's going to call your mom. So and they were
my friends like it wasn't like a an enemy thing.
It was just they were trying to be funny.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Yeah, well, and that's what it was. It was never
like you were doing it to be spiteful.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Well, one time this girl sagged my house in eighth grade.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Okay, well you paintballed my house.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
So yes, that's true, paintballed it. Oh my Oh yeah,
he also drove through my yard. It was a whole
thing as an adult.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Yeah, were you in high school?
Speaker 3 (21:44):
Okay, I didn't know if this was like your ex
boyfriend from a couple of years ago.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Not for that was much better. But yeah, yeah, I
was a high school.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Boyfriend and he drove through your yard.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Oh yeah, yeah, we I talked. It was funny.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
I talked about that story on the podcast with my
parents because it was like recalling it because my dad
like ran after him in his whitey tidies and it
was just like we can really laugh about it now,
but when it happened, it was terrifying. It was not
a good moment in the house, and my parents were
not happy with me. And yeah, so they're some crazy thing.
And my dad took a lot of pride in his yard.
(22:17):
He loves his yard. So when that guy tore up
his grass, he was not happy.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Yeah, i'd be mad, but oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
It's cool to see the perspective now. I wondered what
times we're like now with kids, and.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
I mean it's different, Like I know, friends are adult
friends that you know, allow certain things that we're just
not gonna allow. Yeah, but I mean everybody's different.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Yeah, but still it feels like once upon a time,
at least in the early two thousands or middle two thousands,
we were all kind of living the same life and
we were getting away with a lot of things. Now
it's like the times have changed for sure. Okay, I
want to get into Also, I am a horrible cat mom.
I want an update on how Maggie's doing on her diet.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
I so Hazel loves.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
I put up a screened porch for my deck, so
she had to start outside.
Speaker 3 (23:10):
Yeah, thank you, and she loves it.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
She will come running to that back door like a dog,
Like I say, outside, she's there, she wants to be outside.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Well, she does this sometimes.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
And I won't realize when I let Remy out that
she's snuck out there and I didn't see her. And
the other day I just hear scratching at the door,
which normally she scratches on the inside, and I'm like, Hazel,
you're not going out right now.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
Like we'll get We'll get to it in a little bit.
Scratching keeps happening for like an hour.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
This is going on, So finally I get up to
go over there and be like, Hazel, girlfriend, let's chill out.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
She was outside in the dark, scratching out of the door.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
Take it in?
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Can I come back in? And I felt so horrible.
But cats are so sneaky.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
Yeah, they are, like you.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Can't hear them, not like sometimes unless she has her
little like kat zoomies, she'll go crazy and I can
hear her and she sounds like a horse, but beyond
that she is like it is sneaky. You can't hear
a paprint anywhere. And that was one of those moments.
But I felt like a horrible mom because she was
sitting there in the dark on here.
Speaker 3 (24:10):
It was cold out, so vulnerable, like I don't want
to be out here. She can't see super well, so
I felt really bad. Give me an update on Maggie
and how her diet's going. It's not going well. She
doesn't like it at all. She nows all the time,
she's hungry, so I don't really know what we're gonna do.
I don't feel like she's lost anyway. I used to
(24:30):
have a leash that fit her and I would take
her on walks. So I thought the other day, either
I need to figure out if that one will extend,
because she obviously doesn't fit into the leash anymore. It's
like a little harness thing that we had on her
when she was a kitten. I think I need to
get an adult size.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Do you think she'll walk on it now?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Well, she did when she was a kitten, But I
was thinking that's the only way I'm going to get
her to exercise, because I try to do other things
and she'll, you know, play with stuff for a minute
and then she just rolls over and she's like I'm
over this. By she's like I'm done, I'm done. And
I think she needs more activity than that. So if
I take her out on a walk and look, you're
out in the wild, like this is just what you
(25:12):
have to do, I don't think she'll just PLoP down.
We'll cross that bridge when we get there, though, But
I considered getting her another leash is my whole point
to start walking her again, because I don't think she's
lost any weight, and I have cut back on her feeding,
so it may just take a little time, but I
do think that we're gonna need to burn some calories.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
So is it now, Because I know a lot of
people with their cats will just leave food out all
the time because cats are notorious razors, they don't typically
eat full meals.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, Well, I've had to hide food around her. All
of her stuff, her litter box, and her food is
in the game room. So I've been doing little nooks
and cranies where I hide food, but it has to
be out of site for Kara or out of reach
for Kara, my dog, because otherwise she'll eat it and
(26:00):
I don't know who's eating what. And so it's hard
to find things that are high up that Maggie can
also jump to and have space to hang out on
that car I cannot get to, So it's it's been difficult.
A listener did send me something about getting a like
a feeder, like an automatic feeder that just like drops
out stuff at a certain time. Yeah, and that that's
(26:22):
the only thing that worked for their cats. And I
need to look into that.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Yeah, I have heard good success stories on feeders, but
I will say in general though, just to give you,
like some grace in this situation. Getting a cat to
lose weight is one of the hardest things. Like you're
better off trying to make sure they don't gain the way,
ever than trying to get it off of them. It's
really difficult because they aren't they don't exercise, they like
to be lazy, they like to hang out. They're notorious grazers,
(26:50):
so they don't really like eat meals like dogs do.
It's just a different lifestyle.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
The listener said, you need an automatic feeder. Our feeds
the smallest them out four times a day at five am,
ten am, five pm, and ten pm, I guess. And
they said it really helped with the early morning starving mews,
which that's what she's been doing. It'll be like three
in the morning and she's just meyowing, and she wants
(27:15):
pretty much nothing to do with me during the day.
But then she sleeps with me every night, and I'm like,
what's the deal? Cats are so weird. I love her
so much, but I wish she wanted to cuddle and
hang out during the day that would be awesome, but
at night she is right next to me. It's so sweet.
But then that doesn't last.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
They are cats, have fun personal they're weird, they're so quirky. Well,
I hope maybe he need the automatic feeder and that
starts to help, hopefully for your guys' estake, because I
do know what it's like when your animal very much
wants to stay awake at night.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
I know, and I want her to live along a
healthy life, so I've got to kind of get it together.
I do take the vets advice seriously, and you know
I want her to feel good.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
Yes, okay, well I love that update.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Hopefully we get some better update next time that she's
lost like two pounds. Yes, season, that will be great. Yeah,
we'll take that as a win. Okay, one more break,
we'll be right back. Okay, So I want to talk
about your boyfriend. You mentioned the ying and ying thing
and I wanted to come back to it. So how
long have you guys been dating now.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Along, I mean like officially, not a year yet, but
right around officially, but it SEMs like you guys met Yeah,
so I've known him for a year.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Okay, Yeah, what have you learned.
Speaker 2 (28:34):
I'm so curious about yourself and like the process over
the last year.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
I brought this up a little bit on the show
recently and you know, on my podcast, But I've learned
how defensive I get. I'm really really really working on
that because it's not just with him that he's sort
of brought it to light, but with you know, just
in my own head, like with things or with my kid,
(28:58):
like a friend, like they not mean what I think
they're meaning, Like my filter makes something like, for lack
of a better way to put it, like an attack
on me when it's not like if he's sharing something
with me at times, like and I get defensive right away,
He's like wait what. He gets real confused by it
(29:19):
because it's not where he was coming from at all.
So we are definitely working on that. By week it's
mostly me and then I think I've also learned like
what it feels like to be in a secure, calm,
healthy relationship, and so that's been exciting and like, oh,
(29:46):
you know, at first you kind of feel like it's
a little boring, but then now that we're through all
of that and then the other feelings, like it just
feels good, and sometimes I even step back and I'm
like huh yeah, like, oh, well, this is an interesting feeling,
Like my nervous system is more calm now. I know
I have the defensive thing, and that's not all the time,
(30:07):
but it is something that shows up that I've had
to work on. However, my overall nervous system is in
a different place and how quickly, Like even if there's
a defensive thing, I do move off of it faster
or nothing escalates, it doesn't escalate, And I'm like, what
(30:29):
is this? And I'm like, oh, this is a healthy,
mature relationship.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
Okay, Okay, So I'm curious too, cause you mentioned that
I feel like very much in my relationship now because
I did have such tumultuous relationships before that. A lot
of things have started popping up for me now because
I am safe and I feel secure and I feel
like I'm in an environment where it's like my whole
(30:53):
body is finally healing physically, emotionally, mentally. That now, that's
why things are starting to come up, because I'm in
a place where I can address them. Do you feel
like that's what's happening with some of these like the
defensiveness you never quite knew or felt, but now you're realizing.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Yeah, that could be it. Yeah, and it could be
that someone is in a very loving kind way drawing
attention to it for me because he even noticed it.
I did it to something Ben, my ex husband had said.
We were all three together and Ben did something. We
walked away. I was like, oh, and I made a
comment about something Ben had said to me, but I
(31:31):
was getting defensive and he looked at me and he goes,
I don't think that's how he meant it. And I
was sort of like, huh, so that was an example
of him just nudging me and encouraging me of like,
you may want to re filter that, let's reevaluate that.
So I mean, it's also just having someone that isn't
(31:53):
scared to say something, but it doesn't do it in
a way that makes it And thankfully it's not like
I then got you know, defensive towards him, like, oh, well,
why are you taking bins side? Well, because there is
a time where maybe I could have snowballed into that.
Who knows. I don't want to show Kota what like,
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
But it's also because he's proven that he's not trying
to do that to you. He's proven that he's a
safe space and he wants the best for you.
Speaker 3 (32:19):
Yeah, he wants the best for me, He wants the
best for my kids. He will come in with you know,
parenting advice.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
And it doesn't feel intrusive or controlling, and it just
feels like love being loving.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
Do you feel like because you do just in general,
I mean, you're a mom, you have a career, you
have your dating, you also have your ex husband he's dating, Like,
there's so many kind of things you're balancing all at
the same time.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Do you feel like you're in like this good place now?
Speaker 2 (32:51):
How do you like, where are you at right now
in your life with so much having gone on.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
I feel like I'm in a really good place. I mean,
I think there's always you know, when you're a parent,
there's always thing with your kids that are happening.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
So there's some of that at the moment that I'm juggling,
but everything else feels like it's in a really good place.
And I think Ben and I being in a good place,
and then us being in good relationships and having you know,
partners that are kind and caring like that helps all
of that. So like, even if there is rocky things
(33:29):
happening in parenting, it feels more manageable.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Yeah, you have this like stable ground, stable foundation that
if something rocky does happen, you're like, oh, okay, we
can handle this.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Yeah. Support. And there was the thing a couple of
weeks ago where that was even so evident to me,
like of the growth that I've had, So it's yeah,
part growth on my end, but also part circumstantial of this. Oh,
this is my foundation now. So not only do I
(34:03):
have the experience and the tools that are allowing me
to make this decision with more confidence and ease, also
I'm being supported by and that includes my ex husband, Like,
we have a good foundation right now. So even if
I was a little you know, I didn't have the
tools and whatever, I have support. So but it's right now.
(34:24):
It's a good thing because I've got both.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
Yeah, I love this. This is a good.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
Yeah it feels good. But I think you know, with everybody,
there's always ups and downs.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Always such as life.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
That's how as soon as everything feels great, something always happens.
But when you do have that foundation, I was so
curious because it does feel like you're in a better
place with your foundation. That makes everything else not so intense. Yes,
because I've there's certain times in my life where I've
definitely been in a place where there was no foundation,
or the foundation was very rocky, and every feels like
(35:01):
Mount Everest and it could be a you stub your
toe and it feels like it is the entire world
that's ending. And so to have a very calm, stable foundation,
it changes the game in a lot of ways. So
I was curious how that was impacting your life now,
just with this new relationship that you've been in, it's.
Speaker 3 (35:21):
Impacting in a positive way for sure.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
Oh that's so good.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Okay, well before we jump out of here, is there
anything else you've wanted to talk about or you want
to bring up?
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Or random? It could be so random, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
What I wanted to talk about. Is so random? Oh well,
I guess I should say something that came up. Was
it earlier this week or last week? Whenever I had
the clip in Bangs? Yeah, So I got a lot
of messages that people wanting me to link the banks,
and I just want to say they're not. I don't
want you wasting your money. Like when I took the
(35:54):
picture that I posted with them, I had my headphones
over them, so it was covering like the awkward part
of how it blends in your hair because I couldn't
figure out a great way to clip them in. So
that is my message of like, I'm not going to
link something unless I really like it or it works.
And this is something that I bought and I would
not link because I don't want to steer y'all wrong, Like,
(36:17):
and it had good reviews and other people seem to
love it, but I spent a lot of time trying
to figure out how to make it clip in and
look seamless, and I could not figure it out. So
I don't want to put you all through that, which
I know you're all adults. You can make your own decision,
But I mean, also, do you just google like bang
clip ins on Amazon and then do your own research
so that feel better about that instead of me linking
something where you spend your money and then.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
You're like, oh, these are horrible, well in there, So
that's that The clip and bangs really are one great
if you're you know, have some event coming up and
you're going to your hairstylas and they're going to do
something kind of like if you throw in some extensions
for a specialty event. That's kind of how I see
the clip and bangs or if you're thinking about getting bangs.
I ordered bangs on Amazon before I bought my or
(37:01):
before I cut them, because I was like, I need
to see, even in general, what this looks like.
Speaker 3 (37:04):
Well, so that I will say, that's not a waste
of money. So if that's your kid, that's what you want.
And yeah, I haven't put up a link, but you
could google on Amazon and just find any bangs that
sort of remember your color. And you know, the goal
isn't to actually wear the clippins, but if you want
it to just give you an idea of what you're
going to look like with the banks, then spind away
(37:25):
because it it might be like, oh great, now I
like this vibe. I'm going to go cut my banks yep.
And then you have that and so it's an investment,
like you're investing in that decision, so it's not a
waste of money.
Speaker 2 (37:38):
Wait, so did you decide I really liked the way
they looked.
Speaker 3 (37:42):
I mean, speaking of that, yeah, but I don't know
that if I do it, winter time is going to
be a good time because it's less humid out because
I have very curly hair. So if I go for it,
then perhaps it will be sometime soon. But I have
a hair appointment in November, like mid to later November.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
I have it.
Speaker 3 (38:06):
It's before Thanksgiving, I know, so TBD.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
I think you should do it. I think they looked great.
I loved my bang era.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
I mean, granted, it did require more effort from me,
which is the one thing I didn't like about them.
It just required me to style my hair all the time.
But I loved them, like genuinely. I loved having my
banks and it was just fun to do something different
because I don't do a lot different with my hair.
It's always been blonde, it's always been long, besides when
my mom made me get a bolka because I wouldn't
(38:34):
brush it. Beyond that, like, I've literally had the same
kind of hairstyle my whole life. So it's fun to
do something different and add a little spice. Maybe I
vote for bangs, Okay, maybe I will.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:48):
I know it's a big decision because people are so
split on bangs, but it's fun. It's hair it grows back.
You know that you can always have hear your hair again, right, so.
Speaker 1 (38:59):
It'll be fun. Okay, if you don't end up liking me,
you can just side sweep b them.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
You're convincing me.
Speaker 1 (39:03):
That's my hot take. Okay, fun bangs.
Speaker 2 (39:06):
All right, we're gonna get out of here. Tell the
people where they can hear you and find you.
Speaker 3 (39:09):
I'm at Radio Amy on Socials and my podcast is
called Feeling Things with Amy and Kat and you can
check that out wherever you listen to podcasts, and also
follow us on Instagram, same handle Feeling Things. Well, it's
not Feeling Things the same Me and Kat on Instagram.
It's just Feeling Things podcast. Love that all right, and
subscribe to the show YouTube page at Bobby Bone Show
and you can find us social media Bobby Bone Show everywhere.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
And that's it for us. Goodbye, everybody. That's the best
bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks for listening. Be
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