May 29, 2026 • 52 mins
Love makes people do weird things and we're getting into all of it. Biting, tickling, farting, and whatever else happens when you're truly comfortable with someone. Plus, Kat is feeling grateful for the overwhelming sunscreen recommendations that came flooding in, and Amy is in a full good mood thanks to a new 10-minute self tanner that changed everything.
Then... dumpster diving. A mom and daughter hit the jackpot behind Home Goods and walked away with a car full of brand new items, tags still on, completely free. Area rugs, ceramic vases, fleece blankets, baking dishes. They go over a list and the pro tips you need if you want to try it yourself. Sunday is apparently the day to go!
And listener Susan from Austin writes in with a beautiful note, a baby name idea for Kat, a Canyon Ranch recommendation, and the kind of encouragement that reminds you why we do this. Thank you, Susan.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Good. All right, break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just won't, I'm
Amy and Cat got youa cove and locking a brother.
Ladies and folks, do you just follow Anna spirit where
it's all the phone and real stuff to the chill
stuff and the m but Swayne, sometimes the best thing
you can do it jes stop you feel things. This
(00:27):
is feeling things.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
With Amy and Kat.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
And today I'm feeling what you felt last week.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Oh grateful.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Grateful for two things. One, so many people have either
emailed us or sent as voicemails or DMed me recommendations
for sunscreen, and now I kind of have too many options.
But I did order one Color Science Body soundscreen a
little more than I wanted to pay, so.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
They have a body one. Because I have used the
Color Science on my face and it breaks me out,
But that's my face, like your body should be totally fine,
because I in fact the face stuff I've saved, it's
just tinted, so it's weird. But I'll put it on
my chest and it doesn't.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Break your chest out. Well, I've had friends recommend color
science makeup and they love it.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
No, I know a lot of people love it. It's
just I don't know what it is in there that
does not go well with my face. But every single
time I try to give it another go because I
bought it in two different shades.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Damn, it's kind of expensive.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It's yeah, so I still have it, and occasionally I'll
be like, you know what, I'm going to give this
one another go. Wash my face. Sure enough, a new
pimple pops up, and I'm like, oh, dang, So there's
just something in there that's just not good for your
face for me, but my chest it's fine. So that's
for your body. What you got is for the body.
So it's not like the face stuff that's tinted.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
No, but it is tinted. So this actually came from
a male listener.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
So is it gonna rub off on your clothes?
Speaker 3 (01:59):
I didn't think about that.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Okay, you did, or you did it?
Speaker 3 (02:02):
I did, okay, But I mostly will be wearing it
with a bathing suit.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
So it's fine. So fine. And so a man sent
you a tinted sunscreen.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
He emailed us so nice he and he sent a picture.
His friend came to the live we did in Franklin.
He sent a picture of his friends with you. Oh really,
He was like, they wanted to meet you too, Kat,
but you were getting engaged. But yeah, he said that
his dermatologists, I think recommended this, okay, And I kind
(02:34):
of like that it's teinted because mineral sunscreen, one of
the issues is that it leaves that white residue and
you look really pale. So I was thinking that would
fix that problem. But I also hear the closed situation.
We'll see how it goes.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Okay, we need a new system for our emails because
I never saw that one. But I went into our
emails the other day and I was trying to catch
up on emails, and I think, now we have a
system like if you open it at a different time
and then it's red, then then I don't see it.
And then also you've been doing the thing where if
I get a mean email, you delete it. Okay, I
know you only did it once. We do have an
update on that, because we did talk about it, and
I think that same person is the same person, right, yes,
(03:10):
sent another email. When I read it, I didn't it
was the same person because you would have deleted the original,
but I'm confirming with you.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Yeah, the same person.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
So she's she's clarifying because we were discussing whether or
not you were a narcissist, which you're not, but she
was trying to say that you were, and she made
it clear in the email. Kat is not a narcissist,
but she is controlling and she did not like the
fact that you deleted the email that she wrote constructive
towards me.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I didn't permanently.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
It seemed sort of like she wasn't a fan of me.
And email number one, but then email number two.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Shekinna have my bag, So I wonder what happened an
email number three. I don't know, but this email came today.
I think that's why you didn't read it.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Oh the sunscreen one.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
But we do need a better system that if I
read them, I should leave them.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Or if I read them, yeah, I go back. We
need a market somehow, Yeah, like flag it.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah, like if you flag it, that mean said so
and so read it. But so and so we'll figure
it out. But I do. Yeah. I am grateful for
everybody who has cared. So I didn't think people would
care this much about my sunscreen Journey, and they have.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
People are passionate about the sunscreen.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
And if this one doesn't work out, I have a
couple other recks to go through. And the tips that
we read last week, I think they've helped.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Can you tell that I'm more tan? Speaking of.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I can tell you're more tan because you told me
you've got a spray tand so.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I self tanned myself.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh yeah, you have you smell me?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
No? Oh, I thought you said my nose.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
I said, I know, because you told me you.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
I thought you were like my nose.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Yes, it smells it because.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
I can smell it. But I did the New Loving
Tan ten Minute Express mask.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Have you or heard of it?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Okay, So you put it on for ten minutes and
it does feel like this smooth mask on your skin.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Well, then why do you smell? Well, hold on, I
tell you.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Tell you the rest. So you put it on for
ten minutes. So I did it last night, and then
after the ten minutes you rinse off. But you cannot
use soap, and you rinse off the tan so that way,
when you get in bed, it doesn't get on your
sheets or anything. And then the tan continues to develop
for twenty four hours, I haven't hit the twenty four
hour mark, and then I'm not gonna wait the full
(05:22):
twenty four but probably when we get one recording, I'm
gonna go take a shower and new soap because I've
had enough because it's developing and the smell is developing.
But I feel like it looks like real kind of nice. Yeah,
I know I'm liking it. I have no deal with them,
but shut out, which get.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
That good solution to the I never know when to
do the tan because then, yeah, if you're going to
sleep and this gets all over your clothes and da
da da dah, and then you have to take a
shower and how early you have to wake up? So
that's a good solution, except I just wouldn't want to
have to wait twenty four hours. But it sounds like
you don't have to.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Well, you run off after the ten and you have
to wait twenty forty you soap, But I'm going to
go ahead and probably use soap. It around sixteen hour mark.
I think I've developed, Yeah, I can tell by the color.
I'm like, we can stop developing now, yeah, we could.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
How do you I probably asked you this before? How
do you get your back?
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Oh, just contortion myself so you get like, Okay, I
put my arm in weird positions and I switched the
glove from my left hand in my right hand, and
I go above, I go under, I go from the side.
I just try to get it as good as I can.
When I was married, I had help.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Yeah. I one time tried to tape the what's it
called the mit the mit to like a baton or something,
a ruler, it was something, and it didn't work.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
A specialized Yeah, it didn't work. They make things like that.
I think, yeah, that you could, but I mean it's
a lot of it's a lot of work. Yeah, if
you have it, you have a partner, Yeah, Patrick can
he can do my back. You back, but you're probably
not self tanning right now because you're pregnant. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I think there are some that I could use that
are non toxic, but I hate self tanning, so I'm
only going to do it if I really need it.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Well, that's part of my feeling, Like I my feeling
of the day, which did you say you had too
because you said grateful or you were grateful for two reasons.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
My other thing is not that big of a deal.
We're just finally getting our new floors in our house.
Oh and it finally got scheduled, like happening next week. Yay.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah, I know you're excited about that.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yeah, good patience. It's been like three months, which is
not that long.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
But when what I feel like it's been longer.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Well, we've wanted them since we moved in, exactly the process,
like three months ago.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
So but when you moved in was how long ago?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
It was September?
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Okay, that's patience because I hated hours. Don't have that patience.
I'm like, do it now. Like I was trying to
move in while I was getting my floors.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Done, you moved in and you changed everything. I'm like,
that stuff overwhelms me, so I have to do one
thing at a time. So I waited.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
But yeah, well no, I think you're a way. I
wish I would have waited, especially like I look at
the game room bathroom or my laundry room floor. If
I had been more patient and wasn't making so many
decisions at once, I think I would have made different
decisions and there was no reason to rush those spaces.
So my advice would be, yeah, patients and just.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Wait, what did you What did your daughter say about
the guest bathroom walls?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Why you remember what she said?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Oh? Hers? Oh, she said, I love their bathroom. I
probably would have done that a little different too, to
be honest, though, but I do like it. As she said,
it's like an aquatic bathroom, like.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
A but it's just because it's tiled. But it's pretty tough.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
I tiled the whole thing, so the floor has tiled,
but then the bathtub has tile. But I brought the
bathtub tile around. I wrap the entire bathroom in this
green square tile.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
It does look that square.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
I was debating between the rectangle and the square, but
I ended up going with square, which is probably a
little more aquatic, a little more like swim center.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
I probably wouldn't have thought that unless you told me
she said that.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
You know, I'm like, well, how many swim locker rooms
have you?
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Like one? And it looked just like that.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Apparently she was her swim lessons at the y m
c A or something, which I hung some art room
art room I put. I hung some artwork up in
the bathroom there, which has really helped break it up,
break up the tile, because there is a lot of it.
But I had three pieces of art that I wanted
to hang for a long time, and I used those command.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Strips, easy peasy done.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Stuck them right up there because you can't necessarily you
can drill, because they drilled the lighthole, the light fixtures
and all of that into the.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
But then you can't really fix that right. You can't
patch that hole.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Up right, so and strips of the way to go
on that. So good patience is good because I would
have done black and white check tile in my laundry.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
Room, like on the floor.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
That's what I want to do. And trust me, it's
been taken out. This other tile that my sister had
in Okay, I always loved my sister's upstairs bathroom at
her house has this one particular tile and I've always
loved it, and it's black with white lines. Well, when
(10:33):
I was tile shopping, I came upon that tile, but
the opposite white with black lines. So it's not even
the same. It's the same tile but different color combo,
so it doesn't even have the same vibe. I didn't
do it for you, but I had such an attachment
of like, ooh, this is the same tile that my
sister has an upstairs bathroom that I love, so I
was like, I'm just going to go for it because
obviously it'll look good. Well, it got installed, and I
(10:58):
was like, wait, also, this is not the vibe of
my house, like I didn't think it through, which goes
back to my point. I was making too many decisions
at once where I wasn't fully thinking it through. And
I think had i'd just been patient, my launchroom would
have the black and white check tile and it would
look so cute. I want to have the door open
and be like, look into my laundry room.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Yeah, you can change it.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
One day I got a quote okay, and it would
be so stupid to.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Oh, because it's like a lot of money to redo it.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Yeah, So I thought, well, maybe I redo it, or
I could at least handle the demo.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Okay, can you though, because we were going to do Yeah,
I meant that seriously, because we were going to do
the demo of our floors, and I thought my dad
was going to help, And then he came over the
other day because I was having trouble installing my ring doorbell.
I tried to do it myself, and he was like,
I can't help you pull these up. I'm too old now,
(11:55):
which might Goad always just yeah, that's what he just
does the home improvement things. He said he could pull
the carpet up, but the wood floor, it's like in
the tile, it's like too much like laborist work. And
he was he said, I can't do it because I'm pregnant,
So that would just leave Patrick to do it himself,
which that's kind of sad, and honestly, I don't know
(12:19):
if I trust that. No shade to you, Patrick, So
now we're gonna have to pay somebody to do it. Yeah,
which the demo.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Is, right, That's why I was like, well, maybe I'll
take care of the demo and then I guess it's
not that much tile. The square footage of the laundry
room is tiny, so really it's not like a super
crazy investment. It just seems like want wall. But I'm
about to hit the two year mark, so I sort
of was like trying to justify it, like I've already
been here two years.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Nuts.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Is it crazy to change the laundroom floor after two years?
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
But can I be crazy?
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Yes, as long as you are careful and you're protecting yourself.
You probably could do them.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
You mean like goggles, yeah, and like gloves and closed
toad shoes. Right, yeah, Well, speaking of my feeling of
the day, mine just it organically has to do with
my TAN because I'm just I feel happy like it
gives me summer happy vibes. And I actually did the
tan so that I could come hang out with you
(13:22):
at the lake. And then it's raining, so now I'm not.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
Yeah, what is up with that? Every I feel like
every Memorial Day? It was rained last time too.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I know so well, but I still love that I
took the ten minutes to do my express and I'm
glad you can't smell me. I really thought you were
saying my nose, my nose can smell it. Now, speaking
of home decor, when I mentioned this to you, you
said that it's been showing up in your feed too,
So I don't know what's going on with this, but
(13:51):
it's having a moment of the people dumpster diving at
home goods and other places. And you know that I
used to go dig in dumpsters for cupons. I bet
you didn't. That was a different It was a different
era for me. That was when I lived in North
Carolina when Ben was in the Air Force and I
didn't really know anybody, and I went to the dumpsters.
(14:15):
I would see people talk about how they would go
get newspapers stuff out of the dumpsters and they get
all these coupons and then they would take their binder
full of coupons to the grocery store and they would
save so much money. So I was trying to become
a cupeonter like these people were making it seem you
could be.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
You know there was a show like Extreme Couponing or
something where people would do.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
There was that, or I was seeing stuff online.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
I don't know that. I saw people going through people's trash.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
No dumpsters, you go dumpster diving, not people not like
your neighbor's trash.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
I know that's still somebody's trash. Where did what did
you get in the document in the dumpster?
Speaker 1 (14:55):
I would document it. I documented it. I took video
somewhere wait for the Bobby Bone Show.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
I was going to say, is this for the show
where it's like you just did this guy?
Speaker 1 (15:04):
And I'm sure part of me was like, oh, okay,
I can talk about this. Because I was trying to
live out what we were seeing like, I'm sure how
it happened if I just can't remember exactly what if
I had to guess, like we probably talked about it
on the show, and then I started seeing more of it,
or I was watching these cuponers or on Twitter, like
I don't I don't even know, because the year was
twenty ten, Like, I don't even think we had Instagram yet,
(15:25):
but we did have Twitter, and we did have television.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
So you got in and we didn't have the internet.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
I got in the dumpster and I would get coupons
and I would use the coupons, and I never became
an extreme cuponer like it to me, I never had
the time that I was having to put in to
save all of this money was too much and I
moved on. But it was a it was a hobby,
short lived, but it was a hobby.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Nonetheless, I just can't believe you that in what dumpster
did you choose?
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Well, you can. They have ones that are predominantly newspaper, Okay,
so then you know you're going in and that's where
all the coupons are.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
You're going behind a restaurant.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Yeah, I'm not it's a dumpster. Okay. Well, speaking of dumpsters.
Dumpster diving behind home goods keeps popping up, like all
these people are having all these things. For example, I
documented one video that I saw some of the free
things that this mom and her daughter found behind a
home goods. They got baking pans, baking dishes, dish towels
(16:27):
with the tags on them. Obviously, yeah, but I was like,
those are kind of cute ceramic vases, mugs, area rugs,
fleece blankets, plastic organizer bins, metal rolling pins, bathroom soap dispenser,
modern toilet brusholder.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
So I've seen videos. The one that caught my eye
first because I saw a home goods one was Anthropology.
This girl went to a dumpster behind Anthropology and she
got tons of like dishware, like really, you know, they
always have like cute cups and glasses, tons of glasses,
tons of like cocktail glasses, marble charcouterie boards, like a
(17:09):
bowl that would retail for like two hundred dollars, like
crazy stuff, and they just.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
I don't know why they're just putting it in the dumpster.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
I wonder why they can't donate it right or at
least like, well, I guess if you work there you're
doing this all the time. So eventually people are like,
I don't want anymore, but give it to the employees
or something. Why does it have to be thrown away?
Speaker 1 (17:34):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
And how do we figure out the schedule?
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Okay? Well I pulled tips from this. I don't know
if it's a different post or this same one, but
they said they check dumpter dumpsters on Sundays. Most likely
their trash pickup day is Monday, so the dumpster is
going to be full of things on Sunday. If you
don't need it, don't get it. Don't just get it
because like, oh, this is free, I'm going to take it,
(17:57):
because then now you're you're gonna end up with junk
that you don't want. Be careful of broken glass when
you're in there, and always leave some cool items behind
for your fellow divers. That's cute. They went to also
Target five below and all D.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
All these a grocery store. Do you think that but
they have?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
I went to al D the other day and I
tell you I went there for the first time, right
were we talking about that? Uh? And they have a
whole home good section. Okay, it's not big. There was
a few rows of you know, dishes and towels and
little things like that.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
So we try that.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
I don't know, we could try it. I mean there's
that Home Goods near us. We could go, do you.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Oh, that's a good one.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
But I kind of want to go to anthropology now that.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
You've said that, So I would want to go after
the store closes, because what if we're like out in
the dumpster and like an employee comps out.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Oh for sure, Like if you're checking it on Sunday,
do it Sunday before church?
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Oh in the morning. Okay, I was thinking before they.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Open, Oh you want to go in the dark.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
Well, what if they throw it out at well, no
things close early on Sundays, but what they throw things
out on Sunday because Monday is trash day. We need
to go Sunday night, that'sui And yeah, yeah, so Sunday
night we'll get in the dumpster.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Okay, Okay, Kat and are gonna try this out for
y'all if y'all have ever done this at any of
these stores or you have a store to recommend. And
this is truly legit because I do feel like there's
a lot of videos popping up and it's like, is
this for real? This is ai.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
And it could be for real, but it might not
be every week. I wonder if there's like But I
still also want to talk to employe of the store
that does this, because why can't you donate it?
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (19:42):
An, if you guys work at a store that does
something like this, let us know, like what there has
to be some rule that tells them that they can't
do it, like they wouldn't just throw right. Let us know.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
If you have information, fellow dumpster divers, report to us.
Please report back. Yeah, we got an email. This is
from Susan. Hey, Amy and Kat. This is Susan from Austin,
(20:21):
age sixty one. I'm a longtime listener of The Bobby
Bone Show, four fifth Thing and now an avid listener
of the Feeling Things podcast. First, congratulations to Kat on
your pregnancy. A quick thought I wanted to share. Have
you ever considered using your former last name, Defata as
the baby's middle name. I did that with my son,
(20:42):
and I've always been so glad he carries my original
last name. He loves having that connection too. Before we
continue with her email, I'll just say I don't think
that that's going to work for you. For you, do
you think.
Speaker 3 (20:59):
I was having the same thought as you. Okay, yeah,
Defauta is not as some people's like last names are, like.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Like my mom's her maiden name was Christopher.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Okay, that would work. Or sometimes people have like cool
last names like Wit or something like that, like not
for a girl, but like I can see that as
a middle name for a guy for sure, or a
first name. Defada is just sounds like last name, So
it's just like I'm giving her two last names.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
And then also, your last name now is van Buren's.
It's a lot of Dida and van Buren.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
It's a lot. But I do like the tip. It
just doesn't work for me.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah, but for somebody else that might work. So that's
a good thing to keep in mind. Okay, back to
her email, I often think about writing in and then
life gets busy. But I wanted to reach out because
my main impulse is simply to encourage you both to
say how much I appreciate the vulnerability, honesty, humor and
joy you bring to the podcast. You two are wonderful together. Amy.
I heard the tell Me Something Good segment on the
(21:54):
Bobby Bone Show about your summer vacation ideas, and I
have to say yafer Canyon Ranch, Tucson with Kat. I
truly think you would both have an incredible time there.
I've been fortunate to visit Canyon Ranch many times since
it first opened, and it can be such a healing
of fun, curiosity inspiring experience. In fact, it was during
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a stay there several years ago that I got the
inspiration to write my book about art journaling. Since then,
I have even had the opportunity to speak there about
the book, and I sent Kat a copy when she
was creating art and having fun with it. I guess
I'm writing to say that I absolutely love the idea
of the two of you going together. It feels like
exactly the kind of place that enhances life, sparks reflection
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and joy, and creates meaningful memories. Love the podcast and
cheering you both on warmly.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Susan, that is cool she's gone and spoken there.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
I remember when she sent you that book.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Yeah, and that's so cool. They're at my office on
my bookshelf for people to use. Now. Thanks for the tip, probably, yeah,
and thanks for being so kind.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I know we get some nice voicemails. Sometimes those feel
awkward to play, but it's just cool to get a
voicemail of people that are just calling to say hey, Like,
I love listening to y'all.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
So if we're not playing your voicemail, it's not because
we don't like it. It's sometimes we feel uncomfortable playing praise.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I even felt weird even reading that. I was like, oh,
I should just skipped that paragraph. But yeah, I know
I don't because Susan wouldn't want me to do that. Yea.
She thinks for vulnerable, honest, funny, and we bring joy.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Which thank you for saying that, because we also have
gotten some feedback that we're not those things.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Oh, this reminds you a video that I saw Britney
Kellogg do. She's a singer songwriter here in town and
on Instagram she does like take out the trash Tuesdays
or something, and while she's wheeling out her trash, she
calls out like trash comments that she gets on her
Instagram and one that I saw her do rec only
she was wheeling out the trash and some guy I
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don't know, I don't remember, someone named Carl, some man
named Carl, and she puts his picture up and she's like, oh, hey, Carl,
and then she puts exactly what Carl said, and he said, man,
you're horrible or something like that, and he spelt your
just he put yo you are e, but no apostrophe. Uh.
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And then he put man, no comma. It was just man,
you're horrible, no comma, no punctuation. So she was like
Carl taking out the trash, like, first of all, you
got this all wrong. I'm a girl. So she goes
she crosses out man and she puts it's girl. I'm
a girl. And after you say that, it's more like girl.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
Pause.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
So for the pause, Carl, we put a comma. Okay,
and then you're you almost had it. You almost had it.
You got it with the yo you are e, but
you forgot the apostrophe. So we're gonna go ahead. And
she's like popping up on the screen like her like
she's a teacher, editing like someone's paper. And so she
corrects that and then she was like, and you put horrible,
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but I think you meant hilarious. And then she crosses
up that and puts hilarious. She's like, okay, let's try this, girl,
You're hilarious.
Speaker 3 (25:21):
There we go.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
We go Carl, now we're onto something. Have a great day.
And it's just so cute and such a funny way
to handle negative feedback.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
We don't get that much hate, so it's not like
we need.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Trush to shake out the trushes it.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
Yeah, However, I'm hesitant to do something like that because
of I feel like I'm turning into you. The retaliation
retaliation even gonna be worth Carl might come to my
house or just like say something else. It's like egging
it on versus letting them just like say their comment.
We can delete it and then move on. But I mean,
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she's making light of it. If you can make light
of kind things people are saying, that is one way
to like cope.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Yeah, she I guess when she films these she often.
Because that one popped up, I started to want to
see the other one. So I was just scrolling through
her feed to see all the take out the trash Tuesdays.
And she had this other one where she's holding her
like a cocktail, but she drinks it out of a
red vine her straw. It's like a twizzler, but it's
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different like a it's a red licoration but a different
brand and it's she drinks out of it because it
gives it a little sweetness to her vodka or her
tequila or whatever is in her cocktail. And I guess
someone called her out for looking ridiculous doing that, but
she went to that person's page and apparently on that
person's Instagram, she went through in screenshot every cocktail or
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piece of alcohol or anything that she showed on her page,
and she's like, from what I can tell, you like
to drink a lot. So if you know, I'm paraphrasing,
but she was like, if I want to enjoy my
little red vine in my drink, like what's it to you?
In a way, And then someone else called her out
for having a camel tooe in one video. So she
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was taking out the trash and she brought a little
whiteboard and she started drawing, and she was like, this
is a female body, and this is what happens when
you know.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
She really good for her.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Yeah, it's funny, she was. I met her on our
cruise because we did a cruise early this year with
Top Shelf Country Cruise and there were tons of artists
like playing all day long, so there were some that
I had never met Brittany before, but I got to
meet her and I did a little interview with her
and listener like A Q and A and she's funny.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
Yeah. So I have something to share with you that
actually we can thank Patrick for this.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Okay, what is it? So?
Speaker 3 (27:53):
I was looking for something that I had sent him
based on a conversation we were having earlier. Oh yeah, yeah,
and I actually found something that he had sent me,
and I just thought it'd be interesting to go through.
And I want to get your feedback to see if
you relate to any of this stuff. Okay, it's weird
things people in love do and why?
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Okay, so like what kind of weird things? Well?
Speaker 3 (28:18):
Can I share what we were talking about?
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Sure? Okay, yeah, you can talk about that far. So
it obviously has to do with that. H Does it
get even weirder?
Speaker 3 (28:25):
I think it gets a little weirder. Oh but I
think that might be the weirdest thing. Okay, but it's
not weird Okay.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Well I don't. Yeah, this would be interesting to pull
our audience, like if they could, if they could email
in and let us know or send us a DM
or something, let us know where you fall in this category.
We need to we need a survey.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
Okay, So I asked, honestly, why did I bring this up?
Speaker 1 (28:52):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (28:52):
I burped, Oh, okay, we ate chickens.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
The cat picked up lunch. Oh tell people what you
were like freaking out because I didn't get back to
you because I was doing the Bobby Bone Show and
I told you I wanted the chicken plate from Waldos,
but I guess it comes with sides, and I didn't
give you sides.
Speaker 3 (29:10):
So I panic ordered, see panic ordered, and they have
a lot of sides there. But I got you fries
because you can't go wrong with fries. And then I
got mac and cheese because I know you love mac
and cheese, but I don't know their mac and cheese
because I don't like mac and cheese. So I was like,
what if I got her the mac and cheese and
it's bad? And what if she really wanted this tomato
cucumber salad but she didn't get back to me, and
now she's getting the mac and cheese. Yeah, and it
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wasn't that good.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
You did good?
Speaker 3 (29:33):
Okay, well, you liked my choices, but then you did
say the mac and cheese wasn't your favorite.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
It wasn't what But still I'm glad you got it
because I would want to try it, Okay, And then
I had a tailor farm salad, so I whiped that
up so I could have something a little green with
my chicken. And then I had the fries and then
tried the mac and cheese.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
And the muffin.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
And the muffin I've never had Waldos before. That muffin is.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
The best part of any meal.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Glorious. Like I might go there now. Just do they
have diet coke?
Speaker 3 (29:59):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Oh my god. Can you imagine going to Walden you.
Speaker 3 (30:03):
Can get a side of just the muffins.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
Yeah, don't tell me that I'm going to go.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
One day.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Yeah, you know, I'm going to come by your house
and to show up with Waldo's muffins and die coke.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
It's the best snack. They are like the well, actually,
I don't have anything to compare them to. I was
gonna say red lobster, but they're totally different.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
But but yeah, the red lobster one is a little
more dense and this is a little bit more airy. Yeah, yeah,
but they're both delicious.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
So I got us lunch and we were eating lunch
and Amie burped, and I said, I said, what word
do you want me to use? I feel like you
don't like this word, just like you don't like.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Well, what's the scientific past flatulence?
Speaker 3 (30:49):
No? No? I asked Amy if she ever what do hold?
People say like something wind like break wind? She's ever
broken and in front of her ex boyfriend, you guys
were together for a year and a half. And she said,
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uh huh no never no, And then she said, and
he never in front of me either.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
And I was also in my marriage, don't oh yeah, And.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Then she said, and I never did you never did
in front of Ben.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
I mean, I don't know if it ever accidentally happened.
I can't recall, but we did not.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
It was not thing.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
It wasn't like and he didn't do it either, No, no,
he he. We didn't really talk about any of that.
I know, I know that that seems really really weird,
and it's not weird that I want to be in
a relationship where maybe we do that, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
But I don't know how I want to far in
front of my boyfriend's so bad.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
But I don't know how. I mean, how do you
find somebody like that?
Speaker 3 (31:55):
Like, I mean, the stay profile is like, what are
you looking for someone I can fart in front of?
Speaker 1 (32:04):
No, I don't, but I don't want to use that word.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
Okay, it's somebody I can break wind in front of.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:10):
I just don't even want it to be a thing
like I wanted to be.
Speaker 3 (32:13):
Like easy breezy, like literally.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Yeah, just a thing you do like you drink water.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
Okay, But it was interesting because you said you burp
in front.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Of I mean, but not a lot, but I mean
I would. I'd be like or if I had a hiccup,
like like whatever.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
You know, I never did that, but I hiccup all
the time in front of him. It's the same thing that.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
Was No, I had no shame.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Okay, I don't think it's I've heard I told you.
I've had a friend who we talked about this actually
last weekend. She has been with her now has been
six years, and she never has but he does in
front of her. But she said she never needs to.
She's like, I just don't. I'm like, don't have a
stomach ache from like holding in your everything. They live together, Yeah,
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and she said, I just don't feel like I ever
have to. So do you relate to that some people. No,
oh no, okay, no, no, no, no, you know that couple.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
There's that couple. They're older and they go on a
like a fart walk after they have after dinner.
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Patrick, and I said, do you need to go on
a fart walk? Wait?
Speaker 1 (33:22):
What? These people are elderly, y'all do that?
Speaker 3 (33:25):
Well, apparently you're supposed to go on fart walks.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
After you eat, thirty minutes after you eat, lace up
your shoes and go out, and you just both go
and you're just like do And I'm like, wow, what
a cute couple.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
So now every time you see a couple walk around
the neighborhood, you can be like, I wonder if they're
on a fart walk.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
Yes, or just a regular But that feels really safe
to me, like safe emotionally.
Speaker 3 (33:48):
Yeah, okay, I do think that. Okay, so that goes
to the weird things, because what I was looking for
is I have sent Patrick after we had this conversation.
I had sent Patrick some or some infographic on Instagram
that said, like couples that fart in front of each other.
Sorry I'm not seeing that word.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
Now, that's fine, are happier, we're mature, Yeah, we are mature,
we're so interesting sore.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
In a segment on Breaking Wind, it said couples that
do that in front of each other are happier, and
I couldn't find that, but I found this weird things
people in love do and why? So before we get
to this, let us know your feelings on this topic.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
Oh, our listeners, Yes, okay, this is a call out.
This is your homework assignment.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
Yeah do you do? You not?
Speaker 1 (34:38):
Why?
Speaker 3 (34:38):
Why not?
Speaker 1 (34:39):
How did you grow up? I mean this is the
part that Kat and I started really talking about, like
what is it from our childhood or like what is
it that makes people comfortable? You're not comfortable with it?
Speaker 3 (34:48):
But your mom did do that in front of you
and my mom didn't.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Yeah, so it's just weird.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Yeah, maybe it's not that.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
And like I will like my kids like we all,
it's not a thing like we it's safe at home
for them to do that. It's not like I'm like, oh,
we don't do that, No, no, I want them to.
It's just in a relationship, it's just not the norm
there is for me.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
I do believe that, obviously not for my relationship, but
I do believe that like not doing that leaves a
little like you know, mystery. Yeah, like you know, like
they don't poop, they just like I think that they know.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
But that's annoying, Like why did that ever become a thing.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
Because that girls should just be able to do. Now
we act like we don't and we don't.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
We don't.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
It's like I don't, which is exactly why I don't.
So ever, so but I do. Okay, I like that
idea that we shouldn't have every day. We shouldn't have
to pretend that these are aren't normal things that happen.
So Amy's looking for somebody who she can feel comfortable
and let loose around, you know, anybody, let's know. And
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maybe that's a conversation you and past partners have of
like what would it be like if we just did this?
Would it bring us closer?
Speaker 1 (36:16):
So you want me to call my ex boyfriend and
say do you want to go on a fart lock? Yes,
he'd probably be like yeah, you like.
Speaker 3 (36:24):
So that was the issue is that we couldn't. It's
like I'm waiting for you, okay. Weird things people do
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that are in.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
Live Okay, so when you're in love you do these things.
Speaker 3 (36:48):
Maybe maybe I don't know if you do that bite
their partner.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
Like just randomly.
Speaker 3 (36:55):
Yes, Patrick sent this to me. I know because this
is number one, and I bite and bite him.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
Yeah, And it's like any comes home from work, you're like,
is love biting?
Speaker 3 (37:08):
Like not in like an intimate way, like I don't
want to bite his arm or hand or so. It
says when people feel overwhelming affection, the brain can trigger
cute aggression, which this is put a good cute spin
on it, where strong positive emotions create playful urges like squeezing, nibbling,
or biting. Psychologists believe this response helps regulate intense feelings
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so the brain doesn't become emotionally overloaded. Okay, so I'm
just like so obsessed with them. I have you know,
when people are like to babies, they're like, oh, I
just want to eat you, Like that's how.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
You digression, Patrick, But I have that yeah, okay, okay, so.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
You haven't experienced that, that's okay.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Maybe a nipple or a little a little.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Uh so you have more basic cute aggression, sure, use
a higher pitched baby voice. Do you baby talk?
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Not really?
Speaker 3 (38:04):
Yeah, I don't do it, okay, it says couples often
speak in softer or higher tones because this style of
speech activates caregiving instincts in the brain.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
The guys too, I guess.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
I guess it signals emotional safety and warmth with strengthens
feelings of closeness and attachment. I think that this people
do this more like their pets and babies, which makes sense.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Because there's people to do it in relationships.
Speaker 3 (38:32):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, But I don't think Patrick's e for
a baby.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
Towards me, like, oh, you want to bite me?
Speaker 3 (38:42):
No, He's always like, no biting. He hates it. Oh
he doesn't like it, not like it. Yeah, no, he
does not like when I bite him, doesn't stop me
now I can. I don't know that he actually read
this somebody like it's cute aggression. I'm supposed to do it, okay,
sniff their partner's hair or scent.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
M maybe a little bit.
Speaker 3 (39:06):
Yeah, I sniff Patrick all the time. I will say
to him, I just need to get a sniff of you.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Oh, and not like because was it because he wears
a certain colone you like or it's just his natural scent.
Speaker 3 (39:19):
He refuses to wear clone actually okay, And it's not
even like when he gets to the shower. It's his smell,
Like I like the smell of like his skin. I
sound like a serial.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
Killer, Patrick, but blink twice if you need help, Patrick,
call me if you need help.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
Ever, what's crazy is I'm not have seen that, like
I do all these things.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
But so you're like really in love with him and
he's just like along for the ride.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
I think I even said, like it might have been
last night, like don't you ever just want to get
it sniff of me? And he said no, No, he
chows his love in other ways. Okay, So its recognizing
the smell of someone you love can release oxytocin, sometimes
called the love hormone. This chemical is a link to
bonding and trust, which is why a partner scent can
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feel calming and emotionally reassuring.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
My natural scent lately is self tanner. And I don't
want anybody.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
To sniff that. Okay, overstimulate their partner when they're already overstimulated.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Wait, they do that when they're in love.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
You think if you're in love, if they're already overstimulated,
you want to it.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
Says people sometimes keep tickling or teasing their partner even
when they're overwhelmed, because playful irritation can be a form
of attention.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
Oh okay, I get it, I get it. I do
not like being tickled.
Speaker 3 (40:49):
I do not.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
I do not. I have to say, like, I get
my voice changes, but not to high. It goes really
low and like scary.
Speaker 4 (40:58):
Can give us the sam like I might be like,
I might be like I like, I feel like I
want to murder you if like you don't stop, like
I'm not I'm not happy.
Speaker 1 (41:09):
This doesn't No, I'm not messing around.
Speaker 3 (41:11):
I'm not happy right now.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
Like this isn't fun.
Speaker 3 (41:15):
What is or anywhere anywhere my feet?
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Yeah, if I feel pinned down or restraint, like pinned
like to where I can't and I'm being tickled.
Speaker 3 (41:25):
Has anybody ever laid you down? And this is like
laid you down and it has anybody ever laid you down?
Speaker 5 (41:35):
And cat goes mmmm cry okat, okay, laid you down
and pinned your arms down and then like put their
knees on your arms and then tickled you.
Speaker 3 (41:46):
Mm hmmah. That is I think the cruelest form of torture.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Yeah, it's pretty bad.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
So this I don't really relate to this, but Patrick
might disagree. I might do, but he doesn't get over stimulated.
It's more I get over siming life. Okay, here's the
big one, fart without a care around their partner. When
people feel completely comfortable with someone, they stop worrying about
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small social embarrassments like farting. Psychologists often see this as
a sign of deep familiarity and trust in a relationship.
So yeah, but I also think that, like, you can
be in love and not do that.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Yeah, but this is where we need the study, Like
we need to know the people that are in love
that don't feel comfortable doing that why and the people
that feel comfortable doing it?
Speaker 3 (42:37):
Why?
Speaker 1 (42:38):
What's the difference? Like why why isn't it just like peeing.
It's sort of like I think about this sometimes when
we have to go to the bathroom. If you have
to go pee, you're like, oh, I gotta get up,
I gotta go pee. It's no big thing. You make
an announcement. You're like, like at work, I'm like, do
you have a break? Can I go pee? And we
run and pee and everybody knows you're going to pee.
But if you have to do something else, you don't
ever announce that it's not ever, but it's the say,
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the same place.
Speaker 3 (43:01):
I think it's sort of the same kind of it's
grosser like.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
Ye, but I get that it's I guess it's different
in that way. I understand.
Speaker 3 (43:11):
But it's a natural thing.
Speaker 1 (43:13):
It's a natural thing, yea that everybody does. And we've
made one of them okay to announce and talk about freely,
but we don't the other and like or like if
you're throwing up, like if you're if you if you
have food poisoning, like you're fine saying like I'm throwing up,
but if you have it the other way, you might
say like, oh, both ends, you know, but you're.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Or you might just say, like I had the stomach bug, like.
Speaker 1 (43:36):
Yes, you don't even give specifics, which yeah, I guess
it is a little bit more, which people will probably
maybe even had to turn us off. They quit listening
people because now if we're talking about, you know, diarrhea
or whatever, even when I have to say that right now,
I'm like, you know, diaryea, you know, I say, but
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we can say throw up, yeah, no problem. Yeah, And
like babies have dirty diapers all the time, like everybody
knows that's what people do and you're like, oh the
baby when they were a baby, It's like, oh the baby.
Speaker 3 (44:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
Anyway, it's just something that that's what I think about sometimes,
like going the bathroom, like how we have our different
ways of saying it.
Speaker 3 (44:21):
No, that's a really interesting I mean it feels like
complex and not at the same time, because I get it,
but also I don't get it, Like when did this?
What I would would want to know is when did
this start? Because at some point we were just doing
whatever back in the k Man days, like there was
no like manners. Some of this I think goes back
to manners in how you how you're raised, but also
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I think you can be raised one way and be
defiant of that too. So when did the manners start
categorizing certain things? I mean, it's that whole idea that
like things are only weird to us because they're not
normal to us, but in other cultures those things oh well.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Sort of like even thinking of how being a woman
has evolved. I started a little bit of Four.
Speaker 3 (45:10):
Wins and so such a good book.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
You know, it's following a female character in the twenties
and thirties, and her role is so different and even
her relationship and how they handled things, like because she
had slept with someone, they labeled her as ruined her family,
her own family, Yeah, who ruined? You give me his name?
(45:37):
And then you know, so it's heartbreaking and like that's
just unfortunately. There probably are some families that still maybe
operate that way and would disown their child if they
came home and had something like that happened, or their kid.
She's twenty five years old in the book. Ye, she's
not even a child.
Speaker 3 (45:54):
It's normal for her to be pregnant right.
Speaker 1 (45:56):
As a twenty five year old. It's like, oh my gosh,
even back then, and Kristin Hannah's writing from his historical fiction,
so this is how. It's not like she's just making
this up and like how my grandmother or my great grandmother,
like how their relationship with their husband was, Like you know,
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there's a part in the book I don't I don't
even say if it's the main character who it is,
because I don't want to give too much away. But
it's like her inner thoughts of how she even wants
to show up to her husband and she'd been married
for a very long time, and she's saying she can't
even express herself at night with what she wants.
Speaker 3 (46:37):
Yeah, because back then that's not what you did. No,
so I will And I'm like, what, Okay, I wish that.
I mean, okay, I would probably never bring this kind
of stuff up to my grandparents, but I would want
to know more about like what, yeah, what was your
relationship like in comparatively, how those have changed over time,
like my grandparents' relationship than to my parents than to mine,
(46:58):
Like what the differences are? Mm hmm because now yeah,
like expressing like your own needs at night, like are
it's so normal? But well, well too yeah to me,
So you're right, Like a lot of cultures and a
lot of people, depending on how they were raised, they
would never But that's also why I think women in
general still we still struggle, like with intimacy, yes, and
(47:23):
like men are allowed. I mean that's the whole idea
that like men can be super sexual and like want
to do that and be into whatever and say whatever
they want, but if girls say it, then like they're
labeled as bad words. I was gonna say a fluozy,
but I'm really thinking a different word, right, Like, but
they're not doing anything different. So yeah, that I think
(47:47):
is generational and over time it's changing its slowly, But yeah,
I wonder if my grandparents past guess in front of
each other.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Yeah, I doubt it.
Speaker 3 (47:59):
If I ask my grandma that she like, please ask her,
she would be like, what is wrong with you? I
don't have that kind of relationship with her?
Speaker 1 (48:08):
M Well, yeah you can evolve. Yeah, do it for us, Kat,
I don't have a grandparent to ask. I don't even
have a parent. How do I even on you?
Speaker 3 (48:22):
Well, I can already ask my parents. How do you
warm your grandma up to that question?
Speaker 1 (48:27):
Like, hey, Grandma, I gotta I gotta let her let
it riptator chip, You're just going to say, hey, Grandma,
I've got a question for you. Might be a little uncomfortable,
but so there's no more my friends than I've been
talking about. And I just would love your perspective.
Speaker 3 (48:45):
I think I I would go different.
Speaker 1 (48:47):
How would you warm her up?
Speaker 3 (48:48):
I would be like, Nana, I have I just want to,
you know, pick your brain for a little bit. And
I would just start asking her questions because that is
one thing that she does love to talk about her past,
and she loves to talk about her relationship with her
husband and my grandpa, and so I would just start
asking her questions and then I'd be like, so, like,
tell me about the first time that he said I
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love you? And then she would tell me and tell
me about this, and tell me about that. And then
I'd say, and tell me about the first time he
farted in front of you, and did you do it
as well? And then you know, okay, sneaking it?
Speaker 1 (49:21):
Warm up and she'll be like say.
Speaker 3 (49:23):
What She literally would think I lost my mind.
Speaker 1 (49:26):
Okay, Well, I can't wait to hear this report.
Speaker 3 (49:28):
Back from cry. Okay, I'm not actually gonna I thought
you were really going to do it. I think my parents,
but I already know my dad does in front of
my mom. My mom doesn't do that. My mom doesn't
even I told you, I didn't even know that my
mom went to the bathroom growing up. There's not one
time that I knew that my mom was going to
the bathroom. She was very private. I'm very different, so
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that it can't just be how you're raised. It has
to be in our biology as well or personality temperament. Anyway,
I didn't mean to talk talk about this for threes
Is there any other things we can add to this.
Speaker 1 (50:06):
No, I feel like that was good stuff and it
wasn't just about that, it was the other I mean,
the biting, and then we had the sniffing and the
dumpster diver tips and the email. Yeah, and yeah, there's
I think there's like lots of stuff here.
Speaker 3 (50:26):
Yeah, and this is thought provoking. Really, it's deep if
you let it be deep.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Yeah, Like I'm I'm curious, you're making me. I want
to just text my ex boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (50:37):
And he's like, now I want to get back into
the dating pool because I want to try this out
and see what it's like. Can I give you a tip?
Speaker 1 (50:45):
We should? I I can just text him and be like,
why did we never fart in front.
Speaker 3 (50:49):
Of each other? Are you open to doing that?
Speaker 1 (50:51):
Oh my gosh, I would die. You would have to
be right here with me and we would have to
press send, and then I would have to cover my eyes.
Oh my gosh. I when we were dating, I would
call him if we were still together, and we weren't.
Obviously we wouldn't be doing that. So if we were
still together, I bet this in one of those dates.
(51:12):
You know, I would call him at work and I
would be like, why don't we ever fart in front
of each other? And then he would be like, I'm working.
Speaker 3 (51:23):
Yeah, so when you do test this out, I will say,
wait till you guys are like officially dating before you
just let this go. Let it go, let it go,
let it go.
Speaker 1 (51:36):
Yeah, you're check into the gem pop.
Speaker 3 (51:38):
Well, I'm just telling you because you never you're new
at this.
Speaker 1 (51:40):
Well, I don't give it. You're gonna like go, I'm
not just gonna go all in and it might not
be something I can never really change about myself.
Speaker 3 (51:47):
Yeah, I kind of you don't need to change it.
I kind of unless you.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
But what I'm saying is I wish I could be
that comfortable.
Speaker 3 (51:53):
But so for you, it's a comfortability thing. It's not
that you just don't but.
Speaker 1 (51:57):
I'm comfortable with other things. Like I don't know, maybe
I'll bring this up in therapy. What a weird thing
to waste my money and time on. You might uncover
something crazy, That's what I'm thinking, Like what if it
leads to something detail because it says they're like if
you're in love like you.
Speaker 3 (52:15):
Yeah, I don't like to hear your y'all's input on this.
I know we're going to get in a flux of voicemails.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
Yeah, so many, it's going to break the phone line.
You can call us eight seven seven two oh seven,
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to be about this topic. If anybody is still listening,
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and we hope wherever you are, you.
Speaker 3 (52:48):
Have the day you need to have.
Speaker 1 (52:50):
Bye bye,
Good. All right, break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just won't, I'm
Amy and Cat got youa cove and locking a brother.
Ladies and folks, do you just follow Anna spirit where
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is feeling things.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
With Amy and Kat.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
And today I'm feeling what you felt last week.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Oh grateful.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Grateful for two things. One, so many people have either
emailed us or sent as voicemails or DMed me recommendations
for sunscreen, and now I kind of have too many options.
But I did order one Color Science Body soundscreen a
little more than I wanted to pay, so.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
They have a body one. Because I have used the
Color Science on my face and it breaks me out,
But that's my face, like your body should be totally fine,
because I in fact the face stuff I've saved, it's
just tinted, so it's weird. But I'll put it on
my chest and it doesn't.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Break your chest out. Well, I've had friends recommend color
science makeup and they love it.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
No, I know a lot of people love it. It's
just I don't know what it is in there that
does not go well with my face. But every single
time I try to give it another go because I
bought it in two different shades.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Damn, it's kind of expensive.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It's yeah, so I still have it, and occasionally I'll
be like, you know what, I'm going to give this
one another go. Wash my face. Sure enough, a new
pimple pops up, and I'm like, oh, dang, So there's
just something in there that's just not good for your
face for me, but my chest it's fine. So that's
for your body. What you got is for the body.
So it's not like the face stuff that's tinted.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
No, but it is tinted. So this actually came from
a male listener.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
So is it gonna rub off on your clothes?
Speaker 3 (01:59):
I didn't think about that.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Okay, you did, or you did it?
Speaker 3 (02:02):
I did, okay, But I mostly will be wearing it
with a bathing suit.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
So it's fine. So fine. And so a man sent
you a tinted sunscreen.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
He emailed us so nice he and he sent a picture.
His friend came to the live we did in Franklin.
He sent a picture of his friends with you. Oh really,
He was like, they wanted to meet you too, Kat,
but you were getting engaged. But yeah, he said that
his dermatologists, I think recommended this, okay, And I kind
(02:34):
of like that it's teinted because mineral sunscreen, one of
the issues is that it leaves that white residue and
you look really pale. So I was thinking that would
fix that problem. But I also hear the closed situation.
We'll see how it goes.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Okay, we need a new system for our emails because
I never saw that one. But I went into our
emails the other day and I was trying to catch
up on emails, and I think, now we have a
system like if you open it at a different time
and then it's red, then then I don't see it.
And then also you've been doing the thing where if
I get a mean email, you delete it. Okay, I
know you only did it once. We do have an
update on that, because we did talk about it, and
I think that same person is the same person, right, yes,
(03:10):
sent another email. When I read it, I didn't it
was the same person because you would have deleted the original,
but I'm confirming with you.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Yeah, the same person.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
So she's she's clarifying because we were discussing whether or
not you were a narcissist, which you're not, but she
was trying to say that you were, and she made
it clear in the email. Kat is not a narcissist,
but she is controlling and she did not like the
fact that you deleted the email that she wrote constructive
towards me.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I didn't permanently.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
It seemed sort of like she wasn't a fan of me.
And email number one, but then email number two.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Shekinna have my bag, So I wonder what happened an
email number three. I don't know, but this email came today.
I think that's why you didn't read it.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Oh the sunscreen one.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
But we do need a better system that if I
read them, I should leave them.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Or if I read them, yeah, I go back. We
need a market somehow, Yeah, like flag it.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah, like if you flag it, that mean said so
and so read it. But so and so we'll figure
it out. But I do. Yeah. I am grateful for
everybody who has cared. So I didn't think people would
care this much about my sunscreen Journey, and they have.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
People are passionate about the sunscreen.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
And if this one doesn't work out, I have a
couple other recks to go through. And the tips that
we read last week, I think they've helped.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Can you tell that I'm more tan? Speaking of.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I can tell you're more tan because you told me
you've got a spray tand so.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I self tanned myself.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh yeah, you have you smell me?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
No? Oh, I thought you said my nose.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
I said, I know, because you told me you.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
I thought you were like my nose.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Yes, it smells it because.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
I can smell it. But I did the New Loving
Tan ten Minute Express mask.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Have you or heard of it?
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Okay, So you put it on for ten minutes and
it does feel like this smooth mask on your skin.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Well, then why do you smell? Well, hold on, I
tell you.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Tell you the rest. So you put it on for
ten minutes. So I did it last night, and then
after the ten minutes you rinse off. But you cannot
use soap, and you rinse off the tan so that way,
when you get in bed, it doesn't get on your
sheets or anything. And then the tan continues to develop
for twenty four hours, I haven't hit the twenty four
hour mark, and then I'm not gonna wait the full
(05:22):
twenty four but probably when we get one recording, I'm
gonna go take a shower and new soap because I've
had enough because it's developing and the smell is developing.
But I feel like it looks like real kind of nice. Yeah,
I know I'm liking it. I have no deal with them,
but shut out, which get.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
That good solution to the I never know when to
do the tan because then, yeah, if you're going to
sleep and this gets all over your clothes and da
da da dah, and then you have to take a
shower and how early you have to wake up? So
that's a good solution, except I just wouldn't want to
have to wait twenty four hours. But it sounds like
you don't have to.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Well, you run off after the ten and you have
to wait twenty forty you soap, But I'm going to
go ahead and probably use soap. It around sixteen hour mark.
I think I've developed, Yeah, I can tell by the color.
I'm like, we can stop developing now, yeah, we could.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
How do you I probably asked you this before? How
do you get your back?
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Oh, just contortion myself so you get like, Okay, I
put my arm in weird positions and I switched the
glove from my left hand in my right hand, and
I go above, I go under, I go from the side.
I just try to get it as good as I can.
When I was married, I had help.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Yeah. I one time tried to tape the what's it
called the mit the mit to like a baton or something,
a ruler, it was something, and it didn't work.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
A specialized Yeah, it didn't work. They make things like that.
I think, yeah, that you could, but I mean it's
a lot of it's a lot of work. Yeah, if
you have it, you have a partner, Yeah, Patrick can
he can do my back. You back, but you're probably
not self tanning right now because you're pregnant. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I think there are some that I could use that
are non toxic, but I hate self tanning, so I'm
only going to do it if I really need it.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Well, that's part of my feeling, Like I my feeling
of the day, which did you say you had too
because you said grateful or you were grateful for two reasons.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
My other thing is not that big of a deal.
We're just finally getting our new floors in our house.
Oh and it finally got scheduled, like happening next week. Yay.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah, I know you're excited about that.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yeah, good patience. It's been like three months, which is
not that long.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
But when what I feel like it's been longer.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Well, we've wanted them since we moved in, exactly the process,
like three months ago.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
So but when you moved in was how long ago?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
It was September?
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Okay, that's patience because I hated hours. Don't have that patience.
I'm like, do it now. Like I was trying to
move in while I was getting my floors.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Done, you moved in and you changed everything. I'm like,
that stuff overwhelms me, so I have to do one
thing at a time. So I waited.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
But yeah, well no, I think you're a way. I
wish I would have waited, especially like I look at
the game room bathroom or my laundry room floor. If
I had been more patient and wasn't making so many
decisions at once, I think I would have made different
decisions and there was no reason to rush those spaces.
So my advice would be, yeah, patients and just.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Wait, what did you What did your daughter say about
the guest bathroom walls?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Why you remember what she said?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Oh? Hers? Oh, she said, I love their bathroom. I
probably would have done that a little different too, to
be honest, though, but I do like it. As she said,
it's like an aquatic bathroom, like.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
A but it's just because it's tiled. But it's pretty tough.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
I tiled the whole thing, so the floor has tiled,
but then the bathtub has tile. But I brought the
bathtub tile around. I wrap the entire bathroom in this
green square tile.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
It does look that square.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
I was debating between the rectangle and the square, but
I ended up going with square, which is probably a
little more aquatic, a little more like swim center.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
I probably wouldn't have thought that unless you told me
she said that.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
You know, I'm like, well, how many swim locker rooms
have you?
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Like one? And it looked just like that.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Apparently she was her swim lessons at the y m
c A or something, which I hung some art room
art room I put. I hung some artwork up in
the bathroom there, which has really helped break it up,
break up the tile, because there is a lot of it.
But I had three pieces of art that I wanted
to hang for a long time, and I used those command.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Strips, easy peasy done.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Stuck them right up there because you can't necessarily you
can drill, because they drilled the lighthole, the light fixtures
and all of that into the.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
But then you can't really fix that right. You can't
patch that hole.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Up right, so and strips of the way to go
on that. So good patience is good because I would
have done black and white check tile in my laundry.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
Room, like on the floor.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
That's what I want to do. And trust me, it's
been taken out. This other tile that my sister had
in Okay, I always loved my sister's upstairs bathroom at
her house has this one particular tile and I've always
loved it, and it's black with white lines. Well, when
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I was tile shopping, I came upon that tile, but
the opposite white with black lines. So it's not even
the same. It's the same tile but different color combo,
so it doesn't even have the same vibe. I didn't
do it for you, but I had such an attachment
of like, ooh, this is the same tile that my
sister has an upstairs bathroom that I love, so I
was like, I'm just going to go for it because
obviously it'll look good. Well, it got installed, and I
(10:58):
was like, wait, also, this is not the vibe of
my house, like I didn't think it through, which goes
back to my point. I was making too many decisions
at once where I wasn't fully thinking it through. And
I think had i'd just been patient, my launchroom would
have the black and white check tile and it would
look so cute. I want to have the door open
and be like, look into my laundry room.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Yeah, you can change it.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
One day I got a quote okay, and it would
be so stupid to.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Oh, because it's like a lot of money to redo it.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Yeah, So I thought, well, maybe I redo it, or
I could at least handle the demo.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Okay, can you though, because we were going to do Yeah,
I meant that seriously, because we were going to do
the demo of our floors, and I thought my dad
was going to help, And then he came over the
other day because I was having trouble installing my ring doorbell.
I tried to do it myself, and he was like,
I can't help you pull these up. I'm too old now,
(11:55):
which might Goad always just yeah, that's what he just
does the home improvement things. He said he could pull
the carpet up, but the wood floor, it's like in
the tile, it's like too much like laborist work. And
he was he said, I can't do it because I'm pregnant,
So that would just leave Patrick to do it himself,
which that's kind of sad, and honestly, I don't know
(12:19):
if I trust that. No shade to you, Patrick, So
now we're gonna have to pay somebody to do it. Yeah,
which the demo.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Is, right, That's why I was like, well, maybe I'll
take care of the demo and then I guess it's
not that much tile. The square footage of the laundry
room is tiny, so really it's not like a super
crazy investment. It just seems like want wall. But I'm
about to hit the two year mark, so I sort
of was like trying to justify it, like I've already
been here two years.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Nuts.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Is it crazy to change the laundroom floor after two years?
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
But can I be crazy?
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Yes, as long as you are careful and you're protecting yourself.
You probably could do them.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
You mean like goggles, yeah, and like gloves and closed
toad shoes. Right, yeah, Well, speaking of my feeling of
the day, mine just it organically has to do with
my TAN because I'm just I feel happy like it
gives me summer happy vibes. And I actually did the
tan so that I could come hang out with you
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at the lake. And then it's raining, so now I'm not.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
Yeah, what is up with that? Every I feel like
every Memorial Day? It was rained last time too.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I know so well, but I still love that I
took the ten minutes to do my express and I'm
glad you can't smell me. I really thought you were
saying my nose, my nose can smell it. Now, speaking
of home decor, when I mentioned this to you, you
said that it's been showing up in your feed too,
So I don't know what's going on with this, but
(13:51):
it's having a moment of the people dumpster diving at
home goods and other places. And you know that I
used to go dig in dumpsters for cupons. I bet
you didn't. That was a different It was a different
era for me. That was when I lived in North
Carolina when Ben was in the Air Force and I
didn't really know anybody, and I went to the dumpsters.
(14:15):
I would see people talk about how they would go
get newspapers stuff out of the dumpsters and they get
all these coupons and then they would take their binder
full of coupons to the grocery store and they would
save so much money. So I was trying to become
a cupeonter like these people were making it seem you
could be.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
You know there was a show like Extreme Couponing or
something where people would do.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
There was that, or I was seeing stuff online.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
I don't know that. I saw people going through people's trash.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
No dumpsters, you go dumpster diving, not people not like
your neighbor's trash.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
I know that's still somebody's trash. Where did what did
you get in the document in the dumpster?
Speaker 1 (14:55):
I would document it. I documented it. I took video
somewhere wait for the Bobby Bone Show.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
I was going to say, is this for the show
where it's like you just did this guy?
Speaker 1 (15:04):
And I'm sure part of me was like, oh, okay,
I can talk about this. Because I was trying to
live out what we were seeing like, I'm sure how
it happened if I just can't remember exactly what if
I had to guess, like we probably talked about it
on the show, and then I started seeing more of it,
or I was watching these cuponers or on Twitter, like
I don't I don't even know, because the year was
twenty ten, Like, I don't even think we had Instagram yet,
(15:25):
but we did have Twitter, and we did have television.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
So you got in and we didn't have the internet.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
I got in the dumpster and I would get coupons
and I would use the coupons, and I never became
an extreme cuponer like it to me, I never had
the time that I was having to put in to
save all of this money was too much and I
moved on. But it was a it was a hobby,
short lived, but it was a hobby.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Nonetheless, I just can't believe you that in what dumpster
did you choose?
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Well, you can. They have ones that are predominantly newspaper, Okay,
so then you know you're going in and that's where
all the coupons are.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
You're going behind a restaurant.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Yeah, I'm not it's a dumpster. Okay. Well, speaking of dumpsters.
Dumpster diving behind home goods keeps popping up, like all
these people are having all these things. For example, I
documented one video that I saw some of the free
things that this mom and her daughter found behind a
home goods. They got baking pans, baking dishes, dish towels
(16:27):
with the tags on them. Obviously, yeah, but I was like,
those are kind of cute ceramic vases, mugs, area rugs,
fleece blankets, plastic organizer bins, metal rolling pins, bathroom soap dispenser,
modern toilet brusholder.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
So I've seen videos. The one that caught my eye
first because I saw a home goods one was Anthropology.
This girl went to a dumpster behind Anthropology and she
got tons of like dishware, like really, you know, they
always have like cute cups and glasses, tons of glasses,
tons of like cocktail glasses, marble charcouterie boards, like a
(17:09):
bowl that would retail for like two hundred dollars, like
crazy stuff, and they just.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
I don't know why they're just putting it in the dumpster.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
I wonder why they can't donate it right or at
least like, well, I guess if you work there you're
doing this all the time. So eventually people are like,
I don't want anymore, but give it to the employees
or something. Why does it have to be thrown away?
Speaker 1 (17:34):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
And how do we figure out the schedule?
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Okay? Well I pulled tips from this. I don't know
if it's a different post or this same one, but
they said they check dumpter dumpsters on Sundays. Most likely
their trash pickup day is Monday, so the dumpster is
going to be full of things on Sunday. If you
don't need it, don't get it. Don't just get it
because like, oh, this is free, I'm going to take it,
(17:57):
because then now you're you're gonna end up with junk
that you don't want. Be careful of broken glass when
you're in there, and always leave some cool items behind
for your fellow divers. That's cute. They went to also
Target five below and all D.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
All these a grocery store. Do you think that but
they have?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
I went to al D the other day and I
tell you I went there for the first time, right
were we talking about that? Uh? And they have a
whole home good section. Okay, it's not big. There was
a few rows of you know, dishes and towels and
little things like that.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
So we try that.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
I don't know, we could try it. I mean there's
that Home Goods near us. We could go, do you.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Oh, that's a good one.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
But I kind of want to go to anthropology now that.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
You've said that, So I would want to go after
the store closes, because what if we're like out in
the dumpster and like an employee comps out.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Oh for sure, Like if you're checking it on Sunday,
do it Sunday before church?
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Oh in the morning. Okay, I was thinking before they.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Open, Oh you want to go in the dark.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
Well, what if they throw it out at well, no
things close early on Sundays, but what they throw things
out on Sunday because Monday is trash day. We need
to go Sunday night, that'sui And yeah, yeah, so Sunday
night we'll get in the dumpster.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Okay, Okay, Kat and are gonna try this out for
y'all if y'all have ever done this at any of
these stores or you have a store to recommend. And
this is truly legit because I do feel like there's
a lot of videos popping up and it's like, is
this for real? This is ai.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
And it could be for real, but it might not
be every week. I wonder if there's like But I
still also want to talk to employe of the store
that does this, because why can't you donate it?
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (19:42):
An, if you guys work at a store that does
something like this, let us know, like what there has
to be some rule that tells them that they can't
do it, like they wouldn't just throw right. Let us know.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
If you have information, fellow dumpster divers, report to us.
Please report back. Yeah, we got an email. This is
from Susan. Hey, Amy and Kat. This is Susan from Austin,
(20:21):
age sixty one. I'm a longtime listener of The Bobby
Bone Show, four fifth Thing and now an avid listener
of the Feeling Things podcast. First, congratulations to Kat on
your pregnancy. A quick thought I wanted to share. Have
you ever considered using your former last name, Defata as
the baby's middle name. I did that with my son,
(20:42):
and I've always been so glad he carries my original
last name. He loves having that connection too. Before we
continue with her email, I'll just say I don't think
that that's going to work for you. For you, do
you think.
Speaker 3 (20:59):
I was having the same thought as you. Okay, yeah,
Defauta is not as some people's like last names are, like.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Like my mom's her maiden name was Christopher.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Okay, that would work. Or sometimes people have like cool
last names like Wit or something like that, like not
for a girl, but like I can see that as
a middle name for a guy for sure, or a
first name. Defada is just sounds like last name, So
it's just like I'm giving her two last names.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
And then also, your last name now is van Buren's.
It's a lot of Dida and van Buren.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
It's a lot. But I do like the tip. It
just doesn't work for me.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah, but for somebody else that might work. So that's
a good thing to keep in mind. Okay, back to
her email, I often think about writing in and then
life gets busy. But I wanted to reach out because
my main impulse is simply to encourage you both to
say how much I appreciate the vulnerability, honesty, humor and
joy you bring to the podcast. You two are wonderful together. Amy.
I heard the tell Me Something Good segment on the
(21:54):
Bobby Bone Show about your summer vacation ideas, and I
have to say yafer Canyon Ranch, Tucson with Kat. I
truly think you would both have an incredible time there.
I've been fortunate to visit Canyon Ranch many times since
it first opened, and it can be such a healing
of fun, curiosity inspiring experience. In fact, it was during
(22:14):
a stay there several years ago that I got the
inspiration to write my book about art journaling. Since then,
I have even had the opportunity to speak there about
the book, and I sent Kat a copy when she
was creating art and having fun with it. I guess
I'm writing to say that I absolutely love the idea
of the two of you going together. It feels like
exactly the kind of place that enhances life, sparks reflection
(22:37):
and joy, and creates meaningful memories. Love the podcast and
cheering you both on warmly.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Susan, that is cool she's gone and spoken there.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
I remember when she sent you that book.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Yeah, and that's so cool. They're at my office on
my bookshelf for people to use. Now. Thanks for the tip, probably, yeah,
and thanks for being so kind.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I know we get some nice voicemails. Sometimes those feel
awkward to play, but it's just cool to get a
voicemail of people that are just calling to say hey, Like,
I love listening to y'all.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
So if we're not playing your voicemail, it's not because
we don't like it. It's sometimes we feel uncomfortable playing praise.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I even felt weird even reading that. I was like, oh,
I should just skipped that paragraph. But yeah, I know
I don't because Susan wouldn't want me to do that. Yea.
She thinks for vulnerable, honest, funny, and we bring joy.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Which thank you for saying that, because we also have
gotten some feedback that we're not those things.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Oh, this reminds you a video that I saw Britney
Kellogg do. She's a singer songwriter here in town and
on Instagram she does like take out the trash Tuesdays
or something, and while she's wheeling out her trash, she
calls out like trash comments that she gets on her
Instagram and one that I saw her do rec only
she was wheeling out the trash and some guy I
(24:05):
don't know, I don't remember, someone named Carl, some man
named Carl, and she puts his picture up and she's like, oh, hey, Carl,
and then she puts exactly what Carl said, and he said, man,
you're horrible or something like that, and he spelt your
just he put yo you are e, but no apostrophe. Uh.
(24:26):
And then he put man, no comma. It was just man,
you're horrible, no comma, no punctuation. So she was like
Carl taking out the trash, like, first of all, you
got this all wrong. I'm a girl. So she goes
she crosses out man and she puts it's girl. I'm
a girl. And after you say that, it's more like girl.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
Pause.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
So for the pause, Carl, we put a comma. Okay,
and then you're you almost had it. You almost had it.
You got it with the yo you are e, but
you forgot the apostrophe. So we're gonna go ahead. And
she's like popping up on the screen like her like
she's a teacher, editing like someone's paper. And so she
corrects that and then she was like, and you put horrible,
(25:12):
but I think you meant hilarious. And then she crosses
up that and puts hilarious. She's like, okay, let's try this, girl,
You're hilarious.
Speaker 3 (25:21):
There we go.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
We go Carl, now we're onto something. Have a great day.
And it's just so cute and such a funny way
to handle negative feedback.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
We don't get that much hate, so it's not like
we need.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Trush to shake out the trushes it.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
Yeah, However, I'm hesitant to do something like that because
of I feel like I'm turning into you. The retaliation
retaliation even gonna be worth Carl might come to my
house or just like say something else. It's like egging
it on versus letting them just like say their comment.
We can delete it and then move on. But I mean,
(25:56):
she's making light of it. If you can make light
of kind things people are saying, that is one way
to like cope.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Yeah, she I guess when she films these she often.
Because that one popped up, I started to want to
see the other one. So I was just scrolling through
her feed to see all the take out the trash Tuesdays.
And she had this other one where she's holding her
like a cocktail, but she drinks it out of a
red vine her straw. It's like a twizzler, but it's
(26:24):
different like a it's a red licoration but a different
brand and it's she drinks out of it because it
gives it a little sweetness to her vodka or her
tequila or whatever is in her cocktail. And I guess
someone called her out for looking ridiculous doing that, but
she went to that person's page and apparently on that
person's Instagram, she went through in screenshot every cocktail or
(26:47):
piece of alcohol or anything that she showed on her page,
and she's like, from what I can tell, you like
to drink a lot. So if you know, I'm paraphrasing,
but she was like, if I want to enjoy my
little red vine in my drink, like what's it to you?
In a way, And then someone else called her out
for having a camel tooe in one video. So she
(27:09):
was taking out the trash and she brought a little
whiteboard and she started drawing, and she was like, this
is a female body, and this is what happens when
you know.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
She really good for her.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Yeah, it's funny, she was. I met her on our
cruise because we did a cruise early this year with
Top Shelf Country Cruise and there were tons of artists
like playing all day long, so there were some that
I had never met Brittany before, but I got to
meet her and I did a little interview with her
and listener like A Q and A and she's funny.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
Yeah. So I have something to share with you that
actually we can thank Patrick for this.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Okay, what is it? So?
Speaker 3 (27:53):
I was looking for something that I had sent him
based on a conversation we were having earlier. Oh yeah, yeah,
and I actually found something that he had sent me,
and I just thought it'd be interesting to go through.
And I want to get your feedback to see if
you relate to any of this stuff. Okay, it's weird
things people in love do and why?
Speaker 1 (28:13):
Okay, so like what kind of weird things? Well?
Speaker 3 (28:18):
Can I share what we were talking about?
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Sure? Okay, yeah, you can talk about that far. So
it obviously has to do with that. H Does it
get even weirder?
Speaker 3 (28:25):
I think it gets a little weirder. Oh but I
think that might be the weirdest thing. Okay, but it's
not weird Okay.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
Well I don't. Yeah, this would be interesting to pull
our audience, like if they could, if they could email
in and let us know or send us a DM
or something, let us know where you fall in this category.
We need to we need a survey.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
Okay, So I asked, honestly, why did I bring this up?
Speaker 1 (28:52):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (28:52):
I burped, Oh, okay, we ate chickens.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
The cat picked up lunch. Oh tell people what you
were like freaking out because I didn't get back to
you because I was doing the Bobby Bone Show and
I told you I wanted the chicken plate from Waldos,
but I guess it comes with sides, and I didn't
give you sides.
Speaker 3 (29:10):
So I panic ordered, see panic ordered, and they have
a lot of sides there. But I got you fries
because you can't go wrong with fries. And then I
got mac and cheese because I know you love mac
and cheese, but I don't know their mac and cheese
because I don't like mac and cheese. So I was like,
what if I got her the mac and cheese and
it's bad? And what if she really wanted this tomato
cucumber salad but she didn't get back to me, and
now she's getting the mac and cheese. Yeah, and it
(29:32):
wasn't that good.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
You did good?
Speaker 3 (29:33):
Okay, well, you liked my choices, but then you did
say the mac and cheese wasn't your favorite.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
It wasn't what But still I'm glad you got it
because I would want to try it, Okay, And then
I had a tailor farm salad, so I whiped that
up so I could have something a little green with
my chicken. And then I had the fries and then
tried the mac and cheese.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
And the muffin.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
And the muffin I've never had Waldos before. That muffin is.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
The best part of any meal.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Glorious. Like I might go there now. Just do they
have diet coke?
Speaker 3 (29:59):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Oh my god. Can you imagine going to Walden you.
Speaker 3 (30:03):
Can get a side of just the muffins.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
Yeah, don't tell me that I'm going to go.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
One day.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Yeah, you know, I'm going to come by your house
and to show up with Waldo's muffins and die coke.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
It's the best snack. They are like the well, actually,
I don't have anything to compare them to. I was
gonna say red lobster, but they're totally different.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
But but yeah, the red lobster one is a little
more dense and this is a little bit more airy. Yeah, yeah,
but they're both delicious.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
So I got us lunch and we were eating lunch
and Amie burped, and I said, I said, what word
do you want me to use? I feel like you
don't like this word, just like you don't like.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Well, what's the scientific past flatulence?
Speaker 3 (30:49):
No? No? I asked Amy if she ever what do hold?
People say like something wind like break wind? She's ever
broken and in front of her ex boyfriend, you guys
were together for a year and a half. And she said,
(31:11):
uh huh no never no, And then she said, and
he never in front of me either.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
And I was also in my marriage, don't oh yeah, And.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Then she said, and I never did you never did
in front of Ben.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
I mean, I don't know if it ever accidentally happened.
I can't recall, but we did not.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
It was not thing.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
It wasn't like and he didn't do it either, No, no,
he he. We didn't really talk about any of that.
I know, I know that that seems really really weird,
and it's not weird that I want to be in
a relationship where maybe we do that, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
But I don't know how I want to far in
front of my boyfriend's so bad.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
But I don't know how. I mean, how do you
find somebody like that?
Speaker 3 (31:55):
Like, I mean, the stay profile is like, what are
you looking for someone I can fart in front of?
Speaker 1 (32:04):
No, I don't, but I don't want to use that word.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
Okay, it's somebody I can break wind in front of.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:10):
I just don't even want it to be a thing
like I wanted to be.
Speaker 3 (32:13):
Like easy breezy, like literally.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Yeah, just a thing you do like you drink water.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
Okay, But it was interesting because you said you burp
in front.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Of I mean, but not a lot, but I mean
I would. I'd be like or if I had a hiccup,
like like whatever.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
You know, I never did that, but I hiccup all
the time in front of him. It's the same thing that.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
Was No, I had no shame.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Okay, I don't think it's I've heard I told you.
I've had a friend who we talked about this actually
last weekend. She has been with her now has been
six years, and she never has but he does in
front of her. But she said she never needs to.
She's like, I just don't. I'm like, don't have a
stomach ache from like holding in your everything. They live together, Yeah,
(32:59):
and she said, I just don't feel like I ever
have to. So do you relate to that some people. No,
oh no, okay, no, no, no, no, you know that couple.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
There's that couple. They're older and they go on a
like a fart walk after they have after dinner.
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Patrick, and I said, do you need to go on
a fart walk? Wait?
Speaker 1 (33:22):
What? These people are elderly, y'all do that?
Speaker 3 (33:25):
Well, apparently you're supposed to go on fart walks.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
After you eat, thirty minutes after you eat, lace up
your shoes and go out, and you just both go
and you're just like do And I'm like, wow, what
a cute couple.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
So now every time you see a couple walk around
the neighborhood, you can be like, I wonder if they're
on a fart walk.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
Yes, or just a regular But that feels really safe
to me, like safe emotionally.
Speaker 3 (33:48):
Yeah, okay, I do think that. Okay, so that goes
to the weird things, because what I was looking for
is I have sent Patrick after we had this conversation.
I had sent Patrick some or some infographic on Instagram
that said, like couples that fart in front of each other.
Sorry I'm not seeing that word.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
Now, that's fine, are happier, we're mature, Yeah, we are mature,
we're so interesting sore.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
In a segment on Breaking Wind, it said couples that
do that in front of each other are happier, and
I couldn't find that, but I found this weird things
people in love do and why? So before we get
to this, let us know your feelings on this topic.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
Oh, our listeners, Yes, okay, this is a call out.
This is your homework assignment.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
Yeah do you do? You not?
Speaker 1 (34:38):
Why?
Speaker 3 (34:38):
Why not?
Speaker 1 (34:39):
How did you grow up? I mean this is the
part that Kat and I started really talking about, like
what is it from our childhood or like what is
it that makes people comfortable? You're not comfortable with it?
Speaker 3 (34:48):
But your mom did do that in front of you
and my mom didn't.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Yeah, so it's just weird.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Yeah, maybe it's not that.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
And like I will like my kids like we all,
it's not a thing like we it's safe at home
for them to do that. It's not like I'm like, oh,
we don't do that, No, no, I want them to.
It's just in a relationship, it's just not the norm
there is for me.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
I do believe that, obviously not for my relationship, but
I do believe that like not doing that leaves a
little like you know, mystery. Yeah, like you know, like
they don't poop, they just like I think that they know.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
But that's annoying, Like why did that ever become a thing.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
Because that girls should just be able to do. Now
we act like we don't and we don't.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
We don't.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
It's like I don't, which is exactly why I don't.
So ever, so but I do. Okay, I like that
idea that we shouldn't have every day. We shouldn't have
to pretend that these are aren't normal things that happen.
So Amy's looking for somebody who she can feel comfortable
and let loose around, you know, anybody, let's know. And
(36:06):
maybe that's a conversation you and past partners have of
like what would it be like if we just did this?
Would it bring us closer?
Speaker 1 (36:16):
So you want me to call my ex boyfriend and
say do you want to go on a fart lock? Yes,
he'd probably be like yeah, you like.
Speaker 3 (36:24):
So that was the issue is that we couldn't. It's
like I'm waiting for you, okay. Weird things people do
(36:45):
that are in.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
Live Okay, so when you're in love you do these things.
Speaker 3 (36:48):
Maybe maybe I don't know if you do that bite
their partner.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
Like just randomly.
Speaker 3 (36:55):
Yes, Patrick sent this to me. I know because this
is number one, and I bite and bite him.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
Yeah, And it's like any comes home from work, you're like,
is love biting?
Speaker 3 (37:08):
Like not in like an intimate way, like I don't
want to bite his arm or hand or so. It
says when people feel overwhelming affection, the brain can trigger
cute aggression, which this is put a good cute spin
on it, where strong positive emotions create playful urges like squeezing, nibbling,
or biting. Psychologists believe this response helps regulate intense feelings
(37:32):
so the brain doesn't become emotionally overloaded. Okay, so I'm
just like so obsessed with them. I have you know,
when people are like to babies, they're like, oh, I
just want to eat you, Like that's how.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
You digression, Patrick, But I have that yeah, okay, okay, so.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
You haven't experienced that, that's okay.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Maybe a nipple or a little a little.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Uh so you have more basic cute aggression, sure, use
a higher pitched baby voice. Do you baby talk?
Speaker 1 (38:03):
Not really?
Speaker 3 (38:04):
Yeah, I don't do it, okay, it says couples often
speak in softer or higher tones because this style of
speech activates caregiving instincts in the brain.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
The guys too, I guess.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
I guess it signals emotional safety and warmth with strengthens
feelings of closeness and attachment. I think that this people
do this more like their pets and babies, which makes sense.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Because there's people to do it in relationships.
Speaker 3 (38:32):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, But I don't think Patrick's e for
a baby.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
Towards me, like, oh, you want to bite me?
Speaker 3 (38:42):
No, He's always like, no biting. He hates it. Oh
he doesn't like it, not like it. Yeah, no, he
does not like when I bite him, doesn't stop me
now I can. I don't know that he actually read
this somebody like it's cute aggression. I'm supposed to do it, okay,
sniff their partner's hair or scent.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
M maybe a little bit.
Speaker 3 (39:06):
Yeah, I sniff Patrick all the time. I will say
to him, I just need to get a sniff of you.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Oh, and not like because was it because he wears
a certain colone you like or it's just his natural scent.
Speaker 3 (39:19):
He refuses to wear clone actually okay, And it's not
even like when he gets to the shower. It's his smell,
Like I like the smell of like his skin. I
sound like a serial.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
Killer, Patrick, but blink twice if you need help, Patrick,
call me if you need help.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
Ever, what's crazy is I'm not have seen that, like
I do all these things.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
But so you're like really in love with him and
he's just like along for the ride.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
I think I even said, like it might have been
last night, like don't you ever just want to get
it sniff of me? And he said no, No, he
chows his love in other ways. Okay, So its recognizing
the smell of someone you love can release oxytocin, sometimes
called the love hormone. This chemical is a link to
bonding and trust, which is why a partner scent can
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feel calming and emotionally reassuring.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
My natural scent lately is self tanner. And I don't
want anybody.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
To sniff that. Okay, overstimulate their partner when they're already overstimulated.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Wait, they do that when they're in love.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
You think if you're in love, if they're already overstimulated,
you want to it.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
Says people sometimes keep tickling or teasing their partner even
when they're overwhelmed, because playful irritation can be a form
of attention.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
Oh okay, I get it, I get it. I do
not like being tickled.
Speaker 3 (40:49):
I do not.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
I do not. I have to say, like, I get
my voice changes, but not to high. It goes really
low and like scary.
Speaker 4 (40:58):
Can give us the sam like I might be like,
I might be like I like, I feel like I
want to murder you if like you don't stop, like
I'm not I'm not happy.
Speaker 1 (41:09):
This doesn't No, I'm not messing around.
Speaker 3 (41:11):
I'm not happy right now.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
Like this isn't fun.
Speaker 3 (41:15):
What is or anywhere anywhere my feet?
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Yeah, if I feel pinned down or restraint, like pinned
like to where I can't and I'm being tickled.
Speaker 3 (41:25):
Has anybody ever laid you down? And this is like
laid you down and it has anybody ever laid you down?
Speaker 5 (41:35):
And cat goes mmmm cry okat, okay, laid you down
and pinned your arms down and then like put their
knees on your arms and then tickled you.
Speaker 3 (41:46):
Mm hmmah. That is I think the cruelest form of torture.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Yeah, it's pretty bad.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
So this I don't really relate to this, but Patrick
might disagree. I might do, but he doesn't get over stimulated.
It's more I get over siming life. Okay, here's the
big one, fart without a care around their partner. When
people feel completely comfortable with someone, they stop worrying about
(42:13):
small social embarrassments like farting. Psychologists often see this as
a sign of deep familiarity and trust in a relationship.
So yeah, but I also think that, like, you can
be in love and not do that.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Yeah, but this is where we need the study, Like
we need to know the people that are in love
that don't feel comfortable doing that why and the people
that feel comfortable doing it?
Speaker 3 (42:37):
Why?
Speaker 1 (42:38):
What's the difference? Like why why isn't it just like peeing.
It's sort of like I think about this sometimes when
we have to go to the bathroom. If you have
to go pee, you're like, oh, I gotta get up,
I gotta go pee. It's no big thing. You make
an announcement. You're like, like at work, I'm like, do
you have a break? Can I go pee? And we
run and pee and everybody knows you're going to pee.
But if you have to do something else, you don't
ever announce that it's not ever, but it's the say,
(43:00):
the same place.
Speaker 3 (43:01):
I think it's sort of the same kind of it's
grosser like.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
Ye, but I get that it's I guess it's different
in that way. I understand.
Speaker 3 (43:11):
But it's a natural thing.
Speaker 1 (43:13):
It's a natural thing, yea that everybody does. And we've
made one of them okay to announce and talk about freely,
but we don't the other and like or like if
you're throwing up, like if you're if you if you
have food poisoning, like you're fine saying like I'm throwing up,
but if you have it the other way, you might
say like, oh, both ends, you know, but you're.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Or you might just say, like I had the stomach bug, like.
Speaker 1 (43:36):
Yes, you don't even give specifics, which yeah, I guess
it is a little bit more, which people will probably
maybe even had to turn us off. They quit listening
people because now if we're talking about, you know, diarrhea
or whatever, even when I have to say that right now,
I'm like, you know, diaryea, you know, I say, but
(44:01):
we can say throw up, yeah, no problem. Yeah, And
like babies have dirty diapers all the time, like everybody
knows that's what people do and you're like, oh the
baby when they were a baby, It's like, oh the baby.
Speaker 3 (44:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
Anyway, it's just something that that's what I think about sometimes,
like going the bathroom, like how we have our different
ways of saying it.
Speaker 3 (44:21):
No, that's a really interesting I mean it feels like
complex and not at the same time, because I get it,
but also I don't get it, Like when did this?
What I would would want to know is when did
this start? Because at some point we were just doing
whatever back in the k Man days, like there was
no like manners. Some of this I think goes back
to manners in how you how you're raised, but also
(44:44):
I think you can be raised one way and be
defiant of that too. So when did the manners start
categorizing certain things? I mean, it's that whole idea that
like things are only weird to us because they're not
normal to us, but in other cultures those things oh well.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Sort of like even thinking of how being a woman
has evolved. I started a little bit of Four.
Speaker 3 (45:10):
Wins and so such a good book.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
You know, it's following a female character in the twenties
and thirties, and her role is so different and even
her relationship and how they handled things, like because she
had slept with someone, they labeled her as ruined her family,
her own family, Yeah, who ruined? You give me his name?
(45:37):
And then you know, so it's heartbreaking and like that's
just unfortunately. There probably are some families that still maybe
operate that way and would disown their child if they
came home and had something like that happened, or their kid.
She's twenty five years old in the book. Ye, she's
not even a child.
Speaker 3 (45:54):
It's normal for her to be pregnant right.
Speaker 1 (45:56):
As a twenty five year old. It's like, oh my gosh,
even back then, and Kristin Hannah's writing from his historical fiction,
so this is how. It's not like she's just making
this up and like how my grandmother or my great grandmother,
like how their relationship with their husband was, Like you know,
(46:17):
there's a part in the book I don't I don't
even say if it's the main character who it is,
because I don't want to give too much away. But
it's like her inner thoughts of how she even wants
to show up to her husband and she'd been married
for a very long time, and she's saying she can't
even express herself at night with what she wants.
Speaker 3 (46:37):
Yeah, because back then that's not what you did. No,
so I will And I'm like, what, Okay, I wish that.
I mean, okay, I would probably never bring this kind
of stuff up to my grandparents, but I would want
to know more about like what, yeah, what was your
relationship like in comparatively, how those have changed over time,
like my grandparents' relationship than to my parents than to mine,
(46:58):
Like what the differences are? Mm hmm because now yeah,
like expressing like your own needs at night, like are
it's so normal? But well, well too yeah to me,
So you're right, Like a lot of cultures and a
lot of people, depending on how they were raised, they
would never But that's also why I think women in
general still we still struggle, like with intimacy, yes, and
(47:23):
like men are allowed. I mean that's the whole idea
that like men can be super sexual and like want
to do that and be into whatever and say whatever
they want, but if girls say it, then like they're
labeled as bad words. I was gonna say a fluozy,
but I'm really thinking a different word, right, Like, but
they're not doing anything different. So yeah, that I think
(47:47):
is generational and over time it's changing its slowly, But yeah,
I wonder if my grandparents past guess in front of
each other.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Yeah, I doubt it.
Speaker 3 (47:59):
If I ask my grandma that she like, please ask her,
she would be like, what is wrong with you? I
don't have that kind of relationship with her?
Speaker 1 (48:08):
M Well, yeah you can evolve. Yeah, do it for us, Kat,
I don't have a grandparent to ask. I don't even
have a parent. How do I even on you?
Speaker 3 (48:22):
Well, I can already ask my parents. How do you
warm your grandma up to that question?
Speaker 1 (48:27):
Like, hey, Grandma, I gotta I gotta let her let
it riptator chip, You're just going to say, hey, Grandma,
I've got a question for you. Might be a little uncomfortable,
but so there's no more my friends than I've been
talking about. And I just would love your perspective.
Speaker 3 (48:45):
I think I I would go different.
Speaker 1 (48:47):
How would you warm her up?
Speaker 3 (48:48):
I would be like, Nana, I have I just want to,
you know, pick your brain for a little bit. And
I would just start asking her questions because that is
one thing that she does love to talk about her past,
and she loves to talk about her relationship with her
husband and my grandpa, and so I would just start
asking her questions and then I'd be like, so, like,
tell me about the first time that he said I
(49:10):
love you? And then she would tell me and tell
me about this, and tell me about that. And then
I'd say, and tell me about the first time he
farted in front of you, and did you do it
as well? And then you know, okay, sneaking it?
Speaker 1 (49:21):
Warm up and she'll be like say.
Speaker 3 (49:23):
What She literally would think I lost my mind.
Speaker 1 (49:26):
Okay, Well, I can't wait to hear this report.
Speaker 3 (49:28):
Back from cry. Okay, I'm not actually gonna I thought
you were really going to do it. I think my parents,
but I already know my dad does in front of
my mom. My mom doesn't do that. My mom doesn't
even I told you, I didn't even know that my
mom went to the bathroom growing up. There's not one
time that I knew that my mom was going to
the bathroom. She was very private. I'm very different, so
(49:50):
that it can't just be how you're raised. It has
to be in our biology as well or personality temperament. Anyway,
I didn't mean to talk talk about this for threes
Is there any other things we can add to this.
Speaker 1 (50:06):
No, I feel like that was good stuff and it
wasn't just about that, it was the other I mean,
the biting, and then we had the sniffing and the
dumpster diver tips and the email. Yeah, and yeah, there's
I think there's like lots of stuff here.
Speaker 3 (50:26):
Yeah, and this is thought provoking. Really, it's deep if
you let it be deep.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Yeah, Like I'm I'm curious, you're making me. I want
to just text my ex boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (50:37):
And he's like, now I want to get back into
the dating pool because I want to try this out
and see what it's like. Can I give you a tip?
Speaker 1 (50:45):
We should? I I can just text him and be like,
why did we never fart in front.
Speaker 3 (50:49):
Of each other? Are you open to doing that?
Speaker 1 (50:51):
Oh my gosh, I would die. You would have to
be right here with me and we would have to
press send, and then I would have to cover my eyes.
Oh my gosh. I when we were dating, I would
call him if we were still together, and we weren't.
Obviously we wouldn't be doing that. So if we were
still together, I bet this in one of those dates.
(51:12):
You know, I would call him at work and I
would be like, why don't we ever fart in front
of each other? And then he would be like, I'm working.
Speaker 3 (51:23):
Yeah, so when you do test this out, I will say,
wait till you guys are like officially dating before you
just let this go. Let it go, let it go,
let it go.
Speaker 1 (51:36):
Yeah, you're check into the gem pop.
Speaker 3 (51:38):
Well, I'm just telling you because you never you're new
at this.
Speaker 1 (51:40):
Well, I don't give it. You're gonna like go, I'm
not just gonna go all in and it might not
be something I can never really change about myself.
Speaker 3 (51:47):
Yeah, I kind of you don't need to change it.
I kind of unless you.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
But what I'm saying is I wish I could be
that comfortable.
Speaker 3 (51:53):
But so for you, it's a comfortability thing. It's not
that you just don't but.
Speaker 1 (51:57):
I'm comfortable with other things. Like I don't know, maybe
I'll bring this up in therapy. What a weird thing
to waste my money and time on. You might uncover
something crazy, That's what I'm thinking, Like what if it
leads to something detail because it says they're like if
you're in love like you.
Speaker 3 (52:15):
Yeah, I don't like to hear your y'all's input on this.
I know we're going to get in a flux of voicemails.
Speaker 1 (52:22):
Yeah, so many, it's going to break the phone line.
You can call us eight seven seven two oh seven,
two oh seven seven. You can also email Hey. They're
at Feeling Things podcast dot com and then our instagram
is Feeling Things Podcast. We'd love to hear from you,
hear your thoughts on anything. On anything does not have
to be about this topic. If anybody is still listening,
(52:47):
and we hope wherever you are, you.
Speaker 3 (52:48):
Have the day you need to have.
Speaker 1 (52:50):
Bye bye,
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