July 10, 2026 • 21 mins
Elisha Cuthbert sticks around to talk about growing up with strict parents and how it’s influenced her own parenting style, while sharing the secret to a now 20 year marriage.
Plus, a listener shares their own traumatic experience with false evidence - right here on a bonus Teen Beat!
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
That's that's okay.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Because no one here is.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
So every week I ask listeners to send in their
own embarrassing stories from their childhood, reminding us that we
are not alone and that we all experience at least
one moment of shame in childhood. So this week we
hear from Mollie who threw a party and forgot a detail.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
Let's play the clip.
Speaker 5 (00:48):
Hey guys, my name is Molly, I'm from Metro Detroit
and I'm a huge family podcast. My embarrassing story happened
the second semester my senior year in high school. My
parents were out of town and I decided to throw
a party. My friends and I did their friends and
ended up being really big. At the end of the night,
I thought I had cleaned everything up. I took out
the trash, picked up the bottles and cans, made sure
everything works spotless.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
While I was at work.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
The next day my parents returned home. They sent me
a text to like, hey, we need to talk when
you get back. So when I did eventually return home,
they showed me the joint that I had very clearly
forgotten about underneath the coffee table. At the time, I
didn't really smoke or drink and it truly was not mine,
but of course it didn't believe me. All these years later,
they still tease me about it, and I swear I
will die on the hill that it was not mine,
(01:32):
but you know, it is what it is anyway, Thanks guys.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Oh that's so cute, though, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
That I doesn't everyone have kind of a similar story.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I mean, maybe did you ever throw a rager at
your parents' house?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I never threw a rager, but you know, I do remember, like,
first of all, my parents didn't drink ever, but like
they would have friends that would come over and bring
them bottles of like alcohol. I was like, you know,
as a house or like, yeah, like a.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
House the hostess host and hostess yah.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Not a house. Serve again, hostess, yap, thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
So I remember like they had a liquor cabinet and
it was but it was never touched. And so I
remember like a bunch of friends were at my place
and they were like I think we were like sixteen
or so, maybe seventeen. They were like, oh, do do
you have did your parents of alcohol? And I was
(02:30):
like yeah, and I was like, but they don't open it.
And they were like, well, if we take some vodka,
we could just fill it back up with water.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
And I was like okay, so I let them like
have drink whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
And then they filled it the bottle back up with
the vodka, bottle backup with water.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And I think to this day, it's still in there.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
You never even got cat.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I love it. Now they're gonna know.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Sorry, Mom, Sorry, Mom, don't listen to this.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
Part of the podcast.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
I my parents very similarly never drank, but had a
full liquor cabinet because I think I think as adults,
at least back then, it was very much like, well,
if you're an adult, you have to have a full
liquor cabinet, even if you don't partake.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
It's like that Madman era, like exactly, you gotta have
a little, little little cabinet. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
Or really my parents had like a full by the
way they built. They built they had a full bar,
like a walking bar. They didn't drink.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
I think it was just like part of entertaining that
you like, that was supposed to be something you had
as a grown up. But I was way too afraid
of getting in trouble to ever throw a party.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
At my house.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
But I did go once. My best friend Jen, she
had a party at her house. Her parents knew, and
they were like, we're gonna be here, We're gonna be upstairs.
They were more of the mentality of like, if you're
gonna drink, I'd rather you drink at our house where
we can kind of you know, make sure you're safe. Yeah,
and so they yeah, they didn't really like hang out
(04:02):
with us, but they were there, but they just stayed
upstairs in their room, and my mom was like, absolutely not. Oh.
The other thing was that Jen's parents said, but if
you're going to have alcohol, everyone has to spend the
night or you know, by the way, a co ed sleepover.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Oh, co ahead. But didn't know. I didn't. I thought
it was just you and Jen, like having a fun.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
No, no, no, Jen was throwing a party. This was
a party and people everyone was just allowed to spend
the night and if they drove, they had to leave
their keys because you know, they didn't want anyone driving.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
And this was before Uber, so.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Like you know, my mom was like, oh, you can
go to the party until about eleven and then I'm
picking you up. And so I was not allowed to
spend the night and at that rader of a party,
Jen threw my boyfriend hooked up with Jen's cousin.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
No w yes ruined everything.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
That's devastating, just devastating at the time, But now in hindsight,
I'm like, that's exactly what should have happened, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
As teenagers would.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Funny now that I've been out promoting the show, and
because it's about finding first loves and reconnecting with old
loves and all these things that come with like young romance,
we get a lot of questions about what it was
like to fall in love for the first time, and
I was like, it's so funny to me. I feel
(05:30):
like the breakup is more prominent in my mind, Like
my first breakup and my first heartbreak is like the
thing that I can visualize and feel more than the
moment I fell in love.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Absolutely so interesting.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
I used to.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Say all the time too that like, honestly, I don't
think it's even worth being in a relationship because the
breakup is so much worse than any joy I get
from the relationship. I really it was like, I can't
handle it. The breakup is awful, whether it's me hurting someone, Yeah,
that sucks or it's you getting your heart broken. It's
like either way, this just stinks. So yeah, I am.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
What I do think the only like silver lining in
it is that I think when you go through a breakup,
if anything, you should take away like you said, it
was supposed to happen because it made your heart shatter
in a way that it saw what it needed to see,
which was like, oh, that person wasn't right for me
because of this, that and the other.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
And for him, I mean obviously his head was not
in the right place.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
That's yeah. No, I cousin and I love her very close.
I love her. She's great, she's wonderful.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
At the time, I was like, I mean, like by him.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Oh him bye.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Yeah, Saya Nara. My parents would have absolutely killed me
if they found a joint.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Were your parents striped with you or yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
I was terrified of like them and just wanting to
be like the good girl, you know.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I you know, I have that.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Older sibling, the oldest of the three syndrome where I'm just.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Like I want to be the perfect child, same.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
And so I never wanted to disappoint them, So that
would have Yeah, that wouldn't have happened, and that's why
I didn't have parties at my house. So I went
to party, I went to parties, and we didn't have
parties because I just, yeah, that whole thing would have
terrified me, and certainly weed because I don't partake in
any of that. But I do remember being very terrified
(07:44):
about like trying alcohol for the first time, or you know,
smoking a cigarette for the first time. You know, all
very scary stuff for me.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
And you have an eight year old, right you have?
You have two kids?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I have an eight year old and a four year old.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Okay, eight year old, and so I have a seven
and an almost five year old.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Oh my gosh, we're like right right there.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
Yes, what do you think? What kind of tea? I mean?
Speaker 3 (08:10):
To think about them being teenagers is just wild? But like, yeah,
what kind of teenage parent do you think you're going
to be? Are parents of a teen like what are
you going to be strict? Are you going to be
a cool parent?
Speaker 4 (08:23):
What do you think? How do you think you're going
to be I don't.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
I mean I want them to trust that they can
come to me and tell me anything without fear, because
I do think when I was younger, I was terrified
to get in trouble, and but I think there has
to be a line of discipline that keeps them in line,
right because their frontal lobes, you know. Yeah, I remember
(08:49):
mine and I was like it was non existent. So
it was like I was totally thinking straight. So yeah,
I think I'll be I think I'll be strict to
a degree, and I have my I have my things
that I prioritize with them that I think are important.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
But but I.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Also don't want it to be, you know, to a
point where it's so insane that they don't feel like
they can talk to me.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Yeah, you know, I want to find them.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I think as a parent, you're always just trying to
find that balance of how much discipline, how much love,
all of those things, so that you know that doesn't
get too much this way, too much that way. It's
it's isn't it. It is one of the hardest jobs
on the planet to navigate.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
I mean absolutely absolutely, because there's too much, too much
external feedback. Also, it's like that too, Yeah, we take
in so much stuff about how this person parents, and
you're like, oh, maybe that's the way I'm supposed to
be doing it. And you see this, I you go, oh,
but actually, maybe I'm supposed to be doing that. Then
you have the way your parents were, and you have
the the things that you love that your parents did, and.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
You want to emulate those.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
And then you know, also just the parenting of ourselves
while we're parenting them.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah, I mean, I think too, like and also in
this world of like social media, and you know, it's
again like your kids are similar ages to mine, which
is like the whole iPad situation, you know, it's like
and the funniest thing about that is that you know,
there were some parents on the fence of like no
iPads screen time at all, fair enough, and then there
(10:22):
were other parents that were like literally like it was
iPads all day. And I tried to kind of find
a middle ground with that and thought, Okay, when it's
when it's working for us, that works, but then it
doesn't have to be all the time. Try to like
navigate it. And then they get to school and then
they the school brings them home with iPads for schoolwork yep.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
And you're like, oh, so they're gonna end up on
screens anyway.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
So I'm like, okay, well.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Thank god, we didn't go like full direction of like
no iPads at all. I was like, wow, so there
they need to know. And it's so yeah, it's but
again it's like it's mind boggling and it's real. It's
really hard. So I'm gonna I'll answer your question. I
think I'm going to try to stay again like I
did in high school.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Neutral.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
Neutral.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
I listen, That's what I'm trying to do too. I'm
just trying to be like middle of the road. I also,
I know, even though I was afraid of my parents
when it came to like getting in trouble, I did
always know that I could talk to my mom about anything,
like yes, I used to come home with notes from
boys and just hand them over to her, like look
at what he said that, you know, Like there was,
but there was also nothing salacious going on now.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
But so we think it's we think it's salacious back
then because a lot of things that we experience feel
like such a big deal, yes, and so overwhelming because
of hormones and all the things.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
So but they really weren't.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
It's just I will say though, that the strictness that
my parents instilled and the fear that I had about
sort of running off the path was that it did
help me later on when I did get to LA
and and you know, then you're on your own own
and you have to make those choices between right and wrong,
(12:05):
and your compass always goes back to the people that
raise you. And so I think as long as my
compass for my kids steers them in the direction of
the right choice and not the wrong and they're gonna
make mistakes, then.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
I hope that you know we've done a good job
in that way.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Yes, I do want to talk about your husband. You
are Canadian, as we've mentioned, so you're legally required to
love hockey. That's just something you have to do, but
(12:41):
you took it one step further falling in love with
an all star defenceman, dionn f Enough.
Speaker 4 (12:46):
How did you two meet?
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Yeah, you know, we met through friends and it was uh, yeah,
just happened to be mutual friends with the same people
and connected us and yeah, we've been together ever since.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Was it a blind date or was it just like
a random like group get together and you guys met
It was a.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Little like a blind date. Okay, yeah, I think because
we didn't really know each other. And then and then
they introduced us. So yeah, it was I would say
I could call it a blind day.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Sure, that's so cute. How long have you guys been married?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
We were this July, were fourteen years.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Yeah that's crazy.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
Right, Wow, that's a long time.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Yeah, and then we were We dated for about five
years prior to that. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
Wow, so you've been together for almost twenty years.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Yeah, holy cow, I know. I my my husband and I.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Started dating in uh next year will be ten years.
And I'm like, that feels like ten years and you've
got me, you've got it doubled.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
But you'll see like it for you, it'll be a
blink of an eye and it'll be next thing, you know. Yeah,
twenty years. I think when you're with the right person
and it feels natural, it's just yeah, it just doesn't
feel like that long.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
It really doesn't.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Like I feel sometimes I can recall us just meeting,
and you know, it seems so at the forefront of
my mind like we've and the next thing, you know.
But then then I look at it and I'm like,
oh my god, we have kids, Like yeah, it would happen,
I know, you know, it's just it's just normal.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
So much of your focus shifts after you have kids
to like their their lives and curating their you know everything,
what they're figuring out, what their interests are and helping
them establish those and fall into those that then it's
like once that somehow your own the fact that your
time is passing as well. You're looking at them and
(14:48):
being like time is passing for them because they're getting older,
but you forget that, like, oh, that's also been passing
for us.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
And then also too, it's like you have kids and
you realize that your relationship shifts and you have to
be like teammates in a way correct and like find
a way to like have good teamwork.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Yes exactly.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
What are some of the biggest differences you've noticed in
your experience being having been a kid in Canada and
now the life your kids have in La What are
some of the biggest differences.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
You'd think it's not even so much of like place,
it's more about time. Like I think for me, we
split our time between Canada and the US, so they
get a little taste of both places. But I will
say it's all North America, so it feels very similar Okay,
I think my experience is so different just because of
(15:39):
how different the world was and I didn't. I'm never
going to understand what it feels like for them to
grow up the way they are right now, and they'll
never understand what it was like for me. So it's
just trying to adapt, really about you know, all the
stuff that's like going on and social media and yeah,
and you know, we really try to keep them as
(16:01):
grounded as possible and keep them surrounded by family, and so, yeah,
family is super important for us.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
But yeah, it feels the same. I think.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
The only thing is I would say La is a
little bit like Grander in the way that there's so
many more people and there's this city is so much larger.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I mean, where we grew up, it was.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Smaller communities, smaller suburbs. But other than that, I mean
it feels very similar.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Good. I could not let you leave without talking about
happy endings. Those of us who knew it loved it.
One of TV's most heinous crimes was that it only
lasted three seasons.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Three.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Yes, ugh, was this like the most fun you ever
had on a set? Because it looked like it and
everyone on this show is just so funny. Adam Palley,
Damon Wayne's Junior, Casey Wilson, Zachary knighton what what was
this experience like?
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Oh my gosh, where to begin?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
I mean, probably one of the highlights of my career
as far as experience goes. On set, it was really
like one of the most joyful, fun, wild rides I've
ever been on. I mean, the cast was we were
(17:18):
really truly so close and connected when we were filming,
and we just had a blast, and the content we
were making was so fun, so it just lent itself
to having like more fun together.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
And we all kind of collided at a time in.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Our lives where we were still not quite needing to
be super responsible. You know, a lot of us, I
mean some of us had kids, but we were still
kind of just like those like early thirties, just love
and life and having a great time. So yeah, it
was so so so much fun.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Now most people had known you from twenty four and
now here you are holding your own in a sitcom
where there's a joke every few seconds. What do you
think was easier improv with the happy Endings cast or
dodging explosions with key for Sutherland.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Well, I'll tell you the improv was a lot more fun.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, but also scary because I really did.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
You're right.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I had to like kind of like find my confidence
in comedy.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Because I really was it was.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It was something I wanted to prove to myself I
could do, and I knew I had it in me.
I just had to like let go of all my
fears of screwing up, because I think with comedy there's
no such thing as perfection. You have to really just
like throw everything at it and sometimes you'll find something
that sticks that's so magical.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
And I didn't.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
That wasn't my process because on twenty four it was
like so point A to point B, and the script
was the like you didn't even you would never like
change an if and or butt in the dialogue.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
So for me, it was like I.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Was going from this like rigid structure to the happy
endings where I was like, oh, I have to just
like let it all go and who cares if I
mess up?
Speaker 1 (19:17):
That was so foreign to me.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Yeah, yeah, that would be That would be quite a change.
We we'd even though we were on a sitcom, Boy
Meets World, we didn't really have a too too much
changing of our lines and stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Did you Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:29):
With the Ranch, we did sitcom style too, and did
you find it like overwhelming? When they would like the
writers would huddle and then come over and give you
a new line like did did that give you anxiety?
Speaker 4 (19:39):
Yeah? We used to get it was not just a
new line.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
He'd come out and cross out the entire page and
it'd be a whole new page, just from top to bottom,
brand new scene in front of a live studio audience.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Go ahead and do it now.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
So you like to huddle and go, Okay, you're gonna
see this, and you're gonna see that You're going to
say I mean that to me When we did the Ranch,
it was that always scared me for sure, because I thought,
oh can I pivot?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
Am I going to be able to like hold my
own with the rest? And I? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
So I feel you on that is that was anxiety
driven for sure.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
I know you must get asked about happy endings coming
back NonStop, it nevers. But with verticals and shorts, you
guys could just tape like a group dinner or something.
I'm just trying to encourage an update on how everyone
is doing.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
You know, that's a great you know what, that's actually
a great idea.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
I mean, I'm always down for whatever they want to do,
I think, no matter what I mean. Even recently, I
did Adam Paley's podcast Staying Live, and I every time
I'm with him, I would just fall back into our
silliness again. It just feels so natural with them all
the time. So if something came up that made sense
(20:44):
and worked, I would definitely do it.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Well, that's wonderful to hear. I'm going to keep putting
it out into that verse until we make it. Yes, Alicia,
thank you so much for giving me so much of
your precious time. And you can catch her on the
New Romantic series every year after. You're currently streaming on
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Speaker 4 (21:21):
Thank you, Alisha.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Thanks.
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That's that's okay.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Because no one here is.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
So every week I ask listeners to send in their
own embarrassing stories from their childhood, reminding us that we
are not alone and that we all experience at least
one moment of shame in childhood. So this week we
hear from Mollie who threw a party and forgot a detail.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
Let's play the clip.
Speaker 5 (00:48):
Hey guys, my name is Molly, I'm from Metro Detroit
and I'm a huge family podcast. My embarrassing story happened
the second semester my senior year in high school. My
parents were out of town and I decided to throw
a party. My friends and I did their friends and
ended up being really big. At the end of the night,
I thought I had cleaned everything up. I took out
the trash, picked up the bottles and cans, made sure
everything works spotless.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
While I was at work.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
The next day my parents returned home. They sent me
a text to like, hey, we need to talk when
you get back. So when I did eventually return home,
they showed me the joint that I had very clearly
forgotten about underneath the coffee table. At the time, I
didn't really smoke or drink and it truly was not mine,
but of course it didn't believe me. All these years later,
they still tease me about it, and I swear I
will die on the hill that it was not mine,
(01:32):
but you know, it is what it is anyway, Thanks guys.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Oh that's so cute, though, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
That I doesn't everyone have kind of a similar story.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I mean, maybe did you ever throw a rager at
your parents' house?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I never threw a rager, but you know, I do remember, like,
first of all, my parents didn't drink ever, but like
they would have friends that would come over and bring
them bottles of like alcohol. I was like, you know,
as a house or like, yeah, like a.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
House the hostess host and hostess yah.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Not a house. Serve again, hostess, yap, thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
So I remember like they had a liquor cabinet and
it was but it was never touched. And so I
remember like a bunch of friends were at my place
and they were like I think we were like sixteen
or so, maybe seventeen. They were like, oh, do do
you have did your parents of alcohol? And I was
(02:30):
like yeah, and I was like, but they don't open it.
And they were like, well, if we take some vodka,
we could just fill it back up with water.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
And I was like okay, so I let them like
have drink whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
And then they filled it the bottle back up with
the vodka, bottle backup with water.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And I think to this day, it's still in there.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
You never even got cat.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I love it. Now they're gonna know.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Sorry, Mom, Sorry, Mom, don't listen to this.
Speaker 4 (02:56):
Part of the podcast.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
I my parents very similarly never drank, but had a
full liquor cabinet because I think I think as adults,
at least back then, it was very much like, well,
if you're an adult, you have to have a full
liquor cabinet, even if you don't partake.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
It's like that Madman era, like exactly, you gotta have
a little, little little cabinet. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
Or really my parents had like a full by the
way they built. They built they had a full bar,
like a walking bar. They didn't drink.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
I think it was just like part of entertaining that
you like, that was supposed to be something you had
as a grown up. But I was way too afraid
of getting in trouble to ever throw a party.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
At my house.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
But I did go once. My best friend Jen, she
had a party at her house. Her parents knew, and
they were like, we're gonna be here, We're gonna be upstairs.
They were more of the mentality of like, if you're
gonna drink, I'd rather you drink at our house where
we can kind of you know, make sure you're safe. Yeah,
and so they yeah, they didn't really like hang out
(04:02):
with us, but they were there, but they just stayed
upstairs in their room, and my mom was like, absolutely not. Oh.
The other thing was that Jen's parents said, but if
you're going to have alcohol, everyone has to spend the
night or you know, by the way, a co ed sleepover.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Oh, co ahead. But didn't know. I didn't. I thought
it was just you and Jen, like having a fun.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
No, no, no, Jen was throwing a party. This was
a party and people everyone was just allowed to spend
the night and if they drove, they had to leave
their keys because you know, they didn't want anyone driving.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
And this was before Uber, so.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Like you know, my mom was like, oh, you can
go to the party until about eleven and then I'm
picking you up. And so I was not allowed to
spend the night and at that rader of a party,
Jen threw my boyfriend hooked up with Jen's cousin.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
No w yes ruined everything.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
That's devastating, just devastating at the time, But now in hindsight,
I'm like, that's exactly what should have happened, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
As teenagers would.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Funny now that I've been out promoting the show, and
because it's about finding first loves and reconnecting with old
loves and all these things that come with like young romance,
we get a lot of questions about what it was
like to fall in love for the first time, and
I was like, it's so funny to me. I feel
(05:30):
like the breakup is more prominent in my mind, Like
my first breakup and my first heartbreak is like the
thing that I can visualize and feel more than the
moment I fell in love.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Absolutely so interesting.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
I used to.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Say all the time too that like, honestly, I don't
think it's even worth being in a relationship because the
breakup is so much worse than any joy I get
from the relationship. I really it was like, I can't
handle it. The breakup is awful, whether it's me hurting someone, Yeah,
that sucks or it's you getting your heart broken. It's
like either way, this just stinks. So yeah, I am.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
What I do think the only like silver lining in
it is that I think when you go through a breakup,
if anything, you should take away like you said, it
was supposed to happen because it made your heart shatter
in a way that it saw what it needed to see,
which was like, oh, that person wasn't right for me
because of this, that and the other.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
And for him, I mean obviously his head was not
in the right place.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
That's yeah. No, I cousin and I love her very close.
I love her. She's great, she's wonderful.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
At the time, I was like, I mean, like by him.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Oh him bye.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Yeah, Saya Nara. My parents would have absolutely killed me
if they found a joint.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Were your parents striped with you or yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
I was terrified of like them and just wanting to
be like the good girl, you know.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I you know, I have that.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Older sibling, the oldest of the three syndrome where I'm just.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Like I want to be the perfect child, same.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
And so I never wanted to disappoint them, So that
would have Yeah, that wouldn't have happened, and that's why
I didn't have parties at my house. So I went
to party, I went to parties, and we didn't have
parties because I just, yeah, that whole thing would have
terrified me, and certainly weed because I don't partake in
any of that. But I do remember being very terrified
(07:44):
about like trying alcohol for the first time, or you know,
smoking a cigarette for the first time. You know, all
very scary stuff for me.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
And you have an eight year old, right you have?
You have two kids?
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I have an eight year old and a four year old.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Okay, eight year old, and so I have a seven
and an almost five year old.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Oh my gosh, we're like right right there.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
Yes, what do you think? What kind of tea? I mean?
Speaker 3 (08:10):
To think about them being teenagers is just wild? But like, yeah,
what kind of teenage parent do you think you're going
to be? Are parents of a teen like what are
you going to be strict? Are you going to be
a cool parent?
Speaker 4 (08:23):
What do you think? How do you think you're going
to be I don't.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
I mean I want them to trust that they can
come to me and tell me anything without fear, because
I do think when I was younger, I was terrified
to get in trouble, and but I think there has
to be a line of discipline that keeps them in line,
right because their frontal lobes, you know. Yeah, I remember
(08:49):
mine and I was like it was non existent. So
it was like I was totally thinking straight. So yeah,
I think I'll be I think I'll be strict to
a degree, and I have my I have my things
that I prioritize with them that I think are important.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
But but I.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Also don't want it to be, you know, to a
point where it's so insane that they don't feel like
they can talk to me.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Yeah, you know, I want to find them.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I think as a parent, you're always just trying to
find that balance of how much discipline, how much love,
all of those things, so that you know that doesn't
get too much this way, too much that way. It's
it's isn't it. It is one of the hardest jobs
on the planet to navigate.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
I mean absolutely absolutely, because there's too much, too much
external feedback. Also, it's like that too, Yeah, we take
in so much stuff about how this person parents, and
you're like, oh, maybe that's the way I'm supposed to
be doing it. And you see this, I you go, oh,
but actually, maybe I'm supposed to be doing that. Then
you have the way your parents were, and you have
the the things that you love that your parents did, and.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
You want to emulate those.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
And then you know, also just the parenting of ourselves
while we're parenting them.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Yeah, I mean, I think too, like and also in
this world of like social media, and you know, it's
again like your kids are similar ages to mine, which
is like the whole iPad situation, you know, it's like
and the funniest thing about that is that you know,
there were some parents on the fence of like no
iPads screen time at all, fair enough, and then there
(10:22):
were other parents that were like literally like it was
iPads all day. And I tried to kind of find
a middle ground with that and thought, Okay, when it's
when it's working for us, that works, but then it
doesn't have to be all the time. Try to like
navigate it. And then they get to school and then
they the school brings them home with iPads for schoolwork yep.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
And you're like, oh, so they're gonna end up on
screens anyway.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
So I'm like, okay, well.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Thank god, we didn't go like full direction of like
no iPads at all. I was like, wow, so there
they need to know. And it's so yeah, it's but
again it's like it's mind boggling and it's real. It's
really hard. So I'm gonna I'll answer your question. I
think I'm going to try to stay again like I
did in high school.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Neutral.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
Neutral.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
I listen, That's what I'm trying to do too. I'm
just trying to be like middle of the road. I also,
I know, even though I was afraid of my parents
when it came to like getting in trouble, I did
always know that I could talk to my mom about anything,
like yes, I used to come home with notes from
boys and just hand them over to her, like look
at what he said that, you know, Like there was,
but there was also nothing salacious going on now.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
But so we think it's we think it's salacious back
then because a lot of things that we experience feel
like such a big deal, yes, and so overwhelming because
of hormones and all the things.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
So but they really weren't.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
It's just I will say though, that the strictness that
my parents instilled and the fear that I had about
sort of running off the path was that it did
help me later on when I did get to LA
and and you know, then you're on your own own
and you have to make those choices between right and wrong,
(12:05):
and your compass always goes back to the people that
raise you. And so I think as long as my
compass for my kids steers them in the direction of
the right choice and not the wrong and they're gonna
make mistakes, then.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
I hope that you know we've done a good job
in that way.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Yes, I do want to talk about your husband. You
are Canadian, as we've mentioned, so you're legally required to
love hockey. That's just something you have to do, but
(12:41):
you took it one step further falling in love with
an all star defenceman, dionn f Enough.
Speaker 4 (12:46):
How did you two meet?
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Yeah, you know, we met through friends and it was uh, yeah,
just happened to be mutual friends with the same people
and connected us and yeah, we've been together ever since.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Was it a blind date or was it just like
a random like group get together and you guys met
It was a.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Little like a blind date. Okay, yeah, I think because
we didn't really know each other. And then and then
they introduced us. So yeah, it was I would say
I could call it a blind day.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Sure, that's so cute. How long have you guys been married?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
We were this July, were fourteen years.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Yeah that's crazy.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
Right, Wow, that's a long time.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Yeah, and then we were We dated for about five
years prior to that. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
Wow, so you've been together for almost twenty years.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Yeah, holy cow, I know. I my my husband and I.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Started dating in uh next year will be ten years.
And I'm like, that feels like ten years and you've
got me, you've got it doubled.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
But you'll see like it for you, it'll be a
blink of an eye and it'll be next thing, you know. Yeah,
twenty years. I think when you're with the right person
and it feels natural, it's just yeah, it just doesn't
feel like that long.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
It really doesn't.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Like I feel sometimes I can recall us just meeting,
and you know, it seems so at the forefront of
my mind like we've and the next thing, you know.
But then then I look at it and I'm like,
oh my god, we have kids, Like yeah, it would happen,
I know, you know, it's just it's just normal.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
So much of your focus shifts after you have kids
to like their their lives and curating their you know everything,
what they're figuring out, what their interests are and helping
them establish those and fall into those that then it's
like once that somehow your own the fact that your
time is passing as well. You're looking at them and
(14:48):
being like time is passing for them because they're getting older,
but you forget that, like, oh, that's also been passing
for us.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
And then also too, it's like you have kids and
you realize that your relationship shifts and you have to
be like teammates in a way correct and like find
a way to like have good teamwork.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Yes exactly.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
What are some of the biggest differences you've noticed in
your experience being having been a kid in Canada and
now the life your kids have in La What are
some of the biggest differences.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
You'd think it's not even so much of like place,
it's more about time. Like I think for me, we
split our time between Canada and the US, so they
get a little taste of both places. But I will
say it's all North America, so it feels very similar Okay,
I think my experience is so different just because of
(15:39):
how different the world was and I didn't. I'm never
going to understand what it feels like for them to
grow up the way they are right now, and they'll
never understand what it was like for me. So it's
just trying to adapt, really about you know, all the
stuff that's like going on and social media and yeah,
and you know, we really try to keep them as
(16:01):
grounded as possible and keep them surrounded by family, and so, yeah,
family is super important for us.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
But yeah, it feels the same. I think.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
The only thing is I would say La is a
little bit like Grander in the way that there's so
many more people and there's this city is so much larger.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I mean, where we grew up, it was.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Smaller communities, smaller suburbs. But other than that, I mean
it feels very similar.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Good. I could not let you leave without talking about
happy endings. Those of us who knew it loved it.
One of TV's most heinous crimes was that it only
lasted three seasons.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Three.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Yes, ugh, was this like the most fun you ever
had on a set? Because it looked like it and
everyone on this show is just so funny. Adam Palley,
Damon Wayne's Junior, Casey Wilson, Zachary knighton what what was
this experience like?
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Oh my gosh, where to begin?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
I mean, probably one of the highlights of my career
as far as experience goes. On set, it was really
like one of the most joyful, fun, wild rides I've
ever been on. I mean, the cast was we were
(17:18):
really truly so close and connected when we were filming,
and we just had a blast, and the content we
were making was so fun, so it just lent itself
to having like more fun together.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
And we all kind of collided at a time in.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Our lives where we were still not quite needing to
be super responsible. You know, a lot of us, I
mean some of us had kids, but we were still
kind of just like those like early thirties, just love
and life and having a great time. So yeah, it
was so so so much fun.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Now most people had known you from twenty four and
now here you are holding your own in a sitcom
where there's a joke every few seconds. What do you
think was easier improv with the happy Endings cast or
dodging explosions with key for Sutherland.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Well, I'll tell you the improv was a lot more fun.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, but also scary because I really did.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
You're right.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I had to like kind of like find my confidence
in comedy.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Because I really was it was.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It was something I wanted to prove to myself I
could do, and I knew I had it in me.
I just had to like let go of all my
fears of screwing up, because I think with comedy there's
no such thing as perfection. You have to really just
like throw everything at it and sometimes you'll find something
that sticks that's so magical.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
And I didn't.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
That wasn't my process because on twenty four it was
like so point A to point B, and the script
was the like you didn't even you would never like
change an if and or butt in the dialogue.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
So for me, it was like I.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Was going from this like rigid structure to the happy
endings where I was like, oh, I have to just
like let it all go and who cares if I
mess up?
Speaker 1 (19:17):
That was so foreign to me.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Yeah, yeah, that would be That would be quite a change.
We we'd even though we were on a sitcom, Boy
Meets World, we didn't really have a too too much
changing of our lines and stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Did you Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:29):
With the Ranch, we did sitcom style too, and did
you find it like overwhelming? When they would like the
writers would huddle and then come over and give you
a new line like did did that give you anxiety?
Speaker 4 (19:39):
Yeah? We used to get it was not just a
new line.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
He'd come out and cross out the entire page and
it'd be a whole new page, just from top to bottom,
brand new scene in front of a live studio audience.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Go ahead and do it now.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
So you like to huddle and go, Okay, you're gonna
see this, and you're gonna see that You're going to
say I mean that to me When we did the Ranch,
it was that always scared me for sure, because I thought,
oh can I pivot?
Speaker 1 (19:59):
Am I going to be able to like hold my
own with the rest? And I? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
So I feel you on that is that was anxiety
driven for sure.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
I know you must get asked about happy endings coming
back NonStop, it nevers. But with verticals and shorts, you
guys could just tape like a group dinner or something.
I'm just trying to encourage an update on how everyone
is doing.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
You know, that's a great you know what, that's actually
a great idea.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
I mean, I'm always down for whatever they want to do,
I think, no matter what I mean. Even recently, I
did Adam Paley's podcast Staying Live, and I every time
I'm with him, I would just fall back into our
silliness again. It just feels so natural with them all
the time. So if something came up that made sense
(20:44):
and worked, I would definitely do it.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Well, that's wonderful to hear. I'm going to keep putting
it out into that verse until we make it. Yes, Alicia,
thank you so much for giving me so much of
your precious time. And you can catch her on the
New Romantic series every year after. You're currently streaming on
Prime Video, and you can listen to teen Beat every
week wherever you get your podcasts. Just search for teen
(21:07):
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Speaker 4 (21:21):
Thank you, Alisha.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Thanks.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
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