January 9, 2026 • 9 mins
What’s the fastest way to kill a second date? On The Jubal Show, the team breaks down a viral trend revealing the biggest dating turnoffs for men—and the stories get unhinged fast. From wildly awkward first-date moments to uncomfortable oversharing before appetizers arrive, this conversation dives into what instantly makes someone say, “Yeah… I’m out.”
Listeners weigh in with real-life dating disasters, surprising dealbreakers, and one controversial habit that tops the list as the ultimate turnoff. Plus, the crew debates who should pay, how honest is too honest, and why “playing hard to get” might be doing the exact opposite of what you think.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I had a girl show up to a date once
at a nice restaurant with no shoes, and I asked
her why, and she said it's because she doesn't believe
in shoes, and then cried when she walked by a
table that had a stake on it.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It's the jew will show. That's a text message.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
We just got in at four to one oh six
one because I asked the question what is a dating
turnoff for men? Because there's a trend going viral of
men sharing what the number one way to instantly turn
a man off from wanting a second date is. We'll
tell you what the number one response was in just
a second, but text in four one oh six to one,
what's something that instantly turns you off? And we'll go
over some of the other things that men are saying
(00:34):
are an instant turnoff for them that will instantly make
them not want a second date.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Can I just throw something out there really quick, don't
go get your nose pierced with the guy that you're dating.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Don't do any piercings with anybody. Yes. So the guy
that a first date and it wasn't a first date.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
We had actually been dating for a while and he
decided he wanted to go get his nose pierced.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
My nose has been pierced for a while.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
But we sat in the room, like, I sat in
the room while I got his nose piers and it
looks really weird. And then I had my nose ring
changed and he sat and watched my nose ring and
get changed. And then we really didn't see each other
after that. So it is very not cute. So, like
you see in the nostril, like, you gotta be really comfortable.
I just don't recommend doing piercings with somebody on a date.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
That's a good rule of thumb. Or tattoos.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yeah, or tattoos, right, especially if you're both getting the
same tattoos you got on a first date. What are
some of the top responses from men on instant turn
offs for them that will make them not want a
second date? Deep personal interrogations on a first date. Oh yeah,
asking about divorces, trauma, or life altering events on a
date is too much. One guy said, couple.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah, that's because you just can't face your own draws.
I was just gonna say, I don't care.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
A lot of women think that that's a good conversation
to have you stop.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
That's like a third date thing for me. The first
day it's like a hey, how you doing? How many
siblings do you have? Not what's your past trauma? I mean,
you don't freeze it like that. But if you're not
willing to talk about things on the first date, you're
turned off.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
So my boy, Yeah, I don't mean I don't need
to know your entire life story, but I do like
deep conversation, and if you don't have the ability to
go there on a first date, it could be about
things yeah, scare you maybe you know that's still kind
of surface.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
If you can't do that, that's not gonna work for me.
So while it's a turnoff for you, bro, then you're
just not with the right person.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Speaking of bro, somebody texted in at four one O
six one and said, well, if I go on a
date with a girl and she says the word bro
over and over again, I'm not going on a second date.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I'm not your bro. That's fair, you know, Yeah, that's fair.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Going over a trend that's going viral of guys sharing
the things for them that are instant turn offs on
a first date, and they won't be going on a
second date, assuming that the guy is paying for everything. Automatically,
I agree on a first date, I like, I know
that I'm gonna pay, right, we both usually know that
I'm gonna pay. But at least I like the reach
(02:58):
for the card, you know yeah, or the like, oh,
I was gonna chip in when we both know that's
nonsense and you weren't actually gonna chip in, but at
least an acknowledgement that you would have if I had
been like, yeah, yeah, yeah, we're splitting this, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:10):
If I ask, then I'm okay with the assumption that
I'm paying. If I asked her to go out, then
I'm paying.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
That's a good point, But you don't feel like that
sets the tone for you to like, you know how
some people grow up with people only see everything you
get paid for.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Oh yeah, I dated those before.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So you don't care. You're just gonna let your pocket out.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
For the first date. For the first date, if I
ask you out, I am taking you out. I am paying.
And if you you know, if they reach for their
wallet or whatever, I almost take offense to it.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Really, yeah, oh okay, because I asked you, So it's
like different for you.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
But if but if we're getting into you know, we're
in a relationship, and well now we're you know, a
year into the relationship when we're going out to eat
and you're never paying for.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Your job and don't pay for anything, and he's like, what,
I'm just playing Xbox all day? Why you got a problem.
Then you're always judging go to work. You don't have
to go to work. We need to we need food. Whatever.
A list of the instant turnoffs for men when it
comes to dating. What will make a guy instantly not
want a second date? Flashing materialism is another one. Somebody
(04:17):
said talking NonStop about money, luxury brands, or expectations, one
guy said his date ranked him against her exes like
it was a Zillow wow.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Oh oh that's terrible. Why would you do that? Like,
why did you think you were going to get another date?
After doing that? She did one another date? She wanted
the free mial she got that date. She was just
going out with me to get this, to get the food.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
She was dating freeze.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Somebody else said that an instant turnoff for them and
they won't be wanting a second date is extreme opinions
on anything, on anything that says more about them than
it does about the person with the opinion making me
out a strong opinion about that, I don't And anything political, spiritual,
dietary doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
You need to be open minded about everything. You need
to go on a date with their blow up doll.
Just sit there and be happy. Some guys, I think
that's what they like. I agree. I know.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Another person said trauma dumping immediately and mentioning an X
is fine, but explaining your childhood wounds before the appetizers
is a no.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Oh yeah for sure.
Speaker 5 (05:23):
See all that to me still feels like third date material.
I don't want to hear like that. Just said that's
so much on first date. I barely know.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
You tell me your last name?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Yeah, if it accidentally comes out like you do something
that was triggered by something and then just be like, ah,
I'm down here.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You know that's funny, right.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Well Man said he had a date that cried into
her margarita while saying I usually don't open up this fast.
Check please, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
She's comfortable.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
If you can't handle it, you shouldn't be here.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
So this is mutual.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Both things are sped the sea that feels targeted.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
And the number one response for men that is a
turn off on a first date that they won't give
you a second date is playing hard to get I
co signed that one hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I get that. I don't understand.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
No, I think women think guys like that, but we don't.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Me too.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Oh, But you know the thing is, like men tend
to be very literal, right, Like women are a little
bit more nuanced in the way that they communicate, you
know what I mean, But men are very literal. I
know that I am super literal when it comes to
things like that. So if you act uninterested, I just
believe you, yep, and I go the other way, right, cool.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
She didn't like me?
Speaker 5 (06:45):
Right?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
And then if you text me, I'm like, are you're
texting me? You don't like me?
Speaker 5 (06:49):
So what if like you didn't mean to, but you
actually go to someone and now it's been so long,
but you'd like thought about texting them? Do you text them?
Or do you not text them? Are they if it's
been a week, are they the guy are uninterested? I'm
currently going through this swection him? No?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Oh no, Like a week later, I'd be like, all right,
what's up. Yeah, I don't think it matters. Girl, hit
them up, you're cue. They still won't be like, oh,
like it's been a whole week.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Like no, And if you were honest about it and
said I, I probably looks like I was ghosting you,
but I didn't. I accidentally did that. I didn't mean
to ghost you. Yeah, it would probably work.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
And they'll be mad. Yeah, okay, be honest.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
He's gotta compet us on the head and tell us
everything's gonna be okay and.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Move on to the next day.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Kept well, because if you think about it, men usually
do the chasing right when it comes to relationships, like
men do a lot of the asking out.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Men usually do the first move and.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Stuff like that, and men don't often have somebody chase them.
So acting uninterested in a guy just confirms the fact
that no, you don't want to date him, because how
many times has that dude heard know before?
Speaker 5 (07:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
I guess I think that there is also a fine
line in this dance, because there are certain men that
do want to be pursuing without feeling like they're pursuing,
because if it's too easy, they don't want it, and
if that's not the case, just know women are told
every single day on every single type of advice column
you name it, let him chase you.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Right, Yeah, I think the key is to express that
you're interested in a way that is also doesn't come
across as clingy, which is a fine line to walk,
right because some dudes are like, ah, she hugged me twice, dude,
no way, next thing. You know, she's gonna move in tomorrow.
So it's a fine line.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
But I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
The acting uninterested, We'll have a dude, just believe you.
Speaker 4 (08:24):
Just go with how you feel and stop reading these articles.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
These are also mature men is mature ish.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
So all right, your first day, first day follow up,
I don't know what day it is an your phone
bray happens every single hour in the twenties. Your next
one is coming up right after this, and then right
after that is Nana's what's trending, and don't forget. If
you want to know all about relationships and just be
successful for everything you do in life, you can always
stream the Jebel Show. If you go to the iHeartRadio app,
(08:54):
you can stream us there. Take us with you wherever
you go. Yeah, on a first date, even yes, it's
guaranteed success on a first date. Every couple that has
listened to The Jubile Show is streaming it. Married now,
not twenty seven years, and we haven't even been streaming
it that long.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Yeah,
I had a girl show up to a date once
at a nice restaurant with no shoes, and I asked
her why, and she said it's because she doesn't believe
in shoes, and then cried when she walked by a
table that had a stake on it.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It's the jew will show. That's a text message.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
We just got in at four to one oh six
one because I asked the question what is a dating
turnoff for men? Because there's a trend going viral of
men sharing what the number one way to instantly turn
a man off from wanting a second date is. We'll
tell you what the number one response was in just
a second, but text in four one oh six to one,
what's something that instantly turns you off? And we'll go
over some of the other things that men are saying
(00:34):
are an instant turnoff for them that will instantly make
them not want a second date.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Can I just throw something out there really quick, don't
go get your nose pierced with the guy that you're dating.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Don't do any piercings with anybody. Yes. So the guy
that a first date and it wasn't a first date.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
We had actually been dating for a while and he
decided he wanted to go get his nose pierced.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
My nose has been pierced for a while.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
But we sat in the room, like, I sat in
the room while I got his nose piers and it
looks really weird. And then I had my nose ring
changed and he sat and watched my nose ring and
get changed. And then we really didn't see each other
after that. So it is very not cute. So, like
you see in the nostril, like, you gotta be really comfortable.
I just don't recommend doing piercings with somebody on a date.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
That's a good rule of thumb. Or tattoos.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yeah, or tattoos, right, especially if you're both getting the
same tattoos you got on a first date. What are
some of the top responses from men on instant turn
offs for them that will make them not want a
second date? Deep personal interrogations on a first date. Oh yeah,
asking about divorces, trauma, or life altering events on a
date is too much. One guy said, couple.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah, that's because you just can't face your own draws.
I was just gonna say, I don't care.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
A lot of women think that that's a good conversation
to have you stop.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
That's like a third date thing for me. The first
day it's like a hey, how you doing? How many
siblings do you have? Not what's your past trauma? I mean,
you don't freeze it like that. But if you're not
willing to talk about things on the first date, you're
turned off.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
So my boy, Yeah, I don't mean I don't need
to know your entire life story, but I do like
deep conversation, and if you don't have the ability to
go there on a first date, it could be about
things yeah, scare you maybe you know that's still kind
of surface.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
If you can't do that, that's not gonna work for me.
So while it's a turnoff for you, bro, then you're
just not with the right person.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Speaking of bro, somebody texted in at four one O
six one and said, well, if I go on a
date with a girl and she says the word bro
over and over again, I'm not going on a second date.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I'm not your bro. That's fair, you know, Yeah, that's fair.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Going over a trend that's going viral of guys sharing
the things for them that are instant turn offs on
a first date, and they won't be going on a
second date, assuming that the guy is paying for everything. Automatically,
I agree on a first date, I like, I know
that I'm gonna pay, right, we both usually know that
I'm gonna pay. But at least I like the reach
(02:58):
for the card, you know yeah, or the like, oh,
I was gonna chip in when we both know that's
nonsense and you weren't actually gonna chip in, but at
least an acknowledgement that you would have if I had
been like, yeah, yeah, yeah, we're splitting this, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:10):
If I ask, then I'm okay with the assumption that
I'm paying. If I asked her to go out, then
I'm paying.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
That's a good point, But you don't feel like that
sets the tone for you to like, you know how
some people grow up with people only see everything you
get paid for.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Oh yeah, I dated those before.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So you don't care. You're just gonna let your pocket out.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
For the first date. For the first date, if I
ask you out, I am taking you out. I am paying.
And if you you know, if they reach for their
wallet or whatever, I almost take offense to it.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Really, yeah, oh okay, because I asked you, So it's
like different for you.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
But if but if we're getting into you know, we're
in a relationship, and well now we're you know, a
year into the relationship when we're going out to eat
and you're never paying for.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Your job and don't pay for anything, and he's like, what,
I'm just playing Xbox all day? Why you got a problem.
Then you're always judging go to work. You don't have
to go to work. We need to we need food. Whatever.
A list of the instant turnoffs for men when it
comes to dating. What will make a guy instantly not
want a second date? Flashing materialism is another one. Somebody
(04:17):
said talking NonStop about money, luxury brands, or expectations, one
guy said his date ranked him against her exes like
it was a Zillow wow.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Oh oh that's terrible. Why would you do that? Like,
why did you think you were going to get another date?
After doing that? She did one another date? She wanted
the free mial she got that date. She was just
going out with me to get this, to get the food.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
She was dating freeze.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Somebody else said that an instant turnoff for them and
they won't be wanting a second date is extreme opinions
on anything, on anything that says more about them than
it does about the person with the opinion making me
out a strong opinion about that, I don't And anything political, spiritual,
dietary doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
You need to be open minded about everything. You need
to go on a date with their blow up doll.
Just sit there and be happy. Some guys, I think
that's what they like. I agree. I know.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Another person said trauma dumping immediately and mentioning an X
is fine, but explaining your childhood wounds before the appetizers
is a no.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Oh yeah for sure.
Speaker 5 (05:23):
See all that to me still feels like third date material.
I don't want to hear like that. Just said that's
so much on first date. I barely know.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
You tell me your last name?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Yeah, if it accidentally comes out like you do something
that was triggered by something and then just be like, ah,
I'm down here.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You know that's funny, right.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Well Man said he had a date that cried into
her margarita while saying I usually don't open up this fast.
Check please, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
She's comfortable.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
If you can't handle it, you shouldn't be here.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
So this is mutual.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Both things are sped the sea that feels targeted.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
And the number one response for men that is a
turn off on a first date that they won't give
you a second date is playing hard to get I
co signed that one hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I get that. I don't understand.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
No, I think women think guys like that, but we don't.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Me too.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Oh, But you know the thing is, like men tend
to be very literal, right, Like women are a little
bit more nuanced in the way that they communicate, you
know what I mean, But men are very literal. I
know that I am super literal when it comes to
things like that. So if you act uninterested, I just
believe you, yep, and I go the other way, right, cool.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
She didn't like me?
Speaker 5 (06:45):
Right?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
And then if you text me, I'm like, are you're
texting me? You don't like me?
Speaker 5 (06:49):
So what if like you didn't mean to, but you
actually go to someone and now it's been so long,
but you'd like thought about texting them? Do you text them?
Or do you not text them? Are they if it's
been a week, are they the guy are uninterested? I'm
currently going through this swection him? No?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Oh no, Like a week later, I'd be like, all right,
what's up. Yeah, I don't think it matters. Girl, hit
them up, you're cue. They still won't be like, oh,
like it's been a whole week.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Like no, And if you were honest about it and
said I, I probably looks like I was ghosting you,
but I didn't. I accidentally did that. I didn't mean
to ghost you. Yeah, it would probably work.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
And they'll be mad. Yeah, okay, be honest.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
He's gotta compet us on the head and tell us
everything's gonna be okay and.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Move on to the next day.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Kept well, because if you think about it, men usually
do the chasing right when it comes to relationships, like
men do a lot of the asking out.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Men usually do the first move and.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Stuff like that, and men don't often have somebody chase them.
So acting uninterested in a guy just confirms the fact
that no, you don't want to date him, because how
many times has that dude heard know before?
Speaker 5 (07:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
I guess I think that there is also a fine
line in this dance, because there are certain men that
do want to be pursuing without feeling like they're pursuing,
because if it's too easy, they don't want it, and
if that's not the case, just know women are told
every single day on every single type of advice column
you name it, let him chase you.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Right, Yeah, I think the key is to express that
you're interested in a way that is also doesn't come
across as clingy, which is a fine line to walk,
right because some dudes are like, ah, she hugged me twice, dude,
no way, next thing. You know, she's gonna move in tomorrow.
So it's a fine line.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
But I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
The acting uninterested, We'll have a dude, just believe you.
Speaker 4 (08:24):
Just go with how you feel and stop reading these articles.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
These are also mature men is mature ish.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
So all right, your first day, first day follow up,
I don't know what day it is an your phone
bray happens every single hour in the twenties. Your next
one is coming up right after this, and then right
after that is Nana's what's trending, and don't forget. If
you want to know all about relationships and just be
successful for everything you do in life, you can always
stream the Jebel Show. If you go to the iHeartRadio app,
(08:54):
you can stream us there. Take us with you wherever
you go. Yeah, on a first date, even yes, it's
guaranteed success on a first date. Every couple that has
listened to The Jubile Show is streaming it. Married now,
not twenty seven years, and we haven't even been streaming
it that long.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Yeah,
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