May 9, 2026 • 27 mins
No matter how cool or how pretty or how great your personality is, it feels like s**t when you get dropped.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia Judice.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Dirty Rush.
My name is Gia Judice, and today we're taking a
walk down memory Lane with a group of graduating seniors
to tell us what they wish they knew before joining
a sorority.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hi, guys, how's it going good? How are you good?
Speaker 3 (00:31):
So?
Speaker 2 (00:32):
What are all your names?
Speaker 4 (00:33):
I'm Alex, I'm Reese, and I'm Ellie.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Nice to meet you guys. So what's school do you
guys go to?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
We all go to kel poly San Luis obispo so fun.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
And what are you guys studying?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Start? Yeah, I'm political science.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Oh, Polly Side, that's hard.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Yeah, it was hard.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I was a criminal justice major, so I had to
definitely take a couple of poly side classes.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Criminal justice classes were interesting to.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
But they're so fun, Like they're not that hard, They're
just like interesting. It's like you're intrigued by everything Polysai is.
You're learning about all the history and it's a lot
of reading. And that was definitely not my forte.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
Yeah, and then we're both communications.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Oh nice, are you guys excited to graduate?
Speaker 5 (01:18):
So we all actually graduated early, but we're we're walk
in June.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah, okay, congratulations, Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
So what sorority were you guys in.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
We're all actually in yeah Alpha ky Omega.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Oh so fun. Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
So did grief life play a big role in your
college experience?
Speaker 5 (01:42):
I would say it did, not, like enough to exile
or isolate from other friends or other girls and other
sororities or even without, but I would say that it
definitely did in the sense that it brought me closer
to girls in different ages. So I like the family
aspect of it I really dove into, and I still
have those friendships with like my g Big and Big,
(02:04):
and I feel like, even recently, with like the job
search aspect of it all, having those connections with girls
that are graduated like a year or two years above
really helped because I would talk to them and like
all of their friends and sort of figure out what
they liked two years postgrad and then that really helped
to discover what I wanted. So in that sense, I
feel like I really appreciated being in that community and
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having those resources.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
It really is so helpful after graduation.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
Especially because it didn't seem like they were scary to
talk to because I was in like a sorority safe
like space with them last time I saw them, so
asking them questions about how to go into it, I
didn't feel like I had to put on a front
and say I knew exactly what I wanted. I more
so was able to be transparent with them because they
knew me as someone that we already had that foundation with.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
You know, thinking back to when you guys were in
high school, did Greek play a part in the decision
making process of you guys choosing what school you wanted
to go to?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
For me, not really. I feel like my sister also
went to cal Poly, so I like saw her experience
and I just loved like this friends that she made,
and I felt like I wanted to like make those
same kind of connections. So that kind of played a
part in my decision to go to cal Paly.
Speaker 6 (03:24):
I remember, because I never wanted to go out of
state for college, Like I was very set I'm from California,
and I said, I'm going to school in California. And
I remember a lot of people from my high school.
Wanted to go to SDSU because it's kind of like
the biggest sorority school in art in like in California,
and so I remember like thinking like not being very
familiar with like the whole sorority thing and like seeing
(03:45):
it just from like what I knew from like social
media or TikTok or whatever, and that being like between
SDSU and when I got into cal Poly, I was like,
oh my gosh, I don't know like what I wanted
to be in a sorority. This is like the Greek
high school. This is the party school. And I feel
like kind of having to almost profile yourself before where
you even pick a college, like wanting to know whether
or not you're going to do that. It was like
kind of a weird experience for sure.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
No, yeah, not think similar thing.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
I didn't really think about it when deciding to go
into school, But I think after I made the decision
about Paul is when I started to think about, like, oh,
do I want to be in a sorority once I
get there?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Reese.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
That is, I feel like pretty normal when you are
going when you're entering college, then that's when you think
about it. But I mean, it really is crazy, especially
when you think about all the schools in the South,
like you were saying on social media and seeing how
you know, looking at Bama Rush and just seeing how
how much more serious other schools really take sorority in
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Greek life. You have to think about that when you're
a senior going into college. Whereas when I went into college,
sure I knew what sororities were, I knew they existed.
I knew this might be a fun thing to do
once I entered school, but I never to hear now
doing this podcast, the extent and lengths that girls go
to as seniors before entering college to prepare for what sorority.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
They want to be in.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I just I thought, I just it was crazy to
me because that wasn't my experience.
Speaker 5 (05:11):
I feel like it really blew up after our year
because we are the same year as like Kylin Darnell
at Bama.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah, she's so sweet, like.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
Carved her path and made that her whole thing. Every
year after that, I think it got a bigger and
bigger deal. So we were sort of the last year
before it started to really implicate that decision and make
people think about that as seniors.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
I also feel like just recruitment in general has like
like a sorority life, and everything is totally taken on
a life of its own, like way more so than
I think it was ever intended to, so that like
pressure is so much heavier on like the years younger
than us and even ourlier than it probably was for
like my mom or with my sisters when they were
in rushing.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
One hundred percent, how did you guys prepare for rush?
What would you do differently knowing what you know now?
Speaker 5 (06:01):
I feel like for cal Poly, what we were told
is that it was way more relaxed than any other school,
which obviously going through the process, I was so scared
because sort of similar to how she had a sister
at this school, I had a really close family friend
that was also in a sorority at this school, and
so talking to her about the process really helped. But
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she I always like idolized her and looked up to
her because she was so cool. But she was telling
me how she got dropped from a few sororities, and
so I was like, oh, my goodness, if you can
get dropped like I am.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Screwed, And that made me scared, and.
Speaker 5 (06:38):
So I think I didn't really know how to prep,
but I was definitely frightened, and I was just like,
how if I'm so nervous going into the conversations, how
can I like put my best foot forward.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
I would like call.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
My sister every day before rush, which like I'd be
like what do I do like and stuff like that,
but she was like a big help and like it
was just nice to know that it would work out,
like seeing like the older girls and being like okay,
like they have their lives together, like hopefully it'll work out.
Speaker 4 (07:07):
For me too.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
No, definitely, my little sisters called me too. It was
like the sweetest thing.
Speaker 7 (07:13):
I feel like I did very minimal prep. I also
rushed for context.
Speaker 6 (07:18):
I rushed as a sophomore, like I joined our sorority
sophomore year. But when I did rush freshman year, I
remember the process. I didn't do any research or anything,
like I just sort of went in blind, and I
think it was significantly more overwhelming, just because I was
really had no idea what was going on, and so
I think I would have maybe phoned a friend and
like gotten a little bit of context or like understanding
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of what was going on, because it was very overwhelming,
and it was just like every like debriefing with everybody
in the dorms and all the different things. I remember
being like very anxious and like wishing that I'd prepare
a little bit more.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
No for sure, I mean, did you transfer into the
school sophomore year or you were you there freshman.
Speaker 7 (07:55):
Year, the recruitment freshman year or through part of it?
Speaker 6 (07:58):
And then I got sick and then I never joined
Like during the second week, I like mono and I
couldn't talk. So I never joined a sorority. And then
I re rushed sophomore year. I went through more more
groupment again because we don't do a whole cob is
like not a huge thing at Cowbality.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Okay, got it?
Speaker 1 (08:12):
So I mean, but rushing as a sophomore, And because
you already kind of rushed as a freshman, people obviously
started to get to know you. Probably throughout your school
year as a freshman. Did anyone come up to you
and say, oh, I want you to be at my sorority,
please rush, please rush sophomore year? Like, did that make
you want to rush even more? Or was it because
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all of your friends were in one?
Speaker 6 (08:35):
I think these girls were we have like a big
group of all of us that were friends, and I
was friends with them, and they weren't necessarily like rush,
we want you in Akyo, but they were like you
should go through the process and like we're here if.
Speaker 7 (08:45):
You need anything.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
And I had definitely been like I had been to
formals with my roommate, and I was like definitely exposed
to those sorority world. And once I like understood what
was going on, I just think back to my freshman
year brain and how I had no idea and the
whole thing felt so foreign. And then just like the
little bit of context had of like, oh, these are
what the houses are, this is like how the process works.
Speaker 7 (09:03):
It made rushing sophomore year so much easier.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
I'm sure it was also funny because we were all
like such good friends at the point when she was
rushing the second time around, and lived literally right across
from each other, and like we would see each other
during the rounds, but like from the different point of view,
so we would be like the recruiters. And then I
went saw her walking through the house and I was like, oh, funny,
can't you can't you can't do anything. But I was
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just like smiling at her.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I was like, I'm sure they didn't let you recruit her, right, No, no, no, no,
it was funny. Did you guys have an idea of
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what house you wanted before rushing and did that impact
your rushing process, like in a positive or negative way?
Speaker 4 (10:00):
Yeah, So I feel like for us it might be
kind of similar.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
So the friend I had before, I always wanted to
be in hers just because I had heard maybe like
horror stories of people putting on fronts during recruitment, and
I was like, I don't know if this is like
real the conversations I'm having, But since I know this
friend of mine so dearly, I trust her judgment, So
that kind of like put a bias over my perspective.
(10:23):
I obviously tried to have an open mind and I
didn't let it totally skew my process, but that definitely
I had like one that stood out to me from
the get go, and then I don't know if that's.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Yeah, that was pretty similar, just because like seeing my
sister and her friends, like they were groups of people
that I just really liked, and so I kind of
going into it was had that house in mind, but
it definitely didn't stop me from like thinking about all
of them as a whole and like seeing where I
personally liked better.
Speaker 6 (10:55):
I would say when I rushed my freshman year like.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
That, because I did. We did we do it in weekends,
so during the first weekend do like I think it's
like two days or three days.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (11:06):
I didn't even remember.
Speaker 6 (11:07):
But when I went through it the first time, I
remember like connecting so much with the girl that the
girls that I was talking to in the houses and
like having a very hard time separating myself from like
the process. So I would like be talking to the
girl and I'm like I would leave and I see
myself in the sorority and I'm like I see all
the girls that are in the room that are like
these are my best friends whatever, and then feeling like
so devastated when like I would get dropped from a house.
(11:28):
And I think there was definitely too specifically that I had,
like my first time rushing where I was like absolutely
devastated that I didn't when I like dropped out of
the process and everything because I like totally had it
in mine.
Speaker 7 (11:39):
I was like, I see myself here whatever.
Speaker 5 (11:41):
But yeah, the dropping thing is crazy, like I feel
like a never experienced.
Speaker 6 (11:46):
Rejection like that, Like it's horrible.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Eighteen Yeah, how many sororities does your school have.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Or no one, We're like eighteen years old, there's no I.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Thought you were saying you your school eighteen sororities. I
was like, oh my goodness.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
I think is there nine? I think there's nine, But okay.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
Our rush process is before school actually starts, so it's
the first thing you're introduced to after getting dropped off
by your parents, and then you have like a fifteen
minute conversation for the first round and you're like, that
was great. Those girls seem great. And then you don't
get the house back the next thing. You're like, wait, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
I mean you're right.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I mean your parents drop you off. It's absolutely heartbreaking.
I mean I remember freshman year. I was like crying,
like I was going to be gone for years. Meanwhile,
I was forty five minutes away from home, but it
was like the worst day of my life, like best
and worst. And then you're right, like rushing your sorority
and then getting rejected, You're like, great, this is exactly
what I needed. This is really going to you know,
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boost my confidence starting school, Like.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
One thing after another, you're like, what else, What's next?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
How did you guys navigate sharing things with your friends
during rush? Did you keep things private or were you
open during the process and talk to your friends about things.
Speaker 5 (13:06):
I think we were supposed to be we were supposed
to be quiet, but we were in like a very
social dorm, and I think that it's hard to come
across like not like you're trying to gatekeep anything while
not sharing things when you're also trying to make friends.
So I didn't really prioritize the secrecy part of it.
I really prioritized like trying to make friends, and so
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I was just being open with everyone. And I think
that when it really takes like being a somewhat decent
judge of character to understand like who is telling you
things to like lead you the right way, and who's
telling you things to sort of like deter you and
like make themselves have a better chance at something, which
is also hard to tell when you're a freshly eighteen
year old. But yeah, I definitely talked to like a
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lot of friends during the process, and it didn't really
detriment my experience because I was really lucky to talk
to great people, but I'm sure that it could for
people that weren't so lucky, like if people were telling
them the wrong things, maybe, But I don't know if you.
Speaker 6 (14:08):
Guys had any I feel like we, like, at least
in my experience, like, like she said, we were in
the same dorm, so we lived in a very like
social drum. I remember like every single night after rush,
everybody would like sit in the hallway and we would all.
Speaker 7 (14:20):
Talk about like talk to or whatever, which.
Speaker 6 (14:23):
Probably we weren't supposed to be doing, and like we
would like look out the people and like which also
definitely not a lot of tell I shouldn't say that,
but like I would. I totally remember that, or even
when I was rushing as a soft like sophomore year,
I would like, I feel like it was very helpful
to talk to my roommates about everything that I was
experiencing and like, yeah, I don't know, it's a very
foreign process. So like knowing that you're like have other
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people who are in it with you, I think is
like a trauma bond almos.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
Yeah, Like I would tell everything in my roommate and
she would also tell me, and it was just kind
of like it would be like sad when you got dropped,
because I'd feel like embarrassed, being like, oh, well, that
house dropped me, and then I would feel like, oh, like,
is this person gonna think that, like I'm not like.
Speaker 4 (15:04):
Great or cool? But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
It wasn't really like that for me, which was good,
but I'm sure I feel like it could have been
for some people.
Speaker 5 (15:12):
Yeah, But I also think that it helped with the
like embarrassment factor of it, because like if you're saying, oh,
I got dropped, and then hearing that validation that other
people also are getting dropped, You're like, okay, and I
love you already. So I'm sure it's just like the process,
not anything personal.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
What is your biggest piece of advice to any p
and ms that are going to go through the rush process.
Speaker 5 (15:34):
I don't know, it's so weird because it always is
the like be yourself, but I guess just knowing that
the person you're talking to is in the same boat
with like having these sort of at times can feel
scripted conversations and just that neither of you want it
to feel scripted, but just both like addressing maybe the
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nerves at the beginning of a conversation if you're feeling
them could be good to say like at the beginning,
like I'm so nervous, but I'm so excited to be here,
and just maybe that can make the conversation go a
little bit like smoother and less scripted.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
That's what I don't know, right.
Speaker 6 (16:11):
I feel like I would say, just like embrace the process,
because like, having gone through it twice, I have like
never I think it's like the best like exposure therapy
to having to meet a million people, having to have
a conversation almost coming up with like an elevator pitch
about yourself.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Literally give me a thirty second elevator pitch.
Speaker 6 (16:30):
By being in those conversations, like you get the opportunity
to practice like have it like I'm talking to all
those people. There's no other time that you're going to
be exposed to that many people and like learn things
from other people. And even in like now being a
senior and going through interviews and stuff like that, I
feel like I almost have an advantage to other people
who didn't have to go through it twice because I'm
like I'm so comfortable and familiar with just like having
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to come up with a conversation, coming up with small
talk like those kinds of things. So I think that's
just embrace the process, go through it, even if you
don't know if you want to be in a sourority,
like yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
And I remember also thinking like the girls that were
like recruiting me were like I don't know, I would
think that they were just like so much older and
like so much more like whys and stuff, but the
reality is like they are just like one year older
or like maybe two, and like they just like they're
also just as nervous and like just I guess, yeah,
like weud just be yourself because I just feel like
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it you'll get the house that like you're meant to get,
I guess, and you shouldn't like fake a persona to
like get one that wouldn't fit you in the long run.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Do you guys have any rush regrets?
Speaker 4 (17:35):
Oh, I have like a regret.
Speaker 5 (17:38):
On the other side, I was recruiting someone and I
totally messed up because it was one of the last
houses and I was so tired or last houses for
them we stay in the same house, but I was
so tired.
Speaker 4 (17:51):
And then I totally I asked.
Speaker 5 (17:53):
Her, I think, like what her major was, and she
went on this like long spiel and we started having
a casual like back and forth, and then I was
trying to get back on my line of questioning and
I asked the exact same question again and then she
started answering, and when she answered, I was like, oh.
And then I like put my head in my hands
and I was like, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
I a great time here. I swear I'm just like tired.
Speaker 5 (18:14):
But then it was just it made the whole thing
seem more authentic, So it was fine, but I I
feel like that could have been like one thing that
I could have done better.
Speaker 6 (18:25):
I feel like having gone through it twice, like I
wish that I had just kept like everyone always says,
like keep an open mind, but I feel like there
were definitely some like houses that I wrote off in
my head just because I was like, oh, I don't
you know, I don't this isn't like this doesn't seem
like it would be my vibe based on what I was.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Told and also probably what you witnessed freshman year, right right.
Speaker 6 (18:49):
And so I think like I'm so grateful honestly that
I went through it a second time, because if I
had stuck with like what my perception of the sororities
just based on having like seen them very minimally.
Speaker 7 (18:59):
I think I'm might have ended up freshman.
Speaker 6 (19:01):
Year in a house that wasn't like I wasn't even considered,
I wasn't really like, AKO wasn't one of the ones
that I was necessarily like considering super heavily freshman year.
Speaker 7 (19:08):
And I couldn't be happier being here now.
Speaker 8 (19:09):
So, yeah, what was midday like for you guys?
Speaker 4 (19:28):
It was fun?
Speaker 5 (19:28):
But I lost my key to my dorm running to
like we run back to the house from run home, Yeah,
and I couldn't even make it past the grass because
I lost my dorm key and you couldn't get into it.
So I had like some girls stayed back with me
and I looked in the grass and then I got
there like twenty minutes later.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
But so it was ok, not great in that sense,
but it was fun.
Speaker 5 (19:54):
Once we got to the house, there was just so
much energy and I felt like such an adrenaline high.
Speaker 4 (19:59):
Honestly, I was WHOA Okay, And.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
You feel just so like welcome because all the girls
that you like talk to, they're just like so happy
to see you.
Speaker 6 (20:07):
And you're like, yay, I had a different experience freshman
year for sure, because I think it was like every
we lived in a very social dorm, so everybody on
the floor was gone at their midday and then they
all came back with their like rush crush or whatever.
And I was like, I remember there was one girl
who got dropped like from this she would suicide bidded
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one sorority and she it was her birthday on mid
day and she got dropped mourning.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Out, Oh my god, that's horrible, Like.
Speaker 6 (20:34):
We're eating donuts on the floor of our door, but
she was like crying and we were just like sitting
there and I remember be feeling like so left out
and being like, oh my god, this is gonna be
awful and I'm never gonna recover from this experience, and
my college is like screwed. And then now being here,
I'm like, that was the stupidest thing ever because you
totally come back from it and it's fine. So back
to the advice thing, actually, like you will you will
be where you need to be. As for piano, you
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will be where you need to be and it'll all
work out, even if it feels awful, like the moment,
but software was great.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Do you guys remember the first time you met each other?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Are there any fun first time meeting stories that you
can share.
Speaker 3 (21:11):
I don't even remember. Well, we knew each other in
high school. Yeah, but I like don't remember when we I.
Speaker 7 (21:18):
Don't even know how we were in.
Speaker 5 (21:20):
We had a class together because since we're the same major,
we me and Ellie had a class together, and she
I thought she was so cool because she was you're
not allowed to have cars the first year, and she
had had.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
A car so she would drive you guys to class.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
We were in like a group project, and she was like,
let's go instead of studying at the library, let's go
study at a coffee shop downtown.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
I can drive.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
And I was like, okay, like let's go. I'm gonna
get off campus. And so I just thought you were
really cool. And you would always talk about like going
to UCSB a lot, and I was like, oh my gosh,
she doesn't even need to stay here, like she's like
traveling and she has a car and she's so cool.
Speaker 7 (21:58):
But we had a class together. I don't even remember
meeting you.
Speaker 6 (22:04):
Yeah, but I feel like, just like in Akio in general,
like I wasn't as close like I had knew rees
from class. I knew all of them, but when I
joined AKIO, I remember, I think it was bid midnight
or something. You guys like they all like wouldn't let
me go to anything. Like when I had to go
to like meetings and stuff, they were all like so
welcoming and so helpful because we lived across the street
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from each other my sophomore year and so I would
always feel kind of like out, like a little bit
out of the group because I was like in the
PC below them, so I would have to go to
my meetings and stuff. But even during the initiation or
like our prep week and everything, like, they would always
make me feel super welcome and like come. And I
remember the first time like all being at the house
together like on midnight. It was like so exciting and
so fun.
Speaker 7 (22:45):
And yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Know what was your guys level of involvement in your sorority.
Did you guys play a role on EXEC or a
role during recruitment?
Speaker 5 (22:55):
Yeah, so I was on EXEC last year. It was
the school year, so last January to this January, and
I was vice president of public Relations and Marketing, So
I did all of the like merchandising and then social
media's and stuff, and I had so much fun doing that,
and that definitely connected me to the whole sorority. Because
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you had to look everyone up on Instagram every day.
Speaker 4 (23:18):
I felt like a stalker.
Speaker 5 (23:21):
Because I got to know like everybody's names because I
was always looking at their handles, and so younger girls
who were like two years younger would come up and
I'd be like hi, and then I would say their
name and they'd be like, hey, have we met? And
I'm like, oh no, I just like I've seen your
Instagram like every day, Like don't it's not weird.
Speaker 4 (23:37):
But that definitely helped.
Speaker 5 (23:40):
I was on it with two of our other roommates
that couldn't make it today, and so I feel like
getting into like the older years, you either like increase
your involvement or it becomes easier to drop out. And
so it was really cool to have three of the
people in our house like super involved because I think
it really will be Obviously wanted other people to come
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to the events that like EXEC members were like required
to go to, and so then we would encourage like
all of our friends to come, and then that really
helped our retention rate. So like our PC is still
super big, but the one below us is really small
because a lot of them didn't want to get involved
like that. So I think that and like junior and
senior year, it really depends if you want to get
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further involved or just drop out because you already met
all your friends.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
Yeah, yeah, I liked I didn't do any exact positions,
but like I feel like that was kind of a regret,
like I wish I did, but them being orcing on
exec kind of like made me go to the events
and like stay in contact with all the people, which
is nice.
Speaker 6 (24:43):
I made the recruitment video for last year, and so
the year prior to that, I went to a lot
of events and stuff just to record it. And I
think having a reason to be there and like being
involved like connects you so much more to your sourority
and helped help me meet people in the PC. I
guess above me but my year that I didn't know before,
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and I'm actually really glad that I did it. Remember
in the moment, I was like this is awful, and
everybody was like I.
Speaker 7 (25:08):
Was like super overwhelmed.
Speaker 6 (25:09):
I'm like I'm never gonna finish this, but then it
ended up being totally worth it.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Well, what is something you guys will miss most about
sorority life and what is something you will not miss
miss most?
Speaker 5 (25:21):
I think just ties hand in hand with college itself.
Like we don't live in our sorority house, but we
live in a house of twelve girls with mixed sororities,
and I think that have that huge just like girl
party house where we like it's every door you open
is just like your friend's house or your friend's room,
and you can at one point of the day like
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someone's going to be home, so it's like you're always
surrounded by company and friendship. And so I think that
that's when I'm gonna miss most, even though it doesn't
directly tie into the sorority, but that's what I got
from it, And then I will not miss the fines
from not going to chapter.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
Yeah, that one too, But I'm definitely just gonna miss
like all like the events and like everyone just like
coming together and like always having an excuse to just
like hang out with your friends. So that will be missed,
which is so sad.
Speaker 6 (26:18):
I feel like sororities like there's never going to be
another point in our lives where we have this much
on like a calendar like of fun events to do
with like all of our favorite people, and so I
definitely think that's going to be like a huge thing
of just like, oh, we have an excuse like formal,
like let's all get dressed up and like hang out
and party with all of our best friends or like
exchanges or all the different things, even the stuff that
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we aren't involved in. It's just like, I like, that's
you totally don't think about it until you're facing like
not ever doing it again, and it's like, wait, this
is so awesome and I've grown so accustomed to this,
so I.
Speaker 7 (26:49):
Feel like that.
Speaker 6 (26:50):
And then yeah, definitely, like the stupid stuff that we
everybody hates doing, like finds for chapter and all that,
it's like absolutely I don't want to do with Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
All right, guys, Well, thank you so much for coming
on to Dirty Rush, and congrats on graduating, best of
luck with everything.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
In the future, and thanks again for coming on.
Speaker 4 (27:11):
Thank you for having us by bye bye.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
And that's it for this episode of Dirty Rush. Make
sure to follow us on Instagram and TikTok at Dirty
Rush Podcast so you don't miss new episodes, exclusive clips
and more. Love you guys, Bye,
Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia Judice.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Dirty Rush.
My name is Gia Judice, and today we're taking a
walk down memory Lane with a group of graduating seniors
to tell us what they wish they knew before joining
a sorority.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hi, guys, how's it going good? How are you good?
Speaker 3 (00:31):
So?
Speaker 2 (00:32):
What are all your names?
Speaker 4 (00:33):
I'm Alex, I'm Reese, and I'm Ellie.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Nice to meet you guys. So what's school do you
guys go to?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
We all go to kel poly San Luis obispo so fun.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
And what are you guys studying?
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Start? Yeah, I'm political science.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Oh, Polly Side, that's hard.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Yeah, it was hard.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I was a criminal justice major, so I had to
definitely take a couple of poly side classes.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Criminal justice classes were interesting to.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
But they're so fun, Like they're not that hard, They're
just like interesting. It's like you're intrigued by everything Polysai is.
You're learning about all the history and it's a lot
of reading. And that was definitely not my forte.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
Yeah, and then we're both communications.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Oh nice, are you guys excited to graduate?
Speaker 5 (01:18):
So we all actually graduated early, but we're we're walk
in June.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah, okay, congratulations, Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
So what sorority were you guys in.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
We're all actually in yeah Alpha ky Omega.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Oh so fun. Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
So did grief life play a big role in your
college experience?
Speaker 5 (01:42):
I would say it did, not, like enough to exile
or isolate from other friends or other girls and other
sororities or even without, but I would say that it
definitely did in the sense that it brought me closer
to girls in different ages. So I like the family
aspect of it I really dove into, and I still
have those friendships with like my g Big and Big,
(02:04):
and I feel like, even recently, with like the job
search aspect of it all, having those connections with girls
that are graduated like a year or two years above
really helped because I would talk to them and like
all of their friends and sort of figure out what
they liked two years postgrad and then that really helped
to discover what I wanted. So in that sense, I
feel like I really appreciated being in that community and
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having those resources.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
It really is so helpful after graduation.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
Especially because it didn't seem like they were scary to
talk to because I was in like a sorority safe
like space with them last time I saw them, so
asking them questions about how to go into it, I
didn't feel like I had to put on a front
and say I knew exactly what I wanted. I more
so was able to be transparent with them because they
knew me as someone that we already had that foundation with.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
You know, thinking back to when you guys were in
high school, did Greek play a part in the decision
making process of you guys choosing what school you wanted
to go to?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
For me, not really. I feel like my sister also
went to cal Poly, so I like saw her experience
and I just loved like this friends that she made,
and I felt like I wanted to like make those
same kind of connections. So that kind of played a
part in my decision to go to cal Paly.
Speaker 6 (03:24):
I remember, because I never wanted to go out of
state for college, Like I was very set I'm from California,
and I said, I'm going to school in California. And
I remember a lot of people from my high school.
Wanted to go to SDSU because it's kind of like
the biggest sorority school in art in like in California,
and so I remember like thinking like not being very
familiar with like the whole sorority thing and like seeing
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it just from like what I knew from like social
media or TikTok or whatever, and that being like between
SDSU and when I got into cal Poly, I was like,
oh my gosh, I don't know like what I wanted
to be in a sorority. This is like the Greek
high school. This is the party school. And I feel
like kind of having to almost profile yourself before where
you even pick a college, like wanting to know whether
or not you're going to do that. It was like
kind of a weird experience for sure.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
No, yeah, not think similar thing.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
I didn't really think about it when deciding to go
into school, But I think after I made the decision
about Paul is when I started to think about, like, oh,
do I want to be in a sorority once I
get there?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Reese.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
That is, I feel like pretty normal when you are
going when you're entering college, then that's when you think
about it. But I mean, it really is crazy, especially
when you think about all the schools in the South,
like you were saying on social media and seeing how
you know, looking at Bama Rush and just seeing how
how much more serious other schools really take sorority in
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Greek life. You have to think about that when you're
a senior going into college. Whereas when I went into college,
sure I knew what sororities were, I knew they existed.
I knew this might be a fun thing to do
once I entered school, but I never to hear now
doing this podcast, the extent and lengths that girls go
to as seniors before entering college to prepare for what sorority.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
They want to be in.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I just I thought, I just it was crazy to
me because that wasn't my experience.
Speaker 5 (05:11):
I feel like it really blew up after our year
because we are the same year as like Kylin Darnell
at Bama.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah, she's so sweet, like.
Speaker 5 (05:19):
Carved her path and made that her whole thing. Every
year after that, I think it got a bigger and
bigger deal. So we were sort of the last year
before it started to really implicate that decision and make
people think about that as seniors.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
I also feel like just recruitment in general has like
like a sorority life, and everything is totally taken on
a life of its own, like way more so than
I think it was ever intended to, so that like
pressure is so much heavier on like the years younger
than us and even ourlier than it probably was for
like my mom or with my sisters when they were
in rushing.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
One hundred percent, how did you guys prepare for rush?
What would you do differently knowing what you know now?
Speaker 5 (06:01):
I feel like for cal Poly, what we were told
is that it was way more relaxed than any other school,
which obviously going through the process, I was so scared
because sort of similar to how she had a sister
at this school, I had a really close family friend
that was also in a sorority at this school, and
so talking to her about the process really helped. But
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she I always like idolized her and looked up to
her because she was so cool. But she was telling
me how she got dropped from a few sororities, and
so I was like, oh, my goodness, if you can
get dropped like I am.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Screwed, And that made me scared, and.
Speaker 5 (06:38):
So I think I didn't really know how to prep,
but I was definitely frightened, and I was just like,
how if I'm so nervous going into the conversations, how
can I like put my best foot forward.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
I would like call.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
My sister every day before rush, which like I'd be
like what do I do like and stuff like that,
but she was like a big help and like it
was just nice to know that it would work out,
like seeing like the older girls and being like okay,
like they have their lives together, like hopefully it'll work out.
Speaker 4 (07:07):
For me too.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
No, definitely, my little sisters called me too. It was
like the sweetest thing.
Speaker 7 (07:13):
I feel like I did very minimal prep. I also
rushed for context.
Speaker 6 (07:18):
I rushed as a sophomore, like I joined our sorority
sophomore year. But when I did rush freshman year, I
remember the process. I didn't do any research or anything,
like I just sort of went in blind, and I
think it was significantly more overwhelming, just because I was
really had no idea what was going on, and so
I think I would have maybe phoned a friend and
like gotten a little bit of context or like understanding
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of what was going on, because it was very overwhelming,
and it was just like every like debriefing with everybody
in the dorms and all the different things. I remember
being like very anxious and like wishing that I'd prepare
a little bit more.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
No for sure, I mean, did you transfer into the
school sophomore year or you were you there freshman.
Speaker 7 (07:55):
Year, the recruitment freshman year or through part of it?
Speaker 6 (07:58):
And then I got sick and then I never joined
Like during the second week, I like mono and I
couldn't talk. So I never joined a sorority. And then
I re rushed sophomore year. I went through more more
groupment again because we don't do a whole cob is
like not a huge thing at Cowbality.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Okay, got it?
Speaker 1 (08:12):
So I mean, but rushing as a sophomore, And because
you already kind of rushed as a freshman, people obviously
started to get to know you. Probably throughout your school
year as a freshman. Did anyone come up to you
and say, oh, I want you to be at my sorority,
please rush, please rush sophomore year? Like, did that make
you want to rush even more? Or was it because
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all of your friends were in one?
Speaker 6 (08:35):
I think these girls were we have like a big
group of all of us that were friends, and I
was friends with them, and they weren't necessarily like rush,
we want you in Akyo, but they were like you
should go through the process and like we're here if.
Speaker 7 (08:45):
You need anything.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
And I had definitely been like I had been to
formals with my roommate, and I was like definitely exposed
to those sorority world. And once I like understood what
was going on, I just think back to my freshman
year brain and how I had no idea and the
whole thing felt so foreign. And then just like the
little bit of context had of like, oh, these are
what the houses are, this is like how the process works.
Speaker 7 (09:03):
It made rushing sophomore year so much easier.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
I'm sure it was also funny because we were all
like such good friends at the point when she was
rushing the second time around, and lived literally right across
from each other, and like we would see each other
during the rounds, but like from the different point of view,
so we would be like the recruiters. And then I
went saw her walking through the house and I was like, oh, funny,
can't you can't you can't do anything. But I was
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just like smiling at her.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I was like, I'm sure they didn't let you recruit her, right, No, no, no, no,
it was funny. Did you guys have an idea of
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what house you wanted before rushing and did that impact
your rushing process, like in a positive or negative way?
Speaker 4 (10:00):
Yeah, So I feel like for us it might be
kind of similar.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
So the friend I had before, I always wanted to
be in hers just because I had heard maybe like
horror stories of people putting on fronts during recruitment, and
I was like, I don't know if this is like
real the conversations I'm having, But since I know this
friend of mine so dearly, I trust her judgment, So
that kind of like put a bias over my perspective.
(10:23):
I obviously tried to have an open mind and I
didn't let it totally skew my process, but that definitely
I had like one that stood out to me from
the get go, and then I don't know if that's.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Yeah, that was pretty similar, just because like seeing my
sister and her friends, like they were groups of people
that I just really liked, and so I kind of
going into it was had that house in mind, but
it definitely didn't stop me from like thinking about all
of them as a whole and like seeing where I
personally liked better.
Speaker 6 (10:55):
I would say when I rushed my freshman year like.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
That, because I did. We did we do it in weekends,
so during the first weekend do like I think it's
like two days or three days.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (11:06):
I didn't even remember.
Speaker 6 (11:07):
But when I went through it the first time, I
remember like connecting so much with the girl that the
girls that I was talking to in the houses and
like having a very hard time separating myself from like
the process. So I would like be talking to the
girl and I'm like I would leave and I see
myself in the sorority and I'm like I see all
the girls that are in the room that are like
these are my best friends whatever, and then feeling like
so devastated when like I would get dropped from a house.
(11:28):
And I think there was definitely too specifically that I had,
like my first time rushing where I was like absolutely
devastated that I didn't when I like dropped out of
the process and everything because I like totally had it
in mine.
Speaker 7 (11:39):
I was like, I see myself here whatever.
Speaker 5 (11:41):
But yeah, the dropping thing is crazy, like I feel
like a never experienced.
Speaker 6 (11:46):
Rejection like that, Like it's horrible.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Eighteen Yeah, how many sororities does your school have.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Or no one, We're like eighteen years old, there's no I.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Thought you were saying you your school eighteen sororities. I
was like, oh my goodness.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
I think is there nine? I think there's nine, But okay.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
Our rush process is before school actually starts, so it's
the first thing you're introduced to after getting dropped off
by your parents, and then you have like a fifteen
minute conversation for the first round and you're like, that
was great. Those girls seem great. And then you don't
get the house back the next thing. You're like, wait, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
I mean you're right.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I mean your parents drop you off. It's absolutely heartbreaking.
I mean I remember freshman year. I was like crying,
like I was going to be gone for years. Meanwhile,
I was forty five minutes away from home, but it
was like the worst day of my life, like best
and worst. And then you're right, like rushing your sorority
and then getting rejected, You're like, great, this is exactly
what I needed. This is really going to you know,
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boost my confidence starting school, Like.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
One thing after another, you're like, what else, What's next?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
How did you guys navigate sharing things with your friends
during rush? Did you keep things private or were you
open during the process and talk to your friends about things.
Speaker 5 (13:06):
I think we were supposed to be we were supposed
to be quiet, but we were in like a very
social dorm, and I think that it's hard to come
across like not like you're trying to gatekeep anything while
not sharing things when you're also trying to make friends.
So I didn't really prioritize the secrecy part of it.
I really prioritized like trying to make friends, and so
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I was just being open with everyone. And I think
that when it really takes like being a somewhat decent
judge of character to understand like who is telling you
things to like lead you the right way, and who's
telling you things to sort of like deter you and
like make themselves have a better chance at something, which
is also hard to tell when you're a freshly eighteen
year old. But yeah, I definitely talked to like a
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lot of friends during the process, and it didn't really
detriment my experience because I was really lucky to talk
to great people, but I'm sure that it could for
people that weren't so lucky, like if people were telling
them the wrong things, maybe, But I don't know if you.
Speaker 6 (14:08):
Guys had any I feel like we, like, at least
in my experience, like, like she said, we were in
the same dorm, so we lived in a very like
social drum. I remember like every single night after rush,
everybody would like sit in the hallway and we would all.
Speaker 7 (14:20):
Talk about like talk to or whatever, which.
Speaker 6 (14:23):
Probably we weren't supposed to be doing, and like we
would like look out the people and like which also
definitely not a lot of tell I shouldn't say that,
but like I would. I totally remember that, or even
when I was rushing as a soft like sophomore year,
I would like, I feel like it was very helpful
to talk to my roommates about everything that I was
experiencing and like, yeah, I don't know, it's a very
foreign process. So like knowing that you're like have other
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people who are in it with you, I think is
like a trauma bond almos.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
Yeah, Like I would tell everything in my roommate and
she would also tell me, and it was just kind
of like it would be like sad when you got dropped,
because I'd feel like embarrassed, being like, oh, well, that
house dropped me, and then I would feel like, oh, like,
is this person gonna think that, like I'm not like.
Speaker 4 (15:04):
Great or cool? But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
It wasn't really like that for me, which was good,
but I'm sure I feel like it could have been
for some people.
Speaker 5 (15:12):
Yeah, But I also think that it helped with the
like embarrassment factor of it, because like if you're saying, oh,
I got dropped, and then hearing that validation that other
people also are getting dropped, You're like, okay, and I
love you already. So I'm sure it's just like the process,
not anything personal.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
What is your biggest piece of advice to any p
and ms that are going to go through the rush process.
Speaker 5 (15:34):
I don't know, it's so weird because it always is
the like be yourself, but I guess just knowing that
the person you're talking to is in the same boat
with like having these sort of at times can feel
scripted conversations and just that neither of you want it
to feel scripted, but just both like addressing maybe the
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nerves at the beginning of a conversation if you're feeling
them could be good to say like at the beginning,
like I'm so nervous, but I'm so excited to be here,
and just maybe that can make the conversation go a
little bit like smoother and less scripted.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
That's what I don't know, right.
Speaker 6 (16:11):
I feel like I would say, just like embrace the process,
because like, having gone through it twice, I have like
never I think it's like the best like exposure therapy
to having to meet a million people, having to have
a conversation almost coming up with like an elevator pitch
about yourself.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Literally give me a thirty second elevator pitch.
Speaker 6 (16:30):
By being in those conversations, like you get the opportunity
to practice like have it like I'm talking to all
those people. There's no other time that you're going to
be exposed to that many people and like learn things
from other people. And even in like now being a
senior and going through interviews and stuff like that, I
feel like I almost have an advantage to other people
who didn't have to go through it twice because I'm
like I'm so comfortable and familiar with just like having
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to come up with a conversation, coming up with small
talk like those kinds of things. So I think that's
just embrace the process, go through it, even if you
don't know if you want to be in a sourority,
like yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
And I remember also thinking like the girls that were
like recruiting me were like I don't know, I would
think that they were just like so much older and
like so much more like whys and stuff, but the
reality is like they are just like one year older
or like maybe two, and like they just like they're
also just as nervous and like just I guess, yeah,
like weud just be yourself because I just feel like
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it you'll get the house that like you're meant to get,
I guess, and you shouldn't like fake a persona to
like get one that wouldn't fit you in the long run.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Do you guys have any rush regrets?
Speaker 4 (17:35):
Oh, I have like a regret.
Speaker 5 (17:38):
On the other side, I was recruiting someone and I
totally messed up because it was one of the last
houses and I was so tired or last houses for
them we stay in the same house, but I was
so tired.
Speaker 4 (17:51):
And then I totally I asked.
Speaker 5 (17:53):
Her, I think, like what her major was, and she
went on this like long spiel and we started having
a casual like back and forth, and then I was
trying to get back on my line of questioning and
I asked the exact same question again and then she
started answering, and when she answered, I was like, oh.
And then I like put my head in my hands
and I was like, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
I a great time here. I swear I'm just like tired.
Speaker 5 (18:14):
But then it was just it made the whole thing
seem more authentic, So it was fine, but I I
feel like that could have been like one thing that
I could have done better.
Speaker 6 (18:25):
I feel like having gone through it twice, like I
wish that I had just kept like everyone always says,
like keep an open mind, but I feel like there
were definitely some like houses that I wrote off in
my head just because I was like, oh, I don't
you know, I don't this isn't like this doesn't seem
like it would be my vibe based on what I was.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Told and also probably what you witnessed freshman year, right right.
Speaker 6 (18:49):
And so I think like I'm so grateful honestly that
I went through it a second time, because if I
had stuck with like what my perception of the sororities
just based on having like seen them very minimally.
Speaker 7 (18:59):
I think I'm might have ended up freshman.
Speaker 6 (19:01):
Year in a house that wasn't like I wasn't even considered,
I wasn't really like, AKO wasn't one of the ones
that I was necessarily like considering super heavily freshman year.
Speaker 7 (19:08):
And I couldn't be happier being here now.
Speaker 8 (19:09):
So, yeah, what was midday like for you guys?
Speaker 4 (19:28):
It was fun?
Speaker 5 (19:28):
But I lost my key to my dorm running to
like we run back to the house from run home, Yeah,
and I couldn't even make it past the grass because
I lost my dorm key and you couldn't get into it.
So I had like some girls stayed back with me
and I looked in the grass and then I got
there like twenty minutes later.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
But so it was ok, not great in that sense,
but it was fun.
Speaker 5 (19:54):
Once we got to the house, there was just so
much energy and I felt like such an adrenaline high.
Speaker 4 (19:59):
Honestly, I was WHOA Okay, And.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
You feel just so like welcome because all the girls
that you like talk to, they're just like so happy
to see you.
Speaker 6 (20:07):
And you're like, yay, I had a different experience freshman
year for sure, because I think it was like every
we lived in a very social dorm, so everybody on
the floor was gone at their midday and then they
all came back with their like rush crush or whatever.
And I was like, I remember there was one girl
who got dropped like from this she would suicide bidded
(20:28):
one sorority and she it was her birthday on mid
day and she got dropped mourning.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Out, Oh my god, that's horrible, Like.
Speaker 6 (20:34):
We're eating donuts on the floor of our door, but
she was like crying and we were just like sitting
there and I remember be feeling like so left out
and being like, oh my god, this is gonna be
awful and I'm never gonna recover from this experience, and
my college is like screwed. And then now being here,
I'm like, that was the stupidest thing ever because you
totally come back from it and it's fine. So back
to the advice thing, actually, like you will you will
be where you need to be. As for piano, you
(20:55):
will be where you need to be and it'll all
work out, even if it feels awful, like the moment,
but software was great.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Do you guys remember the first time you met each other?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Are there any fun first time meeting stories that you
can share.
Speaker 3 (21:11):
I don't even remember. Well, we knew each other in
high school. Yeah, but I like don't remember when we I.
Speaker 7 (21:18):
Don't even know how we were in.
Speaker 5 (21:20):
We had a class together because since we're the same major,
we me and Ellie had a class together, and she
I thought she was so cool because she was you're
not allowed to have cars the first year, and she
had had.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
A car so she would drive you guys to class.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
We were in like a group project, and she was like,
let's go instead of studying at the library, let's go
study at a coffee shop downtown.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
I can drive.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
And I was like, okay, like let's go. I'm gonna
get off campus. And so I just thought you were
really cool. And you would always talk about like going
to UCSB a lot, and I was like, oh my gosh,
she doesn't even need to stay here, like she's like
traveling and she has a car and she's so cool.
Speaker 7 (21:58):
But we had a class together. I don't even remember
meeting you.
Speaker 6 (22:04):
Yeah, but I feel like, just like in Akio in general,
like I wasn't as close like I had knew rees
from class. I knew all of them, but when I
joined AKIO, I remember, I think it was bid midnight
or something. You guys like they all like wouldn't let
me go to anything. Like when I had to go
to like meetings and stuff, they were all like so
welcoming and so helpful because we lived across the street
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from each other my sophomore year and so I would
always feel kind of like out, like a little bit
out of the group because I was like in the
PC below them, so I would have to go to
my meetings and stuff. But even during the initiation or
like our prep week and everything, like, they would always
make me feel super welcome and like come. And I
remember the first time like all being at the house
together like on midnight. It was like so exciting and
so fun.
Speaker 7 (22:45):
And yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Know what was your guys level of involvement in your sorority.
Did you guys play a role on EXEC or a
role during recruitment?
Speaker 5 (22:55):
Yeah, so I was on EXEC last year. It was
the school year, so last January to this January, and
I was vice president of public Relations and Marketing, So
I did all of the like merchandising and then social
media's and stuff, and I had so much fun doing that,
and that definitely connected me to the whole sorority. Because
(23:15):
you had to look everyone up on Instagram every day.
Speaker 4 (23:18):
I felt like a stalker.
Speaker 5 (23:21):
Because I got to know like everybody's names because I
was always looking at their handles, and so younger girls
who were like two years younger would come up and
I'd be like hi, and then I would say their
name and they'd be like, hey, have we met? And
I'm like, oh no, I just like I've seen your
Instagram like every day, Like don't it's not weird.
Speaker 4 (23:37):
But that definitely helped.
Speaker 5 (23:40):
I was on it with two of our other roommates
that couldn't make it today, and so I feel like
getting into like the older years, you either like increase
your involvement or it becomes easier to drop out. And
so it was really cool to have three of the
people in our house like super involved because I think
it really will be Obviously wanted other people to come
(24:01):
to the events that like EXEC members were like required
to go to, and so then we would encourage like
all of our friends to come, and then that really
helped our retention rate. So like our PC is still
super big, but the one below us is really small
because a lot of them didn't want to get involved
like that. So I think that and like junior and
senior year, it really depends if you want to get
(24:24):
further involved or just drop out because you already met
all your friends.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
Yeah, yeah, I liked I didn't do any exact positions,
but like I feel like that was kind of a regret,
like I wish I did, but them being orcing on
exec kind of like made me go to the events
and like stay in contact with all the people, which
is nice.
Speaker 6 (24:43):
I made the recruitment video for last year, and so
the year prior to that, I went to a lot
of events and stuff just to record it. And I
think having a reason to be there and like being
involved like connects you so much more to your sourority
and helped help me meet people in the PC. I
guess above me but my year that I didn't know before,
(25:03):
and I'm actually really glad that I did it. Remember
in the moment, I was like this is awful, and
everybody was like I.
Speaker 7 (25:08):
Was like super overwhelmed.
Speaker 6 (25:09):
I'm like I'm never gonna finish this, but then it
ended up being totally worth it.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Well, what is something you guys will miss most about
sorority life and what is something you will not miss
miss most?
Speaker 5 (25:21):
I think just ties hand in hand with college itself.
Like we don't live in our sorority house, but we
live in a house of twelve girls with mixed sororities,
and I think that have that huge just like girl
party house where we like it's every door you open
is just like your friend's house or your friend's room,
and you can at one point of the day like
(25:43):
someone's going to be home, so it's like you're always
surrounded by company and friendship. And so I think that
that's when I'm gonna miss most, even though it doesn't
directly tie into the sorority, but that's what I got
from it, And then I will not miss the fines
from not going to chapter.
Speaker 3 (26:02):
Yeah, that one too, But I'm definitely just gonna miss
like all like the events and like everyone just like
coming together and like always having an excuse to just
like hang out with your friends. So that will be missed,
which is so sad.
Speaker 6 (26:18):
I feel like sororities like there's never going to be
another point in our lives where we have this much
on like a calendar like of fun events to do
with like all of our favorite people, and so I
definitely think that's going to be like a huge thing
of just like, oh, we have an excuse like formal,
like let's all get dressed up and like hang out
and party with all of our best friends or like
exchanges or all the different things, even the stuff that
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we aren't involved in. It's just like, I like, that's
you totally don't think about it until you're facing like
not ever doing it again, and it's like, wait, this
is so awesome and I've grown so accustomed to this,
so I.
Speaker 7 (26:49):
Feel like that.
Speaker 6 (26:50):
And then yeah, definitely, like the stupid stuff that we
everybody hates doing, like finds for chapter and all that,
it's like absolutely I don't want to do with Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
All right, guys, Well, thank you so much for coming
on to Dirty Rush, and congrats on graduating, best of
luck with everything.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
In the future, and thanks again for coming on.
Speaker 4 (27:11):
Thank you for having us by bye bye.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
And that's it for this episode of Dirty Rush. Make
sure to follow us on Instagram and TikTok at Dirty
Rush Podcast so you don't miss new episodes, exclusive clips
and more. Love you guys, Bye,
Hosts And Creators
Teddi Mellencamp
Tamra Judge
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