May 16, 2026 • 18 mins
Two years post graduation, are these so-called "sisters" still friends?
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia, Judice.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Fessler. Hi, guys, welcome back to
another episode of Dirty Rush. My name is Jen Fessler,
and today I'm speaking with a group of sorority sisters
that recently graduated, who are here to tell us how
they keep in touch now that they are no longer
in college together. All right, you guys, So we are
(00:28):
talking today to Lauren and Kate. Hi, ladies, Hi, Hi,
So tell me, So, Lauren, where did you guys go
to school? And what sorority were you in?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
We went to TCU and we're in Theta.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
You're in Theta. Okay. And when did you guys graduate?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
We graduated in twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Okay, So, Kate, where did you move after graduation?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I actually stayed local. So I moved to Dallas, just
like forty five minutes from Fort Worth.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay. And where are you now?
Speaker 1 (00:58):
I'm still in Dallas right now. Now, I'm just traveling
for work. So I'm in Atlanta, Georgia.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Okay, okay, but you're still in Dallas and Lauren, I
moved to San Diego.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Postgrad.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Okay, great, So was it hard to keep in touch?
Were you all close in college?
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Yeah? We lived together our senior year and it was
It's definitely been an adjustment after college staying in touch
and just getting into that groove, because I also feel
like it's so subjective to each friendship. You know, I
have friends that I talk to every week. I have
friends that I talk to every month, or I don't
really talk to them, but then whenever we see each
(01:34):
other in person, we just pick right back up. So
I do think that it kind of is just subject
to the friendship, and it's been interesting figuring out those
dynamics and seeing how it's been.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Yeah, you guys can't even imagine what it was like
for us old people after graduating, and there was no
social media and there was no cell phones, so that
was like, right, so totally different time. But what I hate.
Do you still talk to a lot of people since
graduating from your sortie?
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I think honestly, one of the benefits of being pretty
close to TCU is, uh, you kind of are able
to keep in contact with a lot of people, But
like Lauren said, it kind of ebbs and flows. Some people.
I remained really close with some people I got closer
with just through location, and some people there's kind of
(02:27):
that more constant effort and thought of being like, oh,
I need to keep in contact with this person, put
in more of an effort than you were when you
were just living down the street, or for me and
Lauren's case, living down the hall from each other.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
What's made you do stay in such? Is it mainly texting?
Speaker 1 (02:44):
You have texting calls facetimes. I think social media feels
a little bit surface level, so I usually try to
put that second second step in and the extra effort.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Good for you. You don't hear that that often? No, I
love that because, like you know, it is even with me,
now that we have social media and cell phones, I
almost rather might go to is always to text rather
than to pick up the phone and talk, because a
lot of times there's just so much to catch up on.
It's been a while since I was in a sorority,
(03:18):
so sometimes it's easier to just you know, throw a
text out, get one back. And I think you're right.
I think there is a lot of value, even more
so in face to face, but at least, you know,
in talking and hearing each other's voices. What about group
chats are you guys? Do you guys have those going?
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah? I feel like we have quite a few group chats.
We have one of like everyone that lived in our
house in college together that were talking pretty often, and
then with like a larger group of friends that we
actually do a reunion with every year.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
And do you do what do you do?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
We? Well, we did our first one last year and
all of our friends actually came to visit me in
San Diego and it was julyve so it was beautiful
weather and we got to just spend like three days
all together at the beach. So that was really fun.
And I think we're trying to figure out dates, but
we're planning to do it again this year.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Oh that's so fun. I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Do you think that like this whole friends for life thing?
I mean, you know when you're rushing and pledging and
you hear that a lot that you're going to make
your friends for life, And I think I personally think yes,
but you're not necessarily going to make thirty friends for life, right,
But what do you guys feel like? Do you feel
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like it was more friends for four years for the
most part, or lots of friends for life.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I think I would say that when you're a freshman
or you're younger and you've just rushed, do you really
want to believe that, Oh, all of these sorority sisters
are going to be my sisters for life? And I
think that the sorority does kind of give you that
extra layer of bond and you know that you can
trust these people and fall back on them, at least
(04:59):
most of them. So that's nice to know and to have.
But definitely, since graduating college, I've realized how much effort
it truly does take to maintain a friendship that feels
real and that feels constant and is the most impactful
in your life. So I think that coming out of college,
I definitely do have a few people that I know well,
(05:20):
or at least I hope will be in my wedding
and we'll be there for all the big moments in
my life, or that I'll try to see every year.
But it's not as many as I think maybe I
thought I would have going into college. But that being said,
it's something I'm really okay with. I think it'd be
overwhelming of too many friends for life.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Thankate it's very dependent on the person and like what
they make of it.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I went into college thinking that I was going to
have all these best friends from Greek life because my
mom stayed very involved. She was the president of her
sorority back when she was in college, and so I
had this whole different viewpoint on it from what she
had shown me to then, like what I personally experienced.
(06:02):
I think some people love having the big friend group
and being friends with as many people as possible. Personally,
I like to have kind of a smaller group of friends.
So I think that I kind of was looking for
those specific people that stood out to me and those
specific people that I could get really close to. And
(06:23):
so it's not necessarily about making thirty friends for life,
but it's about finding your friends for life within those
thirty people.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I feel like that too. You know, since graduating, you
guys have changed and grown, and do you feel like
a lot of those friendships that you had it's more
difficult to feel the closeness. You know, there's your changing,
your friends are changing. Have you had some experiences where Wow,
(06:52):
I really love this person in college not so much anymore?
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Yeah, I feel like, you know, it's funny. I went
back to TCU this past weekend because my sister was graduating.
She's a couple of years younger than me, and I
have some friends that have younger siblings, some friends that
still live in the area. And there were a couple
of people I ran into who I was very close
with in college, and I was so excited to see them,
and I'd run up and I'd be like, Hey, how's
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it going, and like, some people match that energy and
we're so excited. We just kind of picked back up.
Some people were like not as jazzed to see me,
and well, you were just a little less enthusiastic, and
I was like, what's going on? Like, I guess you
do kind of lose that level of closeness if you
(07:39):
don't put in the effort to keep up. And I'm
always happy to jump back into where I left off
with people, But some people are a little more reserved.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, it's true, but also change and you may not
have the things in common that you used to. Maybe
what you had in common was that you loved to
party and meet boys, and you know that was sort
of like your main focus. Well it was mine. I
don't know if it was yours. But you know, things change, right,
so sometimes sometimes that's a little bit harder. Have you
guys had any milestone celebrations or like get together as yet,
(08:12):
Like have you done the wedding thing if you guys,
do you guys have friends who've had babies, baby showers,
any of that.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
No weddings and stuff. But I think with like what
Lauren said, her younger sister was graduating, and because we
got so close through college, like her family is kind
of like my extended family, So being able to go
back and like celebrate that and kind of like whenever
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she's in town, it's like a it's a quick drive
for me. So it's so worth it to be able
to to spend that time and celebrate her family's milestones
because of the because of the relationship that we formed.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
So right, well, you guys are still young, so that's coming.
I wonder, I mean, I'm imagining the you're imagine that
there will be sorority sisters at those milestones, at those weddings,
and that's gonna be fun.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Absolutely, what this is kind of a deeper question, but
what parts of sorority life do you think still impact
you today? Lauren?
Speaker 3 (09:16):
For me. I think sisterhood has always been a major
theme in my life just growing up. I have two
younger sisters, and so my family was just so built
on sisterhood. But going through the Greek system and joining
a sorority just kind of made me think about it
in a new light and really made me evaluate like
(09:36):
how sisterhood can play into friendships, because I don't think
I ever had that mentality before where I could make
my friends my sisters too, since I already had that
and I held that so close to me, and so
it's really just like expanded my view of sisterhood. And
I think that bringing kind of the principles of sisterhood
into every person I interact with and just like really
(10:00):
wanting to be an anchor for people and trustworthy and
like I just I kind of think, like, oh, just
treat people like they're my sister and they'll be my
close friend, you know. I think that it's such a
beautiful way to approach life and friendships and college and
Greek life really just expanded that definition of sisterhood for me.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Lauren, if I was your age, you would never get
rid of me, I catch myself, I would glom onto you. Honey,
and I would never let go. And Kate, I'm saying
the same thing to you, but Lauren just s had
something very touching to me. But you tell me, Also
tell what what do you feel like? You know, what
parts of the love of your sobrity life really are
(10:40):
still impacting you.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I feel like I kind of agree with like what
Laurence said. I had a brother growing up, and I
always wanted sisters, so kind of to be able to
get that deeper level. I feel like Greek life as
a whole kind of a bonding experience. There's a lot
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of like trials and tribulations that you go through in
college because there's a lot of growth and hardships that
you deal with, and so to have such a strong
support system and such a strong group of girls, like.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
That's really.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Solidified the way that I view my friends and the
way that I feel like I can lean on my
friends that I didn't necessarily feel before with you know,
having a brother or having you know, someone who doesn't
really understands a lot of the things that girls go
through or the emotions that they deal with, so that
it was nice to kind of have that bond.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I love that all right, I'm gonna glom onto you too, Kate,
in my next lifetime when we're all the same age.
So tell me your perception. It has your perception of
(12:03):
Greek life change since you've graduated.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
I think so. I think when I was in college,
there was this heavy emphasis on the sorority that you
were in and kind of these biases and stigmas to
certain parts of Greek life. But now seeing it from
a postgrad perspective and being able to bond with people from.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Other schools.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
And kind of have that in common with people, I
think is definitely something that makes it painted in a
more positive light than I think it was sometimes viewed
in college.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Right. Interesting, What do you think, Lauren?
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Yeah, it's interesting because when you join a sorority, especially
at like a Southern school, where there's just such a
huge drive for people to do so it feels like
this make or break thing, and it feels like you
have to be in the right house will perceive you
in the right way, and there's just so much image
associated with what really should be about just making friends
(13:08):
and being yourself and getting to make relationships with people
where you can be authentic. And so I think that Honestly,
as I went through college that just kind of those
walls kind of dropped, where like, you care so much
about being top house or whatever it is for you
that you care about. And then by the end of college,
and I think still continuing after college, I've just realized, like, oh,
(13:30):
the authority that I chose or that I was in
didn't matter because we were toping grades and we were
cool girls and we were smart and funny or whatever.
It mattered more that I found a place where I
could be myself, that I found girls that I could
be myself around, And it's really just like the relationships
(13:52):
that you take with you rather than like the status
of being in a certain house.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Yeah, I'm definitely glomming onto both of you. Do you
feel like if you had to do it again and
you would go through the rush process differently, do you
think you'd still choose your house.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
I think I would have. I really think I would have,
especially because of the girls that I spoke with during rush,
like they just made me feel so seen. However, I
rushed twice, so freshman year, I don't think I would
have maybe made the same decision as I did sophomore year,
just based on the lessons that I learned going through
(14:27):
Rush the first time versus second.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Okay, what about you, Kate, Yeah, I think honestly, I
feel like I have a very different viewpoint than the
average person because the year that we went through Rush,
our freshman year was all online because of COVID, So
it definitely kind of had a different experience. You're not
(14:51):
in the house, You're not feeling the vibe. But I'm
so glad that I met the people that I did,
and I don't have any regrets about, like any decisions
that I made because of that.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
So glad to hear that. So you, guys, for both
of you, if someone is getting ready to graduate, what
advice would you give them on staying in touch and
maintaining their sorority friendships.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I would just say, like, it may feel small, but
a text can go a long way. There's been so
many times where I've felt distant from my college friends
because I chose to move so far away and just
to a place that not a lot of people went,
and a lot of people did, like I would say,
the majority of people. Kate, correct me if I'm wrong.
Moved to Dallas, you know, and stayed in that area,
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and so I have kind of gone through times where
I felt a little bit isolated or lonely because of
the decision that I made, but it always brightens my day,
like to get a text of two of my friends
being like, Oh, we're at lunch and we were just
thinking of you and like miss you so much. Like
just little things like that go a long way. It
doesn't need to be the pressure of having this hour
(16:03):
long face time to catch up on every play by
play of your life, Like you can get that when
you do a visit or something. But I think just
the text like thinking of you or this reminded me
of you, That's what impacts me the most, being so
far away. Just those little things and like little moments
that keep me still connected to everybody.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Yeah, I agree. So I recently went through something that
I will not boil you all with, but nothing tragic,
but something and I got like three different messages, just
texts just from sorority sisters. Hey, Jen, thinking about you,
love you here if you need me, And that's just
you know, that's everything, right. Yeah, give any advice for us, Kate,
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just in terms of keeping in touch.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Yeah, kind of kind of tagging onto what Warren said,
I wish that someone would have told me that you
don't need to maintain the same friendship that you had
in college to still maintain that friendship, because I feel
like I had this huge pressure and like burden almost
(17:08):
of like, oh my goodness, I have to get them
this hour long phone call and catch up with this
person because I haven't talked to them all week, and
then that weekly phone call becomes monthly, and then it
ever ends up happening because it's now something you're dreading
versus shooting that quick little text where it's like hey,
I'm just thinking about you, or like hey saw this
(17:28):
and like it made me think of you. That goes
such a long way, and you don't need to know
every single minor life update in your friend's life to
still have that same relationship.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Yeah, totally, I agree with that, and I think that
applies all around. Like sometimes if you're not seeing everyone
or to every if you're not seeing someone every day
or every week or every and you feel this pressure like,
oh my gosh, if I get on the phone, I
don't have an hour to catch up, do you know
what I mean? And so the kind of remove that
pressure and say I'm just going to say, hey, lady,
(18:01):
just saw something funny. Thinking of you, hope you're well,
is like so nice and you know, feeling like you're
able to do that without feeling guilty about it, right Yeah, yeah,
well pretty ladies, thank you so much for coming on
to Dirty Rush today. I love talking to you and
I think you gave us some really good advice. Well
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I didn't need your advice, but everyone else did.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Thank you so much for having us course.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
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Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
your hosts me Gia, Judice.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Fessler. Hi, guys, welcome back to
another episode of Dirty Rush. My name is Jen Fessler,
and today I'm speaking with a group of sorority sisters
that recently graduated, who are here to tell us how
they keep in touch now that they are no longer
in college together. All right, you guys, So we are
(00:28):
talking today to Lauren and Kate. Hi, ladies, Hi, Hi,
So tell me, So, Lauren, where did you guys go
to school? And what sorority were you in?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
We went to TCU and we're in Theta.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
You're in Theta. Okay. And when did you guys graduate?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
We graduated in twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Okay, So, Kate, where did you move after graduation?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I actually stayed local. So I moved to Dallas, just
like forty five minutes from Fort Worth.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay. And where are you now?
Speaker 1 (00:58):
I'm still in Dallas right now. Now, I'm just traveling
for work. So I'm in Atlanta, Georgia.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Okay, okay, but you're still in Dallas and Lauren, I
moved to San Diego.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Postgrad.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Okay, great, So was it hard to keep in touch?
Were you all close in college?
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Yeah? We lived together our senior year and it was
It's definitely been an adjustment after college staying in touch
and just getting into that groove, because I also feel
like it's so subjective to each friendship. You know, I
have friends that I talk to every week. I have
friends that I talk to every month, or I don't
really talk to them, but then whenever we see each
(01:34):
other in person, we just pick right back up. So
I do think that it kind of is just subject
to the friendship, and it's been interesting figuring out those
dynamics and seeing how it's been.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Yeah, you guys can't even imagine what it was like
for us old people after graduating, and there was no
social media and there was no cell phones, so that
was like, right, so totally different time. But what I hate.
Do you still talk to a lot of people since
graduating from your sortie?
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I think honestly, one of the benefits of being pretty
close to TCU is, uh, you kind of are able
to keep in contact with a lot of people, But
like Lauren said, it kind of ebbs and flows. Some people.
I remained really close with some people I got closer
with just through location, and some people there's kind of
(02:27):
that more constant effort and thought of being like, oh,
I need to keep in contact with this person, put
in more of an effort than you were when you
were just living down the street, or for me and
Lauren's case, living down the hall from each other.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
What's made you do stay in such? Is it mainly texting?
Speaker 1 (02:44):
You have texting calls facetimes. I think social media feels
a little bit surface level, so I usually try to
put that second second step in and the extra effort.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Good for you. You don't hear that that often? No, I
love that because, like you know, it is even with me,
now that we have social media and cell phones, I
almost rather might go to is always to text rather
than to pick up the phone and talk, because a
lot of times there's just so much to catch up on.
It's been a while since I was in a sorority,
(03:18):
so sometimes it's easier to just you know, throw a
text out, get one back. And I think you're right.
I think there is a lot of value, even more
so in face to face, but at least, you know,
in talking and hearing each other's voices. What about group
chats are you guys? Do you guys have those going?
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah? I feel like we have quite a few group chats.
We have one of like everyone that lived in our
house in college together that were talking pretty often, and
then with like a larger group of friends that we
actually do a reunion with every year.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
And do you do what do you do?
Speaker 3 (03:50):
We? Well, we did our first one last year and
all of our friends actually came to visit me in
San Diego and it was julyve so it was beautiful
weather and we got to just spend like three days
all together at the beach. So that was really fun.
And I think we're trying to figure out dates, but
we're planning to do it again this year.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Oh that's so fun. I love that.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Do you think that like this whole friends for life thing?
I mean, you know when you're rushing and pledging and
you hear that a lot that you're going to make
your friends for life, And I think I personally think yes,
but you're not necessarily going to make thirty friends for life, right,
But what do you guys feel like? Do you feel
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like it was more friends for four years for the
most part, or lots of friends for life.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I think I would say that when you're a freshman
or you're younger and you've just rushed, do you really
want to believe that, Oh, all of these sorority sisters
are going to be my sisters for life? And I
think that the sorority does kind of give you that
extra layer of bond and you know that you can
trust these people and fall back on them, at least
(04:59):
most of them. So that's nice to know and to have.
But definitely, since graduating college, I've realized how much effort
it truly does take to maintain a friendship that feels
real and that feels constant and is the most impactful
in your life. So I think that coming out of college,
I definitely do have a few people that I know well,
(05:20):
or at least I hope will be in my wedding
and we'll be there for all the big moments in
my life, or that I'll try to see every year.
But it's not as many as I think maybe I
thought I would have going into college. But that being said,
it's something I'm really okay with. I think it'd be
overwhelming of too many friends for life.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Thankate it's very dependent on the person and like what
they make of it.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I went into college thinking that I was going to
have all these best friends from Greek life because my
mom stayed very involved. She was the president of her
sorority back when she was in college, and so I
had this whole different viewpoint on it from what she
had shown me to then, like what I personally experienced.
(06:02):
I think some people love having the big friend group
and being friends with as many people as possible. Personally,
I like to have kind of a smaller group of friends.
So I think that I kind of was looking for
those specific people that stood out to me and those
specific people that I could get really close to. And
(06:23):
so it's not necessarily about making thirty friends for life,
but it's about finding your friends for life within those
thirty people.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I feel like that too. You know, since graduating, you
guys have changed and grown, and do you feel like
a lot of those friendships that you had it's more
difficult to feel the closeness. You know, there's your changing,
your friends are changing. Have you had some experiences where Wow,
(06:52):
I really love this person in college not so much anymore?
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Yeah, I feel like, you know, it's funny. I went
back to TCU this past weekend because my sister was graduating.
She's a couple of years younger than me, and I
have some friends that have younger siblings, some friends that
still live in the area. And there were a couple
of people I ran into who I was very close
with in college, and I was so excited to see them,
and I'd run up and I'd be like, Hey, how's
(07:19):
it going, and like, some people match that energy and
we're so excited. We just kind of picked back up.
Some people were like not as jazzed to see me,
and well, you were just a little less enthusiastic, and
I was like, what's going on? Like, I guess you
do kind of lose that level of closeness if you
(07:39):
don't put in the effort to keep up. And I'm
always happy to jump back into where I left off
with people, But some people are a little more reserved.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, it's true, but also change and you may not
have the things in common that you used to. Maybe
what you had in common was that you loved to
party and meet boys, and you know that was sort
of like your main focus. Well it was mine. I
don't know if it was yours. But you know, things change, right,
so sometimes sometimes that's a little bit harder. Have you
guys had any milestone celebrations or like get together as yet,
(08:12):
Like have you done the wedding thing if you guys,
do you guys have friends who've had babies, baby showers,
any of that.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
No weddings and stuff. But I think with like what
Lauren said, her younger sister was graduating, and because we
got so close through college, like her family is kind
of like my extended family, So being able to go
back and like celebrate that and kind of like whenever
(08:39):
she's in town, it's like a it's a quick drive
for me. So it's so worth it to be able
to to spend that time and celebrate her family's milestones
because of the because of the relationship that we formed.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
So right, well, you guys are still young, so that's coming.
I wonder, I mean, I'm imagining the you're imagine that
there will be sorority sisters at those milestones, at those weddings,
and that's gonna be fun.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Absolutely, what this is kind of a deeper question, but
what parts of sorority life do you think still impact
you today? Lauren?
Speaker 3 (09:16):
For me. I think sisterhood has always been a major
theme in my life just growing up. I have two
younger sisters, and so my family was just so built
on sisterhood. But going through the Greek system and joining
a sorority just kind of made me think about it
in a new light and really made me evaluate like
(09:36):
how sisterhood can play into friendships, because I don't think
I ever had that mentality before where I could make
my friends my sisters too, since I already had that
and I held that so close to me, and so
it's really just like expanded my view of sisterhood. And
I think that bringing kind of the principles of sisterhood
into every person I interact with and just like really
(10:00):
wanting to be an anchor for people and trustworthy and
like I just I kind of think, like, oh, just
treat people like they're my sister and they'll be my
close friend, you know. I think that it's such a
beautiful way to approach life and friendships and college and
Greek life really just expanded that definition of sisterhood for me.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Lauren, if I was your age, you would never get
rid of me, I catch myself, I would glom onto you. Honey,
and I would never let go. And Kate, I'm saying
the same thing to you, but Lauren just s had
something very touching to me. But you tell me, Also
tell what what do you feel like? You know, what
parts of the love of your sobrity life really are
(10:40):
still impacting you.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I feel like I kind of agree with like what
Laurence said. I had a brother growing up, and I
always wanted sisters, so kind of to be able to
get that deeper level. I feel like Greek life as
a whole kind of a bonding experience. There's a lot
(11:03):
of like trials and tribulations that you go through in
college because there's a lot of growth and hardships that
you deal with, and so to have such a strong
support system and such a strong group of girls, like.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
That's really.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Solidified the way that I view my friends and the
way that I feel like I can lean on my
friends that I didn't necessarily feel before with you know,
having a brother or having you know, someone who doesn't
really understands a lot of the things that girls go
through or the emotions that they deal with, so that
it was nice to kind of have that bond.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I love that all right, I'm gonna glom onto you too, Kate,
in my next lifetime when we're all the same age.
So tell me your perception. It has your perception of
(12:03):
Greek life change since you've graduated.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
I think so. I think when I was in college,
there was this heavy emphasis on the sorority that you
were in and kind of these biases and stigmas to
certain parts of Greek life. But now seeing it from
a postgrad perspective and being able to bond with people from.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Other schools.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
And kind of have that in common with people, I
think is definitely something that makes it painted in a
more positive light than I think it was sometimes viewed
in college.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Right. Interesting, What do you think, Lauren?
Speaker 3 (12:46):
Yeah, it's interesting because when you join a sorority, especially
at like a Southern school, where there's just such a
huge drive for people to do so it feels like
this make or break thing, and it feels like you
have to be in the right house will perceive you
in the right way, and there's just so much image
associated with what really should be about just making friends
(13:08):
and being yourself and getting to make relationships with people
where you can be authentic. And so I think that Honestly,
as I went through college that just kind of those
walls kind of dropped, where like, you care so much
about being top house or whatever it is for you
that you care about. And then by the end of college,
and I think still continuing after college, I've just realized, like, oh,
(13:30):
the authority that I chose or that I was in
didn't matter because we were toping grades and we were
cool girls and we were smart and funny or whatever.
It mattered more that I found a place where I
could be myself, that I found girls that I could
be myself around, And it's really just like the relationships
(13:52):
that you take with you rather than like the status
of being in a certain house.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Yeah, I'm definitely glomming onto both of you. Do you
feel like if you had to do it again and
you would go through the rush process differently, do you
think you'd still choose your house.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
I think I would have. I really think I would have,
especially because of the girls that I spoke with during rush,
like they just made me feel so seen. However, I
rushed twice, so freshman year, I don't think I would
have maybe made the same decision as I did sophomore year,
just based on the lessons that I learned going through
(14:27):
Rush the first time versus second.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Okay, what about you, Kate, Yeah, I think honestly, I
feel like I have a very different viewpoint than the
average person because the year that we went through Rush,
our freshman year was all online because of COVID, So
it definitely kind of had a different experience. You're not
(14:51):
in the house, You're not feeling the vibe. But I'm
so glad that I met the people that I did,
and I don't have any regrets about, like any decisions
that I made because of that.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
So glad to hear that. So you, guys, for both
of you, if someone is getting ready to graduate, what
advice would you give them on staying in touch and
maintaining their sorority friendships.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I would just say, like, it may feel small, but
a text can go a long way. There's been so
many times where I've felt distant from my college friends
because I chose to move so far away and just
to a place that not a lot of people went,
and a lot of people did, like I would say,
the majority of people. Kate, correct me if I'm wrong.
Moved to Dallas, you know, and stayed in that area,
(15:41):
and so I have kind of gone through times where
I felt a little bit isolated or lonely because of
the decision that I made, but it always brightens my day,
like to get a text of two of my friends
being like, Oh, we're at lunch and we were just
thinking of you and like miss you so much. Like
just little things like that go a long way. It
doesn't need to be the pressure of having this hour
(16:03):
long face time to catch up on every play by
play of your life, Like you can get that when
you do a visit or something. But I think just
the text like thinking of you or this reminded me
of you, That's what impacts me the most, being so
far away. Just those little things and like little moments
that keep me still connected to everybody.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Yeah, I agree. So I recently went through something that
I will not boil you all with, but nothing tragic,
but something and I got like three different messages, just
texts just from sorority sisters. Hey, Jen, thinking about you,
love you here if you need me, And that's just
you know, that's everything, right. Yeah, give any advice for us, Kate,
(16:45):
just in terms of keeping in touch.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Yeah, kind of kind of tagging onto what Warren said,
I wish that someone would have told me that you
don't need to maintain the same friendship that you had
in college to still maintain that friendship, because I feel
like I had this huge pressure and like burden almost
(17:08):
of like, oh my goodness, I have to get them
this hour long phone call and catch up with this
person because I haven't talked to them all week, and
then that weekly phone call becomes monthly, and then it
ever ends up happening because it's now something you're dreading
versus shooting that quick little text where it's like hey,
I'm just thinking about you, or like hey saw this
(17:28):
and like it made me think of you. That goes
such a long way, and you don't need to know
every single minor life update in your friend's life to
still have that same relationship.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Yeah, totally, I agree with that, and I think that
applies all around. Like sometimes if you're not seeing everyone
or to every if you're not seeing someone every day
or every week or every and you feel this pressure like,
oh my gosh, if I get on the phone, I
don't have an hour to catch up, do you know
what I mean? And so the kind of remove that
pressure and say I'm just going to say, hey, lady,
(18:01):
just saw something funny. Thinking of you, hope you're well,
is like so nice and you know, feeling like you're
able to do that without feeling guilty about it, right Yeah, yeah,
well pretty ladies, thank you so much for coming on
to Dirty Rush today. I love talking to you and
I think you gave us some really good advice. Well
(18:22):
I didn't need your advice, but everyone else did.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Thank you so much for having us course.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Okay, guys, that's it for this episode of Dirty Rush.
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