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January 20, 2026 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Tuesday, January 20th, 2026. Subject: "1 Husband, 3 Men"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need
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Speaker 2 (00:16):
Right here, right now. You never know, it could be yours.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
You never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
Subject one husband, three men. Dear Stephen Shirley.

Speaker 1 (00:29):
I've been married for twelve years and I have cheated
on my husband for the past five years.

Speaker 2 (00:35):
Five years.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
My husband is a bit older than I am and
he can't always satisfy me like he used to, so
I got addicted to stepping out on him. The thrill
of the affair is what excited me at first, but
then when I realized my husband no longer cared, it
became part of my lifestyle. I just turned forty five,
and I think I am going through a midlife crisis

(00:58):
because one man is enough and I like them young.
I am not sleeping around, though I have two consistent
men on the side that I have sex with. I
didn't want any parts of an older man anymore. So
one of my side men is thirty five and the
other one is twenty nine, and he is my hairstylist.

(01:19):
The thirty five year old just got married and his
wife is bipolar and won't take her medicine, so he
wasn't getting any sex at home. The twenty nine year
old is my baby, and he's very special because I
have taught him a lot. I taught him how to
save money, decorate his place, and how to properly make
love to a grown woman. He is the one that

(01:41):
is falling for me, and I am very fond of him.
But if I got divorced, he wouldn't be my first choice.

Speaker 2 (01:48):
The thirty five year old would.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
So I thought I would shake things up and tell
my husband I'm not happy and we might need to
get a divorce. He said, he's no fool and can
tell I'm getting sex elsewhere where, so he'd like for
me to just be respectful if I'm going to do it,
and not let anyone else know what's going on.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
That made me suspect.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
That made me suspect, and now I'm thinking he might
be messing around on me. I asked him a million
times if he's cheating, and he had a smirk on
his face and said no. What if he lied about
having ed and he has a mistress? Should I confess
to see if he will? Please advise? What do you
want us to advise you on? Really, I really don't

(02:32):
think you want an answer. I don't think you care
or I just think you're enjoying your cheating life so
much right now. You haven't cared about your husband or
what he's doing for the last five years. What's changed
the fact that he might be cheating too, and the
fact that he didn't give you any problem, any clap

(02:53):
back when you said you might want a divorce, Well,
isn't that interesting? I think, my honest opinion is that
you don't give darn one way or the other. You
tried to test the waters on divorced, as you say,
and found out that your husband like cool, just be respectful,
not a problem. Who does that anyway? Play with divorce

(03:16):
like that? I mean, you've been cheating on him with
not one but two men. But you say you're not
sleeping around. How could you even put that line in
this letter? You're not sleeping around? That's exactly what you're doing.
What do you think sleeping around is? Is not okay?
And what you're doing is trifling. And now you're feeling
some kind of way because your husband didn't put up

(03:36):
a fight.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
You need to divorce him because you don't love him.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
And you said in the letter you're addicted to the
thrill of an affair and all of that, and your
husband doesn't excite you anymore?

Speaker 2 (03:48):
What are you holding on for?

Speaker 1 (03:49):
I just think you should go ahead, put each other
out of your misery. That way you can cheat freely,
and maybe your husband can be happy with someone else,
because it's certainly not you.

Speaker 4 (03:59):
Steve, again, we're at one of these letters. The subject
is one husband, three men. We're at this letter where
I really and I could tell by Shirley's response, and
I'm just gonna speak.

Speaker 3 (04:14):
Freely for Shirley. We really don't give up. We don't
about you. Your problem, this letter the outcome.

Speaker 4 (04:29):
What you want us to tell Like Shirley said, what
do you want us to tell you?

Speaker 3 (04:33):
What you're just so full of?

Speaker 4 (04:36):
You've been married twelve years, you've cheated on your husband
the past five already. Don't nobody like you? That's listening
to the show right now. So let's just be clear
about that. My husband is a bit older than I am,
and he can't always satisfy me like he used to,
So I got addicted to stepping.

Speaker 3 (04:55):
Out on him.

Speaker 4 (04:56):
This women sitting up here going trick sit show behind
down somewhere. But oh no, the thrill of the fast
what excited me at first, But then I realized my
husband no longer cared. It became a part of my lifestyle.
I just turned forty five, and you think I'm going

(05:18):
through a mid life crisis because one man isn't enough
and I like him young. I'm not sleeping around though,
I have two consistent men on the side that I
have sex with.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
How could she even put that?

Speaker 3 (05:33):
She didn't even read her whole letter up.

Speaker 4 (05:34):
Yeah, Shirley said when she responded to this, How could
you even put this in the same sentence. I have
two men, consistent men on the side that I have
sex with.

Speaker 3 (05:54):
I'm not sleeping around. Well, I'm so confused now.

Speaker 4 (06:00):
Because see, it's gonna be hard for us to help
you because you don't you don't think there's a problem.

Speaker 3 (06:11):
You just said you're not sleeping around, but you have
three men, and you having.

Speaker 4 (06:17):
Consistent sex with two of them, and if your husband
could perform, that would be three.

Speaker 3 (06:24):
But you say you're not sleeping around, Well, what is
you doing? What is this?

Speaker 4 (06:33):
What's happening? You know, y'all have redefined everything.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
Hold on, hold on, We'll have part two of Steve's
responds coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's strawberry letter, subject one husband, three men.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
hardy morning shows.

Speaker 5 (07:00):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's beautiful strawberry
letter and finish up with your response the subject my husband,
one husband, three men.

Speaker 4 (07:11):
Don't nobody give it about this lady in this letter
she been married twelve years, been cheating on her husband
for five of the years because he's older than her
and he can't satisfy her like he used to. At
the end of the letter, she says is that he
has he lied about having ed erechtyle dysfunction, So you
got addicted to stepping out on him. The thrill of

(07:33):
the affairs what excited you, and you made it a
part of your lifestyle.

Speaker 3 (07:37):
When you find out your husband didn't care.

Speaker 4 (07:40):
I turned forty five, and I think I'm going through
midlife crisis because one man isn't enough.

Speaker 3 (07:45):
And I like him young. I'm not sleeping around.

Speaker 4 (07:48):
Though, I'd have two consistent men on the side that
I have sex with.

Speaker 3 (07:52):
But you're not sleeping around? What is this?

Speaker 4 (07:56):
What is this?

Speaker 3 (07:59):
You know?

Speaker 4 (07:59):
I'm sick because y'all knew people always redefining something.

Speaker 3 (08:04):
What y'all doing? Now?

Speaker 4 (08:07):
You got a husband, you got two consistent me in,
one thirty five, thirty nine, the other one twenty nine,
and you had consistent secretary, but you're not sleeping around?

Speaker 3 (08:18):
Is this Is this called and entanglement? Is that what
this is? I'm trying to understand.

Speaker 4 (08:28):
What it is because y'all keep redefining stuff that's been
the same for a long time. Y'all stupid, and I'm
sick of this stupid letter. I don't want any parts
of an older man anymore. So one of my side
men is thirty five and the other one is twenty nine,
and he's my half stylist. The thirty five year old

(08:50):
just got married and his wife is bipolar and won't
take her medicine, so he wasn't getting any sex at home. Well,
what he's just married for. She ain't just become vi polar?
So now what he married for? And now he's telling
you she won't take a mad so they ain't having sex?

Speaker 5 (09:06):
What?

Speaker 3 (09:07):
And they just got married? Lady?

Speaker 4 (09:09):
Are you kidding me? You gotta be stupid? So now
and then, the twenty nine year old is my baby,
and he is very special because I've taught him a lot.
I taught him how to have saved money, decorate his place,
and how to properly make love to a grown woman.
He's the one for falling for me, and I'm very

(09:30):
fond of him. But if I got divorced, he wouldn't
be my first choice. The thirty five year old would
all right, let me, let me, let me walk this
back for you, trying to make some sense out of this.

Speaker 3 (09:42):
You're old, you forty five. Don't need one of the men,
won't you.

Speaker 4 (09:47):
The twenty nine year old is falling for you because
you can do some things and teach him some things.
As soon as he get good at how to make
love and take care of an older woman. And once
he gets his house decorated, and he gonna go get
him a young chick to put in there. And it
ain't finna be you the thirty five year old, not
Finn leave his bipolar his wife because she ain't bipolar.

(10:12):
They just gotten married and they having sex, unlike you think,
ain't neither one of them won't shoot and don't you
know that both of them know you married? So now,
I've never met a guy that took a married woman
that he was the side piece of. I haven't met

(10:34):
him yet and made her his wife. I haven't met him.
I'm sure they're out there and there are some stories.
But Tommy, have you met one of your boys that's
done this one yet?

Speaker 3 (10:48):
Junior? You know any of your partners to pull this off? Sir,
I got a lot.

Speaker 4 (10:53):
Of homies, man, I'm sixty five. I know a lot
of dudes. Man, I don't know no dude that donet
done this though.

Speaker 3 (11:00):
I don't know who you think you are, but ain't.
I don't know no dude to pull this move off.

Speaker 4 (11:08):
So I thought I would shake things up and tell
my husband I'm not happy and we might need to
get a divorced. He said, he's no fool and can
tell you that you're getting sex x tos. So he's
just like for you to be respectful if I'm gonna
do it and not let anybody know what's going on.
That made me suspect, And now I think he might
be messing around on me. And if he is, so,

(11:29):
what you got two other men that you're consistently having
sex with that you say you're not sleeping around. So
I don't even understand what the suspicion is about. I've
asked him a million times if he's cheating, and he
had a smirk on his face and said no, now here.

(11:49):
How stupid you are, which makes the letter super stupid.
What if he lied about having ed ed has a mistress?
Should I confess to see if he will?

Speaker 5 (12:03):
You?

Speaker 3 (12:04):
Stupid? You so stupid lady.

Speaker 4 (12:10):
A lot of stupid stuff in this letter, but it
ain't finna be that one though.

Speaker 3 (12:13):
I can tell you that right now.

Speaker 4 (12:15):
Ain't no way he's fit to confess a met to
something that he's not even been busted or accused of.

Speaker 2 (12:26):
Stop now, that's stupid, girls.

Speaker 3 (12:30):
Stop.

Speaker 5 (12:31):
Thanks.

Speaker 1 (12:31):
Steve. Hit us up on Instagram at Steve Harvey Fm
to comment on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.

Speaker 4 (12:40):
This is Steve Harbin Martin show Man. I mean we've
known each other long enough. Man, We've we've been around
each other with children's successes, graduations, acceptance in the college,
marriages where he is being born, graduated.

Speaker 3 (13:00):
Wait, Sureley, what did you say divorce O divorces? Oh yeah, yeah,
yeah yeah, don't leave that out.

Speaker 4 (13:11):
Yeah yeah, me and you know who leading that group
right there, only saying.

Speaker 3 (13:18):
Who it is by one. Well, I'm gonna lead you.
What you ain't finna do is I'll do me.

Speaker 2 (13:26):
You can have that a divorce.

Speaker 4 (13:30):
You ain't getting no divorce. I don't get going you.
Oh oh, you're gonna get somebody new. You finna geinst
somebody new I am.

Speaker 1 (13:40):
Yeah, you're not gonna be out done.

Speaker 2 (13:45):
What you're not gonna

Speaker 3 (13:46):
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