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Thank you nephew. Subject? Did he move out so he
can cheat?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Did?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Stephen Shirley? My boyfriend and I have been dating for
two years and we moved in together in December of
last year. Well, he moved into my hope. Shortly after
he moved in, he asked me to marry him, but
he didn't have the ring yet. He said he could
not afford a ring, but he'd get it by Valentine's Day.
He gave me the ring of Valentine's Day with some
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roses from the grocery store. I was thrilled, but I
wish he was more romantic. I haven't even told anyone
I'm engaged, and here's why. Three nights after he gave
me the ring, he didn't come home until four a m.
I saw him makeup on his collar, excuse me, and
he smelled like he'd been intimate with another woman. He
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started crying and admitted that he cheated. I asked him
to go sleep in the other bedroom. Uh huh, yeah,
I'll read it again. He started crying and admitted that
he cheated. I asked him to go sleep in the
other bedroom, and that's where he slept. Since that night,
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I haven't talked to him because I'm trying to figure
out how to process everything. And yesterday he said that
he couldn't take the silent treatment, so he's going to
live with his brother while we figured things out. I
told him, if he leaves this house, we might as
well break up because it feels like he's asking for
a pass to go cheat on me some more. He
said he was going to get counseling to figure out
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what made him cheat in the first place. I told
him he shouldn't move out and I'd go to counseling
with him. He told me that he loved that idea,
but he lied. Today when I got home, his suitcases
were sitting by the door. He got home from work
early and he was surprised to see me. He said,
he still wants to marry me, but we need space
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to figure things out. Did he move out so he
can cheat on me if I stay with him? Am
I letting him run over me? Well? I don't think
that he's moving out so he can cheat. He cheated
while he was living with you. He was cheating right
there when you guys were together. He just sounds like
he wants to go at this point, he wants to
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move out. Didn't you say his bags were packed when
you came home and after he cheated he came home
with makeup on his collar, smelling like another woman that
he had been intimate with her. And yes, he had
meet it, admitted that he cheated, But it doesn't take
away from the fact that he's still cheated. So let
him go. I mean, what are you holding on to
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this man for when he clearly doesn't want to be there.
His bags were packed. You've been with him for two
years and this is how he treats you. He gave
you a ring, but what does it mean. He's not
ready for commitment. He's not ready for marriage, and neither
are you. The silent treatment isn't working, and you no
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longer trust him. You don't trust him. You guys can't
even respect each other under the same roof, So I say,
don't try to stop him. Let him go ahead and leave.
You both need to figure some things out as single people.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
I'm with you, Shirley. There are so many conflicting things
in this letter. I don't even know where to start.
You dated for two years, you moved in together last year.
Then you say, well, he moved into my home, and
then shortly after he moved in, he asked you to
marry him, but he ain't have a ring yet. He
said he couldn't afford a ring, but he get it
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by Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
You to understand something.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
All of these are moves that we used to delay delay,
delay delay, These are delay taxis. Moved in, said he
wanted to marry you, but I ain't got the money
for a ring yet. I get it Valentine's Day, but
he asked you could he marry you. This was to
keep you at base been two years, right, said he
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couldn't afford a ring, but he get it by Valentine's Day.
He gave you the ring on Valentine's Day with some
roses from the grocery store.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I was thrilled, but I wished it was more romantic.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
It wasn't gonna be any more romantic because he didn't
put a lot of thought into this, because he don't
really mean it. He's just doing this to buy time.
I haven't even told anybody I'm gage. And here's why.
Three nights after he gave you the ring, he didn't
come home to four am. I saw makeup on his
calling and he smelled like he been intimate with another woman.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Boy, boy, what is wrong with y'all?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Y'all have got to start traveling with a loaf or
white bread. There is no reason to eat. Come in
the house with makeup on your collar. Oh, if you
buy a loaf of white bread and take the bread
and pinch it in your hands and rub several slices
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wherever the makeup is, it takes makeup off of white shirts.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Lord, have mercy, Please learn these things if you're.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Gonna be out here like this, y'all out here cheating
and don't know nothing.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Who knew white bread would do it.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
It's just sad what has happened to us over the years.
Y'all just out here getting busted. Oh jenner O stupid.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Reason could take care of okay?
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Yeah, or just come in there, come in the house
with no shirt or home?
Speaker 1 (05:59):
What? What? Where's your shirt? What happened to us?
Speaker 3 (06:02):
I was crossing the street and a bus came by
and tow it off. We're gonna do anything, but had
his makeup in this home and smell.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
On me at four am.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, we're gonna do so.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
But you in your car? Why was you driving the bus?
Why was you catching a bus? I ain't sounds catching
the bus?
Speaker 2 (06:20):
I said.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
I was crossing the street. A bus came by and
tore my whole shirt off.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Wow you're okay? Yeah, praise God.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Hang on.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
He started crying and admitted that he cheated. What we'll have.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Part two of Steve's response coming up the twenty three
minutes herold did he move out so he can cheat
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All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is did he move out so he can cheat?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
There's gotta be real young people here. They dated for
two years, finally moved in. After he moved in, he
asked you to marry him, but he said he couldn't
afford a ring.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Yet these are stall tactics.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
He said he couldn't afford a ring, but he gets
you on about Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Valentine's came.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
He gave you the ring, but he gave you some
stowball flowers from the grocery store. You was hoping it
had been a little bit more romantic. Can't be, because
he was you know, he ain't really put no thought
into it, because he just ain't he gonna really mean this.
You ain't told nobody was engaged. Because three nights after that,
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after he gave you the ring. He ain't come home
the four in the morning. I saw makeup on his
call and he smelled like he had been enemy with
another woman. Oh, these boys right here, I've told you,
buy a loaf of white bread, keep it in your car.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
That way.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
When you get makeup on your collar your shirt, grab
a few peaches, pinch him in your hand and rub
it ferociously back and forth. It takes all makeup off
the thing that y'all don't know no more. It's destroying
the game be cause you gotta get that makeup.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Out of there and take it right out.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Uh huh.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Now here's I saw the makeup on his collar, and
he smell like he been intimate another woman.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
He started crying and admit it that he cheated.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
What you started crying and admitting just cause you smell
like a woman and had some makeup on your collar.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
You couldn't explain that.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
What should have said?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
A woman fell out in the street. You saw her.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
You dove on her because you thought a bus was
about to run her over.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
That's why you were so close.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
To her and you and you was trying to save
her life with CPR. And that's how you got that
lipstick on your shirt?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Anything but start crying and admit Mandam.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
If you started crying and say you saved a woman's life,
this story would be so much better. So you asked
him go sleep in the other room, and he's been there.
You ain't talk to him because I'm trying.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
To figure out how to process everything.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
On yesterday, he said he couldn't take the side and treatment,
so he gonna go live with his brother while we
figured things out. I told him, if he leaves this house,
we might as well break up because it feels like
he's asking for a pass to go cheat on me
some more. He said he was going to counseling to
figure out what made him cheat in the first place.
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What you're gonna go to counsel to see what made
you cheat in the first place. I can save you
at least two hundred and fifty dollars an hour.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
With the loaf of bread alone, that.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
We wouldn't even be in this What is you admitting
stuff for? We are here from an admission. This is
a confession. You're on forty eight dollars sat in that
room and said, yeah, I did it. Why you ain't
seen video? You ain't got no footprints. There's no forensic
evidence nothing. What had happened to you was just smelling.
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This makeup on.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Your shirt was all circumstantial evidence.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
It comes from you laying on top of this woman
trying to save her life in the middle of the street.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Wow, his girlfriend is supposed to believe that.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah, no no no no no no, it doesn't matter
if she believes it or not.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
We're not fitting admit to that other thing. Just ride
with the line. You call me a lie. I've heard
nothing downtown. We nothing to do with I've never anyway U.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
She told me he told her move out, and he said,
if you move out, it'll be like you cheating on me.
He said he'd go counseling, and you said, I'll go
with you. He told me he loved that idea, but
he lied.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Today.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
When I got home, his suitcases was sitting by the door.
He got home from work early and he was surprised
to see me. He was trying to get out. He said,
he still wants to marry me, but we need space
to figure it out. Did he move out so he
could cheat on me? If I stay with him? Am
I letting him run?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Over me.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Well, you don't need said this is crazy because you
don't have to figure out if he's cheating. He came
in there and told you that. So now you're staying
now because of what. I don't even y'all don't have
no kids. Man, lady, why don't you take this opportunity
to write off these two years?
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Is he worth it to you? Wow?
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Because it looks like he trying to fix this now,
all this crying and that midnick though, God, that is
just this.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
I did it. I did it. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
I knew you wouldn't be happy about it.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
It's just the worst things. Let that be a listen everybody, listener.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
So, yeah, what have we learned? Carry a loaf of
bread with you at all times.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
If you're a man, got to herry.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
If you want to maintain your relationship, you have got
to start line. Line.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
That's the key to staying. Whistle and white bread.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Yeah, we ain't gonna do nothing, all right, All right?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
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