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The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Wednesday, February 11th, 2026. Subject: "He Gets To See The World, But We Don't"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time now for my Strawberry Letter for today, and
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you nephew. Subject he gets to see the world,
but we don't. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married for
six years. When we got married, we already had a
twelve year old, and now we have a six year old.
When my husband and I argue, he loves to say
that he was pressured into getting married. I have let
it slide because I'm not letting him off the hook.

(00:48):
And he will forever take care of me and our
children because I didn't have them by myself. I did
insist that he married me when I got pregnant with
our second child. I do not care if it was
at courthouse or not. I want my children to live
in a house with married parents, but they're still not
as privileged as their friends are. See, my husband is

(01:10):
a big wig at his job, and he goes on
fabulous work trips. He's been to Africa, to Singapore, France,
and Brazil, and he won't allow me or the children
to go with him. He loves to brag about the
sweets that he stays in and sends the children pictures
of all the places he visits. When they ask him
if they can go with him, he says he's busy

(01:32):
the entire time and won't have time to go sightseeing
or spend any time with us on the trip. All
of my children's friends go on summer vacations, trips for
spring break, and they're out of town during the holidays.
But never mind the children. What about me, the wife?
I have seen his coworkers' wives on trips with them,

(01:53):
at fancy dinners and on cruises. I feel like I'm
raising the children and not providing them any cultural outlet.
He gets to see the world, but we don't. He
resents me for having children. He resents me for having
the kids, That's plain and clear. He provides the money
for the family and that's all. Is it worth it
to stay with a self centered man. Well, yes, you

(02:16):
are right about that. He's very selfish, self self absorbed.
And if his coworkers are bringing their families on work
trips and he's not, it's pretty clear that he just
doesn't want you, guys to come. You say he's a
big wig down at the job. Well, what is the
point in having those kinds of perks and being a
big wig if you can't take your family and do

(02:38):
some of those things. Bring your wife and kids. You
want the kids to see their dad in action, to
learn from his example, not throwing it up in their
faces like he does with the pictures and all of that.
I think your husband is immature. And to answer your
question about is it worth it to stay with a
self centered man? Only you can answer that because you're

(03:00):
in it and you're writing us, which means you're unhappy.
But the facts are as you described him. He resents
you for having the kids in the first place. He
says you pressured him into getting married. You guys, never
go on any family trips vacations. He doesn't take you
his wife anywhere, you said, And other than providing the

(03:21):
money for the family, he's not a very involved parent.
You and your husband need some therapy if you want
to save this marriage. But the problem is he probably
won't go to therapy because he'll be on a trip somewhere.

Speaker 3 (03:32):
You know, it worked there, Steve, very good response, really
absolutely excellent. I have a lot of problems with this letter,
but let's just dissect it this way.

Speaker 2 (03:45):
You've been married for six years.

Speaker 3 (03:47):
When you got married, you all already had a twelve
year old, and now you have a six year old.

Speaker 2 (03:54):
So you did.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
Get married when you found out you were pregnant a
second term.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
And then when.

Speaker 3 (04:01):
You all argue, you say, he loves to throw it
up in your face that he was forced to marry
you and pressured you, and you know, and you've let
it slide because you're not gonna let him off the
hook and he will ever take care of you and
the children because you didn't have them by yourself. Now,
you insisted that this guy marry you after you got

(04:26):
pregnant with your second child. Now, I don't know what
you did to insist that he marry you, but as
you should. You probably could have did this same move
twelve years ago too, but you didn't. That's whatever, That's
just life. That's how it goes sometime. Ain't nobody perfect.

(04:49):
You ain't gotta worry about that. You didn't care if
it was at the courthouse or not. You wanted the
kids to grow up in the house with married parents.

Speaker 2 (05:00):
But then you say they're not as privileged as his.

Speaker 3 (05:02):
Other friends because your husband is a big shot down
at the job and he go on trips all over
the world Singapore, Africa, everything, France, Brazil, and he won't
take you and the kids. But you have seen pictures
of him at fancy dinners and stuff, and the other
wives is there. Okay, I've summed up a lot. But

(05:26):
he don't take you nowhere. He don't take the kids nowhere.
You've seen pictures of other wives on these trips because
you know what you're gonna wear. Singapore, Africa, Brazil. I
want to go see some of them places. Most husbands
will take their wives on some of the trips. It

(05:48):
just stands to reason you're bigger now. You say that
he resents you from having kids. Okay, why I don't
understand that part. He resents you from having the kids.
But yet and still, y'all do any things that can
produce a kid. The thing about this letter, y'all is

(06:08):
Shirley pointed it out. You want to ask the question
that you asked at the bottom of the letter, is
it worth it to stay with a self centered man?

Speaker 2 (06:19):
And Shirley's right.

Speaker 3 (06:20):
Only you can answer that because you got married because
you didn't want the kids growing up in the house
without married parents. You got that accomplished, and now you
want to go to some of the places, but he
won't take you. I don't know how you get a
man to won't you. See that's the problem. I don't

(06:41):
know how to tell you to make your husband want you.

Speaker 1 (06:48):
All right, hang on, hang on, see we'll have part
two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes
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come on, Steve, let's recap today Strawberry letter. The subject
is he gets to see the world, But we don't
what I've.

Speaker 3 (07:48):
Decided to do with this letter to this woman who's
married to this man who's a big shot on his job,
and he travels a lot, goes to a lot of
exotic countries, seen some amazing places, and they have two children,
one twelve and one six. She forced him to marry
him while she was pregnant with the second child, so

(08:09):
they've been married six years. She's upset because when he
goes on these trips, he never takes her are the kids,
But she has seen pictures of some of these fancy
dinners they go to and the wives are there, and
he sends pictures of these incredible sweets that he's staying
in and the kids, his own kids are asking him

(08:31):
can he go Can they go with him sometime?

Speaker 2 (08:35):
And because all the other friends that they got, they.

Speaker 3 (08:38):
Go on summer vacation's trips on spring breaks and they're
out of town during the holidays. But she say, but
never mind the children, what about me, the wife. I've
seen his coworkers' wives on trips with them, at fancy
dinners and on cruisers, and I feel like I'm raising
the children and not providing them any cultural outlet. You're

(08:58):
not providing them any culture. I don't think that's what
it is. I think he want to go and he
don't want you to go. He gets to see the world,
but we don't. He resents me for having the kids.
That statement throws me a little bit. He resents you
for having the kids. Y'all got two kids. He was
a willing participant in all of the makings of those children.

(09:21):
What you've got to know from health class in elementary
school that if you get together with a woman and
you do a certain thing, that a certain thing can happen.

Speaker 2 (09:33):
That's just you know.

Speaker 3 (09:35):
They showed a little sperm going up the canal and
the egg running and all this. He and millions of
sperms fighting their way through one of the more fascinating
days of school I ever went to. But now you
got these kids, and he provides the money for the family,
and that's all is it worth it to stay with self?

Speaker 2 (09:53):
Center back? All right?

Speaker 3 (09:55):
So lady, here's a deal. What I want to do
is show you how you're being rejected. I want you all.
You are the wife, I'm the husband, come up with
some famous places or things to go see and I
will tell you the response he's given her where she

(10:15):
want to go and their kids.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
So, wow, let's let's go see. Let's go see the
ruins in Italy. You know that's something to see the ruins. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
the ruins.

Speaker 3 (10:30):
Uh, you're talking about the Roman Coliseum and all all
of that. Girl, So you gonna subject our children, yes,
to such a traumatic time in history. You mean to
tell me you want us to go over there and
explain to our children why these buildings are so ragged
and told, girl, we're not gonna put them kids through that.

Speaker 1 (10:54):
Wow, go ahead, Carla. I've always wanted to go see
the Eiffel Tower. What a beautiful landmark. I want to
go to Paris.

Speaker 3 (11:05):
In Paris, you've been watching the news you have with
that Boycotton and protested and everything in Paris.

Speaker 2 (11:13):
Yeah, they piled up.

Speaker 3 (11:14):
What it's just it's it's it's just as bad as America.

Speaker 1 (11:19):
You're talking about crescant Champagne. Paris, they protested, girl.

Speaker 2 (11:26):
I mean you it ain't you propab.

Speaker 3 (11:28):
You can't even walk down the streets over here in
Pasis and it's crowding.

Speaker 2 (11:32):
We be the lost one of them kids. And you're
gonna lose your mind if we lose one of these kids.

Speaker 3 (11:38):
Come on, kids wander off getting lost in Paris and
we can't get no helc oat.

Speaker 2 (11:43):
We all up here talking about Cat's good. Say Cat's good, says.
They don't even know what we're saying.

Speaker 3 (11:51):
Girl.

Speaker 1 (11:53):
Wow, let's let's just okay. I mentioned Italy earlier. Let's
go to Milan. Let's go see the Olympics.

Speaker 2 (11:59):
They're going to the Olympics. Yeah, ain't no rooms over
here available? Took up outs. You can't come to Milan.

Speaker 3 (12:08):
Now, you waited too late for that trip right there?

Speaker 2 (12:11):
Did that way too late? Right now?

Speaker 1 (12:15):
All right? Okay, what about this. Let's go to Japan. Oh?
I always wanted to go to Japan. I've heard it's
so beautiful, so clean, the food?

Speaker 2 (12:28):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (12:29):
Please, can we go to Japan? Japanese food?

Speaker 3 (12:33):
Yess allergicush?

Speaker 1 (12:40):
I think they're here, they're allergic to fish and rice.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
What that's all they got over there? They ain't got
any fishing.

Speaker 1 (12:49):
Oh honey, I know you've been to the continent of Africa.
I know you have. Okay, let's go back, Let's let's
go visit.

Speaker 3 (12:58):
Oh so I see right now, you know love kids
like I do. Now you want to sacrifice our children
on the savard to some wild and animal.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
Man.

Speaker 3 (13:09):
You be walking over there and now wonder manimal jump
on them kids. Now them kids is gone. I would
never put my family in a dangerous situation like that
out on the saviard with wild animals and everything.

Speaker 2 (13:20):
Girl, by where else you.

Speaker 3 (13:22):
Want to go?

Speaker 1 (13:22):
Hear the Amazon?

Speaker 3 (13:24):
The Amazon and get lost in all them bushes, hell
and nail one of them ople condo snakes hold of you.

Speaker 2 (13:36):
I'm not finished. Take my kids over here.

Speaker 3 (13:38):
All them paranas eating them babies were trying to walk
across the.

Speaker 1 (13:41):
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Speaker 1 (13:53):
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