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Subjects He treats my mother like a dog. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm a twenty eight year old woman and I recently
got engaged to a man who's almost perfect. We're on
the come up and have promising careers, and our life
plans are laid out. We want the same things. But
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there's one issue. He hates my mother. I admit she
was a little tough on him when they first met,
but she only had my best interests at heart.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
She asked him a lot about his.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Background and ambitions, and he took it as criticism. She
wanted to make sure he was responsible and mature, but
instead he got offended and thought she was questioning his
abilities as a man. He nicknamed her the judge and
said he'll never be worthy of her approval.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Since we got engaged, it's gotten worse.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
If I talked to her on the phone, he'll ask
how the fat.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Witch is doing. If I say I'm.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Going out with her, he'll say, I better not bring
her bitter butt back to the house with me.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
He said.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Ass One time she asked me how much my fiance
was making at his new job, and his stupid behind
said to tell that nosey b to mind her own business.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Yeah, he called her the B word.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Needless to say, I hung up the phone before she
could respond. He is way too comfortable disrespecting my mother,
and I don't think she's done anything to make him
that evil to her.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
I've asked him to stop.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
But he said he's marrying me, not my family, and
she started it by looking down on him. I don't
think she treated him that badly, and I think he's
being overly sensitive. My mother has told my aunt and
my brother about how my fiance treats her, and now
they're all in my business and questioning my relationship. Mostly
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everything else about him is perfect, but I hate the
way he treats.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
My Mother's my mother to blame at all?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
How do I fix their relationship before our wedding? Wedding? Wedding,
you're still considering marrying him? Why he's not worthy of
anything like that? You don't need to marry this guy.
This guy disrespects your mother. What are you talking about?
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Really? I mean, you're twenty eight.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
You said your mother only had his best interests at heart,
your best interests at heart. But he took it as criticism.
That's on him, not your mother. That's what parents do
before you get married. They meet your intended person. They
talk to them, they get to know him. They want
to see where his head is. You know, is he
good enough? Is he worthy enough to be marrying their child?
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That's what parents do. Okay, he calls her to judge,
he's calling her to be word. What what you let
him call your mother? The B word?
Speaker 3 (03:15):
You're right, he is.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Way too comfortable disrespecting your mother and you shouldn't allow this.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
You shouldn't be marrying this guy.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Stop this wedding, stop all of this, give him his
ring back. You don't, because guess what, it's not going
to get any better. It's not going to change, it's
only going to get worse. If you think about or
consider marrying this guy. You need to stop this now.
I'm sure your brother has the right idea because he's
going to let him know. That's his mother too. You know.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, you hate the way he treats your mother because.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
You should, but you still he treats your mother one way,
and you still don't. Please don't marry this man. No,
you ask is your mother to blame it all?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
For what?
Speaker 1 (03:58):
For being a mother, for looking out for her daughter's
best interests. No, your mother is not to blame. You
can't fix their relationship before the wedding because it's ruined
because he doesn't respect your mother. Because he called your
mother a b There's nothing to fix. He called her
a fat witch. There's nothing to fix here. Come on, now,
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come on, come on, come on, don't let this go
down like this. Don't let this man disrespect and talk
to your talk about your mother like this, Steve.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
Please, sister, at twenty eight years old, I'm gonna have
to tell you some things. Now, you're twenty eight years old.
You got engaged to a man. You say it's almost perfect.
Nobody is, and nobody ain't almost perfect either, ain't nobody
even close. But you think you got something perfect, but
you got a letter full of stuff that ain't perfect.
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See you looking at the wrong You look at a
lot of superficial stuff. Y'all want the same things. Y'all
got some promising careers. But there's one issue. He hates
your mother, one of the people that you love.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Deal.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
He manages to hate her all because, like you say,
you'll admit, she was a little tough on him when
they first met. Charlie had your best interests at heart,
Like Charlie said, that's what parents do. She asked him
a lot about his background and ambitious, and he took
it as criticism.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
She wanted to make sure he was responsible and mature.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Okay, well we'll get to that in a second, because
that's gonna come back to play. But instead he got
offended and thought she was questioning his abilities as a man.
He nicknamed her to judge and said he'll never be
worthy of her approval.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
And since we've gotten engaged, just gotten worse.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
Now, excuse me, you need to tell me that all
this hate came from a simple line of questions.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
She didn't go out there and bust the windows in
his car.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
She ain't keyed up the car, she broke his glass
asses she ain't tickets cell phone and went through it.
She had a line of questioning about his intent with
his daughter, just to see if maybe if the daughter
was overlooking something.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
So in this line of questioning, he hates her.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
I was talking to you on the phone, and he'd
asked how that fat witch is doing. I say, I'm
going out with He said, you better not bring that
bit back to this house with me. One time he
asked me, She asked me how much her fiance was
making at his new job. His stupid behind said to
hell with that nosy b I and to mind her
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own business.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Are you serious?
Speaker 3 (06:40):
All right?
Speaker 1 (06:40):
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All right, come on, Steve, Let's recap today. Strawberry letter
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subject he treats my mother like a dog.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
Twenty eight year woman is engaged to this guy, she said,
is almost perfect, except he has one problem.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
He hates his mother. Her mother.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Now, she says, she'd admitted she was tough on the
man when he came over, but she only had my
best interest.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
At Harden.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
She asked him a lot about his background ambitions, and
he took it as criticism. She wanted to be sure
he was responsible and mature. Let's keep that incause I'm
gonna show you something. But instead he got offended and
thought she was questioning his abilities as a man. Nicknamed her.
The judge said it never be worth of her approval. Okay,
now he's mad over a line of questioning, a line of.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Questions, and he's that mad.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Now you just said your mother was trying to make
sure he was responsible and mature. Well, a line of
questioning has him acting this way. This is a line
of questioning. I'm gonna show you again in the letter.
Since you've gotten engaged, it's gotten works. If I talked
to her on the phone, he'll ask how that fat
witch is doing.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
That's mature, that's mature.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
The woman ain't even talking about him.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
She couldn't say that to me.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
She all types of fat witches. Yeah, okay. If I'd
say I'm going out with her, he'll say, don't bring
that bit back to the house with you. One time
she asked me how much my fiance was making at
his job.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
His stupid behind.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
I said, tell that nosy b I to mind her
own business. God, needless to say, I hung up the phone, folks,
she could respond, Wait a minute, that was your reaction. Yeah,
wait a minute. Needless to say, you hung up the phone.
Before she could respond, Wow, that was your reaction. I'm
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gonna tell you right now, you're not calling my mama,
b I TC. You know, I don't care who you are.
I'm sorry. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I
don't know. No women gonna let you do that, Gonna
let you do that either and see it's disrespectful, it's immature,
and it shows a nonsense of responsibility. Now he's way
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too comfortable disrespecting my mother. But you let me see
it ain't no repercussions. You disrespect your my mama. Here
his ring back. But you're so caught up in the career.
And y'all got the same lights and a promising fear
you letting this man get away with murder. I got
news for you, Yobama ain't fitna only be the only
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b I T C H.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
I got cused for you.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
This is after a line of questioning what you gonna
be when y'all hit a couple of hard rocks in
the road, Cause you're gonna hit him. What are you
going to be when he when you start stinging him right?
Because you gonna stinging just like she stung it with
a simple line of questions. What about when you start
singing stinging with some accusations. Oh, your wife gonna accuse
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you of something. It ain't always cheap. She gonna accuse
you a lion, accuse you are looking at somebody. She
gonna accuse you of being somewhere you said you wasn't
she gonna accuse you or not loving her like you
used to. She gonna accuse you of not paying her
proper attention. She gonna accuse your wife, gonna accuse you
of something. So now what you finna be when he
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get the callings? When when when you get to accuse him?
You finn to be a being a whole lot more,
little girl, I'm telling you it don't stop at the mama.
So I don't think she treated him that badly, and
I think he's being over sensitive. My mother was told,
has told my aunt and my older brother about how
my feel treats her, and now they all up in
my bus this question in my relationship, yep, my older brother.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
My sisters.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
What if it married to somebody and somebody told them too,
brothers of minds heavy in turn that one of them
called in laws Ville or b I T what's that?
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Why listen to me.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
I'm telling you what's happening with your brother? Y'all take
it too much in y'all house. Y'all must be bullsing
or something. Most of everything about him is perfect. What well,
let me show you a couple of dimes. But I
hate the way he treats my mother is my mother
to blame it all? How do I fix that relationship?
You keep talking about getting married? Are you stupid?
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Listen to me.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
Let me tell you something. He's irresponsible and immature. Let
me show them to you. He should care about what
you care about.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
He should love the things that you love. Truth. His
job is to protect your heart.
Speaker 4 (12:15):
It ain't this job to make you happy, but it's
his job to protect your heart. A man takes a
wife to protect a heart, provide, profess protect now, I
don't he don't Let me tell you something. He don't
just not respect her. He don't respect you at all.
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He's calling your mother a b I T what what's
are you? Are you not understanding this? That disrespect? This
disrespect is just not aimed at your mother. It's aimed
directly at you when you go out with or don't
bring this old blankety blank back to this house when
she want to know how much.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
She may tell that nosey b I tch to mind
her business? Are you nuts? Are you nuts?
Speaker 4 (13:04):
I'm surprised your brother ain't beat his Yes, I promise
you my brothers is no way they let they live down.
It ain't no way, little girl, I don't know what
you're doing. I don't know how you keep calling this
man perfect but he not. But I am forewarning you
this disrespect that he has for his mother is gonna
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flood over in other areas. A disrespectful person is a
disrespectful person.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
It don't stay in a category.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
He spreads around and as soon as you challenge him,
you fit to be that in a whole lot more, Little.
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