May 13, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter for Tuesday, May 13th, 2025: "He's Back In Love Again"
A woman writes in because her ex-husband seems to have rekindled his interest in her...now that she has a new man.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
(00:20):
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject He's back in love again.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm married, but I'm so confused by
what my husband is doing. We've been in and out
of love for twenty six years, and when our last
child moved out, so did my husband. He said he
wanted to remain married, but he needed some space. He
(00:48):
has an apartment around the corner from our house. He
comes over to the house for holiday dinners if the
kids are here, and it's like we're one big, happy
family again. My own kids told me to change the
locks and stop talking to him, but I would rather
remain on good terms with him. Two years have passed
and he's still living around the corner, and he hasn't
mentioned what made him leave me, and I haven't asked.
(01:11):
If he felt like that was best for him at
the time, then who am I to question him. He
recently had a change in his Facebook behavior, and my
kids think it's because he saw pictures on Facebook of
me and a new guy I'm seeing. He assumed that
I was going to cook on Easter, but I told
him that I was going to be in Charleston with
(01:33):
a friend. He seemed hurt that the family would not
be together, but I wasn't changing my plans. I posted
pictures on Facebook of me and my friend having dinner
in Charleston. My husband called me, but I didn't answer
because I wanted to stay in the moment with my
new friend. Since that weekend, my husband has been coming
over almost every evening, and he even took me to
(01:55):
dinner once. Our oldest daughter said I should stop answering
her dad's called because he is back in love again,
only because he saw the pictures. She might be right.
Because he asked me to go to Aruba in July.
I'm considering it, but why would my children tell me
not to go? Is my husband back in love? Because
(02:16):
he's jealous. Well, isn't it obvious? I mean the answer
is yes. I mean he moves out, no explanation, no discussion,
no communication with you except to say that he needs space,
and he comes back for dinner when the kids are home.
That is not a marriage. It's some sort of I
don't know, relationship for convenience or something for him. Did
(02:41):
he consider you or your feelings when he just up
and moved out. No, he selfishly did exactly what he
wanted to do. He left you. He moved out, leaving
you to figure things out on your own and WiFi.
You figured it out, and now you have a booth.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
All right.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
But he wanted his cake and eat it too, because
he wanted to stay married. What is that again? This
is not a marriage. He didn't want anyone else to
have you, that's all. This is the same mess he created,
and it's backfired on him. He wasn't banking on the
fact that he could be replaced because now you have
(03:22):
a man. The kids see it, your daughter sees it.
They know their dad is wrong, and they support you.
So the ball is in your court now. I say,
get out of this crazy so called marriage and go
to Aruba or wherever you want to go with your
new man.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Steve, Now I got some different advice, very good letter.
Sure I like what you told her, but I'm gonna
go a different route with this thing around here. I'm married,
but I'm really confused about what my husband is doing.
We've been in our love for twenty six years. Is
what to let us say? When your last child moved out,
he moved out too. He got apartment round a car
(04:00):
from y'all. He said he needed some space, and he
come over to the house for holiday dinners if the
kids are here, and it's like, we want a big,
happy family. Your own kids told you to change the
locks and stop talking to him, But I would rather
remain on good terms with him. Well, now see, this
(04:21):
is a case of everybody see it, but you everybody
see this as filed except you. You're talking about I
rather remain on good turn. He left you. He wasn't
trying to remain on good time. People who remain they stay,
people who leave they go. It's all to it. Two years.
(04:44):
It's been two years and he's still living around the corner.
He ain't mentioned what made him leave me, and.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I haven't asked she said, if he felt like that's
what was best for him at the time, who am
I to question him?
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Well, let me answer that question for you, his wife,
that's who you are. If your partner decides to leave you,
who am I to question him? You the wife, the
person who took the vials with him Richard Poor's sickness
(05:24):
and health depth to her part. If he decided to
part for another reason, you should have the right to ask.
But you said, who am I to question him? That's crazy?
Where are these wives that think like this? Because I
don't have one, Because my wife can't ask me anything anytime,
(05:49):
she won't to I don't even feel like talking in here.
She come so anyway? Then she said, he's recently had
a change in his behavior, and my kids think it
is because he saw a picture on me on Facebook
with my new guy I'm seeing. He assumed I was
gonna cook for Easton, but I told him I was
going to Charlton with a friend. He seemed hurt that
(06:11):
the family wouldn't be together. I wasn't changing my plan.
I posted pictures on Facebook and my friend having dinner
at Charleston. Wait a minute, what's going on here? He
don't care. You don't care. You posting pictures on Facebook.
You and your new friend. He'd just saw the picture.
(06:33):
He'd asked you nothing about him, but he called you
while you and Charleston Girl.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Hang on, Yeah, Okay, hang on, Steve. We'll have part
two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
After the hour.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Today's Strawberry Letters subject He's back in love again. Right
after this you're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Tomorrow, ten ninth Central on BT Court is back in
session with Miss Pat Settles at your favorite prosiety comedye
and is back with more outrageous cases, more of her
signature clapbacks, and more jaw dropping laughs with celebrity jests
jurors Carlos Miller, Tamar Praxton, d Ray Davis, Ray j
and Moore. No matter who stands before Miss Pat, no
(07:19):
matter what she decides, laughed up rules, and you get
to wear Miss Pat Settles. It is all new. Tomorrow,
ten ninth Central on VE ET.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter.
The subject is He's back in love again.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
It's a woman been in the relationship in and I
love with her husband for twenty six years. After the
youngest kid moved out the house, the husband moved out
to got apartment around the corner. He been gone for
two years. He only come over for holiday dinners when
all the kids is over there, and then they act
like one big family. Ain't that just wonderful? And then
(07:58):
the kids told her she change your lock. She said no,
she would better remain or she would rather remain on
good terms with him. And then she said, if that's
what he felt like doing at the time, who am
I to question you? Well, you his wife, and that
gives you a lot of rights equal and really more
(08:23):
so the kids, ha told you to change your lock.
And then you say, all of a sudden, he's changed
his attitude recently because he saw some pictures of you
and your new guy on Facebook. So you don't care
no more either, Oh okay, so now you don't care.
He assumed that I'm going to cook for Easter, but
I told him I was gonna be in Charleston with
(08:44):
a friend. He seemed hurt that the family wouldn't be together,
but I wasn't changing my plans. I posted pictures on
Facebook of me and my friend having dinner in Charleston.
That's why you had Joe Easter. You better go, girl.
I ain't mad at you.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
My husband call.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Me, but I didn't answer because I didn't want. I
wanted to stay in the moment with my new friend.
Since that weekend, my husband that's been coming over almost
every evening. He even took me to dinner one time.
Our oldest daughter said I should stop answering her that
he called because he's back in love again, back in
love getting mixed in mo shus. We ain't got time
(09:23):
for that right now. Now here's the one that I
want you to be careful of. She might be right,
because he asked me to go to a ruber in July.
I'm considering it. But why would my children tell me
not to go? You want me tell you why they do?
I don't know if you followed the news not, But
a ruber where a lot of people don't come back.
You know how many people been there ruber huh and
(09:47):
ain't come back? Why a ruber who is known for
missing people, I mean famous. I don't see why anybody
still even want to go to a ruber. It's so
many people ain't came back from a ruber. Do y'all
can sit here, get quiet if you want to. But
these as facts. Now, I'm not laughing at nobody missing
in the ruber, But why would you go to a ruber.
(10:09):
I'd like somebody telling.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Well, yeah, move along, Well no, this.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Was this was gonna be good.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Don't do it.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I think I think it's good. I think this is safe. No,
I think this is good. If somebody told me, if
you really want a good meal, go get on a
cruise ship. Now, if you want a lot of food,
get on a cruise ship. But if you want a
really good meal, he could go somewhere on land. Now,
(10:45):
if you like buffets, cruise ship is for you now.
But let me tell you something about the cruise ship.
The sneeze guard is too high. It's too high. They
need to lower it because I'm kids be up there
sneezing and picking her food, eating off them, and you
just don't see it. And I just because she don't
(11:07):
need to go to a ruber. No, that's why you could. Mama,
don't go to a ruber. People don't come back from
a ruber. I'm considering it, But why would my children
tell me not to go? Is my husband back in
love because he's jealous. Yeah, he's back in love. He's
not back in love. He just jealous. There's a saying
that that's out there that says, the finest woman in
(11:29):
the world is your ex on the arms of another man.
So that's all this is. He ain't back in love.
He ain't back home what he been doing for two years?
Ain't Nobody asked that question in the letter. You got
a little friend down there that you've been going to
Charleston to see. You don't think he got a friend,
(11:52):
Ain't nobody? And what we need space for the only
reason a man needs more space is to go do
what men do. Now, if you ain't playing domino fishing
or playing golf and smoking cigars, what else do we
do another? You?
Speaker 1 (12:15):
You got it?
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Oh, but the lady done beat him to the punch.
She already knows she got her little friend down at
Charles and she ain't coming on. We're not having Easter
at this house this year because I'm down here. I'm
getting my wig blowed back. This was good. This is
what I'm doing. I'm down here getting my wig blowed back.
(12:38):
That's what I'm doing. And I'm not fitting to answer
your phone call because you're just gonna kill the moment
for me. So now no, I'm not gonna do it.
I think this letter has come to a conclusion. Let
me answer your question. Is he back in love or
is he jealous? He just jealous. If he was back
in love, he'd be back home. He's talking about giving
(13:01):
up his apartment. Hene came over and took you to
dinner one time, So obviously y'all still doing something. And
you consider going to a rumor, a place where people
are famous for not coming back, You need to go
to the Bahamas. People come back from all these It
is nice, and it's closer to and today's people come back.
(13:24):
Just don't get called thatmuter triangle.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
At n Carby Fm on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Don't go to Mexico City. Two places you don't need
to go to Mexico City, and a room you can't
go to Mexico.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Cit Coming up at forty six minutes, we got sports
stuck with Junior Mexicus. You're listening to the Steve Harvey
Morning Show.
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
(00:20):
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject He's back in love again.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm married, but I'm so confused by
what my husband is doing. We've been in and out
of love for twenty six years, and when our last
child moved out, so did my husband. He said he
wanted to remain married, but he needed some space. He
(00:48):
has an apartment around the corner from our house. He
comes over to the house for holiday dinners if the
kids are here, and it's like we're one big, happy
family again. My own kids told me to change the
locks and stop talking to him, but I would rather
remain on good terms with him. Two years have passed
and he's still living around the corner, and he hasn't
mentioned what made him leave me, and I haven't asked.
(01:11):
If he felt like that was best for him at
the time, then who am I to question him. He
recently had a change in his Facebook behavior, and my
kids think it's because he saw pictures on Facebook of
me and a new guy I'm seeing. He assumed that
I was going to cook on Easter, but I told
him that I was going to be in Charleston with
(01:33):
a friend. He seemed hurt that the family would not
be together, but I wasn't changing my plans. I posted
pictures on Facebook of me and my friend having dinner
in Charleston. My husband called me, but I didn't answer
because I wanted to stay in the moment with my
new friend. Since that weekend, my husband has been coming
over almost every evening, and he even took me to
(01:55):
dinner once. Our oldest daughter said I should stop answering
her dad's called because he is back in love again,
only because he saw the pictures. She might be right.
Because he asked me to go to Aruba in July.
I'm considering it, but why would my children tell me
not to go? Is my husband back in love? Because
(02:16):
he's jealous. Well, isn't it obvious? I mean the answer
is yes. I mean he moves out, no explanation, no discussion,
no communication with you except to say that he needs space,
and he comes back for dinner when the kids are home.
That is not a marriage. It's some sort of I
don't know, relationship for convenience or something for him. Did
(02:41):
he consider you or your feelings when he just up
and moved out. No, he selfishly did exactly what he
wanted to do. He left you. He moved out, leaving
you to figure things out on your own and WiFi.
You figured it out, and now you have a booth.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
All right.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
But he wanted his cake and eat it too, because
he wanted to stay married. What is that again? This
is not a marriage. He didn't want anyone else to
have you, that's all. This is the same mess he created,
and it's backfired on him. He wasn't banking on the
fact that he could be replaced because now you have
(03:22):
a man. The kids see it, your daughter sees it.
They know their dad is wrong, and they support you.
So the ball is in your court now. I say,
get out of this crazy so called marriage and go
to Aruba or wherever you want to go with your
new man.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Steve, Now I got some different advice, very good letter.
Sure I like what you told her, but I'm gonna
go a different route with this thing around here. I'm married,
but I'm really confused about what my husband is doing.
We've been in our love for twenty six years. Is
what to let us say? When your last child moved out,
he moved out too. He got apartment round a car
(04:00):
from y'all. He said he needed some space, and he
come over to the house for holiday dinners if the
kids are here, and it's like, we want a big,
happy family. Your own kids told you to change the
locks and stop talking to him, But I would rather
remain on good terms with him. Well, now see, this
(04:21):
is a case of everybody see it, but you everybody
see this as filed except you. You're talking about I
rather remain on good turn. He left you. He wasn't
trying to remain on good time. People who remain they stay,
people who leave they go. It's all to it. Two years.
(04:44):
It's been two years and he's still living around the corner.
He ain't mentioned what made him leave me, and.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I haven't asked she said, if he felt like that's
what was best for him at the time, who am
I to question him?
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Well, let me answer that question for you, his wife,
that's who you are. If your partner decides to leave you,
who am I to question him? You the wife, the
person who took the vials with him Richard Poor's sickness
(05:24):
and health depth to her part. If he decided to
part for another reason, you should have the right to ask.
But you said, who am I to question him? That's crazy?
Where are these wives that think like this? Because I
don't have one, Because my wife can't ask me anything anytime,
(05:49):
she won't to I don't even feel like talking in here.
She come so anyway? Then she said, he's recently had
a change in his behavior, and my kids think it
is because he saw a picture on me on Facebook
with my new guy I'm seeing. He assumed I was
gonna cook for Easton, but I told him I was
going to Charlton with a friend. He seemed hurt that
(06:11):
the family wouldn't be together. I wasn't changing my plan.
I posted pictures on Facebook and my friend having dinner
at Charleston. Wait a minute, what's going on here? He
don't care. You don't care. You posting pictures on Facebook.
You and your new friend. He'd just saw the picture.
(06:33):
He'd asked you nothing about him, but he called you
while you and Charleston Girl.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Hang on, Yeah, Okay, hang on, Steve. We'll have part
two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
After the hour.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Today's Strawberry Letters subject He's back in love again. Right
after this you're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Tomorrow, ten ninth Central on BT Court is back in
session with Miss Pat Settles at your favorite prosiety comedye
and is back with more outrageous cases, more of her
signature clapbacks, and more jaw dropping laughs with celebrity jests
jurors Carlos Miller, Tamar Praxton, d Ray Davis, Ray j
and Moore. No matter who stands before Miss Pat, no
(07:19):
matter what she decides, laughed up rules, and you get
to wear Miss Pat Settles. It is all new. Tomorrow,
ten ninth Central on VE ET.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter.
The subject is He's back in love again.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
It's a woman been in the relationship in and I
love with her husband for twenty six years. After the
youngest kid moved out the house, the husband moved out
to got apartment around the corner. He been gone for
two years. He only come over for holiday dinners when
all the kids is over there, and then they act
like one big family. Ain't that just wonderful? And then
(07:58):
the kids told her she change your lock. She said no,
she would better remain or she would rather remain on
good terms with him. And then she said, if that's
what he felt like doing at the time, who am
I to question you? Well, you his wife, and that
gives you a lot of rights equal and really more
(08:23):
so the kids, ha told you to change your lock.
And then you say, all of a sudden, he's changed
his attitude recently because he saw some pictures of you
and your new guy on Facebook. So you don't care
no more either, Oh okay, so now you don't care.
He assumed that I'm going to cook for Easter, but
I told him I was gonna be in Charleston with
(08:44):
a friend. He seemed hurt that the family wouldn't be together,
but I wasn't changing my plans. I posted pictures on
Facebook of me and my friend having dinner in Charleston.
That's why you had Joe Easter. You better go, girl.
I ain't mad at you.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
My husband call.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Me, but I didn't answer because I didn't want. I
wanted to stay in the moment with my new friend.
Since that weekend, my husband that's been coming over almost
every evening. He even took me to dinner one time.
Our oldest daughter said I should stop answering her that
he called because he's back in love again, back in
love getting mixed in mo shus. We ain't got time
(09:23):
for that right now. Now here's the one that I
want you to be careful of. She might be right,
because he asked me to go to a ruber in July.
I'm considering it. But why would my children tell me
not to go? You want me tell you why they do?
I don't know if you followed the news not, But
a ruber where a lot of people don't come back.
You know how many people been there ruber huh and
(09:47):
ain't come back? Why a ruber who is known for
missing people, I mean famous. I don't see why anybody
still even want to go to a ruber. It's so
many people ain't came back from a ruber. Do y'all
can sit here, get quiet if you want to. But
these as facts. Now, I'm not laughing at nobody missing
in the ruber, But why would you go to a ruber.
(10:09):
I'd like somebody telling.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Well, yeah, move along, Well no, this.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Was this was gonna be good.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Don't do it.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I think I think it's good. I think this is safe. No,
I think this is good. If somebody told me, if
you really want a good meal, go get on a
cruise ship. Now, if you want a lot of food,
get on a cruise ship. But if you want a
really good meal, he could go somewhere on land. Now,
(10:45):
if you like buffets, cruise ship is for you now.
But let me tell you something about the cruise ship.
The sneeze guard is too high. It's too high. They
need to lower it because I'm kids be up there
sneezing and picking her food, eating off them, and you
just don't see it. And I just because she don't
(11:07):
need to go to a ruber. No, that's why you could. Mama,
don't go to a ruber. People don't come back from
a ruber. I'm considering it, But why would my children
tell me not to go? Is my husband back in
love because he's jealous. Yeah, he's back in love. He's
not back in love. He just jealous. There's a saying
that that's out there that says, the finest woman in
(11:29):
the world is your ex on the arms of another man.
So that's all this is. He ain't back in love.
He ain't back home what he been doing for two years?
Ain't Nobody asked that question in the letter. You got
a little friend down there that you've been going to
Charleston to see. You don't think he got a friend,
(11:52):
Ain't nobody? And what we need space for the only
reason a man needs more space is to go do
what men do. Now, if you ain't playing domino fishing
or playing golf and smoking cigars, what else do we
do another? You?
Speaker 1 (12:15):
You got it?
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Oh, but the lady done beat him to the punch.
She already knows she got her little friend down at
Charles and she ain't coming on. We're not having Easter
at this house this year because I'm down here. I'm
getting my wig blowed back. This was good. This is
what I'm doing. I'm down here getting my wig blowed back.
(12:38):
That's what I'm doing. And I'm not fitting to answer
your phone call because you're just gonna kill the moment
for me. So now no, I'm not gonna do it.
I think this letter has come to a conclusion. Let
me answer your question. Is he back in love or
is he jealous? He just jealous. If he was back
in love, he'd be back home. He's talking about giving
(13:01):
up his apartment. Hene came over and took you to
dinner one time, So obviously y'all still doing something. And
you consider going to a rumor, a place where people
are famous for not coming back, You need to go
to the Bahamas. People come back from all these It
is nice, and it's closer to and today's people come back.
(13:24):
Just don't get called thatmuter triangle.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
At n Carby Fm on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Don't go to Mexico City. Two places you don't need
to go to Mexico City, and a room you can't
go to Mexico.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Cit Coming up at forty six minutes, we got sports
stuck with Junior Mexicus. You're listening to the Steve Harvey
Morning Show.
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