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January 26, 2026 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Monday, January 26th, 2026. Subject: "He's Not Handsome, He's Blessed"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
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could be yours today.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Subject.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
He's not handsome, but he's blessed. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm
thirty four years old and I'm dating a pastor that
is forty two years old. We are both divorced and
we met online. I'm ready for children, and although he
already has two from his first marriage, he said he'd
have another child with me. He wants us to have

(00:49):
sex before we get married, but I prefer to wait
until the night of our wedding. I love to tease
him and sexy lingerie, and he always jokes about ripping
my nightgown off and taking whatever he wants. I love
this man and we have a great time together, but
I don't like the way he looks. He has a

(01:10):
hard face and a permanent frown in his forehead. He
has short teeth, but they're pearly white. My aunt and
my mother warned me against having children with him because
they said my baby will look like a gremlin. This
man is anointed and he has been a perfect gentleman.
He's a man of God for sure, and he's blessed

(01:30):
where it counts. Just because I am not partaking of
his blessings, I still know what he's working with and
I can't wait to make him and it all mine.
I've never been into looks, and I think less handsome
men are sexy because they are rough looking. This man
can walk around me in nothing but his underwear and

(01:52):
I will be a happy woman for the rest of
my life. But my aunt and my mother said I
need to try it out before we get engaged, just
in case he is terrible in bed. How can he
be terrible when when he's working with all of that.
I need your advice on this one. Should I sample
the goods now or wait until marriage hold? Okay, just

(02:17):
because someone as blessed as you call it doesn't mean
they know you know what to do with what they have.
So you know that's that's kind of a funny question
that you're asking. I gotta say this, so huh, I am.
I am. The first thing I learned out the gate
from this letters that pastors are on dating sites and

(02:39):
he's single. So I'm not judging or anything, just a
little surprised. And that's not what this letter is about.
It's about should you give him a test drive before
you buy this car?

Speaker 2 (02:49):
So to speak?

Speaker 1 (02:50):
And you know what most people do. Most people do
have sex before marriage. You know, it's admirable that you
want to wait until your wedding night and you got
to decide what's right for you. I find it odd
that you never mentioned how he treats you, Is he
good to you? All you're talking about is how he
looks and what he's blessed with. I think if you're

(03:10):
holding out on him because you truly don't want to
have sex before marriage until your wedding night, because you
think God is watching, and you mentioned that this is
a man of God, then stick to your beliefs. Stick
to your beliefs. But you have to stop teasing the
man with your sexy lingerie and all of that, because
it doesn't sound like the pastor can hold out much longer.

(03:32):
Now if you want to do it just because you
know your mom and your honor pressuring you, that's still
not a good reason to have sex with him. If
you don't want to, you want to wait. You know
they don't need to be in your bedroom business anyway.
So again, this is your decision. You know, this is
your decision. If you don't mind being with and having
children by an unattractive man, as you call him a

(03:55):
hard face and little baby teeth, well that's up to you.
It's your life. You say he's packing, and that seems
to be all that's important to you from this letter,
then go for it. Stop listening to all these other
people who are into your business.

Speaker 2 (04:09):
You gotta do what's right for you.

Speaker 3 (04:11):
Steve, Well, I'm gonna just tell you this right off
to dribble. Probably need to go on and listen to
Charley on this one, because what I'm about to tell
you ain't nothing but truth. All I'm finna tell you
is nothing but truth. I'm gonna give you some facts
and then you have to make your own decision because
I can't tell you how to live your life.

Speaker 2 (04:31):
Now. You thirty four, he forty two. That's an eight
year difference.

Speaker 3 (04:35):
Both of y'all are divorced, and people are divorced for
a reason.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
Y'all met online.

Speaker 3 (04:43):
You ready for kids? He got two from his first marriage.
He said he'd have another child with me. You know
how many times Hee had to say that, And you
know why, because he's not handsome, ugly man to hair
up and get in agreement with a woman. We got

(05:04):
to get on the same page because he ugly.

Speaker 2 (05:09):
You ain't.

Speaker 3 (05:09):
You said he's not handsome, but we know what that means.
He's ugly, got to hair up and agree with everything
women won't because he's ugly.

Speaker 2 (05:20):
Ain't got no whole lot of options.

Speaker 3 (05:23):
Now, like I told you, you probably need to just
go on with Sherley's answer because I ain't finna give
you nothing but facts.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
He wants to have us to have.

Speaker 3 (05:31):
Sex before we get married. That's got a lot to
do with him being ugly. He can't run the risk,
and you waiting and starting to ask questions about him
and looking at him closer, sitting over there, starting analyve stuff.
You know you already got some stuff. I'll tell you
about that in a minute. Because you love to tease

(05:52):
him in section lingerie. He always joke about ripping my
nightgown off and taking whatever he wants. I love this man,
We have a great time together, but I don't like
the way he looks.

Speaker 2 (06:01):
Right there.

Speaker 3 (06:02):
He got a hard face and a perfected frown in
his forehead. But a man got a hard face?

Speaker 2 (06:09):
What does that mean? That's the time to look like
a rock. You ain't ever seen a pretty rock. I've
never heard that before. You look like he just looked
like a rock. Got a hard face.

Speaker 3 (06:26):
You know what, even when he smiled, he looked like
he cryed, just got a hard face.

Speaker 2 (06:33):
He'd be telling the joke and everybody be scared.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
Hold that thought. Part two. Steve Harvey's response is coming
up in twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry
let Her subject is he's not handsome, but he's blessed.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letters.
The subject he's not handsome, but he's blessed.

Speaker 3 (07:35):
Yeah, well, we'll get into that in a minute. But
just eight, man is forty two years old. Both of
y'all got divorced for a reason. For a reason. I'm
ready for children. Although he had two from his first marriage.
He said he have another child with me. He can't
believe you won't one with its. He know how he looked.

(07:56):
He's so ugly. You that wrote about it. Ain't he
heard this before. He'd heard this his whole life. This
ain't no new information. You just that rolled in on
the National radio show. He's not handsome, but he plays
because he ugly.

Speaker 2 (08:13):
I love this man. We have a great time together,
but I don't like the way he looked.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
He got a hard face and a permanent frown in
his forehead, just over that, looking like a rock.

Speaker 2 (08:24):
Keep be telling jokes. Ain't nobody laughing.

Speaker 3 (08:26):
Everybody had that little grimace on their face like they
kind of back up a little bit. You mess somebody
so ugly when they talk to you, you just keep leaning
out the way in next thing, you know, you say,
even in your chair, no more because you're trying to
deal with all. Listen in front of you. What is
this hard rockcking? Man got a mob? And then you said,

(08:47):
have been done about? He got short teeth, but they
fairly white. Hell, it's easy to take care of a
little teeth.

Speaker 2 (08:55):
Tell that show.

Speaker 3 (08:57):
He probably threw brushing his teeth in no time. You
can have pearly white teeth. When they shot, I got
all that curd coin.

Speaker 2 (09:05):
In his head.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
He got his whole mouth look like a row of coin.
And you talking about they pearly white. Hell, it don't
take you no time to bright. He ain't got nothing
to brush.

Speaker 2 (09:16):
And I'm telling you what. Let me tell you what
this woman that when she say they shot, she means.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
Just coming up out the gums. That's what you're come about.
That type of short j just coming up out the gums.
So now he got pearly white. And they shot my
aunt and my mother wore me against having children here
because they said, my baby gonna look like a griplet.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
They not lying to you, They're not lying. This baby
you fit to have.

Speaker 3 (09:45):
If the baby don't look just like you, ma'am, you
better hope you really. Now, let me ask you this,
and you're gonna have to be honest because we don't
know this. Are you extremely attract because you're gonna have
to offset with this baby? What's go and and and
like chances are I'm just going out on the limb.

(10:07):
I'm gonna say you're not extremely attracted. I'm gonna just
go out on the limb. I think you're an attractive woman,
but you may not be attractive enough to have an
ugly man and have a baby with an ugly man,
because you gotta be beautiful to offset and get his
baby a chance of being regularly looking. See now, this

(10:33):
baby does not gonna have a chance. He gonna go
up to looking teeth, that hard look on his face,
that God forbid it.

Speaker 2 (10:41):
Don't be a girl, Lord, have mercy Jesus.

Speaker 3 (10:44):
This man is annoying it. And he's been a perfect gentleman.
He's a man of God, for sure. He's blessed where
it counts. Just because I'm not partaking of his blessings,
I still know what he's working with and I can't
wait to make him and it all mine. Now you
need to think about something now, Why is him still available?

Speaker 2 (11:05):
Why is him online looking for love? If he's a
past man of the clothe? See something? You need to
have some more conversation with this man.

Speaker 3 (11:16):
I've never been into looks, and I think less handsome
men are sexy because they rough looking. Well, jackpot, where
you're sitting on top of gold mine? If that's the case,
because you can't look no rougher than a rock.

Speaker 2 (11:32):
I'm telling you that right now. When we heard the
hard face, that's about as rough as you get.

Speaker 3 (11:39):
This man can walk around him nothing but his underwear,
and I'll be a happy woman the rest of my life.
But my aunt and mother said, I need to try
Let me ask you something. Who is your aunt, your mama?
Who is these heavens?

Speaker 2 (11:49):
Do they have men?

Speaker 3 (11:51):
Why are you listening to them? And your mama and
aunt said, need to try it out before we get engaged,
just in case he's terrible in bad How can he
be terrible when he's working with all that. Oh I've
heard I've been talking to women a whole lot of times.

Speaker 2 (12:06):
Let me just put right here. I'm betting on him. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (12:11):
See, he ugly, he's had to learn how to perform. Oh,
he's finna do everything in his power because he ugly
he know he's not gonna get another shot. And he
know the line ain't long because everybody ain't seen you
walking around in his doraws.

Speaker 2 (12:28):
Most people just looking at that hard faith.

Speaker 3 (12:31):
Team, and most people just trying to figure out how
I'm gonna get through Mary and flavor, flavor.

Speaker 2 (12:41):
That's what a lot of the space. Now, if you.

Speaker 3 (12:46):
Can sit there and man is man with this clock
around his neck, then go ahead. I need your advice
on this one. Should I sample the goods now or
wait till please help listen to me. If you wait
ninety days and you can still talk to him up close,

(13:10):
If you can wait ninety days and that hardness, that
rock hard face, with that permanent frown, it's.

Speaker 2 (13:19):
Still not repulse in you, then go ahead. I'm not
sure you don't wait at ninety already?

Speaker 1 (13:25):
All right, Steve, Please leave your comments on Today's Strawberry
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Speaker 3 (13:32):
Yes, can I just say one last thing? Strong possibility
that this baby gonna be uglyss hal though.

Speaker 1 (13:39):
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