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November 28, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Friday, November 28th, 2025. Subject: "I Can't Relax In Bed With Him"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:24):
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Speaker 1 (00:30):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. I can't relax in bed with him,
all right, I just can't do it. I can't relax
in bed with him. Stephen Shirley, My husband drives me
nuts in the bed, but not in a good way.
He's seventy two and I'm sixty eight years old. We
have been married for twenty two years and it's both

(00:52):
of our second marriage. He has asthma, so I give
him a breathing treatment most nights, but that doesn't help
his wheezing all night. We have to keep the air
down in our bedroom because if he gets hot, it
gets worse. I set all of that to say that
we can't have sex without him getting hot, and then

(01:13):
the wheezing starts. He's six feet seven and I'm five
feet seven, and our bed doesn't fit him, and he's
too cheap to get a king sized bed, so he
usually he's usually balled up next to me, or his
feet hang off the sides or the bottom, which pulls
the cover off me. His old bones twitch at night,

(01:34):
and his reflexes cause him to hit me sometimes. I
hate to add this because it's gross, but let's just
say he shouldn't eat dairy because he does and I
pay for it when he's asleep. It's almost every night
now that I'm getting hit with a stink bomb. I
cannot relax in the bed with him. Even having sex

(01:57):
is challenging since he started taking his pill. I want
to sleep in another room, but I don't want to
leave him overnight because his breathing is very tricky. Some
night yesterday he heard me talking to my sister about
not resting well at night, and he got offended because
he knows he's the problem. If he just take his
asthma medicine, stop eating cheese, pizza, and exercise regularly, the

(02:19):
doctor said a lot of the issues will go away.
I'm starting to think he doesn't care if I sleep.
Should I threaten to leave him if he won't change, Well,
you never know, you might have to, but I would say, first,
you know, get a king sized mattress. I mean, it's
ridiculous that one of the reasons your nights are so

(02:40):
uncomfortable for you is that his big six foot seven
but is sleeping in a queen sized bed hanging over
the bed.

Speaker 2 (02:49):
That's crazy.

Speaker 1 (02:50):
You said he's too cheap to get one. That is very,
very selfish because you live and sleep there too, So
why can't you just go get a mattress? I mean,
don't let his stubbornness make you this uncomfortable anymore.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
This is crazy.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
The good news is that this situation is fixable. I mean,
he's really stubborn. He sounds ornery and everything. But you're
both adults, you know. Don't talk to him though, don't
talk to your sister about him. I should say, you
got to talk to him about this, because this is
a serious situation. A good night's sleep is everything. You

(03:28):
got to talk to him about his asthma. You got
to talk to him about the wheezing. You got to
talk to him about the pizza, the stink bombs ew
all of it, and then let him know that his
health is important and it not only affects him, it
affects you and everyone around him. Right now, he's in
his feelings because he heard you talking to his sister
about him. So you know you got to try to

(03:49):
get through to him. Like I said, start with the
sleeping arrangements, the king sized mattress. You don't really need
his permission to get a mattress, and if he gets mad,
don't worry. He'll get over it after you both get
a much needed good night sleep.

Speaker 2 (04:03):
Steve subject, I can't relax in bed with him.

Speaker 3 (04:08):
The next statement after this, the response to your entire
letter is I can't take this, snow mo.

Speaker 2 (04:19):
I can't take this snow mod.

Speaker 3 (04:23):
When women say that to me, I cannot tell you
how impactful it is, especially if you love the woman
and she looks you and go listen to me. I
can't take this, snow mod. I can't do this. I
ain't gonna do this no more. And that's where you
have to be, because you're at that point right now

(04:45):
because you wrote a letter the dude seventy two, U
sixty eight. Y'all been married twenty two years.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
This ain't new.

Speaker 3 (04:51):
He got assmu. You got to give him a breathing
treatment every night. That don't help his wheezing all night.
Y'all got to sleep with the ad and the meat locker.
If he get hot, he get worse. Did I say
all that to say that y'all can't have sex without
him getting hot and then the wheezing starts. Hot equals wheezing.

(05:11):
We got to stop his big from getting hot. We
gotta keep that ad out of it. We gotta stop
having sex. I can't take this snow mode. You got
to get here, sister. He's six seven, you five seven.
The bed don't fit him. He too cheap to get
a king sized bed, so he usually balled up next

(05:31):
to me, who too cheap to sleep, right, row, lets
do the bead costs now?

Speaker 2 (05:36):
Look, I gotta quit it. I gotta get out of
my pocket.

Speaker 3 (05:39):
Beds are expensive, Okay, I got it cause money, mattress, frame, headboard,
all this. He can't just get another mattress. You gotta
get a bed.

Speaker 2 (05:48):
King size.

Speaker 3 (05:49):
You know you gotta get a bed that surely saying
you go down there by yourself. But you know, y'all
seventy two and sixty eight. You know somebody on some
type of program or something. If he hangs all off
the side, pull the cover off me, the old bones
twitching night causing him to reflex and hit you.

Speaker 2 (06:06):
I hate to add that.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
Then he as eating day jeez pizza every night, just
blowing the bed up at night.

Speaker 2 (06:12):
I can't relax in bed with him.

Speaker 3 (06:14):
Hell now, you can't relax, helly hody twitching, He hitting
on you, blowing stink bombs in the.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
Bedy wheezing over there? The hell going on?

Speaker 3 (06:23):
Who is you sleeping with? You're sleeping with a natural disaster.
So night you get hit with a stink bomb.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
To get up and hold on, Hold on, Steve, hold on.
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Struwberry letter subject
is I can't relax in bed with him. We'll get
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(06:53):
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Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject
I can't relax in bed with him.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
This letter feel with hell.

Speaker 3 (07:39):
I can't relax in bed with him at all. What
next statement should be? I can't do this no more?
And if God don't know why I say I can't
do this no more. Let me tell you what they're
putting up with. He sent me to She's sixty eight,
he's six seven. She fives him the bed too small,
uh huh, and he got asked, so she got every night,

(08:01):
she got to give him a breathing treatment to help
his wheezing all night.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
Then we got to keep the ad down in the bedroom.

Speaker 3 (08:09):
That means got to turn it into a meat locker,
because if he get hot, it get worse. Then she
say all that say we can't have sex without him
getting hot. Then the wheezing start.

Speaker 2 (08:19):
A hard half.

Speaker 3 (08:19):
Sex with somebody that you fin to kill really hot
hair set and you think you fin to kill him.
Then the bed don't fit him because he's six seven,
he's too cheap to get a king size bed. So
he balled up next to you, feet hanging all off
the side, pulling the cover off of you. Now you freezing.
He got all the bones. He twitched at night. Reflexes

(08:41):
make him hit you sometime. Hid he eating Darry. He
blowing stink bombs all night and it's almost every night
you getting hit with a stink bomb. You can't relax
in bed with him. I can't take this now more.
You too much. Right, you're six seven, you're tall, you

(09:04):
got old phones. You're snapping me all in the back
of my head at night because you're having them nervous
twitches and everything. You donate this cheese pizza. You're blowing
up these bombs every night in the bed. It's cold
is hell in here? You too long, So now your
feet covering up, you pull the covers off me. I'm freezing.
You're in here and you're wheezing at night because you

(09:26):
done got hot man, I'm leaving. Ain't nobody finna do
all this? And you got to put it in his
face I can't take this no more. I can't relax
in bed and then having sexy challenges since he started
taking his pills like he needs something else going on, ring,
he taking these pills. Now he hot, he went, he

(09:50):
having bustle reflexes. He hitting you up side. Now he's
sitting over here for no reason at all. He's just
getting he's just getting tough, and he all up against you.
He already against you because he can't keep his feet
off the flow. I want to sleep in another room,
but I don't want to leave him overnight because he's breathing.
Is very tricky to night. You old, so now hold up,

(10:11):
hold up. You can't leave his old lady in there
because he's breathing is tricky and he might just stop breathing.
You got shaking way your mother, So he don't just
stay dead. I'm not living now, that's sleeping with a
corps hivin night. The dead man that's live, wanting to
have sex all the time in his cold room.

Speaker 2 (10:29):
And he wheezed.

Speaker 3 (10:31):
Then yesterday heard me talking to my sister about not
resting all night. He got offended because he know he
the problem. Yeah, you're the problem, but you think I
was talking to my sister.

Speaker 2 (10:41):
For who you thought I was talking about nobody else sleeping?
What what herman? What what herman?

Speaker 1 (10:50):
But not another herman?

Speaker 2 (10:52):
Another herman. He's seventy two. He got all the things.

Speaker 1 (10:57):
You have.

Speaker 3 (10:57):
One of them old name herm and Hubert. One of
them old named Oscar.

Speaker 1 (11:03):
Car Rayford, Joshua.

Speaker 2 (11:11):
You seek Moses, here's a car and here the worst
one at all, because you're over there sleeping.

Speaker 3 (11:24):
With Lasar, with last one dead, waking up, he quit breathing.
He hot you in the bed with Lazareth every night.
Now he mad at you because you talking to your sis.

Speaker 2 (11:39):
You got to tell it to somebody.

Speaker 3 (11:42):
If he take his asthma medicine, to stop eating cheese, pizza,
and exercise regularly, the doctor says, some of these issues
will go away. He will take your asthma medicine. Man,
what is wrong with you?

Speaker 2 (11:54):
Stubborn?

Speaker 1 (11:55):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (11:56):
Sitting all that weeding and.

Speaker 1 (12:04):
Okay, we get it.

Speaker 3 (12:14):
I can't nobody sleep like this, stup man. You know
how you be snowing and your wife waiting and tell
you to get on your side.

Speaker 2 (12:26):
Or something, Yeah, turn over, something like that. He got
to go.

Speaker 3 (12:30):
I'm starting to think he don't care if I can't sleep.
He don't he sleep? Should I threaten to leave him?
If he won't change, you got to leave him. You
might have rolled another bed in there so you can leave.
Be in the room when they breathing. Cut off. It's
hard take vows people fit to die.

Speaker 1 (12:49):
It's he took him twenty two years ago.

Speaker 3 (12:55):
We can't have sex. It's hot in here. Cut this
air on his cold in here all thought tonight you
just sitting opinion. Hit me again, Hit me again? See
would have slap slapping, sugar honey, ice tea. You can
stop some of this.

Speaker 1 (13:16):
His feet are hanging over the bed.

Speaker 2 (13:18):
What do you mean out of this?

Speaker 3 (13:19):
The bed ain't the problem. She don't care where his foot? Hey,
you don't what they're.

Speaker 2 (13:23):
Squeezing the stop that's not gonna squeezing in his stink
bomb to stop.

Speaker 3 (13:29):
You can put your feet on the floor and just
sleep on your back if you want to.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
I don't give it. But what.

Speaker 1 (13:37):
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