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June 18, 2024 13 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a forty eight year old married woman and I've been living alone for the past three years. My husband moved out and he's living with one of my girlfriends. Okay, wait, yeah, I had to let that be right for a moment. Yeah. I found out they'd been messing around for years, and I was hurt but not surprised, and I took it better than they expected me to. Instead of acting a plump fool, I called her up and asked her why she did it. She told me that I was neglecting him sexually. I can accept that because I did. He came to me a few days after that and asked if he could go be with her. I told him that I wanted him here with me. He said he didn't want to be here with me. We have a twenty four year old son, and he was there when my husband said it. He told me to let him go. It would not have been that easy if my son wasn't there................................................

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
All right, here we go. Thank you. Nephew's subject I
can't stop loving him. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty
eight year old married woman and I've been living alone
for the past three years. My husband moved out and
he's living with one of my girlfriends. Okay, weight K, Yeah,
I had to let that be right for a moment. Yeah.

(00:48):
I found out they'd been messing around for years, and
I was hurt but not surprised, and I took it
better than they expected me to. Instead of acting a
plump fool, I called her up and asked her why
she did it. She told me that I was neglecting
him sexually. I can accept that because I did. He
came to me a few days after that and asked

(01:09):
if he could go be with her. I told him
that I wanted him here with me. He said he
didn't want to be here with me. We have a
twenty four year old son, and he was there when
my husband said it. He told me to let him go.
It would not have been that easy if my son
wasn't there. Every day since he's left me, I've called
to check on him and he answers all of my calls.

(01:30):
We share memes with each other on social media, and
he's always liking and commenting on my posts. It's like
my best friend that lives somewhere else. I think we've
discovered the key to a perfect marriage. I asked him
if we'd ever get divorced, and he told me there's
no reason to. He said he still wants all of
his assets to go to me, and our son still

(01:52):
has no plans, so he has no plans to split up.
None of my other girlfriends understand my relationship with my husband,
and they want to get a mental evaluation. His girlfriend,
who is my old friend, has begged me to leave
her man alone. I told him that he is still
my husband, and I can't stop loving him just because
he is sleeping with her. She's also mad that we

(02:14):
still have a joint bank account. Hey, that works for us.
What works for us works for us. Do you think
he will ever come back home? Am I crazy like
my girlfriends think?

Speaker 2 (02:25):
I am?

Speaker 3 (02:26):
No?

Speaker 1 (02:26):
And yes, will he ever come back home?

Speaker 4 (02:28):
No?

Speaker 1 (02:29):
What is he coming back home for? I mean, you
give an incentive to stay out and sleep with your
girlfriend and live with her. So what is he coming
back home for? You don't sleep with him? Are you
crazy like your girlfriends think?

Speaker 4 (02:42):
Yes?

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yes, this whole letter is crazy, this whole situation is crazy,
but that's what you have accepted from him. You're letting
both of them walk all over you. I mean, this
is exactly what he wanted to do, and your friend
was right there to take him in. What I don't
understand is why you weren't having sex with him. This
is your husband, That's what mary people are supposed to do,

(03:04):
but you weren't doing that. What was he supposed to do?
You admitted to neglecting him. You basically gave him to
this woman. You know, you let her have him. So
I don't understand what you wrote us for this situation
seemed to work with you for you, like you said,
works for us, works for us. You don't see anything

(03:25):
wrong with this picture. Nothing. Even your twenty four year
old son told you to let him go. You deserve
to live your best life too. You're not doing that.
This is a mess, a whole mess. I say, like
your girlfriend said, leave him alone. He's over there, let
him go. He has it too good with your best friend.

(03:46):
He's not coming back. This whole thing is stupid, Tommy.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
The title is I can't stop loving him, And my
title to you is you going stop loving him? You
gonna do it. It's just a matter of time. It's
taking you a while to get around to it. But
let me tell you something. You know how fine this
woman is. You know how fine she got to be
for her for him to just say, please let me

(04:14):
go over here with Janie, Please, let me go over here.
I just got to be over here with Jane's. I
can't be with you no more. Janie is turning me out,
and Jane's is doing everything that I want done. And
your son, he didn't say it right there in front
of the boy, please, And the boy said, lord, let mama,
let the man go. He trying to get over there
to miss Janison. And what I don't understand is why
is you calling every day? What do you want? What

(04:37):
is he taking all your calls? Every time you call?
And Jane is standing right there, baby, let me just
Jane listen, let me talk to Okay, what you need? Yes,
I saw that, I saw you posted that.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
That was nothing?

Speaker 2 (04:51):
All right, call me tomorrow. I got to go off.
Janis is weeping to eat?

Speaker 3 (04:55):
I can't.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
Hey, Janie has got all this on lock. And Janison
told you, why is you do you keep calling my man?
What do you want? You are the person that did this.
You did not take care of your man. Well you
should have been taking care of your man. Then your
girlfriend steps in and he gonna move over there?

Speaker 3 (05:17):
And then what did you say? You said?

Speaker 2 (05:19):
I didn't act of food like that like I thought
that like they thought I would. Why didn't you act
a damn food? You should have? You just let that
thing go by? You let everything happen. I took it
better than they thought I was gonna take. Why Why
did you take it so lightly? What is wrong with you?
And now you calling every day and you don't want

(05:41):
you hear, but you worrying people. You're getting on everybody nerve.
Can't nobody do it because you calling every time in
But guess what, Janie away because Jane's taking care of
Minnis over that baby.

Speaker 3 (05:51):
Jane's doing what she got to do. M M.

Speaker 1 (05:56):
This really is.

Speaker 2 (05:58):
But it's okay because he wants he want me and
my son to get all the assets. He wants y'all
to get all the assis while he set his ad
over there at Jane's house.

Speaker 3 (06:08):
That's what he wants.

Speaker 2 (06:09):
Just leave me alone, you, you and Junior, barkhair all
y'all want. I just want Jane's and some peace and quiet. Yeah,
Jane's tearing it out over here all the week.

Speaker 1 (06:21):
She should seek some some sort of therapy like her
girlfriends want her to do. She really should, because this
is not right.

Speaker 3 (06:30):
This is right, and you need to sit on somebody couch.

Speaker 1 (06:33):
Yeah, craziness. All right, You heard from me, you heard
from Tommy. And we'll have part two of our response
to the Strawberry Letter with Junior up next. Coming up
at twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry Letter subject I
can't stop loving him, we'll get back into it. Right
after this you're listening morning show. All right, guys, we're

(06:55):
going to recap today's Strawberry letter with the subject I
can't stop loving him. A woman wrote, forty eight year
old married woman, she's been living alone for the past
three years. Why because her husband moved out to be
with her girlfriend. Now, why does she do that? They've
been messing around for years, but come to find out,
the woman called her her girlfriend and her girlfriend said, well, simply,

(07:18):
you're not taking care of your man. You're not having
sex with him. I am, and the wife had to
finally admit, well, I wasn't having sex with him. Excuse me,
this is your husband? Why not? That's what married people do, right, Well,
they do have a twenty year old twenty four year
old son. The husband admitted that he wanted to live

(07:39):
with the wife's girlfriend. He said it right in front
of the wife and the son that was there. The
son said, Mom, let him go, So she let him go,
and he's been living with the girlfriend ever since. They
seem to have fun, except for the husband keeps the
wife and the son on all his papers and all

(08:03):
of that, so they're getting the insurance or whatever. He's
taking care of them that way, but the husband's not
coming back, and she wants to know will he ever
come back home? And is she crazy? Like her girlfriends think.

Speaker 5 (08:16):
Okay, well, let's let's just go just look at the
last question.

Speaker 3 (08:19):
That's just am I crazy?

Speaker 5 (08:22):
Like my girlfriends think I am?

Speaker 2 (08:25):
Well, where would.

Speaker 3 (08:26):
They get that from?

Speaker 4 (08:27):
What?

Speaker 5 (08:28):
They just come up and think you crazy?

Speaker 3 (08:31):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (08:32):
I'm having a hard time. Not only do the girlfriend
I listen to this letter think you crazy.

Speaker 3 (08:36):
And here's why.

Speaker 5 (08:38):
Here's why we think you crazy. Just say, all her
girlfriends sitting down there at dinner, except for the one
that's living with the husband. Everybody sitting there and you
just blurt out, my husd move out and he's living
with Caro. Huh what.

Speaker 3 (08:55):
Karen and Melvin living together?

Speaker 5 (08:56):
Ain't wait? Ain't Melvin your husband?

Speaker 2 (08:58):
You know?

Speaker 5 (08:59):
Maybe that's not enough to convince that you're crazy. You know,
you know what I'm saying. I felt that they've been
messing around for years, and I was hurt, understandable, but
then you come right behind that, but not surprised, and
I took it better when they expected me to.

Speaker 1 (09:12):
You take it better than they.

Speaker 3 (09:13):
Expected you to.

Speaker 1 (09:16):
That's that's not crazy.

Speaker 5 (09:19):
You took it better, didn't Carol?

Speaker 1 (09:22):
That Melvin expected you to?

Speaker 4 (09:23):
Uh?

Speaker 5 (09:24):
Okay, all right, here's one. We don't know if you're
crazy yet, but I think we're on our way though.
Every day since he left me, I've called to check
on him and he answers all of my calls.

Speaker 3 (09:35):
What right there? Right there?

Speaker 5 (09:39):
So so you've already he's living with Carol and you
took it better. They expected Now you call it?

Speaker 1 (09:47):
Uh huh hey, Melvin, Hey, what you're doing?

Speaker 5 (09:51):
What's going on? Carol in there?

Speaker 2 (09:54):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (09:55):
Now until I said, hi, whatch.

Speaker 2 (09:59):
Ill got on? Today?

Speaker 5 (10:02):
It's Father's Day? She cook it, I'll cook it, y'all
want to come back?

Speaker 1 (10:08):
I cooked?

Speaker 3 (10:09):
Yeah, we're not.

Speaker 5 (10:11):
We're not saying you crazy, but we think you're on
the way because I think this is one right here,
this really got me. We share memes with each other
on social media and wait a minute, we share means
and he's always liking and comment on my post. It's
like my best friend that lives somewhere else?

Speaker 3 (10:30):
Is you grave? Yeah? That's crazy?

Speaker 4 (10:32):
Is you crazy?

Speaker 1 (10:33):
That's line?

Speaker 3 (10:36):
Yeah? Yeah, you crazy?

Speaker 5 (10:38):
He comment, And you turn to your friends and say, girl,
he comment on all my posts and all my means
and were talking. So now y'all talk on the phone.
Then y'all DM and two.

Speaker 1 (10:49):
Yeah, but he lived with Carol?

Speaker 3 (10:52):
Yeah? And is you crazy?

Speaker 2 (10:54):
Hell?

Speaker 3 (10:54):
Yeah, you're grazy.

Speaker 1 (10:55):
Why did she write us though? Because she said, I
don't know that works for us? What works? She said that?
So this is working for you. You don't need help.

Speaker 5 (11:05):
I mean, okay, well this lets you know you crazy
when you're the only one on the other side of
the line. You just you just the only one over there.
Because none of my other girlfriends understand my relationship with
my husband, and they want me to get a mental evaluation.

Speaker 4 (11:18):
Yes, yes, everybody, we agree, Please do Yeah, everybody knows
you need one.

Speaker 5 (11:26):
Yes, I'm telling you you filling in how you don't
see you crazy?

Speaker 3 (11:32):
Yes, but I don't need divorcing you.

Speaker 1 (11:36):
Let me ask you this, Junior and Tommy, could you
have a meeting, a family meeting. I guess we'll call
it with your wife and son and tell tell her
that you want to leave her and move with her
girlfriend and live with her.

Speaker 3 (11:49):
I can't do that.

Speaker 1 (11:52):
One of her best friends.

Speaker 5 (11:53):
Yeah, y'all would never know about the meeting. But y'all
would have funeral arrangements.

Speaker 4 (12:00):
A lot of flower bringing in, slow singing all that.

Speaker 1 (12:07):
Baby, Yeah, well I took it back.

Speaker 2 (12:09):
You wouldn't be able to view my body. I'm gonna
tell you that you wouldn't be able to do that.

Speaker 5 (12:13):
It's gonna be a memorial with y'all be up there,
just you know, anybody want to speak on his behalf.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
It's no what, it's crazy, it's no way. But let
me ask you all a question.

Speaker 3 (12:26):
Can I ask the question?

Speaker 4 (12:29):
So y'all know when people share means it's something that
you relate to, you know what I mean, It's something
that you've kind of gone through. So she up here
sharing memes with him. They laughing and stay laughing about it,
and he left her. She thinks this is her best friend.

Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah who pylease hurry up and get with the therapist immediately,
all right. Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter on
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(13:09):
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