March 13, 2025 • 13 mins
Strawberry Letter Subject for Thursday, March 13th, 2025: “I Give Her Advice Because I Love Her” A man has a problem with the way his wife dresses more provocatively after losing weight.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time
be guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry lot up.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. I give her advice because I
love her. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley, My wife and I
started our better health journey in December, and she's already
lost thirteen pounds. I only lost two pounds, but I
drink protein shakes and I live weight, so I'm happy
with how I look. I'm even happier about how good
(00:48):
my wife looks. She's had to buy new dresses, jeans,
and even new shoes because she is smaller everywhere. She
ordered a lot of new clothes over the past few months,
and I didn't bother to ask to see any of
her new things. For Valentine's Day, she put on a
new dress and it was cut low in the front.
She has big boobs and they were front and center,
(01:09):
so I asked if she had another option. She said
she was going to wear it because she ordered it
just for me for Valentine's Day. At dinner, all I
could see was her chest. I told her later that
I never want to see that dress again. I slept
on the couch that night. The next day, I explained
to her that I only gave my opinion because I
(01:30):
love her. She cursed me out and said she doesn't
care what I like or don't like. I'm her husband,
and if I don't like something, I have the right
to tell her. Her choice of clothing is still bothering me,
and we keep arguing whenever she tries to go out
in one of her tight, distasteful outfits. Her body is
really nice and you can see it in any outfit
(01:52):
she wears, so I'm not sure why she's trying to
draw attention to herself like that. She got frustrated with
me recently said if I don't stop judging her, she
will find a man that can appreciate her style. She
lost weight and her respect for me, Because who says
that to their husband? Why can't she see that I
give her my advice only because I love her? How
(02:14):
can I get through? How can I get through to
my lovely wife? Wow, you're gonna have to find a
different way to do it, sir. This is not working
for you. Sometimes it's not what you say, it's how
you say it, or just the fact that you opened
your mouth to say anything at all. No one asked
your opinion, no one. Your wife is feeling herself right now.
(02:37):
She worked hard to lose the weight and she's loving
the results, and she's doing her She's not trying to
hear anything. You got to say anything, especially if it's criticism.
You're not wrong in wanting her to be more modest
in what she wears. I mean, no husband really wants
his wife out there with her boobs all out for
other men, you know, to check out. I get that part.
(02:58):
But you got to relax little and let her have
a little fun. She said she bought the new red
dress for you for Valentine's Day. You didn't even compliment her.
You could have said thank you, baby, you look good
or something. All you're showing her is disappointment, dissatisfaction. You
got to see that she you know, making your wife
angry and all of this. She's hurt by this, and
(03:20):
she's told you to stop judging her. I don't know
what you're going to do to fix this, sir, but
this is definitely, like I said, not working, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Let me just say this to you, dog. You are
going about this the entirely wrong way. You are using,
for lack of better words, the wrong tactics. Bruh. Listen
to me trying to understand where you're coming from while
I read this letter. I will also read this letter
(03:52):
to help you understand where she is coming from. And
I can show you where this derailed for you. I
can show you exactly what y'all started your little health journey.
She's lost thirteen pounds, you lost twenty one. Thirteen pounds
is a lot of weight, man, twenty one is a lot.
But I drink protein shakes, I lift weight, so I'm
(04:14):
happy how I look. Some pounds don't. It should be
measured on how you look. Don't worry about the pounds
because muscle is heavier than fat. So you losing twenty
one pounds, but if you shared the fat, of course
you are to.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Be He lost two. She lost thirteen.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh I thought, I said twenty one. Oh that's two pounds.
Two pounds. Yeah, oh I only lost two. Oh well
this changed my answer? Oh you hating? Oh this change
is the answer I see. Oh, pimp, I only lost two,
but I drink protein shakes and lived weight. Son, you
ain't changed, though, fat boy. I got news for you.
(04:54):
Your fat ass ain't really changed that much. And that's
the damn problem. Now, you said, a rich how to
convince yourself you happy with the way you look over
two pounds. You can't even see two pounds, So now
you all I see right now, I'm even happier about
how my good wife looks. She's had to buy new
(05:16):
dresses and jeans and even new shoes because she's smaller
everywhere everywhere. Man, she ordered a lot of new clothes
over the past few months, and I didn't bother to
ask to see any of her things. Okay, here we go.
Here's the beginning of the problem. You didn't ask to
see any of them because I'm assuming you think when
(05:41):
she buy new stuff, she ought to show it to
you so she could get your approval. That's the beginning
of what's happening here. For Valentine's Day. She put on
a new dress and it was low cut in front.
She got big boobs and they were front and center.
So I asked her, does she have another option? It's
Valentine's Day? Dog, she put that dress on. She says
(06:02):
she was going to wear it because she ordered it
just for you for Valentine's Day. Now, if your wife
out on her own with that, But when she put
it on for her, man and y'all go out together,
she did it for you. Though. At dinner all I
could see was her chest. That's why she put it on, right,
(06:24):
And how stupid can you be? Now, let me tell
you what you're really doing. A part of this is
you know what. I'll save it. Yeah, I got news
for you, Dog, You're wrong on this one, brood. I'm
gonna show you why.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, we'll have part two of your response coming up.
Steve At twenty three minutes after the hour today, Strawberry letters, subject,
I give her advice because I love her. We'll get
back into it right after this.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
At the hun Day Getaway sales event. Get deals so right,
it almost feels wrong. Now's the best time to get
the Hyundai car or SUV you've always wanted. Plus, every
new Hyundai comes with America's best warranty and three years
or thirty six thousand miles of limited complimentary maintenance.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Don't think you can get away with all of that?
Think again, But don't wait. The Hondai Getaway Sales event
is going on now. To visit your local Hondai dealer today.
It's a great day for a new Hondai.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is I give her advice because.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
I love her. Well, you know, him and his wife
started on the health journey ndce. The wife had lost
thirteen pounds, he'd have lost two. His explanation is, but
I drank protein shakes and this way, so I'm having
the whey out. Look, boy, let me tell you something.
You can't see two pounds. I'm just tell you that
right now. I've been on a bunch of health journeys.
(07:52):
Two pounds, yay. It don't show up though. Now you
might be lifted some and adding some muscle, You're just
a bigger, fatter version of what you So I'm just
going and there's some hate on her here, so I'm
happy to wear how I look, but you really happy
(08:13):
to wear your wife looked? She didne had to buy
new clothes and everything. She ordered some clothes over the
past few months, and you didn't ask to see any
of her options. I'm beginning to think what that statement was.
What that means is you didn't get a chance to
give your approval, but she didn't ask you for nothing.
Then Valentine's Day come along. She buys this hot dress
for you, puts it on and it's low cutting the
(08:34):
front she got but boobs. All you could see was
her chest. You asked her if she have any other options.
She said, no, I ordered this for Valentine's especially for you.
Y'all go to dinner. You sitting there and you say
at dinner, all I could see was her chest. I
told her, lady, that's why she wore it. It was for you.
(09:00):
I told her later on, I never want to see
that dress again. Way my hold of the man whore
you talking to see, I never want to see that
dress again. Brouh. This is your wife, this ain't your child,
and what you're doing is you're not allowing her to
celebrate her hard work. That's a big problem here, though.
You have an idea in your head and she got
(09:22):
one in her head. But you're going right now. You
slept on the couch at night. Uh huh. See yeah yeah.
The next day I explained to her I only gave
her my opinion because I love her, Okay, But she
loved her too, That's why she went on the health joke. Yeah,
she love herself too. She cursed me out and said
(09:42):
she don't care what I like or don't like. And see, brother,
the reason you got cussed out about that is because
you done wrote this letter. This ain't the first turn.
This has been a whole lot of you wanting what
you won't say and what you want because you a
little controlling ass do. And that's what didn't happened. Now.
(10:03):
She tied to your ass, and she done told you
I don't care what you like or don't like. I'm
her husband, and if I don't like something, I have
the right to tell her. Well not really though not really.
You have the right to think it. It ain't always
good to say it. You know, my girl can put
(10:26):
on something I don't care for it not risk or
nothing like that. Just maybe I don't like to dress.
Then it ain't time to say that though, shut you
damn mouth. So you feel like if I don't like something,
I got the right to tell her, and she got
the right to feel what she want to feel too.
Her charts of clothing is still bothering me, and we
(10:49):
keep arguing whenever she tries to go out in one
of her tight distaste for outfits. Hold up, dog, this
is your wife. This ain't your child. Now you're talking
to her like you own her and control her, and
she not having it. Then here you go. Her body
(11:09):
is really nice and you can see it in any
outfit she wear. So I'm not sure why she's trying
to draw attention to herself like that, dog, cause she
got it like that. There are a lot of women
that don't have to draw attention. If a woman wear
fitted clothes, it's not for attention, it's fitted. She got
(11:31):
a nice body. Are you insecure? Dog?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Two pounds?
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Two pounds on? Are you jealous? Dought? It's something slipping away?
I can tell there's a smoke in your eyes from
a distant five. That's a song. She got frustrated on
(12:03):
me recently and said, if I don't stop judging her,
See this ain't the first time. This ain't just these clothes.
You've been judging this woman for years about everything. You
didn't like her when she was heavier. You probably said
that too. That's why she went and got on the
health journey. Now she done got fired. Now you got
a problem with the fine version two. I promise you
(12:23):
y'all got on that health journey because y'all was sitting
up talking about and you was complaining about how she
looked in she told you you don't stop judging her.
She'll find a man that can appreciate her style. Uh
oh woo. Now that ain't come out of nowhere, dog,
That come from years of build up. She's lost weight
and her respect for me. Because who says that to
(12:47):
they husband? A frustrated, fed a sick of your ass wife,
that's who say that, A fed up through with you tied?
Why do you judgement? Sick of your fed up ass white?
Why can't she see that? I give her my advice
only because I love her, bro But you can't talk
(13:10):
to her that came? How can I get through to
my lovely wife? This ain't gonna be your wife, long dog,
unless you make some changes. That's right, quick judging her?
Let her, live her life and let her work and
show her hard work and celebrate it. And you are
to celebrate it too, because you're lucky. She with you.
Fat ad.
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Post your comments on Tay Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey
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Speaker 3 (13:33):
You lost two pounds, you will quit going to the gym.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
I'm a free iHeartRadio app downloaded today. You're listening to
the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time
be guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry lot up.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. I give her advice because I
love her. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley, My wife and I
started our better health journey in December, and she's already
lost thirteen pounds. I only lost two pounds, but I
drink protein shakes and I live weight, so I'm happy
with how I look. I'm even happier about how good
(00:48):
my wife looks. She's had to buy new dresses, jeans,
and even new shoes because she is smaller everywhere. She
ordered a lot of new clothes over the past few months,
and I didn't bother to ask to see any of
her new things. For Valentine's Day, she put on a
new dress and it was cut low in the front.
She has big boobs and they were front and center,
(01:09):
so I asked if she had another option. She said
she was going to wear it because she ordered it
just for me for Valentine's Day. At dinner, all I
could see was her chest. I told her later that
I never want to see that dress again. I slept
on the couch that night. The next day, I explained
to her that I only gave my opinion because I
(01:30):
love her. She cursed me out and said she doesn't
care what I like or don't like. I'm her husband,
and if I don't like something, I have the right
to tell her. Her choice of clothing is still bothering me,
and we keep arguing whenever she tries to go out
in one of her tight, distasteful outfits. Her body is
really nice and you can see it in any outfit
(01:52):
she wears, so I'm not sure why she's trying to
draw attention to herself like that. She got frustrated with
me recently said if I don't stop judging her, she
will find a man that can appreciate her style. She
lost weight and her respect for me, Because who says
that to their husband? Why can't she see that I
give her my advice only because I love her? How
(02:14):
can I get through? How can I get through to
my lovely wife? Wow, you're gonna have to find a
different way to do it, sir. This is not working
for you. Sometimes it's not what you say, it's how
you say it, or just the fact that you opened
your mouth to say anything at all. No one asked
your opinion, no one. Your wife is feeling herself right now.
(02:37):
She worked hard to lose the weight and she's loving
the results, and she's doing her She's not trying to
hear anything. You got to say anything, especially if it's criticism.
You're not wrong in wanting her to be more modest
in what she wears. I mean, no husband really wants
his wife out there with her boobs all out for
other men, you know, to check out. I get that part.
(02:58):
But you got to relax little and let her have
a little fun. She said she bought the new red
dress for you for Valentine's Day. You didn't even compliment her.
You could have said thank you, baby, you look good
or something. All you're showing her is disappointment, dissatisfaction. You
got to see that she you know, making your wife
angry and all of this. She's hurt by this, and
(03:20):
she's told you to stop judging her. I don't know
what you're going to do to fix this, sir, but
this is definitely, like I said, not working, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Let me just say this to you, dog. You are
going about this the entirely wrong way. You are using,
for lack of better words, the wrong tactics. Bruh. Listen
to me trying to understand where you're coming from while
I read this letter. I will also read this letter
(03:52):
to help you understand where she is coming from. And
I can show you where this derailed for you. I
can show you exactly what y'all started your little health journey.
She's lost thirteen pounds, you lost twenty one. Thirteen pounds
is a lot of weight, man, twenty one is a lot.
But I drink protein shakes, I lift weight, so I'm
(04:14):
happy how I look. Some pounds don't. It should be
measured on how you look. Don't worry about the pounds
because muscle is heavier than fat. So you losing twenty
one pounds, but if you shared the fat, of course
you are to.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Be He lost two. She lost thirteen.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh I thought, I said twenty one. Oh that's two pounds.
Two pounds. Yeah, oh I only lost two. Oh well
this changed my answer? Oh you hating? Oh this change
is the answer I see. Oh, pimp, I only lost two,
but I drink protein shakes and lived weight. Son, you
ain't changed, though, fat boy. I got news for you.
(04:54):
Your fat ass ain't really changed that much. And that's
the damn problem. Now, you said, a rich how to
convince yourself you happy with the way you look over
two pounds. You can't even see two pounds, So now
you all I see right now, I'm even happier about
how my good wife looks. She's had to buy new
(05:16):
dresses and jeans and even new shoes because she's smaller
everywhere everywhere. Man, she ordered a lot of new clothes
over the past few months, and I didn't bother to
ask to see any of her things. Okay, here we go.
Here's the beginning of the problem. You didn't ask to
see any of them because I'm assuming you think when
(05:41):
she buy new stuff, she ought to show it to
you so she could get your approval. That's the beginning
of what's happening here. For Valentine's Day. She put on
a new dress and it was low cut in front.
She got big boobs and they were front and center.
So I asked her, does she have another option? It's
Valentine's Day? Dog, she put that dress on. She says
(06:02):
she was going to wear it because she ordered it
just for you for Valentine's Day. Now, if your wife
out on her own with that, But when she put
it on for her, man and y'all go out together,
she did it for you. Though. At dinner all I
could see was her chest. That's why she put it on, right,
(06:24):
And how stupid can you be? Now, let me tell
you what you're really doing. A part of this is
you know what. I'll save it. Yeah, I got news
for you, Dog, You're wrong on this one, brood. I'm
gonna show you why.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, we'll have part two of your response coming up.
Steve At twenty three minutes after the hour today, Strawberry letters, subject,
I give her advice because I love her. We'll get
back into it right after this.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
At the hun Day Getaway sales event. Get deals so right,
it almost feels wrong. Now's the best time to get
the Hyundai car or SUV you've always wanted. Plus, every
new Hyundai comes with America's best warranty and three years
or thirty six thousand miles of limited complimentary maintenance.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Don't think you can get away with all of that?
Think again, But don't wait. The Hondai Getaway Sales event
is going on now. To visit your local Hondai dealer today.
It's a great day for a new Hondai.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is I give her advice because.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
I love her. Well, you know, him and his wife
started on the health journey ndce. The wife had lost
thirteen pounds, he'd have lost two. His explanation is, but
I drank protein shakes and this way, so I'm having
the whey out. Look, boy, let me tell you something.
You can't see two pounds. I'm just tell you that
right now. I've been on a bunch of health journeys.
(07:52):
Two pounds, yay. It don't show up though. Now you
might be lifted some and adding some muscle, You're just
a bigger, fatter version of what you So I'm just
going and there's some hate on her here, so I'm
happy to wear how I look, but you really happy
(08:13):
to wear your wife looked? She didne had to buy
new clothes and everything. She ordered some clothes over the
past few months, and you didn't ask to see any
of her options. I'm beginning to think what that statement was.
What that means is you didn't get a chance to
give your approval, but she didn't ask you for nothing.
Then Valentine's Day come along. She buys this hot dress
for you, puts it on and it's low cutting the
(08:34):
front she got but boobs. All you could see was
her chest. You asked her if she have any other options.
She said, no, I ordered this for Valentine's especially for you.
Y'all go to dinner. You sitting there and you say
at dinner, all I could see was her chest. I
told her, lady, that's why she wore it. It was for you.
(09:00):
I told her later on, I never want to see
that dress again. Way my hold of the man whore
you talking to see, I never want to see that
dress again. Brouh. This is your wife, this ain't your child,
and what you're doing is you're not allowing her to
celebrate her hard work. That's a big problem here, though.
You have an idea in your head and she got
(09:22):
one in her head. But you're going right now. You
slept on the couch at night. Uh huh. See yeah yeah.
The next day I explained to her I only gave
her my opinion because I love her, Okay, But she
loved her too, That's why she went on the health joke. Yeah,
she love herself too. She cursed me out and said
(09:42):
she don't care what I like or don't like. And see, brother,
the reason you got cussed out about that is because
you done wrote this letter. This ain't the first turn.
This has been a whole lot of you wanting what
you won't say and what you want because you a
little controlling ass do. And that's what didn't happened. Now.
(10:03):
She tied to your ass, and she done told you
I don't care what you like or don't like. I'm
her husband, and if I don't like something, I have
the right to tell her. Well not really though not really.
You have the right to think it. It ain't always
good to say it. You know, my girl can put
(10:26):
on something I don't care for it not risk or
nothing like that. Just maybe I don't like to dress.
Then it ain't time to say that though, shut you
damn mouth. So you feel like if I don't like something,
I got the right to tell her, and she got
the right to feel what she want to feel too.
Her charts of clothing is still bothering me, and we
(10:49):
keep arguing whenever she tries to go out in one
of her tight distaste for outfits. Hold up, dog, this
is your wife. This ain't your child. Now you're talking
to her like you own her and control her, and
she not having it. Then here you go. Her body
(11:09):
is really nice and you can see it in any
outfit she wear. So I'm not sure why she's trying
to draw attention to herself like that, dog, cause she
got it like that. There are a lot of women
that don't have to draw attention. If a woman wear
fitted clothes, it's not for attention, it's fitted. She got
(11:31):
a nice body. Are you insecure? Dog?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Two pounds?
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Two pounds on? Are you jealous? Dought? It's something slipping away?
I can tell there's a smoke in your eyes from
a distant five. That's a song. She got frustrated on
(12:03):
me recently and said, if I don't stop judging her,
See this ain't the first time. This ain't just these clothes.
You've been judging this woman for years about everything. You
didn't like her when she was heavier. You probably said
that too. That's why she went and got on the
health journey. Now she done got fired. Now you got
a problem with the fine version two. I promise you
(12:23):
y'all got on that health journey because y'all was sitting
up talking about and you was complaining about how she
looked in she told you you don't stop judging her.
She'll find a man that can appreciate her style. Uh
oh woo. Now that ain't come out of nowhere, dog,
That come from years of build up. She's lost weight
and her respect for me. Because who says that to
(12:47):
they husband? A frustrated, fed a sick of your ass wife,
that's who say that, A fed up through with you tied?
Why do you judgement? Sick of your fed up ass white?
Why can't she see that? I give her my advice
only because I love her, bro But you can't talk
(13:10):
to her that came? How can I get through to
my lovely wife? This ain't gonna be your wife, long dog,
unless you make some changes. That's right, quick judging her?
Let her, live her life and let her work and
show her hard work and celebrate it. And you are
to celebrate it too, because you're lucky. She with you.
Fat ad.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Post your comments on Tay Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
You lost two pounds, you will quit going to the gym.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
I'm a free iHeartRadio app downloaded today. You're listening to
the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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