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The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Friday, January 30th, 2026. Subject: "I Hate All Of His Family And His Friends"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
Yeah, he's at work today, Thank you, nephew. Subject I
hate all of his family and friends. Dear Stephen Shirley,
my boyfriend of two years has been talking about marriage,
but I hate all of his family and friends. We're
both thirty three years old and we met online. I
got offered a job promotion and a transfer to the

(00:47):
city where my boyfriend grew up. We decided I'd take
the job and we get married, so we relocated to
the city that he grew up in. We bought a
house within a week of moving, and it all happened quickly.
After we got settled, he decided it was time for
me to meet his parents. They don't live together, but
they are married. He said, it's complicated. I thought it

(01:09):
was strange that I'd never met them, but he always
said there's no rush. Now I know why. So here's
what happened to make me hate everyone. We invited everyone
out to dinner, and the only way to get his
family to go was to agree to go to a
buffet restaurant. I don't like eating at buffets, and it's
not because I'm bougie.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
It's because I got.

Speaker 1 (01:30):
Very sick one time from eating at a buffet, and
that has scarred me for life. Two of my boyfriend,
two of my boyfriend's childhood friends came to dinner with us,
along with his mom, dad, sister, and a sister's four children.
His homeboy smelled like they work at a weed factory
and they were wrapping illicit lyrics at the table. His
parents got into an argument because his dad called his

(01:53):
mom a trick and she flipped him off. I won't
even mention the four little, filthy children that were running
all away around the restaurant. My boyfriend pay the bill
for all these grown people, and he looks so embarrassed.
He's whispered that he hopes this isn't a deal breaker.
I don't want any of these people to ever come
to our house. But how do I tell him that

(02:15):
he's not at all like him like them? So do
you think he will understand, if I'm honest, Well, yeah,
I think he'll understand.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
But I don't think you should tell him that.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
You definitely can't tell him in that way that you
don't ever want them to come to your house. You
got to remember you're marrying him and not his family,
and we know you hate all of them and you
don't care for them.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
But like I said, please don't tell him that.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
I mean, you can think of other ways to say it,
you know, or if they're come or if they're coming
over you know you're busy, or whatever the situation. I mean,
there are still his family no matter what. The great part,
you know, look at the positive. He wanted you to
meet them. Okay, it was about time you met his family.
And that's pretty big because here's a man taking you
to meet his family. A lot of times that's what

(03:03):
we want to meet his family and to see, you know,
where he comes from. So that means he, you know,
wants you to be a part of his family. Okay,
So that's a good thing. He is embarrassed by them, though.
He is embarrassed, and it doesn't sound like they'll be
coming around because he's embarrassed, and it took you a
while to meet them in the first place. He knows
how they are because he said he hoped you weren't.

(03:25):
They weren't a deal breaker meeting them. So we can't
pick our family members, we know that, but we can
decide how we deal with them. So you decide. You
make the decisions of you know, if and when they
come to your house and how that's going to play
out and all that.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
I mean.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
Otherwise, if you love this man, you know you're going
to have to deal with his family at some point.
So you know your options are to what sell your
new house that you just bought in.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
The town he grew up in.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
I doubt if that's going to happen, you know, because
you guys just bought it.

Speaker 2 (03:57):
The housing market is crazy all that.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
The other thing is, you know, you guys can build
a life together, you know when you do get married.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
Sounds like you're headed in that direction.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
This is the man you love, build a life you
together with this man and have minimal contact with his family.

Speaker 2 (04:14):
Don't invite them over, Steve, this.

Speaker 3 (04:17):
One is interesting.

Speaker 4 (04:20):
Everybody got some family members in their own family that
they don't really care for. So I can only imagine
that there's gonna be some people in their family, your spouse, mate, lover, friend, fiance, whatever,

(04:43):
in their family that you're not gonna like. Now, y'all
been together two years, you moving kind of quickie, thirty
three years old.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
You met online.

Speaker 4 (04:51):
But you know this was the dude. You know, y'all
got a job you got off of the promotion. You
transferred to the city where your boyfriend he grew up.
You say right at the top, I hate all his
family and friends, every last one of them. We decided
to take the job that you got off of the
promotion in we'd get married.

Speaker 3 (05:13):
So we relocated to the city that he grew up in.
We bought a house within a week of moving.

Speaker 4 (05:19):
It all happened quickly, and then right after y'all got centered,
he decided, who's time for need to meet his parents.
Now here the tricky part. They don't live together, but
they're married. He said, it's complicated. We'll get into that
in a minute. I thought it was strange that I

(05:39):
never met them, but he always said, ain't no rush
because he knew he loved you. He can't let you
meet his other side because you ain't gonna understand it
now he's different. He knew this was coming. Here's what
happened that made me hate everyone. Wow, we invited everybody

(05:59):
out to dinner, and the only way to get his
family to go was to agree to a buffet restaurant.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
Now right here, we're talking about size.

Speaker 2 (06:08):
Now, size or sides size?

Speaker 4 (06:15):
Okay, when the whole family insists the only way we
going out is got to be buffey, just hate the
first time they'd have made that decision.

Speaker 3 (06:28):
This is a family thing.

Speaker 4 (06:30):
And if you go to buffets a lot, you have
some size on you. We'll get into the rest of
it when we come back.

Speaker 3 (06:36):
The big people you're talking about.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
Well, Steve Harvey's response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Okay, the subject of today's Strawberry letter
I hate all of his.

Speaker 2 (06:48):
Family and friends. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter
and finish up your response today.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
Subject is I hate all of his family and friends.

Speaker 4 (07:38):
You know, like I said, this is gonna be rough
because everybody got some family members they don't care for.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
So once you get into a relationship with.

Speaker 4 (07:44):
Somebody else, they gonna have some family members you don't
care for. But your hatred for them came all at once.
This is why you hate. You hate met them with
one time and you have reached the conclusion that you
hate all of them. Here you know, now y'all have
moved together, y'all relocated, y'all bought a house. Y'all then

(08:07):
moved in it. You got settled. He told you it
wasn't no rush to meet his parents. Now you thought
it was a little bit strange, but he knew because
this could be a deal break.

Speaker 3 (08:18):
First of all, they his parents, but they don't live together.
We're gonna get into that.

Speaker 4 (08:24):
As to why I figured this out in the letter,
here's what happened to make me hate everyone. We invited
everybody out to dinner. The only way to get his
family to go was to agree to going to a
buffet restaurant. Now, when everybody say we have to go
to a buffet restaurant, it's because they need more bought

(08:48):
to the table and they wants to go get their
own portion sizes because they're unhappy with the portions and
choices of the menu. Some people like their gravy to
run into their potato salad. They won't they ham laying
on top of their greens. You gotta be able to

(09:09):
go and fix your own plate. These is big people
were talking about now, and I know they big people
because they've decided as a unit, we ain't going nowhere.

Speaker 3 (09:19):
Le's it's a buffet. These is big people.

Speaker 4 (09:24):
Man. I'm just gonna tell you don't like my answer,
I don't care. I've come to the conclusion in this
Strawberry letter this is a place full of big people
that I've prove it. I don't like eating at buffets
because I'm not bullgies, just because I'm very sad. I
got sick one time from eating at a buffet, and
that has scarred me from life. Nothing stops big people
from eating at a buffet. They have all been sick.

(09:47):
They had all seen people pick over the food.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
They didn't seen people talk under the shield while they
getting their food.

Speaker 4 (09:54):
But big people can they They have seen the sneezes,
they have done all all that they coughed. They but
big people don't give it because buffets is for big people.
Two of his childhood friends came. They smell like a
weed factor. That's cause they smoke weed. Thus the other

(10:16):
reason we got to go to a buffet be cause
we got the munchies. Man, See this buffet is all
coming together now, and they were rapping explicit lyrics at
the table. Hell because they're high. You thirty three. All
his friends is all want to be rappers that ain't

(10:36):
never made it now at the table rapping explicit lyrics
because they high.

Speaker 3 (10:41):
And they hung.

Speaker 4 (10:44):
His parents got in the argument because his dad called
his mama a trick and she flipped him off. Nah,
we're getting into why they don't live together. Real big
people don't like staying together because it ain't allowed a room.

Speaker 3 (11:03):
They after buffet. They can't stand each other.

Speaker 4 (11:06):
See, the argument was a flip off, because that's all
she had the energy for. She was big. She'd the
guy up, walk around there and saying what you say.
But she crossed the table. She couldn't get up, so
she just flipped him off because she big. She at
the table and that's and he knew she wasn't gonna
get up. That's why he called her a trick in
front of everybody. But he got the trick from the

(11:27):
two little rapper friends because they was probably doing a
trick daddy song.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
This is terrible.

Speaker 4 (11:33):
See how it's working out right now. I put all
this together. They were doing a trick daddy rap song.
That's where he got the turn trick from because he.

Speaker 3 (11:42):
Didn't know it.

Speaker 4 (11:45):
Yeah, she didn't want to mention the four little filthy kids.
And I know they filter because fat people don't like
bathing other other people. Little kids is filthy, Yeah, because
they people ain't got no time to be watching them
kids and got being over the bank.

Speaker 3 (12:00):
Have to breathe and losing your breath and all.

Speaker 4 (12:02):
This here, So just put some calls on these little
filter kids, will let them run round. My boyfriend paid
the bill for all these grown people. He looks so embarrassed.
He whispered that he hopes this isn't a deal breaker.
I don't want any of these people to come over
to our house. But how do I tell him that
he's not at all like them? So do you think
he will understand if I'm honest what Sureley said, You

(12:24):
shouldn't be honest, and I can understand that, and I
respect that too, But you don't have to be honest.
But if you don't want to be honest, there's some
things you can do to keep their.

Speaker 3 (12:34):
Out of your house.

Speaker 4 (12:36):
First of all, you let it be known that none
of your meals would.

Speaker 3 (12:43):
Be served buffet style. That's the first thing.

Speaker 4 (12:47):
We don't put no plates out where you can go
around scoop your own. No, that'll keep they big out
the house right there. And then secondly, when they come over,
tell them that they they have to select off of
pre determined menu what they want to eat when they
come over. That fat people don't like that they not coming,

(13:09):
And you can keep them people out your house for
years like that.

Speaker 2 (13:14):
For you look at the.

Speaker 4 (13:15):
Time or every time you have a family, gather Kenny
Big right back down to that buffet and deal with
it and then just go home.

Speaker 3 (13:22):
Thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (13:23):
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