December 8, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Monday, December 8th, 2025. Subject: "I Know My Man's Hands"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVIFM dot com click
submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
You never know. It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Buckle love and hold on tight.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
We got it for you.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Nephew's subject I know my man's hands. Here's Stephen Shirley.
I'm a thirty six year old married woman and my
husband is thirty eight. I'm pregnant with my second child,
and I'm too far along to travel, so my husband
went to his baby sister's wedding without me. He's from
Detroit and his ex wife and twelve year old son
live there. When we first met, he would go to
(00:48):
Detroit to visit with his son, and he would stay
at his old home where his ex wife still lives.
He tried to rationalize it by saying he still pays
for the house, so he's not going to go to
Detroit and pay for a hotel room. After I broke
up with him for doing it, he started either staying
in a hotel or he would stay with his cousin.
Going back and forth to Detroit has always been an
(01:10):
issue with me because he gets ghost when he's there.
He tells me that it's because he puts his phone
down so he can be present and in the moment
with his son. But I think he's over there with
his ex wife playing house. When I noticed I was
nagging him about it, I stopped mentioning it. Now when
he is there, if he ignores my calls, I ignore his.
(01:32):
I hate playing games at this age, but I have
to get his attention somehow.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
So back to the topic at hand. My husband went.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
To Detroit for his sister's wedding and he told me
that his ex wife was invited. I cannot argue with
that because she will be linked to the family forever
through their son. I saw photos days after the wedding
and his ex wife was in a lot of pictures
with the family. One picture was taken of her back
and there was a hand on her lower back right
(02:01):
at her. But it was my husband's right hand. He
can deny it all he wants, that's right. I know
my man's hands. I'm going crazy thinking he was with
his ex all weekend. Is it not his responsibility to
make me think otherwise?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
No?
Speaker 1 (02:20):
No, I don't think it's his responsibility to do that.
You saw what you saw. You saw your husband's hand
on her lower back. Don't leave it up to him
to try to make you think you saw something other
than what you saw. You saw it with your own
eyes and you cannot unsee it. Where there's smoke, there's fire,
and his hand on her lower back, right at her
(02:42):
butt as you say, means they're still very close and
familiar with each other. Kid aside, Yes, he could very
well have been with her this weekend in Detroit. Of
course he's going to deny it. I mean, what else
is he going to say? You busted him? What is
he going to say say it wasn't his hand. You
definitely should know your husband's hand. Uh, And he's not
(03:04):
gonna tell you the truth, no chance of that. You
already know what's up anyway. Then you say you left
him early on in your relationship because of his situation
with her, all of this getting ghost when he's in
Detroit putting his phone down, not answering when.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
You called all that sounds very suspect to me.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Spending time with his son does not require him to
spend time with his baby mama.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
To period, Steve, it's gonna be a tough one. Yeah,
wiggle out of this one.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
I'm already a pin over loophole, very large loophole. I'm
about to dive through it. I uh what sounds like
me and yah, we'll be in some situations here. Whenever
(04:00):
you meet a man or women, know that there comes
a history with these people. Nobody is history free. Everybody
has a present. Ever, excuse me, everybody has a past.
That's how you get to the present. You need a
small P to become the big P past present. What's
the most important thing, the big P present. But y'all
(04:24):
like to bring up the past. So now what we
got to do is cover the past, shade the past,
make it appear to be something that it wasn't so
we can get on with the present. See, I'm doing
the same thing this woman did in this letter, because
it took her a long time to get down to
(04:45):
the crux of this letter. But she thought she was
in court, so she was presenting her case. She's thirty six,
her husband thirty eight. She's pregnant with her second child,
so she can't travel. So your husband went to his
baby sister's where without me. Well, he is his baby sister,
so we don't have a problem now. But this is
all to set us up for her side of the story.
(05:08):
He's from Detroit. His ex wife and twelve year old
son lived there. He has a past. They were married,
they had a child, they were together. Now when we
first met, he'd go to Detroit to visit his son,
(05:28):
and he'd stay at his old home whereas ex wife
still live. He tried to rationalize it by saying he
still pay for the house. He ain't gonna go to
Detroit and pay for a hotel room. Bravo, brother, nice things,
but you know that one ain't gonna last. That one
ain't gonna last. Now I must tell you that that
type of thinking is not gonna last. I can't help
(05:50):
you with this one. Dog. I ain't over here. I'm
going to Detroit. I'm paying for this hall. I'mna pay
for a house and the hotel. Yes you will. So
you broke up with him for doing it. He started
either staying in the hotel or to stay at his
cousin's house. And that's the way you get your way, lady.
I commend you for that. I'm on your side going
(06:10):
back to forth. Detroit's always been an issue with me
because he gets ghosts when he's there. You've man about
to hold Detroit situation anyway. The man got to go
see his son. We get beat up all the time
from not taking care of our kids. Then when we
go and be a quality father, somebody got a problem
with that part too. Now you can't have your cake
and eat it too. We'll come back. We'll just talk
(06:32):
about what you actually gonna eat. Car Okay, she does.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
They ain't gonna be a cake, all right, all right,
hold that thought, Steve.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Coming up at twenty three minutes after the.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Hour each we will recapped today's strawberry letter and have
more of your response. The subject is I know my
man's hands. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Harday Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Christmas is a time for joy, and joy is most
powerful when it's shared. At the Salvation Army. Your twenty
five dollars monthly gift helps provide warm meals, safe shelter,
and Christmas hope for families right in your neighborhood this season.
Lift spirits, including your own, knowing you're making Christmas brighter
and futures stronger. Give with joy at Salvation ARMYUSA dot org,
(07:23):
or at a red kettle near you that Salvation Army
USA dot org.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All Right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is I know my man's hands.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Well, lady, you set up this letter to get to
this long park. We waited till the end of this letter.
You told us because you will stay in your case,
did you thirty sixty thirty eight? You're having your second child.
I don't know if that's with him. I'm pregnant with
my second child and I wasn't able to travel. I'm
not I'm probably assuming that's y'all's two children, or you
(07:57):
had one before, but this one was his for suresn't matter.
He's from Detroit. His ex wife and twelve year old
son live there. And then when he first met y'all
would go back and forth to Detroit, and he would
stay at his old home where his ex still lives.
And he tried to rationalize that he ain't paying for
a house at the hotel when we go to Detroit.
(08:18):
You got on him about it, and you broke up
with him for doing it. So he either stays at
a hotel or with his cousin. Now, bravo, lady, you
did the right thing. Put your foot down. Stop that.
It's hard for me to fix that. With two brothers cousins.
I'm not gonna be very help you with this one.
Right here, you can't stay at the woman house, and
(08:39):
I can give you you deVie ain't gonna fly. So anyway,
going back and forth Detroit's always been an issue because
he gets ghost when he's there. He tells me, is
because he puts his phone down so he can be
(09:00):
present and in the moment with his son. Ain't God good? Now, Daddy,
listen to me. If your son twelve and he don't
know that the phone gonna ring, sometimes we need to
turn him on to technology because he at that age
where y'all probably considering getting him a phone. Anyway, So
(09:23):
you putting your phone down so you can be present.
Then you say, but I think he over there with
his ex wife playing house. Then you said, what I noticed,
I was nagging him about it. I stopped mentioning it.
So when he's there, he ignores my call, ignore.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
The wife's calls, help him.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
I can't. I can't help you with this right here,
Ignore the wife's calls. Bruh, you have got to find
a way to answer that phone and say, baby, were
in the movies? Now, baby, I'm putting him to sleep.
But he twelve, so that ain't gonna work. I don't know,
(10:04):
you me the reading bedtime stud. You got to do something.
But you cannot ignore her cause you gotta pick that
phone up and say something else. Though you cannot ignore
your wife call. I can't help you with him. So
if he ignores my cause I ignore his, well he
probably saying hallelujah to that I called your baby. You
(10:26):
ain't answer. That's a relief. So you stupid, you're giving
him more free time. Now, you stupid. That's a dumb move, lady.
Stop doing that. Stop ignoring. He's gonna pick him up
and just say hello, where you being?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (10:40):
You ready to talk? Now?
Speaker 4 (10:43):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (10:44):
I guess it's I guess it's convenient for me now
while I'm carrying your baby. Oh, it's a whole lot
of stuff you can say when you pick that phone
up to make him on a vomit. My husband went
to Detroit for his sister's where and he told me
his ex wife was invited. Oh, first of all, let
me tell she said, I hate playing games at this age,
but I have to get his attention somehow. So back
(11:04):
to the topic at hand. We are ninety percent through
with the letter before she gets to his part. My
husband went to Detroit for his sister's wedding. He told
me his ex wife was invited. I cannot argue with
that because she is linked to the family forever through
the sun. Okay, got that. I saw photos today after
the wind and his ex wife was in a lot
of picks with the family. Yeah, she was there. You
(11:25):
would have been in picks too, but you couldn't make
it because you was pregnant. Right, one picture was taken
of her back, and that was a hand on her
lower back, right at her butt. It was my husband's hand.
He can deny it all he wants. I know my
man's hands. I'm going crazy thinking he was with his
ex all weekend. It is it not his responsibility to
(11:48):
make me think otherwise. Yes, it is his responsibility to
make you think otherwise. And he did just that. He said,
that is not my hand, You says, he can deny
it all he wants. I know my man's hand. That
(12:09):
is not my head. You know how many people got
this hand right here?
Speaker 2 (12:14):
You got you.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
A whole lot of people got hair look like mine.
Did you see my face back there on her back,
on her butt? Did you see my wedding ring on
her back? Because I always wear my wedding ring. Huh?
Look how small that man's hands is. I look at
(12:40):
my hands. The picture that as deception, pictures are never
as clear as to ere It is the size of
the man's hand that what I would win this argument.
And I will make a refer to a case in
the past. If it doesn't fit, you must agree that
is not my head. It is the wrong side. Oh,
(13:03):
it looked like my head. But I put my head
up against that picture, which will be way bigger, and
I'll go write that. Look at that, Look at the
hand side. Let me take my head and put it
on yo lower back.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
All right, Leave your comments.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
That is not my head. Is it his responsibility to
make me think otherwise? Yes? And he did it.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
No, he doesn't know.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Leave your comments on today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram, at
Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeart Radio app, where free
never sounded so good.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVIFM dot com click
submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
You never know. It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Buckle love and hold on tight.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
We got it for you.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Nephew's subject I know my man's hands. Here's Stephen Shirley.
I'm a thirty six year old married woman and my
husband is thirty eight. I'm pregnant with my second child,
and I'm too far along to travel, so my husband
went to his baby sister's wedding without me. He's from
Detroit and his ex wife and twelve year old son
live there. When we first met, he would go to
(00:48):
Detroit to visit with his son, and he would stay
at his old home where his ex wife still lives.
He tried to rationalize it by saying he still pays
for the house, so he's not going to go to
Detroit and pay for a hotel room. After I broke
up with him for doing it, he started either staying
in a hotel or he would stay with his cousin.
Going back and forth to Detroit has always been an
(01:10):
issue with me because he gets ghost when he's there.
He tells me that it's because he puts his phone
down so he can be present and in the moment
with his son. But I think he's over there with
his ex wife playing house. When I noticed I was
nagging him about it, I stopped mentioning it. Now when
he is there, if he ignores my calls, I ignore his.
(01:32):
I hate playing games at this age, but I have
to get his attention somehow.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
So back to the topic at hand. My husband went.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
To Detroit for his sister's wedding and he told me
that his ex wife was invited. I cannot argue with
that because she will be linked to the family forever
through their son. I saw photos days after the wedding
and his ex wife was in a lot of pictures
with the family. One picture was taken of her back
and there was a hand on her lower back right
(02:01):
at her. But it was my husband's right hand. He
can deny it all he wants, that's right. I know
my man's hands. I'm going crazy thinking he was with
his ex all weekend. Is it not his responsibility to
make me think otherwise?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
No?
Speaker 1 (02:20):
No, I don't think it's his responsibility to do that.
You saw what you saw. You saw your husband's hand
on her lower back. Don't leave it up to him
to try to make you think you saw something other
than what you saw. You saw it with your own
eyes and you cannot unsee it. Where there's smoke, there's fire,
and his hand on her lower back, right at her
(02:42):
butt as you say, means they're still very close and
familiar with each other. Kid aside, Yes, he could very
well have been with her this weekend in Detroit. Of
course he's going to deny it. I mean, what else
is he going to say? You busted him? What is
he going to say say it wasn't his hand. You
definitely should know your husband's hand. Uh, And he's not
(03:04):
gonna tell you the truth, no chance of that. You
already know what's up anyway. Then you say you left
him early on in your relationship because of his situation
with her, all of this getting ghost when he's in
Detroit putting his phone down, not answering when.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
You called all that sounds very suspect to me.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Spending time with his son does not require him to
spend time with his baby mama.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
To period, Steve, it's gonna be a tough one. Yeah,
wiggle out of this one.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
I'm already a pin over loophole, very large loophole. I'm
about to dive through it. I uh what sounds like
me and yah, we'll be in some situations here. Whenever
(04:00):
you meet a man or women, know that there comes
a history with these people. Nobody is history free. Everybody
has a present. Ever, excuse me, everybody has a past.
That's how you get to the present. You need a
small P to become the big P past present. What's
the most important thing, the big P present. But y'all
(04:24):
like to bring up the past. So now what we
got to do is cover the past, shade the past,
make it appear to be something that it wasn't so
we can get on with the present. See, I'm doing
the same thing this woman did in this letter, because
it took her a long time to get down to
(04:45):
the crux of this letter. But she thought she was
in court, so she was presenting her case. She's thirty six,
her husband thirty eight. She's pregnant with her second child,
so she can't travel. So your husband went to his
baby sister's where without me. Well, he is his baby sister,
so we don't have a problem now. But this is
all to set us up for her side of the story.
(05:08):
He's from Detroit. His ex wife and twelve year old
son lived there. He has a past. They were married,
they had a child, they were together. Now when we
first met, he'd go to Detroit to visit his son,
(05:28):
and he'd stay at his old home whereas ex wife
still live. He tried to rationalize it by saying he
still pay for the house. He ain't gonna go to
Detroit and pay for a hotel room. Bravo, brother, nice things,
but you know that one ain't gonna last. That one
ain't gonna last. Now I must tell you that that
type of thinking is not gonna last. I can't help
(05:50):
you with this one. Dog. I ain't over here. I'm
going to Detroit. I'm paying for this hall. I'mna pay
for a house and the hotel. Yes you will. So
you broke up with him for doing it. He started
either staying in the hotel or to stay at his
cousin's house. And that's the way you get your way, lady.
I commend you for that. I'm on your side going
(06:10):
back to forth. Detroit's always been an issue with me
because he gets ghosts when he's there. You've man about
to hold Detroit situation anyway. The man got to go
see his son. We get beat up all the time
from not taking care of our kids. Then when we
go and be a quality father, somebody got a problem
with that part too. Now you can't have your cake
and eat it too. We'll come back. We'll just talk
(06:32):
about what you actually gonna eat. Car Okay, she does.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
They ain't gonna be a cake, all right, all right,
hold that thought, Steve.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Coming up at twenty three minutes after the.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Hour each we will recapped today's strawberry letter and have
more of your response. The subject is I know my
man's hands. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Harday Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Christmas is a time for joy, and joy is most
powerful when it's shared. At the Salvation Army. Your twenty
five dollars monthly gift helps provide warm meals, safe shelter,
and Christmas hope for families right in your neighborhood this season.
Lift spirits, including your own, knowing you're making Christmas brighter
and futures stronger. Give with joy at Salvation ARMYUSA dot org,
(07:23):
or at a red kettle near you that Salvation Army
USA dot org.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All Right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is I know my man's hands.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Well, lady, you set up this letter to get to
this long park. We waited till the end of this letter.
You told us because you will stay in your case,
did you thirty sixty thirty eight? You're having your second child.
I don't know if that's with him. I'm pregnant with
my second child and I wasn't able to travel. I'm
not I'm probably assuming that's y'all's two children, or you
(07:57):
had one before, but this one was his for suresn't matter.
He's from Detroit. His ex wife and twelve year old
son live there. And then when he first met y'all
would go back and forth to Detroit, and he would
stay at his old home where his ex still lives.
And he tried to rationalize that he ain't paying for
a house at the hotel when we go to Detroit.
(08:18):
You got on him about it, and you broke up
with him for doing it. So he either stays at
a hotel or with his cousin. Now, bravo, lady, you
did the right thing. Put your foot down. Stop that.
It's hard for me to fix that. With two brothers cousins.
I'm not gonna be very help you with this one.
Right here, you can't stay at the woman house, and
(08:39):
I can give you you deVie ain't gonna fly. So anyway,
going back and forth Detroit's always been an issue because
he gets ghost when he's there. He tells me, is
because he puts his phone down so he can be
(09:00):
present and in the moment with his son. Ain't God good? Now, Daddy,
listen to me. If your son twelve and he don't
know that the phone gonna ring, sometimes we need to
turn him on to technology because he at that age
where y'all probably considering getting him a phone. Anyway, So
(09:23):
you putting your phone down so you can be present.
Then you say, but I think he over there with
his ex wife playing house. Then you said, what I noticed,
I was nagging him about it. I stopped mentioning it.
So when he's there, he ignores my call, ignore.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
The wife's calls, help him.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
I can't. I can't help you with this right here,
Ignore the wife's calls. Bruh, you have got to find
a way to answer that phone and say, baby, were
in the movies? Now, baby, I'm putting him to sleep.
But he twelve, so that ain't gonna work. I don't know,
(10:04):
you me the reading bedtime stud. You got to do something.
But you cannot ignore her cause you gotta pick that
phone up and say something else. Though you cannot ignore
your wife call. I can't help you with him. So
if he ignores my cause I ignore his, well he
probably saying hallelujah to that I called your baby. You
(10:26):
ain't answer. That's a relief. So you stupid, you're giving
him more free time. Now, you stupid. That's a dumb move, lady.
Stop doing that. Stop ignoring. He's gonna pick him up
and just say hello, where you being?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (10:40):
You ready to talk? Now?
Speaker 4 (10:43):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (10:44):
I guess it's I guess it's convenient for me now
while I'm carrying your baby. Oh, it's a whole lot
of stuff you can say when you pick that phone
up to make him on a vomit. My husband went
to Detroit for his sister's where and he told me
his ex wife was invited. Oh, first of all, let
me tell she said, I hate playing games at this age,
but I have to get his attention somehow. So back
(11:04):
to the topic at hand. We are ninety percent through
with the letter before she gets to his part. My
husband went to Detroit for his sister's wedding. He told
me his ex wife was invited. I cannot argue with
that because she is linked to the family forever through
the sun. Okay, got that. I saw photos today after
the wind and his ex wife was in a lot
of picks with the family. Yeah, she was there. You
(11:25):
would have been in picks too, but you couldn't make
it because you was pregnant. Right, one picture was taken
of her back, and that was a hand on her
lower back, right at her butt. It was my husband's hand.
He can deny it all he wants. I know my
man's hands. I'm going crazy thinking he was with his
ex all weekend. It is it not his responsibility to
(11:48):
make me think otherwise. Yes, it is his responsibility to
make you think otherwise. And he did just that. He said,
that is not my hand, You says, he can deny
it all he wants. I know my man's hand. That
(12:09):
is not my head. You know how many people got
this hand right here?
Speaker 2 (12:14):
You got you.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
A whole lot of people got hair look like mine.
Did you see my face back there on her back,
on her butt? Did you see my wedding ring on
her back? Because I always wear my wedding ring. Huh?
Look how small that man's hands is. I look at
(12:40):
my hands. The picture that as deception, pictures are never
as clear as to ere It is the size of
the man's hand that what I would win this argument.
And I will make a refer to a case in
the past. If it doesn't fit, you must agree that
is not my head. It is the wrong side. Oh,
(13:03):
it looked like my head. But I put my head
up against that picture, which will be way bigger, and
I'll go write that. Look at that, Look at the
hand side. Let me take my head and put it
on yo lower back.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
All right, Leave your comments.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
That is not my head. Is it his responsibility to
make me think otherwise? Yes? And he did it.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
No, he doesn't know.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Leave your comments on today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram, at
Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeart Radio app, where free
never sounded so good.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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My Favorite Murder is a true crime comedy podcast hosted by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark. Each week, Karen and Georgia share compelling true crimes and hometown stories from friends and listeners. Since MFM launched in January of 2016, Karen and Georgia have shared their lifelong interest in true crime and have covered stories of infamous serial killers like the Night Stalker, mysterious cold cases, captivating cults, incredible survivor stories and important events from history like the Tulsa race massacre of 1921. My Favorite Murder is part of the Exactly Right podcast network that provides a platform for bold, creative voices to bring to life provocative, entertaining and relatable stories for audiences everywhere. The Exactly Right roster of podcasts covers a variety of topics including historic true crime, comedic interviews and news, science, pop culture and more. Podcasts on the network include Buried Bones with Kate Winkler Dawson and Paul Holes, That's Messed Up: An SVU Podcast, This Podcast Will Kill You, Bananas and more.
Dateline NBC
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