June 4, 2026 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Thursday, June 4th, 2026. Subject: "I Think He Perms His Hair"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting,
are more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVEFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
And you never know, this one could be yours. It
could definitely be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I think he perms his hair.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty nine year old divorced
woman and I was married to an older man that
went bald early, so I was the only female in
our household who had to worry about hair. I have
two sons that were blessed with a curly hair texture
so that they were not in the barbershop every week.
(00:49):
I've never had to deal with any man's hair issues,
and I'm almost ashamed to write to you guys this letter.
I'm dating a man that is fifty six years old
and he's from Detroit. Not to slam Detroit in anyway,
but this brother's picture should be in the dictionary next
to the word soulful. That means we've been together for
(01:09):
a few months and we're at the spend the night
phase because it was pastime for us to start having sex.
The first time we had sex, he told me that
he had to go home immediately after we finished. He
said he didn't have any of his hair products with him,
so he had to go. I know just by looking
(01:29):
at him that his hair texture is not real and
he has some kind of product helping him to get
those curls. The roots don't match the ends, and it
looks like an afro with curly curls on the ends.
When he goes to the barbershop, he's there for long
periods of time. My first cousin just so happens to
go to the same barbershop, and he called me recently
(01:50):
cracking up. He said he's heard that my man is
still getting perms in twenty twenty three. I did not
want to believe it, but it makes sense. I sleep
in a bond and so does he. He won't shower
with me because he said I like it too hot
and the steam drives out his hair. Why is he
more concerned about his hair than I am about mine.
(02:11):
I know for a fact that he uses the hair
color that's just for men. But a perm, though, this
is the only thing that puts me on pause about him.
Should I ask if he has a perm? Who cares?
I mean, this is a whole strawberry letter about hair.
First your husband, who you said was older and went
bald early, then your two sons who you said were
(02:34):
blessed with curly hair, and now your man's hair, who
you suspect has a PERM and you're concerned about asking
if he has one. I'm not sure why you won't
just ask him, you know, I'm not sure about that,
or I'm not sure why his hair matters so much
in the first place. I mean, is his hair unattractive?
(02:54):
Is it greasy? Is it dirty? Does it stink? Does
it get on your pillow care? Or is it simply
because he perms it and your is just not natural?
Is that it you'd like it to be natural?
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I'm not real clear what.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Your issue is. Because he wears a bonnet that could
be concerning. But how does he treat you? Do you
like him? And I would say the answer to that
one is yes. Since you are sleeping with him already.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
So I just say, if you want to know about
his hair, just ask him. It's simple. Just ask him
about his hair. If he says, yes, I purn my hair,
then what then? What are you going to break up
with him because you don't like perms?
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Yeah? I mean you know what, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
First of all, I knew this letter was gonna be
problems because she started off talking about to do what's
from Detroit and not to slam Detroit anyway. But this
brother picture should be in a dictionary next to the
word soulful.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
What does that mean?
Speaker 3 (04:01):
I'm saying to you, be going and what's the problem. Yeah,
you don't understand. I used to go to Detroit to dress.
I went to Detroit with the full intention of shopping
right city slickers, Broadwayne, here we go, Jack's.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Stayed right there.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
The hatchtone, Henry, the Hadda, all of them shut.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
How dare you Gordon.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
That Detroit was everything?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Ad Be's comedy.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Kitchen, Whoa, Joe Lewis Arena, the Silver Dome, the Fox,
all jokes is all of them?
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Detroit was everything? Ain't to me? The automobile show.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Girl, GM girl, You wrote the wrong brother, with this letter.
I'm so mad about the Detroit statement and the pitch
in the diction that next to him, next to soulful
And what is the problem. If your shoes don't match
(05:28):
your hat, that's a problem.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Come on, yes, he says, the problem if your pants
ain't the same with at the knee and the leg
and the thigh, what what?
Speaker 1 (05:43):
What you got on? That's the problem.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
If you ain't ever wear a crim Dulla silk set,
what is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (05:56):
You haven't lived.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yes, we wear a linen short set with thick and
thin socks hole with data.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Shoot, yes, yes, hell yeah, my Lesia suit match.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Yes, we love Detroit, Detroit, baby man, and huh hot,
damn you.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
The love our hell for that city is real. Now
that we got that out the way. Yeah, as this
little ragged.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response he's
mad about Detroit though. We'll have part two of Steve's
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry Letters subject. I think he perms his hair.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
An education a transformation every day.
Speaker 5 (07:02):
The Marshall College Fund transform lives through scholarships, professional development,
and career advancement opportunities. We also connect forward thinking companies
with exceptional HBCU talent through workforce development programs. I'm a
proud HBCU graduate, and my experience shape me into the
person I am today. The education, culture, community, and lifelong
(07:25):
connections help me reach my fullest potential. The Thirdgod Marshall
College Fund is America's largest organization that exclusively represents the
HBCU community. If you believe in education, opportunity, in building
future leaders, this is where it starts.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Join us and be a part of the transformation.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
Apply, donate, or partner with us today at TMCF dot org.
All right, Steve, come on, we have to recap this
strawberry letter for today. The subject is I think he
perms his hair.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Come on, Oh so hurt? No destroyed girl, that's sad.
Look can you see me?
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Yeah, you've come out of emotions. You're talking to the
letter writer.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Now I'm dating a man who's fifty six years old.
He's from Detroit. Not to slam Detroit in anyway, but
the brother's picture should be an addictionary next.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
To the word soul.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
I already have come to the conclusion that I'm not
only don't like this lady that wrote this letter, I'm
not going to say anything to help you either.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
So what are you gonna do? That's how mad? I am?
Not just Detroit for nothing?
Speaker 3 (08:49):
She trying to figure out if her man got a
perm or not. How the hell you a woman and
don't know a prime.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
When you see it? You just said his hair at
the roots is different from they are.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
The dude told you he in the barbershop telling you
your man still get perms. You got on the bonnet,
he got on the bonnet. He let me just you
can't get no better than that boy from Detroit. You
better latch on because at least he won't you Now, Yes,
he perms his hair.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Finally.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Yes he looks like an old pimp. Yes, all his
clothes match. Yes, he's still slapping five on the black side. Yes,
yes he still uses phrases like brother main.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Blood, jive turkey, right on, what's.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Happening with you? I see your pimp? Oh jeesus, old
school phrases. Okay, lickety split, what happened?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
What lickety split? About? To jump off.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Shit?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
To go down, don't play with me. He's soulful. Yeah,
he's so.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
In his car when you get in the car. Yeah,
he got that double player in his car with the
CDs in it and the eight track.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I still got.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
An h Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
He got pillows in the back window of his car
and third dice hanging in the front. He got a
stern wheel wrap, a white sterren wheel rap white. Wow?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Who is this guy?
Speaker 3 (11:00):
He got velvet seats, and yes, it's called a cutlass.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Destroyed baby.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I know you ain't never seen the roof like that
because half of it is vinyl.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I know the rems is called truths. Yes.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
He got white walls, Yes, young man got white walls,
and outside the white wall got a gold stripe.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Them is truths, baby, Yes, truths. If you're pretty passionate
about this letter acknowledgeable right, that's a cat lac.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Yes, and he got it on his neck too, a
Cadillac emblem on his neck. Whoa, he ain't no rapper,
He ain't got his name?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Yes Ford? The rings? Yes, they nuggets? Yes?
Speaker 5 (11:53):
Is this.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
The nuggets rock?
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Yeah? You know exactly what they're then? Yet them jeans
is jor dashed. Yes, Jordans. Yes, yeah, you found a
bag in his closet with men go around on the yell.
(12:22):
I know they don't make no more square toe shoes,
he still got them, and.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Three of his alligated shoes got four colors on them. Yes,
what are those colors? Lime, green, lemon, yellow, orange, and
brown candy lot.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Put that on with the brown suit with the yellow jacket?
What with the green tie?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
What bagg of that's Detroit brown hat with a yellow
band on it. Girl. Stop.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
So that's all I wanted to say. Okay, but I
don't care what his hell is. I just wanted to
give my love, my devotion and all that I am
to the second city in the world that is meant
more to me than Cleveland, Ohio. That's that Detroit. Okay,
(13:29):
ninety two point three doud mix dress.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
All right, hit us up on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
It's Steve Harvey at them to comment on today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
You can not a stand in the words of Downtown
Tony Brown, stand you right in front of that fist.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
And knock your.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You can also check out the Strawberry Letter podcast Done demand.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting,
are more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVEFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
And you never know, this one could be yours. It
could definitely be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I think he perms his hair.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty nine year old divorced
woman and I was married to an older man that
went bald early, so I was the only female in
our household who had to worry about hair. I have
two sons that were blessed with a curly hair texture
so that they were not in the barbershop every week.
(00:49):
I've never had to deal with any man's hair issues,
and I'm almost ashamed to write to you guys this letter.
I'm dating a man that is fifty six years old
and he's from Detroit. Not to slam Detroit in anyway,
but this brother's picture should be in the dictionary next
to the word soulful. That means we've been together for
(01:09):
a few months and we're at the spend the night
phase because it was pastime for us to start having sex.
The first time we had sex, he told me that
he had to go home immediately after we finished. He
said he didn't have any of his hair products with him,
so he had to go. I know just by looking
(01:29):
at him that his hair texture is not real and
he has some kind of product helping him to get
those curls. The roots don't match the ends, and it
looks like an afro with curly curls on the ends.
When he goes to the barbershop, he's there for long
periods of time. My first cousin just so happens to
go to the same barbershop, and he called me recently
(01:50):
cracking up. He said he's heard that my man is
still getting perms in twenty twenty three. I did not
want to believe it, but it makes sense. I sleep
in a bond and so does he. He won't shower
with me because he said I like it too hot
and the steam drives out his hair. Why is he
more concerned about his hair than I am about mine.
(02:11):
I know for a fact that he uses the hair
color that's just for men. But a perm, though, this
is the only thing that puts me on pause about him.
Should I ask if he has a perm? Who cares?
I mean, this is a whole strawberry letter about hair.
First your husband, who you said was older and went
bald early, then your two sons who you said were
(02:34):
blessed with curly hair, and now your man's hair, who
you suspect has a PERM and you're concerned about asking
if he has one. I'm not sure why you won't
just ask him, you know, I'm not sure about that,
or I'm not sure why his hair matters so much
in the first place. I mean, is his hair unattractive?
(02:54):
Is it greasy? Is it dirty? Does it stink? Does
it get on your pillow care? Or is it simply
because he perms it and your is just not natural?
Is that it you'd like it to be natural?
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I'm not real clear what.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Your issue is. Because he wears a bonnet that could
be concerning. But how does he treat you? Do you
like him? And I would say the answer to that
one is yes. Since you are sleeping with him already.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
So I just say, if you want to know about
his hair, just ask him. It's simple. Just ask him
about his hair. If he says, yes, I purn my hair,
then what then? What are you going to break up
with him because you don't like perms?
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Yeah? I mean you know what, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
First of all, I knew this letter was gonna be
problems because she started off talking about to do what's
from Detroit and not to slam Detroit anyway. But this
brother picture should be in a dictionary next to the
word soulful.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
What does that mean?
Speaker 3 (04:01):
I'm saying to you, be going and what's the problem. Yeah,
you don't understand. I used to go to Detroit to dress.
I went to Detroit with the full intention of shopping
right city slickers, Broadwayne, here we go, Jack's.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Stayed right there.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
The hatchtone, Henry, the Hadda, all of them shut.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
How dare you Gordon.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
That Detroit was everything?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Ad Be's comedy.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Kitchen, Whoa, Joe Lewis Arena, the Silver Dome, the Fox,
all jokes is all of them?
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Detroit was everything? Ain't to me? The automobile show.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Girl, GM girl, You wrote the wrong brother, with this letter.
I'm so mad about the Detroit statement and the pitch
in the diction that next to him, next to soulful
And what is the problem. If your shoes don't match
(05:28):
your hat, that's a problem.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Come on, yes, he says, the problem if your pants
ain't the same with at the knee and the leg
and the thigh, what what?
Speaker 1 (05:43):
What you got on? That's the problem.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
If you ain't ever wear a crim Dulla silk set,
what is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (05:56):
You haven't lived.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yes, we wear a linen short set with thick and
thin socks hole with data.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Shoot, yes, yes, hell yeah, my Lesia suit match.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Yes, we love Detroit, Detroit, baby man, and huh hot,
damn you.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
The love our hell for that city is real. Now
that we got that out the way. Yeah, as this
little ragged.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response he's
mad about Detroit though. We'll have part two of Steve's
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry Letters subject. I think he perms his hair.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
An education a transformation every day.
Speaker 5 (07:02):
The Marshall College Fund transform lives through scholarships, professional development,
and career advancement opportunities. We also connect forward thinking companies
with exceptional HBCU talent through workforce development programs. I'm a
proud HBCU graduate, and my experience shape me into the
person I am today. The education, culture, community, and lifelong
(07:25):
connections help me reach my fullest potential. The Thirdgod Marshall
College Fund is America's largest organization that exclusively represents the
HBCU community. If you believe in education, opportunity, in building
future leaders, this is where it starts.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Join us and be a part of the transformation.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
Apply, donate, or partner with us today at TMCF dot org.
All right, Steve, come on, we have to recap this
strawberry letter for today. The subject is I think he
perms his hair.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Come on, Oh so hurt? No destroyed girl, that's sad.
Look can you see me?
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Yeah, you've come out of emotions. You're talking to the
letter writer.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Now I'm dating a man who's fifty six years old.
He's from Detroit. Not to slam Detroit in anyway, but
the brother's picture should be an addictionary next.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
To the word soul.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
I already have come to the conclusion that I'm not
only don't like this lady that wrote this letter, I'm
not going to say anything to help you either.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
So what are you gonna do? That's how mad? I am?
Not just Detroit for nothing?
Speaker 3 (08:49):
She trying to figure out if her man got a
perm or not. How the hell you a woman and
don't know a prime.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
When you see it? You just said his hair at
the roots is different from they are.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
The dude told you he in the barbershop telling you
your man still get perms. You got on the bonnet,
he got on the bonnet. He let me just you
can't get no better than that boy from Detroit. You
better latch on because at least he won't you Now, Yes,
he perms his hair.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Finally.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Yes he looks like an old pimp. Yes, all his
clothes match. Yes, he's still slapping five on the black side. Yes,
yes he still uses phrases like brother main.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Blood, jive turkey, right on, what's.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Happening with you? I see your pimp? Oh jeesus, old
school phrases. Okay, lickety split, what happened?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
What lickety split? About? To jump off.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Shit?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
To go down, don't play with me. He's soulful. Yeah,
he's so.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
In his car when you get in the car. Yeah,
he got that double player in his car with the
CDs in it and the eight track.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
I still got.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
An h Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
He got pillows in the back window of his car
and third dice hanging in the front. He got a
stern wheel wrap, a white sterren wheel rap white. Wow?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Who is this guy?
Speaker 3 (11:00):
He got velvet seats, and yes, it's called a cutlass.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Destroyed baby.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I know you ain't never seen the roof like that
because half of it is vinyl.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I know the rems is called truths. Yes.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
He got white walls, Yes, young man got white walls,
and outside the white wall got a gold stripe.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Them is truths, baby, Yes, truths. If you're pretty passionate
about this letter acknowledgeable right, that's a cat lac.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Yes, and he got it on his neck too, a
Cadillac emblem on his neck. Whoa, he ain't no rapper,
He ain't got his name?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Yes Ford? The rings? Yes, they nuggets? Yes?
Speaker 5 (11:53):
Is this.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
The nuggets rock?
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Yeah? You know exactly what they're then? Yet them jeans
is jor dashed. Yes, Jordans. Yes, yeah, you found a
bag in his closet with men go around on the yell.
(12:22):
I know they don't make no more square toe shoes,
he still got them, and.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Three of his alligated shoes got four colors on them. Yes,
what are those colors? Lime, green, lemon, yellow, orange, and
brown candy lot.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Put that on with the brown suit with the yellow jacket?
What with the green tie?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
What bagg of that's Detroit brown hat with a yellow
band on it. Girl. Stop.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
So that's all I wanted to say. Okay, but I
don't care what his hell is. I just wanted to
give my love, my devotion and all that I am
to the second city in the world that is meant
more to me than Cleveland, Ohio. That's that Detroit. Okay,
(13:29):
ninety two point three doud mix dress.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
All right, hit us up on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
It's Steve Harvey at them to comment on today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
You can not a stand in the words of Downtown
Tony Brown, stand you right in front of that fist.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
And knock your.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You can also check out the Strawberry Letter podcast Done demand.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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