Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it full you hear it in Strawberry and letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I'm in love by default. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty nine year old single female
and I'm being pressured to be with a man that
saved my life. I had a crazy accident and my
SUV flipped twice after I swerve to avoid hitting a
small dog. I was shaken up and I had pieces
(00:49):
of glass in my arm, but I was fine. I
was crawling from the window of the SUV when it
started smoking. I couldn't see what was going on because
of the smoke, but an a nice guy, had come
over to help me get out. Minutes later, a fire
started under the hood of my suv. Everyone started praising
(01:09):
the man for saving my life. The man sat with
me until the ambulance came, and he drove behind the ambulance.
I couldn't believe he was being so sweet. I didn't
have my purse when I got to the er, but
he did. He had grabbed it out of my vehicle
for me. He was basically like my guardian angel. We
(01:29):
exchanged numbers and he continued to check on me for
a few days after I got out of the hospital.
I got worried after he sent flowers to my house.
He sent me flowers to my house. I texted him
and called him a stalker. He called to explain himself.
He apologized for scaring me and said he got my
address from my driver's license. He said that he's a
(01:52):
loaner and it's hard for him to meet new people
because he's shy. I researched him and we have a
lot of mutual friends, and we went to the same college,
so I'm no longer afraid of him being a serial killer.
Everybody knows the story of how we met, and they
all think that God sent this man to me. I'm
(02:12):
in love by default, and I feel pressured to stay
with him. What if he's not Heaven sent. Would I
be wrong to dump him?
Speaker 2 (02:21):
What? Okay, who's pressuring you to be with this man?
Speaker 4 (02:26):
First?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Let me say this.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
You are blessed to be alive, for sure, and thank
God this man was there to help you. This was
a real life miracle, and the last time I checked,
only God can do miracles.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
You could have died for real.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
This was a serious, serious accident, and you should be
very grateful. I'm not hearing gratitude though. I get it
if you don't want to marry this man or be
in a relationship with him. But you've done the research,
and you know quite a bit, really a whole lot,
about this guy, and you actually have a lot of
things in common. You said you're not scared anymore, and
(03:02):
everyone around you is grateful to him for helping you,
and said God must have sent him to you. And
the man is still around. I mean he's calling you,
he went to the hospital with you, he's been checking
on you. He sent you flowers. I don't think you
know what you want here. I don't think so, because
everyone sees him, but you. I think you're just unsure
(03:26):
about how you're supposed to feel about this guy. And
that's Okay, that's okay, but please don't let if you're
feeling guilt or any sort of obligation, don't let that
make you feel like you have to be with this man.
Because listen, if you don't want this nice man, as
you called him, this kind man, this gentleman, this thoughtful man,
this strong man, this considerate man, this man you yourself
(03:50):
called guardian angel, well it's simple. If you don't want them,
let him go. That's it, no pressure. But personally, I
think you should allow yourself to explore this situation, because
what do you have to lose?
Speaker 5 (04:03):
Steve, all Right, I'm gonna just get to it right quick.
I'm gonna tell you something something wrong with this lady.
There are some things wrong with this lady. I've seen
people like this before, and I'm gonna help you understand
what I see when I read the letter. I'm in
love by default is the title of the letter. After
(04:23):
having heard Shirley's response, and listen to this whole letter,
this lady say, did Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty nine
year old single female.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Oh I know that, Oh I know that.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
And after reading this letter, it is clear why you
are single, lady, you all over the place, and I mean,
you don't I don't know if you assess information, well,
I don't know if you you don't know how to
process stuff at this point, what is it recess? Assess
what you say?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Right? I don't know what you're doing. But what's the
matter with you?
Speaker 5 (05:04):
I'm being pressured to be with a man that saved
my life. What did you hear it? I'm being pressured
to be with a man that saved my life. That's
that sounds crazy, But Ritta, I had a crazy accident.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Now listen to this, y'all. And my s U V flipped.
Speaker 5 (05:25):
Twice after I swerve to avoid hitting a small dog.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Now right here, the title of this letter would be
different for me.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
And what would it be?
Speaker 5 (05:36):
They man talking about I smashed they dog. That's that's
what this title would be.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
I'm not swerving.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
I'm gonna just tell you right now, I'm not swerving
and flip my truck over twice for this doll.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Focus, Get back to the letter.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
Everybody gonna learn a lesson. I'm not flipping my call anyway.
Let's just get off of that. Yeah, I swear to
avoid hitting a small dog.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
It's not about you go ahead.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
The car flipped twice?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
What does swear?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
What is his dog? There? No? No? Okay, alight, here
we go. I was shaking. Now listen to this. I
was shaken up and I had pieces of glass in
my arm, but I was fine.
Speaker 5 (06:17):
What, lady, you flipped the car twice? I had pieces
of glass in my but.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
I was fine.
Speaker 5 (06:24):
Then I was crawling out the window of the suv
when it started smoking.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Lady, you ain't all right?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Hold on, I'm gonna come back.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
And I'm gonna show you that there's just something wrong
with this. Lady, I'm just turnRight.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We're gonna have part two of your response coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter
title is I'm in love by default. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Hey, it's Carla Farrell. Kick that old mop and bucket aside?
Are you ready for a mop and bucket? Clean? And
half the time make the swap to Swiffer power mop
the only one Cleaning Hero has a built in solution
that breaks down dirt and grime like magic, with hundreds
of scrubbing strips, on the path. It absorbs sticky messes
(07:20):
with ease. Plus it'll leave your home smelling great for
hours after cleaning. Get yours today and mop smarter with
the Swiffer power mop. All right, come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I'm in love
by default, y'all.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
I'm gonna tell you something.
Speaker 5 (07:38):
I got to try to see if I can get
to the end of this letter, because it's something wrong
with this lady right here. And it's just a lady
that she doesn't know how to process information, or she
don't know how to analyze. She's not analytical skills. Something's
wrong with her because she's off to me. I'm a
thirty nine year old single female. And as I read
this letter, you gonna see why she's single. You'll see
(08:00):
exactly why she's singing. I'm being pressured to be with
a man that saved my life.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
All Right, here we go. I had a crazy accident
and my SUV.
Speaker 5 (08:15):
Flipped twice after I swerved to avoid hitting a small dog. Now,
there are several titles that this letter could be. I've
come up with another title. My first title was they
mad at Me? That would be the title of this
letter order. Another title would be Steve, how do you
call me on the email bag and say Steve and
(08:36):
with press and stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Okay, well quit right there putting my name in the letters.
The shirt.
Speaker 5 (08:48):
I swerve to avoid hitting a small dog. I was
shaking up, and I had pieces of glass.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
In my arm, but I was fine.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
What, lady, what are you talking about this? She said,
I was crawling. I was crawling from the window of
the suv when it started smoking. Your car there on fire.
You done had to crawl out the window. You upside down,
You got glass.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
In your arm. You was fine? Something wrong with this lady.
Speaker 5 (09:18):
When it started smoking, I couldn't see what was going
on because of the smoke.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
But you was fine. Though.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
You don't y'all understand it. But a nice guy had
come over and helped me to get out. Minutes later,
a fire started under the hood and the suv of
my Everyone started praising the man for saving my life.
That's because that's what he did. Because that's what he did.
Then he sat with me till the ambulance came, and
(09:47):
he drove behind the ambulance. I couldn't believe he was
being so sweet. This is a good dude, This is
a good human being. I didn't have my purse when
I got to the er, but he did, you mean
tell me? He then crawl back up in there and
you got your purse. You know how many people would
have been at the stove with your purse back in
(10:11):
the day. I'm at the AE t IM trying to
figure out your pin number. You see how this could
have went anyway? He was basically like my guardian angel.
We exchanged numbers. He continued to check on me for
a few days after I got out the hospital. Wait what, lady,
You was in the hospital for a few days? Glass
(10:33):
in your arm, crawling out your window, car smoking, fire
broke out, man, bring your purse to the hospital.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
All this hit you? I got I got worried after
he sent flowers to my house. See something wrong with
this lady.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
You wasn't worried when you was crawling out that window
under that car that had flipped over. But now you
got some flowers into the house and your Nettie is
wear now. I text him and called him a stalker.
The dude that saved your life, that then followed you
to the hospital, that recovered your purse that stayed with
(11:15):
you sent you flowers, checked on you. You didn't text
the man and called him a stalker. That's why she's single.
I'm telling y'all if this whole letter explains why she
thirty nine and sing here he called to it. I
text him and he called to explain himself. He apologized
for scaring me and said he got my address from
(11:37):
your driver's license.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
He told you that.
Speaker 5 (11:41):
He said that he's a loner. It's hard for him
to meet new people because he's shy. I researched him
and we had a lot of mutual friends. We went
to the same college, so I no longer was afraid
of him being a serial killer. Okay, lad, that's well.
That was smart. Everybody knows the story of how we met,
and they think that God sent there.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
This man tell me.
Speaker 5 (12:02):
I'm in love by default, and I feel pressure to
stay with him.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
What if he's not heaven? Sid?
Speaker 5 (12:09):
Would I be wrong to dump him? This is why
you single? You you stay at a gift horse in
the mouth.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
You.
Speaker 5 (12:19):
This man has done nothing wrong or negative to you. Now,
obviously he's attracted to you. I don't know what he
saw in you while you crawling out that window. I
don't know what it was. Well, I'm just telling come on,
she's crawling out the corner. Yes, and the window after
(12:41):
if the card and flipped twice, the window ain't the
same height. So now you got to get your shoulders
below your hips now when you get out and this here, Tom,
I'm just telling you how men are this, How men this,
how men work it out? Look at him, so he
saw what he needed to see. You You, you've never
(13:02):
mentioned nothing was wrong with the man.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Never he's obviously attracted.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
To you, never mentioned it.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
You've never said that is he handsome? And he's a loner.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Listen, post your comment.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Would I be wrong to dump him?
Speaker 2 (13:20):
On? Today's be a single?
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Because that's what you're good at.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Free
Never sounded so good? You can download it today? Yes, Steve, Yes, the.
Speaker 5 (13:34):
Next if she dump him, the next text is gonna
be I should have left you in that car?
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Free Never sounded so good? You can download it today.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we'll
hear from Junior and Sports talk. Right after this, you're
listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show